The Bossticks - Marcy Blum, World's Top Planner Shares Secrets To Flawless Weddings, Unforgettable Parties, and Tasteful Decor

Episode Date: December 26, 2024

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The following podcast is a dear media production. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her.

You know, let's talk about regular parties for regular people. Not having a place to put your coat. It drives me insane. You know, do you have to go, like, throw your coat on the bed like it's grandma's house? So that's the first thing. Not having a drink when you walk in. And I don't care if you're drinking alcohol or not something in your hand. Hi, I'm happy to see you.

Take their coat, put it somewhere and give them something to drink. And then on top of that, you know, not everybody knows everybody. People, this isn't about you. This is about your guests. That's the point. I'm, like, thinking, this is going to be fun. I like these people. What can I do to make them happy?

Marcy Bloom. She is the creme de la creme of event planning and wedding planning. You've probably heard about her. She does some huge, huge celebrity clients, billionaire weddings. She's done every elaborate theme that you can think of. I was sat next to her at a lovely dinner party hosted by my friend Mark and Keith. And I thought, oh my gosh, she has to come on the podcast. She has to teach us how to throw a dinner party.

She has to give us some tips on wedding planning. She has to tell us what to do for a high-end event, a low-end event, how to manage client dynamics, and how to just throw a regular dinner party, like at the house. I had questions. I wanted specifics. I wanted details. So Marcy Bloom, she flew all the way from New York City to be on the show. I think you'll love her.

Marcy, welcome. This is the skinny confidential, him and her. Michael and I were having a conversation. conversation with a guest the other day about what to do if you get sat next to the boar. Right. And Mark Moulet was giving us some tips. Do you have any tips if you get sat next to the boar? Mark usually changes his place card, but I don't recommend. That's what he did at my wedding. Well, I got 12 people. I was like, you can't do that. He's maneuvering. He just moved to see. He just moved to see. I like that tactic. I got sat next to you at a dinner party and you were certainly not a bore. I was very excited to be seated next to you.

We went to Mark and Keith. We went to Mark and Keith. our mutual friends dinner party was absolutely beautiful. He was doing prompts across the table. And the table scape was so beautiful. And then I heard that your name was Marcy Bloom. And I had heard about you through everyone who has ever had a magnificent wedding. So welcome to the show. Thank you. I'm really excited to be here. Seriously. We're excited to have you. Give us a little background about how you even started to dip your toe into events. Okay. Well, I'll try to make it as succinct as possible. I was living on a commune in 1970, as one did, after Woodstock with 16 of my friends, but we were all like 16 years old, so we were planting vegetables upside down. All these New York

kids moved to Vermont, planted carrots upside down, things weren't doing very well. And when that broke apart, I had no plan for my life in the future. So I sort of went and sat in my parents' apartment. After not talking to them for years, I went back and sat in my parents' apartment and watched, let's make a deal until I felt better. I wound up going to La Cordeaux in Paris. My brother was living there, and they said, well, don't you love to cook. My mother was a great cook and a great hostess. So I went to La Cordeaux and Blu, and I was thinking about this this morning. I was thinking of talking to both of you about, you know, there's not necessarily only one passion in your life.

They always say, do you find your passion? Acting was my first passion, and then I didn't want to wait on tables the rest of my life. you know, and cooking food gave me my life back. I really felt. So I was like, oh, there is something else. So I went to Cordon Blu, and I took all these housewife cooking classes in New York. And the Culinary Institute of America started accepting women, and they accepted me. And I was one of the 50 women in the first graduating class, which was hilarious.

2,000 men and us in Poughkeepsie. It was kind of wonderful. It was like being L. McPherson. I'd go out with anybody. Why, just to go back for a second, did you not talk to your parents when you were on the commune? Can you not talk to anyone? You know, it was like, no, no, no. It was our friends. It wasn't, it was, you know, all of us, it was 1969, 1970. You know, they were, they were the other life was crazy. We're, you know, marching against Vietnam, going to concerts. And it was just, you know, all our parents felt like their kids were abducted. What does it like to live on a commune? That's so, that's pretty funny. I mean, because we were totally unprepared. period. We just figured we'd get out of New York. I had graduated performing arts high school as an

actress. My friends had all gone to music and art. You're all New York kids. And we were like, this would be fun. So we put down five grand and bought a farm up there and had no idea what we were doing. So as you can imagine. What happened to the rest of the group? Most of us are still friends. One is a doctor. The other is a rather famous studio musician. And then some people didn't make it, you know. So when you graduated with a degree in culinary arts, did you apply that to restaurants or did you use it for something else? So I went to, in those days, which would be amazing for you to hear, I applied to every really fabulous restaurant in New York. And in those days, you know, you could say it out loud. They would just say, I'm so sorry, you know, you seem really

qualified, but we don't hire women. Oh, wow. And they even if I have letters. Just straight up like that. straight up like that. Now they may think it, but they're not. Yeah. So, I mean, Lutess, and they're all like, well, you seem lovely. So I got a job. I was a sous chef at a golf club in Scarsdale. I worked at Maxwell's Plum. I don't know if you've ever heard of Maxwell's Plum. I was the only woman in the kitchen. And I worked at all these places and I was like, I don't really like this, but I couldn't figure out what I wanted to do. And then this lovely man who's now my ex-husband, but wasn't, he was just my boss then. He was a friend of my brothers and we had mutual friends and he was opening a bunch of restaurants and he hired me

as a consultant. And so that's sort of how the tumbleweed of event planning happened. So then I was doing all the banquets in all the restaurants. We had six restaurants, big ones. So there were lots of parties and I was like, oh, I could, this is fun and easy. Ha ha ha ha. You know, as everything looks so easy in your 20s, I was a piece of cake. So that's people started asking me.

if I could do events outside of the restaurants. I was like, sure, I could do anything. So what is your first big break that you remember where you were like, holy shit, this is taking off, this is major? This is so funny, you know. Do you know, talk about synchronicity. I got on the plane this morning from New York, and I'm sitting in the first row, you know,

one B's had to put all my stuff up top. You can't, they don't let you put it down. No, can't put it. So this guy gets in next to me. Really, I couldn't believe this. I told him this. He's wearing a, like, a baseball cap and a big mask. Not a clue.

Puts all his stuff up, sits down. About halfway through the flight here, he takes off the cap and mask because he's reading it. It's Kevin Bacon, who was my first big client. And I was like, hello? He goes, oh, fuck, Marcy. What was Kevin Bacon doing coming to Austin? He was doing a filming, he's filming down here. There's more of that happening here now.

Yeah, so I was like, he was like, I'm sorry. I was like, I didn't recognize you. It was so fun. That was my first big break, really. He and Kira. Kevin call you. Does Kira call you? Does Kira call you?

This was 1988, okay? So he had just done footloose. He wasn't, you know, he was a starish. He was a kid. There were kids. Somebody introduced, I know, believe it. You know, Kevin used to live with Tracy Powell. I don't know if you knew that.

They were boyfriend and girlfriend for a long time. They broke up. He stayed friends with the family. And I happened to know Tracy's father. And he said, I have someone for you to work with. And that's how it happened. And then from there, you sort of become branded as the celebrity wedding planner? Or did it take?

How did that work? It definitely took a while. I mean, Katie Lee and Billy Joel was 10 years after that, you know, intermittently. Slow build. So what, when you started when you were just getting into this, how did you even know how to do this? Or was it just trial and error and you tried to... I didn't, but I didn't know.

I didn't know. I was so much older than I'm younger than that now, right? I was like, I mean, when I think back at people who hired me, I'd be like, oh, geez, God, those poor people, but they didn't know anything either. So now everyone knows everything. What does it take to work with Marcy Bloom and be brutally honest? Like, if so, for you to take a client right now, it's like getting into Fort Knox. Throw money at me.

Is it really money? Is that what it is? No. That's very kind of you to say. No, I mean, we are selective. It has, here's the issue. It's not just the money. It's realistic expectations vis-a-vis the budget. So if you come to me and say, I saw LeBron and Savannah's wedding on your website. And I have 500,000. I was like, it's not going to happen. And don't shoot the messenger. I'm just telling you. And I'm always like, I couldn't afford me. That's not what we're talking about. If you're willing to do something much more manageable, I'm happy to work with you.

What's the most extravagant thing that is shocked even you? Hard to shock me these days. So what was the thing that shocked you're shocked at war? You know what's always shocking people? Perhaps even you, very sophisticated people. The price of headliners. Oh, like for people to come perform. A million.

That doesn't surprise me. It depends who it is. Much more. Really? So here, I'll tell you a story because I never signed an NDA. We were working with J-Lo and A-Rod before they broke up. And we're going through a list of musicians. And she goes, what about Bruno Morris?

I said, you just work with him. And he's five. Don't be ridiculous. I said, I'm telling you. A million. Five million. Just to perform for the night. Plus rider.

The night, you get 45 minutes. You get an hour. Holy shit. I'm in the wrong business. I'm going to start singing. I always say there. Please don't. When the musicians...

Of course, they'll give me a mic. Mars, you can wrap me. Tell them that I'll do it for half the price. I'll tell them. When the musicians show up to a wedding and there's already so much pressure and the bride is stressed and the da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. And the musician is then a diva, which I'm sure has happened. How do you finesse it? We always make it very clear as much as possible.

First of all, I have a large team. They don't all work for me full-time, but I have someone who's an entertainment. person who comes on all our gigs. And their job is to get the green room in order. So if someone really only drinks Sprite or diet Sprite or whatever, we don't mess with it. So we don't give them an excuse to be obnoxious in the first place. We're like, here we go and here's someone who's going to handheld you and da-da-da-da. You would never have a headliner as, if you were saying, as the regular entertainment. No one wants to do their first dance. Or maybe they do, but they shouldn't to cold players and that's just dumb. You know what you want is a you want a band band and maybe a

DJ and then you want like a 45 minutes of Chris Martin or Elton John or whomever you want because otherwise it's all about them. It's in my opinion not the way you want to do a party. You mean it becomes about the person that's hilarious and it takes the focus off the couple. I would not the focus off me. Let's be honest. I would say sorry it's my day. We just did a 60th birthday for dear client of ours and they got Elton. And it was just a hundred people. And there's such lovely people. They actually invited my husband to come up to Cape Cod to attend the concert.

And that was, and that really is the crux of the whole thing. This was, they were giving a gift to their friends. They knew their friends would get such a kick out of it. And it was really heartwarming, amazing. What are Marcy Bloom no-nows? And like be very detailed when it comes to a party. What are things that you know it's going to be? be a fucking nightmare if it happened. Yeah, I mean, I think, you know, let's talk about regular

parties for regular people. Okay. Right? Someone who's not spending $5 million in their house. Yeah, but someone who's having a dinner party in their house. Not having a place to put your coat. It drives me insane. You know, you have to go, like, throw your coat on the bed like it's grandma's house. Right? Right? That already, like, she's great on a mic. Yeah, terrible. So that's the first thing. Not having a drink when you walk in. And I don't care if you're drinking alcohol or not something in your hand. Hi, I'm happy to. see you. And people like to hold something, too.

Yeah, exactly. They need an anchor. That's exact. Take their coat, put it somewhere, and give them something to drink. And then on top of that, you know, not everybody knows everybody. People, this isn't about you. This is about your guests. That's the point.

Introduce people. Come up with, you know, Mark is a perfect example. Someone who's brilliant at that. Oh, my friend, Mark, hello, Mark. I know you're listening to this one. He is one of the best hosts. Oh, unbelievable. He'll drag me.

Didn't you say that you used to read blah blah and introduce me? He's, you know, really smart and... Yeah, I feel like when we met you, he made it so seamless. Like right away, we were all just getting along. He's really good at that. And that's the essence of my business and it's probably the essence of his business. And certainly your business, you have to like people. You have to essentially like people until they prove otherwise.

Yeah, for sure. So I go in, I'm like thinking, this is going to be fun. I like these people. What can I do to make them happy? What are other little weird no-no? Not having hand towels in the bathroom, not having enough toilet paper. So your guests have to like come out and ask for toilet paper mortifying, right? Like there should be stacks everywhere, right?

Having a playlist. So you're not having to run away. Oh my God. It's not working. You know, like everything. So your guests are not hysterically nervous if you are even. Yeah. These are all things that are very cost effective things to do.

Very cost of it. I'm a big proponent of place. I think it shows that you care. I just finished Ina Garner's book and she said her first dinner party she planned this whole beautiful

huge five course meal and she invited all these people who didn't know each other but the problem was she was cooking in the kitchen so she didn't have the time to go and finesse all of the people who didn't know each other

and it was a big mistake and that makes total sense if you're in the kitchen cooking how are you supposed to host it's hard to do both You can't do both. And I learned that because, you know, being a, I mean, I'm not a great chef. I'm a good home cook.

So I used to do a lot of cooking and be in the kitchen the whole time. And my friends are complaining. And then I realized for like $300 I could hire two people to actually like set the table and put the oven on. And it was worth every penny. People were like, this is so much nicer. You can actually sit with us. When you do weddings or parties, is there a number you feel becomes too big to manage or kind of like ruins the vibe? But we had a very small weddings.

We don't know. We had like 55 people. But is there like a number you like to have? I mean, for a destination wedding, which you may know are very, very popular now, I think, although it's hard to get there, I think anything over 125 is really rough. I mean, Annie and Jeff's wedding we were talking about a lovely wedding in a Malfi. it's 100 people is just the right amount for positon. Their wedding was so beautiful, Annie, if you're listening, their wedding looked so beautiful on Instagram. It was stunning.

And they really, I mean, they're very much in love and it just had the best vibe. Yeah, good energy. Very good energy. And they let us do a lot of fanciful things. We had fairies through the woods and we had sirens on the rocks when people came from the, from Positano by boat. So there were sirens there singing. It was very, very, Very cool. Yeah, it's thoughtful. Yeah.

She's really detail-oriented with her business, so I can imagine how she would be with her wedding. Very, very much so. And again, one of those people like yourself, who's never unkind or disrespectful, so she gets the best out of everybody. What do you do when you have Bridezilla? And I am sure you could write a book on it.

You know, it's, I wish it were the brides. Most often I always go to Grumstein. You know? Really? They're getting like cuckoo. Well, here's... It's too much soy milk. Go on. But maybe that's it. Yeah, it's too much soy milk.

Because here's what's going on. Often, let's say it's the bride's parents, often who are paying for the wedding. And the grooms now feel it is their responsibility to say, oh, that's too expensive. So the bride's parents think that they're not marrying her for the money, right? So they're giving me a hard time. and it's not even their money. And it's what the bride wants. I was like, why are you torturing me?

It's not your money. Nobody cares. You're not proving a point. Just go away. And also, just no one cares about your opinion. No offense. I literally did not take your opinion into account for one. You get to do the music list.

I paid for our wedding. Of course. No, we. It doesn't matter. At the time, paid before we were made. I've paid you back, bitch. I'm sure he did. You pay me back.

But let's not. You know, they usually want to talk about, again, not to be sexist. The music? And if anything, the wine, which is fine. They can have that. I won't bother them. I feel like guys just shouldn't have an opinion about the wedding. Like, just let the woman have the moment.

Well, but you could. I had an opinion about the liquor or choices and the wine. I think that's about it, right? Yeah. And like. Some of the music. That's about it. I do a lot of gay weddings, you know, so you can imagine.

So you have to figure out who, who is the person who is driving this. Did you do Keith and Mark's wedding? I did Keith and Mark's wedding. And Mark was the go-to, right? Well, you can't do. I mean, Keith, who I loved. really, you know, I can't, yeah. No, I really, yeah.

And we did Nate and Jeremiah's, Nate Burgess and Jeremiah Brent's wedding. So fun. So. Do you feel like you have experienced, stretched the wedding to the point where it's like, what do you even do now? You've done everything.

Do you feel like it's like, are you trying to just get more and more shocking? Do you have another avenue you want to explore? Like, you've checked every box when it comes. to doing this. When I started, people would say to me, well, who cares about the food? It's a wedding. And I'd be like, unimaginable, but that was what it was like. It was so cookie cutter. It was, you know, first dancing. So I had, you know, this is my 38th year. So it was a lot of fun at the

beginning. It was like, how about if we have a tarot reader? That's insane. But things that now are not that crazy were, you know, really innovative then. So it was fun. A lot of fun. And I just came back Monday night from a six-day Indian wedding in Morocco. What was that like? It was fun. It was beautiful. It was very celebratory. I heard Indian weddings are really fun.

I have some friends that. Oh, my God, this was fun. Really fun. What is the kind of work that that entails on your end and your teams and how big is the team? What does that look like? And are you exhausted for a month after that? Yeah, pretty much. I had 12 of us over there.

There were two leads. We have two leads who are. We're, you know, the day to day, but I'm overseeing the big picture. And we had a production company there. And then we brought a designer we work with and his team from Chicago. The production, I mean, it was we had to build a welcome party at the Royal Mansour. And then we did the holiday. And then the sanghite, which was an Indian street fair.

So we had to build all these sets. And it was a lot. It was a lot. It was a lot of fun. I mean, after the fact, it's fun. What is the most extravagant one that you've done out of everything? Well, I have a very concrete NDA for it, but it was upstate New York, and we built, we were there for three months. We built all these tents, and it was really pretty amazing.

We put in real bathrooms and an inlaid floor, and it was fabulous. What do you do with it after? Bye, bye. We try to recycle, of course. You know, I have, listen, I have a tree in my little townhouse in Brooklyn. I have a tree in our garden that is from Nate and Jeremiah's wedding that was on the aisle and now it's like eight feet tall. So try to do that.

What are some cool touches like that that you've seen people do for events or weddings that are maybe approachable to anyone? I think it's really all about people feeling that you really want them there. Yeah. I went to a fundraiser yesterday at the plaza. and a dear friend of mine for 30 years is she's the CEO of the catering company in the plaza. And I sat down at this very fancy table, all these very fancy people. And there was a lipstick kiss on my place card.

And I knew that she was the only person in this whole corporate room and would have done that. This made me cry. So I think it's things like that, you know, a note or a photo or something under the place card. Do you remember when you and I did this? They just want to feel that you want them there. personally. When it comes to planning weddings for just, you know, anyone that wants to, what are some things you would caution people against or some things you would tell them to stay away from that are just typical in weddings that turn out to be nightmares? I think I would spend much more money

if my budget on staff than I would on flowers. You know, you could have the most beautiful room in the world. And if you walk in and it's, you know, nothing of there. There's a line at the bar or the food is cold or you're a vegetarian, no one remembered. I always say it's like bringing, you know, Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie home and they just lie there. It's just like one note.

That would be disappointing. Right? Yeah, people go crazy with the flowers and they're expensive. I remember looking at, that's one thing. I remember looking at back when we got married, I'm like, Jesus, Christ, these flowers are expensive. Listen, if you have unlimited funds

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For a destination wedding, for example, if people have been together three days, the cocktail hour on the wedding night doesn't need to be an hour. They've already said everything they're going to say to each other. You can have like one drink and let's sit down. Right. It's just. That is what's hard about destination weddings is it's a little long in the tooth. For sure.

With how you have to keep having the same conversation with the same people. I agree with you. Well, the reason we kept our so small for destination is I did really feel bad about making people travel. We just went to Cabo, which was like two hours. Right. But you want to give them a bit of a vacation. Yeah. So like you want to do a lot of that stuff.

But I think if you're going to have a bunch of people or like extended family or kind of like a acquaintances, you better have that thing dialed in because people are taking a lot of their time and money. Absolutely. And I like to give people, let's say, you know, four different excursions that the group could take rather than it's not sleepway camp. Everyone doesn't have to get on the bus together. You know, these are like adults. So that there's, then there's nothing to talk about. At least if people are going to four different places, you have something to say over dinner, oh, we went to the caves or we went to a wine tasting or whatever. Some conversation that rather than, you know, isn't the bright. ride pretty. What do you do when someone gets too drunk?

Is there like a Marcy Bloom security situation that has to us? Yeah, we just get rid of them. Yeah, just throw them out the back. Take them out down the excursion, throw them in the port of the body. It depends how savvy they are. Usually we just start pouring water, but some of them notice. So what do you do if there's like a- Get it back to the room?

I mean, destination or just like take them to another room. I mean, had somebody, where the hell was this? Where could I? Oh, they broke the glass at a hotel. They were like, they pounded on the glass and they broke it. And we had to take footage. Like a door, like a solid glass pane. Oh, geez.

Yeah, which is expensive. You know, it's probably like 40, 50 grand, you know, to take photos, send the bill to the room the next day. That's not possible. Here's the photo. That's not fun. They're terrible. They're terrible.

And usually it's, usually it's the kids because they've never seen an open bar before where it's free. So the people who are just like, do you mean we can have all the tequila we want? Right, right. So you have to say, though, they will be tequila tomorrow. What are your tips on how to do a table scape? Mark's table scape that he had when we were over. I was just so distracted by the details.

I just love all that. And he did a really good job with that. What are some things how to put together? Like, I'm doing like Christmas Eve at my house. Oh, how many people? I'm only doing seven and I got a chef. But I want the table to be super insubes. Instagram me. Like I want like the runner and all the stuff. What what can I buy? Well, I would do something that wouldn't ordinarily be on a table. Okay. Like Christmas ornaments.

Cute. Or, you know, things like that that you might hang on a tree. Even lights. You know, you can drape the twinkle lights down the center of the table and and disguise the wire. So it doesn't, you know, maybe it'll be reminiscent of a tree down the table. You know, rather. than flowers or holly or is there any china that we should invest in or like linens that you like mark was sending me these hand-blown cups by this artist that has like pinks and purples and stuff is there any like things that you love i mean i brought back from this wedding that we were talking about i brought back 250 place settings from poolia this pottery it was so gorgeous i'll send you some sites there's a whole bunch of, especially if it's seven or 10 people, anything's affordable. That's what I'm thinking. Like, I want to start building. This is weird. And you'll relate to this and so will mark, but I don't know. I want to start building my collection of, like,

tablescapes to be able to put together with different tones. I'm really into, like, laying a table. Good. Oh, I can't wait. I'll come over and help you. I love that. That's going to be my next job. All right. We'll come to, like, in-house tablecaping. You think that, um, you could go from these mass productions to just tablescapes? Oh, I guess in a second. There's something charming about that because she's worked with so many different personalities and characters and actors.

I bet that's almost therapeutic to you. Let me ask you this question. With the clientele that you have, many of them, celebrity, but some of them just ultra-high net worth individuals. Mostly not celebrity. People don't even hear about or know about. We know some of these individuals.

Do you get in a situation with some of your clientele where they start to try to one-up the other client? Like they see you do something like, oh, I can do better than that. It's like almost like a... Interestingly enough, although, you know, I'm a born and raised New Yorker, and I don't get...

My clientele are like Martians. I mean, if you put them all in a room together, they wouldn't know each other, which is kind of great. Or there are people like our mutual friend who said, well, they really couldn't care less what anybody thinks.

Yeah, he doesn't give a shit. If anything, he, like, wants to antagonize them, but like, I'm going to serve, you know, Miller High Life just to annoy people, right? Because you think I'm going to... No, but I can. could seem to it just because you think I'm going to serve in a DP. Right.

So there's no like competition going on behind the scenes that we don't know about. But there is a competition. We have a competition with ourselves and how to make each one different. A lot of people in my business have, you know, much larger staffs or much bigger warehouses. They have to make money. They have to recycle stuff. We start from scratch every time. Like what if someone comes to you and says, hey, I saw so-and-so do this?

I want to do the same thing. Are you like, I don't want to do that? Yeah, I mean, I'll say I understand what you like about it. I want to take elements of it, but we don't copy people's work. I mean, we plagiarize a little. I would be lying if I said, I look at good ideas all the time, but I don't want to do. It's not interesting for me. How do you, this is just like, maybe this is like a niche question that won't be applicable to a lot of people, but how do you deal with a lot of the hotel properties if you're going to go use a hotel?

And how do you manage, because I imagine our. mutual friend that we're talking about. He shut down an entire hotel during a very high season. Right. I couldn't even go. I'm just kidding. But I imagine that is a like a big conversation with the property and I just was curious about what that was like. And you have to make deals and you have to, you also have to be, I mean, Morocco, perfect example. It's not easy. And it's all men and my team is almost all women. So, and we took them all out for dinner the night after the wedding. And they were so complimentary. And they all wrote me and said, please come back because we go, we bend over backwards to be respectful and nice and to not say, you know, you don't know what you're doing.

This is how we like to do it. You know, it's real diplomacy. And so it's, but the same thing if we're working in the States. Now, of course, some of the hotels are union. In the banquet to form. There's nothing you can do about. I mean, they'll just, like, tough. If someone's planning a wedding right now and they're listening, how do you conceptualize it? Like, what are the first steps that you have someone take? Are they going on Pinterest? Are you screenshowing on Instagram? What does it look like? Did they have to have their budget first? What is the whole, like, Marcy Bloom list? You want to come up with the guest list first. You'd be amazed how many people say, we're going to have 300 people. I said, are you sure? Do you know that? Why don't the two of you

take a weekend, sit down and write your guest list, and then come back. It's only 225, which is a huge difference. Once you have that, what do you want to spend? More or less. More or less. It's always going to go over. But what do, what is the ballpark? And then what month and where in the world? What's the best month to get married? You know, well, there's nothing anymore. I mean, the best month is probably February because no one's doing it. But September and September is more popular than June. What's the worst month? Where are you living? We did a wedding in August for Andrea Godala, for the Warriors.

We did their wedding in Cabo in August because that was the only time he wasn't playing. People were walking down the island. I was like, we're going to lose people. I mean, they were just, you know, it was really hot. After they have the guest list, then what? We look at things that you, if you want a communal experience with a lot of people, that's why they're doing a destination wedding. So if you go to a place like Positana, you're not going to get everybody in one hotel.

So if that's what you're looking for, let's look at places that where you can put all the guests in one hotel or two hotels near each other. And then where else can you do events other than the one night? You know, you have a welcome dinner. You have a rehearsal dinner. You probably have a Sunday brunch or a next day brunch. Are there places around that you can do that? Or you're stuck in one resort for days, which is kind of lethal in my opinion. And then what are the other things they need to do?

Well, then they have to go on a site visit and with a list of things, you know, what's the food like? How do you, people who haven't done this before, which are most people, don't understand the difference between, let's say, charging on consumption or giving a flat fee. I don't understand the difference. What does that mean? Charging of consumption is like whenever you eat, whatever you drink, they're going to bill you after. If you do a flat fee, you're going to pay for a lot of it uprun. That's better. It depends.

Are your friends drinkers? If they're drinkers, you would better to do a flat fee. It's like, all you can eat. We did a flat fee for a drink for ours and all. I told them, I told these people, went down. I said, listen, we got some drinkers coming down here. And they're like, oh, yeah, we'll be fine. We do this all the time.

I got nailed after for an overage, overage. They drink. My friends drank so much. I'm surprised they even walked out of the hotel. Yeah. So that's it. And you have to, you know, and if, let's say you have a wine cellar or you like a certain champagne, they can't get it.

Can you bring in a couple of cases and they'll just charge you a small corkage or look the other way because you're spending so much there. You want to get all these things done before you sign the contract. People come to me with a signed contract. I was like, I can't negotiate. It's too late. Why would they negotiate? You've already agreed to do it. What do you do when you have a couple that gets married? They have a huge extravagant wedding. They've paid a bunch and then they get hit with the bill after and they're pissed. Well, it's definitely happened. I'm sure it has. It's definitely happened. I mean, we try to keep them educated along the way, right? So you try to tell them like, this is, you know, we said it

was going to be a million, but that was before you said you wanted to pour crystal. So the crystal's not included in that million, but, you know, people have convenient amnesia. So they don't remember. Well, I thought, you know, I always say, it's like if I walk into Chanel and I say I want to, I want to, I want to spend $8,000 on a jacket, I want, you know, and then I walk around and I say I also, So I want two handbags and a pair of shoes and another skirt. And it comes to checkout and it's 40 grand. And if I said, but I said I wanted to spend $8,000. Right.

Obviously, that doesn't work. So another line of question, for somebody that wants to get into your line of work, like if you're looking back on your career now and all that you've accomplished and done, if a young person is saying, I want to do what Marcy's done, where would you tell that person to start nowadays? I would tell them to either go to cooking culinary school or design school or even lighting school or something that brings something to the table that gives you a niche, that you're the specialist. I mean, because for me, what started it was food and beverage. So you wouldn't start with the broad I can do everything. No.

And hospitality. And you just have to be a hospitality student. And, you know, most of not a lot of the kids who come in the plant ads, as I call them. or like, you know, I know how to make pretty things. I was like, nobody cares, you know, because nobody cares. That's like the least of it. And if you can make pretty things for Instagram, it doesn't mean you can make 30 pretty tables for 300 people. I also think it requires an effortlessness to be presented, meaning a good event is so gnarly and strategic and planned, but it looks effortless from the outside.

One of my clients calls it, Sprezator. Have you ever heard that? I'm just reading about that in Jackie Kennedy's book. Really? Wow, you read a lot. That way, explain what that is again. I just highlighted it. It is, this client said it to be 10 years ago, and I've used it ever since.

There was a lot of work behind the scenes, but it looks absolutely ensuciant. Like, it just looks effortless. Like, everything just fell on the table like that perfectly. That's exactly what I, if I, like, was looking through my own perspective of what makes a great event. is just it's all natural and it's supposed to be this way. Right. I think that's everything, though. It's kind of like when I wake up in the morning and you turn over and you're like, wow,

she's so naturally beautiful and you just can't believe it. Like, that's the energy of a party. Who is it? Charlotte Tilbury says she never takes her makeup off at night because she wants her husband to see in the morning when she wakes up that she looks like. I definitely take my makeup off. I'm sorry about that for you. Tell us about the celebrity weddings that you can talk about.

Give us the ones that some are your favorite. I know there's a lot of. NDA is going on, but which ones can you tell us about? What NDAs you got at this point? Probably a lot. Well, now, you know, the Misfi boy sends you an NDA. It was like, Shlomo, nobody cares. I mean, LeBron and Savannah's wedding was great fun because of all the guys where they had, they

won that year. So everyone was really, really in a great, great, great mood. And they're all friends. So, or they were all friends. It's now 11 years ago. So they did like a whole soul train line. And it was really fun to watch. And I got such a big kick out of it.

And my team knew who everybody was. I had no idea. I was like, who are those really tall people? But let me think who else was a lot of fun. The love wedding was beautiful. The love wedding was fun. And Adele was there. And Ridge Paul, who she's now engaged to,

which I'm working on getting that wedding just in case. Anyway, I was listening. shameless, shameless. Shameless, I'm sure, yeah. So that was fun of me. Mario Carbone was there was a lot of food people there and they're all the New Yorkers. That was really, really fun.

We've done a great 60th birthday party for someone in Amalfi. And that was, when we do parties that are small enough, like 50 people or something that they get hired, we can actually act as a full-service concierge, like get people's shoe sizes and what they, you know, what they like to eat. So, but again, without making it a big way, don't send a questionnaire, you know, we're sort of like undercover agents.

So when they get there, like, how do they know? I only drink diet Dr. Pepper or everything's like that. And that is a real fun. I'm going to put this out into the ether. I'd like a surprise party that I'm involved in planning. What? What's not fun. With Marcy.

When or where exactly. I won't know when or where. Yeah. I will help plan the details. with Marcy and you can coordinate it. So save up, make a savings account at Wells Fargo. What's the occasion? I would not do it at Wells Fargo.

Okay. What's the occasion? The occasion is a birthday that I have in the future that you work with Marcy that I micromanage. Her 70th. No, no, not my 70th. It's to wheel me in. No, I don't want to be on one of those wheels. I can be on my third husband by then.

Let's focus on today. I would like a surprise party. planned and I don't know when it's going to be and I walk in. I'll be genuinely surprised. Okay. And you can work on that for me. We should just do a party just to do a party. Just do a party. I'll come and do the table scapes.

It'll be great. I'd like a big party. Okay. Well, I'm not, yeah, I feel like I deserve. I've noticed as I was 12. About big parties. Unbelievable. How long have you been together?

Oh, so long. Well, we got, well, we've been together since I was, well, like, officially like got back to at the 20 years old. So I'm almost 38. So it was 18 years. That's unbelievable. But we knew each other. This is we're 12.

We were together that whole time. I need a party. I need a Marcy Bloom party before I die. But I also want to be a part of planning it with her. No, I get it. Do you know what I mean? But I like to, I think, I think, it's hard to say, it's hard to talk to people then. No, I don't want to be.

I don't want too big. I just want. Just big enough. Yeah, just big enough. I think 50. That's just what I was thinking. Yeah. 50, 60 people's perfect.

Yeah. Save it on up. Put a little, a big. coin in the marsy blue. You weren't at Mark and Keith's wedding. No. I don't think you were friendly. We didn't know that.

Well, anyway, that was a surprise wedding, you know. So that was. Hold on. How did it was it a surprise wedding? Everyone thought it was Keith's 50th, which it was. But where was it held? At the lobster club in New York as part of the grill on the pool. You know, so we had to put a platform in the middle of the room and we put flowers on it.

And then when it was time, we just moved the flowers. and it was, our Consuelas was the officiant. So he just called them up and people were like, what's going on? So cute. That's cool. I like that. It was cool. People were really happy.

Out of all the weddings that you've planned, what has been your absolute favorite by far? And it could be something small or an event. Well, this wedding that I was talking about earlier, and I would have to say, there really are, you know, it's like your kids, which I don't have any. But I imagine if I did, you know, you love things. about each of the several.

I mean, there's definitely been some I didn't love it all, and if I met the people I'd cross the street, but the few and far between. Tell us how you really be all. Few and far between. And it's been many years. As I get older, people seem to be so much more respectful. I don't know if they're worried, I'm going to keel over or something,

but they're much kinder to me than they were when I started. So this wedding I was talking about, we had Francis Melman, do you know who that is? So he came and he built barbecues all over this property. It was a huge property. Then we had, uh, LCD Soundhouse was the band. Cool.

And we had a late night, late night, late night, all different. And you moved from different tents to different experiences. So once you got, you know, we had a seated dinner. And I built an open kitchen in the tent, which I've never been able. So you could watch the chefs cooking. It was like a restaurant. It was really great fun.

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I, you know, because, I mean, I love a mafia. It's gotten so crowded. You know, you can't. We did a nice wedding in Greece over the summer. I really love Montenegro, believe it or not. Montenegro's coming up. Yeah. I mean, it's been up.

It's been, but we really did a fabulous wedding there at the Sveti-Stefant before it closed down the first time. And now, then that was fun because we had a James Bond theme rehearsal dinner because the groom's a good friend and crazy. So, yeah. Has any wedding ever broke up before they get married? Only one. Only one.

And then when you look back on all the weddings you've done, are people divorced? are they still together? No, my stats are really good. That's what I said to Kevin today. I was like, you tell Kira, please thank you so much because I still have you on the website. You are my poster children for a good wedding.

You got to remove them off the side if they break up? Well, it depends. Like, you know, they're at them. If people are remarried, you can't have like Salman and Padma. For example, I did Salman Rush Day and Padma Lakshmi's wedding. I can't have them on the website. That would be a big wedding, I would think.

It was quite something. And he still had the fatwa against him, you know, the Muslim decree that they were like, they should kill him if they saw him. When it's all said and done after all of these extravagant weddings and celebrity weddings that you've done, for the average person that just wants to have a great wedding ceremony, like what do you think needs to be, like, what are the things they need to hit and like need to focus on? Okay. So, you know, I got married last year. That's where Mark and Keith went.

So I've been with my partner for 22 years. And he's 20 years younger than I am. How fun. So I thought I should marry him before. And what was very important was the music, the ceremony music. I wanted to walk down to Miley Cyrus used to be young. Really? That's funny.

So my friends in the music business, I said, just make a tape for me. And, you know, so we can play it with that. Because there were only 14 of us, and I definitely did not want to go into wedding hell. And as a surprise me, they flew down to singers. So when I walked down, I thought Miley was there. I was like, she sounded just like. Things like the little surprises that you can do, obviously. People remember a lot.

Or if you're making a toast and you don't just say, thanks for everybody coming from all over the world. My friends who, you know, I went to public school with came from London. Things like people are, they just want to feel special. It sounds to me that you've, you've sifted through what really works to refine your own wedding, meaning like, it sounds to me that the thing that I'm hearing across the board is you like a lot of personalization and intimacy. That's what I'm noticing out of all the things you've done, that seems to be what you think is important. I mean, my mother was a great hostess.

You know, we lived in the Bronx in Riverdale in the Bronx, but and we had, you know, nice apartment middle class and she was a teacher. But if they were four people, four uncles coming, all drank different scotches, she would have four different scotches. And that was the way I was raised. It's about the guests. Personalizing it. Personalizing it. So to this day, if I'm in a room with 200 wedding guests, I'll be like, excuse me, that guy needs a drink over there. People are like, what is wrong with you? Because I came up in the restaurant business. I came up, you know, if you saw Martha Stewart's Netflix documentary, she came out of catering. We're all made from the same cloth. I can't do what she does. But I'm just saying that innate, what's going on? What's the time?

Is the cake out yet? Or people, is it too much time between courses? Like just the flow. Yeah, the hospitality part of it is I would imagine the most important. Most important. Like I know the design and everybody gets stuck in that, but when you think about great events, it's like how were you served, how were you treated?

How did it feel? What was the vibe? You know. How do you feel there's, you know, a lot more people that are asking their friends to officiate weddings? I had to officiate a wedding. And originally when I went into it, I was like, oh, this would be easy.

And then I started thinking about, I'm like, wait a minute. I'm like, this is like the most important part of this woman's one of the most important day. And I was like, in her family is going to be there. And then I have my dodo friend and it's important to him. But I can't like just go off. I have to like actually be thoughtful. No, it's a big honor. I mean, I did it twice for clients in the past.

Do you like when people are doing it or do you say? No, I find it extremely intimidating, especially as I'm supposed to be getting the dining room ready. But I had an Indonesian client in Napa who they needed me. But these clients, we just did this. Oh, I think you know them maybe. Yes. I do. In Oregon.

This big wedding, we did in Oregon. I think perhaps. Maybe. Anyway, we did a 5,000 acres. They're not from Oregon. They just did it in Oregon? He spent summers there. They're from Malibu.

Okay. I probably, yeah. Anyway, point was, they asked me to do it. They said, well, you know us so well. So you're absolutely right. You have to go on a forensics hunt for, like, what's important? You just don't want to get up there and just tell stupid. jokes or be like, isn't that's how beautiful time? So it turned out these people, he's 40,

he becomes self-made, very, very wealthy. And when he is a kid, he used to spend summers at his grandfather's house on this property. And through a series of misfortunes, the grandfather went bankrupt, and then they had to get rid of the farm. And he said, as a 13-year-old, it was like a movie moment, I'm going to get rich and buy it back. And not only did he buy the farm back, he bought the other 6,000 acres around it, and that's where, on that, on that, place. That's where we had the ceremony. So that was easy for me. I was like, I'm just going to talk about that. Like, there won't be a dry eye in the house and then I can be totally incoherent after that, which I pretty much was. So do you like when people ask people to do it and do you think

they should do it? Do you think they should shy away unless they're certain? I think if people are going to write their own vows, it's unnecessary to have, you know, you might as well have a straight up officiant, right? Because everyone repeats themselves. I hear like sometimes people write their own bows and the officiant has already said everything that's in their own vows. It just goes on forever. But if you're not going to write your own vows and you want this person to sort of be a vessel for what you want to say, but you're too shy or, you know, stayed shy, that's a good idea. Do you think that everyone should get married? Ah. Oh, boy. You know, I was very, I was married before. I was very worried about, I think everyone should have a wedding. Whether they get married or not.

That's actually like honestly a good tip. Have a wedding. Have a wedding. You don't have to. I mean, I have two clients that I am convinced they never actually did it legally. And does anyone really care? I mean, it's kind of like Goldie and Kirk. Right.

Kurt. They're like, they're forever. Yeah, it's cool. And it doesn't make, as you know, if someone wants to leave, that doesn't stop you. And it doesn't, I mean, it doesn't make a difference, right? And but as I said, we were together 22 years and, and I was, had a big birthday and I was like, what do I want to do for my birthday? I know we'll get married. That's fun. Yeah. What is the biggest changes that you're seeing in the evolution of planning and

weddings? Meaning like, are you seeing things that are jumping the shark? Is it too much for a two-year-old to have an $80,000 birthday? What are things that you're... I'm sorry. So I was just like, sign here. Yeah. What are the things that you think are, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, Gosh. I think people, you know, I have couples who go to sleep at 10 o'clock every night, and yet they're spending a fortune on an after party. I was like, why are you doing that? You don't want an after party. Someone told you somewhere you have to have an after party, and you couldn't care less. Don't do that, right? That's just dumb. Or a choreographed dance set when, you know, they don't like dancing. They don't like being in front of people.

They're just, you know, my favorite story about that way is that J.J. Philbin and Michael Sherr. You know, J.J. Philbin is Regis's daughter, and Michael Sher wrote the office, and they met on SNL. They were both writers on SNL. And neither one of them could dance many years ago. But they're both comedians. So we walked into the Pierre Hotel and for the first dance. The lights went down and started playing Duran Duran, you know, Hungry like a wolf, which is a fabulous first dance for a wedding. And we had this couple dressed in a wedding gown and a tuxedo and they'll come out. And the lights were very different. And he's throwing her all over the place, like between his legs and they're doing pirouettes. And everyone in the room is like, what is going on? The lights come up and they go, well, sorry, that wasn't us.

And then they come out and do their first step. Oh, my God. That is so funny. That's very true to their personality. It was wonderful. I like that because it feels personalized. It was hilarious. I think that's cute.

It was cute. Do you think that there should be drama at every single wedding? No. Why? I like a little drama. Well, do you have a good drama. I caused a little bit of a couple scenes. You know why?

everyone who talks about my wedding now is like, remember when you threw the banana at me and it's like, like there's all kinds, it's a big story, but they remember the funny stories. You know what? Do you remember the trauma? The trauma, the drama.

I mean, I listen, I'm like, I'm a drama queen. So I like there's always, you know, when they move, yeah. But just, you know, just a smidge. A smidge. A smidge of drama. But again, to back what you asked me, I think, I think people, you know,

this whole. personalization thing. You don't have to name, you know, 40 tables after the places that, you know, you had dinner together and things like that. It just confuses people. They need to find a table number. You know, everyone's like, oh, you know, Murray's cheese shop, where is my table? Like, it's like, you know, it's people that are doing things because they feel, you know, it's incumbent upon them to do something so special, so unusual. Just make it a lovely, that's unusual enough to have a lovely evening where you're not bored stiff. And my biggest thing is we get people up after the main course and that, you know,

we usually don't do dancing during courses in between because I don't like it. And it's usually bad for the food and bad for the music. Go straight through three courses. Do all the toasts. Two courses. An hour in 20 minutes, an hour at 30 max. And then it's a party. Before you go, will you share a couple of resources that you like for, let's say, like,

your favorite wedding dresses. Maybe you could do high and low. Your favorite wedding cakes, your favorite, I don't know, any little like Marcy Bloom secrets. We just used the buttered end in L.A. I don't know if you're, it was so delicious that I took all the samples with me that I was going to toss afterwards when I guess I had to go to the Parker in Palm Springs and I ate the whole thing. So that, it must be really good if you're saying you've tried so many different wedding cakes. So good. And usually I can turn away from wedding. And it was that good. Delicious. Okay, what about dresses? I like Daniel Frankel a lot. Have you seen her things? She's doing some beautiful, beautiful things.

She's sort of new-ish on the scene, but a lot of people are dang. I also like Vivian Westwood does some beautiful wedding dresses. And there are some great stories. Mark Ingram and New York has the gamut of everybody's dresses the really good ones. He has Rie Macra and Oscar, I think, and everybody. I forgot to ask you one of the most important questions. questions. What can we not do to outdo the bride? Like, are we not allowed to wear cream? What are the rules around? But gay weddings, I always wear cream because I have a couple of cream dresses. I'm like, they don't care. They don't care. Yeah, that's fun. Right. So what can you not do? Like, you don't want to wear your tits out? No, you don't want it. Yes. Well, I don't have much, but that's my birthday

present of my purse of this year. But if I did, I wouldn't wear them out of the wedding. You don't want to You wear a big ostentatious hat or something that calls attention. I mean, there was this girl yesterday, this fundraiser who was wearing like a full-on red velvet jumpsuit in the middle of this. It was absurd. Like you don't want to wear anything that calls attention to you. I mean, you want to look beautiful and sexy. And particularly if you're in the wedding party, you know, these poor women sometimes they make them wear these horrendous things, which is so mean. You know what?

I didn't do bridesmaids and he didn't do groomsmen's because it's like, why overcomplexed? Like, it's supposed to be between. Unless you're 18, nobody cares. And then this is ridiculous. And all the girls are always fighting. And then the worst. They're much worse than the brides. The brides, because it's not their day, really want to get a piece of.

Well, it felt awkward to me because I'm like, I got to put these people in order of importance to me. No, exactly. And it felt strange to like. No, it's, yeah. Are we going to be expecting a book from you? I think you need to write a book. I'm considering it. Tell me what, give me.

Okay. Towards the end. Yes. When you're like, I got, like, I'm done. You're done. No, I mean, like, towards the real end. Do an entertaining Martha Stewart for weddings. You break all the NDAs and you release the book.

That's the, that's the juicy book. Or you could do it as like, you could just call the book Wedding Planner and it could just be anonymous. And you could use fake names. Like there's this guy, the book's called Waiter. Oh, yes. It's such a good book. And he just writes all the shit, but you don't know who it's by. It's a good idea.

Do, to call it wedding planner or, but we also would like. a book that's like entertaining for weddings and you give us all your secrets. Okay, we'll do that too. Yeah, fine. Okay. Let's do it. And a show. So I have to go because I have to start writing.

No, I'm teasing. And a TV show. And a TV show. Anything else you're going to do? Sorry. I mean, you're great on a mic. I was not kidding. I don't know how you haven't had a TV show.

Because you see all these kind of different shows around these kind of things. No, you know, there was an article in the Atlantic. My girlfriend wrote six months ago in the Atlantic, which was very funny because she used to be a wedding planner now. she's a best-selling author. And the first, the opening sentence was, on Sunday, wedding planners pray. Not because they're particularly religious,

but they're waiting to hear the complaints from the night before. Is that true? Is there always complaints? Well, no, sometimes you get nice. But there's usually, my grandmother, you know, left her flask that, you know, she swam from Germany with and we can't, you know.

I'm sure you heard of all. It's the most important thing that's ever happened. Even though the wedding was fabulous, but you can't find that flask. things like that. It's like a pepper and a... Yeah. So they're trying to do a TV show

around that article, which is possible. We'll see. You would be great. Marcy, where can everyone DM you ask you questions, book with you? Please DM me.

I answer all my DMs. It's M-A-R-C-Y-B-L-U-M on Instagram. And where can they look at all your clients and your website and everything? Marcybloom.com. Isn't that clever? It's so clever. Mark, I would love another dinner party

and I would love to be invited for the pre-party so I can see how you set up the tablescape with Marcy. I'm going to send you a bunch of things. Please. Well, you send me like all your little. China and that's fantastic. Yeah, I want to know what's worth investing in. I agree.

Because I have a pantry now that we just do that. All right, next steps, Marcy. We're going to plan a party. Okay. We'll figure out the occasion. Okay. Lauren will be participating but also surprised. Don't worry.

I can do both. I feel like it's going to be fun. I can tell you. Say that. He loves you. You did not. Thank you, Marcy. You're the best.

Thank you. Thank you so much.