The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett - How I Built 5 Multi-Million Dollar Companies: Marcia Kilgore

Episode Date: September 27, 2021

Marcia Kilgore is responsible for revolutionising the beauty industry through the multiple multi-million dollar businesses she’s founded and built. She’s the woman behind Beauty Pie, Fit Flops, Bliss spas, Soap and Glory and Soaper Duper. Marcia moved to New York with just $300, which she spent on a gym membership, became a personal trainer and started a one room studio where she provided facials and spa treatments. Within a few years she’d built a spa empire and sold it to LVMH for millions and millions of dollars. What’s incredible about Marcia is she never stops moving and innovating, and she hasn’t just got lucky once with one successful business, but has managed to do it again and again. Now, Marcia runs a beauty empire. Today she tells us what it took to get to that point, what she’s learnt along the way, and what she had to give up. Follow Marcia: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marcia.kilgore Twitter - https://twitter.com/marciakilgore Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo

Quick one. Just wanted to say a big thank you to three people very quickly. First people I want to say thank you to is all of you that listen to the show. Never in my wildest dreams is all I can say. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd start a podcast in my kitchen and that it would expand all over the world as it has done. And we've now opened our first studio in America, thanks to my very helpful team led by Jack on the production side of things. So thank you to Jack and the team for building out the new American studio. And thirdly to to amazon music who when they heard that we were expanding to the united states and i'd be recording a lot more over in the states they put a massive billboard in time square um for the show so thank you so much amazon music um thank you to our team and thank you to all of you

that listen to this show let's continue you know when you have that kind of experience early you grow up very fast and you know what's important and you prioritize. So another deep question. All of these are deep questions. Yeah. Okay. So. Did you feel like a bit of a fraud?

No. No? I totally thought I knew what I was doing. People don't do that. They don't just like change. Well, you do when you're 20. They don't. People came back.

Madonna and Uma Thurman and Oprah. Marcia Kilgore, I can't actually believe what you're about to hear. I can't actually believe that one human being could have achieved that many successful business exits back to back. She's built companies like Soap and Glory, like Bliss, Beauty Pie, which she's building at the moment. And these companies have sold for tens and hundreds of millions. They've made hundreds of millions in annual revenue. And the remarkable thing is she's not just done it once. She's not just done it twice, not three times, not four times. She's done it five times. And I sat here with her trying to figure out why her? What was it about Marcia that made her achieve such tremendous things in her life? And I think we finally got there. I think we

finally found the answer. And is it something that you can replicate? A lot of it is. And I think that's what makes this podcast today so interesting. So without further ado, I'm Stephen Bartlett, and this is The Diary of a CEO. I hope nobody's listening, but if you are, then please keep this to yourself. There is so much that makes you unique. So much. And sometimes I think, and I think I'm guilty of this to some degree too, we don't always see ourselves as being unique because we're inside of our minds and we're you know we're behaving in the way that feels natural to us

but when I look at your story and the decisions you've made since you were very very young it's so clear to me that there's something so different about many things that are so different about you and I want to kind of get to the root of that what is the foundation of that difference

what was it what was the cauldron the experience that created the person you went on to become for the following, you know? Wow. That's starting with a very, very deep question, isn't it? It is. Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, I think that I grew up in a very small town and a small city in Canada at that time was, you know was relatively simple. And I always had a hunger to learn more and read more and find out more and kind of knew that I didn't really fit in in a small city. So very early on, I kind of started to think, well, what can I do and how can I get out of here? But I didn't have much guidance. So my father died early and my mom was not necessarily someone who would help me, you know, look at universities, for instance, or say, hey, you should really, your grades are really great. Why don't you study and do this or that? Because she had never done it herself.

So she, no one really in my family guided me. And at that point, there weren't really university counselors or anyone doing that job in high schools, at least in Canada. So I think for me, I realized quite early, probably when I was a teenager, that I just needed more stimulation and I needed more than what was there just to feel fulfilled and keep my curiosity going. Those teenage years, you have a lot of experiences and apparently what what happens during your teenage years, because your brain is forming in a very different way, and it's starting to sort of solidify, right? Those kinds of experience really stick with you through your whole life. And I remember having several part-time jobs when I was a teenager, all simultaneously while going to high school and never really finding a job where I thought that the person in charge of the business was doing it well.

So I worked at a gym, for instance, and I always thought they could do it so much better if they were just doing this, that and the other thing. I taught aerobics classes and I thought aerobics was so boring the way it was done and tried to do it, you know, in a very different way. So it was more fun for the people who came and just always trying to improve the experience because I was in quite a mediocre setting, lovely setting, but you know, very average, very, you know, middle Canada. And so that was probably a bit of the, a bit of the stimulation. On that point though, that, that sort of philosophy or even the thought that you could make something better. And that's, that's a point of difference that a lot of people don't have. Where did that come from in you so early that if something isn't good enough that you had the power within yourself to do something about it? Because I if you can connect the dots and see your way to something that might be more elevating for your mind and then for others and make something a little bit more fun, you can go deep into the childhood stuff, right? And just think about, I mean, there were situations in my childhood and it happens to a lot of people.

So I'm by no means unique in this respect, but where, for instance, and this would probably be more girls than boys, but at some point in every girl's existence in school, you become the unpopular one. How you feel maybe so much of an outsider when suddenly you're out and how painful that can be. I think probably in my experience, when I was suddenly not cool anymore, probably was really painful for me because I also feel things quite acutely. So trying also to think, well, if other people feel left out, how can you make them feel like they're more a part of something? And so most of the businesses that I create are very democratic. Bliss even, which was my spa that I created in New York. I

mean, we had everybody coming in from like Madonna and Uma Thurman and Oprah, right? But then the 12 year old kids who had chronic acne and their moms would bring them in to have facials. We treated everybody exactly the same way. I think one of my favorite memories from that was when I was actually giving a facial to one of these 12 year old kids that her mom had brought her from Boston

and Uma Thurman was in the locker room at the same time and helped her open her locker. So she comes into my treatment room and goes, Uma Thurman just helped me unlock my locker. It was so cute because everybody was the same and that makes me feel great. I think probably some of that experience as a child, not feeling equal, being left out maybe a little bit.

After my father passed away, we were not necessarily poor, but certainly not comfortable in any way, shape or form. At one point, we moved back to a small town and we kind of lived on the wrong side of the tracks. If there was a wrong side of the tracks, we lived on the wrong side of the tracks in this very small town where my mother's family was from. So you kind of felt like you weren't quite as good as everyone else, but that wasn't fair. And so very likely the idea of this democratization of the good stuff probably comes from that, but I'm sure you could grab any therapist anywhere and they would give you a different version of it the passing of your father seems to be quite a poignant point you seem to refer to it as like before and after how life was somewhat different and um after your father passed away um the requirement for you to develop like a real sense of independence seems to sort of really come

through I think I read it that you got you had had three part time jobs at one point. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I had to, I mean, my mother was a secretary, so she didn't have a huge income. At the time I was probably 11, right? So I didn't ask her, hey, do we have any money in the bank? You don't really ask those kinds of questions after the death of your parent. But I assumed just from the way that my mother, you know, acted that we weren't exactly stable or, you know, financially well off. So being, I think, the youngest, but yet potentially the most responsible of the three sisters, I kind of felt like I had to help and maybe help in order for her to feel better herself. Have you ever watched Jim Carrey?

He actually talks about, I mean, of course you've watched Jim Carrey, but there's an interview that he gives where he talks about his mother actually suffered from tremendous depression. And he learned to be funny because he wanted her to laugh and he wanted to see her feel good. And I know there is something about, okay, I'm going to have a paper route and I'm going to be a personal trainer or teach aerobics and I'm going to work as a waitress,

even though I'm not necessarily old enough to serve alcohol in this establishment. Whatever it was, I would just do it because I wanted to take the stress off of her. I didn't want her to think if I wanted a car or whatever it was that she was going to have to pay for it because I knew it was already quite stressful for her to just pay the rent. So I think you just do whatever is expected of you and it's fine, right? It's great. It's a skill. It's like a gift. In a way, you can look at it and just think well I developed that skill from 10,000 hours of practice maybe uh over a year or two and uh it was never hard for me to work again you mentioned the gym though personal training

oh yeah so when I moved to New York it's a long story but I then moved to New York when I was 18 after um my 12th grade and I got accepted to Columbia University and I was supposed to go, but I didn't have any money. And my sister who lived in New York said, I'll help you out with your tuition. But then she had a little snafu with her income that year. It was like a tax thing or whatever. Again, no big deal. And so I was in New York and I had no money to go to university. And it was too late because I was Canadian to get a foreign student loan.

So I decided to use the only skill that I had when I was, and I know you can tell this about me, but I was a bodybuilder. I know it's kind of hard to see now, but I was like a middleweight bodybuilding champion when I was a teenager. You know, between the three part-time jobs, I would then go to the gym at night and you know where did that come from because that's that is a that takes a degree of dare I say it dedication to say the least yeah it was it was random I think it was again my sister started dating this guy whose brother owned a bodybuilding gym and he said to

me hey you should come down to the gym because I was a long distance runner. And, you know, just to kind of let off steam, I think I just love to always go running. And so he said, oh, you should come down Miss Canada at the time, like Miss Canada, lightweight or featherweight or whatever. She worked out there. And so she put me through the paces and gave me a routine and all this kind of stuff. And I just went because it was something to do. But even then, though, a lot of people go to the gym, they train, whatever, two days, three days a week. For you to have gone from just walking in the door

to becoming a, like a junior bodybuilding champion or something. You know, I suppose, again, if you like had a therapist come in and say, oh, why would you do that? It's probably to give some kind of semblance control and the ability to achieve something, you know, to my life

which at the time i'm a teenager in a high school in the middle of saskatchewan school was not so hard for me yeah so what else am i gonna do sense of like purpose i guess and yeah and and to have that discipline you also have control right so if you can control your body then you could probably control other things if you can control your body then you could probably control other things and if you can achieve things with seeing how far you can take it then you know it just adds to the i guess the the challenge this is really you like a bit of a challenge i do i love challenge i also really love working out and i'm i will go to the gym every single day and i i you know what it was I had a I sat here with a entrepreneur and she

um is very well known she's got millions of followers online for bit for basically being a bodybuilder she describes herself as a bodybuilder she doesn't you know she's a very lean bodybuilder let's say but um and she told me that when she was in school she was outcasted a little bit and she would eat her like lunch in the toilets. Her name's Chrissy Cheller. And her going to the gym was in some respects an escape from all of that. It was like her way of, yeah, I think it gave her control. Building herself back up.

Yeah, if you think about physically what's happening, right? She's building herself back up. Yeah. Yeah. And when you start talking about sort of being excluded from the cool kids and stuff, and then that your bodybuilding became a big sort of you know future in your life at that age i wondered if there was a link or

um because it is it is an extreme thing it requires a a level of persistence and a an okayness with being uncomfortable physically uncomfortable you know what the gym was also full of adults and i think I was a young adult. So I probably had more of a mindset of an adult early. I'm not like the most intelligent human being on the earth, but I'm probably slightly more intellectual than most of the people that I was in school with. So I found my friends in an environment

where there were people working out and being healthy and just older and so I think that probably had something to do with it too you had people to talk to there that you could kind of connect to versus the teenagers who maybe were going through their teenage things I'd say also and I've had this conversation with you know if you've experienced a death in your family early or if you've had a parent or a sibling who's chronically ill or handicapped, you see life in a very different way, right? So if your father dies when you're 11, and you're in a high school with a group of girls, and they're all very catty, and you just think, really? You're not going there. It's not interesting to be part of that kind of crowd. You don't want to talk about those kinds of things. They're not important. And you know it because important and you prioritize. So it's hard to

find anyone to relate to if you have a bunch of teenagers who haven't, right? Are you saying that you didn't fit in? You didn't think you fitted into that? I don't have any friends from high school. Yeah. Okay. So did you fit in? No. Yeah. So yeah, I probably didn't fit in. I mean, didn't feel like an outcast in any way, shape or form, but I had not much to talk to them about. Right. What they were, what they wanted to talk about at that time just wasn't that interesting to me. So whether or not I was fitting in or not, I just didn't have the same interest, I guess, you know, as the other kids who were maybe able to grow up at a normal pace because of you know their normal existence so take me back then so you you get the place at columbia yeah i got a place at columbia and then it didn't work out that year and i thought oh maybe i'll save up and i'll go next year but i have to here i am in new york i have 300 right and my mom for it I was the third of three girls and the two older ones were a

bit of a handful right so she gave me for my grade 12 graduation present like a backpack that was also a suitcase and I was I was actually the really disciplined helpful one but I think she had just had it like by then she'd been through the death of my dad and then my my older sister who had moved away quite early and then my middle sister who you know was um i wouldn't say complicated but she'd been in a couple of car accidents like it was exhausting for my mother so by the time i was done high school i think she was just like see ya and i don't blame her right i'm single mom three girls you must be like up to here so she gave me this back and i moved and i actually moved in with my sister who was living in new york and um and i needed to work because i had to you know it was like well here i am i'm

not going back to saskatchewan and so i had to figure out what to do and the only skill i had at the time was like the body and so i got a gym membership at this place called Better Bodies which was on 19th street between 5th and 6th and it was the place where kind of everybody who was anybody you know back then like bodybuilding had started to kind of be a thing you know everybody's talking about Arnold I think pumping iron had kind of maybe just come out. I mean, this was way before Arnold was a governor. And so I went to the gym and Jean-Claude Van Damme worked out there and his wife, Gladys Portuguese, who was also this famous bodybuilder, and then all the kind of cool film directors and fashion designers, everybody went to this gym. However, they were

quite new to it. I had been like bodybuilding by then for three years or four years, maybe even. And so I looked great. Right. And so did Jean-Claude and so did Gladys, the rest of them, not yet. So I would have people come to me and I'm 18, right. And say, Hey, I want to, you know, I want to look like you because I wasn't really bulky. I looked like an Olympic athlete. And so they wanted how I looked. And so I charged them 15 or $20 an hour and do personal training, which, you know, back then for an 18 year old, it was a lot because minimum wage was probably 350. So I thought, oh, this is amazing.

And so I became a personal trainer to, you know, a lot of kind of celebs and they would then send me to their friend and refer me to this person or that person. And so it started out that way, but I kind of realized working in the gym for 15 bucks an hour was not going to pay my rent and or anything else. And probably was not that sustainable over the longterm. And I had no business skills as such, but I knew what good service was like, because with common sense, you know how you want to be treated and you know how you would want to show up. And I had no business skills as such, but I knew what good service was like. Because with common sense, you know how you want to be treated and you know how you would want to show up and how you want to treat your customer and how you try to make sure that they enjoy their experience

so that they have you back. Now, personal training is one of those things where most people who need a personal trainer hate exercise. Otherwise, you wouldn't really need a personal trainer hate exercise. Otherwise you wouldn't really need a personal trainer. So there was a lot of thought that went into like the, I would, I guess you would talk about it now as like a loyalty mechanic. Yeah. How can I get them to make sure they don't cancel? Right. Because they hate this.

Otherwise I wouldn't be coming. I have to make sure that this whole experience, they just looking forward to it so that every, you know tuesday and thursday or whatever i'm showing up and making my 40 bucks otherwise i wouldn't be able to pay my rent um so i think the early seeds of how do you get someone to come back and and how do you give service that's so above and beyond that there's nobody else who will try this hard it was planted then because you learn about loyalty and customer attention?

You gotta always be pleasant, right? I mean, you have to be patient. You have to be totally, absolutely focused on your customer, right? So it was about them. It was not about me. And I think there are a lot of people who slip into friend mode, right?

Or start to kind of talk about their problems. It's like no one is paying you to listen to your problems. So whether you are a personal trainer or giving a facial or waxing somebody's legs or whatever it is, nobody wants to hear about your stuff. That's not why they're paying, right? You're there to focus on them.

And no one gets enough attention. Maybe some people get enough attention, but most people don't get enough attention. They don't have someone who really listens to them, right? We're all rushing around all the time. So even to just be there, doing whatever it is you're doing, taking them through their paces,

running them up flights of stairs. I mean, I took people jogging right around Manhattan nine times a day. I was fed. And you went on to start Bliss. Yes. So from running around Manhattan nine times a day i was fed and you went on to start bliss yes so tell me from running around manhattan nine times a day running upstairs and in the summer especially my skin got quite bad and it had never been great you know through my teenage years everybody has a little bit of you

know acne etc etc but mine i'd never quite solved it and i bought a lot of products to try and solve it and i actually personally trained somebody who worked at one of the hot skincare brands at the time. He gave me everything and nothing really worked. And so I thought one summer, in the summer when you're a personal trainer in New York, all of your clients generally will go to the Hamptons. And so for me, that was like two months without income, right?

No one pays you when they're not working out. So I thought I can either go to the Hamptons. And so for me, that was like two months without income, right? No one pays you when they're not working out. So I thought I can either go to the Hamptons and be captive in somebody's house because you then become kind of like people would drag you to the beach and say, oh, here's my personal trainer. And you just, it was not a good dynamic for somebody like me who does not, I want freedom. So I decided I found, I found this skincare, it was like a school. And I decided to take this crash course in how to fix your own skin. And it was actually how to do facials. But I was taking it for myself.

And then I realized I really loved it. And then I convinced my very trusting, and I am so grateful to them, but personal training clients. These were, you know, some A names and they let me. Name drop. They let me practice on them. Name drop. Like at the time. Oprah?

Oh yeah. I've had Oprah. Yeah. But when I, very, very early on, it was more like Paul Simon and Carrie Fisher. So I mean, everybody, everybody was anybody kind of came in and let me do their face. And it was a real, everybody was anybody kind of came in and, and let me do their face. And it was a real, it was like a real gift to be trusted with people who relied on their faces for their work. Right. That early stage. Your own location in Manhattan. Well, it started with people coming to my, to my apartment. Oh, okay. Yeah. So I would personally train people by running all over Manhattan during the day.

And then at night, because my sister had some connections with the modeling industry, let's just say, she had some bookers who had some other models who had terrible skin. And so they would send these models to me because I was known, I guess. I mean, I didn't even have a reputation for knowing

what I was doing, but, and they would come to my apartment in the East Village and literally lie on the floor. Did you feel like a bit of a fraud in those early days when you were like? No, no. I totally thought I knew what I was doing. Okay. Yeah. Because I worked so hard, right? So I knew the steps of a facial and I had never had a facial somewhere where it was any different than what I was doing. And I knew that I was more, you know, where a normal facial would take an hour, I would spend two and a half on somebody. So I knew that if I didn't necessarily have the best technique, I was going to try harder. And so I'd make up for it that way. People came back and then

they sent me all their friends and then they sent me all their friends. And then suddenly, you know, it was like a social club. You couldn't get people out of the house. So I'd have to get up at 5am to go do a personal training session with somebody. Someone would have come over for a facial at eight o'clock at night, the night before. I finished them at 1030 and then they'd want to chat. And it was like, I got to get an office because I got to get these people out of here because you're kind of stuck in your apartment and it's hard to then get the client to then go when they're in your house there seems to be a theme emerging here which is I mean you only just told me about two kind of professional pursuits the personal training and now the the facial business as it started um but

you're really you seem as to be someone that's really remarkable at customer experience because the fact that you can't get them out your house um and that you're you know these personal training clients are you know letting me do yeah yeah letting me experiment on them with wax and things like that yeah yeah that's like a really underrated thing. I mean, what we're talking about there is fundamentally like sales. Sales, I guess, and trust. Yeah. Yeah.

Which I think is part of sales, right? Like trust is a super important part of being, you know. And sales, you know, if you're selling. It sounds bad, I know. Doesn't it? Yeah, because I mean, I hate the idea of sales, but I love selling. Yeah.

But I couldn't sell something if I didn't think it was great. Don't ask me to sell something I don't love because I can't do it. But if I love something, I could sell it to anybody. So I guess it's more about aligning your moral conviction with whatever it is that you are then selling. Do you consider yourself a salesperson? Well, would I say I'm a salesperson that's a really

hard so without the stigma yeah let's remove the stigma well everything is sales right exactly yeah you just have to be look you got to be pleasant right unless you're some kind of genius that people need to have around the world gets to choose who they're interacting with. And so if you want in any area of your life, right, if you want to have like great team members in your office, you better be pleasant to be around or they're not going to stay. If you want to, you know, meet with an editor or a journalist or who are they going to write about? Probably the people, A, yes, everybody's got an interesting story, but those who they like are probably going to get a little further than those who are assholes. Right? Interesting. Yeah. Do you consider yourself a salesperson? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But without you, I have the same allergic

reaction to the term where I'm like forcing, because we're not, we're not forcing things upon people that we don't believe in. you're helping them find what they probably would have bought but find the right one yeah sales is persuasion it's body language it's communication it's the way you know the passion you have for what you're talking about and and it's delivering information in a way that helps somebody make a choice without feeling stressed right because generally i think if you if you are trying to get someone to try something, right, but you're pushing it in the wrong way that isn't aligning with what they need to hear about it, then that is a failed sale. Yes. Because actually you should be listening.

And if they don't think you're objective, right? And this is one of the things that I think has been most successful with my longest standing clients for my previous company was they knew that i would come there and i would tell them when our work was bad yeah so i would say don't do this it's a waste it's going to waste your money yes but these things here i actually think are going to work really well so the minute i would say but these things here they'd go yes yeah because they felt i was it's trust it's trust also right exactly yeah which is sort of number one isn't it it's trust it's trust also exactly yeah which is sort of number one isn't it it's like worse for us better for you yeah yeah and if people feel like you're aligned with them doing better which is what you always should be anyway yeah because that's just listening to the customer and giving

i mean it's so basic right it's back to the basics of you listen to them and you give them what they're asking for and that that's sales, actually. So if you, they'll tell you, any customer will tell you what they want. Do customers always know what they want, though? No, no, definitely not, right? Somebody said to me, and they weren't talking about customers, they were talking about buyers at department stores. So the people who are employed by department stores to purchase the merchandise that then gets sold on to customers.

And he said, buyers, department store buyers are experts at yesterday, right? And to some extent, it's true. They look at their data from before. And so, of course, if you look at the world, the percentage of people who are visionary enough to think about something new that people might want, it's probably quite a small percentage. and all the rest of the people think in a different way and you know provide a lot of value to the world in different ways but there are select few i suppose who think of the new stuff and like that's our job and then of course you have to get people to come with you which is difficult sometimes because they don't necessarily see it so you've got to figure out how to describe it to them whether that's by pictures or words or

however else that's the sales or words or however else. That's the sales part, right? Yeah, I suppose so. It's also a lot of psychology. I mean, there's so many barriers, right? I mean, have you ever, I mean, do you read behavioral economics? Behavioral economics? Yes, I've read like the psychology of money,

which I think is pretty much behavioral economics. And then I did a course on psychology and most of my books in there are psychology books but there's so many fascinating books like by dan arieli or richard thaler or daniel kahneman and they they won you know nobel prizes for the behavioral economics which is the opposite kind of of economics and the theories of economics don't include human beings and their behavior and their emotions so behavioral economics is all about how the emotions that we have interact with uh you know with economics to create different outcomes from buying decisions that

would normally be expected people will rationalize things based on what they've done before yeah right so this mental framework around old things so if you're trying to create something new very often you have to relate it to something existing and people can more easily understand what you're talking about because you can say oh it's like this yeah but da da da da da but very often it's hard for people they don't have a mental framework or a mental model of how something already works yeah if you come in with something really radical and disruptive they don't know what to place that no and so it's really so much easier like with beauty pie right we're a buyers club in england apparently people don't know what a buyers club is in america everybody knows what a buyers club is right because there's uh's Sam's Club and there's Costco, which isn't the same in England as it is in America. Costco in America has like the highest household income per customer.

Oh, really? Because people just pull up in their Range Rover and buy, you know, they sell diamonds at Costco, right? Oh, yeah. But it's always a deal. So, Beauty Pie, right, is kind of like Costco, but for luxury cosmetics and skincare and wellness products. And so we source from all these fantastic labs and we get the highest quality stuff.

And then people can buy it. If you're a member of the club, you buy it cheaper than wholesale. But people in England don't know the concept. So you have to think, well, it's kind of like Netflix, right? But then you have to actually pay for your product so it's not really like netflix so it's kind of like you know you have to you're always doing this mental modeling so that people can understand it really easily by comparison yeah yeah yeah so you with bliss you start this business you move into your own location and then talk to talk to me about experience of, because that was your first real kind of like

business, business, employees. How was that and scaling that business until the point when it was acquired? Yeah. Yeah. So, I mean, it was a fantastic experience. We started quite small. I had a tiny place called Let's Face It before I had Bliss and I had probably five employees, three rooms. So we had a manicurist, we had a receptionist And I had probably five employees, three rooms. So we had a manicurist, we had a receptionist, we had a couple of other facialists. On certain shifts, we'd have a massage therapist come in. Somebody did the laundry that wasn't me. That was, you know, I used to have to take the laundry out. On Avenue B, I would have to like carry these huge bags of laundry from the facials to Avenue A and like do the laundry at night, which was also

really crazy. If you think back, you could never do this if you were older. This is definitely a 19, 20 year old's gig to be working all day and then going doing laundry on Avenue A and 7th Street all night to get the towels done. But yeah, I opened, let's face it, first and had probably five, six, seven employees. And it was great because it was small enough for me to handle. I had no experience with employees. So just understanding the operations of a business and scheduling. And I mean, I really rate doing it versus learning about it. And of course I never learned about it. So I never learned how to go structure a business. I never ended up in business school. I just did it. And then I saw the patterns along the way of what goes wrong when you do this or what you should look out for. And especially a lot of patterns with people. I think

that, you know, being able to recognize patterns is a part of either an emotional intelligence or just some, it's a type of intelligence that's been very helpful. And the older you get, the faster you recognize the patterns because you've just been around for longer. And you can see also, I'm sure you've seen this, types of people. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, so you know that type of person. And you kind of can almost suss people out

after you've spent 10 minutes with them. You kind of know what to expect or... It's kind of what you're describing earlier but like understanding something by comparison so i have the same thing now in business where you and you just we're talking about there is like you've done more experiments when you get older so yeah you can kind of predict the outcome yes and out that type of person behaves in that type of way and when you notice this happening it's probably because of this and it ends like this so you go fuck that exactly that it's like oh no here we go but also i think there's a i mean there's a beauty of having it happen to you over and over and over again because you realize oh here we go again when

this person does that thing and it ends like this well the last time it ended like this well i hired this person it ended like and it's fine yeah and well, the last time it ended like this, well, I hired this person and it's fine. And so you don't panic as much, right? When you're younger and you lose people who were working for you in your business, you think the world is going to end. And then, you know, very often it's just different when you hire somebody else, right?

And usually the new person will bring something completely additive to the table. And so it's actually a good thing, but it takes a long time to get to that point where when someone's quitting, you're going, great, see ya. It is like excruciatingly offensive. Or that you lose sleep over it. You know, I rarely will lose sleep anymore if someone is going,

because you always also think if they're not really thrilled to be here and and working like at top level then probably they'll be happier somewhere else and and that means more happiness will also come into that spot and when you're young in business the story you tell yourself about what that person quitting means is just deeply illogical and riddled with like fear and emotion yes and it's about you it's personal yes instead of it being about them. Yeah. Yes. And, but when you get older and you see these good people go and,

you know, come and go, you realize that it is what it is. It's an echo system, isn't it? Yeah. It's not a fight you could have ever win. No company has ever managed to keep a hundred percent of their employees for a sustained period of time.

So, so what, how'd you get to that point to exiting the business? Oh, okay. So, well, at Bliss, so we, we launched Bliss in, I think, July of 2000, or sorry, 1996.

So we opened, I had three treatment rooms before that in my little place called Let's Face It. And I opened, I think, nine treatment rooms and then we put a nap room in the next place, which was called Bliss. And, you know, back in the 90s 90s we didn't have there wasn't social media there was no way to really get the word out fast unless you had an article in a magazine and because that really like moved the needle oh my it was a completely different moment now you get a full page in the new york times right you get traffic to your website for a day yeah nothing no nothing because it's so spliced up right everything is so temporary back then you got an article in vogue and your phone rang for

18 months yeah it was so much easier however you had to be good enough to get an article in vogue so there were a million people doing what you did but you had to make sure that the experience that you were offering was cool enough beautiful desirable, that all of your people were trained well, that the results were good, et cetera, et cetera. And so we were great. We gave great, great service. Can I ask you a question on that? Yeah. Do you think service was better back in those days because there was less ability to, because what you said there is like you had to be good enough to get on those very few big big

stages yeah whereas these days you can kind of ship products and ship people can pay to be seen much easier than they probably could have back then i'm guessing and get an endorsement from a from a vogue yeah um so is it it's not sustainable though is it how many times can you pay if actually people don't come back more than once and word of mouth then becomes your you know starts to bring to your business still the same right it's all the same like today is the same it's just split into different stuff but if you can't keep that customer for more than one two three transactions you might as well go home yeah yeah so you yeah you gotta figure it out at the beginning like what is going to be so much better how is going to be that much better how are you going to deliver it consistently right make sure

that she is never or he is never disappointed or they are never right disappointed and you you have to look at i mean if you look at acronyms right this ltv to cac stuff which i hate thinking of it that way but because it's humans, right? It's like, well, how many transactions is this person going to come back for three years and be a loyal customer and order stuff from you six times a year? Or are they going to order once and go, eh, it has to be pretty compelling. When you look back at why you were successful in that business, is it because of that attention to detail? Oh yeah. In bliss. Oh my God. Yes. How extreme were you? So extreme, extreme, extreme, extreme. I mean, everything from how you laid on that table to what the sheets smelled like to how you bolstered their knees so that the backs of their heels,

when they were lying for a facial for 60 minutes, the backs of their heels wouldn't ache because their knees were elevated the right way to the wax that you put on their hands, to how much you massaged them, to the responses that you would give. And we trained everybody in terms of the customer says this, it's all about them, right? It's about making them feel good. Not only their face, their body, whatever you're treating, but mentally, right? It's not about you. There are no complaints. You don't whine about anything. It's all about making them thrilled, feel great about themselves, look great. They should walk out of there feeling like we had literally, I think the testament to it when you think back is crazy loyalty. So people would come in for their facials and say they came in on Tuesday night at seven

evenings. Of course, we're always booked. We closed at 10, but so you only have like a 6.30 to eight or eight to nine 30, or, you know, you kind of back it out usually an hour and a half for a facial. So really there were only two evening slots unless you left work early. And then there were three evening slots, 10 rooms. That means you got 30 people in an evening. Other people, they want to come in, they got to like make an excuse to their boss and come during the day, right? Or take a day off work to come for their facial, which people actually did. But people would book their spot every month for two years, right? So that they wouldn't miss it. And if they had to change, they would call and say, could you swap me with somebody else because I don't want to miss it? Or they would have a friend book a different slot and then they would swap with their friend.

And so we had a waiting list of people who just wanted to come in. And we were booked every day, all day for probably a year in advance for those 10 treatment rooms. But we would keep a waiting list. And if we didn't get people in, now this is the day, no email, right? Okay. There was not email. I thought you got no emails one day. I was like, what did you do? No, there were no emails. Yeah. So you had the phone and you had your computer booking system, but you couldn't just mass email everybody. So we would literally keep a list of people

who were waiting for appointments. And at the end of each day, if we didn't get them in on a cancellation, we'd call every single one and apologize. And then tell them. So at seven o'clock, somebody would start the sorry calls. We'd call them the sorry calls. And you would just call them. Whose idea was that? Me. So you have clearly very, very high standards.

Yes. For detail. Yeah. How do you police that amongst people that might not have the same high standards? Well, they're not my people. So you'd fire them? Well, they would probably be better elsewhere where their standards were more aligned with the business that they were working for. I mean.

It's very bureaucratic, aren't we? Well, I mean, you hire people, then you see if they can operate in your, I mean, look, if you're the Olympic hockey team and you've got a goalie who's terrible, they can't stay or you're not going to win, are you? So it's not about firing them. It's like, is this a team member who belongs on this team? Yeah, fire, I guess you would say, yes, you would fire them. You would try. How uncompromising were you about the standards? Very uncompromising.

I mean, we also wrote thank you notes, right? So every person who came in for a treatment, whether it was an eyebrow wax or a manicure or a facial or a massage, the person who did that treatment had to write a thank you note and it got posted out that night. If you weren't uncompromising about those standards, those little thank you notes, that apologies, you know, for the waiting list. Well, then they knew we were still thinking about them, right? So they thought I have a chance. They haven't forgotten about me. And we were grateful that they were waiting to come in and pay us money. I mean, they're giving you a paycheck, aren't they?

Do you think you'd be sat here now if you hadn't been uncompromising with the standards in Bliss all those years ago in 1996? I think you know the answer to that question. Of course I wouldn't. Because it, you know, it follows that question of course i wouldn't because it you know it follows yeah it compounds you just know what good looks like and then you know what people respond to and that people want to be treated you know with respect and you know with gratitude right your customer you're handing over your heart and moneyarned money to somebody, they better be grateful. And that also keeps you going every day, right? There's so much science about gratitude and how just starting your day with thinking, wow, I'm so lucky, right? I'm

thinking about those things that you're lucky to have. I think I've always operated businesses with that idea of, I am grateful that people come to me to buy something or they trust me with their face right or they'll get up at seven o'clock in the morning and pay me forty dollars to teach them an aerobics class in their living room I mean they could be they could be sponsoring so many other people but they're sponsoring me and isn't that so generous of them if I were to ask you on that um if i were to ask you and this is tough to do in hindsight but i think we're all capable of doing it in that period of your life and those early moments and really throughout your career what is it about you that

made you successful i mean i've picked up on one which is really high standards the other one i've picked up on i picked up on the minute you walk through the door which is you're just a very pleasant human being and i'm like all of these things if you if they compound over like 30 years you're going to get to a really good place but is there anything else within you know some people are visionaries they are you know whatever is there anything else where you say do you know what that's probably a trait of me that made me successful yeah I connect the dots okay in new ways so So if that were to be kind of my thing, it's about, have you read the book?

It's called Originals by Adam Grant. Yeah, it's on there. Yeah. So someone gave it to me. Actually, the art teacher in my son's school gave it to me and said, this sounds like you. And I read it and I was like, oh, you know, when you think you're special. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And then you read a book and you're like, nope, I'm not special because everybody, he's got it down. Like every chapter is like, oh yeah, this is me. Oh yes, this is me. This is me. And he talks about in the book about how you become an expert in your area, right? So you are very deep in expertise in one particular area, but then you're very curious about all this other stuff, which is me. I scan everything, right? Whether or not I'm really interested in it,

I got newsletters coming out of my eyeballs and I just kind of scan and I'll click on things. And sometimes I'll just force myself to read something that I have no interest in at all, just because there might be something in there. And I think from doing that, I find new ideas. That's what creativity is, isn't it? Yes.

I think. But you have to feed it. Yeah, exactly. It's like top of funnel, mid funnel, bottom of funnel, right? And so if you don't have enough top of funnel, you dry up at the bottom where, you know, there's nothing that comes through. And then being able to kind of edit a good idea from a mediocre idea, right? Yeah.

I guess if you come up with a lot, the more you feed the funnel then the more stuff you have to look at and then being able to know which one is the one that is actually going to resonate with enough people that it's actually a business because a lot of people i think can be quite navel gazing in i have this idea and people will care yeah so i can also be quite brutal with my own ideas and just go cares you think about it for a couple of months and then you have to be able to not fall in love with your own ideas kind of like with writing so writers will say a really great writer is like you can't fall in love with your own words you need to be able to go into your writing and just chop it out right just so it's succinct and you

like you can't love what you did you have to hate what you did and cut it all down so that just the crispy parts are there and I think it's the same with ideas you can spend a lot of time on stuff that nobody cares about and so you have to be able to edit so interesting I completely agree I think about the the successes I've had in my life and it was just a process of like multiple sources from multiple disciplines pull one little dot as you've said from those different disciplines and then when they come together so it could be like cryptocurrencies music and my knowledge of social media and then you come together and you go oh together it makes something new and interesting and valuable as a these three different points of inspiration um i was going to ask you the

question when we're talking about that i was like can you teach someone in your experience to be better at thinking of good ideas i think you can provide the uh environment okay right but not everyone's going to be able to do that so there is going to be a cohort of people who just don't think of new ideas and they're probably really good at other things. And that's okay because the world needs all of them, right? It's like Switzerland. Some people are plumbers, but they still make a hundred grand a year and everybody's happy.

So if we put people in the right seats on the bus, there's such a position. And that of course is management, isn't it? It's trying to find when someone has talent, but not in a particular area, you make sure they're doing the right thing. But I think you can, you see this a lot in business school.

Not that I've been there, but I've sat on a lot of panels with people who are entrepreneurs, right? And they're entrepreneurs because they have done a business plan. They've done a business model. They've modeled out what if what you know we can do this is they haven't come up with oh wait just like you said if i connect this and this and do

it this way or right then i can make this happen they've they've said well i've gone to harvard and now i'm going to model out this business plan and i think if we do this something that we can make oh look it's a profit yeah and so there's two ways to come by it and i guess both are valid and especially these days um the there's so much money in the universe that people will invest in so many things that you could actually get to a a good result by just putting a business plan down you're having tons of money. And having gone to Harvard, which is much easier to get money. Yes.

Being in Silicon Valley and being a white male. All that kind of stuff. Yeah. So it works. Yeah, yeah. Is it full of passion? Yeah. I don't know.

Maybe if you're passionate about making money, that's a passion. It's not my way to do it because I just have to be passionate about whatever it is I'm making or selling or, you know, whatever I think I'm improving. If it's improving people's existence, then I'm passionate about it. And it was like, so amazing to be at Bliss and have people coming in and walk out the door after their treatment, feeling like so happy and you could see it, right?

And they just had such a great time. And you thought, well, I'm responsible for that. And what a great thing to do all day. And then the same with beauty pie, right? Is, wow, people open up these boxes that they get delivered. And it's like a fairy tale and it didn't cost them much. So they can treat themselves because everybody needs a little lift once in a while.

And to be able to get this incredibly deluxe stuff for such an affordable price, you know every time one of those boxes opens up that somebody is just feeling thrilled. And that is a reason to like show up in the morning, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, one of them sounds like a really sustainable fulfilling intrinsically driven journey and the other one sounds a bit like

yeah like you know the pursuit of trying to get rich which is is harder to sustain quite honestly because on the hard days on the hard i was going to say you know it gets exclusively difficult yeah so one day there's going to be many days that it's you'd probably quit if you weren't just truly just living for it yeah yeah regardless of remuneration but speaking of money you sell bliss at some point yeah so in 1999 we had quite a few um interested buyers is that three years after yeah that's quick we were great i can tell three selling the company three years later you know yeah at my at the age i was it was quite hilarious i would have been 30 super young yeah 30 when we sold it uh so i sold 70 to lvmh that's nuts it was nuts you know we had a few different large cosmetic conglomerates kind of circling around

yeah um one came in and gave me a big presentation and they had champagne ready and we're talking about how they put me in a studio by myself and i could just be creative you know this you're talking to a girl who does facials and waxes people's legs do i want to go to a studio by myself i mean my favorite thing was knowing i'd look at my list of who was coming in that day and it was like oh i get to see this person this person that the joy was all the people right so they oh we're going to give you a loft and right and then we had another one who came in and said we want to turn your spot into a spa under this brand name which i thought what why would you buy it if you yeah and then there was lvmh who flew me to paris on the conc. No, he didn't. Yes, he did.

And took me out for lunch. Textbook LVH. It was quite fabulous though, I have to admit. It sounds it. Wow. And it was hilarious when I got back to Brooklyn, when I flew back from Paris on the Concorde and it was the middle of the West Indian Day Parade in Brooklyn. So I'm in a taxi from the airport going back to the spa,

although it was a holiday day. And I was going, we had redone the floors and I was going just to make sure that everything was dry and move the furniture back into the place. So I'm on the subway because I couldn't get a taxi to take me all the way in because the West Indian Day Parade was blocking Flatbush Avenue. And I was on the subway going towards my Prince Street stop and there was Coke spilled all over it. Not Coke, but you know, like Coca-Cola spilled all over the seats and drunk people everywhere. And I'm standing there going, I wonder if I'm the only person on this subway who was on the Concorde this morning. I thought, yeah, probably, probably all those other people are in their car services. It was pretty funny.

So anyway, they were the most interesting. They loved the business. We were kind of hot at the time. They were looking for American acquisitions. I think they had moved Sephora also into America at the time. So they thought it would be kind of a good partnership. And, you know, the price was right. And I thought, well, I've been starving for, since I moved to New York, right month it was kind of like do I have enough money to pay the rent yeah and I just thought well is this gonna happen again you don't know you don't know if you'll ever be offered like a big chunk of change like that so and you 100% own the company at this point yeah yeah so you and you didn't raise the money outside capital they bought 70%

of the business for tens of millions we'll'll just say, right. Yes. Unbelievable. Yeah, I know. I mean, you could have just stopped there, right? You could have just stopped there and. Oh my God, it was 30. What are you going to do? I'm a hypocrite because I, yeah. Yeah, you're not going to just stop there,

where you're going to go like stand at your fridge all day. But I mean, most people will just land that one big bag in their life. If they're lucky, if they're extremely lucky and in the minority, but then you went again and you created a business called soap and glory which a lot of people know in this country yeah it was big yeah soap and glory was big really big at the time you know it was um if i was i was reading a lot of newspapers and there was a lot of collaborating going on between kind of designer brands and you know the high street and i thought wouldn't it be

fun just to kind of make a a really great brand um that has we couldn't do at drugstore prices you can't really do high quality like super high quality product and sell it at a drugstore price when you're going through the retail food chain because there's all the markups right so you had to try and make really like i'd say i won't say high quality but good quality products for a price point and make them really fun and i just thought you know what let me try doing something that's using all the puns i'm a bit of a writer so i love to write copy and so it was all about making the products kind of fun and, you know, good quality for just the right price to kind of, you know, be mass. And I launched in Harvey Nichols and it was actually quite a good success, but Harvey

Nichols only has Knightsbridge and then a few other stores around the country. And I knew I wasn't going to be able to make much of a splash just being in Harvey Nichols on a few shelves. So Boots came to us and said, you know, would you like to roll out into different Boots stores? That was really interesting because I thought this is going to be amazing. Oh, my God, we're going to go into Boots. We're going to make like millions. And I remember I think we were in 300 Boots stores. And you just for some reason, you just think, OK, if it's in Boots, right, every Every brand you see in boots, you think, oh, they're making a fortune.

And I remember we launched. And I think that the first week, I think we did $300. Yeah. And then I couldn't figure out why. So I go into my local boots and it's on the bottom shelf. And so that was, they don't reset the shelves for 10 months. So you start just thinking oh my god i'm gonna be making 300 a week for 10 months until they reset the shelves and i fight my way

to the top i need to get back into just the gap there in that period though when you've you've left bliss and you're you're not doing anything now you have a lot of money so you don't really need to worry about the bills or the rent anymore, anything like that. I'm just intrigued because I've- I took a month off. Okay. One month? Yeah. It wasn't enough. That's not a long time. It wasn't enough. It wasn't enough. I took six months between my last sale and figuring out

what to do next. Six months was better. One month. One month. So in that one month what are you doing you're doing I went on holiday to the south of France okay so you go on holiday to France then you come back and you're just straight into it yeah yeah just you know ideas I mean I always have ideas so I'll be walking down the street I'll get an idea so you kind of jot them down and then the ones that keep bubbling up to the surface those are the good ones I love I love this I read about I read about you talking about this because I it rang so true to me because we all people like you and um creative people generally will get and you yeah I don't want to bring myself into I'm trying to be humble here um people will get lots of ideas lots of the time

and the process in which you decide which one to go is on which ones should just be disregarded I find fascinating and I've only been able to understand it in hindsight, why I pick certain ideas and why I just let other ones go. But how do you filter out the ones that are worth pursuing and the ones aren't? Okay, so there's something I call the so what test. Okay. So you ask yourself, so what? Tell yourself your idea and then ask, well, so what? And if you cannot explain why you would want to do that or why anybody should care in one sentence, it's not a good enough idea. Nice. Yeah.

But you also let them sit for a while, right? Yeah. Because there's so many. You have to, the ones that are just sort of average, they just, they go away. Right. And the good ones kind of stay at the top and you think, I've got to do you think i've got to do that i've got to do that that's really good i would buy that of course here's the other cheat right i only sell stuff that i would buy so i can't you know it would be difficult for me if i'm trying to create a business centered around something that i don't want or have a need for i don't know if i would be as good at it. Super easy to do beauty pie because I

love beauty products. I love candles. I love supplements. I know all the good labs. I've worked with them for 30 years. I know where to get the good stuff. I'm going to buy it anyway. I would like to buy the high quality stuff. I don't want to have to pay retail. Okay. So obvious that one, right? With Fit Flop, it was was i could not find a pair of shoes that actually felt comfortable on my feet and i love you know i love uh fashion i can't believe how many businesses you've started and how many of them have done so well it's not that many it is i have one more i have one more but it's not i can't tell you i'll kill you it's not, I can't tell you, I'll kill you. It's not Soapadooper? Yeah, that also.

Oh, you forgot about that one. Yeah, but actually that one is taking a hiatus because our supplier shut down during COVID. I can't do that for my kids. And so it was, yeah, well, it's still around, except our supplier shut down. And so we have to reformulate everything. So Soap and Glory is a business that even I know, and I'm not, you know.

Yeah, you're not a cosmetics guy well you know well because at christmas oh maybe you'll be you can be a beauty pie beauty guy yeah but no i knew i know the brand yeah it's a very very well-known brand so because we used to take over that week before christmas at boots we would literally have hundreds of thousands of those big pink bags that people would be able to buy for a really crazy deal. That was also, I guess, a learning, just seeing like how much people love a deal. And every, it was almost every year that we would be this sort of Christmas bumper bag. I would see women leaving boots with like three on each arm because they were buying them for all of their friends when you think of that business why was it successful and um what was your what's

your sort of emotional memory recollection and memory of that phase of your life um gosh that's a another deep question all of these are deep questions yeah okay so well emotional recollection I mean it was great to be able to build something, it was great to be able to build something new. It was great to be able to build something that was popular in a different country. Right. So you didn't just do it in America. You also could do it in the UK. Like Ronaldo. Yeah.

Maybe I'm not so good with the ball. But it was exciting to do something mass, like at mass price points, because you could reach more people. So more people. So more people could afford the joy that you were trying to bring through that product. So that's always really nice because having something that's only affordable, while I love high quality things, the exclusion of people that comes along with a luxury price point, I don't like so much, right? So the idea of luxury for affordable, of course, is also the holy grail. So building, it was, you know,

building Soap and Glory was also a real experience in terms of learning how to deal with a retailer who really had a monopolistic grip on a country, right? Because Boots was the power you know the all-powerful and so that was a real learning curve how big did soap and glory get i think we sold we were selling probably 100 plus million dollars of the stuff a year through boots fuck that's a lot of money it was not bad it was it was big it was big yeah it was big i mean it could could be it

could have been bigger could have been bigger yeah i mean it was great for me i don't you know what's the difference between like 50 100 100 weeks yeah yeah you just it's like after you can pay your rent and eat and buy as many t-shirts as you need yeah you know your life doesn't change that much right but you want to you want to bring out more and see how much you can do and see if you can offer even yeah better stuff so you sold that business i guess two boots yeah in uh 2014 2014 not so long ago it really wasn't yeah no but seven seven years yeah yeah they really wanted it and how did you feel when you, when you, when you, they made the offer, you accept the offer. Did it feel again? Like the, was it,

was there a loss of orientation in your life? No, because. Oh, here we go. Yeah. Well, at the same time I had Fitflop, right? So my footwear brand is also big ish. Yeah. I've heard about it. We're going to be big ish again. You know, 65 countries, we sell a lot of shoes. It could be bigger. And it it going to biggish again uh you know 65 countries we sell a lot of shoes

could be bigger it could and it's gonna be bigger um and yeah and so i sort of had one thing to still grip onto and to really focus on and to make sure that that quality and and dream about what kind of product we're going to produce for the next season it's all kind of the same way just product development and then rolling it out and trying to learn, you know, given that feedback loop that you get from, from the product that you're launching. Remarkable. Um, your, your partner is also an entrepreneur. Yes. Yep. He does now Costa Rican, um, echo tourism. How, how is that working with, uh, not working working with how is it to have a partner that's also in the field of entrepreneurship because you know what it is i'm gonna ask you a question here

because i'm super curious maybe you can help me i've always wondered if as an entrepreneur it would make more sense to be with an entrepreneur or someone that just does nothing sits at home just you know yeah nice and simple. Yeah, being there. Yeah, exactly. Well, it depends, I suppose, on your appetite for risk and if you have risk anymore. So if you've already managed to, you know, sell something and you have a little bit of money in the bank,

then having two people going out there and risking it all is okay because you have something to fall back on. I think certainly having a partner who understands what you're going through day to day and will listen to you. You know, we talked about being able to see someone. It's so important to have someone who sees you and who can understand what it might be like for you on a day that's really hard and offer you that kind of support. My husband is great with that. Like he, I couldn't ask for somebody who supports me more. And he does the stuff that I, you know, necessarily don't want to do in terms of that family stuff.

And we pick up the different programs, I suppose, really beautifully together because he'll take care of some stuff and I take care of other stuff. And when you come home, are you good at sort of compartmentalizing the work stuff and then like switching off and being present with family? Maybe not always.

I appreciate the honesty. I'm not going to tell anybody. I don't know if you can be, right? Because sometimes work is really interesting also, right? So I've got two teenage boys, right? They sometimes come out of their rooms, sometimes not. And so sometimes I'll be on social media, chatting with customers, right? Giving them advice, telling them what to use on their skin. It's actually, it's quite social as it is social media. I go home at night because I'm hoping they will come out of their rooms and I can spend time with them. But we have dinner and then they usually go want to, you know, play video games because all their friends are on video games. So if they do come out of their room, you know, at some point, I might be in the middle of something. Am I really good at just turning that off and saying,

I am here for you, young man? Not always, sometimes, but sometimes what I'm doing is actually more interesting than talking about the basketball game that, you know, the NBA, blah, blah, blah, or whatever it is. And I'm maybe not the best at switching attention gears, but I'm trying and I'm mindful of it. Yeah, yeah. Is it something that you think you want to be better at? Yes, absolutely.

Yes, more of that in the moment, right? Really trying to live just that moment. There's a great podcast. Have you ever listened to Making Sense with Sam Harris? Yes, once or twice. I'm a big Sam Harris fan. Me too. Yeah.

So it's, you know, it is about, okay, you're here right now and live it. And if you could live every moment over again, because you only get one shot. You know how he has this little daily, there's like a little daily thing that pops up and you can listen to. And he was talking once about how you have one opportunity to live this moment. And you have one opportunity to have an interaction

with someone that is this interaction. Like make it good, right? And just thinking, well, I can either, you know, look at this as an opportunity and a gift, or I can be down and negative about it. And you just choose. So I try as much as possible to choose, even if I have, you know, cranky teenagers or whatever work thing going on to choose to really be positive about the fact that I'm given the opportunity to live that moment. Do you ever worry that you'll regret being so busy and missing certain things? Always. Don't you?

Yeah, I do. Yeah, of course. Yeah. Especially with the kids. Mine's with my parents a lot. I think, God, my parents are getting old. And I think I'm going to, at some point, I'm just going to keep it facts. My parents are going to die. And I'm going to think to myself. I wish I would have spent more time with them. Yeah, the deathbed test. I literally wrote down the deathbed test in my notes here. I'll have to ask you about that. Tell me about the deathbed test. Oh, the deathbed test is like, what are you going to, on your deathbed, think back and go, God, I wish I would have done more of that. Or I wish I would have tried this. I like I don't want to miss my kids you know this particular event or ceremony right you will kick yourself if you miss the grade five graduation like that is always going to be more important than your conversion rate yeah I wrote an article

actually called deathbed thinking which is quite strange when I when I saw that you you had this thing called the deathbed test and it was inspired by by Bronnie Ware, who was the palisade of North in Australia, who interviewed people as they're about to die. Yeah, and what they wish they would have. Yeah, done with their lives. Have you seen also on social media going around, I think I've seen it on Instagram, but you see some elderly people

and they're taking pictures of them. Yeah, what is your advice, right? And it's always very simple. Be nice to everybody. Obvious stuff. Yeah, yeah. But you just think, well, yeah, because you've got to live with yourself. And it's the deathbed test looking back on it.

But actually your deathbed test, Sam Harris would say, is probably taking place every moment of your waking existence, right? I wish I would have been more polite. Because if you're not you could you have to then live with how you feel about yourself and that is more important than anything so this is a mini a micro deathbed test taking place every moment i would argue i was looking at a couple of things that you'd said one of them was about your motto for life which is about choosing yourself and not waiting for anybody to choose you. What does that mean?

Well, you know, you can wait around for someone to tell you that you're the one who can do it or it's your turn, or you can just do it yourself, right? You're the one who is going to tell you that you can do something. No one is going to pick you out of a line and say, Hey, go, you have to put yourself out there. So I remember I have this fantastic friend. His name's Emilio Sosa. And he actually worked when he was a budding fashion designer in New York a long time ago. And he worked at the front desk at Bliss for a while. And it was just his, you know, like actors would work at a restaurant. He was like the cool guy at the front desk at Bliss. And he designed a few ranges and they weren't always

commercially successful, but he was just the coolest person around. And I remember I lost touch with him for a little while, a few years because he stopped working at the spa. And when I found him again somehow, because again, this is pre-email, right? I found him and he came over for dinner and I said, so what are you up to? Andemail, right? I found him and he came over for dinner. And I said, so what are you up to? And he said, oh, I'm designing costumes for Winter Marsalis. And I've been on tour with Celine Dion and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? And I said, Emilio, what happened? And he said, you know what? I woke up one day and I just thought I am worthy. And that was it, right? Like that was a moment it moved for him. He just had to decide that he was talented and worthy of all of this success. And then he had it. And I think it's

the same for so many people that they just aren't convinced. Now you might just be born convinced. I see some people who are born convinced, right? And they don't necessarily have the experience or the merit to back it up. And then there's some people who've just worked for it and after you do that much work and you are you know your expertise is at a level where you actually are convinced because you've got evidence you've got evidence and then there's when you're on the cusp right where you just have to decide so that you can get more practice to become that one but at some point you know you're on that fence you got to decide and then you take yourself there so that's what it's about because when you were describing your different business ventures there was a moment

when you described your clients moving to the hamptons for the summer and like business drops off a little bit and you you said so casually so I decided to go and do a beauty course to find out how am I like that moment I think is probably the most pivotal difficult special moment because you made a decision yes in a new direction yes that is like that it sounds so simple the way you just like gloss past it I was thinking that's pretty profound very few everyone gets stuck in what they do, it seems. And the certainty of this, the comfortable certainty of that wherever they are, to just make the decision one day

that I'm going to go do a beauty course to find out why acne skin is the way it is and see if I can do something about it is for me the pivotal, unique thing. Yeah, that's actually a good observation. Yeah, I was going to stop you on it, but you just glided past it so effortlessly. I never thought of it that way, but you're right. It's like almost how day, unique thing yeah that's actually you know good observation yeah i was gonna stop you on it but you just glided past it so i never thought of it that way but you're right it's like almost how

day i'm like people don't do that they don't just like change when you're 20 right they don't they don't well listen from what i've read listened heard etc that the new skill that everyone's going to have to have is not to be identified by what you were doing for the last 10 years because there's so many there's so so many jobs, right? So many careers that will just be gone. And so we have to train the next gen who's coming up to not think, well, I'm this. Labels. Yeah. You have to be ready to say, well, that doesn't exist anymore. I'm going to pivot or I have to go get retrained and not have your identity completely wrapped up in what you do. Right. It's more about your ability to morph and learn. And so being this lifelong

learner is so important. When you think about yourself going forward now, you know, you've got, you're working on multiple businesses at the moment, beauty pie being your main event, I believe. Yeah. What is it, what is it you're playing for now? Because, you know, you've got you're working on multiple businesses at the moment beauty pie being your main event i believe yeah um what is it what is it you're playing for now because you know you've got the money you've got the reputation you've got wonderful family what are you playing for now well happiness and stimulation right and how do you get that it's a it's the community i have a small family so we're four and then i I don't have, I have two sisters and my mom and then extended cousins who I don't really connect with that much because they're in Western Canada. And so for me, being able to have this community of people who, okay, yes,

they happen to shop from me, but they're quite fun. And most of our customers are of the same spirit. It's like having hundreds of thousands of friends. And so they're out there chatting about the latest thing. It's just, it's like a social club a little bit. And we happen to all buy beauty products and be marry for love the second time is for money and the third time is for companionship and so I'm probably on companionship but I want to do it really well because it is you know it's a lot of fun to be able to provide this to so many people and that love that you get back from it if you're doing it well is you know quite a nice uh quite a nice feeling to to have every day so is this your forever business um that's a really great question i don't think i never think of things in you know forever really big not big enough i mean listen it's just fun right it's fun to create it's fun to create so i i don't really think about it as what's the end of this right if i if i find okay actually i've created all the

stuff i know how to create and now i can i don't know i'm chatting with the people, but you know how businesses go through different stages where different skill sets are needed. I'm not your typical like great operating person. I need to find that person. I'm not a performance marketing person. I need to find that person. And at some stage, you don't need as much of what I do. You need more of what they do.

And so it depends like how much do they need me. But I think just keeping that quality very high is always something that you need a particular personality to be leading. So I think that's where it would be hard to replace what I do. I think what you've achieved is, I mean, it speaks for itself. It's quite hard to believe, in fact, that in one lifetime, someone could have so many back to back successes. I've had a few flops. Well, yeah, I know. And I heard you talk about that. I heard you say, you know, the key to success was failure. But I've not them and then I move past them. There's no point in wallowing. But I do think it's really important. And it's funny, a lot of people will come to me and ask

for mentorship and I'll do my best in the time that I've got available. But what I really think has been my own mentor has been failure and looking at the feedback that you get from that failure and kind of internalizing it and it becoming part of your DNA. And I really believe that if you don't fail yourself, someone telling you that you might fail is not the same as failing. Yeah, that, you know, you just have to fail once really hard and you're not going to make that mistake again. Did you fail once really hard? I don't know how hard is hard, you know. It's sort of like my appetite for risk.

People say, well, that's so risky. I'm like, what? Can you think of something when you're talking about failure that you think, well, that's- Where I failed really hard? Yeah. I mean, yeah. I mean, sure, we did at Soap and Glory, we did a men's range. It didn't really sell.

Okay. It's a test. Yeah. Well, yeah, whatever. You know, was the price wrong? Was the packaging the wrong color? It just didn't fly what do men really not use that many cosmetics that they're gonna did they just use their their partner's stuff who knows but it was an ab test it didn't knock the wind out of your sails no rarely do does the wind get knocked out of my sails because again

when you're i think when you're young and you have a profound loss, you take everything with relativity, right? It's like, okay, so what? So, you know, people didn't buy soap and glory men's products, but it, does it really matter? Oh, my deathbed. Will I even remember that I did that? Probably not. So you can put it into perspective, which is so important. Do you think your father's passing has helped you put all of the decisions later in your life into perspective and prioritize them differently? Oh yeah, absolutely. Yes. I think, uh, any kind of, uh, you know, grief or really emotional situation that you go through, you become a different person and you can relate to other people who have the same situation or have, you know, a difficult home situation in a very

quick way, because they see the world in a similar way that you do, that small things don't really matter. And so while we're all doing a lot of small things to kind of push the world along every day, that they're not really that important in the end. People watching this, you know, there'll be a lot of people that are in awe of you and they'll think you're incredibly awesome, rightfully so. And that can be somewhat alienating, right? Because they can see that what you've achieved in your life and because of your career in terms of where they should start, where their journey should naturally begin in order to achieve great things and become successful subjectively, whatever that means to them?

Oh, that's a great question. I think, listen, I was started very hands-on, right? I literally gave facials nine times a day, waxed people's legs. And it's the feedback loop and being open to learning. So I'm a real believer of hands-on training. I'm not, of course, I never had a business school training, so I don't know, I can't compare and contrast, but I know that the confidence that comes with learning and perfecting a skill and being able to do it yourself. So that if, for instance, some member of your team

up and leaves, you can take over that and do that. There's a real confidence in it. And that confidence kind of allows you to grow and to put more things underneath you and to feel, I think, more generous with your spirit. So just rolling your sleeves up and learning skills as many as you can and looking without defensiveness at the feedback that you're getting from whatever it is that you're doing. And then always asking yourself, how can I improve this? How can I make this even better? Is this the kind of feedback that I'm trying to get? It's a giant A-B test, right? So life is kind of an AB test. And if you look at what works and keep doing more of that and less of the other, right?

It's about making like more good decisions than bad and being honest with yourself. And yeah, it comes down to something very basic. You treat your customers like you would want to be treated. And I don't know if that always floats to the top, um, for, for people in business and for large corporations, it is always being about obsessed with whatever that product is that you're trying to deliver and making sure that you yourself would buy it for the price that you're selling it and feel thrilled and whatever you're doing right you can do it well if you keep those kinds of things in mind amen well listen thank you so much for your time and i've taken so much of it but it's been so inspiring so unbelievably inspiring and i'm so um

i understand the audience that listen to this podcast and and what you've um shared today is just going to be of just tremendous, tremendous value. So thank you so much. You super inspire me. I feel like I need to go for a run or something or like, I don't know, like go find something to improve on, but yeah, just incredibly, incredibly inspiring. And you are such a wonderful, delightful, bright light. So thank you. And it's been a super big pleasure to sit here with you today thank you this is like the feel-good society customer experience i've learned i'm trying to make my customers feel good yeah this is very good i applaud you well done thank you so much thanks for having me Thanks for watching!