The Breakfast Club - Good Moms Bad Choices: Love You, Hate Your Politics

Episode Date: January 27, 2025

The Black Effect Presents... Good Mom Bad Choices! Hi Tribe! Welcome back to the wonderful world of Good Moms Bad Choices! We continue to carry on the torch of No F*cks Given January in this week’s episode as Erica and Milah discuss the pain of politics, expired relationships, and why it's never too late to face your fears. In this week’s episode, Erica and Milah prepare for the Inauguration and discuss their feelings about the outcome of the November 2024 U.S. Presidential election. After months of consuming sensationalized news coverage, fiery opinions post across social media, and surprising revelations about whom certain loved ones cast votes for, the Good Moms ask: are we still friends after the election? What you can expect to hear: Erica and Milah discuss their 400 million dollar lottery dreams and the ideal first big purchase 6:55 Bad Choice of the Week: Grocery shopping with your Ex….but a different kind of groceries 9:43 The Good Moms Prayer: Sometimes, God wants you to let it go 19:33  Love You, Hate Your Politics: Dealing with Inauguration anxiety and navigating politics in friendship 23:15  My Boyfriend Has A Wife! In this week’s SecretSafe segment, the Good Moms read a write-in story from a listener and teach us where there’s a Martin, there’s always a Gina! 44:44  Revenge of the Late-in-Lifers: Erica and Milah share personal stories of trying new things as you get older and why facing fear is good for your children. 58:59   Watch This episode & more on YouTube!    Catch up with us over at Patreon and get bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! Let us help you! Submit your questions Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp   Official GMBC Music: So good feat Renee, Trip and http://www.anthemmusicenterprises.com We miss you! Bring in the New Year with us in paradise at the Good Vibe Rest+Vibe Retreat in Costa Rica February 1-6, 2025 CODE: TRIBESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the man of the house, and of course, she didn't talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was a good woman who always made good choices. Shut that shit off. We're Good Moms Bad Choices. Two single moms who said fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices, and found out they weren't so bad after all. We're experts, oversharers

and your new besties. Sit back and enjoy the ride. I could flip it back, it's 24 hours Champagne showers, they ask me how I'm living and I say I'm so good Welcome back to Good Moms Bad Choices, I'm Mila and I'm Erica and we're back motherfuckers! It's the OGs of uncensored motherhood. I can do that all on my own. Shout out to our new music. I don't know if you guys peeped, but we've had the same music for over six years that we just had to randomly buy because we were using licensed music. But now we've leveled up and we got new music that's personalized to us with lyrics and artists and beats and shit.

So watch out. Good Moms is about to drop an album. Shout out to Renee and Tripp, who are on the track, and to Anthem Enterprise Music, who supported us with the production. Shout out to them. If you need any sort of podcast music, really not just podcast, any jingle, because they're not even jingle. They're like low key, like amazing music producers. So, I mean, I'm going to start're like low-key like amazing music producers. So I mean, I'm going to start my music career, my late in life music career.

Actually it's my reignited music career and I might have to hit them up for some hot beats. Our beat is pretty hot. I don't know if you guys peeped it, but maybe we need to rewind and hear it again. Here, I'll do it for you. I can do that all on my own. I don't know if Rene is going to. And you can't hold me back. I can do bed all on my own.

And you can't hold me back. Give me my flowers. I can make you flit it in 24 hours. Champagne showers. When I heard that I was like, yeah. Yeah. I'm not a bad mom, but a bad mom. We're gonna have to learn the rap. Yeah. Not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

We're gonna have to learn the rap. Yeah, you guys haven't heard the full song yet because. We're gonna upload it on Spotify. It's just podcasting and we can't put the whole thing. Even though we thought about it, we considered putting all three minutes, but we're gonna just upload it separately on Spotify, so keep your eye out.

We're some custom bitches, so we do custom shit. Everything we do is custom. There's nothing we do that's not custom, because like you said, champagne shower is custom bitches luxury. Okay. No half assing over here. Period. 2025. Anyway, hi. Hi. Happy day. Happy Wednesday. Happy hump day. How are you feeling? I feel good. I my titties are out for the youtubers. My skin is clear. My hair, I put a color deposit in to just boost the red today. So we're boosted. You know, I was thinking, how do you guys feel about wearing jewelry from an ex?

Like, not from an ex, but like represents like an ex thing. Like, do you throw away jewelry that- Like someone gifted you? Like yeah, sure, if they gifted it to you or like you got it together, like do you not wear the jewelry anymore? I wear, I will continue to wear whatever I want if it's still cute. I don't feel like...

If Orlando had like a ring that an ex gave him, would you be mad he was wearing it? Or like a necklace? Some earrings? Yeah, I'll just hide it. Okay. Where is it? I don't know.

What are you talking about? That's, it was ugly anyway. I was thinking, I was just thinking about that because I looked down and I have this ring on that I bought and I bought a matching one for me and my ex and he lost his, like the day, like I think the next day that he wore it, which was very representative, he was out in...

The streets? He was in Portugal at the Afro Beats, probably hoeing and hoaring, and he lost it in the sand. And then I was like, this is very symbolic. But I was like, I still have mine. And I was like, am I not supposed to wear this anymore? Because I like it. I don't think it works that way.

He lost his. Fuck him. It's not even connected to him. Yours is connected to Portugal. Because we're supposed to go there next year for the festival. That's what I really like to do. Anyway, I'm good. Just have that random thought.

Because I looked down at my hand and I was like, oh yeah. Oh yeah, that person that I used to know. Was I not supposed to wear this? I don't think it works that way. Um, I'm doing good. I am really, really, really excited to be leaving soon to go to Costa Rica. It's I feel like this February trip is always at a time where I really, really need to get there. But sometime between August and February, I'm like, what the fuck has happened?

And I need to reset and refill my jungle cup and eat real food and be on the beach and be with my tribe with our titties out and eating fresh food. And so I'm really looking forward to this. I'm looking forward to just jumping in and turning off unplugging from this bullshit and treating myself.

And so, if you guys are listening and you're like, oh, it's too late to go, wha wha. I didn't put my deposit down because I'm so stupid. I bought all these presents for all these other niggas except myself. I bought titties instead of a trip. Titties are nice, that's a nice gift. That's what I thought you were going to say.

I don't know about that. If you brought titties, you really need to come to the trip and show them. I don't know about that. If you brought titties, you really need to come to the show them. Honestly, you know, somebody a couple of years ago had got some new titties and I saw them recently and they'd start. They dropped and I was like, those are like good girl. But anyway, I don't have new titties yet. But one of these trips, I am going to debut my new titties. Maybe you should go from Costa Rica to Colombia.

I haven't heard of Costa Rica to Colombia. Oh. And get your titties done. I haven't heard a lot. Or maybe go to Panama. Do they have good plastic surgery in Panama? I don't know, but probably. They have everything in Panama. I need to do more research. I feel like everybody-

They might even have good titties in Costa Rica. Maybe. I mean, everybody has a good titty doctor, but it'll probably be significantly less. But I feel like Colombia, people go for those teeth in that ass. And I'm not gonna, I can't, those teeth be big. Real big. You gotta go to Turkey. You don't even gotta go to Columbia for the big teeth,

bitch, you can go here for the big teeth. But why would I pay all that money to get big teeth in America? They want big, it's an aesthetic, they want the big teeth. My homegirl, shout out to my homegirl that we called teeth, shout out to Becky, she actually got big teeth on purpose. She said it's a sign of prestige Would you get new teeth no if you got a bag no, okay if you won the lottery right now for 400 million dollars

What's the first thing you're gonna do? Invest What's the first thing you're gonna do? Invest I'm gonna take like a 24-hour period and lock my door and just sit in it and just be like what do I do next? What I do next? But you see I thought you wanted me to tell you what I was to do with my fucking money not like I'm gonna go In meditation. I'm just asking what you know, I'm gonna go buy some properties for sure. Yeah, buy some land I'm going to what you would do. No, I'm gonna go buy some properties for sure. I'm gonna go buy some land. I'm going to redo my whole wardrobe. I'm going to, oh, I'm gonna buy a floor, an apartment.

I'm going to get an old school car because that's like my dream. I really want an old school car too. Yesterday, we and I, we went on a bike ride and we were like on our bikes and this old white man, this beautiful cherry red El Camino, is that what it's called? I'm so bad with the names of the old schools. I just know that I want one.

I don't know which one I want. It doesn't matter. Anyway, it was a red El Camino and he had his hair all slicked back and he had his cool glasses on and I just wrote by and I was like, nice car, man. He was like, yeah. And I was like, he'd been waiting for someone to tell him that all day. And I was like, I can't wait to get in my car and someone to tell me that. I've been dying to do an old timey shoot in an old car, but it just hasn't happened yet.

But it's on our list in 2024 or 2025. Shit. I forgot that it's 2025 already. Sure is. Anyway. Oh, actually, one more thing about the lottery. If you win the lottery, don't tell anyone and you have to, don't sign the back of it, actually claim it in a business that you opened in a state where they can't tell you. It's not public record who owns it. So don't say never toss or anything.

Is that how Baby Daddy hides all his money? Interesting. Probably. Going back to the retreat though, if you guys do want to come to the retreat, we do have spots available. There's a link in this description. We do have a special code for the last minute bitches because I know you're a last minute. Last minute bitches deserve luxury too. Yeah, use code TRIBE for a substantial, substantial discount if you really, really want to come. And bring your bestie and maybe we'll even give you a better discount. Don't say good moms didn't give you anything for the holiday season, because we're giving you the luxury of rest.

It's up to you if you take it. You bitches want to give everything to everybody else except yourself. But this is us telling you, you are also worthy and important of rest. Amen. We have a segment on our show called Bad Choice of the Week. And last week I shared mine, which was a sex injury. And you guys got a big kick out of that. And we actually have a submission for a Bad Choice of the Week this week. Straight from our Facebook group. This Bad Choice of the Week is... So my Bad Choice of the Week is I've been entertaining my baby daddy, my current ex. I'm dating a different new guy, but I let my baby daddy eat the groceries.

And I think I'm in love again First of all, I just want to say for the record you lying. You ain't a love bitch. No, you left him for a reason You didn't just let him eat the groceries That is just as as an adult. It just doesn't exist. I've been there I backtracked many times letting a nigga eat groceries and guess what every time happened his dick went in my vagina I don't know. I've had pussy ate and left. It's very rare. I feel like the one time it happened many times letting a nigga eat groceries and guess what every time happened? His dick went in my vagina. I don't know, I've had pussy ate and left. It's very rare, I feel like the one time it happened

I was literally like pushing the nigga out the door and like closing it after fast. No, because you can't, when you do that you don't actually, she probably doesn't really like this nigga at all. So then you- She obviously does, she thinks she's in love again and she has a new boyfriend. That's true.

She's confused. I just know like when I didn't like a nigga I had him eat my pussy and then I kicked him out. I didn't want his penis inside of me. I don't play those type of games. I learned early on, if you eat my pussy, you're going to want this pussy. I know how the pussy works and I know how my pussy works and so I'm just going to do a hard no.

But if you want to give him the pussy. It's hard for me. If you start eating my pussy or my groceries I'm likelihood of me going to the next level 99.9 percent chance or high wait and with the groceries pussy or ass I have you don't know Jay when I know I know but you're saying but we're talking about pussy I'm just saying in general you eat anything below the waist we're going there So her baby daddy ate her ass she's in love again. That must be some top-tier ass eating. I'm assuming he did the whole thing Could you imagine just the ass actually I can I went through that wait, what do you mean? Oh, oh

My god, I forgot about that Oh my god, I got we got a tongue So a couple of years ago Erica was seeing a guy seeing as a strong strong word She was having sex a few times with this guy who? She came to tell me she was like so He told me that he has a condition With his penis. I was like what kind of condition she was like he can only he can't get head because it gets like the saliva It's saliva gets bacteria, but he can can get his ass ate. I said Erica

That's a fucking lie. She said no there's something with this I said, but he she can put his penis in your vagina, but you can't put your mouth on it But you could put your mouth on his asshole. She said yeah, and then we talked about the podcast And then someone sent it to him a girl another girl another girl he had been fucking with telling the same spiel. Said, look, it's so funny. This girl is dating someone who has the same condition and it was the same nigga. And she too thought it was suspicious. Like I thought it was suspicious because the nigga was lying.

There is no condition. And for those who are wondering, no, I did not eat his ass. You didn't? No. What the fuck? So what do you say? You just said, I'm going to go skip the dick and go to that I don't know. I just know I thought that meant that you just said okay

Absolutely the fuck okay, it's only like anything yeah, I know I don't have pictures like you got to start somewhere. We're not Like some air was like so just go a little bit lower and you're like No, this conversation happened before we even started that process. I think we were making out, hooking up, and then he said it. Can you give me an example, like we're making out. Oh, wait, wait, wait.

Yeah. Hold on, I gotta tell you something. Yeah, saliva makes my dick break out. But not my asshole. But not my asshole. Just make sure you don't get no saliva in between the gooch and the dick. Is that what he said?

No. Sure, yes, that's what he said. Ladies, if you've heard about this condition, please call in. Yeah, let us know, what is it called? I'm curious, maybe we can Google it. He's gonna have to lead with a real, actual scientific name in the future.

Maybe he's figured it out now. That he likes only his asshole played with? Yeah. Maybe he's like more vocal about it, just like being strong about that positioning. I would rather, nigga, say I don't really enjoy head, but I do enjoy getting that ass ate because the medical condition, I would have cracked up in his face. I would have been like, what? I was trying to be kind.

Until you talked to him on the podcast, and I'm pretty sure that was the last time he ever told bitches that ever. Who's kind on podcasts? Who's what? Who's kind on podcasts? Honestly, that's true. I mean, we try, really. I try to be nice in person.

I'm a bitch on the podcast. No, we're not bitches. We're nice. Ish. Well, my dear, with your bad choice, I'm going to tell you that it's just an overall bad choice. If you broke up with your baby daddy, it's likely that you don't want him anymore and

you probably don't need to let him eat your groceries or your pussy or stick it in. That's not even the tip. I know it's no fucks given January, but we got to give fucks about this type of shit. Can't backslide in 2025. We got to move on. We have got to move on. She submitted this, I think, still in 2024. So I'm going to hope that she just left the baby daddy grocery eating back in 2024.

Just teach your new nigga how to do it. I know. Yeah, because I had a vision of your baby daddy. Yeah, I was like, you know what? I'm so happy for growth and progress because right now it seems, it probably seems like, oh, I like him. He's so cute. He can eat my ass really well.

But there will be a time where you're like, you're going to throw up in your mouth just from the thought of it. Remember when we were crying over them? There we go. Remember when we used to cry about them? Weird, right? It's such a strange time. It's such a weird concept.

You know, for those like really truly, if you're listening to this right now, you're going through like a breakup with your child's father or like maybe you guys are broken up, but you're like still kind of in that weird in between, like I want my family back. I can't believe this. I can't believe it. I'll never get over it.

Like you think that your story is like the only one, like no bitch has ever gone through this shit ever in history. We have. And I promise you, I promise you. Not only will you get over it, it will be so much better. You will get over your baby daddy. We are testaments.

That nigga will be removed from your, not your heart or your mind. You're always gonna be family, right? Maybe. I don't know. Maybe a far distant cousin. It depends. Once removed. It depends what the setup is. Maybe. I don't know. Maybe a far distant cousin. It depends. Once removed.

It depends what the setup is. Yours is different than most and so is mine. Maybe not most. But I will say like you do. Time, my mom always says this time is the greatest neutralizer. It is true. Like I literally could not see a time where I could just be okay, where I would get the news that he had another child

and I would not give a fuck. In fact, I was on the blogs eating popcorn saying, ha ha, no way, that shit's crazy. Like never did I think I would be able to do that. That's because yours is a fucking, he's like a serial child maker. He likes to make children, you know? And thankfully, like now I'm very,

that's not even that I'm numb to it. I've just like released it, let it go. I'm totally cool with that. And in fact, like I was telling, one of our friends went through a similar situation. Boy, did she. She went, honestly, like I like seeing, not I like seeing our friends go through breakups, but it's so interesting to see friends start where we were at, where they'd be like, so sad, can't get over it, can't get past it, crying every day, and then suddenly, like, something switches and then they're outside. Yeah, outside. But I was telling her and you know, because I was telling her this like a year ago and where she was like, could not see the time could not see the day that it would happen.

And I was telling her, bitch, I bathed his baby. Like I recently like this was like two years ago. Oh, I don't remember this. Yeah, like what I went over there with Irie and they both needed a bath. And so I bathe them both and I just couldn't like it was actually very healing for me To like be able to do that wash your hands of the bullshit while washing my hands the bullshit and I was like This is not this child's fault I would get to that point because I was I felt like you know the way that she was feeling and like, you know, like, which was like, seeing red, like everyone has to go.

Like when you get territory, you're territorial over what you've created and it's and it's it's expected and that's okay. But you will get past it if you allow yourself to you have to allow yourself to you have to remove yourself from the situation. have to stop trying trying trying you have to stop trying you have to stop trying to pretend like you have to show this family structure to the world into your child something has to change and the sooner you release it and the sooner you let it go and the sooner you tell yourself I can do this and I'm okay the quicker the process

starts I held myself back so long from fucking around just because I'm a slow loner and I really was just like Connected to this idea and as soon as I really let that shit go like shit started to move Like like my heart healed so much faster but sometimes I think as women, we cling so hard to the title and to the family. And you know, honestly, I used to think it's because I'm a black woman,

and like as a black woman, you never wanna be a baby mama. You never wanna be like, you know, there's an idea that black families don't keep the family structure, and so you're fighting for like to prove something, not to prove, like not to be with the stereotype. But our friend is not black, and she was fighting pretty hard. So I think it's just like a motherly instinct to want

to keep the family unit together. But you can still be a family in your own unit and him in his own unit. So just like the sooner whoever is hearing this and I know someone out there is going through it right now in the midst of the thick of it, your baby daddy is just, it is just not working. Sometimes God makes shit so bad for you, you have to let it go. Let it be bad. And then those of you who are still in the relationship

and you know deep in your motherfucking gut that it's over, but you keep trying and you keep praying and you keep trying to reiki niggas and go to shamans and the church and baptisms and counseling. And full moons Everything you can possibly do I'm telling you Do one thing you say the prayer you say dear God if this is not meant for me Please make it so so bad that it's so clear I don't even have a choice

But to walk away from this nigga. And let me tell you, be careful before you say it out loud because it only takes about zero to seven days. Listen, that's the opposite of Ciara's prayer, okay? And it works. You think Ciara's fucking prayer worked? This prayer. This prayer, this God, he be answering those prayers

on the fucking speed dial. And let me tell you, it's not just for niggas because we did this shit in our business. Literally, we did this shit in our business and it happened the next day. I did not realize that we did do this in our business. We talked about this last week. Literally, we said, if it's not meant to be, remove it.

Literally, the next morning, boop, boop, I was like, okay, perfect. Well, God said. So it's true, it's just in general. Like when you really ask whoever you believe in, God, the universe, whatever, Buddha, when you ask spirit to remove something that really is not conducive to whatever your goal is

or your purpose, and you say please remove it, baby, you better believe it's gonna remove it, but you have to say the part, make it so clear that I can't ignore it if I tried. And then the other side of that is when you don't listen and then you continue on, just be prepared for shit to go even worse because you went against God, bitch.

You went against your own ask. You went against God, you went against yourself, and you know better, you know better. One time, I got the shit slapped out of me after I went against my own prayer, literally. And I had to tell Erica. I got slapped. I remember that long drive to go pick up those sweatsuits.

Was that what it was? That's where we were going. I got in the car. She's like, are you OK? And I was like, no. He slapped me in the face. It's not funny. I'm sorry. I shouldn't be laughing at domestic violence. Oh! He slapped me in the face! Okay, it's not funny. I'm sorry. I shouldn't be laughing at domestic violence.

It was funny because my dumb ass brought ass for it and I stayed and that's what I got. God said, oh bitch you want to play? I'm an IQ bitch. I mean I did the same shit. I did the same shit. So. And then she got a, there was a baby. So just know that when you do that prayer it is is going to come hard, it's gonna come clear.

Yeah. Not wishing that on you, my dear Facebook friend. I'm just saying, stop playing, stop playing. Stop playing with fire. Cause even fuck around and have another baby with that nigga. Call me room head. Room head.

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And I've been honest, I'm gonna be honest, I've been actively avoiding it mentally, because it's the only way that I can keep sane. Because about six months ago, I told Erica that we needed to be out of the country by the 25th and she obviously ignored me because we're basically well we're gonna be out of the country like three days later but our kids are not good moms bad choices can somebody send the kids I watched way too many movies about the world ending and about zombie a kapokalypsees and bad things. And so my anxiety can be at an all time high. So I have to put on my blinders. But how are you dealing in this time?

Disassociation. Same. You know, during the time, when it all went down, I knew Kamala was not going to win. You know, I know everyone was rallying for this black woman, but if a white woman couldn't win, I didn't have no faith in a black woman winning this election. So I was not surprised. I guess what I was surprised, I can't even say I'm surprised.

I guess my anger was like reactivated for some of the people in my life, especially just knowing me, knowing us, knowing the world, taking, like, I don't know, taking care of our children at times, our friends, just being in our being in circle with us. It just made me really realize how much we are in such an individualistic society that, and I don't know how we go back to being in community in that way. People vote for their own interests. They don't vote for the greater good. And this has been a true example of that.

Also me being Latina and watching my Latina and Latino people vote red every year, which I'm never shocked by everyone. There were a lot of people like, can you believe the Latin vote was blah, blah, blah? I'm like, of course it was. It's that every fucking time because they're voting for one particular topic. And it's like- What's the topic? Religion.

Oh, okay. Yeah, religion and- Not deportation. Abortion and no, it's- Like the god thing. It's the god thing. And also a lot of I feel like a lot of I don't say a lot but the majority of Latin people in this country I feel like have been so whitewashed and they want to assimilate so badly. They don't want to be looked at as those people. They're not the people on the border. Those are not them. Well, a lot of people have fought and fought to be here and be equal. So yeah, I understand. They're not like them, even though they're whatever, maybe their ancestors were like them or maybe their grandparents were like them. But now they've, they've made it, they made it through. And so they're not like that anymore. Or they're so far removed from the passage over here that they can't relate to that experience anymore. And so they, and because they're, they're, their assimilation to whiteness is so severe.

I mean, that's every, every minority because that's how it's by design. I wouldn't say that's every minority. That's like, there's a lot of, there's a lot of Uncle Tom blacks and, and I mean, I think, I think, but even in this election, they wanted you to think that and most of the black people didn't vote for, didn't vote Republican, even though they wanted you to believe that that was what was happening. So I don't, I don't agree with that. I do agree though, that a lot of Latin people I think have been hit even more because we are part, we are of the Americas, Africa, Africa, obviously like we were shipped here,

Mexican people, this is, we were on this land. This was our land. And so I think the assimilation actually impacted us the most here because this is our land and it was literally taken from us here. We were brought from. I would, I would, I would disagree only be, I mean, I just feel like in general, when you live in a world globally, that is Euro cent like Europe, European centered in every capacity, in media and beauty and everything like that is by design thatred, like European-centered in every capacity, in media, in beauty, in everything. Like that is by design that you want to assimilate.

You want to feel like, you know, like my credit's high or I'm, you know, you walk into a building, you don't, you want to be associated with that for survival, essentially. And I think for black people, yes, we were brought over here and it's not necessarily the same landmass, but I do feel like that's even more reason because most African Americans have no direct connection to Africa except that we know that via slavery, what they told us via history books. Just imagine your culture being taken from you on the land that your culture was created. But for Latino people, it hasn't been taken from them. They have their music, they have their food. I'm black. I'm not debating about that. I'm just speaking for

Latin people. I'm speaking for Latin people that have like, it's so interesting because during this time I went on this field trip with Irie. She's learning about the missions and we went to Solvang. I don't know if anyone is familiar with Solvang, but it's where a lot of the missions are, Santa Barbara, San Diego, and you know, they're teaching my daughter about these missions and they wanted us to come on the field trip and I'm so glad that I went because of course they're whitewashing everything and they're skipping over a bunch of shit because they don't want to like traumatize the kids and I'm sitting there pissed and Irie's like, what's wrong mom? And they're all lying and like some of them parents are like, yeah they are and then all

the other, you know, the other parents like la la la la la but when I was sitting there listening to like just revisiting what has been done and for me as a Latina and watching my Mexican the Mexican side of my family completely assimilate to this side my grandmother doesn't like to be viewed as a certain type of Mexican. I think also with that is they can. Black people, you can't assimilate visually. My grandmother can't assimilate as a white person. She could.

She's fair skinned. She could have dark brown hair. A black person doesn't have that option. So it's easier. That's true, but certain Latin people can't assimilate either. It goes both ways, boo. Yeah, yeah. So that's true. But certain Latin people can't assimilate either. It's it goes both ways. Yeah, it goes both ways. And I'm just saying that because the culture literally like was robbed from us, we were they were told this is wrong. This is right. This is savage. Yes, that exact thing happened to black people, but it's different when it's

on your land. So I feel like the assimilation was more severe here. And that's why a lot of Latin people, they don't like to be part of that. They don't like to be part of that group. And so they're more inclined to vote for these said reasons of religion, the religion that they were given, that they hold on so dearly to because it was literally shoved down their throat. And so this is literally so ingrained in them, deeply ingrained. Even more, I would say, than black people, because black people don't vote necessarily for religious

purposes. They didn't vote Republican because they wanted to vote because they're anti-abortion. Maybe some people did, but for the most part, the Latin people that voted, that was like the biggest reason. It's religious based. I think black people have historically always been democratic, period. But I'm just saying, the Latin people generally vote for religious purposes. And we think about how that was one of the biggest ways that they pilgrimized that culture, this culture, Latin people, it was through religion. And so they're voting for that. You know what I'm saying?

I understand, like, it's very heavily Catholic, like, you know, like abortions are a no-no, certain things. I think also, like, for us, is like going back to the initial conversation about like having realizations about people in our friend circle, or people that we, you know, you feel close to,

and then you realize, you pull back the curtain, and you're like, oh, you voted for this? I think like, A, for anybody just joining the show or listening or who just doesn't know, who don't know, Erica and I live, not only do we live in LA, we live in the valley. We grew up in the valley. It is predominantly white. You know what I mean? So I think that I wasn't really a lot, I wasn't very shocked to see some of our friends voting

a certain way, but maybe because I'm so, I'm conditioned to, there's a part of me that understands that some of my friends are just never going to understand. You know what I mean? Like there's a part of me, like we can all, it's all fun and games until some real shit happens because for us, like for them, it's like, it's political, like everybody's racist. But for me, it's like if this person promotes and encourages these racist whites to uproar and to feel comfortable in racism, it incites a different type of violence

where if you're not subscribed to it or you're not a target of it, you could just pass it off as just like, it's just everybody's like that. You know what I mean? When I talk to my friends, which I'll be honest, I don't get really deep because I know I'm going to probably stop fucking with you. I know you're not educated enough.

You're not going to understand. You don't have my experience and you obviously like your level of understanding for what that like what that means for me. Like just the energy of the world is not going to be the same. And so intentionally, I realized it like back in 2020. I'm like, I'm just going to cut the conversation here or else I'm not going to like you for real, for real. And because I just don't want to even go through that or like have to be like, I'm blocking you or I'm not being friends with you because you

voted this. I'm just not going to have those conversations. But I know like that our experience is so different that I don't really expect you to get it. And I'm not even... I think I was more so appalled because a lot of the things... Because so much has happened over the last eight years. And also, so many of our rights as women have been taken away, like Roe versus Wade. So many of those rights have been taken away that I would think that those things at least would perhaps change their perspective.

I know that there's certain things that they're voting for because like I said, we're living in this individualistic society, but as women, I thought, and as women and as the person that you're voting in, knowing his track record. It's just a common sense. That's what grossed me out about the people that I know that we know. And like, you know, some of them, I know they were mad at me, one of them was like, I'm coming to pick up my daughter's

or my son's jacket from your house. And I'm like, okay, bitch, that's fine. I don't hate you. I just don't Jacket pick up. Absolutely. It was immediately it was immediately after I unfollowed her I think that I Just a I had followed her because she was posting shit and I was like, I don't want to see this shit I unfollowed two people and I was like, I don't want to see your shit. It's not that I hate you It's just that I don't think I don't we don't

Have anything that we actually relate on yes, you're are you a terrible person? No, I don't think you're a terrible person Are you a danger to my child? I Don't know if the world were ending like what kind of I? Just feel like This election really highlighted just how much we differ in the values of the human race and society and us as women. And I do believe that for me, I have a lot of integrity about the women, the people that I keep close to me.

I am, I'm a fucking territorial bitch when it comes to my friends. I don't just, I'm not friends with everybody, you know? And like, if we don't agree on certain things or we can't see eye to eye on certain things, and you're going to also hide, that's another thing that I don't like is that people like kind of like avoid the conversation or just don't say anything. Like if you're going to be about it, then just be about it. Then say it, just be about it. You know, I feel like a lot of people Were so scared to like just say this is why I'm voted This is this is why I'm voting for this person until until it until he came into office

so I I I just really feel like honestly a part of me feels like Are you dumb? This is someone who is like, to me, he's a joke. Like everything that comes out of this man's mouth is a lie, is a joke, and it's not even very well hidden. Like he's, there's no, like he's like, I'm not doing Project 2026, 2025. It's like this nigga's lying.

He lied about getting shot. He just lies. He's grabbing bitches by the coochie. He's a felon. So if this is not enough to say, I'm cool off this nigga, you're kind of slow. So then why keep those people in your life? I don't feel like I have to have deep conversations about people's political beliefs because I

honestly don't even think that a lot of the people that we're talking about specifically are even Educated enough to even defend themselves in a conversation I think the things that they would be talking about would be regurgitated information from the internet And I don't think I think with this my things would go over their head and a lot of those people I mean not I don't know if you're talking about the same two people, but I Don't I don't have deep conversations with anyway. It's very surface.

It's very, how are you? It's very, let's let the kids play. So on those terms, sure, I don't mind that. Our kids are friends. They're not talking about political things. If things come up, I'm glad to have the conversation. I know myself and I just feel like I'd rather keep it surface and I'm okay with that because I'm not here to Necessarily be your best friend and go on trips together and do certain things

Like I know where each person in my life sits stands and sits and I'm okay with that I don't have to like remove you in order to understand That we have different goal like views that way I'm black and I'm especially as a black woman growing up in this environment where most of my friends have haven't had the same experience as me, I've come to the place where I'm, I know where everybody sits in my circle.

I think I just, I'm only interested in like integrity based friendships. I don't care to even have small talk. I don't care to drop my kid off at your house just because I need a break because whatever that I've known you for however long. I don't know how to drop my kid off anywhere. If they want to play when it like we see you in passing, you see the birthday party. It's fine for myself.

Yeah. And a lot of people, like I said, I grew up here. A lot of my friends that I've known 20, 25 2025 years I there's nothing I can tell you that's gonna make you understand being black in America And I know you don't get it So it would be a waste of my time and energy and breath to even attempt to start that conversation But it's not even just being black at this point. It's about being a woman at this point You're voting against my rights as a woman. And then I understand that. I understand when bitch when you needed a fucking

abortion. I understand people being confused. He also said in Melania, whatever his wife said, she doesn't believe in the government having having anything in her and in the terms of her body. And so that's confusing. If if a nigga is telling you I'm not going to do this, I'm not going to do that. But someone else is saying something else. Niggas are confused. But he does. Look at it. Look at the actions. They overturned Roe versus Wade under his term. That wasn't when he was there.

Yes, it was. When Trump was in office. Yes, that wasn't during, that wasn't during Biden's term. That was recently. That was four years ago. That was almost four years ago. Has it been four years? Yes. And I think that was per state.

So federally is one thing, per state is different. So I think that within the state, a lot of these backwards ass states did that. And he was basically saying that federally he's not going to be in women's birth business. Obviously there's a lot of lies that are being generated from the entire political parties. Honestly, the thing about me is I'm not a government type of bitch. I'm a black person and I don't believe in anything like American government is fucked to me as an African American person. I believe I know people keep saying this like the greater of two evils. America's evil is fuck. It always has been. It's not a secret. So I don't subscribe to either side just because I know they're both full of shit and it's both for profit

and monetary gain. It's not for the ethics or morals of the people that they contain. But with accepting that, it's like I live here and let's just keep it moving until I can get to Costa Rica permanently forever. I want to know. I just, for me, it's no new friends. I got my friends. If you, I mean, obviously the tribe is always the tribe, but when it comes to- Oh my God, actually there's a bitch in our, who used to be in our tribe that she blocked us on everything. Oh yeah.

Because we talked about Palestine and I'm like, wow, interesting. It's such an interesting fickle time. And you know, it's so telling too that like... The thing about it is like people get it. This is the thing and I'm guilty of this too, is like we get in an uproar around these topics, right? And we get mad at our friends and we get mad at the people that we deem as whatever friends, acquaintances. And then time fizzles out and then we're back to going to brunch and then we're back to you know, having play dates and it's like, did you go to brunch with any of those people? I'm not talking about them specifically.

I'm just saying in general, all of us, like this, this is what happens. We get it. We have this like outrage and then we go back to just whatever it feels normal again. I think there was a turning point in my relationship so I was over different as an adult and I've kept those people in those places. Maybe we have contact with me,

but am I calling you every day? No, am I keeping up with my life? No, as an adult, especially as a black woman growing up in the valley, in certain situations, I was just like, oh, okay, this is where I'll leave you forever. 12 degrees, you know? There's some people who are two degrees,

there's some people who are across the mountain, around the corner. And I just know how to deal in those distances and not take it very personally, because then it's gonna piss me the fuck off, and then I might have to punch you in the face and I don't want to punch somebody in the face late in life. Like I'm not gonna be getting in a fight at 36 years old Can you imagine if I called you so I got a fist fight girl? Come give me I had to be your ass I could I could imagine actually

I'm surprised I ain't got one of those calls yet. Shut up. Now you trying to make me the violent friend Let me think violent friend. Let me think about it. No. Yeah, what was your last physical altercation? Probably when I lived in Atlanta. I can think of two physical altercations as an adult. Once outside the club, this bitch was talking shit about me and I saw her in the club and

I could not let it go. I had to say something and I was like, what was that you said to so and so? We saw each other outside the club and we got into a physical altercation and then one time I didn't really participate in it but I was talking shit because I have a really my gift is talking shit with like a very straight face With like a smile on my face, and I really pissed somebody off my gift I was just like jokingly but like getting under this person's skin, and I was just talking sitting on the bed It was really late with a bunch of people and she jumped across the bed to attack me

But that was it that was about 15 years ago. What about you? my last one was about 11 years ago. What about you? my last one was about 11 years ago at Casa Vega Eleven that's not a way. No, it's not Casa Vega was another Oh Mexicali Yeah, shout out to Mexicali down. Why? It was it was very uncalled for actually we were all there was a long it was Cinco de Mayo It was a very long ass bucket Yeah tequila there was keep in mind these physical altercations removed by domestic violence situations because that would have been more recent for me

Yeah, there was uh oh yeah, cuz I could name one of those two Cuz that would be last year No way there was a long ass line We were all waiting to pee and this bitch was in there for fucking ever and I was next up and I was knocking like, hello? Bitch, she opened the door swinging at me. No way.

Yeah, she opened the door swinging. How you gotta pee and try to pee in somebody's ass? Did you pee yourself? No, she opened the door because she was mad I was knocking trying to get in because bitch took what was in there. I don't know if she was doing some fucking cocaine or what the fuck she was doing,

but she was taking too goddamn long and I had to pee and there was a what she was doing some fucking cocaine or what the fuck she was doing but she was taking too goddamn long and I had to pee and there was a long ass line everyone was like what the fuck so she came out swinging and we started fighting and they had to break it up and then that was it but that was um that was my last physical altercation I don't like to fight cuz I'm like my face I like it I don't want to get my face hit I don't want to get scratched and I might black out I don't I don't I don't trust myself in that situation I haven't fought a lot scratched and I might black out. I don't I don't I don't trust myself in that situation I haven't fought a lot of bitches in my life. I fought more niggas in my life than bitches

Yeah, I know I Just don't believe in getting in a fight at this grown age now will I I'm very much have two parents from Philly Absolutely, I'll fucking fight you if need be but I don't think it's classy as a fucking grown ass adult and it's not my go-to. However, there are a couple things spitting in my face, certain words, yeah, I'll beat your fucking ass and it's gonna be go time and I might pull a knife or something, but other than that.

You got a knife? No, but I would break glass and make it a shank. I don't know, I've seen movies. Sh- Flash, bleach, you know, I'm 98 pounds. I gotta do what I gotta do. Weapons all around can be weapons. You know there's the key, but the I'm 98 pounds. I got to do what I got to do. Weapons all around can be weapons.

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On my podcast, we explore how to hear the voice that matters, the one that leads you to courage, wisdom, and love. It's not about perfection, it's about direction. Millions of listeners have fed their good wolf. Now it's your turn. Listen to the one you feed on the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Anyway, it feels like a good time to segment into Secret Safe. Is your secret safe that I might beat somebody's ass with a shank? So this segment, Secret Safe, is for you to write in and share your secrets with us anonymously.

We know how to keep a secret. So if you are interested or have something you want to share, maybe you can't tell the homies. Maybe you can't even bear to tell yourself. Tell us. Go ahead and click the link in this episode description. Or you can just go to GoodMomsBadChoices.com and tell us your secrets. We won't say your name if you don't want us to.

So this was a write-in question, a write-in secret, excuse me. Okay. Please don't judge as this has been hard enough already. I just found out the guy I've been dating for the last five months has a whole other secret life with a wife and two kids. He doesn't know that I know and I haven't told his wife yet. Of course, I'm not going to keep dating him, but I'm torn on whether or not I should tell his wife.

I'm a little fearful of his retaliation, so I really don't know what to do. What would you do? Hey, I just really want to know, like, how motherfucking spyware all these niggas, Because me as a woman, my intuition is so high. I ask so many questions. Where do you live? All the things, so many questions. I don't know if this will get past me.

Like. Maybe it was long distance. Oh, I mean even then nigga FaceTime me. Bitch. Yeah, this reminds me of an episode FaceTime me. Bitch. Yeah. This reminds me of an episode we once had. I'm triggered. I'm dating a married man where Erica was dating a married man long distance because niggas

are strange and they kind of did research because we tell all our business on the internet and he knew exactly what to do and say. He did. And he was FaceTiming. And he was FaceTiming me. He was FaceTiming me with his son. His son like saying hi? Yeah.

Yes. He was flying out. Like he driving out to our show. Like he was doing a lot. What was that? 2019? 2019. Please if you guys have not dipped back in the archives,

it is worth dipping back in the archives to listen to Updating a Married Man. It is. My dear, dear, my best friend, my brother, shout out to Sebastian, he really coached me through this very dark time in my life and went as far as just like any good gay man would do. He wrote a letter to the wife for me. So you know, you have done that. Had he not done it for you, would you have contacted her in any way

or would just let it go? I would have contacted her. I mean, I did. I threw him, you know, like that was my choice. I mean, he didn't do it on his own accord. I mean, I don't know. Sebastian be doing stuff on his own accord. I think that, you know, and granted, did it change the situation? No, the bitch got pregnant and they're probably still... I forgot she got pregnant right after that. And had a baby with him.

And, you know, I think sometimes women go like double down even more when that happens. That's never... Which is never a good look like ever. It's just never. But I don't know. Like I think that as from a woman to woman, I believe that she deserves to know, but do not be surprised if nothing changes. You really need to wash your hands of this completely.

Like you said, you are. I hope you have. But I would want to know. Would you want to know? Absolutely and I'm gonna tell you just on the just on the karma in general you whatever you choose to do with this information is on you but I'm gonna let you know bitch this is what your niggas doing but yeah I do if I if it was happening to me I don't want to know I I don't even know how my husband could ever think he was having a side bitch because

I'm a nosy bitch on both sides. Yeah, laugh because it's never happening. It would never happen because I am too nosy. I'm all up in your phone. I'm all up in your whereabouts and I asked too many questions. But I do know that there's sneaky double live leading men because I even met that guy. I met that guy who she met the podcast. She was talking to him for a while He was sending stuff being kind all types of shit. They were really dating He took us to dinner. He came out to dinner. What's that? Who was I with? Ashley oh, okay But for the men who are listening and the men who do shit like this

What the fuck is the point? What are you doing? And if you're grown, like to me, if you're a late in life cheater, like an old ass nigga that cheats. I don't think they're late in life. I think they've been doing this. I just feel like your whole life's a lie and that's on you. Like I don't, I think this even goes to your ex.

Like there's a couple of people I could think of specifically who go so hard to present as one thing and then when you find out you're not, you know what I think also for us as podcasters? For us as podcasters, we talk so honestly all the time, even the things that are not so desirable. I'm going to say some shit even if I know it's going to make a nigga judge me, but I'm still going to say it because it's the truth.

So if somebody goes so far to hide who they are, it makes me know that you don't really like yourself or what you represent and you hate it so much that you create a whole facade over who it is. So it's always just like, damn, I feel bad for you because you really dislike yourself and you don't have any self-love and that's something even deeper that you have to go on a journey into. And I have no time for it and no guidance, but it does make me feel like, damn, what a sad life to live.

Long story short, bitch, tell her. Yeah, tell her and make sure she gets the message. Yeah, like email her directly. Like Sebastian did. Yeah, we've, as a matter of fact, can we play that clip? Yeah, I think Orlando, can we insert? Yeah, I think we need to insert the clip. We need to insert the clip of Sebastian reading the message to Keyshawn. Yep, Keyshawn. That was his name.

Keyshawn. I should have known. God, his voice bothered me. Remember he talked like this? Oh yeah, it was like, oh, Keyshawn. I am so beautiful. Let me tell you, before we, before we let go of this topic, let me tell you about keychain. It was around Halloween time and he told Erica that he was dressing up as Martin.

Shut up. Bitch, shut up. And I said, girl, you know good and God damn well, no one's dressing up as Martin without Gina. You knew he was married because how the fuck you guys gonna be Martin? What you gonna wear? You have to have Gina. And sure enough, when we finally got into the files.

There was a picture of him, Gina. Because no one's gonna be just fucking Keishaun as Martin. No one's gonna know who you are. The fact that we say his government name, that's what the fuck you get. That's what the fuck. I should say your last name, dumbass. What was it? It starts with a B. Damn, all her friends are gonna know name dumbass. What was it? So to the B?

Damn all her friends are gonna know he's where was he in North Carolina I always got the carol one of the carolines one of the carolines these are Bored ass states where you got nothing to do. No, sorry. I didn't mean to say that there's a lot of stuff to do there It's just him Lots of things to do. There you go. It's your state your state ism Sorry guys. Oh we didn't pull a card. Or did we not smoke a joint? Okay wait hold on. Oh speaking of this joint, I didn't get to tell you last episode, this is a very very special strain. You did start with saying that and then you never finished. I never shared why. Why?

This comes straight from my parents' backyard. Oh. Actually, not the backyard. My brother's bedroom, where my stepfather was cultivating cannabis, because my brother went to college. Oh. And so he made his. I don't think you should tell their business, but OK.

That's fine. It's legal. We're in California. We're in California. Anyway. It's fine. It's legal. We're in California. We're in California. Anyway. It's fine. Anyway, he grew this. It took about a thousand years.

And that's why it took two months. It took forever because he takes forever. And this is his- Not it took forever because he takes forever. He does. He's slow. He's slow. I love him dearly, but everything he does is slow.

He cooks slow. He talks slow. He thinks slow. And he's a great man and the cannabis But you know what I will say well people take their time Make good product I do and the product is is good producting shout out to Rory Smells good Mmm. I don't know what strain this is it's uh it feels like a Hybrid actually no this tastes like og

Basically that all the weed people tell me that everything's a hybrid don't get it twisted. Hmm Which I could see it's all contaminating each other You okay over there? Yeah, I've been wheezing lately. Probably, I mean me too, probably because we probably at some point need to stop smoking weed, but... No, I think it's allergies. Okay. Couldn't be weed, nope.

It's allergies. Let me just take a moment to cleanse the palate after all the shit talking we did with a little palate cleanser. Wherever you are, just take a few deep breaths. Release your sound. Remove the tension from your body. That's nice when you do it with weed. Oh yeah using weed with breathwork is actually a clutch. You too can do weed and breath work together in Costa Rica with me and Jamila. February 1st through the 6th in Costa Rica near the Black Sand beaches.

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translate your vision into something tangible, practical, and often very lucrative. You are the ultimate business owner. Amen. Amen. Yes. Yes. I'll take that 2025. We've gotten some good cards these last two weeks. We stand on business. Then on business. Did y'all see our trailer cuz we stand on this our trailer you saw it, right? And I saw you liked it didn't you? Acting Actually, it's not our active debut we've been acted so many times Bitch we've had a tube to woman show

It's not acting it's real life. No, it is. It is entertaining. Yeah, I think we were talking about before we started this episode that a lot of times at a certain age, people cap their passions and their creativity and the things that they can tap into. And I just want to say, because sometimes I fall, I fall victim to this too, because society, you could be a late in life, whatever you want to be, except a bad person. That would be a waste of time.

But like if you want to act late in life, like even the guy, both, well, one of the gentlemen who was in our... Wait, we got to stop calling it late in life. Sorry. You know where that came from, right? I know where it comes from, the late in life lesbian. One time somebody wrote us in and they were like, I'm a late in life lesbian. I'm a late in life lesbian.

And ever since then we've been like, late in life porn star, late in life cheater. Everything's late in life. Shout out to that girl I wonder if she's still lesbian. Oh my god. I hope she is. I just living her truth Or maybe you fall out of lesbianism like me Maybe she seemed like she was really she really needed to go in there for a while. Can you relate this for me? I know but I just feel like sometimes later in the latter years people have a lot of fear about starting something new

because there's this expectation that you have to be wildly successful or make a lot of money. And I think it's ridiculous. And I have experiences like this year, I forgot. I mean, I started a podcast with Orlando called Love Like This. Go listen to it. But I had a lot of anxiety around it, even though obviously I know I already podcast, but I only do it with Erica.

And it's so I'm used to doing with Erica. And it was very it was very telling for me that I had so much fear around it and anxiety. And I was like, bitch, you didn't have fear when you were sitting in the dining room with Erica. And I just had to do it. And it took some time to realize that. And it's just like, even with my sexology,

my tantric practitionership, it's like, even with writing a book, you know? It's just like, we tell ourselves so many lies and it really handicaps us from expanding and doing other things and literally having fun doing it and discovering parts of ourselves that we haven't honored. And so I just want to say, if you're late in life, anything, do it. I agree. I've been I've been really thinking about that a lot lately too because I've recently got back into acting and you know Acting kind of like broke my heart for a while because I've been auditioning and acting for the majority of my life

And actually it's so crazy now that I'm getting back into it because it feels like, I was like, oh my God, that was a whole lifetime of this thing until like it started to give me so much anxiety that I needed to take a break. And I think there's also that as like not being afraid to take a break from something and thinking it's the end because you need to go focus on that late in life whatever, you know what I mean?

Like being able to also dissect that idea as well because some of that is being fear of quitting your job and switching careers some of that is like oh I'm actually in the arts and I'm doing things but I actually don't want to do this anymore well I'm successful at it like why would I stop or you know it's just also starting something at the beginning. It can be overwhelming. It can be intimidating. Because we do have this idea socially that if at a certain age you have to be an expert.

But guess what? You don't have to be an expert at anything. As long as you genuinely enjoy it. Yeah. And then you become an expert because you're going to be actively doing it. Because you're really going to embody it at some point, even if expert because you're going to be actively doing it because you're really going to Embody it at some point even if it first you're just learning what it is, you know So yeah, and I've been seeing other women kind of tap into that

like I'm seeing some of the women that are in my life and in my circle starting to Explore themselves in that way and I think that is also a telling sign of like a woman that women that have agreed to choose have chosen to heal and know themselves. You start to be able to give yourself permission to even consider that, you know, like sometimes the block is so deep you can't even consider. You want to be like you want to sing bitch. What are you talking about? Well, the mind is such a, like, the mind,

like the energetic weight we give other people's opinions that actually, like, it's an illusion. No, it doesn't matter. But like, the opinions of others is such a heavy energetic weight sometimes that it literally paralyzes us from the expansion that is sometimes necessary to like tap into the get to the next round the next level.

Yeah, I know I was I was the other day. So my my partner he sings and he's been like wanting to me to sing on songs with him and you know I love singing but I don't know like again I was like that's done I actively told myself I'm cool. Like I love music You know, I have really great taste in music sound is really important to me But I'm not I'm not that anymore And so he was like asked me to sing and we did and then he was like giving me notes that I could feel myself Like the critique like wanting to paralyze me and I'd like to say not even do it. Yeah Yeah, and I was like, huh. Like why are you taking it?

This is like why are you taking it personally? This is not that. Like having to walk myself through an experience like that, especially like this person loves me. Like he's only, he wants to be here. But observing that your initial reaction to those like to certain words, even though you get, you had that, you had that moment where you get, you get to choose if It means this or that but taking that pause and then also because I'm so connected to my body I could feel how my body like what it started to do and I was like damn Whereas before I wouldn't even feel it. I wouldn't even know it was happening. I would literally just flee

Feel my body going into flight mode you You can identify it and you can reverse. And I can reverse it, like I can truly do that. Yeah, redirect the energy and say, hey, this is not real, your mind just told you that, let's redirect it here and let it. That's a really good friend. It was cool. Yeah.

And I'm still working through it. And I'm gonna keep doing it because it was fun. And I thought it good. Here at LifeKit, NPR self help podcast, we love the idea of helping you make meaningful lifestyle changes. Our policy is to never be too punishing on yourself or too grand in your goals, which is why we've got shows on how to make little nudges to your behavior and create habits that stick. Listen to the Life Kit podcast on iHeartRadio. 2025 is bound to be a fascinating year. It's going to be filled with money challenges and opportunities. I'm Joel. filled with money challenges and opportunities. I'm Joel.

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Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hello. After you took the notes, willingly. What was that you said? It's so funny. It's true, but that's the perk of being later on in life and being aware and intentional. Am I staying in the same programming or am I taking the time to observe how I feel and like why I feel that way and how I'm showing up and then like once I figure that out do I continue because it's comfortable or do I then do the thing that's like I'm resisting from because

I'm so used to doing this that's how I protect myself. You know it was even more like it's an added layer and it was probably the thing that kept me going was Irie. Like she came, she's, I realized she was witnessing me do something. Oh, she was there. She was in the house and then she came in and was like, what are you doing? And she's like, I wanna hear.

And you know, I was like, she's witnessing me do something she's never seen me do. And like, she's never, she's heard about this. But you get to make an example. Exactly. And if you flee She'll when she something comes up for that's what I'm saying. Yes. I was like, okay. No, I this is this is actually even more important Right now it's not even about me. Yes, it is and it's all gonna be good Only good is gonna come from this if I say yes

So, you know, it's um, yeah, I was interested. It's it's interesting and that's also my okay So then I have now I have to commit. And how you grow out of it too, because even Luna was like, she wants to do Broadway, she's obsessed with Hamilton. And we went to Ashley's and they were like, we were waiting for you guys to do karaoke. And I was like, she called me, I was like,

you called me about karaoke? She's like, yeah, are you guys here yet? So I turned and I was like, Luna, what are you gonna do? I was like, do something from Hamilton. She's like, no, I'm not gonna do it. And I was like, how are you gonna do Broadway if you won't do the thing? And she's like, mm-mm. And I was like, do something from Hamilton. She's like, no, I'm not going to do it. And I was like, how are you going to do Broadway if he won't do the thing? And she's like, mm-mm.

And I was like, listen. You know, I was like, me and Erika, we do shows. I'm like, I'm scared every single time. I'm nervous. I was like, but then I just have to do it. And I was like, there comes a point you're going to have to just do it. And she's just like, I can see it all in her head. Like she's heady.

Because at home with us, singing, dancing, like vibrant. And I'm like, it's so interesting, you know And it's like truly we are just child versions of ourselves because truly I'm so nervous when we do shows like I'm telling You know fifth time we did it that week, you know But still it's like something you may not ever get over that the nerves But it's like but are you gonna be the bitch who says, fuck it and I do it anyway? Or are you gonna let it like debilitate you to not move? And then you have regrets.

Yeah. I feel like I've done both. As a kid, I've frozen. As an adult, I've pushed through. I've pushed through, but felt frozen the whole time and knew it was horrible. Have you ever had that feeling where you're like, this is going bad. This is not going well at all.

But here we are. And then maybe you've even fled. You try to forget about that ever happening and just like keeping and putting it away And the drawer at the bottom Feelings are so much god. I'm so sometimes I'm over him, but I know that's no way to get over him You got to go in them Yeah, I gotta run in That shit is That's the journey. That's what else are we supposed to be doing here would be bored as hell

Sure doing that way everything was great for to be doing here? We'd be bored as hell. It's true. Doing everything that was safe. If our nervous system was regulated, we'd be fucked. There'd be no drama. There'd be no drama. There'd be no love stories. There'd be no... What would we be doing? What would we be watching? Just love all day long and shit. You're right. You're right. The whole life is all about learning to understand your nervous system and learning to regulate

it. Pretty much. But there's always going to be prejudice. There's always going to be. The good, the bad, the duality of both. Yeah. Oh my God. That's for another episode.

I have a whole episode because bitch, we were talking about the ancestors and the, oh my God, the drama of the ancestors and like how There's duality up there in that space that there's duality in every is that the heaven realm? It's like in between like because you're an ancestor not you're not necessarily like All fucking like a master teacher. You're just up there hoping that you're a hoping that your descendants are feeding you like Thirsty up there, too. There's like probably a graveyard of ancestors just underfed and shit. No one saying hi, offering anything.

So yeah, anyway, that's a whole other conversation. But. Yes it is, we made it. Join me on an episode of Erica's Deep High Thoughts. The drama of the ancestors. There's a whole telenovela happening up there. The drama of the ancestors. There's a whole telenovela happening up there. Anyway, well this was fun y'all.

Affirmation? Affirmation. There was one I had, what the fuck was it? No new friends, just the ones that accept you. No new friends, just the ones that accept you. No new friends, just the ones that think like you. Just the ones that think just like you. Just the ones that think just like you only. Politically and other.

I'm so high. I think it's affirmation time, you guys. We're high. Today's affirmation is, the only fucks I have to give are the ones that serve my mind body and soul the only fucks I have to give are the ones that serve my mind body and soul and soul and so train thank you guys for joining us today. It has been another pleasure, another high pleasure.

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