The Chris Voss Show - The Chris Voss Show Podcast – Tim Storey – The Miracle Mentality: Tap into the Source of Magical Transformation in Your Life

Episode Date: March 16, 2021

Tim Storey - The Miracle Mentality: Tap into the Source of Magical Transformation in Your Life During challenging times, toxic thoughts can drag you into a mindset that’s mundane, messy, and mad. Negative thinking can undermine all aspects of your life, from family and romantic relationships to career satisfaction, financial stability, and physical and spiritual health. To overcome these obstacles, you need a new mindset--a miracle mentality--where dreams are achievable, hope is actionable, and spiritual healing is possible. In the Miracle Mentality, life coach, speaker, and author Tim Storey provides you with a road map to transcend negative thinking, leading you to bigger adventures, more opportunities, and deeper meaning. Experience a miracle mentality transformation with… Tim’s honest and powerful testament that will strengthen your perspective, positivity, and personal choice Essential coaching that will help you navigate friendships and romantic relationships Tips on establishing a fulfilling work-life balance An encouraging and practical approach to physical, mental, and spiritual health The discovery of a new mindset and freedom that can be applied to your personal finances Honest talk about the influential role of a parent and information to help you improve your parenting skills Bonus features include: Chapter Summaries, to provide a quick reference of each topic’s key points The Miracle Mentality Total Mindset Assessment, to gauge whether you’re living in the mundane, messy, or mad in six areas of your life (parenting, love relationships, friendships, work/career, money, and health) Miracle Mentality Workbook, to help you apply what you’ve learned and brainstorm ways to infuse all areas of your life with a Miracle Mentality

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Also go to Goodreads.com for us as Chris Voss. You can also go to all of our Facebook groups, LinkedIn groups, and Instagram accounts as well. Today we have a most amazing author on the show. I actually came across him in Clubhouse, the Clubhouse app, if you're familiar with that. We were in one of the rooms and he was up on the dais there talking about the launch of his new book. The gentleman's name is Tim Story. He is the author of many books, but the latest one, The Miracle Mentality, tap into the source of magical transformation in your life. Tim is my friend, life coach, humanitarian, nice guy. Welcome to the show, Tim.

How are you? I'm great. And I was enjoying hearing your voice. Like when you did the intro, I was impressed and I hear good voices. You like barely saying no one wants to hear me really saying that's what it is no but i said barely chris what an honor to be on your program today it's an honor to have you my friend and congratulations on the launch of your new book yeah so this book yeah you never know when you launch a book right so i've been working on it for three years, Chris.

Writing it, rewriting it. I have an amazing editor who is a teacher, a professor at Princeton University. And we would just go back and forth, back and forth. And I really think we've created some magic here. Awesome. I knew that it was brewing but then it happened and now it's selling like hot cakes is that still the same selling that's awesome and i think you i think i heard you on another broadcast on my research said you

guys sold a lot of books just off that clubhouse room that you did. Yeah. The rumor is over 20,000 one night, just in the opening alone. But what's happening is my friends are being nice to me. Oprah's going to interview me, Steve Harvey. I'm going to do NBC Today show in three days, then ABC Good Morning America, then my buddy Gail King. So we're just going to roll. Just go help people to try to build up their mentality in the midst of all this mess we've been dealing with. That's awesome sauce. In fact, I've seen Gail on Clubhouse as well. Give us your plugs so people can find you on the interwebs. Check out your website and order up the book.

I think the easiest thing, Chris, is just Tim Story, but it's S-T-O-R-E-Y.com. So TimStory.com. Then you'll find out what I do. And we'll talk about the books and then we'll talk about it later. But TimStory.com. There you go. So do you want to talk about what motivated you to write the book, or do you want to talk more about what you do right now? Because you mentioned you might want to talk about it later. I'm open to it. You ask me the question, and I will answer, because this is the Chris Voss show. Let's move some books first.

How about that? So tell me why you wrote this book. All right. So can I pick it up and show it? Yes, yes. Okay, watch this. Yes, please. Do you feel the magic?

Oh, I feel it. I can feel the magic. It's coming near you. It's coming near you. It's like 3D. It's just amazing. So, Chris, being that we're friends, look at this first chapter, Discovering the Miracle Mentality. Here's what I found out.

Little kids, they love to imagine. They love to believe that there's more to life than what they see you you you would agree with that oh yeah yeah because because when i was speaking at these schools for kids that are like six and seven years of age because i speak to all ages and i'll say what do you want to be an astronaut little girl a ball a ballerina. It's something like magical. So discovering your miracle mentality. And then I talk about chapter two, toiling in the mundane, the messy and the mad. Here's what happens to us. We start off as kids with these magical thoughts. And then guess what happens? Life interruptions start to hit you. Maybe you're a kid, find out you got asthma. Maybe you're a kid, your parents get divorced. Maybe you're a kid, something bad happens to you. Maybe you got bullied. And I find that what happens is that all of a sudden,

people go from what I call the recovery zone, okay, which is like stuff they're going through. And they're so deep into that recovery zone, they have a hard time going into what I call the discovery zone. So as adults, most people that I know, don't spend much time in the discovery zone. So I'm teaching you in this book, how to realign yourself with your miracle mentality. There you go. We lose that innocence that we had of as a child when we look at the world as a, in a, in a, in a, in a great thing of, of possibilities and wonderment and curiosity and learning. And then we jaded as adults, don't we?

No doubt about it. And you, you use some amazing synonyms. It's like you walk around with a dictionary. It's not too bad. I went to public school. That was good. Because I'm a bit of a wordsmith, man. You were just laying down every synonym right there.

But there's no doubt about it. We lose this wonderment. And what I talk about in the book is we have to live in the mundane. The mundane is trash day, throw your trash, got to wash your dishes, got to keep your house clean, got to go to the DMV, you got to get your registration tags and actually put them on. Get my point? That's like mundane stuff you got to do. But when these life interruptions happen from life coaching people for over 30 years, I find that the messy gets into their mundane. Okay. And now you got the mundane and the messy. So you're not really looking to think like miracle, magical thoughts,

extraordinary thoughts, because man, you're just trying to deal with your mundane and you're messy there you go it's hard to get it's hard to get really excited when you're taking out that trash there's not a lot no doubt about it okay but let's talk about messy let's talk about covid 19 so february of last year we were flowing. Heard some stuff on the news about some things were going on. And March, people are wearing masks. We're quarantined. And people are nervous. There's a lot of fear that people lost jobs.

And then it gets really messy. And for some of us, people died. Because of my background, I have a doctorate in world religion. I just officiated two funerals in the last four weeks. So this is real stuff and both COVID related. So my point is, is that this is real stuff that's going on. But at the same time as a mundane and the messy if you're not careful it goes to the third stage in my book and that's the mad the mad or the madness when everything is just chaotic okay

and let's think about this for a minute because a lot of people chris haven't you seen some of your friends start to struggle yeah we've we've all been struggling with this coronavirus thing. This pandemic has just been quite upending. Upending is a good word. So I decided to write this book, and this is more than just easy stuff, really help people walk through this because I believe that life is still good, but I think that you have to make room for magical moments.

And I think that people are so caught up in this messy and the madness that they're not making time for magical moments. Give me an example. Yes, please tell us what they are. Okay, it's like little kids, right? So I don't know this about you. Do you have any children? No. Okay. So I do, but my children are not so little anymore, but when they were little, they would say, Hey dad, can I play? Okay. But first you got to clean your room, but Hey, but then can I play?

But you got to go to school today, but, But then can I play? You get my point? So when they're in kindergarten, first grade, second grade, it's all about playtime. So I did a lot of research and I have some researchers too, which makes me extra special. So I have researchers and myself who found this thing out about kids and play. The one reason they like to play is it gives them an opportunity to manifest in the area of their imagination. That's why little kids have imaginary friends. And one of the things that kids like to do, remember the sandbox? That's almost like a thing of the past. I love the sandbox. Okay, so kids could go in a sandbox forever, and they could have,

I wish I had a cup here, but they could have one cup and just scoop and then play and then play and scoop, right? Yeah. Okay, so I think that as adults, we almost lose that time that when we were kids was like our playtime. And some silly person will say, I still got mine. I like to go out drinks with the boys. I'm not talking about that. That's more of a social life but i'm talking about taking time to be creative and let your imagination soar man that's there's some beautiful things in life when you do that and what's the best way to make that space in your life because that's the biggest problem people have is they're always running around chasing this that and the other and and they don't make space for it. Okay. So number one, for those that are taking notes back at home, number one, you don't have to take notes because you have such a good mind. Number one, you need to wake up. And to wake up,

as I looked at the dictionary, means to come out of a place of sleep. You're asleep. You need to wake up. Conscious. I'm awake. So if you are living in the mess, are living in the madness, and you feel like you're a discount version of yourself, you need to wake up.

Okay? You need to wake up. So this show today is going to help wake you up. Tim Story is going to help you up. Chris is going to wake up. Okay? You need to wake up. So this show today is going to help wake you up. Tim Story is going to help you up. Chris is going to help you. Here we go. No one, you need to wake up. Secondly, Chris, you're going to love this. You got to take inventory.

You got to say, okay, it's been a pandemic. It's been a little long. It's been about a year now. A little over a year, right? Quarantine. People like in Texas, they're not so much quarantined. But okay, I got to take

inventory. How am I doing physically? How am I really doing in the clarity of my mind? How am I doing with my family? How am I doing with my singleness? How am I doing with my dog or my cat? How's my job doing? How's my money doing? So you wake up. Secondly, you take inventory. Ooh, this is good because the inventory is tough because people don't like to really look at the facts. Sometimes that mirror isn't as glamorous as you want it to be. Okay. Third is so powerful.

You have to partner with the right people, Chris. You got to partner with the right people. All it takes is one bad apple to spoil the whole bunch, to quote Donny Osmond think i was a teenager when the osmonds were on yeah so partnering is really important then right you got to partner with the right people okay and what what do i mean by that you need to get around people that have a positive mindset that in the midst of everything that we're going through that they that they are speaking positive words to you if you're ill like hey what do we need to do? We'll help you get better. Or your daughter's acting up. Hey, let's try to get them through. So you have to partner with people

with the right mindset, that have the right mindset, okay? And have the right motives, okay? So mindset and motives are very important in this whole partnering with the right people. So you So mindset and motives are very important in this whole partnering with the right people. So you become a weight, take inventory, partner with the right people. Then here's what you need. You need, you need principles. Principles. I need to have principles too.

Principles. Yeah. Like principles are in this book. I talk about having character, honoring your word, prospering where you're planted. It's almost like Stephen Covey's book, like his book that he did on the principles. That was a good book. John Maxwell writes good books on principles. But this has all kinds of principles and it has an assessment area where you could assess where you think you are with your principles. So what are your standards? What do you live by? So for me, I'm a Bible guy. So I like to read the Psalms and the Proverbs and I do that every single day. So I put certain principles into my soul so that my

principles will create a practice. Okay. So you have to have the right principles. Okay. Out of the right principles. Now you create the right plan. And I'm going to tell you, cause I've been coaching people 30 years. You cannot create the best plan unless you're clear in mind clear the clutter okay you gotta have the right principles before you start writing down that right plan do you like this so far i love it i

love it these are great wake up take inventory partner with the right people principles and plan yeah get out of the right plan i think people are making plans from a bad place never make decisions from a bad place big decisions what's that old saying if you don't plan if you don't fail if you don't if you fail to plan clearly i didn't plan this if you fail to plan you plan to fail there you go there you go chris this is what i do for a living so just just there you go just be chris voss okay don't try to get in my lane buddy i'll stay in my that's like telling tony robbins hey tony let me tell you about the principles of power i pulled a george bush i was totally turning it the other way, the wrong way in my head. Fool me once. You fool me once.

He did that. It was funny. I've seen that video. Chris, this is a side of me that people don't know. I've never said it on anybody else's show. I've seen that video about 10 times on YouTube because it's so cute. Because I like George Bush. In fact, his daughter Jenna is interviewing me on Thursday.

That's awesome. On the NBC Today show. So I like the Bushes. They've been nice to me. But anyway, I've seen that video about 10 times because it was funny. Principles and the plan. The plan

is so important. Chris Voss, because life is still excellent. But what's your plan? So why do I need the right plan, Tim? Because this pandemic has created three things. Oh, the motivator is going to motivate. Number one, delays. Oh, we've been delayed. I'm in line.

Everywhere I go, I'm in line. Oh, I'm in line and I have a mask. And I've got to be six feet back. Look. I've had my shots, so you're fine. Mostly rabies, though. I'm coming closer. Okay, so watch.

We've all had delays. We've all had denials. Ooh. Delays are one thing. Denials. That can hurt. Denied of a job. Ooh.

Look at this. Denied. It was your graduation. You can't walk it. What? It's your wedding and you can't have humans there? Delays. Denials.

And here goes the third one. Detours. Think of so many of our friends, Chris Voss show. Watch. Detours. They don't know how to handle them. They don't even know how to put on their own navigation. Someone move my cheese.

Yeah, someone move my cheese. Detour. Dorothy, get back on the yellow brick road. The next book by tim story all right so tell me what you think about my uh action plan uh so far chris on wake up let me ask you this on the wake-up principle that you have does does that is that bearing into being present i got into eckhart tolle's be present book and and that was a wake-up moment for me because I felt like I was really drifting. Is being present maybe part of that? Hit it spot on because Eckhart Tolle talks about the power of now. And to be in the power of now,

which I am, I literally live in it. And I got it coming at me from every direction. When you're the comeback coach to the stars, there's a star needing me right now. So I have learned to be in the power of now. I am fully present, fully feeling, and fully alive. Most people are constantly distracted. Somebody else's urgent is not necessarily yours. That's true. That's true. Can you repeat that? I was texting. No, I'm just kidding. That was funny. We do some of that on the Chris Foss show. We're known for it. Waking up, being present. That was something I struggle with. I, I was, I was in real fog for a few years and I was struggling just to identify my, I have dog kids. So I was like, they're here and I'm here and I'm just not, I'm not in the moment. And so that was a real struggle.

So I love that concept. Wake up, take inventory. I thought this was really important because a lot of people don't. And it is hard for people sometimes to go, what is my financial situation? And, or what is my relationship with and stuff like that? And it's hard for people sometimes to go, what is my financial situation? And, or what is my relationship with and stuff like that? And it's hard for people to sometimes face questions that they're like, I may not like this answer. What do you think? What do you think is the best way to approach that? If you don't like the case.

So listen, the take inventory thing is difficult for me. I'll give an example. I would say six months into the quarantine, I started to feel it. So I went to a very nice part of Southern California because I live in Southern California, but I don't live by the beach. But I went and I got a hotel for two days by myself,

overlooking the ocean because I just needed to breathe. I needed to see something different. I was going stir crazy in my own house, but yet I didn't tell people about it because Tim's story. But man, just to get out and take early morning walks and see the seagulls, really not even joking with you. And then to go to a little restaurant and have my mask on. And one of my buddies, a guy who's a creative, met me for dinner one night. It was just nice to talk to a human being like that. And then get back out there the next morning and walk on the beach and see the seagulls. Two days of clearing my mind so set me into a better place. And that was because I took inventory and I realized I had gone from mundane to messy myself.

And so, yeah, taking inventory is not always easy, but we got to do it. I used to do that too. I learned as an entrepreneur that when i get burnout or fried instead of trying to do that once a year vacation thing i take weekend vacations like you did i go down to santa monica's fairmont and get a room there and and i would open up the windows and literally sometimes strip the bed put it on the little patio there so i could fall asleep or listen to the waves crashing. Now you just, I'm smirking because you just mentioned one of my getaway places, that hotel. Yeah. So my friend, my friend runs the bungalow, which is that nice restaurant outside that overlooks the ocean, the famous Brent bolthouse whose parents his in-laws are part

owners of the golden state warriors that's one of my best friends of 25 years who has the bungalow so i love the fairmont then you got to cross the traffic light yeah to get across the street but how beautiful is that stretch oh it's beautiful and beautiful. And then you look to the left and you see the Ferris wheel over there, don't you? Yeah. If I can't get in the Fairmont, I go to the Lowe's down the block. Another great place. Yeah, beautiful. I love going in the atrium of that place, and they have the whole line of the palm trees.

Do you see how you're feeling better just thinking about it? Yeah. In fact, I got to go, Tim. I'm going to the fair. Ladies and gentlemen, I'll finish off the chris boss show this is this is tim boss just meet me there tim we'll have lunch we'll finish recording it's tim boss the brother you've never heard about just we'll just meet at the fairmont and we'll just do that we'll do the rest of the show there exactly there my goodness i'll do the show live so partnering there. Do the rest of the show there. My goodness. I'll do the show live.

So partnering with the right people, I love this part too. When everything started falling, events started canceling, the Chris Voss Show, we do a lot of events, CES and shows, South by Southwest. We have massive sponsors, massive packages that we do, and we take the show basically remote. And so we bring in a lot of money doing that speaking of course and all that stuff that we all lost and so watching just the dominoes slowly fall of just money evaporating for the year was just it was it was hard to deal with and i entered this kind of little dark depression and one one of my friends, Robert Scoble, he put on Facebook, he said, here's what you do right now.

It's real simple. Here's what you do right now. You either find a lifter or you be a lifter. One of those two things. Find what you're going to be and go do it. Is that his original saying? I believe so. I'd have to check with him.

We're good friends. So I'll ask him for you. Find a lifter. Or be a lifter. Or be a lifter. Yeah. And that got me out of my funk. It took me a little.

I had to fake it until I make it. And so I said, look, okay, he's always my lifter. And so I said, what assets do I have? I took an inventory, like you said. And I said, you know what? I i have i took an inventory like you said and i said you know i have the chris voss show i have an audience i have people listen to me all over social media platforms people love you they i don't know about that let's not push it but i've heard that they they i think it's more uh like disgust and hate but but still they follow me because they want to see when the car is going to crash and burn. I've seen, I've seen those tweets on Twitter, actually. They're funny.

But anyway, I, so I took inventory and I said, what, what can I do? Well, what am I good at? And I'm like, I'm good at being a lifter. I'm good at being an inspirer. I'm good at being there. So I've just got to fake it till I make it. And I did a bunch of shows that were really hard to do. It was really hard to get in the lifter gear because I really wasn't in the thing, but I knew if I pushed it, that if I worked to try and be a lifter and, and what's nice is I lost a lot of my companies that we built over 20 years, a bunch of them with the crash in 2008. And I had a toolbox that I learned from there after I had to reinvent myself

and become someone new and establish new companies. And so I fell back in that toolbox and went, okay, I know how to do this. I, this was hard in 2008, but now I know what to do right now. And so I started digging out of that toolbox and sharing out on the podcast. And the first, honestly, the first three or four episodes were really hard to do because I was trying to be a lifter like i'm not really the guy who should be lifting right now but i hear you that really helped me and eventually we got some we got you know really good shows gave people really good data and hopefully we helped some people through that chris it is so true what you're saying and so whether you want to

call it karma or you reap what you sow there there's no doubt about it, is that what you make happen for someone else, life will make happen for you. That's true. So my life since I was a teenager is I've been a humanitarian. I've now been to 75 countries of the world helping change people's lives. And I could be like half blown up in my personal life. And when I would still give back, it's amazing how healing that was. So I think it's a, it's a law wherever you think it comes from. I believe it comes from God, but I believe you reap what you sow. And there's, there's no doubt about it. And I think that even in people's pain that they should be a lifter.

Yeah, definitely. And one of the things that came out of it is we changed the format of the show. We opened it up to all authors and even nonfiction people. And we've inspired done a lot of social justice shows and help people do better. And I think we changed the world more now. I love this show more than ever in all the years I've been doing it. Principles was an important thing. Do we want to get rid of people that are the emotional vampires, the drama vampires, the negative vampires, the manipulators in our life? I'm going to make this really cool because a lot of people speak

on these topics and that's what they always like to go to get rid of the haters okay so here's i'm going to give you the three levels of of people that we usually deal with and this is this is going to sound very simplistic but i i dialogue with an amazing therapist who's just brilliant at that crazy level about this. And she says, Tim, this is so good. So number one, first level of intimacy of people is the casual. Hey, Chris, this is Tim. Tim, this is Chris. You like bass fishing? So do I. Oh my God, we should go bass fishing. You're from North Carolina. I'm from North Carolina. That's like the casual friend. That's what we just encounter all the time. The second level of connection, human connection, is the intimate.

Intimate. Now, many times, the intimate, you did not vote those people in. They're your family. Okay? I've see this movie alright you're gonna have to see them at Thanksgiving and Christmas for sure that's your intimate

could be your brother if you're two boys you had to sleep in the same room sister had to sleep in the same room you really didn't have that much in common but they're intimate they got the same last name and then you got some cousins oh my god didn't have that much in common, but they're intimate. They got the same last name. And then you got some cousins.

Oh my God. Then you guys may have to do a once a year family reunion and I'll put the Voss family. Isn't this great? That's the challenge. Is that that intimate place is where people get jacked up because many times

they share their secrets with people just because they're their family or it's their cousin or it's their co-worker or it's somebody else that has a similar platform as you doing business and and an entrepreneur and all the things that Chris Voss does. And I think that people get entangled with the wrong people. Okay. In that intimate level, because they're not making the right choices. I'm a pro at this, trust me. The third level is the invited guest. Ooh, this is so good. Just because you know them doesn't mean you need to invite them. I just officiated a wedding.

There's a show on HGTV, okay? And it's called Flip or Flop. The lady on the show, christina is my great friend okay and so don't say don't say anything because she's my great friend now she also has another show christina life by design her best friend cassie got married and i officiated the wedding okay so because i do stuff like that. So I'm going to tell a story about this. So I was talking to her and I said, how many people are coming to the wedding?

So she gave me the amount. Okay. But she has a lot of friends because she's one of the most amazing women I know, Cassie. And, but she can only invite so many people because she can only invite so many people. That's interesting, right? Same thing in our life. Some of you are bringing people that should be casual friends into the invited guest section. Bringing them in deep, deep, deep, deep.

How you doing, Chris? Just because they ask the question doesn't mean that you have to give them the answer. I don't give people straight answers if I don't know them. I got to know their motives. What's your motive? Why are you asking me that? Why do you want to know? Why do you want to know how much I make from speaking? Why do you want to know what's it like to be so handsome?

Really? Do you really want to know that? Yeah. I just want to know your routing number and your account number and your bank. I want to give my phone number away today. My phone number, Chris, is 555-5555. I want to give that away. So would you say this would be like boundaries good to establish boundaries is that right there okay a great book a great book to boundaries towns

wrote that book with his buddy boundaries this is all about boundaries I'm a master of boundaries. So I could be talking to Chris Voss and I'll throw in Grant Cardone, two friends of mine. Let's say we're having lunch at the Fairmont. Let's take it up a scale. We're having brunch because we're the kind of guys. Yeah, we're brunch guys. We're brunch guys. We're brunch guys. We're brunch guys. We own it.

I got the truth. We're just trying to say that. And then some guy, let's say some random guy comes in and goes, oh, my God, dude, freaking A, can't believe it. It's Chris Voss. Totally doesn't even pay attention to Grant, doesn't even pay attention to me. Pay attention to Chris.

And says to us, hey, I'm a fan of Chris Voss. Can we sit down? We have the right to say, you seem like a great guy, but we're having a conversation we've been waiting to have for a while. That's boundaries. There you go. Isn't that so good? Is that so good or what? Come on.

That's important. Yeah, Grant's really awesome. Talked to him a few times on Clubhouse. In fact, we're usually on a dais together always. His wife follows me, which's really awesome. Talked to him a few times on Clubhouse. In fact, we're usually on a dais together always. His wife follows me, which is really cool. I thought that was... Elena's one of my great friends. Yeah.

She is the one that told me about Clubhouse. And she was going to use her one ticket to get her buddy, Tim Story, on there. And she got you on, and that's how we met, the serendipity of all. You see? So your last point with plan, what's a good plan? We want people, of course, to buy the book so they can really get the details. The thing about – of course I want to give some more. And the thing about this thing here, okay?

Can I tell you that I'm not on a sales tour? And this is the truth because to me, I'm not a salesy guy, but I think that's why it works for me. When I speak at these conferences, they all say I set records for how long I have to sign stuff. I'm there sometimes four or five hours signing because I connect to the soul. And when people connect with you, then they want to say, holy shmoly, this guy's making sense. I want. So there's no sales thing here. I'm just telling this thing could take you to another level. So this idea of the plan is not enough but a plan is a is a scheme is a scheme it's an it's an intention okay so you got a plan but most people's plans are coming out of a place of a mess if you're in a messy place you're gonna you need to create a messy vacation for you and your kids yeah that's true

right didn't you see the Chevy Chase movie? Yeah, yeah. It was in a mess. He just kept doing stupid stuff. You got the plan, and then guess what you need next? Once you got the plan, you need persistence.

Ah, persistence. Write that down. That's always good. Let me write this down. You need persistence people you gotta stick with the plan i do a lot in beverly hills right so my office was in beverly hills forever i've lived in beverly hills forever so here's the deal you get around people like you go eat with them in a nice restaurant we'll take the polo lounge, Barrel Hills Hotel.

And so maybe the wife of one of my friends says, oh, I don't eat that anymore. I'm vegan. Okay. How long you been vegan? A day. Welcome to California. Welcome.

Welcome to LA. California, LA, yeah. But catch her in three weeks she's something else then catch her in four more weeks something else so common not just with women men just people in general you gotta be persistent you gotta keep on keeping on right you know i learn how to push through i do that different thing though but it's mostly with my multiple personalities yeah psychiatrists are working on that but the multiple personality thing is working for you because you see your wit is everywhere you're like like a Jim Carrey with a slower delivery.

Yeah. Yeah. He drinks more coffee than I do. That's what it is. But as long as my psychiatrist and the judge says, as long as they stay away from the voices that say kill, kill, kill that personality, I'm okay. Exactly. Yeah. Yes.

And you're allowed to be on the air still. My parole agent's in the other room, so he's just waiting for me. So this is awesome. Persistence. Persistence. Because if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. And if you're not persistent about that planning and executing, you're not going to. Get back up.

See, I think so many people, like, let me tell you a confession. All right, here we go, guys. We're about to get the confession from Tim. This is a confession. So I am not a great snow skier. I have been two times. The first time I took lessons, okay, took lessons the first day. Second day, I went out there and I did something where they call snow plowing.

I basically just did this, okay? So it was all guys, like guys who do well in life. And they're like, come on, Tim. Whoa, Tim's story. Well, come on. This is not what I expected. They're like, Tim. Whoa, Tim Story. Come on. This is not what I expected. They're like. Okay, I'm from Compton.

That's not really what we aspire to become. Snow skier, are you with me? Oh, yeah. I grew up in SoCal. I was not into skiing. I still am not into skiing. Okay, but just here. So the second time I went skiing,

I'm trying to tell you, it wasn't much better. I was still like snow plowing. I was a little afraid. But guess what? They were little kids. Woo! Zoop! Zoop! I think one went through my leg. Woo!

That's what the sticks are for, to hit them with when they go by. 100%. So now I got these friends of mine. Fancy friends. And they all want to keep taking me snow skiing. And I've decided to stop avoiding it.

So I probably within the next two weeks because it's still that season here in California, I'm going to go up to those mountains up there to the big bear. And I'm going to take lessons or I might go to Utah or somewhere. And I'm doggone it, Chris, I'm going to be persistent.

Do you like this? Do you like this coming out of me? I'm going to do it. I'm going to be persistent. Do you like this? Do you like this coming out of me? I'm going to do it. I love this. I'm going to get back up. As long as you don't go full Sonny Bono and ski into a fucking tree, we're all cool. Exactly. That's the crap that I read and saw that scared my chocolate self.

So I was afraid. Oh, I'm going to fall. Oh, then I'm going to get up. Then I get up i'm gonna fall then i'm gonna get up i'm gonna fall welcome to the world tim story get your chocolate self out there get some skis and fall and get up and get better yeah i like this do you like this as a life coach i love this the whole reason i don't ski is because i'm against trees, though. That's just for me, though. But that's me. I'm listening. So some other chapters in your book, activating the magical.

Do we want to talk about that just a little bit? Heck yes. Okay. I believe that most of us believe in magic. Magic scares people, that word. They think, ooh, the paranormal. That's only 8% of its usage. Magical means extraordinary. That's me. I like that. Uncommon. Watch this. Watch Tim's story just start rhyming here. Not normal, okay? Uncommon, not normal. uncommon not normal supernatural extraordinary so this guy walt disney walks into an amusement park in the in the 30s and he says i'm gonna build my own amusement park but mine's

gonna be watch different better and more magical 1955 disney Disneyland opens. Costs about $18 million. What Walt Disney saw prior to it opening was orange groves. You're from California. Orange County. Orange groves. He saw orange groves, but he also saw Disneyland. This is beautiful. So magical thinking had him thinking from the thirties to 1955, till it opened and then it went beyond and all the things he did.

He said, I'm going to do my own amusement park, but it's going to be different, better, more magical. That's what I'm looking for from people. There you go. I believe your life is supposed to be different, better, and more magical. So we should look for those moments in our family and our interactions with clients and different. The magic is everywhere. So watch this. We always think it's like a big event. Oh my God, I went to Coachella. I saw this band.

They blew me away. No, that's not what I'm saying right now. Magic is everywhere. Magic is in the fact, look how well we get along okay we're having a magical conversation that's going to help a lot of people magical

is also this like going to your kid's soccer game and actually paying attention and not texting and seeing that the little rascal finally scored a goal, then he looks up to see if you saw it but you're like, down here. You just missed the magic, Karen. Okay.

I'm Chris. This is good, though, what I'm saying? So the other day, I was busy being Tim Story. I was feeling it. I was feeling the Tim Story. I was feeling it. All was feeling the Tim Story. I was feeling it. All kinds of stuff was going on. My people were around.

They were telling me all this amazing stuff happening. I write for American Airways Magazine every month. Every month, I'm in the magazine. United Airlines, Alliance, every month. 90 airports. If you travel, 90 airports of the world. There's a big screen. You'll see my face, me motivating people.

All the restaurants, you got to my face me motivating people all the restaurants you gotta deal with me i'm in one million hotel rooms holy crap no for real one million but when you turn the tv on there i am hello sorry you can't get away from me okay so we were talking about all that but instead of it like firing me up it was stressing me out i was feeling stressed out so i don't smoke cigarettes or anything like that. So I said, it's 2 o'clock in the afternoon. I feel stressed out. So I snuck away from my staff, and I went to my backyard.

And I said, guys, I just need to check my emails. I just want to get away from people. Go to my backyard. Chris, I'm going to tell you something awesome. This may bring a tear to your eye. You're sitting there, a little stressed out. Even though all these things are happening, people are loving me.

Oh, my God. Look at me. Life coach to the stars. I'm outside. Out of nowhere. Three butterflies come by. They come so close to my face. I'm not kidding.

I almost felt it. They come by. I'm not joking. They go like this they circle and they swing by again so I call a friend of mine

who's into stuff like this a lady she goes describe them so I describe them she tells them what kind of butterflies they are she goes that is so unusual to see three like that together and she explained all these different things that we won't talk about right now but she explained all these things about butterflies so i feel that if i had had my head down

just caught up in all my craziness of life that hits me sometimes, it hits us all, I would have missed the magic. Yeah, most definitely. Most definitely. That was a cool thing. And then it was almost like they said, let's go back. He's awesome. And they curled back. Yeah.

Maybe they need coaching, though. Maybe that was. Yeah, that could have been it. Probably that needs butterfly coaching so the magical is not the magical chris is not just like way out there well i'm gonna be no the magic is in i'm alive man i'm alive i've been through so much in life my father died when i was 10 my brother died at an early age my sister died in a car accident where a friend was driving out of seven people in our families three passed away

i could have woke up today just being pissed like i don't need this crap but no i look for the magic yeah you gotta look for the magic i remember when when my dog, I had, I had my Husky had cancer for a year and a half and I was hospice carrying her. And I was really angry about a lot of things. And I don't think I was dealing with it well. And, and a lot of times she would just come by once a day, go potty outside, come back in. And she didn't want to be messed with when she was going through what she was going through. She was old too. She's, she's kind of like I am now. She's like, don't mess with me. I just leave me alone. Let me sleep. And, and so a lot of those moments went by when she would finally come out and I wouldn't try and jump on them and go, let's, let's spend some magical time

together. And so now I love this. I love this already, but keep coming, but I love this already. And so now with my dogs that I have now, I try and take moments out when I'm in my day where we go play in the yard. And I schedule time. I go, we've got to go at least spend 15 minutes with dogs outside. Yeah. And I look at them and I pet them and I look in their eyes and I make connections. And I think about how beautiful and great it is that they're in my life right now and how blessed I really am.

And it really helps me focus on them, their importance to me, my love of them. And they're trying to have that sort of same connection with me too. They're looking at me going, Dad, look at us, play with us. Don't walk by as you're going to the bathroom or whatever I'm doing, go in the kitchen. Here, spend some time with us. And so, yeah, these magical moments that we spend. And sometimes they're over an instant. But I love what you're saying because you were in a bit of a mess with your dog.

I almost wish it was a different name besides dogs because I think you did say something like a phrase. Husky. But also, oh my gosh. Oh, my pet, but also, oh my gosh, my dog kids. Yeah. Your dog kids. I'm not kidding. Some of my friends that have dogs, they are like such a blessing to their lives. And I see the connection. If I didn't travel so much, I would get a dog, but I travel too much. And so I can't, but what a blessing that a pet kid can be. But you had to rise up and take inventory and say, come on, Chris, step up your attitude here.

There's still some magic in the middle of this tough situation. So I think we're helping people today. I think we're telling them that in the midst of their setback, they don't have to sit there, don't settle there, don't cement yourself in that setback, but get up that life is still magical. Life is still good. No matter what you're facing, it could be really crappy stuff,

that there are still some great moments. And right when you think life is not great, look around at kids. Pay attention to them at Target or Walmart or the shopping center and see that they're still moving. They're still flowing. They got a look in their eye. They're still asking for ice cream and toys. And even though your life feels like it sucks look at the look at the future meaning these kids coming up man yeah we got to get back to that

wonderment that curiosity that love of life and i i try and look in my dog's eyes i try and spend time with them i try and connect and just like we we talked about with the wake point, several things. I just want to touch on some of the chapters here and people should really check this out in the book. You touch on parenting, love relationships, friendships, work career, money, health, and then you do some summaries and you have in there a miracle mentality workbook as well. Yes, I do. We put a lot of work into this and a lot of money into this. I put a lot of my own personal money on this, even though I'm with a big company, HarperCollins. I put a lot of my own personal money to get the right researchers to take this book to this level. I am so excited about this book. And I get to be around a lot of bright people like yourself

and so some of my people that they do things at a crazy level what they've come back and said about this book is really touched my heart holy crap Tim this is not just a bunch of fluff like you you you dug deep and you made me really take inventory in my life and even write things down. So this is for the purchase. It's worth it. That's why some people are buying a thousand at a time. I don't know of the books that someone could say,

yeah, I know people that are buying a thousand at a time. It's usually people that have a lot of employees. But why don't you buy two? Do a twofer. Get one for you and do one, because of what your friend said, to be a lifelifter. That'd be a cool thing, right, Chris? Definitely. If people did one for themselves and one for somebody else.

That's what happened on Clubhouse. That's what happened on Clubhouse. People started going wild. And one guy said, I'm going to buy five. And the guy said, I'm buying 50. Then it went up. They started going, I'm buying 500. I'm buying 500. It just took off. I love that platform. It's so awesome. So as we go out, Tim, anything more you want to touch on or share with us before we go? I just want to tell you, I enjoy your work and I look forward to get to know you better. And maybe we'll collaborate and do some brilliant stuff. Kind of like Ebony and Ivory.

It's a song. Yeah, I know. I grew up in that. I grew up in the 80s too. And so I'm proud of you, Chrisris and your journey and who you are and then i'm sure you've had times where you failed and had to get yourself back up and thank you for doing that and spreading the love and it's a privilege to be on your show today thank you and i'm proud of you too and thank you for spending time with us today inspiring us and take us to the next level.

You're welcome. There you go. Thanks very much, Tim. It's been awesome to have you on. We're all going to be ordering your book, order Tim's book up from wherever you want on the interwebs. Give us your plugs before I go out to Tim.

So people can look you up on the dot com story.com. So S T O R E Y.com. But the miracle mentality Mentality book. Look, the Miracle Mentality book. It's everywhere. It's all over Target. It's all over Walmart. My friends, it's all over the airport stores.

That's not easy to do. And so my friends who go to Target, a lot of them do, I guess, and Walmart, they're taking pictures nonstop and sending it. But you can get it on Amazon, and it's also on audio, and you get to hear my voice. There you go. I love that. So you can just be like resting.

I'm talking to you. I'm telling you about your life like that. I'm just reading to you. I love it when authors do their own audiobooks. I love it. Heck, yes. There's just the richness and nativeness to it where someone can speak those words except for

the author really came from my soul yeah there you go and then uh we can watch for you to be with oprah soon all that stuff yeah i've been with her many many times i'm in her new book i get to speak on some of her tours in her documentary all kinds of oprah stuff we're me and her real friends yeah she's great. She's great. She's awesome. There you go, guys. So check it out. Order the book up from wherever you can. And as Tim said, order multiple copies.

Give them away. Pay it forward. The Miracle Mentality. Tap into the source of magical transformation in your life. We definitely need that this time of thing. And use it to lift other people as well. Thanks, my audience, for tuning in. Be sure to go to youtube.com, Fortuness Chris Foss, hit that bell, ding, notification. Go to goodreads.com, Fortuness Chris Foss. Go to

all the LinkedIn accounts and all the Facebook groups and accounts and all the multiple accounts on Instagram as well. See us on Clubhouse. I think I've seen Tim on there quite a few times, so hopefully you'll be on there some more. Yeah. I'll talk to you later. You can tell me which groups I should get involved in because I don't know much about it. Sounds good. Thanks so much for tuning in.

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