The Breakfast Club - Does Being Pregnant Slow Down Your Career?

Episode Date: June 21, 2023

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Jess Hilarious is here. Charlamagne is out. Now, if you just joined us, we were talking about 805-851-051, Issa Rae. In an interview yesterday with Tigger, Issa Rae was talking about one of her biggest fears is to get pregnant. She said,

I have a fear of getting pregnant. i don't want to be slowed down and i'm talking about in her career so that is the question 800-585-1051 we're asking ladies do you feel like if you become pregnant it slows you down is that your biggest fear when it comes to your career and life that is the question 800-585-1051 let's listen to isa ray first yeah that's always been a been a thing for me like i just have a fear maybe this will change my mind playing this role but i'm just like i don't want to i don't want to be slowed down for any reason and my friends are like girl it's not gonna slow you down it's fine but i don't believe them now let's start with you jess jess what what are your thoughts i don't think that it slows you

i don't think it has to slow you down i think like times are different now i don't and i can't even speak for everybody because i know when i was pregnant i got pregnant at a young age and i got pregnant when i was 19 i had my son when i was 20 it didn't slow me down but i also didn't know what i what i wanted to do yet. You know, I was still, like, working, like, dead-end jobs. You know what I mean? McDonald's overnight. And I couldn't even keep a job at 19.

You know what I mean? So when I, but when I realized I wanted to step into a career and that was this, you know, he was, like, two. And it just still didn't slow me down. I want to have actually more children now i would if i was already you know married and everything but i don't think it has to slow you down let me ask you a question if you were pregnant now do you feel like it would slow you down because you know right now jess is is doing everything right you're doing concerts you're doing you know you're on the road you got tv you're doing the breakfast club you're doing so much do you feel like if you were

pregnant now that that would slow you down? I often think about that and I really do not think so. I have a big, a huge support system. Both of my parents, even with my son now, his dad is in his life. And then I have a huge family. My little sister, she acts as a nanny for me sometimes. No, I just, it depends on like like the support and i have a huge support system and a great foundation so i don't think it'll slow me down now tesla figaro she's she's

still with us now tes you you have a young daughter as well so do you feel like being or being pregnant do you you feel like it slowed you down and if you're pregnant now do you feel like it would slow down what you're doing now yeah absolutely and thank you for letting me sit in on this because i think it's important people hear two different you know perspectives from women and just hit it right on the nail it really does come down to your support system now for me i got married and we didn't have our first child uh i have one until we were married for seven years so i didn't have a child young and even still being married um when you are married your husband and your children really do come before you.

So that means that you're making an adjustment. His career moved. So I had to move, which means I had to stop school. I had to pick it back up online. I mean, it is an adjustment. And I want to be very clear with women that although, you know, you may think your family may be supportive or you may think you have the support, you don't know. You'll have to move. I've had to move in five different cities. I've moved over 10 times. Both my parents are in the ground, you know, so I've lost both my parents. And even then, they wouldn't have been in the city to help me anyway. So I'm an only child. I don't have brothers and sisters. There was not, you know, this large family that's just going to come by and, you know, and help. But I was still highly successful. I ran

my own business in Orlando called the Ally Group. I had 300 employees. You know, I won Orlando Business Journal twice. So you can still be successful. But it is an adjustment. It took me longer to finish my degree. I got two degrees, but it still took me longer. There was an adjustment. I had to slow down. And to be clear, my ex-husband, he's my ex-husband now. He is very much involved in my child's life from an emotional, physically, financial. So there's no dad beat dad. You know, this is a co-parent situation similar to Jess. But even still, it slowed down some of the things I wanted to do. Still got it done, but it did take a little bit longer. I would say that, you know, part of me is being a little guilty to feeling like my career took off and i didn't allow my wife's

career to take off right so my wife is you know a major in communications and she had aspirations for for doing so many different things but you know we had our we had madison early and being from new york i couldn't afford to live in in new york it was too expensive so i had to drive an hour out the way in jersey which put us in a place in the suburbs where she knew nobody there was no way for her to get to work and there was no way for her to get to the city and then get back to pick up our child and she wanted to raise the child so it wasn't no nanny so it wasn't a babysitter because we didn't have any family out there right so because you know we did that she had to sacrifice her career to raise our family which has always been something that i always you know felt funny from because it's like

she allowed me to help me get my career and I never did the same for her because she had the family so I think it did slow her her career down. It does. Damn you Envy. What? You just let loose all with dangling all early and you just

pursuing your life and you didn't even say hey baby you want to go back to school? You just said hey nah baby keep having these kids but let's open up the phone lines 800-585-1051 the question is ladies do you feel like uh being pregnant slows your career down or did it slow your career down or maybe it didn't let's talk about it when we come back it's the breakfast club morning. It's topic time. Call 800-585-1051 to join in to the discussion with The Breakfast Club. Let's talk about it. Morning, everybody.

It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. Charlamagne is out. Jess Hilarious is here. And if you just joined us, we've been talking about women being pregnant. Does that slow your career down? Now, this came from Issa Rae. She was interviewing with Tigger.

And this is what she said. Yeah, that's always been a thing for me. Like, I just have a fear. Maybe this will change my mind, playing this role. But I'm just like, I don't want to be slowed down for any reason. And my friends are like, girl, it's not going to slow you down. It's fine. But I don't believe them. All right.

So we're asking 800-585-1051. Does pregnancy slow you down? Has it slowed you down? Let's go to the phone lines. Desi, good morning. Good morning. How are you guys? Hey, girl.

So I just wanted to tell you guys that I just had a baby a year ago. He's about to turn one July 31st. And I just graduated with my AA in business administration. Congrats. And I'm going back for my bachelor's degree in business as well. And I'm a full-time social media influencer. And I just want to say, like, having a baby does not slow you down whatsoever. It's just how motivated you are and how determined you are.

That's what's going to push you. A baby does not stop nothing. I totally agree with you. Hello, who's this? This is Dre. How you doing? Hey, Dre. Good morning. Good morning. Has the pregnancy slowed you down, Dre?

No, it has not. Talk to yourself. You know, I feel like that it would slow my girlfriend down, but not too much. She's actually a model and a fashion designer, so if she were to just get pregnant, then, you know, she wouldn't be able to do as much of those things. Dre, no disrespect, I don't want to hear from you. You know, I want to hear from the women. Oh, I see. I feel it. I feel it. How are you going to answer the question about being pregnant?

I love that, like, yeah, man man I feel like it'll slow my girlfriend down Like yo Hello Hello Hey what's your name mama My name is Angie Good morning y'all Good morning

Good morning Angie We're talking about pregnancy Do you feel like It would slow you down Or are you nervous about it No Okay so this is a funny topic Because I just came home from Florida

I'm originally from Miami My baby turned five And we went to Orlando with my family. Okay. And they were just pressuring me to have a kid. They want my son to have a sibling. I'm the oldest of four. I'm the oldest of 14 grandchildren. I don't want no more damn kids.

Okay. Why? Why are you scared it'll slow you down more? Or did your first one slow you down? Why? Not at all. I just don't have patience so i feel like i feel like i will get slowed down because i'm kind of driven and i

wanted to get to where i want to get so multiple kids i don't know how even edzie has so many children that's a lot yeah i have six but you know the thing about my six is they're all over the gamut like i got a 21 year old 19, or pretty much self-sufficient. They don't need me. You know, every once in a while, dad, can you throw some money in my account? Or dad, I need this. And I do have a 10, a 9, a 6, and an 18-month-old, which requires a lot. And I will say it did slow my wife down.

It did slow her career down because there's certain things that she cannot do. You know, she has to get up in the morning, take those kids. She has to pick them up. And my kids are in all type of activities and she has to get around and get them and you know i help as much as possible and we do have some help but yeah it definitely slowed her career down of what she wanted to do i'm not you know can't even sit in line yeah like with men it's like a little different you know it's just mom mom mom all the time and i don't know, even with my mom, I gotta take her here,

take her back. I can't do another one. Then they want me to have a girl. It's just not happening. I feel you. Thank you, my mom. Hello, who's this?

Hi, my name is Casey. I'm from Orlando, born and raised. Hey, okay. Are you talking about being pregnant and slowing you down? Let's talk about it.

Well, my sister, she's 23 years old. She lives alone. You know, she had two dogs, a cat, two tarantulas. And she was terrified of the six-week abortion ban in Florida. And she got a tubal ligation, you know, cut her in the tube just to prevent herself from getting pregnant or being forced to carry a pregnancy in Florida. So she was so scared to get pregnant. And with the pregnancy, with the abortion ban, she got a tubal ligation? Yeah. or being forced to carry a pregnancy in Florida. So she was so scared to get pregnant, and with the pregnancy, with the abortion ban, she got a tubal ligation?

Yeah, at 23. Jesus Christ. She definitely didn't want to get pregnant. Is she nervous of being pregnant because she feels like it'll slow her career down or something like that? Yeah, she's 23. She lives alone. She has her own apartment,

her own place. It depends on nobody but herself. She's 23. There's a rent increase that are going on, if she were to get pregnant, she wouldn't be able to keep her animals, but she could sit with the kids as it is. But it would totally uproot and change her life.

23, a two-bligation? Yeah, it's 23, a two-bligation. I thought you had to be able to have a certain amount of kids to even do that. I didn't think that you had, and then 23, you got to be a certain age to do that, too. And then how does she know she's going to feel that way at 33? Well, she got two dogs, two cats, a tarantula, a spider, and a hen. Oh, Dr. Doolittle.

So she's straight. Yeah, she's straight. Now, let me ask you a question, Jess. When it comes to being pregnant, let's say, you know, I guess you would have to feel that way, too. Because let's say you're shooting a movie, right? And you become pregnant during the movie, and the character is not pregnant. So I guess you have have to feel a way to because let's say you're shooting a movie, right? And you become pregnant during the movie and the character is not pregnant. So I guess you have to hide that. I guess you'd kind of be nervous, you know, if you are a woman and no situations happen

or if you're on a sitcom or if you're on a series or if you're doing something where, you know, you have to play a character. Right. And then you become pregnant. You know, how does that work? Because, you know, what do you do for shooting now? Nowadays, it's different. Nowadays, it's like it would be considered they so scared of like discrimination like oh they they put me off because i was pregnant so what they would do is if it's an

ongoing show they will write it in they will write it in some type of way and then it depends on the type of show it is um they would either have to put put it on hold until after you had a baby or rush and shoot it before you start showing it just depends it depends on a bunch of different variables nowadays back then it was like uh-uh but now people embrace all types of like you know maternity shoots and i mean uh you know um but yeah paternity is different maternity like uh roles and stuff like that and um i could still do stand-up i can still come in here i could still you know it is it is not as limited as it used to be. Right.

So. All right. Well, all right. You got a final thought? A final thought. Just don't get pregnant if you don't have no support, but get pregnant if you have support. I mean, I think the whole thing is a support system. I mean, and having family around, it definitely helps.

Yeah. Women who have to take on being pregnant by their self, I know it's a lot on them because there is nobody to help. There is nobody to give them the break. Because sometimes as a parent, you just need a break. Your kid's bothering the ish out of you

or the baby's crying and you just need that little, give me my little 10, 15 minutes or my hour or my day just to breathe a little bit. Because it could send you mentally insane just as a parent. For a first time parent who has to do it by themselves it is definitely hard yeah so i i just

do what's best for you and you know if you have support and you're not scared jump out there but do what's best for you all right well we got rumors coming up what we talking about uh ray j took his kids to school for the first time in in june yeah i said what damn school they go to jesus okay all right we'll get to it next it's the breakfast club good morning good morning kids to school for the first time. In June? Yeah, I said, what damn school they go to? Jesus, okay. All right, we'll get to it next. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Good morning.

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