The Debrief - Friendships, Freshers & Flatcest

Episode Date: September 25, 2023

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I got a rebel soul, yeah, I got a rebel soul, I got a rebel soul Hey guys, how you doing? How you doing? How you doing? You know what, the mics are so good, when you said hi it like ricocheted me eardrums Did it? Yeah Bit of frequency there

I always listen, which I know Katie takes the piss off, but I always listen to my podcast out loud when I go for a run. Yeah, you do. Because sometimes I feel my ear pulls, squash my little ears a bit, and I get a little bit forced into one space. Yeah. So I feel if I've got my music out, I'm living my best life. Absolutely.

You know, with absolutely no barriers. No. And it was going like between and I was like having to put the different areas of the phone next to me it was honestly so funny we went for a run once together and then we were like you know it's like do we chat to each other now especially when Kitty's like Usain Bolt I'm like I can't keep up so we started running and then you're like yep see ya phone up to your ear and you're like, running on. I'm like, what are you doing?

What a mug. What are you doing? I remember when we passed each other on the run. I was like, you all right, Casey? I was like, yep, yep. Just a bit of red over here. Just getting a bit flush at this point. Just a bit red.

One kilometre down. I was like, whoo. One kilometre down. That was like, one kilometre down. That was enough for me. Yeah, I know. Yeah. Yeah, you've called it quits. I have.

You better come watch me when I do my half marathon. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm doing my half marathon in November the 18th, so if any of the Debrief supporters would like to come. Yes.

Come along. Come along and watch a bit of glory. Come on. Yeah, yeah, yeah what's the magic happen in balticy park all right you think magic hours are just in disney fucking wait till i get on that fucking track bad to see in november magical place to be magic magic magic magic are we ready to mantra i am very ready well give it to give it to. I have the power to take my life in a new direction. Fucking fabulous.

Yeah, yeah. What's that all about? What's it all about? Alfie. Lovely. The reason why I chose this is I always, literally until a few years ago, yesterday. No, until a few years ago,

I thought the new year started in September because you always went back to school in September. So I was like, new year, you know, and it never was, so I was confused. But anyway, I always feel there's a change in September. There is. Something kind of stirs, you know, the leaves are falling. You get your hot coffees rather than iced coffees

and everything's kind of stirring up. So I think it's also time when people go to uni you know you're starting off uni yeah or you've just finished uni and you're starting a new job and you've just come back from summer yeah you know there's so much change in September I love it that I feel take it by the bloody reins and whatever you choose to do you can yes you genuinely can you know if you think i want to stop that this time yeah let's focus on this you can yes so i have the power to take my life in a completely new direction yes with harry styles and zayn malik you know? Yeah. Not just one direction. It's a new direction. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yeah.

Love it. Thank you. I love it. Thank you. Katie, what's yours? Tell me, please. I'm begging you. Oh, wow.

No sound came out. Begging. My mantra is... Tell me. I take my life one day at a time. Yes, you do. I am yes i am i can't lie that gives me here that you're knackered that gives me on your plate i'm feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment okay i'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and you know i've been telling myself this all week yeah i've got i've been back to uni yeah i've started i started her ma guys started my master's

degree it's just been a lot of information it's been a lot of things and i'm thinking like and i've got a few kind of loose ends that i signed up for before i got onto this course yeah adding a bit of extra stress that I'm very excited to kind of relinquish from me yeah yeah so I'm just kind of it's just kind of adjusting to the new routine okay I think is just adjusting to the new hours that this course is because it's quite heavy going yeah and then adjusting to my work hours okay adjusting to these other commitments and I'm kind of like, okay, as long as I've had a good sit down with myself yesterday,

planned it all out hour by hour. And as long as I just take it day by day, day by day, it'll be fine. A new routine is so exciting, but also pretty overwhelming when you get a new routine out of fucking nowhere, but then you also have to try to fit it in with your old routine. Yeah. I give it a good two to three weeks and then you'll be happy again then

i'll feel settled yeah i just didn't like you know they did say they're like it's a lot and i'm like yeah yeah i can take it i'm not a mug i'm not a mug then we got the breakdowns of everything this week and i'm like guys it's a lot it's a lot it's a lot it's a lot so i'm i'm excited it's all excitement it's all gonna balance out but at the moment i just feel like i'm back juggling two different kind of routines yeah so i'm just kind of waiting for them to blend they're not seeing eye to eye at the moment okay yeah back to back they just need to have a bit of a chat okay yeah and sort this shit out right your song tell me a song my song sing it i'm the perfect all american bitch olivia rodrigo olivia rodrigo her albums out guts she's got she's fucking brilliant isn't

she fabulous i love all of her like um hot like rockier songs i know i feel like she's very kind of avril lavigne very avril lavigne right my song is i'll be around silo green there's nothing that's been pumping me up more than this song can't say i've heard it give me a rendition give me a rendition now the first bit i can't remember the lyrics too so i'll kind of be clearly don't like it that much not really no i'm in a bare face like that yeah i'm like this is my favorite song so the first bit's like oh like the tiktok song yes yeah and that's it guys just search up i'll be around silo green if you put that okay let me tell you just search it up. I'll be around. CeeLo Green. I'll be around. If you put that up. Okay, let me tell you. If you wake up in the morning, get out of bed.

Yeah. Do your Barbie moment. Yeah. Put your slippers on. Make your bed. I'll wake up. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Whip yourself out of bed. Put your robe on because every girl out there has a robe. Come on, girlies. We need robes. Katie doesn't. I don't have a robe. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Get your phone boop

i'll be around sealer green boop put it on oh my god you will want to shake that booty you will want to shake those tatties you'll be having the best time of your life there's nothing about there's nothing better than a little boogie by yourself so guys also we are adding a new section to the podcast which are called recommendations. Yes. Recommendations. They could be coffee shops. They could be restaurants.

They could be brunch places. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And I thought we're going to do one, a collective one. Yes. A collective one that we've both been to. Yeah. Or some weeks, one of us will say, actually, I've got one that i want to tell you

about yes okay yeah so our recommendation for this week bon bon bon bon bon fullham get specifically fullham there's one in high street kensington as well which we went to me for my birthday delightful yes um but the fullham one wow they've seen us through it all they have seen tears they've seen tantrums they've seen happiness and they've seen my fucking, they've seen us through it all. They have seen tears, they've seen tantrums, they've seen happiness. And they've seen my fucking great uggs. They've seen Katie in... In my gym jams.

In my gym jams. Yeah, Katie never looked back at that. And they still really like us, you know, they've seen Katie like that and they like their junk. They've seen me at my worst and they've let me back in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that's really nice. And they've seen me order like a fucking extra hot oat matcha with a bit of agave syrup and they still liked me so fuck me we love they are great their food great phenomenal i would recommend either the flawless pancakes

or the sourdough toasty you like i've never had the toasties i would also recommend the the nyc style bacon and egg bagel oh or sometimes when i go bit rogue tell me if you're low on cash get some jam on toast and some halloumi on the side because that's what i'd get because you won't look like a freak get the katie leach special special love it okay so guys this week we're going to be talking about unis unis unis people have started unis katie just started her ms started uni so exciting i'm starting a course next week oh yeah so exciting guys so for our, we're going to talk about what it was like transitioning for us. Yes. What was it like for you, Peach? Going from home and then moving straight to uni.

I remember I was quite nervous. Okay. Because I have never lived away from home. Yeah. I was, I also had a gap year as well. So I had an extra year at home, you know, mooching around. Parents loved that.

Yeah, I bet they did. Loved my company. Extra year of Peach. I was very excited to go. Like, I remember I was just like, okay, well, I'm ready, like, to go. Like, I'm excited. I didn't think I would struggle leaving.

Okay. Whereas I know there's some, some people have that kind of apprehension of actually leaving home and obviously like that's what's comfortable that's what you know yeah like i remember it didn't really kind of hit until my i got kind of dropped off my mom dropped me off okay but my dad dropped me off at the train station. Oh, okay. So I got the train to, my mum was at an event in Cambridge. Okay. With the car full of all the stuff.

Oh, I see. So I got the train to Cambridge. So my dad and my sisters dropped me off at the train station. And I remember being sat on the train like. Did you cry? Didn't cry. Got a bit teary, but didn't cry. Okay.

Then my mum drove us to London for drop for drop off okay how did you find it uh obviously like i think the biggest thing of all is i'm so fucking excited i was so excited yeah i've wanted to do i've wanted to act since i was like literally a jelly top yeah so being able to be doing this full-time i was so fucking excited but on the negative of that is i'm also so close to my family so then i was like i'd experienced a bit of time away at home yes i went to a boarding school yes i wasn't full-time board but i had experienced it at some point yeah um with productions and staying over at school and stuff like that yes so I wasn't as worried. I think because I was so driven by my excitement,

I was like, I can't wait to get that, I can't wait to get me dance shows on, you know. I was so excited. It was almost like, oh, you know. And I think as well that I found the transition when my sister left. My sister's a year older than me. Yes.

I found that really fucking hard. Oh my God, so did I. Yeah, yeah it was really really hard when we dropped her off she went to durham when we dropped her off at durham um i must have cried for a good three days after that like i just cried and cried and cried like i just felt as a four was such a close family unit so for me it was so it was like a quarter of the family gone that was really really difficult and tough so but then it kind of put in suspective okay lil's done it that's the that's the hardest bit done because that's

the first one out of the nest for my parents and and that was hard but it was also like the three of us had got each other yeah you know it's like okay but then it left it left me a pathway to be able to do it myself yeah i mean what older siblings are for anyway but to be then like okay i can do this i can do this this is okay yeah how's it when your sister left did you find it equally as well my sister i actually wasn't as emotional when she left um she went to uni in london and then did a study abroad program in america and they then offered her the opportunity to stay in america to finish her degree okay so she that was what i found harder yeah was the fact that i would like it wasn't like not that she'd come home anyway a lot when she was in uni in london yeah

okay um but it was nice knowing that she was closer yeah close by in case you needed her yeah so she'd only come back and it would be like dropping off at the airport every time and stuff like that and i remember just being like oh god like i remember it being because it's interesting because you're a family of four but yeah five you're a five i'm the middle child so there was still a younger one around yeah yeah okay so it kind of didn't feel as empty yeah as drastic as drastic. Yeah. I remember when she first left, I remember I kept walking into her room. Oh, it's so hard.

Isn't it? I slept in my sister's bed for like a good two weeks after. I was so upset. It was really, really hard in that transition. And oh my gosh, guys, be nice to your parents these next few weeks because I tell you, they're gonna,

whether they show it to you or not, they will feel a big change. They will feel a massive change um whether you have a close like lovey-dovey relationship with your parents or you know you're more of the harsh type they will notice a change did you have quite a harsh drop off okay so our drop off so i i was driving up with my mom and dad in the van yeah of course it was a fucking van had all my fucking stuff it's gotta be my mini fridge yeah oh my god oh my god your mini fridge i'm not taking the piss here no no no um anyway my parents were really excited for me like oh my gosh kit this is so fun this is really exciting you're so close to your um where you're going to

be studying like you're so close this is great got me in got all my stuff went upstairs um they helped me make my bed and kind of put a few things out and then and then that was it yeah and then i looked at them and i remember what it was like when we dropped dropped off my sister we dropped her off she did the whole room thing and we took photos and then we shut the door and we all burst into tears so then i was conscious of being really worried about my parents i was like oh i don't want them to be really upset that i'm leaving because i'm really excited i'm so excited yeah yeah but also i'm gonna miss them and you know and i remember my mom and dad we did a little like three musketeers hug and they said right you know this is the time of your life. You're never going to get this time back. You have the best time.

And I was like, and I started to get a bit emotional. My mum said, no, no, no, you don't cry. This is happy. This is exciting. She said, you get your speaker on. She said, put a bit of Lizzo on and you dance around in the room. Just to one song. Just dance around to one song.

Then unpack all your things. She says, and you know, and that's that's fine and she says stop the music now stop so i put the music on and then they gave me a kiss and a hug and they left and it was only until like a few months later my mom said oh my god your dad cried the full like three hours back home oh my goodness my little baby my little baby oh my goodness so. So yeah, it was emotional. It was really emotional. You know, I look back now and I think, oh, it's so hard when you're going at 18, 19.

You are so young. You don't know a lot. You know, you don't. You also don't know yourself a lot either. And it is actually mad. I mean, our friend went to uni at 17. Yes, yes. Because he was in Scotland.

But, you know, you think you think god it's such a young age to then be fending for yourself yes yeah yeah but yours was quite different your experience was quite different we we moved in in the time of covid so we were told in fairness we did get emailed saying, you have 10 minutes with your parents to get in. Yes, fuck, I forgot this. They were essentially like, you need to get in, drop your shit and leave. Yeah, shit. My mum was also staying at a family friend's who lived in London at the time

because they're based in the north currently. So my mum didn't want to drop me off and then drive all the way back up north because it's about four hours. So she dropped me off and she was also waiting because i think they were going out for dinner or something okay she doesn't help so we she we get all our keys we drop it or we get it all in my mum helps me load it all up and she then she kind of drops it and then um was kind of like, like drops everything. Like there's nothing on the bed at the moment. It's just an empty bed.

Duvets, everything all sat there. And she kind of like puts the last box down and goes, right, well, have a good time. Come here. Give me a hug.

Come on. Crack on. She was like, right, well, you've got lots to be doing. Yeah. Lots to be unpacking here.

So she was like, don't let me get in your way. All all right because i'm i'm meeting so-and-so for dinner so i can't believe i don't want to hit traffic yeah so so i'm gonna go yeah and i was like just stop those tears i'll stop it i was like i need to go so i gave her a hug i wasn't actually that emotional i remember feeling really emotional again when she gave me a hug. And I think my mom said later that she got into the car and felt quite emotional. But I remember, I distinctly remember the door shutting, looking around all this shite

that I've made a hoy into my room and then thinking, fucking hell, like, this is it. This is it. I'm by myself now. And I remember, and it was just a really weirdly like overwhelming and also underwhelming feeling that it's just a really weirdly like overwhelming and also

underwhelming feeling that it's such a big move to uni move to uni and then i did it and then i was like fuck i'm here and i was just staring out the window like all right well let's get unpacking genuinely and i think as well uh we were really lucky but with our rooms we had non-suite as well so we were kind of in um isolated into our area until you kind of unpacked it's not like you need to leave to go for a wee or you know to get a glass of water you're kind of there so um yeah with for that moment i think we're both pretty lucky that our parents you know oh my gosh you can't control it sometimes but don't fucking stop blubbering in front of you oh my god the girls oh my god i cry it's like what are you fucking doing i would cry you're making me feel so fucking into i was like oh okay i don't know what to do now but yeah i

think it's really interesting people have such different drop-off stories yes get in there first thing make your fucking bed because you not do not want to be doing that when you've had loads of fucking drinks and like you know yeah you're slaughtered make your bed take a deep breath take it all in for a second you've made it this far you've made it this far you've got it and like, you know, you're slaughtered. Make your bed, take a deep breath, take it all in for a second, you've made it this far, you've made it this far, you've got it. Put on one of your favorite songs, maybe I'll be around, CeeLo Green.

You know, put it on, and literally just like, okay, I'm ready. Now that'll give you maybe three, three and a half minutes, then go and socialize. Literally open that fucking door and go. Don't overthink it it don't be like oh god god just go see who's around yeah yeah what would be your piece of advice my piece of advice was take a breath yeah like all's fine all is fine and i also said don't be afraid to call your

parents don't be afraid to be like oh my god they've just left and but i've got a question i don't want to bother like literally like that's nice forming like they'll want to hear from you yeah yeah they're like they will yeah um so don't be afraid to think that you just because you've been dropped off that day and you've just moved in and don't know what to do like don't think that they're now all of a sudden inaccessible because yeah completely they're even they'll want to hear from you every day of course they like yeah of course they will even if you don't ring them every day yeah yeah um you know i think it's just it's just a crazy one isn't it yeah so take that deep breath you know ring your parents if you want to put on the song yeah and just you this is the time really

to push yourself you know in my thing i said earlier about i have the power to take my life in a new direction this is your time now absolutely this is your time our friend recently spoke to us about um how he chose a university because he knew no one was going there and he wanted to start over and be and come out as gay. Whereas everyone that he knew knew him as being a straight guy. And he was like, you know, I just chose this uni because I was like, well, no one from my old life is there.

So I can be gay and there'll be no judgment. I mean, there should never be judgment anyway. But you know, that's a fresh start. You're a clean slate. Anyone who you were at high school, you don't have to be anymore. You really don't. And what an exciting time, you know? Yes, 100 know yes 100 i mean like i always think as well like it's so hard to try and push yourself

to be sociable oh my gosh it's so actually guys take a katie right tell them what a katie break is so this was actually so i so there there are things you can do to make friends in uni and there are things that you can do that won't make you any friends and I I will say that this this this is something that I did that did me no favors so it all actually started because I think I do have a social battery. I will call. Oh, yeah. Yeah. No, don't agree too strongly. Casey's like a ticking time bomb.

You know, you'll have good fun until you've had a fucking enough. Once I've had enough, oh, God. Or if someone said a comment or if someone's like, she's like, do you know what? Nah. You can see she's already on Uber Eats. You can see I've switched off. Yeah, yeah. She's going home. I think I would call myself an introverted extrovert

interesting i enjoy i enjoy being sociable like i love chatting to people like fucking hell like big shit if i didn't yeah yeah you know i love getting to meet people and chatting and having a really good time however i do find it at times exhausting okay i say i'm literally like oh my god it's like this week i'm meeting so many new people so many new faces and it's so hard when you're having the same surface level conversation to not just feel like you're getting drained of all your energy um but and then not to come across rude because you're like oh shit you've got to be on best form yeah tits and tea yeah yeah yeah yeah um but i distinctly remember it would get to a point

where every single saturday in halls we would do the same thing we would do the same thing where we would play a game of ring of fire we were in covert times guys so it was a bit feral yeah and it got to the point where everyone was doing the same thing every saturday and i was just getting a bit sick and tired of the chat like i wasn't so shy i honestly just put my glass down i didn't want to say no to the flat parties because i didn't want to risk not getting invited but they're like oh come come come and i'm like again but you know what was really funny is that like um kate people started so these katie breaks we call well i genuinely katie breaks like katie be like oh i'm gonna go to the toilet gonna go to the toilet sit in my room go to her room and just set that like

one time i found her one time i literally went into the room i was like kate will do a case break i literally go into her room like found her she wasn't looking at her phone i was just staring out she was literally just she was literally just sat there like like literally looking out. And I was like, Katie, and you're like, taking some time.

This is the thing, guys. When you go to uni, you're your own fucking person now. This is the thing that I was going to say, is that when you're 18 or whatever age you go, you're your own person with your own opinions. 100%. And the only person you can rely on is yourself there you can't

be oh but mum told me to do this no one gives a fucking shit yeah you know you're there because of your own fucking accord yeah okay which means then you have the responsibility to push yourself yeah you have to be like get come on come on i really don't want to go i really do so i'm gonna go but i'm gonna go okay yeah and that's almost the compromise that katie made you know she probably she would not have gone partying every weekend but she did no but she just didn't stay the whole time but i think it's one of those things as well that it's so funny to me that in halls fucking hell you could not get me out for love nor money yeah like i was like oh god really where is now like i love a night out yeah it's so funny it's kind of i was just gonna say it's how much you've changed since then because you were quite not anti-social you were just

introverted yeah whereas now you're just oh let's go out let's go out let's go out so it's all those key to break you took you reflected and thought well maybe i'm well rested i'm well rested don't ever guys i had to do it literally had to do it yesterday i had a two hour break in between two like seminars yeah and everyone was like what are we gonna do i'm like i'm going to go sit by myself like i literally like we were having we were literally everyone was like just debating what to do i just slipped off i was like she's like yeah bye guys someone's gonna ask me to do something it's so funny we got a text from peach on the group chat. And I was like, how are you going?

How are you going? Oh my God, yeah. She literally, I said to Arch, this is gonna be fucking shit. She's like, guys, oh, I accidentally lost everyone. So I'm going to lunch on my own. And Arch goes to me,

oh my God, bless her. Like, she's on her own. I thought, are you fucking joking me? She'll have purposefully turned her back when everyone said, let's go this way to the right she'll have turned to the left she'll be like oh didn't know didn't know where i was going there but that's fair you know if that's what you need that's what you need i think it's a hard one because if anyone does have

a kind of shorter social battery such as myself like pushing yourself to be sociable is really difficult yeah and i wouldn't have been sociable at uni if i didn't have more sociable people around me yeah so that's the only but i've realized you know as you go on you can't rely on others to drag you out your shell like and i'm so so grateful to come across like our flatmate that dragged me out on the first night that there was the braver one to knock on because i genuinely wasn't gonna say anything or do anything that night i literally planned to just get into bed i bought myself a pack of peanut m&ms like i was in for the night like i wasn't gonna knock on and do anything it was her that came to me and was like let's do something yeah

which was like and i owe a lot to her for doing that because she introduced me then to a group who were always like please come yes yeah and whilst that was so nice that was a privilege yes um that was such a blessing and not everyone's going to be like that no you have to be that person no you will find friends i promise you will uni is such a big fucking place that anyone with all their little like you know quirks and quizzes, you will find your friends. Everyone finds their people at uni.

Everyone does, I promise you. But in order, you can't just say, oh no, I find no one I like. Okay, you need to find them. You need to, whether that means joining a netball team, whether that means on your course rather than the people you live with, whether that just means going to campus things

or going to freshers events. Oh my God, go to the freshers events. Go to freshers. Don't not go to freshers. You need to go to freshers. I'm not saying go to all of them, but go to them. Go to them.

You'll make funny memories and all that kind of stuff. My not making friends was when I used to genuinely steal from you. I can tell you. We were at this place for a year. Yeah. Within this year, I never bought toilet roll. Ever. I never bought.

Oh, my God. I never, ever, ever bought toilet roll. To the fact, to the point. You were bad. You were bad with that. You were so bad with that. I used to go into people's rooms. You were so. Did you bad with that. You were so bad with that. I used to go into people's rooms. Did you take toilet roll from me?

Oh, it's my love. You're kidding. No, I would, I would. You're kidding. I would, I would, I would. I thought you just stole them from the utility cupboard in the head office. Anyone in the flat. Anyone.

Actually, there was only one person I never got in because he locked his door. I should have locked mine. Well, you should have, yeah. Got caught a few times. Do you remember? one of our flatmates was on the toilet i opened the door i was going into a room to get you were going in for the oh it's going into getting she fucking kicked off and i was like oh sorry sorry and i was like oh it's like katie kissy maybe it's time now to buy your own. Never did. Went to the gym.

Took them from the gym. Even once went to the store cupboard. Store cupboard. The amount of fucking toilet roll you use. Katie wraps her hand around like she's about to go boxing. She uses so much toilet roll. Little Katie's coming along right now. Little Katie.

What advice are you going to tell baby katie to make friends to make friends i would say first night you're in there knock on to everyone's rooms yeah like try and find another girl yes because that's what happened to me like one of the other girls knocked on and she's like oh my god another girl thank goodness like so excited so i'm like brilliant so you make a little gal pal yeah and go exploring yeah i would say find a buddy and try and get the lay of the land cool i would also recommend getting a door wedge leave your door open yeah i love it not like all the time because people kitty will steal the toilet roll oh yeah yeah just when you're in there keep the door open so when people move like walking in

and out like people move in at different times as well. So then when they're walking past, go, oh my God, hi, you know. Yeah, lovely. Try and then also there's not pressure on, like you said, you might not like your flatmates. Yeah, so true. You might not like them, but you will find your people. My God, there's always one fucking person in the flat

that irritates the fuck out of you. Oh, yeah. We actually, we had a few. There's always a fucking few so don't be like oh god what am i gonna do just wait till they've all arrived and chill you fuck out you know you're right yeah how do you make friends kitty um my biggest piece of advice yeah would just be do not be judgmental yes just don't go in with judgment don't go in with this predetermination i'm not going to make friends and everyone's going to be shit no yeah you've got to wipe the slate clean you really do because

you're a new person you're not katie leach from york you're not you're now katie leach in london and that's a completely different katie yes although i didn't know you before then yeah you've been a you're massively changed versus you when we were at um drama school yeah to you now yes like you've changed so much so i would say don't go in with judgment you know if someone says something the first night that you're like oh don't hold that against them yes that everyone's fucking panicking let me give you a bit of insight everyone's fucking scared all right everyone is scared it's not just you you're not alone in that so if someone's trying to say something and they say something that's wrong

people are just people a chance people get nervous and i will say that's so real don't judge people from group chats yes don't because we had a group chat like when you think of all the people in the group chat i never spoke on the group chat no i didn't i didn't i didn't but i want the fucking listeners to write in and be like this has happened at uni drama yeah because i actually live for uni drama it's not high school drama uni drama and you know what is always at the root of uni drama flat test flat test like it's when people commit flat test on like the first night i'm like okay yeah yeah yeah when it's on the first night it's like fuck we're at fucking uni like we're here here we are here we are just met this rando shagging them and guess what we're sharing a kitchen now we share a kitchen and now we share a fucking thank god we didn't have to share

bathrooms but you know some people will have to share bathrooms that's true oh my god flat oh my god okay let's talk about flat zest i don't you think of flat i don't see any issue with it okay i actually don't unless yeah unless yeah you catch the feels yeah because it's really hard it's hard not to catch feels yeah in in a space where you're constantly around oh my god someone else yeah It's really hard in that sense. You're in a group of six of you, I'd say. Probably three boys, three girls. It's usually equally weighted.

There's an attractive guy you're living with. You wait for him to come in the kitchen. You're like, where is he? Give me a bit of him. In he comes, you're flirting. You're always having flat drinks. You're having X, Y, Z. And you're thinking, I want you're having xyz and you're thinking i want you

flat test is inevitable okay it's fucking inevitable whether it's you or someone that you're fucking living next to you it will fucking happen there was a flat below us who genuinely dark horses i thought they they didn't really get up to march yeah like they literally and they were on my course and they were on my course and they were all like they're a good friendship group yeah and then it came out like seven months later that two of them have been in relationships with each other like scurrying across the hall shagging and I was genuinely so shocked yeah one of our friends committed flat zest and not only flat zest but almost like hall zest double double. Double trouble. In the flat with them.

One of them, it was her virginity. Which is no shit. Usually a lot of people go to uni as a virgin. However, when you are a virgin, you're most likely to fall in love with someone. You have that attachment. I don't blame her for falling in love. Neither do I.

Of course you would. Of course you did. So then she fell for our friend, and we were just like, well, you know, it's virginity, my love like you should have thought about it a bit more then he shagged someone else in the flat and they were close like then they were good friends all the girls in that flat were good friends like they were close friends yeah he shagged the other female flat yeah yeah it was tricky tricky like you have to you have to be really careful if you think you're fucking

sly if you think you're a fucking sly dog you're not you're not those doors are loud the doors are loud the walls are fucking thin so you've got a year of being fucking feral so be feral be feral oh my god and as well don't even worry like it really upsets me when people get like oh i don't want to do flat says because then it'll be awkward it's only awkward if you let it be awkward yeah it won't it won't also they like awkwardness in the kitchen we don't know her we don't know her yeah don't worry about being awkward in the kitchen just put your headphones on start cooking yeah oh my gosh it doesn't matter i used to do it all the time yeah yeah and and if you need to take a kate's break literally just oh sorry i gotta go flat test do it honestly do it all the time. Yeah. Yeah. And if you need to, take a K to break. Literally just be like, oh, sorry, you know,

I've got to go. Flat test, do it. Honestly, do it. Life short, enjoy. Life short, have the best fucking time of your life. And they're only judging you because they're jealous.

Oh, yeah. Come on. No, don't. Do you know what? Two things. Don't judge someone for having sex and also don't judge someone that they're not having sex.

Yeah. Uni is about being able to be your fucking self and find people that are similar to you. Oh, that sounds like when you open a drink. Yeah. I've only got one this week. How many have you got?

One. Only one? One. One. Uno. Uno. Numero uno. one this week how many have you got one only one one one one right i'll ping pong you ready lovely thank you nice i'm sorry um just burnt in the fucking microphone sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry um mine is name dropping oh it's really getting under my skin fuck me there's nothing worse really nothing worse really really getting under my skin okay i just i i don't know why like as i said like i'm i'm just starting uni uh yeah i'm in like a fresh as i'm meeting loads of people from lots of different courses and meeting loads of people on my course and you know we've had like a mixer to get to know

other people and there are just some people who love to talk about who they know fuck me there's nothing fucking worse and i feel like i'm trying to get to know you yeah and i don't know what part of you thinks that like that'll impress me yeah like i'm just not like don't know i'm from adam like i'm not i'm not that easily swayed and the people that are i think are quite fake like i just think it's a bit weird i've always found it really weird yeah and it's embarrassing it's just so embarrassing it's like it is such a fucking cloak like you can't you can't be strong enough on your own so you have have to cloak this fucking, guys, I know such and such, so that people will get in this cloak with you.

Yeah. Honestly, take off the fucking cloak and just, you don't need to have known anyone. Just be yourself. Genuinely? Yeah, it's embarrassing. 100%, right, you ready? Yeah.

Oh my God. Okay, so I was at the gym today. Yeah. There was a guy, genuinely, genuinely, boxing in the air. Okay. Now, now, now, now, now now now i'm not saying that there was like though i'm not saying we're in the fucking like i don't know stretching area anyway there's

treadmills around there's fucking ellipticals yeah the stair masters and he's literally in the middle of the square like oh my god like fucking boxing at the moment this gym is being renovated so there are no mirrors may i say so he's got nothing to kind of guide him he literally just is punching in there then ducking at no one at fucking no one punching punching punching duck duck changes around starts punching again i honestly thought someone was being killed. I looked around. What's going on? I was like, is he having an attack? I was like, he's punching in the air. What are you doing?

You're right, my love. I was like, what's going on? What's going on? That's so strange. I thought, oh my god, if I saw Archie doing that, I'd be so embarrassed. No, no, no, no, no. I'd be embarrassed. Humiliated, in fact.

That would be humiliating. Question. I loved that. Yeah. I loved that. Yeah, I'm sure you did. I loved that. Now, are you a serious question this week or a silly question?

I am a serious question this week. I'm very serious. It's kind of like when you do the serious questions, because I always feel that they come more naturally to me and the silly questions come more naturally to you. I would agree, and I don't, I really struggle finding a good serious question. Right.

So I hope you're impressed by this. Well, I'll try. Yeah. So mine would be, if you're in a world, Yeah. acting does not exist, Oh my God.

what would you want to do? What career path would you want? Okay, so it'd still be a form of entertainment. Yes. it would have to be I don't think I could ever be just sitting at a desk job yeah I don't think I get fulfilled personally I don't think I'd be fulfilled through that yeah so I could see myself doing like stand-up yeah or yeah um broadcasting doing like a holla willoughby holly willoughby you know being like a presenter i could see you hosting bake off

oh i'd love something shit like that like i would love it like i love to present i love to um chat to people i'm such a fucking chatter yeah there's no way you could put me behind a wall like i'd be like look at this face no but seriously i would be wanting to be like interviewing people chatting shit you know kate and i have even talked about on the podcast recently that we're going to take these little mini mics out that you see on tiktok and we're going to be interviewing people and i was like i can't fucking wait kate was like i can how about you i actually think if i would agree in the sense that I would want to still be performing, if that was not an option to me, I've always like, I always would love to be like a nurse

or something. I could see myself, I could see myself as a nurse. Oh my God. You've never told me this. A nurse or like a, well, I loved working in pharmacy. I loved helping people. Like it was quite fun. There are a few whack-a-doodles, but like, I do like i loved working in pharmacy i loved helping people like it was quite fun there are a few whack-a-doodles but like i do like i think you would be a fantastic nurse i think i'd

be a brilliant nurse i think you would be nurse you have to be very compassionate and you are the most kind person i know but you won't look at me say it again but you would be great oh my gosh you'd be amazing imagine you're in a coma you wake up who's there me fuck me i'm out of the coma i'm like hello like are you are you saying that i am quite clumsy you'd be great with little kids though imagine you'd be so good the problem is i think i'd be too emotional i get too attached that attached. That's what my mum found. I think I'd be too emotional. Yeah. But I think it can be so rewarding. The highs are so high, but the lows must be so low. Really low. Yeah.

And I also don't know how many people around me, if I said, oh, I'd be a nurse, they'd trust me with their life, you know? I would. You know, if I said, let big Katie fix it. Let the pooch. Let pooch fix it, all right? Okay, so my silly question. Would you rather?

Mm-hmm. each fix it all right okay so my silly question would you rather caress and gently squeeze every single person you know's ass when you see them like for the rest of your life and it's not like a like hit on the ass it's actually worse than it's like a really kind of perverted like stroke and squeeze yeah so you're on everyone like every time you time you see my parents, you'll have to do it. When you see your sisters, you'll have to do it. When you see your dad, you'll have to squeeze and, like, caress. So this is for the rest of your life, okay? Yeah.

Or have tape over your mouth stopping you to speak for nine months. You can't speak. You've literally got like a boom over your mouth. I think I'd have to take the vow of silence. Yes, Katie. Would you?

Brilliant. Oh, don't be too excited. Don't be too excited. I'm like, oh, thank God, thank God, thank God, thank God. I think that is something I'd find extremely difficult. But if the Buddhists can do it so can page would you would you have to go somewhere though yeah i think i would because you could not live with us oh i get such fomo you'd be sat in the corner just smiling we'd be like ah you can't speak try and catch me out as well yeah i would what would happen if i did speak you die i die you die you're kidding no

you're kidding yeah fuck well i don't want to die but for nine months you can't like speak i'd have to go into the mountains or something into the into the hills and the mountains talking to the trees but the problem is the problem is i do like when i'm home, I do start talking to myself. You can talk to yourself. Oh! That's so... Oh! Easy peasy lemon fucking squeezy. I'll just take myself away. I'll go to fucking like a private beach or something. Or I'll go in a tent and I'll camp.

And I'll sit by myself. And I'll just natter to myself for nine months. That's not that hard. Okay. What would you do? You'd have to take the vow of silence. I'd have to do the vow of silence. But as you said, I'd have to go into like a tiki hut or something and never be seen it might be quite i

could write a book about it yeah you know it could be quite transformative go on my runs you know be all right yeah it would be yeah i'd be sad but i'll be all right i'll make it through because i'm a tough woman tough woman right guys it's over it's over it's the end of the podcast i'm sorry it's over yeah it's over it's over so we're talking about oh my gosh before we go quickly just on the topic of talking about unis if you were uni what would you be which uni would you be can it only be english ones i could see myself as st andrews fuck off off, I was going to say St. Andrews. Dickhead. Fucking. Too slow.

Fucking bitch. Too slow. St. Andrews, interesting. I'd be St. Andrews. And do you know when I think of St. Andrews as well, I always think of the colour like a ginger colour, so that's actually interesting. I think I'd fit in in Scotland,

because I think I look Scottish. I don't have any Scottish roots. You do not. But I think... I feel like everyone has Scottish roots. I don't. No yeah that's a shame for you it's not like other girls am i i'm just alternative i'm different you know don't have scottish roots but i think i could be st andrews you know people like st andrews yeah they're like

oh st andrews what a gorgeous beautiful uni yeah yeah but there's an acquired taste and it's not like andrews it's not yes it's not party party central. So it's quite a Katie break. I mean, it's quite like secluded. It is. Kind of like. It's not even a Katie break. It's a Katie year. It's a Katie year. Yeah. Well, everyone would love it. You've taken

mine now, so I can't be St. Andrews. Yeah. I think I could be, you know, I don't think I could be on the sesh every fucking night. I think. But I couldn't be party of one. I think I know what you'd be. Tell me, tell me.

I think you'd be Oxford. Oh, what a compliment. Brooks. No, no. I think you could be, I think, but people brooks is like for people at oxford who want to be sociable that's that's the vibe i got from brooks yeah yeah um but i not that i actually never applied yeah that's the vibe i got from brooks never been never applied but people who i've met that went to brooks said it's a bit of a sesh but it's also

like academic sesh head love it or i could see you as durham durham maybe following the mcneil footsteps following the mcneil footsteps my parents my sis maybe but i'd want to be in castle college absolutely yeah i need to be in a fucking castle oh yeah we've had we will have our needs these breasts were not made to not be living in a car well they're regal regal bosoms I talk so much shit right let's go guys I love you so much

email in as always tell us how your life's going please from Peach and myself Peach the leech Kitty McNeil have a great time at uni have a great time you've got this stay safe guys enjoy your mantras you've got this you'll be all right good luck best of luck love you guys love you bye