The Chris Voss Show - The Chris Voss Show Podcast – Stuck On Ready: Master the Entrepreneur Mindset, Break Free from Self-Sabotage, and Access Your Limitless Potential by Bridget Hom

Episode Date: August 24, 2023

Stuck On Ready: Master the Entrepreneur Mindset, Break Free from Self-Sabotage, and Access Your Limitless Potential by Bridget Hom https://amzn.to/3qMyU5Y Bridgetofreedomcoaching.com Bridget Hom is one of the top Mindset coaches. She launched into entrepreneurship during a time when people were pursuing reinvention and personal and professional evolution in their lives and businesses. Having coached individuals and teams and influenced thousands of entrepreneurs nationwide in the Find Your Freedom Programs, she founded the Law of Deservability© and trains individuals to master emotional intelligence in their business and relationships. In this inspiring book, she gives life & business strategies that every entrepreneur needs to get Stuck on Ready to take action and how to: FIRE sabotage and HIRE sanity, serenity, and success Learn how to stop living under the influence and become the Influence in life and business Become self-aware and implement emotional intelligence in any situation Unlock the truth and regain control of your brain again Learn how to sell yourself a new reality in life, business, and relationships Leverage the power of The Law of Deservability© Become re-inspired through innovative ways to do sales differently and get results Stuck on Ready offers a real and down-to-earth approach to help you break free from fear, lack of motivation, and doing sales from the business-in-the-box mentality. This book helps new entrepreneurs to launch into action with confidence, inspires current entrepreneurs to level up, and successful entrepreneurs to adopt new and innovative ways of bringing their businesses and relationships to life. In this book, you’ll learn to reprogram your mind for success and how to love your life, while gaining the transformative habits needed to achieve all that you want in business and relationships. This book will make you think, and ask yourself questions that make you introspective while launching you into action in life, business and relationships. Be Ready to challenge yourself to adopt new ways of thinking, being, and doing that serve “who you’re being, when you are doing”. This book will challenge your beliefs while encouraging you to be more and do better and empower the world around you as a means to success. This book will take you to the depths of your innermost thoughts and challenge the way you do your business right now. For the business owner, coach, consultant, or leader- this book will be one that you pick up and quote often. To be wildly successful in the pursuit of anything in life or business, you have to be Stuck On Ready.

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in the box mentality, well, we have the gal for you. She's going to be bringing her amazing insight and brilliant mindset to the show. And she's going to be helping us be wildly successful in the pursuit of anything in life or business. You have to be stuck on ready is the title of her book. We'll get to that in a second. But in the meantime, as always, we have to guilt and shame you into giving us a five star review on iTunes.

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Self-Sabotage and Access Your Limitless Potential. I've been accessing my limit potential. She's going to help me move it to limitless. Bridget Hom is on the show with us today. She's going to be talking to us about her amazing book and everything that goes into it. And yeah, this should be pretty interesting. She is a top mindset coach. She launched into entrepreneurship during a time when people were pursuing reinvention and personal and professional evolution in their lives of business. She's coached individuals and teams and influenced thousands of entrepreneurs nationwide in the Find Your Freedom program. She founded the Law of Diversity.

I'm sorry, let me re-quote that. The Law of Deservability. I'm learning new terms today. And trains entrepreneurs to take ownership or personal development and adopt innovative business growth strategies so that they are fully equipped to access their limitless potential. Her book stuck on ready hit bestseller on Amazon in the first six weeks is referred to as a business Bible. She resides in Jupiter, Florida with her husband, three dog,

three. I'm having a day today. Wow. See, I need your help, Bridget. That's why you're, I can help you.

Yeah. There's some mental brain damage going on today, but that's what the show's about. Brain bleeding. Uh, she resides in Jupiter floor with her husband and three dogs. I did it again. It was three dogs and three boys when we got together.

It was a Brady punch. Okay. You're not wrong three dogs and three boys when we got together. It was a one-day Brady punch, okay, Chris? You're not wrong. Just three boys and two dogs. I don't know why I got stuck on the three dogs, but welcome to the show, Bridget. How are you? Chris, I'm happy to be here with you. And you know what? I can help you hire and fire the right mental team any day.

Yeah, which is probably, oh, they just handed me a pink slip. So, evidently, they did fire the right team or wrong team or I don't know what. So, give us your.com so people can find you on the interwebs, please. So if you want to find me, it's BridgetHom.com is my website. StuckOnReady.com gets you the free copy of this book. Oh, wow. Yeah. Just thought I'd throw that out there for people who are looking right now. Give a motivational video in the beginning.

And then if you really want to find me one-on-one, eye-to-eye, BridgetHom.me actually gets you directly on my calendar so we can have a fun chat about business growth or personal development. There you go. There you go. So what motivated you want to write this book and put it out? And tell us what Stuck on Ready means as you're going through it, please. You know, it's funny because Stuck on Ready became the title because the first time I was in a Zoom business networking meeting. You know what those are, Chris, right? Oh, yeah. I've seen them.

Okay. You see them. Yeah. So I had no idea what these things were when I launched my coaching business virtually. And I showed up to the first one at 8 a.m. Thursday morning. This guy, Brian, goesget Holm, give your 30 seconds. And I'm like, dang it. He mispronounced my last name. What am I supposed to say? And that's when I launched my business. And he, and I said, Bridget Holm here with Bridge to Freedom

Coaching. Are you ready to level up? And he said, leaders are stuck on ready because it takes too long to get ready. And that's why, that the book, because it just made so much sense. It takes too long to get ready. You've got to make moves now before you feel ready. That's true. Sometimes I don't feel ready. The coffee hasn't kicked in yet, but I've got to make those moves. Sometimes you've got to get moving before that coffee rolls.

I mean, usually I lay in bed in the mornings in the fetal position going, Oh, God, where do I have to get up? When will the coffee kick in? And then somewhere in there it does. And then I begin to move about. I need to sit, I need to sit the coffee maker up next to the bed, note to self. Anyway, so tell us your origin story, a little bit about you and some of your history and what led this up to the book. So I'll tell you some fun facts that I don't really get to tell many people very often. I was actually working my master's in Catholic theology at Notre Dame. I have a journalism background. And I was a bougie stay-at-home mom with three annies for, you know what that word means?

I don't actually. I just hear it aies. You know what that word means? I don't, actually. I just hear it a lot. It just means that you literally do nothing with your life except what you enjoy. I'm bougie. You're bougie? You're bougie? I've been bougie since 2004. Well, then you're impressive, and you do what you feel like doing in your life, and it makes you happy, right?

People just say I'm an asshole, but that's another thing. I mean, everyone has an opinion. I've heard everyone has an opinion, like everyone has an asshole. Yeah, there you go. There you go. They do? Anyway, moving on. That's not a good segue to go down.

We don't want to go down that road. Okay, so fast forward. During the reinvention evolution, as you said earlier, um, in 2020, I just moved out of my big, beautiful home. I was actually on my way to getting, get this zoom divorced. Um, yeah, it's a thing. So, Oh, you're getting divorced over zoom. Correct. It's called zoom divorced. Wow. Zoom divorced. And, uh, my three young savages i mean my three sweet boys and i uh we moved into an apartment and uh anyone who has boys knows that they are savages it's okay to say that it's a natural state yes it is and i i actually encourage it anyway yeah they're caveman you guys

i think you guys all caveman actually you just hide it better you learn depends on how much testosterone we all have but yeah testosterone's a good thing anyway so i i literally moved into an apartment with my three young boys and i had a placement agency at the time and you couldn't go near a senior citizen for their safety and so i really had to figure out what to do next and bridge to freedom coaching was just a side hustle i'd had had three clients. And that's when I got a random Zoom business networking link, showed up on this weird meeting. I had no idea what it was, no virtual backgrounds, just sitting there in my bedroom on a computer. And that's what came out of my face. I said, I'm here and I'm going to help you level up. And I had, I mean,

seriously, I mean, who says that? But I had six clients within six weeks. There you go. Your Freedom Program was born, motivational speaking engagements, group sales trainings, my best-selling book stuck on ready, and well, here we are today. Here we are today. So give us a 30,000 overview of the book, just like, you know, the hit points and stuff, and then we'll get into the deeds. Absolutely. So this book is for entrepreneurs and business owners who want to get to that next level, but can't seem to get there. And they want to shift into a mindset, but they can't break free from sabotage, right? They have the wrong mental team. And so they also want strategies for social

media. They want to understand and master the law of deservability. They want to ultimately have a romance with life, a partnership with their future successful selves, and they want to know how to create empowered client interactions forever. Oh, wow. There you go. And, you know, some people get stuck sometimes where they just can't get to that next level. They're trying to go the next way and they, and they can't do it. So, um, so you moved, uh, was this the first time you moved into being an entrepreneur?

At the Zip Divorce? Yeah, it was actually. There you go. There you go. And, uh, now you've done that, moved into the corporate world. What is the, uh, biggest advice you see a lot of entrepreneurs needing in the world or business owners as well? I think they're the same, aren't they? Yeah. Sometimes. First, you know, actually that's a great question. Most business owners really want to be intentional

and know how to monetize their influence, but still have business on their terms. What does that mean? I want to make make money but i don't want to work the rest of my life forever and ever amen i'd like to sleep and i'd like to go on cruises right you go on cruises chris i don't do cruises uh because i don't like anyone else to take on a cruise other than myself and i just thought i just like whatever but uh plus my two dogs, I've always got to be, you know, babysitting. But no, I have a wonderful life where I just do what I want. But, you know, I mean, if I could have anything, I'd just like to make money and not do anything. But, you know, it seems like you have to do something.

I think someone wrote a book on that. Ferris, The Four-Hour Workweek. Oh, yeah? Yeah. There you go. I should do that. But I like my podcast my podcast like my audience and they keep dragging me back in it's like godfather 2 every time i try and go on vacation

they're like you must come back and entertain us so there's that yeah and that's fulfilling right it's like when you're serving others with solutions in some way whether it's you know different ways to think about life for themselves or just pure entertainment, we always come back for more. Yeah. I mean, I love it. I love my audience. We're going 15 years next month, the end of this month, August 30th or 31st, whatever, however many days are.

It clicks over to 15 years. Craziness. And then I'm going to quit or something. I don't know. Yeah. Cross that bridge when you get there. We're going to go to 20 again. We're just having too much fun.

So let's talk about culture because culture is one of the things that you talk about and discuss from both business and personal. Let's delve into that and get a wash in it. Sure. And I also wanted to say that touching on culture, but also still touching on entrepreneurship, one of the mean? It's because most people are saying they desire more success. They desire the boat. They desire, you know, this, this full life or this bank account with millions of dollars in it, but they don't believe they deserve it. And so that's a huge shift in our, yes, that's a huge shift in, in our mindsets because desire is coming from a place of lack of no action of no conviction and deservability is from a place of conviction alignment and this inner knowing that success

is not just possible it's inevitable there you go the law of deservability as we mentioned in the bio uh and this is really important because, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of people struggle with, what's that called where people struggle with, you know, where they feel like they're being fake? Imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome. There you go.

Thank you. Where people struggle with imposter syndrome. And sometimes we have these level mindsets of maybe we inherit them from parents and well-meaning parents that maybe limit us. Like, well, you can't ever do that. Sometimes you have, you know, as an entrepreneur, you have those always people around you that like, oh, you shouldn't do that. Oh, that's too much risk. Oh, you can't do that.

You're not Elon Musk. And so a lot of people struggle with that. Exactly. And, you know, I forget who quoted this, but I saw it somewhere in social media and it said, impossible is just an opinion. I love it. I love it. And that's the truth.

And so talking about culture as well, you know, we have been inundated with this culture that is having an identity crisis for various factors. We don't have to hit factors right now, but there is the problem with the identity crisis where we no longer know how to empower ourselves or one another based on who we're being when we're doing. And we are too distracted to develop a core belief system that is in high deservability because we don't know how to be intentional. Bottom line. Present. We don't know how to be present. Yeah, a lot of people are suffering from that. Being present.

I suffered from that, especially with ADHD, for most of my life. And somewhere around 50 or 52, someone turned me on to Eckhart Tolle and being present. And I was really struggling. My dogs, I'd be playing with my dogs or something. I'd be off in 50 million directions. And I'm like, I'm not even here. I don't even, I'm trying to connect with my dogs and be present. And I didn't understand the whole concept.

And it really makes a difference when you're present because really all you have, if you're trying to achieve anything, is the here and now, correct? Exactly. You know, one of the questions I like to ask people is if your life looks the same as it does now 20 years from now would you be happy no no i'm just kidding i don't know what's going on you're gonna be retired then so i'll be old so i probably won't be happy i'll be on the lawn somewhere going get off the lawn you kids

which i do now. Right, I think like Clint Eastwood. Pretty much, yeah. That will be me. That's me now. I have the hose for the kids on the lawn. It's okay. They like it.

They like the hose on the lawn. I know. I have a good voice. Not in winter. But being intentional and controlling your your destiny now plotting it out and uh you know doing what you do today i mean so many people get lost and and everything even i do at my age where you know i'll get to the end of the day and i'll be like oh man there's like 500 things i should have done today or they need to do today and i still get stuff done but you know sometimes the the important one slips through the cracks.

Like I try and spend 15 minutes a day going out in the backyard playing with the dogs and just being present with them. And that sometimes gets lost more than I like. And I get to the end of the day and I go, crap. I think it goes so by so fast, whether you're a parent of kids or whether you're a parent of dogs.

I think people have kids, though, that wish they especially in teenage years, they wish it go faster. Well, you know, it's so easy to live under the influence of that never ending to do list, which will never end until you're dead or you have no work or ambitions in front of you. And the ability to be intentional with your goals and your roles, like your job, right? That's really what life is made of. And so we're all searching for that, but we don't take the time to say that this is important enough to focus on yeah it's and it's important to uh take make these a priority because if you don't if you don't make yourself a priority uh then there you go do you find a lot of good i was gonna say well nobody else will either you know and actually that leads me to i wanted to share um something about the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, because I think this would be valuable for those people listening. Because the problem that we're really facing is we don't take ownership of our headspace first. And I like to explain things in terms of sales,

because in entrepreneurship, if you don't sell, you don't close, you have no clients, you have no business, right? So your conscious mind is your salesman. And his sales pitch is your thoughts, words, actions, and emotions. And he sells to the client, your subconscious mind. And the subconscious mind buys everything the conscious mind is selling. He creates that into the program, which dictates your life, your reality, your business, and your relationships, ultimately who you're being. So when you look at what you've been selling yourself about what you're supposed to be doing next and what you're, who you're being right now, you could see why your days look like the way they do. Uh-huh. Yep. Uh, despondent. Uh, uh, I don't know. I don't have

a joke for that. Uh, but my days aren't despondent people don't write me and be like, Chris, you need help to call somebody. Um, they're just jokes just jokes people come on man uh so one of the things you talk about that leads us into this is in in a quote unquote empowerment generator what is that and how do i get that set up in my home to will it power my home and in my uh tesla yeah right uh you wish right i heard some of the other day they're like they couldn't even pick up their mother from the airport because their tesla uh was out of battery right you need to recharge it um so no it's actually describing you know we have this constant culture where we affirm people based on what they can achieve and what they can

do for us. Right. I love that about American culture in a lot of ways, because we're so focused on individualism, the next best thing. We're focused on success and achievement. And that's why we have achieved so much as a country. But yeah, right. But we're in this place now where we no longer know how to affirm people based on who they're being when they're doing. So the goal of the empowerment generator is you make your number

one goal to show up well and authentically every day. And your number two goal to empower the person in front of you, no matter what, with strategies, solutions, encouragement. And when you make that your focal point, your brain can only focus on one thing at a time. Therefore, you're going to start to create cultural shifts in your workspace, in your home life, et cetera, if you just focus on being an empowerment generator. There you go. An empowerment generator.

Damn it. I'm putting that on my business card. Can I replace that with CEO and empowerment generator? You can just have both. CEO of empowerment. CEO of the empowerment do i have to have an llc for this no talk to your account people you know just put my uh brand underneath it oh there you go with the link to your website there you go exactly can i

put my website on my card with your anyway uh yeah i'll get a cnd on that hey man quit mixing our brands eh uh so but i like the empowerment generator aspect uh let's dig into uh personal culture and business culture a little bit more because i know that's a favorite topic for yours um how do we establish a good healthy business culture and why is it important? So when we talk about entrepreneurship and corporate business, it's a little bit different. I would speak more into entrepreneurship right now. Entrepreneurship is such an interesting beast. When we talk about the culture of entrepreneurship, it's so, we say it's so individualistic, but we're all searching for freedom, for time. We want everything on our terms. And in that, we forget, and I think no one teaches this, honestly, Chris,

that in entrepreneurship, the foundation for professional success is personal development. Yeah. Nothing self-actualizes you like being an entrepreneur. And it is a beast. It has claws and fangs and shit, or what we call Fridays around here for me, when the full moon comes out. But, yeah, I've been doing it since I was 18. And, yeah, it's been a beast. But nothing will change you. I think almost maybe parenthood does.

I don't know. I've never been a parent. But I'm a dog parent. But I don't think anything've never been a parent but i'm a dog parent but uh i don't think anything will change you almost as much and uh i don't know there's a lot of denial of being a parent so uh and then you have to tell your kids stuff like you know santa claus is is real and stuff and uh i guess i won't ruin it for anybody anybody the easter bunny is real too you know so you gotta you gotta you gotta play some games there. But in business, if you lie to yourself or other people,

you're kind of going to end up in trouble or maybe jail for that matter. Well, yeah. I always say like if you sell your self-limiting beliefs, you're going to sell your prospects your limiting beliefs, and those are expensive. Yeah. Yeah. Can I get a lot of money for self-limiting beliefs?

Maybe we'll put them on the docket of products. And in entrepreneurship, you have three bank accounts. Your Serenity account, your Sanity account, and your real bank account. There you go. Now, which bank do I set that up with? Does that go with the checking, or is that a separate thing? That's in the Find Your

Freedom program account. There you go. I'll show you exactly how to do that. Well, here's the thing. We don't give credit to the fact that we still have to focus on building relationships in entrepreneurship because relationships lead to revenue. We also don't focus on the fact that 90% of our communication is nonverbal. So if we're in a place where we're not sane or serene, well, that's most of our communication. And that's really loud communication to our prospects and our clients and referral partners. So you want to make sure you're, I always like to say when you're, you want to break free from codependent behaviors

in business and in your personal life. And you'll like this line, Chris, when I always say to people when they're in that state of no serenity and insanity, I say, you know, when you're feeling out of your mind, you're probably somebody else's. Yeah. For me, it's one of my eight different personalities. Yeah. Yeah. People like all of them. I'm sure.

Maybe at least. No, the judge says I can't use the one that says kill, kill, kill all the time. Yeah. And I'll get the same bracelet off someday. That's such a great callback joke. I don't know. I think the audience is like, we've heard this 50 times. Stop it.

So, you know, this is really important because if you don't have self-actualization, if you're not self-aware, I met a lot of entrepreneurs that are not self-aware, and sometimes they can get away with it because, I don't know, they inherit their business and they get stupid money or they just got really lucky with their business model and hit home runs. And you're like, you're still an idiot. Like, I don't know.

You just got really lucky with this thing because you're dumb. But, you know, being self-aware and being able to be self-accountable and be able to know what's going on with yourself and be intentional is really important because you know your business can really the the larger it scales the more out of control it gets like i used to have people that would come in my office being it's so great that you you have a company and you do what you love and i'm like i don't love any of

this uh i love i love my podcast but it's about the only thing i really loved in all my years of being an investor um i've i've loved being the ceo i've loved investing in companies but i i so there's a lot of companies i'm like i really don't like this company but i don't know i like the money that comes from it i like being the boss um but uh you know you've got to you've got to to have that drive and self-awareness to know what's going on. Because if you start living in a state of denial as it scales, you're like, yeah, everything's fine. We don't need to do anything around here. I'm sure it'll stay fine. Business changes. It fluctuates. It's cyclical sometimes. We can have a good business model today and tomorrow it's gone,

or five years from now it's gone or 10 years it's gone. You know, the market changes, Amazon decides to buy into your industry or something. You're like, ah, crap. And they're like that, they're with the neighborhood. So these are, these are really important aspects. What else have we touched on that you talk about in your book and your coaching? Well, I actually want to touch on something that you said is that self-actualization is what all people are really searching for, right? Meaning and purpose. I mean, bottom line.

And so, you know, I actually, I described that as your big mofa. So I knew you'd like that word. People describe me as a big mofa, but that's another term I see. Not the same, probably. The big mofa is your big motivating factor for why you do what you do. And so self-actualization is one of those things.

When I work with people who are making absolutely ridiculous amounts of money, their focus is not to make more money. It's actually on self-actualization. Oh, really? They want to focus on, yeah, it's always being the best against their best version of last year. Yeah. So it's not about the dollar signs. By the way, money is just energy anyway, and we can talk about that at another time. I like that. But the truth is that they are focused, the most successful entrepreneurs that I've worked with

are focused on self-actualization. And then just the result, the byproduct is they build an empire. They make million multimillion dollars and they are able to empower so many more people with solutions because they're actually focused on that self validating success. You know, that's really true. That's really what you've said is really profound and

really struck me because that's my constant thing. In business, you know, it's very widget-based and you know that if you press this button, once you get your business model down and everything's working, you pretty much figure out that if you can press this button enough times, it's a money generator. But the challenge is like what we've talked about through the show is being present being able to get your task list done every day being able to get your marketing your accomplishments done every day the stuff you need to do and you know i think god when did i lose when i was being able to do everything i needed to do every day in my companies it was like somewhere in the 90s i just realized that that I was like, holy crap, if I cross the Rubicon where I can't do everything I

need to do every day and I should just give up with the madness of thinking I can try and do it and staying till 4 a.m. in the morning, leaving my office to a point that we almost put a shower in my office. Cause I'm like, I just go home to shower and change clothes. We just sleep on the couch. And I just realized that I just need to give it up. You just need to realize that you're not going to get all done. And that was like somewhere in the early 90s. And I'm still chasing, I don't know, whatever was on my to-do list back then. It's funny you say that because you're not alone in that.

Something that I just told my people, I said, if you're not self-validating your success, you're hiring sabotage on your mental team with that never-ending to-do list. Ah, there you go. I tell them every day, at the end of every day, you need to self-validate your success, and that's personally and professionally. So if you join the 5 a.m. club to work out, celebrate that. Put a birthday candle in some meatloaf or whatever. And, you know, we like birthdays, so just use a birthday candle. There you go. Put a birthday candle in some meatloaf or whatever and you know we like birthdays so just use a birthday candle so there you go put a birthday candle in there um that makes a big

difference but what what what you mean is so profound for me because i've realized that my biggest uh battle every day isn't making more money it's getting that button pressed more often and accomplishing those task lists. You know, Hey, you got to call this person. Hey, you got to network with that person. Hey, you got to do this. Hey, you know, there's certain steps that you have to do every day to accomplish what you want. And of course you can delegate a lot of stuff, um, to assistance, but there's still those core things that you need to accomplish every day. And, you know, sometimes you get distracted. You're like, I don't know, I'll go watch the news or, you know, one of the challenges I have is, you know,

going to the gym every day. And, you know, that's two hours at a time, especially on arm day, where you're going and doing stuff. And I suck down usually several different audio books on leadership and personal development or stoicism and so I'm learning and and doing that there but still it's a it's a time bleed and sometimes you go god I wish it could be just a home working on those little items I didn't get done today but then you know part of the thing of being my age is you're like I want to feel good tomorrow like a human being instead of like that i'm 55 and uh you know you feel so much better and and it helps you get more of those taskless items done that day but it's just a battle every single day and there's distractions you know there's phones notifications buzzes facebook tiktok especially and all that good

stuff um let's wander in unless you want to uh add on to any of that uh let's move on to the next subject unless you want to throw anything else in there i always have something to say chris please do please do you know it's also like you were just saying it's it starts with your headspace you know whatever you sell yourself your mindset's the number one problem is also the number one solution so if you sell yourself on i'm going to be um this is what i'm going to do and i'm going to feel really good about it that's different and most people fall victim to distraction because they're uninspired honestly most people don't know how to get inspired and they don't see it as something to be on their to-do list.

Like when I create the monetizing your influence to-do list for entrepreneurs or business owners, I always put number one, your mindset programming is first before it's a task. Because if you don't program your headspace, well, the rest of your day is going to be real interesting as you know. There you go. What's the old adage? If you fail to plan, you plan to fail, basically. Something like that. Something like that. I didn't plan it well. You said something that's really sticky.

We had an author on a couple days ago. I think it was called Brain Glue. And he talked about sticky lines. You have a lot of sticky lines. sticky uh we had a we had an author on a couple days ago i think it was called brain glue and he talked about sticky lines you have a lot of sticky lines um he talked about making these these very uh sticky like i don't know if acronyms the right word but you know something like what you said money is energy you know where people can think of something very simple but it sticks uh and you mentioned that earlier money is energy let's talk about what that means. Sure. So most people see money as a tool. Like if I ask you like, what, what is money? Most people

will describe their limiting beliefs, their bad experiences with money or what they think about it. Right. They don't actually describe what money is. Money is simply simply energy it's an energetic form of basically the feds is printing energy yeah exactly 100 uh no but you understand what i'm saying most people are incapable of activating like the law of attraction you what do you think about the law of attraction chris uh it it hasn't it hasn't right swiped me on Tinder yet. So evidently the traction isn't there. Maybe Bumble will come through. Or maybe a lot of deservability will, you know, I can't. Yeah.

Yeah. What does she look like? Is she blonde or brunette? Uh, well, she probably looks similar to me. Oh, okay. There you go. She's, she's brunette then. But when you think about, you know, I love this book.

It's actually a short pamphlet called money is God in Action by Raymond Charles Barker. A real old pamphlet. But it talks about people who have money have arrived at this subconscious belief that they will always have it. So what does that actually say about money? I had that up until the 2008 recession. And then something challenges our beliefs, and then we fall victim to a new belief and start living under the influence again. There you go. Of circumstances, environments, opinions, objections, and we talked about opinions earlier. Yeah, and they just went out and found more money.

Thank God that I had that muscle to be an entrepreneur. So I'm just like, well, you just go find a new gig. Exactly. Keep going. There you go but i like thinking of that because if you you know you as you mentioned so many people have so many hang-ups about money and sometimes you know we have these childhood repressions our parents would make comments you know you go to the store and and bug your mom and be like hey mom can we buy you know whatever

stupid thing you wanted as a kid i think i just shame kids wow but uh no we all did that you know we're like hey mom can we buy this toy or can we buy the cereal that's filled with sugar that will make us bounce off the walls and you'll lose your mind and she's like no and you know mom would well meaning say you know we don't have enough money and sometimes it creates those self-limiting beliefs where oh we don't have enough money and or you know you've some people you know have been told money's bad the root of all evil and so i like that analogy that money is energy because it kind of disempowers i think maybe uh those those maybe relationships or meanings that we have in our head that self-limit us and realize that, Hey, you know, if it's energy, let's just do what you call the empowerment

generator and generate more. Yes. And success begins with belief. There you go. That's what we don't sell ourselves. We sell ourselves. It begins with working 15, 16 hours a day. We sell ourselves on, I have to do what this person did. We sell ourselves, it begins with working 15, 16 hours a day. We sell ourselves on, I have to do what this person did. We sell ourselves all of these things that actually aren't authentic to us because success looks different for everyone. I work between 8 and 3 PM. That's what success looks like for me. And then I go play soccer with the kids, and then I just coach the world during these set hours. But success looks different for you, right? For all of us. And so, but success begins with belief. There you go. And that leads us down the road to accomplishing what we want, being intentional, being present and everything else. One thing you

talk about is logic and reason in our world. How is it important? Imagine that ties into being self-reliant, being self-actualized, et cetera, et cetera. Absolutely. You know, when it comes to being, well, two things in business and relationships, it's a little different. But I'm going to give you a fun, quirky phrase to practice every day when it comes to functioning with people who have differing opinions than you. And all I want to say is observe, don't absorb. Ah, I like that. See, here's another sticky item

observe don't uh uh absorb observe don't absorb you know because I'll do a show at the same time it doesn't work in my brain but most most people are constantly living in a state of asking themselves the question am I accepted or am I rejected? Oh, really? Relationships. Am I accepted or rejected by these clients or prospects? Am I accepted or rejected? And it may be a subconscious program. We don't actively, you know, ask ourselves, hey, does this person, you know, on a date,

right? I don't know if you're married or whatever, but you're not married. Okay. So I'm happy. I never get tired of it. Hey, perfect. You know, I actually got, I met my current husband on. Hey, perfect. I met my current husband in Zoom business networking. I can't even make this up.

So you got a Zoom divorce and then you got a Zoom marriage, basically? I mean, we actually got married on the beach and it was not Zoom, but yes. You met on Zoom. Wow. One relationship. Welcome to the COVID world there.

I should advertise for Zoom. Yeah, you really should. You could be the new dating app for, you know. Are you trying to meet that loved one or divorce that loved one who you used to love? Get Zoom. Also, all you damn Zoom employees get back in the office, which is so ironic. Right. But going back into alignment, you know, there's no such thing as acceptance or rejection in the world of business, in the world of sales, in the world of relationships.

There's in alignment with who you're being when you're doing, well, it makes the process so much simpler and more enjoyable, quite frankly, because you're no longer trying to think about what other people are thinking about you if they accept or reject you. That doesn't even exist. And that's part of the law of deservability as well. There you go. I just reject everybody because I don't like anyone. So there you go. You're intentional about it, at least. I'm intentional. I love how you spun that around. There we go. We came full circle. So there you go. You're intentional about it at least. I'm intentional. I love how you spun that around. There we go. We came full circle. So there you go. I love some of the stuff you talk about in the book and you've got a lot of great sticky stuff. I love this law of deservability.

I love what we talked about with the observe, don't absorb. Now, when you talk about observe don't absorb uh is it is it looking at stuff from a logical reasoning standpoint and not letting the emotionality of it overtake you because sometimes a business you know stuff happens uh you know uh there's there's fires that that light up sometimes it's in the sometimes it's on the factory floor when something you know lights up and you're like oh shit this the house is on fire the the building's burning or you know there's just like you know oh oh god we we have a huge hole where um we're losing money on a business model that used to work and now the model's changed and it's not working anymore you know uh you know the costs have risen and so now we're losing money, et cetera, et cetera.

How do you approach that observing and don't absorb? And let's do some detail on that a little bit deeper. So when you were talking about if there's a house on fire, et cetera, you have to jump into a reaction, which because that situation validates a reaction, right? Or a quick action, I would say. But when it comes to life circumstances and relationships, which business and relationships, business and people are synonymous, you want to really practice something that I like to call the rules of engagement. And the rules of engagement are very simple. Number one, it's pause with a purpose. It helps you process. Most of us launch into a reaction and then, well, you know, we have to fix our reactionary state, what it did, what we did in it. And so therefore we're not being empowerment generators in a nutshell. So the second rule of engagement is step into logic. Most people are living in a

reactionary state, living under the influence, circumstances, environment, situations, cashflow issues, et cetera. And we're not in a place where we can ask ourselves a question, be introspective and say, is this true for me or about me? Is what this person said true for me or about me? How different would our culture look if we were able to have that internal dialogue versus the intrinsic monologue, extrinsic monologue that people are having? Most people are just asking each other with statements and no one's asking any questions. So the third rule of engagement is speak the truth in professional settings or where there's obviously conflict and speak your truth where there's no conflict present and where emotional intimacy is built. So you always want to start with pausing with a purpose

first so you can process and figure out your next move. There you go. There you go. Let's, we're going along on the show, but let's get a few plugs in here for your website, how people can reach out to you, do business with you, what you do for them. I can see you do business and life coaching, motivational speaking. I think you've got a community here of successful business owners. Pitch us out on all the stuff you do there on your website, how you can help people, and then round about how they can reach out to you and see if they're a fit. Absolutely. For those who are interested in coaching

and dominating that negative headspace, monetizing your influence, and while mastering the successful entrepreneur mindset and lifestyle, you could hop directly on my calendar at bridgetham.me to find the book, to do your research ahead of time,

and to really adopt, like I said, limitless potential into your life and feel confident in doing that well. You could get the book for free plus shipping at stuckonready.com. And you can find me on TikTok, Facebook. If you like these fun, sticky sayings, as you said, Chris, LinkedIn, I put them everywhere so that people can start feeling more empowered in how they're doing their life and their business. There you go. You've got a lot of sticky things. I'll have to refer the show to you. He wrote a book called Brain Glue and it talks about these sticky little bits and they're easy to remember, you know, and you have a lot of them and they're, you know, they stick in

your head and you kind of have an aha moment with them they're they have that uh thing where you go oh wow okay that makes really good sense so you're really great at delivering those uh through your book and conversation we've had today a couple of your programs too there's your 90 day find your freedom program uh mindset strategy consulting eight weeks self-paced find your uh freedom program as you mentioned the book is there as well uh what sort of people or businesses do you work with is there a certain limit you're looking for or a success uh floor or uh how's that work so i'm looking for anyone who's in the area of entrepreneurship for the 90 days find your freedom program that's one-on-one coaching the stuck on ready program that i just launched with six months of group coaching is for any

entrepreneur looking to get to that next level. Um, and then when I do corporate trainings, I do sales trainings for teams. And I also personally coach the leaders. And by the way, leaders, I believe the definition of that is worthy of being followed. Ah, I love that. See, here we go. And more sticky. Uh, yes,

everything. That is so true. You know, people think that you're a leader cause you get a title, you know? And I remember when I first, uh, really where our companies became very large and successful.

Uh, I got, I got a little thing for my desk and it was one of those motivational posters they used to make in the 90s. And it said something to the effect that basically leadership isn't about your job title. You have to show up every day and earn it. And so it was a reminder to me that just because I was CEO didn't mean that I got to walk around being a narcissistic megalomaniac of Machiavellian princedom. I had to earn it. And so now I'm a complete narcissistic Machiavellianism dude.

Also, by the way, for those who want to be empowerment generators, you can come to my motivational speaking engagements, Chris. I do one specifically on unleash your potential and rewire your mind for inevitable success. There you go. So people are looking me through spring right now for that, if they want them for their companies, to get them amped up and inspired because, well, inspired people take action, right, Chris? Yep. And if you emotionally connect with people and and intellectually connect with people you get them to do more for you you know no one wants to be in a dead work invite where they're like oh what's going on i hate this i hate this job you know and especially with this

new generation uh the new gen z folks um with the weird music they need to be inspired they need to and they need to uh feel like there's something more to a job. They just don't want to show up, punch in, punch out, like maybe previous generations did. And I get it. I mean, I'm an entrepreneur because I want to feel more fulfilled. I think most people that are entrepreneurs, they feel like there's something more they can do.

It's enjoyable to give back, to donate to society and, you know, be able to live life on your own terms. It's nice not having to wait till every... When do people get paid again? Like Fridays or something? It's nice not to have to wait to get paid. You're like, oh, I'll take some money now and I don't know, I'll go down to

McDonald's or go take a little trip for the weekend. There you go. So this has been very insightful, Bridget, a lot of fun and so many details. You have so much great sticky, these brain glue stuff. So I love that. I think it's going to become my new thing for talking about stuff because I like the concept of having memorable stuff that people remember. It's very easy, you know, because if you blather out like a whole line of, you know, buzzwords, corporate code crap,

you're just like, what the hell does all that mean? And what did you say? You know? We want to empower people. There you go. Those spooky things empower people. You're going to love the book, Chris. Definitely, definitely.

So order up the book, folks, wherever fine books are sold. Suck on ready. Master the entrepreneurial mindset. Break free from self-sabotage and access your limitless potential. Bridget, give us your.com. So if you can find you on the interwebs, please. Absolutely. So Bridget Hom.com is my website.

Direct calendar link is Bridget Hom.me. There you go. And thank you very much, Bridget, for coming on the show. Very insightful and fun. Oh, my gosh. You're a blast. I try to be. I try to be.

I'm still working on it, though. You succeed. I'm just telling you. You succeed. Well, thank you very much. Thank you very much. And thanks to our audience for tuning in, because without you, I wouldn't be a blast. I'd just be blasting, I don't know, screaming at the wall or something.

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