The Breakfast Club - FULL SHOW: "Are We Live?! W/ Ray J", Khadeen & Devale Ellis Speak On Putting Work Into The Marriage, What’s The Blueprint To Being Married? And More!

Episode Date: February 7, 2023

Today we are joined again by our guest cohost Ray J.  We also get a chance to sit down with Khadeen & Devale Ellis to speak on putting work into their marriage, their new book and more! Finally, we open our phone lines to discuss what the blueprint to being married is.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Had enough of this country? Ever dreamt about starting your own? I planted the flag. This is mine. I own this. It's surprisingly easy. 55 gallons of water, 500 pounds of concrete. Or maybe not. No country willingly gives up their territory. Oh my God.

What is that? Bullets. Listen to Escape from Zakistan. We need help! That's Escape from Z-A-Q-istan on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey guys, I'm Kate Max. You might know me from my popular online series, The Running Interview Show, where I run with celebrities, athletes, entrepreneurs, and more. After those runs, the conversations keep going. That's what my podcast

Post Run High is all about. It's a chance to sit down with my guests and dive even deeper into their stories, their journeys, and the thoughts that arise once we've hit the pavement together. Listen to Post Run High on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. As a kid, I really do remember having these dreams and visions, but you just don't know what is going to come for you. Alicia shares her wisdom on growth, gratitude, and the power of love. I forgive myself. It's okay.

Have grace with yourself. You're trying your best. And you're going to figure out the rhythm of this thing. Alicia Keys, like you've never heard her before. Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. like you to join us each week for our show Civic Cipher. That's right. We discuss social issues especially those that affect black

and brown people but in a way that informs and empowers all people. We discuss everything from prejudice to politics to police violence and we try to give you the tools to create positive change in your home, workplace and social circle. We're going to learn how to become better allies to each other so join us each Saturday for Civic Cipher

on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, y'all. Niminy here. I'm the host of a brand new history podcast for kids and families called Historical Records. Executive produced by Questlove, The Story Pirates, and John Glickman, Historical Records brings history to life through hip-hop. Each episode is about a different inspiring figure from history. Like this one about Claudette Colvin, a 15-year-old girl in Alabama who refused to give up her seat on the city bus nine whole months before Rosa

Parks did the same thing. Check it. And it began with me. Did you know, did you know? I wouldn't give up my seat. Nine months before Rosa, it was called a moment. Get the kids in your life excited about history by tuning in to Historical Records. Because in order to make history, you have to make some noise.

Listen to Historical Records on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Good morning, USA! Yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, yo, I'm happy day two. No nonsense. Ray, today I'm here to handle business and give my opinions on things. Ray is a big mogul, man. I'm going to tell you why Ray is hilarious to me. Ray did the show yesterday.

Ray said people have been hitting him up crazy. Ray said he's been walking down the street. People are like, oh, I heard you're on Breakfast Club today. So Ray came in here today with all his products. Yes, he did. He didn't leave nothing. Nothing at all. I ain't never seen these, though.

What are these, blood bags? No, that's a Mary bag. That's not blood bags. Oh, I don't know. It's a Mary. The company of Mary. The jean company of Mary. I don't know nothing about that.

I act my wage. He said, what are they, blood bags? The blood bags. They look like blood bags. I know, that's why I like it, but they got blue ones and I think other colors, too. They got other colors, as well, yeah. He got all his Raycon products. All the Raycon products I think other colors, too. They got other colors as well, yeah. He got all his Raycon products. All the Raycon products.

Shout out to Raycon. We got the Herbal Raw in here. Herbal Raw. Crystal's going to be here doing breakfast this morning. Yep. What's that? Also, I was hot yesterday, so I got the Raytronics fan to cool me down. Raytronics fan.

No, I ain't doing that no more. No, because my breast was out yesterday. My breast was out? You knew you had those breasts before you took your shirt off? Nah, I didn't know. Nah, when I was looking in the mirror, fam, earlier that day, because maybe I was tired. But I thought that I improved.

You thought they were a little perkier than they were? So I was hiding kind of here from the whole thing, but then y'all caught me here. Caught you on the side. Yeah, I saw the drop. I'm like, they caught me. And then it was like mimi it was very meaningful yeah very meaningful i don't mind being meaningful but today i want to showcase a different side to show the balance and then crystal friday is when i go back to lit ray okay okay all right i'm saying crystal friday so crystal coming fr. Crystal coming Friday.

Crystal here right now. Okay, okay, okay. Crystal Squad here right now. Shout out to JC. Smooth to JC. Yes, sir. But yeah, no, we here. And we actually setting up a Crystal campaign downstairs, a commercial and stuff too.

So if I got my earpiece in and I'm talking, I'm talking to some of the people downstairs. Oh, okay. It's a great day in motion, boy. Smooth to Crystal. My wife and I in business with Crystal. There you some of the people downstairs. Ray J in motion, boy. Look at Crystal. My wife and I are in business with Crystal. There you go. Crystal's coming to our home state of South Carolina. That's what it is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Drop a bomb for that. Yes.

So, shout out to Crystal one more time. They've been doing some real cool stuff with Ray J as far as our commercials. You gotta drop on a cool bomb for 2 Chainz, too. You know he's the creative marketing director. Shout out to 2 Chainz. That is dope. Shout out to 2 Chainz, man. 2 Chainz, super fly, director. Shout out to 2 Chainz. That's dope, Crystals. That is dope, too. I love 2 Chainz, man. 2 Chainz, super fly, too. Oh, come on, man.

Is that what he had on at the brunch? Come on, man. Now, for people that don't know what Crystals is, what is Crystal? Because, you know, it's not heavy on the East Coast. It's a restaurant that sells sliders. So, you know, the slider burgers, slider chicken sandwiches. They got breakfast, everything. Okay.

Yeah. All right. They got the new breakfast, too. They got the new breakfast from 6 to 11. They got the side chicks Yeah Alright well let's get They got the new breakfast too They got the new breakfast From 6 to 11 They got the side chicks All night 24 hours

And you know They got the pimento cheese They got the barbecue They got the plain But the side chicks Been killing them Like if you ever wanted A side chick

Yes Crystal got them We talking about sliders now Okay I know what you're talking about You see I was backing out Chicken sandwiches Okay Yeah no not like that

But this is your But here's what's crazy. This is your opportunity to experience a side chick the right way. I like how you did that, Ray. I'm saying, so shout out to Crystal. But Ray J's getting in motion.

He got the mascara out. And Kadeen and DeVell Ellis will be joining us this morning. They got a book, We Over Me. We're going to be kicking it with them in a little bit. Also, we got guests.

We can ask them questions and stuff. No. you left you left yesterday you gotta stop doing the mascara on camera yo you giving away secrets that a lot of a lot of men hit me yesterday they were mad about that why oh because people be trying to act like they don't have grades like envy so they do that type of stuff in secret i don't know what this man you know you know a hater like i let my grades flourish what are you talking You know what I'm saying? You know what a hater is? He's just a hater. I let my grays flourish. Just a hater. Yes, he's got grays. What are you talking about? See what I'm saying? Envy.

You know, grays be jumping out. Oh, they don't play. They don't play. You get rid of one of them, two, five coming back. From picking one to having a whole family. That's what I'm saying. You get rid of one, five grays coming back to jump on your ass. I just wanted to show everybody that grooming yourself is not bad.

I mean, if you want to go dark, then go dark. You know what I'm saying? If you want to go gray, dye your whole hair gray. There you go. And just get it over with. Just get it over with. Alright, front page news next. We'll tell you the youngest person, I think, to win a lotto. Just imagine being 18 and winning $48 million.

We'll talk about it next. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha God. We are The Breakfast Club. We got our guest host, Ray J, in the building. Yes, indeed. For sure, for sure, man. I feel at home today, man.

You are home. Yes, you are. No nonsense Ray today, though. All right. No nonsense Ray. Let's get in some front page news. Now, there was an earthquake yesterday that killed so far over 4,000 people. I thought that was two days ago. Tonight, the most powerful earthquake to hit Turkey in 100 years striking in the middle of the night as millions were sleeping.

The danger persisting through the day. Clouds of debris billowing into the street. The region rocked by at least 75 aftershocks. Across the quake zone, the death toll rising steadily throughout the day. We now know more than 3,700 people were killed. And at this overwhelmed hospital, a doctor making this plea. We have information that hundreds of patients are still under the brace. The situation is too bad. We need urgent help.

At least 45 countries pledging support, including the United States. President Biden speaking with Turkey's President Erdogan late today, u.s search and rescue teams are quote deploying quickly to the region backstabbing monday morning why was that uh earthquake so deadly man lord have mercy 75 aftershocks man they said 5600 buildings were destroyed but if you think about it if those are buildings where people actually live and those buildings are destroyed fall down Fall down. You play with Mother Nature if you want to. You know what I'm saying? You play with God if you want to. When God is ready to shut things down, things get shut down.

Yeah. And there's nothing you can do about it. It don't matter what your financial status is. It don't matter what your race is, your sexuality. What you identify as. When it's over, it's over. Yeah. Now, and some good news, in Canada,

an 18-year-old won $48 million. Now, this was the first time she ever played the lotto because she just turned 18 and in Canada, you have to be 18 to play the lotto, so she just won $48 million. How much did she put up? I didn't say. I don't even know if she's

single or what, but she got $48 million. You said you don't know if she's single. If she's single, people are going to be hollering at her like crazy. What are you talking about? Exactly. Ray asked you how much she paid for tickets, and you talk about I don't know if she's single or what. You going to put Logan on it? This guy crazy. This guy going to fly Logan to

Canada. Why not? I wonder how Canada's tax is with that $48 million. I know it's different from here. I know that having that money that young can be really dangerous with no financial literacy though so i pray that hopefully she does yeah yeah i pray that young lady taps in with some really great people and learns what to do with that money i gotta go reach out now a single ticket and you said you gotta go reach out for financial you know okay you know consulting all right now a single ticket in washington uh yesterday matched

all winning numbers of the powerball so if you had the number 5 11 22 23 69 and powerball 7 you won 754 million wait say that's 5 11 did you buy your ticket in washington and it's not you did it's not you did i didn't even know powerball is on Monday. I thought Powerball was Wednesdays and Saturdays. So the ticket I bought that I didn't look at, that one, that one still could have probably won $200. He might have won something. Yeah, he could have won something. Last time I played was Saturday.

Yo, I feel like they change these things the bigger these jackpots get. I don't remember Powerball being on no Monday, bro. Powerball are Wednesdays and Saturdays. Monday, Wednesdays, and Saturdays. I did not know that. Yeah, well, you missed that on that one. I never knew Powerball was on Monday. Well, that person got a lump sum of $407 million.

Oh, they took the tax run? Yeah, they took it. They didn't want to pay it? No, no monthly. Hold on, they claimed it already? They just won yesterday? No, no, that's what they would win when they pick it up. Oh, okay, okay.

Because, you know, you have a cash value or... Got you. Yeah, so they took the cash value. You think they already know they won? Nah, they're just waking up to that news, probably. So woke up this morning you know you can you know it'll say 700 whatever million then this morning it said 20 so you know somebody won yeah they just woke up to this morning unless they stayed up last night to see i doubt that because i don't think you think you're gonna you're gonna at all because i bought my ticket and kept pushing didn't even look back

well congratulations to that it depends but yeah, but yeah, congratulations. And lastly, AMC Movie Theater. I think this is pretty smart. They should have did this a long time ago. They're charging more for good seats in movie theaters. So you know how you have the middle row and it's closer? They're charging for that now. So now, you know, before you would get to the movie theater early so you could get the good seats.

Now they're actually charging for good seats. So it's the same thing. If you're on a plane, you want to fly first class or Delta Comfort or same thing, you want to go to the game. If you're closer, it's going to cost you more money. So now movie theaters are starting to do that as well. I don't like that. I like that. I like that. The reason I really don't like that for movie theaters is because you're just getting people to come back to movie theaters because really the best seat to watch a movie is in your house. Right. You know what I mean? So to charge people more money for a better seat, they shouldn't do that.

They probably got to do that or close the movie. They probably ain't making no money. So they got to do that to possibly make some more money for a better seat they shouldn't do that they probably gotta do that or close the movie they probably ain't making no money so they gotta do that to pop possibly make some more money well that ain't gonna make me go to the movie theater having to pay more money for a better seat i'll sit your ass in the back no i'm gonna sit my ass at home the top seats is cool too top seats are good like the top seats too close is never never good you like to go to the one with the seats with the food they bring you out with the drinks that's dope and it's not too many movies you want to see in theaters nowadays. Like, you really just want to see the big, big blockbusters in theaters. Everything else you can watch at the house.

Yeah, I want to watch everything at the house. All right. Well, that is front page news. Get it off your chest. 800-585-1051. If you need to vent, you want to holler at Ray J. He's here again. 800-585-1051.

It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Wake's here again. 800-585-1051. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Wake that ass up. Now I ain't about to go crazy, but this Ray J. and I've officially joined The Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club. Is your country

falling apart? Feeling tired? Depressed? A little bit revolutionary? Consider this. Start your own country. I planted the flag. I just kind of looked out of like, this is mine. I own this. It's surprisingly easy. There's 55 gallons of water, 500 pounds of concrete. Everybody's doing it. I am King Ernest Emmanuel. I am the Queen of Laudonia. I'm Jackson I, King of Capraburg. I am the Supreme Leader of the Grand Republic of Mentonia. Be part of a great colonial tradition. The Waikana tried my country.

My forefathers did that themselves. What could go wrong? No country willingly gives up their territory. I was making a racket with a black powder, you know, with explosive warheads. Oh my God. What is that? Bullets.

Bullets. We need help! We need help! We still have the off-road portion to go. Listen to Escape from Zagistan. And we're losing daylight fast. That's Escape from Z-A-Q-istan on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Kate Max. You might know me from my popular online series, The Running Interview Show, where I run with celebrities, athletes, entrepreneurs, and more. After those runs, the conversations keep going. That's what my podcast, Post Run High, is all about. It's a chance to sit down with my guests and dive even deeper into their stories, their journeys,

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As a kid, I really do remember having these dreams and visions, but you just don't know what is going to come for you. Alicia Keys opens up about conquering doubt, learning to trust herself, and leaning into her dreams. I think a lot of times we are built to doubt the possibilities for ourselves. For self-preservation and protection. It was literally that step by step. And so I discovered that that is how we get where we're going. This increment of small, determined moments. Alicia shares her wisdom on growth, gratitude, and the power of love. I forgive myself. It's okay. Like grace. Have grace with yourself. You're trying your best.

And you're going to figure out the rhythm of this thing. Alicia Keys, like you've never heard her before. Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, what's up? This is Ramses Jha. And I go by the name Q Ward.

And we'd like you to join us each week for our show Civic Cipher. That's right. We're going to discuss social issues, especially those that affect Black and Brown people, but in a way that informs and empowers all people to hopefully create better allies. Think of it as a Black show for non-Black people. We discuss everything from prejudice to politics to police violence, and we try to give you the tools to create positive change in your home, workplace, and social circle. Exactly. Whether you're Black, Asian, White, Latinx, Indigenous, LGBTQIA+, you name it. If you stand with us, then we stand with you. Let's discuss the stories and

conduct the interviews that will help us create a more empathetic, accountable, and equitable America. You are all our brothers and sisters, and we're inviting you to join us for Civic Cipher each and every Saturday with myself, Ramses Jha, Q Ward, and some of the greatest minds in America. Listen to Civic Cipher every Saturday on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey there, my little creeps. It's your favorite ghost host, Teresa. And guess what?

Haunting is back, dropping just in time for spooky season. Now, I know you've probably been wandering the mortal plane, wondering when I'd be back to fill your ears with deliciously unsettling stories. Well, wonder no more, because we've got a ghoulishly good lineup ready for you. Let's just say things get a bit extra. We're talking spirits, demons, and the kind of supernatural chaos that'll make your spooky season complete. You know how much I love this time of year. It's the one time I'm actually on trend.

So grab your pumpkin spice, dust off that Ouija board. Just don't call me unless it's urgent. And tune in for new episodes every week. Remember, the veils are thin, the stories are spooky, and your favorite ghost host is back and badder than ever. Listen to Haunting on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Ray, Ray, Ray!

Yo, Charlamagne. Izzy, what up? Are we live? This is your time to get it off your podcasts. Ray, Ray, Ray! Yo, Charlamagne. Envy, what up? Are we live? This is your time to get it off your chest. I got an indoor pool, an outdoor pool. We want to hear from you

on The Breakfast Club. We can get on the phone right now. He'll tell you what it is. Are we live? Hello, who's this? Yo, what's going on, Envy? This is Dingo.

Dingo, what up, man? 9-3-5. What's up, bro? How y'all feeling? I'm good, brother. What's going on? Get it off your chest. Hey, i'm getting off my chest ray j good brother how you doing my man how you doing my brother man everything is good i'm strong today beautiful i'm glad to hear it man i'm very glad to have you as a host man i'm a long time listener a long time caller

as well wanted to pick your brain if i could, man. Please. I wanted to get some advice on, you know, your brand and how you made it a global success. I'm also a brand owner, clothing brand, Dingo0925 Streetwear. And I want to be on the level of success like you, brother. So I just wanted to, you know, pick your brain. If you could give me some advice. Big Mogul Ray. Come on, Big Mogul. I appreciate that.

I think the main thing is that if you're in a business and you're doing it with the team and you're in, it's starting to be successful. I think the main thing to do is to make sure you hire right. You hire the right CFO. You hire the right CEO, COO. And I think building that kind of team will give you a lot of leverage. And I think it'll help, you know, actually build the empire, because a lot of times when you i think it'll help you know actually build the empire um because a lot of times when you got the business you could be the founder but a lot of times people play ceo and cfo and every other position and i think that's when it when when it gets loose but i think to to have a team that you build that's smart in every area um and you play founder or you play cso or cmo or whatever you good at I think having that starting five

it's gonna get you where you gotta go great advice great advice great advice have a strong team around you hello who's this hello hey what's your name mama Savannah hey Savannah get it off your chest hi I am actually calling to shoot my shot at Ray Day, but not like that. Okay, well, all right. Shoot your shot, mama. I actually applied to a job at Raycon a few times, and the job keeps getting reposted, but it's for the CRM manager position. I have five years of experience

doing email marketing. I just wanted to go and shoot my shot. Nah, listen. I got one of my Raycon partners with me right now. Tell us your email right now, and we'll email you, and then we'll follow up right now with you. You know what?

We're going to put you on hold because when you put that email out there, everybody will be emailing you, all right? Yeah. Oh, we live? We live. We live. We live, Rijal. Hold on.

Okay. Hello, who's this? Yeah, what's up, Ernie? What's up, Trav? Salome. Trav, what up, sis? Where's Ray J? Ray. Ray. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, up, Irving? What's up, Trav? Charlamagne. Trav, what up, sis? Where Ray J? Ray.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Ray, I've been trying to get in contact with you for a minute, Ray. I've got to ask you a question, Ray. Okay. I'm here. Listen, a few years ago, you said you knew some booty goons, and I need to see if you still know them because I need you to put me on to one of them. I love me a booty goon.

So Travis is our gay listener. You know the brothers that like brothers. So Travis is our gay listener. He calls all the time. He's a friend to the room. I think Ray J can understand that he's gay. Okay, I just make sure. I don't think you had to explain that.

Well, you had to at this moment. You had that moment. But first off there at this moment at that moment but um no i first off angela yee made that word up like i've never ever used that word booty goons well you said you said you know brothers that like now i did say that i did say that i said a little more vulgar yes but um but i'm i do have i do have a new network i'm working with called the dash network and it's loaded with love over there. By love, he means booty goons. I don't get a thing, because booty goons, to me,

waters down the stronger strength of the person. So I feel like Angela Yee watered it down and made it corny when what I said was way more out of line. Send me a booty goon, Ray. Tell him to DM me. Yeah, I don't know if I can actually see you. You might be missing some money here. This could be like a new love connection site.

Like, you could be, you know, connecting brothers like Trav with the thug, the gay thugs that they looking for. You decided that? You decided that's it, though? And what's crazy is with the new network, the LGBTQ is strong. And I've been educated on a lot of things like who's T not clock yet. You want to be with somebody who T not clock yet, right? What does that mean?

What does that mean? My Instagram is AKA underscore twin. Tell her to send me a vanishing message. Okay, only booty goons. A vanishing message, she said. I think there'll be street, but we got to eliminate the terminology of it because it's got to be flyers. Booty goons is just, it's a very watered down, like, thug.

I get what you're saying. I get what you're saying. Send me a watered down booty goon, Ray. I don't care what you're talking about. What do you mean to have T knocked down? What did you say? T knocked clock. T knocked clock.

Yeah, so I got a show with Mangina, who loves Mangina. And she kind of breaks down a lot of the different terminology. Mangina? Yeah, Mangina. Shout out to Mangina. They're my kind of conversations, right? No, it's deep. I'll show you some of the scenes.

It's really like they take me into a very, very personal world. And I get educated on it. and when i come out of the world i'm like okay that's what's up i mean wow don't refer to any conversations with man gina is deep sir just come with it yeah it's hard it's hard it's hard it's hard i'm trying to be hands on okay but i do like the topic y'all probably touch on you know i mean no it's no because for people like you know in my world and then people in like the q y'all probably touch on. You know what I mean? You touch on hard. For people in my world and then people in the Q world or the LGBT world, to have those conversations and understand each other is something new.

And I think we're breaking the ice with that and breaking down barriers. You could be doing For the Love of Booty. I don't. For the Love of Booty. That's a great name. Get it off your chest. 800-585-1051. Ray J's here. You know what?

I don't... You know what, Charlamagne? If you help me produce that... I don't... I think you need to get somebody from the community. I think y'all stood together. I think this is a bad time

to have a call to Josh Network to see what I can do. But if you help me, if you with me, it's a hit. We gotta get somebody from the LGBTQ community to EP as well. Yeah, no, no, no.

Of course. It's the Breakfast Club. Come on in. Wake that ass up. Now I ain't about to go crazy. But this is Ray J. And I've officially joined the Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club.

Uh, catheter in there and put some numbing medicine in there. So listen. He was a young black guy. I was a young teen. He was like, only my mama doesn't see me naked and my wife doesn't see me naked. She can't do this to me. So, I don't know. He was upset

and he wouldn't let me prep him. Jesus Christ. I wouldn't let you prep me either. Soon as you say cath me either I stopped listening I heard about them catheters them catheters ain't no joke I would cry can I set out my new Instagram

after all that sure go ahead in my own lane driving fast to Al that's your Instagram you done made me pull my bunny eyes down with the front hole. You stupid. Have a good one, mama.

Get it off your chest. 800-585-151. If you need to vent, you can holler at us. Now, when we come back, we got to talk about Cardi B. Cardi B was being a wife, as she should have been, and trying to squash some beef. We'll get into it next. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning.

The Breakfast Club. Good morning. The Breakfast Club. I knew that was Cap. And the reason I knew that was Cap, because backstage at the Grammys, and there's not no video. Come on, man. We've all been alive long enough to know when a story is fake. Now, an argument I may can believe. Yes, I can believe that.

Possibly. But how do we even know Cardi was talking to those two just now? No, because people tell me that's what's what it was who told you that people backstage oh so your your report is from envy no i heard i heard that yesterday but i didn't want to say anything because i wanted to confirm it oh so this is from envy i love you i don't care it's like cardi's yelling that offset in quayville how we know because she said she she yelled at somebody and then she said... Both of y'all are wrong. She called somebody the B-word.

She said B-word and she should have been talking. I heard that. That makes me think she's talking to a woman. Yeah, she said both of y'all are wrong. But, you know, that's what she's supposed to do. I mean, in my opinion, that's, you know, Offset's wife and they're beefing him. And she's playing her part. That's what she's supposed to do, right?

Charlamagne's saying that he need more facts. We know what era we live in, man. Offset and Quavo got into a fight backstage at the Grammys. They didn't say physical altercation. They said argument. No, yesterday they said a fight. They said a physical fight. I heard the physical fight.

I mean, I just heard. But we all heard a lot of stuff. We was out here working. TMZ said physical fight. I was like, there's no way that's happening with no video. I heard an argument. Now also, people were asking why Will Smith wasn't part of the 50th anniversary

tribute, the hip-hop tribute at the Grammys. Now you know, Will Smith was the first rapper to get a Grammy. So people just assumed he would be there. Snoop Dogg should have been there too. Snoop should have been there. Snoop never won a Grammy. I didn't know that until yesterday. But they said Will Smith was actually supposed to be there, but couldn't be there because

he's shooting Bad Boys 4. So that was the reason why he wasn't there. But he was scheduled to be there, but of course, when shooting happens, he couldn't make it. They need to give my cousin Snoop a Grammy. You and Snoop really related, right? From Mississippi, right? Word. What kind of cousins?

First, second, third? Nah, we like fourth. Oh, okay, okay. Yeah. word what kind of cousins first second third nah we like fourth oh okay okay yeah all right and lastly uh i guess uh brilliant idiots which is uh andrew shelton charlamagne y'all were talking about you people and something i didn't know i didn't know lauren london and jonah hill actually didn't kiss i don't know if you know if i should share but uh the final scene they don't even kiss the CGI Swear to God son. How's the CGI? I'm there I'm watching the wedding and I see them going for the kiss and their faces stop like this far and I'm like I wonder How they gonna play that in the movie? Oh, they're probably just gonna cut right there

But the movie you can see their faces come close and then you can see their faces move a little bit Wow into a fake kiss with the Lauren London making Dr. Umar proud and real. That's what I'm saying, bro. You might have got pissed off in the movie. Dr. Umar might have got pissed off in the movie, but in real life, Lauren London's like, you. Me and Andrew thinking about launching the podcast, man. That's what we thinking about.

I thought Ray J was about to get up and kiss me, man. Ray J just got up in the middle of the break. He got up and he was like, wait a minute. So you're telling me that you can kiss and not kiss? He started walking towards her. What are you doing, bro? It's real early right now for that. But I wonder why.

I guess she just didn't feel comfortable kissing anybody. Man, drop one of Clues' bombs because she listened to Dr. Umar. That's why. What Dr. Umar be talking about? He don't believe in that. He don't believe in black on white relationships. He don't believe black on white people should be together. Black and white people should be married, dating, believe in that. He don't believe in black on white relationships. He don't believe black on white people should be together. Black and white people should be married, dating, any of that.

Really? Dr. Omar. And if he feels like if you do, you might be entitled to some slashes. Lashes. Dr. Slash. Wait, like lashes for your eyes? Not eyelashes. Like back in the day, slave lashes.

Lord have mercy. I don't even know. I really don't know if Lauren and Jonah kissed. I saw it. I can't tell. I guess when Andrew put that in my- But he was there. He's in the day, slave lashes. Lord have mercy. I don't even know. I really don't know if Lauren and Jonah kissed. I saw it. I can't tell. I guess when Andrew puts it in my head. But he was there. He's in the movie. I know that.

And when Andrew puts it in my head and I look, I'm like, damn, it do look fake. But they kissed twice in the movie, though. Why he just didn't get somebody with the same hairdo and then just do it like that and just be a real human instead of CGI? I don't know. Only Kenya can clear this up. Kenya, Kenya, you got to. Only Kenya can confirm this.

Kenya Barris. All right. Kenya, Kenya, you got it. Only Kenya can confirm this. Kenya Barris. All right. Well, that is your rumor report. Now, when we come back, your president's going to address the nation. We'll tell you what he'll be discussing tonight. So don't move. We'll get into it next. It's The Breakfast Club.

Good morning. The Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same. Thank you for synthesizers, instant replay, peanut butter, and standard time. Are these just words strung together? Or is it just some connection between them? I don't have the answer, but Crown Royal does. Curious?

Well, that's an itch you can scratch this Super Bowl Sunday. Please drink responsibly. Doing that, though. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. We got our guest host, Ray J. Yeah.

I thought I was just the host, though. We talked, and I said you know I like the seat and you know I feel at home. I keep saying I'm at home meaning like I'm at home. You know what I'm saying? Not with your coat on. Yeah you got that heavy ass Montclair on.

It's fly though. That's why you still wearing it. It was the outfit. But I get comfortable. Alright well let's get into some still wearing it. That's why you still got it at the trench. It was the outfit. Yeah. But I get comfortable. Okay. All right. Well, let's get into some front page news. Now, your president, Ray J., President Biden, is going to be delivering the State of the Union tonight at 9 p.m. Eastern time.

I like President Ray J. It sounded good, but I know now you're President Ray J. Oh, I got what you're saying. Yeah, my bad. They said you was MAGA for a minute, Ray. Listen, I'm for the people. What i'm i'm i'm for the people what people right i'm for the people for the people but he is going to be uh talking about a bunch of different issues china climate control gun violence irrigation uh opioids ukraine and

he's going to be talking about uh tax people that make over $250,000 more. That's called taxing the rich. He's going to be talking about taxing them more. They're not taxing the rich. They all say that in this cap. They're not taxing the rich because the rich is what keeps them in power. So he's going to be talking about that. COVID-19 and health, education and the economy.

He's going to be addressing all this tonight again at 9pm Eastern Time if you want to check that out. Is China on that list? Yes, China is on that list. Now why I think a lot of people might not be checking out the President is because LeBron he might be breaking the record tonight. Which is the problem with our country by the way. What you just said is what's wrong with our country

in a nutshell. Yeah, he might be breaking the record tonight. He needs 36 points. Now Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, who is the current league leader, he will be in attendance. So, if LeBron scores 36 points or more,

he will be the new leader. Now, they're saying tickets are going for like $69,000. Wait, wait, wait. You think that's a coincidence? $69,000 for where? To see LeBron play tonight.

So, that's a floor seat? Yeah, that's a floor seat. That's courtside, right on the floor. No, no, no. I think that on the floor. No, no, no. I think that's his regular. No, no, no, no. That is courtside.

And then they're saying nine rows back, $42,000. $42,000? I only paid like $4,500 for my courtside tickets. Well, it's a big night, right? It's a big night. LeBron's going to pass the record.

So will Kareem, do you think he would have came to the game tonight if he wouldn't be possibly beating his record? No. He would just say, I'll be at home? Yeah. Yes. I think he would have came to the game tonight if he wouldn't be possibly... Beating his record? No. He would just be at home? Yes. He's at the game because LeBron is possibly going to break the record. That's what I'm saying. I'm curious.

I'm doing my job asking what I thought. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm going to watch it on television. And by the way, watch the State of the Union tonight. Yeah, I'm watching that. Yes, watch the State of the Union tonight. Yeah, I'm watching that. Yes. I'm watching that. I like stuff like that. You think it's a coincidence that they put LeBron on

at the same time as the State of the Union? They want to distract you from what's really important out here in this country. So they want you to watch LeBron or they want you to watch the State of the Union? LeBron. Okay, got it. Which one are you watching on? I'm leaning towards LeBron. I'm not really a basketball watcher. Like if I go to the game, either I'm betting on it or I'm like, I need to do some Raycon

drops or something. I like being on LeBron. Which one are you watching, though? I'm going to watch State of the Union. Yeah. Shout out to LA. I love y'all, but hey, man, I got to do it. I kind of want to watch LeBron.

They're going to give me a good update to State of the Union. Man, y'all should have saw the meme they did when LeBron was mad about the foul. Then they started playing One Wish, and it looked just like the move I was doing. Really? He was like mad about the foul then they start playing one wish and it looked just like the move I was doing really? he was like mad about it alright well that is your front page news now when we come back we got some

special guests joining us we have the Ellis's they have a new book out Kadeen and DeVal Ellis we over me and we gonna talk to them next so don't move it's the Breakfast Club good morning wake that ass up now I ain't about to go crazy but this ray jay and i've officially joined the breakfast club the breakfast club it was first date but you know you'll learn in the book that we have a very rich history he and i actually went to elementary school together okay so it

was the thing where our paths kept crossing over the years and finally that first date was after meeting him at a banquet we got to sit and chat and there was just something about his charisma and his energy he like whatever he said he wanted to do in his life thus far he had gotten it so i was like oh this this could be something did you know she was the one he was the first time you met her no actually I didn't. Damn it, man. Whoa. Damn you, brave man. It's a brave guy. For real, yo. Wow. It was you.

No. Damn it, man. Y'all gonna hit me with the Kevin Hart? I didn't say no like that. Damn. Damn not. We talk on our podcast, and we said in the book, like, she told me she loved me after two weeks.

And I was like, thanks. Yeah, that could be a big much. Was that a turn off? I didn't know. Could have been a turn off. It could have been. I was 18. So you didn't know. It could have been a turn off. It could have been. I was 18. So you didn't say it back?

No, I said thanks. And the reason why I said thanks. Damn. And I still came back for more after the thanks, right? So who's the crazy one? But here's the thing, though. I said thanks because I was like, I don't want to lead her on. Am I going to be a liar and be like, I love you?

And then not know if we're going to be together? So I was like, I didn't know what to say. So I said, thanks. It makes me think, like, can you have a future someone if you can't see a future with someone like you saw the future with him yeah i did and and it's funny it's just the vibe i think that we had from early it was just talking about hopes and dreams and he always spoke like a guy that was just far beyond his years like even with plans for what he wants to do financially with his life and his future and he knew that he didn't want to play football long term he wanted to eventually be an actor so i'm like well how are you gonna do that he's like i'm gonna ride out on the scholarship

i'm gonna see if i could make the nfl if i'm at least on the practice squad i can make a little money to build a little nest egg move back to berkeley and get around so renovated we live on the bottom floor like we had a whole thing planned out that was the first date we talked about that first day first day and when i think about it now 18 year old kids don't speak about building their life like that but when i remember i think i was thinking like that at 18 so did you ever think because he played football he was an athlete like oh he's gonna be one of those oh absolutely absolutely and people warned me too they were like oh like don't even get too involved especially once time came for the n NFL and he was a prospect.

They were like, this is the part where you guys go your separate ways. Let him sow his wild oats. You focus on what you got to focus on. And if you make it out on top after he's out there with these NFL groupies, then maybe things will work out. And it went both ways. They told me when I went to go play football, she wasn't going to wait for me. She was still in school. She was getting her master's degree.

Everybody was like, you think while you're playing ball, she's going gonna be sitting back at Hofstra just waiting for you to come back and there was parts of me I was like dang that's a tall tax and it made me insecure like there's a story we talk about in the book when we couldn't find her for a day she was uh coming back from tracks in Brooklyn yeah it was like a little lounge I used to go to every Thursday with my homegirls and she ran into her uncle on the way back and he was like you're not driving back to Long Island. You're going to come stay when you were drinking or whatever. And she was like, I wasn't drinking, Uncle Emil. So she went to stay with her uncle, fell asleep, left her phone in the car.

She always calls me when she gets back. So now I'm in the locker room. I'm getting ready for team meetings, and I don't get no phone call. I don't get no phone call. Can't concentrate. Can't at all. I wish women understood that. What? I really don't want you i understood how that makes us feel what when

you talk about it bro because i used to tell her all the time like how do you not call me when you get places to this day word up so now i'm in the locker room nfl rookie i didn't even get to practice i didn't get to practice because after that her mom called me said hey we haven't heard from no what yo it's nasty snot somebody got my girl man like I'm crying bawling then my mom calls me um the vowel I think you should come home founder and they don't want to tell you because I'm by myself in Detroit. So I go to the security office. You're in Detroit. I'm in Detroit. I go to the NFL security's office.

I'm like, yo, they can't find my girlfriend. And they've been having issues with people breaking into people's houses, taking people's family members. This happens in the league a lot. Taking for ransom, all that. So they're like, all right, we're going to get our people involved. They called FBI. They broke into her phone. They called campus security. Broke into everything like text messages everything right they're like

we have nothing we found nothing like we don't know where she is give me the time span how long what's that matter of hours i want to say i dropped her my friend another thing that is important to mention this guy parked me in to my parking spot and wouldn't let me out the spot unless i gave him my number that's the last conversation she had we had on the phone he just like was like no i need your number and i'm like i'm really trying to get this parking spot so he was trying to bully me to get my number and i told him that what was happening so yeah he thought for sure homeboy followed me yeah and i wasn't even thinking to put two and two together so it was about maybe 2 a.m about 2 a.m yeah and

literally as i turned the block i pull up and my uncle looks and he's like hey and i was like yeah uncle emil big time protected like you're not driving he was like you about to drive to long island you in brooklyn which is smart which is which i get it that's what you do yeah so then i was missing for about eight hours so you slept from 2 a.m 2 a.m to 10 a.m and then she got to her phone it was just like yo what's going on my yeah i woke up i'm like oh my god where's my phone i get to the car and i was just like, yo, what's going on with my phone? Yeah, I woke up. I'm like, oh, my God, where's my phone? I get to the car, and I was like, oh, it's dead. The minute I turned the phone on, it's like 48 text messages, 30-something voicemails.

My mom is in tears. She was like, don't you ever do that again. Daval is on his way home. I'm like, what? Then I heard that part, and I was so embarrassed. That's why I didn't get to make it to practice. The Lions got me in a flight. Oh, my God.

I'm on my way to the airport. My phone rings. At first, when I was calling her, it went dead. Now like they got her phone they turned it off they sending me the voicemail then i see a phone call from the boss i got in as the boss and i'm like now they're about to ask me for some money whoever this is about having some money so i pick up the phone like yo what up yeah i'm like i'm like who this she's like hey babe hey babe so show me show me i tell you everything i, right? You would think my wife learned, right? Again? What happened this past weekend?

It wasn't that bad. Again? It wasn't that bad. My biggest pet peeve, too, bro. She went to get a massage, right? And she texted me, hey, babe, I'm here. I'll be on my way home. I'll be home at 6, right?

It's 545. I'm thinking she got to be on her way home. Of course. I'm calling like 10 minutes straight. Now, I'm in the car. I'm about to pull out. I get a phone call. Hey Of course. I'm calling like 10 minutes straight. Now I'm in the car. I'm about to pull out. I get a phone call. Hey, babe.

I'm like. Bro. I'm like, no. You better get Life 360 on your phone. I have that. I have that. I have it on all my kids' phones. I know my wife is all the time.

Life 360. I got that. Life 360? Life 360. You know what's crazy? What pisses you off the most is how nonchalant they act. Like it's nothing, right? Like it's nothing.

All right. Lesson learned. Lesson learned. She's going to tell me, she's going to tell me, it's not that big of's nothing. All right, lesson learned. Lesson learned. She's going to tell me, it's not that big of a deal. Relax, I was just on the massage table. No, man.

I don't know why our minds work like that, but we think the worst possible scenario was an argument like after that because now you just can't let it live because it's the second time.

You got to give a grace. You talk about it in the new book how you have to give your partner grace. Yes. That's the fact. That's the big thing for us. The biggest thing for us

is learning how to communicate. We came from different communication styles. yeah completely polar opposite i grew up an athlete nothing was ever good enough for my parents like they were always being hard on me like that then my football coaches extremely hard on me but that made me successful so i felt like if you love someone and you want them to be successful you should be hard on them so i used to be hard on my girlfriend if i saw that she wanted to do something the same way she was like how we gonna do that she said she wanted to do tv how we gonna do it i'm on her oh tv they weigh 120 pounds you need to be in the gym what are your grades like you said you wanted this you need to record more

content and she'd be like bro i thought i was doing the right thing and after five years of marriage that's when i kind of realized he was taking the football approach he thought I was doing the right thing. And after five years of marriage, that's when I kind of realized. Yeah, he was taking the football approach. I was. I'm a teammate, yes, but I'm not like a teammate on the football field. So coming from a background where my family rarely had extensive conversations about anything, it was more so if something happened, you didn't feel so good about it, you feel a way, it'll blow over. Let's just sweep it under the rug. So attacking things head on, communicating about problems, talking about how you felt.

Like there was a huge learning curve for me with just figuring out how to just eloquently even express or formulate in my mind how to tell him how I felt about it. So people see us now and they're like, man, I want to find me a Deval. I want to find me a Kadeen. So we're like, well, Deval and Kadeen you see today is not the Deval and Kadeen that first met each other. This is 20 years in the making. We have more with Kadeen and Deval Ellis whenadeem, you see today, is not the Deval and Kadeem that first met each other. This is 20 years in the making. We have more with Kadeem and Deval Ellis when we come back. Their book, We Over Me, is out today. It's The Breakfast Club.

Good morning. Good morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha God, Ray J, our co-host. We're still kicking it with Kadeem and Deval Ellis. Charlamagne? You know, in the book, y'all talk about friendship and how friendship is the core of the relationship, which I agree with, too. But some people would say love should be the core of a relationship over friendship. What would y'all say?

I would say this. More friendships last than intimate partners. People have boyfriends and girlfriends in and out of their entire life. But some people have friends their whole life. And those friends are allowed grace, right? You have friends that may do something to you. You're like, that's my homeboy. We'll figure it out out but a lot of times when there's love it's like you hurt me and when you hurt me i can't take i can't you know rekindle that hurt this is what we've learned

over the past couple years i no longer try to validate my actions by dismissing the way she feels about it you know and and I think a lot of times in intimate relationships not in not in friendships people do that if your friend is hurt by something a lot of times as your friend you'll be like oh my bad I didn't mean to hurt your feelings but then when your girl does something or your girl's feelings are hurt it's like well I didn't mean to hurt you I did it like this and you shouldn't be hurt you can't tell people not to be hurt by something you did they didn't ask to be hurt they hurt that's right so what we've learned how to do is just accept the other's feelings you feel that way I'm gonna explain to you why I did it I didn't

mean to hurt you but I accept the fact that you feel that way and it's not just a for a man to do to a woman I'd be wanting my feelings to be validated you know I'm saying like that's and that's the manliest thing I can say about it when my wife started to validate my feelings and say she understands how I feel, she didn't always agree, but she understood. I said, at least if you can understand, we can move forward. And that's why I feel like friendship, to me, is the foundation. Because you have friends for life. Now, let me ask you, what do you think about that, Kadeem?

No, I think he's spot on with that. And it's funny, for a while with DeVal, I would encourage him to speak his mind and say how he felt. And then at the same time be like, man, you bitching and moaning every day about something like that. You would say literally I was like, since when did the feeling share and become bitching and moaning? Tell him what you said. We were having a discussion. Right. And this is for the first time in my life. I was just like, well, I'm gonna be honest. This is how I felt to hurt my feelings. And I'm going through what hurt my feelings. She goes, you sound like a bitch. Wow.

Damn it, man. Damn, boy. How did you respond? So me being a very immature person that I am, I said, I don't got to sound like a bitch, but I can go get me another bitch. Because now I'm trying to hurt her. Then it becomes that. I get the tip for that.

It's a tip for that. We were like 26, 27. We were immature. And we tell these stories in the book because we like to tell people the stories through the trauma. I'm not going to make it seem like everything was picture perfect. Because when people fall into a situation in their relationship where they're hurting each other, they feel like I'm the only relationship going through this. And since I'm the only relationship going through this, I'm going to get out of here.

But nah, we was just like, listen, that hurt my feelings my feelings i hurt my feelings i don't mean to do that i didn't mean to say that how can we get back to what we want to do and we spoke we try to i try to encourage it now too because i mean so often women are trying to pull at their men to tell them how do you feel what do you need what do you want and the fact that i have a husband who i think is sometimes even an overshare like sometimes we just like for us marriage seems to be one continued long conversation like it just never ends like we're always talking about something so that's the thing that's been our saving grace for us it's like just being upfront about how we feel off the bat so there's no guessing involved now he's acting now well he's been acting for a long time now, did you ever have a problem with him lip-locking with others? I low-key like that shit.

Really? Look at you. You a cucker? Well, let me tell you. What do people call him? Cuck-queen. Cuck-queen. Cuck-queen. Oh, love that.

Now we're extending my porn vocabulary. But anyway, no, I actually, I think because I understand the industry and I realize like these sex scenes ain't really nothing super sexy about it.

I'm thinking about the environment that he's in when they're actually filming that. But a funny story, two years ago, actually almost two years, he was filming an episode of Sisters or a season of Sisters. So I'm simultaneously watching the episodes that are on air. And he warns me that he has this shower scene coming up with his co-star Crystal. So I was like, like okay all right and he was just like just so you know like it's gonna be a little intense and i'm like how intense can

it be for bt like that's bt so the episode comes on and i see deval got crystal like legs over his shoulder she's up against the shower wall it's a blue light and i'm and then it's just going and it's going and i'm like oh that's what we do right okay cool so what I did I go on Amazon I was like blue light bulb so I ordered me a blue light bulb and the lamp came to the door I screwed that joint in he came home one day Before Valentine's Day And I was like Oh you here I went Put that thing together

Put the blue light on We only had an air mattress In the bedroom at this point And let me tell you Got to work And our son Dakota Our fourth son Is the product of the

Blue light special The blue light special Which is kind of weird Because It was inspired from a scene Between him and Crystal's his godmother, actually. And he's, you know, born months later.

So I can't tell him that story. I don't think I'll save the details. I wouldn't tell the cold. I can't tell him like, oh, you were conceived off the blue light special. He'll hear this later on. I'm sure he'll hear it when he's documenting it. But I will say this, though. I'm very deliberate about making sure that she is in contact with the women that I have these scenes with.

So, for example, when we did our chemistry read, me and Crystal, Crystal FaceTimed her. I let her know beforehand, like, you know, we have some sex scenes. To me, I don't want it to ever be a thing where she feels uncomfortable. You go to a red carpet or you go to an event and that's the woman that I had a sex scene with. And it's the first time you ever meet her. It's like, nah, y'all have this conversation beforehand. I'm always respectful, especially to my co-stars like i'm never gonna cross that line because after the whole me too movement you realize how easy it is for someone to feel uncomfortable in your presence

have you ever felt uncomfortable in the workplace i've never felt uncomfortable to be honest and i'm not going out anybody but women are very sexual aggressive workplace you know they say stuff they you know a woman may smack you on the butt if you don't I'm saying if they think it's just that type of environment and you may feel comfortable as a man saying oh if that's what we doing that's what we doing but what I equate it to which may not be right is kind of like I can make a joke on a white boy if you make a joke on me about my blackness I'm gonna be pissed right if a woman says something to me about my physique I'm gonna eat that i'm not gonna now just comment about her body every time i see her you don't know

so people got on me about a couple of weeks ago my wife went on a 20-day trip yeah and they were like how dare you how you let her go on a trip would you let your wife go on a 20 day trip so here's my thing I don't know how she would survive without me and the kids for 20 days

that's a fact and she would spend the whole time calling me to FaceTime the kids it would have made the shit out of me right

me I don't know how I would survive without my wife for 20 days if Kay tells me she wants to do something I'm going to be 100% behind it. But it was also a challenge to me.

Six kids, no wife. I mean, you could do that, bro. Oh, yeah. I did no problem. The math homework was hard. I ain't even going to front. Oh, I'm not touching the math homework. We hired a tutor for Jackson in what? Third grade. Third grade. Because that's when the common math started coming in.

The regrouping, the common core. I'm like, what happened to Carrie the one? You don't want everything. Because that's when the common math started coming in. The regrouping the common core. Bro. I'm like, what happened to carry the one? Me and Jackson almost came to blows. Because I was trying to tell him, old school, carry the one. And he's like, no. You got to make it go to 10. And I'm like, why the fuck I got to go to 10?

I've been doing math my whole life. You put the one on top of that, cross the eight on it. And he was just like, no. I said, you going to tell me no? I'm your father. I don't care what your teacher say. Who was right? He was right.

He was right. That's a new math. It's new math, bro. It's literally new math. You got to make all of the equations go to 10 for some reason. Yes. And then it comes back a roundabout answer when you could have easily did it in three seconds.

And I said, I am not having a stroke trying to figure this out with my eight-year-old. Yeah, I've been gave that assignment to my wife. Just pass it on. That's it. Pass it on. They got back raised and then they come home like dad did my homework it's bad so we had lala up here guest hosting and i see that i did see her yeah she came to mind because i heard her her clip on people not wanting to be married now are aspiring to marriage what do y'all think of that she said marriage is completely different i mean i guess it's a case-by-case basis but it doesn't it's

not something that's highlighted as the best thing all the time, right? So I think Deval and I, much like many other couples, because quiet as it's kept, we're not an anomaly. Like, there are a lot of, like, you're a happily married man, happily married. There are a lot of happily married people running around. So I just feel like by us sharing more of those stories, it's a way to kind of help the narrative around marriage. But also, too, like I said earlier, making sure people know, do I aspire to marriage, right? You can't find somebody and be like,

oh, well, this person makes me want to be married because what happens? That puts the onus on that person to always be this perfect image of what you were, what they were when they met you, and that puts so much pressure on one person. So what if they falter? What if they change?

What if they outgrow something? Then are you still a marriage person or not you know so i think you really need to decide like is that something you aspire to first and then go from there all right we have more with kadeen and deval ellis when we come back their book we over me is out today it's the breakfast club is your country falling apart feeling tired depressed a little bit revolutionary? Consider this. Start your own country. I planted the flag. I just kind of looked out of like, this is mine. I own this. It's surprisingly easy. There are 55 gallons of water for 500 pounds of concrete.

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Because we've got a ghoulishly good lineup ready for you. Let's just say things get a bit extra. We're talking spirits, demons, and the kind of supernatural chaos that'll make your spooky season complete. You know how much I love this time of year. It's the one time I'm actually on trend. So grab your pumpkin spice, dust off that Ouija board, just don't call me unless it's urgent, and tune in for new episodes every week. Remember, the veils are thin, the stories are spooky,

and your favorite ghost host is back and badder than ever. Listen to Haunting on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Good morning. Good morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy. Charlamagne Tha God. Ray J, our co-host. We're still kicking it with Kadeen and DeVal Ellis. Charlamagne Tha God, Ray J our co-host we're still kicking

it with Kadeen and DeVal Ellis Charlamagne y'all have a chapter called uh there's a marriage after this wedding break that down so while we were writing the book we had discussed what our thought process was about getting engaged and being married and Kadeen had admitted that she had never really thought about the marriage nope anytime i had conversations with anyone regarding marriage or the wedding it was the wedding it was you know what dresses you're gonna get and what and who's the florist and it was the planning of the day at no point in time did anyone pull me aside and say kadeen like once you get married yeah here are some things to expect right you watch these disney movies and it says happily ever after no one sees what happens

after they ride off into the sunset correct so i felt like i was left in the dark i feel like it was a setup i felt like nobody prepped me on anything and then i think there was also a beauty in that though because i felt like if i were to get advice from aunts uncles or grandmothers it might have also been their jaded perspective of what their marriage was like and i'm like that could have been a turn off too but it was particularly difficult because I just did not think about or plan for what life was going to look like after the wedding so the pressure comment had triggered a lot of women because they felt like oh so she pressured you to get married and I was like it wasn't the pressure to get married it was the pressure to take care of all of the responsibilities once you decide

you're going to marry a woman for example i have to save the money to get you a ring i have to decide how we're going to propose i have to decide after we get married what is our life going to look like if we have financial issues no one ever says what's your wife doing they always look at me as a husband and be like so there was a lot of pressure on me to make sure that i'm doing everything that i can to be the husband that I want to be. On top of that, once I proposed, I got cut six weeks after by the NFL, so I didn't have a job. So there was a lot of pressure on me because I'm like, hey, I was in the NFL when I proposed, and now we're planning a wedding,

and I'm no longer in the NFL. How do I sustain the lifestyle of someone who is making a half a million dollars a year when I make no money? So, yeah, there was a lot of pressure on me. But I understand how a lot of women could have taken that word pressure and felt triggered by it. But to me, I'm like, as the man, I didn't care about the wedding at all. I didn't. I was focused on the marriage.

I said, OK, after we get married, where are we going to live? What are you going to do for work? What am I going to do for work? Are we going to have children? That's how most men feel. Because I look at it the same way. Like, we spend all this money for this. Yeah.

F that. Let's do the future. Let's do the house. Let's do the savings. Let's do the investments. Let's do this. Because that's just for the show. Bro.

So Jason Wilson was up here the other day. And Jason Wilson said. That's my guy, too. He said, me and my wife got it together, together. You know, on that come up. You know what I'm saying? Like, we worry about things that, it's what you got a partner for. She's going to be with you if she a real one that's a fact i mean think about it after the whole

wedding situation happened and then we went back you know the wedding was over you know it's spent for yourself at this point yo deval looked at me he said you know i don't want to go to canada because he had an opportunity to play ball in canada he said yo i want to start a business and maybe work towards this acting career and i was was like, all right, well, so what we got to do? On everything. We had a house in Michigan. It was on an acre. It was on an acre.

Four bedrooms, five bathrooms, living room, dining room, everything. Now we're back in an apartment in Crown Heights, and she's on the bus. When I tell you my ego was freaking crushed, I'm like, I used to sit in the bathroom sometimes. I go in the bathroom. I'm going to the bathroom, babe. I'd be on the toilet just sitting there, just like, man, like, how did I end up back here? And I got this woman that I asked to be my wife, and now she got to go to the mall and work. Like, imagine you tell a woman, yeah, I'm going to be an actor.

I don't want to play football no more. I don't know how I'm going to be an actor, but I'm going to be an actor. Matter of fact, I'm going to open a gym. I don't have no experience in kinesiology, but you tell your woman this and she goes, okay, how we gonna do that? So when you when you hear like when people say we know why you love marriage so much That's why I got a partner though when when it was the worst of the worst How many days did we eat grits yo this is after the nfl grits that might be why that's jackson our oldest son loves grits and eggs like that's his thing and it might be because that's three times a day

forever i was not trying to go buy no steaks you hungry buddy well you want breakfast you want breakfast with dinner right breakfast grits and eggs every day can we give some of these books away we got to appear we over me man that's right eight hundred five eight five one oh five one we got two books to give away we keep it all for books you brought up here so we can give to away yeah so we'll give two books away today call us up right now and pick up the book. We over me. And we appreciate you for joining us, guys. Awesome.

Thank you. We appreciate y'all. Subscribe to the Deadass Podcast. Yes, sir. We're on Patreon. You can watch all the video content on Patreon. Yeah, we got some live shows coming up. Detroit, we still got tickets if y'all out there.

Yeah. Come check us. Where did you get tickets from? Deadasspodcast.com. Go to deadasspodcast.com. You can get the last few tickets in Detroit. Everywhere else is sold out. LA is sold out.

Texas is sold out. Texas is sold out. Chicago is sold out. All of the book tours are sold out. New York, D.C. Philly. Philly and Atlanta is all sold out. We'll see y'all in Detroit, hopefully. I love sisters, man.

But see, I watch sisters from the perspective of a comedy. Oh, for sure. You have to. It is a comedy. It really is. This is not the one where the dude hit the dude and he spun around let me tell you the truth about sisters and what people don't understand do y'all watch telenovelas no i mean i know i know they are though yeah so telenovelas is a soap opera but

there's comedy there's comedy in the soap opera so when people first saw sisters they were just like why is this on primetime tyler put a soap opera on primetime and added comedy to it. So it was like a telenovela. That's why the numbers are so crazy. But people who watch it don't understand. They're like, this is funny, but it's not supposed to be funny. It's supposed to be a drama. Gotcha.

Why do they want you to hate Karen so much? I don't know. And it'd be, do I don't understand? It'd be black women be wanting me to hate Karen so much. And I'm like, yo, Karen might be carrying my baby. We had a three-year relationship i would never hate that woman they're like nah she mad disrespectful to fatima a lot of it is the fact that people love fatima so much right and she's the antithesis

of what i need in a woman so they're like you got to hate her in order to love her and i'm like no it's a divine dichotomy i can love both of them at the same time okay divine dichotomy yeah but you would say two words but no divine dichotomy is the fact both of them at the same time okay divine dichotomy yeah but no divine dichotomy is the fact that two things that are opposite can exist at the same exact time and people often think that they can't that's right so it's like my ex and my current girl i have to hate her in order to love my girl properly no i don't i can still have love for her it just didn't work out for us because she wasn't my one this one is my one i have love for her but i am in love with fatima and that's a great question because on twitter that's what i'm always arguing with people why you still talk to karen why would i not every woman deserves

respect especially if she might be carrying my child right because if it is your baby then what exactly you gotta get you for the co-parent so good... This is why Charlamagne got the good job. You see what I'm saying? So that's a good point. Because on Twitter, that is always what they ask me. Why do you still talk to Karen? I'm like... Oh, we have a travel show

coming out with the boys. What? On GoUSA. It's coming out actually this Friday, February 10th. So make sure everybody tune in and watch. I'm glad you brought that up.

That's a good time. We got to take the boys over. GoUSA. Hold on. I do have one more question. How do you feel about putting your family out there so much? So as the kids get older, I'm not sure how much more they're going to be out there.

I'm just being honest, right? It got to a point where we're asking Jackson, like, hey, do you want to be on camera? And Jackson said no. The answer is no. Because he's 11 going on 12 now. Yeah, Cass has always been no. Kyra loves the camera. At first, this was a way for me to share my life.

Like, I'm an artist. If I was a rapper, I'd be rapping about my family. But I'm starting to realize my kids need to have say in what their likeness is. And just for safety purposes, too. Yeah, that's me. I'm Mama Beer Mode. So I'm half the time like, nope, leave them out. Even if people see us in public, for the most part, people are very respectful.

They'll come up and say hi from a distance. But they see us with the kids. They kind of know to stay back and stuff. We have a good, strong, I hate saying fan base but supporters supporters yeah but the kids as they get old especially going to school traveling on their own i'm probably gonna phase them back i don't want them to have to walk around with security because their parents you know i just don't want them to have to i want them to live some days i'm gonna phase all the way off the social media and just shut the whole the whole joint down well she never wanted to do social

media this is what's crazy moments where i like go back and forth about it just because again safety protective mama bear all that so we just try to take the measures necessary when we do involve them but the travel show was fun because it was something that we got to do travel the u.s a little bit with the guys and we executive produce all our content so i'm not i'm not about letting anybody else have autonomy over my children's likeness or my family's likeness. Yeah, we turn on a lot of stuff. We did. We turned on a whole lot of stuff.

For that reason, yeah. Our manager over there in the corner be looking at us sometimes like, really? Y'all really don't want to do that? And I'm like, I don't want to do it if we can't control it. So we just trying to own this as best as we can and just, you know, be we over me till we die. Hey. There we go. We over me.

The book is out right now. That's right. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Good morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha God. We are The Breakfast Club. Our guest host.

Did he leave? I don't think he left. He's not here. Where's Ray J? I don't know where Ray J went. His whole crew, everybody. He left all his product, though. His product's here.

His chain is here. His apple juice is here. His bag's in here. His bag's in here. His bag's in here. I wonder what's in that bag. What do you think's in those bags? I don't know. It ain't got nothing to do with that.

All right, well. That's the one thing I don't do is go through other people's stuff. All right, well, let's get to the rumors. Let's talk Chris Brown. Rumor has it. Rumor. Rumor has it. Call out a name or you gossiping or you chatty patty.

I am gossiping. This is the rumor report. I mean, I guess we on The Breakfast Club. This is where the tea spills, right? Yes. On The Breakfast Club. This is where the tea spills, right? Yes, on The Breakfast Club. Now, you know, Grammy night, Chris Brown posted a bunch of Instagram posts. One was, who the F is Robert Glasper after Robert Glasper won Best R&B Album for Black Radio 3. Then Chris Brown posted, I got to get my skills up.

I got to start playing the harmonica. Then he posted a picture of himself playing the actual harmonica. Well, I guess Chris thought about it and said, you know what? Let me hit Robert on DM and said, you know, look, congratulations, my brother. I would like to apologize if you took offense to my reaction at the Grammys. You were not the intended target. And I know I came off really rude and mean. After doing my research i actually think

you're amazing the organization isn't doing us blacks our due diligence you and i should never be in the same category two different vibes and genres so from one black man to another congratulations hope you are able to feed your family for life god bless my g how are the two different vibes and genres though r&b is r& like, like, what's what's the difference? I don't know, because I've never really listened to Robert Glasper. So I couldn't tell you. But I guess maybe he's I don't know. I think the problem a lot of times is people think just because they haven't heard something or because they don't know about something.

They don't think that that's something is big. You know what I mean? So you don't realize how many people are into a Robert Glasper simply because you're not tuned into Robert Glasper. But I never heard, have you ever heard a Robert Glasper song?

I personally haven't. But I don't know what it is. Clearly somebody has. But you know, maybe he has a point. Like, I think that's what Nicki Minaj was trying to say before when they were talking about

rap and pop and how they put some records in the pop category and wouldn't put her records in the rap category. And she was just saying it has to be equal across the boards. I just never heard the brothers, you know,

heard his music to make a comment. I think with Nicki, she was a victim of her own success because sadly, whenever artists get as big as somebody like a Nicki Minaj has gotten, they start labeling them pop, which is whack. But the reality is pop is just short for popular. Correct. If that's the case, hip hop has been pop music

for the past 25, 30 years because we're the most popular genre right now also during first take i don't know if you've seen this stephen a smith and jay williams got into a uh a nasty disagreement and argument talking about kairi irvin yesterday i'm just saying how it's interesting to me it just carries such a bigger momentum in particular with you. You know what? Stop telling us what you find interesting to just tell us what you feel. No, my job is to be interesting. You say, I find it interesting. You always say that. Say what you're saying. He thinks you're too preoccupied with Kyrie, too hard on Kyrie. How many times have I mentioned Kyrie Irving over the last few weeks? I don't seem to be the one

being triggered right now. I'm always triggered. No, you're not. Oh, yes, I am. No, you're not. Yes, I am. No, you are not. Okay.

I've seen you. I watch your show every day. Are we talking about Kyrie or is this personal? It seems personal. I don't want it to be personal. What, for me with Kyrie? Yes. You are one million percent. You of all people with all the interest you have got the nerve to sit here in national television

and tell me I'm getting personal with a player. That's why we love First Take for that exact reason. They do get personal with players. The debate. Yes. The tension. Yes. And yes, everybody's personal.

There's not a person that, you know, steps in front of a microphone, you know, who doesn't take certain things personal for whatever reason. Absolutely. You know, it just depends what the situation is. And you might have a relationship with the person. Or you might really see where the person is coming from. Like, everybody approaches this with a certain level of, you know, taking it personal. Absolutely. Ray J's back.

Yup, I'm back. I'm happy to be here. You want to smoke some weed? Nah, I want to, but I left it in upstairs. You know, it's legal in New York. You know that, right? Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I left it upstairs, but then I feel like I wanted to come back in here with a clear mind and a pure heart.

Why you got your shades on and your hoodie up so crazy? I was vibing. Stop looking suspicious. There you go. Now you look less suspicious. Less suspicious. Still suspicious, but less suspicious. Now, lastly, Shannon Sharp was talking about John Morant and his crew over the laser incident. If you don't know the laser incident, allegedly John Morant's crew seen the refs and shined a laser on them.

And it was this big thing. And Shannon Sharp talks about it. John's a really good basketball player. John did everything he could to lift himself and his family out of this type of environment and to get away from this. And for some reason, he wants to surround himself with these type of people. Why? They're you not hard. That's not your life. Get away from this. And for some reason, he wants to surround himself with these type of people. Why? Boy, you not hard.

That's not your life. People that in that life would give anything to be in your life. For some reason, you got a $200 million contract, and you want people in the NBA to think you hood, to think you gangster, because you wrong with these type of people. Why are you putting yourself in harm's way when you don't have to All you do is yeah, but to my home. I don't let him little see another day. I'm gonna do this You're not gonna do nothing what you're gonna do is get yourself in trouble Put yourself in your family in harm's way when you don't have to

Not what it was a laser like this one? Probably. Could you stop pointing that at me? No, no, no. It was upstairs. What do you mean? No, it was up at J. Cole where I went. You pointed it at J. Cole? No, no, no. You're going to ruin your whole life, Ray J.

You're the CEO of Raycon. It's a $100 million company. You're going to ruin your whole life pretending to be a thug. Cut it out. I'm a founder, but shout out to Ray Lee. Talk that talk. He the CEO. Okay.

You know what I'm saying? I'm a CSO because I'm good at strategy okay but I will say that is John Marant's best friend right so they grew up with each other

but as his best friend knowing what John Marant has at stake he should fall back a little bit he shouldn't put his friend's you know life in jeopardy

his friend's career in jeopardy he did a gun no see that's the problem we don't know what it is we always only tell one side of the story.

I'm listening. Ja Morant, it's been proven that the NBA could not corroborate the claim that Ja Morant's entourage pointed gun laser at the Indians. A laser. They said gun laser. They said it was a laser. This is a lesson laser right here. Or whatever.

It could be a lesson laser. The magazine said gun laser in the headline. And they said an investigation was conducted following the reports and the NBA could not corroborate that story. Correct. So why are people running with that story then? They're not. You know what I'm saying?

These stories is getting out of love. Like, for me, it feels like it's a lot of smoke and mirrors. But the reason I said that is his best friend did run on the court and start arguing with players. Oh, that's different. Well. Was the game over? I got to see both sides. Come on, man.

Was the game over? What was going on? The players wasn't going to jump him. Now, if somebody came out to stand, I get it. They come on the court. It's a reflex. I like his game. You know, it's just a reflex.

We see, you know what I mean? We saw when who was about to scrap and Nipsey stood up, God bless the dead, and was about to pull his pants up and run on the court. It looked like he was about to squabble a little bit. Oh, and LeBron was about to get into it. Was it LeBron? I think it was LeBron. Or Kobe?

Or Kobe. I don't remember who it was. I'm just saying, that's just a reflex. You see one of your people who's on the court, you might be like, oh, you know what I mean? Yeah, I like John

and I like Shannon Sharp. Shannon Sharp, he be keeping it 100. He do? Mm-hmm. He be having the cold outfits too. He just started getting the cold outfits now.

Yeah, he at the Cardigan. The Cardigan. Cardigan. How do you say it? Cardigan. Cardigan. Cardigan. That's what that chain

almost looked like it say until I put my glasses on. Oh my goodness. Because it say, i say car chela chela man who you give me a donkey to man before after the hour man we're gonna uh have a conversation about why it is necessary that we all uh pay attention to proverbs 13 24 okay you know that proverb about uh sparing the rod spoiling the child or something like that we'll talk about it for after the hour. Are we talking fishing rod or are we talking... Talking the rod you pulled out on... Don't do it. Don't do it. It's a married

man over here. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. The Breakfast Club. Your mornings will never be the same. Thank you for synthesizers, instant replay, peanut butter, and standard time. Are these just words strung together or is it just some connection between them? I don't have the answer, but Crown Royal does.

Curious? Well, that's an itch you can scratch this Super Bowl Sunday. Please drink responsibly. You get donkey of the day. Yeah, you dumbass. You get donkey of the day. Yeah, you dumbass. You are a donkey.

It's time for Donkey of the Day. Donkey of the Day, huh? I'm going to fatten all that shit around your eyes. They want this man to throw them blows, man. They wait for Charlemagne to tap them gloves. Let's go. They had to make a judgment of who was going to be on the Donkey of the Day. They chose you.

It's a breakfast club, bitchy. Who's Donkey of the Day today? Well, Donkey of the Day for Tuesday, February 7th, is one of the most heartwarming donkey of the day for tuesday february 7th is one of the most heartwarming donkeys i've heard in a long time okay now today's donkey is only 13 years old so he's a juvenile and his name hasn't been released okay i don't have a problem with that because public shame and ridicule isn't what this boy needs at 13 he needs discipline love and based off the crime he committed probably some psychotherapy no not probably this young man needs uh psychotherapy trust me if i had gotten psychotherapy. No, not probably. This young man needs psychotherapy.

Trust me, if I had gotten psychotherapy at 13, I wouldn't have made a lot of the mistakes I made. Young brothers just be needing attention and guidance and an outlet to express our frustrations. Because when we don't get that attention and guidance, we can tend to make poor decisions. And that's what happened to this 13-year-old young man. See, he decided to put the pistol to the pastor that's right lord they down here robbing reverence let's go to kmov cbs4 for the report please the carjackings and stolen cars in st louis is not slowing down the latest victims a church pastor and a local children's charity the pastor tells news 4 he's thankful to be alive after two boys appeared to

be in middle school put a gun to his face and took his van. This is surveillance video of the incident last night in the parking lot of Carondelet Baptist Church in South St. Louis. Police say the two boys did not get far. They hit other cars as they drove away and abandoned the van they stole just a few blocks from the church. The pastor says he had to explain to the teens how to start the vehicle because they seemed to be inexperienced. And because of their inexperience, because of that, I didn't want them to say, hey, this isn't working out, shoot the guy and go.

I mean, seriously, I was trying to think a step ahead of them. The teens ran from the scene. The pastor says he pressed charges because he wants to hold them accountable and he wants to prevent this from happening to anyone else. I agree with him. OK, when I was young, my daddy salute the cowboy in Kiffield, South Carolina, dropping a clues bomb for my pops, man. My daddy used to say, boy, them N-words so crazy they will shoot in church. OK, the meaning behind that is some places used to be considered sacred some people you know some people used to be considered sacred I mean the toughest gangsters wouldn't dare rob a pastor Okay, robbing a reverend is like robbing God to a certain extent and now we know why Jesus has not

Fulfilled his promise to you Christians of coming back Why would he all right think about that for a second y'all been killing God's messengers Jesus being one of them them uh for the longest now y'all jacking them how you sticking up the scripture spitter okay now i know y'all heard me say this is one of the most heartwarming donkeys i've heard okay in a long time i probably shouldn't have led with that because y'all probably wondering what was so heartwarming about the pastor getting robbed the answer is nothing okay but it's everything that happened after that see that little boy got caught okay and he's currently charged with first degree robbery you know how he got caught uh not just because they wrecked the cars it's everything that happened after that. See, that little boy got caught. Okay, and he's currently charged with first-degree robbery. You know how he got caught? Not just because they wrecked the cars.

It's because someone identified that little boy and turned him in. Not just to someone, someone who knows him very well. In fact, the person knows that little boy better than he knows himself. Let's go to NBC5 for the report, please. New details tonight about a 13-year-old accused of pointing a gun at a pastor's face and then stealing his car. Today, we learned the teenager's mom is the one who turned him in. Today, that teenager faced a family court judge. And five on your side is Justina Cornell.

She's in studio right now to explain what's next. Yeah, Mike and Ann. So the 13-year-old boy, his family, and the victim of the crime were all in court today. Pastor Mike Coleman with the Carondelet Baptist Church learned that the 13-year-old boy will stay in custody for the time being. Wednesday morning, one of the teens arrested, a 13-year-old, was in court. Police say his mom turned him in over the weekend. His mother becoming aware of the event and questioning her son and turning him over to this juvenile court for prosecution and investigators are still working

to locate the second suspect god god bless that mom round of applause to that mom man salute to that mom i don't know how old that mom is but that mom clearly has worked too hard on her karma she has clearly cleaned up her sins been baptized give her tithes and offerings she clearly has done everything she needs to do to get into heaven and she is not about to lose her blessings fooling with this little human who came out her vagina okay she is not about to be an accessory to his holy heist now is this an example of gentle parenting or conscious parenting because gentle parenting is the parenting style that's composed of uh empathy respect understanding and boundaries conscious parenting is about letting go of you know parents ego desires and attachments so which one is it conscious parenting gentle parenting or is

this simply uh-uh find somebody else to do it parenting okay and when i say find someone else to do it this means that as a mom she probably has done so much to keep him out this position but that little hard-headed boy won't listen okay she probably been telling him you're gonna end up in jail a day if you keep going down the path you're going to end up in jail a day. If you keep going down the path, you're going down. And now look, jail at 13, because you out here thieving for offerings. OK, so now I didn't did all that I can do. Now I'm letting the system put some fear in you. OK, if one does not discipline a child, he or she will never learn obedience and good manners. In this case, if mama don't turn this 13 year old boy in. He's going to end up dead or in prison forever. Because if you're already robbing pastors at 13, my God.

I'm not mad at his mother at all. And if you think your mother is a snitch, an op, then sit your ass in that juvenile detention center until you get some sense about you. Because you got life all the way effed up. Now, let me ask two fathers in the room. We got Envy and Ray J here. 13-year-old child robs a pastor at gunpoint. Your child.

You turning him into police? 13-year-old. It's your child, Ray. And he... Oh, I'd turn my own child in? Would you? If they robbed the pastor. Did he take all the collection too?

Like all of the money from the... Man, he robbed the pastor. The pastor was sitting in his car, man. Oh, but he didn't take the church money that they gave. What does it matter? He tried he robbed the pastor. The pastor was sitting in his car, man. Oh, but he didn't take the church money that they gave.

What does it matter? He tried to rob the pastor at gunpoint. I'm taking my son home and then I'm talking to him. Okay. I'm not going to report him to the police.

It's my son. 13 years old, he already putting pistols to pastors? But that's like, there's a bunch of people tripping on people snitching and they just friends.

Like, it's my son. Bridget, I don't want to be a snitch. No, I'm just saying there's a difference of people tripping on people snitching like and they just friends like it's my son Bridget don't want to be a snitch what about you no I'm just saying there's a difference between snitching and then turning your son

like that's over I'm not turning my son that's over snitching that's like that's a different word he didn't kill nobody he robbed him

I'm gonna beat his ass I'm gonna make him I robbed him with a pistol I'm gonna make him bring that stuff back but was it a real gun and was it loaded man shut up man I'm gonna make him bring that stuff back. But was it a real gun and was it loaded? Man, shut up, man.

I'm going to make him bring the stuff back. We're going to leave it at the pastor's door and I'm going to beat his ass, but I'm not turning him in. What did he take from him? You know if they don't learn the consequences of their actions, right? You know it's only going to escalate. They're already putting the pistol to the path at 13.

I'm not turning my son in. What did the pastor have that made him rob him what did he take from the gold chain yeah raycon headphones but yeah raycon headphones narrative is not all the way there he was just saying like he robbed the pastor for what jesus what did he get from the pastor what does the pastor have in his pocket like what did he get from him did he take his wallet did he take maybe took his wallet maybe took some money maybe took jewelry, his watch, his Rolex and all that I need to know all the facts Always remember Proverbs 13 24

Whoever spares the rod hates their children But the one who loves their children is careful To turn their ass in the police When they out here committing crimes against clergymen Please let Remy Ma give this little 13 year old Juvenile who robbed the reverend the biggest hee haw Hee haw Shout out to Remy Ma, I want to do this show with you, Remy.

And we got to get on the phone. Would you turn in your chair? I don't know. So you just gave us that whole speech. He just gave us that whole speech. Oh, do this. Oh, he robbed the pastor. He robbed the church.

And when he goes to jail, he's going to do this. And then it's going to happen to this. And this is just the start. I applaud this mom for doing it but I don't know what I would do if I was in that situation. No way. I like how you guys

go back and forth and stuff. I guess dope. And I don't have a son so I got four daughters. I don't know. I really don't know what I would do. Let's say your daughter did it.

Let's say your daughter pulled the Cleo and ran up on the hammer and robbed the pastor. I don't know. I'd be thinking, damn, what did I do wrong that she would have to do that?

I'm not. You know me? I'm not. I'm gonna take an Herbara. A what? An Herbara. It's a natural addy. All right.

What are we doing next? We had the Ellis's. The Ellis's here last hour. That's right. They have a book out right now. Bridget, you missed that. Okay. Yes.

But they said this, and I thought this was interesting. Listen, listen. I have a chapter called There's a Marriage after this wedding break that down so while we were writing the book we had discussed what our thought process was about getting engaged and being married and kadine had admitted that she had never really thought about the marriage nope anytime i had conversations with anyone regarding marriage or the wedding it was the wedding it was you know what dresses you're gonna get and what you know who's the florist and it was the planning of the day at no point in time did anyone pull me aside and say Kadeem like once you get married yeah here are some things to expect right you

watch these Disney movies and it says happily ever after no one sees what happens after they ride off into the sunset but it was particularly difficult because I just did not think about or plan for what life was going to look like after the wedding. Is that something that we do? What you mean? Work on the marriage? Yeah. Do we plan for life after the wedding?

Or is there even a plan? You know what I mean? Is there a blueprint to being married? Let's talk about it when we come back. 800-585-1051. We're all married brothers up here. We'll discuss when we come back. It's The Breakfast Club.

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Our guest host, Ray J is here. You better know it. No nonsense, Ray, today. That's right. Now, we were talking about the Ellisons who joined us earlier, Kadeen and DeVal, and we were talking about their relationship and talking about marriage after wedding,

and this is what they said. Y'all have a chapter called There's a Marriage After This Wedding. Break that down. So, while we were writing the book we had discussed what our thought process was about getting engaged and being married and kadine had admitted that she had never really thought about the marriage nope anytime i had conversations with anyone regarding marriage or the wedding it was the wedding it was

you know what dresses you're gonna get and what and who's the florist and it was the planning of the day at no point in time did anyone pull me aside and say kadeen like once you get married yeah here are some things to expect right you watch these disney movies and it says happily ever after no one sees what happens after they ride off into the sunset correct but it was particularly difficult because i just did not think about or plan for what life was going to look like after the wedding yeah they have a great chapter in their book called, you know, the marriage after the wedding. And basically, you know, it's the work that has to be done after you say I do. And I don't know if there is a blueprint to being married. Like, what is the work that needs to be done after one is married?

I don't know if marriage is something you can game plan for. I think, you know, with marriage, we got to remember the fourth agreement, which is always do your best because I don't believe you can prepare for everything that marriage will throw at you. No, you definitely can't prepare. And like you said, marriage is something that you consistently work on. I mean, it's so many different people. People are growing, people are involved, and you have to understand people's feelings. And it's not just because y'all been dating, but now you have to understand somebody. When you go to work and you come home and you had a bad day, you take that energy out on your partner how to deal with it how to deal with everything in a relationship let's go

to you ray ray jizzle ray ray how you been married how long ray we've been married for six years six years congratulations you had a lot of ups and downs public some things have been public y'all called for divorce sometime and got back together y'all back together now yeah i love princess man and i think that a lot of times i mean because i can only listen to people who's been married for 20 years or 15 and they they kind of gave us like the timing of when it gets rough and then you get over this year hump and then it kind of smooths out how long you been married 22 i've been married since 2014 i'm not good at math what's that i got it but i've been with my wife for 25 years i've been with her for

eight years nine years this year it'll be nine it. But I've been with my wife for 25 years. I've been with her for 25 years. Eight years, nine years, this year. It'll be nine years, this year. But I've been with my wife for 25 years. I've been with my wife 28. So around the like sixth, seventh year, was it rough? Or fifth, fourth, fifth? I mean, you guys have been married for so long.

Oh, no, no, no. Yes. With marriage, yes. Because when I got married, I hadn't let go of a lot of my childish ways. So I was still out here in these streets you know what i mean doing things i had no business doing you know i mean infidelity and all of that so yes yes so yeah so around this time like i just felt like it you know that i really wanted to um just be a good husband but then i'm not going to be a good father

and the timing away from them and my kids and not being there every single day every hour you know did you have a lot of insecurities for myself i had a lot of insecurities and being married it kind of exposed that like what what do you mean um my wife is beautiful she's smart she's intelligent and i was scared a book come out yeah we had a book came out it's called real life real love we talk about that and at first i was scared that if she left she might see somebody that's smarter than me that looks better than me that's not hard though it's very hard it's very difficult actually it's very hard very difficult for her to find somebody smarter than you know it's very good that's actually very difficult trying to be serious

no you made it sound like i want to be serious I'm trying to be serious I didn't want to keep him in the couch he made it sound like I want to be serious but go ahead just talk to me no no I'm saying y'all making me lit because y'all like I want to get litter because y'all making me laugh

let's talk about the work that it takes in a marriage yeah yeah yeah let's go back to being serious you're being serious he want to joke what's the work we all had to do

in our marriages compromise ooh communication compromise communication that's a good one and also yeah communication and really like if you feel a certain way express yourself about it

absolutely if you let it linger and then nobody knows and then it's just an attitude that's in the air and you just what's wrong were you scared to express yourself were you scared to ask questions at times yeah it depends on the question because there's questions you want to ask but can you handle the answer what did you have to compromise a lot of things um just making sure that i that i stay in communication all the time um listening more um going out more and spending time outside and inside and and really just kind of like making my wife my close friend absolutely and and roll and we roll together and we do everything like as far as fun together because a lot of times dudes want to go hang out with their friends and have the fun and then come back and you got to think your girl or the dude been in the house

for days and you just want to come back and lay up because you're tired then we have you had a long week right we've been scared it's great in a lot of different ways I you know rated you know Dave you actually got in divorce papers right well yeah well actually we both found a like my foul chief out y'all didn't really want that though I think deep down we didn't you know I'm saying but a lot of times people are stubborn my wife you go over and and in and I think it hurts to think that a lot of times if your ego got in the way and you actually got divorced and you didn't want to, but your pride got in the way. That's scary. What did your friends, and you're very close to your mom, of course, what did your family say during that time?

I really don't go to them for relationship advice. Really? Because, yeah, I think that's dangerous. Right? I love Princess princess she loves me can't nobody tell me how to feel or what to do they can only guide you and help you but when they're done telling you what you what you either want to or not you still got to go back home right and you still got to deal with it from a man's perspective or a woman's perspective so i just think just that one-on-one tight-knit nobody can come in between these walls and if we got issues let's deal with them if we don't then let's enjoy ourselves together and like what do you think about what we did what is that what that's when

it get besides the tv show yeah was there did y'all go see therapy or a therapist or was there you know a pastor preacher or somebody to be the middle person in between y'all? Or y'all just worked it out yourselves? We just worked it out. And I know we had a therapist. Like a lot of stuff we do on the show is still needed. You get what I'm saying? And the show for me, when I watch each season, I'm like, like the first few seasons of Love and Hip Hop, I was terrible.

I was embarrassed to be who I am. You were. Right? And I looked at myself. Nobody needed to tell me what I did. I could see it. So I used the show every year to either watch myself do bad or see myself enhance and upgrade.

And so that's why I appreciate Love & Hip Hop, which is crazy because a lot of people would never say they appreciate Love & Hip Hop. But I just do because I was able to watch my plays and then make my changes from watching myself I'm glad y'all beat that curse making reality TV breaking couples apart. I'm glad Can we had a bomb job a bomb So clue has his own bomb here yeah yeah i know he always been dropping bombs but yeah that's his own bomb man so you know you guys don't have one

no he was close what do you have a sound effect i don't know you don't have nothing who does that a donkey oh real one yeah i got real one. I bought a real one in here and we recorded it live. Get out of here. At the old studio. It was crazy. Well, not in this studio. At the old studio. So how did you make the donkey do it?

Did you hit him? Like, how'd he go, hee-haw? No, you know what I did, really? I played One Wish, and then you put a little pinky in his... I was just about to say, you was doing too much pinky action. I'm like, that's what I was trying to figure out. Where did we go? I was going to say something, but then you actually was going there.

So I'm like damn okay exactly what happened this whole show has ADD this week we just go all over the place the question is 800-585 after the wedding

the marriage that's when the marriage starts what's the blueprint to being married? what is the work that needs to be done after the wedding? let's talk about it

when we come back it's the breakfast club good morning after the wedding you go have a good time well I mean you know what it's the breakfast club good time. Well, I mean, after we... You know what? It's The Breakfast Club.

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He and she and we. He and she together and we. I just asked a lot of questions. That's all right. It's cool. I'm curious. So we're asking about the blueprint for marriage. Vicky, talk to us.

So I think that if you get premarital counseling, premarital counseling will give you a foundation to actually build off of. A lot of people don't want to subscribe to it, but it gets your mind off of the wedding, and it allows you to build with one another. And our premarital counseling included what did we see growing up, what are things that we would like to carry over, and that

allowed us to say okay unconsciously we may do things that we saw growing up so if I start to act out a certain way my husband would be prepared mentally to say okay that may not be her consciously doing that that may be an unconscious thing that she's repeating from what she saw growing up now have a conversation with one another so he can point it out to me and say, hey, remember we talked about this. You know, this is, you're starting to do X, Y, and Z. That's a word. Which would prepare me not to take it personally.

So I think there's premarital counseling and then that allows you to have a person that you can now go to two or three months later when things start to appear and creep up. And I agree with you. I think there should be somebody before you get married to talk to that break things down. Don't mind Charlamagne and Ray J up here laughing. They're not laughing at you. I can go be in class with Ray J. Both of them.

But I agree with you, Vicky. And I agree with you all. Vicky's right, though. Vicky ain't wrong at all. Vicky's right. But Ray J's looking at me like, what? I'm listening to Vicky, and I'm into it, and I'm focused. And then he look at me and see me focused and start laughing.

And it's like, dang, I was so focused. Both of y'all go to the principal's office. Both of y'all need to go to the principal's office right now. Vicky not wrong, though. Y'all were teachers' nightmares, I can tell. Like, both of y'all were teachers' nightmares. I was so into what Vicky was saying. No, you wasn't.

No, I wasn't. Y'all were laughing at Vicky. He made me laugh, and it got funnier. It was so into what Vicky was saying. No, you wasn't. No, I wasn't. You were laughing at Vicky. He made me laugh and it got funnier. It got funnier. Vicky, you're right. There should be pre-marriage counseling that help couples and break things down that especially newlyweds just don't know. Because there's so many things that I didn't know about.

I'm sure Charlamagne and definitely not Rachel. No, Vicky, for real. No, you're right. Vicky hung up. But you know the thing about pre-marital counseling, even though I do agree with Vicky, you don't know what you're talking to the premarital counselor about because you haven't even encountered none of the issues that you'll have in your marriage. How was the premarital counselor's life? How was her relationship? You get what I'm saying?

She's not a counselor, though. She's a counselor. But it doesn't mean like you're talking about a counselor without the facts of science, right? Like it's a guess. We don't know how their relationship is. We don't know how they're doing. That's true. If he's a hard doctor, he's going to make sure your heart works. Right, science, right? Like, it's a guess. We don't know how their relationship is. We don't know how they're doing. That's true. If he's a heart doctor,

he's going to make sure your heart works. Right, right, right. And a marriage counselor is like, I can't, and shout out to all the marriage counselors, I don't want to mess with nobody's business, but there's no scientific fact that what they're saying is right.

You're right. That's right. A marriage counselor and everybody else saying, it's all opinionated. It's like saying, I hate this song, but then it turns into

being a hit. Sometimes a marriage counselor is just there to be a conductor though, right? Because y'all might be having a problem communicating. A referee.

But if the marriage counselor is on the guy's side, the girl going to trip on the marriage counselor. Yeah, but a marriage counselor should be a referee in the middle that's letting both sides speak

and both sides' thoughts be heard. But if one side and the marriage counselor knows that one side is right and the other one needs to work more on the right side just because then the wrong side

going to trip and say let's get a new one that's on my side. I'm with you. If I had one wish. Yeah, no doubt. No, I did. But what would you do

if you had one wish? Take another call? No, we can't. We need to wrap this up. And it's not raining today so one wish is not going to pop off. Was that a real rain

in that video? Nah, Lil X Had the fake ring Oh got you It was independent But I still gave Lil X Like $250 To do the video Word

It was worth it And you made it all back That was a big That record went gold Yeah no doubt I mean the whole album went gold Ray J still spending One Wish money

Don't get it twisted The whole album went gold At you know $12.99 Oh man Alright well What's the moral of that story If there isn't more The moral of the story

is like, you know, be independent. No, it's not to be independent. No, I'm talking about the record. No, I'm talking about marriage. You can't be independent.

Oh, no, I was saying that. See, that's why you've been getting in trouble right there. Ray got ADD. That's why you've been getting in trouble. No, no, no.

You asked me what did the record do. I said the album ain't gold. You said I didn't do it. I said, what's the moral of the story of it going gold? Be independent.

You better clear that up. I took Herb Aral as working. Y'all was talking about marriage on the radio and you said the moral of the story is to be independent? No, be independent you better clear that up i i took herbal is working y'all talking about marriage on the radio and you said the moral of the story is to be independent no be independent for the music because we was like we're all over the place with like the topics this guy going into in and out of stuff and you know i got ray dd the moral of the story is that you know there is work to be done after somebody is married and don't be afraid to do that work that goes without saying like we gotta go to like your kid gotta go to school we gotta go to work of course there's work

to be done after the marriage yeah i'm talking work between y'all as a couple first off the work gotta be done after them i gotta get it in for a little while we married all right when we come back we got your report i gotta get it in we just got married so legally now we can have a good time so let's spiritually get that in for a little while and then if it's problems. And then if it's problems that pull up, we'll deal with them. But right now, life is good. Let's live. Let's enjoy the wedding. After the wedding, let me be in it and marinate in it for at least a couple weeks.

Okay. At least. I'm with you, Ray. Spare the rock. All right. When we come back, we got rumors. We're talking Wendy Williams. All right?

Don't move. It's the Breakfast Club. Come on in. You said Wendy Williams coming in here? No, no. This is... rumors. We're talking Wendy Williams. Don't move. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. You said Wendy Williams coming in here? No, no. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. The Breakfast Club. Power 105.1.

The Breakfast Club. Your morning will never be the same. I'm telling. Ray Sass. Ray J ain't here reading books about cheating. be the same. I'm telling. Great stats. Ray J ain't here reading books about cheating. Morning, everybody. We are The Breakfast Club. Ray J, our co-host, is here. Let's get to the rumors.

Let's talk Wendy Williams. Rumor has it. Rumor. Rumor has it. Call out a name or you gossiping or you chatty patty. I am gossiping. This is the rumor report. I mean, I guess we on The Breakfast Club.

This is where the tea spills, right? Yes. On The Breakfast Club. Ray J, what are you looking for? It's like a ghost beating up Ray J. I mean, I guess we on the Breakfast Club. This is where the tea spills, right? Yes. On the Breakfast Club. Where did my phone go? Ray J, what are you looking for? It's like a ghost beating up Ray J. Don't try to deflect from that book you're reading either. Oh, no.

Here it go. Are you looking for his wire? Yeah. All right. What are you looking for? Why are you wearing a wire? No, no. The wire to plug in his headphones, man. Please, chuck him for a wire.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now, Wendy Williams, it seems like a judge claimed, a judge said that they will not have to resume cutting alimony checks to Kevin Hunter, her ex, anymore. Now, Kevin Hunter said, my car insurance hasn't been paid as a result of not receiving monthly severance payments. He said, I'm behind on my credit card payments because I have no money since these payments were suspended. He says, my life has been greatly affected since the plaintiffs stopped making payments under our settlement agreement. Now, we all know Wendy was making at one time $10 million a year,

$55,000 an episode on the Wendy Williams show, and now he said he's behind on his bills because of that. Get it together, Ray. I'm back. Hi, Mom. Ray J. News. Now, news Now Ray you wanna tell the people What you were doing yesterday

I wanna know why you're reading that book Oh Let's talk about the book Oh yeah so shout out Shout out to Mama John Why you open your eyes like that I didn't know Cause I hate being in the news

What's that book Tell them the title of that book So this book is called Why Men Plus Women Cheat Shout out to Mama John Shout out to Jim Jones Shout out to the whole family I went over there

I had some chicken And some yams And some greens And it was really good and i told mama jones please burn my chicken because i don't like my chicken medium well why are you reading that book though she gave it to she said she got a book coming out and i said well can i have it and can you please sign it for me because i like that when people write books i like to put them up and then like have them with they you have no reason to read that book as a married man no like she so the name of the book is why women and why men that's the first side why why no no no no on the back it does say there's a two there's two sides okay i know i wasn't tripping all right so this side she said you gotta read it from the back

you don't need to know how. I'll read the why. So you got the front and then you got the back. And the back is how. I don't know if it was hit it from the back or something she used the term. Not for me.

I'm just saying because she family now. I look at her like like my auntie. Right. Mama Jones. Shout out to Mama Jones. That's her book?

Yeah. Mama Jones book. That chicken was good last night because a lot of people afraid to burn the chicken like I needed to of people are afraid to burn the chicken. Like, I needed to. I need you to burn the chicken. Why do you want your chicken burnt?

Because I like it well. Huh? Because I don't like my chicken medium well. He likes it cooked all the way through. He don't want to see no rat. He don't want to see no rat. They want it juicy. I don't want no juicy chicken.

Now, also, you were talking about something that you got going on Friday. You got a video. Oh, yeah. So, shout out to my group. It's the first time we ever putting out a music video. RSVP. Ray J, Sammy, Bobby V, and Pleasure P. We launched the first video Friday.

I want to do it here first. Okay. I want to do it here at the Breakfast Club first. What do you mean do it here? I mean I want to drop the video. Oh, y'all don't do video. We radio. Oh.

They can't see it. You mean play the song? Oh, yeah. I want to see it you can play the song oh yeah i want to play it then yeah yeah yeah yeah what i want to play yeah why well because it's this other song called i like that's the real single for radio money everywhere is like our biography because it's like a seven minute song six minute record oh we're not doing all that no that's right i wanted to talk to you guys about that no yeah we're not doing it no no no no no last thing i got it the last thing i want to talk about i don't even know if you want to talk about it but something interesting you said i was saying behind the scenes ray j goes left and right when he has conversations if everybody out there listening i was like you

got ray dd yeah ray dd i was ray dhd and i was telling him that you know i would love to see a conversation between him and 50 because 50 is the same way they just know like that on purpose we talk about everything and he said that he actually had a conversation with 50 i had multiple conversations with 51 in five minutes no yeah one one conversation me and jackie had with 50 um 50 was moving around i don't know if he didn't like our idea or or or he liked it and he was just like let me just like i gotta get it in before I get on the plane. But at... So you got to say another word. Say that again, but say another word

other than this. Y'all were having a conversation on FaceTime. We were on FaceTime. Jackie Long set it up and 50 took a dump. In the middle of your conversation. On the meeting that I had

when I was in a pitch. So you was pitching something to him? Yeah. And then he was in the middle of taking a poop. No, he went in and just started. He felt comfortable enough. He felt comfortable enough to where he felt like you know that's what i'm saying

it could have been like we we fam this these my boys let me go get let me go take a dump real quick and then let me listen to the meeting maybe it was just like just like i'ma just dump did he call you after i don't think curtis going to like this. No, Fifth. No, Fifth. Mr. Jackson ain't going to like you putting this kind of information. I don't know why you even did that. To me, I felt it was gangster. It was like we got, you know what I'm saying?

We got little homies. Moving your bows is gangster? No, it felt like we got little homies in the meeting because maybe the idea wasn't good. Maybe he just had to do-do. Okay. Maybe boo-boo had to boo-boo maybe boo-boo had to boo-boo but remember fifth i told you that that you did that when we was talking you think he didn't know he pulled well fifth is busy doing a lot of stuff so you know i'm saying if i don't believe right

man you didn't believe me about the eddie i don't believe that at the end of the week i'm putting a compilation together of all Ray J's unbelievable stories. I might even have somebody animate them. The Eddie Murphy one where you say you picked him up in a G-Wagon that nobody in America had. The 50. Yeah, but. Now 50 took a dump in front of you while you and Jackie Long were pitching him a meeting. Eddie Murphy had.

Mama Jones cooking him dinner. No, Eddie Murphy had the G-Wagon, but the two-door that was not in. And not in and so he saw i had the four door brandy it was brandy i was driving brandy all right man y'all don't believe it was brandy g all right shout out to shout out to crystal we got the people because i'm getting hungry y'all making me hungry it's the breakfast club we'll be right back don't go nowhere fifth don't go breakfast club your mornings will never be the same looking to turn a small bet into a big payday? With DraftKings Sportsbook Same Game Parleys, you can pocket

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We are the Breakfast Club. Our special guest host is here, Ray J. Now, we got a Black History Month moment? We do, man. Salute to my dude, B-Dot, man. You know, every day during Black History Month, the Black Effect iHeartRadio Podcast Network puts out a podcast called I Didn't Know, Maybe You Didn't Neither, okay? And I got something today that maybe you didn't know. Did you know black people save Pepsi? Huh? my man beat that's gonna break it down for

you John Pemberton a pharmacist in Atlanta he invented coke but that was actually his second drink his first invention was in 1884 called French wine coca it was really just a copycat of a French wine that had cocaine in it in 1885 right when the product was about to start popping to Atlanta outlawed alcohol sales so that's when Pemberton went to work on a different drink that had the same medicinal effects introducing coca-cola in 1886 they started calling coca-cola the intellectual beverage among well-off whites in 1891 it was revealed that cocaine was in coca-cola so that's

when the drinks start getting marketed as refreshing versus medicinal then they started the glass bottles in 1899 and that changed the game because now anybody can get Coca-Cola if you got a nickel, black or white. And then white folk did not want black folk drinking that good Coca-Cola. That was the intellectual beverage. So because Coca-Cola had cocaine in it, white newspapers started reporting Negro cocaine fiends were raping white women and the police were powerless to stop them. By 1903, they took the cocaine out and added more sugar and caffeine. I didn't know none of this.

I also didn't realize that Pepsi in 1940 was in the dirt trying to keep up with Coca-Cola. See, Coca-Cola had the 6-ounce bottles for a nickel. Pepsi went to the 12-ounce bottles for the nickel. But that didn't help them. Just made their drink look cheap. But theni got smart pepsi said you know what coca-cola don't go over there to the hood we should pepsi put together a negro markets department y'all in the 1940s and 50s to increase sales to blacks and it worked

like hell the president of pepsi at the time was walter mack he put together a team of black marketers to promote sales in black communities only. Instead of making black folk look goofy in the butt of jokes, Pepsi promoted a different image of black folk in his advertising. Had Duke Ellington on that joint? By the time the 50s was over, Pepsi sales increased dramatically. They was out selling coke in the black community by a margin of 3 to 1. And the drink, not the narcotic because

they were probably moving that narcotic the technique of selling to just black folk was so successful that it would come to be known as niche advertising as an approach for carving out a distinct place in the market they still use that today black folk folk. Woo, he's so powerful. Now take that to school, work, or church with you. Because I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either. You welcome, Pepsi. I didn't know. That's right.

Make sure you subscribe to the I Didn't Know, Maybe You Didn't Neither podcast. And salute to my guy, B-Dot, man. You know, yesterday I posted that I didn't know maybe you didn't either is being taught as curriculum in 15 schools in North Carolina man so B.Dot salute to you and all the great work that you're doing man and you know this is what it's all about you know when you start to see things that you're putting out on your platforms you know end up in schools and you know being able to teach these babies that's a beautiful thing especially in this era because if we don't educate our kids nobody will can't rely on other people to do that

so make sure you subscribe to the i didn't know maybe you didn't need the podcast on the black effect iheart radio podcast network salute to my guy b dot all right and our daily bread is back so make sure you log on to breakfastclubonline.com to register for your chance to get some cash all right shout out to mordecai Motion and Brenda Thompson of Brooklyn. They just picked up a Crown Royal bag of $1,000. So special thanks to our friends at Crown Royal. Positive notes up next. Morning, everybody.

It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha God. Ray J invented the word cap. Remember when Ray J was on Love & Hip Hop and his cap kept moving all over the place? You invented cap, bro. We are the Breakfast Club. First of all, he picked up Eddie Murphy and a G-W his cap kept moving all over the place. You invented the cap, bro. We are the breakfast club. First of all, he picked up Eddie Murphy

in a G-Wagon that nobody else had in the world. He said he was in a meeting with 50 Cent and 50 Cent took a dump

in front of him and Jackie Long during the pitch meeting. No, I said he took a dump in the meeting, not in front of us. Like, I couldn't see him actually dumping

because he was dumping. Now you're telling us he don't want to be on BMF because he started being a BMF with South West. No, no, no, no. He said he didn't

want to be on Power but he liked BMF. I said I didn't want to be on Power because I auditioned and I didn't Southwest T. No, no, no, no. He didn't want to be on power, but he liked BMF. I said I didn't want to be on power because I auditioned and I didn't get it, so I don't want to try no more. So where did Southwest T come into play? He was asking about BMF, and I said Southwest T is my brother. He the first person that ever let me drive a Bentley when I didn't have a Bentley. That's what made me want to have a Bentley.

Ray J, that is a lie. Stop saying Ray J's a lie. Southwest T was love when they was in the streets that was like 20 years ago 15 years ago how old were you

yo T I didn't even have a license yet yo T please respond to the breakfast club and let them know you was the first person

to let me drive a Bentley and you let me hold it for three days man you better Ray J is crazy Ray J you gotta stop this man watch the end of the week I'm gonna put together you better. Ray J is crazy. Ray J, you got to stop this, man. You got to.

Watch, the end of the week, I'm going to put together a compilation of Ray J adventures and somebody going to animate it for me. I don't know where to go because I'm mad because I'm right here. I'm telling you real. Like, this ain't right. Hey, T, can you please respond in the breakfast club and say, yo, Ray ain't capping. Ray ain't capping on nothing. I wear a cap and still don't

cap ray can you leave us on a positive note ray it's time to get up out of here so shout out to crystal um i got it yep and i got a big ott platform coming i want to i want to do some shows with y'all too um i'm going through some stuff right now it's getting a little bit like it's getting a little bit ratchet and the shows is getting a little bit intense shout out to the dash network um i want to have a few more meetings this week to understand the subject matter because i want to make sure it's not too out of control the numbers are going to go crazy on dash because the content is so loud okay where do i fit in here morally dash where am i with this more integrity with my integrity all right that's it that's what I wanted to say I'm okay we had a positive of course positive note is this shout out to crystal they

got the pimento cheese that I like salute to crystal I think what Ray is trying to say is uh if it drains you it's not for you there you go always remember that breakfast club bitches had enough of this country? Ever dreamt about starting your own? I planted the flag. This is mine. I own this. It's surprisingly easy.

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