The Breakfast Club - The Breakfast Club BEST OF(Pour Minds, Decisions Decisions, 85 South Interview)

Episode Date: December 29, 2025

Best of 2025- Best of Black Effect Podcast - Pour Minds, Decisions Decisions, 85 South Interview. Recorded 2025. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BreakfastClubPower1051FMSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Black Effect celebrated five years this year. So salute to the good sister, Dolly Bishop, and, you know, Chanel and JP and the whole staff at, you know, the Black Effect. And, yeah, man, these are some of the best podcasts on the Black Effect Podcast Network. If you haven't subscribed to them, you need to right now. All right, well, let's start the show. It's the breakfast club good morning. This is your time to get it off your chest. Whether you're mad or blessed.

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How you doing, Jeff? I'm good. Hey, how you doing, babe? I'm chilling, chilling. But, yeah, I just got a little PSA. I know a lot of people might get mad at me when I say this, but do what you want on your social media, but please stop posting the kids

dancing in the back seat, dancing the boots on the ground, and you got a car seat right there. You got to be your kids here, man, keep space, you know what I think? Anything can happen on that rope. And the wrong person, see it. You know how the, yes, it's real out here.

But what if the kid a little bit too big for the car seat now? What if they're like five, six? You're not supposed to be dancing in the bag. Yeah, definitely not. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't step on yourself. Put the phone back.

They charge you for that. Hold on, so what you mean? They be standing up in the backseat? Man, dancing in my own, man. God, damn. Salute to 803. That boots on the ground go hard, though. Now, you heard that Nephew Jones that carrying on?

Oh, yeah, oh, yeah. That's big down here. Yeah, I know. That carrying on ain't no joke. This is my type of carrying on. Hey, hey, hey, this is my type of carrying on. I don't play that. We played that up here a couple times.

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Oh, this is I get rid. I'm doing. How Eric doing? He's doing good. He's doing good. I've been trying for, like, a year to get through to talk to you. What you mean? I didn't probably pass your house like four or five times going to see my mom.

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Yo, what's our family? It's Marty Chris. What's up? Marty. I ain't heard from you in a minute, brother. I know, man. I've been chilling, man. Yo, listen, y'all got to check out my new Christmas song. A Merry, Merry Christmas. It's freaking dope, yo.

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Hey, envy, man. I just got something to get off my chest, man. Hey, I Instagram stalked you last night, man. And if Black Excellence had a picture next to it, man, it'll be your family, bro. You've got a beautiful thing. First of all, how to hell of Cadell would be Black Excellence? We all black excellence.

When they're all Dominican. I know, we're not Dominican at all. I appreciate that, brother. Just trying to do the right thing, trying to raise six kids and try to be a good husband, brother. No, I think y'all are excellent. But we all black, man. Great job.

But thank you, brother. I appreciate you. My other thing is, man, hey, have y'all watched the Hurricane Katrina documentary? No, I haven't yet. I heard about it. I haven't watched it yet. Oh, my God. Oh, Jess.

What's up, baby? I'm sorry. What's up? What's up? No, you good. Yeah, I watched that last night, man. Hey, man, the government should be a shame to their stuff. Like, no bull crap, man.

I almost came to tears watching that, bro. Like, how the government treated our black people, bro. We should be scared to live here, bro. Like, I mean, it's crazy, bro. Y'all should watch it. Yeah. Hello, who's this? Hello?

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We appreciate it, man. Just want to say what's up, love, yeah. Oh, that's all you got. We appreciate you, brother. That's it, man. I got one more thing for you, here, me? Yep. There you go.

Go that on. Hey, yeah. Y'all be safe on them rolls. Y'all be flirting with each other, man. What do you mean? You're a lot, Lizard, Envy. You're a lot. You be flirting with them truck driving, man.

Yes you do As a kid we used to be on the road That would be out funny Blow the home You're a lot lizard I'm not no damn lot lizard Meamy that's not funny Stop laughing

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What's up my brother How can we help you I'm chilling All right So I'm a singer And I want to sing Usher With my guitar

On live Do you think All right All right All right Got me villainate your seat, girl, I can leave you alone. Take a shot of this in the trunk. It's going to be off.

Be obvious and got way too crowded. I'm about to end up party in the night. She said, I let you girl tell her that you can't see. Bull of shotgun be beating the TV with me. She said, oh, I'm ready to ride. Yeah, just once you get inside, you can't change your mind with me. The sounding face, you've got a promise, baby. Oh.

I mean, you sound like to me, but your phone service, you know what I'm saying? So I can't hit a guitar, and you're going in and out. It sounds like you were hitting it, though. Pause. I appreciate it. I appreciate it. He appreciated it to be able to think about it. Thank you for calling, my brother.

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Jess Hilarious, Sholomey and the Guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We got some special guests in the building. My girls! Lex P. and Drey in the Co. Hello. What's up, guys? We're back.

We're back again. I know. How y'all feeling? Great. Good. You feel really good. Yeah, I'm happy to be here. Happy to see you.

Yes, it's been too long. Yeah. Y'all got the new show, Travel Queen. First of all, I'm happy to see y'all just evolving. Poor Mind's podcast is a hit. Poor Mind's podcast evolving. Now, y'all got the Travel Queen's TV show on BET. It's a docu series.

How did that come about? Also, the production company, Cocoa Butter, they actually reached out to us because they wanted us to audition for it. Because they had us and, like, I think, I think, maybe, like, two or three other friend groups. in mind. So we auditioned for it. They loved us. And then we got it. And we started filming maybe like a month after. Yeah. It was really quick. And then we filmed the whole show in two weeks.

Coco, but I know that's a black woman on for that. No, it's actually not. It's not. It's really? White people? It's a white kind of black. It's in town. Show how to eat in town. They're smart. Yeah. So what is travel queens about? Where y'all going? What y'all

doing? So we went to four different cities. We went to Caragena, Mexico. City, Key West and Charleston. So it's basically really showing like young black millennials, Gen Ziers, especially women, how to travel, where to go eat, where to find other black people

when you travel, just how to be safe. And have a good time. I think right now in media, I don't say right now, but I feel like a lot of stuff that we're seeing in the media with black women, it's like who fight in, throwing drinks in people's face. So I really think it's refreshing to see two black women who are really friends, just having

good, innocent fun. We're not talking about men and dating and gender wars and all this stuff. It's just good fun. What about the ladies that are watching it? Like, well, how am I going to be able to fly myself out? Don't start! I'm not bad and we have graduated from that. But you're flying y'all self out

on this show. But actually B.E.T. Cocoa Blue is out. That's right. But I will say, so a lot of the stuff, too, is like, it's budget friendly. I mean, we went to Charleston. You know what I'm saying? You can do a road trip. We went to Key West. So, you can drive to Key West you know what I'm saying

you don't have to necessarily fly it's not like we're doing extremely expensive things to be honest so I think if you budget you know it's not like we're doing luxurious things and going to the Maldives and you know staying at the four seasons it's very budget friendly stuff yeah and I think that was the point

of the show they wanted to make everybody feel like okay I can come here and I don't have to spend a lot of money to have a good time so if a guy was flying y'all out of you do you still want to go to those destinations yeah but I probably would need something different I ain't going to Charleston is beautiful though and Charleston is beautiful

Key West is one of them little ducked off I remember it is I've been taking to Key West before Oh really? I know

You got to get out of Cookewbutter I wasn't flew out by cocoa butter But that's usually The older gentleman Fly you out Yes It's a very like

Quiet town You can definitely sneak off there With a old I had never been The Keywitz before That was my first time It was you know

It was cool Water Blue The water was blue. That's the fad. That's what Lidolito took you. Because they're going to be confused. So I just told them that when the older guys perform fellatio, they don't really know.

Congolingus. The conglangus? Conalingus. When they're doing that, they say, Leal, Leal. Because they don't have teeth anymore. You know, they're trying to figure out where it is. Especially the ones with glasses.

You know, when they slip down on the nose and they say, Lidolet. They'd be doing it with the glasses? I like that. I feel like it's going to get a little foggy from the body. Just a little bit. I like that. I don't need me a little little little little now.

Yes, you're going to find it in the K-West next time you'll go. The four cities y'all went to, which one did you like the best and why? Mexico City. I know. Why? Because it was just so nice. I feel like it's so many black expats that are moving there from the United States. So it's a lot of black people out there.

We went to an R&B night while we were out there. We went to a black vegan restaurant. It reminded me a lot. of the United States, but just in Mexico City. I feel like out of everywhere that we went that was my favorite place. I'm not going to lie. I keep saying that Charleston surprised me too. Why? I've never been to

Charleston. And I have a really close friend of mine that lives out there and he's been trying to get me to come out there forever. And I was like, what isn't Charleston? Like, isn't that a dance? Like, I was like, I'm not doing. Oh, isn't that the dance? It's not. Okay, we did. But I was so surprised. Like,

people would be taking the nice boats out. The food is good. I have a ball in Charleston, like, I'm actually planning a trip to go back for a weekend. It's beautiful. That's just at home. Mexico City is nice, too, though. It is. It is. It's a lot of people moving there. My husband's from there. Really? Yeah. I know, that's why husband, period.

Yeah. I knew that. I knew that. Okay. So, see trying it. Do y'all move like to travel already? Yeah. Oh, yeah. And we already traveled together a lot anyway, so we felt like that's why it was the perfect show for his. Don't get tired of each other at all? Like, you know what? You go your way. I'll go my way. Absolutely. I was going to say no. She was going to say no.

She was like, no. I love it's gone. We're neighbors. We literally live in Atlanta. I live in a building right here and her building is right here. And the unit that I used to live in she could see my apartment from the pool. So she would be like waving at me from the pool.

You got to watch her. No, she did. I followed her. I did. Because they started building a building ourselves in the move right next door to my sweetie pool. I love that. I would love it. I love it. you know what's crazy I'd be like I'm going to wear some sugar

you know what's crazy I think when we were younger and the show first started we didn't have any direction we didn't know what we wanted to do we're going through growing pains but now it's like she's 34 I'm 35 we grown women we don't have anything to fight about and honestly I think it's so crazy

when people have podcasts and they make so much money and they be arguing we got to be making about you know we have so much fun to be able to travel the world with your best friend have a business. It's great. It's fun. How is it when y'all get in relationships, though? Ooh. I feel like we do a really good job of still keeping the balance of our friendship

and still being in a relationship. Like, we always find the time to hang with each other to go to dinner, to talk on the phone. As crazy as it is, because the podcast, we do talk about dating a lot. We are really not male-centered women. And a lot of people think that because we talk about dating so much on the show. But we really not. Like, we like to be, Like last year we went to Turks for her birthday. We wasn't inviting them. We went to Miami one year for my birthday. Like, we just go on trips by ourselves.

We're not like, oh, our boyfriends have to come. Or if we go to dinner, it's not like, oh, bring your man. It's none of that. We have a good balance for sure. So y'all still booed up. You know. You know. You know.

You know. They watch it right now like, damn. Crazy. Damn. It's in a rocky place. We're going to see what happened. It's complicated. We'll see it out.

Yeah. which is crazy, right? Because I feel like it happened simultaneously. Like, at the same time for both of us, we started kind of going through a transition and a breakup at the same time. But it's not like in the bad space. No, yeah, it's not.

Like, we're cool, it's cool. We're figuring it out type situation. Y'all fuck each other up. Like, girl, leave him. All right, I'm going to leave him. Or I'm going to leave him. You know what I'm saying? You know what's crazy?

No, I'm really like that friend where when she calls me and she talks to me about what's going on in her relationship and stuff, I'm just always like, okay girl well you know do what you want to do I try to be supportive of what she want to do as long as it's not a

physically violent situation or something that you need to leave that's abusive or anything like that I try to be supportive of my friends because I get it when you love somebody you want to stay with your man it's hard on here y'all all married y'all got your men I was going to say we are not all men no

no she's like it's all men I heard that room in a long time I swear I was saying you're all married I don't know why I said it. You was just in love last year, Lex? I still am in love.

I'm very much in love. Like I said, it's just a situation we're figuring it out. I don't, you know, but I think we're both so focused on our careers right now, and I know it sounds so cliche. But I'm just a person. He's an amazing guy. If we're meant to be together, we're going to be together. So I'm just not putting pressure on it.

You know what I mean? So it's cool. We're going to figure it out, you know. What have you all learned about yourselves from doing the podcast? For me, I would say transparency and vulnerability is healing. When I first started doing the show, I think that I always have kind of had more of a closed-off personality. I've always been a little bit more private than, like, she's always been like an open book on the show. And I never used to want to talk about things that I was going through because I felt like it was a sign of weakness.

And I've just always had this thing where I don't want people to look at me like, you know, I'm weak or whatever. So I think that now I'm in a space where I enjoy telling my story. I enjoy telling people the things that I'm going through because I feel like it can help other people get through similar things or just being transparent to me is just very important at this point in my life because I don't know. I just want to get emotional. I don't want to get emotional a little bit.

But like I lost my dad and it was something that was, thank you. It was something that was really, really hard for me to talk about on the show, but I wish that back then I had the same mindset because I feel like I was dealing with so much by myself and when I started talking about it on the show, it was just so many people and such an outpouring of love.

People saying I've been through the same thing. I can understand where you're coming from. So that's what I've learned over the years about myself. I think that I really enjoy now telling people what I'm going through instead of just feeling like I have to go through everything by myself. What you left? I think with me, I'm such

a loud personality and I think a lot of times I would try to hide that from people and I just embrace who I am like I'm not the sexy girl that's doing all this like I'm a tomboy I like to be loud have fun so I really got confidence about myself

because I'm like this is who I am I think for when I first started like being on social media I was like doing the bikini pics and posing by the pool and I'm like girl this is not you at all so I've really been able to embrace myself and be like, you know what? You'd allow home girl, and that's okay.

Like, you don't have to fit into this box of what you think that a woman is supposed to be. Because people always love to say, because I know you hear this a lot. They'd be like, oh, funny women aren't pretty or you have to either you funny or you're pretty. You can't be both. You know what I'm saying?

So I feel like I used to try to lean into being the pretty girl, and then I would try to lean to be the funny girl. And I'm like, you know what? I don't have to be in anybody's box. You know what I'm saying? But you always been sexy. You just don't give off. sex like you say like you're just not prissy

you're just yeah well we talked about this on the show there's a difference between like having sex appeal and like being attractive like Drea just is like sexy yeah you know what I'm saying she was walking around she's like hey oh yeah you know you know like that's how she is you have both though yeah you have both

you know like like I said I just think like being sex that's just not my like yeah it really must be because sex appeal is something that's just from the inside I feel like yes and I just think like that's not a part of my personality but that's okay. I'm not saying I'm unattractive. I'm a baddie. Period.

You feel me? You know what I'm saying? So I just think that I've been more comfortable like being in my skin and who I am, for sure. Growing out loud is hard. Yes. You know, and that's what y'all been doing the last seven years on that podcast. Literally. Like, going through everything, like she said, she lost her dad. I lost my mom.

Going through breakups and then it's like, you know, we'd be like, oh, we're in love. And then the next month we're talking about a different dude. And I'm like, oh, my God. You got a new dude already. You don't know. And they're doing the same thing. Y'all doing the same thing. Just nobody wants you. But nobody cares.

It's about you. You know, and people not in your business. So I think, yeah, going through relationships and growing pains. And I've always been honest about my financial status, too, because I always say when I moved to Atlanta, I had $3. Because I 100% did. Like, I wasn't lying. So I think it's important to be transparent, especially as a black woman in this industry. I feel like we always try to hide what we making because I'm like, oh, this company's

signed up for your ass, how much they're paying you? Because it's how much they're paying us. Let's make sure that they're not, you know what I'm saying? So I think that with the platform that we have, it's like, yeah, we've grown in front of the camera, but like she said, being open and vulnerable has helped us a thousand percent. For sure. How was Columbia? How was that?

You know what? It was really fun. It was. I had a good time. So that was my second time going to Columbia. My first time going to Cardiana because the first... Columbia, the country. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Good cocaine. Now you know. You said it to me in my name.

When you're seen, I was in Columbia. Now, you are all the line. You are crazy. That pure wife. I am weak. So, yeah, but I mean, funny enough, I think that's what people think of, though. When you think of going to Columbia, you think of the cartel and stuff. Because, like I said, I went to Medelline a few years ago to get my teeth done.

And I was scared to leave from the area where my hotel was and where my doctor was. I mean, I was just nervous to travel around because that's what you hear about Columbia. So when we went to Cardiana, I had a really, really good time. And then especially with us going to Palinca, which is the first free black city in the Americas, it was just so, you know that it's Afro-Latinos in a lot of these countries. But when I say when we were in Palinca, we felt like we were somewhere in Ghana in Nigeria. Like these people looked like our cousins, our family members. It was just amazing being there and being submerged in the culture.

Why do you buy a way to Columbia to get your teeth then? Because it was cheaper. Oh, okay. I think here was like 30,000. You know, I'm getting a little. I'm investigative journalist Melissa Jeltson. My new podcast, What Happened in Nashville, tells the story of an IVF clinic's catastrophic collapse and the patients who banded together in the chaos that followed. We have some breaking news to tell you about.

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That's give directly.org slash happiness lab to donate. People get them done here. They just all the same size, like the extra largest. Like nobody ever asks for the mediums or, you know, the cheeky teeth. They got the front, they get front teeth for the whole row. The whole is like, like, how all the time. the same size. Well, they get the top done

and don't get the bottom done. And it's like, come on. They need that corner. You gotta get the texture. Like, I think that's why my teeth looks so natural because he made like the texture in my teeth or whatever.

And how do men treat you all when they see you are from outside of which we are usually outside of Atlanta? What do you mean? What do you mean? Because Atlanta, you know, they see beautiful women.

Oh, yeah. But sometimes they might not see that in Columbia like America. God damn. DJ NV says Columbia got ugly women. Oh, sweet. That's the headline. Disney says,

all women in Columbia are. You know what? Usually when you go out the country and they see American women, they treat American women differently because they don't usually see American women like that. Honestly, I'm not going to lie. I feel like whenever we go anywhere, I really can't

tell the difference because I feel like everywhere we go, we kind of draw attention. I know that sounds bad, but it's like everywhere we go, we're used to people like, oh my God, I know y'all from the pod or oh my God, are saying, hey. And then when we were in Columbia, it's a little different because we had cameras around us. So of course people are

like looking and saying stuff and being so it's kind of hard to tell the difference between you know people how they treat us outside of Atlanta versus anywhere because I feel like everywhere we go now people kind of recognize us so it's not really like we're getting treated differently per se if that makes sense. When you said they

you were scared of how they were going to edit y'all and make y'all look were you all allowed to be in the room during the editing process or you just liked the, y'all trusted them and you just like the way they ended up editing the episodes. Yeah we didn't know anything girl we've seen everything when everybody else seen

we didn't know how they were going to edit it. We was on the plane last night watching the episode for the first time. So are y'all nervous for every episode that kind of like? You know what? Well, I'm not nervous now. I was nervous of how my body was going to look

because I just lost 30 pounds. Okay. Thank you. Okay. So I, when we shot, I weighed like 205. Okay. So I was so nervous. I kept saying, oh my gosh, I hope.

Because I have like a little belly on me. So whenever I gain weight, like people always tend to think I'm pregnant. They'd be like, Lex pregnant I'm like, oh my God, can I just have a little shot of tequila? I had a little, you know, an enchilada, you know what I'm saying? So I was really more so nervous

about my body after I saw the first episode but I was like, okay, body teeth. Yeah, she looked good. A trip to Columbia? A pure coke or what was it? You said what? What did you lose the 30 back? Oh, no, honestly, I used to be a girl. I used to do everything under the sun.

You know, the first time I went to Columbia was for my BBL. So y'all talk about, y'all know Columbia for the Coke. I know Columbia for them good doctors but I just did it natural this time I was doing a lot of cardio eating healthy you know I feel like

and I feel better now I think I'm getting older and I'm just all the I'm not dissing people who do take other routes but I just had to do it for a It wasn't the Ozzypic I don't like needles I couldn't do that to myself but no no Ozzypic

now I need some advice I have a single friend she has a closet full of wigs make sure you say terrible wigs oh you know who the friend is I do sadly she has a bunch of wigs curly one day is straight

different colors she's funny she's smart she switches up her wigs like a Netflix series but when it comes to dating she doesn't seem like she can find the right guy she doesn't know if guys get intimidated or if they're just confused how would you suggest she meet somebody

to secure a relationship because time is running out and so her wigs. But why did you include the stuff about the wigs? That's what I was going to ask? What are the wigs? You think the wig might be the reason why she can't find a man. I mean, think about it. Just think that I'm sure that you all felt like y'all had to change about

yourselves a little bit and it probably made them, you know, made the bait a little stronger for the fish. Okay. Well, you know, what kind of men are she, is she trying to date? Because, you know, they say they like bad wig. They do. The white. They love a crunching. They love the white hair.

They love the white. They're not dating in the right pool. No, love a crutches stale wig. My wig used to be crunchy. I could not keep the brets off of me. They love a stiff wig. Oh, they do. But I will say this.

We were actually just having this conversation. We were literally just talking about this. They do. They love a stiff wig. They have that saying hard wig soft life. I didn't make that up, Charlotte. I didn't see that. They do say that.

They do say that. Maybe she should look at white. A different pool. She's in the wrong pool. She might be in the wrong pool. But I will say, we were just telling our producer this. And I was saying, like, when you get your look together and you feel confident in yourself, it doesn't even matter. Like, whatever makes you feel good, you're going to attract the right person.

I enjoy being polished. I used to have a stiff wig or two. You know what I'm saying? She got one of them in my house. But. For memories or like, for what? I told her. I said, well, she wins her first Emmy.

I'm going to put it on eBay in all this. Oh, because it's going to be. We still got the ponytail It's in a meal collector's item And it still has the Scroo Chew on it and everything It's in a ponytail We're going to have to open up the phones

At some point Because I don't believe that I've never heard the white men Like stiff wig. They do! You said stiff wig, hard life Hard wig soft life Who told you this?

I lived it. I lived it. I'm serious. If you go look on TikTok right now and type Hard wig soft life You're going to see nothing but interracial couples.

So why didn't you stick with the white man then? Because I wanted a man. You wanted a hard life? I wanted a hard life with a hard man. I wanted to struggle with my Black Kings. I wanted to struggle.

I wanted to hold it down. She wanted to struggle with some raw India. Did any of the teaching of Dr. Umar influenced you to dump that white man? You know what? People hate when I say this. I love Dr. Umar. I do, too. I do too.

A blonde team. Black queen's forever. little snow bunnies I have I have it I'm so excited to meet you y'all know that they're talking about me talking about I got a bag wig

can't find him in first of all I'm talking about you I wasn't talking about you it's so nice to meet y'all and your wig looks burtiful boy a hard wig will hollum on it what is you talking about you?

Do not do or like that I was talking about her and me and that's at first of all the sassy neck normally comes from over here But you and your sats on all over there spinning around looking at me. Nobody's talking about you.

You're so messy, down. Exactly. So I had to come here and let you know a source close to my. A hard wig will hollered. Nobody's talking about her. What? A hard week will holler is crazy. Nice to meet y'all ladies.

And I love the show. I think Vinty. Y'all looks so pretty on the show. I've watched all three episodes. Thank you. We were not talking about it. That's crazy. Why you kept turning around to me?

We got cameras all in this studio. We're going to run the show. Take. Oh, my gosh. That's this neck. You keep talking about her wig. We didn't talk about that hard dye that's dried over there. Damn. I think your wig is beautiful. I like it. I love a ball. Me too.

You are so messy. Why don't get us involved in that? I love a ball. I was going to ask y'all too, how do y'all balance like turning up for the show? Because you still got to perform, right? Because it's still a TV show. But then being present for the moments that you're experiencing, like those cultural moments in those cities. You know what's crazy?

We didn't really drink that much. honestly, we stopped drinking a lot on poor minds. Because it was like some cringy episodes and we just like, oh my God. It was the Houston Live show. The Houston Live show really changed. It was so embarrassing.

Because we recorded the show and then we went back and watched it when we got back to Atlanta and it was just so cringy. We was on stage like, yeah, Lex, let's turn up. I have a two shot minimum before we go on stage and then we'll have like a drink on stage but we have one drink

we're on stage and that's it. Once we done with that drink you're done. Yeah, that first Houston show, we drunk that whole bottle of Costa Migos. Yeah, we was turned. But you had nerves? You're scared? I'm always nervous. She's always a little nervous. I was just trying to turn up. I didn't realize I was getting so drunk. Yeah. So quick. So drunk.

So what's the long-term vision for the show? More seasons? Yes, we're hoping it's going to get picked up for a second season. I think we should probably know that within like the next two weeks or so. So obviously we wanted to get picked up. And as far as poor minds, we want poor minds to get picked up as a TV show as well. That's on our bucket list.

Yeah, for sure. I think, like, with Travel Queens, I definitely want us to be a lot more seasons. I feel like we should do, like, a whole season like in Africa, a whole season in Europe. So that's what we're hoping that it'll grow to. And, you know, same thing with poor minds. I can see poor minds living on, like, you know, maybe like a streaming app or something that

you know, outside of YouTube, I think we're ready to make that transition with poor minds as well. And honestly, yeah. Yeah, yeah, for sure. And more hosting opportunities for the both of us and individually. She still has her cosmetics line that's doing really well. So her just growing in the beauty industry. I have started my YouTube channel Love Lex P.

So I'm just doing like hot topic, show reviews, because that's the lane I want to get into more hosting as well. So yeah, we just have so much stuff to do. And I feel like now that we've made that step into TV, it's like, you know, people can actually see what we can do now, you know? For sure. Shog that makeup line, right? I was already on. Shopmuse Beauty Collection.com. Make sure you get your lip glossies,

matte liquid lipsticks, lip liners. I also just branched into other cosmetics products. So now I have some jelly blushes. I have mascara and eyeliner. So yeah, make sure you all shop Muse Beauty Collection. We'll check out Travel Queens on BET. That's right.

Thank you all for joining us so much. And subscribe to the Paul Mines podcast. Yes. Big love for Lex P. and Dre and Nicole. Thank you. Thank you. We love y'all. It's the breakfast.

Club, come on. Morning, everybody. It's DJ NVV. Jess Hilarious. Shalameen the guy. We are the breakfast clubs. We got some special guests in the building. Yes, indeed.

We have Mandy B. N. We from Horrible Decision, but they chase the name. Thank you. It is decision. Decision podcast. Is that possible? No. Yes, it is.

It is absolutely possible. You can delete your honeess? You grow up. You can move to a different city where no one knows you. And then you can change your Instagram. Someone works at the grocery store. They said, hey. You can't delete it.

Well, come morning, ladies. Well, morning, good morning. Why did y'all change the name? For the coins, Charla. Oh. Not only that, when we started horrible decisions, we were 26 years old, I was still in college. I was in my last year of college. Weezy, we were both in corporate, and we was kind of living life, doing all the things.

And we just kind of... You're in your whole phase? We was in our whole phase. I think everyone has a whole phase, and now we're out of it. Okay. And we just, you know, are growing with our audience. Okay. And growing with the dollars.

To be fair, doing this book, You know, I was telling people like, I want to do Drew Barrymore. I want to do this and that. And I just can't see them saying horror. Especially not Drew Barrymore. She's not about the... Oh, no. Drew Barrymore goes up our knee, though.

No, I mean, with growth and also wanting to be respected as an author, I feel like for the people that don't know us. Everybody that, like, is in the podcast world understands our evolution. And I think that's when we started to gain our respect to know that, sure, we talk about sex, but it lasted so long. We've been able to catapult and to all these different ventures. But a new person, I feel like they can be like, eh. How do you think the fans took it? Like, that y'all took the horrible off? I think the fans love it.

I think the core fans are happy. I think the casual fans just found a way to get angry at you. Like, people get very excited if they think something bad is going on. You know what I mean? Like, literally the second they saw that horrible would be going behind a paywall, it's like, oh, they fight in. Charlotte don't want that. I heard them with them. Like, you know, they can't wait to feel that.

And Mandy and I, being that we've been colleagues for so long, we've had on-air mess and things like that, I feel like that was the sexiest part of the story when really now we're so much older It's like, okay, you're... Mandy's celibate, right? You still celibate? Oh, yeah, no. It's over?

Uh-uh. I started the year off. Jesus, I just seen you a couple of months ago. I was a celibate when I saw you. She was like, yo, I'm celibate. I'm starting over. That wasn't even though a couple months ago. That was a few weeks ago.

It was a couple weeks ago. That was your Magic City moment? Oh, that was it? Yeah, I love how you said, Club. You could let them know we were in Magic City. It was in Magic City. It was in Magic City. You know, that's the first thing she told me.

It wasn't like E has a family. She said, yo, what up, E? I'm celibate now. I was like, who made you break the celibacy vow? I saw somebody cute. So it wasn't even a relationship. Did you already went or? It's sitting up in time of a homeless can't be delisted.

Jesus Christ. No, no, no, no, no, no, it is. I mean, it was intimate. It was sensual. We kissed and cuddled. Have you seen him since? He doesn't live in my state, so he's flying to see me, yes. Wow.

All right. What's up? No, no, no. We're going to go to the second stand. No, I'm saying. You're going to go to the second stand. What's the first stand? The first stand was great.

It was when I saw him. So y'all didn't date. Y'all just, you see them in it. No, okay? Now you're listening. I'm just not celebrating anymore, okay? And this is what the book is about, about liberation, growth, as women getting what you want.

Did you meet him at Magic City that night? No, I met him on an island. Oh. So. You know what... Nand you got to move that? What island? Say Croy.

Which was absolutely great. So you was on vacation and you let one of the island boys. Yes. Y'all ain't changed nothing but the name. Don't do that. You know what? That's the...

We're growing. I'm trying to think mine. What? Besides this blazer. What's the biggest rebrand thing of me? I will say this. I think now I'm so over-communicative. We're in the beginning of horrible decisions.

I wasn't talking about exactly what I wanted, my feelings. the type of sex that I wanted to have, like situationships, I was falling into them all the time. I think as you evolve and you get more comfortable with yourself and who you are, that's when it hits. I actually don't think that could happen before 30, I think you could try to get close to it,

but there's something that happens at 30 where it just clicks you like, oh, no, this is, this is me. No, 30, you look better, you feel better, you make more money, you know a little bit more of what you want. You didn't dealt with enough men in your teens and 20s, that now you can be like, okay, I don't want that, but this is what I want. Do y'all want a monogamous relationship?

No. Do you have marriage? Anybody want marriage? Yeah. I don't. Do you want a monogamous relationship? Not monogamous, but I mean, of course I want marriage. I mean, like...

What is it? If we're not going to have sex with a nanny, what's the point? No, I just doesn't fit in my lifestyle. Like, I... I've been known for having a boyfriend and a girlfriend since I've been 20 years old. What about you, man? Ethical non-monogamy. I want to throw that word in there.

What's that? Consensual. It's consensual. there's like there are boundaries you are communicating and it's under the umbrella where you could be poly open like there's you could be swingers there's all these different labels underneath ethical non-monogamy um for me i like men and women and i don't want to not be able to experience both got you off of that now you were talking about you like men and women so when y'all they're bisexual men and the reason i was up here and they said that it wouldn't bother them don't you don't chie i heard

don't you talk about it would y'all mind it wouldn't bother me no not i don't want to see it for me It's a caveat. So the thing that attracts me to women is their femininity. Like, I've never dated a stud, right? And no disrespect to the studs. Why are you hitting on the stud? Because you would feel like you were just being a man, right?

Punkie came on horrible. I was like, I don't know. It should be cooking his stuff. Bernie Griner, the only stud. We all got one. I want Bernie Griner. But as far as men, I love the masculinity in men. And so if I was dating a bisexual man,

maybe like a homo thug, I could be. That's what I'm saying. Like, they're so masculine. You're not so masculine. So you wouldn't mind, but he just got to be a thug. You want to be a thug. thug on a thug. There's also levels to it, right? So I really truly believe

every man has had some sort of experience. I think everybody a little gay. For real, for real. Even you and your kid. All men are a little with another. You find a little gay? Like, there's a, there's a spectrum, the Kinsey scale. Everyone is not all the way fully straight

or fully gay. Yes, K-I-N-S-D-Y. Like a little gay. Like a little gay. Like, you can, you can even, and it could be as little as you can actually admit that another man is attractive. Or a good-looking man. Or you could have a three-sign. But why doesn't have to be classified as gay? Why can't just be...

Well, because it's the attraction to the same sex. But no, because that man is handsome, but attractive means you feel something towards you. I like, but you did that. You did. You did. You did. No, you did. You said.

You did. You did. I was a little gay. Because you do have men that won't even do that. Then I think, you know, there's so many men that would say they ran trains in high school. There's another man that wouldn't get naked in front of them. I never liked trains. Trains three-s-sump.

Like, there is levels. I don't think that's gay, by the way. That's what I said a little. If you don't stupeas in a male, that's not gay. But why? You and another man are enjoying... Oh, y'all got your g-a-d-a-ha-ha. Is it pretty saddened?

Did you hear what I mean you just say? What? He said, it's not gay. No, I said it's not gay if you're... No, I said, you not... You hate what you want to hear. It sounded like you said, it's not gay if you're... You got gay.

You got gay. You got gay. You got gay. Your ears again. So, I mean, as long as it's oral, then. No. It's fine. Okay. A hand...

No. Okay. I just... Okay, I'm looking at the Kinsey scale. See? It's a real thing. It says X, no social, no sociosexual contacts or reactions. Zero is exclusively heterosexual.

One, mostly heterosexual, only slightly homosexual. Two, mostly heterosexual, but more than slightly homosexual. Three, equally heterosexual and homosexual. Four, mostly homosexual, but more than slightly heterosexual. Five, mostly homosexual, only slightly heterosexual. and six is all homo. Charlotte's about a five. I swear I just like the days

where you were straight or gay. That's a lot. That's a lot. Now, by the way, I have a friend of mine, his day is Christopher, and on New Year's five, six years ago, I never forget, I kissed him.

Like, oh, my God! He's gay. Kiss him. He looked at me and he was like, I am gay, gay. And now you've ruined it. He's a six. He's a six.

When I tell you, he was really upset with me, I was like, I'm so confused. I just thought you were having fun. He's like, no, no, no, no. I am not Gold Star. He's like, I didn't even have, I came from a C-section. I'm platinum. He was like, you kiss me, you ruined this.

You messed him up. Now we fell a little straight. That's who I would define as a six. I don't know that one thing, knowing that six is the highest on the Kinsey scale. Exclusively homosexual if you're a six. That's what it says. Just I feel like you all the way.

Gay? No. You give me hot straight girl that got one lesbian, afraid. She'd be doing this. She'd be like, no. Yeah, that's me. But I ain't gonna lie.

Back in the day, yeah, I had a couple gay experiences, yeah. Like kiss? A little bit more to kiss, but, you know, yeah, I dated a stud for like a little minute until I found out she was married and she ended up being a clown. Oh, you're number two.

And then... Yeah, mostly heterosexual, but more than slightly homosexual. Yeah. It might be a little three. I think she dated him. But see, she dated a stud. So that always tells me, like,

you kind of are the straight girl. That's like where you can dive into it. Because I don't, I don't find, like, the, the femmes to be attracted. Like, yeah, you're beautiful to me, but I'm not, I wouldn't be attracted to a feminine girl. Like, it's like, no, I don't need to be so. No, for me, I like that. But y'all have the same crush, too. Who?

Y'all too, Mandy, you're a manny. You have the same crush. Brittany? Who? Brittany, you're a Britney. I think a lot of you have a crush on it. Done, everybody went, yeah. Until I call, until I heard her to call herself pops, I'm like, damn.

Oh, no. You know. What's on with pops? Ah, nah. There's certain things that you can say that make you just instant corny. like, no. I thought she said you like masculine energy. You see what I mean?

No, no, no. I'm saying, like, well, she already got the voice of God. I mean, that's so like the off state. But, I mean, I just, you know, she, she ain't like when she was doing the interview. And Shane liked when somebody was like, the girl was like, oh, you're about to be a mom. You know, she was like, no, pops. And she got serious with it. Yeah, I was like, damn.

But I wouldn't just assume that if I never heard her to say that. Like, I wouldn't just, I would say congratulations. You're your mom. I wouldn't just be like, yo, congratulations. Like, you pops now. Because I think that that would offend her. Right. But she was offended at her being called mom.

Gotcha. I told Britney Day. Damn. Yeah. You're called Britney Daddy? I would. Let me tell you. When all that stuff was going on, I was like, we got to get her out.

We got to get her out. But I'm okay with still having her as a crash. I'm okay with letting her go. Mandy can't have it because my boyfriend looked just like us. That's crazy. That is crazy. Sorry, Chris. So with decisions, decisions, is it less sex talk?

Like, is it less? Yeah. Yeah. We're leaning more into the conversation. around relationships, so non-traditional relationships, non-monogamy, all the ways that you don't have to go about the traditional way of dating and pursuing love, essentially because us growing up, what is it? Get married, have kids, live happily ever after. That's not everyone's reality. But it's cool because we're diving into history, which we always kind of

did during horrible, but now it's fun. We talk about the history of romance, the first date. Even the history of romance is dope. I was when we were talking about it. Like how the first date was different. There had to be a male caller at your home, knocking on the door, asking your parents, they were supervising you. Oh, I'm an idiot. I thought you meant, like, y'all documented the first date ever in history. You said history.

I was like, oh, the first date ever? We ended up in a time machine. How it evolves over time. Even the history of romance, how you marry for like... You're talking to some dumb holes right here. Listen. I'm not a hole. Okay. I retired a long time ago. Me too. Not just dumb.

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directly.org slash happiness lab to donate. Basically, romance was a sickness. And they believed when people were in battle or in war, they would start a war over love. And they were like, oh yeah, you can't fall in love. So that's why you would marry for agriculture, socioeconomic stuff. And it's just fun to dive into this because we already have been talking about sex and dating so long. So now we just get to go back. And people enjoy learning about stuff with us. And we're not scholars, so that's what makes it fun.

Now you've got a book coming out as well. We do. We do under Shaolin's imprint. What's the name of the book? No holes borrowed. It's a duo. So any hole? No holes barred.

Listen, all of them. It's a dual manifest of sexual exploration and power. and so we each dive into our journeys as women I did a lot of diving in therapy like going all the way back to like my childhood as to maybe why I date the type of men I date I mean everything that's not my daddy so non-short Jamaicans

but I go into that and even as early as me like talking about my journey of having anal sex and how I used to think any man that wanted it was gay because I was like well why would you want that back hole when there's another hole in

so I was five oh that was funny the kids he's scared I thought you're like just mid but it was it like goes through my journey of even like having to relearn and unlearn

the things that aren't true and then we even get deep and we talk about like our sexual assaults I talk about my abortion when I was 16 the book is broken down is cool because like when we get into that stuff so it's pleasure pain

progression and and power so like in the pain section that's when abortion and sexual assault comes up but there's also a story of a dude BDSM BDSM like tying me up spanking me choking me like Mandy getting electrocuted that's my favorite. What?

Yeah it was great electrician it was great I went to a dungeon with my ex and we agreed to both do two things that we had never done before so he agreed to allow me to put him in a chastity belt which took some time because he kept

growing and he couldn't grow in order to lock him in and then I allowed him to do electroshock inside of me with a tool What happened to you as a child? It was great. A dildo electric? Yeah and so like it like spawned all of these electro currents inside

of me and it was the best feeling it felt like almost like an alien I was like I'm never going to feel this again. It felt like eight tongues inside of me giving me oral at once. It was the best feeling. I was like, this ain't a normal feeling. It was great, though. So this is why you can't be one person. One person

can't just be going on that time. And to be honest, I don't ride. So I would love for my partner to be able to experience everything. He wants to experience that I'm not down there. I don't get on top. Let me go get you somebody acrobatic. You mean you can be electrocuted. But I ain't getting on top. But I ain't getting on top. Nope. It takes more effort, I guess.

Oh, yeah, I just came back from Carnival and the way them girls were whining their hips and doing all the splits. I said, my man deserves to experience a woman that flexible. It ain't me, though. Isn't that a position of power for women, though, when they hung up? Yeah. When they're what?

In my opinion. And it's the strongest argument. That's great that y'all receive it that way. You got no room? No, no, no. Oh, me? I'm half white. No.

You also have to make it. I know. I know. So it goes both. It goes both. It goes both. You know. Okay.

So, what is trap house? Oh, girl. So I've been going to. to workouts in New York for almost a decade and I love Pilates-inspired movement and I love lifting and so literally I went to a Pilates class I'm not even joking, it was February this year

and I was saying to the instructor like oh my God girl that was such an amazing workout thank you like I needed some like some trap or some she's like I'd never play that here and made me feel so small like and I was like I'll make that shit and it's funny because someone said to me when I made it

do Envy wants to do hip-hop Pilates who told you that? Maybe it was just something someone I mentioned it to in a meeting I mentioned it. I don't tell nobody, especially not him, but I go to Pilates, right? But when you go to Pilates, there's never no music that you let's no hip-hop music. And it's hard, you're shaking.

You know what I'm saying? So literally, my favorite genres of music of all time, and I listened to everything is trap and house music. So I was going to buy an apartment in New York, right? I had money, I was like, I got $150 camera buy a million dollar house. And I was like, no, it's either that or start a business. So because I'm not a fitness and trainer,

I had to, you know, partner with someone. And so I found my favorite instructor in New York, black dude's name Jeff Blue, and I was like, yo, I want you to make this. And he literally was like, trap in Pilates, I'm like, I'm telling you, dog. It looked like business is booming, though, from what I see on Instagram. I haven't been able to take a

class because it's been so busy. I wait because of no show. Congratulations, though, that's what's that. When y'all come? People don't talk about your entrepreneurial ventures enough, you know what I'm saying? You got WTF Media, Mandy, you had the studio. I still have it over there. Yeah, it's just now need to know studios. Yeah, but I

um, I relocated to Atlanta. I have other opportunities professionally down there. But yeah, and right now I'm working on scripts and pitching those. I just wrote another proposal for a book after writing the book with you. I definitely just love the process, so I want to continue doing that. And yeah, I think

over the last eight years, I think that's why we've been able to keep this going, because we've both been able to just branch out individually and do the things that we really like to do. Turning over your money that you made, like, when we got our first Black Effect check, it was so dope because to be on salary for a podcast. It's just like,

unheard of and we were making we quit our jobs before you know so like we were in this doing this but it's just mind blowing that we've been able to take that business acumen and flip it because a lot of people think when you're a podcaster people really don't know how I make money like I think so many people think I have

only fans when they meet me which I get it I feel like I can have to look my titty's already out like okay but content creation is one thing and then it's like well business is another business is another not only that is just diversifying as well how you bring in money so between Black Effect, now the book with Charlemagne as well. Then we have

Patreon. Then we tour. Shout out to Justin and merchandising. We have five different means of income just for the podcast. So even though we're not in the write-ups, like the other white podcasts, talking about $100 million deals, our business and what horrible decisions does make seven figures a year.

We are a seven-figure podcast. We're not a hundred million yet. We're not a hundred million. But we have seven figures. And we make that yearly. So I love it. And then, again, that's just one form of income. Again, she has her studio. I have my studio. We have other things that we do as well outside.

Our decision is a business that generates money, and I love how y'all use that money to build other businesses. I honestly want every podcaster to start considering building another business. It doesn't have to be brick and mortar, but like literally. Oh yeah, shout out to you. What is shit? You got into brick and mortar even having the studio, like, dealing

with an actual location and staff. I'm like, oh yeah, that ain't me. Do you know the owner of the building at WTOF in Soho? So we got to three buildings, four different studios, right? The Soho dude hits me up about how someone filed an insurance claim. And I'm like, what?

They were like, yeah, they fell by the bathroom. I was like, I'm so sorry to hear that. He was like, it's good. Like, he has huge buildings. He's like, I've already got this covered. But like, that's what's terrified. That can break a building, yeah. You know how much I spent

trying to make sure to fit in the studio got a, yeah. That's your house. It's crazy. To me, all the businesses, though, all the projects, everything that we do creatively, those are my babies.

As a woman that doesn't want kids and when people talk about what legacy looks like and things, the things that I'm creating are going to outlive me and my kids, if I had any, their kids. So to me, my legacy and what I'm leaving are the things and businesses that I'm creating. And I think we and I talk about it as well. I think it's wonderful that we're able to, like, provide salaries and pay people. Like even our horrible decisions team is like 10 people. And then she has her studio team. I have my studio and it's just like, it's great.

Well, I'm proud of y'all, man. Thank you. The book No Holds Bar, The Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power will be in stores June 24th. June 24th, that's right. Mandy Weezy, we appreciate y'all joining us. Decision Decision Podcast.

Please go pre-order the book and make sure you listen to us wherever you listen to your favorite podcast but also on the IHeart podcast app because we are there under the Black Effect Network. It's Decisions, Decisions. If you do want the X-rated things where we do talk more about sex,

Horrible Decisions did not leave. We're just behind a paywall. So join us on Patreon. It's patreon.com backslash horrible decisions. And the Whole Hive is so active that when the book first was announced, it was number one on Amazon. They went ahead and immediately were pre-ordering their books,

so we're really excited. And of course, we will be touring. We'll announce that later, but you guys will be able to see us do this live. I know we got to go. But just to tell you about Horaheim, there was a girl that's a really big fan of yours at the live show we just had. And she was taking a picture.

I was good. I know. She's taking a picture with me, and I'm like, oh, I know you will go to all his book tour. Did you see him? She's like, yeah, he's horny off. He always here. I was like, wow, that's my most made me tear up.

I like that. Decision of this. It's the breakfast club. Good morning. Damn, the he-haw again. It's time for Donkey of the Day. I'm not trying to be Donkey Today no more. They should be embarrassed by what they already did.

I'm not making New People do these things. I'm not making Donkey of the Day, and it really caught me off guard. Damn, Salomey, who got me? the donkey of the day today. Well, Jesselari, it's donkey today. It goes to a 51-year-old Arizona man named Aaron Morse. Now, when I was growing up, Public Enemy, the great Chuck D in Flabe, drop on the clues bonds for Public Enemy.

They had a record called 9-1-1-1-is-a-joke. The song was about the lack of response to emergency calls in black neighborhoods. Totally understand why Public Enemy made that record. But that has nothing to do with this situation. Because in this situation, Aaron Morse is indeed the joke. What do you mean, Uncle Shala? Aaron is the joke. Well, let's go to Fox 10 Phoenix for the report, please.

74-year-old Susan Morse was a well-known artist, a mother and a great neighbor. Neighbors say Sue's late husband passed away about a year ago. Then her son, 51-year-old Aaron Morris moved in. According to court documents, Aaron called 911 and told police he had an argument with his mom and used a pistol to shoot her. Mr. Morse allegedly confessed to shooting the victim in the head, the victims succumb to her injuries. Mr. Morse has a long-standing history of alcoholism. Mr. Morse, you were arrested on the following allegation. Murder in the second degree.

That is a class one felony and tampering with physical evidence, which is a class six felony. Aaron Morris had his first court appearance of this morning. His bail is set at $500,000 cash only. Damn, the news report didn't even tell the best part. After killing his mom, shooting his mom in the head, right? he called 911 and said he committed a heinous crime then he called 911 again

to call the whole thing off after killing his mother he called back to 911 and said oh it's okay she's fine she's alive she's in our pottery studio first of all if you kill your mother trust and believe you will be in hell with VIP seating and that VIP seating

comes with three bottles of the finest piss hell has to offer okay shot your mom in the head over an argument What was the argument? That she's ready for you to move out of our house? She's upset with you because you haven't lived up to your full potential. You are bum just like your daddy? I don't know what the argument could have been.

But the fact it ended with your mom having a bullet hole to the skull tells me everything I need to know about you, Aaron. But the fact he thought he could just call 911 and cancel his order. He was talking to the police like he had a time machine, Doc Brown's DeLorean order, the Times Stone for Marvel. He was talking like he could just rewind things and everything was going to be okay. No, sir. That's not how 911 works If you think you're going to call 911 Report a heinous crime

And then call back and say No, I was just playing Let's call the whole thing off Yeah, that doesn't sound suspicious Nobody is going to come investigate that I don't even know why Aaron Morris Would think that would work in his favor I know he was drunk but

You know, I think this requires a game A game of guess what Racism Aaron Morris 51 years old from Arizona shot his mom in the head over an argument called 911 to report the crime then called back to say he was playing

just hilarious guess what race he is you said that very matter of factually why he killed his mom shot her in the head okay okay okay okay I see where you're going DJ Envy Aaron Morris

51 years old from Arizona shot his mom in the head over an argument called 911 to report the crime then called back to say he was playing guess what racist White. Damn. Y'all saying this, just, like, y'all just know.

No, because he called the police, and he called back and be like, never mind. Yeah. Like, psych, nah, I was just playing, joking, nah, ha, ha, ha, ha. Nope, doesn't happen. Well, Jess O'Leyers, DJ Envy, I would like both of you to know that you are 100% absolutely positively correct. Aaron is Caucasian. Look at him. That's right.

Oh, yeah. He is very white. And he looked like he had a killer again. That is yellow stone white. Yeah. Okay? That is meth for breakfast, bath sauce for brunch white. Definitely meth for breakfast.

Yes. That's right. Yep. Yes. So please give Aaron Morse the biggest he-ha. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

All right. All right. Well, thank you for that donkey today. Mm-hmm. Don't stop. Morning, everybody is D. Don't stop. That's a lot.

Man, we just got in here, man. We ain't the guy. We are the breakfast club. We got some special guests in the building. All guys. What up? What up? What up? What up? Callis. Melo Chico Bean. Welcome, fellas. Man, whatever, man. Why y'all got that freak-ass picture of Big Sean on the table? I told him. They keep throwing it on his computer. He kept on it at you. Why? He was asking. He wanted to know where

Big Sean abs came from. And so they printed out a couple pictures. You're about to get there. I'm not getting no abs sketching, man. You about to get a BBL? No. Don't do that. Emby. You're already rich, bruges. just get fat. How are you supposed to do when you get rich? Well, I don't know why everybody want to be in shape. What happened to getting money and getting fat, bro? Well, you want to live, though.

So he want to be alive. That's all. Ah, man, get out of here. That's literally what you're going to do, get out of here and get out of here. Just a me out of one of the waters. What you all up here for, man? I know y'all up here for, man.

What's the type of shit is this, man? I don't remember what we're up in front anyway, man. Well, like how y'all been treating the guests lately. I saw the neon clip. Y'all have never started streaming career. Y'all are already blocked. The man's on Harry and Tubman, man. He did.

He shitted on. Who's on hurry and Tubman? That's what he did, man. Man, y'all listen, man, the content's falling off. If y'all got to interview people, that sh** on her in time me. Y'all have lost your lustre. What he did? And y'all had him up here.

And then y'all were we up here for. Charlemagne invited him up here. You know, Sholomey. That's not true. What happened was he reached out to me to do his stream. And then he kept asking to come up here because he wanted to announce that he was leaving kick. To go to Twitch.

I'm like, I don't care. We've had a scream up here before DDG been up here, so why not? He didn't even announce it after. He was like, I'm not announcing it here. He was like, I don't want to announce it. He was like, I mean, we've interviewed people that are on to come up. I bought this day We had Big Dank up here

Who are that? The Detroit rapper You know Big Dank She was the one that had that lawsuit With the Yeah You were flying cargo

No You know what See man Look man I don't understand You see that You're rapping You was good

Now you turn it back It's all you man He didn't got that glitter On the top of his head Now I don't know What that is What you did to your head And why is it glittering?

It's glittering You should That's hot. Yeah, he's hot. Oh, you're going through menopause. Yeah, it's hot in there. Man, going through menopause, man. But they are because of they on tour, y'all.

I was about to say that before they came to pieces. You said, what the hell are y'all doing? I was going to say, we're like, we just showed up. First of all, we love having y'all. Let's start there. That's moly. That is good. It's amazing.

He loves Chico in D.C., being D.C. Always late. I mean, you know, y'all never come up here. You know that. He always come up here. No, he's on his way, man. Y'all had that monsoon up here the other day. We all almost didn't get in.

Y'all had the end of the arms of the angel. Y'all was struggling up here the other day. How do y'all like, y'all feel like being on the road? Absolutely. Okay. Being on the road is the blessing. Like, I always tell people you can't complain about the blessings God give you, because if you didn't have it, that's what you would be asking for.

You would be asking to be on the road all the time. So, got to love it because you get to do what you love and you get paid for it. It's a beautiful thing. How do you think this is? When you're always on the road, like you're always out. whether it's together, whether it's a part, whether it's wild and out, whether you're like, y'all always on the road. So how do y'all work on the road?

I mean, because you're always on the road. You see things. You see different things. You see different perspectives when you go to different cities. You know you perform everywhere. Everywhere you go, they got different cultures and different ways of doing things. So you get to visualize all of that, and it goes into your stage show because when you're performing for people, they want to hear your perspective on their everyday life.

And you get to see that when you're on the road. So that's the best part about it. Chico, you all that looking like Chico Lean, man. Yeah, man. I found out I had high blood. pressure. I had to change my diet around. I went to the doctor. They told me I had high blood pressure. I was like, whatever. I don't care nothing about high blood pressure. Went back to the doctor and another doctor came in. Like when that second police officer

coming, you know you're going to jail. That's how the black man came in. He was like, brother, I don't think they did a good enough job of explaining to you the effects of high blood pressure is the biggest killer of black men. Heart attacks, all that type of me. I'm like, well, what are the effects? He said, erectile dysfunction. I was like, what I got to change? I won't eat me food. As soon as he said, that's all I needed to hear. I'm too young for that, but yeah, I had to change a lot of stuff around, man, can't eat chicken, can't eat bread, all that type of stuff. And that was one of the most hardest transitions. I tell people now that sugar is the worst drug in the world because don't nobody stop you when you got it.

You know, you can just have a plate full of sugar. Everybody be cool. You show up one crack rocker. What's wrong? You know what I'm saying? Crack disrespectful, bro. You know what I'm saying? You can't light up no crack.

The secondhand cracks, smoke. No, don't do that. Secondhand cracks. Yeah, but that was. I'm trying to steal your outfit. I know, yeah, you know, Envy, light skin, he's been dressing like this. He's been dressing like this since the 80s. He wanted to be in, uh, what's the, ready for the world.

Yeah. Y'all don't know that NB auditioning for Ready for the World and they make it. But, yeah, man, I feel better, though. That's the best part about it. I feel so much better because once I made that transition that you look at yourself and you don't really see it until you look at old pitches and be like, God damn. I think it was built bad.

But, you know what I mean? The transition, I recommend all black men to go get their blood. pressure check, man, because it's very, very important and you'll end up walking around with one Jordan on if you don't. Man, listen, blood pressure. It's a bad one. I seen them lose all that weight. I just started losing weight, too. I was like, hey, man, whatever it is, you're doing, I'm about

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I'm 47 now. You got to go get everything checked. Because when you start to realize what leads the heart attacks and what leads the strokes, the high blood pressure, the high cholesterol, Stuff we ain't never thought about. And you go to the doctor and like, what does that mean? Then they explain it to you? It's like, oh, I got to get right.

Yeah, yeah. I mean, you definitely got right. You got right a long time ago. Once you got that stuff done in your skin, I know what I'm saying? Are your whole birthmark doing? Yeah, I know. He got everything taken off, man. I just noticed that.

Yeah, he got everything taking off. He bleached them. He got everything taken off. You don't even know. It wasn't the birth, it wasn't the birthmark. It wasn't the birthmarked. Yeah, he got rid of all that. You know, he got rid of all that.

You know, he got rid of all that. He's the first one ever. Oh, that's like Mr. Terrific from Superman. Yeah, you know what I mean? He'd be, he's sleep with bobby pens, pulling his skin back when he go to sleep at night. He'd just be in the bed straight up like this. I'm like, so, you know, taking care of yourself is very important, man. And like I said, black men, for some reason, we don't like to go to the doctor.

And they just want to keep drinking ginger eels and shit. The healthiest thing most black men do is walk to the stove, girl. Yeah, that's it. What? Just walk to the store. That's all the asses. That's it. Wait till y'all got to get them prostate check, though.

Hey, man, see, they're your freaky-ass go. Hey, man, why are you going to? Come on, man. It's so much that you could have went to before that. You know what I'm talking? I'll get them prostate check. Oh, it's such a beautiful experience. Come on, man. You didn't get your prostate check?

No, no, not yet. Have you? Yes. You said that was Bryce. You know what I mean? Yes, I have. Yes, I have. Twice actually.

Twice? Twice. Yeah, what was the first one of trial run? What is the thing? You said like you do it on the record. They said he got his prostate check as a trial-run prostate check. I'm going to let you do it before I go to the doctor to warm myself up. The doctor telling, look, we don't got to do this every time you come.

What not? What not? I want to make sure I'm okay. I got to be healthy. When you about 43, 44, if you got a history of it in your family, you're supposed to go get it checked. Yeah, I know they say it's you got to, but, you know, I ain't got there yet. No, you got to, Chico, you got to. You can't lose all that.

Why you did? I mean, okay, I got you. one day I will and I'm not coming up here to talk to y'all freak ass about it they put you to sleep they give you a drug they shouldn't have to put you to sleep you ain't get the regular joke no that wasn't a regular one they sexually assaulted you they got you on camera you went to a freak off that way you love to you envy you talk about the colonoscopy colonoscopy that ain't even the same thing I was going to the next one no you weren't it is on a asshole adventures man

Man, oh, I ain't on it, bitchers out in, man. What's up with your man? He's on the table, butt, nigga on his stomach. Y'all ain't got nothing else for me. Yo. Do y'all ever have, like, problems making decisions? Because it is three of y'all, right? And say, if one of y'all don't want to do something.

How many of y'all have to say, like, no or yes for y'all to, like, collectively agree or disagree on something? It ain't a whole lot of things we got to collectively agree on. That's the best part about it. So sometimes we show up with two wrong answers and the right one. And sometimes we have days where people just make their own decision. They're like, hey, bro, do what you want to do, but you got my full support. It ain't a whole lot of things.

We don't clash on nothing, really. We don't like the same type of women. Yeah. We don't hang out at the same type of place. It's just, we got a dope bond where it's like we're just brothers. They're brothers. And it's literally family, you know what I'm saying? You know, the things you go through with your family, whatever the conversation is,

It's always in-house and we always take care of it. It's never public, you know, never for public consumption. And that's what make things easier. So when we got to make those decisions, it's always a collective bargaining agreement. And we, you know, whatever, whichever way it go, we all understand. It's all done out of love.

So it make it easy, you know what makes us special. Because, you know, you do comedy is you, it's a one-man sport. You're on the microphone. So what we do, we show it it is possible to be able to have that type of camaraderie and still get the same product and the same result, even though we're doing it in a different way. And y'all trust each other. an interview D.C. was doing and he was just

talking about Lowe's being the OG. Yeah, without question. Lose being the lead. I think the question might have been who's the leader. Yeah, he is. I've heard you say that too, Chico. Man, you know how hard that is for men to do? Not for us, because you got to think about the place that we came from. Like, we all started

with nothing. Every time we come to New York, me and Lose had this conversation about how he was walking around, sending $50 back home, Western Union, and washing clothes in the basement of the hotel. And when you have that type of vision, that's all you have is the vision at certain points, and he always had

that vision to see paths wherever we were at in the moment. Always. You know, and the biggest thing for me, too, I think it's because we was all broke together at some point. You know what I'm saying? And it was like, we had those conversations, those late nights sitting around, like, bro, and I get some bread, we're going to, hey, we're going to do this. For real, that's what you

on? I bet, and then it actually happened. So, that was one of those things that really formed the bond, too. Yeah, he don't, like I say, he always had the vision. He was one of the ones that saw him we were on wild and out as great as the opportunity there was for all of us. He was always the one like, man, look,

we got to look past this, we got to do this, we got to do that, we got to do this. And I say that because he's the elder, he went through certain trenches that men fly didn't have to go. They didn't really even exist once we got in the game. I started in 2008, and we was the, you know, the last beacon of,

there he go. D.C. There he go. Look at his face. Yeah, we was fly, we was just talking about. just the vision that Lowe's had and... Oh, what's up?

DJ, you did it! Yeah. Division that Lowe's had just when we first were starting out to see past the moments that we were at and, you know, have the vision to understand that this was the direction to go in, you know what I'm saying? Oh, yeah, for sure, man.

O.G., I always had the vision. You did what I'm saying? Like, since day one. He just jumped right and knew exactly what you were talking about. I mean, it's just, I mean... Hey, bro. Ray Allen tell me I was winning Gucci, though, I ain't got no Gucci.

You wouldn't have bought nothing either way. You don't care about this shit, man. You don't care. The only time you're bad, shut up, you know what I'm about to try to chastise us in here? You're talking about, yeah, we don't care nothing about that. You spend $30,000 a week on skin care routine. He said work.

Over the year, that shit coming along, my boy. Ain't going to lie. You don't look like an orange, no more. Yeah, he looked like what. He looked like what. that's been sitting on the table for years. That's what it used to look like all the way. No, no, man, O.J. I always had the vision.

You dig what I'm saying? Like, I think that would, it comes down to, like, if you got something going on and you know you need help, you feel what I'm saying? And then not only that, the dudes you ask for help from, they need help. You feel me? It's a group collective.

And I think that's what, you know what I'm saying, us as black folk don't do together, bro, we don't come together and ask for help. Like, asking for help thinking, like, you belittling yourself for, You're like, man, I don't need a n-brough. We need each other, bro. And at the end of the day, if we can grow together, bro,

that's the only way we can go to the next step quicker. You know what I'm saying? Without you trying to do it by yourself. I mean, we all can do things by itself. But you see as a collective, when we do things together, it's like effortlessly, you feel what I'm saying? So what's been the biggest lesson in ownership, y'all had to learn the hard way.

Don't want to fuck with that own shit. Dang. Yeah, because you take away the negotiation power from people when you own your product you know i'm saying people can't come and give you you know give you terms and conditions that you have to adhere to because you need them you know i'm saying and in a lot of times in this industry people are especially the powers that be they used to you being you know in need you know i'm saying and they used to being able to throw anything at you and you'll take it because you don't know no better but when you own it gives you a level of freedom

that you don't have to worry about certain types of things happening in your negotiations or dealing with certain types of people and being able to walk away from money. Being able to say no. Everybody thinks that the opportunity is attached to a dollar, but a lot of times it's not. But you're not able to see that if you've got to get the dollar. You know what I'm saying? They got to handle you way different when they know you don't need it.

Like when you said, it don't matter the money sometimes. You're like, no, I'm cool. Then they were like, well, why? Why, what you want? Nothing. I just, I don't see what you. What you need me for? What do you think?

Where are we going? Yeah. It's way different when you can say no sometimes. And sometimes they also think that somebody's already behind you already. You know what I'm saying? Like they just swore we always work for somebody. I'm saying day one not knowing that we start this from the ground up trying to figure it out. And I think that it's a difference between when you got people that's putting the money behind and then we used our own money.

You see what I'm saying? Like we can't mess up nobody else's money. We don't mess up a lot of our money. You know what I mean? We don't mess up a lot of our money. But I think that's the growing pain. That's what comes with understanding like, you know what? The mistakes ain't mistakes to us.

The mistakes are learning lessons. So every mistake we had, we just figure out, oh, you know what, let's just do something different then. Versus we got an answer to somebody. But like, well, why that didn't work then? When we don't see the vision, all right, season two counsels. Like, man, we've been doing this since 2015. Yeah, we took our bumps with our own money. So then when we did get some of their money, we had already went through the

And it worked out. Yeah, it's a lot less pressure not having to recoup somebody else's bread. What is you talking about? See, you can get paid first when you use your own bread. You ain't got to pay nobody back. I was wondering, you know, you guys have roped anybody anytime, anywhere, any place. It depends. Who got the most sensitive when it came to roasting?

Oh, it depends for real, D.C.? Yeah, it depends. See, I use that the defense mechanism. They ain't just like, I'm just waking up like, I want to get on somebody nerd today. No, it ain't that. You think you going to say something to me? I got something back. Like, this is my twin brother.

This has always been my twin brothers since the day of time, but it's just like... That's your uncle. You see what I'm saying? Now, how the f*** become your uncle? I won't your uncle ever before. I think when you got married, that's when you got uncle. Yeah, you became all of our own. Yeah, she married.

She's married, man. Look at the ring. She got the ring. You know what I mean? Yeah, she was married. Yeah, she got married. She ain't invite none of us to the ceremony. I tell you that much.

It was quit. It was quit. She didn't even know. She just woke up. For real. Oh, my God. Y'all's so fucking stupid. But did anybody get super duper sensitive?

He was like, let's leave him alone. Did that ever happen? What? On 8 if I was up? No, when you roasted somebody, whether it was impersonal. You know who got the most sensitive. You, man, and you, you're the most gay, but you don't ever do it in front of us. You and Azale your banks.

Not me. Yeah, yeah, you get, yeah, you've been named. You've been named. No, he, you know he's going to be made. They always roast you. Yeah. DJ Indy. Is that just like your voice?

Like did you perfect that? It only hit high pitch when you're all coming around. Like you answer the phone like that? No. Yo, Charlemagne, what do you want? This is something like a Nintendo weak character. DJ Indy. What do you want?

I ain't messing with y'all. Matter of fact, I'm going to 8 y'all. When you launched the podcast and you said, you don't want to get Chico, I want to get D.C. to do the podcast. Did you see this turning into the empire that's become? Yeah, that's why if you go back to the early episode when it was just us in the studio, with me and Chico and D.C. And then we always would say, hey, man, this is who the podcast for.

This for the podcast who, this podcast right here is for white women with black kids who don't know how to do their hair. Or, you know, this, this for everybody who ever had to use Vaseline is grease. You feel what I'm. So that's why we, that's how we did that. So, yeah, I always felt like,

I still feel like this is just the beginning. Like, we ain't did half the stuff that we know we're about to do. We got some big stuff coming up. I'll tell you who the podcast is not for. We got to get put to sleep to get their prostate check. Exactly. Damn. Who had to put sleep?

He had to get. You had to go to sleep. You couldn't watch your games. What happened? You were like, you know what? That's not me back. Before you put your finger back then, that's not even how it goes.

Yeah. I don't know. What are you? Colanoscopy. Cullen. What, ain't that the, no. No, the finger's the prostate.

Oh, okay. And that lasts three seconds. How many times do you got your prostate check? He liked it. He goes every week. That's a guy, man. He went for a vasectomy, they was like, turn around. No, no time I got it.

You got a vasectamine? I went for the consultation. And what did they do when you got there? It turned to a prostate exam, so I don't go back. So you went to go get some clip, man, you were like, you know what? No, I went for the consultation. And, you know, after they look at your shit and all that, and the guy was just like, yo, man, how did you?

What you had to get butt-necked? What time they had? So they checked his prostate during that exam, during the consultation. I've never heard of that in my life. Me either. Not going to get the full. What made you want to get them? What made you want to get them?

You already had all the kids and all that like you. My wife wanted me to get one. She didn't want to more kids. Oh, okay, gotcha. Hey, she's making you just cut your man. I haven't done it too. Yeah. Nah, I don't know.

Be the man at a household. Stop being a bitch, man. That's how old with you? My way, come to in the house, man. It's great. Tell your nuts down. Cut your . Everybody got time for this.

You a poodle. So what's the different? What's the difference between the prostate and the colonoscopy? Colonoscopy. They put you to sleep. And they put a camera up your ass to make sure everything got. That damn it in the same shit. The other one they put a finger up your ass to make sure things are.

And that's crazy because a lot of men have to go through that. You going? I'm nervous. Yeah, but you're going, though. I don't even like the doo-doo. Why don't like the do-doo? Because I ain't got time to be going. I'm like, man, I wish I could just pull my pair right back up.

Would you have to self-cleaning that? I got to go back. Oh, my God. I'm going to follow with you, man. I did, man. I'm going to Friday time, man, that's funny is shit. I don't even like to do this. Imagine your ass and pauses.

You pausing yourself. I can't do it. Yeah, what is it like watching the poor minds, um, podcast? Man, beautiful. That's amazing. Great. Just saying, first of all, just seeing black women flourish. Let's just, let's just take a pause for that.

Yeah, without question. Just black women flourish. And, and having kings behind them, that's you know what I'm saying that's supporting and don't look at them as sexual yeah you know I'm saying like this a family vibe you do what I'm saying like we ain't got time for all that like sometimes me and we have to understand that we need to have relationships with women without being sexual that's right creating a safe space as black men creating a safe space to come and be secure without having to feel like they subjected to all the things that come with the stigmas

of being a woman especially a black woman in this industry you know I mean we always try to make sure that our presence makes our women feel comfortable and safe that they can be themselves and not have to worry about getting judged or, you know, being looked at as objects, you know what I'm saying, and be able to really project their talents out the right way. And that's something that we find really important because talking to, you know, our uncle and everything, like, you know, she'll let us know that, you know, the fights that she's, we've been around her for years, like, and she's had to push through so much just because of the type of person that she is and she ain't going for shit, you know what I'm saying?

So that makes it very difficult for black women in this industry. So we want to create an environment where we, you know, you don't have to worry about none of that coming over here. You're going, whatever it is you do, that's what we're looking at you to do, nothing else. They're just as dope as they ever were. Like, they didn't have to get dope. Like, I went and did the podcast with them a long time ago.

At Dreya's house, they were just in the living room, just, you know, sipping wine, talking shit. And I was like, y'all got something. And I know that y'all some attractive women, people are going to want to hear your opinion on service. and stuff, and just to see what they took it, it's crazy. That's dope. I just pulled mine, nav, too.

Money bag, money. Money bag, money. Everybody. Yeah, everybody. And that's the thing about when you said the family environment, bro, we want to be around talent that we respect because we know that these people have something different than just,

you know what I mean? Then just being our friends, we respect the talent that they have. We love to see Moneybag go on stage or Clayton English get to talk in, you know, deep conspiracy theories and then, you know, broken play and poor minds. So it's like, these are the things that we want around us, people that we can have fun with, people that we can kick it with.

And we know once they can get our attention, because we kind of tough critics. We know that the masses are going to mess with it. Hey, man, quick question for you. Who painting styles P as Orlando Brown? You know that's Donnell Rawlins too right there. Where? The one of the last shit night.

No, that's Donnell Rawling. Yeah, that's lotion in his head. Well, that's Ashley Larry. Ash Larry. You see us, though. Yeah, we in there. We definitely look like us, but that's Orlando Brown. That ain't Stiles P right there.

You all remember who you all was looking at in that picture? Something happened. My man from South Africa. Trevinole. Oh, yeah. Trevinole. He said, he looked like a mirror cat. Yeah.

Jesus Christ. We're 85 South Show. We appreciate you. Hold on, we got two things to announce. Okay, okay. This is breaking. Come on, man. Bro, we just got the movie deal with Cameron Hart.

Yes, we did. Yes, we did. Hey! 85 South Day. Yeah. Stop playing, man. We get to a new tour. Spin the block.

Spend the blob. Spend the block. Get some of the team. Or you can go to BMI.M.N. Yeah, you know what I mean? These are two partners right here. They're black. They're black.

They're black. Yeah, they're black. You know what I'm saying. He ain't, okay. He doesn't care. They're black. all you're casting for this dead end? What you mean?

Das talk, talk. I'm talking about the 85 South, the dead end, the movie. The movie? Yes. Y'all casting for it? Jess, come on, man. You don't have to audition, unc. Come on. That's what white people do when they don't believe in you. You know what it is. We know what you can.

We know what it is. I got a part for Jess. What? What can Jess do? Everything. Whatever you want to do. I mean, in the movie. You know what I mean?

We just got it. We don't even know how it's gone. Oh, sorry. Damn. They didn't just handed me, handing me to the date. So we. We're starting off in Detroit. What up, though, Detroit.

September 6th, we're in Detroit, the 7th, Indianapolis, then we're in Columbia, Greensboro, Philly, Fairfax, Memphis, Nashville, I mean, Dallas, Houston, Hampton, Charlotte, Birmingham, New Orleans, Chicago, Cincinnati, and Atlanta. That's what you need somebody who graduated college on your team. Money, money, money, with the website.

Hey, man, I don't like the way you just laid into that. 857.com. For sure, for sure. Channel 85 on the app store. You can go to BMEanshows.com and get tickets. You can hit the Instagram page. You can get tickets off the app. You can hit DCDM.

He getting away ticket. That's what I'm saying. You and he on this shit, man. You're going to be on a big show. Shaddle was down Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and the money. Who the hell do a show on a video? Speaking of a Beyonce concert, a lot of people bought outfits for that concert. They went crazy.

And they don't have no way else to wear them. Wear them today to find ourselves. Boots on the ground. Boots on the ground. Bring your fans and all that. And for those who are saying while we ain't coming to this city, we're coming to a city that is drivable.

So get in your car and drive there. We just can't come to that specific city. So all the cities we're not going to, we're going on the second leg. Right. We're going again. For sure, for sure. Oh, I love that. Spend the block and then we might do one called The Block was spent.

Ooh. Let's make it hood and something. say the block was spunt. Spunt. That's not a real word. That's one of my favorite words that ain't a word. Spunt. Spunt.

You never heard the dope boy say that. Why I spunt. Why I spun that money? What you sput that money on? It's 85 South Show. You ain't got to talk like that. Talk regular, man. I'm sitting there.

Yeah. For show, man. That's the radio. I'm getting done, man. Talk regular. It's 85 South show. Thank you. It's the breakfast club.

Thank you. It's Steve J.M.B. Let's go. Let's go. Now, Shalerman, you got a positive note? I do, man. I just want to tell y'all, man, give all praises due to God all the time.

Please thank God for it all, man. All praises do to God and his son, Jesus Christ. And I want you to be so busy loving God and loving others and loving your life that you have no time for regret, worry, fear, or drama. Have a great day. Breakfast club, bitches. Do you all finish or y'all done?

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