The Breakfast Club - Lil Scrappy On Parenting: 'Moms Are The Emotional Ones, Dads Teach Their Kids How To Be Solid'

Episode Date: December 3, 2024

The Breakfast Club Discuss Lil Scrappy Thoughts On Parenting: 'Moms Are The Emotional Ones, Dads Teach Their Kids How To Be Solid.' Listen For More!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Ooh, I know that's right. Morning, everybody, it's right. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Just hilarious, Charlamagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Now, Little Scrappy was online yesterday and he was talking about parenting a little bit. And this is what he said. We're gonna teach them babies how to be solid, but they dead. They mama? The emotional person? No.

You know what I'm saying? It's very rare that you have a solid, complete mom all the way around. Sometimes a daddy too, but you gotta tap in and let the daddy do his thing, man. Real good daddies, watch the kids when they grow up. If they have a real good dad in their life or a good father figure in their life, watch your kid when he grow up.

Guaranteed, they're gonna be doing something great in their life. They're gonna have a balance, I'm telling you. So we're asking 800-585-1051, what are your thoughts? You know, Lil Scrappy said that moms are the ones that are emotional ones and dads teach their kids how to be solid. What's your thoughts, start with you, Jess.

I mean, I guess it depends on the situation, because you got some dads that ain't solid. You got moms who are and you got moms that's not. You have to do both. Yeah, that has to do. And then there are dads that do both too, you know, you got moms who are, and you got moms that's not. You have to do both. Yeah, that has to do. And then there are dads that do both too, you know. So it just depends, I think he more so speaking, like from his situation, I guess, or what he's seen.

But I agree with him, but it can also be the other way around as well. Shadalman? One of the biggest lies ever told is that women are emotional and men are rational. F outta here, okay? Men are just and men are rational. F out of here. Okay? Men are just as emotional.

All right? If not more. And you know, sometimes women can be rational, sometimes men can't. So you know, that whole dynamic about, you know, hey, you need the father in the life because the father is going to teach the son to be solid and not be emotional. That's just not true. And you know, what you got to teach people how to do is deal with their emotions. Men need to learn how to deal with their emotions.

Women need to learn how to deal with their emotions. That's how you teach your child how to deal with their emotions. Because it sounds like a lot of times men, we be telling especially our sons to be emotionless. And we don't want that. We don't wanna raise a generation of sociopaths because we've already done that.

That's why so many of us are in therapy right now. Dealing with so many different traumas. So I don't like, I've never liked the whole men are rational, women are emotional thing, because this is just not true. Men are emotional as hell. I don't disagree with you when you say that, but he's talking about as far as parenting is concerned,

because men are definitely just as emotional. Most men are just as emotional as women. But I noticed and I recognize when you parent your kids, women are usually more into the emotional side of a child than their father is. That's just what it is. I see it. Like even with me growing up, when I had problems or there was anything that was affecting me mostly, I would go to my mom.

Because my dad was more of the tougher skin, what it seemed. Same thing in my relationship with my wife. If my kids are having a problem when it comes to something emotional, they talk to their mom first. Like, because mom is more understanding, she's more patient. She'll sit there throughout the whole thing.

I see that with parenting, though. Yeah, but whose fault is that, though? Like, it shouldn't be like that. Like, your kids should be able to come to you about anything. I mean, they do, but mom is... And it's the truth. Mom is easier to talk to. Mom is more patient.

Mom is... You need to mom is more patient Mom is you need to work on yourself. Yeah, maybe But it's also is is as a man you raise a certain way right? So if your kid gets hurt the first thing that usually thinks on a father's mind is not pick it up You be I you be off because you don't want your kid to be out there in the world and have the world attack him and him not be able to, because the world is a very nasty and scary place, right?

And you don't want your kid to be attacked out there in the world. So you teach your kid to be tough out there so that he doesn't think about suicide. He doesn't think about hurting himself. He doesn't let the comments of other people in social media hurt him and affect him. So as a father, you make sure that,

you try to make sure that your kid is strong enough to do that physically and emotionally. Yeah, but the comments hurt you. No, they don't hurt me. Oh my God. They don't hurt me. Shut up. What do you mean?

Oh, okay, well not you. The comments hurt most parents. The comments do hurt. So how can you, so you're lying to your kids? Where are you going? I mean, all right, so for instance, my dad, all right, so going off of what he's saying and what you just said, so my dad, I wasn't, I was more emotional with my mom. My dad still, he was very tough with me about things.

Like when I would go fight and I would cry, I would lose a fight and I would cry. He'd be like, no, go back out there to you, whip her ass. Like that type of stuff. That same thing he did with my brother. That's tough love. Right, now my father, he didn't have his father. My grandmother, well, my father kind of raised himself,

but my, the only present parent was my grandmother. And my dad is solid, you feel me? So it's like, I get what he's saying for his situation, but it's different. My dad ain't had, my dad was solid, nigga, I know. And he ain't never had no father. And I don't want to raise my kids out of fear and not love. And that's something that I learned in therapy.

That's how I feel like I was raised by my pops. And it wasn't because he didn't love me. It was because he didn't want me to make a lot of the same mistakes that he made. And he, to Envy's point, you know, he's like, oh, the world is tough and you know, the world gonna be hard on you, this and that. But you can still raise your kid with love

and empathy and nurture them and they still be solid. You don't have to have them fear you. You know what I mean? Or tell them you gotta be tough and they still be solid. You don't have to have them fear you. You know what I mean? Or tell them you gotta be tough and you gotta be hard in order to survive. It's like. I kind of disagree on some of that, right? So for instance, right?

I remember the first time my daughter, Madison, who's 23, she cried over a boy, right? They got into a thing and she cried in front of him. And she spoke to her mom and she came and spoke to me and I was like, you don't ever cry in front of no nigga? Fuck that. Excuse my French. But the reason I said that me and I was like you don't ever cry for no nigga Yeah, yeah, excuse my French But the reason I said that is because I felt like you give somebody the power

That's just me the way I would you cried in front of your woman. We've been married for 30 years But but me and my wife are in a different relationship a lot of times men are used the fact that you are crying and you Are hurt against you. We've seen it a million times. Or maybe you just like that person. Me and my wife, we've been together 30 years. It's a lot different. Or maybe you just like a person.

And at that point, he had to cry. Showed he was about to leave. That is true. That is true. Listen, you was butt-necked and running out the psych ward. You was in the club DJing with the freaking nurse gown on and your ass out because of what you was going through. But you would tell your daughter that she can't be,

she can't have emotions? But that was my wife and this was somebody that was in a relationship. It's totally different. No, not really. Yes, it is totally different. I'll tell you why it's not different. Because humans are humans.

Yeah, we are. And it don't matter what the relationship is. If you feel something for a person, that's going to come out. Like, I think one of the worst things we do to people is tell them to suppress their emotions. I really do. Like, I don't not, I don't let people.

One of the first things your therapist gonna tell you is feel your feels. It swirls in a nasty place. And I just wanna protect my kids from all of it. But let's go to the phone lines. Hello, who's this? This your boy Matt from Charleston, Matt. Hey, what's up, Matt? 843, what's this? This your boy Matt from Charleston, Matt. 843, what's happening?

Right, y'all telling Matt. So listen, I agree with Scrappy, but man, I disagree with what I'm saying at the same time, right? Because I've been raised in a single parent household just by my mama. And my mama really ain't never displayed no emotion, you feel what I'm saying? She just bust her ass to provide. And you know? So that right there was she just instilling me.

So I just got a real grind of mentality. But I did learn what not to do from my old man being absent, you feel what I'm saying? So it just kind of, you know, I agree and I agree and disagree with him. All right. Thank you, brother. Hello, who's this? This is Devon from Detroit. Devon from Detroit.

Devon, what's up? Don't talk to us. What's your thoughts? Good morning. Good morning, Envy. Good morning, Charlamagne. Good morning, Jess. Peace, peace, peace. I feel like fatherhood is very important. I'm a single father myself. And just the lessons that I have to teach my daughter on a daily

about conflict resolution and not the panic. You know, she wouldn't have that because of that emotional side from her mom. It's just act. Once that emotion is up, they just act without reason. And I'm trying to get her out of that now, she's seen. That's just not true. And I don't know why men act like we don't do

the exact same thing, depending on what is pushing us in that moment. I think we better act handily, though. No, we not. What? He said we not. We better act handily. We not.

Men resort to violence way more than women do. But we can't. We under much more scrutiny. It's a much more punishment if we lose our control than if they do. I don't think that. It depends on how you lose your control. I'm just saying I don't think that. It depends on how you lose your control. I'm just saying I don't like when we act like human beings don't have emotions.

Cause that's what it sounds like. Men are emotionless and women have all the emotion. That's just not true. No, that is not true at all. I don't think he was saying that. I think he was saying in parenting, I think usually women are more emotional when it comes to a relationship,

meaning of parenting because they tend to their kids' feelings more, they have more patience, and I think dads are a little different. I just don't have the patience. I just don't have that patience. So when your daughter comes to you and she's crying over a boy, and you say, F that, you don't cry over no,

isn't that you showing emotion? Yes! Yeah, you showed emotion. Yes, you're super emotional. But I'm also trying to tell her how to protect her heart. Just like when my female friends come and talk about their man and they tell me the things that's going on, I tell them from a different angle.

I tell them from an angle of I've been there or my friends have been there and I tell them what it is. It's not. Do you tell them how your friends was trash? Yes. And they needed to do a lot of work on themselves. Absolutely. So nine times out of 10, it's not them, it's you.

It was, did you tell them that? It's not her, it was them. Yeah, it's not her, it was you? Absolutely. Oh, okay. Now, half the time they don't wanna listen, but I tell them, all my friends, I be like, yo, they trash, like this is not the way to go,

but most men are because, you know, whatever. But let's open up the phone. And that's some whole stuff. That's some whole stuff. I'ma be honest with you. That's like you suing UMG. I'ma be honest with you. That's like you that's like you suing you mg But you're right I'm not mad at you

That's another conversation for another day, but 800 585 105 1 let's discuss with Scrappy Dead. This is what he said We are the Breakfast Club. We're taking your calls, 800-585-1051. Hello, who's this? Hi, this is Ronnie. Hey, mama, how you feeling this morning? I'm feeling well, thank you. Can you hear me okay? We can hear you clearly. What's your thoughts, mama?

Okay. I am a COVID widow. I spoke to you guys last year when my son called in about Chance the Rapper and smacking bombsies. I agree. I think it makes sense on a surface level, but when you go deeper, I can testify to the fact that it's not necessarily true. I was orphaned at nine and I am now a COVID widow and a solo parent.

And I think that connection when you're raising children, I think connections to both parents are necessary. However, you have a large segment of this population due to COVID and many other diseases who are being raised as orphans or parents who are on their own with a deceased parent that's not there to lend the other hand. And I think what matters the most is that people are healthy, mentally well, mentally healed, whole spiritually.

I think that it's important to look for churches and community organizations. My church, Cornerstone Baptist Church, has been instrumental in our healing. My family has been a part of introducing four bills into New York state legislation. One of them is named after my late husband. If you search Fairness for Fallen Frontline Workers,

we're also on NBC New York, hit a pandemic. We're also seeing an orphan by COVID. My sons are empowered to talk about the emotional aspect of their journey and what it means to have lost their father at an early age. But they also have learned how to give that pain and passion purpose by helping other people. And it's because of the positive aspect of both their father and their mother. Okay. Well, thank you, mama. Appreciate the work that you're putting in.

Thank you. And thank you, Jess, for I spoke to you. I was right in the middle during your just with the mess segment at the podcast festival Oh, yeah, I asked you for dating advice about with open. You said I was beautiful. I was so honored Thank you. So you welcome. I remember I remember yes Thank you. And thank you Charlemagne for giving us tickets the first time last year. We'll be doing it again We'll be doing it again next year in April, the Black Effect Podcast Festival. So when do they go on sale? Because I need to do the meet and greet, and this time all the kids are coming.

I gotta talk to Dolly about that, but as soon as we find out, we'll let you know. Thank you, mama. And she's absolutely right. You need both, man. Like you need the perfect balance of man and woman. I just don't like when we act like one is emotionalist

and one isn't. Like I know too many emotional men. I work for one. Hello, who's this? I'm emotional, I'ma cancel. I was gonna say you an emotional man. Good morning, what's your thoughts, mama? Good morning.

Good morning, okay, so my thoughts are women and men both bring an equal element to a relationship. Women bring them nurturing and men bring discipline. You can't, women aren't really that good with discipline and men aren't that good with nurturing which is why both, both elements are needed. I think we forget that women represent this, we are different and there's nothing wrong with our differences and we need each other. That's why, you know, so that's what I think. I just think that he has a point, but not in the sense that women are emotional.

Women don't have that. Emotional was the wrong word. Nurturing was the word he should have used. But men can be nurturing too. Men can be nurturing too. Maybe not as naturally as women, but men can be too. If they go out there and do the proper work on themselves. And I will say this, discipline is very hard with kids,

especially if you was raised in the 1900s like we were. Because you'd just be wanting to beat them. You know what I'm saying? Because that's how we was raised. I know. I don't hit my daughters. I refuse. My oldest is 16, so when I didn't know no better,

I spanked her when she was young, and it just felt stupid to do. Yeah. You know what I mean? But we grew up, you got to go pick your own switch. I was getting beat with extension cords and made to go take a bath. I ain't that far now.

That's abuse, bro. Sure. Of course it was, but we didn't know that when we was young. And they didn't know that That's how they was raised. I was like now you be telling your kids. Hey, I'm gonna take such a way They'd be like so and all you can say is or if you was raised in the 90s If you was raised in the 90s, you know what would happen to you what she say I will call the cops on you She's like, what is the 90s?

what would happen to you? What'd she say? I will call the cops on you. She's like, what are the 90s? Hey yo, see I show Ash the 90s all the time. I know, that's different for y'all. I boxed that little boy up. Hello, who's this? Hello, good morning.

This is Erica. Good morning, what's your name, Erica? Okay, so I don't think it's that way either. I think it's, I think it could be a mix. I agree with Charlie with that because it's like I have four kids and my Father was emotional part. I Was more so just like I care for my kids like I do the Basics he was my my kids are daddy's both my girls's girls. And then his stepfather is one of my kids

And my son would rather go to him over me now now until they got older They want me more than they want him, but it's I think it's like both it depends on both parties Okay. Well, thank you mama Hello, who's this? Hey, this is chris chris good morning. What's your your new jersey? Hey, what's up? I'm on the radio Turn it down But your daughter Chris you go Yeah, so I like what you're talking about. But at the same time you're correct 100%

You know we grow up as men Trying to suppress our feelings and emotions and everything, but our children nowadays, like you look at all the suicide rates and everything that's going on with the substance abuse and everything around the whole world. You know, suppressing our feelings is what is what got us in this situation. Us being more open and understanding is definitely what we need to do. We need to express our feelings and emotions, especially to women as well. Women, they like a guy that can be open.

That's how you have a longevity. That's right. Okay, well thank you Chris. Yeah, no problem. All right, brother. All right, well what's the moral of the story, guys? I mean, the moral of the story is I think that we need to stop with these stupid stereotypes.

We need to stop prof these, uh, these stupid stereotypes. We need to stop profile and stop saying, you know, men aren't nurturing and men don't know how to deal with emotions and women do know how to deal with emotions. Here's the thing, my brothers, if you don't know how to deal with emotions, go learn how to deal with them. You know what I mean? Take your ass to therapy. I'm not, I don't be out here telling brothers they're investing in their mental wealth for no reason. These are the reasons that I pushed those conversations

and I pushed those narratives. Go out there and learn how to deal with your emotions so you can not only be more nurturing for yourself, you can be more nurturing to your spouse, you can be more nurturing to your kids. Like I think if you got a problem dealing with your emotions, then you need to go fix that. That's right.

And I think everything is perfect with balance in a relationship, right? I think you need balance. And I'm seeing, now you need to go fix that. That's right. And I think everything is perfect with balance in a relationship, right? I think you need balance. And I'm seeing, now you have a young little baby. And how are you and Chris gonna raise that little baby? Oh my gosh, balance. Balance, because he's not a disciplinarian at all. You know what I mean?

I am. He's a hard worker though, both of y'all are very hard workers. Yeah, very much, yeah. So, I mean, we got got this but he's definitely the opposite Yeah, yeah, it's crazy he gonna be a sucker for his baby real baby all off our little baby girls All right. Now we got just with the mess coming up. What we talking about? Oh my god, Serena Hold on, let me see. Oh! My god.

Serena Williams. Right. Serena Williams explained why she looked how she looked after that. Thank you. That's what she said. They said she was bleaching her skin. We'll talk about it when we come back. It's the Breakfast Club of Mourning. Hi, I'm David Bore.

And I am his dear friend Langston Kerman. And we host My Mama Told Me, a podcast about black conspiracy theories. We just did a spectacular live show with some of your favorite comedians on the planet. David, tell them who was there. We had the Kid Mero, Marie Faustin, and we had Jaboukie Young White. Some of your favorite comedians playing some of the most offensive and groundbreaking games.

So listen to My Mama Told Me on iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. We want to speak out, and we want this to stop. Wow, very powerful. I'm Ellie Flynn, an investigative journalist, and this is my journey deep into the adult entertainment industry. I really wanted to be a playerboy my doll. He was like, I'll take you to the top, I'll make you a star. To expose an alleged predator and the rotten industry he works in. It's honestly so much worse than I had anticipated. and rotten industry he works in. It's honestly so much worse than I had anticipated. We're an army in comparison to him.

From Novel, listen to The Bunny Trap on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, I'm Jay Shetty, and my latest interview is with Wiz Khalifa. The craziest part of my life, I can go from performing in front of 40,000 people to either being in a dressing room, being in a plane,

or being back in a bed all by myself. He is a multi-platinum selling recording artist, mini mogul and an actor. Which of them are the one, the only? Wiz Khalifa! Listen to On Purpose with Jay Shetty on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Join iHeart Media chairman and CEO Bob Pitman for a special episode of the hit podcast

Math & Magic Stories from the Frontiers of Marketing as he interviews the iconic and prolific Martha Stewart in front of a live audience in celebration of her 100th book. "...did you ever think you were going to wind up writing 100 books?" "...yeah." "...you did?" "...yeah, it's just a minor goal." Did you ever think you were going to wind up writing a hundred books? Yeah. You did? Yeah, it's just a minor goal. Listen to Math and Magic on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey everyone, it's Jon, also known as Dr. John Paul.

And I'm Jordan, or Joe Ho. And we are the BlackFatFilm Podcast. A podcast where all the intersections of identity are celebrated. Ooh, chat. This year, we have had some of our favorite people on, including Kid Fury, T.S. Madison, Amber Ruffin from the Amber and Lacey Show, Angelica Ross, and more.

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