The Chris Voss Show - The Chris Voss Show Podcast – Healthy. Happy. Whole.: A Health and Wellbeing Workbook by Barbara A Palmer

Episode Date: November 6, 2025

Version 1.0.0 Healthy. Happy. Whole.: A Health and Wellbeing Workbook by Barbara A Palmer https://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Happy-Whole-Wellbeing-Workbook/dp/1685561233 If you have a deep desire to grow your happiness and overall wellbeing, where would you start? You may be surprised to learn the best place to start is not where you expected but is easy to access. Your journey to new levels of aliveness awaits you as you read this book and navigate twelve steps towards a greater mind-body connection and a prosperous soul. ONE: maximize your awareness and set SMART goals TWO: clarify wellness and wellbeing THREE: stress management FOUR: stress management self-assessment FIVE: explore negatively charged emotions like depression SIX: differences between depression and grief or loss SEVEN: your relational support system EIGHT: support system development NINE: assertiveness TEN: coaching, counseling; facts, myths, and fiction ELEVEN: reassess, review, and realign TWELVE: prayers and affirmations.

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Because you're about to go on a moment. Monster Education Roller Coaster with your brain. Now, here's your host, Chris Voss. Folks, Voss here from the Chris Foss Show.com. The ladies, and the earliest thing that makes official. Welcome to the big show. As always, for 2,500 episodes and 16 years of being in the Chris Voss show. With all the most wonderful minds, the greatest storytellers, the greatest lessons of life,

all the things that can make your life better. What's the Chris Voss show does? 2,500 episodes. It's at least 2,500, I don't know, half hours, 40 minutes that you can just go immerse yourself in. And when you get done, you'll be like Superman, something like that. Opinions expressed by guests on the podcast are solely their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the host or the Chris Vos show. Some guests of the show may be advertising on the podcast, but it's not an endorsement or review of any kind. In today, we had an amazing young lady on the show where we're talking about her book called Healthy, Happy, Happy Whole, a Health and Well-Being Workbook out February 24.

First, 2022, and some of other consulting that she does with executives and teams, et cetera, et et cetera. We'll get into some of the deets. Barbara A. Palmer joins us in the show. We're going to be talking to her about her insights and everything else. Welcome to the show, Barbara. How are you? I'm doing great. And thank you for having me. Good to be here. Thank you for coming. We really appreciate having you as well. Give us your dot coms. Where do you want people to find out more about you on the interwebs? There are a couple of places. B.P.Lifecoach.com.

Also, B.P. Lifecoaching Services.com. So give us a 30,000 over you. What's inside this book? Healthy, Happy Hole is a workbook that's designed to be something that you use again and again. It includes some self-assessments where a person can kind of see where they are, and as it relates to their overall health and well-being, and we're not just talking about physically, but in terms of even as far as how they feel on a regular basis, their support system, how, you know, they've dealt

with losses, you know, ways to make sure they've processed what they've been through. Hmm. Help them process what they've been through. Healthy, happy, whole. Why is it important to have all those things and to, is that, is that some sort of balance we should have? Maybe, I don't know. Yeah. Actually, you know, the word disease, you know, that we have gotten so used to thinking that, you know, the word disease is a thing.

Well, the thing about it is it's based on a lack of ease. So the more we get away from feeling at ease. whether it's mentally, physically, spiritually, socially, socially in our relationships, whenever there's dis-ease, that is an indication that an adjustment is needed. Because otherwise, what does happen is because of the integration between the mind and the body and every other aspect of our being, our health is affected.

So our physical health starts to break, down before it shows up and it starts with how we're thinking yeah and then what what happens of the mind shows up in the body i think there's some absolutely yes what the mind does so you you help people do you talk about different aspects in the book of 12 different levels or aliveness that await you can you maybe tell us about some of these levels the the main thing is to know that based on what we have been through, let's say, in the past 12 months. Now, it's like we, many times we don't even realize everything that we've been through within a certain period of time.

But if you do a look back, and this is one of the self-assessments that's in the book, it allows you to actually give like a score. There are certain points for different experiences. and where ultimately you can see where you are as it relates to your health and well-being or the possibility that increases as far as you possibly having a decline, a sudden decline in your health or something happening that basically stops you if you don't stop yourself. Yeah.

Stop yourself from doing those bad things. Now, you talk about smart goals. What are smart goals? S-M-A-R-T is the acronym, I guess. Yeah, smart goals. The S is for you want it to be specific. Hmm. You know, sometimes we say we have goals, but they're really, you know,

they're not specific enough. And also the M is for measurable. And many times that's one of the main things that's missing. when a person sets a goal. If it can't be measured, it's not really a goal. It's more like a shot in the dark. Yeah. You know?

Yeah. And then the A is something that is basically, it's achievable. You know, it's something that is achievable, even if it's something you haven't done before. If it's been done before by someone else, it's achievable. Yeah. It's like when the first people made Everest or, you know, the marathons and stuff. Yeah. And then the R is, as far as realistic, realistic we're talking about in terms of for you.

And this doesn't mean that you have to have it all figured out. But realistic in terms of, is this something that you can focus on, that you're willing to focus on? you know is this something that you are willing to commit to now because if you're not is that is it realistic even if it's something that you know it's specific it's measurable achievable but if if you are not willing to invest in it then it's not realistic that's very true and then the t is for it needs to be time sensitive. And even if the time ends up shifting, like you say that it's going to be 90 days that you're looking at achieving a goal, it could be, you know, based on years or weeks.

But whatever it is, there's a time factor that you have that kind of helps you to check and see where you are in terms of your progress. And if you need to make an adjustment in the time, you can do that because one of the things about big, hairy, audacious goals is that you really don't necessarily know the how and the win, but you need something when you're setting a goal and time, and you need a time factor included in order for it to be a smart goal. You got to have it accountable, right? Yeah.

Yeah. I like these. I remember back in 1989 when I first met Tony Robbins at his early seminars, he would do this thing where he would ask you. I don't know if he still does it, but he'd do this thing where he'd ask people, who wants to make more money this year? And people raise their hand. And then he would, whoever was closest to him, he'd flip a quarter of them.

And he'd be like, okay, well, you made more money now. Are you happy? And so I think that was a good example. What you just said, you know, you've got to clearly define your goals. You've got to put some accountability there. You've got to give them a time to kind of fire them up. because, you know, I mean, I could say I just want to be a billionaire sometime in my lifetime. That's, you know, that's not something that's going to light a fire under me to really do it probably.

It's, you know, I'm just like, well, it'll fall on my lap. You know, maybe when I'm 70, it'll happen. You know, you want that drive. Right. Because otherwise, it's kind of nebulous. Yeah. I'll be a billionaire. I'll be a billionaire after I die.

I'll get run over by a truck and my family will sue. for a billion dollars. They're like, well, Chris wanted to be a billionaire. We could just spend all his money. He doesn't. So that's probably, that's probably, you know, how it would go for me. I don't know. Yeah, and maybe they'll dedicate something to you.

No, they'll be like, yeah, name the trash cans out front after him. We didn't like him anyway. But thanks for the money, dumbass. That sounds like something my family would do. I don't know. I love them, but they don't love me. you guys have different love languages is that yeah they they have a cult a love language and I don't want to be in a cult love language evidently so as we go through that anything more in

the book you want to tease out before we start talking about some of the different offerings you do on your website just that it is something that can help a person to process any transition in life and that could be from a emptiness syndrome to, you know, going back to a young adulthood when you're transitioning from depending on your parents, you know, to being out there on your own. Wait, we're supposed to do that? Yeah, yeah. Or, you know, if life has thrown you some curveballs and you're dealing with divorce, you know,

and you're transitioning, you know, from one version of yourself to halt something totally new. it can be very helpful. Oh, yeah, make those transitions. So let's talk about some of the services you offer there. I know we talked to pre-show about there was a service or a thing you talked about called Map. And you work, I see some different offerings here. There's different programs, burnout leadership, team services. Tell us about those and some of the coaching and help you do there.

Yeah, with Map, which stands for Make Anything Possible, it is a neural science-based approach. It basically recognizes that there is a part of us that responds to being called the super conscious. It turns out that this part of us is able to come alongside us and help our conscious mind to interact with in a very effective way with our subconscious mind. And the importance of that is that our conscious mind really handles a whole lot less in terms of decisions that are made and influencing our behavior, the majority of that is coming from our subconscious mind. To give you an example, our conscious mind processes around 40 to 50, depending on which research you look at.

of information per second. Wow. Compared to the subconscious, which processes 11 million bits per second. I'm tired already. I needed an app. Yeah. So the subconscious is really running the show in our lives many times, and we don't know it. We don't realize that.

And it's based on memories. But with the map process, we engage the super. which turns out the superconscious has been with each of us has this so we have this part of us that's been with us since conception that knows how to communicate with our subconscious mind based on what we desire consciously well that's a lot of processing going on in the background eh say that again that's a lot of processing going on in the background oh absolutely the majority of the process is happening on an automatic level. And for instance, we don't have to think about breathing. We don't have to think about, you know, many things. Our heart beats without us having to think about it.

And I'm sure it comes in handy that we don't have to think about everything that our bodies do. Oh, yeah. And that's part of what's handled by the subconscious, but that's not the only thing. Can you imagine if you had to sit around all the thing all day and be like, Hey, Hart, I need you to start beating some more better lungs. I need you to breathe.

You know, we need to keep the blood flowing. Is everything pumping okay? Yeah. Not very fun. So the subconscious does a lot of important things. However, it also holds all these memories from our entire lives. So we've got different memory banks. So it's believed that we have three memory banks that one is primarily from when we were conceived until birth.

Another one is like from birth till maybe around, you know, five years old. And then there's one that is from your birth until now. It's like everything. And your super conscious is able to see what is activated in those memories as well. as in your body, when you think about certain things or start talking about certain things. So consciously, whatever you're focusing on, it triggers, even if you don't feel triggered,

it activates. So imagine that things are lighting up in the subconscious when you think about certain things consciously. And your super conscious is able to see if you're lighting up, something that is creating problems for you now and it can actually help to neutralize things that are creating resistance to your goals and especially if it's something that it's like it's not serving you it served you as a child maybe but it's not serving you now it's like

you know we don't do anything new you know it's like a little kid that's afraid to do anything new. But you're an adult now, and you're in leadership. What? And you're expected to come up with new ideas and be innovative, and it's hard for you to be your best version of that with this little version of you that's active and you don't know it. Mm-hmm.

Yeah. Yeah. And so some of these offerings that you have here, you've got the no burnout. I think, tell us about what this is. Well, the whole thing with no burnout is just helping. It's still utilizing some of the neuroscience techniques, but it's helping people to realize when they are actually calling things normal that are not. It's like somebody getting used to things that are draining them.

And they're being drained and helping them to recognize and to, It's like somebody bleeding slowly, you know, helping them to realize you're bleeding and what to do to stop the bleeding and what to do so that they can actually get healthy. Well, I mean, that's really important where people can take and, you know, do that and figure it all out. You know, a lot of people are burning out today. They're working hard. There's a lot of stress they have and all that stuff. So, yeah, it can really make all the difference for them, right?

Yeah. And the funny, well, it may not be funny, ha-ha, but as it pertains to stress, it turns out that we get to call whatever is stressed to us. It's like what stress to one person may not be stress to someone else, you know, even in the, you know, the same household, you know, a part of being able to prevent burnout. is shifting a perspective about what we call things. If we judge something as it's like, that is awful, that is horrible. Oh, I can't believe that, you know, that that happened. You know, that charges, whatever that is, that experience,

that belief, that memory, we are giving it that charge. But we don't realize that we are the ones that are doing So one of the first things to learn to do is to start being more aware and start noticing when we're basically creating higher stress, increasing stress, by the way that we label things and the way that we create new stories about things. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. And during a retreat, I think, here and some executive coaching for executive vision and wellness. Tell us about what you're offering there. With the executive retreats, it is all-inclusive, and it includes wellness, med spa options.

It includes things like meditation and yoga, sound healing, and really cutting-edge med spa services. Of course, the usual, as far as traditional massage and aerodetic massage, cold plunge. There's vibral acoustic. There's lots of, there's over 12 options, you know, as far as what a person can do. And they get to choose about four of those. And it's on a Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. It's immersive, and it also includes map sessions. So make anything possible sessions are a part of the executive retreat experience.

And they leave with a 90-day plan as far as, for their leadership, not just their work goals, but also personal goals. Hmm. Well, it should be good there. The other thing I noticed, you have a no burnout ebook on the website. Talk to us about what that is and what people can check out. That's something that they can, you know, ask for. It provides them with some of the tips that include taking microbreak.

and there's also a handout and I'm seeing something okay I need to I can't believe that I just had a pop up on my computers saying we're going to shut down in about four minutes and it's like no so I am surprised to even see that so I'm surprised to even see that so before that happened I was talking about something in response to what you had said okay so remind me we were talking about the e-book for no burno. Ah yes

so that's something that they can get they just basically provide their email address and that's sent to them but it includes, like I was saying, some micro breaks and other tips. And even there's a one-page PDF that's within that, that they can take a look at that kind of summarizes different things that they can do,

things that can help them sleep better, things that can help them, you know, in terms of even if they're dealing with upset, you know, in relationships or anything else, how to shift out of upset so that they stay in a place where they stay in a place where they have more peace, more calm. Ah, more peace and more calm. That's always a good thing to have, I think, isn't it?

Let's see. And then you appear on podcasts. There's something on here that talks about 10 senior level health care executive pain points. Do you want to tease out maybe a couple of those? Oh, some of the pain points. One of the pain points is the sacrifice that frequently happens of their personal life, you know, in order for them to be on, it's like on call 24-7 because of the position

that they're in and responding to stakeholders, you know, folks from boards, as well as the sacrifice of their physical health. Many times they are not taking care of themselves physically. We know that when you're on a plane, one of the things they always tell you is, you know, if there is a change in cabin pressure, you know, the oxygen mass drops down and make sure you put it on yourself, you know, even if you're with a child, make sure you put it on yourself first. And when it comes to people in leadership, especially your C-suite execs, they are used to making things happen and focusing on that so much that they're not always taking care of themselves. And their relationships, as far as,

as, you know, marriages being impacted, families being impacted in a negative way as part of the fallout, you know, of them not focusing on the things that are personal. Yeah. Don't focus on the things that are personal. Yeah. And another pain point is them always having to be creative and innovative and also troubleshooting and making decisions what some people. would consider high-pressure decisions that they wouldn't want to have to make on a regular basis.

Like, who gets to keep a job and who's going to be let go, you know, in order for, you know, certain profit margins to be maintained or increased based on what the strategic plan is. It's like, who's going to be impacted in their organization? Those are difficult decisions for most people to make and live with. Most definitely, most definitely. So anything more we want to tease out before we go? I'm good. What about?

I'm good too. Yeah, I think we've got it all in the can. Give people a final pitch out to order up your services. I know there's a thing here where you do some PR, some research services, some PR relations. Services, give people a final pitch out as we go out to how they can onboard with that and your dot-coms. Okay. Well, when I'm working with someone as far as doing the executive coaching, that would be one of the things that would be an add-on, that we can focus on their image. We can focus on if they want to create a new image.

would that look like? And using a map and also mind movies and some other approaches that I use that help them to actually make a shift and make a change. And if you want something new in your life, it means create a new you. That's what you should always do. Create a new you. Well, it's been fun to have you on. Barbara, very insightful and people should look to your services and all that good stuff. Thank you for coming on the show. Well, thank you for having me. Thank you. And thanks to Arnaz for tuning in. Order up for book where refined books are sold. Healthy, happy, whole, health and well-being workbook out February 21st, 2022.

Thanks for mine as for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us for us first one on the tick tocky and all those crazy places in it. Be good to each other. Stay safe. We'll see you guys next time. And that's you.