The Breakfast Club - Ladies Of "Pour Minds"Podcast Talk Bartending To Touring, "Baddie" Ethics, & More

Episode Date: September 1, 2022

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Starting point is 00:02:47 The Breakfast Club. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. We got some special guests joining us. Lex Andrea. From the Poor Minds Podcast. Welcome.
Starting point is 00:03:00 Hi. Thank you. Thank y'all for having us. We had some mic difficulties, but we got it together. Finally. How y'all feeling this morning? We feeling good. Y'all been complaining about being cold. I ain't got no clothes on.
Starting point is 00:03:11 I'm a Texas girl. You know what I'm saying? It's hot in New York, though. It's cold in here. Like, damn. But New York is different. We like New York. It's cool. Is this your first time in New York? No, I used to come here all the time. Wow, he tried to play you because we y'all country. That's what it is. I used to come to New York is different. We like New York. It's cool. I love it here. This your first time in New York? No, I used to come here all the time. Wow, he tried to play you because we y'all country.
Starting point is 00:03:27 That's what it is. You know what I'm saying? I used to come to New York a lot. She said, how was that? What were you in New York doing? My best friend used to live here. He actually went to St. John's in Queens. Okay.
Starting point is 00:03:34 So we used to be outside. I used to be going to Griffin and up and down. What kind of best friend? He my real best friend. He's married now. He just got married. Overall? Out here, actually. Really? Like a few months ago, yeah. How did that work out? How did she feel about him having real best friend he's married now he just got married over here actually like a few
Starting point is 00:03:45 months ago yeah how did that work out how did she feel about you know him having a best friend that's a female a woman i really like her because honestly i think most women don't be like that when it comes to they mean having a female best friend that was in the picture for you know a long time but she's been super super cool and super supportive so you had to meet her and everything like when you first started dating and he's like i I want you to meet my friend? Yep. But she's never had like any weird feelings towards me. Like she's genuinely
Starting point is 00:04:08 like a nice person and she supports our friendship. Did you know she was the one for him when you met her? Yeah, because she changed him in a lot of ways.
Starting point is 00:04:15 Really? Yeah. Like he used to be wild and like she's calmed him down a lot. Got you. You never was interested though? No.
Starting point is 00:04:23 He always been my best friend. He not my type. Okay. And I think that's why. He not my type. Okay. And I think that's why she is not worried about our relationship, because she know, like, we don't even like each other like that. True, true. If he's not your type, what is your type? I don't necessarily have a type.
Starting point is 00:04:35 It's weird, but he just not my type. I ain't got no type. I just would never date him. That's my best friend. Damn. Well, let's talk from, you know, my best friend went to St. John's, too. Oh, really? Okay. He was Envy's my best friend. Well, let's talk about my best friend went to St. John's, too. Oh, really? He was Envy's type, though.
Starting point is 00:04:47 I am weak. But Envy got married. The dude that taught me how to DJ when we growing up was actually went to St. John's. His name is Mono. Asshole. Oh, damn. He was your type, though. You know, he flirts with me all the time.
Starting point is 00:04:59 That's what I'm about to say. You ain't never seen me flirt with him. You said he was a power top. You said that. That is true. He's not a power top. No? I am definitely a power top. You ain't never seen me flirt with him. You said he was a power top. You said that. That is true. He's not a power top. No? I am definitely a power top.
Starting point is 00:05:08 I don't want to start a love story. I'm not a power top, but if I was, I would be a power top, clearly. Okay, okay. Let's start from the beginning. How'd you get this podcast started? How did y'all meet? Paul Myers. Oh, Lord.
Starting point is 00:05:19 We met at the strip club. We met at the club. We was drinking and making money. What club was it? It was called Primetime. Primetime. That's in Texas? It was in Houston,
Starting point is 00:05:29 but it wasn't open that long. No, no, no. It was like... It was DC, the guy that used to own V-Live. Okay. So they were trying to do like a Starlets in like Houston.
Starting point is 00:05:37 Like Starlets version in Houston. Oh, that's where the strip was a whack with the bartenders. Bartenders. Yeah. It was lit in there. So y'all were there drinking, chilling, and what made y'all meet and link and connect? Because usually girls, when they meet each other, they don't really connect.
Starting point is 00:05:51 Y'all connected over y'all baby hairs. Both of y'all baby hairs. You know what's crazy? When I was laying my hair this morning, I'm like, he's going to say something about our hair. That's what it is. Because we was laying them down this morning. That's what it is. We don't play.
Starting point is 00:06:03 We don't lay them edges. No, but I think the reason we connected Was because like She didn't know how to make drinks at all And I did This was my first real bartending job Yeah You was fucking niggas up
Starting point is 00:06:11 I would But she's a good talker Like she was Finessing the niggas I was making the drinks And that's We was like making a lot of money together I was like okay
Starting point is 00:06:19 Yeah You know we had a little program working So it was late So hold on Define Define finessing the Knicks. Like the first night that we worked together. Because we were actually working together for a few months before we actually talked.
Starting point is 00:06:31 I used to see her at work, but we just never had a conversation. And then one night, this guy came to the club, and he was talking to me. And I'm like, he's talking about, girl, he went to Long Island. I don't know how to make this. I mean, he was asking for everything. He was like, man, can you make me this? I'm like, all I know how to make is Hennessy and Coke. And so I think we made like $4,000.
Starting point is 00:06:50 Damn. And we split it. Well, how do bartenders finesse niggas? Like, I'm trying to figure out what. Well, it was just because, like, I think a lot of it is he was just so impressed that she could actually make a drink. But it was really me making the drinks. Like, you know, so we just kind of got it. I was like, okay, this is what we're going to do.
Starting point is 00:07:05 You're going to take all these niggas. I'm going to make the drinks. Just let me know what you need. And it was like, the service was fast because we was working together, but they didn't know that. So it was like, okay. These niggas are simple. Impressed that a bartender can make a drink. And they drunk. They happy as hell. So you're impressed that a basketball player can shoot a basketball too? What the hell? So the strippers
Starting point is 00:07:21 hated y'all then? Oh, yeah. It used to be a whole bunch of drama going on between the strippers and the bartenders. Yeah, because they throw all the money back behind the bar and stuff like that. So it was like, oh, we all got to split it. And then some of the bartenders weren't working. And we was like, we ain't about to split this. So we used to be stuffing the money in our sides. And we'd be like, oh, I got to go to the locker real quick.
Starting point is 00:07:44 And we shared our locker. So we would just throw our money in our size. And we'd be like, oh, I gotta go to the locker real quick. And we shared our locker so we would just throw our money in there. And it was like, everybody would be complaining and me and Dre in the back like, well, I don't know what y'all talking about. Because we made some money. I never got into no drama
Starting point is 00:07:55 working at the clubs, at that club in Houston. But I used to come out here and bartend. Where at? What clubs? City Scapes. I think I worked at Starless before. I used to come be a guest bartender.
Starting point is 00:08:05 And I got into it with a stripper out here before. You had to put hands on them? No, I didn't. Oh, okay. But we got into it, though. It was, like, pretty bad. Because she was like, bitch, that's my money. I'm weak.
Starting point is 00:08:14 I was like, girl, no, it's not. But I ain't know how shit worked out here. Like, she was ready to fight. Turned up. You got scared? You wasn't scared, was you? I wasn't scared. But it was just like, damn, girl, calm down.
Starting point is 00:08:24 It's $50. Let's do diamonds. Breaking friends't scared, was you? I wasn't scared, but it was just like, damn girl, calm down, it's $50. Let's be friends! Let's be friends! Let's be friends! Let's be friends over them dollars, like, uh-uh. So y'all were friends for how long? Oh, wait. Before the podcast, yeah.
Starting point is 00:08:34 Before the podcast, yeah. Two years? Yeah. Two years. Two or three years? We met in 2015. Okay. First time I saw y'all was on 85 South Show with Carlos.
Starting point is 00:08:42 Oh, it was wild. I don't think DC knew you. I don't think DC knew me. I don't think DC knew me. I don't think DC knew me. I don't think DC knew me. I don't think DC knew me. Two years? Yeah. Two years. Two or three years? We met in 2015. Okay. First time I saw y'all was on 85 South Show with Carlos. It was wild. I don't think DC and Chico was there that day. No, they weren't. Not the first time. It was us three.
Starting point is 00:08:53 Yeah, we was cutting up. How did that connection happen? Honestly, me and Carlos have been cool for a while. We just always have followed each other. And I think he was just kind of like sitting in the cut watching us. Because I think with a lot of podcastersters it's like people will start it and then it's like three months later it's like damn what happened to a podcast and I think he just saw us being so consistent he was like man let me see what they can
Starting point is 00:09:13 do and literally after we went on 85 it was like a bunch of clips that went viral we were like everywhere and all of a sudden like people like okay who are these girls so yeah but we had just been cool and he had been following me for a while and you know I started interacting and that's how it came about i was asking what made y'all start the podcast how did y'all start what was that decision you like people whenever we're around people they always be like y'all so crazy and y'all so funny like y'all need y'all own show y'all need to people need to see this because we really are like these off camera too but i feel like too like you know how when people say that, everybody feel like
Starting point is 00:09:45 if they have a good conversation, oh nigga, I need a podcast. Or they have a good time, like, oh my God, girl, we need a reality show.
Starting point is 00:09:51 Oh, they should be replacing Angel and Gia. Oh my God, yes, yes. Be like, that's not what God got planned for.
Starting point is 00:09:56 Right, right, right. But for us, it was just a little different because I mean, we wouldn't even be doing shit. We would just be sitting on the couch
Starting point is 00:10:02 at somebody's house being ourselves. And people be like, man, like it was every time. I mean, it don't matter where we shit. We would just be sitting on the couch at somebody's house. Being ourselves. And people would be like, man, like, it was every time. I mean, it don't matter where we went. If we're in front of strangers, people who knew us, it was like, okay, well, let's, like, start a YouTube channel. We never thought that we were going to get into podcasting. Because her ex gave her the idea for us to start the YouTube channel. Because we used to do, like, a little show called Wind Down Wednesday before we switched it over to Poor Minds.
Starting point is 00:10:22 And we got that idea from him. And then one of her friends was already a podcaster. And she was like, y'all need to turn it into a podcast because y'all can make way more money and monetize it. So that's when we switched the name to Poor Minds. Who was your friend? Mandy. Oh, Mandy.
Starting point is 00:10:35 So you can have some horrible decisions. Okay. Yeah, she was like, yeah, y'all need to make it a podcast. So that's what we did. And who was your ex? Nobody important. Yeah, that man is credit. That man is responsible for founding the Poor Minds podcast. No, we cool. It that's what we did. And who was your ex? Nobody. Get that man his credit. That man is responsible for founding the Paul Bynes podcast.
Starting point is 00:10:48 We cool. It ain't no, it ain't no, look, our listeners are very, very nosy. So as soon as I name y'all, they're going to be like,
Starting point is 00:10:54 I knew it. Oh, somebody people know? Um, hell no. I think Houston people know. Yeah, Houston people definitely know.
Starting point is 00:11:01 Nah, people don't know him. DM me, homie. I'm going to give you your credit. Don't say that to people. He be like, what's up? What's up, man?
Starting point is 00:11:09 Shit, let's work. Let's work. Me and the bro working. Because he was trying to be a rapper. Oh, brothers. She didn't even say bruh. She said brother. So you know he must be terrible.
Starting point is 00:11:21 Is he terrible? Is he good? No, he's not a terrible person. I just feel like, you know what? No, I call thought a terrible rapper oh don't oh my god okay let me say this
Starting point is 00:11:29 honestly he is he can write he got some good lyrics I feel like it's different between making good music and being like a lyricist
Starting point is 00:11:37 like he has he can write all day raps are good songs not so much but you know you never know send me the records bro send me the records no see how you react to you never know you're gonna be like this is
Starting point is 00:11:50 ass what was you thinking we talk about dating we talk about everything. I think what a lot of... We talk about dating. Yeah. We talk about sex. We talk about... Music. I mean, we really just be navigating through life. I think that that's one of the great things about our podcast is that you can see the growth. Like, because we keep up all of the old content. So you can look back from four years ago and really just see us grow and see the evolution
Starting point is 00:12:19 of the conversations. At one point, we just used to talk about niggas. Yeah. With money. Like men with money. And that was me. I think a lot of times people have the podcast all wrong, you know, like, because all of the clips
Starting point is 00:12:30 that happen to go viral be us talking about men with money or, you know, dating and trying to figure out, you know, how to get this and get that. But I feel like our podcast is really about, like,
Starting point is 00:12:41 celebrating women and what we deserve and, you know, having higher standards and getting that confidence that you never had and you know how we can talk about music and just show us in a different light because of course when people look at us and you know we sexy we like to be baddies but it's so much more than that to us you know so I feel like that's who the podcast is for because we like to say you know traditionally, baddies don't listen to podcasts.
Starting point is 00:13:05 You know, they just be outside. So we feel like this is a lane for the baddies, you know, to come in. Because the live shows, it'd be nothing but beautiful women. It's different. It's different. Define a baddie for those who may not know what a baddie is. What is a baddie? I mean, I definitely feel like, you know, you have to look the part.
Starting point is 00:13:24 But that's secondary. I feel like it's more of to look the part but that's secondary I feel like it's more of a mindset thing it's a musty baddies I did now no you can't be musty and bad that's what I'm saying no you can't be you can't be funky and bad no I feel like to me like a baddie is somebody who like they're they're confident first of all like they walk in a room it doesn't matter you know how other people view them. They know how they view themselves. And I feel like that's with us. We don't care what clip goes viral or what y'all think.
Starting point is 00:13:52 Y'all can be like, how these birds get on Breakfast Club? Because there's going to be a lot of people saying that. I don't care. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like it's just like a confidence thing, you know? And like I said, we cannot act like it's just like a confidence thing You know And like I said We cannot act like It's not the looks thing too Like that's what she said
Starting point is 00:14:09 I think looks add to it You know you gotta be Polish But I also feel like You gotta be a nice person Like I feel like You can't be a baddie And be mean
Starting point is 00:14:15 Yeah like I mean We don't like mean girls Like some girls just be Mean as hell for no reason So what if you nice Confident And musty You're not a baddie
Starting point is 00:14:24 Cause musty people be coming around like they ain't staying y'all man what's up he's a baddie or not are you talking about me are you saying you are bad hey come on now you got the bucket hat on come on now you got the gold chain on it's giving baddie come on now y'all bump some baddies tell unc some more because you over there not big unc I'm over that license. Not big, uh. Batty, uh. So, question. So, y'all said y'all dating.
Starting point is 00:14:49 Are y'all dating? Um, I'm single right now. Yeah. And y'all talking about relationships on the podcast as well? Right, right. Um, I actually just got out of a situation. So, you know. A situation, man. I got out of a relationship.
Starting point is 00:14:59 That's all you was? No, we weren't in a relationship. No, you said situation. Okay. Because it's like, it's been complicated. It's been a very long time of a lot of back and forth. No, you said situations. Okay, because it's been complicated. It's been a very long time of a lot of back and forth. But, you know, I'm single now. What made you finally break up?
Starting point is 00:15:11 He went back to his wife. Not this one. Not this one. I'm just like, let me stop. No, no, no. He said, oh, you do this? I'm weak, but no, I just feel like I'm at a different point in my life
Starting point is 00:15:26 you know I've had a lot of changes and a lot of things going on I just feel like we're in two different places it ain't no bad blood like I still got love for him you know it ain't I'm not a girl that like
Starting point is 00:15:35 oh I hate him and I'ma talk down on him I've never been that way so why'd y'all break up what was the situation what made y'all finally say it was over I mean
Starting point is 00:15:41 a lot of stress in our relationship like poor minds popping too much no not that i mean i'm busy i travel a lot you know he has a lot going on not that y'all popping i'm living a baddie life right now so i gotta do what i gotta do do men get jealous because they see y'all you know starting to grow in this space i i don't know i haven't really witnessed jealousy so much but i think that it's weird because a lot of guys that i used to talk to be trying to like come back to me and they be trying to do like extravagant things to talk back to me now and i think that's very strange because it's like what made you have such
Starting point is 00:16:18 a sudden change of heart i like the sudden change of heart i don't like it come with you i don't like it i mean it do come with gifts But it's still like I'ma take the gifts But still nigga Leave me alone Right facts We always take the gifts
Starting point is 00:16:30 What's the most expensive thing A guy has bought you The most expensive Honestly I always say this This was a while back But He put the down payment
Starting point is 00:16:38 On my car Like That helped me get a car Wait a minute What kind of car was it First of all No no This was like 2012.
Starting point is 00:16:45 I got a Dodge Challenger. So, you know, and then I got another relationship, paid off my student loans, and then I got him to pay off my car. Hold on. A man paid off your student loans? Yes. Go ahead, Joe Biden. Not Joe Biden.
Starting point is 00:16:56 Look, if I would have known that, I would have waited and pocketed that money and did something else. No, it's good you got your student loans paid off. I used to be a responsible baddie in the streets. You know, like, you get money from a man. Girls was buying bags and shoes. I was the one like, let me pay my bills. But now I'm happy about it that I did that.
Starting point is 00:17:14 But I was always the girl, like, getting money and taking care of my business. What about you? Most expensive gift? A guy bought me a Range Rover last year. Nice, too. Brand new. It's paid off? No bills?
Starting point is 00:17:29 I like the student loan payment better. That's player. That ain't bad. I like the Range. He paid off half of my student loans. He didn't pay off all of them, but he paid off half. But this was a different guy. He bought me a Range Rover last year and it was paid off. But I never had six of them. A new Range Rover? Yeah. Nice. Why he ain't pay all the student loans?
Starting point is 00:17:46 He still wanted you to have to work for something? I think so. Okay. But he used to pay all my bills, too. He was taking care of me. Yeah. That's fly. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:17:53 I paid off my wife's student loan. You did? That was good. I still owe like $20,000. Damn. I owe like $45,000. And he paid $25,000? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:18:02 Wow. But the Range Rover's like $90,000, bro. Yeah. I don't care. You should have paid for the student loans. She got $25,000? Yeah. But the range was like $90,000, bro. Yeah. I don't care. You should have paid for the student loans. She got $90,000. She could sell it and pay off loans and have extra. You can't be my ex after I pay your student loans off, man.
Starting point is 00:18:12 Why? You can't just walk away from me after that. Why? That's where you draw the line. So you would buy a car, but you wouldn't pay. You draw the line at student loans. At student loans? Because you feel like she can progress in life now.
Starting point is 00:18:23 Oh, she knows. She about to get married. She about to get her credit together. So wait a minute. How do you wake up with him? Yes. How do you just walk away from a man after that? No, that was two different guys.
Starting point is 00:18:34 Okay. Well, how do you, for both of y'all, how do you just walk away from a man who paid you student loans? Easily if he toxic. Right. It's easy to walk away. But honestly, I feel like that's what we talk about on the show a lot i feel like a lot of young women they out here like chasing these guys with money and then they have no like end goal and i'm not saying you know use people that's not what i'm
Starting point is 00:18:54 saying but i feel like in certain situations because i mean in certain situations though like we know what it is like let's not be dumb these men want sex you know and women want money whatever so if you're young and doing that at at least be smart about it. So that's what we try to tell people. At least be smart. Like, don't be out here trying to keep up with her and buying Rick Owens, buying Prada, going, doing all this. So for us, like, when you're dealing with a man
Starting point is 00:19:15 and he and he and he No, I got all the Prada too. I got all the Prada too. I bought my own Prada, thank you. I got all the Prada too. I got all the product, too. I bought my own product. Thank you. I got all the product, too.
Starting point is 00:19:27 I'm not saying that, but I just mean as far as when you're dealing with a guy who buys you a bag, you'll leave. So why can't I deal with a guy who paid off my student loans and leave? I've never bought a bag before, but fuck that. It was Michael Kors. It don't count. Michael Kors? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:19:40 I might have to take away your baddie card. This was years ago. I ain't had no business buying her that bag. MK used to be popping. I remember I had a Michael Kors watch. That's when you was in New York, huh? No. Hanging with all the Hispanic women.
Starting point is 00:19:52 This was like 2011. Okay, okay, okay. It was like 2011. I got mad and threw it and broke it. So how do you break up with somebody that bought you a Range Rover? How is it over? Man, forget the Range Rovers. We were never together.
Starting point is 00:20:01 Tell them the whammy, though. What's the whammy? You know the whammy. That I didn't the whammy? You know the whammy. That I didn't have sex with him? I said that. You didn't say that? You did not say that? You did not say that part.
Starting point is 00:20:10 What did his face? I absolutely just said that. What was this? He was a guy? Yeah, he was a guy. This man bought you a Range Rover and you never let him smell it? No yams. No yams.
Starting point is 00:20:21 Let's break this down. So what happened? He just, hey, babe, I want to buy you a Range Rover. Okay, so I met him through one of my other friends like she lives in atlanta and she was cool with him because she used to talk to his partner and so i guess he wanted to talk to me we had hung out a few times and all of a sudden he just started texting her and he was like i want to buy adria another car big trick energy yeah and so she was like of course she was like hell yeah go ahead buy it so then she was texting me and she was like oh what kind of cars do you like so i was like okay of course she was like, hell yeah, go ahead, buy it. So then she was texting me and she was like, oh, what kind of cars do you like?
Starting point is 00:20:45 So I was like, okay, I either want a GLE Coupe or I want a Range Rover. So she sent him the cars and he was like, okay, I'm going to get it. And then he started texting Legs saying the same thing. He was like, yeah, I just really want to get Dre another car. Because I still have my other car too that I had before he bought me the Range Rover. And so he just ended up, he tried to buy one, and then it didn't go through. Something happened. He got the clothes.
Starting point is 00:21:06 The pieces wasn't hidden. The pieces wasn't hidden. The pieces wasn't hidden. The pieces wasn't hidden. He tried to buy me a black one, and then something happened. He couldn't get it. Then we got into it a few weeks later.
Starting point is 00:21:20 I blocked him and stuff, and then all of a sudden, he just popped up with this white Range Rover. He finally stole somebody's card that work. Yeah He didn't try he didn't try to have sex with you smash nothing of course He did but I just wasn't interested cuz he was corny because even I knew he was doing it because he wanted like Recognition because even when he told me that he got the car he was hitting her up in my friend He was like, oh, yeah, I want to take all y'all out to eat and i'm gonna hire a videographer and he wanted us to like talk about it on the show it was just weird
Starting point is 00:21:50 it was a lot he was doing he was real corny that's that's why i said the finesse came in because i was definitely helping i'm like yeah she cares about you bro get the car and then she needs the car and then i ended up finding out he was going around telling people in atlanta that he had sex with me and he never had sex with me. So I was like, I knew he was going to. But is he somebody behind it? Hell no, he's not nobody. You can understand him saying that, though.
Starting point is 00:22:11 He bought you a car. You should let that rumor slide. He probably going to hear this. Not that rumor slide. Hell no. He bought the car instead of slide. You supposed to let a rumor slide when somebody said they had sex with you. No.
Starting point is 00:22:20 He bought you a car. No. I didn't ask him to. That's the game. That's what I'm saying. She didn't ask for it. So you say he in jail right now? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:22:27 PPP scam. He in there for something, but that's what happens when you're not a nice person. Wow. A man bought you a car and he not a nice person. He not a nice person. But you know what? That's a good point because I always say just because somebody does something good for you doesn't mean they're good for you.
Starting point is 00:22:39 Right. And you don't owe them anything. And he has your motives. You know, like that wasn't coming from his heart. So you got played. But you said earlier that men and women know what it is. Women want money and men want sex. So is that really an ulterior motive?
Starting point is 00:22:51 I mean, but it was more than that, though. It wasn't just the sex for him. Like I said, he wanted to recommend. Like, he wants to be popular. I think he wanted to date her. Yeah, he wanted to date her, but not because it was like he really liked her. It was like, oh. He was ugly?
Starting point is 00:23:04 He kind of looked like a lesbian. Yeah, he's one of them. He looked like. A stud. Yeah, he's giving those kind of vibes. Like, if you saw him, you would be confused. You would be confused. He was very feminine.
Starting point is 00:23:18 Like, if you saw Dre with him, you'd be like, damn, I didn't know Dre was that way. I didn't know she was that way. I didn't know she was that way. If he was giving lesbian that way he was definitely like and then he tried to be my bestie he was he would be texting her it was so weird he was like yeah he was like
Starting point is 00:23:33 I gotta get he text you one time when he said I got I gotta get Dre in his car because she said she gonna uh I can't remember like I said I was gonna give him some head or something yeah it was so wild but I said that she. He said something crazy like I said I was going to give him some head or something. Yeah, it was so wild. And I never said that. And she didn't,
Starting point is 00:23:46 but I said that she was. You said she was? Hell yeah, I'm trying to ride on the range. Hold on, so you lied to the man and told him? I love it.
Starting point is 00:23:52 We lie for each other. How you just lying on Dre's mouth like that? I love it. No, we lie for each other all the time. When did I tell you you lied for Lex, Dre?
Starting point is 00:23:58 I'm crying. Probably like two months ago. About what? We just be lying for each other. I can't even remember. It be like small things. Small things. We'll just be lying for each other. I can't even remember. It be like small things. Small things.
Starting point is 00:24:08 We'll just give each other their look and I'll be like, oh, I got to lie. So now Lex, I heard you say that women cheat better than men. Oh yeah, absolutely. You believe that? I absolutely believe it. Well, black men don't cheat, so of course y'all would be better. That's a lie. Black men don't cheat.
Starting point is 00:24:21 Black men. That is a lie. Who told you that? I'm a black man. I got a mirror. You one of a billion. Black boys cheat. Black boys cheat. Black men. That is a lie. Who called you that? I'm a black man. I got a mirror. You one of a billion. Black boys cheat. Black boys cheat. Black men don't cheat. Either way it goes. I feel like women cheat
Starting point is 00:24:31 better. Well, how I got cheated on? You said what? How I got cheated on? Dating a black boy? Was he even black? I don't even know if he was black. He was black. Okay. I'm weak. But no, I feel like women cheat better just because maybe I'm putting the ladies on blast right now, but I feel like women cheat better just because i i maybe i'm putting the ladies on blast right now but i feel like we're just a little more um smooth and sneaky with it
Starting point is 00:24:51 we don't are smarter yes women are smarter like guys will be out with another girl and letting her post and record and other people done seen it like guys are just sloppy yeah like they're very sloppy they don't cover their tracks very well like I'll see if I'm not saying that I've done this before but it's like if I'm with my man I see a guy like my little side What if my boy blow you up He not because when you when you call with then and there but he not but he not because when you cool with people
Starting point is 00:25:27 and it ain't that they know how to act so y'all been cheating on before both of y'all hell yeah y'all deserved it how did y'all find out what you mean
Starting point is 00:25:33 why would you say that I didn't say that I did not say that I didn't say that I didn't say that I did not say anything I didn't say nothing how did y'all find out
Starting point is 00:25:41 um I have good investigation skills I've had people tell me things. I say this all the time. I don't know why people like to lie. I got a fake page. Maybe I gots to go look. I'm going through them stories.
Starting point is 00:25:55 If you follow somebody new, I'm going look. It's very easy to put things together. You never got caught cheating, Lex, ever? Never. I haven't either. I only cheated one time, though. That's a good girl. It was like way back in college who you cheat you cheat on your boyfriend why is the sex was way okay that's a reasonable reason and then we were into different cities okay that's another way he was still in Houston damn
Starting point is 00:26:19 he never knows about this he's gonna be to be like, wow. He knows now. He probably broke that boy hard. He never knew? No, he never knew. He know now. He ever cheated on you? He cheated on you before? No, not him. It was somebody else that cheated on me. But I found out because I went through his phone. And that was the last time I ever got through anybody's phone because I lost 15 pounds.
Starting point is 00:26:36 She really did. You was stressed out? Yes, I was stressed. What did you find on his phone? Lost the ass and everything. He was just talking to a whole bunch of girls on Instagram, DMs. Ever since then, you was a savage. Yeah,
Starting point is 00:26:46 well I was a savage before that. I had let my guard down in time. Let my guard down. But I done bounced back though. Mm-hmm. I think for me like,
Starting point is 00:26:55 when I cheat, if you don't tell me you love me, I'm going to cheat. You said what? If you don't say I love you, if you don't tell me good morning,
Starting point is 00:27:03 I'm going to cheat. Lex is a cheater though. She's like a certified cheater. If you don't say I love you, I'm going to cheat. If you don't say I love you, I you don't tell me good morning, I'm going to cheat. Lex is a cheater, though. She's like a certified cheater. If you don't say I love you, I'm going to cheat. So you cheat on all your men. She like a pro. No, you're not saying that. Grand rising queen.
Starting point is 00:27:13 I love you. I'm going to cheat. If you say grand rising, I'm going to cheat. What do you mean? Why would you say that? That's the upgraded version of good morning. No, grand rising queen. Grand rising queen.
Starting point is 00:27:24 Oh, hell no. I already know you about to be on some bullshit. I don't trust nobody that tell me Grand Rising. I don't want to hear that shit. Damn.
Starting point is 00:27:32 Well, you say Drea. You guys are trouble makers. I don't trust anybody that says Grand Rising to me. Why? Why can't you just say good morning? Because he might think
Starting point is 00:27:38 you a biscuit. He might think you a biscuit. What? What you mean? It is not no yeast over here. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa.
Starting point is 00:27:48 Whoa. Now, what do y'all think about Nick Cannon having 10 kids? You know, Vivica Fox said that she feels like he can't be a strong father figure with 10 kids from all them different women. What y'all think? I do feel like if you have a lot of kids in multiple households, it's hard for you to be there for all your children. How?
Starting point is 00:28:09 How can you spread your time out that evenly to be able to be there for everybody yeah i think i think it's a little different but i don't like to judge people either you know why they make their decisions so it's not something that i would want like i don't have any kids so i feel like it's kind of strange on both ends like if you're a woman with no kids like having a child for a man that has all these children, that's a lot. Like, trying to get your kids to know their siblings, because I'm really close with my sister. So I be thinking, like, dang, if you're, like, the 10th kid
Starting point is 00:28:33 and then the first one is, like, 26, I just turn one. Like, how are we going to be friends? Right. You know what I'm saying? So I be thinking about stuff like that, but I don't judge people. Yeah, I agree on the time thing. Like, you know, it's hard to have, you know, that much time to spend with all the different kids at different places. But, I mean, Nick is, to say he's not a strong father figure, I disagree with that. Yeah, because how do you know you don't know him personally?
Starting point is 00:28:53 Yeah, yeah, yeah. So y'all wouldn't be 11 and 12 is what you're saying. I think it's wild to become anything after, like, three. Anything after three, you wildin'. Really? You wildin'. You have to be a three-baby mama. Yeah, like, you can be the second baby mama
Starting point is 00:29:05 like things happen whatever you know or even third I might be like a little like okay girl we gonna see but after that
Starting point is 00:29:13 but it's like cause it's like if he didn't stay with any of these people what make you think that he gonna stay with you to me it starts to become a pattern
Starting point is 00:29:20 after it's like three or four what if it's Bill Gates okay well that's different, aren't we talking? Elon Musk, Warren Buffett. I might be number 70. Come on, now your baddie hitting you. That was a whole other matter.
Starting point is 00:29:33 Now you're using your brain, Charlamagne. I like the way you think. That was a cute moment, I'm telling you. So why y'all so quick to be with the rich white man but not the rich black man? Stop doing that. First of all, don't do that. It's not even about him being white.
Starting point is 00:29:48 We're talking about the level of money. Okay, okay, okay. We're talking about the level of money. Elon Musk and Nick Cannon got money, but Elon Musk really got money. Yeah. Yeah, it's a little different. It's levels. Okay, what sign would y'all not date?
Starting point is 00:30:00 What sign would y'all not date? Oh, Gemini's. I don't discriminate. I give everybody a chance. You don't have a sign that you don't like? Hell no. I thought you was going to say Capricorn. Honestly, my situation was a Capricorn.
Starting point is 00:30:16 Now you're back to being a situation. You said it was a relationship. Now you're back to a situation. What's wrong with Gemini's? They just crazy. It's like night and day. It's like two different people. June.
Starting point is 00:30:27 May, June. That's you, gentlemen? No, I'm a cancer, bro. Oh, you emotional. That's right. And sensitive. I like water signs, though. Okay.
Starting point is 00:30:35 I like the emotion. I love that. Because I feel like I don't really have. Who? You remember. Oh, yeah. Crazy. Crazy.
Starting point is 00:30:43 But really, I'll date any time. You know. I'm saying I wouldn't date a gymkhana now what celebrities try to holler at y'all oh my god it's been a while let me see the DMs
Starting point is 00:30:52 somebody open their DMs let me see something definitely not cause you ain't about to talk about this tomorrow let me tell y'all let me tell y'all
Starting point is 00:30:59 what I see any celebrity that you holler back at said I'm gonna give this a try you ain't gotta say names that you dated went on a date and they weren't what you expected. Yes.
Starting point is 00:31:07 Yes. For sure. You know, I think, honestly, getting into this space, you realize, like, and I hate to say this. Popular dudes be mad corny. Oh, my God. It's very upsetting. What do you mean corny? Like, they just be corny.
Starting point is 00:31:19 The stuff that they care about. Their conversation. The conversation. They don't be having anything to talk about a lot of the time it's like so many men think money is a personality trait but they think they have to lead with that and I mean like maybe we contributed to that how we used to talk
Starting point is 00:31:34 on the show we probably did but it's just like okay I don't care about your cars and stuff like who are you as a person but I think they're okay with leaning on that because a lot of the women who look good you know even, even men, they big bro you. And, you know, just because of what you have. So they feel like they have to lead with that.
Starting point is 00:31:51 So I think that's like the biggest thing that's be like a turnoff with like dating these celebrity guys or guys with money. And they probably feel like they don't really got to do much because of who they are. Right. Exactly. Like, I can't date somebody who has no personality who can't make me laugh and we can't have conversations or substance it's gonna be rough for y'all in a minute though because i mean the more the podcast grows like you're not gonna know if dudes really like y'all are they just like the the fame or the look yeah right right right yeah i already feel like that's
Starting point is 00:32:19 happening right now it's weird because that's what i was saying about the guy that bought me the car like it was just a weird energy like do you really like me or do you just want to date me so you can like come out of pocket now let's talk about fluid out the fluid out conversation somebody flies you out uh huh what are you giving them back are you expecting not a damn thing she got a range rover and ain't giving nothing up you think a flight gonna do it? Look, chill out, Uncle Batty. I'm talking to them. The Batty knows. The Batty knows. The Batty knows. Uncle Batty. Uncle Batty knows.
Starting point is 00:32:49 That's my new name from now on. I want y'all to stamp it. Don't call me nothing else. I'm weak. Okay? But no, honestly, I used to be like that. Like, I used to, like, go on trips with people and knew that I wasn't gonna have sex with them.
Starting point is 00:33:00 Now, at this age... But do you tell them up front? No, I would just go and enjoy myself and be like, uh-uh. You ever lie to my period front? No, I would just go and enjoy myself and be like, uh-uh. You ever lied to my period on? Yeah, I have. I actually put a tampon in one time.
Starting point is 00:33:10 One of the biggest scams. I'll tell you. If you're going to tell a lie, you got to play it out. All the way through. But what about
Starting point is 00:33:16 when a man say, I don't care, period don't stop nothing but a sentence. Then what? I would just be like, no, I don't want to do that. I don't want to smell
Starting point is 00:33:24 like pennies in here what? smelling like pennies? as grown adults we all know we all know y'all know stop acting
Starting point is 00:33:37 we don't have to do that but then they're gonna say we don't have to have sex we can have oral we? no well I mean you go ahead now see this's what i'm trying to figure out you
Starting point is 00:33:56 smelling a penny i ain't never smelled it yes you gotta start the little i've ran some red lights i ain't never smelled nothing together man rub together, man. Rub them together. Rub them together. This is going to have a little smit. But no, I feel like at this age, I'm not saying, like I said, for the young girls, just have fun and good time. But for me, if I'm... Y'all are wild. Y'all are...
Starting point is 00:34:15 I don't smell nothing, bro. Maybe dirty pennies. I don't know. You need one that's kind of been in the car console a little bit. This one is... It's been to Wendy's a few times. This is 2019. This is 2021. You need a little bit. It's been to Wendy's a few times. This is 2019. This is 2021.
Starting point is 00:34:27 You need a 1980 phone. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You need that 84 penny. That 84 penny smell like Perry. Lord have mercy. But no, I feel like now it's like, I'm not going to lie to you. If I'm going on a vacation with a man, I like you. It's going gonna be some
Starting point is 00:34:45 boots that's knocking okay i'm not going like to me that's a part of the fun of a vacation for me like of course when you're younger you just do things you're having fun but honestly i feel like um things are a little different now people are weird so you just can't be flying out with people and then you know you get yourself in some messed up situations. So I feel like have good intentions, especially when you're spending three, four, five days with somebody overnight, you're going out the country, like things get a little different then.
Starting point is 00:35:14 So I don't travel with somebody that I don't feel safe with and that I don't like and that I want to be intimate with. And men will leave you. I've got Lyft places before. Facts. Yeah, I mean, we're nowhere out the country. And men will leave you. I've got left places before. What do you mean? Facts. On vacation?
Starting point is 00:35:26 Yeah. When you got left. I mean, when I were out the country. Right, right, right. But like, I got left in Miami one time. So God flew you out.
Starting point is 00:35:32 Yeah. And you said- He actually lived here. He said you were on your period and then he left. Well, I didn't tell him I was on my period.
Starting point is 00:35:38 I just straight up told him like I didn't want to have sex with him but he was mad because he had bought me some shoes. What kind of shoes? Some Louboutins.
Starting point is 00:35:44 And you walked right out of his life. God damn it. So he left god damn it in the hotel yes he left me he didn't book my return flight and this was when i was still living in houston i hadn't moved to lna did you have the money to get back yeah i did i did but like what if i didn't though he ain't here did you he did i remember that you called me was like. I was like, wow. Because I couldn't believe it. So you called him and you went straight to voicemail. No,
Starting point is 00:36:07 he blocked me too. Then he blocks me on social media and from his phone. So I couldn't even say nothing to him. But y'all gotta know playing that type of game,
Starting point is 00:36:16 something like that could happen. Oh, for sure. For sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think that's why we've grown up. That's why I never went out the country
Starting point is 00:36:20 like doing something like that. So did the lady downstairs call him like, hey ma'am, you check out in one hour? It was a wild time. I just couldn't believe that happened. I called my mom. I was like, girl, I have to book this $700
Starting point is 00:36:34 flight back to Houston one way because he didn't book my return flight. She was like, you shouldn't have went. That's right. She right. But I mean, that's a blessing that you had it. You right. I'm trying to figure out a bottle before that. We went shopping. do you mean? You right. I'm trying to figure out. I had a ball though before that. We went shopping. We was at all the restaurants.
Starting point is 00:36:47 We went to live. But you know what that man wants. You know why he doing all that. You know he ain't doing that for no reason. But you know, this is why I don't date outside my race. Because he was a white man. A white. And he was smoking cigarettes.
Starting point is 00:36:59 You should have known. How'd you know? I met him through my best friend. The one I said used to live out here. That went to St. John's. I ain't mad at you. I ain't mad at best friend, the one I said used to live out here. I ain't mad at you. I ain't mad at you. You shouldn't have gave that white man nothing. That's reparation.
Starting point is 00:37:12 I ain't mad at you. Now, have y'all ever been in a relationship where y'all was crazy over a man? Like, what's Blueface's girlfriend's name? Y'all ever been like that over a man? Nah, I'm not going to lie. That's not my character. That's too down bad. Damn.
Starting point is 00:37:28 That's down bad. No offense to her because I don't want to get smoked because she can fight. Yeah, she's going to beat your ass up. My bad. But, nah, I just feel like it's too many people out here in the world to experience. If you're, like, going back and forth with somebody that much, and, you know, we don't know their relationship. They could just be doing it for show because they get posted on the blogs every day i mean we talking about
Starting point is 00:37:47 them right now so i don't know what their plan is but i feel like when it's too much like combativeness i'll just move on yeah i don't like toxic love that's not fun to me i don't like how people have glorified that either like i like to turn up and have a good time with my partner like i feel like i want to travel you know do things do things that we like, go eat, enjoy each other. So all that fighting. Yeah, he's supposed to bring me peace. Yeah. Do y'all worry about men not taking y'all serious because of what they hear y'all talk about? I ain't worried about
Starting point is 00:38:14 it, but I know there's people that probably feel, you know, that way. They probably wouldn't, but I mean, I feel like if that's how you feel, you're just not the guy for me. Because at some point, y'all going to want to settle down, right? For sure. Of course. Absolutely. I'm going to settle down. We want kids. Like, outside of
Starting point is 00:38:29 contrary belief, we're good women. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Y'all got great energy. I think that the problem is, too, like, when you're in the media, people can't separate like your media persona from who you really are. Because don't get me wrong. But you said this how y'all are off the air too.
Starting point is 00:38:45 I mean, yeah, but I feel like still at the same time, Dre and Nicole and Lex P are like personas to a certain extent. Like there's a lot of things we say on the show. Sometimes we say stuff for shock value. True. But in real life, that might not be how I feel. I think Dre and Nicole is a version of me, but I'm still Andrea in real life.
Starting point is 00:39:03 And I think people will never know that side of me unless you really get to know me as a person right I mean people watch us for like an hour once a week once a week like you can't know somebody like that and I mean I know how we make people feel you know so they think they know us but like I don't feel like anybody who judges me from seeing
Starting point is 00:39:20 a week on a YouTube show can that's not the person for me anyway you know what I'm saying? So I don't really worry about those type of people. I like people who like me and want to get to know me so I don't worry about the people who don't. When do y'all think y'all would want to settle down? Is that even something y'all thinking about right now?
Starting point is 00:39:35 I will get married tomorrow. Really? Yes, I told you I'm emotional. Every time she's in a relationship. My man, my man, my man. I love her. You're not supposed to fall in a relationship. My man, my man, my man. I love her. Lex is a lover. You're not supposed to fall in love, Lex. And if we get a divorce two weeks later.
Starting point is 00:39:48 You're not. Amen. You're supposed to grow in love, not fall. Think about all the times you've felt you've hurt yourself. Cool. I'll fall again. I'll fall again. I'll get right back up.
Starting point is 00:39:56 There you go. You know what I'm saying? But no, I just feel like I'm just a lover and I love love. You know, I'm not saying that. I can honestly say I've been in love like twice in my life okay like I know the difference between when I'm really in love and when I'm just kind of like doing something and I think Drea knows that about me too like she knows when I'm just doing something versus um like really being in love but I think for me like I said us being
Starting point is 00:40:18 in this space of course like I love like you know being on tour like we're on tour with the show right now and it has really shocked me like how much the show has grown and things like that. So, of course, I want to experience that and share that with somebody. You know, I feel like now we're making money. I want to like build a business with somebody like there's so much stuff that I want to do on my own. But, you know, I want to have a partner there as well. So, yeah, I think we both want that for sure. Yeah, I would say like, I don't know, in the next few years, like next two years, I would like to be in a relationship and have a partner there as well. So yeah, I think we both want that for sure. Yeah, I would say like, I don't know, in the next few years, like next two years, I would
Starting point is 00:40:47 like to be in a relationship and have a kid. Okay. Well, they're on tour right now. You can see them. Yeah. Arlington, Virginia on the 18th of September. Yes. Richmond the 21st.
Starting point is 00:40:56 Tampa, October 4th. October 5th, Miami. And October 6th, Orlando. And y'all just did New York. How was the New York show? Oh my God. It was great. It was lit.
Starting point is 00:41:05 The energy was really, really good. Yeah, New York. I feel the New York show? Oh, my God. It was great. It was lit. The energy was really, really good. Yeah, New York. I feel like New York is kind of a different market. It's kind of hard. Yeah. Because we country, obviously. Y'all can tell. So I feel like when we come to New York, people be like,
Starting point is 00:41:15 where are these country bumpkins and this and that? But all their family from down south. Yeah, like they really showed us love. You know, I feel like we came out here. We've collabed with a lot of people. We've met with a lot of people. So New York really, they like us. Yeah, for real.
Starting point is 00:41:30 So y'all don't have no other jobs. This is it. This is it. I finally was able to quit my job. You quit last year. Yeah, it was last year, wasn't it? Beginning of last year. Yeah, so for me, it was like I moved to Atlanta literally with nothing.
Starting point is 00:41:44 I was trying to figure things out. And it was really, it was like a really, really hard time for me, it was like I moved to Atlanta literally with nothing. You know, I was trying to figure things out. And it was really it was like a really, really hard time for me. Like and I think the thing that I love about poor minds and that's why we keep the old videos up. Like we joke about it, like how my hair used to look, our makeup. I mean, I didn't have any money. It was what I could do at the time. But we keep those old videos up so people can see the growth, you know, and they can see what consistency and when you really believe in yourself can get you. Because I feel like we've only just scratched the surface of what we're going to do, you know. Agreed.
Starting point is 00:42:12 So, yeah. I haven't had a job in like four years. Really? What was your last job? What was both of y'all last jobs? I used to bartend. Okay. But that was like, but I haven't did that since like 2018.
Starting point is 00:42:23 I was like, I had a job for a company called Regis. I had like a nine to five. So it was really hard because I was having to like sneak and leave work. We worked at radio at the time. We were doing stuff with DJ Scream in Atlanta. Scream, what up my guy? We used to record in his studio. Yeah, we used to work with him a lot.
Starting point is 00:42:38 So it was just like hard for me. So when stuff kind of started rolling, it's like I wasn't even ready to quit my job. They kind of like gave me ultimatum was like, okay Either you're gonna be here or be there and I was like, you know what Dre was like girl go ahead and quit We gonna figure it out. So it's like I just quit and we figured it out. Well, I find y'all very entertaining and I think I think those laid edges need to be on TV And I can't oh I know I don't ask you About the division video Y'all was in the division video We were
Starting point is 00:43:06 We were in the division video Yes That was fun It was really fun I think that's really how we be In real life Like And I had
Starting point is 00:43:13 Drea calling me Me giving her bad advice Me in the bed with my man And me taking it And I be taking the advice But yeah the video was cool The video was fun Yeah they're really dope
Starting point is 00:43:22 It's funny because I didn't even hear the song Until it came out Really Right So you didn't know They didn't even hear the song until it came out. Really? So you didn't know what, they didn't have the song playing while y'all was doing the video? Nope.
Starting point is 00:43:29 Wow. And I just, it was kind of strange a little bit cause they was having me like acting. And so I was having to like scream and throwing stuff. And it was just quiet. I was the only one screaming. I just felt so crazy. I want to ask this question for the white men
Starting point is 00:43:40 and the Asian men and the black boys. Is cheating a deal breaker? Not right. Cause black men don't cheat. so I'm asking for them. Is cheating a deal breaker? You know what's crazy? No, it's not for me. You know what's crazy?
Starting point is 00:43:57 I'm not going to lie. I've always said cheating is not a deal breaker for me, but I honestly feel like I've had situations like transpire and things go on and I feel like in the space I'm in, I think it would be.
Starting point is 00:44:11 Yeah, the space of a cheetah. You a cheetah, so you can't be judgmental and hypocritical. No, no, no. Not like that, but I feel like it's a lot more. No, I just feel like
Starting point is 00:44:19 versus, I am a regular person, so let me not say that, but I feel like, you know, we have to live out our lives online a lot of times. You know, like things have happened to me where I'm out eating with somebody and somebody done tagged me and posted it and things like that. So I feel like when we go through things in our relationship,
Starting point is 00:44:37 it automatically gets magnified because people are watching us. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like something like that, cheating is something hard to go through. So having to go through that under a magnifying glass in front of everybody, I don't think I would be ready for that. So you can cheat, but you can't let somebody else cheat on you?
Starting point is 00:44:54 Absolutely. It's rules. It's rules. For me, it's not a deal breaker because the way I look at it is like, okay, is this a I messed up one time thing or is this like this is what you do? Like you doing this consistently. If it's somebody that's doing it consistently, no.
Starting point is 00:45:10 Like it's absolutely a deal breaker for me. But if you messed up, I can forgive you. Yeah, yeah. Depending on the circumstances. True. But it's like that's the difference though. You cheating one night, but you paid her rent? Oh, yeah.
Starting point is 00:45:21 You giving her money? Oh, you can. You gave her a Birkin? You like the girl. Like you paid her rent? Oh, yeah. You giving her money? Oh, you gave her a Birkin? You like the girl. Like, you paid her rent. You gave her money. You giving her money. Just because I buy a woman
Starting point is 00:45:32 a Birkin don't mean I like her. Excuse me? You received a Range Rover. You didn't like that man. Go ahead, baddie. I'm just saying. I received it. I didn't buy it.
Starting point is 00:45:39 Same difference. It's the same difference. So, yeah, I think honestly, but like she's saying, I kind of agree, you know, it's levels to cheating so yeah i think honestly but like she's saying i kind of agree you know it's levels to cheating honestly like the emotional cheating is way worse than just like people who cheat should just get in a relationship with somebody who you know don't believe in monogamy watch your tone yeah like being a poly relationship that's true yeah no because i feel like it's a lot of people out there who believe in polygamy. So, like, be with somebody who believes in polygamy.
Starting point is 00:46:06 You wouldn't be in a poly relationship? Hell no. I want my man to look at me like an angel. An untouched queen. Not with that back catalog of Paul Monk's podcast. I'm his untouched queen. Okay. Okay?
Starting point is 00:46:20 So, what if you sleep with a man, right, and the condom gets stuck in you? Then you go sleep with the guy you really like and they find the condom. Would you want him to forgive you? If you got a crib, it's dry. What? You don't need to go sleep with nobody else. You got to set that sandpaper down now, hon. Because why is it grabbing anything like that?
Starting point is 00:46:38 It's supposed to. What are you talking about? No, it is. No, it's supposed to. But wait, wait. We have had a situation where the snatch story, a situation where we're supposed to have that grip. The snatch story, that grip. You're supposed to have that grip.
Starting point is 00:46:49 Man, if y'all ain't got that grip, man, at y'all age, something ain't right now. Missed the grip. I'm weak. No, but situations like that, it ain't like that. Like I said, I'm not,
Starting point is 00:46:59 I be being funny, of course, but like I said, I've had situations where I messed up, I slipped up. It's not like something I do all the time and I'm just, you know. How many times have you slipped up it's not like something I do all the time and I'm just you know how many times have you slipped up what you mean slipped up like
Starting point is 00:47:09 every time no I don't do it honestly but okay I'll say this percentage wise um honestly you ain't never getting a man after this I'm telling you that right now but I'm being honest but I feel like women don't be honest I keep a real with my shit a lot of women be like, oh no, like,
Starting point is 00:47:25 y'all out here, I know y'all are, because y'all be in the emails talking to me about it. But I'm not going to lie. Your community. My community. The cheetahs unite. Period. No, but I'm not going to lie. I feel like this last situation I got out of, no, I wasn't. I was
Starting point is 00:47:42 very faithful, because like I said, I wanted a certain outcome, you know? So I was like, you know what, let me give 100% of myself. But I'm not going to lie wasn't I was very faithful because like I said I wanted a certain um outcome you know so I was like you know what let me give 100% of myself but I'm not gonna lie when I first moved to Atlanta I got in a relationship this was what 2017 and I was with somebody you know who was kind of known and it was just like I just kind of had checked out but that was my comfort zone so it was just kind of like I was just in a weird space you know and I like I said I was young I'm 33 now like you know. And like I said, I was young. I'm 33 now. Like I'm out.
Starting point is 00:48:07 I'm out the game. I'm retired. Auntie is tired. I really don't want two, three men. Like I don't want to do that. But in that space, I was just like I was outside. I was in a new city. I jumped into a relationship.
Starting point is 00:48:18 And it wasn't really what I wanted. But instead of me vocalizing that, you know, I stepped out. It was comfortable. So, you know, I'm not proud of my past, but I'm growing every day. There you go. There you go. For now, it's a new day
Starting point is 00:48:30 and I'm an untouched queen. Hey, your wholeness has been deleted is what you're saying? It's been deleted. Can I get an amen? Amen. Amen. Follow them right now
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Starting point is 00:49:31 What's I'm going to say now? A little gloss. If it's a little gloss. He going to say, look at Uncle Batty. Look at Uncle Batty with that shiny bottom lip. Oh my goodness. They're listening. I can't wait for this to hit the blogs, man.
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