The Date with Confidence Podcast - "Wanna level up to bride?" Weird comments I've Received on Hinge

Episode Date: November 13, 2023

EPISODE 17: "Wanna Level Up to Bride?" Weird Comments I've Received on HingeHave you ever been told you “look saucy as a bowl of spaghetti”?Or been asked to dress up like a bridesmaid for a first date?Are you ever left confused about whether someone’s trying to make a joke or genuinely means the wild shit that’s coming out of their fingertips? Surely I can’t be the only one who receives weird af comments on their dating profile, can I?In this lighthearted episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I thought we'd do something a bit different. I’m taking you behind the scenes of my Hinge profile and sharing some of the weirdest comments I've received on my photos. Here are the key topics covered:1. Saucy as Spaghetti: From bizarre compliments to a comparison with a bowl of spaghetti, some comments are just plain weird.2. Dress Up for Me: One comment suggested we go on a date with me dressed as a bridesmaid. A bit presumptuous, right?3. Intense Dating Proposals: Some people get a bit too intense, like planning spin classes at 5 a.m. for a first date or suggesting we honeymoon in the Maldives before we've even matched.4. The Art of Banter: There's a fine line between playful banter and taking things too far. Mocking each other can be fun, but some of the comments I received were not what I’d call ‘banter’....5. Unique or Weird?: When someone calls you "unique," is it a compliment or a polite way of saying "weird"?6. "I'm Too Deep": One guy claimed to be "too deep" for his own good - was this a euphemism…?I'd love to hear your bizarre dating app encounters too, so feel free to share your screenshots or stories. Remember, these comments are all in good fun and not to shame anyone so if you’ve got a comment to share, please remove the person’s image/name.Get Involved!You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.  ResourcesThe Breakup Bounce BackAttract on the AppsThe Confidence KitThe Confidence CourseGet weekly-ish updates, exclusive offers and access behind the scenes gossip when you become a podcast insider.Visit The Date with Confidence website here.Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You look absolutely amazing. I'm sure you are getting loads of attention, looking as saucy as a bowl of spaghetti. Welcome to the Date With Confidence podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that'll either fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could have been. With practical episodes that'll provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident AF on your next date alongside light-hearted catch-ups where your host rebecca that's me by the way shares her own experience dating after four years of the single life you are guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles empowered to never

settle again and confident that the best is yet to come. And if it all falls to shit, there's a special first season dedicated to breakups. You are welcome, my friend. Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. Hi friends and welcome back to the Date With Confidence podcast with me, Rebecca Hawkes. It's lovely to see you guys again. I thought we'd do something really fun today. I mean, I think this is funny. You know, when you're on a dating app, I mean, I don't know what dating apps you're using, but I have been using Hinge. And when you match with someone on Hinge, they can comment on a photo of yours or on a response that you have left. So instead of kind of waiting to match with you they can they can comment on something which for some people I think increases the likelihood of matches and if it's a well thought out comment then sometimes that does encourage me to match with them because I'm like oh you've

you've thought about this like I'm not just the girl of the day or whatever, like, I'm not just one of a hundred, like, you've actually made the time to look at my profile to form a response and say something nice, which I appreciate, but I've had some shockers, I have had some shocking comments left on my photos or my responses okay and I wanted to share some of them because I think they're hilarious and they've really made me laugh and I am still in shock sometimes that people will leave things like this but I thought we'd just have a bit of fun today and I would share some so in no particular order one of the first ones I like when this happens as well like I screenshot

the comment and store it in a folder because it just makes me laugh and then I was like okay do you know I'm actually going to share on the pod so before I dive into them if you have got any shocking responses to your photos or to your prompts that you've shared on your dating profiles I would love for you to either screenshot them and send them to me or just send them to me in a message so that we can do another one of these episodes because yeah it's great that I've got this content but I would love to hear your content as well um because I just think it would be hilarious and we can just laugh about it without let me just say I screenshot all of this and I remove people's names and faces because I don't want to shame anyone but this is just funny it's just a

bit of a joke so this is not intended to intentionally hurt someone's feelings okay it's a bit of a laugh right the first one this still makes me laugh so much it's on one of my like photos and the response is you look absolutely amazing i'm sure you are getting loads of attention looking as saucy as a bowl of spaghetti i'm dead looking as saucy as a bowl of spaghetti that guy even says that what's that all about it cracked me up obviously it did not match because amongst those words are the star eyes emoji the purple devil horn emoji and the bowl of spaghetti emoji and I was like no emoji overload shocking shocking um I don't even know it's supposed to

be a compliment whatever it is anyways obviously didn't match then this one I could quite an offense to like this this was offensive on my profile which if you've got the attract on the apps course you will see my exact profile um of the photos on there of the prompts that I put on there everything but one of the photos is me at my brother's wedding so there's like my brother and his wife Hannah and then there's like me and Hannah's sisters because we were the bridesmaids so it's like a wedding photo I was like oh that's a nice one to put up there and like family's important and the response I got is can we go on a date and you be dressed like that please

girl scrubs up up as in like in capital letters to reiterate the fact that I scrub up and I'm like I'm sorry what? You do realise that my face was paid for, my hair was paid for, my dress was paid for, like there is a reason that I look like that because I sat in hair and makeup for a couple of hours and I'm bridesmaid like absolutely not and I was just really offended I was like nah obviously not for you second okay we've got another one this this one I'm kind of ambiguous about because I think it's nice it starts with hey hi Becca lovely to meet you you're well attractive which I mean compliments are nice but typically if someone comments on how attractive I look I don't match with them because I feel like it's a bit disingenuous it's kind of

like a flattery um I don't know maybe it's just because I don't know I don't I just don't typically match with people who only comment on my appearance um I'm a digital nomad and software app developer great that's nice to know and then the next bit is how about first date a walk and drinks second explore a food market third karaoke bar or I cook for us now this isn't there's nothing wrong with this per se but it's very presumptuous and it's very, it's a bit intense for me. So didn't match them. And then next one, surely this picture has been photoshopped. No one is this gorgeous. And that made me feel a little bit sick. Even reading that out to you, I'm like, ugh. No, not for me. Sorry. Bye. Then this was a nice one actually. And I did match with this guy.

Love the cute grin. Okay. I don't know how I feel about being called cute in that respect, but it's fine. Could do Negronis as a first meet if you're around next week or a spin class and breakfast. Now this was a sweet message. I matched with the guy because I liked the look of his profile, but a spin class who goes on a spin class for a first date I mean maybe some people do maybe I just gave the impression because I put Jim get a photo of me and Jim get off my profile maybe I gave the impression that I would be up for a 5am wake-up call to go to a spin class in London no I was not but I did as I said I matched with this guy we've chatted a bit um and we're discussing alternative dates that don't involve me looking like a beetroot and sweating my balls off before

7am another one that was also commented on the photo of me as a bridesmaid at my brother's wedding damn girl you look like you get eight hours sleep of night and no wait I need to start this again damn girl you look like you get eight hours of sleep a night and know how to keep your plants alive what this made me laugh um I definitely don't get eight hours sleep a night and I don't have any plants and if I did they would definitely all be dead but I it just like why would you think that I could keep plants alive because I'm dressed as a bridesmaid like what what what did my what did that photo give you the impression why did that photo give you that impression anyways cracked me up then we've got the bog standard you are very cute Becca look no no no no to one of my responses um so one of the prompts that I chose was the hallmark of

a good relationship is and then I wrote some things down which is actually really funny because judge I like I wrote this profile ages and ages and ages ago and I was very specific and I haven't looked at it until I've just seen this screenshot. And I'm like, wow, that's pretty intense. And also very much exactly what's going on with me and the guy that I'm dating at the moment, which is fantastic. Anyway, so I put the hallmark of a good relationship is I wrote my prompt out, which, as I've said before, you can see in the attract on the apps mini course, you can see my exact profile in there because it's teaching you how to create a decent dating profile the response I got which

I didn't understand at all was this clearly isn't my dog who left me alone to wash the dish the dishes while singing and dancing to I was made for loving you by kiss still feel betrayed an hour later maybe that's just the way that I've read it I didn't understand it and I don't like things that I can't understand so maybe it makes a bit more sense now but that was that one then there was um part of one of my prompts the things I was looking for is something part of it is i can have fun and be silly with but i don't know what the rest of the answer is because i've cut that out the screenshot but the response that they gave me was ideal what do you think about taking the piss starting to think being comfortable about mocking each other is and then the 100 emoji now i was

having this conversation recently with um someone when I was on a date with them 10 years ago like harsh banter was how I really um got on with guys like most of my friends were guys I was like one of the lads for a very long time I lived with six guys seven guys six guys five guys I don't know I lived with a lot of guys all my best friends were guys I hung out with guys all the time I was very much one of the lads into like harsh banter um loved it I found it attractive I enjoyed the like taking the piss out of each other but as I've got older and where I'm at now that kind of banter isn't for me yes I think it's important to be able to tease each other to like have a bit of a flirt have a bit of a joke I like um like the date that was on recently we were playing we've been on two dates we went to ping pong and then we were playing pool and I was just shit

I just did some shit shots and it was more like I was teasing myself or we were kind of like teasing each other a little bit but it was very much about the game as opposed to teasing each other about our abilities or about anything to do with us personally and I liked that mocking each other is just not I think I I think it depends who you're with but in a relationship I don't I think it can go too far um so I didn't answer that but then there's a photo of me um like a selfie when I was in Nice and the response is do you think we can go together one day here like no mate we haven't met I don't think we can go together too intense too forward not a fan and again on the photo of me at the wedding I didn't realize how many responses I

got on this photo the question like the response that they've put is wanna level up to bride and a winky face like what we haven't even matched yet this is too too much too intense you don't even know if i believe in marriage nah i don't like it it's over the top it's icky uh then we had you look romantic what does romantic even look like this This was quite a nice one, actually. This was a good response, but I didn't match with this person, I don't think. The response was love this and the spiritual vibe. And this was a response to one of my prompts that I'd shared, which again, I appreciate it when someone replies to my prompts because they are very intentional and

they're quite I don't even know if vulnerable is the right word they're very specific and when someone's read them and responds to them I see that as a good thing but the response was love this in the spiritual vibe I just got back from um from medicine festival had an incredible time voice activation yoga breath work etc sounds like you would have liked it too you free for brunch this weekend I wasn't free for brunch that weekend and I didn't match this guy I mean in all honesty it's because I was dating someone that I am pretty pretty into so this was like a response that I'd got after I'd already kind of decided that I was going to pause my profile again for a while so I just didn't match for him because I didn't didn't think it was fair then we've just had standard things

like love the nose ring cool where are you spending these weekends clearly not London um because there was a photo of me at Nice you've got a very beautiful yeah no you've got a beautiful unique look about you okay don't know I don't know if I'm using the term unique is ever flattering I feel like unique is just code for weird maybe that's just me but yeah um and then this one was too much I think ones like this like regardless of whether it's banter or not I this is like red flags all over it for me let's just agree how cute our kids would be and start planning our honeymoon winky face Maldives question mark nah that's red flags not into it too intense love bombing is gonna happen hell no then again to like respond to one of my prompts that I'd answered um travel life and lazy day

buddy reporting for duty with a like hands up emoji and I actually quite liked that I was like oh that's quite quite funny actually um because you've clearly taken the time and taken interest in what I have had to say about what I want from life and what I want from a partner. Um, and you sound like you agree. And then the last one that I've got in my folder for now is I think in one of my prompts, I say something about like wanting like deep conversations. I'm not, not here for the surface level chit chat. Doesn't do anything for me. Don't have the time for it. Don't have the patience for it. Um, so I'd put something about having deep conversations and the response I got was I'm too deep for my own good take like read into that however you want so I hope that you have enjoyed this fun I think it's fun I think it's funny I love to know like

especially as well like we would never know what other people are getting like other responses that people are getting um in their own dating profile so I'm like am I just getting weird responses or are other people getting equally ridiculous things so I hope that you've enjoyed it I hope that it's given you some laughs and as I said send me yours into if you ever get some ridiculous responses if you ever get any strange comments or weird things or things that just made you laugh out loud send them to me send a screenshot or just tell me what it was either on instagram at rebecca lucy h or you can email hello at rebecca lucy h.com i just think it'd be funny to do another one of these so hope you enjoyed and i'll see you in the next one thanks

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