The Date with Confidence Podcast - How to Act & Feel Confident Before a First Date

Episode Date: September 29, 2023

EPISODE 09: How to Act & Feel Confident Before a First DateYou’ve matched with someone, had a bit of a chat back and forth, and they’ve asked you out on a date - yayyy! Whilst you’re excited at the prospect of meeting them face to face, there’s a part of you that feels anxious and worried about making a good first impression.It’s completely normal to feel nervous before meeting someone for the first time and in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to act and feel confident before a first date so you can leave the anxiety at home and focus on having fun with your latest match.Here are the key topics we cover:1. Act Confident: Taken from the third core principle of The 90/90 Mindset Concept, we look at the Act Confident layer which is all about practical actions you can take to help you act confident on a first date. 2. Feel Confident: We explore how the Feel Confident layer is about nurturing inner confidence. I reveal the techniques I use to get my energy into a confident state before a first date.3. Confidence Anchors: Discover the importance of confidence anchors and how they can enhance your self-assuredness to help you create a lasting impression on your date.4. Mirror Work: Learn the power of looking at yourself in the mirror and understand how this simple practice can help you connect with your inner self to reinforce your self-esteem.5. Feel-Good Rituals: Find out how playing your favourite songs or listening to a grounding meditation can calm pre-date jitters and leave you feeling energised.6. Adaptability: Understand that these confidence layers can be applied not only to dating but to various aspects of life. It's about empowering yourself to exude confidence in any situation.I'm thrilled to share these confidence-building techniques with you, so you can approach every date with a newfound sense of self-confidence. Remember, you've got this!Get Involved!You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  ResourcesThe Breakup Bounce BackAttract on the AppsThe Confidence KitThe Confidence CourseGet weekly-ish updates, exclusive offers and access behind the scenes gossip when you become a podcast insider.Visit The Date with Confidence website here.Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So now I kind of wanted to talk about the act confident layer. So we've got the things that I tell myself before our first date. So that's the think confident stuff. And I wanted to talk about the stuff that I do when it comes to acting confidently. Welcome to the Date With Confidence podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that will either fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could have been.

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project confidence when you arrive at the first day and one of those things is obviously doing my hair and makeup so I've just done my makeup then I would do my hair and it really depends like typically I will just curl it because I always feel more confident when I've done that sometimes I've started recently wearing my hair like tied up. If I've got a bold lip on, that looks really good. But I just do my hair in a way that makes me feel good so that I feel confident in my appearance. Now I don't tend to put loads and loads of makeup on.

I feel like my makeup is always pretty much the same. It's always pretty basic, but it just helps me to enhance how I look I feel and I always feel so much more confident from that perspective as I've done my hair and makeup I'll do things like I call them like confidence anchors so I have different things that I will use to help me anchor into confidence and they might be things like pieces of jewelrywellery, a certain perfume that I wear that always makes me feel good, it might be things like if I want to feel extra confident I might wear like a red lip, something a bit more bold and I'll make sure that I put on an outfit

that makes me feel really really good. Now I don't often shop for new outfits for a first date, I've kind of got a few outfits that I already know that I feel really really good in but if I am maybe going on a second date or a third date then I might buy something new because I just want to feel my best and I always feel like if I buy something new then I'm going to wear it for future dates anyway so it's fine but I like to I like to put something on that makes me feel really good I'll also do things like take deep breaths if I need to and one thing one trick that I always do and I do this regardless of whether I'm going on a date or not but I like to look in the mirror and I like to smile at myself because I feel like when you do that you connect with yourself on a deeper level

and it's almost like you're reminding yourself like I'm great I'm amazing no matter how this date turns out I still love myself so I always walk past the mirror I'll smile at myself in the mirror and I'll and I'll repeat things like this is what a confident woman looks like this is what a great first date looks like you look amazing tonight like anything that just boosts my self-esteem and makes me feel good I think mirror work is so so powerful um and it's something that I talk about more in the confidence course but I just think it's just a really powerful way to boost your self-esteem and to help you as I said like really connect in with yourself and with who you are so then once you've kind of done the think confident layer so you're talking to yourself positively all the time

you're really amping yourself up making yourself feel good telling yourself that it's going to be an amazing night you're going to have so much fun and you've done all the practical actions as well to help you feel confident there's also the feel layer now this is about how you feel within your body so there's different things that I like to do I like to play music as I'm getting ready so my my favorite songs that make me feel good that make me want to dance around that just give me a boost of energy and make me feel alive I always think that that is the best way you might even try things like meditation um if you are feeling a bit anxious before a first date, then you could just do like a grounding meditation

just to help you feel a bit calmer so that you're kind of backing your body and out of your head. Visualization is also one of my favorite tools to help me feel confident in any situation. So in terms of going on a first date, you might visualize yourself meeting this person, having good chat. You might visualize yourself laughing throughout the evening and visualizing yourself getting to the end of the evening, feeling really happy, feeling really good, getting into bed at night, feeling like, oh my God, I had so much fun.

Because again, that's going to help reinforce the fact that you're going to go into this first date and it's going to be fun no matter what the ultimate outcome is. There's also tools like EFT tapping where you tap on certain parts of your body to kind of shift any stagnant energy around and to leave you feeling really positive and good because that's what you want. So they are the three layers of confidence that you need to work on so that you can feel confident during a first date and a second date and a third date and any other date from there to be perfectly honest you can use these layers in any aspect of your life but I wanted to tailor it to dating now that I am back on the dating scene so I hope this has been helpful let me know your thoughts let me know what tips you're going to be implementing in and I will see you in the next one thanks so much for listening to the date with confidence podcast I hope you've enjoyed this episode subscribe rate and review and share it with your single friends Thank you.