The Breakfast Club - Chico Bean Roasts DJ Envy, Talks New Tour, Love Life + More!

Episode Date: November 10, 2022

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It's DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Shalom in the God. We are The Breakfast Club. We got a special guest with my guy, my friend, my buddy. Oh wow, all of that? Wow, wow. Yeah, you know, this is my first time up here, man. So, you know, we're going to go here.

I got some bones to pick with everybody. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah, you're trying to be funny. Yeah, you're trying to be funny. But I'm going to go ahead and talk about it. I seen DJ Envy in Houston smoking a hookah like an Instagram model. I had never seen anything like it before. I'm talking about I must have thought he was invisible or something.

He was smoking it and blowing the smoke out his nose and his mouth at the same time. He's rubbing his nipples. I'm like, man, he must be smoking ecstasy flavor. Like, what type of hookah is that? Then he going gonna point the hookah at me like Nick Cannon on Drumline I'm like nah I'm straight Sam You keep that You remember them 5 gum commercials This is what it's like to chew 5 gum

This is what it's like to smoke ecstasy flavor He was I'm like man He was hitting that hard I was like Slim on, this is my hair. He didn't even change the filter. Nah, man, he was hitting that hard. I was like, Slim on drugs, man. Angela, good morning, beautiful. Good morning. You're the only person I know that got a new job and keep coming to the old one.

It don't make no sense. When does the new job start? You keep coming back to the old one. I promise you, I would love to start my new job, but it started in January. In January. I was honestly about to leave before you walked in. I know you were. Listen, Angela leave.

That's her new name. And Leonard, listen, man, let me ask you a question. Yes, sir. You up here every day on the biggest radio show in the world. Yes, yes. How come you never talk about the other show that I work for you on? Like, why don't you ever mention me on The Breakfast Club? Because you put me on some of the most, I mean, extravagant missions in the world.

You had me in Queensbridge with five white men and camera equipment. Security ain't had no pistol. And the only other black man had on scrubs. You ain't say nothing about me. You could have at least said Chico Bean made it out alive. You ain't say nothing. He never makes a deal. Don't forget Brownville. You can Brownville. That ain't even the worst one. He sent me to Tennessee

and had me asking the real Make America Great Again white people to give me their Confederate flags. Then he had two Nation of Islam brothers with me like it's a chapter in that part of Tennessee. It wouldn't have been nobody that could have made it to help me get up out of there, man. Y'all are terrible.

I should take over this whole show. Welcome Chico Bean, ladies and gentlemen. No, no, welcome Chico Bean. What camera? I'm on this camera right here? Yes. What's up, America? You are now tuning in to Power 105.

This is the Brunch Brigade. That's right. The show formerly known as The Breakfast Club. I am your host, Chico Bean, with my co-host, Lynn The Skin, Angela Lee, and DJ Ecstasy Flavor. That's right, we got a special, special show coming up at 945. We got the light-skinned love letter segment where DJ Envy will be reading three love letters. You must guess which one was written by him. The 13th caller will get a personalized hookah personalized Personalized by DJ Ecstasy Flava himself.

This is the Brunch Brigade. Wake up! That's a new show. That is a good segment, because Envy does write love letters. Because Gia, his wife, she posts them sometimes. Oh, for real? Well, see, look how brilliant I am. I'm going to give y'all another segment.

Since we're talking about it, I don't believe sometimes that Envy really wrote them. I feel like she helps him. No, I write all my love letters. She would help him write a letter to her? I don't know, because I can't see sometimes that Envy really wrote them. I feel like she helps him. I write all my love letters. She would help him write a letter to her? I don't know because I can't see Envy writing things nicely. I have six babies. She think you dumb.

You don't even know how to write. If you'd have seen him smoking that hookah, you'd have known he was capable of writing love letters. I ain't never seen nobody smoke a hookah and rub their nipples at the same time. He was blowing the smoke through his teeth. I was like, yo, this dude is legendary. But that would be a good segment.

Is this the first time Envy has actually acknowledged you? No, he did acknowledge me in Houston. I've seen him in Houston. He was in Houston. We was at the Turkey Leg Hut. Turkey Leg Hut, okay. And I think the reason why he acknowledged me is because the owner of the Turkey Leg Hut is so aggressively hospitable. Yeah, yeah, yeah. reason why he acknowledged me is because the owner of the Turkey Leg Hut is so aggressively hospitable.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. He go a bottle of 1942 and three kids to claim on your taxes. Don't say that. So I felt like if he didn't say something to me, shout out to Litt, he would have said something to him about not saying something to me. They have a dress code there now. You see that? They should have a dress code. You think so? Because I've been there on times where it's like, you know, you

looking like you in the strip club and it's a little much, you know. I mean, I enjoyed it, but, you know, you got your kids. You don't want them to know what that is, so I feel them. But it's a business that, I mean, the line will be wrapped around the corner, so you think you got a line going down the street with people with thongs and their titties out and all that. You don't want people to see that. Wow, it's like that?

You bring people in, their families and everything. My kids went, so, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, they ain't go that day you smoking that hookah. I tell you that. They the judge you that day. Oh, Turkey Leg Hut got hookah? Yeah, yeah. We were in Turkey Leg Hut.

Yeah, yeah. They got a hookah. I don't know if anybody else can get them, but they had one for Envy, the ecstasy flavor. Damn. So they got drinks and hookah at Turkey Leg Hut? Yeah, they got drinks, hookah, everything. Ecstasy flavor hookah. I haven't been using it so long.

It's a vibe. Yeah, it's dope. It's dope, man. But, you know, I'm happy to be up hereah. You haven't been to Houston in so long. It's a vibe. Yeah, it's dope. It's dope, man. But, you know, I'm happy to be up here with y'all. You're doing your thing, man. It's my first time all the way.

You in a movie, Dirty Third? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I shot that in Houston as well. So, you know, it's a remake of the movie that they did back in the day. And, you know, I was excited to do it

because I love Houston as a city, man. It's a beautiful city. And they always show love down there. So I was excited about being in the movie. It's coming out in a couple weeks, I think.

Okay. Not next week. You know what I mean? I think it's coming out then. What's the most fun about everything that you're doing right now, man? The most fun? Well, I would say the most fun

is just being able to, you know, be happy with everything that's going on. You know, I done been through a lot. You know, I lost my mom last year to COVID. You know, so, you know, when you go through that type of trauma, you really have to, you know, kind of been through a lot. You know, I lost my mom last year to COVID. You know, so, you know, when you go through that type of trauma, you really have to, you know, kind of replace the hole that's filled when you lose your matriarch like that.

And I realize that I find a lot of solace in just knowing that what I do brings other people so much joy, you know, and the response that I get. So it's just like being in New York. I love this city because when I came up here, I didn't have anything. I was just a nobody that was trying to make something of myself. So every time I come up here, I love the feeling that I get. Even though I've made a name for myself, I still get that same nostalgic feeling that I had when I wasn't anybody and I was trying to make it work. That's why I love New York so much. So it's just the feeling overall that I think is the best part. You're one of them rare comedians, though, that literally

takes your life and brings it to the stage or brings it to whatever you do. Because I remember when your mom passed and you was telling a story that sounded like it could have been a stand up bit. But it was real life. Yeah it's a true story. I mean because that's the way I was raised. I have a unique upbringing to say the least. I say my mother

raised me in reverse. Because a lot of the coddling and everything that you see a woman give their child. Especially somebody like me. my father got murdered when I was two years old so it was just me and my mom and she was not protective in any way you know she would get out there you got to learn how to be a man and then once I became a man and she saw that I was functional and everything that she trained me to do that's when she opened up to me and started letting me know all of the things that she kept to herself when I was young. So by the time she passed away, we was locked in.

And I had no inhibition about talking about our relationship. Like I always say, like when she first passed away, I watched her pass away. I watched her die, held her hand, rubbed her back as she passed away. And then I had to go home and tell my little brother that she was gone. And that next morning, I mean, we cried all night. And that next morning we was looking at each other like, you know, we got to get the information to take to the funeral home. Which one of us going to search

the room? Because I know that dildo in there, and I don't want to find it. I don't want to find it, bro. I know it's in there. I know my mama. It's in there. I swear to God. That's why I was like, bro, it's in there. I don't want to find it. I don't want to be I'm serious, bro. Listen, I don't want to. Angela, don't you have the toys

that you use in your room? Every woman has them. My mom ain't no different. I wasn't looking. My brother, you got to ask him. I refuse to go in there. But you know, this is you know, it's just like I said, it's just a process. I miss her every day. You know, I mean, you know, it's I'm a walker

reflection of what she made me because she did it on her own. You know, it's hard for a woman to raise a man. And she always used to tell me, I can't teach you how to be no man. Some things you're going to learn on your own. But I'm damn sure I'm going to teach you how not to be a bitch. And that's what she did. Tell them how you almost swung on the funeral director.

Oh, listen, man. What the hell? Listen, man. Black businesses. Salute to Gilly. You know, I seen him go through what he went through yesterday at the airport. You know what I mean? He the first rapper to ever check his own bag for the police.

Put that out there, Gilly. You the first rapper to ever check your own bag. Soulja Boy ain't did that yet. How many times has Gilly been stopped that he knew how to search his own bag? Yeah, he knew how to search his own bag. That right there is a skill set. You know what I mean? Wallo probably told him, like, bro, I been in jail for 20 years. If they ever tell you to search your bag, go left, right, then up, down like a cheat code.

But I use the black funeral service, you know what I mean? Because my mother passed away from COVID. So, you know, when she was in the hospital, they had her something called prone, which was on one side of her body to try to open up her lungs. So I couldn't see the other side of her face. So everybody that I called didn't have any experience with dealing with COVID deaths. This one guy that I called, he had experience. He told me every answer to every question that I had before I can ask him.

So I chose to use him, but he was in New Jersey. Now, my mother passed away in D.C. I'm born and raised in D.C., of course. So when he had to come get her body, they were giving him problems on the transfer. So he called me one night. She probably had been dead a week now. She called me like, yo, body, they were giving him problems on the transfer. So he called me one night. She probably had been dead a week now. She called me like, yo, man, they're giving me problems getting mom's body. Do you mind if I just sign your name and fax this paperwork over so I can get your mom's body?

I said, no problem. Now, mind you, I done met him already. I done paid him for all the services. You know, next day they called me like, yeah, Mr. Bean, we were going to release your mom's body, but the funeral director signed your name as Chico Bean. Man, stop it. The nigga put Chico Bean on the paper. Was it Envy?

Huh? Shut up. It might have been. No, Envy wouldn't know what to put because he don't know who I am. But, yeah, that's a true story. So it's like the process that I went through, you know, it taught me a lot about just myself because I dealt with so much death. You know, death was one of the first things I had to learn how to deal with and my father being murdered.

So, you know, and then my uncle got killed who was like my father. I've lost multiple people to violence growing up, you know, and death was a part of my life. So I felt like I was prepared to deal with it whenever it came. But your mother's different. Like, you know, ripped a hole in me that I've been trying to fill ever since. But the process of going through planning a funeral and doing all of that shit changed me as a person. So I tell people all the time now

that the book of my life with my mother in it has the end on it. I can't add no more chapters. So if you still have the luxury of having your mother on this plane, appreciate the fact that you can add chapters because one day if the circle of life go the way it's supposed to go, then you gonna have to put the end on yours too so you know

that's just how it goes and didn't the director almost drop no no no he didn't almost now this is an exclusive i don't think i have even talked about that before oh never mind no no no i don't mind like this i'm not gonna put him out there because you know he actually did a good service but uh it wasn't him either the dude that uh was transferring my mother's body me and my manager go to you know view my mama's body to see before she goes up to new jersey and the dude who's taking her body out of the back of the van sees me and like oh shit going to chico bean mode something envy would never do you know i'm saying like he recognized me and acknowledged me and was like oh shit going to chico bean mode something envy would never do you know i'm saying like he recognized me and acknowledged me and was like oh shit so he freak out and see me walking and then

he pull her out and then drop her body on the ground yeah my goodness so then he goes to try to pick her up again and it drops her again and then i say man i walk up to him he's sweating i'm talking i ain't never seen nothing like this i mean he pouring sweat just dripping sweat and i'm like bro you you okay you you straight he was like i'm just i'm just so nervous i'm like look man it's somebody that's really special to me in this bag man you gotta you gotta get yourself together so you know i calmed him down we picked her up put her back on the thing my manager walk over and gave him some type of pep talk like nigga if anything then fell off her in this goddamn bag I'ma kill you but um the the way the reason I was so calm in that manner is because it had took so long for her

to get to that point now mind you if this would have happened the day that she died or the day after she died I probably would have did something completely different in that parking lot but the fact that I had enough time to you know get myself together and figure out how I felt about her being gone and by that time I knew that that was just the remains it wasn't anything that I had enough time to, you know, get myself together and figure out how I felt about her being gone. And by that time I knew that that was just the remains. It wasn't anything that I needed to be, you know, he ain't punched my mom and drop her. So I was able to keep myself calm. And it's just, you can use that as an example of, you know, just learning grace and patience, because that was a level of patience that I would have never thought that I had before I had it. So, you know, that that's a true, though. That happened.

It was nice that your mom had a chance to see you be successful. That's the best part of it, man. Like, she had a chance and an opportunity to actually see me make it and be a part of my process because, like I said, she raised me by herself. My mother was getting up at 3 o'clock in the morning to go to work every day my whole life. So for her to be able to see her son make it I know that she had I mean she loved me to death And that's the biggest part that I've been having to feel now was just knowing that that matriarch is not here That's the first time I've ever felt loneliness in my life is when I lost her, you know I was super proud. I mean listen, I don't give a fuck about what nobody think about me because of the way

You know this is nigga. This is what this is. You know, I mean Now come on Angela, Angela why you looking like that you now I just don't know why would you braid that why would I braid it I thought she was about to say why would you take your hat off

oh no I mean both of them actually I think it's great that you are confident enough to do it yeah cause during the pandemic I feel like that's when we really

that's when we kicked it off and the reason why I did this is just to show people man fuck what people think about you if it make you happy do it I'm proud of my side braids

I don't give a fuck what nobody say and the reason why I would proud of my side braids. I don't give a fuck what nobody say. And the reason why I would braid it is just because I could. I think for real, I think the reason why I'm, you know, in the position that I'm in as far as I'll just say the people that really are supporters

of everything that I do is because they see that it's genuine. Like, I don't care what anybody has to say about me. You're entitled to your opinion, but I'm entitled not to give a fuck about it, just like you're entitled to have it. So, you know, this is just a part of who I am at this point. Just let it grow. And let it grow out.

I'm talking about I can, and it's three hairstyles I'm going to get before I cut it. I'm going to get a jerry curl. I'm going to get the Frankie Lyman, what's love got, I mean, the Why Do Fools Fall in Love, and the Big Red from the Fire Hot Beats. After that, then I'm cutting it off. With the Frankie Lyman, you're probably going to have to get a little weave in the front. No, no, no. I'm just going to do the swoop over. I got enough now. I'm going to get a little bang down all the way.

I appreciate y'all for helping me with hairstyles. That's nice. I told you that yesterday. I got the PRP. And I grew it out when I saw you. Yeah, when I was doing the Highline Headline during the pandemic, he came on there looking like the nigga from Lean On Me. Contrary to popular belief, I am the head nigga in charge. I was like, damn, Slim, you can remake that movie all the way.

Oh, man. Now, when we get to Chico being stand-up special, do you even want to do that right now? Nigga, you need to give me a stand-up special for all them specials you be making me shoot for you. Does he pay you well for that? Does he what? Pay you well for that. Say that one more time. Does he pay you well for that?

Say that one more time. That ain't me! Yeah, I was waiting on that. I'm not even gonna let you. Yeah, I don't think he pays me. I don't think he pays himself well for that. But that's probably a reason why he don't talk about it up here. You know what I mean? We've been at Viacom for a while.

That's Viacom. Yeah, I know. Yeah, but, you know, we working on it. You know what I'm saying? Like, we, you know, of course, we got the 85 South. Then we doing something special with that. But, you know, a lot of the stuff that, you know, I've been doing is just, you know, just I don't rush anything. I'm on my own clock, not nobody else's when it's time it's time but I'm working

on it you know I got a couple of shows coming up I'm excited about the Wilbur Theatre in Boston you know I'm doing a run with the MGM all the casinos so I'm excited about that Foxwoods Casino and all that and so you know I'm prepared whenever it come you know I mean whenever it come just not gonna rush it because everybody else says, you need this, you need that, because you think about the game now. Now it's Netflix. But 10 years ago, it was HBO.

That's right. So we don't know where the game going to go. You just make sure you stay in it long enough to be able to move whichever way it moves. It should feel like it's YouTube now, too, when you see what, like, Andrew's show is doing and all of them. Yeah, it's all different types of platforms, you know. So the game is different.

I tell people all the time, I remember when Ryan Davis was up here, he said, I always used to call him stupid for living in LA. And that was true because you don't have to do it the same way that you did it back in the gap. Like in the nineties, you had to be in LA or New York to get recognized. Now, all you have to do is just have a presence. And I started in North Carolina. You know, I started at the Greensboro comedy zone And I told myself when I first started doing comedy that I'm going to make a presence felt where I live. And even if I go to L.A., I always have something to go back to because I done built a following. So that's just the way you got to do it. To all the young people out here thinking about doing this as a living, making a living off entertainment,

just make a following, build your following wherever you at. And they'll come to you now. You ain't got to go to where they are. With everything so sensitive, do you ever watch what you now. You ain't got to go to where they are. But everything's so sensitive. Do you ever watch what you say now? Because the world is sensitive. It wasn't where it was five years ago or ten years ago. Everything is so sensitive.

Yeah, you got to be mindful of that because it's so easy to be offended now. We were just talking yesterday. I was watching them live in color. That couldn't happen now. That couldn't be on TV now. But people were offended back then, but it just took longer for you to know that they were offended. And you had to put an effort in to be offended.

You had to get up and make a picket sign and go to Tower Records or wherever they were shooting the show at and stand outside. It took effort. Now it doesn't take any effort to be offended. I think that's the reason why it's such a problem because all you got to do is take out your phone and say something, and you can get millions of people to agree with you just from you saying something from the comfort of your couch. So you got to do is take out your phone and say something, and you can get millions of people to agree with you just from you saying something from the comfort of your couch.

So you got to be careful of that. But at the same time, as long as you're telling your truth, I don't care who get mad at my truth. That's on you. Have you ever apologized for something? Like for offending anybody? He hasn't had to yet. Yet? Goddamn.

Leonard, what the fuck? Why you just going to put that on me? You need to apologize for a lot of this shit you done said. You done said Kanye West gonna kill himself. I did not say that. Yes, you did say that, bro. You said Kanye West is going to commit suicide. That's what you said.

I said that he's moving like a man who feels like he's not gonna be here much longer. Which means that you've been around people who haven't been here much longer. They killed themselves. You can recognize that behavior. I recognize the manic episode. Manic episodes don't end well unless somebody intervenes. I don't care that you put that jargon on there. You know what you're saying.

Some comedians feel like it's a joke. If I start apologizing for things, that's a slippery slope. Then people will come at me. I don't want to be apologizing for jokes that don't have ill intentions. Yeah. I mean, you, if, as long as, like you said, that it's not malicious, you know what I mean? One of the, one of the things that helps me is I, before I started doing comedy full-time, I was a QP, a qualified professional. And what that is, is I work with people with substance abuse issues, you know, people on the,

you know, uh, autism spectrum, all different types of stuff. And one of the first rules of working with people that have disabilities is that they tell you they want to be treated normally. They don't want you to look at them like they're less than, and I want you to look at them like something is wrong with them. And in that I've seen just being around people like that, if they can laugh at themselves and they can, you know, be okay with something that they have no control over. Why can't you be okay with something you do have control over?

You have control over what you allow to offend you. Words are words. As long as the actions behind the words aren't something that is going to cause you detriment, you should be able to take somebody saying anything that they say as long as it doesn't affect you directly. Now, mind you, we do live in a time where you have to be sensitive about what you say. But me personally, I don't get on stage to hurt people's feelings. I get on stage to tell my truth and make people laugh. So if you get offended by that, then it is what it is. I was giving some great advice. If you do a joke that don't offend somebody, then it's a horrible joke.

So, you know, you got to take that in. And you never know what people's triggers are. You don't know personally. Yeah. And you can't tell nobody what they can get offended by. That's true. You know, if you choose, you have what they can get offended by. That's true. You know, if you choose, you have the right to be offended by whatever you want to be offended by. But I just think that now that we live in a time where it's so easy to be offended, I think if you took away social media, it would be a lot easier for you to say whatever it is you want to say because people don't have the energy to really get up and go out and show that they really mean that they feel the way that they feel. So I just try to, you know, I told a line.

I know there's certain things that you can't say. I mean, the 90s was different. You know, you look at the 90s. The 90s was a different game. Like I said, I was watching them live in color. I was watching some 60-minute interviews from the 90s. And it was like, ain't no way you can get away with this now. You know who the most ruthless interviewer was?

Who? Barbara goddamn Walters. Barbara, yeah, all the way. Go watch old Barbara Walters' interview. Oh, I mean, you know who the most ruthless interviewer was? Who? Barbara goddamn Walters. Barbara, yeah, all the way. Go watch old Barbara Walters interview. Oh, yeah, it was vicious. Go watch the sitcom, not the sitcom,

the talk shows, Jenny Jones and Ricky Lake and the original Oprah and all that. Like, but I'm glad I was raised in that era because for me, I think that a lot of things,

you know, people complain about the way the world is now. Like, man, it wasn't like this when I was growing up. I'm kind of, you know, on complain about the way the world is now. Like, man, it wasn't like this when I was growing up. I'm kind of, you know, on both sides of the fence. There's certain things that I'm glad are in use now that wasn't in use when I was little. And I'm also upset that there's certain things that can't be said and done. Like, watching the old Jenny Jones and Jerry Springer, like, I'd love that era just because you see the freedom of, you know, what people just had the freedom to even get on TV and say.

But, you know, I also appreciate that, you know, you have mental health talk now, like depression. There wasn't no depression when I was little. You know how depressed I would have been if I could have used depression to get out of school? Like, ain't no way. That's a great thing because you think about it like like i said talking about my mom it's so much that i realized as a man that i didn't understand as a young man like for example you know i love my mother to death but i never had to be in a relationship with her i don't know who she was in a relationship just like i don't know who she was as a person having to raise two boys by herself. Or who she was before she was your parent.

Or who she was, and I didn't find that out until she passed away, who she was before she was my mother. So when you think about that, it was so much that she was concealing and hiding from us that if we had an outlet for, as a family, that we could have went and talked about mental health, it could have helped our situation tremendously. Because now you have children who are, you know, being affected by this social media in ways that we never had to deal with.

I went back to my alma mater, Winston-Salem State, and talked to this, you know, kids in my program that graduated from the communications program. And all of them was like, man, I just feel like I ain't moving fast enough. I ain't moving fast enough. I'm like, how old are you? 18. And I understand it because they up against the phone. I only had to, you know, see what was around me, who went to school with me, the success stories at the school. And you went to an HBC, you know it was two, three niggas with money. Well, you went to Hampton, so it might be different for you. A lot of drunks in Virginia at that time.

It's a lot of money at Hampton. But, you know, usually you only compete with what you see. But now they got to compete with everybody. They competing with their phone. Everybody's highlight reel. Usually you only compete in which what you see. But now they got to compete with everybody. They competing with their phone. Everybody's highlight reel. Everybody highlight reel is in front of you. So now you feel like you are inadequate because you got to compete with that.

So we didn't have to deal with that. So that creates a level of mental, you know, and you make you unstable in ways that we never had to deal with. So I appreciate that, you know, those conversations are going on. But I do wish the world was a lot less sensitive. You know, the thing about Chico, man, you know, you hear Chico talk, you clearly can tell he's intelligent. You don't, I don't know if you talk about your educational background enough. Why, why should I? Just because. I mean, I don't think that's something that, you know, you know, you should hang your hat on because I know a lot of people that went to school that's dummies. And I know a lot of people who never went to school that are brilliant. So just think that that's something that you should utilize on your own if somebody asked me did I go to college or did I get an education of course but I'm not going to hang my hat on that because

I feel like I'm shorting myself because there's somebody who didn't have that level of education that you can learn from that's real I'm open I don't I'd say all the time one of my mantras is I don't know nothing so therefore I'm always open learning. I'm always open to having a conversation with somebody who can teach me something no matter what I read out of a book. I think that's a problem with people now. You see all these people regurgitating information that they just read without doing any of the research or understanding

or the life experience. So school don't teach you that. Life teaches you life experience. So what was your major? Communications. Okay, okay, okay. Thank you, Emby. You being my friend now. That's what it is, man. You still tuned in to the Brunch Brigade. I am your host, Chico Bean. Just in case

you was wondering, that's right. Coming up, we have the next segment, When Does Angela Leave? That's right. We're going to have all of the callers come in. The 13th caller who guesses the date that she actually leaves will get a ticket to come see her work wherever she's going. That's right.

This is the Brunch Brigade. Wake up. These are good segments off the cuff. But who instilled that in you early, though, just to educate yourself, whether it was academically or through books or through life experience? Who put that in you? Everybody. Like I said, my father was murdered, so I never had that relationship.

But I've learned to look at the bright sides of death and bad, the things that most people look at detriments in life. Like, for example, I never knew my father, but I also never had to live up to his standard for me. I never had to live up to what he wanted me to be. And I also never had to see him do anything that disappointed me or see him do anything that made me feel like damn man why I got to use this as an example so I was able to take influence from everybody because I didn't have to worry about my daddy coming up and saying we don't like him I saw you put a post up the other day that said a woman teaches you how to I can't remember exactly yeah my man Jay Barnett right you're saying oh many reaffirm themselves. A man teaches you what to believe. So because I didn't have the man that created me there,

as unfortunate as it was, I still was able to take influence from places that I'm sure I probably wouldn't have been able to or wouldn't have known because I would have been up under my daddy. So my uncles, you know what I mean, all of my uncles, all of the people, I come up in a household, I live with all my family, I was surrounded by everything. I had two uncles that was dope dealers I had you know, two cousins that was like uncles and aunts that was on drugs my mother my aunt Mary You know, I mean my uncle Ricky who was the youngest who I you know gravitated towards and that's why I got my musical influence

From but I come up from in a household where there was no gray area I never got anything hidden from me. And I've always had responsibility in my life. There's never been a time where I didn't have responsibility. So you learn that. Like I've learned to be okay with walking the road less traveled because I've always had to. When my friends was playing football and, you know, outside riding bikes, I had to walk to the Safeway to get the groceries with a cart at nine, 10 years old.

I got my first job when I was nine working at Bluebirds Barbershop, brushing people off for dollars. So you learn in those experience through life when you're walking down the street mad that you got to take care of responsibility. During those times, you pick up how to be OK with things that you don't realize in that time. But when you become a man and train me, a lot of my friends, friends you know that I grew up with are still in the same place not because they have to be just because they haven't learned how to be okay with moving outside of the box mm-hmm you know for you growing up in DC did you pay attention to politics no no no not at all Marion Barry is the greatest statesman of all time like to us because of what he did for the community like Like, Marion Barry for D.C. is what I wish that all, you know,

inner cities had somebody like that that worked in our favor. Like, he created the summer job program where everybody in the city from 12 to 18 were able to get a summer job, and that saved so many lives in the city because, you know, D.C. was a very violent city growing up, and, you know, of course you still had people who fell victim to it. But us being able to go get those jobs kept a lot of us out of jail. And, you know, one thing I say about D.C., which makes, in my opinion, the hardest city to grow up in when it comes to politics,

is if you from where, Angelique? Brooklyn. You from Brooklyn. Queens. Queens and Moncks Corner, South Carolina. All of y'all send people to where I'm from to get things changed in your communities. But these people that you send ride past us living in the conditions that you want changed every day and don't do nothing. So you got to understand that we come from the city where the capital is right here.

Then two blocks down, you got Surgeon Quarters, one of the worst hoods in the world. And they ride past this place. They come get food in these communities and they walk right past us and see us every day. So we don't have no reason to pay attention to politics because they don't pay attention to us. And we get to see them not pay attention to us. So D.C. is a different city, man. And I hate that it's been gentrified the way that it has. Now I go home and it breaks my heart. The places that I grew up and frequented, Best Buy's and Whole Foods and and all that now and there's nothing wrong with that in with improving the community but it is something wrong with improving the community

when you know the people who were living there aren't going to be able to benefit from the improvement that shit is horrible man so you know salute to the whole dc man the whole city man everywhere i go i wear it on my back because i know that, you know, the city that I grew up in is being demolished, is being wiped away. And the people that come from it are being scattered all around the world. So, you know, I mean, we don't really pay attention to politics, to answer your question, though. I never really cared. Long as Marion Barry was the mayor, that's all we cared about. What made you plant your flag in North Carolina the way that you did?

I went to college. You know what I mean? D.C. Tag, D.C. Leap, which was a program that Bill Clinton put in place right before he left office that let D.C. students pay in-state tuition wherever they went. Oh, wow. Which really meant that D.C. paid the difference. So whatever the difference is between in-state and out-of-state tuition, they paid. So once they did that, an influx of us were able to go to school. Because without that, I wouldn't have been able to go to college.

I didn't even know nothing about college. It wasn't until my Uncle Reggie got murdered in 2002 that I even started to pay attention to school because I wanted to be in the streets. You know what I mean? I've always been blessed to be good at whatever I did. And, you know, it's documented I was always a hustler, like my whole life. I've been getting my own money since I was nine, and I was good at it. So that's all I wanted to do. But once I saw him get murdered, it changed my whole perspective because I knew he was 10 times tougher than I ever could be. So if that was his fate, I thought he was above it. You know, you think certain people are invincible.

They can't have certain things happen to him. So I thought he was above having, you know, that be his fate. He had been to jail already and survived that. So I knew was a warrior gladiator in that regard but once I saw him get killed and once I watched him pass away it was like you know what man this is if this is his fate then I know I'm going to jail or to the grave y'all a whole lot quicker than if I go to school so I went on a college tour I paid for me and my man to go on the college so we went to all the HBCUs from D.C. to Florida. Morgan, Hamilton, Howard. I mean, Howard, VCU, but

J.S. State, all of them. And all the way down to Florida A&M. And I went to the ones in North Carolina. And mind you, you know, going to a HBCU, whenever they have fall break, the school be dead. So whichever ones is on fall break, I'm like, oh, this is dead. Hampton was on fall break i'm like oh this dead hampton was on

fall break a and t was on fall break then i went to winston-salem state and saw 20 girls before i saw one dude i was like nigga this ain't that bad i'm coming down here and then we went to morehouse and i like morehouse but then i found out it was an all-dude school but not knowing that spellman was right there they didn't tell us that they were just like this is all boys school they came out dressed like braxton hartner brig i was like nah i'm straight i'm going with the 20 but not knowing that Spellman was right there. They didn't tell us that. They were just like, this is all boys' school. They came out dressed like Braxton Hart and the Brig. I was like, nah, I'm straight. I'm going with the 20 girls there.

But, you know, I went to Winston-Salem State for that, to go to school. And I thought I was a man before I went to North Carolina, but I became a man in North Carolina. Like I learned how to be a man because that was the first time I didn't have, you know, anybody in close proximity that I can lean on when things got rough and times got hard. I thought I knew how to move as a man, but I always had the luxury of going back to Wanda house. And that's something that a lot of men don't realize. You think you hustling and you think you moving around, but you really just still depending on your mama. You just doing it a little bit less than your partner might be doing it on the environment might allow you to. But the reality is if you can go home to mama house, you know,

you got somewhere to go, but when you separate and it's five hours reality is if you can go home to mama house, you know, you got somewhere to go, but when you separate and it's five hours away, now you can't just go and get a meal and go and get your clothes washed. What you going to do? And it's things as simple as that is what I realized became, made me a man. So once I decided to become a comedian, I stayed cause I knew going home wouldn't have been the best decision for me. Does not having that now make you feel like less grounded? No, not at all. Because I've, I, you know, I've been trained. I know how to do it now. You know, I'm domestic. You know, that's one of the reasons why I don't need no girlfriend or need no woman to do nothing for me because the women in my life taught me how to be self-sufficient in those ways,

not to depend on anybody. Now, of course, the thing that I miss the most is being able to get those phone calls and just the check-ins and all of that. But as far as the things that I miss the most is being able to get those phone calls and just the check-ins and all that. But as far as the things that I need to do for me, man, I'm good. I already got that training. Chico Bean, your next show. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, we're not doing that. Y'all niggas not about to hit me with the Alderman

interview. Y'all not about to give me 20 minutes and then, no, no. No, this was the Brunch Brigade. That was the Breakfast Club. This was the Brunch Brigade. 40 minutes, and then no, no. You're almost 40. No, this was the brunch brigade. That was the breakfast club. This is the brunch brigade. I'm only 40 minutes, right? Yes. No, it doesn't matter.

Listen, coming up on the brunch brigade, that's right, we got another segment where Linda Skin will be giving his morning makeup ritual. That's right. Morning makeup, all the things that he use, all the soaps, all the creams, all the lip sticks and chapsticks, and the winner will receive the personal package from Lend the Skin. This is the Brunch Brigade. Wake up! I use Jones Road, by the way. See, there you go. All the way.

Chico Bean. All the way. Chico Bean, give me your info, man. Hey man, add Chico Bean everywhere. You know what I mean? Angela, I'm surprised, man. You ain't come with it. I appreciate you. I was about to. Go ahead. Go ahead. Ask me one. I'm gonna go ahead and let you ask me one. No, because when you were talking about how you're self-sufficient, we've had a conversation

up here before. I did think there's a couple of things I wanted to jump in on. Go ahead. Nah, this is the brunch brigade, baby. Y'all working overtime every time I come up here. Go ahead, Adelie. I got you. I have to excuse myself.

Where you going? I got to go to the doctor. You got to move up right now. Charlamagne was supposed to go with me. She about to ask you if you suck your own dick. You sure you want to do this? I was not going to ask that. I don't know where he came up with that. No, no, no. You got to go to the doctor. Charlamagne was supposed to go with me. She about to ask you if you suck your own dick. You sure you want to do this? I was not going to ask that. I don't know where he came up with that.

Bruh, no, no, no. You got to go to the doctor. Hold up. Just let her ask the question. I was going to ask you, how do you feel about when it comes to dating for a woman, do you think women should be independent in a relationship? Do I think women should be independent? While they're in a relationship.

While they're in a relationship? You mean 50-50? You know, just as an independent human being. Like, I'm self-sufficient. I can handle all these things because a lot of people talk about how women are so independent now that it's hard for them to be in relationships because guys kind of want you to be a little

dependent on them. I mean, I think independence is masked as being an adult. You're an adult, so there's certain things that you should do on your own. You know, I think a lot of women are looking for men to do the things for them that their father was supposed to. You know what I mean?

And the unfortunate part is you can't be looking for somebody to be your daddy and not be obedient like a child would. So the independence that men are looking for, dependence rather, that men are looking for in women, they're looking for them to be in a sense of, you know, like you've seen the memes

that people put out, you know, Daddy hand me the salt and then the boyfriend and the father reach. You know what I'm saying? I think it's that. Men want that level of being able to provide a woman with that. But at the same time, if you're not going to look at this man as somebody who can provide you with the level of protection, assurance, you know, safety that your father would, then it's a waste of time. So your independence should come anyway as a woman, I think. So what do you think about the bills in a relationship?

The bills? Yeah. Like, is it half and half? Or do you feel like you should be paying for, like, what's your breakdown? I feel like you should do whatever it is you're capable of doing. Communication is key. It's the most important part of any relationship. So if you're comfortable with paying half the bills, then do that. But's a man that's you know something that you want to do make sure you in a position to be able to do that. I'm asking you what you mean? I would never be in a relationship so I don't have to worry about that I don't know want to be married or be in a relationship. You don't never want to be in a relationship? No! Not even a girlfriend? No! Why would I do that? That is the no! Look at my man over in the corner. You wish somebody would have said that on the mic before.

He from Ghana. He want five wives. Good for you. Good for you. As long as you can afford them, you should be able to have them. So you don't want to live with anybody? No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I don't, nah.

You know, like I said, I get most of my interaction and relationship dependence from the environment that I come from, rather. And I watched my mother go through my whole life never finding a man to keep it real with her and tell her exactly what it was that was going on. So I'm out here just trying to be the nigga that my mother never had. I don't have no lies to tell you.

I don't have no lies to tell you. I feel like if somebody would have gave Wanda the opportunity, she would have been a hell of a soldier for somebody who was worth it, and it would have made our life easier. So for me, I don't have no lies to tell you. You're not going to be the only woman that I ever... It's illogical to me to even allow a woman to think that if I love you and care about you,

there's no way I would allow you to think that as a man that you are going to be the only woman that I want to deal with. What if she's okay with you dating other people? Well, that's cool, but the thing thing is i'm going to be honest with you about that from the jump my goal my whole mantra is no victims only volunteers you'll never be a victim no bullshit only a volunteer to my truth so you have a choice as to whether or not you want to deal with me or not but you have to understand that you won't be the only woman that i deal with now in fairness that's an individual you have you have a lot of men won't be the only woman that I deal with now. In fairness, you have an individual.

You have a lot of men who say that and then be like, I do what I want. You do what I tell you. I'm also not that way. And when it comes to women, I don't care what you do when I'm not around. As long as you're wilding out. No, no, it's not. It's not. I ain't having no bunch of kids.

You know what I mean? But salute to Nick. Shit. That nigga can take care of him. He about to have a whole nother cast. I know that nigga. I know what he's doing. That's exactly what he of him. He about to have a whole nother cast. I know that nigga. I know what he doing. That's exactly what he did.

He trying to have a whole nother cast so he can fire us. I'm hip to you, Nick. That's right. But like I said, I'm not the type of person that's going to tell you I can do what I want. You do what I tell you. As long as whatever you do don't bring me no problems, I don't care what you do. My uncle taught me a long time ago, if you don't wake up in the morning and wash your pussy, it don't belong to you. It's yours. You're going to do what you want to do with it as long as it nigga ain't mad

when it's my turn we straight do you take women on vacations and no i don't do none of that i don't do none of that you spend the night yeah depending on who it is you know i mean how safe i feel with my belongings being there when i'm asleep yeah i spend the night but the thing about me like i said it's about it's about honesty. Women always say they want a man to keep it 100 with them until they run into one. Most of them have never had a man keep it 20 with them, so you have no idea what that other 80% entails that you think that you're looking for. The lies hurt so bad that you just think you want the opposite.

But the majority of the women that I have conversations with don't want a man to be honest with them. You want a man to fit into the character that you have in your mind, and you want him to play that out in front of the women that I have conversations with don't want a man to be honest with him. You want a man to fit into the character that you have in your mind and you want him to play that out in front of the world. I don't operate like that. This is what it is. This is what it ain't. You down with it. Cool. You're not cool. I like to, the way I explain it is like, we all are professors of ourselves and I'm the, I'm the, the Dean of Chico Bean university. When you've been to college, you've been around. When the first thing... You've been around. Lend a skin.

The first thing that they teach you, or the first thing that you do when you come into a college classroom is they give you the syllabus. And the first week of class is you going over the syllabus so you can make a decision as to whether or not this is a class you want to take or drop. That's how I operate with women. When you meet me, I'm handing you my syllabus.

This is what it is with me. You have a choice as to whether or not you want to take this course or drop it. Would you say I love you? Have you said I love you? I love all the women I deal with. I ain't heard no shit like this since Kevin Samuel. No, don't put me in that negative. Don't put me. See, there you go. Now you want to say motherfuckers is going to die. You keep saying

Kanye West is going to die. Now you're going to put me in the Kevin Samuel so you go. Now you want to say motherfuckers is going to die. You keep saying it. I did not say that. You said Kanye West is going to die. Now you're going to put me in the Kevin Samuels so the women can say, ah, that nigga. I'm not saluting Kevin Samuels, though. I don't, you know, God rest his soul. But I'm not one of those people who's telling any woman what they need to do. I'm just telling you what I'm going to do. That's real. What you decide to do based upon that is your choice.

I don't have no say so in that. I just am going to tell you what I'm going to do and I'm not going to do. After that, it's on you. That's my man Chico Bean. Yeah, you nigga trying to go and get out of life. You're trying to get out of here. Hey, Angela, whenever you leave, let me know so I can come do your new job.

Oh, absolutely. Please. We got to get you on lip service. We would love that. Oh, yeah. I got to come do that too. we did the live one it got very serious oh yeah yeah salute salute to my girl man we worked on the radio together L'Oreal

my girl L'Oreal that's my partner but you know ever since then we'd have been locked in but yeah I would love to come do it cause you know you get to ask the nasty questions

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