The Chris Voss Show - The Chris Voss Show Podcast – Alara Sage, Founder and Creator of Creator Consciousness, Activating Women in Their Power, Magnetism and Creative Genius

Episode Date: October 26, 2023

Alara Sage, Founder and Creator of Creator Consciousness, Activating Women in Their Power, Magnetism and Creative Genius Alarasage.com Here is a summary of the key points from the podcast: Helping people create fulfilling, purposeful lives and reconnect with their innate power The importance of being fully present, getting out of overthinking, and trusting one's intuition Techniques to tap into imagination and bring desires into reality through visualization Understanding and harmonizing feminine and masculine energy Healing from trauma and shame to unleash one's true self Alara's spiritual awakening experience sparking her journey Supporting women specifically to embody their power and express their creativity Offering coaching, courses, a podcast, and other resources The discussion focused on aligning with your highest potential, igniting your inner wisdom and magnetism, and creating the life you desire.

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And you should have FOMO, fear of missing out 24-7. We had an amazing young lady on the show today, and she is Alara Sage. She helps activate women in their power, magnetism, and creative genius and how to live ecstatically. I had to look at that word twice because I flunked second grade. Everyone knows that. It's the callback show of the joke. She is the founder and creator of Creator Consciousness, a trinity teaching of embodiment, manifestation, and creative genius.

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Alara is an intuitively gifted healer who coaches provocatively and soulfully. She has over 15 years of experience helping others reignite and transform their lives. She works with leaders, visionaries, and creatives who desire to master their reality and create a luminous life. Welcome to the show, Alara. How are you? I'm fantastic.

I've just been enjoying listening to you and the intro and all of it. I'm fantastic. I've just been enjoying listening to you and the intro and all of it. Thank you. Well, if you are, then hopefully the audience is as well. Because if I'm not interested, they're like, yeah, whatever, good. But they're more interested in the guests these days because they've had about enough of me. So, Alara, give us your dot coms. Where can people find you on the interwebs to learn more about you? Absolutely.

Alara Sage dot com is my website. And Alara Sage on Facebook, on Instagram, on YouTube, on LinkedIn, Alara Sage. There you go. So I've given kind of a tease out. Give us, in your words, a 30,000 overview of who you are and what you do. So I'm really about helping people to create an ecstatic life, a life that is fulfilling, that lights us up. We are here, we have so much potential as humans, and yet we are really living a very minute portion of that. And so through my own personal experience of learning energetics,

learning the mind, learning the heart, learning how to be present and bring my desires into my physical reality, I help people to do the same and really transform their life. Living lit is really what I desire in my life and I inspire others and help others to do the same. There you go. Why is it important to it important to, you know, live your life for, you know, something extraordinary and all that good stuff? I mean, isn't just being dark and depressive and kind of sad all the time? Doesn't that sound like fun? It doesn't to me, but hey, you know, whatever floats your boat, right? Whatever floats your boat. So tell us about your journey. How did you get to be in this business as a coach? How did you have these epiphanies that kind of took you down this line of life?

Yeah. I've been doing this all my life. And when I was younger, people would say to me, I don't know how. You always get what you want. You always create what you want. And I didn't even really understand what they were saying. I was like, okay, because I didn't see that it was so easy for me. And at the age of 19, I actually meant to go to university and got rerouted by my higher mind, my higher self that rerouted me to go travel the world. And the first place I went was Fiji. And I found this book that said, it was called visualizing or something like that. Creative visualization, that's what it's called. And I read this book and she was talking about visualizing what you desire and creating it. And it hit me that that's what I've been doing my entire life. I had this wonderful way

of immersing myself in what I wanted and just putting myself into that reality all day long. My imagination was very, very powerful. And so it happened for me always. I always just created what I desired. And so this continued on. But then I kind of went down this rabbit hole of making some choices that were not really in alignment with my heart. I made choices out of fear. I made choices out of people telling me, oh, do this, do that. And I ended up in a relationship with a very wonderful person who I severely love now and forever, my ex-husband. But it took me down a spiral of numbing myself and not listening to what really lit me up, listening to what, you know, what he wanted, what his perceptions were,

and really into this space of, okay, I'm going to do what I feel is logical, you know, is right. He's a finance guy, right? Very in the mind, very logical way of perceiving his reality. And it came to in 2012, 2013, I don't know. I always fit the year. It always changes somewhere around that time. I was working on horses. I was a physical therapist for horses.

I did body work on horses, on athletes, elite, elite beings. And I was driving my car and I was going to work on these horses. And my higher self said, ohm three times. And at the time, I didn't practice ohming. I knew what it was, but I didn't do it myself. And I was like, okay, sure. And so I took a nice deep breath. Ohm. And I did that three times.

At the end of the third time, an energy shot through my body, went out my head, and I went into into full body orgasm now chris wow i had never had a full body orgasm no had you i mean i have to ask this because i did you had an orgasm before or was this the first full body orgasm and if so we need to know we what's the difference between an orgasm and a full body? I'm inquiring. I just want to know. Cause you know, absolutely. So had I been orgasmic? Yeah. Okay. Orgasm in sex to me had been rather challenging. I had to really concentrate,

you know, everything had to be just so, and then I would hit it. And it was, you know, what's called localized or genitalia orgasm where it's just in the sexual organs. So full body, your whole, the feeling that you have in your genitals goes through your entire body.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So that's where you're shaking and palpitating and cold sweats and all that stuff. It's, it's just pure bliss, you know? So I pulled the car over.

You know, people are writing this down. We should do this sometime. Yes. And, you know, and it lasted for, I don't know how long. It seemed to last forever, but I don't know how long it lasted. And when it ended, when the visceral, physical sensations ended, I was on cloud nine. I was in such a state of bliss.

And long story short, what had happened to me is i had a spontaneous kundalini awakening some people may have heard of kundalini it's our inner energy it's our inner fire it's inner healing i had never heard of it i didn't even know what happened to me in the moment but what it showed me was what was possible and what I was currently living at. Yeah. I see why you left your husband. That's a joke. But no, it's interesting.

Some people have this awakening. And it's interesting how connected or unconnected sometimes women are to themselves. You know, sometimes people can't connect their body to their mind to, you know, a release that's highly pleasurable. And so you go through this experience, and what happens from there? Do you say to yourself, I'm going a different path with my life? Yep. I mean, actually what happened was i had six months of chaos where what happens when the kundalini awakens is it unearths all of the suppressed emotion i had

you know considered myself emotionally stable and i was actually just emotionally suppressed and i was very numb and you this was your breakout, your feeling and stuff. I've seen some people cry when they have that moment. Like they'll weep. You're like, are you okay? Are you hurt? Are you okay? And they'll cry a lot.

It's just, it's kind of a moment where they cross the threshold. And they're like, I didn't know I could ever feel that way. And it's really something. And so you feel like this is your breakthrough that you help other women go through where they really try and feel fulfilled in themselves and they try and find their femininity or what their core version of themselves are. I know you have a line here in your bio that you're not promoting feminism per se. Are we promoting femininity, its core and its beauty? That's my question. Yeah, absolutely. The feminine hasn't really been on our planet for a very long time in her power.

And so when women are in their power, they're embodied in their womb, they're embodied in their pussy, and they are extravagant, they are luminous, and they are very, very powerful while simultaneously being very tender. Wisdom is held in the body. Wisdom is not in our mind. And we have created a society that is largely up in our heads. Knowledge, yeah. Is knowledge power? Yes and no. Because you can have a lot of knowledge and you can do nothing with it.

You can have a lot of knowledge and not be in the present moment. And in the present moment is where that wisdom is. And wisdom surpasses what you have programmed your mind, both positively and negatively. Our minds are like computers. They get programmed with past experiences. They get programmed with what we feed it. And wisdom surpasses all of that. It is innate intelligence.

And that exists in our body. And women are the bearers of that wisdom, the feminine, I should say, because masculine men have with feminine energy as well. We all hold feminine and masculine energies. So we all hold the ability for wisdom, but we have to really learn how to be fully present in our bodies to activate that wisdom. And I think I think women in the feminine, they have a experience with their body that's very different than men. We're normally very logical and reasoning. And that's the beauty of the masculine and the feminine is their compliments to each other. And although I know some guys that are in their feminine just a little too much, but that's their problem.

Or vice versa. Or vice versa, yeah. I've seen that in the dating field uh lately uh where you're just like hey you know um i'm not gonna arm wrestle you on the first date like calm down uh and you might want to you know back off the testosterone right it's the trt uh i'm just kidding folks uh no i'm not actually um but uh so you you you went through years of uh living through deep shame guilt and trauma uh it was we're so tell us about some of this was trauma leading you know we found over the show that you know trauma is one of those things that people experience that changes their brain and and kind of can affect their whole pathways in life. Yeah, absolutely. I was sexually molested as a child

by my grandfather. So it was a very close space and it just distorted me around what is safe and what is the masculine and what is love? What is love? And where does my no go in with all of this? Because apparently it has no power. My no has has no power and i'm just supposed to just allow things that feel really wrong to my body right and how that rollercoasted into well my relationship that i spoke of right and how i was living really without my power and without that what's really what i desire and my hell yes and my fuck yes and what lights me up. And that shame really holds us down, really suppresses us and basically tells us that who we innately are is not okay. Yeah. And maybe the world is judging. I think women experience the world judging them more or they think that judges them more they their

their values based upon social value as opposed to men we have to build things and do things and accomplish things um but the feminine is a beautiful thing when it's in its in its uh i don't know what you call it its peak so it sounds like a horrible word um feminine when it's in its power there you go um because it brings so much beauty to the world um you know and do you find that in today's world people or women shun their feminine more i mean a lot a lot of them kind of have to with what they're doing and chasing masculine business and stuff they have to operate they're masculine um and i know some women it's hard for them to get back

in their feminine or find a safe place for a feminine yeah our society has been highly masculinized you know not right or wrong good or bad i mean i love the masculine energy i'm for all for all of it right we need all of it just like you said it balances itself and but and however right our society has been like really masculine driven and so women have leaned into their masculine in order to succeed and they and myself included i was highly masculinized you know and it's like how do we reconnect to that so we can bring forth that wisdom into everything into business into, into society, into politics, because our world desperately needs this wisdom.

Yeah, there needs to be a balance of contribution. I've always been this businessman that I can create companies, and I've created 27 plus, 30 plus different companies over the years um and i and my businesses are always dead inside when you go inside my offices according to the women uh because they're all the walls are white uh there's you know i don't bring flowers or crap into my office i mean if the employees do it i mean that's their have they can have fun on their desk but you know when you go into my offices they're pretty much statically dead, but you know, when you go into my offices, they're pretty much statically dead. Um, when, you know, but I'll go into like restaurants or other people's offices and I'll see the feminine at work where, you know, there's beauty and artwork and, and, and so much

stuff. And I'm just like, God, I wish I could think that way. Um, but, uh, um, you know, it's, it's, that's the beauty of the, of the feminine spirit. It brings so much beauty in this world. Otherwise, it'd just be like, I don't know, we'd all be IBM men wearing black suits and black ties, same color, which is what we were in the 50s. What are some ways that you help women break through to have that magnetism, that creative genius and power to live with that power and aesthetically, as you put it, how do you help women transcend that? I absolutely help women to reconnect to their bodies and that wisdom, that intuition that

women are known for, right? A woman's gut instinct, reconnect to that and learn how to trust it and learn how to follow it. Because a lot of times peoplecon they confuse emotions with intuition and intuition is not emotional and so people follow their emotions and they're like see my intuition led me astray they're not the same thing and so i help women to really clearly define what is my intuition how do i follow that and at the same time apply my mind how do i apply both the feminine and the masculine to create my reality and that starts with really being fully present in the body so i have very clear and precise

techniques like breathing and expression and movement to be in the body now women are are way more connected to themselves in their body than we are like i don't you know i've seen all the lotion women or you know they're always taking care of their skin and their bodies and what they eat. They put a whole lot more work into it than we do as men. I just wake up in the morning and I'm naturally this beautiful. George Clooney and Brad Pitt call me for tips. A lot of women, they're really more about how they feel about their bodies and everything.

Me, like if I wake up in the morning, I'm bleeding out of orifice or something, and I'm just like, whatever, just keep moving. Um, you know, women are, women are more about, you know, if I'm losing a lip, missing a limb, I'm just like, ah, it's just an arm. It's a flesh wound. Um, so, you know, I just keep on moving. Um, but women, you know, they're, you know, they're more about feeling good in their body and their spirit and their emotions and just living in that way, which is the thing that makes them a great compliment to us. You help people with manifestation or creation in the lives that they want to live.

Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah, so manifestation is truly about like what I spoke live. Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah. So manifestation is truly about like what I spoke about when I was a little girl. It's about what are you desiring to create? And our imagination is very, very powerful. So in creator consciousness, we have three creator centers, our sacral center, which is right below our belly button, our heart, and our pineal gland, our third eye. And these centers are what create our reality. And so when I was that little girl, what I would do without knowing it is I would just imagine myself in whatever I desired. And what happens when we do that is our body literally lights up because our mind doesn't know the

difference between illusion, imagination, and reality. When you are really immersed in imagination, you are feeling, you're using your sensories to feel the experience and your mind lights up the same way as if you were physically experiencing it. So when we are in our imagination, our body is lighting up in these emotions and the sensory input. And what that does is it creates a vibration. And that vibration is what creates our reality. So I'm teaching people how to tap into that version of themselves. So for instance, if you're trying to create a career, what does it feel like when you're in that career? And when you put yourself there and you light your body up, it's always going to feel good. And those good feelings are very, very magnetizing. This has

been proven in heart math, which is scientific proving of like the power of the electromagnetic field of the heart and particularly of those good feelings, those good vibrations. So when we use our imagination and place ourselves there and really spend the time to create the feelings in our bodies, we start to vibrationally align with that version of ourselves and the opportunities and our life starts to shift. It makes all the difference in the world. Liz is calling in on the show.

So great releasing what needs to go i think that may have been on some of we were talking earlier but uh yeah making those changes to move to the next level um when when you're working with women in today's environment what's the number one problem that you think they have uh is it is it trying to get them to get back into their feminine when they want to do their feminine properties, be with their family, at home, et cetera, et cetera? No, it's definitely up in the mind. This is just people in general.

And I completely agree with you, Chris, that, yes, women are more aware of their bodies. That doesn't mean that they're embodied. Being aware of your body and giving yourself lotion and self-care is not embodiment. Embodiment is fully present with your awareness in your body. It means slowing the mind, reducing the constant blah, blah, blah that is always going on. And this is very powerful because our minds are extremely powerful. And yet most humans just have this scattered brain and they're just scattering in their energy all over their reality because they're thinking about this and

then they're thinking about this and then they're over here and they're and they're worrying and they're worrying and they're stressed and they're anxious and so what are they creating they're creating stress and anxiety so i really focus on learning how to get out of the mind let the mind happen you know but how do we get into the bodies and then trust self-trust is huge we have not been speaking about this in our society about trusting our intuition right we've given so much power to science science is so important we need science and what happened to our intuition what happened to our wisdom what happened to our innate knowing that again goes beyond what we can prove which is so important it exists much more exists than what we could just prove and learning to trust ourselves the thing you're talking about you know we've had

like olympic coaches on the show and other people have talked about how the mind when you envision and manifest things and you put forth the application of feelings to what you want to do, the mind can't discern between reality and not just the fact that you're trying to make this up. And so if you don't do that, you're going to default, of course, like you said, the things where you doubt yourself and you've got that overthinking going on and that anxiety and that worry. But when you, when you play things in your head, like people in sports will do that. Like we said, the Olympians, they'll, they'll pre-play being at the event in their head. They'll, okay, here's my warmup.

Here's what I'm going to do. Here's how I'm going to feel about this. Here's how I'm going to process this. Here's me doing my swimming. And that when they show up once on on the stage of their life um as it were they uh they're prepared and their their mind already goes okay we've been through this we know how to do it um this is old hat and and the approach is different changing your perceptions that's what it seems to be a lot of people have trouble dealing with. They don't realize that how you perceive things and how you deal with that information is the difference between light and dark and positive and negative. One person can go to a party and see people having a bad time and it's a boring party. Another person can go to a party and see people having a great time and it's a great party. So it's just kind of a choice of how you want to approach your life but i like what you're

talking about because like i say a lot of people use this this um you know putting themselves into the mindset of where do i really want to be and how do i want to feel about it as opposed to you know just kind of stuck playing um you know you're kind of playing the tennis game of reacting to what's coming at you instead of being proactive. Absolutely. Yes. And, you know, the thing about like self-trust and doubt, doubt continues in our life. You know, we continue to doubt ourselves and, you know, I work with a lot of leaders and visionaries and yes, they're creating beautiful things. That doesn't mean that they lack doubt, right? Or sometimes they lack that anchoring into their trust and into their intuition. So it's always a matter of, in my opinion, distilling and dissolving more into our most powerful, most authentic version of ourself. There you go.

Now you have something called, that's here in your notes, shakri? Shakti. What is shakti? Shakti. Shakti, I'm not pronouncing it. Yes. This is why I'm asking the question. This is what we do on the show.

We learn. So, the kundalini that I said shot through my body, it's kundalini shakti. And so, this is tantric teaching. I was not, you know, i didn't take tantric i everything i've been taught has been taught through what's called my higher self my higher mind and so shakti kundalini shakti is that energy the creative life force energy that all humans have regardless of sexual identity and ultimately it is taught that it is a process for that shakti to travel all the way to your crown,

which is what happened to me on that day. And that's the stage of enlightenment. And it is, again, it's a journey. It's a healing process. But Shakti is creative life force energy. So I have a great relationship with my Shakti and I help women to connect to that creative life force energy, which is for one, very, very creative. If you want to be a visionary, if you want to be a leader and you want to increase

your creative output, then connecting to that creative life force energy is imperative and learning how to work with it, learning what it feels like and learning its ebbs and flows and how it moves through your body, as well as it's extremely magnetic. The, I mean, these, these are important things for women to, to go through. Cause I mean, sometimes they fold into themselves and what they do being mothers. And, you know, there's, I mean, that's a busy job 24 seven. And I think a lot of them talk about losing themselves because they get so much into, you know, doing everything for everyone else, um, which is the beauty of motherhood. And if it wasn't for them, we'd, we'd all be screwed. Uh, in fact, the Massachusetts wouldn't be here, but, uh, you know, without them,

the species dies. Uh, but, uh, you know, so they get lost, uh, sometimes I think, uh, at least that's what I hear from women. Um, you they get lost serving others and trying to be there. And so I think it's important that people like yourself help them kind of realign or reactualize or get back into, you know, taking care of themselves because as we talk about on the show a lot,

you can't help other people unless you help yourself first, really. Absolutely. And it's for men too. You know, I mean, I work with women, but, you know, men need work with women but you know men need to connect to their feminine men need to connect to their emotions men need to connect to their shakti this is all within all of us and the more that men learn how to connect to that

energy not lean into it and become it you know not be highly feminine i'm not talking about being highly feminine, but connecting to that version and that part of themselves, then they enact that beauty that you were speaking of as well earlier, that creative side of themselves and, you know, their own, again, innate power. And then they get to actualize that because the men are the strength. They're the action that actualizes the power.

Yeah. One of the things that I've found, I mean, I've dated for 35 years, something like that, and been seeing all my life. The one thing I've found is that I have to provide a masculine frame, an alpha masculine frame, to give a woman the trust to be in her feminine um because if she doesn't have that and i can't provide that or i i act in my feminine and and she's gonna have to act in her masculine you know i grew up watching um two two uh two grandmothers i've talked about this before on facebook i don't think we talked about much in the show, but when I was growing up as 10, I was growing up with two grandmothers and I had one who was just the angel of femininity. And I didn't understand what that was at the time, but she was loving, kind. You know, she was that doting grandma who would, you know, make you anything.

And, and she was always there for you. She, you know, when you hurt yourself, fell down, she'd hug you. And, and then I had a very alpha masculine grandfather that she was married to. And she was just, you know, I used to call her my second mother. She was just this wonderful being of light. And she would teach me piano. And she was just always there. I don't think there was ever an ugly moment that came out of her.

And then on the other side, I had my other grandmother who was totally intermasculine. I didn't understand what that was at the time. But she was mean, vindictive, manipulative, every sort of evil you could possibly imagine. And I'm not going to sugarcoat it either. I mean, she was just evil and manipulative. And I couldn't figure out what the difference was. And I could how passive her husband was and he was like her second husband and she'd been through trauma i mean there's a lot of this that goes back to childhood trauma and she'd been in a lot of situations she lost her first husband where she'd had to be in her masculine um but uh i

couldn't figure out why these two women were so different. Like, why is this woman so loving? And this woman is so freaking hateful. And why is that? And that's when I started to square very, very early on. One had a very alpha masculine husband and that she could operate in her feminine and be feel safe. And another didn't, and she couldn't feel safe. And, uh, it, it got very ugly with her and

and how she would behave and do things in fact we had to kind of cut her out of her life and but you know i under i can understand what her pathway was and as i got to know what her child was compared to my uh other grandmother but seeing that dichotomy of the difference between it made me really start looking at or trying to understand what the difference was between feminine and masculine and and and how if a woman feels that she's in a place where she can live in her feminine she doesn't have to live in her masculine that can be really fulfilling for her absolutely and you know it's all within so without right because again we have these energies within and so you're able to see that. And I feel like you're able to also hold a clear masculine vibration for women because you have an understanding of the feminine per your grandmother. masculine energy within there, if it's weak, if it's distorted, then they will create that distortion outside of themselves in men. That could be a weak masculine, that could be an

overbearing masculine, and then they don't feel like they can really be in their feminine and vice versa. Men will do the same. If they don't have a clear feminine energy within, they will create a toxic feminine without, and then they won't feel safe to be in their masculine. And so we create the distortions that we hold within our own inner feminine and inner masculine outside of ourselves in relationships, ultimately, so we can see that. And ultimately, we can have awareness and be like, oh, look what I'm doing. Look what I'm creating. Let me shift that. However, most people don't have that level of awareness and they think it's that person, but actually we're the ones that are creating that version of that person in our life to have that reflection. Everything is a reflection. Yeah. And in fact, a lot of the

overbearing masculine that I've seen, I'm going to put masculine in quotes there, is actually a man operating in this feminine. You know, you guys who use violence or, or control different things like that. That's emotional based. That's not masculinity, but sometimes it's deemed as such like people go, he's being, you know,

toxic masculinity or whatever the hell it is. Which I think is a misnomer because if you really study those people, they're operating and they're feminine, they're making their decisions based on emotion. And so it's not a real masculine man at least that's why it's not really a feminine either because that would suggest that feminine is it's talk it's it's it's distorted in and of itself yeah it's a distorted maybe masculine feminine i think you're right i think that's a good clarification because they're they're trying to mix the two and it's just becoming a toxic stew. So that makes more sense.

It's basically a man acting insecure. But I don't find that masculine at all in any way, shape, or form. To me, there's a masculine alpha frame that provides protection and security and gives that envelope, that provider protection sort of security. And when a woman has that, I mean, she'll curl up on a ball and she'll purr and experience what you do. And you give her her ability to run and stuff, and that makes all the difference in the world.

And, of course, you make her happy, but she has to feel that way because if she doesn't, if she doesn't feel like you're the guy who can take anybody down and comes through the door and you're protecting her, watching out for her, and then she feels safe, she's not going to be able to operate in her feminine. And so having that balance is really good. But I know a lot of women are single nowadays more than ever. There's been a rise of people running families with themselves. In fact, it's just growing evidently to 2030 where a lot of women will be single more than ever before. And so I think it's hard for them because, you know, they have to be masculine during the day.

They have to be some, you know, sometimes they're playing the dad and the mom at the same time. And so they have to play both the feminine and the masculine. Does that sound like a good assessment? Absolutely. And we can, it's not ideal to play both i i truly believe that we are beings that work well in a balanced and harmonious relationship like you're speaking to and we can do both because we have both but it's the ability to be able to have both clearly understood and defined and working in your being and in your body to be able to move

you know to know when you need to be in your masculine, great. And then move into your feminine, like not get stuck in one or the other or have distortions or rejections towards one or the other. And, um, you know, that's where our society isn't really where we tend to lean to one or the other and not be able to fluidly flow, uh, between actually it's all three of them because the inner child as well. It's a trinity. There you go. Well, this has been really insightful.

Final thoughts as we go out. Give us your tease on how people can onboard with you on your website. Absolutely. People can reach out to me on my website. And honestly, I love connection. So if people just want to reach out and say hello and connect to me, I adore connection. I adore intimacy. I adore knowing people and learning people

and just creating connection and network. You also have a podcast too. Let's get a plug in for that. Yes, The Ecstatic Woman. It is for inspiring and activating women in their power, the magnetism, and their bliss. It's two shows a week.

The Ecstatic Woman. Hey, let me ask you this. I want to fall back a little bit. You have something on your website called the One-to-One Container. Tell us a little bit about that. Yeah, so that's where I'm working one-on-one with people, and this is the most profound transformation because I can really tap into people's energy very, very clearly. And it's precise. It's very, very precise work where we go straight to what is the issue right now? What is holding that person back from truly creating their reality? And we start to energetically shift it clearly and concisely. And so the one-on-one is my delightful playground. It's where I just adore because I love the intimacy of the container. You know, these people become my friends.

They become so much more than just clients to me. But also we change their life in very powerful and transformational ways. Awesome sauce. There you go. And you've got a lot of different offerings on your website. You've got some free resources there about prosperity portals, rewired mastermind groups, rewired for genius course, nervous system healing bundle, realize your genius.

That's what I need to do because I'm an idiot. Why is Wombend program? What's a Wombend? Womb. Womb. There you go. Womb. They're Womb.

Yes. There you go. I've heard of that. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be here. So there you go. Yeah, I love my mom. She's the greatest woman in my life because if she didn't, I wouldn't be here because she put up

with me uh in fact i think i was it took i was 10 months of my childhood i was a miracle baby so it took three months for them to have me 10 months of birth and i was 10.5 when i came out and they're like that kid's gonna be a football player yeah yeah my dad hated me for the rest of my life. Uh, so thank you very much. Yeah. Uh, well, you know, moms,

I hear about it, uh, all the time. They never let you forget it, but it wasn't for you. I'd be on a bikini beach doing, I don't know, a Baywatch or something.

So there you go. Uh, but there was, there was three others that came after me. So I get to share the, it wasn't just you. It wasn't just me, but I guess I started the problem is what it was. So there you go.

Alara, thank you very much for coming on the show. Give us your dot coms one last time so we can find you on the interwebs. Absolutely. Alarasage.com and Alarasage on all the social media platforms. There you go. Folks, check it out. Let's see. We got one last comment to get in here.

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