The Debrief - Honesty Hour

Episode Date: August 28, 2023

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Welcome back! Welcome back! Welcome back to The Debrief. The Debrief! You probably don't know what The Debrief is to be fair. I know, it's more us welcoming each other back. Katie, welcome back to the studio. And Kitty, welcome back to the studio.

We've been away for so long. We have. Has it been three weeks? Three weeks. It is mad. It is actually mad that for us it's been a lifetime. But actually, for you, nothing's changed. Doesn't life work in mysterious ways hey it certainly does

i was enjoying myself in the side we were both cali mera cali mera we were both in greece far apart greece is a big place it's a very big place so we were actually we were quite did you do what buzz no but we were what oh no shots are being Okay. No, I was on a wholesome family holiday. Getting drunk by myself, it felt like. Love it. So tell me your mantra now. My mantra this week is, it's happening for you, not to you. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

You felt that, yeah, didn't you? No, I didn't. It was like a... Bang! Boom! Boom! Yeah, yeah, I i loved it yeah what does that mean so it means sometimes you know when you can really feel like a victim of your own circumstances like why is this happening to me i think it takes you out of the fact that it's not part like nothing that happens well actually that's a bit of a lie i was about saying nothing that happens to you is personal but it all feels very personal sometimes so sometimes you can really feel like the world world's shitting on you just because it's you but it's

actually all everything's happening for a reason love it's happening for you love for a higher good lover yeah what's your mantra my mantra is yeah i have no regrets because rejection is purely redirection love it love it now guys the reason why we need this our podcast as you'll see now because you're listening to it you mugs it's called Honest Hour

we're in the honest hour the time is ticking tick tick tick the little hand is pushing us towards an honest hour. We're all for positivity here. Yeah. We are. However, there's only so much one can take.

There's only so much one can take. There have been some events that have been happening. Something's been unravelling. There's been. Something has been unravelling. And actually, in the theme of that my song in my song is Bad Idea Right oh my god

that was gonna be my song yes oh my god yeah it is so good and I actually thought it was kind of in in you know collab

with our whole honest hour yeah Bad Idea Right Bad Idea Right and then what is it fuck it fuck it it's fine

yeah I love it it's so it it's fine yeah love it you're so good and I'm like oh yeah boom she is phenomenal she's great isn't she she is phenomenal

she's clearly had her down days oh yeah she got she got rejection from redirection it didn't happen to her

it happened for her for her yeah yeah yeah yeah because it didn't happen to her she needed these songs yeah exactly what's your song my song is actually Speed Drive Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, because it didn't happen to her. She needed these songs. Yeah. Yeah.

Exactly. What's your song? My song is actually Speed Drive by Charli XCX that was part of the Barbie soundtrack. You know the, Oh Barbie, you're so fine, you're so fine, you blow my mind, drop it to the driver's seat and put it into speed drive.

It's on my gym playlist. Loved it, loved it. And I'm just like popping a squat, like loving life. Absolutely popping a squat, loving life. Yeah, love that. Shall we get honest? Let's get honest.

This week, we have the best story to tell you. All at my expense. All at Katie's expense. All at my expense, may I add. All at Katie's expense. All at my expense. May I add. All at Katie's expense. But we love it. We love it. No,

because genuinely, like, this story is going to be in my wheelhouse for a while now. Wheelhouse? Yeah. What?

Yeah. What is a wheelhouse? You heard me. You know, like, I actually don't know what a, like,

an actual wheelhouse is, but you know when someone says, oh, what you got in your wheelhouse? Like, you know when someone says oh what you got in your wheel like you know for example what you got in your backpack no no okay no no okay you know you know if someone like if you go to an audition and they say have you got anything else yeah that's your wheelhouse what have you got in your wheelhouse in your back pocket yeah

guys seriously i know we're picking it up i know but you're gonna fucking love this Yeah. You're back on it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's back. Guys, seriously. I know we're bigging it up. I know. But you're going to fucking love this. Set the scene for me, my love. I've had my fair share of professional rejection. Yes. And personal.

Yeah. However, like romantic. But I've kind of seen it coming, especially with boys. You see it coming. Okay. You know it's coming. Interesting. coming especially with boys like you see it coming okay like you know it's coming interesting do you actually think you do see it coming oh yeah yeah do you think you know and why do you think you know deep down gut feeling gut feeling deep down but soon as my boyfriend was about to break up with me the day off i knew did you i knew you do distance yourself like and you can feel it because when you're so close with

someone like you are with a boyfriend you can feel when they're off. Fuck, it'd be hard for Archie and I, we live together, it'd be more distant. After I was sleeping back on the floor. Now, this is interesting. Apparently, girls know. Like, they know six months. Girls know, like, six months before they're going to break up with someone. Like, they have chunks of time where they're like, yeah, it's coming, it's coming.

I'm just, like, weeding it out. I'm weeding it out. You can feel it. You can. So say you're with someone. Yeah. You want to break up. He hasn't done anything mega.

Like, it's not like he's cheated. Yeah, just fizzles. It's just fizzling. When are you doing it? Are you... No, I'm one of those people, as soon as I get the ick, like, off your partner. Wow, okay.

I'm really weird in that sense. Like, I would say, back to our star signs episode, I care so much and I have such deep feelings for people, especially when it comes to, like, love and relationships. Yeah. I am, like, infatuated as soon as they give me the ick oh I couldn't tell you from Adam it is actually

quite hard to ick ick me out like to the point where I'm like don't touch me yeah yeah yeah yeah like

yeah the thing is I think if I felt it was good it's inevitable like I'm thinking I would need the reassurance

from people around me so I'd probably talk to you talk to my fam and be like but then that's almost harder because you can't fucking come back from that if I've said to you I'm going to break up with such and such then he fucking proposes

and you're like you were going to break up with him you can't bring that on once you've told your fam, once you've told your friends you fucking shat on the relationship tell me the story I was there guys but I want to hear it Once you've told your fam, once you've told your friends, you fucking shat on the relationship. Tell me the story. I was there, guys, but I want to hear it.

A friend of ours had loads of his friends down to London for the weekend. Yeah. I was at work, so I was joining you guys later. You guys were already there. Archie meets me at Clapham Station to walk me to the pub that we're at to give me kind of the lowdown of everyone and like what the vibe is and kind of everything like that. Cool. And he says there's one boy in particular there was four of them yeah two of them were in relationships and the other one wasn't that interested no i would say no there was one guy and then i was

getting teed up for this boy like they're saying oh god like yeah i think he'd be really keen like he obviously hasn't met you from both ways man, Mad. Both ways. Let's give him a name. Adam. Adam. Okay. Everyone was giving Adam, like, Katie. You know, just you wait till Katie comes. So it wasn't just like we were all egging on Katie,

but then the vibe was, oh, she's going to get pied. No. No. That wasn't the vibe. Because if that was the vibe, then I'd be saying, Katie, leave her. Yeah. We get that. And then, like, say hello to everyone. This Adam boy, I think, is quite attractive. the vibe because if that was the vibe then i'd be saying katie leave her yeah we get that and then

i like say hello to everyone this adam this adam boy i think is quite attractive yeah i think is very lovely um and i'm like oh my goodness like what a charming man we spend the majority of the evening together yeah you do i would call it flirtatious. The flirt is there. There was eye contact. There was talking about types. I mean, all the moves were there. All the moves were there.

All of Adam's friends as well, and our friend, is like, oh my God, like you and Adam, like this is going to happen. And I'm thinking, oh my God. I really struggle when people put pressure on a situation. However, you do. You do, and I agree. I do. happen i'm thinking oh my god i really struggle when people put pressure on a situation however

you do you do and i agree i do however the the premise was there like the fundamentals were and for actually which is rad you felt comfortable with him like you were chilling you were having great chats you were like loving life the eye contact was there you know it wasn't like, oh my God, Kit, don't leave me with this freak. We go to Clapham's Gem Infernos. Infernos! Marco Robbie's

favourite nightclub because she's a Clapham girl. She's a Clapham girlie. Cheesy tunes. Nothing but cheesy fucking tunes. Cheesy tunes.

Absolutely delightful. Yeah. Drinks weren't that expensive either well they're not pretty good so we're in in finance we're having a good time we're all in our group we're all having a little dance yeah so we do the classic toilet trip i said to you i distinctly was like i don't know what to do because like and the thing is it was going so so well and i thought it was so so flirty that maybe maybe i was a bit cocky yeah but i was like easy light work easy but it it was it was light work katie it was romeo and juliet we knew it was happening

you you made a good point because i was like fuck i'm feeling really awkward now like i'm feeling shy yeah yeah yeah i don't know like I don't know how to broach this. Like I don't know what to say because we were kind of like not next to each other in the dance floor. Like how do I move to this boy? Yeah.

I was quaking. I was scared. Yeah. So you were like, go up to him and ask what he's drinking, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it'll strike a conversation, which it did.

Yeah. So we were talking about, I was like, what are you drinking? You know, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, oh, I'm drinking. He's like, what are you drinking? I's like what are you drinking my all-time surgery he's like oh the most boring drink then oh i see and i'm like oh you're calling me boring he was like oh at least my drink's not boring or something really great chat guys yeah and uh he he said something like one thing i'm not as boring, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I went, oh, okay. And he was like, oh, yeah, yeah.

Like, seriously, like, I can be a lot of fun. Swooping. We're ear to ear. You know when you're in the club and you can't really, so you're trying to talk and I couldn't. So we were like ear to ear. Yeah. So he says this. I'm like, fucking God.

Like, Katie, it is do or die. It's swooping in time. It is swooping in time. So we're literally like, he pulls back. There's a bit of a pause. I grab his like chip, pull him and I go to kiss him. Now, this is what I see. So I see Katie like, you know, like they're talking and they're like this.

They're like this. And then I see like, and I'm like. So then at this point, I'm like, guys, look away. Like, come on, don't observe. Like, this isn't the tennis. I wish no one saw that. So we kiss. Our lips do touch.

I, stupidly, I then kind of go in for a bit more. I'm thinking, oh, like, this is going to be a full-on get. Like, okay. Well, I feel him pushing me away. I feel him pushing me away. And I'm like, oh. Pushing you. Pushing you.

How hard was he pushed? He was like, whoa. I can't imagine. He's like, fuck off. Where did he push you? Like, he put his hand on my chest and then kind of like gently moved me back. And was like, and this is what fucks me off as well. This is what really fucks me off as well.

Tell me what fucks you off. Because the way he said no was very like oh god like fuck you shouldn't be doing that like oh god like but very flirtatious yeah very like oh you know it's like you shouldn't it was very much like it was like yeah it was like you're gonna get me in trouble yeah yeah and i'm kind of like all right yeah I was like oh so no no I'm like no no no no so I'm thinking oh my god alarm bells are going off in my head I'm like oh my god this isn't happening this is not happening he was like no no no no how did you feel in that moment genuinely I was like see at first I thought it was quite funny I was like I was like

a few days after genuinely Katie like I cannot stop genuinely I thought I've gone through like my grief with this

I thought it was quite funny tell the listeners about your dream last night oh my god oh my god oh my god I had a dream

like so you know if you watched Gilmore Girls you know this runs deep this rejection. This is honestly like, this is haunting me. It's like, I see it every time I close my eyes.

So, you know in Gilmore Girls, when they have the 24-hour like dance marathon? Yeah. I had a dream that everyone I've ever fancied was like in that room. And then none of them would dance with me. No one would dance with me. I was like, oh my God.

And then I was literally like begging these boys, like, please dance with me. They're oh my god and then i was literally like begging these boys like please dance with me they're like no that's so embarrassing it was so embarrassing the whole thing was mortifying and then literally i was like oh god like i'm so sorry so i'm like mortified he then says oh i really i don't want to get with you because of my friend. Out of respect for my friend. Out of respect for my friend. I can't get with you. Now I'm not being funny. I'm not being funny. What a cop out.

I'm going to excuse. Fucking cop out. Girls, ask your boyfriend, okay? If your boyfriend's friend got with one of his female friends, is that muggy? No. Because I personally do not think it is. He did look a bit panicked. He did look a bit stressed.

Really? I can't lie to you. He's a friend. friends friends yeah but like we've been friends with this other guy for like yeah like so long yeah do you have any regrets no because i feel like i do feel like especially with our group i would have got shit if I didn't go for it. That's true. The thing that's pissed me off as well about this situation is that this guy, Adam, was still flirty with me after this all happened. Yes. Yes.

But then, like, I mean, he's not my fucking husband. I'm not betrothed. I'm not betrothed to this boy. But it was all like oh no no not Katie not Katie then I find out that he got with

loads of other girls after we left and I'm literally like oh my god like was I just that like fucking deranged like am I just a hag

like is there like what is actually wrong with me that you can't even just give me a little like are you serious really well you are 100% not a hag.

It has given my ego a big fat knock, guys. Really? It has given... Did you deep it that evening? Oh, oh, oh. I've been deepening it the past few days, which I shouldn't. You shouldn't.

You've got to let it roll off your back. You've got to let it roll off. You've got to let it be one of those puddle ducks and let the water roll off the back. It's a swing and a miss. However, that was a bit sore. So then we have to go. So then I'm like to the other boys.

I'm like, look, Katie and I are going, but honestly, like, it's chill. Like, it's day. Blah, blah, blah. Kisses Katie on the cheek. Flirty again. And it's like, I hope to see you soon. Fucking Adam. Don't.

Fucking Adam. Don't pity me now. Nah. Don't pity me now don't pity me and do you know what gets me is I think my biggest fear with guys is going for it and getting pied like that is genuinely my biggest fear with guys I feel like most girls you don't want to put yourself out there

because you don't want to get pied and I thought this was such a sure situation and do you know what is so fucking strange actually it's literally just come to me. When you had a conversation with him, we talked to him. Oh my God, we did? We talked to him about women approaching men

and he was like, well, why wouldn't you? And Katie said, well, I wouldn't want to get pied. And he was like, you wouldn't get pied. What? I forgot about that. I forgot about that. Katie, I can't. I know this whole situation like because I-

I don't understand. Is that the drunk talking? Like is that drunkness? You saying things and you don't know what you're doing? Or is that genuine fucking direction? Did you want to teach me a life lesson? Like maybe, maybe. Honest hour. Honest hour. It was sore, guys. It was sore. Yeah. I'm never approaching a man again.

The twists and turns of life. I genuinely would rather get broken up with. Really? Like by every single partner ever. Really? Than have that happen again. That's a big thing to say, Paige. Yep.

Big thing. Yeah, that is a big thing. Are you sure? Yep. I'm committing myself to the monastery. I've had enough. Yeah. I'm going up to a little church on a hill.

Yeah. This week has just been one thing to another. It's really, it's a hard one because you have a breakup a breakdown and a pie like they're the three rejections and they're really different yeah I think the biggest kind of rejection I had was like a breakdown like I had I was seeing this guy and I was really into him and I think for the first time it was someone that I thought I was it wasn't it was more than a bit of fun yeah yeah you know I thought oh I really like him actually when he does text me my oh god my fanny flutters I was doing a bit of a more Higgins also um but it's those butterfly moments you think oh god oh god oh god and i and i think that was my first experience of the

butterflies um and i kind of really fell for him and i think i went a bit feral i think i think i got scared and i got really scared um so basically we were seeing each other but we weren't serious like we were seeing each other and like texting a lot and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But we weren't official at all. But I was wanting it to get to that point. Anyway, I think I got really scared about my feelings. And I think I megally fucked it up. And I was at a different occasion and did something with someone else. Oh!

And anyway, yeah, yeah and I was just like I don't know what it was I think genuinely for me that was a moment of just toxic like yeah well you know I can still get other people like then I mean good on me it was honest house I told him and I said you know he said oh did you have a good time blah blah and i said yeah well you know i did this and you know i was pretty up front and i think again immaturity you want a fight you want almost him to fight for you yes yeah yeah yeah you're like testing and see how much he likes you yeah testing yeah yeah why am i testing why am i doing that but i'm testing him to see how much he likes me i want to and he just said well we're done then oh and i was like i was saying hang on a second hang on a second i was panicking oh yeah yeah yeah yeah i'm panicking

now he said well we're done then he was like kit i thought we were getting to a place where we were going to be in a relationship he's like what are you what are you going around doing this for i was like well if it isn't the consequences of my own actions i was like wow for me that was the biggest like i was like wow but the thing because i think for me it showed well i don't i don't have the power anymore like i'm not i'm not in control yeah yeah wow and that was a big moment of like do you think it's as well the thing that gets me about stuff like that when people and obviously it's that like they're about like they have to set that they have to be like okay you've done that right well you fucked it now like it's done but it also makes you feel really like disposable oh my god 100 that's a kind of rejection in itself where

they're like well you i felt like an evian water bottle i was like i'm left in the recycling now they're like you've done that it makes you feel like they don't they didn't give a shit about you at all if they're just able to drop you that easily but it's usually not that then he made it made me want him more of course like he was just so and he was adamant like previously he'd been he'd been in a relationship where I think his girlfriend was unfaithful, I think. Right, so it's... Yeah, but he was, like, really adamant on trust and stuff. And obviously, I broke that trust, but we weren't together, so that was my argument. I was like, well, we weren't together, you know, we're not official.

He's like, but Kit, we saw it going there. Like, what are you doing this for? Why are you throwing it away? And I rated him for saying no but then i was like please help me here it's it is actually mad it is mad isn't it like what do you think's the hardest a breakup i've defined them now so the debriefing can tell me. A breakup, a breakdown, or an outright pie. Breakups are really sad. Yeah.

Like, breakups in general are really sad. And that's not even, like, romantic breakups. That's, like, friendship breakups as well. Yes. Which can even hit harder. Yeah, that's so true. Like, which is something that, like, I'm dealing with at the moment. And it's hard. Like, it's something really difficult yeah and i would say in some ways a friendship breakup's

harder than a relationship breakup because it's one of those that you you've probably been in like that relationship longer than you would at that point with a romantic partner like it's years and years and years and years yeah but it's something that when people when you change and circumstances change like you're on your own path growing yeah yeah and you're just different people yes but it's the same as relationships where it's like it's no one's fault per se but it's just like this isn't working yeah like no bad blood yeah yeah so it's one of those things but it's the same with relationships where it's like so difficult but breakups are so fucking sore but it's it's like the way i view it which is a bit shit but it's you've been with someone you're so vulnerable

with someone you've shown them a hundred percent of yourself and they don't want that anymore and how do you deal with a friendship breakup versus a relationship breakup i think i think in in the case where no one's done anything wrong i think it's easier to deal with in the sense where you're like it would be different if it's like my friend shagged my ex-boyfriend like that's like oh fuck you then yes yes yes but when there's like, my friend shagged my ex-boyfriend. They're just like, oh, fuck you then. Yes, yes, yes. But when there's the case of no one's done anything wrong, there's quite a peacefulness to the fact like, right, we're just two very different people.

That's fine. Wow. When it's an actual romantic breakup, it really feels like they're saying, look, I've seen every single part of you. I know everything about you. And like, I'm not on board. Which isn't how you should take it that's just how i take it but which you shouldn't do because there's so many other

reasons in the sense that like i truly believe that some guys do get overwhelmed with feelings and they're like oh fuck like this girl's really making me like well i was an example of it you know like i think we both do it, men and women. Yeah, you could drive yourself insane wondering why people do the things they do. 100%. And you will never, ever understand humanity. I would almost rather...

It sounds really harsh. But I would rather someone do something, like my boyfriend do something really bad, like cheat on me, or so he can just be the fucking villain. Yeah. Then just be like, I've fallen out of love with you.

Yeah. I think that's really hard. That's so personal. Like, I don't love you. I don't love you anymore. Like, I'm like, are you sure? Are you sure?

Nah, nah, nah. Nah, nah, nah, nah. I'm like, you just, you love me. You love me. no you just you love me you love me don't you you love me that's really hard and i also find that the same with friendships that with a friendship you don't have as much pressure as you do in a relationship in a relationship you're looking for is this someone i could spend the rest of my life with could i have kids with this person do i trust this individual yes and do i think financially we would both be able to support each other yeah with a friendship you don't deep that no friendship are you like do we blend do we get on yeah yeah so when you have a breakdown of a

relationship it's almost everything is considered yeah and we still can't work that's so hard yeah that's really hard it's like there's not one bit of me that kind of overrides it all is that not right yes but then also you have to thank the universe for thinking if it's not right it's not right they're not yeah they're clearly just not for me they're not right for me it's redirection not rejection it is redirection although it's not right, it's not right. Yeah, they're clearly just not for me. They're not right for me. It's redirection, not rejection. It is redirection. Although it's an honest owl, we've got to keep pounding it into this unagi head.

Yeah, yeah. I just think it is a crazy one. I think genuine, like, failed talking stages aren't that deep. Like, it's more just, like, fizzles out. Fine. A pie. I would say it probably goes, like, romantic rejection, like fizzles out yeah fine yeah um a pie i would say it probably goes like romantic um rejection like breakups yeah getting pied yeah and then like fizzling i don't think

fizzling like because you can usually like feel it on both sides yeah if it's not really working and if someone's gonna ghost me i'd rather they it. Like, then kind of be half-assed. Like, you know, that's on them. That's all on them if they want to do that. Yeah. But a pie, oh, it's more the awkwardness. Because it depends what the pie is. It depends.

But either way, actually, it is just the awkwardness. If you liked someone for ages. Yeah. And you plucked up the courage to be like i really like you and they were like oh like you're a good friend of mine you would just want the ground to swallow you whole you're a good friend of mine similarly if i tell you the worst i saw this thing on tiktok saying manipulate it was something like a way to manipulate someone falling in love with you or something like that which i actually do not agree with because if someone said this to me i'd be like what the fuck but referring to someone as your brother oh my god i've seen this oh my god being like oh do you know what you're like my brother and then they're like fuck i need to

prove to you every little bit of me is not like a brother. So now I start putting my hand on your thigh. Yeah. So now I start saying, oh, you look fucking great in that skirt. Or whatever, your ass looks great. Men love a chase. Yes. But for me, if a man said to me, okay, you're like my sister, I'd be like, right, okay. Okay.

That would not make me want to fight. I don't know about you. No, no, no. That would not make me want to be like. That would be. Get me tits fight. I don't know about you. No, no, no. That would not make me want to be like, get me tits out. No, oh my God. That would be like, oh, okay, like friend.

Legit. Oh, I see, friend. Friend, friend. Oh, good friend. Okay. Yeah. Like, I feel like it's, yeah. If I think guys can pie you in a way,

like saying stuff like that, like, oh, good friend, good bestie. So if it gets to the point where they actually have to sit you down and be like, I'm not interested, I'm like... I know. It's like... I know. Like, what the hell?

Like, then it's even worse, like, if you went in for a kiss and they're like, no. Oh, don't. You are kind of putting yourself on the line a bit. Don't. Oh, God. Like, you're being bold, you're making a move, and they're like, no thanks. Oh, my of putting yourself on the line a bit. Don't. Oh, God. Like, you're being bold. You're making a move.

And they're like, no thanks. Oh, my God. No. Scary. Scary. It's scary. It makes my hands tremble. Yeah.

Like, I can't. Yeah, it makes me feel like a sick. Rejection, say. Right, X. Let's crack on. Let's crack on. How many do you have this i've actually got three oh i've got two my first one obviously i've been on holiday i've had a lovely time yeah is men putting on sun cream why are you doing that oh my god it's when they try to like do their back and they can't

get their back or you have to ask someone to do it on your back i'm literally like guys like sat on the lounge just some sun cream it's the spray it's the spray it's the spray it was just i was like oh why are you doing that i'm like just burn yeah yeah just yeah defeat the sun yeah i'm like come on come on come on right my first one okay so monday on last monday i was on the train with my sister yeah and we were like just sat there like chilling anyway there was this guy next to me and he fell asleep and put his head on my shoulder no no no you're kidding you're kidding. You're kidding. You're kidding. So he was like... And the thing is, he was probably about our age.

Oh, no, no, no, no. So he was like, he sat there and he was like, put his, may I say, eye mask. He had an eye mask for the trade. That should have been my first day. You're kidding. He had an eye mask for the trade, so he's like, get this eye mask out.

And may I say, it wasn't like a normal eye mask. It looked like a sanitary pad. So I was like, what the fuck is he putting on his face? Anyway, he put it over like his eyes and he starts to like, I hear,

I hear loud breathing and I'm like, instantly. Anyway, so it's like, oh, and I'm like, oh,

it's warm on my shoulder. Anyway, his head bobs on my shoulder and I'm like, oh, it's bobbing. And then it gets lower and lower. He's like fully like, rested. He's warm on my shoulder. Anyway, his head bobs on my shoulder. And I'm like, oh, it's bobbing. And then it gets lower and lower. He's like fully like rested.

He's there to stay. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's bedtime. It is bedtime. Absolutely. I'm the memory foam. And he's fully taking advantage of that. He gets up.

And then anyway, he starts laughing. I said, stop laughing. I said, I do. And my shoulders are going. And he wakes up. He's like. And I'm like, oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God. And he's like, oh.

He goes, oh, sorry, sorry. And I'm like, oh, my God. You God, oh my God. And he's like, oh, he goes, oh, sorry, sorry. And I'm like, you know, trying not to laugh. I said, oh, don't worry, it's fine. Anyway, five seconds later, he puts his head back on her. You're kidding. He's literally like, sorry. I put his head back down.

I'm like, what the fuck? I'm literally like, nap time with mummy. Literally nap time with mummy. Yeah. So now I'm trying to like shuffle my shoulder. Oh my God. Do a bit of a roll. You know, a bit of a shimmy.

Do the shimmy. And he like bobs back up. He's like, oh, sorry, sorry, sorry. Rests on my back. Oh! I move forward and he literally like puts his head on my back. Like that, resting. And I'm like, no!

No, stop that. I'm like, no! No, stop that. I'm like, seriously. That's so weird. It was really fucking strange. That's so weird. I was like, you're the fucking egg. You're the fucking, why are you fucking

lying on me to get rest? Why are you doing that? Yeah, yeah. Don't take comfort in me. Nah, nah. You ready? I'm ready. Livered.

My second one was, so I came back from my holiday first before you guys. Yeah. And then our other friend was away for work. So I was by myself in the flat for the week. So I thought I'm going to have a lovely self-care evening. So I took myself to Boots. Love that.

To go get myself a body exfoliator and a month-based mask. Nice mask. And then Boots. I just came, like was at the gym. So I was in full gym gear and had my lovely Beats over-ear headphones on. Of course you did. I was literally dressed in, like, my, like, dotty leggings and, like, had my little zip-up on. Yeah.

And I'm literally, like, have products in my hands. I'm browsing face creams I was looking at. Lovely. And this woman comes up to me. Oh. face creams I was looking at. Lovely. And this woman comes up to me.

Oh. And is like, oh, where, where, where's the sun cream? Oh. And I'm like,

oh, oh. To you? Yeah. She's like, where's the sun cream? I'm like, literally like take my ear out. I'm like,

oh, I'm so sorry. Like, I don't know. She's like, what do you mean you don't know? You work here, don't you?

I'm like, what did you mean you don't know you work here don't you i'm like what did you say i was like no i don't work here i'm literally in fucking workout clothes with my headphones in and she thought i know i used to work for boots guys i know a boots tunic when i see one like how fucking dumb are you to think i worked at Boots? Like, I did not have any uniform on. I hope she apologised. She's like, oh, you don't work here. I'm like, well, clearly fucking not. Look at me.

I'm like, look. Are you fucking... Look at me. I'm not in fucking uniform. I don't have the polyester tunic on, my love. Like, you think I work for... Like, no. Actually, to be fair, that was your mistake.

Like, you know, come on. You should have brought a sign in with you saying, I don't work here. I literally was so, and she's like, oh, I'm so sorry. God. I thought you worked here. I was like, what indication would make you think that I worked here? In what world? I'm like, it didn't even have a name badge on it.

It's not like I was walking around with like, my name's Katie. There was nothing, there was nothing about me that day that would indicate that I worked for Boots. What a woman. That was, it was so funny. I was literally like,

now you look silly. Now you look silly. Yeah. Whack a doodle. Whack a doodle. Okay. So my one is to do with holidays as well. Yeah.

So, I, I am gasping for myself to think i i the uvs don't affect me they don't like you know they kind of overlook me and put bubble around me and they're like kiss me yeah they don't like no i've heard that as well yeah yeah yeah so you know i'm unsunburnable yeah um let me do apart from the batty now i got a really bad sudden burn on the batte yes yes it was like a v-shape from the bikini like this i've still got it it's so bad literally in my butt crack there's like a little white patch from where the bikini was i'm like so bad anyway the next day i was wearing like a different shaped bikini, a different style So it wasn't the same shape and people would see and go

I'm like, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah Oh, oh, oh, oh, it was that bad? It itched me, it itched me, people would go And I'm like, don't your lips to me Yeah, don't itch me You should be going, hmm, not, I'm like, don't you Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah I'm like, but it did itch me

I was like, shit The next thing I had a strong round my waist. I was like, ah. I was like, I don't want people pitching my ass. No, no, no, no, no. I'm like, this is pride time. No. No pitching.

They should be bewildered and amused. Yeah. They should be like, wow. Yeah. Like a doodle. This happened actually like two days ago, but I've genuinely never held more. Oh. So I was on my way to work.

Yeah. And the... A woman went to go through the gates. And she must have dawdled, because she hit her phone for contactless to go through the gates on the tube. They open. She's dawdling.

They shut. And her bag is stuck in between the two gates what so instead of trying to like pull it out and go through again

she decides to try and manually open the thing by literally shoving her whole body weight like onto the onto the gates

to try and get through no no no so she's literally but obviously they don't move she's got her like whole booty into this she's literally like like trying to get in and's got her like whole booty into this she's literally like like trying to get in

and I'm watching her do this and I'm like no what the fuck are you doing she's literally like trying to like ram into it to try and get them to open

I'm like just get the guy that's so embarrassing get the guy to open it for you I was literally like this is so embarrassing for you that's so embarrassing I was like

what are you doing, you silly woman? She's like, what? She's like, honestly, running at it. How old was she? She genuinely looked like mid-40s, 50s. I was like, what are you doing? Yeah. Just flag the guy over, he'll open it for you.

It's all right. Oh my God, how embarrassing. I was honestly howling. Yeah. Oh. So let me tell you about these exes that the boys said. Oh yeah. So the first thing the boys said,

so I was like, boys, look, I'm going to just ask, give me some ex. Like, what are your no-go going back with a girl ex? And they're like, they're like drinking their pints, like really considering it.

And the first one that comes out, he's whinging. And I just thought, bang on actually. I know thought bang on actually because if my boyfriend's whinging if a guy i'm seeing's whinging nah oh why are we doing it i don't want to go that nah off you go so i thought bang on another guy said, open-toe shoes. No! Yeah, yeah. No! Didn't I try to clarify?

I was like... What do you mean? Yeah, so I said, like, so are you saying all open-toe shoes? Like, how about Birkenstocks? Didn't know what Birkenstocks were. So I'm like, oh, crap. So I have to show him a photo of Birkenstocks. He's like, oh, my God, yes, even them. He's like, any open toe show is just embarrassing.

And I was like, what? I was like, let the piggies breathe. Let the piggies out. So I couldn't really get behind that. Another one, cycling shorts. He said, why do girls wear cycling shorts? He says, if they're going to the gym, fine. Oh, what?

I know. I was like, mad, mad. Cycling, oh, he needs to get over that. Cycling shorts. He was like, mad. Mad. Cycling. Oh, he needs to get over that. Cycling shorts. He was like. They're comfy. Immediate ick.

He was like, girls in cycling shorts, what are they doing? Does he mean like cycling shorts though with like the padding? Because I could get behind that. No, he actually. Because I was like, oh, what do you mean like proper cycling gear? He was like, no, if they're cycling, that's fine. He was like, the ones that wear those like skim, the Kim Kardashian brand. I was like, skims?

He was like, yeah, why are they wearing that? I was like, what? Oh, no, that's too he was like the ones that wear those like skit that the kim karl ashton brand was like skims he was like yeah why are they wearing that i was like oh no that's too picky i'm sorry i was like what that's that's stupid what are you on about that is stupid i was like that's so confusing that is confusing i know i know so they're the boyettes of the week that is hilarious right let's go on to our questions question time question time okay Peach you're on serious tell me what the serious is okay um

would you rather get rejected every time you initiate something romantic with your partner oh my god

or if you do do something romantic with them they're just constantly pissed off so like even if you went to hold hold their hand they're like or he will hold your hand but he'll be like oh for fuck's sake now i usually try to find a way around this but the thing is i love a bit of romance i do because i was thinking maybe i could bring it off as being sexual like oh come here instead of like do you know what i mean instead of being like no i'm just falling deeply in love with you although i'm just such a sucker for romance you are i am such a romantic bunny so

i'd find that really difficult yeah yeah yeah i'm trying to oh both of them are annoying because if he's pining why are you with me then? What genuinely, what are you doing? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then he's angry and I'm like, why are you fucking angry? Yeah.

Why are you angry? Literally. This is the thing. And angry is beggy, but then pying's beggy. It's like, although I could get pying, like,

he doesn't like public displays of affection. Yeah, but this is like, you get into bed and you're like, come here. And he's like... What? It's every time I will... What? I'll add this caveat into it that he can initiate and it'd be fine.

Okay. But he rarely does. Why? Nah, I'd change that if I'm just going to linger all the time. I'm like, genuinely, what are you doing? Okay, I think I'd have to do the angry. Yeah. Because then we could have angry sex.

That's true. But I would be annoyed as well. I'd be angry because then we'd both be angry. Both be angry. And do you know what? I'd just never try it on. So he'd just have to be blue balls all the time. And I'd be like, if you want it, come get it. Yeah.

You know? Yeah. Don't come with that attitude. Oh, that'd piss me off. Yeah. Okay, right. Actually, what do you think? What would you do? attitude oh that'd piss me off yeah okay right actually what do you think what would you do

I think I'd have to do the other one because I could just like palm it off as like oh lovable yeah yeah he's like oh you and I'm like yeah yeah

rather than like ooh no yeah don't ooh to me yeah okay silly question would you rather be in a glass container naked

juggling like you're in you're in this huge glass container okay naked naked like fully naked but you're juggling yeah like and the juggling standard you're juggling at is what you're at now so you're not like very good at juggling how do you think about like when I'm shit juggling like you always drop them and then you have to bend down your boobs and you're like but you can't

arsehole out yeah bumhole out bumhole out like and you're just like having to and the glass container is like as wide

as your body so like when you have to bend down you're like oh my god I'm like stuck yeah like fully yeah you're fully stuck

and when you do this it's like everyone that you know everyone oh no everyone that you know, everyone. Oh, no. Everyone that you know and everyone that knows you. Yeah, is there. Is there. Okay.

Like, is there. Okay. Or you have to walk around with a megaphone. And every time, like the megaphone's like hidden, okay? Yeah, yeah. And you walk around with a megaphone. And any time you think of food, you have around with a megaphone and anytime you think of food you have to get this megaphone out and go or like make a sexual noise it'd be like ah i'll be like oh yeah

like anytime anything anytime you think of food of food anytime you're like or like you think oh my tummy's going or you're like what should i have for lunch you're like like you have to get this you have to get this microphone i don't think i could do that because i always am thinking of food so i'd just be kind of sat there being like like that like i can't i can't do that i can't i can't i can't i can't i can't like i I can't, I can't. Oh my God. I can't, like I physically can't. Oh my God, that is so funny. I can't, no. I would have to naked juggle because- But everyone's there. Yeah.

Like your parents, your sisters. No, I have to naked juggle because I can't, I physically can't, like I think about food all the time. I don't want to be known as that freak on the high street that makes sex noises with the megaphone like that can't be my story like that can't be it like I'm sorry

the rejection and the fucking megaphone no no no no no but this is the thing like if we went on nights out and I'm like god I could do with the Mackies and I'm like ahhh like I can't I can't I can't I can't you know you can't

quite eye-ponically just whip it out and be like no but imagine imagine in like the worst scenarios like on flights at shows

like I'm always thinking of food or what the ice cream and you know it's it's psychosomatic so you'll be like

don't think of food don't think of food don't think of and all of that time ah oh ah yeah

you'll be like oh god I can't control it. It would be, like, constant. Yeah, it would be. I think I'd get quite tired. Whereas the juggling could be kind of iconic. Your whole family are watching you naked in a glass container and you have to juggle like this because it's, like, from shoulder to shoulder. Then you drop one and you have to, like, this because it's like from shoulder to shoulder.

Then you drop one and you have to like squeeze down and then start again. There's no music, right? You're silent. And just like have to juggle. I'd have to naked juggle. I would have to. I'm not saying they're going to witness like the Cirque du Soleil. Okay.

Because I'm dyspraxic. Okay, that's fine. I'm shit at juggling. Yeah, yeah. How many balls are we dealing with here is it two balls more than two oh because I can

I can only really do two if I had to juggle no you've not got two that's two or maybe one no you've not got one that's catching just

yeah yeah love and love yeah yeah okay okay I'd have to I physically I physically could not

do the food thing because I'm constantly thinking about food I'd have to... I physically could not do the food thing because I'm constantly thinking about food. I'm already planning what I want for my lunch. What are you going to have? That's the question. Yeah, I'm like... Debriefers on TikTok and Instagram, we're going to be asking you our silly questions.

I'm so glad we're back. I've had a great time with you, Pete. So have I. It's so good to be back I've had a great time with you so have I it's so good to be back and honest hour girls we get rejected sometimes it's fine

no it's fucking fine chin up you're here no regrets again it's a jungle out there rejection is redirection

we have no regrets we try to this is why we stop positivity guys because we have to get out of these fucking situations yeah oh guys

love you have a great Monday have a great Monday have a great Monday guys and remember the sunglasses are because of the profiterole eyes you know

there's cream coming out of these eyes right now okay oh my god it's a bit graphic isn't it that was a bit profiterole wasn't it yeah I know I know

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