The Date with Confidence Podcast - Dating Advice: He Hasn't Said “I Love You” Yet

Starting point is 00:00:00 It feels so weird to be recording again after literally the biggest unplanned break ever. I think the last time I spoke with you guys was May maybe or April. I can't even remember. It was so long ago and what I have learned about myself over the last few months is that summer is not a month that I want to work in. Not a month, not a season that I enjoy working in. I'd always planned to kind of have a bit of a quieter August. I'd planned to get to 75 episodes by the end of July and then take August off and then come back in September. But as it happened, that didn't happen. That didn't happen. I ended up taking a longer break, I ended up, yeah, taking just a completely unplanned break away from everything, because I had tonsillitis

Starting point is 00:00:52 for like six weeks, which really, really kind of started it all, I think the last time, the last episode I shared was We Need To Talk, about me ending things with a guy that I'd been seeing and I think that was just before I got the tonsillitis so I just I was feeling like a little bit rough but then I was fine and then as I went away with my friends we went on the Tuesday or the Monday and the day after whilst I was away the tonsillitis came out and I was ill for like six weeks, like I had three lots of antibiotics, couldn't get rid of it was so run down. And obviously tonsillitis really affects your throat. So couldn't really speak much anyway. Which also impacted my ability to record and then I just got out of the flow of things. And I don't know about you. but when I have taken a step back from something I then find it hard

Starting point is 00:01:47 to get back into it so the longer the break had been I'm like this with Instagram as well if I don't post on Instagram regularly um you'll notice this with the date with confidence Instagram as well but if I don't post regularly on Instagram and I take a break then it's like this big thing about coming back but we're doing it now we are we are back for September because can you believe it next week it is a year since the date with confidence podcast launched which is so so exciting I'm actually doing something very very special for you you because of the fact that it's one year since the podcast launched, which I will talk to you about at the end of the episode. I don't just want to dive straight in with like, I'm doing this thing for you. Like I will talk

Starting point is 00:02:33 about it at the end of this episode. For now, let's do a really brief recap of what's been going on for me for the last few months. your next date alongside light-hearted catch-ups where your host Rebecca, that's me by the way, shares her own experience dating after four years of the single life. You are guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles, empowered to never settle again and confident that the best is yet to come. And if it all falls to shit there's a special first season dedicated to breakups, you are welcome my friend. Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. So I took like a few weeks break after the whole thing with the guy that I was seeing, took a few weeks break from dating to reflect on that whole situation and I'm not gonna lie it has brought up a lot there were a lot of things that I looked back and reflected on that have made me super uncomfortable and have made me question

Starting point is 00:03:59 a hell of a lot of things now I have done um some coaching around this I've done breath work around this I have had very really open vulnerable conversations with my friends where I've obviously talked in depth about the things that went on um and it's like I'm making it sound like this like really big dramatic thing it's honestly not that there were a few things that there were things that I didn't share in the we need to talk episode because it was still very fresh and I was like in that phase of I'd made my decision but there was still part of me that was like am I jumping to things too quickly but the like long story short something happened the weekend before I made my decision and as soon as it happened I knew for a fact that was it for me like I was done I'm checking out this this is not me like that person does not align with my values, they do not align with my beliefs,

Starting point is 00:05:10 I, yeah, it completely, um, completely threw me off, and that's why I ended things, um, when I did, because of what had happened. Now, I don't want to go into the details on here because for some reason unbeknownst to me I still want to I suppose protect him if you like but essentially it very much came down to our values and how we view other human beings and how we view other types of humans who aren't the same as us so that was a big enough reason for me to be like no this is not it now in a few episodes time I'm going to be talking about some red flags that are really easy to ignore and over the last few months when I've been reflecting on things there are a few subtle things that you know when you're in the moment of something and there's something in you that goes oh I don't think I agree with that or oh something about that sentence wasn't right or something

Starting point is 00:06:18 about that reaction wasn't quite right but you can't put your finger on what it is because you're so in the moment and you don't have a chance to process what's happened um these are just tiny little things that had I not been working on myself so much over the last few years I probably would never have noticed but I've built up such a self-awareness now and such an awareness around the way that I'm spoken to, the way that somebody speaks about other people, the tiniest little things that my 20-something self wouldn't have given a fuck about, my 30 30 something self is very aware of these things. And I'm very much in the stage of, I know what I want, I know what I don't want. And so reflecting back on these moments, there's not been a second of me that has doubted my decision.

Starting point is 00:07:18 In fact, the only thing that I've thought is, fuck, I wish I'd ended it sooner. And there's a whole lot of, there's a whole lot of stuff that comes with feeling that way I was talking to my friend about it the other week and I was just saying there's a part of me that really yeah fuck it I'm gonna be honest like really regrets it and she was just like but there's literally no point in you regretting it and I was like listed out the things that have made me so uncomfortable about the whole situation and she was just like but that's what dating's about like dating is literally you spend time with someone getting to know them and then when you know who this person is then you make your

Starting point is 00:08:00 mind up whether you're going to stay with them or not she was like you dated this person for a few months realized like got to know him realized he wasn't for you and then you left like that's exactly what dating is you've literally got nothing to regret which did make me feel a lot better about the whole scenario and I do very much try and not to live my life with regrets but there's something about this whole scenario that has made me feel um pretty uncomfortable and I don't know if it's just because it's the first person that I've dated for an extended period of time for a long time but there's just I've had to work really hard not to be beating myself up about it consistently and I really want to preface this by saying that nothing huge happened. There was no like massive, massive warning signs that I completely ignored. Like I didn't change who I am.

Starting point is 00:08:54 I didn't ignore like the biggest red flags. Like I just, I suppose, skimmed over subtle ones that I wasn't aware of until I was able to reflect a bit more on the scenario as a whole so took a bit of a break from that to kind of process what had happened to um also just because I was ill I was ill for so many weeks that I just didn't have it in me to actually date I did go on a date with a guy a couple of months ago now this was maybe June and I'd had to cancel on him twice so I cancelled on him the first time I cancelled on him was because my granddad had gone into hospital and I said to him I was like I want to be super honest with you I'm not going to be present on our date because

Starting point is 00:09:42 I'm so stressed about everything that's gone on in my personal life I really like respect your time and would like to enjoy the date so can we rearrange please and he was super nice about it we'd been chatting for like a couple of weeks and what I really liked about him was that there wasn't pressure to respond like we had our messages we'd speak like maybe every couple of days but there was no like intense pressure it wasn't constant he asked really good questions seemed like a genuine nice guy so I cancelled on him the first time and then he was like sure just let me know like when you're feeling ready again I was like okay brilliant I really appreciate you being understanding

Starting point is 00:10:20 and I think a week later or a few days later I messaged him and just said look I really appreciate you um understanding my situation I'd love to go out on that date again oh I'd love to go out on that date if you are still open to meeting me like obviously I understand I had to cancel so if you don't want to see me that's fine and then we arranged a date for the weekend and my god I was seeing him on the Sunday this was yeah this was end of June because it was my dad's birthday on the Saturday and whilst I was at my dad's house I started to feel so ill now they have a cat and I'm allergic to cats so part of me was just like oh do you know what it's probably just the cat like I took a Puritan was like it's probably just the cat but I was getting worse and worse and worse throughout

Starting point is 00:11:02 the day like my head was fuzzy my nose felt clogged my throat was sort of like I just felt ill and then I went to bed and I was literally awake all night feeling like I had the flu like getting worse and worse and worse and I messaged him at something like six o'clock in the morning it might have been earlier than that it might have been like five or four o'clock in the morning and I messaged him because we were meeting at like 10 or 11 on Sunday we were going to go for a morning date around one of the parks in London and I was like I'm so sorry but I'm what I thought was like a cat allergy I'm actually getting really really or I might have said hay fever I might have thought it was hay fever because we were out in the garden and it was obviously summer and sunny and I thought maybe it was hay fever and I messaged him I was like I'm so sorry to have to cancel on you again but this is

Starting point is 00:11:49 more like flu like I'm definitely ill and like I'm not gonna be at my best and also don't want to pass anything on to you again he was literally so understanding and I really appreciate that he was like just let me know when you're let me know when you're better so a few days later a week later I messaged him again and was just like I understand if you don't want to see me because I've now cancelled on you twice but I would still really like to meet up with you because he seemed like a like genuinely lovely guy we had a lot in common our values very much aligned um yeah I just I feel like he was a really nice guy so we eventually meet we and like it was really good because he um he chose where we're gonna meet we were gonna meet on I think it was a Friday evening Friday evening Thursday evening I think it was a Friday he chose the pub that we were gonna go to near Covent Garden so it was a

Starting point is 00:12:41 nice place um he waited for me outside the pub um he seemed a little bit shy because he was a bit like oh um like is this place okay I was like yes great like let's let's go in let's have a drink went in and you know like it's always like a little bit awkward at first isn't it I think we're both a little bit shy it was very loud in there it was also very hot so I was like melting but I really liked my outfit because I don't really like dress up as such on dates anymore um or I just haven't been taken out on a time and place where I can really dress up for dates so I had like a nice skirt on I had heels on really loved my outfit and we chatted for a few hours and the conversation flowed pretty easily we discussed religion and politics all the things

Starting point is 00:13:25 that you're not really supposed to discuss on dates but I've come to realize these things are super important to me um talked about our families and our values and like work all that kind of stuff had good chats and then said goodbye one thing that like, he didn't offer to walk me to the station. Now, that's not a massive deal. But my husband is going to walk me to the station. My husband is going to take me to the station. That's how I feel about these kind of things. Like, he didn't, which is fine.

Starting point is 00:14:02 Anyway, I messaged him late that evening to say I've just got home thank you for a lovely day it was really nice to meet you and he was just like thank you for a lovely evening and then I never heard from him again and I feel a bit conflicted because I'm like obviously I said thank you for a good date he said thank you for a good date but then he never followed up and again like I'm at a space where it could have been that he was shy and he was waiting for me to say to him shall we go out again but I want my husband to be certain about me I want to meet my husband and him go when are we doing the second date or message me the next day and say I'd love to take

Starting point is 00:14:45 you out again like I want someone who has that certainty and part of me is like well you don't know if that's going to come from a second date but then or come from the first date but then at the same time it does happen for people like there are there is so much evidence around from other couples who are certain on the first date or who at least know that they want to see the person for a second date so even if he's not certain about a future with me I want him to be certain about a second date with me and that didn't happen so I didn't follow up he didn didn't follow up. It was a lovely day. It's what it is. Then I took another break from dating because I just find the apps like so like they're just too much. It's so overwhelming. I have got very high standards, which I will never apologize for. I know what I'm looking for. So when I read people's bios, I know whether they

Starting point is 00:15:43 are someone that I want to engage with or not. I've had chats with a few people here and there but then you know like one guy asked me out and then never responded to me again like things like that you know how it is then I got chatting to a really lovely guy who I was like oh my god you're the first guy that I've spoken to for a long time who I feel quite um like I really liked the conversation, he was very good at the conversation flowing, asked really good questions, it was very equal in terms of like questions, answers, he was a bit older, I think he was like 40, had a good job and I was like, oh and he'd said about going on a date and then I'd told him that I have a, he'd asked me what I do for work and I told him that I'm obviously a confidence coach, I'm a content creator that I have a he'd asked me what I do for work and I told him that I

Starting point is 00:16:25 I'm obviously a confidence coach I'm a content creator I have the date with confidence podcast or I have three podcasts around confidence he asked what they were about and I told him that one of them was about dating with confidence and a few days later he messaged me and he was like look I've been thinking um the fact that you've got this dating, he was like, I know you said you don't talk about your dates all the time, and that you've talked about historic dates on the podcast, but if we were to go out on a first date, I wouldn't be able to relax, because I'd have it in my mind that you were going to talk about me, and like on your podcast, so I wouldn't be able to be myself, so I think it's best if we don't go on a date. Now the rejection initially like really bothered me and I've not been bothered by rejection for a

Starting point is 00:17:11 long time. I think it's because I saw quite a lot of potential based on the conversations that we were having but then I was chatting to my friends about it and I was like the thing is like this really sucks that he has decided not to see me because of the work that I do however two things here my husband is gonna be so supportive of the podcast and of the work that I do like my husband isn't gonna give a shit about the fact that I talk about dating online and I very much hope to have a husband in future or a partner in future where we can do a joint podcast I would love to do that because I like a couple podcasts I think it'd be really really interesting and secondly to me that also shows that maybe he isn't as confident in

Starting point is 00:18:00 himself as I would like someone to be because if he's going to spend the whole time worrying about the impression that he's giving rather than just enjoying it because he's worried about what someone could say about him that kind of says to me that he's perhaps not that confident and again my husband is going to be very self-assured he's not going to be arrogant but he's going to be very self-assured and not worry about things like that so I let that go I was disappointed but I let it go and then have kind of yeah like dipped in and out of the apps as such I also updated my profile I deleted my bumble completely because I this is I'm probably going to do a whole episode on this but I completely disagree with the marketing campaigns that came out a couple of months ago where they were essentially saying like women don't be celibate, like your standards are too high, like give men a chance or whatever it is, which I just think is like the most ridiculous marketing campaign. I think it is highly disrespectful to women so I will never be

Starting point is 00:19:05 using Bumble again because of that because it goes completely against my values and so I updated my profile and yeah I've been like dipping in and dipping out and I mean in all honesty like I'm not being a very good dater right now I am probably being the red flag myself because I'm not actually responding to people so I am putting in a poor amount of effort um also just to touch on that on red flags like I don't know if I've told you about this before I must have done but I did create a brand new freebie on the red flags you need to avoid so I will leave that in the show notes if you want to go and check that out and that is more about the red flags you need to avoid as in you

Starting point is 00:19:46 being the red flag rather than them being the red flag so that's kind of where we're at at the moment like dated on and off chatted to people on and off like yeah I'm not I'm not really that into it at the moment maybe I will be like dates would be nice but I'm also I was having this conversation on another podcast actually um when that comes out I'll try and leave the link to that but I was chatting about this with one of my friends on her podcast um the remote life podcast I believe it's called and I'm just so content being on my own that someone really special has got to come in for me to actually want to put in the effort to see them like I'm very happy with the life that I've created for myself I'm very happy with the work that I'm doing with my social life maybe I

Starting point is 00:20:42 could be a bit more social but I'm very content with what's going on for me that it's really not that much of a big deal to find like there's no pressure for me to find someone and because I don't have that pressure and I'm not putting myself under that pressure I guess I'm not really putting in the effort because I just don't care enough like I'm enjoying being single okay um but yeah it's something that I want to change obviously being in a relationship would be great it would be great to settle down have kids all that but I'm very content with my life right now so I don't feel like anything is missing enough for me to throw myself headfirst into being super serious about dating which is great now as it is the second week of the month

Starting point is 00:21:37 this episode is also the community episode so now we've done a little bit of catch-up about me I've got three questions from you that I will be answering here as well so the first one I've started dating someone new and it's going really well but I'm feeling hyper anxious and worried that something's going to go wrong it's almost like it feels too good to be true I find myself over analyzing everything and trapped in repetitive thoughts that if he hasn't messaged me it's because he's with someone else we come from different backgrounds and I'm scared he's going to think I'm not good enough for him I'm trying so hard not to let this ruin things but it's become an obsession I can't seem to break free from how do I let go of this anxiousness before it destroys what could be a very happy relationship? I think a lot of anxiety when it comes to dating is because

Starting point is 00:22:35 you don't feel like you're enough and you're not confident enough in yourself this is this is my perspective having previously been a highly anxious dater to no longer experiencing those high levels of anxiety now two things actually in saying that one thing it could your anxiety could be because they're not the right person for you like I spoke about in the um delusional guy episodes I thought I was like my anxiety was through the freaking roof and I just put that down to excitement and that was because my body was like this is not the person for you get out essentially so it could be that your anxiety is saying this isn't your your person however I don't know whether that's necessarily the case here um it seems more like it's the not enoughness because what you talk about here saying um it feels like it's too good to be true

Starting point is 00:23:41 worried something's going to be going wrong, something's going to go wrong, scared that he's with someone else, come from different backgrounds, it sounds like there's a lot of like, I'm not good enough for him, it's you thinking you're not good enough for him, and then worrying that he's almost going to figure that out for himself as well, so what if he confirms the fact that you're not good enough for him? That's what it looks like from reading this. So I would really encourage you to work on the not enoughness, work on focusing on all the reasons that you would make an amazing partner for this person, all the positive things that you bring to the table, things like your personality, your sense of humor, the way that you treat a partner, the perspectives that you bring to

Starting point is 00:24:32 the relationship, how affectionate you are, the little things you do for them, whatever it is, like focus on all the amazing ways that you make a brilliant partner instead of focusing on he might not think I'm enough and here's the thing as well we can't control what someone else thinks of us so no matter what you do if he decides you're not for him he's going to walk away but what you need to do is get yourself to the position where even if he were to walk away, you know that you would be okay because you know you am enough without a partner and no matter what happens I know I can handle it and that comes from regularly working on your confidence and building up that self-worth and that enoughness and also building up your deservingness. So at the moment do you feel like you deserve this person? Do you feel like you deserve this relationship? Do you feel like you deserve things to be going

Starting point is 00:25:53 this good, this well? Because if you feel like you don't deserve it, then that is going to increase your anxiety more because you're telling yourself, I don't deserve this thing, which means I'm going to lose it. Now you work on your deservingness by increasing your self-worth and increasing your self-confidence. And deservingness is something that we talk about in the confidence course. We also talk about raising your relationship standards, which can be very, very helpful in the dating dating scenario so I think the main way how do I let go of this anxiousness before it destroys what could be a very happy relationship work on increasing your confidence work on building your not enoughness and choose to let go of the anxiety so anytime you're in that anxious state, choose to release the anxiety.

Starting point is 00:26:48 And this takes so much practice. This takes a lot of repetition. Anytime you're in that anxious state, what can you do to get out of it? How can you distract yourself? How can you reset your nervous system? How can you bring yourself into a space of calm and of peace? Do whatever you can to release those feelings of anxiety over and over and over again, whether it's counting to 10, whether it's doing some box breathing, whether it is doing a breathwork session or some EFT, whether it is listening to some calming music, taking a nap, whether it's messaging your friends and saying this is how I'm feeling, I can't see through this anxious spiral, how do I get out? Or coming to one of the containers that

Starting point is 00:27:39 I have like Loved Up which is the monthly membership but it's weekly coaching that happens every Monday. So if you leave a message on the Tuesday, you won't get a response till the Monday, which can still obviously be so helpful for you just to get those feelings out of your head. But I hope that that was helpful. So work on the confidence, work on the not enoughness, and then repeatedly choose to let go of the anxiety. It's not easy and on the anxiety thing I'd also look at what your triggers are, so what triggers the anxiety more than other things and just be aware of not doing those things so that you feel less anxious less often, no less anxious

Starting point is 00:28:22 more often. Okay next question, I've been dating this guy for three months now I deleted my dating apps quite quickly after meeting him but I noticed he still has them on his phone I never see notifications but it's bothering me that they're still there how do I approach this with him I mean you can just come out and ask him you can just come out and ask him. You can just come out and ask him and say, like, I deleted my dating apps when we started dating. Are you still actively using yours? And if he says, no, I deleted them and you've seen them on his phone, obviously you know that he's a liar.

Starting point is 00:29:00 But if he says, no, but I've still got them on my phone, then you can approach that subject and say have you thought about deleting them now one thing that I would also say which I don't know if you're necessarily going to like I kept my dating apps when I was dating the guy they were seeing at the start of the year I paused them I paused all of them but I did keep them all on my phone and I don't know whether that was subconsciously because I knew that it was never going to work out but for me like we were dating for what three and a half four months and I still kept my dating apps and I was not at the stage where I was ready to delete them. So I think it's also it could also be a sign that maybe he's not that into you or maybe he's not as invested as you are.

Starting point is 00:29:57 So that's just something to bear in mind. But I'd just be up front with him and just say, look, I deleted my dating apps. Do you still have yours? and do you have any intention of deleting yours you also need to be prepared for his answer because if he says I have no intention of deleting them how are you going to deal with that is that a point where you go okay well this is serious for me so I'm actually going to leave or is it going to be something where you just accept that the dating apps are on his phone and then you end up stressing yourself out about the fact that they're on his phone and does that mean that he's not into you

Starting point is 00:30:34 I'd be very cautious about thinking about what could happen um if he doesn't want to delete his dating apps and what you will do from there I'd never like I'm not saying that you need to threaten him and say well if you don't delete them then leave because I don't think that's going to be a good outcome for you but I and I also don't think that that's fair I think people do things in their own time and if he wants to delete them he'll delete them it could just be that they're on there he's forgotten about them and he's just been so like into dating you that he's just forgot that they even exist on his phone and he just goes oh I didn't realize they were still on there I'll delete them straight away but yeah just just have a little think about how you're going to handle the outcome if he doesn't

Starting point is 00:31:20 want to delete them I hope that that was helpful okay last question I've been dating someone for around nine or ten months now everything's going really well there's no red flags he's the perfect gentleman and I really enjoy spending time with him amazing but he hasn't said I love you yet I've said it to him but he hasn't said it back he did tell me he'd felt forced into saying it in the past so he's more cautious now but I feel that after nine months you should know shouldn't you okay I I've got a few different perspectives here so first of all I think in my relationships, they've always said I love you quite quickly. My first boyfriend said it within a couple of months. My second boyfriend said it within like, I don't know, four weeks.

Starting point is 00:32:22 The third guy I was dating told me he was falling in love with me after like I don't know a week two weeks and then when I was with my last boyfriend I knew that I was in love with him after like three months of knowing him and this was before we were together and we didn't say I love you for until like I think like 18 months after we'd been sleeping together and we used to we used to say like I hate you all the time I used to say that and I think that was because neither of us really wanted to admit that we loved each other so I mean that was quite a long time and I would also say that just because they say it quickly doesn't mean it's necessarily true or it's necessarily gonna mean that you're gonna be together forever and a different perspective completely I feel like

Starting point is 00:33:15 this has been such a fucking waffly answer I'm so sorry um but the the main thing that I wanted to say to you was when my brother met his wife she told him I love she said I love you like pretty early on I think like within a couple of months I believe he didn't say I love you until they'd been together for a year a whole year and which obviously drove her fucking mad but he knew that he was going to be with her. And then when he did say, I love you, he did it in like a really romantic way. I think he bought, I think it was a charm for her bracelet that said, I love you on it. So it was like a really romantic way to, um, like tell her he loved her, but yeah, that took a year and now they're married with two children and number three on the way so just because he hasn't

Starting point is 00:34:06 said I love you yet doesn't necessarily mean he hasn't got strong feelings for you and it could be like if he's already confessed to you that he's felt forced into saying it maybe that experience has scarred him maybe it has made him more apprehensive maybe he said it in the past and didn't mean it and then ended up hurting someone or maybe he felt like he was made to say it and therefore didn't know his own thoughts or whatever it is he's being honest with you about the fact that it's taking longer and I think in that scenario that's something that you need to respect like if he's been vulnerable enough to say this is how it's felt to me in the past I want to make sure trust him unless he has given you a reason not to trust him trust him and know that not everyone

Starting point is 00:34:58 knows immediately and not everyone says it within a set time frame like there's literally no time frame or no right or wrong time frame to say I love you surely it would be so much more special for someone to say I love you like a year later when they are so solid in that love you in their love for you as opposed to saying it like three months in and saying it without fully meaning it and just saying it because that's what they do they just they just say it because that's what you want to hear kind of thing so again hope that that's helpful maybe that's um helped you to think about in a different way if it's something that like is really bothering you I mean it says here that everything's going well you're enjoying your relationship like I'm assuming you've defined the relationship at this point if there's something that you need from him to make

Starting point is 00:35:56 you feel more secure because he hasn't said I love you then maybe that's something that you can talk about with him maybe you can just say I understand that saying I love you is a big deal for you and I don't want to put pressure on you to say it, but I'm feeling a little insecure. Can I get your reassurance from some other way? However that way is, or can I just ask you to reassure me that you are really into this? And then hopefully if he's the gentleman that he says he is, then he's you to reassure me that you are really into this and then hopefully if he's the gentleman that he says he is then he's going to reassure you but you really need to also be understanding that of his desire not to not to rush into saying it so I hope that that was helpful for you and you've enjoyed catching up on where I've been for the last few months as I said it is one year of the

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