The Date with Confidence Podcast - My First Date Of 2024: Everything You Need To Know

Episode Date: January 29, 2024

EPISODE 28: My First Date Of 2024: Everything You Need To KnowAre you ready to hear all the details about my first date of 2024? Because that's exactly what we're going to talk about in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast. From the nerves that crept in before the date to the (not so) unexpected turns, I’m sharing all the juicy details about my first date with someone I first met over 12 years ago….Here are the key topics covered:1. The Build-Up: I’m setting the stage, describing the anticipation and pressure of meeting someone I knew from over a decade ago. 2. Overcoming Nerves: I’m detailing exactly what I did to ease the first date jitters and ensure I arrived at the date feeling confident and excited instead of anxious. 3. Axe Throwing Adventure: He’d booked us an activity that I’d never done before – axe throwing. We spent the afternoon laughing, sharing stories and engaging in conversation that flowed naturally, even after a decade.4. Thoughtful Gestures: Before we even met, he showed he was thoughtful, yet from the start of the date until we said goodbye, the thoughtful gestures kept on coming. 5. Communication and Comfort: Discover what makes the communication so top notch and learn how he’s continually made me feel safe both via message and in person. 6. Gentlemanly Acts: I detail the multitude of gentlemanly behaviours, from driving me home (over a two-hour round trip) to small acts of kindness, challenging the conventional dating experiences.7. Bet You Didn’t See This Coming: I’m ending the episode with a surprising revelation….a revelation that makes me a massive hypocrite. And I’m not even sorry.Episodes Mentioned:Am I Delusional?! The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious NightmareSex on the Third Date?! Dating Rules You Need to DitchThis Simple Concept Will Help You Date with ConfidenceYou're Allowed to Change Your Mind At ANY PointGet Involved!You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  ResourcesThe Confidence KitThe Confidence CourseVisit The Date with Confidence website.Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram. Follow your host here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you ready to hear all the details about my first date of 2024? Because that's exactly what we're going to talk about in this episode. Welcome to the Date With Confidence podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that'll either fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could have been. With practical episodes that'll provide fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could have been with practical episodes that'll provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident af on your next date alongside light-hearted catch-ups where your host rebecca that's me by the way shares her own experience dating after four years of the single life you are guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles empowered to never

settle again and confident that the best is yet to come and if it all falls to shit there's a special first season dedicated to breakups you are welcome my friend subscribe review and share with your single friends you know i was gonna release a different episode this week one that i'd already recorded about red flags and then i was like oh my god if I was listening to this this podcast and the week before the host had told me all about their first date that they were gonna go on and then I knew that they'd been on the date and they didn't tell me the following week what happened on the day I would be fuming so I'm gonna give you the download on everything that happened on this first date so if you

listened to last week's episode you will know that this was with someone I met over 12 years ago on well multiple nights out we used to bump into each other regularly on nights out I say regularly like a few times and apparently also he was telling me that we went for a drink when we were in Bangkok I do not remember meeting him in Thailand but evidently we met up on Koh Sam Road and we'd had a beer together he was like it wasn't for very long it was like 15-20 minutes but we yeah like met up had a beer by. He was like, it wasn't for very long. It was like 15, 20 minutes. But we, yeah, like met up, had a beer by the Irish bar. He like said the place that we'd been to. And I'm like, what?

Zero recollection. Absolutely zero recollection, which is really frustrating. So I was really nervous. Let's start at the beginning. Let's go to the beginning. Okay, so I got ready for the date. I went to see my sister-in-law in the morning because it was her birthday saw her saw the kids spent a bit of time with them

and then I spent um a lot of time like getting ready doing my hair doing my makeup choosing my outfit and I was really unsure what I was going to wear because I didn't want to dress up because it was a Saturday it's kind of during the day it it's not going out vibes. I didn't want to be too dressed up. I wanted to be quite casual. But a few days before the date, I tried on my favourite pair of jeans and I couldn't fit into them. So I was like, what on earth am I going to wear? And I thought maybe I'll wear a skirt. But then it got to the day and how it happened, I'm not sure, but the jeans fit.

So I was fine. I put my jeans on I had bought a new jumper that was just like a cozy casual jumper but it was new and to wash and boot so pretty pretty casual but like a nice casual because I've done my hair and makeup if you like so I was pretty pretty nervous and I don't really get nervous on first dates now and I was on my way and I was like sweating and I told my mum and she was just like but you don't get nervous before first dates anymore and I was like I know like I am pretty good at not being nervous anymore because I feel like I've gone on quite a few and I'm just fine but I think because there was more pressure because I knew this guy before there was that pressure of is it gonna be awkward is there gonna be chemistry what's it gonna be like there was a lot of a lot more pressure I felt like even though I would also said

there doesn't need to be pressure because it was a date slash non-date because when he'd asked me out on a date I was just like well why don't we if it feels like a date it's a date and if it doesn't feel like a date then we're just friends catching up but the more we talked about it the more it evidently was a date so I'm on the train messaging the girls like oh my god I'm so fucking nervous how can I be sweating this much when it's this cold and then I sat there and I tried to think about all the things that I would say to somebody in my position because this is something that I teach about like being confident in general I'm a confidence coach being confident when it comes to dating when it comes to going on a first date so I thought back to all the methods and all the techniques that I would tell somebody else to use

and if you listen to I think it's episode 19 there is an episode about being confident dating I think it's this this concept this simple concept will help you date with confidence so I was trying to think back to what I'd talked about in that episode and I was really annoyed because I forgot my headphones and I never forget my headphones because really important to me when I'm on public transport and traveling I like to have I like to be listening to something so I couldn't even listen to myself and sometimes I do I recently when I went to Valencia in October I was freaking out on the plane so I opened up my podcast app and I listened to one of the modules that I've got inside the confidence course which is all about strategies for managing fear and I listened to one of the modules that I've got inside the confidence course which is all about

strategies for managing fear and I listened to my own workshop on it to help calm me down and I find that really useful but I didn't have my headphones so I couldn't actually do it so I was thinking about all the things that I could do to try and release the nerves and just help me feel more confident things like box breathing imagine it going really well reminding myself that I just needed that initial 90 seconds of confidence so as soon as I'd met him I knew it was going to be fine but it was just that initial anticipation um and then I was kind of by that point I got to myself to I'd got myself to the point where I was excited more than nervous so by the time I met him I saw him like stand at the station and I was like okay great this is fine and he gave me a hug and he

like he'd already said that he was gonna hug me like hard he was like I'm like gonna give you such a big hug when I see you and he like hugged me and then like wouldn't let go and then I was just like okay you can you can let go now and yeah it was it was nice I mean obviously we've changed like it's been what a decade since we've seen each other we've changed like physically but it was still nice to there was still that comfortability and the familiarity and the it was weird it was so weird reconnecting with someone after so long and we then just started walking to the event so he had booked something for us to do he'd booked an activity for us to do but I didn't know what we were doing so we he just got his maps out and we started walking

we'd met in Chelmsford because he lives fucking miles away he He lives over an hour away, like out in the countryside. So we met in Chelmsford, because that was kind of halfway between us, I guess. And we started walking to the activity place, and we got there, went and grabbed a drink, and then he was like, okay, we're doing axe swearing. And I was like, oh my God, this is really exciting, because I've never done axe swearing before.

And it was a nice suggestion, I I thought for a first date so we grab a drink go and sit down start chatting and honestly it's so easy you know when you're just with someone and it's comfortable and it's easy and I mean I was I was a bit giggly you know when you you have that like excitable energy so I was very chatty very like straight into telling stories catching up about things and what was really nice is there was no mundane chat I mean we've we've been speaking like every day for the past few weeks anyway so and we've been talking about so many different things but there was none of the surface level chit chat like how's your day been or anything like that it was straight into oh this happened when I was in Thailand or I want to tell you about

this story or do you remember when people used to we talked about one thing where um it was like there was a thing that we used to do where if somebody said something and then someone else shouted claim they had to do that thing. And I was like, oh my God, I forgot that we used to do that all the time. And we talked about different drinking games that we'd played, not together, but separately, because he lived in Southeast Asia as well for, I think it was about four or five years on and off. And I'd lived in Thailand and that's, we talked about our stories from there. So we were just really catching up about so many different things. And I really like that.

I think sometimes when you obviously meet a stranger, you don't always dive straight into interesting conversation. It can not necessarily feel awkward, but you don't have that instant, like we don't need to worry about the surface level shit I'm not a surface level person it doesn't interest me I've talked about that before on the pod a boring conversation is not for me I like to go straight in with stories or like deep topics or discussing um discussing different things and not an argument isn't the

right word but having debates about different things sharing opinions like that lights me up that gets me engaged and when somebody else is listening to me I find that really I find it really attractive for a start but it's really nice when I can see that somebody is open openly listening to me and engaging in what I'm saying that makes me feel very comfortable and it's quite rare that you meet people like that I feel so we had our drinks we were chatting and then we did the axe throwing so we I think we sat chatting for about half an hour before we did the axe throwing because we got there early and it was funny like we had this guy he has to go and collect the axes once you've thrown them so he was there as well kind of making jokes and telling us what to do I was terrible like I suck at axe throwing and I think it's because it was my first

time and there was a bit of nerves because people are watching and I was like oh my god this is gonna be so embarrassing I'm also super competitive so when I'm not doing very well at something I get really frustrated which is probably not an attractive thing um but yeah it's it's fine so we were playing but then I did there was one point where I think I got all three axes on the board but then one fell off so I was like well I win at being the one that got the three axes on the board because you've not got three axes on the board so that was that but we were laughing and joking and he was taking the piss and he was just like oh should we do another activity and I like once we'd finished and I was like no it's fine and he was like I really should have booked something else you know

and he was a bit you could tell like I could tell he was a little bit nervous and obviously wanted to make a good impression which I find quite endearing it's I think it's quite sweet when you can see that someone wants to impress you and he's putting in the effort to impress you I find it endearing I think there's a fine line because when someone's too over the top it can be irritating but this was the good this was the good side of the line where it was very endearing that he obviously wanted to wanted me to have a good time which I really appreciated and I was like no don't be silly like it's fine that you haven't booked anything else and what I actually really liked about the axe throwing as well is that it wasn't very long it was like half an hour I think an hour would have been too much I would have lost concentration with

the ADHD it would have been a bit repetitive but I felt like I really enjoyed the game so then we sat down afterwards and he was like do you want something to eat I was like I don't know he's like what do you mean you don't know and I was like I really struggle with decisions I said I've told him about the ADHD before I was like I really find it hard to make decisions he's like what do you mean you don't know and I was like I really struggle with decisions I said I've told him about the ADHD before I was like I really find it hard to make decisions he was like well let's go like let's look at somewhere to go for food I was like okay and he was like where do you want to go I was like I don't know like suggest some options to me I was like give me some food names like or give me some types of food and then I'll decide and he was like well steak and I was like yeah I could eat steak like I could always eat steak who couldn't eat

steak so we look at some other places and he's like let's just go out and we'll walk around so we walked um through Chelmsford and then there was a restaurant I can't remember what it was I think it was called Middleton's is that the name of it I've got the card somewhere I think it was called Middleton's it's a steak and meat restaurant I guess steak and grill or something I don't know we went in there it's kind of fancy like more fancy than like a chain restaurant I guess unless it is a chain and I've just never heard of it but we went in there and they wanted to see us on a table and I was like no can we sit in the booth and they were like you can have it till six because it's booked so we had like two hours in there and I'm like I want to sit where I want to sit I have started doing this a few years ago where I practice asking for what I want so when I

go into a restaurant if there is a specific table that I want to sit at I will ask to sit at that table and obviously if they say no they say no it's not the end of the world but I think it's important that we get used to actually asking for what we want so we went and sat in this booth and we sat next to each other and we're chatting and I was telling him about the near perfect date which I'll link to in the show notes I was telling him about the near perfect day I was talking about other dating disasters we were talking about experiences that he'd had dating um so many different things we had we had like lots to talk about and then a couple of the time a couple of times the conversation got a bit steamy and I was like I did not expect us to be talking about this right now but then it would also

completely switch to the opposite where I was talking about this right now but then it would also completely switch to the opposite where I was talking about losing my dog and he was talking about the dogs that he'd lost so it was a bit emotional as well like we talked about literally everything so many different topics that we covered and we were just having a really nice time so got some food and then the bill came and he obviously paid for it he'd paid for the activity and the bill came and I was like do you want to split it and we had already talked about the whole bill splitting thing before we went on the date so before he asked me out when we first reconnected he assumed that I was still in a relationship with my ex and I didn't know like

where he stood in terms of his relationship status and I said that I'd started dating again recently and he was like oh I thought you were settled down and then he said to me when we were first messaging like who should pay on a date and I was like I think if a guy has asked me out I would like him to pay for me I was like I don't expect it and I will offer to split it but if he suggests splitting it or if if he doesn't pay for it I know he's not the one because I want someone that's gonna take me out and treat me and make me feel secure and looked after in all areas of my life. So one of those is like financially and yes, I'm an independent woman. Yes, I want to make my own money. Yes, I intend to be very successful throughout my life. But I also like it when a guy pays for my dinner. I find it attractive. I enjoy it. I like being taken

care of. So I'd said this to him in a message and he was like, I think a guy should always pay on the first date, especially if he's the one that's asked you out. And then I said, I did say to him in the message, I was like, I will offer to split it because I feel like, I feel like there's that expectation nowadays where a woman has to offer or she's rude or has those expectations or maybe feels entitled and I said to him as well at the time I was like if I know that I'm definitely not going to see the guy again because there's there's nothing like there's nothing from my side I will suggest splitting it because it really annoys me when I watch first dates and the girl racks up a massive bill and then doesn't offer to split it and then goes, yeah, I'm not

going to see you again. I personally think that's rude. I think if you know that it's a definite no, you should at least offer to pay. So when we were in the restaurant and I said, oh, do you want to split it? He later said to me, I was really worried that restaurant and I said oh do you want to split it he later said to me I was really worried that I'd done something wrong because you've told me before you offer to split it when you're not into someone and I was like no but I just didn't want you to think I was being rude so he paid for dinner which was lovely he's a good tipper which I know that's not really important to some people but to me it is I think both like both of us have worked in the hospitality industry so we are both on the same page when it comes to tipping

and when it comes to the way that you communicate with the people that are serving you whether that be bartenders waiters waitresses anyone in the service industry i think it's very important that you acknowledge them that you smile that you say please and thank you that you don't ignore them when they come to clear your plates away like i'm i find it very unattractive when somebody is rude or it doesn't acknowledge the people that are serving them this was one of the problems with the near perfect date guy the manners that he had around the wait staff annoyed me likewise tipping I think tipping is important I don't agree in tipping every single person I think if you have gone somewhere and the service has been shocking I don't agree with tipping obviously in the UK in the states it's

different it's compulsory but I do I do think it is important if you've had a good meal if you've had good service then I think tipping is good he's a good tipper another green flag tick so then we carry on talking and he says oh do you want to go for another drink and by this point I've had two glasses of wine and I'm like actually I don I don't think I can drink anymore at the moment. I think I would be pissed. He's not drinking because he's driving. So he says, do you want to come back to mine? Now we had talked about this pretty extensively before we went on the date. We'd joked about it. He'd suggested it I think I'd suggested it it wasn't a shock when he asked me to go back to his and I'd also been very upfront with him like I don't want to commit to coming back to yours until we go on this date because I don't want to get on the date and then be like not

feeling it and then I have to go back on my word or I feel guilty or I feel pressured into coming back to yours because I've said yes not that he would pressure me but I would pressure myself because I'd be like oh I don't want to change my mind even though as we all heard in was it last week's episode or the episode before no the episode before that you're allowed to change your mind at any point even though we know that you are allowed to change your mind at any point there's still that once I've made a decision I'm like oh I don't want to back out um so we we had we had discussed it so when he asked if I wanted to go back to his I was like sure we can go back like let's watch a film let's get a bottle of wine so we go to the car park go get in his car and then he's like I've got to get petrol on the way home do

you want anything and I'm like oh should we get some wine so he gets beer and gets wine and he says to me is there anything you want and I was like a toothbrush because obviously I hadn't taken a toothbrush with me now I had taken a small bottle of cleanser and a like a miniature cleanser and a miniature moisturizer because I knew that if I didn't take my makeup off the next day or that night I didn't take it off that night but the next day I knew that my face would feel horrendous and I didn't want my skin to feel really awful the next morning so I had been a little bit prepared but a toothbrush isn't really something that you carry in your handbag so I asked him for a toothbrush he also got me a toothbrush and it was pink which is very thoughtful I think um so then we go back to his

and we watched a film what did we watch we watched reptile had the fire going had some more wine although I didn't drink that much of it um because by this point I'd had enough and I was starting to get a headache. Cozyed up on the sofa and yeah watched a film, watched a documentary and I will leave the rest of the evening to your imagination because I don't think we need to go into step-by-step details of what happened but for those of you that have been invested in my sex life which I know is some of you because I know some of my close friends listen to this and for those of you that I haven't got around to messaging yet you'll be pleased to know that I finally had sex for the first time in over four years and it was worth the wait and that's all I'm gonna say So we get up the next morning. He takes the dog out for a walk

and I go and shower. And I've already, I already know I'm leaving relatively early in the morning because my dad had messaged me the night before to say that he was going to go and visit my nan. My nan hasn't been very well for quite a long time now, but the last few weeks she's been worse. So he'd messaged me and said, I'm going to go and I'm gonna I can come and pick you up and I'd said oh I'm staying at a friend's so I don't know what time I'm gonna be back in the morning but I'll like I'll let you know so I've had a shower and then I messaged my dad to be like oh um and I'd already spoken to, what nickname are we going to give him? I'd already spoken to the guy about like getting home the next day. And he was like, I'll drive you home.

And I was like, are you joking? And he was like, no, like I'll drive you home. And I was like, okay. And I said, well, I'd need to leave at like nine to be able to get back home for 10. And I was like, that's really early. He was like, no, it's not. And I was like, it's nine o'clock on a Sunday morning. That's and he was like yeah but I get up at half five every day like it's not early to me so we'd agreed that I was gonna leave pretty early anyway I think had I not been seeing my nan I probably would have stayed for the day I

mean providing it had been all right with him but I think it would have been I'd have probably stayed for the day and we'd have hung out and maybe gone for lunch or I don't know just hung out a bit more but yeah I I've like showered by the time he's got back from the dog walk and then we drive or he drives me home which is like an hour and 10 minutes away so that's like a two hour plus round trip just to drop me home now if that's not a gentleman I don't know what is and I must say I have never dated someone who is so I don't know what the word is like so gentlemanly and it does make me think my bar must have been so fucking low all these years. Because all the things that he did, like he was so sweet. Even things like, we'd already discussed the fact that I have an iPhone and he has an Android.

And I got like the next day or that night he'd said to me, he was like, oh, like, by the way, I've got an iPhone charger if you need to charge your phone. And I was like, what do you way I've got an iPhone charger if you need to charge your phone and I was like what do you mean you've got an iPhone charger and he was like oh I just had one I'm like when I saw it the next morning it's like a brand new still in its package like iPhone charger the fact that he'd like thought that I mean some people might think it's a bit presumptuous but I just think that's so sweet that he'd obviously thought about that and the next morning he'd said to me oh I can make you a green tea I think I've got some green tea like you don't drink green tea but he'd asked me in the week what I drink because we'd had this conversation about like he likes sugar in his tea

and I was like oh I don't like tea and he was like what do you drink and I said oh I normally have herbal tea like green tea or I'll have coffee he doesn't like coffee but little things like that I'm like you've like that is really thoughtful and I think that's really sweet and then yeah the fact that he like drove me home over two hours and I was like you can just drop me at a station he was like where am I going to drop you I was like I literally don't know and he was like no like it's fine I'll drop you home so I can make sure that you get in all right and then you can be ready to go and see your nan but like so sweet so yeah it was really really nice and I don't know like how I'm feeling now I've got some notes about things that I wanted to cover so how I'm feeling now I think we've

obviously been speaking since he's he messaged me multiple times yesterday. He's messaged me today. The communication skills are top notch. Like I've never, I mean, I'm not somebody that needs consistent communication. I'm not somebody that needs messages all day, every day. But having said that, we have been messaging all all day every day for the last few weeks and it's been really nice and what I've noticed is his actions reflect his communication so he's not somebody who says one thing and acts differently they're

very much on par which I really like and even sweet things like he'll message me every morning he's always the first one awake I think there's a couple of times where I've woke up first but he's always the first one awake because he goes to work early and he'll message me every morning and then every single night since we've been speaking because he obviously gets up earlier whilst we're chatting he'll message and he'll be like I think I'm gonna crash out soon so I'm gonna say good night. And little things like that. He doesn't just stop replying. And it's not, it's, it's not that I need those replies. I don't need him to tell me he's going to sleep. But the fact that he's thought about it and thought, oh, I'm gonna tell her that I'm

going to sleep. So she doesn't think I'm just ignoring her. That's really sweet. I, it's so strange. Honestly, it is so strange to be in this position. I am not used to being treated so well. And even, there's even been scenarios where we've been communicating and he said something, and I've been unsure how to interpret it, or I've interpreted it one way, and it's, I've kind of questioned it and thought, oh, I don't know how I feel about what he's saying, and then I've said to him, oh, can you clarify what you meant, because I took it this way, and straight away he's like, oh no, this isn't what I meant, I meant it this way. And straight away, he's like, Oh, no, this isn't what I meant. I meant it this way. Or I'll say something or he said something and I'm like, Oh, I don't know. Like, I feel like I can be really honest with him. And if I don't understand something, or if I need extra

clarification, because I don't know the way he said something has made me feel a certain way. He immediately clarifies and doesn't make me feel like I'm crazy for asking for clarification or doesn't make me feel guilty for questioning something or doesn't gaslight me I tell you what my bar has been so low because these tiny little things are such a massive thing for me and I'm'm not going to lie, there are things that freak me out. And I think it is because of how safe I feel. I'm not used to feeling this safe, which is pretty fucking sad, really. But it's also like, it is nice. It is nice to feel like this. I feel very steady. I've never really felt steady before with anyone

that I've liked in any relationship. I have typically had those rollercoaster emotions, you know, where you get like, really anxious about someone. And this happened actually with the Am I Delusional guy. I thought I really liked him and my body my nervous system went into fucking overdrive I tell you I didn't sleep for the weeks that we were dating my anxiety was through the roof I had palpitations all the time I was constantly anxious and I thought that was so weird I thought that was my body freaking out because I was like oh my god god, he's a good guy, I finally found a good guy, and I thought my body was freaking out then because of him, and now being in this situation where I feel so steady, like yeah, I've got a little barf lies because it's nice, but not in a anxious, desperate, codependent, need the attention way. And it's really lovely, but also it is scary.

And I am like trying to be conscious about my thoughts because I have noticed my brain almost trying to force red flags. It's almost like my brain is going, but this is too good to be true. Like what can be wrong with him? Let's pick up on things that can be bad. And I'm trying to just be very relaxed around the situation. We had a great time this weekend. I'm not seeing him next weekend because he's out with his family, but I'm gonna see him the weekend after,

which again is nice because it's not that rushed. Oh my God, I need to see you like that um addictive desperate have to be with you energy I mean who knows maybe after date three it will be but it doesn't feel like that it feels I just feel steady and it feels safe and I feel secure and I don't it feels comfortable which is weird but also really lovely and I think that that is where I'm gonna leave things because I don't think there's anything else I need to say on that it's just really nice it's nice to yeah it's probably the best first date I've ever been on and I do just have to say my friends called me out so hard for this because one of my friends messaged me the other day um

because she was listening to the podcast about how I'd said that I put that boundary in place of telling people I don't kiss on the first date and she was like you are such a hypocrite she was like you cannot tell people that you don't kiss on a first date and then you've gone and slept with someone on a first date and I was like yeah but my boundaries can be fluid which I still stand by your boundaries can be fluid I like to put them in place as a almost like a protection mechanism so that people don't expect it from me but yeah and I feel like an absolute liar after I think it was there was an episode I recorded um about sex on the third date and the dating rules that you need to ditch and I can't remember exactly but I'm pretty sure that in that episode I was like oh it's probably gonna take me a little while to

sleep with someone new well it didn't it took a few hours and I'm not ashamed of that and I'm I'm glad that it happened we had a great time it was it was like 10 years in the making like come on there was a there was like a lot of yeah do you know what shut up Rebecca okay if you'd like to contribute your positive dating stories all your shitty ones or you'd like to ask me any questions or share your icks or anything, get involved in the podcast. I would really love to hear from you. Go to datewithconfidencepodcast.com slash contribute and I will see you in the next one. Thanks so much for listening to the Date With Confidence podcast. I hope you've enjoyed this episode. Subscribe, rate and review and share it with your single friends you