The Debrief - Spilling the Tea on Toxic Traits

Episode Date: October 2, 2023

Welcome back to The Debrief, in this episode we answer your responses to your opinions on toxic traits. Trust me you DON'T want to miss this!Lots of love,Kitty and Katie x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🎵 I've got a rebel soul, yeah, I've got a rebel soul, I've got a rebel soul 🎵 Hello! Welcome back to The Debrief. Yeah, not asking you to. Yes! Monday. It's fucking Monday. It's fucking Monday.

Open your eyes, look look around what do you see monday and i'm ready for winter guys i'm wearing my uggs oh she's you can't see it she's wearing her new uggs in the studio rest assured my toes are warm oh i bet they are yeah actually katie's got dancing toes i've got dancing toes we had a bit of a sleepover over the weekend which is mad considering katie and i live in the same flat and we've never had a sleepover over the weekend, which is mad considering Katie and I live in the same flat. And we've never had a sleepover. We've never had a sleepover. I got a bit nervous, truth be told.

Yeah, she did. Truth be told. Anyway, we saw her sleeping away, and her little toes twitched in the night. She has got the definition of twinkle toes. I've got twinkle toes. I'm like Fred Astaire in me sleep. I'm like Gene Kelly.

And do you know what? I just am going to die alone now because I can never share a bed with someone if my toes are constantly... You've got the whole cast of Billy Elliot down there, don't you? Tell me, Peachy Leach, your mantra for me. My mantra. My mantra is if it's meant to be,

you can't mess it up. And if it's not, you can't fix it. I love that. So you can't fix it i love that so you can't change i really like that for you yeah and you can't mess up anything that's for you yeah because it's coming your way anyway so interesting why did you pick that something happened recently no i just feel like that really spoke to me yeah i really liked it it's quite reassuring i find you know you're on the right track regardless there's's a plan. Yeah, there's a plan. There's a higher plan for you. There's a higher plan for all of us.

Just being a puppeteer of our own lives, aren't we? A puppeteer. That scares me a bit, though. That is quite scary. Yeah. Terrifying. What is your match for this week? Oh, let me tell you, let me tell you, let me tell you.

Don't leave me in suspense. No, I won't, I won't. Come on, that's just silly. So mine is, I remain kind when i experience unkindness gorgeous and i think this has been quite important um big shout out to my dad i think um when you see when you experience unkindness yourself that could be friends that could be family that could be work you know it could be industry it could be anything and you remain kind i think that is such a huge strength yes and it's something that in my life i found difficult i think i think remaining kind when you've experienced something that you think

actually you know what fuck you yeah i can stand up to you i can go 10 times harder yes but but taking a deep breath and being like i'm not winning here and that's you know there's no there's no point in pushing back yeah if i just take a deep breath and think okay okay um i think it's something that's really really hard to get to terms with song of the week tell me song of the week remember to sing it oh you're a mardy bum i see your frown and it's like looking down the barrel of a gun and it goes off oh it's quite it's quite low mardy bum by the arctic monkeys mardy bum mardy bum i've never heard of this one before love the arctic monkeys would sell my left leg to go see them.

Mardy bum, eh? Mardy bum. You're a bit of a Mardy bum, I think. Yeah, sometimes I can be. Yeah. I love the Arctic Monkeys, always have, always will, and that used to be my alarm in the morning. No way.

Yeah. Mardy bum. It starts with this like... Yeah. Great, great, great, great. I felt like it was there. Yeah. Great, great, great, great. I felt like it was there. Yeah. Practically a guitar player myself.

What can I do? What can I do? Let me tell you mine. My song is... And the songbird keeps singing like they know the score. And I love you, I love you, I love you i love you i love you oh yeah yeah yeah like never before that was songbird ava cassidy absolutely what why frown at me i swear that's not is it ava cassidy yeah i think so i thought it was Fleetwood Mac. No, the Ava Cassidy version.

Ah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Absolutely love it. What a fucking song. It's a very emotional song. I love that song. Love that song. I tell you what,

sometimes just when you come back from a long day's work, put your headphones in, boop, boop, beep. Ava Cassidy. Yeah, Ava Cassidy singing in me ears, loving it. Loving it. Right, guys,

so we're going on to our recommendations. I hope we're loving the recommendations of the week. Yeah. Because this is really exciting. I hope we're all visiting the recommendations. Yeah. So I've got another recommendation for you this week, Paige. Mm-hmm.

Sessions Art Club. Now, I would say is the best restaurant I've ever been to in London. That's strong. It's a strong one. That's a strong opinion. So it's in East london yeah near literally next to farrowing station but very near yeah now it's in an old courthouse that's really cool which is really cool it's all kind of candlelit they change the menu all the time so

you don't know really what's expected you go off the side door and you honestly think you're going into someone's house you open the store and you're like what the there's someone at the reception like lit by candles like hello and you're like hello i'm here for booking they're like yeah you take this lift and you arrive when you're in this courthouse wow like it's mad it's so mad sessions art club that seems it's a really cringy name like i don't really like the name but the place is i feel like it's quite a cool name, actually. Where do you want to go? Sessions?

Yeah. Oh, should we just do Sessions tonight? Yeah. But the art club bit. It makes me think I'm making paper mache balloons. You know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do they do, like, just drinkies?

Do they have, like, a nice bar? Or is it just kind of like a sit-down? No, they do have a bar. They do have a bar. But we didn't go. We only went for dinner, so I can't recommend the bar, so don't slay me, guys, if the bar's shit.

Yeah. But the food was phenomenal. The atmosphere. We were on the balcony bit as well. So it was really nice. Gorgeous. I was living me best life. Yeah.

You know, sleep that hair in a bun. Boom. Eyeliner on. Red lippy. Fucking ready. Best life. So that's the recommendation for the week. Oh my god, amazing. amazing yeah i know it is

let's debrief oh i love the vibrato thank you this week we are discussing toxic toxic traits toxic traits yeah now toxic traits are habits, behaviors, ongoing actions that piss off and harm others. Yeah. Okay? Toxic traits, first of all, just kind of getting everyone an idea. We all have them, okay? We all have a toxic trait.

Let's not dilly-dally around the fact. No. We've all got our own demons. We do. We all have our own fucking toxic traits. Katie and I are going to discuss ours because um this week it was so exciting and listeners we fucking love you yes we asked the debrief on instagram about toxic trade yes they wrote in so fucking many we have been inundated so we are going to this is the first time ever we are going to discuss

all the written in toxic traits by our Instagram viewers. Hell yeah. But before we do, we're going to discuss our own toxic traits. Okay. Okay. Now we're going to give each other two, you know, because we only have two, you know, fucking hell, we're not like that. I was struggling to find two.

Yeah, me too. Yeah. Number one. Sometimes. Yeah. I love an argument. I love it. I love, I love, I love, I love a bit of a discussion.

I feel like sometimes the fire, more passion, more passion, more energy, more energy. You know, you get me. Sometimes I'm like, do I wind the jack in the box up? I'm like, pops out. And I'm like, here we fucking go. And I know that, you know, I know that something's going to happen. And then you just know you're going to have angry sex. And you're like, how exciting is this?

How fucking fire is this? Now, I know that my other half, Orch, has said that he's not a fan of an argument. I'm like, come on. I'm like, come on. Yeah, yeah, put your fighting gloves on. Let's go. Let's get into the ring.

But maybe that's why it works with us. Because I'm like, let's have it. And he's gloves on let's go let's get into the ring but maybe that's why it works with us because i'm like let's have it and he's like let's not have it you know maybe ying to the yang um give me one of yours my toxic trait yeah is um i am a bit of a fixer. I love to fix people. You like a project. I fucking love a project. Fucking. One whiff of an insecurity. Of an insecurity or a vulnerability. Or an emotionally stunted man. Oh, it's dinner time.

Nom, nom, nom. I'm like, fuck me. We're winning. I genuinely don't know what it is i there's just something about i don't know men i don't know men being vulnerable i'm not saying like i love it where if like a man's like crying around me 24 7 i'd find that a bit difficult but like yeah if i'm if a man who i know is quite emotionally stunted chooses to open up to me emotionally you open the floodgates do you if they open up your legs will open if yeah it's a mousetrap it's a dangerous situation because if a man's crying and i'm crying for me it's emotional wow okay let me tell you my next

one i'll say i'm fine when i'm not fine yeah yeah now come on girls universal come on girls we all do it that's are you all right i'm fine i'm never heard do you know what yeah i saw this thing on tiktok where it says um they should teach kids these days the female language and it's like so if a woman says she's fine she's fuming when i'm saying i'm not fine what i'm fine it's so funny when someone's like are you fine i'm no i'm fine are you sure you're fine yeah i'm like honestly they only asked me fucking five times on the stick that i would have said i would have said if they genuinely just pushed one more time i would have been like genuinely if you just make one more effort if you came this fourth time i would have been there yeah well and you didn't the toxic trait i want them to know what's in my mind yeah my so what i find funny is i've written no veggies, crossed it out,

and then instead it's no veggies, scribbled that out, and then I've written pushover. I am the biggest pushover I know. Oh, I'm a massive fucking pushover. What, in a relationship are you? Yeah. I don't think you're a pushover in friendships. I feel like i'm

not as much be terrifying yeah yeah well when that face comes out big mama big mama yeah she's down the road i feel like no i i know i'm a massive pushover oh no big time oh we can't allow that no i know what no i would say less nowadays like if someone would be a bit muggy yeah i would almost then work harder to then try and like get like and it's just so fucking stupid i know what a fucking mug what a mug but i genuinely will be like if a guy was really shitty to me yeah i would then apologize for their shit behavior pachington pachingtonachington, Pachington. I'd be like, I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have read it that way. And I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

So you really are, if someone gives you unkindness, you are really fucking kind, aren't you? Oh, I'm almost, when I see someone's unkind, guess what? I want to fix them. So I go so, so kind. I'm like literally like sunshining out my ass being like, you are the great'm like literally like sunshining out my ass being like,

you are the great, like supermarket people have been like, been really shitty with me once before being like, oh, for fuck's sake. Like really, really in a bad mood. And I'm like,

I hope you have a lovely day. Oh, yeah. Let's dive in. We've split it. We split it by red flags, amber flags and green flags. We're going to give the viewers the results from green, amber and red. Hell flags. We're going to give the viewers the results from green, amber, and red.

Hell yeah. Some of the best ones, some of the most obscure, and the ones that make me fucking chuckle. Honestly, guys, you are fucking hilarious. Honestly, some of these I was pissing myself. I was like, who are these people? I was like, you are great. So green flag, just to clarify, guys,

a green flag for toxic is a good thing so if they if they've got this you're like oh that's a green flag that's not bad that's good okay one of the first ones is good earning potential well i mean it is a fucking green flag i mean i know i'm like that was me yeah yeah you're like, green flag. I feel like at this age, you've got to have someone who's got a steady career ahead of them. If you want to be, most people I meet nowadays want to be kept women.

And you know what? If you want that, you've got to find someone with good earning potential. Feminism. She's like, I want to fucking clean your floors and stay at home.'s like let me stay some people i saw it provide for me i saw a tiktok of a girl who was like all i want to do is be a ranger over my mate yeah and i thought well yeah yeah well at the end of the day yeah well it would be nice wouldn't it be nice to get into me ranger over and drive home to me nice big fuck off house in me fucking lulu lemons get a coffee with my friend at the drive-thru brunch every day

but yeah yeah yeah avo toast stunning stunning so good earning potential love it guys i can get on board with oh this is so good follows through with plans oh that's brilliant green flag green flag there's nothing better than when you're like speaking to someone and you're slightly getting to know them and they go we should so do that and you think oh yeah like that would be lovely but they're never gonna do it and then they text you being like yeah oh yeah so about that like when do you want to do this i fucking love there's actually there's nothing more attractive than like dropping a hint being like winter wonderland lazy winter Wonderland is coming. Drop those fucking hints.

The boys that'll take you up on it, and this is an actual fucking day to watch because I've been dropping the hints. So when you listen to this arch, this is not a hint, this is a request. Give me one, Katie. What have you got? Nice friends.

Which I think is so important yeah that's really good actually nice friends it's hard you shouldn't judge no actually but i feel like the people you surround yourself with are a reflection of yourself yeah so if i met my boyfriend's friends and they were horrible weirdos yeah i'd be a bit like oh but if they were all the loveliest and like took me under their wing and were so interested in me and love it and like oh we love you for our friend i'd be like oh yeah this is so exciting gorgeous and communicates without being asked yes fucking fucking yes actually not the case because she's toxic she'll be like don't tell me i want to find all your vulnerability let me find out for myself and console you yeah i'll be

big mama and then i'll apologize that I didn't get it right away. At the end of the day, girlies, we're not their moms. We're not your fucking mother. Okay. I've got, on the back of that, fast replies.

I like that. People who just respond like, no, no, let's not take our pride in the waiting game. Yeah, it's just fast replies. Quick, quick, quick, quick, quick. On it. Shows interest.

Green flags. Love it. When they make time to see you. When they make time to see you. When they make time to see you. Isn't that bloody brilliant? Isn't it great? That's really sexy. It's so good.

Even if it's like, oh my God, I've only got five minutes, but I'll come see. Shut up. Or when it's like, I want to come see you. And you're like, no, but you've got to do such and such. And they're like, I don't care. Like, I want to see you. Do you love me? Oh my God, you're in love oh my god do you love me no you're in love best one for me personally can cook great one because i don't want to cook you don't want to be i want to stop no i want to

stop cooking no you don't want to cook ideally am i looking for a boyfriend or a chef yeah let's find both yeah be great if you could find both boyfriend chef umber should we do umber yeah oh my god okay so tell me give me one an amber flag is kind of something that wouldn't be a complete deal breaker but isn't great yes isn't great livable with but kind of like this persists this could be a red yeah and i feel like personally these teeter on amber and red okay the first one no like male friends so if i'm like my boyfriend had no male friends and only female friends similarly if you were dating a woman they only had male friends actually would that be the same? Probably, actually. No female friends. I wonder if that's different for same-sex relationships.

Because everyone has different friends. So maybe we should not think that's such a bad thing. That's true, actually. This one fucking gets me. And I actually had to follow up on this one from the person that wrote it yeah amber flag she's like scared of moths i'm like that's so specific i was like it's so fucking specific i have to ask why so then i texted them why the moths like why is that such like a a big awareness for you that like yeah that is a bit of a flag and she was like because i'm terrified of them and you can't have two of you my one is which i personally yeah this

was an amber flag sent in i you ready to leave view this as a red flag rojo prioritizing the boys that sent shivers down my spine oh i'd love to see you tonight carter with the boys oh maybe tomorrow night with the boys oh why don't we see each other weekend i'm sorry i'm with the boys why are you with the boys i am not me i've got no issue with you spending time with the boys absolutely none yeah just don't take the piss with that yeah and try to let me let me be included for a bit so i can see what they're like because if i know that they're nice boys then i might feel a bit like okay i see that you're all you know yeah like fine you're gonna have a good time surely at the end of the day yeah i can give

you something the boys can't exactly the loose pooser aren't this i'm like come on like spend time on that this was another great one satan when they treat you like one of the boys but too much oh no that's such an amber flag because you're like trying to toy with like so do you think i'm just cool enough to be a part of your friend group yes i've got such great energy or is it like you're piling me there's no there's flirtatious like banter yeah you know when it's like, you're piling me? No, there's flirtatious banter. You know when it's like, oh, we're going to take the piss of each other.

Is this flirtatious? Like, what the fuck's going on? Cool, cool, cool. But it gets to a point where it's a bit of a grey area then because you think, oh, is this just friendly? Yeah. Do you know what? This one actually fucking makes me die.

Amber flag. Amber flag. Bad with directions. No, but that's so real. Where are we going? I don't know. Imagine he's there with his city map, like trying to, north, he's like,

oh, give me a sec, give me a sec. I love how she's put it as an Amber flag, like I would have to consider it. Like would I consider being with this person if they were bad with direction there's something so sexy about a guy being like we're gonna go here i know exactly where we're going like let's fucking go there's actually nothing sexy and you're gonna fucking love this there's nothing sexier than a man who doesn't use a sat nav so this person's written in as an amber flag but i'm like kitty mcneil here it's red flag talking about themselves too much get out of your fucking face do you know what i want to ying for yang i want to play ping pong i'm like boom

boom where you from where you from yep yep lovely to know you yep what do you do for work boom ask about me you know because actually sometimes i ask questions but i don't care yep like i'm genuinely trying to make a conversation. Yeah, yeah. Like sometimes I'm just like, oh, you know, you know, what do you do for work? I don't care. Like I genuinely don't care.

I'm just trying to create convo. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'm waiting. Like I am waiting for you to be like, and you. It is a bit annoying when you think, when you're like, okay, and he's like, and that's my life. And then silence.

I'm like, oh, come on. Give me something. Like, give me something. Give me something. I think i think on to red flags oh we're going on to red okay a big one okay rude to waiters big one any bad bad bad bad why are you being rude to wait this is what you don't get okay if if they're rude to you you don't have to again it's the kindness thing don't be rude back you say moral high ground but you've got if they're rude to you okay you find you've got a bit of ammunition but if they're like i've told you what i've said i asked specifically without the fucking kalamata

olives it's like why are you raising your voice oh come on it's not that big it's not that deep i actually i almost crawl inside myself when so i went um we're quite hungover at the weekend and we went to go get a bacon bap and they made all of them bar mine push over i was like it's so fine yeah you like i've eaten it anyway me on the verge of fucking vomiting and fainting from this and i'm like, it's so fine. Like literally. I didn't want it. I didn't want it.

They were like, no, no, no. Like you've paid for it. That's asking. I'm like, please don't cause a scene. They're like, we're not going to cause a scene. Don't draw attention to me. Please don't draw attention. I'm like, honestly, like don't.

And they're like, you've paid for it. You need your bacon back. But I'm like, thank you. Thank you very much. But even that, I'm like. It's rude rude it scares me yeah that just shows me bad manners yeah there's actually no need like you do think you're above them if you like that do you know what that ties into as well being rude to your parents like

if this is a this is one as well being rude to your mum there's one that says speaks badly about his parents no speaks badly about his family like if i went to go meet my boyfriend's parents for the first time and he spoke to his mom like shit i would be like oh talking about mom this one's good oh my god too close with his mom mommy's boy mommy's boy mommy's boy now how close is to like if it says too close with his mom that's all she said if i was seeing someone and they had a good relationship like texted their mom every day i'm like that's no biggie yeah but his mom that's all she said if i was seeing someone and they had a good relationship like text said their mom every day i'm like that's no biggie yeah his mom says something to him about you and he's like well mom said it now so i'm sorry but like that's how i feel oh yeah that's scary that's scary or like constantly like okay well i've got to go early because i've got to ring mummy oh god

what are you doing what are you doing mummy's boys too close to mum so true now this one this one gets me doesn't use an electric toothbrush like someone actually has written in this as a red flag like i looked at it and i was like okay could be no i get that an flag, but they're like red. Genuinely out of my life. If your teeth aren't buzzing, get out. Like, wise up. We're not five anymore.

We're not using fucking manual toothbrushes. It's quite an adult, but the thing is though, good electric toothbrushes are really fucking expensive, so it is an adult purchase. It is an adult purchase. I mean, who wants to spend 200 fucking quid on a toothbrush? 200 quid? The really good ones are like 150 to 200 quid.

What do you have? On a fucking toothbrush. Tooth. I'm like, that's stupid. This is another one. Dirty nails. Fuck that. That's a bit.

I'm not being funny, but if they've got fucking black under those trotters. No, but why? That goes deeper. For me, that's laziness. Like, why aren't you taking pride in yourself why aren't you keeping yourself presentable it's not it's not about for me even a red flag has long nails like when a man has long nails oh that's scary but and i'm not being i'm not being like if they've done it on purpose like if they have their nails done or no no you know when some people get like some guys get acrylics and all of that i'm saying just they don't clip the nails they're all a bit strange so strange strange have you got another

one for me red flag someone said no sense of humor so real it's so real so why aren't you laughing if some if you're around someone that takes themselves too seriously genuinely get in the bin get in the fucking bin get in the bin if i try and make something and say something funny and they're like oh i didn't get that i'm like they can't take a joke like no like like you know you're taking the piss with them and you're like ha ha ha ha and they're ripping into you like yeah you feel like a slob blah blah blah and they're like says you like you're so lazy and they're like they go silent they're like please you know what actually, you're so lazy. And they're like.

They go silent. They're like, do you know what? Actually, that's just out of order. It's like, oh, come on. Take a joke. Take a joke. Take a joke. Do you have any more?

Oh, I've got a great one. Love bombing. So one day be so into you, the next day neglect you. That is a red flag. Why are you doing that? No, that is beyond like, that's like big red flag. I don't think I've had that before have you ever experienced a lot of love bombing no i don't think so but it's very severe isn't it yeah people are like obsessed with and then they just ghost you and then why are you ghosting me i'm not why are you guys why come on this one's really good this cow right being shit in bed i mean yeah and you know i just

looked at it i was like oh fair no i was like you know what we can't all have it all no because this is the thing that is the biggest letdown of all but then again no this is when you need to love a project because you just give it a few more times but you want the electricity there needs to be some sort of sexual compatibility, doesn't there? Yeah, you want your fucking Pinocchio to swoop into the Lord of the Rings and create sparks, you know?

Yeah. You want a bit of fucking Lumos in there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Expelliolmus! You know, and you're like, fuck me, that was insensational. You don't want to be like, you know, Wingardium Leviosa

and having to correct yourself all the time trying to get a good, you was sensational. Yeah. You don't want to be like, you know, when Gardner and Leviosa and having to correct yourself all the time trying to get a good, you know, come on. So I did chuckle at that at the start and then I contemplated and thought, hmm, could I be with someone that I wasn't satisfied with in bed? And I thought, no. So you bang on.

No, it's true. Nothing will ick you up. Well, you could be the most attractive person in the world, but if you shit in bed. Yeah. A, or selfish in bed. Selfish? Selfish.

Why are you selfish in bed? Why are you being selfish? Actually, I'm going to have to snake out here. Not all men are just selfish. Well, this is funny. Women are selfish as well. One of my friends never, never, never will go down on a man. Oh, really?

Never. She'll be like, nah. And I'm like, yeah, but you've got to play tit for tat. You know, you've got to play tit for tat. That's difficult. If he's licking the mint choc chip, you've got to play tit for tat you know you've got to play tit for tat that's difficult if he's licking the mint choc chip you've got to go down there and you know have a bit of the calippo come on you know i was like you know two-way streak here if this is bad being secretive why are you doing gets a text gets all shifted why is that happening oh why are you doing that or he's like why are you looking at my phone why can't i look at your phone what or like what are you doing this weekend oh nothing much just like with my friends oh cool what are you being vague

no being vague why like i'm not the fucking cia yeah i'm not following you with me binoculars yeah he's like i'm gonna go to little and you think i'm gonna just show up outside no come on yeah genuinely it's not that yeah this is interesting this is a red flag for someone sleeps a lot sleeps a lot imagine you're there like i mean how how much are we talking i can kind of get behind that i mean if you're sleeping for 24 hours a day i would be like look we need a bit of human interaction no i can get behind that in the sense. Well, yes, I can definitely get behind that. Because my family are nappers. They're big, big nappers.

You've experienced it. But to the point where we have to fit that around our plans. Okay, so if you were dating someone that had to have like... So if I was like, like oh should we go here and they're like oh we're gonna be out all day we probably should get back for two so i can go to bed i'd be like come on oh i see like that that it's me out a bit that i'm like oh come on this is a good one yeah not getting along with your friends that's big huge that's a huge red flag not getting on with my friends imagine me bringing timothy from the

park along and timothy's like and timothy's like not being funny but katie's a schlag i'd be like timothy you're right there she is timothy never loved you more you can read her like a book yeah yeah you can no but seriously if if my boyfriend did not get along with you guys, I'd be like, why? I feel like there's got to be some form of, like, you've got to be of best behaviour. What would you do, though, if your boyfriend spoke to you and was like, not going to lie, but I hate your friends. Like, I hate them.

I hate them all. I wouldn't vibe with that. I'd be like, why? And yet, you say why, and he's like, not going to lie, they're just not my kind of people. Oh, well, then I'd be like,'re clearly i'm clearly not your kind of person everyone i would say i take pride in the fact that everyone who i am friends with yeah i would say i am a reflect like you surround yourself with people who you're similar with yeah you do and i can see myself in every aspect of the friends i have yeah like different parts

and that's why we all go on so well i feel like we all have so many similarities um so it's one of those things that if you didn't like aspects of them i'd be like well you don't like aspects of me then because i'm most comfortable around those friends yeah fair and my last one is road rage like someone is no that's so it is so embarrassing like red flag though it is so embarrassing when we're saying red flag we mean you can't be with them if they've got road rage yeah i tell you what i'd be a single pringle i've got road rage in me there's nothing there'd be nothing more embarrassing than like you're in the car and you've just started seeing someone and someone cuts in front of him and he's like oh you dickhead like like shouting out the window

i'd be like because actually there's nothing more embarrassing like when you're in an uber and the uber driver does that and then he like turns around he's like look sorry about that like it is in back like oh it's just embarrassing there genuinely what have you got for me what's your final mine is can't admit their own faults. Stubborn, stubborn Stevens. Stubborn, stubborn Stevens. Stubborn Stevens. Nothing worse.

Sort it out. These red flags. Sort it out. I tell you what, my top I've got to pay. Yeah. Scared of moths. It's got to pay. Electric toothbrush.

I mean. Electric toothbrush. I mean, do you know what? I bet you girl red flag what's your favorite i think i'd probably say spending too much time with the boys that's a good one oh guys right thank you so much for the topic i love it we're gonna continue to ask you guys for your opinion because you gave us so much joy this week oh my god it was so much fun oh it was so much fun hearing your opinion and as well being able to relate to you being like i get you and there are some wackadoodles out there i tell you there are there were some people i was like what the fuck are you talking about but i love it love it but guys before we quickly go on to the x i need to tell you such a funny story this week

oh my god like i'm gonna tell you such a funny story this week. Oh my God. Like, I'm going to tell you it really, really quick. Oh my God, yeah. So basically, one of our friends works in Parliament. Yeah. So I had the pleasure of this week being able to go into the House of Commons and the House of Lords.

I was so sad I couldn't come. It was so exciting. I was fuming. I got to have like a proper lunch. Yeah. And then I got to go in, got to see like a big statue of all mps like it was so exciting yeah and i was talking to my friend he was like oh it'd be hundreds of pounds

like if you pay to do it as like a visitor but oh my god i've just got to sneak in there i had my little visitor oh my god guys i got to go in the underground um tunnel like for the people in the tube so you go off from the tube and there's like a certain way that only the you know if you work in parliament you can go through that that's exciting anyway so i experienced all this now fucking marketing woman i am entrepreneur over here in the corner guess what i brought with me me fucking debrief cards we've got cards guys we've got business cards we've got business cards now when i tell you i was leaving these business cards all around fucking parliament i'm being i'm being legit like we're going into the house of fucking the house of commons and i'm there like whip out whip out me fucking debrief cards i'm putting on these little green leather

seats and i'm like everyone's looking around my friends are like leave it leave it just leave it leave it i'm like are you sure are you sure i'm like yeah boom i was this close away to putting it on the order order and then i thought maybe that's a bit much walked past there was this like statue and i was like boom put it on the statue i was like you know you've got you never know when you can promote yourself honestly i was like seriously someone could go in here and be like love this woman love this woman that was the most that was the fucking funniest thing you've ever like when you texted me i was like i fucking connor leaving your debrief business cards around the house of commons and the house of lords

katie let's go on to our eggs how many do you have this week? I have two. Oh, do you? I've only got one, so you start. Ready? Yep. Mine happened today. I've never been more embarrassed in my life. I'm barassed. I'm barassed. I was walking to the gym

this morning, sun shining, what a fucking beautiful day. Beautiful. I'm walking through, this guy's walking down the street with this rather large dog. Who? And he's kind of like, the dog's kind of veering out was it slobbery it was just like a big fluffy one oh nice and there wasn't really no slobber inside there wasn't enough space on the pavement really for the two of us to walk dog onto the pavement so that i could just carry on walk because i was on the inside of the road okay instead he doesn't move and i panic because i had nowhere else to go so i just kind of moved to the side. But what I didn't really realize was that there was a huge bush.

So I essentially just threw myself into a bush to accommodate. So literally didn't even kind of like shimmy to the side. I full on turned myself face into this bush. Like, oh, sorry. Oh, sorry about that. And then literally like fully went into the bush. I bush pushed myself. You bush pushed yourself?

Into the bush. Oh my God. And I thought, what a fucking stupid woman. How long did you stand there looking in the bush i bush pushed myself you bush pushed yourself into the bush oh my god and i thought what a fucking stupid woman how long did you stand there looking in the bush for like maybe two or three seconds then he moved past and i was like well that was mortifying two or three seconds too long my friend yeah yeah genuinely embarrassing for you i know can't move past that imagining your little ginger hair in the book like i don't know what's stuck yeah help me right okay mine is oh god when you start to do a voice note and you have to do it again it's so embarrassing it's so embarrassing when you're like hiya how are you so basically i was oh shit let me do it again yeah hiya basically i was thinking i was actually doing it the other day to one of my friends yeah and i was like she said something vaguely amusing

wasn't that good but it was vaguely amusing so i thought i'll give her a pity laugh so i was like i was like honestly i said oh let me do it again i was like it's so embarrassing oh my god and i actually like at the moment i did it i was sat in my room and opposite is like a um a mirrored wardrobe so i caught myself i was like what are you doing i was like there's nothing embarrassing the worst one is i've had it before where like i've done handovers to my manager for work and i thought i was recording and wasn't so i'm literally talking for like five minutes being like yep so the delivery's been done and it basically just needs xyz and doing okay well

like have a great day and I'm like ah I'm like hey hey let me prove me again let me do it oh my god that is such a real it's so ready yeah well it has already been addressed but I'm gonna have to say it anyway my twitchy toes twitchy fucking toes both except this week have been myself twitchy twinkle toe twitchy twinkle toes in my sleep i've genuinely never felt shame never felt horror quite like it i can't control that no now i've got a new fear about as if i didn't have enough reasons that i hate sharing beds yeah add twinkle toes into that you're gonna have little tappity toes. It's a health hazard at this point.

It is. It's a health hazard. It is. You just put elastic bands around your toes when you sleep. I'm going to have to wear, like, grippy socks. Yeah. Keep it all together. Yeah, yeah.

They're uncontrollable. Yeah. You don't know what they're going to do. No, you don't know. Let's go on to questions. Questions. Serious. Yes. This this week i'm serious and katie is silly silly silly katie silly okay so this week has actually been inspired by one of the debrief questions oh okay so personally for me i think that fashion is really really um important yes in relationships so say if my boyfriend i didn't really like his fashion um that would be a bit of an ick for me i'd be like oh right i could i could personally mend it i could mend it like you know one of my

friends is doing that to her boyfriend and i think it's fucking hilarious. But I'd be like, come on. What would you do if, okay, what would you do if your boyfriend is like, look, I need to talk to you, okay? And you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You want to lick the mint chocolate chip? And he's like, I'm afraid, put your scooper away. He's like, that's not what I want to talk about. Yeah. So you're embarrassed and, you know, put your legs back together. Mort's like he's like that's not what i want to talk about yeah so you're

embarrassed and you know put your legs back together mortified you're mortified and he's like i've gone red i'm flush absolutely red yeah and he's like look i've just got to talk to you about something he's like i hate your fashion oh and you're like what and he goes no seriously everything you are is unfashionable and right now you're wearing what you're wearing and he're like what and he goes no seriously everything you wear is unfashionable and right now you're wearing what you're wearing and he's like like look i'm not being funny darling i love you but that jumper is disgusting the fact you're wearing it with those leggings like it's just tragic the socks with the uggs i'm honestly repulsed by and you're like oh what would you do oh my god get out the get in the fucking bin what would you do

get in the bin if you've got such an issue with my unless you're gonna buy me a new fucking wardrobe which i wouldn't be opposed to oh but it depends because if it was imagine if we made you wear workwear i'm sorry if he says he's got an issue with what i wear yeah get in the bin so if he had an issue with your fashion yeah it'd be an issue for your relationship yes yeah if i got told that he this entire time we've been together he thought i'd look like shite yeah i'd be like he's like i've never liked an outfit you've worn i just don't really like your fashion no that would actually genuinely that's quite deep actually because on what what about on the days where i'm really feeling confident and feeling like 10 out of 10 oh my god he's like oh he's like katie you're beautiful i fucking fancy i just i obviously i obviously don't like your clothes like it's not

my kind of style but but like i'm sure it's nice but i don't like it you could get in the fucking bin then son you can get in the fucking bin even if genuinely not even not even being fucking rude yeah if he had a problem with even my pjammies he'd be in the bin pjammies my pjammies so okay so how about though if you had an issue with what he wore like he wears the shittest clothes i would say like i wouldn't say anything in your opinion i wouldn't say anything it depends If he was dressing inappropriately for events. If we're going out for dinner and he's in his pyjamas, I'd say like, are you going to get changed?

And I'm dressed up not like... If we book like Sky Garden and he's in his joggers and a hoodie. No, not even like... He's in a joggers and like a tank top and a backwards hat when you're like all dressed up yeah i feel like we need to be on the same page in the sense if we booked a really fuck off fancy meal like either we both dress down or we both dress up yeah you know yeah so would you broach that with him well i'd say i'd say oh like i'm thinking about wearing this what are you thinking and if he's like i'm gonna wear me joggers what would you say i'd say oh like i'm thinking about wearing this what are you thinking and if

he's like i'm gonna wear me joggers what would you say i'd be like oh i thought they had a dress code cheeky bitch oh i love it okay but i wouldn't be like i hate what you wear yeah get in the bin get in the bed fucking stupid stupid what would you do to be fair i would be offended if they were like oh my god i hate what you're wearing i'd be like what i'd be like fucking raging i'd be like so offended and also because i think i like i think i've got quite your fashion so yeah like what are you on about like sometimes okay yeah the boobs might come out a bit too much and the ass crack is on show so sometimes sometimes I'd be like, fair. But I wouldn't be like, I hate your fashion.

I'd be like, oh. That's just rude. That's just like flat out rude. No. Give me your silly question. Mine is, so we watched Harry. Do you like my fashion? Yeah.

I'm like, what do you think of my moose pajamas? Love the Uggs, yeah? Love the Uggs. So we watched Harry Potter last night. Oh, we did. I want to start them from the beginning now we watched the half-blood prince i can't believe how quickly the half-blood prince went i know didn't feel like two and a half hours boom it was nice i think we should watch the

philosopher's stone next yeah tonight boom tonight boom yeah um so on the subject of that i think so Subject to that, I think, so you have to shag, marry, avoid. Ooh! People from Harry Potter. Dumbledore. Okay. Professor Snape. Okay. And Professor Slughorn. Oh my god, this is so hard.

This is really hard. Shag, marry, avoid. Oh my god, oh my god. Okay, I'm shagging Snape no you got to there's something there's something quite dark and mysterious about severus snape i think he called me a naughty girl like i think he'd actually just broke your world he'd be like a vodka got you there and i'd be like yeah he was like you're gonna kill me well we were doing doggy but not quite not quite yeah i'm gonna shag snape because i think he's a bit of a lost soul a little bit of a dark horse yeah what if it's a lost soul katie chain yourself up um yeah no i'd quite like i quite

like a bit of the snape yeah um so he's off my list shag him boom in there yeah now we got marie and the void okay okay okay oh shit if i'm saying saying marry can i still kind of shag snape yeah yeah yeah like so i so i'm not you don't have to shag the person you marry no oh great oh great okay okay let me let me let me i think i'm gonna have to marry the dumbly door dumbbells yeah yeah dumbbells will treat me well dumbbells were like yeah dumbbells will give me some like potions and lotions that i'll never go old that's true and i'll have like the best fucking skin and booty like that's true he'll be like what do you want for christmas darling i'll be like the best booty out there yeah he'll

make a potion and be like drink it and i'll be like banging but then like you know i'm not really wanting to cuddle up to his long beard and stuff but i would give him a good old hug i think he'd protect me but then i can go and track snake slughorn fair but for me i need a bit of a stronger man and i think dumbly dumbly doors he sacrificed himself and and off he went he fell off that bridge boom got off he popped he off he popped he's a strong man yeah and and then i'd inherit hogwarts that's true yeah i i you'd inherit yeah i'd be the head of hogwarts i think the only thing that would put me off i i agree with you there um you know for sure shag's name yeah but i feel like the only thing about dumbledore that would slightly annoy

me is i feel like he could be potentially a bit of a martyr. And I'd just be sat there like, oh, so how was your day? And he's like, oh, yes, I ventured into a new form of magic today. And I did X, Y, Z. And it reminded me of when I created the lollipop kind of thing. And I'd be a bit like, all right, you know, he could be like, the Dark Lord is back. And I'd be a bit like all right you know he could be like the dark lord is back and i'd be like for fuck's sake like look the dark lord has a day off like we do we all have like it's sunday he's like you know the forbidden is coming you're like don't go in the forest and i'll be like i'm going in the fucking forest banter you're like don't i thought you needed it like actually that's good that i considered i haven't considered that and i'd

be icked out how like intrigued he is with harry well he'd be like gotta go check on harry i'm like why harry why why what's your issue and what's your issue with harry like why yeah yeah why harry why also upkeep why is the beard not cut yeah not being funny not being funny why haven't you cut your beard you'd have to brush it probably. Oh my God, those wiry hairs all over me. You'd have to probably brush it.

Not being funny. Why are you not cutting your beard? I bet he's got long nails as well. Dump. He's got long nails. Albus, for sure. Toenails as well. Boom, they're long.

Yeah. They are long. You'd have to maintain that. Oh my God, you wouldn't. Yeah. Yeah, you would. You would. No, no, you fully would.

No, you fully would. Although you'd get some sick fucking dressing gowns. What? Oh my God, you would. Yeah, you would. You would. No, no, you fully would. No, you fully would. Although you get some sick fucking dressing gowns. Oh my God, you would. He always wears the greatest capes and gowns. Yeah, you would. What's the best impression of someone from Harry Potter you can do? Because I've got a pretty good one. Oh, fuck.

Do you want me to do one for you? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've got Voldemort. Oh, yeah. The boy who lives come to die. And I can also do the hand. So people who watch these clips, just wait. This is fucking, what's his name?

Ralph Fiennes. Yeah, here we are. The boy who lived come to die. That's how he fucking holds his wand. No, no, no. Okay, I've got a pen. The the oscar goes too yeah yeah yeah boy the boy who lived come to die see fucking nailed it doppy doppy doppy doppy katie can do master game doppy a sock master game doppy a sock doppy game, don't be a sock!

Dobby is a free elf! Oh, that's quite good. I feel like, um, what's the one... No, you should try Gillyweed! Oh, that's good. Harry! Harry! That was good.

Harry, yeah. Harry! What about Gillyweed? Throw away. I had such... I still have such a thing for Neville Longbottom. Yeah. From book four onwards. Katie Longbottom.ville Longbottom. Yeah. From book four onwards.

Katie Longbottom. Katie Longbottom. Boom. Guys, we have chatted so much shit today. Oh my God, I loved it. But I can't tell you how much I needed you. Yeah. I needed a bit of the debrief.

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