The Date with Confidence Podcast - How To Deal With Rejection When You're Dating

Starting point is 00:00:00 Let's talk about rejection because rejection happens to all of us no matter what stage of life we're in, no matter what stage of dating we're in, no matter how old we are, how young we are, we're going to get rejected at some point just as we are going to reject someone else at some point. So I wanted to talk a little bit about how to deal with rejection that comes from dating. And I also want to start this by saying the other week I put a reel out on my Instagram and the reel was about, it was something to do with rejection. I'm just trying to find it so I can share it with you. It was something to do with, oh, how I respond to rejection in my 20s versus how I responded to rejection in my 30s and I shared what has changed for me which is kind of how we're going to start this episode

Starting point is 00:00:54 because I want to share the differences with you on here but the comment that someone left me on this reel I was like are you kidding welcome Date With Confidence podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that will either fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could have been. With practical episodes that will provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident AF on your next date, alongside lighthearted catch-ups where your host Rebecca, that's me by the way, shares her own experience dating after four years of the single life. You are guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles, empowered to never settle again and confident that the best is yet to

Starting point is 00:01:35 come. And if it all falls to shit there's a special first season dedicated to breakups, you are welcome my friend. Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. So the comment I got, someone left on the reel was imagine getting rejected while you're 30. And I was like, Oh my god, imagine it. Imagine. Imagine getting rejected in your 30s. How horrendous would that be? What will we do? How will we we cope it's the end of the world and I like it just it didn't bother me I was just like it made me laugh because I was like okay the alternative to not getting rejected or the alternative to getting rejected is never putting yourself out there never living your life in any way shape or form like every part of our lives sets us up for rejection when we apply for jobs if we create our own business if we put post out on social media there is the possibility that

Starting point is 00:02:33 we'll be rejected by people literally every single part of our lives is about getting rejected so the fact that this comment was like imagine getting rejected when you're 30 like yeah imagine it and I want to say there's no shame around it at all it is okay if you get rejected it is okay if you get rejected more than once it's not the end of the world it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you it doesn't mean that you're not good enough it doesn't mean that you're never going to find love and I am someone who has or I believe that I have rejection sensitivity dysmorphia which is often associated with ADHD I am very sensitive to rejection even the littlest tiny things can make me feel rejected

Starting point is 00:03:15 but because I'm very aware of how sensitive I am to rejection I do actively make the conscious choice to reprogram the thoughts that I'm telling myself so that I don't feel the rejection so intensely and when I am experiencing rejection I'm very nice to myself I'm going to share with you exactly what I do anyway but there are certain things that I do to ensure that I'm not letting the feeling of being rejected take over. So let's, let's start, let's get started with how I used to respond to rejection in my 20s versus how I respond to rejection now I'm in my 30s because it is pretty, like it's significantly different. So when I was younger, if I felt rejected by someone, and this could be in like across different ways, if it was I'd been broken up with, if I'd been dumped, if a guy that I fancied didn't fancy me back,

Starting point is 00:04:15 if I tried it on with someone and they knocked me back, if I put myself out there and said to someone, look, I really like you, and they rejected me, or if I'd been, I say, I say dating someone, I didn't really do dating. Because the dates I went on when I was younger, either I just went on those first dates and was like, you're not for me, or the dates ended up in relationship. So I suppose more like hooking up with someone, like if I'd been hooking up with someone for a little while, and then we decided to go our separate ways, or they were like, I've changed changed my mind then that's the kind of rejection that I experienced when I was younger and the the first thing that I did the first thing that I did pretty much whether anything was happening in my life whether I was being rejected whether I was

Starting point is 00:05:00 celebrating whether I was just living a normal everyday life would be to turn to alcohol because alcohol helped me numb my feelings and also alcohol very much helped me feel confident I used it as a tool to help me feel confident which I don't advocate for now obviously but it was what I used to make me feel like I was my best to make me feel confident to help me push myself out of my comfort zone to help me do the things that I would probably struggle with when I was sober so things like hitting on guys in bars flirting with guys going home with guys alcohol was definitely something that I used to help me feel confident in that area. And in feeling more confident in that area, I then got the validation

Starting point is 00:05:53 that I needed from other people. So if I'd been rejected from someone, for example, I wish I could think of like an actual example off the top of my head, but I I can't but if I'd been rejected by someone then I would go on a night out I would have a few drinks I would flirt with someone and either hook up with them in the bar or I might give them my number or I might suggest going home with them and in receiving that response from them and their response being sure here's like I'll take your number or kissing me back or coming home with me those responses were my validation that I was still wanted someone I was still desired by men I was still wanted by men there was still someone that wanted me like it didn't matter that I've been rejected by this other person because

Starting point is 00:06:45 oh look I've got a new guy that's desiring me and that's how I process the rejection by just simply seeking validation from someone else so it's seeking that reassurance and that validation that I'm still okay and I couldn't give myself that validation at the time I didn't know how to give myself that validation and I would never even have thought of being able to give myself that validation at the time I didn't know how to give myself that validation and I would never even have thought of being able to give myself that validation it was always seeking everything externally whereas things are very different now I'm very good at validating myself and in some way so alcohol was the first thing sleeping with other people that was the next thing so either one night stands or jumping into like a situation ship with someone else or just like hooking up

Starting point is 00:07:29 with random people because it was fun and I wanted to as I said like prove that I could still do that that was something that I was capable of and then on some occasions I'd also like get in my head around like okay how am I gonna get them back I'd like mastermind this plan for how can I make them sad that they've let me go how can I make how can I give them FOMO that they have rejected me how can I make them think of me all the time so this might be things like I don't know oh my god this is so embarrassing to admit. There was, there's probably been more than one occasion where I have messaged someone accidentally on purpose, something either flirty or, okay, I'm here now, or thank you for a great night last night. I don't even think I ever said

Starting point is 00:08:23 that. But I think it's more like, yeah, yeah okay I'll be there in a minute or just something this is so manipulative or something that would grab their attention and in my mind if I sent a message like that and then was like oh sorry wrong person in my mind they would be thinking oh what's she up to who is she seeing what is she doing and now I now I'm obviously older and grown up and don't think like that anymore I'm like oh my god they probably just thought what an absolute mess, like how desperate is she? Or they just probably didn't give a fuck at all and was like, what an idiot and just rolled their eyes. I don't think that tactic worked at all. But there were definitely, there was definitely a lot of toxic behaviour coming from me. And I mean, I'm not gonna feel ashamed about it. Because what's the

Starting point is 00:09:23 point of me feeling ashamed about the decisions I made when I was 20? Like, that's not going to help me. It's not going to enhance my life at all now. I would definitely do things differently now. But I would like mastermind this plan to try and get them back or think about like how I could bump into them. Or if I saw them on a night out, then I don't know if this even ever happened but I imagine that I would purposefully like flirt with other people in front of them although now I'm thinking about it I'm like did that ever happen I don't know I'm just trying to think back to my toxic little 22 year old brain um so yeah that's that's essentially how I responded to rejection in my 20s alcohol hooking up with other people for validation and masterminding a terrible plan to try and get them

Starting point is 00:10:12 back or behaving in a toxic way to get their attention and I don't think it ever worked so it's a waste of my time anyway now though now I'm a grown-up and I have a lot more self-worth and confidence and I love and accept myself for who I am and I can validate myself and meet my own needs I respond to rejection in a completely different way and that is one of the first one of the first things I do depending on the rejection so there are different different scales of rejection of course so based on the rejection levels from the episode that I recorded the am I delusional episode if you haven't listened to that then I'd highly recommend going and listening to that story of a dating experience that I had recently because that's kind of what encouraged me to create this

Starting point is 00:11:11 episode for you that was a I mean it wasn't a grand scale rejection by any mean but it was a rejection on a bit of a bigger scale because I'd started to catch feelings I'd started to imagine not a future as in terms of like a long-term future but I'd started to imagine a few more things of like like a few more ways of how we'd spend time together I started to think about like emotional stuff that we'd be doing sex and all that kind of stuff I'd started to picture that happening over the coming months and because I'd had those feelings the rejection felt a bit bigger than uh than an experience I had recently where a guy cancelled a date on the same day because he'd been seeing his ex and changed his mind that was very much a small rejection in comparison to the rejection that I experienced based on that

Starting point is 00:12:07 am I delusional episode so there are there are different levels of rejection when I've had a bigger rejection or a rejection that is triggering me and triggering lots of different past memories it's bringing up a lot of things that I've experienced in the past or things that I am struggling to coach myself through then I would do something like book a session with my coach so I would first point would be like okay I'm gonna book this session with a coach because I know that yes I can coach myself through a lot of things, but also I need an outsider's perspective, I need someone neutral to the conversation, I need someone that isn't my friend, well, I mean, having said that, I mean, I've been working with her for a few years, like,

Starting point is 00:12:54 I consider myself very close with her, but I need someone that can give me a, not, outsiders isn't the right word that I want to use like a neutral that can give me neutral feedback because when you share things with your friends if I was to go to my friends and say this is how I'm feeling this is what's happened and this happened with the am I delusional guy I obviously shared with my friends what had been going on and when I got the message from him I was actually with two of my closest friends and their responses are instantly defensive, instantly like fuck that guy, you don't need him, what an arsehole, you're so much better than that and that's what you'd expect from your friends because they love you and they care for you and they protect you and they don't want to see you hurt and there's nothing wrong with that it's amazing when you have supportive friends like that and at the same time you need the neutral responses

Starting point is 00:13:58 because I think it's healthy to look at things from all angles and to work on healing yourself as opposed to creating loads of anger or toxicity around that person or shaming that person because at the end of the day we're all human we all make mistakes like yeah some people fuck up more than others and it is frustrating when you're on the receiving end of day, we're all human, we all make mistakes. Like, yeah, some people fuck up more than others. And it is frustrating when you're on the receiving end of it. But we're all humans, none of us are perfect. So booking a session with my coach is one of the first things I do to get that professional support to help me release any trauma that's in my body to help me talk through things to help me come to my own understanding of how I want to move forward, that's the first thing. And to also help me make sure that I'm

Starting point is 00:14:53 not getting in my head about making the rejection mean anything about myself. I'll then do things like focusing on the things that I love. So anything that makes me feel good anything that brings me joy anything that gets me out of my head and stops me over analyzing the situation I will take myself out for dinner I will get myself dressed up and go and work from a cafe I will do things that make me feel good I'll spend time with my niece and nephew anything that just fills up my cup and reminds me that I do actually love being single like I do enjoy it being single I say I love being single yes I am actively dating yes but also I'm dating because like I'd like to meet someone but at the same time how am I trying to say this there is nothing that I feel like is missing from my life so if I meet someone that's amazing they

Starting point is 00:15:53 will add to this life that I've created for myself that I already love I am rather be single than be with someone who isn't that into me and who isn't gonna add to my life so I focus on doing things that I love to remind myself of this amazing life that I've created for myself and to remind myself it's not the end of the world that someone has rejected me. I also do things like the energetic kind of stuff, which I'm going to talk about a bit more in a moment, because these are the practices that I do regularly anyway, but then when it comes to being rejected, I focus on them in a bit more depth. I make sure that I spend time with my close friends, that I hang out with people that I

Starting point is 00:16:45 love and I also get back on the dating horse quickly so with the am I delusional guy that we'd been seeing each other for a few weeks we've been on a few really intense dates as I said I'd started to catch feelings but when he decided that that was it for us, I wasn't going to sit at home and cry about it. I was very quick to get straight back on the dating apps and get new dates in the diary because I knew that the longer I left it, the harder it would be. I knew that I needed to get back out there straight away because if I didn't then thoughts would go round and round in my head about I'm never going to meet anyone else, this was the closest that I've come to liking someone since my ex, I would have just spiralled.

Starting point is 00:17:39 So whilst in my 20s I would like jump straight that, like go out and hook up with someone, horse, to get the validation externally. This time I do it from a place of, I'm going to get back out and date people, almost to, I suppose it is in the same way, I don't see it as looking for validation, but I see it more as proving to myself that there are other options out there and to prove that there are plenty more fish in the sea so it's more of like an evidence-based exercise as opposed to I need the validation from them because I give myself that validation anyway like I know that I'm going to meet someone I know that I'm going to meet the exact person that I've been waiting for my whole life I know that I'm going to meet someone. I know that I'm going to meet the exact person that I've been waiting for my whole life. I know that I'm going to meet someone that I deserve and I'm going to

Starting point is 00:18:28 have that fairy tale love romance relationship that I desire. I just know that's going to happen and by getting dates booked in with other people I'm giving myself the evidence that there are other possibilities out there and also I'm putting in the work that I need to put in to bring that opportunity to me, if that makes sense. So when it comes to you dealing with rejection, there are three bases that you really need to cover and this is based on the 1990 mindset concept I talked about the 1990 mindset concept in episode three which was the ultimate guide to self-care or no how to self-care when you are going through a breakup so I touched on the 1990 mindset concept in that episode but essentially there are three core principles for of the 1990 90 mindset concept and these are all taught really

Starting point is 00:19:26 in depth inside the confidence course but I'll give you a quick overview now the first principle is that you only need to become 90 confident 90 of the time and the idea of striving for 100 confidence is actually really limiting for you because it's impossible to to get to that level the second core principle is that you only need 90 seconds of confidence to make a decision or take an action that has the potential to change your life and the third core principle is that there are three layers of confidence you need to work on to become 90% confident 90% of the time aka become confident every day and those three layers are think confident act confident and feel confident so when it comes to dealing with rejection and overcoming rejection when you're dating you really want to look at

Starting point is 00:20:19 each of these three layers and make sure you are doing exercises or working techniques or consciously thinking about each of these three layers to ensure that your confidence doesn't hit rock bottom and to ensure that you just get back to your most confident self as quickly as possible. So the think layer, this is where you want to focus on recognizing any shitty thoughts that you're having so if you've been rejected what are you making that mean about yourself are you making it mean you're not good enough are you making it mean you're never going to find someone are you making it mean that all men are trash understand what shitty thoughts you've got and repeat and then rewrite them reprogram them change them because they're not going to be helpful for you at all it's interesting to

Starting point is 00:21:13 bring the awareness to your attention of these are the thoughts i'm having but then you get to choose new thoughts that are going to empower you and aren't going to send you into a spiral of self-doubt, self-worthlessness, like not liking yourself. A great exercise you can do in the think area as well is writing out a list of all the cons about that person and then talk yourself into the rejection being a good thing so I've done this with people that I've dated I did it with a I'm delusional guy although I'm not going to say it's easy because when you're in that phase or in that stage where you've started to catch feelings you've enjoyed your time with them you've perhaps been through a few week period or a couple of months period where you're having amazing dates and you feel like you've got a

Starting point is 00:22:09 connection and you think like oh my god this might actually be it especially if you've been dating for a long time and haven't had that experience it's very hard to think of any negatives about that person and this isn't this isn't something that you do to then share with them or to share with other people this is an exercise that you do to help you change your own mindset around rejection so think of any little red flags you might have noticed think of anything that they perhaps did or said that you weren't that fussed about or that you maybe didn't like but you were willing to overlook because you really liked them, have that cons list and then talk yourself into the rejection being a really good thing. So we are so quick to talk ourselves

Starting point is 00:22:59 into something being a bad thing, we are very quick to talk ourselves into being dumped or having like being rejected as being, we're not good enough, did I say the wrong thing, maybe I messaged too much, maybe I didn't message enough, maybe I should have sent them photos, maybe I should have kissed them earlier, we're very quickly to, we're very quick to spiral into those negative thoughts that make everything about us and why we're bad and why we're very quickly to, we're very quick to spiral into those negative thoughts that make everything about us and why we're bad and why we're not good enough and what could we have done, but instead you want to think differently, you want to challenge that thinking and you want to tell yourself, okay this is great that they've rejected me because now my boundaries can be higher,

Starting point is 00:23:43 now I get to choose someone who does have all the qualities of my desires list and not just a handful of them I get to go on more dates with more people I get to meet new people I get to have different adventures I get to try out different styles of dates like talk yourself into rejection being a really amazing thing they weren't the one anyway look at that cons list they were not the one for you anyway. You just thought they were in the moment because it felt good. Then moving on to the act confident layer. You really want to do anything and everything you can to act confidently, even if you don't feel it. So wear things you love. Put on that outfit that makes you feel amazing. Doesn't matter if you're just going it so wear things you love put on that outfit that makes you feel amazing

Starting point is 00:24:25 doesn't matter if you're just going to the supermarket doesn't matter if you're just walking the dog doesn't matter if you're working from home put on something that makes you feel incredible so that every time you pass a mirror you look at yourself and you go damn I look good oh well they missed out make an effort with your appearance even if you don't feel like you want to do skincare maybe put some makeup on maybe do your hair if that's what makes you feel good. Paint your nails, whatever makes you behave in a more confident manner. Stand tall. Tell yourself I love you in the mirror.

Starting point is 00:24:58 I've got nine 90 second confidence boosters. These are exercises that you can do in 90 seconds that will instantly help you act more confidently and these can be used when you're going on a first date when you're overcoming rejection if you're meeting someone's parents for the first time these can be used in any different scenario and you can find them inside the confidence kit so i'll leave the link in the show notes for you so you can can go and download that. It's a free resource. It's also got other exercises based on the think confident layer and the feel confident layer. So go check that out now. Then the feel confident layer, this is really about conjuring up feelings of confidence. So even though you're feeling rejected, even though you might be feeling

Starting point is 00:25:41 a bit disappointed, even though you might be having these negative thoughts, you want to bring confidence into your body now. And you can do this by singing, by dancing around to your favourite playlist, you might scream into a pillow to let out any rage or anger or feelings of hurt, let those bad emotions out, bring that confidence into your body. You might want to do things like do a workout go to a dance class go to like a kickboxing class or something do anything that's going to shift any negative energy from your body some of my favorite practices are things like EFT tapping breath work and meditation it's all about releasing any negative energy and bringing positive confident energy back to your body so instead of feeling like you're not enough you're shifting into

Starting point is 00:26:33 here's loss anyone would be lucky to have me i'm fucking amazing there are plenty more fish in the sea i'm gonna get what i deserve that's the energy you're gonna shift into, as opposed to this energy of, what have I done wrong? Why am I not good enough? Why does this all happen to me? We don't need that anymore. We're shifting into confident. I'm fucking brilliant. I'm gonna get what I deserve energy. This is just a redirection. Means fuck all about me. This is about them. It's also also i want to just add this one in this is not about toxic positivity so it's not about forcing yourself to bury the negative emotions let the emotions out as i said scream into a pillow have a cry talk things through the talk things through with a coach go for a run let the anger out in a

Starting point is 00:27:26 healthy way it's not about forcing yourself to ignore these emotions that feel bad it's just creating awareness around them processing them letting them out and then choosing to move yourself into a more confident place so i wanted to share with you a seven day action plan for when you are dealing with rejection. Because I feel like a lot of us can get stuck in the rejection stage for a long time. And I'm including myself in this because there have been countless times where the slightest little rejection, and I say slightest, like it's's all relative we are all allowed to feel how we feel if what one person would consider a tiny rejection feels like a massive rejection to you that is okay there is no shame in feeling rejection on a massive scale as I said before

Starting point is 00:28:17 I am very sensitive to rejection so what might be a little thing for me or what might be a massive thing for me might be so insignificant to you and vice versa. That's not an issue. But we want to move through this rejection quickly. So these are the exact things I did in the seven days after the rejection that I experienced with the am I delusional guy. So day one, feel however you need to feel. So when you get that rejection message or you've realized they've ghosted you or they give you a phone call and say, yeah, not into it anymore. Or this would be like event of the century if it actually happened.

Starting point is 00:28:49 But if somebody did have the balls to say it to your face and say it to you in person, wow. Day one, feel however you need to feel. Message your besties, cry, get angry, overthink everything. It's okay to overthinkthink it it's okay to have those negative thoughts spiraling it's okay to reread your messages a hundred times it's okay to go through that phase of did I make all this up am I delusional is this is this something that I created in my mind is there something wrong with me it's okay to go through all those emotions and to feel all those different feelings and for me I very much went through their five stages of

Starting point is 00:29:31 grief like every hour I could do all five stages within an hour so it's okay to experience that I talk more about the five stages of grief in the back the breakup bounce back which is a mini course that I've created for helping you bounce back from rejection or breakups or ends of situationships etc and talk a bit more about that there but it's okay to go through all those feelings and emotions let yourself fall apart if you need to let yourself do that day one that's what you do and by day one I mean like first like 24 hours day two you can still allow space for even more overthinking so replay your dates replay the conversations reread the messages it's still okay to be doing that on day two but make sure that you're doing things for yourself as well. So soaking a bath, spend time with your

Starting point is 00:30:26 friends, do all your self-care, get your hair done, whatever you need to do, self-care to the max, alongside the overthinking. Make plans and then one thing that you also want to do, if you had dates booked in with this person and you had future plans made with them you want to make sure that you book new things in for those days so get new plans in the diary arrange to see your friends arrange to see family take yourself out for lunch take yourself on a date get new plans booked in so that on the days where you were supposed to see them you're not just sat at home thinking oh but I was supposed to see them and we were supposed to do this and we were supposed to go here because you don't want to stay in that moping around energy as I said it's

Starting point is 00:31:20 okay to feel upset about the rejection it's okay to feel sad it's okay to feel all these emotions but you don't want to let it impact your life to the point where it takes over everything you also might want to throw yourself into work you can numb a bit if you need to there's no shame in numbing numb with netflix numb with overworking numb with food probably don't numb with alcohol i wouldn't really advocate for that anymore because it's just going to make things a million times worse but numb a bit and start matching with people on dating apps again, have a little scroll through, match with a couple of people and although your brain will be going oh but they're not going to be as good as x person, ignore that that little voice you want to remind yourself that there are plenty of opportunities out there for you then day three have a session with a counsellor

Starting point is 00:32:11 a coach or a therapist to help you get rid of all the shit so that you don't take it to the next guy you start dating i did this very very quickly so i'd got the message from him on the wednesday evening i think this is like my recent one i got the message from him on the Wednesday evening I think this is like my recent one I got the message from him on the Wednesday evening and I'd booked a session with my coach for the following Tuesday because I knew I wanted to get rid of it quickly if it is just a small rejection so at the weekend I was supposed to go out with this guy and he messaged me on the day like literally two hours before we were supposed to meet like yeah I saw my ex so I don't think it's wise for me to date then like I don't need a session with my coach about that I don't need to see a therapist I

Starting point is 00:32:56 don't need to see a counselor about that I'm fine with that it's only when you are experiencing something that is gonna dramatically impact your everyday life and that is gonna suck you back into that hole of i'm not good enough nothing's gonna work out for me the the kind of negative spiral day four spend some time intentionally intentionally speaking to people who seem like nice people so don't for the, I feel like you can tell the type, you can tell the type on the dating apps. You have the hot guys who have the posy photos, who look like their fuckboys, who probably have their shirt off, don't really give much information in their profile. They are the people we're going to avoid during this phase. You want to talk to

Starting point is 00:33:45 the people who are smiley, who are perhaps a bit geeky, who have filled out a lot of information in their profiles, who are upfront and honest about what they want, who seem like fun. They are the people you want to chat to because you're going to get the better types of conversation from them. You're going to get conversation from people that are genuinely invested genuinely nice guys so have a few chats with them but steer clear of seeking validation or making bad swiping choices even though that instant gratification might help alternatively and i'm not opposed to this in any way shape or form if you've got a fuck buddy or someone that you hook up with, hook up with them. Let yourself feel good for a few hours.

Starting point is 00:34:31 Remind yourself there are other people out there that do desire you. It's okay to do that. If I had a fuck buddy, that's exactly what I'd do but I don't at the moment. day five get another date booked in with someone else for a few days time so the quicker you get back out there the better unless it's been a long-term relationship a toxic breakup or you're still in a really negative headspace or your mental health is really struggling then I don't advocate for getting straight on the dating horse but I would also but but if you are in a stronger place if it has been a few months or a few weeks or just a micro rejection then get yourself a date booked in with someone else so I had this like the rejection a few weeks ago, I had with the Am I Delusional guy, got the message on the Wednesday. The following Thursday, I had another date.

Starting point is 00:35:29 And the Tuesday after that, I think I had a date as well. So I'd already got two dates lined up with a couple of different people within less than a week because I wasn't just going to sit around and wait to feel better. Then day six is when I actually had my coaching session so this is when I had my coaching session I did the EFT I did the I didn't do EFT that's a lie I did a breathwork session with my coach we did some trauma healing I decided what closure looked like for me I dove into what was actually coming up all the triggers that had happened why I was feeling so triggered by it we looked at my past relationships we looked at my history we got rid of all the shit and it felt really good I decided what closure was going to look like dealt with the closure did a cold cutting meditation did all the things so energetically I felt like I was starting

Starting point is 00:36:25 on a fresh slate and then day seven was when I went for a date or was it day eight maybe I lied maybe day eight was maybe day eight was the um new day but if you can get yourself a date booked in within a week do it go on another date with someone else there is someone out there that is gonna be better for you just to get back on that horse remember rejection isn't about you it's not that you're not good enough it might be that you're not that person that they don't think you're the one for them and that's also fine it doesn't mean that you as a person are not enough it just means you're not what that person was looking for. And that's okay. They just weren't that into you. And however much that hurts,

Starting point is 00:37:09 remember that there are times and experiences where another person hasn't been for you. You have just not been that into them. And just because someone chooses themselves doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. You're just not a great match and however much that sucks it is okay it will be okay there is someone better out there waiting for you do not let this rejection stop you from living an incredible life from putting yourself out there from opening yourself up to possibilities to more opportunities love is out there waiting for you you deserve it and you're gonna have it okay you can contribute your stories to the date

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