The Breakfast Club - Do We Put Too Much Pressure On Our Friends?

Episode Date: July 14, 2023

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turning her beloved country into a mafia state. Listen to Crooks everywhere on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. it's topic time call 800-585-1051 to join into the discussion with the breakfast club talk about it morning everybody it's dj nv shawlamina guy we are the breakfast club we are celebrating the 20th season of wild and out we have cast members every morning this week and we have chico bean and justina valentine this morning and we're asking this comes from a comment that game uh said yesterday we're talking about friends do we put too much pressure on our friends that is the question you know things change you know at one time yeah it was easy we play ball all day long we play video games you know we'll go out and hang go to the clubs and all that but now when you get a little older so you got families there's things to do do we put too

much pressure on our friends that is the question we start with you justina yes because some of your friends you know they just don't progress with you they want to stay bums they still selling regular weed and you still love them it's the truth but you gotta love them from afar because we're not selling regular weed no more like we're doing different things and then and then those people become liabilities because i have some friends that i love i grew up with but i can't bring them around anymore because i don't know what they're gonna do and then they're a reflection of me so you gotta love them from a distance not bring them to your industry events and you know it's a space in your heart you are

the celebrity of the crew right you're on while and out you're doing so many different things you had a movie you got records so when they have events you are the person they expect to come because they want to show you off to their friends right and that's not a real friend and and it's like a meet and greet when you think you're going to someone's birthday or like family party so it's like you got to pick and choose when you do it you can't do all of them and if they're really your friend they're gonna understand and there's a lot of people that don't understand but like i said just buy a bounce buy a little ounce of regular weed from them and keep it moving chico yeah let's not uh disparage regular weed there's still a market for that out here and there's some successful salesmen of regular weed so salute to those dudes but i think that

i just think people are dependent upon what you bring when you have a certain type of energy so i never fault people for being upset about not being able to have my presence because i understand the type of energy that i bring to any situation so i think that we have a responsibility as people who have been given the blessings that we've been given if somebody is really your friend and somebody you really love them to sit them down and explain like what comes with this because they don't understand they just see what they think is going on it's times that you have to take the time out to say hey man this is the reason why this has to change and this is different and this is different i think without doing that you're just letting them leaving them to their own devices and you're not allowing them to understand what comes with a level of success that most people never reach like how many dj

embys in your family right how many charlamagnes in yours it's only one of those you know i mean so when you are that one you it comes with a greater responsibility but i will say this you know for me it's not even the money the celebrity or the fame it's more of the family right i got six kids and a wife so it's like it's separating that time so if somebody has a birthday party or something has somebody i gotta split that time with my kids playing football my kids playing basketball or me just trying to be there for my kids you know like you said we are on the road we're doing shows sometimes you're lucky enough where you can take your daughter because she it's summertime she doesn't have school but

the times when we are home it's like i want to get that time in that i missed you know i mean and sometimes i'll be like i'll be honest i don't want to go i want to spend the time with my wife i want to spend the time with my kids i like seeing the moments of you know like this weekend was i called my my daughter jailbird right this was the first time she broke out of her crib like she hopped over the thing and like i was there for that but if i'd have been on the road or i'd have been i would have missed that you know what i mean so you know that comes with a level of being in the game for a certain amount of time and certain I was there for that. But if I'd have been on the road, I would have missed that. You know what I mean? But that comes with a level of being in the game for a certain amount of time. And certain things is never going to impress you anymore because you've been doing this for 30 years.

So if you're still trying to get the pleasure of being in the club after 30 years, of course you're tripping. I'm talking about for those that progression, the process of progression throughout your career. You've had to teach people as they go with you. Now, if you're 30 years in and there's still somebody mad at you that you don't want to come to the strip club, then that's not your friend. But somebody who understands you grew them to understand that, hey, I got six kids now. Now it's time for me to dedicate myself this direction. Like most people don't understand it if you don't teach them

because they don't ever get to the position to be able to do the things that you do being somebody who's successful yeah I agree with game for the most part I knew most of what he's saying because if you my friend you my friend but I'm not gonna put pressure on you I'm not gonna stress you to show up everywhere because just cuz you might you my partner but you also got to know your friends right like all my people know how I am folks know I don't like to go out okay you know me but I do think you have to make time for your real friends, you know what I mean? I have

friends that I want to see at least once a month. I like kicking it with them, so we make sure we get up and politic at least once a month. But I'm also in a blessed position that I have business with my friends, and I work with my friends, and we end up in a lot of the same spaces. Even last night going out to the

Book of Hoves thing, my best friend, my wife, is me but then like it's like angela rye is there and you know tamika mallory is there like these are my people my son is there he's my partner so it was good that all of us could get together for for moments like that and you've upgraded your circle and i mean you've upgraded the circle of people that you're able to operate with most people don't that's what i'm saying they don't have the access that you have so if you upgrade your friends like all of us in here have the same level of access depending on where we are. Most people that come with you only going to have that access if you're there. So you got to be able to help your friends upgrade their access.

You know what I mean? And I think that comes with that level of training throughout the time. But I also like, even with my friends, I like to invite them to my crib. And the reason why I'm my friend is because now everything's at my crib. I got my kids here. I got my wife. You bring your kids. Now, it's family.

We can sit there. We can drink. We ain't got to worry about getting home. We ain't got to worry about what happens out there and we can just enjoy. Hey, baby.

You can do both. We're going to DJ Envy House. He just invited us. That's what it is. We get to come to his house and see how he live it. Come on through. We can buy some bracelets

as an entry fee, but we're going. Hello, who's this? I'm Gary here from Houston. What's up, brother? Talk to us. We're talking about, do we put too much pressure on our friends? Yeah.

I think a lot of you guys do like females. I've been seeing female friends break up over birthdays. A lot of my guys I've been with since high school, we probably see each other like, you know, every once in a while, but it's not really that important to us. You know, we know what we got things to do. But females, yeah. Is that true, Justina?

Real serious. So listen, Justina, if you got homegirls and they don't repost you on Maxim Cover, do you feel like they're not your friends? No, it's all good. Listen, I think you got to accept people for who they are and how much they can give you. You know what I mean? Because everyone's not the same.

So, you know, you can reciprocate the energy or just know who that person is. But females with their birthdays, yes, a lot of them are crazy. If you miss a birthday event, like, you are out of their friend circle. I don't know why females are like that. I'm not like that. I'm the type I like to celebrate other people. But some females don't play about that i've seen girls not speak to other girls that was like one of their besties

because they couldn't make it to a birthday trip which is crazy as they do yeah they don't play with it i said people get bad for not posting like not posting a friend on a birthday not posting a maxim cover not posting an event i've seen that before but i can understand where that comes from too because most people that the most exciting time of their year is their birthday. You know, that's the only day. That is all about them. For real, that's the only day that they get celebrated and it's about them. Like, their life is horrible, except this is the only time I get to be excited and people are happy to be around me.

And you're kind of forced to be happy to be around somebody on their birthday. So when it's like a birthday trip or birthday or birthday dinner and somebody be like i'm good now you really don't got to deal with me because you don't rock with me the rest of the year anyway and you miss my birthday dinner so that's why i think people get mad at that because most people get their happiness on their birthday weekends and what if your friend call you and says happy birthday and pours into you? Wouldn't you rather that than the public display of affection on social media? No.

People want the public display more than anything else. They don't even care if you call them. They just want you to show it publicly. Let's talk about it some more when we come back. And I don't really do the birthday dinner because I know that trick, right? That's the trick. Like, yo, Envy! Hit a bill.

Thank you for coming. Thank you. Now, 800-585-1051. Do we put too much pressure on our friends? Call us up now. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. It's topic time.

Call 800-585-1051 to join in to the discussion with The Breakfast Club. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Now, if you just joined us, we're asking do we put too much pressure on our friends? Now, this comes from the game. The game left a comment. I'm going to read some of it. I thought it was pretty interesting.

Who read better, you or Jess or Larry? Should I say who read worse? Jess or Larry? I still love Jess, though. I love Jess' accent. Like, when she... You need to be a segment. Who raised their hand on the breakfast club? And just get people to call in and read out loud?

That'd be crazy. Who raised their hand? Chapter down there, Rollins, Ashley Larris. You know, I used to bet him every morning. And I was like, if you can read this sentence or this paragraph without messing up, I'll give you $100. And I would win every morning. Really? Yeah, we need to do that.

That needs to be a good segment. And he's stalling now. Who raised their hand? He's stalling because he had to read over it a couple times. Now, I had to pull it up. Now, the game said y'all put too much pressure on friends. We are all grown now. If a friend can't make it, they can't make it.

If you ain't talk to your friend in two weeks, that's okay. It's coming. If they got to sit you out coming up next we got charlemagne the god giving her a shot on who raised their hand y'all put too much pressure on friends. We are all grown now. If a friend can't make it, they can't make it. If you ain't talk to your friend in two weeks, that's okay. If they got to sit out your birthday festivities because money funny, that's okay.

We grown now. Got kids, husbands, boyfriends, wives, girlfriends, careers. It's just not enough time in the day to give your man, kids, customers, clients, work friends, siblings, etc. 100% and still be mentally stable. We are at an age now where it's when we see each other, we see each other, when we do be present and love on each other during that time. My mother is an English teacher. Ladies and gentlemen, and the winner of Who Raised Him is Charlamagne.

I'm a New York Times bestselling author, sir. Even your inflections were just perfection. That's somebody that get paid to read ads Right there That's what that is Let's go to the phone lines We got Kiara Good morning Kiara

Hello Hey What's your thoughts You put too much pressure On your friends You're supposed to You're really supposed to People let you

Vlog too easy These days And they And that's why Everybody Turning out so selfish I can't tell you how many say there's only things I do for people they need to reciprocate that it's friends if there's a gap one month two weeks you know we

all cool we find I'm in Miami I can't have my girlfriend's in New York when I feel like it any time it's all cool you have people, and I call them vampire leeches. They like to come, suck everything from you, and they don't give nothing back. Thousands of hours counseling people on the phone. What you saying? No, me and my kids and everything. We help everybody out, but when it's time, no.

They don't turn up. People just turn up. That's why everybody's so selfish these days. I do agree with her. You do have to reciprocate. If this person has shown up to your birthday party or this person has hit you up to say happy birthday or whatever,

you should reciprocate that. That's the least you can do. Hello, who's this? Hey, what's up? My name is Stephon. Hey, Stephon. Good morning. Good morning. How y'all doing today? Good, good, good. You put too much pressure on your friends? Man, I used to when I was younger, but as I got older, you know, I kind of realized everybody had their own life, and I had to stop looking through my own eyes to be empathetic

and be secure. All right. Well, what's the moral of the story, guys? We'll be ending this. How are we closing this out? I mean, I think the moral of the story is just reciprocate the energy, right? Like, you should match energies with your friend. Yeah.

And I think if you're busy enough with your own life, you understand the next person when they can't make it to an event. So, you know, those friends that get upset like that, they probably are not in the same space or place as you. So, you know. Well, Justina Chico. Justina, is there somebody you got mad at for not posting your maximum cover, Chico? Is there somebody that didn't repost 85 South Show on Netflix? No i reposted it not at all i can care less like that little one back there make sure i stay in pocket on what's important so i really don't care about what anybody else thinks as long as she cool i think having children changes you in that regard like

that's the opinion that matters you know if you're a friend that's a little different than having somebody who's who you're responsible for and who you're obligated to so that's what i dedicate most of my energy to so anybody who can't figure and fit in around that ain't a friend to me anyway so it makes it easier to be able to identify what matters and who don't post me or who don't say happy birthday and who don't appreciate my accomplishments don't matter because to me as long as she with whatever i got going on i'm good i will say this i think i speak to my i speak to my my true circle of friends every day every day somebody you know good morning yo you good just checking up on you or whatever it may be we're in a group chat i speak to them every day. At least a text. At least a text. Not making that on the phone, but at least a text.

Is that necessary, though, for friendship? No, not for me. That's not necessary, but it's... If y'all stop talking tomorrow, every day, would that change the dynamic

of y'all friendship? No. Then that's what I think we need to leave it at. You know, if you really are friends and there's somebody you really love,

then it doesn't matter if the communication stops. You can stop communicating for months or years, but whenever we come back in, it's like we never left. That's how I feel. That's how I feel.

That's exactly how I feel. That's a real quick question, right, for the parents. Should our children be our friends? Because you know they always say your children shouldn't be your friends.

Yes. Like the oldest daughter gets you 15, that's my little partner. You know what I mean? Man, listen. My daughter, my son, my friends.

Man, my daughter is my partner. I understand you can't be, in my opinion, you can't be naive to the reality of the fact that these kids have access to way more information than we did. It was much more difficult for our parents to be friends with us because of the world that we lived in and the lack of information that we had. Now, being dishonest with your children the way that you had to kind of be dishonest with us when we were growing up you can't do that because all they're going to do is pick the phone up and see that you full of stuff right that's right i quote myself you see it all the way so i think that you it is possible to be friends now you can't you know let your kids look at you as somebody that they can be friendly with all the time you got to have a level of respect there but i want

my daughter to be comfortable to talk to me as though she would talk to one of her buddies. Because I want that information to come to me first so I can help her navigate through whatever the world has for her that I've already experienced that she hasn't. So I want to be my kid's friend. I love trolling my oldest daughter. We be playing the pause game.

You know what I'm saying? This generation isn't that far removed. You play the pause game with your 14-year-old? Because they do it. Yeah, they do it. Like the same way Logan want to be in the group chat with us, his son. Yeah, my son want to be. He was like, yeah, put me there.

I'm like, I'm not putting you in the group chat with me. Hey, Logan, you do not want to see what your father and this man talk about. You do not want to see the pictures and stuff they send to each other, Logan. Stay out of there. Stay out of the matrix. All right. When we come back, we got Pastor Ox Nala will be joining us. So don't move. Stay out of the matrix. Alright, when we come back, we got Pastor Ox Nala will be joining us. So don't

move. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. Had enough of this country? Ever dreamt about starting your own? I planted the flag. This is mine. I own this. It's surprisingly easy. 55 gallons of water, 500 pounds of concrete. Or maybe not. No country willingly

gives up their territory. Oh my God. What is that? Bullets. Listen to Escape from Zakistan. That's Escape from Z-A-Q-istan on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Hey guys, I'm Kate Max. You might know me from my popular online series, The Running Interview Show, where I run with celebrities, athletes, entrepreneurs, and more. After those runs, the conversations keep going. That's what my podcast, Post Run High, is all about. It's a chance to sit down with my guests and dive even deeper into their stories, their journeys, and the thoughts that arise once we've hit the pavement together. Listen to Post Run High on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. As a kid, I really do remember having these dreams and visions, but you just don't know what is going to come for you.

Alicia shares her wisdom on growth, gratitude, and the power of love. I forgive myself. It's okay. Have grace with yourself. You're trying your best and you're going to figure out the rhythm of this thing. Alicia Keys, like you've never heard her before. Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. good. We've got chills, thrills, and stories that'll make you wish the lights stayed on. So join me, won't you? Let's dive into the eerie unknown together. Sleep tight, if you can. Listen to Haunting on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Daphne Caruana Galizia was a Maltese investigative journalist who on October 16th, 2017, was assassinated.

Crooks Everywhere unearthed the plot to murder a one-woman WikiLeaks. She exposed the culture of crime and corruption that were turning her beloved country into a mafia state. Listen to Crooks Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.