The Date with Confidence Podcast - How To Have Fun On Valentine's Day When You're Single

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Starting point is 00:00:40 friend. Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. Welcome back to the Date With Confidence podcast. This is a very specific episode, a very seasonal episode. This is all about how to have fun on Valentine's Day when you are single. Now, I don't know about you, Valentine's Day has never particularly bothered me I'm not gonna lie I couldn't really care for it however I know for a lot of people especially if you're specifically trying to manifest the one quite quickly or you want to be in a relationship now you're done with being single you're fed up of feeling like you're alone you want want your relationship. I know that for you Valentine's Day can feel quite hard, it can feel depressing, it can feel really miserable to open up your social media feed

Starting point is 00:01:35 and just see all the lovey-dovey shit all over there. So I thought I'd do an episode about how to have fun because just because you're single doesn't mean you can't celebrate Valentine's Day. So if you're not in the camp of Valentine's is just another day and you're in that camp of wanting to celebrate Valentine's Day, here is how you're going to do it when you're single. Before we dive into some of the things that I do for myself if I want a fun day, I just want to say that the best Valentine's Day I've ever had I'm trying to think about all the Valentine's Day I've had but the best Valentine's Day I had was actually with my ex's sister so there was this one year where he was abroad because we did long distance for a little while and his sister was in London she lives in London well she might not now I don't know she lived in London at the time which isn't that far from me and we met up and we went out and we had a day was it a day it might have even

Starting point is 00:02:31 been an evening it was probably an evening because she works in London whatever it was we met up we went for drinks we went for dinner we had lots of laughs lots of fun and it was just a really lovely day because it wasn't about the fact that I wasn't with my ex it wasn't about needing to be lovey and romantic we just enjoyed ourselves and I had so much fun and I'm not gonna lie I'm a little bit sad that we don't actually talk anymore but we're not gonna get into that in this episode so if it is a day that bothers you, Valentine's Day is a day that triggers old hurt, that brings up some sadness, that gets you stuck in that negative lack mindset of I don't have what everyone else has. If you find yourself comparing yourself to everyone else, do yourself a favour and today and tomorrow and on Valentine's Day and the day after really, get yourself off of social media because the more you surround yourself with the type of content that is going

Starting point is 00:03:33 to trigger with you, that is going to make you feel bad, it's going to make you feel upset, the worse you're going to feel on the actual day. You have the power to take that negative stuff out of your world, even if it's just for a few days. You have the power to remove those potential triggers from your feed, from your environment, from the content that you're consuming right now. Do yourself a favour and take control. There is no point knowing that tomorrow is going to trigger you or knowing that the 14th is going to trigger you. There is no point in having that awareness and not doing something about it. So please unfollow people, delete the apps off your phone, give yourself a digital detox for a few days to get all that content out of the way to get it let it all pass through you know social media

Starting point is 00:04:25 the content doesn't last for very long so let it all pass itself by and you can just be ignorant in your own digital detoxed state knowing that you're not gonna have to see any of it then plan yourself a fun activity with yourself or with your friends I know it's a couple of days till valentine's I mean if you're listening to this later in the year, or even if you listen to this next year in preparation for Valentine's, plan yourself something fun to do. You can do this on your own. You could get together with a group of friends. You could get together with family if you want to, but plan something so that you don't reach the day and think, oh, valentine's day and all i'm going to

Starting point is 00:05:06 be seeing is lovey-dovey couples instead you go oh today's the 14th and i'm going to go and do something fun today i can't wait to go and do an escape room or i can't wait to take myself on a shopping spree whatever it is or alternatively if you are not in the mood to go out, if you know that socialising is the last thing you're going to want to do, then organise yourself a cosy night in with a fancy meal. Get yourself one of those meal deals from M&S. There used to be, what was it, like three things for £10? Dining for a tenner or whatever it was. I can't remember, I've not done it for a long time.

Starting point is 00:05:42 But get yourself a cosy little meal deal. Grab yourself a bottle of wine, light some candles, put the food in the oven, do your hair, do your makeup, dress yourself up in an outfit that makes you feel amazing and have a dinner date with yourself. You are your best company. You are the best date that you're gonna ever have.

Starting point is 00:06:00 And if you struggle to date yourself, whether it's a cozy night in or whether it's going out, then I will leave a link to a video that I shared on my other YouTube channel that gives you tips on how to feel confident dating yourself. Not just about having a cozy night in, but aside from Valentine's Day, you can go and watch that. But create an environment and an atmosphere for yourself that makes you feel good, that doesn't allow you to wallow in the fact that it's Valentine's and you're not happy about it. Then you can act as if you are already in the relationship of your dreams. Now when it comes to manifesting the one,

Starting point is 00:06:37 we talked about this a couple of episodes ago about different exercises that you could do. If you wanted to take things up a notch, there is no reason that as part of your acting as if exercises, as part of your creating the belief that your dream relationship exists, which is the previous episode, there is no reason that you couldn't write yourself a romantic valentine's card, get it posted to yourself. There is no reason that you can't act as if you are already in the relationship of your dreams. Buy yourself a treat and pretend it's from your future partner. Write yourself a card detailing all the things that you love about yourself or detailing all the things that you expect your future partner to say about yourself? Write yourself a love letter to your future husband or future partner and say dear future partner happy valentine's day I'm so

Starting point is 00:07:34 excited we're spending the day doing x y and z. Write that card put it in a drawer and then whenever whatever valentine's day you come across in the future, when you have your partner, go back to that card and see what actually manifested from what you wrote down, what you almost predicted for your future. Alongside that, I'd also encourage you to do, to spend some time doing some of the manifestation practices that I shared in How to Manifest the One. I'll link the episode in the show notes. Because there are, although the premise of the exercise is is to try to bring your partner to you on a quicker time scale, there are also exercises that give you that clarity around what you want, that fill you with certainty around I am going to have the relationship of my dreams, and that help raise your vibration and make you feel

Starting point is 00:08:25 good and we want you to feel as good as possible not just on valentine's day but on every single day and most importantly instead of making valentine's day about couples celebrate yourself make valentine's day about you celebrate how amazing you are. Celebrate the love that you have for yourself. Treat yourself to a present, to you, from you. Maybe go for a massage. Take yourself on a trip. Go and get your nails done. Give yourself an at-home pedicure or manicure. Grab a couple of face masks. Give a spa treatment celebrate how amazing you are write yourself a list of all the things that you're proud of about yourself anything that shows yourself the love that you deserve and when you can love yourself deeply whenever the one comes

Starting point is 00:09:20 along they will be able to love you just as deeply. If you don't love yourself, then nobody else will be able to give you the love that you desire. You have to love yourself first beyond everything else, whether you are in a relationship or whether you are single. Loving yourself is the most important thing that you can do for you. So spend Valentine's Day cultivating that deeper relationship with yourself, building that deeper connection, loving on yourself, treating yourself as if or treating yourself how you would want your future partner to treat you. And at the end of the day, remind yourself Valentine's Day is just another day. Not having a partner on Valentine's Day doesn't make you any less worthy, it doesn't make

Starting point is 00:10:06 you unlovable, it doesn't make you less than anyone else, it's just a day. It is a day where people celebrate love and there's no reason that you can't celebrate the love that you have for yourself. So tell me what you're going to be doing this Valentine's Day. I'm sending you so much love whether you love Valentine's or whether you hate Valentine's. Love is coming your way and I'll see you in the next one. Thanks so much for listening to the Date With Confidence podcast. I hope you've enjoyed this episode. Subscribe, rate and review and share it with your single friends. Thank you. you

The Date with Confidence Podcast - How To Have Fun On Valentine's Day When You're Single

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