The Breakfast Club - When Is It Time To Hang Up Your Hot Girl/Hot Boy Summer?

Episode Date: July 27, 2023

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that he called my phone it's topic time call 800-585-1051 to join into the discussion with the breakfast club morning everybody it's dj envy charlamagne the guy we are the breakfast club now if you're just joining us we're talking about something that young miami said lauren larosa she's our guest co-host. So what did Young Miami say? So Young Miami said that she is ready to be in a relationship and love again. And that this was her last summer being outside. So we're asking 800-585-1051. When do you know that it's over for your hot girl summer or your hot boy summer?

When is it over? When is it you're going to stay your ass in the house? That is the question. Charlamagne and myself, we've been out of the hot boy summer for a long time. So we have to go to you, Miss Lauren LaRosa. When do you feel like you're going to be out of that phase where you don't want to be in the hot girl summer anymore? I don't really have like a date. Like, you know, there's no like PSA I can drop.

But I think that life will let me know or a person I meet or whatever happens. You know what I mean? So even if you don't find, let's say, per you still decide you know what well maybe this is not me I don't want to be out oh 100% like even now like there are certain things that I would do like you know our college days like go see my friend in here in the studio will tell you I've always been like a super even in a relationship I'm a very much social go out hangout person but there are things that I would do then that I won't do now Because I'm just older and it's not a vibe anymore It's not cute it doesn't look good for me

Okay Yeah don't be the hot girl that don't know that you know Their hot girl days are long gone Because a lot of hot girls Evolve into golden girls And don't even realize that they golden girls Like some women are almost 50 And they doing the same thing right now that they've been doing since they was 20.

Muhammad Ali said the person who still thinks that 50 the way they did at 20 has wasted 30 years of their life. I know a lot of golden girls who still think they hot girls and everybody is laughing at them. And they're about to be hot girls again when menopause kicks in. It's not just the women. It's some golden granddaddies out there as well that they should have been retired to hoochie daddy shorts. Yeah, but you know,

I guess we haven't marketed it. You know what I'm saying? Like men, you know, I guess men, the whole play of it. The double standard is different. A man could be dating outside forever. Yeah, but we think they look stupid. Trust me, these 50-something-year-old men running around, yes around yes they do you know how many people are looking at diddy and everything

that he has going on some people look at diddy as stupid he looks stupid to me i've said that before i'm on record saying y'all are like two of a population of however many and and i'm not judging anybody yeah but i'm not judging nobody i just look at i look at people who got stability you know i'm saying i like jay-z and beyonce i like lebron james and savannah i like seeing you know black men with their black wives and their beautiful black families you know i'm saying if you're a certain age and you're still running around here in these streets you know acting like a player you know that that that looks corny to me let me ask ask you a question. Why you ain't say me? I'm black. You're Dominican, but I do like your family dynamic.

I love you and Gia together. I love you and Gia. I love seeing y'all. You're not, though. I love seeing you and all your kids with all your matching outfits. I think that's incredible. You know what I mean? Hello, who's this?

Hi, this is Jessica. Hey, Jessica. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Now, when did you know that Hot Girl Summer was over for you, mama? Or are you still Hot Girl Summering it out? I knew when I was in my 20s.

So I'm the youngest of five. And I was clubbing, doing everything. And then I looked around and I'm partying with my oldest brother's and sister's friends. And seeing them in the club trying to drop it like it's hot, I was like, ooh, no, this ain't for me. Damn. Got to settle down. Man. Yo, you know how many women I know that be saying,

that's my homegirl's son or that's my homegirl's daughter. Like, yo, if you still in the club and you remember when your homegirl was pregnant with somebody but now that child is in the club with you, something wrong. That's a scary feeling, too. I went into a party and I backed my way out that same night. I was like, yeah, time to settle down. I'm good.

Damn. Thank you, Jessica. Hello, who's this? This is Monique. Oh, hey, Monique. Hey, Monique. I feel like something's coming. Hey.

Sounds like you're still in the club, Monique. No, I just got off work, y'all. I work night shift security, baby. I'm tired. I just did two jobs, two shifts. I night shift Security baby I'm tired I just did two jobs Two shifts I'm tired baby But I was like

Team this is just The perfect timing Yes I needed this So you still outside Not from work But like Hot girl summer outside

Oh no I'm done with Outlet baby Uh oh I'm too good Two kids So do we Just graduate from college No I'm done with Outlet

Your two kids Just graduated from college You said Or you Yeah I have two kids And just graduate from college. No, I'm talking about that. Your two kids just graduated from college, you said, or you? Yeah, I have two kids, and I graduated from college. I'm done with the high-grade summer, but I've been in that phase. When did you know? I knew once I really have to self-reflect on myself. Like, I really have to truly, like, dig deep in myself. Like, is this really, like, with the high-grade summer?

Messing with this guy and that guy. I had to stop and think, like, man, is this really me? Like, is this really what I want to do? I'm messing with this guy and that guy. I had to stop and think like, man, is this really me? Like, is this really what I want to do? Yeah, yeast infection after yeast infection. After pregnancy, after pregnancy. Oh my God. STD after STD.

No, not even after pregnancy. After pregnancy. It's after dating a man that's not really of you and that's not for you. That's not sent from God. I feel that. I feel that. Yo, Lauren, you know what she said that's so real just now? And just everybody listening, That's not sent from God. I feel that. I feel that. All right.

Yo, Lauren, you know, she said that so real just now. And just everybody listening, she said self-reflection. And I think a lot of times that's the problem, right? Like when you're running from something, like when you really haven't gone out there and done any of the work on yourself, you haven't, you know, done any therapy or anything like that, and you got all this unhealed trauma, you're afraid to stop and look in that mirror. Right. that and you got all this unhealed trauma you're afraid to stop and look in that mirror right because you know when you stop and look in that mirror you got to deal with everything that you've

been running from so a lot of these people that you see still out there in these streets still moving a certain way they're doing that because they're running from themselves all right well 800-585-1051 now we're talking about something young miami put on social media yesterday which was uh i'm ready to be in a relationship and love again this was my last summer being outside public service announcement the city girl is ready to go back in that's right so we're asking when do you know that hot girl summer is over let's discuss it's the breakfast club good morning it's topic time call 800-585-1051 to join in to the discussion with The Breakfast Club.

Let's talk about it. Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy, Charlamagne Tha Guy. We are The Breakfast Club. Now, if you're just joining us, we're talking about something Young Miami said on social media. We got our guest co-host, Lauren LaRosa, here. Now, what did Young Miami say for people that's just joining us? Young Miami says she is ready to be in a relationship and love again.

This was my last summer outside. Right. So we have Lauren on the line. Hello. Lauren said, just like LeBron said, if I don't feel tired, why would I quit? So talk to her. Exactly. Okay.

Hi, Lauren. So, like, I know people like my dad. Okay, so Hi Lauren So Like I know people Like my dad He was 50 years old When he retired He still was working here and there Because he still felt that energy

When you so used to doing something for so long It's hard to sit down So Just like LeBron said I don't feel like quitting. So, y'all lucky. How old are you, Lauren? I'm 31.

Okay, so you still in the streets. Oh, no. So, then you got tired of it. But hold up. I agree with what Lauren said prior. It's hard to be in a relationship nowadays because it's just, people make things more confident than it needs to be and social media makes everyone a serial cheater even though they're probably not thinking about it

as soon as you like a picture somebody thinks you're cheating you know if you say hi to somebody that somebody thinks you're cheating if you post something that somebody thinks is subliminal cheating. And it's like, bruh, women are different than men as well. A woman don't really want to be in the street. I mean, I don't know what women really out here just... Most men do

because they just don't care. Y'all two are exception of the rule because y'all decent men. But we can't be all these men out here being decent they've been a man for 40 contrary to popular belief i've been a man for 45 years i don't believe i talked to a lot of different men and no man wants to be in the street men always want to be settled down men either feel two ways they either let the good one get away

or they've been in the streets so much that they've never found the good one. But every man wants to find that one person to settle down and build with. I believe that we all meant to be with somebody. But it's just so toxic because people don't know how to date no more, know how to court no more. They to court no more they don't even

know what the meaning is because they so used to getting that quick fix that they they don't know the difference between being in love with somebody and just liking somebody I will say um for me being like a you know recently new dater one of the things that I had to sit and reflect on is like, who are the people that I'm allowing into my space? Not like, not sexually, not even there, but just who am I going on dates with dates with?

Who am I allowing to even have my number and why? And once I did that, my thinking even around like my options have changed. Like, I think that that's important as well too. And again, being outside does not mean that everybody that comes your way and everything that comes your way you're with. I think it just means that you're open to the fact that you're single and you're here and you want to try things.

I think you have to learn things and experience it, even though. Like, I couldn't even answer the question when Teslin asked me, like, what are you looking for? I'm like, I'm honestly still figuring it out. Well, are you being courted? Because I've heard a lot of women say that men are not courting these days. They're not doing the things that probably your father or somebody's father would have done.

Um, I recently had a situation where I was being courted and it was cool. You didn't like that guy? Lauren, Lauren, what if it's your... What if you missed your blessing of being a stepmama?

What if that was your destiny? Yo. Charlamagne. Can we hang up on him? No, we can't hang up on him. Nah, man. Yeah, nah. They do that.

Hello? Oh, it's Leo. What's up, man? Leo, what's up? We're talking about when is it time to give up that hot girl summer, that hot boy summer? Yeah, I know. I know, man. By the way, I like LaRose on here.

She seems pretty natural with it. Well, thank you. Yo, we got to retire that thing. Oh, my God. She seems pretty natural with it. Well, thank you. Yo, we gotta retire that thing. Oh, my God. It's for 25 and under. The biggest turnoff for somebody over 25. You're saying the damn thing, bro. Please retire.

Damn, these females be talking about who they would date and who they not. You know, who they would not date. And they keep talking about how girls summer, yo. That is a turnoff, yo. Black man, you are correct. 30 and up. What should 30 and up use? We're just, we're dating.

I know, but I'm saying, so we're retiring it today. So what am I doing? Am I living my best sex in the city life? Like, what am I giving then? Because I'm 31. You a girl. I'm turning it today. So what am I doing? Am I living my best sex in the city life? Like, what am I giving then? Because I'm 31. I don't know. Make up something.

We got to make up something, baby. You got to make up something. Make up something good. You a girl. No, you a girlfriend. That's where you at in life. Yeah. If you're a hot girl, girlfriends, then golden girls.

That's where it goes. But what about a Janelle Monáe summer? Because Janelle Monáe look like she's having the best summer ever. She's just free. She's just herself. That's what you want to be? For a bit. That's the best way to, I think, detox from a situation, number one.

And then you just attract what is attracted to you. I don't think you should force anything. You should just live and see what happens. All right. Well, what's the moral of the story? You going to the club tonight? Retired. Talk to a former hot girl.

I was not going to the club any of these nights. No, I will not be in the club. Not this week. I might be there next week. Next week. Jesus Christ. All right. Well, we got rumors on the way.

What are we talking about? Give us a little tease. We are going to be talking about some health updates. Tori Kelly, Lil Durk. They're doing a bit better, so we won't let the people know. All right. We'll get into that next. It's The Breakfast Club.

Good morning.