The Date with Confidence Podcast - Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include (Rewrite Mine With Me)

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Starting point is 00:00:36 special first season dedicated to breakups, you are welcome my friend. Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. friend? Subscribe, review and share with your single friends. Okay welcome back to the Dating Confidence podcast. We are talking dating profiles today so how to write one, when to update it and what not to include and you're gonna rewrite mine with me. I'm nervous, I'm excited, it's gonna be so much fun but also it feels a little bit vulnerable to be like sharing my actual dating profile so if you're on YouTube then you can actually watch this happening because I'm excited. It's gonna be so much fun but also it feels a little bit vulnerable to be like sharing my actual dating profile. So if you're on YouTube then you can actually watch this happening because I'm gonna like screen record as we do it. If you're listening normally then it's fine you'll still get

Starting point is 00:01:13 the benefits because we're still gonna talk about it but yeah it feels a little bit I don't know a little bit nerve-wrecking nerve-wrecking nerve-wrecking you know to yeah to be doing that with you so anyways let's start first of all with helping you write your day in profile and then we'll put into practice what I share with you for me so first of all before you do anything before you even think about writing your day in profile you've got to get yourself into a confident headspace. You have got to be feeling your absolute best.

Starting point is 00:01:48 You've got to get that playlist going. Have a little sip of wine. Shock, we're going to do that together. Have a little sip of wine or do dance around a little bit, have a little bit of a sing. Get yourself feeling like your absolute best. Put on your makeup. You don't want to be sat there in bed feeling like shit, trying to like decide what you're gonna write about yourself or come up with prompts or choose your photos because I don't know if you've ever done this, I've

Starting point is 00:02:14 definitely done this before I've like been in that just woke up, still in my pajamas, laying in bed, scrolling on my phone and being like okay I'm gonna do my dating profile and then I've looked at photos of me and I've been like but I don't look like that now I feel like I'm just catfishing people which is obviously not not the case but yeah it just feels so much better when you're feeling good about yourself so whatever you need to be doing to be feeling good about yourself do it now because otherwise as soon as you create your profile you're gonna second-guess yourself you're not gonna show up as your absolute best when you are writing about yourself

Starting point is 00:02:48 if you're feeling like shit. So I would probably also time it with your cycle so when you're feeling your best in your cycle maybe not when you're ovulating because I feel like for me when I'm ovulating and I'm in that stage I'm like I'll just swipe yes on anyone and I don't want to create my profile when I'm like that because then it's probably not going gonna attract the energy that I desire but yeah maybe maybe you want to do that maybe you just don't give a fuck it's

Starting point is 00:03:11 fine and before you think about creating your profile you have to know what your standards are and what you desire and I know I talk to you about this all the time I know we talk about this a lot I know I've hang on about your standards but they are so fucking important when you are dating and it is literally it's literally gonna change your life when you know what you want who you want to be with what you desire the kind of relationship that you desire it will change everything for you because you will stop accepting poor behavior you will stop giving people a chance you will stop giving people a chance, you will stop continuing seeing someone

Starting point is 00:03:46 who's clearly a red flag because you'll be like no these are my standards, this is what I deserve, I'm saying no to anything that doesn't fit there and yes okay there are some things you compromise but that's why you have your two lists, you have your standards list and you have your expectations list. Your standards are your non-negotiables that you don't ignore and yes Rebecca I know this I know we ignored the fact that he couldn't drive last time and I know that we're not gonna do that again and you also have your expectations and these are your nice-to-haves but if they don't have it that's fine you compromise okay. So you have your list, have your standards, got it. Now you're feeling

Starting point is 00:04:25 confident AF and you know what you want, you can start thinking about your profile. You can start thinking about writing your profile. I actually have an entire mini course on this called Attract On The Apps which I created when I first created the podcast. I'll leave that link for you, it's like nine quid, it walks you through things in so much more depth than we're gonna do in this episode but this is more of a refresher I suppose but if you really want some more actionable steps then as I said I'll leave that I'll leave that link to you so you want to choose thoughtful prompts and you also don't want to make it too serious. So

Starting point is 00:05:05 dating is supposed to be fun and exciting and an enjoyable experience and I know that that is not the case for many of us. I know the dating experience can be less than fun. I know it can feel stressful and I know especially when you really want to meet someone because you want to settle down and you want to start a family or you really just want a partner, I know that it can feel not so fun because you've got that pressure that you've put on yourself or even the pressure that society puts on you to find someone so you're not in that headspace of I want this to be fun but really that's what it should be, it should be meeting people,

Starting point is 00:05:44 having new experiences, learning about other people, learning about yourself. Honestly dating has taught me so much about myself. It has probably taught me more about myself than anything else. Having a business, dating, the two things that taught me more about myself than any other thing which is quite a big part of my life really but yeah it teaches you a lot about yourself and it is supposed to be something that you don't end up having sleepless nights over that's just how it should be so when you are choosing your prompts choose thoughtful prompts but just don't make it too serious yes you can put in

Starting point is 00:06:19 there things like what you are looking for if you want to, although actually what I'm gonna share with you next kind of like disagrees with what I just said. I feel like this episode is so chaotic. You can obviously share about you, what's important to you, what is meaningful to you and also leave it a little bit light-hearted, like make it a little bit fun because you don't want to go in all serious. For a start no one's gonna match with you if all you're doing is talking very like too seriously although maybe they will. Maybe your desire is to have a partner who is just serious, serious, serious and then okay maybe you should be serious.

Starting point is 00:06:58 But what I wanted to talk about in terms of the prompts not to use. Jenny from the burnt haystack dating method we've talked about her before, her method for dating, she shared a list of prompts not to use on Bumble and I'm gonna read that out to you and I'm gonna link to her sub stack so you can go and read her other articles on dating because honestly game changer. I will talk about her until the cows come home because I think what she talks about is so so important. Now I don't use Bumble because I don't like it I actually deleted the Bumble app when they did that whole marketing thing around celibacy isn't the answer because that pissed me off

Starting point is 00:07:40 I was like what the fuck are you talking about women want to be celibate let them be fucking celibate like who are you to say that women making the decision to be celibate women making the decision around what they do in terms of sex is the wrong decision like women know their own minds women can make their own decisions and it really pissed me off especially as an app that was supposed to be built for women initially like that Bumble was supposed to be the app for women right? Women message first to then tell women that they don't know what they're talking about or that their decision to be celibate is wrong. Nah, not

Starting point is 00:08:14 not here for it, I'm not a fan. And since then there was a moment where someone in the burned high-stack dating method had blocked someone because the whole premise of the methodology is you block people who are not what you are looking for or who have red flags in their profile essentially. You block them to burn the high-stack so that you find your needle right? That's the burned high-stack dating method. And someone had blocked someone and then they came back up in their feed so the person had message bumble and been like why is this person appeared in my feed again I blocked them and the response was that they show people that you've

Starting point is 00:09:00 blocked in case you change your mind because women can't make their minds up the first time right? Women don't know what they're doing so in case they change their mind we're gonna show you the same person again. Now can you imagine if someone had blocked someone say it was like I'd blocked an abusive ex from seeing my profile because I didn't want to see him and I didn't want him to know that I was on the apps But then Bumble showed me him again Are you joking? Like that's not safe. That's not for women. That's not your ethos. So yeah, anyway

Starting point is 00:09:32 Massive tangent. I'm not on Bumble and I will not be going back on Bumble I'm just on hinge but For the sake of the S if you are on Bumble and you continue to be or even if you're on any of the other apps I think this is gonna be really helpful. I won't share the entire thing because I think you can just go and read it yourself but Jenny's advice is that for all these prompts in the first group if you answer these prompts you are essentially giving away what you want and giving people the exact steps to be able to manipulate you. So by

Starting point is 00:10:12 saying I want this this and this, someone can be like oh I'm gonna be that person, I'm gonna do this this and this for them and then they'll manipulate you by not being their authentic self, by just being who you've said that you want and that can be quite dangerous. So these are the prompts are things like my favourite quality in a person is my perfect first date is, win me over by, my ultimate green flag is, I'm hoping you, hopefully you're also really really into the quickest way to my heart is what I'd really like to find is so if you use any of those prompts you're basically saying this is what you need to be in order for me to date you so then someone can just be like okay I'm just gonna go and be that and then

Starting point is 00:10:56 don't you and there's also some individual prompts to avoid. And I'll just give you the prompts and then you can go and read the article for yourself as why you need to avoid them. So I show care by, I feel my hottest when, teach me something about, I get fully nervous when, my most important boundary is, one thing you need to know about me is what my therapist would know about me is, what my therapist

Starting point is 00:11:25 would say about me. So that was really eye opening for me, I mean I don't use any of those prompts anyway, but I found the reasoning behind it so interesting. So yeah, go and give that a listen and that will help you craft your own dating profile as well so that you can avoid the things that are going to attract the red flag people. So when should you update your profile? Honestly when you feel like it's not working for you. So maybe you've not had any matches or many matches, your photos are over a year old I like to use fairly

Starting point is 00:12:02 regular photos and I'm thinking about it've definitely got someone there that are a couple of years old because I just didn't update him when I started dating again and after you've stopped seeing someone else so I stopped seeing someone I'm gonna go back and I'm gonna really update my profile now and as I said I'm gonna walk you through me doing that because I also think that that'll be me actually walking you through it will be more helpful for you than me just telling you what you should and shouldn't do. I like to think anyway. And don't include things like only photos with other people. I think this works both ways. It pisses me off more than anything when a man's profile is just him and his mates

Starting point is 00:12:42 because I'm like well you're obviously insecure in yourself because if you were secure you'd just put a photo of yourself. And I don't like that because it feels like you're trying to trick me into matching you and that's not going to work with me. Even if it was like a group of hot men, if all of them were 10 out of 10, I still wouldn't match with them because it's like, well why do you need to show me a photo of all you and all your mates? You're not securing yourself, I want someone that's securing themselves. So yeah don't include things like only

Starting point is 00:13:14 photos with other people. I don't even have photos with other people now. I used to in the past I'd have some where it's like me and a friend or I did one me at my brother's wedding in my bridesmaid's dress that was quite nice the kind of family photo but I don't just don't do photos with other people now. Passive aggressive or chip on your shoulder type answers are so unattractive they're unattractive when men do it so they're gonna be unattractive when women do it too. There is nothing worse than reading a profile from someone who is obviously pissed off that they're not getting the dates that they want or who is pissed off about dating or who is just miserable about the whole thing when someone's like oh does anyone

Starting point is 00:14:01 even date on here or people only just message nobody wants to go on a date or bullshit like that what are you talking about? I remember one guy that I dated after I'd messaged him and said um it's not for me obviously in a nice way he updated his dating profile and it said on there my most controversial opinion is and in it he put you can't form a connection on a two-hour date you can't know if you've got a connection with someone after after a two-hour date or something like that and I was like oh my god that's so passive aggressive that you're so you've got such a chip on your shoulder because we went on a date and I knew that you weren't the one. What are you talking about? It's so cringey.

Starting point is 00:14:47 So just don't do it. It's so unattractive. Who wants to date someone who is whinging in their profile? Who wants to do it? I don't. I don't know anyone else that would. Photos with kids. I should have learned my lesson from this one as well. I am very against personally putting photos of kids in dating profiles. I think when men do it and it's not their children it's one of those things where it's like look at me I could look like a great dad. I get that your nephews are important to you, I get that you love your godkids, great but you don't need to use them on a dating profile because I feel

Starting point is 00:15:27 like it's a little bit... I don't know I just don't like it, it gives me the ick, I don't, I'm just not a fan and I think when you use photos of kids you don't know who is gonna land on your dating profile, you don't know who's gonna be watching that, you don't know who's gonna match with you. What if somebody matched with you and it is so fucking sad that this is even my brain and this is how we think of these things but you don't know if someone is gonna match with you just because you've got a child so that they can whatever. You don't know if someone is gonna date you just because you've got a child and I just don't agree with it. I

Starting point is 00:16:11 just don't, I don't like it. If you've got kids, amazing. Put an emoji over their face. I mean I wouldn't even do that but tell people you've got a kid if it or put has kids in your thing but I just don't think it's necessary to put photos up of children in dating apps. My personal opinion disagree if you like. And also I don't agree with putting your social media handles in your dating profiles. No person who has ever put their handle in their profile have I swiped right on? Because what I do, and I talked about this in another episode about why I don't

Starting point is 00:16:50 check their social media anymore, but what I do when I've got their social media, I'll check out their Instagram, I'll build up an idea of who they are, of who their personality is, of what they're like, I'll hear their voice or I'll see them in a video, it will instantly give me the ick and then I'm like yeah no it's not I'm just not not it. I want to get to know a person behind the social media and then if they have social media and they use it great I'll see that side of you down the line but I want to get to know someone for who they come to me as not who I see on

Starting point is 00:17:25 social media. So don't include your social media handles. Also again they could just stalk you. I don't want someone stalking me that doesn't know me and I know okay my social media profiles are public fine but I want to be able to give someone that access when I feel like they've earned it. Yes they could look me up, yes they could Google me, whatever but I want to be able to give someone that access when I feel like they've earned it. Yes they could look me up, yes they could Google me, whatever, but I want to be able to be like I am at this place with you where I trust you to be a part of my social media, to see me on social media. I don't want just anyone randomly come into my social media and viewing it because I don't know maybe it's the safety thing

Starting point is 00:18:05 I'm not sure. Just how I feel. So we have covered how to write your dating profile in terms of the thoughtful prompts to choose and again I'm gonna go through this in a bit more depth now that we're gonna look at mine we've talked about when to update it and what not to include and now it's happy hour. I've actually been really excited for this happy hour because we are gonna write my dating profile together and I've wanted to update this profile for the last like two weeks and I was like no we are going to do it together so I haven't been back on the apps since I ended things previously because I want to bring you along so today's drink of choice because

Starting point is 00:18:45 we are writing dating profile I've got a Pinot Grigio that we have already opened so this is an Aldi's own Pinot from looks like Italy could have got that wrong completely we're gonna have a little glass this whilst we do the profile so literally just the tiniest glass. Is that not just the best sound there, but I like hearing the wine pour. And of course, we have got some ice. I mean, who doesn't have ice in their wine? So many people are gonna hate this and be like,

Starting point is 00:19:18 what the fuck are you doing? Why have you just watered down that wine? But, you know, I like ice in my wine. I wanna know from you, if you're watching this on YouTube, leave me a comment and let me know know I like ice in my wine I want to know from you if you're watching this on YouTube leave me a comment and let me know if you put ice in it or not if you're listening on anywhere else then either send me a message or just like vote in the Spotify poll maybe I'll remember to do that but ice in wine perfect so cheers so now we're going to update my dating profile. Are we ready? I'm a little bit

Starting point is 00:19:47 nervous, not gonna lie. I'm nervous because I'm gonna have to show you my dating profile. This is where I need to remember to scream record it as we're going through. So let's have a little look shall we? Now I have made a couple of notes about the things that I want to update. I want some more current photos, I want to tweak the prompts and maybe make them a little bit more light-hearted. There's another prompts that I want to change and I want to change my preferences. So we can see my profile now, my hinge, right, update prompts, hang on, where are we, edit. So I do like some of these photos but some of them are quite old so we're gonna get rid of, I kind of want to get

Starting point is 00:20:28 rid of all of them. We are going to get rid of this. Right, I've got a little folder called dating with all my dating photos in there that I thought I might put in here. So what are we going to choose? I do like having some full-length ones I think that's important. I think maybe this one. Oh no she can't see there. I wanted that if she doesn't call you and she's drunk you ain't the one. Even though I don't really drink now I just think it's quite a funny, a funny one one this is so tricky to even be doing here I'm gonna change that actually right I want to take that off

Starting point is 00:21:13 no prompt people actually love this photo it's quite a popular one but also it was like 2022 that I took it so I feel like I need to not have that one anymore. Let's go with... I don't know, this is quite a nice one. Oh it's quite a close-up one, hang on. I'm also thinking about putting... oh no my lips look dry in that one. Let's see this one, this is pretty. I also really like this photo but it's a bit old. I would like to have a full-body one but I don't really have many full-body ones. I just think it have a full body one but I don't really have many full body ones. I just think it's quite nice to actually see the full, like someone's full body. Okay let's just go with this one. So it's gonna be the main photo, bag

Starting point is 00:21:57 of crisps in the background, great. But then I kind of like the casualness because it's just like okay well she's not made that, like she's not putting that much effort kind of thing so okay need to change this one I wanted to use like a professional one and I kind of want to show that part of me that's like can look nice and dressed up I guess if you like yeah see that's quite nice that's got a bit more of a full-length one isn't it so far let's see what it looks like so we have have... that's a photo. I think that's quite a nice photo. They're kind of quite casual type ones aren't they? So that's that done. Photos are updated. What else did I want to do? More current photos, tweak the prompts. I

Starting point is 00:22:37 mean I do... I get quite a lot of matches so I don't want to tweak things too much because I feel like I get a lot of a lot of matches anyway but I just don't get the matches that I would like. I like my prompts this is a great answer I hype myself up by playing music loudly dancing around the kitchen and singing badly or I get dressed up and take myself on a date that's very much who I am and I quite like that. The one thing I'd love to know about you is what film book song had a big impact on your life and why. I actually think I want to change that to what's your favorite Tarantino film. Just as a bit of a test, your favorite

Starting point is 00:23:18 Tarantino film and why. Because I am a big fan of Tarantino films and I would quite like to be someone that enjoys them as much as I do and I feel like the answers will tell me a lot about who they are. If like Kill Bill's the answer, obviously Leadwoman, they're like yeah go for it, women are I don't know I've heard one now it's gone straight to my head yeah it would just be interesting to see what their answer the hallmark of a good relationship is we're gonna leave that for now I've changed one prompt let's see how things go I also wanted to change don't have children family plans open to children because I think I want children but I'm not 100% sure so there we go. Right are we happy with that for now? I

Starting point is 00:24:11 don't know. Am I happy with it? I think so. We'll see what happens right? These things can be tweaked all the time so we will see what happened. I'm gonna unpause my profile and then just see what happens after that. See how many matches we get. Thank you for being with me whilst I changed some of my dating profile. Now it is time for Hinge Cringe. It's my like favourite thing, my absolute favourite part. So let me get the Hinge Cringe up and we will talk about it, we will go through it. This episode is gonna be such a bitch to edit. Right, Hinge Cringe of the week. Honestly some of the responses I get are a fucking joke. This

Starting point is 00:24:53 one, I think you have a very hot nose ring. How can a nose ring be hot? I think you have a very hot nose ring. When are you free this week for a quick drink? It can be longer if we like where it's going and then that emoji that's like I use it all the time it's like the sweat like sweat face like the huh like few emoji kind of thing there's so many things in my profile that you could talk to me about you've gone for the nose ring not even your heart the nose ring is hot I'm not hot but my nose ring is hot fuck off and then when are you free this week for a quick drink? You don't know me, I don't know you, why am I going to go

Starting point is 00:25:29 out with you before we've even had a conversation? This is literally just in the response to one of my photos, why am I going to go out with you when all you've done is say that my nose ring is hot? It's not going to happen and then it can be... when are you free for a quick drink? It can be longer if we like where it's going. I mean judging by the start of this first message, we're not gonna like where it's going because this is just zero effort. You've obviously messaged that to so many different people because otherwise you'd have said something a bit more engaging about me or my profile. It's cringy. I'm not a fan. So

Starting point is 00:26:03 yeah, not a fan of that one. So that is Hinge Cringe of the Week. I'm gonna delete that out of my album now so that we know I'm not doing music. Again, I wanna hear all your Hinge Cringes. So I'm sure that now I'm back on my dating app. Now that I'm back on Hinge. Oh, and I've had my first match. I'm sure that now I'm back on Hinge. I'm gonna have more cringy stuff, aren't I? More cringy stuff. This is gonna be so... oh my gosh. I'm gonna go down a little rabbit hole now of seeing all the men that I've missed out on for the last few weeks. Oh, don't. Maybe I should do an episode where I just read out all the profiles that match me.

Starting point is 00:26:49 I'm not going to do that because I feel like that's a little bit of a dick move. But anyways, right, swipe right spotlight. Honestly I'm so distracted because we had the happy hour with the wine and now I'm just like yeah not focused in any way shape or form. Swipe right spotlight, after the cringe comes the cleanse. So we're gonna highlight a little glimmer of hope in the dating world and I had one where I thought this was really thoughtful. I mean I didn't I didn't swipe right on them but I just thought it was a really nice one. Okay so this week's I feel like these are quite boring.

Starting point is 00:27:26 I wanna hear yours. I wanna hear your Swipe By Spotlights because I feel like mine are quite boring and maybe this should just not be a feature. But actually, one of the responses I got to one of my prompts before I updated my profile was the, what film, book or song had a big impact on your life and why? And this person actually sent me the link to the poem. So they didn't just tell me what they liked, they actually

Starting point is 00:27:48 sent me the link to the poem that they liked and I was like oh that's that's a bit more thoughtful than just writing out some words like you've sent it to me, you're a bit more invested in answering this than just putting one word thing. So that was quite cute. Yeah that's it's the swipe right spotlight which now I just am like am I gonna keep this feature I don't know let me hear your thoughts and finally are we ready for this week's dating dilemma I went to a guy's house I'm seeing and he always looks put together smells nice but there's something I noticed when I went there one thing I do whenever I enter the house or someone else's house

Starting point is 00:28:23 is go to wash my hands straight away because I've been outside, could have touched something, could have got germs. So I go and wash my hands, I go to his bathroom and there's no hand soap so I ask him oh where's the soap? He said that he didn't have any so I just used his shower gel in the meantime and I assumed that he'd just run out and maybe forgot to buy some but then he revealed that he doesn't have soap, he doesn't use soap so I said what do you wash your hands with and he said water. I don't touch my own face if my hands are dirty and the thought of him touching me with dirty

Starting point is 00:29:01 hands has given me the ick am I being dramatic? No absolutely fucking not. I think hygiene like this is so important and I am sick of this narrative that men are just men they don't think about it you know to wash your hands and having dated someone who would go on a dog walk pick up his dog shit and then wash his hands this happened to me I remember standing in the kitchen he just got back from the dog walk I'd just been with him and he picked up the dog shit and he went to touch hands. This happened to me, I remember standing in the kitchen, he'd just got back from the dog walk, I'd just been with him and he picked up the dog shit and he went to touch my face and I was like, what the fuck are you doing? I was like, you need to wash your hands and he looked at me and he was like, what? I was

Starting point is 00:29:33 like, you've just picked up dog shit! And he like made a fuss about it and I was just like, what are you doing? Why are you coming near me with your dirty hands? This isn't ick for me, like I, yeah, I, you're not being dramatic. Doesn't own soap, doesn't wash his hands, not someone for me because I'm just like if you're not washing your hands like what else are you not washing? And also I think for me because I've got emetophobia which is a phobia of people being sick I am extra fussy about people washing their hands with soap. Now not to the point where I'm obsessive with it but if you've been out, if you know that you've been out for the day, wash your hands. If

Starting point is 00:30:07 you're gonna come near me and my body, wash your hands. It is not you being dramatic, you deserve to be with someone who is conscious of your health. So let's be honest, this is very much about your health. If they've picked something up like a germ or whatever, if they picked something up whilst they've been out and haven't washed their hands, they risk giving it to you. Your health is important. You deserve someone that respects your health. Likewise, I'm very conscious for my own partner's health as well. Like I would be conscious to make sure that I'd washed my hands before I was gonna touch them because I just... it's just something that's

Starting point is 00:30:44 important. I... yeah, I mean look at what happened with Covid. People weren't washing their hands, people were dying, the fright and centre, it was getting passed on. Wash your fucking hands. And it doesn't matter how old they are, it doesn't matter what's happened up until that point, if someone's hygiene... if someone doesn't respect their own hygiene and they don't respect your hygiene, they're just not for you. That's how I see it and that is, yeah, one of the reasons that I didn't want to continue dating the guy from last year. It made me feel dirty, like it made me feel dirty because I'm just like, if I've seen you pick up dog shit and not want to wash your hands,

Starting point is 00:31:21 what have I not seen you doing when you've not washed your hands? Nah, that's not it. I think hygiene is very important and it doesn't matter if they smell nice or not. Wash your fucking hands. So that's it for this episode. I feel like this was so chaotic and so much more unorganised than I anticipated it to be. If you could see the behind the scenes of me filming this you would be like the fuck are you doing? But there we go, the ADHD is ADHD-ing today. We're unorganized, we're chaotic, that's real life, that's who I am. If you've been here for a while you know that that is the case and I had this conversation with one of my friends

Starting point is 00:32:03 recently actually. I said to him I struggle to draw the line and I had this conversation with one of my friends recently actually. I said to him I struggle to draw the line between I want to script things out so that it's really valuable and so that I make sure people are getting something from it but then at the same time and I don't want to waffle too much but then at the same time waffling is my personality, it's who I am and he was like you've always waffled, he was like, why would you not? He was like, that's just who you are and I was like, yeah, I know. Like, it's my personality and I feel like

Starting point is 00:32:31 the people that get it, get it, it's fine. Your call set here with me having a chat, having a waffle. Honestly, it's our happy hours. This is what it would be like if we were sat in a bar, although obviously I listen to you a bit more. Anyways, thanks so much for listening, rate, review, comment, like, subscribe, do all that stuff that makes me feel like it's worth doing this night. I'm joking, I'm joking, like do it because you enjoy it. Obviously that

Starting point is 00:32:58 validation is great but I love this podcast so anyway I'm gonna go finish the rest of that wine and probably then crash out because I haven't had anything to eat I've got a call in a minute actually so yeah that's it. Chat chat chat chat chat. Thanks so much for listening. Next episode I can't remember what it's about I think it is about removing let me tell you actually it should be about releasing the energy of past lovers. It is a very interesting, you're either gonna listen to it and be like oh my god that is so incredible to hear or you're gonna listen to it and be like she's batshit fucking crazy, what on earth is wrong with her? We'll see, shall

Starting point is 00:33:43 we? We will see what happens, what you decide. Thanks so much for listening, lots of love, bye! Thanks so much for listening to the Date With Confidence podcast. I hope you've enjoyed this episode. Subscribe, rate and review and share it with your single friends. you you

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