The Code To Winning - OVERCOME & CONQUER || [NAVY SEAL] RAY 'CASH' CARE || EPISODE 003

Episode Date: May 23, 2024

OVERCOME & CONQUER #003   Ray Cash Care is a Navy Seal Veteran, Peak Performance Coach, Motivational Speaker and Fitness Expert Ray “Cash” Care is a Navy SEAL veteran. During his combat zone tours in Iraq and Afghanistan he provided both high- and low-profile security protection for various United States government agencies, including the CIA. Upon retirement from the military, Ray focused his passion, SEAL Team experience, and SEAL training to self-improvement and team building. Ray Care is a sought-after keynote speaker who delivers high-energy, high-impact talks to organizations across the United States on leadership, organizational transformation, building high-functioning teams, and fitness.   In this episode Ray talks about his journey and life lessons he's gain specifically from the Navy Seal. He's rough upbringing and the ability to grow from those experiences. We talk about purpose that men need in their lives and why so many me experience anxiety and depression and how one can overcome those. The struggles of society pornography specifically and the effects it has on men and families today. Being the best version of one's self and always striving to be better. Talks about overcoming and conquering.  

Welcome, everyone, to a special episode of the Code 2 winning. Insights you need today to seize the world tomorrow. Today we actually have a very special guest, Ray Cash Care. A brief introduction of Ray Cash Care. Ray is a veteran Navy SEAL, motivational speaker, peak performance coach, including a fitness expert. Now, I want to go through a few stuff of Ray's accomplishments, including that. Like I said, is a Navy SEAL veteran. During his combat and zoned towards in Iraq and Afghanistan,

he provided both high and low-profile security protection for various United States CIA agents, including the CIA. Upon retirement from the military, Ray focused his passion on SEAL team experience. Furthermore, self-improvement and team building. Ray is a sought-after keynote speaker who delivered. as high energy, high impact talks to organization across the United States and leadership, organizational transformation, building high function teams and fitness. Ladies and gentlemen, without further ado, our special guest, Ray Cash, Cair.

Well, that's a hell of an intro. Thank you, sir. That voice is just, I was mesmerized by it. I feel taller. No, but I'm honored to be here. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for coming and joining us. I appreciate it.

You know, it's funny when you get on these podcasts. They always have these write-ups and these build-ups. And I didn't write that. I had someone do it. And I was like, you know, I don't, and I love that, you know, the podcast. I'm hoping that the reason I'm on here and I tell everybody is not because of my resume, but because of the impact I'm making on the world. So I'm ready to dive in, man.

I told you as long as it takes. You know, you're, tell you the same thing I told my wife. You're stuck with me now. Let's go to work. I love it so much. So just to give a brief introduction of, like, your history, many people don't know your backstory and where you started off. I love the fact that every single successful story has got, like, that grit,

and it's got, like, that painful background and, like, historical, you know, like, upbringing as well. Can you just give a brief overview of, like, just your life, like, when you started off? Yeah, I wish we had more time for that. But Baltimore native, 52 years young. I'm just a byproduct of pain. So we talk about this a lot, but motivational speaker, peak performance coach, I'm a pain coach. I try to speak and touch on things that have happened to me. There's seven forms of pain that I feel a human being can experience in life, and we can break

them down later, but there's physical, mental, emotional, social, spiritual, financial, and sexual pain. So what I've done is I've just, my street creds is I've had to deal with each and every one of them in some fashion and point in my life. And we were talking about this earlier. So what I try to do, what I get on stage, and the reason why I can get on any stage is because not everybody is going to be a multimillionaire.

Not everybody. They can be. I hope they are. But everyone has dealt with pain in some fashion. So what I try to do is be, I try to relate and be relatable to every single human being in that audience. And it doesn't matter.

I don't care how old, how young, what color, if you're in shape, if you're out of shape, we all deal with pain. And so what I try to do is make sure that, and what I do is, in my secret is I teach people to profit from pain. Most people run from pain. Exactly. I run to it.

Right. And I do a lot of different things where I push myself physically, mentally, and emotionally, and the reason, and what gets me through that is I go to those pain points, right? I compartmentalize them. I use pain as a superpower. versus everyone else that plays victim. I'm a victor.

I'm a better human being because my father was murdered when I was 11. I'm a better person because I was abused as a child. I'm a better person because I did grow up extremely poor. I made it through SEAL team training the first time through because whenever I go to those dark spots in my life, those places that are going to make me just, you know, you have to dig.

I go deeper. I go darker. I go nastier than anybody else. and that's what I'm willing to do. And you know other people that do it too. Gagins, love Dave. He is the same way. The reason why I honestly feel like I can't get beat

is because I'll die before I lose because I won't let you, I will not allow you to strip that pain from me. I go to that point. I had an amazing conversation today with Mr. James Dixon who I was telling you about. And every single successful person that I've met, I mean ballers.

You know who I'm talking about. The real ballers. they've all experienced some form of pain. And the thing is, is I can literally walk into any room with, I don't care who it is, and we start talking, and I can relate to them with pain. That's it. That's so powerful. That's it.

I, I'm not the most educated man. I'm not the most politically correct man. I'm not the most polished man. But I can get into a room and talk to people, find out what their pain point is, and relate to them. and then what I do is I teach them when I do, whether it's coaching or speaking or working with kids or my men's course, I teach people how to unleash that past pain or that current pain to use it for good where everyone else, what do they do? They run away from it.

They run away from it or they run to something else, drugs, drinking, porn. You don't need that. You need to embrace that pain. I guarantee you've been through pain too. and the pain is what got you here. 100%. That's my secret. And no one else seems to have figured it out like me.

And it's like, it's so damn easy. Because everybody's so scared of it. I'm like, no, man. Everybody, you know, there's a story of the buffalo and the cow, and the storm comes. The cow tries to run away from the storm. Because he's so slow, he's actually in the storm longer, versus the buffalo that runs to the storm.

He runs through the storm. He attacks the storm. He's in it shorter. and then he goes about his business, where the cow is stuck in it thinking you're never going to outrun that pain. 100%. So I guess the podcast is over because I just talked for 20 minutes. I was like, listen, just a mic drop over there.

Let's just end it right there, Tyler, because I mean, you can't really top that after then. So quite an intro. Thank you so much, Ray. And the reason why I like what you said earlier, we spoke about how it's so important as a coach to actually experience the stuff that you're trying to teach because it's so easy just to say,

I'm a performance coach, but if you haven't really experienced the specific pain and the life challenges that you've had from growing up to where you are right now, it wouldn't be easy for you to be a peak performance coach as well. So which leads to my question, you weren't always the way you are right now. It started off with a bit of struggles in the beginning,

like when you started off. I think you're from divorced parents in and out of jail. Can you just talk about some of the struggles you had to overcome when you were a little younger as well? So I'm going to talk about the struggles that I had to overcome and then the aftermath of what it does to a human being. So addicted to drugs. I was an alcoholic in and out of, you know,

I don't want to say institutions, but I've gotten a lot of trouble. I've probably spent more community service than half of Salt Lake City. He got quite the human. You know, I'm literally a Jerry Springer billboard. I come from nothing. And for the longest time, the aftermath of that,

was not knowing my self-worth, self-soubt, self-sabotage, which so many human beings do in this in this great country, this great nation, this great world, until I finally said enough, right? I took the step. And I think there are points in your life where as a man and a woman, you have to acknowledge, accept, and, you know, challenge yourself. And the first time I did that was when I was 17. I looked into a mirror. I came home late, snuck into the house. because back then, you know, you could get away with pretty much murder when I was young. No cell phones under that shit, pardon my language. And I looked in the mirror and I remember, and it's funny because we've got some injuries from my past life and I can't remember a lot.

But I can remember vividly looking in the mirror. It was about 3 o'clock in the morning, washing my face. It was raining out. I was cold. And when I remember I was washing my face and I put my face up, I looked and the reflection I saw was my father. My father, even though I loved him, was a womanizer, abuser, you know, was a biker, and he got into a lot of trouble. And at that moment, you know, I have people that talk about flipping the switch on and flip it, you know, flip the switch, flip the switch, I don't flip the switch, the switch is on. I'm never turning the switch off. Never turning the switch on. I turned it on and it stayed on. And I said enough. You know, I have the shirts. I bet on me. And I just decided that I was going to pour into me, right? I talk about betting on myself. Everybody wants to bed on.

on the easy thing. Lottery, most people don't win the lottery. They want to do, you know, all these get rich schemes. If you want to invest in something, the biggest ROI, the returnal investment you can do is invest in yourself. That's so powerful. And that's what I did.

And I just used that at 17. You know, I wanted to become, I once going to join the military, and I want to become a Navy SEAL. You have to take an aptitude test, a test to see if you have what it takes, the brains to do I had to take that SOB three times.

First time I took it, I bombed it. Second time I took it, I missed it by one point. And this is what I want to get at. There was a gentleman. I have to, and every podcast, there's that one person that was so impactful in your life. I mean, I have people, I look at my grandfather, but his name was Y and one, Cochlin.

Second time I took it, I did exactly what most people do. I didn't ask for help. And I'll never forget it. I remember stand in front of him and tell me, because you have to wait about six months to a year. There's different variations and time periods of when you take it.

And I knew I was destined for more than just the regular Navy, which I love the regular Navy. I love it, love the Navy, go Navy, but I knew I was put on this earth to do more. So the second time that I took the test and I missed it by one point, right? Like, if a train's going 90 miles an hour east

and one's going 90 miles an hour east, and one's going on a train. If you have three holes in a boat, which one do you plug first? Put your finger on all three of them. I don't know, right? You just, but there are equations, right? Yeah.

So the second time he goes, I remember him sitting there and it was just a long pause. And I mean, you know, sitting here trying not to cry because you're pouring yourself in this. I mean, when you really pour into it, he goes, why don't you just ask? Like, ask for what? For help? And I was like, I've never, I don't know how. It was what you just did. So he helped me.

I started taking courses. I was training my ass off, running. I wasn't drinking. I wasn't chasing ass. I was putting in the work, because this is what life's about, putting in the work to get the results that you deserve. Year later, standing in front of them, standing attention. I'm an E3. Seaman care.

That was my rank. Yeah. Yeah. Sorry about that. And I'll never forget it. He's looking down. And he's not even acknowledging me. It was, how do you think you did?

And I am shaking like a dog shit in a peach tree. I apologize, sir. I was shaken. I, because I knew after this, I was pretty much that was it. And I said, I don't know. He goes, well, do you believe in yourself? I'm like, yeah. He goes, you passed.

Now, here's where it gets good. I want everybody to listen here, because this is, this is probably one of the greatest lessons I ever learned. He goes, do you want to ask me anything? And I said, yes. He goes, I know what you want to ask me. You want to ask me what your score was. And I said, I do.

And he looked up at me, he goes, Ray, listen to me. It doesn't matter what your score is. And what matters is what you're going to do with the score that you've got. And to this day, that SOB, I love him, he still won't tell me a score. Wow. So when I went through seal training, it's six months long. 146 original started. 11 original made it.

I was one of the original 11. I have no plan B. There was no plan B for me. Death was my only plan B. I know that sounds extreme, but I used that same mentality. first time I met my wife, I told her, you will be my wife. She's like, that's the dumbest pickup line I've ever heard. There she is.

I honestly feel that, you know, the code to winning, and I'm going to use that, is believing in yourself and taking, I have no plan B and I will not accept no. I will not accept no. I accept failure. I fail all the time. Now, here's something else that everybody needs to understand. I spoke to 2,000 kids. I'm in Maryland about a year ago. And I said, my name's Ray Cash Care.

I'm a form of Navy SEAL and the biggest quitter you've ever met. You could have heard a pin drop. Like, but let me explain what I've quit. I quit the drugs. I quit the drinking. I quit the self-sabotage. I quit the self-douling myself.

I quit not believing in me. I quit hanging out with toxic people. I quit this, this, this, this. I quit all the things that were holding me back. Right? And then all of a sudden I realized it opened up all this free time to dot, dot, dot, right? My three dots are to do three things, right? And I just started growing and growing and growing.

Dumb Irish kid from Baltimore, I can walk into the rooms and talk to the best of them. And they're like, how did you do it? Well, I just quit all the BS in my life. I'm the biggest quitter you ever met, but I won't quit on myself. I won't quit on my wife. And believe me, man. being married to me, she's tougher than me. I mean, we should have been divorced 25 times.

But I control my destiny. I know what I want, but more importantly, I know what I need. And that's what people need to understand, the wants versus the need. Everybody wants, if you ask somebody of it, what do you want to be? I want to be a millionaire. What are you willing to do to get there? Anything.

That's so powerful. Anything as long as it falls within, You know, I'm a Christian. It's got to be, it's got to have, I got to have moral value. There's things that have to happen to me. But, you know, I'm ruthless and I'm relentless. I can see. I will not stop, you know.

And I feel that society and technology and phones and all these comforts that America has and a love America cripple people from doing that. You know, like when I was a young kid, I was telling my wife this. When I was a young kid, I would jump on my bicycle and I would pedal 14 miles to town to go see her ass. 14 miles to go buy her a milkshake and come back. No phones, no nothing. So you're pretty much trying to say that the world has gone softer.

The world has gone soft, you know? Men have gone softer. And I tell everybody, everybody always ask me, what do you identify as? I identify as fit. I identify as awesome. I identify as a savage. That's what I... What are your pronouns?

Pay me? Pay me? No. Never quit. Never quit the good stuff. I'll always quit the bad stuff. That's the thing, man. People will say, you can't say, you know, be a Navy SEAL and say, never quit.

Yeah, a lot of SEALs have bad habits. I refuse to quit. I have a quick question regarding the Navy SEAL. For those that don't know the Navy SEAL, what is the difference between the actual Navy and the Navy SEAL? Because Navy SEAL is harder to get into it. It's a few selected people. So I'll put it in the terms so everybody can understand it.

You have NFL and you have high school pee-wee ball. That's the difference. Is that the difference between the two? It's, it's, listen, I love the Navy. the Navy was the easiest thing to do for me. If you've ever watched the movie, Forrest Gump, what is your job in this army to do whatever you tell me, Driel? All you have to do in the regular military is show up,

be courteous, and do your job. And the SEAL teams, you've got to be elited everything. If you're early, you're on time. If you're on time, you're late. If you're late, you're fired. If you miss one-timed run, if you miss anything, if you miss that, it's called a time-sensitive target, you're done. They only take the best of the best.

and seal training my friend is everybody thinks it's physical it's mental and emotional literally being so cold so tired so hungry you don't know what's up what's down what day it is and you refuse to just give up on yourself you know and here's this here's this here's the million dollar secret everybody asked me ray two things two things and i'm going to give you guys the biggest piece of advice i can what's your why right i coach people all the time and they're like I'm like, tell me what you need and want to be. I want to be a better husband. I want to be a better father.

I want to be a better entrepreneur. And I want to spend more time with my kids. And I want to be a better love or intimate. Like not the physical part, right? The intimacy. So what's your why? Well, it's all those things. And I said, you are an idiot.

You cannot, your why cannot be that. Your why has to be you. Me. That's my why. Because if I want to be these extensions of myself, I have to be the best version of me that I can be. So everybody always asks me whether when I coach people, my wife, my wife and my kids, no.

If your wife and kids are your why, you're just chasing them. You have, it's, you're the nucleus of how it works. When I am the best version of myself, my family reaps the benefits, case in point. If you ever have a bad day at work, people come home. You have that negative energy. Your family's on edge, right? They don't know what to do.

I don't do that. I don't do that. Man, there are three battlefields of life, battlefield, business field, home field. There might be a little bit overlapping fields of fire. I can lose a million dollars in a day. I'll come home, give my wife a kiss, my daughter that'll never know. I ain't telling them that. My job is a man as a savage servant.

When I got on my knee and asked her to marry, is my job is to provide for her. She doesn't need to know all the BS that I'm going through. I just want her to know that she's safe and I've got her. Now, I love that advice so much. In fact, I heard somebody speak about that, saying that the importance of, a man in the home is not just to serve as a patriarch, not just to serve as a leader,

but to actually provide stability and less fear as well. How he integrated this with this question, the fact that he related this example of a man in the home is like an army general or a Navy SEAL general. Because if you show a bit of fear and uncertainty, what message is that passing over to like the people that you're overlooking as well? It's amplified. Like, you know, I want to be feared by my,

most men on planet earth. My daughter and wife, I still remember the days, you know, I was this part of my language, this hard ass, Navy SEAL, CIA guy. Remember when my daughter was little daddy, will you dress up and I paint your toenails? Yes, I will. Right. Being vulnerable as a man is a sign of strength. That's what people don't understand. Now, I'm not talking about being some sissy walking around and listen, don't get me started with the way some of the world shit's going on. but I am vulnerable. I'm open to my wife. I want my daughter to have great dialogue with me.

My son's 30 years old. Now, it's different with a boy and a girl. You know, I'm, I was hard on him. But I have these relationships with him. And, you know, and I make sure that he feels comfortable to talk to me. Like, I want to be the person that he talks to. If your kids and wife don't want to talk to you, you're doing something wrong, brother. You're doing something wrong.

You know? And I went on a podcast the other day and the guy asked me, This is the, I hear this on every podcast. I get this every time. Ray, you're 52 years old. What would you go back and tell your 18 year old self? Not a damn thing. I wouldn't tell myself a damn thing.

The unknowing, the not knowing, the uncertainty, the fear of what can happen is what drives me. I don't want to know. Everybody's like, I'd go back and I'd invest. Man, if you need cheat codes, get out of my face. I got no cheat codes. There's no cheat codes to life. Work hard. Stay fit.

I live by four F-bombs, family fitness, finances, and faith. That's it. That's it. That's how I get in a room with Andy Elliott, Ed Milette. All the names that everybody knows, Bradley. I keep it so simple and so streamlined. That's it. Everybody that wants to be an entrepreneur, they've got all these, all, I'm going to put

all these fires. What happened? You know, Lily, I have like three or four things that I work on. All I do is I feel. I figured out what would I do and I love that I would do for free and find out a way to make money from it. I like guns. Part of a gun company. I love speaking.

I love coaching. I love kids. That's it. I wouldn't tell myself anything. Do better in school. No. No, man. I don't want the chico's.

The question I have on this is why are people so afraid of struggle? I mean, it's such a broad question to ask you. but like we are not willing to take that next step. We're not willing to go and actually go towards. Because people are lazy. Because people are scared of how they're going to be judged. Who cares? I've lived paycheck to paycheck.

I've had to bar money from people before. Take a risk. That's a problem. Nobody wants to take a risk now. Hell, you don't even have to leave your house anymore. You can do this, what is it called, the only fan shit, and have your stuff delivered to you. I mean, I know women that are making 50s.

$50,000 a month, they don't need to leave their house. That's not me. Go out and explore life. That's why society has made people weak. And I'm sorry if people don't like that. You know, you, perfect example. The biggest resume that you can have on planet Earth is you. The way you look, the way you dress, the way you showed up ready to go.

I actually was embarrassed when I saw you in a tie today. I was like, shit. These guys in shape look good. That's the biggest resume you can have. When you met your wife, biggest resume, you can lie all you want. You were not attracted to your wife's personality. You were attracted to her. What I'm attracted to in people and what I'm drawn to is this, discipline.

The way you look, the way you act, the way you present yourself, the way you dress, haircuts. That's what I'm looking at. You have been being evaluated and judged since the day you were born to the day you die. And the problem with people is they're so worried about what the mass sheep are going to think about the few wolves. I'm not, people don't understand me. They don't understand my drive because they haven't been through what I've been through. And I'll tell you this right now. Average human beings sleep six to eight hours a day.

Can we agree on that? So I leave 16 to 18 hours to do two things. Kick ass or get your ass kicked. Powerful. I love kicking butt, not getting mind kicked. I had mind kicked for about the first 17 years of my life. That's what gave me the calluses, the physical mental emotional calluses. Now what I'm doing is I'm building on that.

And that's what it's about. man, I don't, here's the thing. I don't give a shit what anybody thinks of me, except for my wife and my kids. That's it, and him upstairs. But I go to bed at night, and I sleep like a baby because I know that I'm being the best husband, father, man,

and I'm a Christian, and I don't know if we can talk about that. I'm not embarrassed, I am, that I can be. And as long as I have that in line with my family, my fitness, my finances, and faith, I can do no wrong. That's so powerful. And by the way, we're all, like, in the same faith in Utah. Good.

So like we are Christians. Nowadays you've got to tiptoe around that. I'm not tiptoeing about loving God. I won't. I won't tiptoe about being fit. I won't. I want to talk about something that's actually very,

very concerning. I looked at these stats up recently and I was absolutely shocked. So it says, the past five years, the number of male suicides have been significantly higher than female suicides

and has been increasing at a substantial rate over time as well. So just to read this thing out. In 2022, it went up by men by 2% and by women by 4%. But it took men's suicide rate, according to the CDC, was 39,255. And the females were only 10,191.

Not to make the comparison, but there seems to be a problem that men are committing suicide at a higher rate compared to their female counterparts as well. With your experience and people that you've coached and the people you've seen experience, the trials and depression and anxiety, what would you say is the main concern with these disturbing figures that I just gave you

and shared with you right now? No, I think a lot of it stems from lack of purpose. Men need purpose, right? Like if you're a woman and you have children, that is your life. My wife, that's what she lives for. Me, men and women are wired differently, right? And I do not understand the complexities of a woman. I've been married 20 years and my wife will tell you, I don't know the first thing about women.

But what I do know about men and young men is we need purpose and we need to be driven. And if we lose that, what men do is if they lose that edge or they lose that lack of sense of purpose, then they go out and they try to seek other things or if they have pain. And a lot of men try to drown that pain with what? Alcohol, drug, porn. And what they do is they become so numb to society that they feel like they're lost in this cloud. and they have no choice but to, you know, give their, take their life or, you know,

and throw in the towel. And it infuriates me because the problem with men is we're so, we're egomaniacs. And I've, you know, there's been times, I'll be completely honest, and I'll talk about this much, where I've thought about taking my life. I've got some issues from past trauma

and the military and at home, but you, the way that you stop that, we kind of circle back around to the V word is you have to understand that, number one, men can be vulnerable. Number two, you're not alone, right? And dependent on the severity of the pain where it stems from, and the men that are listening is that know it's not your fault. And you'll know what I'm talking about if with the one form of pain, it's not your fault.

And it's never too late. Women are much better at compartmentalizing. they are, they are, and communicating their feelings than men. So, and you give a woman something to love, and she will focus on that, and like my wife will, you know, my daughter's sick, she won't eat for a week. She will, she'll just, she'll dedicate herself to that men, right, hunter gatherer have to go out and we want, you know, we want to provide for a family. And then if something happens and they feel like they're, I'm trying to use the word here carefully, they feel like, they feel like,

their manhood's almost been taken from them, you know, that, that, that, that starts a domino effect that, you know, it's so easy. Men, men, men are so selfless when it comes to, I feel, to others, but they're selfish when it comes to their ego and their pride. And what I've seen, and I see a lot of men doing, is they're taking their life because they want to, they don't want to feel that pain anymore. Again, that's, you know, what we talk about is, and there's a lot going on. society. I mean, unemployment rates, you know. I mean, men just, you know, the drugs, the alcohol and the porn are, and now what I'm hearing with America is obesity are the biggest problems that men are dealing with, right? You know, and I- porn is another big one. porn has been destroying families. And I was,

addicted to it. I was addicted to it. And I, you know, don't in talking to your pastor about that. From your experience with that, what do you think is that stimulation that keeps men going to going back to pornography all the time, because it's almost like a coping mechanism. It's like something that still is in the voice. It's the release. It's the release when you, you know, when you ejaculate. No, I'm not being rude.

It's the, it's, I'm not being rude, I apologize, but it is, I've, it's the release. It's the tension that's built up. It's the control that you have. And it's the release of that negative energy or whatever is bottled up. And it fills a need, right? For me, porn was more addictive than drugs and alcohol because it was so much faster.

And then I'd be like, oh, I'm back to normal. Here we go. I mean, I won't lie to you. There have been days when I've been overseas doing missions where I do that six, seven times a day. And I'm embarrassed about it. And imagine talking to your, having to talk to your wife and your pastor about that. And you know what he told me?

Ray, you're not alone. He goes, but what sets you above the rest is at least your, willing to talk about this. And I mean, that's hard because I'd talk to him first before I talk to my wife. But, and it wasn't an easy road to cut it out. And what happens is when men look at this porn, when you go back to your wife or your significant other, whoever it is, life and being intimate with woman is not a porn scene. Because this is what my wife used to tell me. I am not, you know, you know, there are times in relationships where you watch and when I say spice it up, but women feed off of intimacy, right?

The touching, the love. Men just want to conquer and destroy. It's both in our DNA. And that's, it is, right? And what a lot of men do and what I did was like, well, I will separate the two. I'll be a savage over here. I'm not cheating. I'm just doing this.

But in all actuality, you technically are. So this was a hard road to stop. But now that I have, you know, my life, my, my personal, you know, behind closed doors, relationship with my wife is much better because it's deeper. And then from your experience, what advice would you give the first step

of somebody that may be experiencing a pornographic addiction? What would the first step be? Except that you have an issue and then find someone to talk to. Like me, going to talk to my pastor was like the most embarrassing thing in the world. But after I did it, you know,

I thought he was going to judge me. You know, I'm going to hell. already going to hell probably for what I've done, but I was like, oh my God, he's going to, and he literally, I mean, I know some other pastures, not my pastor, another pastor I do some stuff with, he was addicted to the same thing. He's like, I'm a pastor, but I'm a man, right? A lot of, we're all, I mean, we're all different shapes and sizes and, but we're all wired. We all have that same internal mechanism, and we need to feed it at times. It's just learning how to control it. I'm a control freak. I control what time I get up, what time I go to bed, how I look, you know, who I surround myself with,

and then I lose control when it comes to that. And I literally was like, you know, you are a hypocrite, bro. So I talk to myself. Now, it's not an easy road, but it's like anything else. There are programs out there and people you can talk to. And then eventually I, you know, I had to hold myself accountable. My wife is checking my computer, checking my phone, because I'd slip. And now I don't slip.

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unnecessary work that I can try and avoid the problem that I'm facing. I have a few friends that I can open up and talk to, including exactly, he knows my whole life story. And then there's like when it's like really, really deep stuff like and I can't like handle it, I pick up the phone to my father. And like I feel like my dad has created that relationship where as a father figure, he's the most emotionally intelligent person ever that knows when to keep quiet and when to like just go in and like and be very transparent and open up to like, you know, listen, you need to do this and you need to do that thing. Men don't open up.

We don't open up as people. We often bottle things up until it's a little too late as well. Why do you think that's the problem? Because depending on your age, that's how you were brought up with your generation. You know, I was brought up, men are tough, they don't cry, they don't moan, they don't bitch, they do their job, they put out and they get it done. That's what I was told. Now, you know, I see people in dresses and painting their nails,

and I don't know what's going on with the world, but I just think it's based off a culture, and I'm not trying to offend anybody. I mean, you know, I mean, I don't understand things, you know. I mean, there's alpha. Well, there's male and there's female. I'm not going to get, and... You're going to say it's often as beta, right?

Yeah, I was going to say a lot of things. But I honestly just feel that it's culture-driven. You know, I grew up with a hard father. My grandfather is the greatest man I've ever met. The guy showed no emotion, but he loved my grandmother. No emotion. Like, happy mad, sad, glad. That was him.

Just didn't joke around, didn't goof off. Greatest, but he's still the greatest man I know. Now, you know? I don't know what's up and what's down. All I know is is I focus on me and my circle. And I try to be the best man I can. I do think that a man that shows his feelings and his emotions, the hardest thing for me was realizing that.

You know, when the SEAL teams and the CIA all the things I did, that's kind of frowned upon. You know? But at the same time, wouldn't you say there's a certain level to it? Because if you go to your wife and you just constantly cry and complain, like, no, that's not. See, there's a fine line between opening up, right? There's levels to it.

It's like, listen, babe, today was just a hard day. It's fine if we're just like not talk. I want to just get straight a bit. Like, rather than just like, Carlos is doing that. sex just I do think the key to success in life is communication

and I think you have extreme example but you get what you mean and uh but yeah that's what I was saying like I'm not going to sit and watch a movie with my like the notebook and cry like a baby all day long but there's been a few there's been a few movies before that have been impactful and I mean I'll shed a tear man and you know and it's like it feels good to do that you know but it's in a controlled environment I'm not

going to be like paint my nails and and putting braids. in my hair and doing crap like that, but I have feelings like other people, too. And I think once you get comfortable with yourself, you can, I feel, I feel better expose them, right? I mean, I'm vulnerable with my daughter. I goof off. I just, I don't know how to answer this question politically, so I'm trying to be very careful with it. There's no boundaries here. Yeah, I just, some men, I just think, some men are just built different than others. Some men are built hard but I think it all stems off the communication.

Like me and my wife try to talk a lot. I try to over communicate with my wife. But there are times, like you said, I've had a bad day. I've lost a lot of money and just said, you know what? I've had a really crappy day. I just need about two hours

to just kind of gather my thoughts and figure out how I'm going to tell this to you. And she doesn't go, what happened? What happened? No, no, no, no. Just give me some time. I need to, I need to compartmentalize things. I need to, and I do everything,

prioritize, strategize, and monetize. Love that. These are the three things I do as an entrepreneur, right? Prioritize what is the most important thing. I'm going to strategize how I'm going to make it happen and how am I going to monetize it? How am I going to create growth? Monetization to me is not always from a financial standpoint. I want to make that very clear. How can I create growth?

Because we talk about the pain, right? The seven forms of pain, but there's six forms of growth. Physical, mental, emotional, social, spiritual, and financial. I don't really feel that there's sexual growth. I think as a human being, you know, sexual, to me, I think there can be intimate growth when you're intimate with someone,

but not, like if when I, sexual to me is being, being able to be intimate with your wife on different levels, doing fun things, whatever that is, but then spending time together afterwards. So that's what I focus on is those three things, man. You focus on the prioritizing, the monetizing, or strategizing,

and monetizing, man, things just, they're just going to go up. I love that so much. One of my favorite stories ever that I came across is the profound story of Alexander the Great

when they went to go conquer, but the story behind it was when they, he told the people to actually burn their ships. And there's been a variety of different stories where we've had a lot of leaders

throughout the past that have done that as well, which sent a message to the people like listening here, there's other two options. We either conquer or we die. There's no plan B. I loved the story you spoke about like the plan B. How important is it for people not to always allow in a second plan? Well, I think it's crucial because if you have a plan B to me, it's like you're already looking for an out or an avenue or an excuse. I just, I honestly feel you have to do what you love and love what you do. If you, and before I do the plan B, you have to be able to decide if it's a one or a need, right? Like wanting to be a millionaire and needing to be

a millionaire or two different things. Wanting is, okay, you're going to talk about it. Needing it is, what is going to have to happen for me to do it? How am I going to get in the rooms with the people to do it? What work am I going to have to put it? And I see it like, it limitless right now. You see people they're saying, hey, invest in $2,000 and people are like, that's a lot of money. Is it really? Is it really? It's to better your life. If you, Listen, you have to take risk. I'm a risk taker, right? There's problem makers and problem solvers.

The people that take risk are people that are eventually going to figure out how to solve problems. And that's who I surround myself with. Problem solvers, man. I tell people all the time, don't make excuses, make solutions. And that's what I do with everything in my life. And that's what I'll continue to do versus when I do my coaching. And I have people that are like, hey, I make, and it's a good living.

I make $60,000, but I'm not happy. Blah, blah, blah. They go on and then they finish it with my two favorite words. Why me? I go, why, why you? Why not you? You literally have just sat here and defined your life and saying that you're unhappy, you're this, you're this, you're this and this.

And then you have the audacity to say, why me? My question is, is what have you done or what are you doing to fix it? And you know what you get? Crickets. See, everybody wants results, but nobody wants. wants to put in the freaking work. We talked. Nobody wants to put in the freaking work to get it done.

And I won't lie to you. When I first became an entrepreneur, I was scared, scared shitless. And I didn't know what to do. But all I did is I took my life experiences from the trauma and the pain as a kid to the stuff that happened as a seal and the agency. And I just applied it. And it's the same battlefield. It's just you have different enemies. Being an entrepreneur is the scariest thing in the world.

know why? Because when I go overseas and I'm going to go take out bad guys, I know exactly who the bad guy is. You go into a room, everybody acts like your friend. And let me tell you what, guys, you start succeeding, you start crushing it, you start getting the code to winning. People are sitting there clapping for you. You know what they're clapping? They're waiting for you to, they're waiting for you to fail. And then they're just going to be like, aha, I told you so. You know how you, you know what the best revenge on planet Earth is? Continue to be successful. 100% That's all I do.

I have that. I just posted that. The best revenge that you can have is be successful, continue to be successful. That's it. So powerful. Just to add on that,

I think it was, I don't know if it was Patrick Bed David or it was another podcast or motivational speaker. He said something so profound. I never actually even thought about it. He said, the dangerous friends you have

are not the ones that you know are not cheering you on. but are the ones that are cheering you on but don't want you to surpass them. And I was like, what do you mean? Because there's going to be people that are going to be around you. They're going to be like, listen, I want you to go for it, but you are not going to do it over me kind of thing.

And like looking back at that, like, I've never had friends like that. But like if you were to have friends, how dangerous could that possibly be if you end up like thinking about the people that are around you that want you to grow, but don't want you to outgrow them. That's a dangerous thing, and I never thought about it before. I heard about it like in the podcast last week. Three people want you to be successful in life, and they should.

Yourself, God, and hopefully your significant other. That's it. And they always say your family, your father, but you know what? Like, that's what I believe. And if you have the right person, partner, people in your life, they want to see you successful. Very few. My wife. My daughter's 15.

I'm sure she wants me to be successful, but, you know, my wife, my biggest fan. he always wants us to be successful in some fashion. I honestly believe that, right? That's why he created us. And then the thing that no one else wants to do is you have to want to be successful and need it yourself. Most people don't, that's the thing.

That's why I have this shirt. Believe in yourself. Bet on yourself. You know, I bet on me. I make people wear that shirt all the time because everybody else wants to bet on all the other BS in life, you know? 100%.

Listen, people always tell me I want to win the lottery. Win the lottery? How old are you? I'm 31. 31. If we go back to the time of conception with your mother and father, respectfully speaking,

there were hundreds of millions of sperm that were released. You won. I conquered. You conquered. You won the lottery. The trick now is in life is to figure out

why you were chosen, why you swam faster than the other millions. I was Usain Bolt, baby. I know, baby. But that's the point. And people don't get that. They,

you've been given this gift of life. Right? There's only two things undefeated on planet earth time and death we're all going to grow old we're all going to die it's it everything else is a gift it's a gift every day you get up it's a gift instead of people getting up and biching grown in my um grape in and aching you should be you know people wish and want make and take action make it now now listen to this podcast right now make a decision on what you're going to do write it out have a vision board i've got boards all over the place have a one three and five

plan and execute it. No plan B. I said I was going to be a millionaire in a year. I did it. But then what happens when people become a millionaire? What do they do? The next year, if they don't hit it, they go, well, I like, no. If you hit a million two, if you hit a million two, you can hit a million five. If you hit a million five, you get two million. When I hit my first million, I want to Dan Fleshman here tonight. I said, Dan, I'll call him out on it because he gave me a hug today. I said, I hit a million. I'm a millionaire. He goes, no, my friend. That's not a millionaire. I'm like, what's a millionaire?

I say, he goes, it's two or three million. Which one? He goes, when you hit two, come talk to me and I'll let you know. That's a problem. And when you hit three, I'll let you know. And I'm like, well, okay, well, guess what? We're getting ready to hit two. And I'll see.

And if that ain't enough, I'm going to keep grinding. So many people get complacent when they hit their goal. People lose weight. What do they do? They put it back on. People get married. They get out of shape. The thing is, is when you hit your goal or your objective, that's what people don't understand.

That's when the work begins. graduating buds basic underwater demolition being a seal hardest training in the world when you get out of that that's when the real work starts when you know having a child conception that's a fun that's a fun thing to do but when that baby's born that's when the work starts marriage nothing ends i i have no finish line to anything i'm just going to continually grow and be better and when i die

hopefully you know it's funny is people always ask me what you're biggest fear. And everybody says it's the fear of dying. It's the fear of not living to my full potential. Wow. It's it. It's it. Everybody's like, you're not scared. I'm not scared to die. I'm not. As long as I know that when I died, however I died, right, my family is taking care of. I made an impact on planet Earth. And, you know, my, and obviously my goal is to be, my goal in life is to be remembered, three generations or more deep. That's so powerful. Speaking of that, I dated a girl, and her grandfather You want your wife to hear this?

No, no, no. Okay. I was like, what would we do? No, no. So I dated it ago, but it's about her grandfather. Okay. Her grandfather said something

to my best friend, which I, which just stuck in my head for like a month straight. And he said, the biggest regret I have now looking back was not taking risks.

Oh, yeah. I tell people all the time, the art of doing something will always overpower you are doing nothing. That's absolutely powerful. I want you to share your experiences. I mean, you're a Navy SEAL veteran as well. What are some of the experiences that you feel like you've gained

and like anything you want to talk about that you feel like kind of shaped up who you are today from the Navy SEAL? I mean, you're in combat, right? You're in combat zones in Afghanistan and Iraq as well. Yeah, I think it's just the brotherhood, you know, brotherhood. Being, what I've learned is being outgunned and overmanned is can be a good thing, right? I've gone into gun fights where we're not supposed to come back and we always do. And I feel that most people need to understand that in life, you will be outgunned and overmanned all the time.

Fear is a good thing. It can be, it can be used. I've been scared before. And it's just, it's made me a better human being. The art of being disciplined is what it's about. being that double-edged sword, the savage and servant. That's what I've learned about battle, right? You know, and this is what,

the biggest thing I've learned about battle and being a seal is it's easier to take life than it is to help save one. Hmm. So it's easy. Can you elaborate on there? Huh? Can you elaborate a bit on there?

Yeah, I can point a trigger at him and pull it and I won't blink an eye and I wouldn't lose an ounce of sleep over it, and I don't know you. But being able to go over there and get to know you and see what your pain is and try to help you, See, for the first 48 years in my life, I thought my gift on earth was to hurt people and take people's away.

Pedro's Kulian taught me that my superpower is helping people. So my superpower is helping people. From all the pain and the things that, you know, and I don't, I sleep like a baby at night because I know I did things for a greater good. I'm no war hero by any means compared to most men that I run with, but it is easier to take a life than it is to save a life. It is easier to make something go away than it is to put time and effort into it. And what I've done is I've reversed engineered that.

And now I think, and I know that my purpose is to help people. And I'm going to help as many people as I can so that they don't take their life. So that's why I do the 1,000 pushups a day, the 1,320, 22 pushups on the minute every minute. And on Saturdays for veteran first responder suicide. And I'll do it until I can't do it anymore. Powerful, powerful. Do you mind, I mean, you're a peak performance coach. Many people often say performance coach,

but I loved the title of yours. Those are peak performance. How important is it for us to always strive to reach our full potential? I think it's probably one of the most important things on planet Earth. And the one thing that I teach people is this is the biggest piece of advice I'll give you.

There's no such thing as perfection. Everybody chases greatness and chases perfection. You must chase progression. I'm going to progress. I'm going to be better every day. Now, you know, and what I try to teach people as a peak performance coach, everybody talks about this work-life balance. There is no balance.

I have kids. I run a million-dollar business. I am a number five of a $50 million company. If my daughter's sick, I don't give a crap about that business. I don't give a crap about anything else. What I do is, is a peak performance coach, as I learn how to fix this problem and then jump right back to it, right?

I literally, I just, I move pieces around. That's what peak performance coaches do. We think three-dimensional out of the box. So I do a speaking event, and I put a little box on the stage, and I go, what's in that box? The people on stage can't see it, and they go, nothing.

There's that one person that will literally jump up on my stage and look in there and see that there's a dime in there and go, there's a dime in there. that's the people that I want to work with, people that are willing to take that risk. You know, 2,000 people, guy jumped up on stage. He goes, well, I wasn't going to say something or wasn't clear.

I'm like, I want to coach you. I coach that kid for free. Powerful. He's now 28 years old and makes almost a million dollars. That's amazing. He already had it. I just, listen, peak performance coach simply does this. I can lead a horse.

I can lead a human to the water. I can give you the tools, but you have to drink. it. You have to drink it, consume it, and believe in what you're consuming. If not, don't waste my time and I won't waste yours. That's so powerful. One of the things I love a lot, there's a lot of athletes out there. You spoke about Tim Grover, and you just spoke with Tim Grover right now. But people look at all like these role models that they have, LeBron, James, Ronaldo, Michael Jordan with Tim Grover as well, they all have one thing in common. Yes, the skill sets there. Yes, the talent's there. Yes, the grit is there. Yes, the work ethic is there, but something very important is also there,

and that's a mentor. Yes. And I want to talk about mentorship. Why do you think it's important for people to seek mentors today and what effect does it have in the long run of their progression as well? Well, having a mentor is the key to success. Case in point, you can only take yourself, you can only elevate yourself so high. Every single person that I know on planet earth that is successful has had a mentor in some way, shape, or form. That's it. If you want to be better surround yourself with people like Mr. Grover. I want to be a better speaker. Pedro's Koolian, all these people that do what I do. I just literally walked in the room and said, hey, my name's Ray Cash Care. I'm a former Navy SEAL. I want to do what you do. And they went,

wow. And Mr. Grover asked me a question. He goes, do you want to be successful? And I said, no, I'm obsessed with being successful because I heard his speech. Because wanting something is a part-time job. Obsessed is 24-7. I'm like 7-11, baby. I don't close. I don't take sick days. I don't care. I mean, I had COVID and I was still grinding. I don't care. The only way I'm going to stop is if I'm dead.

And the only time I rest is when I'm sleeping. Otherwise, man, I am out there. I'm looking for mentors now. I'm over at Limitless right now. How much are you to mentor me? Right? We've been doing this forever. We have a mentor.

We've been mentoring him since the dawn of time. If you want to be fit, find out. I'm working with Aaron. with... Aaron, the one... Aaron, was it Williams? Aaron, what's his last name? I think it's Aaron Williams.

The one in Arizona with Andy. I'm in great shape. But I was like, I just had a conversation with him. The 30 minute I want to be in better shit. He goes, Ray, what are you talking about? Like, I'm going to look like you. I want to look like you. He goes, man, I'm injured.

I'm only 44. I'm like, I would make me a 44-year-old version either. He goes, but you're 52. I'm like, I eat like shit. I do this. I literally just poured into him and he goes, done. So I'm going to fly out to Arizona. We're going to train.

We're going to film. and he's going to make me better. That's powerful. Even though, right, I'm an accountability coach. I do all this stuff. I need to be put in check. I need to be dialed in.

And I need to be surrounded by people that literally have done a better job than me. I chase it. Right? And then when I get them, I'm like, yes. And we develop a relationship and they pass me on to someone else.

I love it, man. And I'm not going to stop. And I'm new to, listen, I'm late to the game, but I'm a fast learner. I'm a fast learner. Learner. Yes, Brad Lee, I'm a fast learner. I love Brad. He is the sensei of not giving a crap. The most authentic entrepreneur I've ever come across and like literally having dinner with Brad is like seeing Brad on social media. It's like seeing Brad at the office. Brad is the same person. He got a self in shape too. He was he was never really out of shape and I love you Brad, but now he's dialed in. Like he's the whole package, you know? John Dedy, the drummer for Slayer and Anthrax with the greatest drummer on planet Earth. I met him about three years.

years ago and I said, you're John Daddy? He was like 15 pounds overweight. And he didn't look bad. Look him up now. Four percent body fat. I'm like, you look like the greatest drummer on planet earth. And he loves it. And he's like, and I called him out on it. But you know what he'll do? He'll call me out on my stuff. I have doubts and stuff. Listen, the key to having a mentor is this. You know why you need a mentor? I'll give you. Sometimes men and women need to be talked to the ledge. and then sometimes they need to be talked off the ledge. That's what a mentor does to me. Tim Grover,

stop that in yourself, Ray. Throw away those presentations, you're better yelling at me. I'm standing in attention. Like, do I look at Mr. Grover? I don't know what to do, right? Because he demands his presence. I'm like, yes, sir. And I don't know what to do with my hands.

And he's like, you're better than that. 2,000 people, you know, I speak 2,000 on his big stages. He goes, that's 4,000 eyes. Why are they looking at that when they should be looking at you? I don't know what to say. He's like, present. it to me again, take that off. I'm like, yes, sir. So I literally sitting there, but I've done it with Bezos Kulian, too, sitting there going, no, no, no, they're not being jerks. They're pouring

into me. They made me me the man I am today. I would be sitting here if it wasn't for Bezos. And people are like, you don't work for Bezos anymore. I'm like, no. What happened? Nothing. Bejros took me to a point and he goes, I have to let you go now. You've went from a caterpillar to a butterfly. It's time for you to fly. He's always there for me. I can call the guy up and only answer me any time. And people are like, oh, I thought you guys, just because people don't do the business anymore

doesn't mean there's heartache. It just means sometimes, you know, he had a plan with me. I met my obligation with him, and he set me free. Wow. And I love him for it, man. And I was scared shitless when I was like,

oh my God, what am I going to do? I don't have Petros. He's like, you know what to do. I wouldn't. And he, you know, he was my mentor. Dan Flesh, I mean, all these guys over at Limitless in some fashion are mentoring me in some way. shape or form. Sean Whalen, I'd call that guy 2 o'clock in the morning. He said it yesterday.

I will always pick up the phone for you. Because when I call him 99% of time, it's just to say hi, but that 1% of time I need him for something. And he goes, I pick up because I'm waiting for the 1%. Wow. That's it. So powerful. Speaking of mentors, one of the greatest mentor we know to be our loving heavenly father. The reason I want to talk about this is this is our Christian side now. My strong belief that we know and we believe in is that we are literally the offspring of our Heavenly Father. We have divine characteristics inherited from Him. In other words, we have the potential to reach everything we want to be able to do. Amen to that.

And so I feel like I'll just love bearing my own testimony and just like my thoughts on that. I feel like the fact that I know that I'm Heavenly Father's son makes me act different. And the minute I think of the divine character, Rick's, and I inherited from him, I feel like I can accomplish everything beyond my own wildest beliefs as well. So I want to just share that with you. Well, I appreciate it. You know, and I'm going to talk about something real quick, and I don't know how we are on time, but about six months ago, I was at church.

And I was doing my push-ups. The pastor Hank was doing a sermon on resilience. So for 30 minutes, I had to do half of my 1,3, 320 push-ups, you know, and then he wanted me to do the second session, because he does two on Sunday. So I did 30, and then I stopped and did 30, and he kept pulling me, you know, as I was taking a break, talking to me and stuff. And at the end of it, he stood up and he goes, Ray, I want to ask you a question. Like, yes, sir.

He goes, are you a believer of Christ? Now let me finish because I don't want to get stoned. And I said, no, sir. He looked at me, my wife's in the front row, look at me. I said, but I'm believing. And he goes, what do you mean, son? I've seen a lot of bad things. happen even though i do believe in him this is the problem and i'm gonna i know this is this is a little

controversial i have a hard time understanding why god does some of the things he does i've always said this case and point i've seen people that have done horrible things in the world and they'll live to their 100 years old rapist murderers i've seen some drug addicts that'll never die have you ever seen that or witness yes my father-in-law greatest man i've ever met in my life he got diagnosed with acute leukemia, he died 51 days later. I didn't understand that. So I had a problem with this, and I was very angry and bitter. And me and my wife went in to go talk to him, and this is why now I am a believer.

He said, Ray, do you know that his name was Art died two days before his wife, like 12 or 16 years ago? And I said, yeah, kind of. And he goes, did you know that their funeral? Like four, I don't know if it's, and I apologize to my wife's listening. It's 12 to 16 days later to the day. They had the same funeral. The same day. Like the ceremony was on the same exact day.

He goes, God took him to be with Martha. And you don't see that. And when he said that to me, I got goosebumps. Look at that. I literally, I'm getting emotional, a wave of, I don't know what it was. of something bigger than me. So now I am just like, my point to this is sometimes you need an outside perspective

to shed light on things. So don't be, and this is what I've dealt with with a lot of people. I ask people if they're believers, and they say the same thing. So I wanted to bring this to your attention so I could bring it to your attention that I honestly feel God has a plan for everyone.

Sometimes we don't understand it because it's so much deeper and more involved than, we are willing to go. So I needed an outside perspective like Pastor Hank to sit me down because I was angry. I was very angry. I was angry with God and I was angry with, you know, my poor wife, which she was going through and all this. And it didn't take him long. He just connected the dots to me. And I was like, oh my Lord. Sorry, probably shouldn't say that there. But it was, it was so enlightening for me. So that's probably been one of the most impactful things

that has happened in my life in probably the last 20 years. Wow. Yeah. So, I mean, and you just kind of introed for that, and I know that we're believers now, but 10 years ago, if you asked me if I was a believer, no, not with all the horrible things I've seen and done, no.

But now I know everything has a purpose and a cause. And, you know, my purpose in life was to do something so that I would be a, you know, all the pain has made, made me a better person for it. So I thank God for it. You know, and all the pain that I've been through, I actually think it, that was, that was, my job was to carry that pain so that other people who I don't,

I feel God didn't think was strong enough to, could. So from that, now I'm doing his work helping. So that's what I'm doing. And that's what I'll continue to do until, I guess I can't do it anymore. You know, it's so funny. I had about 20 questions here. I asked zero of them,

because it was absolutely just conversational. I talk too much. I'm sorry. I love that. So I know I always ask this question, and it's always so enlightening to figure out perspectives of people because there is no wrong answer to this. But because our podcast is called the Coat Winning Insights,

you need today to seize the world tomorrow. I want to know, in your opinion, what is the definition of winning? Believing in yourself and being the best version of you, that you honestly feel in your mind, body, and soul that you can be. That's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's my drop right there. If you could tell the audience where they could get a hold of you and social media. Yeah.

If they want to try and get coached by you, the events, if they don't have, if you have a calendar, if you just give me a, oh, if we need, I know you're going to be invoices, so I'll see you there. Yeah, so, um, Raycashcare.com, you can always hit me up for coaching or speaking, and, uh, my, my number two, Bridget, she's amazing, she's amazing, love you, Bridgett. She's got, very professional as well. Thank you. Oh, she's a beast.

You can hit me up there. You know, Instagram, Ray Cash Care. This is what I tell everybody. I have all my social media platforms are Ray Cash Care. If you write me something professional and I put my glasses on and I can read it because I'm old, I will answer to it. If you write me something ridiculous, you get two of my favorite things in a world. Blocked and deleted.

But I'm just Raycashcare.com is the best way to find me. But I'm putting out a lot of great stuff on LinkedIn. LinkedIn's Ray Cash Care. and Instagram is my main things. I'm not a big TikTok guy, but yeah, but that's where you can find me. Ladies and gentlemen, like we mentioned earlier on, Navy SEAL veteran, peak performance coach,

motivational speaker, and also including a fitness expert. It is a great honor to have in the studio, a legend, man, myth, and himself, Ray Care. Thank you so much. Wow, thank you, sir. You have made it this. far. Grateful, thank you very much for joining in in the Code to Winning podcast. Please click the like

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