The Bossticks - Celebrity & Influencer Molly Sims On Body Image, Relationship Status, Beauty Hacks, & Diet

Episode Date: December 3, 2019

#232: On this episode we sit down with Molly Sims. Molly Sims is an American model and actress. She has appeared in the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue and played Delinda Deline in the NBC drama Las Vegas. This is another well rounded conversation covering body image, relationship advice, beauty hacks, and diet routines.  To connect with Molly Sims click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) This episode is brought to you by Joovv. Experience the benefits of red light therapy by one of the best in the business; JOOVV! To experience the Joovv and receive a free gift with purchase go to joovv.com/skinny This episode is brought to you by FOUR SIGMATIC We have been drinking this company's mushroom-infused elixirs and coffees for over a year now. When we need a break from coffee but still need that extra morning jolt and focus the Mushroom Coffee with Lion's Mane and Chaga is the way to go. Lauryn also drinks the Mushroom Matcha which is a green tea designed as a coffee alternative for those of you who want to cut back on caffeine without losing focus and cognitive boosts. This stuff doesn't actually taste like mushrooms, it's delicious. All of these blends have a ton of nutrients and amino acids to give you balanced energy without the jitters. To try FOUR SIGMATIC products go to foursigmatic.com/skinny and use promo code SKINNY for 15% off all products. This episode is brought to you by JustFab Get your first JustFab style for as low as $10 as a VIP! That's 75% off your first item with my special link. Just go to JustFab.com/skinny to take advantage of this deal now. You can also get FREE shipping on orders over $39 and there's absolutely no commitment when you purchase your first order!  Produced by Dear Media 

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Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her. Having someone help you, a food plan, whatever. that accountability is, you know, exercise. You're not going to want to hear this, but 80-20. Again, it is discipline. It comes down to discipline. So if you want to drink, then you ain't having the dessert.

Know when you go to a restaurant what you're going to have before you get there. That clip was from our guest of the show today, Miss Molly Sims. She is a badass. For those of you who are new to the show, I am Lauren Everett's Bostic, the creator of the Skinny Confidential, and across from me is my dapper husband and his. his vest. What's happening over here? Well, you got to distinguish because it's, you know, there's no visual here. What type of it? It's not a vest like a, like a vest that you wear under like a, like a, like a, like a, like a, like a, like a, it's not a Patagonia vest, but that's a good

visual. It's not the brand Patagonia, but it's just a vest that it's keeping me warm. It's cold out. Thanks for this discussion. Listen, any time it drops below 65 here in California, people don't know what to do. People fly off the road. They go into a panic. They don't know what to do. They don't know what to wear. Like, we're not used to it out here. Don't be so judgy. You turned on the heater last night when you were doing that stroller. Like I said, people don't, drop below 65 here and we freak out. Michael put together a stroller last night.

It was super interesting. He was actually really good at it. Listen, there's a lot of money in stroller businesses. If I wasn't doing, maybe I would go into that business. I was looking at this thing yesterday. There's a lot of design, a lot of work. Okay, but you know what's annoying?

I wish that they made. Everybody needs a stroller. I wish they made like a little thing that came off the stroller where you could put your chihuahuas. Well, listen, you could probably get all of that. Yeah. I mean, that would be really cute. You should design a stroller.

If the wheels fall off this podcast into your media, maybe I'll just, maybe I'll get into the stroller business. Better yet, they should put a stroller where I can sit, where you push me, the baby, and the chihuahuas. If I do that, all the stroller companies, better look out because I'm going to, my stroller would be pretty good. That would be so comfortable. You could put like a barefoot dreams blanket in it and a temperapeutic pillow.

Silk, though. Okay, we're going to do the question of the week this week, and it's from at I-Rose-Pretto. I hope I'm pronouncing that right. I'm not the best to pronounce things. I'm sure you're not. You know what, you guys? You're about 50% of pronunciation. Okay.

Well, pronunciation isn't my strong suit sometimes. I'm actually surprised you hit that one. Okay. This is what she says. How do you get over insecurity and become confident when putting yourself out there on the internet? Well, how do you learn? It seems like you have had that down for a while. I have not always.

I just put my blinders on in a way where I put myself out there day after day and made a pack to myself that at a certain time every day, I would do it. So when I first started out that time was like, I think it was like 4 p.m. every day. I would post all my social and pimp myself out and distribute my content. I think if I spent my energy wondering about what other people think, I would be wasting my productiveness. So if you're just starting, I would really put your blinders on, not give a fuck what anyone else thinks. And if there are people that are trolling you that are sitting and wasting time writing rude things on your account, then feel bad for them. Because right now it's 2019 and a big part of business in general is putting yourself out there.

That's such a vital part no matter what business you do. I think for some people out there, it's a little, you know, for you, you've always been a confident person, but I'll give an example of myself. And I've talked about this on the show for a long time now. My biggest fear four years ago, three years ago, right up until the point when we started doing this show was public speaking. And if you hear me now, you're like, maybe you don't believe that because you can't shut me up. And I'm not somebody that gets scared of a lot of things, but it was something that I, you know, I fear.

I don't know how I'm going to speak in front of people. I would also think I have to speak at a wedding. Do I have to speak at a funeral? Do I get to speak at an event? And I just didn't feel that I would be a confident speaker. What I found to be the best in order to beat down that fear and to put myself out there was to do just that, to constantly put myself out there, was to do just that, to constantly put myself out to, you know, even little things like when you used to put me on Snapchat, like getting on the Snapchat and talking, doing things like, doing things like, that where you know you're not in front of a huge audience and slowly over time you've got to push past the fear barrier and just put yourself out there and what you realize is it's not that big of a

deal people don't care that much maybe i blunder maybe i say something maybe i slip on a few words here there and people move on nobody cares that much about what any of us are doing and if they do care like good even this show i mean people listen to it they're going to listen to the hour and then they're going to go focus on whatever else they got going on the rest of the day it's not it's nobody's that's focused on what you're doing it's it really isn't and i'm just playing off what michael said it's practice it's constantly putting yourself out there day after day after day in little ways um you know i think that you should set a goal so say i want to create three pieces of content every single day set alarms in your phone and hold yourself to it and we always talk about this ed my let always says

that confidence starts with you it doesn't start from getting confidence from other people it starts from within and confidence is a promise that you keep to yourself hold yourself accountable to how much content that you decide to create every day. So if you say, I'm going to create three pieces of content every single day. So you wake up at 8 o'clock, you create two Instagram stories of you talking to the camera. Then at 1 o'clock, you write a blog post and then maybe at, you know, six o'clock to wind down. You do a TikTok. I'm just, you know, making this up.

You have to do it whatever works for you. But hold yourself accountable to those three times and don't sort of wave from it. I also think it's so, and we talk about this all the time, it's like doing what works for you and not listening to outside noise. The outside noise is what will get you distracted and drain your energy. Use that energy to put it into, to invest in yourself and put yourself out there. And you'll work on your confidence day after day and you'll start to feel more and more confident as time goes on. For those of you that are sitting there, be like, oh, it's easy for you two to say this because you're already out here and you have this platform. We very much intentionally left the first

episodes that we did of this show up and they're still available now. I hate to plug them. But for those of you that haven't listened since the beginning and are wondering what the original content sounded like go back to the episodes one through four and listen how bad we were just i mean i can go back now and say we're bad but the whole thing that we're the whole thing that we're talking about here is putting yourself out there improving little by little day by day working on getting better working on pushing past fear barriers and listen those shows those original shows are proof to that i mean if you look at them they're like i said they're pretty terrible they're pretty bad and listen when i first started putting myself out there with the skinny confidential 10 years ago. I was a fucking

bartender, you know, working until one in the morning. And I just decided to become a practitioner of my craft and just not listen to everyone else and what everyone else said. And when I told people that I wanted to be a blogger 10 years ago, they rolled their eyes at me. So I think it's about also really committing to your vision, believing in it and believing in yourself. You can't look for outside validation, if that makes sense. And again, it's just practice. Day after day, rinse and repeat. Speaking of someone who's done a very good job of putting themselves out there, Molly Sims. Before we get in to Molly, I just wanted to let you know we are doing a huge giveaway. Thanks to Molly, she's giving away a 695 gold and diamond necklace. And you can get

all the details of how to enter at the end of this podcast. It takes five seconds. Molly Sims is an American model, an actress. She's appeared everywhere. You guys all know her. And she's also an influencer. She has so many good tips and tricks. We're getting into everything from relationships to beauty, to health, to wellness. You'll love it.

With that, let's welcome Molly Sims to the Skinny Confidential, him and her podcast. This is the Skinny Confidential, him and her. We're just going to hop right into it. Okay, we're going to hop, hop, hop. Seven and a half months pregnant, about to give birth like on the table. Michael doesn't know what to do. He doesn't.

He's asked me about my kids. How am I supposed to know? You're not supposed to know. Yeah. You know. But it is amazing. I hate the word journey, but it is an amazing path. I'm sure it's going to change some things.

It's going to change. My husband and I got into the worst, worst fight of our highlights. I'm like, he was just literally like trying to read the post or he was trying to like read the newspaper. I'm like, what are you fucking doing? Your life as you know it has changed. He looked at me. He's like, you're psycho.

And anyway, I bit into her cinnamon roll the other day. You do a little bit. And normally she just like picks at those things. And so I like I always can just take as much as I want. I bit into it and I was like started crying, started trying to. I started crying because you bit into the cinnamon. It was too big. It was too big of a bite.

I was bobbing and weaving, you know? There's, I mean, you're eating a cinnamon roll. You're seven and a half months pregnant. You're bloated, your cancels. Your fucking water weight. Your tits are huge. They're water melts. I know.

Don't touch my fucking cinnamon roll. Like don't touch it. Don't touch it. And I love the glaze. Like I'll make cinnamon roll. for the kids and like I will literally like not put as much glaze on the cinnamon my guess I will for me. Then she posted it and said that I stole her cinnamon roll and then all the women that

on her on page started attacking me saying like how dare you touch the cinnamon roll. He stole the best part to the middle with the glaze on it. It's the middle. The doughy undercooked middle parts that slightly warm is the single best thing ever. Yeah. And then he also decides that he is at this point in his life on his journey is going to lose weight. My husband gained the 10 pounds that, for sure.

Lucky. Well, you know what? You have not. You have muscles like ripping right now with your tattoos. Well, you know, she reversed psychology to me because she said, you know, a lot of these men during pregnancy, they gain the maternity weight as well. And so that's been sitting in my head since the beginning. I feel like if she wouldn't have told me, I would have just got a big beer guy. I didn't have been fine.

I think you need to eat more. So what can we expect from having kids? Like, give us the 401. I feel like you're very versed. You will never sleep again. You will have more guilt than you've ever even thought about having guilt before. If you are a guilty person at all in your life, you will never sleep. It's like a form of torture.

It's definitely like sleep deprivation is literally torture. Even if you have a night nurse. Even if you have a night nurse because you still have to get up and feed the baby. Even if you have a night nurse, that means you physically have to get up, hold a baby. But if you're not breastfeeding and you have a night nurse. I'm trying to get best case scenario here. Best case scenario would be C-section night nurse. You see the baby at like 6 p.m. the next day around 9.

That's best-case scenario. That would be the best-case scenario. And C-section over a vagina. I don't know vagina experience. I unfortunately had to have a C-section all three times because of just the way my baby was connected to me. And does it hurt afterwards? Fuck, yes. It's like a lightning bolt.

like especially where the incision is, like on your like lower part. It is. I don't think you want to do that. I mean, I have no opinion. I'm the only opinion I have is I think I have a small head because I think my mom tried to do it naturally and she couldn't get it done. That opinion has nothing to do with me giving birth.

And then the doctor. I don't need a birth plan. Do you have a birth plan? Kind of. Kind of. We got a jula. We got a night nurse. Do you work with a dula now?

We just got her. Yeah. Like literally just hired her on Saturday. So have you worked with her yet? What does that mean? Like, just like if you like has she laid out, wait, you know, what you guys are going to do, how birth is going to go.

Kind of. Kind of. It's just the tip so far. The whole penis hasn't gone yet. I really enjoyed her. It's just the tip. It's just the tip. Because she told me, like, if I get hungry, she's going to take care of me and if I

need to take a nap. And she was like, oh, because, you know, that was like, someone's looking out for me, too. She will look after him. Yeah. See? Not too much. You wouldn't want to get hungry while I'm pushing a fucking seven-pound baby out of my vagina. God forbid.

God forbid. I need to be there after to be, to take care of, like, once the kids then. I need to be on point. So they have one of the hospitals here in LA, they have this like crazy, like totally sugary, artificial, like apple cranberry, like grape juice that's so delicious with crushed ice and they bring it to you like. And I'm like, I would always order one. And Scott was like, can I have one too?

And then like she'd come back and he forgot to order one just for like, you would like forget about me. I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with you? I tell him to give you your fucking grape juice. Give me and it's disgusting. But it's so good. It tastes so good. So if you have your baby, it's.

cedars, you have to do that. Say it again, it's a great. It's a great cran lemonade sugar sweet with the best crushed cold ice. It's amazing. How did you get your body back? Because your body is amazing. And I can't believe you've had three kids. Like it's wild.

Well, I had a thyroid issue. I will say that in the very beginning. I got up to June 19th, 2012. I was 204 pounds. So where did that go? Oh, it went. It went everywhere. That was a beast.

So what did you do? Like, what was your plan? action after you gave birth. So after I didn't think anything was wrong with me, I think they thought as a model I probably was binging because I'd gotten married nine months before. I was, you know, I've always been pretty skinny since I had to starve myself since being in this business. But I think they just thought, oh my gosh, she's, you know, she's probably eating for the first. I don't, and my doctor, I love her. She's my favorite doctor in the world, but just something happened towards the end of my pregnancy. I was like 120 something. And I was too.

forward documented with a picture. My ankles were unrecognized. I was unrecognizable. My neck was a linebacker. So then about three months after I had him, I went into a doctor and he literally was funny. Dr. Ben-Bissad, he was like, oh, my God, you look like a linebacker. What is wrong with you? The doctor said that?

Yeah. I was huge. Like, I was massive. And then, you know, ultrasound, biopsy, and I still get yearly sonograms. I take thyroid medicine. I go to the doctor every three months. So it's definitely a thing. And it was all brought on by pregnancy.

Aren't you excited for that? I mean, I'm a little nervous. You're fine. But it's good. Thyroid medicine that helps you lose weight. So you went on the thyroid medicine and immediately nipped it in the bud and you ate healthy. A little hot minute to talk about juve. Jove, juve, juve.

We are obsessed. Michael is butt naked every morning in front of his juve in his office. He insisted on bringing it downstairs to his man cave. I don't know what's happening in there. It looks like Harry Potter's in their butt naked. Listen, Lauren, this is a new partner. We got to do well by them. And you can't be sitting out a visual of me butt naked in front of it.

That's not going to help. In all seriousness, Michael does know what he's doing here, guys, which is kind of a plot twist. I use my Juveni upstairs. I do my stoicism. It's so cute. It's like kind of square shaped. It's white. It's matte.

I turn it on. I sit there and I let all the benefits go into my skin, my face. It's so rejuvenating. I'm telling you, even my dogs try to go in front of it, which is really funny. Michael actually has used it on Pixie and Boone. For those of you that are a little bit confused here, I need to play a little catch-up. Juv is Red Light Therapy. We had the Juve founders on the show in episode 2.30 and talked about all the different

benefits of Red Light Therapy, and there are a ton. Some benefits include skin health and rejuvenation, limiting inflammation, sleep optimization, muscle recovery, and joint pain recovery, cellular energy, sexual performance, hormone balance, and for the men out there, a little testosterone boost. Increased libido. If it sounds too good to be true, it's not. We love this thing. I use it every single morning, like Lauren said, sorry for the visual of me butt-naked,

but I'm a big fan of the full-body experience. And right now, it's perfect for the holidays. Christmas is right around the corner. It is an investment piece, but they do offer zero percent financing. Listen, guys, if you're going to make one investment, invest in your health, this is a game changer. I have never slept better. I have never been more. Testosterone boosted. Go to juve.com slash skinny. What a great gift to get someone like Michael said during the holidays. Your mother-in-law, your sister-in-law, your sister, your boyfriend, whatever.

Use the code Skinny to receive a free gift with your purchase. That's juve.com slash skinny. That's J-O-O-V-V-com slash skinny. Again, J-O-O-V-V-com slash skinny. Let's get back into the show. Was there any other practices? I think we talked about on your YouTube channel, intermittent fasting, a little bit. Well, listen, I mean, at the same time, when you gain 80-something pounds, even though it still has to come off. So intermittent fasting, blood type diet, I mean, I did everything. I mean, it took about, I was like 16 months to get it off, 17 months, and then I got pregnant again.

But it was a bitch to get off. So you get it off and then you get pregnant again? Yes, of course. Did you murder your husband? Murder. I'm a little scared about that because I was thinking, And listen, I could be wrong here. Get your semen away from me afterwards.

She's probably pretty fertile after. You're so fertile. It's insane. Yeah. So we got to be, listen, I'm not opposed. Why are you smiling like the Cheshire cat? Like you're like, oh yeah, let's do it again. Like you're like, oh yeah, let's do it again.

No, no, I'm just saying like you got to take some precaution. You know, we had a situation like that. And I was like, no, we didn't have sex. I promise. And she was like, um, I think you need to come in my office. I'm like, I promise we didn't. So then you get pregnant again. And you have to do the whole thing over.

But you knew the thyroid. So it wasn't as bad. It wasn't as bad. And it was actually so much different that I felt like it was a completely almost different pregnancy. Because when you're pregnant, you're tired. You're like your feet swell. You can't think properly.

And so like all these things like that you think are just the pregnant. So then you add on like a thyroid or something like you're really tired. You're really. And with all my babies, I was really sick, especially the third, the last one. So I had morning sickness until like 17 weeks in the first one. and then like late 27, 28 weeks, and then with the last one, it was like 34 weeks. I was sick. Okay.

Do you agree with me on this public service announcement? Okay, tell me. Okay. I think at seven months pregnant, people should stop inviting me to dinner and parties. I think that it's actually, I'm going to be, say this on the mic, I think it's fucking insulting, and I'll tell you why. Okay, tell me. I'm bloated. My ankles are swollen.

I'm sober. I'm tired. I'm fatigued. I don't have the energy to have a conversation at 7.30 at 9. And I want to be in bed. And doesn't 7.30 feel like it's 1 o'clock in the morning? Yes. Why can't we just have the self-awareness that every, no, after seven months, like,

it's done. I understand it's your birthday, Uncle John, but like, I'm going to have to take a fucking rain check. Well, the best is when someone will, like, have this amazing thing, like, three weeks after you give birth. You're like, are you kidding me? That's when you're going to schedule it. That drives me insane.

You know, I don't understand. When I look at my wife and my best friend of my wife do this thing where they say, to everything. Oh, I did too. Perpetual. Like, they're going to be. There's someone in this room that is like, yes, she does. Bridesmaids, groomsmen, bachelor, like, everything.

And I'm the exact opposite. So I don't understand. Like, if I was you, I'd be like, I'm pregnant. I would have said it nine months ago. I'm like, I can't do it? I'm pregnant. Like, when are you ever going to use this excuse me? But can't we just have a universal law?

Because you feel guilty. Yeah. If someone's seven months pregnant, I'm going to take a rain check on it. There must be something wrong with me because I don't feel guilty. You don't feel guilty about any? No, no. He's Larry David. Like once in a while, I'm like, what's your sign?

Aries. Oh, what's your sign, Lauren? Gemini, yeah, that's right. Yeah, we're both, there's 94 personalities in its room right now between Lauren. It keeps it exciting. They're like 12 people. I said, which one I get today. Oh, girl.

He's the type that won't text someone back like for two weeks and not feel guilty about it. Well, no, but I'm also the type of person. If I go in on it, I have to be all in on anything I'm doing. If I'm in a relationship or I'm with a friend, like, if I'm going to dinner, like, I got to be all in. And if I'm not, then I'm like, better to just not. because I don't want to let people down. You know what I mean?

I don't want to be like, God, I went there to that guy. That sucked. See, I'll just try to make it happen. I'm like, oh, yeah, I'll be there. Like, I canceled something today, and I felt really bad. It was because I did say no. I did say no. I did say no.

I said no. Like, really, is it really important? Do I really, really, really need to do it? Well, it would be good. I know, but then, oh, but then you're shooting the skinny confidential. Don't you want hair and makeup? And I'm like, oh, we'd love to look good. But do I really need?

Is it going to be like, do I really need it? Do I really need to go? Do I really need to sit in the chair for two hours? I canceled today. You know what? Well, this is very important for you to do. This was something you could not say no to. You needed to be here today.

Glam squad is efficient to come to your house for an hour if you get the same girl that you like. And you can. Conference call. I needed to like get shit done. You had stuff to do. And the same. You look like you had hair. Like, what more do you want?

I did my own. But whatever. It looks amazing. Thank you. But I'm just saying like, I have to say no. No. No. I have to say no.

It's important. I want to know how you balance a husband. Your house is stunning. I wish I could describe you this house. I feel like you guys are already on like third or fourth base and I'm still trying to figure out what's going on. I'm sorry. You guys have a whole thing going on. I'll say, I'll play catch up.

All right. So we had a day before you. Yeah. Her house is insane. It's a beautiful house. You have kids. You have a husband. You have this amazing career.

How do you manage all this? And when I ask that, I don't mean like, how do you balance it? I mean, like, what are the tactics and habits that you use to be efficient? Like is it time blocking? Is it Google Calendar? How does your assistant help? Like what are the systems? I think I work with my team really well. I'm a little bit OCD. I'm very structured. I have a calendar. She like it's like multi-colored like you're red, you're blue. I'm green. I'm very focused, you know? Like that's the one thing when I was talking about learning to say no because every time I say no, it means yes to something else. And so especially in my 40s with three kids and a husband who has a very demanding job, I think it's. It's important to like, what is the plan? I look at almost like a month out every single day, every hour of the day.

And that's where I'm really trying to hone in and be like, do I really need to do it? Or is it just like, am I there? Do I, you know, and listen, I love helping people and I love people helping me. But at the same time, like, I find that like I'm giving too much. Like I worked with this woman the other day who I will totally set you up with. She's from London. She comes in twice a year to L.A. Annie de Mamel.

Damamee, Damamee, amazing. But she was like talking about she had acupuncture. She did this amazing facial. She did a lot of energy work. And she was like your output is insane. You're multi-tax skiing. You're Gemini. It's too much.

You know what I mean? But that's the only problem. Like it's a lot. Have you read the book Essentialism by Greg McEwen? Probably nailed it. I know. You're kind of saying what I'm already saying. It's just like you've got to say no to certain things.

Yeah. And I also have to be efficient. Like when I say nowhere, when I want something done, like once your baby comes into your life, the best advice I will give you is put that baby first. You know, it is a real shock. When you ask me, like, what's the one thing that's going to change about your life? You're going to love something so much that it's going to amaze you.

It's just not about you anymore. And that's going to suck for like a little bit. But it's also going to be the best thing. But that's going to be the hardest thing is that everything will come before you guys. What are you going to do if you don't have 45 minutes for your hair in the morning? I would really like you to put me first. I can put the, she was like going through her like. 500 morning routine.

You're like, she was like, I get up, I open the blinds, I meditate. I'm like, that's all going out the window. But definitely calendar structure.

Like, you know, and I also can do a lot that other people can't do. I know how to do my own hair and makeup. I know how, like, you know what I mean?

I know how to make shit happen. Yeah, I get home from work and Lauren's still in the morning routine. I'm like, what the fuck's going on in here? Yeah.

I just finished it five minutes ago. She does finish it. Like the diffusers are trying to. I have to have a peaceful morning. What is, what is. your morning routine when you wake up like specific is there like a water a tea a coffee like give us like the nitty gritty specific okay i wake up i look at my phone i look at daily mail it's so

shitty but i'm just telling you the truth i love daily mail okay i look at daily mail i do world news i do us news i do it all i do the celebrity i go take my thyroid medicine go downstairs put on the coffee make three bottles half almond milk half whole milk i have a cup of coffee if i go back up stairs. I change really quickly. I take out the dog. Ruby, she's the new Bernadoodle. She's amazing. Okay. She's loud and obnoxious sometimes, but I love her. And then I try to work out that I'll have one baby crumb down. I'll have another baby come down. I have another baby scream. I'll grab iPads. I will turn on the TV. I will do whatever it takes so I can have that moment that, you know, seven seconds of silence. But that's ultimately how I brush my teeth. I don't wash my face in the

morning before I work out. It's like. So I have seven seconds to do light movement. hydration. Seven seconds. So I'll open the shades with my toe, get up and move, and grab my hydroflask that'll already be prepped because you'll prep it for me. Well, I got to say, you're making me a bit nervous because I had this whole routine down, this whole plan. It takes about an hour for me to get organized, making me think that I'm not going to have that.

Before my husband and I were married and he was like a single fucking bachelor, he would like wake up at 11. I mean, he can, he's a night out. He could like sleep all day. it was shocking when that child came out of my body. He's just very singular focused, you know? Like I take care of the kids, the dog, the house, the thing. And he is, you know, like, we'll go on a trip.

Like, it's just, we're just about to go on a big trip. And, like, I will have everything done. Every bag. Everything packed. I will have worked like three days on everything. It is my worst fucking nightmare. He will be like, so what do you think I should pack? Oh!

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This is what happens. And I don't want to be sexist here. But I'll tell Lauren, I'll say, Lauren, you need, you know, what's going to be cold, to show you the weather. I'm dropping all the hints. She's like, I don't need that. And then we get there. And I packed all the warm shit.

And then she's like, I'm cold. You are deflecting off of the facts. I'm out in a fucking blizzard. I literally planned my baby shower down to a tea. Every last fucking detail was signed sealed and delivered. and you're looking at me asking me what you should wear. I can see, I could see me giving birth and you being like,

do you think I should wear the black hat or the brown hat? Okay, so I'm telling you, I used to have a nickname. I used to have a nickname. And it was honestly, deservedly nickname. It was your nickname. It was my nickname that he gave me. Okay.

Her name was Nagety Nan. Okay, listen, Nagyty, okay? But I was naggedy for a reason because the child wouldn't get to school. The child wouldn't eat. The child, like, so it's like, okay, oh, this is the best. Like we'll be going somewhere.

I'll be two hours in hair and makeup. Stylus, getting ready, whatever. Do you know what time you think I should start getting ready? Okay, it's easier. To the point where last year, I got into the car dressed and he was still on the fucking couch. I'm like, I'm leaving. He's like, wait, what do you mean? You didn't tell me.

I go, how could you? What do you mean I didn't tell you? Oh, that tries me and say. If you aren't that bad, you're not on the couch. You're ready before me. I'll give you that. No, he's not. Listen, that's not saying a lot.

Just so you know. My husband is always like, so what is your dynamic with your husband? Like, what's like, you know? He's really, like, focused. He doesn't like, he's really calm. He's really, he's an awesome guy, but he's very like. So how did you guys meet? Like, give us the whole, like, story.

We met actually here in West Hollywood. I was, my girlfriend wanted to get into the CAA party at the, for the, I think it was for, it was for the Golden Globes. And at the time, Sunset Tower is really hard to get into. and she had this crush on this hairdresser, which was weird, but she couldn't get in. And I was just like miserable. I was like trying to get out of this relationship. I was, it's like you when you're feeling pregnant.

You're like just, ugh, just like, I hate myself, right? And so I'm like, okay, I'm going to get you in, then I'm going to leave. So I was standing by the bathroom at the Sonset Tower of the hotel. And, you know, my husband is very, like, a politician. He's really smooth. He's really, like, positive. But like, you know, he's in the Hollywood. You know, how is everything?

It's amazing. How's good, great. Big charisma. Really big charisma. And also, it's in Hollywood. It's like you never, like your show could be, you know, getting axed in three minutes. But like if someone asks you, like, oh my God, it was so good. You know what I mean?

Like you always lie just to like, just to keep relevant. That's what I said to everybody when they asked me about this thing. I'm like, it's really good. It's really good. It's like my girlfriend said the other day. She was like, you know what? She said that she sold a lot. Like her jewelry like it sold a lot.

I'm like, because she made 10. Of course she sold a lot. It was sold out. That's my favorite thing is when people launch brands and say it's sold out. I need to know how many scoes. I need to know how much emigators. It's a limited edition. You can't get it like,

did you like I'm 50. Okay. Of course it sold out. So anyway, I met him and he was like, how are you? And I just for the first time, like I didn't lie.

Like I was just like, I'm all right, whatever. And he'd just done the breakup and he just done like all these different movies. And he had his own production company with Universal. And I could hear my agents in the back of my mind. I'm like, just talk more, you know?

whatever. And so he was like, oh, and he goes, ah, I'm not so good. And I was like, oh, everything okay. But I didn't really kind of know the backstory. He had like a little bit of an issue happening in his life. And so he ended up emailing me. He ended up calling my agents and setting a meeting. And I don't, I didn't really at the time do meetings like outside of like, I don't know, just like it can get like weird. And so he was like, no, they were like, take the meeting, whatever. And so like we started talking and took the meeting. And my agents were like, oh my God, you know, Scott's super single. And I'm okay, whatever. He's like, you know and so he asked me out for a year and then I finally went out I didn't I couldn't date anybody

I was a disaster I was like codependent it took him a year it took me a year it took you a year to go with him okay this is the same story I hear from so many people that end up getting married it's like the girl makes him just oh yeah chaste but I wasn't doing it like at the time like I look back like I wish I could have been that cool and I wish I could have been like but I really I'd never date it like I wouldn't have been good for him because I had my own issues and my own things that were just like, I just wasn't healthy in that way. Like I was coming off of the show. I, you know, it was just a time of my life where I'm like, I really wanted to pick a lane.

I wanted to get married. I wanted to have kids. I just, I needed to figure out what I wanted in within that year. Like, that's what I wanted. I wanted to date. I wanted to not just because like, oh my God, I love you. I love you too. Like I could fix a dead broken bird.

Like I love the ones that are like, I used to date the guys that were like, oh my God, fix me. You know what I mean? Do you say you didn't date? You were just in long relationships? Just long relationships that I shouldn't have been in. There's a bunch of bombs, huh? No. What is it like dating at Hollywood when you're like when you're attracting that kind of guy?

I'm just kidding. I don't know who you did. No, no, no. They're all good guys, not all of them, but most of them were good. I was always trying to fix something. And I remember going to therapist at that time and saying, will you like hold me accountable? because like he calls me the light. Like, and he's so dark and I'm his light.

And she was like, so you're narcissistic to think that you're so light that you could fix his darkness. And she just was really tough. And I was like, but, but I love him. But I love him. But I love him. And she was like, but you love him. And it doesn't mean he's the one.

And it doesn't mean it's right for you. And it doesn't mean like what you want is the same thing he wants. And it was hard. It was really hard. I feel like sometimes you have to go through that, though, to get to the the other side of like the guy that's consistent with integrity. Yeah. Is annoying when it comes to asking a hundred questions about what they should wear.

Why are you looking at me? Totally. What is it been like for you to have this evolution? Because you know, you're a celebrity, but now it's like the times are changing with social media and I feel like you've done such a good job of evolving. I feel like you're a celebrity influencer is what I would call you. Thank you. How have you evolved with that?

You know, it's definitely been different just because I didn't. grow up with it. It wasn't that I started, you know, I didn't grow up with social media. So, you know, I was already doing like modeling and then hosting and then acting. So I was always kind of used to, I was that girl who always had something on, you know, I hustled. Like, I'm a hustler. And so in that way, it was, it wasn't as hard. It just, the only thing about social media that, you know, when I would go to a job, I would go and then it would be over. With social media, that's just never ending. It's just never ending and it's never over. And so that's definitely been tricky for me.

especially starting a family at the same time and trying to, because that's never over. They're still there in the morning. So that in terms of that transition, that was a little bit difficult, you know, and I still find it difficult sometimes because I'm like, okay, well, I want to be present as opposed to just trying to get content and being present and getting content. Like, it's always kind of like a juggle. But at the same time, I've always been authentic, you know, with my brands and even who I represented, who I was being paid to represent, not just be the things that I love. Like, I've always been on brand.

And that's been really important to me to be authentic, to have good relationships, but also, like, within social media to have that reflect. So I think that's also why I've transitioned because everyone's just kind of transitioned with me from House of Style to MTV to Cover Girl to Las Vegas to getting married to writing books. It's kind of just been that, just literally that journey of everyone kind of just like, okay, where is she going to go now? Does that make sense?

Totally. Out of every single medium. And I'm talking television, movies, modeling, MTV, YouTube, podcasting, whatever. What's your favorite part of content to create? Whether it's not playing yourself or playing yourself. I love speaking. I just did a thing and they were like, oh, you should do a TED Talk. I love that.

I love motivating young women. I love helping people, you know, who want to build a brand and really giving people like, because I was so stuck in certain areas of my life, like I was stuck in my 20s, I was stuck in my 30s for different reasons, but I was still in this. What do you mean by stuck? I just, you know,

I just couldn't get out of it. I could not, for the life of me, get out of it, whether it be a business, a bad, something in business, something with a boy, something like, you know, there's a feeling of stuck in it, everything you do. Yeah, you know what I mean?

And, but at the same time, like, I think a lot of people feel like that. I think a lot of people feel like that. But I've one thing that I've done well is that I've never been great would change, but change has brought me everything. Change has literally, I just keep going with it, but pivoting. How you pivot is so important. And sometimes you got to pivot fast or you're going to be behind or you're going to be left

behind. And so I think when I was stuck, I say that I couldn't pivot, you know. But with social media and like with acting, like I just did a movie, I just did a pilot. I just, I'm doing to do one day in a movie next month. So I'm dipping my toe back in it. I don't miss it as much as. I thought I would. I think because, I don't know, I, I love my cast and I love my crew, but sitting and waiting in a trailer and feeling like I'm just on someone else's schedule is hard. That's what I wanted

to talk to you about because what I love about. It's not like on your own terms almost. You're almost not, you're almost your own producer of your life. Yeah, I was on my agent today and I was like, okay, well, I can't do this and I can't do that and I can't do that. But I made, well, no, I can't really do that. And he was like, okay. So what can you do? And I go, I just can't have someone own me. Hold up. We need to talk about just fab. I have talked about just fab on this podcast so many times, but there are these specific boots on there right now that are going for $10 that are so cute. Let me tell you. So they're gold the May snake skin. Okay. And they're kind of like mid-calf, kind of a high heel. They're called the amaze pattern high-heeled booty. I just got them. They also come in snake skin and black, but I got the gold. I'd recommend getting your size. They're true to size. And they look so major with like a black cat suit, especially for the holidays. I mean, who doesn't want like a pop of gold? For those of you who are new to Just Fab, it's a leading fashion lifestyle brand that strives to inspire,

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own, you know, there's no gatekeeper to these types of mediums, right? Like in other mediums, I say it's a movie. There's producers and directors. It's like you're on their time, on their schedule. The showrunner owns you. I'm producing a show now. And the people don't really get a say until after it's done. but with social media, like, if you have the talent, the people decide what they want,

and it's free to produce, you don't have to answer anybody. Totally. Like, they could listen to this and be like, that show is absolute shit and turn it off. Or they can say I like it, but there's nobody in between saying, like, you can do this or not? I'm just, I'm just doing it. Like, I'm producing now. And, oh, my God, it's like a real job.

It's so much work. I mean, it's great, but it's real. Producing us. Yeah. And you're, can you talk about what you're producing? I don't know. Yeah, we have a show with these two girls called The Home Edit. They're two organizers out of Nashville.

I met them. I was researching for my second book and I needed an expert and they had like 25,000 Instagram followers and they weren't getting back to like the person who had called them. And so I just cold called them and I'm like, listen, I'm, I want to do content kind of new to this game. Like would you, if I flew out here, would you do the content? I'll give you the content and then you can use it. And they're like, absolutely. So they were in my kitchen and I was listening to them. My husband was listening to them and like their chemistry and how they just get in. in there and like scream and yell and cry and discuss like pots and pans and like you've

never like you can't create it and so they walked out and at the time my husband had a deal at universal i'm like well do he was like i swear to god i think they could be a show and so i'm like well do you have an agent or a manager or you're like no so i helped them get an agent at wm and then i helped them find a manager and then they i mean they just were they were already on their way. And then we ended up pitching it to Hello Sunshine, Reese Witherspoons. They bought and made an eight series or six series digital show called Master the Mess. And then her deal at AT&T, direct TV, went, they, they just went away. And so we got the show back and we all came together and we pitched it and we sold an eight episodes to Netflix. And people love organization.

And they're amazing. Like I will say like I love them as human beings, but like they're so talented. begin. It's like, I think that's why I love what I do now. Like, I'm so interested in that. Like, I love health. I love beauty. I want to know, like, what's the best diet? What's the best facial? What's the best laser? What's how do I lose 12 pounds? You know what I mean? Like, that's just the girl. That's like me. That's like my mom. Like, I've always been like that, you know? How did you get to be so brand savvy? Because that sounds like a big part of everything you're doing is that you're very savvy when when it comes to branding. Be authentic and be honest and don't just sell out.

Even though it can be, yes, of course you have to make money. I'm not saying that. But like have a point of view. You know, I'm a little tricky because I like so many things, which as a brand is not a good thing because I'm spread out. But it's also me. You know what I mean? It's also what I love.

Like I love learning like the newest, like, you know, like I just love that. But to be brand savvy, you need to have a point of view. You need to be specific. And you need to. know your demographic. Who do you want to buy your product? And I think who do you want to watch you? Like, you know, what's that, you know, where are you in the zeitgeist, you know,

in that way? That's so important. I have a question about Hollywood just because I'm interested in this. Is there competition? Because the way to grow on podcast and YouTube is to collaborate. Well, podcast is one of the most collaborative spaces. It seems like with Hollywood, it's different because it's not the same mentality. It wasn't, but now it is because of social media.

You look at Jennifer Aniston. And, you know, she just got on to Instagram and everyone came to help her. So before it was, well, you got that part. Like, I don't know. Like it was not that way. But now I definitely think it is more collaborative because it's changing how we see a movie. It's changing how we see TV. It's changing how we see ads and spots and how everything is delivered to us and how it's delivered to us.

It's because there's not one or two or three platforms anymore that control all the content. It's like this has been democratized across the board. and so everybody can do it and it's like a rising tide raises all shit mentality where it's like if I took your job not that I'm an actress but if I took your job as an actress

like you lose that job multiple people can do the same types of jobs when Molly was modeling though it's probably different than when like with Gigi and Bella and Kendall they're like all tagging each other on Instagram story you're right it was not like that

it's not but if there had been Instagram you guys probably would have banded together we would have more yeah Jillian Michaels came on our podcast and she's great amazing amazing energy. And she said, God, your generation is so different. Back in the day, like, everyone was clawing at her job. She's like the only woman trainer. And she's like everyone was just ripping each other down. Now, I think now just as a time, we're more collaborative. But I think it's because of the

mediums because you can do that, right? Like, if you have multiple podcasts, it's great to go and guess and have all those conversations, the shared audience, you can all grow. You can all build your channels. Where before is like, if you were in the eight o'clock prime time spot for a television show, you needed to take that spot. You had to take that. that spot and you were the only one getting that spot. Yeah, there's nobody else. Even like television hosts too. If you're the morning show, there's only so many spots before, you know, other people can't get out. And I think that's also why social media and when it really works, like it works because it's your own thing. It's your own time. Like you're not competing for,

again, the 7 o'clock spot, the 10 o'clock spot, the 11 o'clock spot, you know, because they're very few of them. Yeah. So, but people listen, it can listen to them any day, any time. I also think that people really enjoy being able to go, like, say I want to go listen to Molly Sims or I want to go watch you speak. People enjoy a meeting where they know you're not being told what to say or do. And they know that they're getting you. They're getting you. I think that's like what makes some of these shows work is that, you know, there's nobody pulling the strings back. It's like this is what we're doing.

Well, it's so interesting. Even with me, my branding, you know, when we shoot it like on an iPhone, just a regular iPhone, we find that it does better than when I'm professionally shot. That's not surprising to me. Because it's just me on the go with an iPhone or just Ashley or, you know, someone on my team. Like, it's not produced. Most of the things I like are not produced, you know? People don't mind being sold to it if it's like something you really believe in, right? If you like really love, I don't know, just say essential water, I'm not saying you do.

They don't mind necessarily if it's a job. They just want to know you really love it. You really love it. Yeah. Yeah. And listen, there's some things you have to do. But ultimately, if you keep doing like I know some and you're like, oh my gosh, you have like, that's not really. And it's good for the short time, but it doesn't work in a long time.

What is your specific eating plan? Or is there one? Because you're glowing. Like, you must eat. Yeah. Like, I want to know, like, is there a smoothie that you have every day? I do love a smoothie. The fab for it from Kelly with collagen powder.

That's the one thing I do add. I love this product called eight greens from Don Russell out of London. She does these little tabs. And now she has the gummies. I do the intermittent fasting, which you can't do. No, I can't do that. No, you can't do that. But I can the second I give birth, right?

You can't. High protein. I do high protein, not as much meat as I used to do just because I think my body, like, I think after a while, it just like it doesn't want to lose weight because you've just done the same thing for so, like it just doesn't work. That's where I found myself. Last year was like, why can't I lose the weight? Why can't I get lean? Why can't? I don't know. Like everything that had done, the circuit training, the Tracy Anderson, like everything that I loved, it just stopped working. It was interesting because I was very frustrated. I'm like, why? And I felt like it was back like seven years ago when I was pregnant. Like, why isn't this working? And so I decided to start doing hit, high interval intensity training. Someone was saying, like, I'm like, I felt doughy. You know what I mean? I felt not strong, even though I worked out an hour, an hour and 15 minutes every day, cardio, cardio, dancing. And I think I was eating a little bit too much meat.

You got to, like, shock the body once a while. You got a little. And I think that's what it was. Ultimately, that's what it was that I had not shocked the body in so long that my body just stopped reacting. You know, people can shit on, like, cleanses, juice cleanses, you know, it's not a permanent weight thing, but it does trick your taste buds. It just, but it also gives you like, okay, I did two days of this.

Let me try to do three more. So it just gets you on your way. Like when I say that, people are like, oh, that's just a bad thing. I'm not talking about it to be like, you're going to do this forever, but it definitely helps you be disciplined. And I think for so, I mean, for me, and I know for so many of my friends, it's like, they just need to have accountability. They need a plan or they need a partner.

or they need a friend. Like, but they do work. Like, I go to WeCare once a year. It's out in Desert Hot Springs and it's a juicing, fasting place. And it's really hard. But when I've gotten through it, like, I did the Ashram once. And I was like, that's one of the best things I've ever done because I'm like, I can do it. Like, it's, it even helps you mentally.

Like, you do something. You get over a fear. You get through something. Like, sometimes like, I'll get upset about something and I won't eat. Like, or like a boyfriend breaks up with me. I'm like, oh, God, I love that diet. You know what I mean? Like, oh.

Oh, my God. Oh, my God. That is a great. I could, I mean, a divorce. It's a big problem, human being seeking too much comfort. I really believe, I really, really believe, like, you know, you want to work your whole life so that you can make X amount of money, and then you can be comfortable. I think it's the worst thing. I never want to be comfortable in my life. I just want you to know that. Never want to be comfortable because I'll remember that. I think that's what happened. Then you get complacent. You know, you've ever seen someone, like they decide, I'm going to retire really early, and then their mind starts to slip. The worst thing. I always say, don't retire. Or like you, you, you bake a boatload of money,

and then you just sit there and you're not doing anything. And you let your body go and let your mind go and you get unhappy. Like I think people like us as human beings are conditioned to, you know, struggle. And that's like that's the human condition. And when we stop doing that and like a lot of this technology and the way we live now has made it very comfortable. And that's why you see people having all these problems. Like you said, like you have to go out and do the hard things and switch it up and build discipline and make your body go through struggle. And like that's like what makes us keep living. And also everything is difficult until it's easy. Like there's no one path for someone. Like I have used the South Beach diet, the Atkins diet. I have intermittent

fast and I've done the grapefruit. I've literally because, you know, I'm also in a business that is, you know, I am a mannequin, you know, and especially the first, you know, 15 years of my life, it didn't matter what I said. It didn't. It only mattered what I looked like. Was my skin clear and how much did I weigh and could I meet the measurements? And it was very difficult, very demanding. It makes you have, you know, all sorts of body dysmorphia. And it's hard. And that's, you know, And then on top of that, never knowing if you're going to work and never having a schedule and never knowing if you're going to make money. So listen, 20 years later, I am mentally strong. I don't give a fuck most time what people think now because I'm like, there's nothing you've told me that I haven't already heard.

My calves are too big. You know, you're too muscular. You're too blonde. Oh my God. I can't believe. You know, they told me when I went blonde. I was going to win my career, you know, because I started like a jet black. But, you know, that has definitely made me strong, you know?

Yeah, but it's like you had to get uncomfortable to become comfortable. It, like, wraps the point 360. Yeah. When I started acting, they were like, listen, you know, sometimes people are going to say no. And I'm like, yeah. What? Yeah, it's armor. Like, I had so much armor.

Like, I think that's ultimately why I was successful. I only hear no. Oh, you're 99% confirmed. I may have been in the camp before, like, when I was younger, I was like, oh, modeling is easy. Then I started having to take a couple pictures and I only had to do it for like 20 minutes and had to do all these weird.

And after having to go through it, I firmly believe that models have it extremely hard. It's not easy. No, it's not easy. It's a ton of pressure. You got everybody picking you apart. There's 30 people standing around, dissecting every piece of part of your body.

It's like a ballerina. It's like an athlete. It's a training. And then it goes down and people are screenshoting and sharing it's like, I think it's... Or you walk and you're in London and you have absolutely no money and it's fucking 20 degrees. You can't afford a black cap.

You've walked. in tennis shoes, then you've stuffed your tennis shoes in a bag, you've gotten out the one pair of heels that you, you know, have to keep. You walk in literally three miles. Look at your book, close it. Thank you. No, it's not. Sometimes they don't even make eye contact. I think anybody that thinks it's easy should go and like put on like five different outfits. There's also a degrading element of it too. Totally. Like I've been degraded. I've been put down. I've had, I've stood there probably three or four hours and no one's ever spoken to me. Yeah, like I said, go. It's brutal. People should go stand out, have 30.

people take pictures of them and pick them apart and then for an hour and see if it's easy. But I think it's important for you to share that side because you're so successful now. I mean, you have like your house, your family, your kids, your content. I think that it's like you going through that gives you more depth. And it's like I hate this word, but I don't know, for lack of a better word, relatable. Right. You know, it's like you went through the shit to get to the other side. Well, people see the glamorous side of it.

And listen. And there is a. there's amazing moments to it. I'm not going to lie. There's incredible parties. There's incredible events. There's, you know, things that in places I've gone, I've never would have gotten to go through modeling, you know, and acting. Like, I can't imagine, you know, and never say never, but like, it's hard for me to go back and see my 20-year-old self. And like, how did I do that? And I truly mean that because, you know, I left a very prestigious university, Vanderbilt. I wanted to be a lawyer. I wanted to go into politics.

I was Southern. I was sweet. And like, I just liked everyone. And I wore like Jessica McClintock, like a, you know, a shawl collar. Like I was conservative. You know, and then I see this girl being, you know, totally thrown into New York. And then going into Europe where she learns how to dress in London. She learns a little punk. And then she learns and, you know, she learns how to dress in in Paris and Italy. And like, I just was like a little, like, I just sucked everything up. You know, I was like, oh, I could wear that. I could copy that. And then I could do, I was like, oh, how does he do that? I could do that. You know what I mean? But I look back at that time and the rejection and how I got rejected. And I don't even know how I did it. I truly, if I look at Scarlett at 20, it would be my worst living nightmare for her. So if your kids came to you and they're like, I want a model. I mean, listen, they could do, you know, one thing, maybe a year or something, but no. You would not want it. I would not personally want it. Is it modeling or celebrity harder? TV star, what do you call it? It's the same. It's the same. It's the same. Yeah. But now you get to wake up on a daily basis and

create your own future, which is pretty fucking cool. Yeah. And I just, and listen, everyone, and if Scarlett is, you know, the top model or the, like, I will totally support her like my mother did. But I want her to have a life, a full life. And if that's her decision, like, you know, I did two years of university. I went to my prom. I graduated from high school. I had friends. Well, once I left, I didn't go to a birthday. I didn't go to a wedding. I didn't go to a funeral. I worked.

I was in a different country every single day. And why you date fucking losers is because the losers are the only ones who can travel with you. So that's why you get stuck and you get codependent because you're by yourself in a foreign country. You're moving and you start making money. And you're, you know, there are 20-year-olds and you're mixing with the 40-year-olds and the 50-year-olds. Because guess what? those are the people have money. Yep.

You know, so it's been what it is for me, and I've taken everything, the great parts and made it work for me. But I've also taken the bad parts and made it work for me because, you know, I think being told some of the things that I have been told, especially about my weight and my appearance and your nose is crooked and like your hands are bad and like all of these things of like, how could you, you know what I mean? It's just, it's insane. Well, it's a lot of pride to swallow too, because you've

probably like when you hear that then you're like I'm going to knock your teeth out you know but you you can't because no you're doing a job but you learn probably how to manage your ego too I mean you learn a lot of different tools through it I think that you should go to your husband tonight and tell him all this and then say I'm going to need a lot of affirmations for the rest of my life for the rest of my life because you need to make up you know can I tell you one thing I love about him he is that guy like he will back me like that's the most important he will back me you know he he will back me. And I know some of my friends, partners, or people that I know, like, they wouldn't necessarily

say that. And that means so much to me. You know what I mean? I feel like kind of the same way you are. You have a real partner. Like, you can, you know. I never understood the couples that they go and like, listen, you can, but I put you behind closed doors.

If you get into argument with each other, that's like something to sort out between you and your partner. But like when the other person is throwing his partner under the bus and it's not going to work. It's going to blow it. It also makes the person who's saying it. look really bad. Yes. Like if Lauren fucks up and we're in a group and like I want to talk to

privately and we can't like if I fuck up but I'm never going to ever throw my wife under the bus. Never. It's just not going to happen. I think it's the difference between building towards a common goal and being a teammate than just and I don't I mean like to say this like this but like just husband and wife. There's more

it's another level of commitment that you have to tap into I think. It's like are you building towards the same common goal or are you going separate directions? Which you see happens so much. And I think in dating, I think, you know, that's the one thing that I can say about the year of like, you know, I was never the girl, even though I tried to be the girl, you know, would try to like, oh, if he drank a certain beer, I'm like, oh my God, I love that. Or like, you know, I'd love to live in a trailer. Sure, that'd be amazing. You know what I mean? Like, no. But so you try to be that, you know, cool girl. But ultimately, I, you know, I know girls who would just do something like, oh, it doesn't matter if he doesn't call me. Oh, it doesn't. You know what I mean? Like, no, fucking call me.

Like, you know what I mean? Like, and it was, and that's why the guys were so, and I wasn't hard per se, but I was straightforward. It wasn't like, I wasn't going to pretend like I didn't want you to. Like, I couldn't play it cool that well. I think one of your next books is like how to, how to date like Molly Sims, like a dating guy or something. What is your top, and this is going to be hard, beauty hack?

Oh, my God, my top, beauty hack. Taking a right turn. Caster oil. Okay. Is really good. Elaborate. And I hate it. And it's disgusting.

Like ever, you know, I learned this at WeCare. Like, you can do a shot of castor oil. Oh, that sounds bad. So disgusting. And it makes things go. You just can't imagine. It just makes it go through. Oh, I just thought you were going to say castor oil for eyebrows or hair growth.

I'm not done, girl. Okay. I'm not done. So eyebrows. It actually helps with your eyebrows. I lashes. I hate. the smell of it, but my girlfriend swears that it makes her eyelashes grow. I love

lash boost by, I think it's Rodan and Field. You know, the people do like the proactive. That fucking lash booth. And they're not going to paint me, whatever, but they should. But it's so good. I took out. I've been staring at your lashes. I took all my extensions out because I'm like, everyone hated them and I hated them and like be all wonky at one point. And I started using that. That's a really good product. But castor oil also rubbing it on the belly. like with, you can do like aluminum foil and put a pack, a castor oil pack on it. That's great for detoxification. Great. Castoral is big. Wait. So how often are you doing a shot of castor oil? Is this an everyday thing or once in a while? That would be extreme. This is like just when you really like,

you really need it. Like when I go to We Care and you're doing the colonics and it's like, yeah, that's like, I'm going to roof you with that one day. You're going to roof you. We're going to put in your smoothie. That's a good one. I didn't. know that you could drink it. You're not going to want to be around when. Yeah. It's just, it's absolutely disgusting. But it makes things out.

But like when I was southern, like, we put mayonnaise in our hair to like make it shine. Like, I'm very southern in that way. When did you move out of the South? Like, when, like, what year was it? How old were you? I graduated from high school in 1991. I went to Vanderbilt, 92, 93. I was just to graduate in 95.

And then straight to New York. And I bailed after that. I went to one summer in D.C., which was weird. And then you were just all. all over nonstop. And then I went to New York for about six, seven weeks, and then I lived in Europe almost six years pretty much there. I've tried to pretend like I was French.

That sounds romantic. It was good. Yeah, it does sound romantic. It was good. It was fun. You really get to learn people's culture when you live there. Like I had a French boyfriend. I loved him.

Had an English boyfriend. He was a fireman. I loved him too. Like it was good. If you were to tell someone that is listening and that wants to get healthy, health, wellness, beauty, whatever. what are three tips that you would give them on where to start? If they, this is all so overwhelming.

Get an accountability coach. Okay. Like what's the girl, the housewife? She's a housewife. Teddy. Yeah. Teddy Mellencamp has a great accountability program. I know this because a couple of my friends have done it and it's great.

And it's really difficult, but you are being held accountable. Accountability. Having someone help you, a food plan, whatever that accountability is, you know, exercise. You're not going to want to hear this, but 80, 20. even though I love working out for different reasons, serotonin, just like my energy, like my head, like, but 80% nutrition, it's 20% working out. So again, it is discipline. It comes down to discipline.

So if you want to drink, then you ain't having the dessert. Know when you go to a restaurant what you're going to have before you get there. It's like a weird trick and every freaking thing you order is on the side. What's your drink of choice? A paloma. A paloma. What's that? It's like a spicy margarita, right?

Oh, no, grapefruit margarita. No, I'm sorry. Okay, so grapefruit juice. Yeah, grapefruit juice. Soda, just like club soda, pariet. Casamiga's tequila, bonko, white. And a lot of lime. It's so good.

Kelly was like, you're drinking way too much wine. And she was like, you have to cut that. And I probably lost four pounds from just, like, cutting out wine. You just do like a splash of grapefruit and then soda and tequila. I'm going to have to steal that one. The second I give birth, I want a Paloma sitting here. As I've gotten older, I just go straight to the liquor. I can't do the food anymore.

We need like a little something, something with it. But I would say with weight, I think, you know, what do you want? Like, what do you fucking want? Like, I always say, like, it's not easy. What do you want? Do you want to, like, it's what is your end goal? What do you want to be? Who do you want to be skinny?

You can be skinny. It's calories in, calories out. You know what I mean? Like, I don't mean to sound harsh in that way, but like, do you don't think it's hard for me with three kids? I don't care how much money I have. I still get up. I still work out at 545.

I still do two pickups. I still manage to like, you know, and it's hard and I'm tired and I'm grumpy. But like, I want to look good. When I put these, I had these jeans in my whole life because I was so fucked up for modeling that I could never weigh myself. I can still never weigh myself. Like when I was pregnant, I never weighed myself. I always lie except for the very end, which was shocking.

But so I never, literally I never weighed myself. So I had these one pair of jeans. So that's a really big tip. I had these one great pair of jeans that I would always try to get into. Like, literally, like, at one point, like, I couldn't when I was pregnant. Like, at the end, I couldn't get them past my knees. That was how I weighed myself through the pair of jeans. So I would say that, like, have that one thing you used to wear in your closet, pull it out, try it on, try to get over one part.

Even if it's like you're a size, you know, 10 now and you were a size, you know, four before. Your size 14, and you were the size, you know what I'm saying? Like, you're an 18. That's a kind of a little. You know what this reminds you? Have you ever heard of Jock Willink? You've heard him? No. Oh, my God. He's got an amazing podcast called The Jocko Show. And he's a, he's an ex-Navy seal. He wrote this book called Discipline equals Freedom. And it's all about like all the things in life, you know, like if you want to be healthy, it really wants these quick, easy, comfortable solutions.

But it really is just like getting up early, going to the gym, eating right, like doing the things. And it's always the hardest things. But they bring the most results. But I can tell you something like being heavy makes me in a bad mood. You know what I mean? Not having hair color makes it. It sounds superficial. but it's taking care, that self-care, taking that extra moment. Like, to take care of myself, like, I don't want to have, like, dark roots. I don't want to have great.

Like, I don't want that. So I get a little bit nervous as a society when people, listen, it's all about, I like body positivity. I think that's very important. It's okay to want to be healthy and to look good and to want to, like, you know, build your body and take care of yourself. I know everybody's like, oh, just be you. Great. If you feel great about just being you, you be you. I'll be wonderful over here and you be wonderful.

But I'm going to take care of myself. Yeah, to each its own. To each its own. You only get one of these things, you know, you get one body to carry you through the whole life. And again, but hold on. Again, it's what do you want? Like some people who are however, however heavy or however, they feel amazing about

themselves. And that is what it's about. It's not about a number. It's not about weight. It's not about height. It's not about red, white. It's how do you feel good? And that's how I start everything I talk about.

Like, how would you want? You know what I mean? Like, because a lot of times you're lying to yourself. Like, you know, oh, I don't care about that. Or, oh, yeah, I don't worry about that. Like, yes, you do. I just don't want people to take the cop out. It's like so and so told me that it's okay to feel good if I'm not taking care of myself.

So I'm going to continue to eat McDonald's every day and not take care of my body. But that's your choice. But I think, like, we get into a dangerous place where people like, oh, someone convinced me and told me this okay. It's like, no, you really got to take care of yourself. I mean, like, I just think, though, a lot of people that I hope that consume the skinny confidential, like they're striving to be the best version of themselves. And whatever that looks like to you, it can be like you said, anything, just do you when it, you don't need to do what everyone else is doing. Like my mom always just tell me, if you look good, you feel good. And if you feel good,

you look good. If you feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter how big you are. How tall, it doesn't matter. It's how you feel about yourself. It's like when I was thinking about trying to get met or, you know, I was trying to think about getting married. And I was really in this bad relationship and I kept saying, well, it's meant to be. You know, what's meant to be is meant to be. And finally, my uncle was like, yeah, that's just something you tell yourself to make you feel better. Yes, that's what I'm saying. You have to take steps in order to have the what's meant to be. You can't just be. Yeah. Interment and fasting before we go. It's hard. I have a question. Tell me. Do you do 16.8? I do 16.8. So when do you stop eating? I stop eating around 8 o'clock.

You stop eating at eight or seven. See, that's where I think I fucked up before because I stopped eating at 10. But then I was like still drinking wine until 10.30. So I was like dirty fasting. That was dirt. Yeah. That's kind of dirty. No, I got to start at eight.

That's a good tip. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, you can't really eat or drink afterwards with fasting. That would be a little bit difficult. I was having wine like till 1030. And I don't think. And then we had Mark Sason on here and he says that the.

the almond milk actually broke the fast as well. Oh, then I was doing unsweet. No, you can't have almond milk. Okay. It breaks it, right? Yeah. It was unsweet. You can't.

You can't do it, right? You can't. It has to be like water, black coffee. So all you do is water and black coffee until what's the math? It's 12 or 1. 12 or 1. And then what do you like to break your fast with? I had to ask this because I didn't get specific on the question.

A smoothie. A salad. Like I love, there's a place in L.A. called Mendocino Farms and they have the superfood salad. And I love it. It's so good. So good. like craving because I like order it. I love salmon. I love fish. I've tried to again, not eat as much.

Again, it's what your husband said. It's kind of like I needed to shock that body. And for me, I've never done high intensity. I was like lift weights. Are you out of your mind? Like I was the girl in Soul Cycle who'd be like, you know, in the back, they're like, oh, lift. I'm like, I'm like, sorry. I can't lift that weight. It might put up a little bit of muscle on me. I mean, I literally lift like 10, 20, 30 pounds. I do squats now. And my body is better than it was three years ago. You know what else too? It probably challenges the mind because it's a new thing that you have to learn where it's like can you get like say you do yoga for 20 years and all of a sense like the movements are just like normal the robotic but then you have to go do like weights

all of a sudden like I've never done this before and engages the mind as well. Like I'm doing this thing called dance body and it's it's dancing but it's specific dancing it's using your whole body so it's not just like moving in one place and like you know like that's not really cardio. That's probably mentally stimulating too. But it's like mentally she makes you wear our arm weights and leg weights and it's hard and you're sweating and it's not for very long and you're like it's a good workout even like the hit like i also back to giving one piece of advice you don't have to have an hour to work out yes you do not need an hour you need 25 to 35 40 minutes you're you know you're in there not on your phone not checking your email you're focused but that's that's all you need

book podcast resource that you can leave our audience with that's brought you a lot lot of value. Watch and listen to the skinny confidential. Well, of course. Your YouTube channel. My YouTube channel. What podcast do I love? It could be a book.

It could be a Netflix show. It could be. Just any resource. Any resource, an audible book, anything that you consume. Well, I love anything that, like, has to do with murder, like death or like, are you kidding? Tell us the murder ones. Oh, my God. Hold on.

One second. I just got to bring a whole list out. Oh, gosh. Are you kidding me? And I love reading, like, books that. My husband thinks I'm going to murder him. But it's okay. I thought you're picking up a lot of tactics and tips and tricks.

I watched Dateline and always fall asleep, but he'll have to watch the same one over and over until finally I make it three. But there's this one called the bitter pill and how he did that. I'm going to tell you. Ooh, the bitter pill and stuff. Is that the one with the person slowly poisoned him over years? Yeah. That sounds like a good one.

So Bardstown, Dr. Death, these are podcasts. I love Wondery. To live and die in L.A., someone knows something. Did you watch, did you listen to Atlanta Monster? No. It's a murder one. You'll like that one. Maybe not.

So there's this one random one called Bear Brook. It's so weird, but it's so good. Oh, the dropout, Elizabeth. So you're into like crime. Yeah, and I love cereal. I love Super Soul. Wondry puts out some great true crime podcast. I love Wondry for that.

And this American life, what is that one? The CEO of Wondry, Hernana, sometimes we speak, you know, just talk about podcasts. And I always tell them, like, if there's one person that's really done a good job in the space. I admire what he's done in the true crime space is pretty phenomenal. It's phenomenal. Yeah, he's niched down.

And then beauty, like, Nurse Jamie is a great one to follow. Dr. Bachshanda, Dr. B, she's great. Barbara Strom, like, these are great, you know. Glow recipes are really good. It's a Korean. They're really good. Oh, my gosh, there's so many. Like, I don't know.

You just dropped so many good tips and tricks. I mean, I'm inspired. You set the bar here because a lot of these guests come on. I'm like, I just need one resource. They can't get me a resource. So you just gave like 20. You just did the job of like, I'm, throughout this interview, there's so many gems.

Oh my God. I use face things. I'm always, that's the one thing. Like, I'm very honest. Like, you know, some people were like, oh, I don't diet. Oh, I don't do anything to my face. One time I asked a guest with their work routine and said, you know, meetings and coffee.

And I was, what the fuck does that mean? Of course, like everybody else in the world. Like, yeah, I guess is going to hear this now. No, we need specifics. See, now that guess is going to hear this and be pissed at me. Yeah. Molly, thank you for coming on. You guys are awesome.

Anytime. You're going to have the best baby girls. We can't wait. And next time she comes on, hopefully they'll be like really good air conditioning in here. I'm working on it. Where can everyone find you, pimped yourself out?

Pimp myself out. Okay, at Molly B Sims, SIMS on Instagram. We have a great YouTube channel, Molly Sims. We have two great books called The Everyday Supermodel and Everyday Sheek. That's pimped enough. I think we're good.

Thank you for coming on. Thanks, guys. Thank you for coming on. Thank you. Wait before you go, you should know that I did a collaboration with Molly. I am on her YouTube channel. We talk everything, everything and anything, okay? Pregnancy, beauty, health, the works, okay?

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