The Breakfast Club - FULL SHOW: J. Cole Announces The Fall-Off Date, Drops New Track, Brian Austin Green Reveals ’90s Romance + Iyanla Vanzant 

Episode Date: January 15, 2026

Today on The Breakfast Club, Iyanla Vanzant talks her new book Spiritual Hygiene, The Inside Fix, leadership, and accountability. Plus, Charlamagne Tha God gives Donkey of the Day to a man who fatally shot his sister and nephew and injured his mother after a dispute over a Wi-Fi router. Listen for more!YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BreakfastClubPower1051FMSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Good morning. How y'all feel out there? I feel blessed black and highly favored. Happy to be here another day to serve our beautiful listeners. Good morning. Yes, good morning. How you feeling, Jess? I feel good, man.

I went to dinner. Me and my husband went to dinner at Tatiana's last night. The Lincoln Center. Yeah, yeah. That's nice. Chef Kwame. Man, chef Dee last night. She was on a,

on a, well, it's not the turn table. Who's the cooking. She was cooking. She was cooking. She was on the stove. Like DJ, such and such on it. Yeah, man, it was good. Everything was good.

We had the ox tail. You know what's crazy is they throw a Caribbean spin on everything. We had, they had cornbread, but the butter got curry in it. Yeah. Like, I never even figured out, like, I never even figured I would like something like that. Curry and butter. Yeah. It's like an African Caribbean-infused restaurant.

They got a vibe. It's music. Tatianas is a restaurant in New York. City, ladies and gentlemen, that is owned by a brother. He owns it. He's a top chef. A Michelin's chef. I don't know what they call him on. He got a few restaurants. He's got one in Miami. He's

bringing one to Vegas as well. It's very hard to get a reservation but the food is amazing. It's always ram jam packed, but it's dough. Do you take something to go? I did. I did. I bought the rest of my... Because everything is like Sherry and you telling everybody. No, I didn't. Y'all don't eat that type of stuff this early.

Y'all not. You should have still bought it in? It's really, really good. It was real good. And it was hard, I know. And it was hard to even order because the music be bumping and the waitress came up all days. Hi, you know, her sexy voice and Jaru was, to all my ladies that be living in.

And I'm like, what? I didn't. No, no, no. She said the music was playing. It was like a whole live little situation. But no, I had fun. So shout out to the manager there once. Sabrina, she took care of me.

Yeah, I thought you said, Jaru had a residency. Residency there. I'm like, that's crazy. That would be wild. That would be wild. That would be insanity. But it was good. Listen, how come labels don't care about music no more?

What you mean? I remember back in the day when, you know, an artist would put out a good album and it would be like an event, and you would know. Of course, yeah. Have you all listened to Daniel Seas album? Yes. The one that came out on Christmas?

I think it came out of October. I think it was December 24, but December 24th of December 20th, the son of Serbia. No, but I bet it's dope, ain't it? It's fire. Yeah, Daniel Seas is one of the ones. Oh, no, that was October. It was October.

But then you got another one, too. Man, that dude. is incredible. So what you mean about the labels? We ain't know nothing about it? They don't be telling nobody. You don't be knowing nothing about this dope-ass music

that'd be out. If somebody don't tell you about it. Like you just told me, I didn't even know. If somebody don't tell you about it, like it's like, what do labels even do anymore? What's the point of signing to a label

putting out this good ass music if we're not even going to nothing about it? And radio too. How come radio ain't playing it? We're playing any new dance season? I don't know. We're not. Yeah, but you know what?

Hey, Sam, aren't you the new music director? The only reason I know is because when I was listening to it on the way to work. I'm like, he got some soul for what gospel records that, I mean, he got one record, I think it's half a baby with me. I almost went back home and said, you know what, man? That's cool for number seven.

But, like, now, he's really, really dope. If you ever dove in the Daniels, he's definitely check him out. He's from Canada. Yeah, they say they're pushing half a baby to radio. I don't know why radio are not playing that all right. Do we have, now? I'm about to say, do we have that now? Definitely don't have it.

We'll play it before the morning. Well, tell him, tell him who's joining us. see what we got in here. Oh, Ayanla Bonzant is joining us this morning, man. Not on my watch. Huh? Oh, you know, she'd be saying. I thought you didn't want her here. I'm like, damn. I love Ayonla. No, that's what she'd be saying.

Yes, Ayonla von Zahn will be here. She's got a new show called The Inside Fixing. Her thing that's dope about this show, if you used to watch Ayonla Fix My Life, it's her revisiting a lot of those people whose lives she attempted to fix. And she has a new book, which I love called a spiritual hygiene, a practical path for

clean living, inner authority, and divine freedom so Iyanlo being here this morning cutting up with us all right well let's get the show cracker we got front page news let's start the show off with daniel caesar we found it have a baby hey hey hey let's be inside do not look me in the eye i have no plans to all right it's the breakfast club good morning you know the ill thing about this song it's called have a when you look at it on the album it says have a baby and then in parentheses it says with me yes in fact he had the disgust to this girl with me with me how many people is she having her all sex with like like have a baby with me i'm the person why you're

I got to stress that part. Morning, everybody, we are to Breakfast Club. Let's get in some front page news. What's up, Mimi? Good morning, M.B. Jash Alamein. How y'allameen? How y'all doing this morning? Good.

Good morning. So we begin this morning with overnight unrest in Minnesota following another shooting involving a federal law enforcement. This is the second shooting in just one week. So officials say a man was shot in the leg by a federal officer Wednesday night in North Minneapolis. After what the Department of Homeland. Homeland Security described as a violent struggle during an attempted arrest. Now, DHS officials, they say federal agents were conducting a targeted traffic stop just before 7 p.m. involving a man, they say, was in the country illegally.

A DHS says the man fled his vehicle, crashed into a parked car, and then ran away on foot. Now, as word of the shooting spread, hundreds of protesters they gathered near the scene. And during a late night press conference officials, they addressed the city calling for calm, Let's listen to Minneapolis Police Chief Brian O'Hara. Preliminary information indicates that there was a struggle with a federal agent in front of the resident. During the struggle, the federal agent discharged his weapon, striking one adult male. The adult male then retreated inside of the residence where he remained inside and refused to come out. Eventually, federal agents made entry into the residence, and the individual was brought to an ambulance where he has been transported to the hospital.

There's a crowd gathered in the area. They have thrown fireworks at police officers, and at multiple times, gas has been deployed. Police are attempting to disperse this unwaful assembly at this time. I urge anyone that is at the scene to leave immediately. The DHS, they also say two other people then came out of a nearby apartment. They joined in the attack using a snow shovel and a broom handle. And during that struggle, or excuse me, during that struggle,

the officer fired what DHS is calling defensive shots hitting the original suspect in the leg. Two people are now in custody. And of course, this all comes just one week after a federal immigration agent shot and killed Renee Good. And that same press conference last night, Minneapolis mayor Jacob Frey, he called for an end to the chaos. Let's listen to that. This is not sustainable. Our officers, they are working tirelessly. Again, we have about 600 officers.

There's about 3,000 ice agents. and border control. We need our officers responding to the basic day-to-day 911 calls. We don't have the capacity to both deal with that and all of this conduct that we're seeing from ICE on the daily basis. American citizens are getting picked up off the street by people in masks. That's not the way things should be conducted in any city in America. That's not who we are. That's not America. So I'm calling for peace. Everybody has a role in achieving that piece. Yes, so as of this morning, investigations into the shooting, they are ongoing, and those protests, they remain fluid. That was the police chief, right?

Yeah, the first one was the police chief. The last one was the mayor of Minneapolis, Jacob, right. Well, he's right. You know, it's not sustainable on so many levels. And, you know, as you said, maybe what makes the situation even worse is the fact that Renee good just got shot and killed. She was an American citizen. So everybody feels like they are in danger of ICE. So when they see another shooting so soon after Renee, they just feel like ICE is out to kill everybody.

of this is a powder keg waiting to blow. How far does ICE and the federal government think they can push people before people push back? Like ICE has a job to do. We understand that, but you can do your job without terrorizing people because I'm telling you, it's only a matter of time before the American

people start pushing back. I don't know if you remember, but that's what the guy called in and said yesterday. He said, enough's enough. Like, people are going to get to the point where it's like, no, you're not going to kick down my door, because if you do, I'm going to have a surprise for you. And people are going to start fighting back, like you said. It's not going to be a surprise. Like what's going to happen with an American

citizen, hopefully not, but what's going probably to happen when they shoot back at an ICE agent? And then that's when all hell is going to really break loose because you have a federal government who doesn't care what ICE does the people in this country, but they will care what people in this country do to ICE. But I just wonder how far does ICE in the federal government think they can push people before they push back?

Part of what people are saying is that they want, they think ICE is exactly what the Trump administration wants. They want people to push back on ICE. They want the chaos in the street. You know, this is what they're aiming for. Why? It makes no sense. None at all. Right. Don't know. I mean, really quickly, the State Department is putting the brakes on immigrant visas for people from 75 countries. That's starting next week. The Trump administration says the pause is about money, specifically concerns that some new immigrants could rely on public assistance in the future.

So that list is long. It's global. It includes countries across Africa, Asia, Europe, and the Caribbean. places like Nigeria, Ghana, Haiti, Jamaica, Brazil is on the list, Bahamas, Belize, among many, many others. Now, in a statement, the U.S. State Department said immigrants from these countries, they take welfare at what it calls unacceptable rates. This will only affect people who move permanently to the U.S., not tourists. So visitors and business visas, they are still being processed. Now, this freeze, it is set to begin January 21st. It will stay in place indefinitely until the administration says it is confident that new immigrants will not rely on public benefits. Well, how will Republicans find wives if they keep all those people out?

All of their wives come from other countries. What's going on here? Yeah. Well, we shall see. All right, y'all. Well, coming up at 7, if you lost phone service yesterday, there's some new information, including what the company says comes next for customers. We'll break it down in the next hour. Yeah, people who have Verizon was sick yesterday.

Damn. You can get phone calls, nothing. That's the crazy thing. One of my phones is Verizon, but that's the business phone. I don't usually be on that. I had no idea. Yeah, no, I was out. People pissed off.

Crazy. Get it off your chest. 800-585-105. One. If you need to vent, phone lines are wide open. Call us up right now. It's the breakfast club. Good morning.

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We want to hear from you on the breakfast club. Hello, who's this? Invite Yes Jeff Hey baby That means Jay Cole came out

With a new record He's so excited He's so excited Yes sir I got one thing to say to you Charlemagne What you got to say to me The real is that

The bill is that Flo banana Charlemagne here Phil is back Cole is coming Baby Cole is on The way

The fall on But ain't no fall off For here Okay His album will be out February 6th No No trap right here You have no trape

I'm not I think it's gonna be a double It's a double album right Yeah Yeah Yeah it's a double album I know that's right Tram

Don't get too excited now I'm not Don't get too excited I'm not You should be man You're not excited to hear what Cole gonna say And what

I'm not I'm not excited is a strong word I'm definitely going to tune in I'm excited for Jay Cole My just curious I know your booty You can't wait But I told you

I am curious Because I'm interested To see what approach Jay Cole is going to take Because you know For the last few years Jay Cole has been saying He's the numeral one

And he's number one But then But then we all saw him back Out of the rap battle I mean that's a good conversation Could he still be number one If he backed out of the rap battle No

I'm gonna tell you tell you so Salome I'm interested to see what approach he takes on the album I thought the song he put out Yesterday Yes I'm gonna tell you to Solomon I'm giving out here lock

I'm giving out of his lot I'm giving out here a lot. Don't be the first one to catch one. I know that's right, Tray. You're putting a lot of pressure on Cole. Listen, big coly cool. What's like? Y'all putting a lot of pressure on cold.

That's right, Tram. And look at all right, Tram. LeBron James is back, baby. Goodbye. LeBron? Whatever. Hello. This is Shanda.

Hey, Shanda. Hi, Shanda. Hi, Shanda. You know, what I got to say is to people who want to give us. on the airplane. Get on there. Sit down. Buckle your seatbelt and shut the hell up. Oh, damn. We fly the tenant do not get paid when that door is open and you want to get on ask questions. Can you help me with my luggage? Did I help you pack so shit? No idea. Get down and shut the hell up. Ma'am, can I just- Don't ask me no question. Can I just have a

soda in my headphones, please, ma'am? Sure. Ma'am, can I have some extra cookies or nuts, please, ma'am? That's it. No, you can't have anything. Sit down, put your seatbelt on, and shut the hell up. Can I ask you a question? Like, seriously. Can I answer a question?

How long have you been working for Spirit? Hey, yo. I don't know. I worked for American, and I've been there for seven years, and I am so sick of entitled as people that think we are nothing but waiters in the sky. If that's the case, why did I go to training for all of those weeks? And if we're just waiters in the sky, when your ass choke, I'm going to sit there and watch you. because waiters don't do CPS.

CPR. CPR. CPR, none of that. We don't do none of that. Listen, I agree with you. I don't think nobody should have a sense of entitlement. But if I do pay for a ticket, I do expect a certain service on the plane, right?

Because that's what your job is. What service do you expect? Just simple stuff. Like if I want some headphones, if I want some water. Can I have a seat? When we come around, we would give that to you, but we don't need you asking us for that as soon as you get on. Let me tell you something.

Those doors are all. We are working for free. When we close some doors, you can ask us all the questions you want. And tubin sit down, put your seatbelt on and shut the hell up. She isn't making a point, though, because y'all do have a set time when you all you start bringing out the snacks in the water and everything like that. That's true. So just wait and be patient.

Ma'am, can I have a seatbelt? You ain't that damn holy? Can I have a seatbelt extended, ma'am? Because my seatbelt is kind of tight. I have a seatbelt extended? Absolutely not. Can I hear you talk about one other thing? How do you feel about fat people on the plane?

Oh, my God. I don't have no problem with it. Just don't make the person sit next to you too uncomfortable. That's my only thing. Then they got to call you and get on your nerves. You never seen somebody walking in a plane that so big that you go to go away? Here's another thing. Those very same people would get on the plane knowing they need an extension

and won't even ask for it. They will wait. So we come by and then say, can I have an extension? you need your big ass needed it when you got on there. Why you didn't ask these twosies at the door? Yes, ma'am. Because you said don't ask you nothing at the door. Somebody made a mess in the bathroom.

Can you clean it up, please? Oh, no, we don't do that. They've got clean it for that. No. But they say if somebody make a mess, you tell the flight attendant, they'll take care of it throughout the flight. They say that.

I hope you have. Let me tell you. I don't know what y'all didn't heard, but I'm not doing any of the best. Sit down. Shut up. Like, seriously. Don't ask no question.

Yes, man. Well, I hope the day is back. than yesterday. I hope so too. I hope so too because I'm sick of these people. Yes, ma'am. Thank you, ma'am.

Have a nice day. You too. Can you help me get my bag down? Absolutely not. I didn't pack that shit. You packed it yourself. You know, Lauren used to be, have a good day.

You know, Lauren used to be a flight attendant. That's not what he said about to clean the bathroom. I looked at him like that. That's what they say. They say if somebody mess up a flight attendant, they clean it up during the flight. Were you ever that upset?

Were you ever that upset? No, I wasn't. Okay. Because I didn't allow myself to be. But you could be. She must be working a Florida leg. No shade of Florida, but they test you. You seem very chatty to be a flight attendant.

Like, I don't like the flight attendants that like to talk. No. You know what I mean? Not on the plane after you've been worked. Because when you knew you worked, they work you like a dog. You don't want to talk about nothing. Do you want to drink? If you don't, that's fine.

Welcome, you brought your bag. I hope you put it up. Sit down. Let's have a good flight. Oh, you guys should help him put the bag up. You'll help him put the bag up. You put your bag up. Nothing.

Is that little ass homes you got? You got her. We never on a flight together. I'm throwing your bags all over the place. That's crazy. Get it off your chest. 800-585-105-1. We got the latest with Lauren coming up.

What we're talking about? Good morning. Yes, we do. We're going to talk about Jay Cole. Oh. The falloff is here. Big Coley Cole. A little intro to the fall office here.

So it's actually here now. I know it's been teed for some years. We're going to get into the falloff and, you know, Charlemagne, don't, don't behave in this morning. We don't play the record. We don't have no. We're playing the record. We are going to play the music.

I don't know. And there's a hyphen in it. Like I don't know why that's there. We're going to play the music, but, you know, I just want us to enjoy the moment. I'm excited about Jake. I'm excited to. You're all excited to. You're created this narrative that does not exist.

I do not hate Jay Cole. Jay Cole is from the Carolinas. I root for Jay Cole. But I don't know why y'all don't like honest critiquely. It doesn't sound like it. I think you know what I'm not. We'll talk about when we come back. Okay.

Right. Because you're Dean. All right. Ladies with Lauren's up next is the Breakfast Club. Good morning. Every January, we're encouraged to start over. But what if this year is about slowing down and learning how to understand ourselves

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L.L. Coobeck. Talk to me. So yesterday, the Miami Gardens Police Department announced that Dravante Tank Davis, there was an arrest warrant for him. in relation to a domestic violence incident. So according to the Miami PD, this incident went down, I'm sorry, Miami Gardens PD, this incident went down on October 27th,

but the victim, alleged victim, reported on October 29th. They had a press conference yesterday. I have a brief clip from it. Let's take a listen. October 29, 2025, 215 p.m., the victim entered the Miami Gardens Police Department accompanied by her attorney

to report an incident that occurred on October 27, 2025. According to the victim's statement at approximately 4.15 a.m. while working, the victim was approached by Mr. Davis. The victim reported that Mr. Davis grabbed her by her back of her head, pulling her by her hair with one hand and by her throat with the other. He forcefully escorted her down a stairway and toward the parking garage. Upon reaching the parking garage, the victim reported that Mr. Davis released her at which point she was able to run towards her co-workers for safety.

The victim reported sustaining minor injuries, including visible bruising to her left arm, and she sought medical attention. As a result of the diligent and hard work of our special victims unit, an arrest warrant has been issued for Giovante Bryant Davis on the following charges, battery, false imprisonment, and attempted kidnapping. Is this the same alleged situation that kept in mind of the Jake Paul fight? Yeah, so back in November, we told you guys here at the Breakfast Club that once the Netflix Jake Paul fight on Netflix,

the Jake Paul tank fight on Netflix was canceled, that there were a few reasons that we had heard from a source that this fight wasn't happening. On top of just performance stuff and promotion stuff, one of the things that we had heard was that there was this incident that took place because there was some conversation about an incident that took place at a gentleman's club called Miss Titsies in Miami. Oh, yes, sir. Yeah, and we had been told at that time that there was video. So the police say that they used that video to corroborate the things that the victim's like.

Oh, so they have it on video and they have the video. I told you guys that in November that there was video. But the police say that they have it and that's what they've used to whatever, whatever this victim claimed, or alleged victim claim, when she went into the police department, they used that to say, okay, we see it now. Like, she's saying it happened. We see it. So now there's a rest of the one.

I did reach out to the rep that I have for Javonte Tank Davis, but no comment at this time. So, yeah. Yeah, we'll keep you guys updated on that. But moving on to some other things, I'm so excited. Jay Cole is finally back. Yes. So Jay Cole yesterday dropped a trailer for the fall off, which is supposed to be his final album before he decides to step away from a music.

But he also dropped a song that is going to be on the project. The song is called Dis 2, Track 2, which lets you know that I guess that this is going be a double-sided situation. Double album. Yeah, you know, they dropped two, it's not really two sides because anybody buying a physical album, but you know what I'm talking about like inside B-side? Double-outhing. Let's get to the, let's get to song to, I mean, this two track two.

Yeah, record is cool. Jay Cole can rap. We know that. Mm-hmm. Now, so this project. We've seen that concept before, though, with Nause ReW. Yeah, and Jay Cole has talked about how Nas is such a big inspiration for him.

But yeah, so this project is going to drop February 6th according to Jay Cole, so hopefully, you know, that is where he sticks with it. But the trailer that he dropped before he dropped this actual song was also interesting too, because a lot of people don't think he's actually going to retire. They think that he's

doing what the rappers do. I'm retiring, but I don't. Now, the trailer talks about things coming to an end, and it's narrating him getting his car wash, eating dinner, just going throughout his everyday life. Let's take a listen. Everything is supposed to go away eventually. You see this especially in like show business with famous actors or like musicians. And it's like, oh, this guy used to be famous and then he fell off.

What happened? And they want to point to they did this and this and they made some sort of mistake. Instead of thinking that, look, it's kind of crazy they got famous in the first place. So few people reached that level that, yes, of course, it's not going to last forever. because somebody else has to take that spot. And that's how show business has been since forever. But no, they always want to say, oh, that guy fell off.

They want to look down on them for just going through the natural cycle of rising and falling. I'm shocked J-Cold got a car. Was an electric? It could have been electric. It was a Lambo. Yeah. It was a Lambo.

Damn, Jakel got a Lambo? Yeah. What you mean? And a bike. He just don't crack me as a Lambo game. Any type of person? What? He was driving

Citi bikes We're talking about He'd be driving cars too I didn't I never see him in the car Yeah It could be electric It could be electric

He don't mean He don't get one Yo, you know He'd be on the city bike All the time That was not a shot Stop doing everything With a shot

With your ball That was a shot That was a shot But he was watching His own car though You know Oh okay That's Day Cole-ish

I know what you're trying to There you go Yeah So hopefully we get the Y'all think it's gonna Actually Yes I think Does he have a lot about a release date?

No. He's teased some time periods for this project a couple of times. I think he's coming out on February 6th. And I think I can't wait to hear this album. I think he's going to have a lot of music, a lot to talk about, a lot to discuss. And if he retires, I mean, he is one of the best that has done it. But I don't think he is in the retirement. There's no rapist ever retired.

I don't think so either. Because what is he going to do when he retires? Like, being a false cause. Relax with his family. But that's what that's what that clip said. That's what that's what that. Like I said, he doesn't have to do anything. He's filthy rich. He can be a father.

He lacks with family. Jay Cole is a real creative and a real artist. That passion and that fire never dies. Like, you always are going to want to... You can take that same energy to washing cars. You can open up a whole bunch of car washes. I am not listening to him. He still was responsible for Jed.

He still was responsible for an Earth gang and Ari Lennox. So he can still do that part of it if he wanted to. But he did a better job than a label executive, though. Even though he had great artists. I had a couple clips of you. throwing slick shots. I don't even got playing him because you're doing it right now. I've never thrown no shots at Jay Cole and it's disrespectful that y'all keep saying that. I root for Jay Cole because he's from North Carolina but y'all act like y'all can't critique artists.

I am very curious to hear what approach. Jay Cole takes on the album. I'm interested to see where he's at but I told y'all the last few years before the fall off. He was talking that talk. He was talking like he wanted war. When war came, he decided he didn't want to smoke, which I respect. I have no problem with him backing out the rap battle but you can't still act like you competing to be the number one guy when you had a chance to directly engage. That is true. You said, nah.

But maybe he will explain it in this music. You don't even got to do that. He did it already. Remember he put the record out after he backed out. He didn't tell him nothing to us. I'm just interested to see what approach he takes on this project because he's clearly not competing to be number one. That's not what he cares about.

But he says if you listen back to and we're going to play the full song. Because he's rapping backwards. No, listen, just be quiet. You don't know what I'm about to say. Yes, I do. What I'm about to say? In the song, he talks about still wanting to be the number one guy, but he's rapping backwards.

He's rapping about, he's talking about his career from backwards. Why was I going to say that? That's how he felt in that moment. Well, guys, we got to go. Let's get the record on. Let's get the record on. You ain't even to listen to it in reverse then. Let's get the record on.

Thank you. That's the latest with Lauren. It is. Yes, we're going to play it. We got front page news next. We're going to get into the record. It's the breakfast club. Come on it.

Everything, ding, ding, ding. That was new, Jay Cole. Morning, everybody. It's DJ NV. Just hilarious. Salomey and the guy. We are the breakfast club. Let's get in some front page news.

What's up, Mimi? Mimi. I just want to say, girl, you giving nanny friends today, okay? You look really, really good. Who is Nanny Friends? You remember Frans dresser? The nanny? The nanny from back in the day. Got you, got you. Yes, that's good. Ain't nobody would hire

me as no nanny. Ain't no woman ain't no woman bringing no nanny that looked like that in the house. Unless you yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. You know? You're right. You're right. All right, y'all. There is a small but important development in New York City's

massive nurses strike this morning. So after three days of no movement, New York Presbyterian said it will sit down with the nurses union later today. Talks are scheduled for 5 p.m. marking the first sign of progress since the strike began. Now, this comes as nearly 15,000 nurses remain on the picket lines at New York Presbyterian, Mount Fior, and Mount Sinai, right? They have not agreed to return to the bargaining table. So the nurses, though, they say their demands are simple, safer staffing levels, health care, Real protection from violence on the job. Many say that overcrowding has become dangerous,

but patients being treated in hallways instead of beds and nurses stretched too thin to safely care for them. And so though, hospital leaders, though, they're pushing back, saying the care is continuing and it's improving, and they say that they've made lots of changes, including shorter ER times. But another major flashpoint is union discipline. Nurses at Mount Sinai say that some of the workers were written up

and others have been fired for organizations. organizing ahead of the strike. Let's listen to what some of the nurses had to say earlier this week. Over the weekend, we were unfairly disciplined by management who falsely accused us of interfering with the work of their expensive temporary travel nurse brought to him replace us and who were coerced. We were coerced in training. We will not be bullied by Mount Sinai and we'll do everything we can to contest our unjust firings. But Mount Sinai must be held accountable. They cannot continue to discipline and punish nurses who speak out about patient safety and nurse safety. Well, the hospital, they are denying any union busting saying those nurses were disciplined

for trying to sabotage the traveling nurses from doing their job. And as this strike continues, union leaders are now advising nurses to prepare to file for unemployment benefits if this stretch is beyond two weeks. The crazy thing about the nurse situation is the nurse that called up here this morning and said that they're trying to take the nurse's health care. Like what type of country do we live in when nurses Who care for our health don't have health care? That's insane.

Absolutely. So we will continue to watch that. And if you are a Verizon customer And your phone stopped working yesterday, the company says service is fully back on. Did that affect any of you guys yesterday? No, and I have a Verizon phone. No, it affected the people I knew, but not me personally.

Yeah, mine was cool. They couldn't use the phone. They couldn't text. They couldn't do a lot of things like that were out of commission. Yeah, they said it lasted for an entire 10 hours. It's now being resolved. Yes, 10 hours. So, like, from noon yesterday to about 10 p.m.

Yep. They said that most customers, your phone should be working, if not, just restart it to fully reconnect. It said that most people said that they weren't even allowed to call 911. Oh, hell no. Yeah. What happened, though? What was it? Well, they are not exactly saying.

They were saying that most phones said SOS. Yeah. They just said the disruption, sorry, y'all, it affected customers and you will receive a credit. But in order to receive that credit, Verizon said they will reach out to you personally or to your account. They'll send a text or an email or some kind of way to let you know what that may look like. And again, they have not dissed what it was, but a lot of people, like you said, Envi on social media, they are frustrated. A lot of people said they are leaving Verizon. They ain't going nowhere.

People always say that. Y'all ever seen that movie Leave the World Behind? I think Obama's produced it. And, you know, that was one of the three-step theories of destabilizing a nation. You know, it was isolation, synchronized chaos and civil war,

and it shows how cyberterrorism can destabilize a nation by shutting down its technology because we're so dependent on technology. Nobody could communicate, nobody could make no call. Like all national communication shut down in the movie. The internet, televised, media, phones, satellites, everything. It's very scary because if you think about it,

you've got a family with phones, and that's how you connect, right? Yeah. Even if you have kids, like yesterday, my daughter went on a field trip, and she had to call me to see what time I had to pick her up. But if she would have Horizon, I would have had no cold. You know what I mean? For a long time, they're saying 10 hours. But to go back what you said about the movie,

Ethan Hawke's character in the movie said he was screaming and shouting to Kevin Bacon, and he was like, yo, I'm a man with no GPS. I don't know what to do with my life. Like, what? Like, that was a line in the movie, but it goes to show you how much we relied on technology. They didn't grow up like us.

We grew up off maps, and we grew up off, you know, I could describe directions. Make a writer McDonald's. That's right. There's going to be a red mailbox right there. And then when you get to that red mailbox, it's going to be a sign of a chicken.

Then you make the left of the sign of the chicken and I'm right down in the corner. Sure. Yeah. I would be lost without GPS, okay? So I'm not going to just. I don't know. You know, I barely know my left from my right.

So there's that. Tammy me. I'm just, you know, being honest. All right. And so before we go, a moment to honor the greatest. So, Muhammad Ali, he is getting a forever stamp, which are out today. United States Postal Service, they are officially honoring Ali's life and his legacy. USPS says it has printed 22 million stamps.

And once they're gone, they're gone. They will not be reissued. And because they're forever stamps, they'll always be valid. So you may want to grab you or sooner than later. Does Donald Trump know about this? That is a good question This was four years in the making Before you know

So was the Harriet Tubman 20 What happened to that? What did happen to the Harriet Tubman 20? But it's being released today On Martin Luther King's birthday They said that is intentional Yes We want to support that

And before we end I just want to say happy Founders Day To my sorority The lovely ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Suwardi Incorporated Nice That's right Yes girl you looking good

That's why you got on the colors That is why Would you call me in Franny, the nanny? Yeah, Nanny Fran. Yes, you look like Fran Dresher. Yes. Why ain't do y'all mate and call, Mimi? What's the call y'all be doing?

Don't you do it, Shala? Don't you do it? No. But no, y'all got a call. They got a call? What is it? No. I can't do it.

What? What's you call this? Sing sexy red song. Sexy red? Yeah. No, I'm not doing that. Do it, Mimi. You got to do your call.

Pinkies in the air, Mimi. Pinkies in the air. Seewee to all my lovely ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Suwardi Incorporated. All right, me. All right, y'all. Well, that is your front page news. I'm Mimi Brown. Follow me.

I'm Mimi Brown TV. For more stories, follow the Black Information Network. Download the free IHeartRadio app or visit BINNews.com. Thank you, Mimi. Thank you. Now, when we come back, Ayala Van Zant will be joining us. She has a new show on Own and a new book. We're going to talk to him when we come back.

It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. Morning, everybody. is DJ NVJ. Just hilarious. Sholamaine Nagar. We are the Breakfast Club. Lauren La Rosa is here as well.

And we got a special guest in the building. The legend. Ayanna von Zahn. Welcome back. Hi. How are you? I am blessed. How are you?

I'm doing amazing. All of this young, favorite. All of this young energy. It just, I'll take it. I'll take it. I was born in 1978. If I'm young, do you? Thank you.

78. I got a bra that I bought in 70. That's right. Ms. Monsant, you never stop working. No. You hear today because you got a new show to Inside Fix, but you just put out a book, spiritual hygiene in December.

Why can't you ever keep still? Well, because I don't want to grow roots. I don't want to grow roots. You know, roots are not helpful. Yeah, it's good. You know, don't we need it? Absolutely. We need the work, so we need the energy.

So I'm out here. Yeah. I'm out here. I could be on the post. but this is so much more beneficial I see the first episode hilarious

so for people that don't know it's almost like where are they now where are we now not them yeah where yes where are we now so break down the show

that's yeah what I did was we went back into some of our highest rate of shows with the most memes look at them with the most I know I'm a meme machine And we looked at those shows for issues that are going on today

Because the way we deal with stuff today is very different than we did 12 years ago 12 years ago these six women had a problem and they pulled their Their copy down off the internet today you know that would be IG ITF Facebook they would be canceled and so how we deal with it today But the issue of breakdown among women women is just as prevalent today as it was back then. So how do we deal with that? How do we address that?

So that's what we're doing. We're going back into the shows and looking at how to take those issues and apply them. I love how you did it. Why did you find that more appealing than revisiting? I mean, why did you decide to revisit older stories instead of helping new families? Because I'm old. You're seasoned. You're seasoned. You're old and seasoned.

You know, because we just keep reinventing stuff. And we don't even really get all the juice out of what we got. We didn't get all the juice out of Fix My Life. That's why we can go back in and do it again today, the things that are applicable. Back then, I did shows with mothers and daughters. And now you have mothers divorcing or daughters divorcing mothers, children not speaking to parents. That wasn't going on back then. So, yeah.

and also to let people know that sometimes you don't even know what you're looking at. Yeah. Because people looked at that and got into the characters and the people, but they were looking at a whole other thing. Just like in the world today. We don't really know what we're looking at. Expound on that. Expound on that.

We don't really know what we're looking at. You're trying to get me shot. No. Do I look so much? I don't want to get me. Stop. I do wish DMX could have lived to be on this show. He wasn't ready.

I think he was willing, but he wasn't ready. And you've got to be both. Can't be just ready and not willing or willing. He wasn't ready. You also talk about lady balls. Lady balls. Does just have lady balls? What?

Well, yes. Oh, okay. Now, but we got to understand that lady balls and testicles are different. Bring that different. Okay, because testicles. What? I am cute. You just said everything you see ain't what you see.

The hair you see on testicles is real. Break down lady balls before it just gets offended. You see, a lot of women because of the way we are conditioned and programmed and educated, take on masculine qualities, you know, and they think it's powerful. But feminine power is very different than masculine power. Feminine power is assertive. Masculine power is aggressive. Feminine power is directive.

It's nurturing. It's nourishing. It's clear. And masculine power is often domineering and controlling and directive as opposed to collaborative. So lady balls, you know, a lot of women today want to be the boss and they want to be the diva and have no leadership skills whatsoever. Lady balls are how a powerful woman lives in, moves and stands in her power in a way that nurtures, nourishes, supports, heals, grows other people. It's not testicles. Testicles are aggressive.

They got here. and sometimes they smell. Don't ask me how I know. You know, it's interesting. In one of the episodes, you point out that women don't know the distinction between assertiveness and aggression. Yes. How do you advise women to create a distinction between the two? Well, lead with your heart and not with your head.

Lead with your heart. That's ladyballs. Lady balls don't come from the crotch. They come from the heart. Did you come up with this term lady balls? Did you come with? I love it. I said it for so long, but then when I went to try to trademark it, people have said that.

But I spell mine differently, and nobody else has a deck of cards. My team created a deck of cards so you can pull your lady ball card. Oh, you said deck? I was like, what the hell is it? Oh, my. Just because we're talking about balls. Mr. Willie doesn't have to show up. What do you say to women who have like, because a lot of women shy away from leading with their heart?

because they're called too emotional or they're scared to be vulnerable and make decisions based off of emotion because they think that they're not thinking clearly. Why do you think the heart is about emotion? That's what most people would relate heartfelt decisions too when it comes to women. Well, who men?

Yes, men. Because most women are so far out of their heart, they don't even know what the heart does. The truth is that the mind was created to be a slave of the heart but we've made the heart a slave of the mind or the intellect. heart centered is grounded, it's clarity.

And again, nourishing, nurturing, edifying, it's progressive. The heart is progressive. The mind gets stuck in the loop. That's why we have therapy. Don't nobody go to nothing to try to get their heart fixed. They try to fix their head. The heart doesn't get stuck in a loop.

The heart remains open because the heart is where God speaks. God doesn't speak in the intellect. God speaks in the heart. You ask you a question about what you said about women having masculine qualities, no, masculine qualities, but no leadership ability. They want to be the boss and the diva, but they don't have leadership tendencies, leadership training, leadership, not even qualities, because you can have leadership qualities. But you have to have a, a leader has to have a heart.

We see what it looks like when a leader doesn't have a heart. Yes, indeed. my glasses on. I don't look Somali. Is that something you can learn or is that something that has to be in you? Well, I think that leaders are

born, but they definitely have to be trained. Some people say leaders are trained. They're not born. I believe leaders are born. Some people just rise into it. But there's certain qualities and characteristics

that an effective leader needs. And the one thing is a heart, a heart for people. Another thing is a vision. Leadership isn't just about ordering people around and telling them what to do. A leader has to have a vision. And then you get people to buy into the vision.

And you lead them in that vision in a way that's whole and healthy for everybody. I see that in corporate America all the time. A lot of people in leadership roles and leadership positions, but they're not actually leaders. No vision. They're controllers.

they're demagogues, they're bullies, they're all sorts of things. And whenever money is the only thing that leads you, you're going to have a problem. What would you say to somebody who was, like, say, in a workplace or in a relationship that wants that work relationship or real relationship to work, right? One of the exercises you did on the first episode,

which was from, what, 2014, I love it, was you brought everybody to a department store and you made everybody shop for each other. You buy this person, an outfit, you buy this person out. And then when you did, you said, well, why did you buy that person at? How do you look at them?

So what would you advise for a couple or even somebody working to do to try to fix it because you can't be there or they can't afford you, I should say. Well, they can read my book because in spiritual hygiene, I have spiritual hygiene for relationships, spiritual hygiene for parenting,

and spiritual hygiene for the workplace. Here's the thing in any relationship, three things. Number one, tell the truth. That's right. One of the reasons our relationships are dying and drying up is because we lie about everything. We lie about what we feel.

We lie about what we want. Sometimes it's not a conscious lie. It's a lie driven by fear. The fear of losing, the fear of being harmed so we don't want to be vulnerable. But in order for anything to grow and thrive, you've got to have some truth. The other thing is accountability.

All the stuff that we're not seeing in the world today. Tell it you, be accountable. Don't blame and project. Own your stuff. Own it. And be accountable for every choice, every word, every action. And know what you're bringing to the table, particularly in the workplace. People go to work to make money.

People go to work to, you know, very few people go to work to serve. So what are you bringing to the table that you want something in return? Give me, give me, give me, give me, give me. What are you bringing to the table? So I think that if we did that in relationships, if we did that in the workplace, we'd have a lot more respect and honor for, if I can't believe that your mother,

your grandmother didn't die again for the third time. I used that one a lot. How are you going to look at me? You know, I used that one a lot. We work and have me. I mean, because she only died once, but if I can say that died, it ain't a home. You know, where do you want?

Where can you lose somebody in the face and believe that what they're telling you is the truth? That they're not trying to take you down or get something from you or it's, oh. Can we stay? I want to stay here with the spiritual hygiene. First of all, I love the title of the book. What is spiritual hygiene and how do people tend to it? It's the daily, daily commitment and practice of clearing your mind, of cleaning your heart, of strengthening your spirit. It's not a one-time thing.

It's a practice. Your spirit has to be maintained like your teeth. You know what? People brush their teeth every day and go years without an examination of their own thoughts. They got fungus in their mind. Many people are emotionally constipated. Still bad about, mad about something that happened in 56. How do you clean that up?

You brush your hair. You wash your hoo-ha, you know? but you don't clean your spirit your heart your mind so spiritual hygiene is the daily practice of clearing your mind your heart your soul

your inner life so that your outer life can have a different appearance so what about the people who pray they go to therapy they meditate they sage but they still stay toxic like what are they skipping in the hygiene process what is the prayer most people beg

they don't pray you know And all of that is good, but what's your relationship? What is your relationship with God source, created spirit of your understanding? What is your relationship? God doesn't want your, you know, tides and service only. What is the relationship? And most people, many people, I won't say most.

I'll say many, many people learn the function and the doing of the prayer, but they don't have the presence in the prayer. They don't have the relationship with the very thing they're praying too. Why, I didn't. I grew up in the church. You know, I'll tell you a real funny story. They were trying to baptize me. I must have been five or six.

In the apostolic church, you know, that's, ooh. That's everything's a sin. Yes, man. Rolling your lip is a sin. Anyway, they're getting ready to baptize me and, you know, they dunk you down in the water and stuff. And they say to me, will you take, do you accept Jesus Christ as your life? Lord and Savior. Now this is way back when, and that's how old I am, when Jesus was

still on the cross with the little droplets of blood on his hands, I, me, the brilliant child, I look up and I say, who him? He can't help me. Oh, my God. You know, I got beat into tomorrow. You know that, right? I said,

who him? He can't help me. Because, you know, he's down off the cross now, you don't see him. But we were fed religion. We were told what to do. We weren't taught to build a relationship. And it took me a long time to know that it wasn't about the doing of it. It was about the being in relationship in the presence, being present in the prayer, being still and knowing. When did you learn to pray and I beg? When the begging wasn't working. I just got tired of begging. And then I said, okay,

what am I doing wrong? I'm begging and you're not paying attention and this is not the way of God is supposed to respond. When I learned two things, how to be still and how to know. How to be still within my mind, my heart, spiritual hygiene, and how to know when I was in the presence. Not when I was reaching out,

But when I was turning in, and that was it for me. Instead of going out, go in. I remember you did the, you had the really big daddyless daughter segments that you would do. And you would talk about the uns, like the things that they need to like, or the words they need to know, like, daddy's gone. And just the reality of like moving forward from. And I remember that. You're not triggered right now, right? No, I'm not triggered.

But I used to watch the show because me and my dad at that time, it was like early on in us trying to figure out, okay, he's new back into my life. How do I feel? Do I have questions? and I got to a point where I was like, all right, you weren't here. Here's where my life is. Like, I don't want to be a victim or like a product of that. She was daddy listening. I just said that stupid.

I just want to make sure she understands. But your series, your series helped me, though, because my mom was one of the people that was like very like, she just act like it didn't happen. You were, you acknowledge that it happened, but you didn't let people live in it. So it helped me to realize, like, okay, what are we going to do here? Like, what are we going to do with the relationship or what are we going to do with yourself and how you're, you feel about that. And if it's not accepted from him or respond to him the way you want, you

can only control yourself. Yeah. Because you get to choose. And he gets to choose. And sometimes the shame of it, the guilt of it, a lot of dads, moms, people can't show up. Husbands who cheat come back and they can never get it together. Or wives. Because did you know wives

were cheating? Yeah. Black men don't cheat, but boy. What? Black women? You don't know. Your nose is growing. Let me move it. Exactly Yeah But you know My hope My prayer

And I appreciate So many people Are so excited About the show About the book And may my legacy be If nothing else That I gave people

Skills and Tools To take responsibility For themselves Because the world we're in Right now The mess that we're in Is because we were anticipating somebody else doing for us

what we needed to do for ourselves and so we got to do the work you have to do your work accountability is a hard concept for a lot of people to grasp Miss Juanzaa. Awareness accountability and integrity integrity where your mind

your heart and what you do are all aligned very often people think one thing feel something and do something else get an integrity line it up and be willing to piss people off to maintain your own integrity. Honor yourself. Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

Don't dim your light like that. Take responsibility and just embrace everybody in the process. You always say healing isn't pretty. Why do people romanticize spirituality but reject the mess that's required to actually of all. Intellectualizing the spirit. Like people think spiritual, people shouldn't get angry. I'm from

Brooklyn. I don't get angry. I get pissed the F off and I'm coming for you. Now, okay. All right, you know what I'm talking about? I grew up with the bodega on the corner. Okay? So, I just don't do that. I'm

responsible for myself when I do it, if I do it. And I don't stay stuck. there. And that's not going to become an identity for me. Let me see you abuse a child. I'm coming for you. All guns drawn, cussing like a sailor and hit you in your head. Punch you right in your throat. Okay. Disrespect a woman in my presence. I'm coming for you. You know? So even though I'm a deeply spiritual person, there's sometimes when you have to, again, throw cold water in somebody's face.

But people want to intellectualize spirituality. Oh, you have to be kind and loving. Yes, you do. But sometimes you are human. And it's okay. In terms of it being, healing,

not being pretty, it's because most of us are not aware of the depth of healing that is required. We're not aware. We think it's just if he would behave or if they would come back or if they would say I'm sorry that it would be okay.

It's so much deeper than that. So much deeper. And most people are afraid to go in. And when I say most people, I'm not generalizing. I'm speaking about in terms of the years that I've been doing this work and what I've seen, what I've seen. Don't want to go within. Don't want to look at within. Don't want to do the spiritual hygiene.

No, no, no. Is there a difference between being spiritually clean and being spiritually sterile? And what I mean by that, can we ever over sanitize ourselves out of just human connection? Now, that I don't know. Spiritually clean, you're still among everybody. If you're not connected, then you're not spiritual at all. Because the deepest part of spirituality is connection.

So I don't know about spiritual sterile. Let me write that down. Because you know I'll forget. The only reason is that some people try to, like you said, they try to set so many boundaries and they intellectualize spirituality to think that they got to be away from people and be apart from people. To me, that's not. But some of them do.

I mean, look at the monks. Some of them, that's their mission. That's their ministry. That's what they do. They go out there. I'm not on that committee. I'm not on that committee. I'm on the people committee.

But spiritually sterile, I don't know. That's a good. Thank you for that. That'll be my next book. I love spiritual hygiene, man, because there's a rapper named D.G. Eola. He had a song. I call it a Negro spiritual call. Ain't going to let up.

And in the song, he said, get yourself together. Go get your brain a bath. Go to church. Start listening. Get on the right path. And that's what spiritual hygiene is. Clean up your spiritual hygiene. And, you know, I'm really, for me, the greatest thing was to see how far I've come.

because I wasn't spiritually clean. I wasn't. And to see how far I've come and look at the experiences that I've had, the divorce, the death of my partner, my losing two daughters, you know, all of it, all of it. And to see how far I've come, you know, you can't fall off the floor. So I was on the floor. So to see how far I've come from how far down I was, It's humbling.

It's really humbling because millions didn't make it. Thank you for joining us. Thank you for having me. I really... Can I say this, too? Yes. First of all, you are absolutely gorgeous. You do know that, right?

Yes, ma'am. Don't let Charlemagne tell you anything. Okay. Can you tell her to Lauren, too? Well, she knows she's the baby girl. She just a beauty little funk in her face. Let me tell him Charlemagne don't bother. That was the part of me.

Don't bother. I don't bother. Yes, he does. I be trying to get her to get her spiritual high school. I am so proud of you. Thank you. Really. As an OG, I am so proud of you.

And the way that you present, I mean, sometimes you all do a little controversial, but that's okay. I'm OG, but I can do this. Yeah, yeah, I can. My little ones keep me up today. Continue to represent yourselves and us in this really, powerful, productive way. I was so excited when I heard about Netflix.

Yes. Good. So, just continue to do it, okay? All right. Thank you. Every January, we're encouraged to start over, but what if this year is about slowing down

and learning how to understand ourselves more deeply? What if this year is about giving ourselves permission to feel what we've been holding and knowing that it's okay to ask for help. I'm Mike Delarocha, host of Sacred Lessons. This is a podcast for men navigating stress, emotional health, fatherhood, identity, and the unspoken pressures were taught to carry alone. We talk honestly about mental health, about healing generational wounds, and about learning how

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helping men unpack shame, anxiety, and emotional pain they were never taught to name. In a powerful two-part conversation, we discuss why men aren't emotionally bulletproof, why shame hides in plain sight, and how real strength comes from listening to yourself and to others. Guys who are toxic, they're immature, or they've got something they just haven't resolved. once that gets resolved, then there comes empathy as in compassion. If you want this to be the year you stop powering through pain and start understanding what's underneath, listen to the mailroom on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows. I love y'all. I just want to tell you. If y'all don't know that, I love each one of y'all. I love you too.

And Ving. Shala? Nigger, shut up. Oh, my God. I said I love you. You ain't going to say I love me back? You know what? I like that. So much trauma as a kid.

I know, right. Uncle is Amy going to say, I love you bad. I'm thinking about it. You know, if you love him? We're going to have a place that we work at.

I love my coworkers. You know that man for over a decade. You don't know if you love him. And you know that. And I know that I don't know what comes behind that. So I don't, I'm not just answering to I love you. I feel like I love you.

You're manipulating me right now. What are you saying this for? Why did you just randomly say this? Trying to manipulate him? You're traumatized me. I don't know why you said. You said, you said I need to say my feelings more.

So I'm saying my feelings to you, and now you don't say nothing back. But I was sitting here the whole time, and then Gunner was playing. I won't want an F-the-night at all night. I don't know. I'm just looking at you. It's not, it has nothing to do with me being afraid to tell you I love you. It's just I need to understand the context of why you decided to say it in this moment. Forget it. Let's get to the ladies for Lauren. Yo.

I took it back. Yeah. I'm not dumbing myself down. I'm being myself. That ain't true. I'm the home guy that knows a little bit about everything and everything. The little brown girls look at you and go, I want to be like you. Take me through that, take me through that.

Where is she going? The latest with Lauren Ooste on the Breakfast Club. LL. Coolback. Talk to me. What's up, love? So y'all remember Dionne Coe was here on the Breakfast Club when he came to promote the NAACP Image Awards. Going down on February 28th. And he told us that Brian Austin Green was going to be on his podcast because there had been a conversation about Brian Austin Green and Tishina Arnold dating.

let's take a listen to him here on the Breakfast Club. We got another one coming out this Wednesday. We got Brian Austin Green. From 9-101010? Yeah. Wow.

He's going to be talking about what Tashina was saying about it. Go ahead. What the hell we know about that? What are you doing? So how they dated. Get the fucking. Yeah, yeah.

So Wednesday. Wow. Green and Tishina Arnold? Yeah. It's a Wednesday. Wow. Wow. They was on Martin.

And she said that she had. let him go because he was sleeping so many black women. She didn't want to keep sleeping with him. And then he'd go be with a white girl and share his riches with a white girl. So she let him go. Oh, wow. And then she was like, you know, she's lying. So that conversation has premiered.

He gave us the little inside and now it is here. So Brian Oster Green sat down with Dionne Cole for his show, Funny to Know You. And, yeah, they get into the conversation. Funny knowing you. Funny knowing you. I'm sorry. Yeah. So they get into the conversation and Brian Austin Green has a very different take on how the relationship went because he says that Tashina was the one who was hiding the relationship.

Let's take a listen to Brian Austin Green on Tashina hiding the relationship. Tashina, she was doing Martin at the time when I was doing 902.0. She was singing. I was producing. So I became friends with her and Tisha quick. Then Tishina started coming by the house. and I was just playing beats and it was like, oh yeah, it's work on some stuff and we were doing that. And then because we were working together and we were around each other all the time, we just got along really well.

So we ended up fooling around and kind of dating. But it's funny. So the pride that you say in culture and race, like she coming from Martin, she was very clear on day one of like, nobody can know about this. Like it really triggered something of like, oh, okay, I'm not good enough for any of this. you don't even want your friends to know that you're hanging out with me. Brian, shut up. I don't know.

Shut up. Brian, shut up and thank God that you got the opportunity to clap those colored cheeks. You hear me, God gave you the opportunity. You know what a colored cheeks? God gave you the opportunity to taste that nubian nectar. Yeah, sit down, eat this slice of pizza and be quiet. He was fine, though.

Okay, the same to Shane. Yeah, he was fine. I think even in this interview, I think he still had a little bit of the end. whatever but um now okay i'm not mad at her for controlling the relationship that way and i understand her you know her hesitancy at the time is that gonna be a cute little couple well okay so he does stay in the interview her couple but cute eventually they did start popping out but basically she had already put him in this mindset or this place of like no nobody knows um but he says that

because there another part of the conversation was her saying like you're gonna end up with a white woman at the end of all of this so a white woman at the end of all of this so i don't want to invest my time right did he did he though He did. And basically, let's listen to what Tachina said. And then I'll explain because, yeah, it happened to what she said it. Let's say listen to Tashina. I did.

I did the actor that I dated. Yeah. And the one white guy that I dated. You dated a white guy? I sure did. That's good. How was that? He was different.

But I told him, I said, the reason why I'm not, you know, we've come to the end of our role because I know, I see you dating all these black women. Now you're dating me. And you're not going to end up with a black woman. You're going to share your riches and your legacy with someone white. And so I'm getting off this train. You like him and he likes you. We liked each other, but he pursued me.

He actually took me on a date to we did the red carpet. They asked me to, I was like, what? I was just pitching you guys. And this is in the Highland Martin, too. Yeah, I was like, what? But he was good looking and stuff. And I mean, I said, Brian Austin Green, but he was, yeah, very well-old. Yeah.

Nice guy. Oh, yeah, the chat just reminded me. He was married to Megan Fox. Yes, I was about to give you the list. So he also, he was dealing with Vanessa Marceal. He has a son with her, his ex-wife, Megan Fox. He actually says he introduced to Sheena to Megan Fox at one point and told Megan Fox this is the worst girlfriend I ever had because of what they went through.

But yeah, he has kids with these women and they're not black women. I wonder what his color list looks like because they said that he was colored list because they said he was dating a bunch of black women. What do you mean? What's the colored list? He had a bunch of black girls. The black women, yeah. He was hanging out in the hip-hop scene.

Oh, you didn't like how he said it. Ain't no damn. Let me see a colored list. What? He can't say that. Anyway, do we know any other color? Exactly. Do we know any other black women that he was dating though?

Right now, the only people that are they famous or? Well, he says during that time that because he was at the height of his career, he was hanging out in hip hop scene, there were women of certain names. But he says there was no social media. They were able to keep things low. You know, but that was a different time. Yeah. That was a whole different time. Okay.

And shut up and appreciate the things that God bless you. you with Brian. Nobody shuts up anymore. Everybody won't tell everything. You know what I mean? Just enjoy your moments. Who started it though? I was going to say to be fair, she brought it up in the first interview. She didn't say his name though. She ended up saying it. Yeah. And that's what Dion told us here. He told us

that this response was going to happen. But he does say that they did that this was out of love. There's no hate between them. And he says that they spoke right before he went into that interview. So I'm sure he told her. I'm about to talk about you. Man, when is Dr. Umar are going to sit down with all the dialogue and have a conversation? So I'm going to have to sit in you for 10,000 lashes. Oh, God.

Oh, damn. I know, Dr. Humma, got some thoughts about this one. That's the latest with Lauren. Yeah, coming up... I got to say it. Coming up and the next latest, we're going to get into some LeBron, Rich Paul stuff.

Because LeBron, I mean, Rich Paul has himself in some hot water, and of course, is bubbling on over to LeBron now. Rich Paul must not care about clutch no more. He must not care about being an agent at all. Well, we'll talk about that next hour. Don't forget also, get on the lines.

Just Fix My Mess. 800585-105-1. Now she has this book that's coming out the 28th, right? Yes, April 28th. So if you're having co-parenting issues, she will break it down for you. 800-585-105-1.

Jess will fix your co-parenting mess this morning. Now, Solomon, who are you giving your donkey two? Man, I need one of you gamers. William Bussey. We'd like to have a word with him. Not bussy. Busy. Butchie.

Okay. Bunchies. Okay. I didn't say. No, my no butt cheeks. It's the way. It's shitless. That list is horrible, boy. All right, we'll get to a next to the breakfast club.

Come morning. Hush, Batman. Some donkey today's just saw themselves. Haven't watched you, Charlottam, man. What's ready to? I never heard a donkey other day. What is it? Say it again, Shalama.

I'm a donkey. Yes, you are a dog. I told you how to act a donkey. Everything that Charlotte Lane is true. Doggy today for Thursday, January, 15th goes to a 61-year-old man named William Bushy. Okay, now William is described as an isolated man who spent an in anordinate amount of time alone playing computer games in his room.

Okay, I don't know if you all realize it, but there's a whole plethora of people who don't need to do anything in life except for this. Okay, in fact, this is their life. They're called gamers, right? And it's levels to being a gamer, all right? They have specific terms like hardcore gamer, which describes individuals who dedicate a significant amount of time to playing games. Other terms include gaming addict and gaming enthusiasts, which highlights their passion and enjoyment of video games respectively.

Well, we need to add a new descriptor to this list because what do you call a person who's willing to kill you if you get between them and their gaming time? We'll discuss in a second. But first, let's go to CBS 8 for the report, please. This is the shotgun that he loaded, a shotgun that nobody knew that he had. San Diego Deputy District Attorney Scott Porello showed jurors a weapon William Bush he used in the August, 24 shooting deaths of his sister, 61-year-old Lori Robinson and nephew 33-year-old Brett Robinson. Bushie's 86-year-old mother, June Bushie, was also injured. June testified she and her daughter were talking outside on the patio of her Point Loma home when

Bushie emerged with a gun and started shooting without saying a word. But Bushie's defense attorney argued he kept to himself and had never been violent. He says Bushie moved in with his mom after being diagnosed with HIV, leaving him so sick. he couldn't work, saying Bushie snapped believing his sister was trying to get him kicked out. That was CBS2, by the way. Listen, man, society really has a flawed dependency on technology. We saw that yesterday when Verizon went down for 10 hours.

Folks was losing their minds. Have you ever seen the movie leave the world behind? We discussed it a little bit earlier. The Obama's were producers on it, and they have this whole three-part disaster theory, which is isolation, synchronized chaos, and then civil war. It shows how cyberterrorism, can destabilize a powerful country.

People always ask, could this happen in real life? And the answer is yes, okay? You shut down all forms of communication, you know, get rid of internet, TV, phone, satellites, video games, shut all that down. People will lose their minds because we are a technology, technologically dependent society. Okay, when you shut down our technology, people fall into a state of hopelessness and confusion. And that's exactly what happened to this dude William Bushy. On top of everything else he was dealing with, okay?

He heard that he was diagnosed with HIV. He was 61 years old, had to live back home with his mom for the last 15 years. So that means from the age of 46, he was living with his mom. Okay, he clearly has never heard no scrubs by TLC. Because if he did, that would have set him off a long time ago. Now, he had a history of acting hostile toward family members. All right. So he clearly never liked any of them.

And if you read the actual police report, it says his sister moved back in, his sister moved back in. And that set him off too and let him to start acting out. even more. Sidebar. And I want y'all to remember this, man. When you pray for negativity to be removed from your life, don't be surprised when God starts removing family members. And furthermore, you don't have to have any loyalty to your family if you know they aren't going to do anything but cause you problems. Okay, did you hear the great Ayan Lavanzant last hour when she said she avoided her daughter's funeral because she didn't want to trigger her daughter's son because she knows she's a trigger for him and she's not going to put herself in an emotionally

unsafe situation where some harm could happen to her. She knew that and distance herself because oftentimes, all right, our greatest challenges don't come from the outside. Hell no, they come from the inside internally in your own head. Okay, folks are dealing with all types of mental and emotional issues and inside our relationships, inside our families. Okay, if you don't feel safe around your family members, you better listen to your heart three sacks because that awareness can

and will save your life, all right? The prosecutor in this case, well, I think I wanted to do the prosecutor, but I was reading a report and it said, the family took several safety measures out of fear, okay? They removed denies from the home, they changed locks, and

they got a rescreen in order, okay? And they were taking steps to a victim. Police were even called to the house twice because of angry outburst from William and officers determined no crimes were committed so they didn't arrest him on either occasion and now look all these people dead mama shot

because the internet was shut down and you couldn't play your video games and all they were trying to do was relocate the Wi-Fi router from his room his bedroom to his mama's room look man you are not responsible for your trauma

but you are responsible for your healing William was 61 years old this was a fully road ass man okay big age of 61 the same commitment he had to video games, he should have had to his own mental, mental well-being. Because if you can tell law enforcement you felt inadequate and isolated, then you could have also told that to a therapist.

And William is currently on trial, and he's going to get sinister forever. He's going to get sinister forever at least three times. All right, not to mention, William, your dumb ass ain't even going to get to enjoy GTA 6. Okay, you're going to be in prison with an anus full of skin flutes while the rest of the world is experiencing the greatness. A Grand Theft Auto 6. You didn't take this. You didn't think this thing through.

Okay? You went in William Bushy, but you're going to die, William Bussy. Please give William Bussy the biggest he-ha. I just want to say, what? His Bussie is very protected. It should be. I don't think anybody can be going up in there. If you already got a life sentence.

No, he's the one with the life sentence. But if you already got a life sentence in prison, you don't even, yeah. No, no. If you already got a life sentence, you don't really care. Nah, you care about that. Right. You know, I don't know how many skinfleet spray be flying up there. You already got a life sentence.

Damn. His level's the life sentences, though, yo. No, it's not for that. He's white. Nobody will play. He is white. No, you're definitely Caucasian. Come on.

William Bushie. Hey, mom, you're ruining my life at 61. You're going to take the Wi-Fi. You're gonna take the one button from me. Yes. Like what? No, he's white. GTA6 ain't come out yet, right?

No. No, that's what he said. Damn. Damn. Okay. All right. Well, thank you for that donkey today, sir. Now, when we come back, 800, 585-101,

Just Fix My Mess. Now, Jess, where's your book's coming out? When is your book coming out? My book, Till Death, Do We Parent, is coming out April 28, 2026. Yes, indeed. And it's available for pre-order right now on my website. justlarious official.com or wherever you

pre-order your books, buy your books from. And yeah, I wanted to devote this segment, Just Fix My Mess, this week and every week leading up to the release of my book to co-parenting because it's such a broad topic. Yeah, so if you're having a co-parent issue and you need Just to fix your mess, call her up right now, 800585-105.1.

It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. Help me. It's the real deal. Help me. Help me. Oh, my God. I'm all up in your mess. I'm a fix it. Fix it.

Fix it. Jessica, fix your mess, because my advice is real. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy. Just hilarious. Shalameen the guy. We are the breakfast club. We got Maggie on the line.

Maggie, what's up? Hey, how are you guys? All right. Jessica, fix your mess. What's your problem? What's wrong? You sound sad. What's going on?

Hey, Jay. I have two kids, and I live in two different neighborhoods. So their dad lives in one neighborhood and I live in another. He's supposed to watch them while. work, but his parents are watching them instead. And it's becoming overwhelming for me because I have to take them to cheer, swimming, school, and everything that I'm taking them to, I'm taking them late. So you don't have any help basically from the father, but you do have help from his parent.

Yes. It's through him, though. Like, I'm not really talking to his parents, but I'm talking to him. Like, are you able to do such and such? And it's actually saying yes, but making his parents do it. Okay, so it's kind of hard to understand you at my own. Like, speak of phone. Are we on Bluetooth for anything? Because it's like, I can hear you, but I'm struggling to hear you.

Can you hear me? Yes, I can hear you now. Now, you said that last part about his parents, he basically has his parents taking care of his child, pulling the weight of him. Like, pulling the weight for him. Yes. Okay. And so what you want is some accountability for him. You want him to step up and be the father?

Or something. Like, I'm going through him to get help, but he's making his parents do it. But it's also making me feel overwhelmed. Yeah. See, that's the thing, though, right? You can't really change that. You know what I mean? Unless you do go to the courts, you know, because they still are helping.

Technically, it's still help from his side. And you can't even control that. You know what I mean? I know it's overwhelming for you, but you're causing yourself a lot of harm just mentally and just draining. Like, it's draining because you're worried about him being a parent while you got to be the parent. and his parents are helping,

but he's not really stepping up as a dad. Now, you can't make him do that. The court can, but you can't make him do that. So if you already doing bad by yourself, get the court to be involved with it. You know what I mean? What's keeping you from doing that? If it has to get to that point.

I don't know what to, like, what am I asking the court for? That's what I'm asking you. Like, what exactly are you so, like, you know what I'm saying? Like, are you asking him to step up more financially? He needs to get his kids? Because it just sounds as if you're upset that their father basically is their grandparents.

But you're the mom. Like, you really can't control him. Like, you know? And you got two kids with him? Yes. Okay. What made you have the second one? Because he was a really good dad originally.

But when he lost his job, after we had the second one, that's when we started having problems. Yeah, yeah. Well, I can tell you right now, man. it's women out there that got kids who dad ain't doing nothing and the parents ain't even doing nothing you got help from his parents that that's not

that's not necessarily a bad thing but it's a bad thing for him because he's not the one directly being a parent but at least you do got help from that from that other side I know that sounds that's probably not what you want to hear but you can't control it you know you can't control whether or not

he be he steps up to the plate and be a dad that's what I'm saying if it ain't getting to the point where you got to take it to the courts, allow, just keep taking the help that you're getting from his side. Okay. Yeah, babe, I'm sorry about that. But keep doing what you doing, babe. No problem.

Good luck, all right? Thank you. Who do we have on the line? CJ. Hey, what's up? What's your problem, Mama? Good morning. Good morning.

So, just fixed my meds was for co-parenting, right? Correct. Yes, ma'am. Okay. So I have a 13-year-old son who is autistic. and his dad is just a bum. Let's just keep it real. So now he has a new family with a three-year-old, almost three-year-old daughter,

and everything is ran by his new household. Mind you, we're 38 and 37. That woman is 23 years old. Why is she running what's going on with our sons who is 10 years younger than her? You said she's 23 years old? Yes, ma'am. Oh, okay, your baby daddy's girlfriend is 23 years old. Okay.

13. Yes, he's 38. I'm 37. And our son's 13. He's autistic, nonverbal. His behavior is kind of crazy. But he's very calm with his dad. So I like him being around his dad.

My daughter is 21. I got an older daughter too. Her dad ain't never been in her life. Last two weeks before she was born. So with this one, I try to keep the relationship going. But at this point, I'm about ready to end it. And I don't want to do that to my son because I feel like that would be putting him had a disadvantage.

Absolutely. But I'm out of the race, both Ray blew up a shit, and I'm trying not to do that. Okay, so what's making... So how can I get through to my son's dad for him to make my son a priority? Okay, so you feel like he's not,

is it really, be honest with me, is it that you feel like he's not really a priority or is it a girlfriend that you don't like because she always got something to say? Oh, no, we've, in three, four years that they've been together, her and I've only had one conversation. I don't have no issues with her.

I respect her as a mom. I just don't think that she should be, well, every female running household. Let's just, we know that. They've been together for three years? Yes. Okay, so she was 20. Okay.

So go ahead. Yes, and I've been with my, like I have a man, too. We've been together almost five years, but he works. Congratulations. Overseas sometimes. I think you ought to say all of that. So I don't involve him since he got his own kids, on co-paraging situation.

I don't have no problem. with that girl. Me and that man ain't even cut together since 2017. So it ain't that either. Okay. But because our son is so severely autistic, I need him to be a part of his life. Yeah. And I can't be the only one.

Is a conversation? I'm trying to be a bitch. I understand. Sometimes we want to go there, but that honestly don't do anything but make matters worse for us. You know, so is it like a conversation that you can just have with him? Because it seems

easy. Like you could just talk to him. about it because you said he's a great dad, but you said he is a bum. How is he a bum? I ain't here no bum qualities yet. Oh, he doesn't. He never keeps a job, never has any money, sent me $10 in a whole two months thinking that that was going to do something. We'll quit a job in a heartbeat just because he thinks that the hours aren't flexible enough

or something like that. To me, a bum is somebody that don't get up and get to it. I don't want to go to work every day. Yeah, but it's... I'm going to work every day because I have to. I got you. Is he in his son's life? Because I allow him to be yes.

Listen at you. Listen at you. Is he in his son's life? He has all day long of time, right? He has a whole day of time. He does nothing. But you can't have your son so I can go to work. So now I'm putting in time for me to be at home with my son.

Because you can't take him. Why? Oh, well, she got the car. Okay. Well, we have bus lines and I don't mind bringing him. Oh, well, no, no, no, no. There shouldn't be so many excuses. this.

You are. So I am trying to have a conversation with him without so many excuses also. Like, I just get up and get to it. I understand. And the person I laid down with me, I shouldn't have to beg for you to help me with the life you created with. I got you. I got you.

But a lot of this does sound contradiction. It sounds like you're contradicting yourself because you said that he's a bum. He don't do, you know, what he doesn't do what you need him to do for the child. but when I asked to see him in the child's life, you said it's only because I allow him to be. I'm saying that because I don't think on his own he would be in his child's life. That's why I'm saying like that.

Like, he don't call to get him. He doesn't want to go do things with him. Like, I think that he is in Kairn's life because he has to be and because he laid down with me. Not because he loved, like, I know he loved his time because he's first. Yeah.

But I think that love is only part of parenting. Yeah, yeah. And I need you to do the other stuff too. So yeah, you are, you're... But love is the bulk of it, though. Love is sacrifice, though. Love is, you know, love is, you know, building a bomb.

Love is a whole bunch of things. This is the thing. It sounds like you are tired, you are exhausted. You know what I'm saying? You've been, don't you do the bulk of the work? You know, you're the primary parent. He lives with you. He's 13.

He's nonverbal. It's a lot, you know, and it's only going to become more and more work as he gets older because he does, you know, he can't, he can't, do certain things. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. This sounds like a conversation and honestly

sounds like you need, you know, just therapy individually as well. You need something that help. You need an outlet because you're very you're tired. You work. You take care of your child.

That's also a full-time job overtime because, you know, I understand. He has a special needs. So it's like you're tired, but that is where your projection coming at too. Because it sounds like you project on him a lot too because you're tired.

You work. You have to work. And you got to take care of your child. This sounds like just like a conversation. You got to have with him outside of the girlfriend. Yeah, like definitely with him. Because it do sound like a little animosity between a little shoddy and you too. But I'm saying definitely have a conversation with your child's father. Like just by yourself.

You know, let him know you need him. Let him know like, y'all need you to hear me. But don't come at him because I can already tell your mouth get crazy. Like just just. It does. And his does too. I think we actually need a mediator. I think the conversation will be good.

Yeah. But we need a mediator because him and I always meet each other's energy. Like my man is very calm. My baby dad is not. So when he get going, I get going. Yeah, it doesn't sound like neither one of y'all be calm. It looks like we need a mediator. No, we're not.

Yeah, yeah. No, I got you. But it's still worth a conversation. You know what I'm saying? Even with a mediator, it is worth a conversation. Now I'll meet one of your friends that's going to jump on your team and now only one of his friends. I'm talking about like a real mediator, one that loves you both or one that don't know you both.

Like go and see a real therapist or counselor or something like that, you know? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yes, we could do that. Yeah, Coparenting is not easy, babe. But I'm telling you, it is, it can be a very beautiful thing if you get to the bottom of what the issue is, right? Like, y'all, y'all just got to do that. Yeah, because I want to be friends, and I knew this new when I was 14 years old.

And we have four friends out of point. Absolutely. So I would love to get back to that. And ain't nothing like being friends and only strictly friends with the person that you made a child with. You'd rather do that than to be doing this, beefing and all that, calling me and asking me, you know, telling me you don't want to be a little bitch, you know what I'm saying? No, you don't. Right. So get back to that.

Just calm down, take a breather, talk to him, find a mediator, talk to him. It's all communication. All right. Thank you so much. No problem, boo. All right. Good luck, Mama. Just Fix My Mess.

That was a co-parenting edition. Now your book is for pre-order right now. comes out April 28th. Yes, indeed. It does. Yep, and it's available for pre-order and jessalariasofficial.com or Barnes & Nobles, Amazon, wherever you find your books at. And it's a real book, man. It's not a coloring book, okay?

You did not have to say that. No, but I'm just saying some people saying that because your hand is on the front and you're writing with a pen. Yeah, but it's not a coloring book. It's not, it's a real book, y'all. It's actual chapters. It's 10 chapters. The premiere, Mama's baby, Daddy's Maybe. Terrible Toes. A bird in the hand. I do.

Bet on yourself. Another one. Mama got jokes, flag on the play. My man, my man, my man is not a man. What? Don't ever play with him like that. Don't play with him. Don't play with him. This guy is crazy.

But also, I want you to send me all your dates, too. Because people have been asking, are you going to be, you know, going around on a book tour and signing autographs and signing people's books? And I still want to get you to the mall. Yes, you've got to get me in a mall. I want you to do it. I want you to have your messy vision wear.

I want your clothes, your merch, end of books. Black-owned businesses, Andy? Yes. Yes. Thank you so much. Because I want it to be big. So we're going to get that going. Did you even read my book?

I read the manuscript, girl. What are you talking about? No, no, no. No, no. That was just a rough. I don't like you that much. I'm sorry. Jesus.

The book had to be good, yes. You're going to write my book if you didn't publish it. Don't do that. Don't even do that. Tell death do we paranoid. No, it is a really, really good book. And I think a lot of people are going to learn something from it, man. I really do.

Thank you. You in Rome have a very, incredible story. Thank you. Now, is it true that Rome is doing a disc book back? Oh, Rome got to tell death that we're parent part two ready to go right now. He's like, I got the audio, everything.

You publish and that too? I said you got to talk to Jess, man. I ain't got, you know what I'm saying? Right. Rome is seriously trying to drop like a clapback book. He said he's going to self-publicist. He said, if not, he's going to do the movie with Alvin Gray. He said, but either way, he's going to, his story going to be told. Wow.

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I cannot listen to it without laughing. They're funny. I'm not going to. Wow. Wow. Wow. You have failed this city. Wow.

Wow. All right, y'all, let's get into the latest because I have a lot to get to and I want to get to everything. Okay, look. So first up in the latest, Rich Paul, Rich Paul has this podcast for the... Oh, I've been following this story, yes. Those who don't know, Rich Paul is one of the biggest agents in the game. He is LeBron's agent, Clutch Sports. Now, listen, he has a podcast called Game Over with Max Kellerman.

The podcast is via The Ringer. And people are upset at him having this podcast. So it's become a thing in sports where people have these platforms. They can express thoughts, opinions, hypotheticals, all of this stuff. The issue with Rich Paul, people feel like he's on there talking about things he shouldn't be talking about because he has the influence to influence these things. One of those things are trades. Now, he got on his podcast and talked about a potential trade that could happen with Austin

Reeves. Let's take a listen to Rich Paul on Lakers trade. If I was the Lakers, I would probably be targeting the Memphis Grizzlies as a trade partner for Jaron Jackson. to be a great fit. For whom? Some way, somehow, I would be trying to get Jaron Jackson, maybe get back G.G. Jackson. But I think if you're building around Luca going forward, which they are.

You need a guy like that. You need that anchor. And Jaron doesn't want to be a part of a rebuild. They just put Jiam Morant on the market, saying that they're willing to trade them, et cetera. If you're able to trade out expirings and give up the last first round pick you got, that could be one scenario. Or you can say, let me withhold that. But this comes with an... Austin Reeves.

This comes with a very unemotional attachment because Austin is beloved, which he should be. But he's about to get paid. He's an underdog. There's a world where you can do what's best for your team and do what's best for Austin because Austin deserves to get paid. I've been asking myself,

why is Rich Paul doing this podcast? Because as you said, Lauren, rich is one of the biggest agents in sports. Why is he jeopardizing that with a podcast? Because when he's talking about other players and where they should be traded, I wonder how Rich would feel if other agents were publicly saying that about his clients,

not to mention he's saying that about teammates of one of his clients, LeBron James. That has to mess with team chemistry. If I'm Austin Reeves, I'm looking at Braun, like, what's up with you man? Well, Rich Paul is saying that, you know, there shouldn't be an issue with this because it's all hypothetical. Like, he came and cleared it up once these comments kind of rub people a little bit the wrong way. Let's take a listen to Rich Paul clearing up the Austin Reeves comments. Probably not enough who commented on what you said actually watched The clip, even the full clip.

Right. Including my man, Reg, who happens to be Austin's agent. We talked, this is my guy. I mean, I've known him for 20 years. And he said, Rich, I didn't watch the show. Okay. So we talked about it. And I'm like, look, Reg, you're my man.

And I want Austin to know. This is not about Austin Reeves. First of all, if you watch the show, which you should, and you watch the full take, this was a hypothetical conversation we were having. If I was running a team, not this is what. what's going to happen, et cetera. Secondly, I believe it's very complimentary to AR because he's on a team with two future Hall of Famers and he happens to be the asset.

Nah, no, no, now, Rich. You said my client should be traded. If I'm Austin Reeves, I'm asking LeBron, why is he talking about me being traded? It's just unnecessary noise and drama. And if I'm a player, would I want to sign with an agent that's stirring up all this mess? Yeah, it is. I have no idea what it is a hypothetical. But I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like,

Like, nah, I don't talk about trading me when I know Braun's your man. Does Bronfell the same way? Does Bronn not want me on this team? Or you're talking about trading? Yeah, you said, I am worth it. But yeah, I'm with you. It muddies the water. It's unnecessary noise and drama.

They asked Brown about it. Yeah, they did. So ESPN has a quote from LeBron. This was after they played the Atlanta Hawks. He says, I think you all know by now, Rich is his own man. And what Rich says is not a direct reflection of me and how I feel. He continues.

And I hope people know that. I hope people know that. And if they're not sensible enough. to know that, then I don't know what to tell them. And you said this podcast is on the ringer. Yeah, it is on the ringer. And so Bill Simmons, who was the owner of the ringer, he created it, but then he sold it to Spotify. But he still heads

up, like a lot of their content strategy podcast video. It's his network. Yeah, he had the comment on it because people are basically saying this is like a whole conspiracy. Yes, Bill Simmons is a diehard Celtics fan. He put this podcast together to sabotage the leaks. Oh, shut up. Oh, my God. Let's take a listen to Bill Simmons real quick.

I just did an amalgam of all the texts I've gotten. You're an evil genius. You launched this game over podcast with Rich Paul and Max Gorman solely so you could destroy the Lakers and it's working. First of all, I'll never do that. As much as I despise the Lakers, I would never use

a ringer podcast to try to bring that down. That feels like bad karma. It feels like something bad would happen with Celtics. So how dare you on that? I love it. I think this is great. We've had players like Draymond and those type of guys have starred Paul George, Jalen Brunson.

All of these guys have podcasts where they just talk about the sport, like their fans, and now Rich is doing it, but he's the most powerful agent in the sport. I couldn't be more delighted that the ringer is involved, and if it's caused trauma for Laker fans and disarray behind the scenes, I can't say that was the intention, but it's a pure delight. See, see, Bill put this podcast together to sabotage the Lakers in the season, then he got accused the sabotaging the Lakers, then did a pod telling you that he didn't do that. And I wonder what there's just content. Pretty genius.

What owners say that, you know, our athletes and agents can't do podcasts when talking about the same sport that they represent? That's a question that ESP is posing. Like, what are the protocols if there are any and will there come some from this? I just think of Ringer's having a great week. Amy Polo won the first ever Golden Globe, which was just Hollywood reward in Hollywood because she shouldn't have won that. And then now this situation, that Bill Simmons set up. Speaking of having a great week, great segue, because black women have been having a great week all week. Tiana Taylor kick it off with the Golden Globes.

Issa Rageus Inc. That New Deal. Development deal with Paramount. We got to see Whoopi and Oprah reunite 40 years of the color purple, which was such a moment. Go listen to them on The View. And then Jess Salarius got some flowers on Club Shayshay. So, Ryan, I'm sorry, Austin Davis, comedian. Ryan Davis. Ryan Davis.

Ryan Davis comedian was talking about his social media Mount Rushmore. And he showed Jess a lot of love. So I want to make sure we get this clip in. Let's take a listen. Give me your my Rushmore Social Media comedians Ooh That's a lot of them out there

I'm going to go DC Youngfly Okay I'm gonna go me Kevin on stage I'm gonna go Jess hilarious Okay

Jess hilarious She was amazing I had Jess on She's amazing We're talking about Going from that To doing National sold-out tours

Doing the sitcom With Rail Now on one of the highest syndicated radio shows Rutgers Club in the world. The highest. Who did it like that? So, yeah, that's the Mount Rushmore right now.

I like that Mount Rushmore. Shout out to Ryan Davis, yo. I love Ryan. I would have one person to that, though. I don't know if you can. Is he considered a comedian? King Batch? Is King Batch considered a comedian? I love King Batch. I don't think he's, I've never heard of Stee-D? No, he does like, he does like. Okay, well, maybe not then.

What's his name? But he's in that show, though. He does act. Kingback acts and stuff Yeah, country range the comedian And it's King Batch Yeah, King Batch Yeah, I think He also started a lot of the

Yeah, that's what I was saying Yeah, like that's fine And we, I think But I think he's talking about Stand-ups, so Yeah, yeah, stand-ups, yeah, yeah But yo, shout out to Can we drop a Cleese bond for Ryan Davis?

Not Austin, my bad, Ryan, I'm sorry, I was still thinking about Austin Reeves, you know, the sports had the girl in a little tizzy. It's okay, and he got it, his special was out too, so y'all need to watch it. It's called Underrated

if y'all haven't yet. It was dope though. If you watched the full clip, he was like, like Jess. Yeah, Jess Laris. Like, y'all, y'all seem cool. Yeah, that's my God. And you deserve to be up there.

And that is the latest. Are you seem surprised that somebody cool with Jess? Just don't be knowing. What are you talking about? Shut up. I know, I know. I know, I know.

Yeah, yeah. I know. People remember her, but she don't be remembering. Exactly. Yeah, yeah. You're right. Whatever. Yo, y'all.

She remember his name? I messed it up. But she remembered it this time. But you got head trauma, So we excuse me. The people's choice mix is up next. Get your request down. You'll be sitting over there looking like a thumb.

Leave me along. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning. Good morning, everybody. It's DJ N. V. Jess Lari. Sholomey and the Guy. We are the Breakfast Club.

We have to salute to Ayanla, Bonzant, for joining us this morning. Man, salute to Ayyandla, man. She has a new TV show I'll call. The Inside Fix. Yeah, and it's dope because she's basically going back and talking to all the people that she had on Fix My Life and seeing where are they now.

So that's really dope. But man, she's got a book out called spiritual hygiene, a practical path, but clean living, inner authority, and divine freedom. I think it is a must read for anybody who likes self-help books, man, because boy, some of y'all soul's dirty. She told me I had lady bowls. That was for itself. Because he was like, what?

What do you mean? And then she was like, yeah, she does. Okay, all right. Fixed up past. And then also, salute to all the nurses out there on strike. One called in this morning and talked about the strike. So we're trying to set it up so we can actually go. out there and DJ and support them

while they're out there online striking just to get benefits, just to get some of the just simple things that they would need to work. So, salute to all the nurses out there on the front line. Where are you at this weekend, Jess? I'm in Columbus, Ohio tomorrow and this Saturday. Get your tickets

if you haven't yet, justillarius official.com. Guys, it's almost sold out. Actually, Saturday is sold out. Friday, we still got some tickets available to snatch up, guys. Then next weekend, Birmingham, Alabama. I'll be and Stardome. For two days, we got four shows.

So get your tickets if you have not yet for that as well. And also, do not forget to pre-order why you on my website. Pre-order my book till deaf do we parent. Yes, indeed. Make sure you go do that right now. It is a real freaking book, all right? It's not a coloring book. You know, it's not a children's book.

It is a book about Jess O'Larius co-parenting with her baby, Hawthor, Rome. Okay, so make sure you go pre-order it right now. Yo, you got a positive note. I do have a positive note, man. And it's from one of my favorite authors. His name is Gay Hendrix. Gay Hendricks wrote a book that I really love called The Big Leap. I've read it quite a few times and you should too.

But one thing that he says in The Big Leap, he says a successful life is an authentic life. Happiness and creativity rest on a foundation of transparency to yourself and others. Knowing your own heart and speaking clearly to others will keep you on the right path. Have a great day. Breakfast club, bitches. Do you all finish or y'all done? Hi, I'm Dr. Priyanko Wally. And I'm Hurricane de Bolu.

It's a new year. And on the podcast, Health Stuff, we're resetting the way we talk about our health. Which means being honest about what we know, what we don't know, and how messy it can all be. I like to sleep in late and sleep early. Is there a chronotype for that or am I just depressed? Health stuff is about learning, laughing, and feeling a little less alone. Listen on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. A new year doesn't ask us.

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