The Debrief - Dream A Little Dream Of Me | The Debrief Podcast

Episode Date: September 2, 2024

Welcome back to The Debrief! This week we are discussing all things DREAMS and we're not talking hopes and dreams... we are talking about actual dreams: what they mean, the inappropriate and if we even dream at all! As always email us with any debriefs or dilemmas to [e-mail] or DM us @the.debriefpodcast on instagram! Have an amazing week,Lots of love, K+K xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

welcome to the debrief hello my friends and yes although you may think we're divas this week we are solidarity sister glasses on hey got a touch of the pink eye. Oh, Katie, darling, I tell you. It's swollen shirt. It's swollen shirt. She's been through the walls with that bloody eye. It's horrendous. It's been humbling, one might say.

It's actually been the most humbling experience of my life, actually. Oh, darling. But honestly, I've got the sunnies on with you, so you don't feel alone honestly you're a real one i'm with you here with the royal one but i actually know what it's like when there's something wrong with your eye it's the worst and it like you oh my god you just feel so seen and it keeps getting worse oh my god literally i'm like ain't no thing like it's gonna clear up in a day or two

i'm on like day eight now shit hasn't been that long it's literally like getting progressively worse and worse darling i'm like just stop when you feel like it girl hey you calm down when you feel like it take a break hey it's all good it's all good okay so the first thing i've got to say is welcome to bloody september oh do you remember when it was last September? Second of September. Who would have thought? I know. I'm not being funny, but you know when your parents used to say to you when you're so

young, time flies by. Time is shortened to fly. Times. Oh, it's got wings. It's taken off with flying. With your wings. I'm like, I now know what they mean. I'm just like, okay, I'm now 22.

I'm in my hot girl era. It's flying. It's September. We're flying. Two years ago, I was doing my GCSEs. That's how it feels like, Katie. Real. What am I doing?

What's happening now? I know, this is scary. Yeah, honestly. You're back from Edinburgh. I'm back. Back in the big city, Big Apple. Back. 100% not sure. You'reinburgh i'm back back in the big city big apple back 100 not sure you're now i i'm i'm back i'm here physically yeah physically i'm here yeah shell of a woman

hey it broke me but hey what'd you do edinburgh again i would the length no i feel like i would love to go to the fringe next year performing or not for at least a week and a half yeah like and just experience it and have a good time but like i feel like there is a time you want to experience it because you're performing or not really i feel like we did i feel like we really made the most of it um yes which is probably like part of the problem like we were like trying to see as many shows as we could like yeah outside of our time slot like the ticket sales as in the ticket prices for each show are like reasonable but if you're there for a week or in your case i was only there for a few nights but you were there for a month yeah you know it does add up and you're thinking i'm seeing three shows

a day that's at least 12 quid each it now goes to 36 you're like oh my god it's crazy because as well as the fact like most food's more expensive all the drinks are more expensive it kind of is someone said it's like london moves up to edinburgh for a month and i bumped into more people that i know from london than i ever have in London. Did you feel famous? Beenog. Oh, yeah, yeah. It was when one of them came up to me, they were like,

Katie? And I was like, shut up. And I bet you loved it because people were around you. They were like, who's that? Who's that?

And I was like, just a friend. You're just someone who likes me. You're just a friend. Just someone who thinks I'm absolutely not shit. You know it.

Just pay no mind to it, guys. Just trying to have a good time. Don't worry. Don't bother. It's all good. It's all good. It's all good. So should we crack on? Let's crack on.

So give me your mantra, darling. I even laughed when writing this mantra the other night. Oh, my love. My mantra this week is, this will pass. Oh, darling. And that it will. I literally, I was so dramatic dramatic my parents are currently in the process of moving and they've been going through oh i didn't know it was this way they're they're like

sending through like all old photos and stuff and my first reaction was like wow my eyes look normal here it's like miss them oh you're like i love my life i've literally been going through photos of like what my eyes used to look like being like soon and you know what's actually funny casey sent me like a photo of a big guy at the start and it was non-existent and she was like look how bad it is it was a slight raise of the eyelid even then oh my god the eyelids are jumping even then i thought i was like ugly when it was the teeniest thing now i like, I literally wake up and I can't even like, it's so swollen from the bottom and the top, like I'm sandwiched in.

Like I can't see a fucking thing. Oh, I love, I'm so sorry. But it will, it will pass. It will pass. And my match this week is, I welcome this new season into my life. Love that. I'm feeling on top of the world at the moment.

Lots to welcome in. Lots to welcome in. Do you know what what like besides my eye yeah so am i yeah i'm feeling funky it's like september and i'm so ready to crack on with life yeah so i'm just like and i feel the vibes are like this i feel really confident in myself at the moment yeah i feel happy in myself so i'm like yeah welcome in september with a big hug yeah come here september september yeah that's me september come in now have you ever had a hug and someone touches your head yeah i like it yeah do you do you do you think little pat pat yeah little head i'm not sure i think I quite like her with Arch but someone did it to me the other day

I'm friends with oh maybe not that I wasn't quite sure I just felt a little bit intimate family member like pat pat and a little

but a friend giving me a little pat pat yeah someone was like on the back of my head and I was like oh my god you're alright

you're alright I was like you're in love with me you don't have to do that talking about my song I'm gonna do I'm Still Stanley Elton John yeah My God. I was like, you're all right. You're all right. I was like, you're in love with me. You don't have to do that. Talking about my song I'm going to do, I'm Still Standing, Elton John. Yeah. I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor.

Feeling like a little kid. Oh, you know what? Best song out there. Oh, yeah. Yeah. What a great song. Also, it's I'm Still Standing, because, bitches, I made it through

summer and I'm in September you made it we're still standing I'm still standing happier than ever we're still standing yes

tell me your song my song is hurt you back together and if that's true you just have to taste me when he's kissing you oh taste sabrina carpenter's new album i love her so much short and sweet it is a banger by all accounts i'm i love all the songs now i am a heterosexual woman yeah however i know girl. However, I fancy her. Girl crush.

Girl crush. I love her. She makes me want to cut bangs. Do you know what? I think I could do it, but I'd be scared. This is exactly, I really want to do it. I'd love to just have a little bang. The wispy, because they're wispy.

They're nice and wispy. They're wispy. But you think, she's got blow dry. She's got professional glam. She's got a team. She's got a team. She's got professional glam. If you were coming out of the shower like this.

My bed hair's bad enough. My bed hair is bad enough. Do you know what? Katie's bed hair is like, it's like a 90s. She comes out and it's lifted. I'm like, wow. My flatmates in Edinburgh made a comment on this as well. They're like, your bed hair's crazy.

I was like, it's like being back at home. Honestly, I feel like you and Arch could have a run for your money. Oh, we could. Arch's bed hair makes me cackle. Arch's bed hair is brilliant. It's another updo. It's too good. It's too good.

So, recommendation this week. Recommendation. Is I would like to ask you, Paige, the best thing you saw in Edinburgh and what to watch out for. Oh. Tell me. I'm between two.

Tell me. And I think the one, the one I'm going to say already got a mention last week. Oh, good old one. Which is Gary Starr, Classic Penguins. Fantastic. That was feral in all the right ways.

It's actually coming to London next week. It is. For two days, it's coming to London. Guys, if you enjoy full frontal nudity and literature, I'd go see it. It's quite a mix, actually. Full frontal nudity and literature. I honestly...

Can't do a subsidiary in that you know i was obsessed with it my but my favorite thing i think i saw was called the writing on the stall by a woman called caitlyn cook okay and it was a stand-up comedy piece yeah well it was like a stand-up one-woman show where she was in a bathroom store and she basically has a projector behind her and people send in like bathroom stall vandalizing you know people write on stuff yeah and she kind of sings it oh it was very funny okay and the music was sensational and she was yeah she like sends it and then sings it out but then it's also structured around the fact of like humanity and she tells like a very like deep story about herself and it weaves it in very

intricately and i laughed i cried i thought it was a very very moving piece of theater and do you know she's coming to london i know i'm unsure but i hope she does because i honestly loved every second of it what's her name again cait Cook. Keep an eye out for Caitlin Cook. Yeah. Okay, shout out. Sensational. Right, Peach, let's debrief. Oh, it feels so good.

Before we kick things off, this week we're talking about dreams. Yeah. We all have them. Or actually, we don't all have them. People say to me, actually, I was talking to a friend about this the other day. I was like, we all dream. And he was like, well, if I do dream, I never remember them. And I was like, fascinating.

So we're going to talk about dreams, if they help us to realise something that we don't know yet, if we should listen to them. And of course, some juicy dilemma. Yes. That have popped into mind. So Peach, first thing that i would like to know is if you are a dreamer and when i say dreamer i'm not talking about ambition all right yeah

i'm talking about when you get in that scratchy yeah when you're tucked in after your toes are dogs in a rhyme Do you create scenarios? Does your brain create? Do you have an imagination? Do you dream? Now, I think... Tell me. I think I'm a nice, healthy mix

because I don't dream every night. Okay. Okay. I want to be a dreamer so bad, especially when I've got like a new hyper fixation. Oh, you best believe I am like... I love shutting my laptop. Time to create a fake scenario in my head

and let's just be clear this is usually about men oh we've always about men and i'm obsessed with it and i love doing it every single night i'm a pisces after all of course however yeah that doesn't always guarantee me a dream interesting now because i'm also a very heavy sleeper so i the ones i do remember funnily enough are usually either sexual or nightmares yeah oh okay so i don't dream often but when i do i remember it okay okay what about you oh i dream every single night so every single night and you know what i love it oh i i must there are things that happen within my day that i never know will affect the dream but they always affect the dream yeah i had a dream last night i'll tell you the dream and then i'll tell you why i think i drank the

dream okay now there are some things that happen during the day that affect my dream yeah but also reasons i'm feeling that they're making me feel like for example my friend i feel like i'm a dream whisperer i'm not being funny my friend told me they kept dreaming that they're holding a baby yeah and they're having to look off the baby's not theirs that we're holding baby and i said to them you've got a lot of responsibility on your shoulders at the moment we searched it up online bingo i was like mystic meg mystic men now let me tell you my dream last night i was heavily pregnant heavily pregnant okay my my tummy was out like and it was rock hard like i could feel this baby squiggling in me oh my god like i was heavily pregnant in my dream even in the bed

my back hurt i was like oh my god that's how much pregnancy i was yeah however this child was not mine okay i was a surrogate i was looking after the child for someone else okay now it came to it i had to pop this child out you know yeah yeah yeah it got it birth time couldn't get it out i was squeezing for the life of me could not get this child out this child was clinging to my uterus. I want to stay, bitch. And I just couldn't get out. Now, let me tell you exactly why I dropped this train.

Yesterday, I went into the massage company in Putney. And I was thinking to myself, oh my God, I'm the real life Phoebe Buffay. What did Phoebe Buffay... And I laughed at myself thinking, but I'm never never gonna have a baby that's not mine well well well did my brain trick me in the night right interesting i will dream every single night every single night and it's so creative and so real that i'll wake up and

sometimes feel weird about it like oh really did katie actually say that did arch just say that yeah i've had dreams where like i've they feel very real yeah and i hate waking up being like oh my god what's happened right yeah that's scary i quite like it though sometimes i'll have dreams and i completely get what you mean with creating scenarios like when arch and i aren't together like if he's away i'll always create a sexual scenario in my head and then it's amazing it's always like i'm like yeah no but what's annoying is sometimes like i'm so indecisive that i'm like no go back go back go back go back i'm like you're like let's start that again i'm like it's progressing too quickly for me like i need to go let's let's bring it back yeah okay but it doesn't always equal like the dream i want sometimes i'll like fantasize and fantasize but i won't even dream about it and i'm like but her

yeah i'm like all that work for niche word for niche see i'm quite good if i get into bed and think about something i can then try to dream about it yeah but now i should have looked more into this but i meet girls that are always dreaming whereas i've met a lot of men who never dream yes like is this a thing i would love to ask like for example i personally think women love sexualizing their dreams yeah so they dream like that whereas men watch porn yeah now again it's a sexualization it's a generalization because lots of women watch porn anyone who identifies can watch porn they can do whatever they want yeah but what i'm saying is i think i've spoken to a lot of women who's like i'd rather get into bed turn the tv on in this

imagination oh i love and bring out my magic wand you know i'm like completely get you go 100 whereas i never meet a man who said that no and i'm like completely get you girl 100 whereas i never meet a man who said that no and i'm like fascinated no i wonder i wonder how many men like do the thing that we do before bed and like fantasize right like it's sometimes i look forward to it especially especially when there's someone new on the scene i think think, oh, you're going to be the star of my movie tonight. Do you ever think that during the day? Oh, big time. I'm like, I can't wait to daydream about this later.

That is so funny. I honestly, but did you know that actually whoever, even if you have a stranger in your dream, they are someone you've seen? I did know this. And I'm like, that's crazy. It freaks me out because your brain can't actually put together a face that you've seen i did know this and i'm like that's crazy freaks me out because your brain can't actually put together a face that you've never seen yeah so if you are like yeah

it was a random i've never seen them you have you have just might have been on the tube might have been on the plane yeah it could be day to day exactly so tell me tell me she's ready now i'm ready now so in 2021 antonia zadadra from the University of Montreal did a study about dreams and specifically sex dreams. He said that over 8% of all dreams are sexual dreams. I would say like, yes, because 60% of my dreams are sexual. Are they? But I think that's just a reflection of my current situation.

That's very honest quiet oh i love that okay so we asked the debrief listeners if they've ever had a sex dream about someone they weren't supposed to now this is this is fun have you yes i'm me too 100 i am yeah 100 i have okay i'm gonna guess you guess tell me what the answer tell me what the thingies Yes. Me too. 100% I am. Yeah. 100% I have. Okay. I'm going to guess. You guess. Tell me what the answer, tell me what the thing is why.

So, yes, thank God I thought I was the only one. No, never happened. Or at least if I did, I can't remember. Pussy. I think, yes. Also, you've got to say who's going to admit it. That's true. Who's admitted it on the poll. I'm like, this is always, This is going to be up for debate.

Yeah. Is having a sexual dream about someone else cheating? I don't think so. Actually, if I do it, it's not. If Archie does it, oh my God. It is. The worst degree, actually. The worst.

You know it. It's in the rule book. I'm going to say 65% have said yes and what's the rest 35 35 35% have said no close oh 60 40 60 said yes 40 40 said no interesting 40% you know what and I think those 40% are the ones that can't remember. Rather than, no, I never have. Yeah, yeah. I'm like, I bet you have. You just can't remember. This is what I always think.

You can never predict humanity, okay? No, you can't. You can't. You can't. In history, you could never predict. No, you can't. Shit that went on. You can never.

You can't. So what I'm saying is you can't predict what your own mind's going to do. And also, I'm like, that's 40 yet yeah i haven't yet but now it's in my mind wait for me tonight because i'm always always like someone you're not supposed to either like that's that's the fun of it oh it's so much fun that's the fun of it i know so the debriefers actually wrote in to the poll some people that they've had yes that they've dreamt about that they probably shouldn't i love it i love it i love um okay so i've got one this is so funny i keep having sex dreams about my uni lecturer and every time i see

him i fancy him just a little bit more oh real real real right honestly it's like a teacher when you have a crush and you're like oh my god and honestly like sometimes the dream is better than the real experience 100 i'm like i'll hold my hand up yeah dreams are so great yeah the dream makes it electric yeah i love that honestly and also i love the fact that she's going in like planning her outfits now like oh god if i see that uni then i've gotta you know exactly yeah we're not condoning this guys we're just saying you know we're just saying enjoy yeah life's confusing i had someone say so i was seeing two guys before choosing one of them to be exclusive with ever since i can't stop dreaming about the other guy i didn't choose what's worse is that we have the most fiery sex in our dream and I don't know how to feel you've got to see that through oh you've

got to see that so I mean like sometimes like I kept having really sexual dreams about this one guy that I was kind of chatting to for a while yeah and then when we ended up shagging it just was not like the dream so I'm like you know what at least you've done it now that you know you don't have to turn that top tap on again you turned it on once didn't bring the full throttle effect you thought so now you can turn it but i've had dreams since that i'm like we go again and it's like we go again we go again it's funny you need to say to him no no that's not how it went in the dream basically let me tell you okay just take direction in the direction this happened actually um okay one of the girls said girls literally every single night i have a sex dream about

jacob elordi real i think it's my time to make my move and join him at salt burn nana you know girl you go for it. No, because that's so real that I'd love to know her age. Because I would say when I was like 16, 17, I had like a crush that I would just continuously, every night, I'd be like. I used to have a recurring dream that like I used to do DT, like woodwork. And they had these like big benches. It was like this big warehouse with all these like big wooden benches.

And I used to have this recurring dream that Zac Efron would like bend me over one of big benches. It was like this big warehouse with all these like big wooden benches. And I used to have this recurring dream that Zac Efron would like bend me over one of those benches. I love that. I love that. That's obsessed. You can be with him and this girl can be with Jacob Ballon.

Exactly. This is so funny. I always have a dream that I'm being judged on my shagging technique at the Olympics. But every dream I have is a different guy i've shagged now dream whisperer because i don't know maybe you're just nervous right tell me again because i'm going to depict yes so every i have a dream a recurring dream that i'm being judged on my shagging technique at the olympics yeah each dream i have is a different guy i've

shagged okay i've got two things for this okay first thing i think she's feeling insecure about herself because she's projecting the shagging technique she's being watched she's saying people keep watching me i don't think i'm doing it right yeah i think she thinks i don't know what's going on yeah the other thing i don't think she's getting pleasure i think i don't think she's enjoying sex the way she thinks she's supposed to yeah and by this i mean she keeps swapping men through oh you're not right it's not yeah it's clearly that okay yeah yeah i think you need to get a good vibrator and you need to show yourself a good time well yes to know that you well yes

so you know that you can give yourself a good time you don't have to rely on others no exactly because i think the most of all we are women we have to make sure remind ourselves we can give ourselves a good time but not only just a good time the best time we don't let's move along okay it's gotta be a good it's gotta be a clear 100 and then once you learn that sweet spot you teach them the sweet spot we're having none of 2024 going into 2025 faking it all right no no no no no no no do you know what got me is actually i was talking to one of the guys I was sharing my flat with in Edinburgh. I was saying about how I brought my little friend up with me.

Of course you did. Of course you did. A month away. Of course. That's ridiculous. I tell you, actually, sorry, quick side note, when we just moved houses, I had to pack my vibrator up and I didn't quite know which box to put it down.

Because I thought, what occasion did you put it in? What kind of label? Well, can I leave? I was like, do I have an everyday? Or is it in me, like... Miscellaneous? Like, where'd you go, my little friend, right? But he was so surprised. And I was like, oh, I brought my little friend up with me.

He was like, seriously? And I was like, why do you think I'm so fucking relaxed up in Scotland, my friend? Like, what do you think's going on? And do in school my friend like what what do you think's going on you wouldn't be if you didn't bring little friend oh no and i've got another one someone goes this is okay there this is interesting there is a boy who i do a run club with and i absolutely hate him he's cocky rude and every time i see him i just simply ignore him and roll my eyes okay so tell me girls i do not understand why i constantly am having sex dreams about it because you want to sorry sorry enemies to lovers it's sexual strangers to friends friends into lovers i'm telling you i'm telling

you there's a slight line between hatred and lust oh annoyance like annoyance and like lust is crazy if you're easily fucking irritated by this person irrationally so like they do one thing and you're like for fuck's sake you want to shag him just shag him and see and like go on see what happens all right see what happens okay i have i always have a recurring dream that i wake up and my boyfriend of four years decides to leave me girl do you know what i've done did she say i always have this dream yeah okay i can't relate with the always but i have had the dream before where i was just breaking up with me and i'm like i'm devastated and i wake up and i'm like what's happening to say what's happening you've got to admit it okay now now and again that's fine because i think

as women we feel into this medium yes brain again yeah as women we feel insecure a lot whether that's too when you have your period and your period comes and you feel oh my god what am i and all this and then women's bodies fluctuate up and down constantly it's like i get you girl could it be that you're feeling a bit insecure you need a bit more of words of affirmation that week? Yeah. Could be. Now, if it's all the time, that's on him. No, no, no. There's something in the air.

There's juju in the air. Juju. There's juju. What's he doing to make you feel like that? To not make you feel secure? Yeah. So you watch your ground. Yeah.

You know, if you need a bit more quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, you let him know. You keep one eye open, darling. And also, I've got work. And I'll do it for you. I'll come when I'm sleeping. I've only got one good one at the moment. Actually, that one I can watch all.

The other one's resting. Yeah. She's going to bed. Oh, big time. She's got a duvet. Yeah. Have you got any more? don't know i don't so guys we're gonna go on to some dilemmas that people wrote in this week about their dreams yes and we're gonna get the opinion from our other debriefers as well so let us know what you think now first one here we go hey girls love the pod really helps me to feel excited for

a monday love oh yeah love it i don't really enjoy work so i don't really enjoy work so it makes the sunday scaries just a little bit easier oh that's cute okay so i need to debrief with you and get your opinion my boyfriend and i lived together and recently i went away traveling for three months did the whole gap year experience but five years later love it anyways i got back and i'm so excited to be back with him anyways anyways a few nights into being back i heard my boyfriend sleep talking which is no different at all as he always mutters stuff in his sleep yeah so it was quite sweet i felt like i was back at home however oh god this time was a bit different he started moaning not loudly just tiny ones and i was wondering what he was having and and i was

wondering whether he was having a sex dream big time time. Then he started saying, Caitlin, Caitlin. Oh, fuck. Caitlin. I'm like, who the fuck is Caitlin? Fuck. One, this girl's worse, Caitlin. One, I don't know a Caitlin. Two, I've never heard of him knowing a Caitlin before.

Oh, new girl on the scene. So I was left feeling weird about it. Okay. But didn't want to go psycho just yet. Fair enough. So in the morning I asked him casually. I love the casually.

Yeah. You know us girls. Yeah, yeah. I just slipped it in. I just slipped it in. It's no big deal. It's just casual. Yeah.

And I asked him casually about the girls at his work. And he listed them. Oh God. And I didn't hear one of them named caitlin at all okay so i thought that's weird yeah peculiar i love that's weird and interesting she says we have

the same friends so the only other place i could know is through work okay so i'm feeling it must have been a coincidence or a mistake okay however for the next four consecutive nights he keeps saying caitlin in his sleep why the fuck's caitlin who is this bitch so i wasn't having any of it no i started to do a little stalk and i saw that he follows caitlin on instagram and she follows him also his work friends follow her so maybe they work together oh she's done the detective she's done it she's she's cracked it it's get better it gets better i went on the work website and there was a caitlin headshot and all shit god i wish i said wish she sent us a photo now i'm confirmed who he's talking about and it makes me paranoid that he's been up to no good i mean and that would break my heart please help girls do i confront him and speak to him about it or just lie about caitlin

not being one of the women in oh or will i just let him lie about caitlin not being one of the women in his office oh i think what she means is do i confront him and be like yeah i'm chatting about caitlin who's in your office yeah or do i just let him lie that there's no caitlin and i carry on okay is this a lost cause please let me know i'm writing this currently in the bathroom in tears oh darling oh it's so dreams are so hard because they can be revealing but then they also can like he might not even remember these dreams 100 um but oh bring it up 100 bring it like who's caitlin with the capital city yeah you know it who the fuck

is this guy who is this girl I think considering you've been away for a few months as well it's just going to make it even worse in the sense that you're going to be sat there thinking have you been unfaithful while I've been away yeah now girl you know what girls girls we always take but before you go full psycho full throttle accusing him of shagging someone i think you've reined in yeah and say to him listen you've been doing this the last few nights you've been saying someone else's name in yeah what do you know you could play a game actually love a game you could say you've been saying someone's name in in your sleep the last few nights yeah um and actually moaning their name it's made me feel really uncomfortable i i do feel that i know who this girl is um i just wanted to talk to you have you been thinking

about this girl yeah yeah is there someone else you've been messaging while i've been away see what he says because you could say oh uh yeah yeah what do you think i think do that yeah i think bring it up for sure you You've got to bring up. You've got to bring up. Yeah. You could be so, hey, you know casual.

Yeah. You've casually brought things up before being like, hey, maybe, maybe like just sit there like next to each other in silence and go,

he goes, oh, what's so funny? I was just thinking about something funny you did last night. Yeah. Yeah. You,

you moaned another woman's name in your sleep. Casual. Hilarious. It was so funny. Casual. Like, what's going on there? 100%.

Just so casual. I was thinking, when I read this at the start, I thought, if this was my boyfriend, I would not listen to the advice. I would say, I would go full psycho. So I get you. Like? But if I was being rational,

I would love to sit him down and be like, this has happened. It's made me feel shit. Please, can you be honest with me and then you've got to take his word for it and then if he doesn't after that start going through his phone exactly

tell me girl have you got one I do have one it's actually a very similar vein however I think someone went past the point where they should have taken our advice and went a bit further than they should hi girls I hope you can help me with this one as I genuinely don't know if I'm being an overthinker so my boyfriend and I have been together for about

a year okay really close friends at the time but realized there was something more there nice context at the time he was dating another girl let's call her Amelia when we realized our feelings for each other no cheating we waited until they were broken up. However, there was a close time frame between them breaking up and us getting together. No problem. For the past two weeks, I wake up every night to him saying Amelia in his sleep.

Girls, I don't know why, but I'm so bothered that he's clearly dreaming about her. Now, I'm not proud of myself, but I decided to go through his phone. And he caught me shit he really wasn't happy for violating his trust and now we've had a huge argument and he's not sure if he wants to be with me i tried to explain myself but then i realized that my argument is kind of flimsy girls what do i do please help yeah it's tough it's tough it's tough it's tough it's tough it's hard out here it's hard out here now now i feel like all you can do is apologize

especially because it seems like you haven't found anything on his phone that would indicate otherwise i feel like you would have said so she has she said she found anything well no because i feel like if she has found anything she would have said so okay well all you've got to do now girl is just absolutely you're on regain regain oh slack okay you've got to get down and be like i am so sorry i was feeling so insecure you've got to be begging it you've got to be organizing the next uh day night come on but if you want the sky you you gotta and also i don't think it's that you don't trust him i just think that that would make me feel bothered you have to say to him look i have full faith that i trust you but this had made me feel insecure and and any guy would understand that yeah like

okay like truly like and hey like although we're not endorsing going through people's phones, have we done it before? Yes. We're only human. We've all been there. Oh, you're so funny. And I'm a nosy... Oh my God, actually, I got told off for doing the Katie stare. Oh my God, oh my God.

Did you? Did you? I love it. I was with someone and they were texting someone they've been seeing and I was literally just so baitly over their shoulder reading their text and they were like do you mind i was like oh my god i just forgot that everyone i live with tolerates it yeah we all just tolerate we know that katie reads all messages why go to the phone when katie doesn't so obviously but you simply don't so

apologies for that um i love it um please write in to tell us how that goes please and also we're actually going to do a new um segment not as of next week but the week after where we start to talk about people who've written in and what's happened since oh my god we got a really great request saying please can you do this so we are going to do this not next week but the week after absolutely Absolutely. Okay, cool. Should we do it? I only got one for the dreamers. I've got one.

Okay. Are you ready? My ick is when you actually are really butt-heart upset over a dream and they go, well, it was only a dream. Yeah, I know it was only a dream. I'm not easy. I am aware of why. Tell me why I'm shaking and quaking right now.

Like, what's scary? Don't reassure me. The mind's a powerful thing, all right? It's like a spell. Like, all right, okay, I know I shouldn't have gone on your phone, but reassure me that you don't want to be saying a name again. Exactly. Right.

Are you ready? Yeah. Okay, mine is when you say, oh, guys had a dream last night, and someone goes, yeah, me too, and starts talking about their dream. I'm thinking, hey, hey, hey, I was the original dream. Yeah. It does annoy me. Because, look, I look i gotta be honest i think it annoys everyone every night especially archie bless him every night i wake up no every day i wake up and i'm like god i had the weirdest dream last night

and he's like yeah great he's like well i should have asked like go on and i'm like so basically so archie's got used to it he's very good at it yeah when i start like bringing it into the conversation being like yeah i had the weirdest dream someone's like yeah and me yeah sure take your turn yeah yeah i'll just be done and then you go okay no because what's more awkward is that like you they then take over and they're like yeah i had this dream blah blah and then when that ends you're just meant to go yeah so my so my dream was yeah because that's awkward yeah exactly i hate that okay so questions questions everyone i'm serious this week i'm philly so katie leach

peachy leach do you think you should take your dreams seriously now wait for this do you think they're trying to tell you something that you didn't realize yet or that you haven't put together or is it all your imagination i think it's all just a bit of a silly time i think in some instances yes it depends where i am in my life okay if i feel like i'm in a major crossroads yeah and i have a dream telling me to go one direction i wouldn't ignore that oh is that what you mean okay because if i'm like having a dream about the fact that like i'm having jam on toast would i have jam on toast the next day every day probably not yeah but like i was at a major life decision making point in my life and an angel

comes like for example if i got pregnant yeah and i was unsure what to do and then i had a dream that like someone came down to me and told me like you're going to be the best mother i'd probably then you'd probably hate that. Because I feel like these things are, like, it's your subconscious as much as anything. 100%. I'm so there with you. Yeah. I respect that. I agree 100%.

Yeah. Yeah, love it. My question to you is, would you rather have nightmares every day or never dream again? Now, the nightmares don't have to be too severe, but they are nightmares. Oh, God. Katie, you know i love to dream i know no do the nightmares make me like anxious like you wake up a bit like startled you're like what the fuck oh man because there's nothing more like you know when you're in bed you go oh my Oh, my God. Oh, my God. This is why I can never share a bed with a man.

I literally do it all the time. I'm in bed like... That's when you get that falling sensation. Oh, she's so sweet. And he's so sweet. And I'm just like... Embarrassed. I'm so embarassed.

Don't talk about it. Don't bring it up again. It's fine. i think i'm gonna have to never dream that yeah so that's so bad how about i think i would have to say the same because my nightmares are like more realistic than like yeah there's a shark eating me what oh my god actually with your sharks you die no i would sharks and holes you uh no no no right guys you come to the end of the episode have an amazing

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