The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett - E15: Gerard Adams - A $50m Elite Exit

Episode Date: April 16, 2018

In this Chapter, I meet Gerard Adams - A born entrepreneur. He takes us through his journey of struggle, success & tough decisions as he grew one of the most popular online publishers - Elite daily, through to it's sale to the Daily Mail. Now heading up an incubator for entrepreneurs in Fownders, Gerard's mission is bigger than ever.

Quick one, just wanted to say a big thank you to three people very quickly. First people I want to say thank you to is all of you that listen to the show. Never in my wildest dreams is all I can say. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd start a podcast in my kitchen and that it would expand all over the world as it has done. And we've now opened our first studio in America, thanks to my very helpful team led by Jack on the production side of things. So thank you to Jack and the team for building out the new American studio. And thirdly, to Amazon Music, who when they heard that we were expanding to the United States, and I'd be recording a lot more over in the States, they put a massive billboard in Times Square for the show. So thank you so much, Amazon Music. Thank you to our team. And

thank you to all of you that listened to this show. Let's continue. Jared Adams, co-founder of Elite Daily, sold his company in his 20s for $50 million. But this isn't the story you would expect. This isn't the what did you buy, how did it feel? This is the story of immense pressure, betrayal, threats, choosing to start again from the bottom, and figuring out that sometimes in life our greatest regrets become our greatest blessings. Before you dedicate your life to trying to follow in Jared's footsteps, you need to listen to this.

I ask him personal questions that he admits he's never thought about before. He's an inspiration, a born entrepreneur, and he's a man on a new mission. Without further ado, this is Chapter 15, and I'm Stephen Butler. This is the Diary of a CEO. I hope nobody is listening, but if you are, then please keep this to yourself. Gerard, thank you for joining us today. It's an honour to meet you.

My first experience with a company that you created was in a cab in New York about four or five years ago. And I got on an Uber pool, I think it was. And a guy turned to me and he said, I work at Elite Daily. And he gave me his card and we started chatting. We promised to meet up in the future, but we didn't in the end.

That was the first I'd heard of Elite Daily. And then as I got more and more active on Facebook it feels like it was all I ever saw and so meeting you today is in some ways putting a face to to a name which is the brand that you created which was a for our generation an absolute monster and I think to some people it definitely still is you have more than a story you you have a journey I think that's fair to say because I've I've seen the path you've taken, both in terms of being a CEO, but also the sort of more spiritual, purposeful path you've taken. What I want to do to start is, and this is something that I do with all the guests

that I meet, is give you a minute to try and tell me your birth to present moment story, and then we'll dig down. And this isn isn't easy but if you're up for it that'd be amazing yeah and i'm grateful that you've taken the time to come over to newark new jersey you know here where i grew up to do this interview and i admire your work you know i really do just sitting before we went live and like really looking at the growth of what you created at such a young age and being in a similar space and similar generation, building a monstrous media company. I look forward to learning from you. I love this. I love meeting new people that I feel are on a similar journey. And I feel like no matter

what, we all have a different story and we all can learn from each other. So I look forward to building our relationship. You're somebody that I feel like I can really relate to both, not just in business, but your character. Obviously, you must be a great leader. And everything around me is around is really creating and working with some of the greatest leaders of our generation. And you seem to be on that path and really doing that and executing on it. So, you know, I look forward to building our friendship. And that's the thing. So a lot of the questions I'll ask today are based on the fact that I think you've got things and experiences that I'm yet to get.

And I think much of the reason why we seek mentors in life is because we want to not have to go through some things ourselves if other people have gone down those journeys and can shout back what's down that path. So some of the questions I'll ask today will be centered around that as well. But without further ado, one minute on the clock. Okay, one minute. You know, I would say like I grew up, so my whole family grew up right here in Newark, New Jersey. And I went to a school near Newark. For me, my mom and dad were really the anchor of my entire life. I was blessed to have really great parents that guided me.

They were my first mentors. My mother, I saw her work seven days a week at a local supermarket. That was my first job. My father taught me leadership. But I ended up starting going down the wrong path. I ended up getting into a gang when I was in high school and hustling drugs.

And I had an instance where everything was about to completely take me down the path of either dead or jail. And I ended up getting pulled over by police officers. Long story short, I had a second chance. And I was able to get out of that. And I realized that, for me, I really wanted to channel that hustle mentality into business. But I didn't know really how to do it.

Similar to you, I ended up wanting to make my parents proud. And I ended up going to college. I dropped out my first semester. But what changed the game for me was mentorship. It started with my mother and father, but then I was able to seek out another mentor in my life. And now I have, you know, many, many mentors, but through working with mentors throughout my entire journey of 15 years as an entrepreneur, it's allowed me to continue to really grow and become a real entrepreneur. And I've failed many, many, many times, but I've continued my entire life to just surround myself with quality individuals and be humble enough to not want to be the smartest

person in the room and continue to learn and just get comfortable with doing the things that are risky and uncertain. I've gotten through a lot of it and I'm continuing to be a student at the Game of Life. That led to your first startup, which was in investing. My first startup, yeah. Your first startup. My first startup was an online publication known as Stock Spot. So when I met that first mentor, when I decided to drop out my first semester, I was literally doing finals week and I just looked around and I was like, this isn't for me. what am I doing here? I literally just walked out, walked out of finals. And I could have gotten credits for going through

the whole semester for at least one semester, you know? But I knew that I was like, all right, if I'm gonna do this, I need to go all in. I just felt that intuition. And I've always been a person that is- Impulsive? Yeah, I follow intuition. Cliff jumping, jumping out of a plane, like I'm willing to take that leap of faith.

If there's one thing I've grown up with, it's strong faith. I was named after a saint. And, you know, my church was really big for me, like growing up. Where did that come from? Because that's self-belief, right? The way the education system works now is we kind of condition people to go down a certain path and be grateful for going down that path. Where does that self-belief and that feeling that you were different come from? Having good parenting, I know a lot of people, unfortunately, don't have that.

You know, for me, like my mother and father hearing the stories when my grandparents immigrated to this country and what they went through with nothing to be able to build a family here just impacted me on a whole nother level. And basically they just always pushed me that like no matter what, I may not be the smartest kid. I wasn't a great student, but they believed in me. Like I wanted to go to art school. It was really because of them. To be honest, it wasn't like I had all the belief. In fact, it was like the opposite. I'll never forget. Like I actually cried during like my last year of high school because I, you know, all my friends were getting into these good colleges and things and I had gone through hustling and I was just like,

was lost. And I didn't think that I was destined for much. I was, you know, I didn't know where to go, what I was going to do in life. When did that change? That day I dropped out. So you dropped out of college? Yeah. That semester when I put that pencil down and I walked out of that classroom and I had a mentor that I had met and I would drive to his house and I became an apprentice. And that's when it started to change for me because I started to learn about building online communities. I started learning about digital marketing. I started seeing how he was investing into stocks. And that's when I was like, okay, I can do this. Like, here's a guy who's in his twenties. I'm young. He's figured something out. I can figure this out. And for me, it was like, I don't care what it takes. I'm going to,

I'm going to make this work. I'm going to figure it out. I'm going to learn it. And I'm going to, and I was just obsessed with like learning about business. And that led me to that first, that first online community that I built to learn from other stock traders. Basically, that's what I wanted to do. I wanted to learn about stocks. So I created a forum. That forum was called Stock Spot. And basically, every member had a rating similar to eBay, one to five stars, color coordinated. And I built it because I just was trying to create a solution to my own problem which is how do I find a like-minded community of people that are trading stocks investing into companies so that I can learn from them that ended up becoming the first like the first platform I

built with five thousand dollars basically getting that off I stayed up till four in the morning I would go on every message board online and basically be like go to stock spot to talk about stocks you know spamming everything you know and that was the beginning of when I knew I was on to something when I finally had people signing up and communicating on there and then I had one company call me and say hey I want to advertise on your platform you know I want to get in front of all those people and that's when I realized I was like wait a second i can actually i can make money doing this and how's it changed how did that lead to elite daily i know you met a young guy called david and david and you had this idea you talked about it eventually

you launch elite daily again guerrilla hustling connecting the dots it grows into this big business i'm fast forwarding here a little bit but just stop before i miss anything that's important as the company grows you need that growth capital, as we all do. So you take investment and then you get to a point where you get an offer from the Daily Mail to sell the company. And in that moment, you kind of plunge into, I guess, a bit of confusion. You've never done this before. The reason why I fast forwarded to that point is because, selfishly, it's the most relevant moment to myself in a sense I remember when I got that first offer to sell my company and how much it messed with me because

it's the first time when it became real and the decision to sell my like purpose for money was a real one how was it for you on that day when you got an offer to sell the company how did it feel and it was really exciting tens of millions as well oh yeah so it was really really exciting because it wasn't the fact that like when we got the offer I was ready to sell it was just that what you just said it was like that validation that like okay we've created something here like you know when we started Elite Daily, it was in my apartment. It was an idea. David, that you mentioned, was 18 years old. I mentored him. His father was away. And he became just like a friend of mine, like a little brother to me. And my little brother, my other co-founder, Jonathan San Pedro, which was a friend of David's

as well, it was us three. And to go from like this idea we had buying a domain name on GoDaddy for $9.99 in an apartment to now 80 million unique visitors and then have that offer, it was like, yes, we validated. But I was like, we're not selling, but this is great. Let's keep going because that's only gonna grow. We're only gonna get more and more offers.

We're only gonna attract more and more. We finally, for me, it was like that validation of yes, like now we have the credibility. Because prior to that, we didn't feel like we had credibility. People didn't believe it was real. I'll never forget like bigger publications actually started to like write negative articles about us. And they were like, these aren't real journalists journalists like this publication is like a bunch of garbage a lot of people didn't even really believe that the traffic was real we were always kind of these underdogs in in me in the media space especially here in the united states and you know for us we we crave that we're

like no like we're the underdogs but we're we're. We are a threat. We are someone out there who's not going to stop. We're for our generation, by our generation. Nothing's stopping us. This is bigger than us. And we're creating a voice of our generation, whether you like it or not. So why did you sell? Well, so when that day came, my co-founders, we were scaling at such a high pace and believe it or not we were doing doing we got that offer exhibition during our raise of our second round right and the venture

capitalists started to like work against us and they were trying to get the valuation lower when that offer came in our lead investor which is one of the biggest venture capital funds in the in the country basically they care about wins so numbers the country, basically they care about wins. They care about numbers, right? They care about numbers. They care about wins. So I actually got a letter in the mail that was like, this is the best decision and take it.

Almost like a threatening letter. A letter in the mail? Yeah. In the post? I'm sorry. Yeah, mail. A physical letter. Physical letter.

And I remember getting that and like, dang, this is like interesting. And at the same time, my co-founders were like, no, like this is the right decision to make. We're going to sell. And I remember taking a walk with my co-founder. We used to always go for walks in the park to talk about big decisions, kind of old school. We'd sit on the bench. And I'll never forget one of the last times we did that. You know, he was just like really had all this weight on his shoulders. Every investor's talking to him. He was just like,

Gerard, like, you know, I'm done. Really? Yeah. He was like, I'm done. I think it's the right decision. And I'm stressed. And I think that this is the right move. What caused the stress? At that time, we had 200 employees. We went from like the three of us having, you know, lean and mean team of like eventually like 10 people to like 200 people. And we had to make payroll. That's why we're raising money. So I think the stress of like having to make payroll, but we have this acquisition,

200 people's lives you're responsible for that are all young and like believing in you. And the biggest thing was Facebook was changing their algorithms. And this is the reason why we sold. And I'll never forget the day of that board meeting, I raised $5 million to give us the option to not sell, to keep going.

But both of my co-founders, I pulled them out to another room and looked them in the eyes like, look, I got the 5 million, let's do this. Let's stick this thing out. And they were like, gee, we did it. It may not be the big exit, but it's not about the money.

But this gives security to everybody who believed in us. The Daily Mail is this amazing organization that'll like keep the journey going. And they were like sold on it. And they were like, what we do after this is really what matters, how we can take this and really moving on to doing something that's more purposeful. So when we went back into that room, man, it was very emotional because for me, the one thing my mentor told me, he was like, rule of thumb, man, if both your other co-founders are out and it's a win for everyone, then you should go with your co-founders and replace them. You talk a little bit about the stress there of running a business and it's a stress I know well. In a previous chapter in this podcast, chapter six, I sat with my co-founder Dom and Dom went through a very similar thing. As the company grew and we had to make payroll,

he suffered some mental health issues and even talks about the time where he genuinely at a train station thought, what if I just jump in front of this train now? It got that hard for him. It was hard for both of us. And so he started doing drugs and he fell into sort of alcoholism and he completely lost himself. We live in a bit of a world where our generation have started to really think that entrepreneurship is this kind of rock star yeah super cool thing much of the reason why i do this podcast is to tell the truth yeah what are the truths it is the best and worst thing that ever happened to you amen it's the best and worst thing that ever happened to you. Amen.

It is the best and worst thing that ever happened to you. It's the utmost freedom. I wouldn't change anything. I would never, ever do it. Entrepreneurship is, I feel so grateful for the fact that every day I get to go out and create and have the ability to, you know, shape and create my reality. It's amazing. But at the same time, it is definitely the hardest thing in the world. Like those moments when you, you know, you don't know if you're going to be able to pay

for your rent, if you can eat. I've been completely bootstrapped to the point where like I've had to sacrifice making anything for myself in honor of my team and everyone around me. I was the big brother of the co-founders. So I was like, we got this. I have faith. I was a little bit older at this time. I've been through some failures. I think my co-founders never been through that kind of failures. I think the fear of failure, the opportunity of like, no, this could be a win, you know, like, and I don't want want to be that failure I don't want to have it and it's working and then lose it I can't speak for for you know for them to be honest but ultimately that kind of there it is the one of the most stressful things you

will do is it for everybody no it's definitely not for everybody how do you know if it's for you? If you feel like you can't go to sleep, but you can't wait to wake up, it's that kind of, like, passion. It's like you just don't even want to go to sleep because you're just that excited. You're, like, keeping going. And then, like, when you do, you just can't wait to wake up because you're, like, you're going to get back at it again. It's an adrenaline. It's like, it's, you have to be a certain kind of individual to get comfortable with uncertainty. It's just that simple. Some people need security. They need to know that like everything's okay. And then entrepreneurs are the ones that are completely comfortable. There are no rules. They're just completely okay with doing the most,

the hard thing, the most uncertain thing, the most uncomfortable thing. And are you okay with going back to zero? That's exactly what I've done after the exit. You know, I came back to Newark, you know, 33% of the population here is below poverty. I didn't touch the money. You know, I basically sent it to a trust and I basically was like I'm gonna start from complete scratch and like re-evaluate like what I'm meant to do how I want to pursue being an entrepreneur going forward most people when they exit a company and it's a you know tens and tens of millions of pound exit or dollar exit they'll probably buy a fast car buy a really nice

house ball out a little bit, go to the club. After your exit, you talk about falling into a bit of a depression. Why was that? I was like the lone wolf in that board meeting, trying to convince a whole room of investors and the two co-founders that I started this company with to not sell. I did everything. I raised $5 million within 10 days

just to keep us going. And I made a speech in front of the whole room. And I like genuinely was like, I don't, you know, I'm okay with if Facebook changed their algorithms, we'll get through it. We'll adapt and we'll keep going. You know, we have a brand, we have something that stands for something, you know, it's different than like, if we just, I felt we had built like, I just, you know, we had just built something with a lot of, a lot of traffic and we were like really good at creating. I felt like we had a brand. I remember for going to Italy for one of my other investment portfolio companies. And I had my elite daily shirt on and like people stopped me in the street and were like, yo, I like read elite daily, like every day. Like it's the one

thing that like pushes me every day. For me, that just meant something. i like read elite daily like every day like it's the one thing that like pushes me every day for me that just meant something i felt the elite daily name was invaluable it had it was it was like almost like priceless in a way for me you said in an interview before that you sold at the right time if you were 100 honest with yourself yeah do you wish you hadn't sold or do you wish you could have persuaded them differently? No, I don't regret it. I don't regret it. I mean, for sure I went through it being depressed.

But like, if I didn't sell, I don't think I would have... Found yourself. Found myself. Yeah, like I didn't really ever think about legacy. I didn't really ever think about like what my purpose was. I think deep, deep, deep down inside, at that point, I was the mentor of my co-founders and I've been mentoring people. I've been investing in people, but it really started to clear why I'm doing what I'm doing. You said in an interview, I think you did with Founder, when they asked you what the one

piece of advice you'd give to a young person, you said, what do I truly want in life? And you're saying to ask yourself this question, where am I going and what is it all truly for that's what you would say to a young person can you answer that question for yourself now can you answer the question where are you going and what is it all truly for so where am I where am I really going I guess like for for me it's I think I've gotten really comfortable with the process and the journey at this point whereas I in the past I had these big ambitions, whether it was monetarily or the different types of companies I was launching. And I think now where I'm going is every single day, I'm more so just working on how to become a better leader for myself.

Okay with the fact that I don't know how much time I really have. And I want to do everything I can every single day to just inspire my team, inspire the people that follow me to to like ask themselves those questions I really carried a lot of weight that I had to save people through entrepreneurship and now I realize it's not my duty to save anyone it's my duty to just live my best life continue to work on myself and through that be selfless and inspiring others to do the same to really make sure that they're questioning everything there's a huge amount of entrepreneurs that will be listening to this right now that have the sole ambition of building a big company and then selling it.

And then I guess the presumption is once that happens, you become happy. What would you say to those people? Because I was one of them. Like when I was 18 years old, I wrote in my diary and a lot of people online have seen my diary, and it says things I'm going to do before I'm 25, become a millionaire.

And this time I was shoplifting. Like I was, my rent was $180 and I hadn't paid it for five months. I was shoplifting food to feed myself. I was broke. And I was living in an area which is synonymous with gun crime. The only place in England that's synonymous with gun crime, right? We don't even have guns. And I wrote in my diary, before I'm 25, i'll be a millionaire a range rovers will be my

first car and then two other things about putting on weight and getting a girlfriend which don't matter but when i look back at those things i wrote in my diary i'm quite i'm quite i would say almost ashamed that those are the things that i thought were important yeah and it seems so like, what's the word? It seems so naive almost for someone that has attained money to look back at someone that doesn't have money and say, by the way, that won't make you happy. Because when I was broke, one pound or one dollar meant so much to me. It meant I could eat that day. It's hard. You see what I mean? It's hard when you're broke and you're like hustling.

It's hard not to obviously think about, you know, money. You know, I mean, it's I always you're broke and you're hustling. It's hard not to obviously think about money. I always say it's like an entrepreneur, it's purpose meets profit. I did a whole little podcast series on this. You do need to learn how to turn a profit in order to impact more people's lives. But I would say that you don't need to have that exit. You can choose right now to re-evaluate what your values really are. And I think that that was something I didn't do to have that exit. You can choose right now to re-evaluate like what your values really are. And I think that that was something I didn't do until after the exit. And I would say if you're listening and you don't have an exit, you're building a big company.

I would say really sit back and like re-evaluate like what are your values? And are you truly living to those standards of your values? How are you treating the people around you? How are you making sure that the company culture that you're creating is living up to those values? Do you think in the world we live in, where Instagram and social media is one of the big influences in all of our lives, I almost feel like a lot of young people don't know what their values are. Because I think if you ask a young person really what they thought their values are, they might say something to do with Kim Kardashian or fast cars or getting money and posting on Instagram.

So part of me thinks social media has really corrupted a generation into not knowing what their values are. It's the new drug. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. I mean, like one of the biggest things, it really is, it's like a gift and a curse

at the same time because it's allowed us to connect on such a level where you can just shoot a DM and network and you can build relationships. But at the same time, people are every single day addicted to the scroll and look at what everybody else is doing. What I try to tell a lot of the mentees that I work with, it's like, take some time. I do FaceTime Fridays. People who comment on my post, I give my time away on Fridays and FaceTime people from all over the world. And one of them on this past Friday, I was like, do me a favor.

And this weekend, like completely put your phone away. Get outside and really just think through, like, what is it that you want to bring to the world? Like, what do you want to bring to the world? And what must you really bring to the world? Because I think we get so caught up in that and like scrolling and looking at what everybody else is doing. We don't ever figure out what the hell we want. What do we want? And what do we want? want and like what do we want to bring to the world and yeah I think you're right I think social media has brainwashed us to not even know

what we want what our values are you know it's like a vicious cycle of like consumption and never like actually separating yourself from all of that Who are you and what do you want? What have you learned from meeting all of these young aspiring entrepreneurs that you think most entrepreneurs or at least aspiring entrepreneurs don't know or don't have? Is there something that you impart on these entrepreneurs or a pattern you're seeing within aspiring entrepreneurs that you think every aspiring entrepreneur needs to understand? Gary Vaynerchuk talks about self-awareness. And when he came on, he talked about self-awareness. He highlights the fact that personal branding is incredibly important in the modern age. What are the things that you try and impart on these entrepreneurs? I think the biggest thing

that I would, I mean, it's a few things. One of them is it's a personal development situation. I think it's a lot of the aspiring entrepreneurs, two things, I think really have the perseverance to really see it through long-term. They're excited. They want to launch the company. They want to be that entrepreneur. They don't really recognize what it's like, you know, and the perseverance that they need to launch the company they want to be that entrepreneur they don't really recognize what it's like you know and the perseverance that they need to have and i want

them to really gain that perseverance when times get really tough because it will get tough you have to learn how to adapt to the market and a lot of them i see when things don't go as planned they they bounce they bounce right they quit because why because they have bills they got to pay for they got to figure things you know instead of becoming resourceful and figuring it out sticking it through and adapting as hard as it may get instead of just saying okay this this let me quit on this and try something new they give up too easily and i would say see it through continue to adapt be a little bit more resource i've always seen that as like the natural selection of entrepreneurship is when those first hurdles come into play. The ones that do get over it

are the ones that are in some respects meant to go the distance because they have that why, they have that reason, they have that resilience, whatever it is to go further. So, and I also see it in my, my own ideation process. When I think of a a new idea if it doesn't stick and if i don't persevere it's almost my my body telling me that i don't care about it enough so part of me thinks that like quitting it's really interesting because i don't want to say that quitting is a good thing but quitting for me is a way that i know that i didn't really want it oh yeah or at least i didn't want it for the right reasons maybe i would agree with agree with that, 100%. I mean, maybe if it's not at the core of what they, you know, what an entrepreneur really generally creates.

And I think that's why it's important to ask those questions as to, like, what is it that you really want to bring to the world and what must you bring to the world? Because it has to be so freaking innate inside you that you're willing to do whatever it takes because that plan that you set out to get there is never the plan that it ends up being yeah so i would say that and i would and i would also say the like that the fact that a lot of entrepreneurs now because of social media you look at gary

vaynerchuk you look at you know your instagram page or my instagram page and and you have these aspirations to be you know to to to get to where maybe a certain entrepreneur really is. And I think recognizing that, like, everybody has their own path and being like, and having the patience of knowing, like, that, you know, don't compare yourself to anyone else. Like, really understand that you have your own, you know, your own path, your own journey, your own story that you're writing. So trust in that intuition and, like own, your own path, your own journey, your own story that you're writing. So trust in that intuition and like write your story. Are you scared of dying? No, no. I mean,

I, I, it's something that I know is coming, but I I've already died. How'd you mean? I went through a spiritual journey where like, literally I went through like death. Really? Yeah. And that's what kind of like made me awaken as to like, knowing that like at the end of this, at the end of it all, it doesn't really matter. You know, like having an exit, not having an exit, money, like closed watches, materialistic things. It really, it really doesn't really matter. It's really how you make people feel. It's how you live your life and the character that you have. And I think a lot of us don't really even recognize the opportunity that we really genuinely have while we are alive. And we don't really have a lot of time.

And I feel, for me, I embrace it. I think that's why now it's different for me. I'm not after another huge exit or anything like that. Like I just, you know, every day I'm just trying to live the most fulfilled life that I could live, inspiring others, you know, spreading my message, spreading my voice, continuing to grow myself, you know, every single day and also be more present. Like get outside, travel more, go on more adventures, meet new people, have new friends, be more present for my family. One of the things that I keep reading about that results in happiness is human connections,

right? And with the whole entrepreneur movement, there's a lot of messaging around, you know, hustle hard, it's lonely, it's a journey, do it on your own. And that's what I've always done, right? Since I was 18. And the more and more I read about happiness coming from human connections and people, I start to question whether I've done it the right way because I am quite like a lonely person. Not in the emotional sense, but I'm alone a lot. And the problem is I'm really good at being alone. So I've almost started to worry about that. And I've not been able to hold down any romantic relationships at all.

So this question is about romantic advice and your own sort of relationships being the entrepreneur you've been through the years have you been able to to hold down romantic relationships yeah I have I've had I've had relationships my last relationship basically like almost like attached by the hip really yeah I mean she was a really you know supportive she traveled me everywhere she was there for me why didn't it work so the reason why it didn't really work is because it almost became i felt codependent right and i was providing and doing everything and although she was completely supporting me, I noticed that she wasn't actually fulfilling what was her destiny. I felt like she didn't yet figure out her own independence and her own passions. And, you know, and I wanted that for her. And every time I would like try to inspire her and say, like, what is it that you want to do? I want to support you.

And I felt that she really wasn't doing that and she started to she started to open up to me about like certain things that I felt the only way that she would really grow is if I actually just let her go a little bit and let her go and like find herself what is it that she really wanted without you know without me kind of being such like a safety net for her so I wanted to make her life alone comfortable I absolutely love her to death. We still talk, we're friends, but she's out there and she's growing. What's the perfect partner?

If you had to pick three characteristics of the perfect partner for you, what would those things be? Considering your world and how busy you are and how focused you are and how big your mission is, what do you think the perfect partner would have as characteristics again this is a question i'm asking because perfect part because once upon a time i thought it was oh this color hair this color eyes yeah

you know these this kind of figure talk like this this kind of smart and then over time what i've done is i've got more and more down to just these fundamental principles so i'll share mine with you okay so my first one is they have to be sexually attractive and it's just a very human thing but they there has to be sexual attraction right the second thing is i would want them to be intellectually stimulating being able to have a conversation on this level without having to make myself smarter or dumber i think super important because you know when i think about relationships it's very much about there's you've got to love the person for time but also at night time and daytime if you know what i mean and you've got to love them for 80 years right regardless of looks

and appearances and then the last one is and this, I've kind of refined it recently, is just someone that makes me a better version of myself. And that's kind of an open-ended one intentionally. So it could be within my career, it could be spiritually, it could be in other factors, but someone that doesn't sort of suppress me, but they just make me a better version of myself. And those are my three things. If I can find someone that has those three things, then I think... You got it. I think those are really good. Okay, we can share. Yeah, I think those are my three things. If I can find someone that has those three things, then I think... You got it. I think those are really good. Okay, we can share. I think those are really good.

I mean, I really like the intellectually stimulating. I would definitely agree with that. I agree with all three of those, right? I mean, obviously you need to be sexually attracted, and I think you need to naturally have that kind of attraction. I mean, I want someone who is independent. You know, that we both have our own lives, but we support each other's lives. You know what I mean?

It's not that we depend on each other. We absolutely have that love for each other, but we also know that we're both our own individuals. I completely agree. And I think that's a really, really big one for me. I want someone that completely like can is okay with themselves they're okay with being alone you know what i mean they're okay with the in the they're completely independent that's and is that because you are and anybody that isn't would therefore take a little bit of that from you so by someone being

codependent they almost challenge your independence if you know what i mean i mean i'm a sagittarius i think i think from what i hear yeah like i 100 that is something that that i value is is i think that's part of being an entrepreneur right like that independence that freedom anytime anything that tries to confine me i like break away right like i guess why i couldn't be in a classroom yes you know what i mean so you know i think for me having someone that there's that absolute trust and and just like you you uh love each other's company but and and spend all that time but at the same time you allow that that independence you know and support that for whatever it is that they you know each other want to do i think

is really important to me i agree last question then founders yeah what does founders have to to feel like you fulfilled your mission? Or have you already? So I think this is like part of the reason why like I'm okay with death because I feel like I've done work with founders and built a brand that, you know, if I were to die today, would continue to live on because of like the meaning behind it is more than, you know, more than a business model.

Sure. You know, and we've touched 200 kids lives this past year, inner city kids, middle school and high school students. And I think what it needs to become as a social enterprise is, you know, it has to, on one side, I want it to be a community of like this, our generation of leaders that are out there that want to also make an impact in the world and that are entrepreneurs that are trying to create real problems to real solutions to problems in the world. But on the nonprofit side, like I really want to see us, I want to say improve the education system.

I think entrepreneurship, the principles of entrepreneurship, it's not that everyone needs to become an entrepreneur, but the principles of entrepreneurship and emotional intelligence and these things that are not being taught in school, I think I want founders to be an anchor in actually having the education system evolve and teaching entrepreneurship and emotional intelligence because I believe that entrepreneurs are the ones that will save this world and save this economy.

And we should be instilling that type of education at a younger age because it 100%, I think, saved my life. I believe that the school system is outdated so I want what it what I think it must become is something that helps evolve the education system for a younger generation so that they can go out and grow up and want to create solutions that bring people together that heal the world that's that's that's what I wanted to amazing to go to that's incredibly inspiring and you've certainly taught me a lot and I'm sure you're you're with your personal brand work and it's only getting bigger and bigger and bigger and you're impacting more and more people I'm sure

you're gonna achieve and have the the impact that I know you're set out to you've you've inspired so many people already as as you've said and you've been a role model to a generation and I think this generation need there's a lot of role models out there that I think this generation need. There's a lot of role models out there that I think are leading young people astray because going back to the point we'd said about values, they're teaching a set of values that aren't making the role model themselves happy. And so I think it takes a certain kind of person to be open and honest about that. I thank you on behalf of myself, but also all the sort of young people out there that are looking to someone like you to shout back down the ladder about what's up here. Do you know what I mean? Yeah.

So thank you. And thank you so much for your time today. Hey, absolutely. I appreciate it. And your work is unbelievable. So I look forward, like I said, I look forward to seeing how we can come together and build some great things, impact some people around the world. I mean, it seems like you've created an unbelievable brand around the UK, and you just moved to New York, right? Yeah, so I'm here now. So yeah, we need to have chats off camera. All right, let's do it. Let's do it. Thank you. Thank you so much for listening to this chapter. It means the world to me. If you can, please do subscribe to the podcast, and you'll be notified the minute it's released. I'm often

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