The Breakfast Club - What's The Longest You've Gone Without Talking To Your Partner?

Episode Date: March 2, 2023

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It's topic time call 800-585-1051 to join into the discussion with the breakfast club let's talk about it morning everybody it's dj nv charlamagne the guy we are the breakfast club now if you just joined us we're asking what is the longest time you went without talking to your spouse your boyfriend, your girlfriend? Maybe you were beefing. Maybe y'all were fighting. And what's the longest period of time you went without talking to them? This actually came from our producer that's going through it now.

I'm not going to lie. Me and my wife have been mad at each other. But when you got kids, you got to talk. You know what I mean? It's not like you can't. Yeah, I mean, me and my wife, we've been together 25 years. We've been married since 2014. But the longest I remember us not talking was when she was in college.

She had broke up with me for like a year. I don't even remember what year this was. This had to be like 03, 04 maybe. I don't remember what year it was. But we was broke up for a year and um like yeah i didn't she wasn't answering the phone for me nothing so that had to be when i don't remember how long we didn't talk for but i know it had to be within that that year span boy that was torture man that brings up all kind of triggers in me oh that was the worst part that

was a terrible time in my life yeah i was thinking about i think maybe a day and i was traveling and we were arguing about something and then you realized like damn i gotta call her for something you always gotta call your wife for something or call your girl for something but also i don't even play like that because life is short you know what i mean and you don't ever want to be in a position where something bad happens and y'all y'all not speaking over something petty you know what i mean and then you thinking to yourself damn the last thing i i i we spoke about was stupid something stupid and made us not talk like you don't ever want to be in that position so you know i tend to get over things quite fast uh in regards to them not not even just my wife but just people i love in in general you know oh i haven't got

there yet i get over things fast when it comes to my wife and family other people are still taking a little time but anyway i was lying you know i'm still working through that in therapy i'm not gonna sit here i'm not gonna sit here and i did lie to y'all just now you know what i'm saying but that's it i'm with envy like you know if it ain't my wife ain't too many of y'all i care about not talking to you no more i'm letting you know that right now damn it man all right let's go to the phone lines hello who's this hey this is brian from detroit's happening? Brian, what up, though? What's happening, my Afro-Connick-toe brothers? What's up, Brian?

See, I'm going to be in Detroit this Friday, Brian. You got a wife, Brian, or boyfriend? Yo, you sound crazy. I got a wife. First of all, Envy got to start putting commas in between those statements. That man said, I'm going to be in Detroit this weekend. You got a wife or a girlfriend? No, because I'm DJing something. But you ain't say that. That's what I'm telling you. I was going to get to it. I'm going to be in Detroit this weekend. You got a wife or a girlfriend? Nah, because I'm DJing something.

But you ain't say that. That's what I'm telling you. I was going to get to it. I'm DJing something. And I was going to invite you and your wife out. I didn't even catch that. See? He got these crazy run-on sentences.

Yeah, I was going to invite you and your wife out. I got to DJ the Fall Back and Love Comedy Jam. It's Trey Songz. It's Monica. It's Mario Jacquees. If you want to go, Lil Duval, I'll set you up. Hey, that's what's up, man. You don't want to go. Just stay on the line

after we finish talking. I'll get you some tickets, bro. For sure. So what's the longest you've been without talking to your wife? About 18 days, man. It was Swedish Day. Yeah, it was Swedish Day, bro. I had bought her a car like three days before and she wanted to go to a Halloween

party and I was sleepy. So after the party I wanted to go home and go to sleep. So she was upset that we didn't do nothing Swedish day and ended up not talking to me for like 18 days. So I'm petty. I'm a Virgo. So I'm counting the days

and I'm like, you ain't talked to me in 18 days and now you just want to come back around and hug on the dude? Nah, that ain't going to work. First of all, you weren't concerned? Y'all weren't concerned about each other? Like, where was she at for 18 days? Where was you at? Are you alive?

Are you in the hospital? No, we, you know, we go to work, we come home, we just didn't say nothing, man. We had kids, so we kind of occupied our time that way. Damn. That's not counseling. Yeah, it was rough. All right, well, stay on the line. I'm going to get you those tickets, bro.

See you on Friday. Appreciate you. All right, man. Hello, who's this? My name is Tasha. Hey, Tasha. When's the longest you went without talking to your spouse? I know it sounds unbelievable, but I'm actually engaged.

And we're going on week two without talking. We live in the same house. That is so stupid. First of all, I don't even care what the reason is. If y'all live in the same house and y'all not talking for two weeks, that is so stupid. Because what if something happens to either one of y'all? God forbid. And that's That's my argument

But I think I'm so stubborn And he's so stubborn I don't think it really bothers Either one of us He works at night I work in the day Where you from?

I'm in Georgia What's the reason Y'all not talking? Tell me The reason we're not talking Is because my fiance Tries to say things That he don't really mean

When he gets angry And he likes to make up With gifts Money Dates Trips My fiance tends to say things that he don't really mean when he gets angry. And he likes to make up with gifts, money, dates, trips. We have a relationship. Most men. And I'm the type of person, you can't do that. You just can't say what you want to say to me and things are going to be okay. And we've been together for years.

He knows that. So, his birthday was last week. We didn't even talk on his birthday. You didn't talk to him on his birthday? Not even on his birthday? I need to know Not even on his birthday I need to know what he said to you What did he say to you? He said

I'm sick of going through this shit every other day Okay What this shit he was talking about I have no idea I don't even know what the argument was But because I have no idea He didn't want to explain Until you're ready to explain

We won't talk So guess what It's been two weeks We're going to go another two weeks So why don't you ask him That doesn't seem like a cry for help Just ask him Like yo boo

What's going on What's up with you Something going on in your life Let's have a conversation right now You see how easy you said that And the response Has been an easy response Yes

The response is not going to be The response I want So instead of arguing with you Whenever you're ready to have That true conversation We can have it But until then an easy response. Yes. The response is not going to be the response I want. So instead of arguing with you, whenever you're ready to have that true conversation, we can have it. But until then,

I'm going to keep having my fun. I go out, he go out, we still live separate lives. Well, either y'all need

to go to therapy or you need to tell him, look man, you got two more weeks because after 30 days of this car not being claimed, you know what I'm saying?

You know what I mean? Well, I've already made that conclusion. We really got another couple more days. Once this week is over, we're not speaking. We're definitely going to be speaking, but it's not going to be about what he wants to speak about.

Damn. Damn. All right. Well, happy birthday to him. I hope he's listening. Maybe he knows my voice. He can hear this. Get it together.

What's his name? Just tell him. Tell him, right? Tell him you want him to get it together. Say it. Charles, I really need for you to get it together, okay? Because, baby, we at the end of our road. And I don't want to fall off the road. Okay? Alright, Tony. If you're listening, come on. You got to get it together. If you really love this

woman, you want to marry this woman, you want to spend the rest of your life with this woman, you call her and you got some things on your chest. i know it's difficult sometimes to get it off your chest but get it off your chest so you can continue move on and be happy and then get back in that that that side of where you need to be and if y'all need a mediator go to a therapist go sit down with a therapist a couple's therapist and y'all sit down and you know get everything out but you know not talking to each other in the same house That is wildly unhealthy For no damn reason And you ain't gonna be

In my house Not talking to me For no damn two weeks That ain't your house It's their house Well their house You know what I mean Alright

Thank you mama Appreciate it Jesus I mean they ain't Having sex either No Ain't nobody got time for that 800-585-1051

We're asking What's the longest You've been without Talking to your spouse? Call us now. It's The Breakfast Club. Good morning. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. Now if you just joined us, we're asking, what's the longest you've been without talking to your spouse?

Maybe after an argument, maybe after a disagreement, whatever it may be. What's the longest you've been? Me, it's probably been not even a day. You know, I'm Virgo, so I get upset, I get attitudes, And it gets to the point I'm going to always need my wife for something. Oh, no. I mean, like, you know, me and my wife have been married since 2014, but we've been together since, you know, 98. So we've been together, it'll be 25 years this year. So it was definitely, she broke up with me for a year, and, like, I think it was either 02 or 03.

And she definitely was not talking to me. Jesus. Like, she definitely had disconnected from for me so it had to be within that time span i don't know how long we went without talking but it definitely was within that year we didn't talk uh a lot yeah somebody always told me if you if you're having a problem with your wife or your husband the worst thing you do is not talk and the second worst thing you could do is leave the house bro the worst thing you can do with anybody you having a problem with is not communicate like i really truly believe that most situations can be resolved if people just communicate nobody

likes to communicate with each other we either don't talk or when we do talk to each other we don't tell each other the truth about what we're mad at we be all passive aggressive with it you know i mean like just lay it out on lay it out on the table don't worry about hurting other person's feelings just get it out that's the only way you can actually, I believe, have healthy relationships is to communicate. Hello, who's this? Tatiana from Jersey. Hey, from Jersey. What part of Jersey?

New Orleans. North. North. All right. What's the longest you've been without talking to your boo? Me and my husband, we probably went like four hours. People are still getting mad at me one day and storming out the house just to go and sit in front of the house in the car. So maybe like four hours.

And then he realized he needs you for something and got to come back in the house, right? Of course. You know, you got a wife, you know. That'd be funny, though, when guys leave the house acting like we're going somewhere. Knowing damn well we ain't got nowhere to go. Nowhere to go. Right. I was like, what are we asking for? He wasn't answering't answering me nothing whole time he's sitting in front of the house

thank you mama four hours ain't too bad though four hours is actually necessary even even in a healthy relationship when y'all not beefing over nothing sometimes you just got to get away from your significant other you need your your alone time. Hello, who's this? Good morning, it's Nika. Nika, where you calling from? I'm calling from Florida. Florida. What's the longest you went without talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend? I went about a week because I was super upset.

You know, sometimes me and you know, y'all just, you know, push some buttons. So I went about a week. What did he do? But that girl. Hello? So he kind of like boy you you just triggered her just now jesus you have to take a breath before you tell this story okay go ahead i did he's like the kind of person that he's like the kind of man that feels like he can do things and i can't so he can stay out late, but I can't, you know, because it's nothing in the streets for women, you know, stuff like that. So he's like a kind of, I can do it, but you can't,

because you're a woman type of person. So that really, like, gets under my skin with him. So, you know, he did it again, you know, came in his house late. It's crazy. So I was upset, of course. So I had to show my true colors. No cooking, no cleaning,

no, none of that nifty, none of that stuff. So, I was mad for about a week, but, child, the way she act, down there,

when he passed by, yeah, I gave in. Ah, that thing started tingling? Yeah, she thought she had her own little personal heartbeat, and now,

you know, I done gave in. Like, I ain't mad no more, whatever. I'm glad to hear that. glad to hear y'all got over it now let's go to one more caller hello who's this hey dj envy this event how you doing hey where you calling from i'm from columbia i'm not from columbia but i'm in columbia 803 the metro what's the longest you've been without talking to your spouse mama a week and a half why to your spouse, mama? A week and a half.

Why so long? That is not long. A week and a half? Is that your husband? Yeah. Is that your husband or boyfriend? No, it's my fiance now. Yeah, that ain't long for that. But what happened? He had a situation shift. Oh, he had another boo? Yeah.

And it only took you a week and a half to get over it? No, she didn't say she got over it. We got four kids. So, you know. How she look? Shut up. Shut up.

Shut up. How she look? How who look? The other girl. Shut up. She pretty? No. I don't think so,

but hey. I mean, let's be objective. Oh my goodness. I understand you upset and you have every right to be upset, but let's just be objective. Oh, boy. Can you see why he might have made that mistake?

No. Okay. Is that him in the background? No, that's my son. Okay, I'm with you. So what happened? How did y'all figure it out? Long story.

I don't want y'all calling up here when y'all triggered i want y'all calling y'all therapists okay because these stories be triggering y'all so bad huh no i did actually go to therapy though i did you should have i'm glad all right i did i did so what happened what happened after the week and a half what made y'all start communicating again because you had questions i had questions i now cuz you know no but no you can't forgive them if you're not over you you can't you can't forgive me if you're not over it that's right so are you over it yes okay you sure well I wish I knew her name if I knew her name I'd say her name So are you over it? Yes. Okay. You sure? Yes.

Boy, I wish I knew her name. If I knew her name, I'd say her name just to see if it still triggered you a little bit. Don't stop it, man. You have a good one, ma. You have a good one, mama. You too. Bye-bye. Hang up, Red.

See, that's your problem. See, that's your problem. What's my problem? That brother right now, he's at work right now. He's happy. He's going to get a phone call today. And then it's all because of you. That's not because of me. He's happy. He's going to get a phone call today. And then it's all because of you. That's not because of me.

It's because, no, it's because of the conversation that we was having triggered her. So because we asked her specifically, why didn't you talk to your significant other? So she had to think about that, and that triggered her. She had to go back and think about that man cheating on her. No, you asked her how the other girl looked. You didn't have to go there. I just wanted to know. You know what I mean?

I just wanted to know what she thought. You know what I'm saying? That's all. What's the moral of this story? The moral of the story is communication is the key, man. You know what I mean? I understand, you know,

especially, I understand disconnecting when you think you're going to say something that you regret. I respect that, but God dang, a week and a half

and all of that, that's kind of crazy to be living with somebody and not talking. And life is too short and you do not want, you know, your last words to somebody you love to be, you know, silence. You don't want that. Well, yeah.

And let me shout out to my wife because she is the communicator in our relationship. When it's just crazy, she's like, let's stop what we're doing. Let's figure this out and then we can continue on. That's her. I'm more like, I got to keep it moving. But she's like, no, no, no. We're we're gonna stop what you do i don't care what you got to do we're gonna sit there we're gonna talk about this we're gonna discuss it and then we're gonna get over it and then we continue on i think that's a great way to be and if you can't do it

by yourself go get a therapist go sit down with a couple of therapists okay and figure it out all right well we got rumors on the way we got to tell you about travis scott seems like he's in trouble in the big city in new york city so we'll talk about it when we come back it's the breakfast club good morning hey y'all niminy here i'm the host of a brand new history podcast for kids and families called historical records executive produced by quest love the story pirates and john glickman historical Records brings history to life through hip-hop. Flash, slam, another one gone. Bash, bam, another one gone.

The crack of the bat and another one gone. The tip of the cap, there's another one gone. Each episode is about a different, inspiring figure from history, like this one about Claudette Colvin, a 15-year-old girl in Alabama who refused to give up her seat on the city bus nine whole months before Rosa Parks did the same thing. Check it. Get the kids in your life excited about history by tuning in to Historical Records.

Because in order to make history, you have to make some noise. Listen to Historical Records on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hello, my undeadly darlings. It's Teresa, your resident ghost host. And do I have a treat for you. Haunting is crawling out from the shadows, and it's going to be devilishly good. We've got chills, thrills,

and stories that'll make you wish the lights stayed on. So join me, won't you? Let's dive into the eerie unknown together. Sleep tight, if you can. Listen to Haunting on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, what's up? This is Ramses Jha. And I go by the name Q Ward.

And we'd like you to join us each week for our show, Civic Cipher. That's right. We discuss social issues, especially those that affect black and brown people, but in a way that informs and empowers all people. We discuss everything from prejudice to politics to police violence, and we try to give you the tools to create positive change in your home, workplace, and social circle. We're going to learn how to become better allies to each other. So join us each Saturday for Civic Cipher on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Daphne Caruana Galizia was a Maltese investigative journalist who on October 16th, 2017, was assassinated. Crooks Everywhere unearths the plot to murder a one-woman WikiLeaks. She exposed the culture of crime and corruption that were turning her beloved country into a mafia state. Listen to Crooks everywhere on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On Thanksgiving Day, 1999, five-year-old Cuban boy, Elian Gonzalez, was found off the coast of Florida. And the question was, should the boy go back to his father in Cuba? Mr. Gonzalez wanted to go home, and he wanted to take his son with him.

Or stay with his relatives in Miami? Imagine that your mother died trying to get you to freedom. Listen to Chess Peace, the Elian Gonzalez story, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.