The Bossticks - Farrah Brittany - On How She Navigates Reality TV & Real Estate - Morning Routines, Productivity, & High Performance

Episode Date: October 4, 2019

#219: On this episode we sit down with Farrah Brittany. Farrah is the daughter of Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills Co-Star Kyle Richards, a top real estate agent in Los Angeles with The Agency. On thi...s episode we discuss how Farrah balances a massive real estate career & a life showcased on reality tv. We also dive into productivity hacks, morning routines, and what it takes to have a high performance career. To connect with Farrah Brittany click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) This episode is brought to you by FOUR SIGMATIC We have been drinking this company's mushroom-infused elixirs and coffees for over a year now. When we need a break from coffee but still need that extra morning jolt and focus the Mushroom Coffee with Lion's Mane and Chaga is the way to go. Lauryn also drinks the Mushroom Matcha which is a green tea designed as a coffee alternative for those of you who want to cut back on caffeine without losing focus and cognitive boosts. This stuff doesn't actually taste like mushrooms, it's delicious. All of these blends have a ton of nutrients and amino acids to give you balanced energy without the jitters. To try FOUR SIGMATIC products go to foursigmatic.com/skinny and use promo code SKINNY for 15% off all products. This episode is brought to you by Your Super. Your Super is on a mission to improve people's health with the power of super plants. Your Super's functional superfood and plant protein mixes are made from naturally dried, organic whole foods/superfoods— nothing else Get the cleanest superfood and plant protein mixes at YourSuper.com and receive 15% off your order when you use code SKINNY at checkout . Produced by Dear Media  

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Starting point is 00:00:40 And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her. You don't need to have a lot of deals under your belt to get a lot. vast knowledge of learning all the data, all the comps. So I always tell people who are looking to get into the business, pick a few neighborhoods
Starting point is 00:01:09 that you want to focus on and learn everything about those neighborhoods. Like learn all the houses that have sold. Learn the average price per square foot. Learn the average sales price. Read up on articles on who bought what. That way you are the expert in that area, even if you haven't, you know, sold any homes yet. Happy, Happy Friday. It's almost the weekend.
Starting point is 00:01:32 going to Texas this weekend, which should be interesting. But we are back with a new episode today with Farah Brittany. You guys may have seen her on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I feel like she makes a lot of cameos. She's also a mastermind real estate agent at the agency. Like seriously, she is a seller and she's a hustler. And today she's talking real estate entrepreneurship and morning routines. And today as your host, you have me, Lauren Everett's Bostick. I'm the creator of the Skiny Confidential, a podcast, book, brand, and blog, and Michael. Back for another episode. Taylor, how many of these things are we at now?
Starting point is 00:02:11 250, 250, 2.30, 220. I don't even know how. We're losing track. Wow, 224. So how Farah and I met was through Instagram. We connected because we are obsessed with optimizing our day and our routine. And we ended up going out to dinner. We went to Dan Tanas and just like caught up like old friends.
Starting point is 00:02:30 It was like we've known each other forever. and then after that we had to do a double date and all we could talk about was productivity hacks and optimization and daily routines. After stalking her Instagram highlights, which you guys have to check out, she has all these really good tips, tricks, and hacks. So of course, I'm super excited for this episode. Like I said, we're getting very, very micro and into it. And she has the most iconic family. I mean, between Kyle Richards, Paris Hilton, Kathy Hilton, Nikki Hilton, she has some history, guys. With that, let's welcome Farah Brittany to the skinny confidential him and her show. Four-Sigmatic. It is the year of the mushroom, people. At least that's what
Starting point is 00:03:15 Tara, the founder and creator, a four-sigmatic told me as I drove by Lost Iniga and saw a four-sigmatic billboard. It just reminds me how much I love this brand, how much I love this company, Lauren. I personally think that you guys should start with the mushroom hot cacao mix. Michael's always been a fan of the coffee, but I've, being pregnant, like to wind down with something that's sweet. Even when I wasn't pregnant, though, I like to wind down with something sweet. Anyways, this is mushroom hot cacao mix, and it's filled with mushrooms. So you're going to get all the benefits. Mushrooms are, like, have these insane benefits.
Starting point is 00:03:45 And to be able to drink it in a hot cacao mix is like a warm hug from grandma. I even add some lemon on top, which sounds weird, but you got to try it. If you're late to the game, late to this show, and haven't heard about four-sigmatic, now is your chance. Americans drink a ton of coffee. Chances are, if you're listening to this, you're one of those coffee drinkers because over 64% of Americans drink coffee. Not surprising data there. What was surprising to me is that we are not the biggest coffee drinkers in the world. Data shows that Finland, the Finns, drink the most coffee. Data also shows that they are the happiest people in the world. Why are they so happy? Because they know their shit when it comes to coffee and they drink a lot of coffee. They also know their shit when it comes to mushrooms. And this time, they have blended mushrooms and coffee together to make a delicious mushroom. coffee, elixir that you need to try. They also guys have beautiful skin, which is like really important to me. And if you're wondering some other health benefits of mushrooms, they're high in iron, which is ideal when you're pregnant.
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Starting point is 00:05:07 taro on this show multiple times. He's coming back on soon. So check them out. Go to 4Sigmatic.com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for 15% off your entire order. Again, that's 4Sigmatic.com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for 15% off your entire order. And make sure you get the spicy mushroom hot cacao and you add lemon at night. you're watching TV. He'll thank me later. This is the skinny confidential, him and her. Do you see my picture on my Insta story with Paris? No. Oh my God, I got to show it to you.
Starting point is 00:05:40 I did not see. I got to show it to you really quick. Let me see, let me see. So when I was like 19 or something, we saw Paris and Nikki, my friend and I, and we followed them in the bathroom. And I thought, how fitting is this that I found this picture from like 1999. I got to show her. We're just like moving all these. You were like six years old.
Starting point is 00:05:59 No, I, like, printed out the picture because you, like, could, it was, there was no cell phone. So I, like, printed out the picture and we took a selfie on, what are those cameras? I took a picture on one of those, I don't even know what it's called. What are the disposable camera? And I took one in the bathroom. And we took, like, a selfie. And then I just remember her saying, that's hot. That's hot.
Starting point is 00:06:19 That's hot. And I was like, this is everything. Nothing's changed. And I framed it in, like, a pink situation. You know what I love those old disposable is, like, for me now, when she asked me to take a photo, it's like 40 photos, right? I got boom, boom, boom.
Starting point is 00:06:32 I just rapid fire them. Back then, you just got the one. You just got the one and done. Literally one and done. Okay. So you guys were doing selfies back in however long ago. It's crazy. I mean, she basically invented that.
Starting point is 00:06:43 Well, your husband invented influencer marketing, in my opinion. Absolutely did. Yeah. For sure. I mean, honestly, she was the first influencer. But she's the first person that made a brand out of herself. Yes. Yes.
Starting point is 00:06:55 And has been consistent throughout the years of promoting herself, her brand, and becoming a name. And she did that all on her own. And I feel like a lot of people in your family, though, have done that. I mean, it's, it's like you guys, I was just telling you before we got on the mic that each one of the women in your family and men are really dominant, I mean, confident, beautiful, smart. We got a pool of overachievers in that. Yeah, it's like, well, it all came from my grandmother. So she was this dynamic woman, and she had such a big personality. and when she left her ex-husband, her whole thing was never depend on a man for anything.
Starting point is 00:07:35 So she taught her daughters, you're all going to be somebody, and so are your kids and this family. Everybody is going to be somebody in this family. So that's basically what happened. How do you think she taught that? Looking back when you evaluate it, how do you think she,
Starting point is 00:07:52 because, I mean, that's something I want to teach, you know, my future kids is don't rely on anyone but yourself? I think that she really supported them. Her daughters made them believe in themselves, made them believe that they could do anything they wanted to do, be whoever they wanted to be. When Paris was actually a baby, her nickname was Star. And my grandmother said, you're going to be a star. And she died actually just as Paris was starting to really make a name for herself. But she saw a little bit about it. She saw a little of, you know, the transformation. But she just knew. She just knew that this is, you know, our family, the women in our family
Starting point is 00:08:34 were smart, independent, strong, and that everybody could be somebody if they wanted to be. And is your mom doing next to you have? Your mom has four daughters, which is insane. Like they tried for a son. They tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and did not happen. And they just said, you know what, forget it. They did all the, you know, scientific techniques. And then the second they just said, you know, fuck it. Let's just go natural. Portia came. Wow.
Starting point is 00:09:00 Yeah. That's a lot of estrogen in the house. I think Maricio, though, does on housewives, like, he does a good job of managing it. Oh, he is the best dad's, you know, girls kind of dad. Yeah. You know, he's masculine, but he loves it. He's the king of the house. There's like four girl dogs, four girls.
Starting point is 00:09:16 I mean, five with my mom. It's just complete estrogen and he loves it. No, I think what I was telling my. Michael, what I find attractive in a man is when they're masculine, but they also are able to tap into their feminine side. And I think like a man like Joe Rogan, he has, I think he has two or three daughters. Really? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:09:34 And he has his wife, obviously. And so I think he does a really good job of balancing that. They say, and this may be legend or it might not be true, they say men with a lot of testosterone are more likely to produce women. Really? That's so interesting. If you think about some of the guys that have daughters. Oh, my boyfriend's going to be like, what?
Starting point is 00:09:52 He's so, he's so, he's so, I mean, that could be completely BS, but, but yeah, I don't know. We'll see. Maricio seems like he has a lot of testosterone. That's probably a compliment. Well, I'm saying that. Well, I feel like the more masked than you are, the more comfortable you are, you know, maybe with yourself. And so you don't mind being a little feminine in some areas or more sensitive because
Starting point is 00:10:12 you're just confident. Exactly. Bingo. So looking back on the way your mom raised you guys, four daughters, what are some things that you think maybe she got from your grandma or things that she's instilled in you that you think are really valuable. As kids, I think she never treated us like kids. Like she treated us like, not like adults, but if we had an opinion, she would listen. She would really support what we wanted to do. And she was really, she was strict. She was strict. So she had a lot of rules, you know,
Starting point is 00:10:48 but a lot of positive reinforcement. So she would always tell me, you can have whatever you want, you know, I'll get you this for Christmas or for your birthday, but you have to, you know, work for it. So when I would get good grades in high school or in school in my whole life, I would work towards a goal. And so that positive reinforcement kind of, you know, instilled a work ethic within us. Well, I think it's really important for parents to think about it. We're not parents at, obviously, but, you know, it doesn't matter where you start whether you come from a family that's, you know, that's got a little bit of backing, you come. What I'm trying to say here is that it's important to instill confidence and goals into
Starting point is 00:11:28 children, I think. Absolutely. Because there's a lot of people that, you know, if you grow up privileged and you're just given things, but without the incentive of like, hey, this was given to you because this, this, and this occurred before you could get it. I think that's where kids get in a little bit of trouble. But if you can instill like, hey, you're going to be rewarded with this type of thing. But in order to get it, you have to do these things. I think that's what's important. That's the missing component. A lot of parents that start to make some money have problems with, right? Like, they don't instill drive.
Starting point is 00:11:55 The basic foundation, basically. But what's funny is, I'll just point out, our lives have drastically changed in the past 10 years since the show. Like, I did not grow up with this kind of lifestyle. We were always comfortable, you know. But when my sisters were born, we were living in a two-bedroom apartment in Beverly Hills. So, and the agency, our company, is only eight years old. And the housewife show is only 10 years. old. So we always had a great life. I always went to the best schools. But the lifestyle that we have
Starting point is 00:12:24 now is nothing like it was when I was little. I remember when I was little, I always wanted a house with stairs. And I would ask my stepdad, I'd say, when are we going to buy a house with stairs? When are we going to buy a house with stairs? And he would say, well, when we have 13 cushions, you have to kind of come up with a, you know, a way to put it to a seven-year-old. And so every day, I'd say, do we have, how many cushions do we have now? And he said, we have seven cushions. Now the next month, we still have seven cushions. So, you know, my life then versus like what Porsche's life is now, so different.
Starting point is 00:12:59 So I think it's a lot harder for my mom actually now to make sure to instill the same values in my younger sisters because they just have, you know, total different lifestyle. When parents get tired, right? Are you the oldest? And the oldest. Yeah, the oldest. The oldest always has it's the hardest, right? The parents are the hardest on the oldest.
Starting point is 00:13:16 Oh, my God. Are you kidding? Cry me a river, you guys. No, it's true. I'm the oldest, too. What happens is, you know, like the parents, the middle one. Play your violin, Michael. No, the parents are the strictest on the oldest because they have the highest expectation.
Starting point is 00:13:27 And then they're like, okay, maybe we're being a little too extra. And then the middle one gets a little easier. The youngest is like, that's the baby. And their parents are checked out and they're tired. Crazy the difference. I mean, I wasn't allowed to drive with anybody's parents, anyone's babysitters, anyone's siblings. My mom had to talk to everyone's parents.
Starting point is 00:13:42 I mean, it was, I had, you know, such strict curfew, just strict, strict and I think it worked well but with each sister definitely they become more and more lax yeah if my sisters are listening you guys got it way easy you guys are soft totally I want to talk about your work ethic and where that sort of began because
Starting point is 00:13:59 your work ethic I you know I watch you I've seen your Instagram stories and you know we've gone out to dinner I've talked with you and you have this incredible drive and work ethic is that something that you put on yourself or is it something that you think you've learned through your parents like go back like back when you were little
Starting point is 00:14:15 I think it's a mixture of both because my mom always tells me, she says, I never had to worry about you because you always just did it. Because I used to get mad at her. I'd be like, why don't you ask me when the SATs are? Why don't you ask me when this? All the other parents are writing their kids essays. And she said, I never had to with you because I was so proactive. So I think that was just my personality. And then again, I think with them constantly praising and giving me that positive reinforcement of working hard, that also helped. and that's definitely just, I have that perfectionist personality. And in some ways, it's great, but in other ways, it can also be limiting.
Starting point is 00:14:56 It can also be stressful. What ways do you think it's limiting? Sometimes you just have to, you don't have to be so overly prepared because sometimes it can stop you from doing things. So, I mean, I'm sure I've missed out on many opportunities because I just thought, what if there's a chance I don't do it exactly right? So let me just maybe not even give it a shot at all. that's something I'm really working on this year.
Starting point is 00:15:16 I think it's important for people to talk about this stuff, especially someone that's achieved as much as you have, like to talk about working on yourself in areas that you don't feel as strong. Right. So, yeah, when I turned 30 this year, I already have a successful business. I do well. But I was really well.
Starting point is 00:15:32 I do really well. But I was just ready to take it up to the next level, not only in work, but also in my personal life. And I kind of realize it like trickles down into both areas. And funny enough, when you and I had dinner, Lauren, the first time, you said to me, you know, you just put a lot of ideas into my head about where I could take my business to the next level and then saying with my real estate coach. And so I've realized that, you know, I want to put myself out there more.
Starting point is 00:16:01 I want to grow my business. I want to expand my business. And you can't really do those things unless you're, you know, dealing with things that make you uncomfortable every day. And so I think maybe I even heard you say this. And this is a common theme that I'm just coming across probably because I'm seeking it out in the universe. But you should be doing something that makes you uncomfortable every day. That's the only way you're going to grow. So if that means, you know, taking on a public speaking event in front of a large crowd or
Starting point is 00:16:29 just something that you don't want to do, like it's okay even if you're not perfect at it. And so that's what I'm trying to navigate is like being open to more opportunities, even if I might not be perfect at it. it in the beginning. I think I told you this, or maybe I didn't tell you this, but you know, like before, I mean, if you would have met me three and a half years ago, it's like right before the show started, my biggest fear, which is crazy because I've done some wild shit in my life. My crazy, my biggest fear was public speaking. Couldn't speak in front of anybody. We'd never talk for anybody. Look at you now. Now he doesn't shut the fuck up. Jesus. Taylor. No, I would think
Starting point is 00:17:01 like, I would have these like, oh my God, and a morbid dreams. I'm like, what if I have to speak at someone's wedding or like, even worse? What if I speak at someone's funeral? What if I speak at a funeral and I can't do it. Or like, what if I, now, you know, I go around and I speak and I do this show. But it's what it was. It was constant repetition of putting ourselves out there and speaking. And honestly, in a weird way, putting yourself on this show and social media and talking. And over time, you just get comfortable.
Starting point is 00:17:23 But in the beginning, it was extremely uncomfortable for me. Exactly. I actually learned something recently from somebody who told me confidence doesn't always come first. Sometimes if you just commit to do the thing no matter what, like take massive action and just commit to do it. and the confidence might follow. So I just keep that in my head.
Starting point is 00:17:40 And I'm like, this is really helpful. And what are some tactics or habits that you do every single day to help you get uncomfortable? Like, is there any books you study or people that you talk to or podcast you consume? So I have a real estate coach who I speak to twice a day. We have a one-on-one call once a week, but then it's twice a day. It's a group call. And he's really pushing me, like, every day. He's like, I want you to lead the call today.
Starting point is 00:18:05 I want you to speak up, you know, no hiding in the shadows. And I don't have a problem speaking or talking to people. I just, for some reason, when it's like a group setting or a larger setting, I get really nervous. So he's pushing me. And then when I had dinner with you guys and you just said, who cares what anyone thinks? Just say what do you want to say? That also stuck with me. And then I decided why not share kind of the behind the scenes?
Starting point is 00:18:35 on my social media. And that is like a low stakes way where it's not like I have to do it, I can, but I'm going to commit to do it at least once a week, which is what I've started to do. And it kind of kills multiple birds with one stone. It helps me be more comfortable sharing, being vulnerable, and also helping people along the way because people are reaching out to me saying, I really needed to hear that today. Like, thank you so much. And I'm like, okay, wow, this is not so hard. And it's helping people. Hold up. Before we do, dive into that. Let's talk about your super.com. Okay, so tons of questions on if I'm drinking coffee during pregnancy. And I'm just going to be real with you guys. I am drinking a couple of sips of coffee,
Starting point is 00:19:19 but I've replaced my typical two huge cups of iced coffee a day with macha. You've probably seen that on my stories. I just think it feels healthier when you're pregnant. I can't explain it, but you don't want a lot of coffee. So match is like the perfect replacement. And the macha that I've been using is from your super.com. So let me tell you all about it. We'll get specific, okay? Basically, your super is on a mission to improve people's health with the power of superplants. It sounds so witch-doctory.
Starting point is 00:19:49 I love it. They make it super easy for you to get the nutrients your body needs to thrive. So your super's functional superfood and plant protein mixes are made from naturally dried organic whole foods and superfoods and nothing else. So you know exactly what you're getting. So you're getting 100% transparent. supply chain and you know you're getting the cleanest superfood mixes on the market. This is obviously extremely important to me when I'm pregnant. I wanted to know exactly where my macha was coming from.
Starting point is 00:20:15 I'm actually very, very picky when it comes to macha. There's bad macha out there. And this powder macha mix is legit. So like I said, I get the powder matcha mix and it helps me stay alert all day, but without the sugar crash and without the caffeine jitters. My doctor recommended that if I'm going to drink caffeine, I do like 200 milligrams a day. So this is very, very, ideal and perfect. Energy is extremely important to me because with being pregnant, I'm freaking tired. And the power macha really, really is keeping me on my toes. Also, their site, YourSuper, has so many free recipes and other resources so you can go and get creative with how you add their superfood mixes into your meals. Get the cleanest superfood and plant protein mixes at
Starting point is 00:20:57 your super.com. That's y-oh-u-r-super.com. You get 15% off your order when you use code skinny at checkout. Try the power matcha. Let me know what you think. Just go to your super.com. And don't forget, you get 15% off with promo code Skinny at checkout. All right, let's get back to the show. This is so interesting to me. Like, I almost want to do a case study on it because your cousin has made a career off not giving a fuck what anyone thinks. Like, that's like, like, like I, you know, everyone could channel a little Paris. And then your mom is obviously on housewives and she puts herself out there. So it's almost like you, like, sort of went a different way at first, and then you realized, okay, no, I'm actually going to, you channel some of this and mix it with all your strengths.
Starting point is 00:21:44 Totally. And you're utilizing both. And also, because I'm just realizing lately, the people I'm attracted to on social media are people that are sharing, like, the whole story, not just the pretty picture, you know, being vulnerable, sharing the things that I'm like, why am I continuing to watch us and watch us, but you're, like, addicted to watching it. And so, yeah, my, my, my cousins, they don't care what anyone thinks, like, they're doing their own thing. But what's different is I'm, like, going all the way down the end and, like, kind of just think, sharing, like, more my thoughts and vulnerabilities rather than just getting up there and just doing, like, a real estate video, which is all, you know, might be scary too. But to me, this is extra scary to say, like,
Starting point is 00:22:30 okay, today I'm feeling a little insecure or, you know, whatever it is, or I have anxiety about all the things I have to do today and I feel overwhelmed. Like, to me, that is terrifying to share because after I'm like, does anyone care about this? But everyone, I mean, people care. Have you guys ever watched children play? I know that sounds like a strange question, but it's interesting. I've been noticing lately where you'll, we're just at this kid's birthday party. And the kids, they have no fear, right? They'll jump up. They'll say anything. They'll do anything. They'll make any, like, they're, you know, they're not guarded. Or if you've ever seen a little kid go skiing and they just charge down a huge mountain.
Starting point is 00:23:03 And they'll say whatever. Yeah. And grown adults are scared to go down these things and scared to say. I think what happens is as you get older and people start telling you no and start saying, don't do this. And society starts saying like this is the way to do things. You start to build up this fear, right? It starts to grow.
Starting point is 00:23:18 Like each year you go on, you say, wait, I can't do that. I can do that. And you lose your inhibition to just go and be childlike, right? And so it's interesting to get back to that place. Yeah, totally. And then you start telling yourself stories about what you're like. You're like, oh, I'm back. at this, your narrative, or I can't do this. And that just like builds and builds and builds.
Starting point is 00:23:35 And you lose your creativity and your imagination. Absolutely. You have to get back to that place. You have to channel your inner child because. I respect that though. So much about you how you work on it every single day. There's not a lot of people that see a weakness that they feel they have and work on it every single day. I mean, that's really rare. I did not think it was going to be this would take this much energy and effort, but it really is like an everyday thing. Now I am trying to, because I am a perfectionist, I am trying to read books about it and like study and do as much coaching and everything that I can to kind of just be more agile, more comfortable, more open, all these different things.
Starting point is 00:24:16 I always say that for like eight years of my career, I said yes to everything. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And it served me so well until one day it didn't. And I had to pivot and start saying no and be more efficient with my time. It seems like being a professional. has gotten you so far in your career, but now you're realizing, okay, maybe this isn't serving me in every area, and so you're pivoting and adjusting. Exactly. It strips the weapons away from others as well, right? Like, say there's somebody out there that wants to tear you down. Like,
Starting point is 00:24:45 I mean, there's very few things, if any, that someone could come on say about Lauren and I at this point that we probably haven't already set up or shared ourselves, right? And so I look at it is also something to build a little bit of armor where it's like you put yourself out there and you show those vulnerabilities. So when people want to attack you for anything, which will happen as you put yourself out there. It's kind of like, yeah, okay, we know that. We already said that. Right, you can get in front of it.
Starting point is 00:25:05 Yeah. So what? When there's cameras all over your house, are you, like, avoiding them? Like, what do you do? I mean, I can't imagine, like, coming home to my dad's house and there's cameras everywhere. There's just normal to you. It's normal. It's normal.
Starting point is 00:25:18 I mean, it's six months of the year, six days a week. My mom will say, hey, you know, we're doing a family dinner. I mean, the good thing about it, it is reality. So, really, I just have to show up and have dinner. Yeah, it's a little. weird having the cameras, but by now the crew has become like family. It's so not a big deal. When it's an event, you know, housewives event or a dinner, I usually don't go because I only really want to be a part of it if it's actually like the reality of our family.
Starting point is 00:25:47 So how is your life changed? And I'm interested in how your life has changed since housewives has come on. Has it changed anyway in your business and your personal when you go out to dinner? Like how is the day to day changed? The day to day probably has changed more than I realize, but it's hard to quantify, really. I mean, yes, I have followers on Instagram. Okay. Yes, I get stopped every once in a while. I still find it very funny and weird.
Starting point is 00:26:17 In terms of business, you never really know who is coming because of that. Like, sometimes you just get a hunch. You know when you're like out and you guys probably have this all the time? And someone will try to act like totally normal. but you can just tell by just a simple look. Like they know who you are. And sometimes it's better they don't say anything. And sometimes it's better that they just say that they know who you are, whatever.
Starting point is 00:26:41 So when I get a phone call, I don't always know if it's a complete random referral or if it's potentially coming through the show or Instagram or whatever. And talk to us how you started working at the agency. Was that a decision you always knew you wanted to make? Or was it something that, you know, was thought out? or did you fall into it? How did that happen? So I've always loved real estate, but I was actually planning to go get my master's in psychology. And then Mauricio said, hey, you know, we're going to start our own company, the agency.
Starting point is 00:27:15 And I was like, oh, my God, that is perfect. I mean, if we're going to have our own real estate company, I love real estate. I actually was starting to lean more towards questioning whether I wanted to do more of a business job versus psychology. who seemed like a very stressful situation. It was just a natural thing. I wanted to be part of the family business and be there from the get-go. Some of these people that watch these shows,
Starting point is 00:27:40 these reality shows, they get extremely invested, right? Like, they're in it. Do you ever, you know, throughout the years, the ups and downs, both good and bad on the show, if people are attacking your family members or your mom, like, how do you handle that? Ignore. You just ignore.
Starting point is 00:27:56 I'm totally. I laugh, though, because my mom, I'll look and she responds back all these people all like she literally like we'll have full conversations with 10 people saying like stop stop trolling don't you know if you don't want to be here get off i'm like mom why are you even engaging with these people like it's comical to me it probably gets exhausting it's like chinese torture when you get poked over and over and over again at one minute you're just like come on like get off my back i have to defend myself yeah i mean i'm sure you guys know i'm sure you guys get that too but it's just
Starting point is 00:28:24 it's it's just a name and a stupid comment like i'll either completely disregard it or I'll delete it if it bothers me. And you get to a point and I mean, I'm sure that your family's dealt with this and you and everyone. You get to a point where it's like, you've heard everything. It's like, yeah. It's not original anymore. Exactly. You know what I mean? It starts to be boring. It's like, oh, so ugly, this, that, awful hair, whatever it is. I'm sure you're pristine, Pamela. Like, yeah, exactly. It's crazy. Not everyone can be as perfect as you call it. At some level that's kind of, I mean, the show in some ways are designed to get people triggered and engaged. I mean, I think that speaks to the success of the franchise.
Starting point is 00:29:05 The show doesn't last for 10 years if there's not some controversy. And your mom has lasted like longer than any housewife that's ever been on. I mean, she's like the OG. Yeah, she's the OG. Yeah. So I want to talk about your morning routines. Okay. I love talking about this stuff.
Starting point is 00:29:19 Because we've talked a little bit over text message about this. I know you have, and we've talked in person, you told me all about your salary juice maker. Tell me your morning routine because it's very, very, very, very. planned out and very methodical. So my morning routine starts out with 20-minute meditation. What time you have to give us so specific? Okay, well, on Tuesdays, I have to wake up at 5.30 for my real estate call. And then the rest of the days, I would try to wake up around 6.30. I get up, make the bed, boyfriend meet him downstairs. We make celery juice with the Braville celery juice maker. And that, you know, we have to wash the celery. It's a whole process.
Starting point is 00:29:58 it's annoying. But once we get into a routine, it's like we have to stick with it. After that, we meditate together for 20 minutes on the living room floor. Then we have to make our whole other green juice concoction, which consists of like a green powder with a glutamine powder mix in, drop of chlorophyll, mix it all together, have that. Then we're ready for coffee. then we separate ways and start our emails, start our day. And from then, it's off to the races, because in my job, everything, you know, every day is so different. And how has every day different? Like, is it like sometimes you're at the office, sometimes you're at home? Yeah, absolutely. So I'm either
Starting point is 00:30:39 showing properties, you know, searching for new properties for my buyer clients, getting houses ready to come on the market or, you know, planning marketing and advertising and open houses and stuff like that. And you're really up on your fitness and wellness. Like you, I feel like you went through a transformation. I mean, you think, well, I mean, your body like has always looked amazing. But like you just have, I feel like you've really figured out what works for you. Yes, I was inspired by turning 30 and just saying, hey, I just, I need to get my act together. I've always been very obsessed, health conscious. Doesn't mean that I follow everything perfectly, but I like knew, I know exactly what you should be doing. and then finally I found something that worked for me before I turned 30,
Starting point is 00:31:23 which was simply don't eat as much. What I found was when I eat breakfast in the morning, I am hungry all day long and it'll make me want to have a snack and then lunch and then another snack. So now I try really not to eat until late in the afternoon. Probably not the healthiest way. Maybe for some people believe in intermittent fasting. Other people say, oh, you're going to ruin your metabolism.
Starting point is 00:31:44 I don't know, but for me simply consuming less calories. And then, of course, working out, et cetera, is what works for me. There's a weird American thing where, you know, like, grow up and say, you have to finish everything off your plate. I think it's just a strange way to be. I can't remember there's a football player that is, he's fucking jacked. And his whole tip was like, as soon as he's fully stops eating, right? If you assume whatever meal he's having, as soon as you're supposed to do.
Starting point is 00:32:09 Well, people think it's wasteful for food. I think that's more of a problem with the portions that we serve. But the person should not feel obligatory. If I go to a restaurant and it's a giant beef plate, I'm not going to eat the whole thing. Right. Just take it to go. I always ask if they can do half orders. And if they can't, I just take the rest to go.
Starting point is 00:32:23 It's simple. It sounds like you do intermittent fasting. Yes. How did you two get connected? I don't even know if I know that story. We met on Instagram. There's a lot of people meeting on Instagram. It's so funny.
Starting point is 00:32:34 No, because I think on Instagram, the like-mindedness attracts the like-mindedness. And, like, I think Farah is really interested in optimizing and hacking her life in every way possible. And, like, we just connected on that. Nobody's reaching out to me. I'm not meeting anybody on Instagram. I love that. You guys, he wants you to reach out to them. I don't know. I hang out with like four people and two and three of them are my dogs than Lauren. So it's rare.
Starting point is 00:32:59 I want to talk about real estate because I am so overwhelmed on what to do. Like, do I buy a house? Do I rent? What do I do? Can you speak on that a little bit? And speak on it for like 25 to 35. She's like everybody, everybody buy a house. She's like, everybody buy house. Totally. Well, you know, interest rates are low. So it is definitely a good time to buy.
Starting point is 00:33:25 However, in L.A., especially, pricing is still extremely high. So we've been in just like this bubble of inflated prices and sellers asking for this aspirational pricing. But what I would say for first-time home buyers is that if you find something you love, you should just buy it. Because the truth is this cycle has continued to push and push, and yes, eventually it's going to have to pop or, you know, whatever they say. But if you find something you love, now is the right time. Because who knows when it's going to become a buyer's market. And in terms of actually going through the process, because it is very overwhelming, you need a trusted advisor, you know. And there's a lot of ins and outs.
Starting point is 00:34:10 You need somebody to teach you what is the best. better neighborhood. Why is one side of the street better than the other side of the street? What house is not to buy? You know, walk you through the inspections, the disclosures, the whole escrow process. Like there's so many ins and outs. So there's a lot of information. Let's talk about some of the loan types and some of the mistakes that first time young, let's say young, because there's a lot of young people, young home buyers make when buying a home. Because I think that that's something to talk about. One, they don't know, okay, how am I going to come up with this loan? How am I going to get a loan? And two, like, what's the right mortgage payment to pay? But, you know, what's the right down payment?
Starting point is 00:34:43 I think if you could speak on that a little bit. We haven't addressed it on the show. Never. That's why I was really excited to have you on. But I think there's a lot of confusion out there, right? Like right now there's a, renting, you know, it's not cheap. There's, it's very difficult to get deductions with running. But I think speaking on how to buy and when to buy and how much to buy is important.
Starting point is 00:35:03 So I would say in terms of getting a loan, I recently represented some buyers who went online and we were submitting offers with a quick-in-loans application, and they quickly realized that other agents, like listing agents, were not taking those offers very seriously. So quickly had to revise our process. And what I did was I connected them with my contacts because they had been wanting to use their own connections. But I had to kind of like take over,
Starting point is 00:35:32 and I introduced them to a contact that I have at Wells Fargo. And it could be multiple other banks. It doesn't really matter. But you want to definitely shop for the best. rates around. Don't just talk to one person because they're a family friend or something like that. You know, do your research. And then now you can do something, which is get advanced underwriting approval. So not just coming in with a pre-loan approval, which is kind of, you know, anyone could get a letter from the bank that says that. But what I had them do was go through the whole loan process
Starting point is 00:36:03 before they even found the house that they wanted. So by the time they found the house that they wanted, we were able to shorten the escrow period. We were able to shorten the contingency period and remove the loan contingency with our offer. So when you're a first-time buyer in the, let's say, 1 to 2 million or less price point, there's a lot of competition still. And there's a lot of people submitting offers because the inventory for good homes in that price range is low. So in this scenario, there were eight other offers. but because we were able to get the underwriting up front, we beat out all the other offers.
Starting point is 00:36:44 So I would say step one, do your research, try to get advanced underwriting, you know, your loan upfront if you can. And then once you find the house that you want, it's really good idea to write a letter to the sellers. Like they love that with, you know, a one page brief letter, with your page. brief letter with your picture, your story, kind of give some sort of personality or like emotion attached to the offer. So it's not just numbers on paper. Well, I think the one thing that I also want to discuss is when it comes, like a lot of people are overwhelmed by the down payment.
Starting point is 00:37:23 For first time buyers, let's say the house is under a million dollars, right? Let's say average household income of listeners that listen to this show is like 75K, right? So a house under a million bucks. What is a down payment that someone could comfortably put down on a home like that? And how do they get those loans? So typically, it's expected between 20 and 30%. Some people can do 15. Recently, I had a deal where the buyer was doing 15%. The seller wasn't super comfortable with that, but I had, I let him know that it doesn't really matter as long as we get reassurance from the bank, you know, what the percentage is. But the range is typically between 15 and 30. with 20 being about average.
Starting point is 00:38:05 So if someone's out there in any area of the world, how can they find someone who's a really damn good real estate agent? Like, how do you weed through the ones that aren't good to find the gem? To find really good agents, it is a referral business. And usually somebody you know that you trust probably has a few great people that they've worked with. So I would say, ask your friends, but make sure they know the area that you want to live in. You want like an expert in your area. So once you pick your area, try to find people that you know that have worked with agents in that area.
Starting point is 00:38:41 Once you get a few names, I would say it's a really good idea to speak with those three agents or whatever it is. And look at their track record. What have they sold in the neighborhood? Make sure that you guys are a good fit. You know, some personalities vibe and some don't. So you definitely want to do your research. I mean, I wouldn't say some agents rely heavily on their like, Zim. Zillow reviews, but for example, I think I have one review on Zillow. So for me, that would not be,
Starting point is 00:39:08 you know, something I would say, but I think just asking people you trust to give referrals of people that they trust and then making sure that those align with the neighborhoods that you are interested in. If there's someone out there that wants to get into real estate, you've done such a good example, you know, the way you've done it, in my opinion. Like if I wanted to get into real estate, I would look at what you've done. Can you sort of give us the blueprint, like how you, I mean, obviously, Maricio, but it's more than that. Like, you put in the work. Like, how did you even decide to get in it and what were the steps you took to get in it? Well, I decided because it was just, you know, our family business that was starting and I loved real estate and I already grew up
Starting point is 00:39:47 around it. So I had a lot of experience even coming into it. But I think there's two separate things. In terms of other agents coming into the business, I would say it really helps to start out as an assistant to a top agent or to a team. And that's actually what I did with Maricio. I was as assistant for three years before I went off onto my own, like doing everything for him. And that is such a good way for you to learn the business, get experience and not have to rely on like the commissions that come every once in a blue moon. Like you can be making a salary, gaining credibility and getting a lot of experience. So I would say start there. You don't need to have a lot of deals under your belt to get a vast knowledge of learning all the data,
Starting point is 00:40:30 all the comps. So I always tell people who are looking to get into the business, pick a few neighborhoods that you want to focus on and learn everything about those neighborhoods. Like, learn all the houses that have sold. Learn the average price per square foot. Learn the average sales price. Read up on articles on who bought what. That way, you are the expert in that area, even if you haven't, you know, sold any homes yet. Another really good tip is sitting open houses for other agents. What does that mean? So basically, even if you have no listings, you're a brand new agent, you have nothing. A lot of agents sit other agents open houses. So if one agent, let's say, if I have five open houses this Sunday and I can only
Starting point is 00:41:11 be at one, other age, I'll say to some, you know, who can help me with my other four open houses. So you should be that agent to volunteer to help sit those open houses. And that's because when you order your open house signs, you can order 20 of them. People don't really think of that. They think, let me just put one or two in front of the house, put 20 of them around the neighborhood. So start having your name be exposed in that neighborhood. And that's just like marketing for yourself. Then people are coming to the open house and you're meeting people. And that's what you should be doing.
Starting point is 00:41:44 You should be meeting new people and making new connections. You should not be afraid to call your whole database and let people know that you're in real estate. A lot of people are like afraid to do that because they think they're bothering them. And how do you use social media to market yourself or do you not? use it because it's a tough thing with real estate i would i would think so before it was just simply a post of a you know of a property here and there or just sold or just listed i'm trying to make the extra effort now to take the time to do the behind-the-scenes stories of you know the open houses or showing what's going on and i'm going to try to take that a step further in the future because i think
Starting point is 00:42:23 one thing in real estate in any industry is you really have to be adaptive to change it's like it's so huge before we just had print marketing and, you know, print ads. And now everyone is doing these social media videos in real estate. So you kind of have to like keep up with the times. And whether that means just a simple video that you do yourself or getting, you know, a production company to do a small little video. I think that's just where we are in the future. I also think it solidifies you as the expert in that area.
Starting point is 00:42:55 And so when people think of real estate Beverly Hills, they think of your name because you've already sort of content marketed as the expert just through social. So even if they don't end up buying a house from you, it puts you in the top of their mind for the real estate person to go to in Beverly Hills. Absolutely. And then if a seller, for example, is thinking of hiring you or, you know, talking to five different people and then they're going to check your social media. That's what the, you know, the day and age that we live in.
Starting point is 00:43:22 If they can check your social media, it's kind of like verifying your business card. If they see okay that they're actually active, they have all these listings, they're taking the time to do these videos. It's kind of an extra layer of credibility, I think. What are some hacks that you do every day or once a week or a couple times a week that you think make a difference in your productivity? So I'm completely obsessed with this. Like I like you, like to ask everybody, like, what do you do to be productive? I'm obsessed with like work-life balance. How do people organize?
Starting point is 00:43:56 And in reading that book, Essentialism, I just started. Like, that is the thing. Because he's coming on the show. I told her. I'm so, that's so cool. I can't wait to hear. But like we were saying before about the perfectionist thing, like, I can't do everything. And I want to be really good at like a few things.
Starting point is 00:44:15 So I'm working on that, which is saying no to certain things, trying to monotask. I used to think I was so cool because I could multitask so well. But I'm really trying to time block. and monotask. Can you give us examples of what that means? Like, give us something that you time block at or you monotask at. Well, I'll tell you a little funny story. So on Sunday, I, you know, had the tip of doing the six things to do priorities for the next day. So I did that on Sunday. And it really does take the guessing out of where to start your day because I wake up with so many emails and so overwhelmed. And then this is just like, okay, at least do these things in order.
Starting point is 00:44:52 I need quiet. I'm like, I need natural light. I'm like such a freak. I have to have a perfect workspace or else like, I can't deal. So that has to be perfect. And then just going through the most important things first and then just trusting that everything else is going to get done. But the hardest thing in real estate is prospecting, which is making those contacts, you know, making those calls, either they're cold calls or warm leads or whatever it is. That's the most, important thing we can do because this is, that is the business we're in. The more prospects you do, the more listings, which means the more business and the more buyers. But if you don't actually take one or two hours out of the day to reach out to people, it will just get pushed back and
Starting point is 00:45:37 push back and push back because I have escrowes. I have listings to bring on the market. I have things that seem so much more important because they're like a bird in hand. But if you don't do prospecting, then you're never going to grow your business. I think that's the same for every business, though. There's a lot of people that hit a wall because they, you know, like I'm not a network or I don't like to network, but what happens is when you do that, you live with yourself. Are you identifying with this? No, it's true. I mean, even people...
Starting point is 00:46:00 I hate networking, by the way. I hate it. Networking the way it's traditionally going to like a meet and greets of panes, but it's important to build a network of individuals that can help you grow, right? Like a lot of people, even in the, like, running their media in the podcast space, people that are relying on like a booking agent to get guests on their show. It's not the same as having a relationship. We can reach out to someone say, hey, you want to, it's important because those
Starting point is 00:46:20 people go and spread the word not only to listeners, but to other guests. and say, hey, come on the show. But the way you put it is actually taking the time to reach out and build those relationships. It's extremely important for any business. Right. And also not only taking the time, but literally putting on your calendar and making it non-negotiable. And I'm still working on this. This is something our real estate coach drives it every single day.
Starting point is 00:46:40 Like, if you're not going to do this, then don't even bother coaching with me. And I'm like, okay, I'll start tomorrow. Like, it's so hard because so many things are coming at you every single day. So to block off and put your phone away and, like, you know, go to your landline or whatever. and just do that for two hours, seems like the whole world is going to collapse in those two hours. So I'm really trying to just get in that routine more and more and just make it like no matter what happens,
Starting point is 00:47:02 that's what's happening in those hours. Everyone has the same pressures. It's so funny. I relate to so many things you're saying right now, just in a different line of work. It's the same. It's so funny. It's like, put the phone away.
Starting point is 00:47:13 You need to write for two hours. Exactly. I mean, there's so many people that are working so hard and they look over into their contemporaries or their peers and they're getting in the people that aren't working as hard. It seems like they're getting further. head, but it's because they're making the right connections and growing the right network. It's, you know, you can work and work and work and work, but if you don't grow your network
Starting point is 00:47:30 and build the right infrastructure to help get the word up or whatever you're doing, you're, you're fucked, you're in trouble. You can't grow. There's only so far you can go. Right. And I think what you said before, like the like-minded things, I think maybe it's either as we're getting older or as we're really focused on whatever we're doing in our life, I think we're attracting certain like-minded individuals.
Starting point is 00:47:49 And like, I think it's so great, like supporting each other and kind of driving. on certain things and extending our network while doing so. Your boyfriend is a very, very hard worker and a hustler, and he's very driven and just a gnarly businessman. How do you guys make time for your relationship when you're both so career-focused? I mean, we are basically, we're working all day, but he ends work around eight. I end around seven. We come, we're pretty much, you know, together every single night.
Starting point is 00:48:20 We spend weekends together when we're not working. We spend a lot of our time together. And he is such a hard worker. And he's definitely like a reminder every day, like an inspiration every single day. Because he's, like no excuses, you know, and just such a big personality and so inspiring. So being around that has definitely helped in this whole like movement of myself of just like, yes, I was doing very well before. But now I'm really ready to like do really well. And he's definitely a huge part of that.
Starting point is 00:48:50 I was talking to my friend the other day about the importance of picking a good teammate. Are you looking at me so you can get... I'm wondering if you picked a good one or not. I'm going to see what you have to say. It depends on the day. But it is really important to pick a teammate because it does either elevate you or take you down. Absolutely. It's like, you know, it's like swimming. Yeah. I mean, how do you guys navigate working together, living together? Do we? No, we navigate it by, I think by actually just throwing ourselves into it and then adjusting. Like, for instance, like if he Like, I can't talk about work after 10 o'clock.
Starting point is 00:49:25 It's time to go to bed. Well, I'll tell you the main thing is, like, no matter how ambitious I am or how ambitious Lauren is, like, whatever's going on to the business, I always tell people, like, I would throw everything away. I would shut down this company and shut down everything, sacrifice all the money. I don't care about any of it as long as our relationship is first, right? And so people, they get fucked up because they start doing these things, and they put their businesses and things that don't necessarily matter in front of their relationship that does matter,
Starting point is 00:49:49 right? And so for us, as long as you keep that perspective and you know, you're working, on things together, then it's fine. I never understood the people that want to work their whole life to achieve this crazy goal, but they have nobody to celebrate it with. It makes no sense to me. So you have a gem? Sometimes. And you're doing things for probably like, you know, the people that have that insecurity that are working towards those things to build for people that don't necessarily care. For me, like if my wife's not happy and my family's not happy, then it's like, what's the point of building all of this? I also think that what makes a relationship successful and you guys do
Starting point is 00:50:22 this. You mentioned it earlier is little things every day that's like a little habit. Like, for instance, you guys wake up and you make celery juice together. And like, that's such a, it's a little thing, but it's ways to spend time with each other every day. You meditate together. Like Michael and I like to read together, you know, just little tiny things that you have in common that make up the big picture. And also telling each other that you appreciate each other. Like constantly, you know, he'll just say, you know, you're, thank you for being so great today, or that was really helpful. What a tip. Appreciative.
Starting point is 00:50:57 So we're constantly, like, showing each other appreciation, like, all day long. And it's really great. But I'm curious to know how you guys, who's, you spend so much time together. So do you have to, like, schedule time where you're, like, take a little break? We schedule time, I think, it's like, for, like, hours of me. It's not in the calendar, but it's like when we get off work, we hang out. What's interesting with this show is that this show has actually made us. spend more time together because I've always had my own thing. She's always had her own thing.
Starting point is 00:51:23 Like, you know, the office we're in right now is my office. She'll go to her office after. So we get to come together on this. It's nice because we get to connect and do it. But at the same time, like, we spend a lot of time apart, but just people see us together a lot. So I think it's important for couples to be together, but also take time apart where, you know, when I come home from work and she comes home from work, but there's something to talk about. There's something to connect on. What happened in your day? We're not hanging on each other's tips all day long saying what's going on what are you up to a lot of the time like someone asked me the other day where I was with a group of friends and they're like what's Lauren
Starting point is 00:51:50 doing I have no idea what she's doing she can be having a full-on affair I have no idea I can find out just like on my Instagram you can tune to my story I think that's important too right to separate and have things outside of the relationship right there's so many couples that like their whole life is based around that relationship right you guys when you guys went to dinner that I have no idea where you were or when she was coming home that's good I think that's healthy For sure. Young couples that get in these relationships and they're attached at the hip, I say, don't do that because you have to stretch that to, you know, if it's a serious relationship, you have to stretch that 10, 20, 30 years, especially if you get married. So true.
Starting point is 00:52:23 Yeah. Definitely. You have to have your own thing. What is a book, a podcast, a resource that you can recommend to our audience that you feel like it's brought you a lot of value? Okay, well, I found this podcast called Unfuck Your Brain. This woman named Kara Lowenthal. She went to Harvard NTO Yale. And she is actually a master coach.
Starting point is 00:52:48 And I just, I came across it because I was like, this is interesting. Unfuck your brain. And then each, each episode was about perfectionism, overwhelm, anxiety, productivity, optimizing, like every single thing. And I started listening. And they're just short. They're like 15 minutes. But I felt like this.
Starting point is 00:53:07 I was like, I had to know her. So I went to her website, and I was like, forget that. I went to her Instagram, DM'd her. And I was like, how do I sign up with you? And so she responded and now I'm doing her whole program. And she's become like this. I think she's like a mini-celebrity because she's so smart. And it's about thought work.
Starting point is 00:53:28 Her each episode is about thought work and how to, yeah, optimize your life. And so, yeah, she's amazing. personally for you, the need for perfectionism comes from. Because I think both of us have had to deal with stuff like that, too. Where do you think that, what do you think the root of that is? I think I was just born that way. It's not my parents, I don't think. I think firstborns get attention by being perfect.
Starting point is 00:53:58 And I put that in quotes. But yeah, by the way, perfectionism is not, like, I'm not trying to be perfect. I like to try to do things perfectly. And that is the difference. But like, I'm just learning, like, that is not a good way to live life of trying to just do everything perfectly. They cause so much stress sometimes. Like, it's okay to make a mistake. I also think, too, like what I really, really like about you and I'm really attracted to you is that you are constantly looking to better yourself.
Starting point is 00:54:25 I was talking to my friend the other day and she said, you know, one of her friends said to her, I don't, this is how I am. This is how I'm always going to be. And I told her, if I said this is how I am, this is how I'm going to be, shoot me. I want to be a better version of myself tomorrow. I want to be a better version of myself in five years. And I think it seems like you're always like seeking. Totally, I am. And I've seen that in you too.
Starting point is 00:54:54 And yeah, I mean, what is the point if we're not constantly trying to better ourselves? And this is also something that Alex, my boyfriend, he's been doing for a long time. Like every day he's trying to do better, you know, be a better person, you know, just be the best person he can be. And I think what is the point of being here if we're not constantly doing that? Like, why would we get stuck in the story of ourselves and all these and any limiting beliefs? And it's just, it's not going to turn out well. There's a lot of coaches confusing people when they say, accept yourself, right? It's like it's good to, I think, love yourself and know that you're enough.
Starting point is 00:55:26 But the whole idea of accepting yourself and becoming complacent just I don't understand. It's so true. The whole idea of being a human being on this earth is to get better, right? It's to improve. Accepting yourself, you might as well just give up and die. Right. I think it is loving yourself for who you are, but don't create these narratives or stories about who you think you are because then you'll just get stuck in that.
Starting point is 00:55:48 Like those are just thoughts in your head. That's kind of what they teach on the podcast. Like you can change those stories. Like these are simply thoughts and feelings and they can be changed and it's a lot easier than you think. I think I need to listen to this podcast because it sounds. Because it sounds like it's thinking with your logic, not your emotion. Totally. Yes.
Starting point is 00:56:04 It is. It's totally that. Yes. I need to listen. Love it. Okay. You got to send me a screen talk. I mean, it was so crazy that I literally found it.
Starting point is 00:56:11 It was like eight hours in. And then I was like, I need to get on this. Okay. I had to reach out to her like that second because I felt like we were best friends and I had to know her and, you know, those like moments. You need to come on the skinny confidential blog and do like, Farrah's like top 10 hacks. And like start, I need to hear yours. Start writing down like like little.
Starting point is 00:56:31 hacks that you have like this and you have to come on and share them. I would love to. Thank you for coming on the podcast. Where can everyone find you, pimp yourself out? Give us your Instagram, your website, everything. Find me on at Farrah, Brit. That's F like Frank, A-D-R-A-H, B-R-I-T-T, on Instagram. And actually, my website is linked on my Instagram so you can, you know, see all my properties there. And that's all. And guys, go to her Instagram stories and like look at the fitness and the wellness ones. You'll really, really like it. I know everyone. will love that. I've just started to like, you know, curate my highlights. So it's a lot more easier to follow these certain things. You have really good highlights. I was looking at them the other
Starting point is 00:57:10 day and like, I was watching the whole thing. You know, when you just tap past someone, it was the opposite. Thank you for coming on. Thank you guys so much. Thank you. A lot of fun. I want to win some cute TSC cheeky pink Barbie stickers for your hydroflask or skincare fridge. Just tell us your favorite part of this episode on my latest Instagram at the Skinny Confidential. And one person from the team will slide into your inbox and send you some stickers. Mine are all over. Like I said, my skincare fridge. It looks so cute. And we will see you on Tuesday for a fun episode with Wesley and Brano. Guys, they are a couple that know their shit when it comes to kids, pregnancy, and just realness in general. They are so refreshing. And I'm very excited for this
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