The Breakfast Club - Jess Fix My Mess: "I'm In Love With My Boyfriend... But He's Married"

Episode Date: May 24, 2023

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It's the world's most dangerous morning show, The Breakfast Club. Charlamagne Tha God, Jess Hilarious, DJ Envy is off today, but it's time for Jess Fix My Mess. Jess, tell them what Jess Fix My Mess is. Jess Fix My Mess, you can find that on the Black Effect Network under iHeart, y'all. That ain't true. Ain't none of that true. It ain't? The podcast is called Carefully Reckless. I just said it, didn't I?

You have a segment on there called Jess Fix My Mess. See, you still hung over from that mess. No, I'm not. That's not how I say it. You're not going to tell me how I say it. Okay, I'm listening. All right, so Just Fix My Mess is a segment on my podcast Carefully Reckless under the Black Effect Network, y'all.

Y'all can catch it each and every Wednesday. Actually, it aired today. A new episode came out today. A new episode comes out each and every Wednesday, y'all. So make sure y'all catch that anywhere you find your podcast.

But mainly, iHeart, make sure. Now I'm about to do Just Fix My Mess. I want to take some calls. Jess does give good advice, though, because she's a mother, and I love the way her

and her baby daddy brother, Rome, co-parent with each other, and, you know, she's an entrepreneur. She's a businesswoman, so she does give good advice. Absolutely. Thank you.

That's the nicest thing you said to me. I know I'm lying, but go ahead. Yep. Who's on the phone, Rhett? Oh, let's start with the first one i love it jasmine hello good morning sunshine good morning i need you to fix my mess and i mean it gets pretty messy okay okay i see here you said how long to wait to bring in a significant other to introduce to your kids oh yes and i and i'm asking that because per my situation, it was a mutual friend of he and ours, my baby daddy.

And he chose to move her into the house like immediately after I left. Right. And my kids know her as, you know, just the friend or the babysitter because she used to actually babysit our kids oh wow um and now they live together and we are trying to co-parent peacefully and it bothers me when my six-year-old would come home and say you know why is daddy sleeping in the bed with the babysitter legend and so you know i just felt like that was a little too fresh to just put in front of the kids like that. Especially when, I mean, like, it could be any other, to be very honest with you, it could be any other bitch in the world. But this one in particular, and then you're putting that in our kids' face like it's normal. Yeah.

So what is the appropriate way to introduce? Okay, well, that wouldn't even apply to this situation because she was already around them. She was their nanny, right? Yeah. Yeah, so she had already known the kids. Oh, my God. So then the question, this don't even apply to you. They already knew her.

The thing is, it's just a... Well, I guess I'm asking for myself. Sorry, go ahead, babe. No, no, no, no, no. That was Charlene making noise. All right, what you say, Jasmine, now? I'm asking for myself because I've actually been out here and, you know, jumped back on the bandwagon a little bit and started dating.

And, like, I have a little, I have a stark lineup, and I really like the first top three. But I don't want to introduce them to my kids because I don't know. You better not introduce three niggas to your children. You better not do that. Damn. All right. Now, are you, but are you fully past their father?

Yes, absolutely. We actually talked about this on your brother and baby daddy talk. Okay. I don't like that nigga at all. Okay. Oh, okay. Yeah. Okay. Oh, okay. Yeah, okay. I remember your voice.

All right, so yeah, it's really nothing that you can do about that. If they together, they living together, that's just what it is. I know you don't like the way it happened, but damn, that dad is notorious for that, to be honest. But it's really nothing

because that look like they just going to be together and it doesn't really seem like he has a lot of other women around, just her, right? Actually, no. They actually date other women together oh wow that's why i said it gets messy bro it gets excuse me it gets messy well that's still like you know his personal life as long as the kids ain't around that then that's uh you know what i'm saying because that's still his personal life like that's part of the reason why he and I aren't together anymore.

Because he wanted me to be like the HVIC. And, like, that doesn't work for me. That's not the lifestyle that I'm trying to live. But he wants my kids to be accepting of that. Well, girl, did you know who you married before you married him? No. Because this is how he's been doing this. No, I did not.

Yeah. No. So that's the advice for you. He turned into a completely different person. that's the advice for you. Later, he turned into a completely different person. That's the advice for you then. Pay attention to them starting three so another one won't end up like the ex-husband. All right? Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can do that. I can do that. Have a good day. I love you. Damn. All right. That was something inappropriate going on from the beginning.

He ain't just start sleeping with that babysitter. That babysitter done got knocked off in that house. You daggone right. And this is something that he been doing obviously, Shayna. Hello, good morning. How are you, babe? Good morning. How you doing? I'm good. I'm good. I'm trying to figure out what's going on with you. Your boyfriend

married, but you love him? Yes, girl. Let me tell you. So my boyfriend, he probably is just a whole bunch of mess actually coming out my mouth, my boyfriend, he probably is just a whole bunch of mess, actually. What? Coming out of my mouth. My boyfriend, he just got out in January. He did five years in that bed.

I did not hold him down. So, I knew when he came home, he was going to be looking for me. Uh-huh. But when he found me, you know, he swooped me off my feet. And then I found out he was married. Like, he's been married for 90 days. Oh, he was married for 90 days. So they still was in their marriage. He's married right now. Right. Right.

And then got married and then came looking for me and then went back to his wife. But he knew you before he went to go find his wife. Yeah. Well, boom. There you go. He came and found me after he got married though. But wife. Yeah. Well, boom, there you go. Came and found me after he got married, though.

But no, that's, but see, you wasn't, if you was just a little bit before, then you would have probably been the wife. But now you're not, damn. I don't want no wife for nobody that is going to find people that wasn't even holding them down in jail. Oh, so you mad at the wife. I'm mad at, yeah, I am mad at the wife, actually. She never was number one, Jess. No, you look in the mirror and be mad at yourself

because, girl, you were second and you don't need to be second. Yeah, that's why you gotta laugh at yourself. I'm ready to give you donkey of the day, damn it. Well, don't make donkey of the day. Please, give me donkey of the day. You're damn right, girl. Because this nigga is my right and he got me down bad.

Down bad. He got me down bad. Jess said, with your stupid ass up this morning. Please, girl, I ain't about to have time for this JJ. He need to go to the job and everything. Jess fixed my mess. 1-800-585-1051 if you need any type of advice. She's not an expert at anything, but she has some experiences.

I bet. Look, but I'm getting the most calls that y'all ever got in the history of Breakfast Club, so shut up. Come here. The Breakfast Club. This is the world's most dangerous morning show, The Breakfast Club. Charlamagne Tha God, Jess Hilarious, DJ Envy is off today. We're in the middle of Jess Fix My Mess. That is where Jess Hilarious gives you advice on

all things. What do you got over there, Jess? What do you got? Ooh, line eight, line eight. I want to see what's going on. This is good. Hello. Hey, what's up? Hi, line eight, line eight. I want to see what's going on. This is good. Hello. Hey, what's up? Hi, how you doing, Rick? I'm good. I love y'all.

I've been to the Black Effect podcast. Oh, thank you. Thank you, Rick. My question is, so I lost my father, then I lost my mother. I was sort of kind of like Dion. Yes. I did change. I got real snappy.

I got real moody yeah and i started to like distance myself from friends and family members even loved ones and like relationships and stuff like that and now i feel like i'm getting myself back but don't nobody really want okay well curse rick yeah well r, first and foremost, I'm sorry. I give you my condolences for both of your parents. But just an obvious question. What the hell do they expect for you to do? What does anybody expect of you when you lose not one but both of your parents?

Word. You know, like what the hell? Within a year, less than a year, I lost both of my parents. With both of them. And I'm very sorry. And I can imagine that it's still hard to even talk about. But like Dion said, you would think that people would notice that something is wrong, see it changing you. With them even knowing what you're going through. And it's like, okay, you know what?

He needs some time away from everything. How can we cater better to our friend until he get back right? Even if you do snap at me. Brother, you ain't got your parents. And, you know, one of your parents or your friend's parents are still here maybe they are maybe they're not but they're supposed to understand you know what i'm saying so that that's just the advice that that's the advice if if if those if you have those that left you behind this then you don't need to go back yeah and just for you so my baby mom She's trying to be like

You know cool for the kids And stuff like that How did you and Your baby father Get to a point where Y'all was cool I'm going to do a two for one Thanks

So me and Rome Got to the point where We was cool man Because we got past the feelings There was no feelings No intimacy involved anymore And Rome Is really just my friend.

We've just bonded just eight years straight. No intimacy. No, nine years. I'm sorry. Nine years straight. No intimacy. No, none of that. He's just really my friend.

I'm like in somewhat like a therapy sister for Rome, you know. I help him unload all his trauma, you know, all his mental, you know. I help. help him unload all his trauma, you know, all his mental, you know, I make it better for that black man to want to be able to be vulnerable and talk about what he got going on without being judged, and it's okay for him to cry to me. So that is how we move. That's how we got to where we at. I'm his friend.

Yeah, I'm with Charlamagne. I feel like that's just Charlamagne. But I probably just feel like that because I want my baby mom to be my soulmate. Yeah, I think you do. We're going to take the next call. Get well. Big soulmate, Rome out here. Rick, don't mess it up.

You already got two questions. You're supposed to get one. You blush every time somebody say that. No, I don't blush. I know, I'm lying. Thank you. Line three. Yo, you get on my nerves, Charlamagne.

Devon, what's going on? How you doing? I'm doing pretty good. How are you? You sure? Yeah. Please don't tell me you're going to say, oh, you sound depressed like everybody else. No, no, no, no.

You just sound like you want a cheeseburger. No, you sound hungry. You don't sound depressed. Nah. Okay. Well, tell me your problems. I see you're having co-parenting issues with the mother of your child. What's going on all right so the mother of my daughter like i try to like co-parent and keep

like communication and everything open with her and like try to be there for my daughter and everything while still trying to be there for like the mother of my son and everything else but the problem is it's like it's like it really comes down to like money yeah but then at the same time it's like i also don't like when she makes like decisions and things like that without like like without even telling me so you want to be more included you want to be more included like co-parenting you want to come to a decision as a whole you know and she does things without you okay yeah and then like at the same time like it's like when i'm like okay can we do something together so at least our daughter can see us together versus like always oh you just go to your daddy's house and oh you just come to your mommy's house and we're always separated because like me growing up I never really seen my father and as soon as I

turned 18 went to go see my father that was like the worst experience ever so I always vowed to myself I would never do that to my kids okay I would want my kids to see that I'm able to talk to their mothers and stuff like that and be around them and everything is still cool. Right, right. But with her, it's like when it comes to like, okay, for example, like she might need something and then she'll go off on a tangent talking about how I take care of my son more than I take care of my daughter. But I pay child support for both of my kids. But I pay more for my son than than I take care of my daughter. But I pay child support for both of my kids. But I pay more for my son than I do for my daughter. But I see my son more than I do my daughter

because my son lives closer to me than my daughter does. Okay. Okay, so you got two different baby mothers. Okay, so with the one, the current one, this is giving you the heart problem right now. So how long ago has it been since y'all broke up? The start of the pandemic. Oh, wow. the heart problem right now so how long ago has it been since y'all broke up uh the start of the pandemic oh wow okay so i think maybe it just sounds like two different types of ways that y'all raise because i think is she dating somebody or is she you know y'all ain't not y'all not

trying to get back together and none of that right y'all y'all done you're just trying to find a way to cope i i mean to me i don't mind getting back together and everything else because it was like when the whole pandemic thing happened. Everybody wanted to be fly and do whatever they wanted to do. And she just went off on her own tangent, ended up getting with somebody else. And that was pretty much that. And I was like, hey, you're moving too fast because we just had a child. And that ended up being a whole situation and stuff like that. Okay, cool.

So before I get out of here, because we have to go, yeah, it's not helping that you're not over her either. That's the thing, too. And she maybe feels like she don't want to confuse the kids or confuse you and do things as a family when that's not where her head is. She seems like she's well past you. And so I'm sorry. But, yes, you do sound depressed. And I think you do need to talk to somebody and i think you should just even just just work on getting joint custody of your baby um and just focus on the baby and less on her only just focus

on your kids and try to move past the the love that you have for her because it don't sound like she coming back but i do love you and i want you if you have any more um other problems or anything you want to follow up with me carefully reckless write me on that page and then we can continue there but thank you

I love you let me know your cash app too I'm going to send you some money for a cheeseburger absolutely I want you to laugh

at that because you sound depressed so you need to laugh Devon and I'm going to give him some information from the mental

wealth alliance dot org thanks what if he's vegan right you can use the money to get a.org thanks what if he's vegan right we can use the money to get a plant based cheeseburger

yes we'll be right back after this I think is that what we're supposed to say well actually we got thank you Jess

for doing Jess Fix My Mess no problem and we have Jess with the mess coming up right yes we do you don't know

what we're talking about no I ain't no okay so when we come back it's just gonna make it all the better that's right

you'll never see it coming it's such we come back, it's just going to make it all the better. That's right. You'll never see it coming. It's such a work in progress. It's The Breakfast Club. The Breakfast Club.