The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett - Moment 12 - Krissy Cela on How She Discovered Her Self-Confidence

Episode Date: July 1, 2021

In these ‘Moment’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favourite moments from previous episodes of The Diary Of A CEO. Krissy Cela wasn’t always the sassy, confident woman we all know her as today. In fact, like many other successful people, there was a period of time in which Krissy struggled. This is the story of how the ‘foreign girl with a moustache at school’ discovered her self-confidence and in turn, discovered her true self. Episode 57 - https://g2ul0.app.link/tEZovAdYvhb

Quick one, just wanted to say a big thank you to three people very quickly. First people I want to say thank you to is all of you that listen to the show. Never in my wildest dreams is all I can say. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd start a podcast in my kitchen and that it would expand all over the world as it has done. And we've now opened our first studio in America, thanks to my very helpful team led by Jack on the production side of things. So thank you to Jack and the team for building out the new American studio.

And thirdly to Amazon Music who, when they heard that we were expanding to the United States and I'd be recording a lot more over in the States, they put a massive billboard in Times Square for the show. So thank you so much, Amazon Music. Thank you to our team. And thank you to all of you that listened get from you versus pretty much everybody else other than one other person i've got to be honest and he's sat in this chair and he's actually coming back is joe wicks like when i met joe wicks he is the guy you meet off off off air or whatever is the same guy and he's so fucking genuine and all he cares about is like genuinely helping people but the reason I said to Joe I said I think the reason you're so successful

is because you are yourself and you will share it all and when I was watching you on Instagram and watching some of your videos you cater to the 99% of people's lives which is the real shit yeah I saw your video this week you did on your story you waking up and you're saying listen I don't want to wake up today and most people don't admit that because you know a lack of perfection is sometimes perceived as weakness so i wondered how that resonated with you in terms of the importance of your success originating from chrissy being her truest self yeah you're you can only be the best version of yourself, right? And I think if you stop trying to be something else, soon enough it will come out

or you'll start to fall through the cracks or it will slip, something will slip. And you can only uphold that image and that presence for so long before it really just fucks up. So the only thing you can do is be the best version of yourself. And this is what I tell people all the time.

It's never been about other people's perceptions of you. It's always been what you think about yourself. And if you truly, truly believe in yourself, you won't want to be anybody else. You won't want to be fake. You wouldn't want to be trying to please everyone. My job isn't to please everyone. Were you always at that point?

No. Tell me about that. Oh my God, no. I mean, I remember when I was in a relationship, I was 16 years old. I was like, I'm going to marry this person. I'm in love. Like, this is it. And then he cheated on me.

And I was like, oh shit, this is not it. What's his name? No, he does not deserve the airtime. I'll tell you that much. But I was heartbroken and I was trying so hard to please this person. You know, I was trying so hard, even in school. I know it sounds petty,

but I was trying so hard to fit in all the time. All the time. I remember like, this is so, this is not not cute on my end I'm gonna be honest with you I remember being at school and I'm foreign okay like I'm Mediterranean we're hairy okay and I had a no I had a mustache and the girls used to rip me for it and I was so sad I was like oh my god why am I not like these pretty English girls? Like, I don't understand. Like, I used to feel so shitty about myself, constantly trying to like fit in.

And then when I got cheated on, I was like, oh my God, it must be because I'm not pretty enough. It must be because I'm not sexy enough. Fuck that. That's draining. What do you mean I constantly have to be something else for someone else? I'm never going to be happy.

And I wasn't happy for such a long time so yeah I just I just fully like exposed my moustache story there that's fine so let's take us from moustache to self-confidence um what was that journey and what what changed your uh your your self-esteem and your self-confidence what helped you get that confidence in yourself i think for me it was can we just i think that should be the podcast title master no no seriously even sarah doesn't know that i used to have a no guys i'm gonna be honest with you okay like i don't give a fuck i had a mustache growing up, okay? And all the girls used to rip me the fuck up. They used to be like, your man, your boy, like honestly, bitchy shit, man.

And I ate my school dinner for six months in a toilet because I didn't have any friends. Do you think that experience is part of the reason you are who you are today? 100%, like honestly, it's pretty impossible to to break me and when you've broken me understand that you've really like broken me down because it takes a lot now was that we talk about the mustache mustache thing as if it was this sort of trivial thing but i'm guessing what you're saying is you were bullied in school yeah but at the same time it's

not like i was constantly bullied like i think i don't know a lot of us go through awkward stages in school trying to make friends trying to be with a cool gang trying to do this trying to do that then you almost become like mean as well because you're so hurt by everybody else that you only yeah so I think you know like I remember walking into sixth form one time and a lot of personal things happened in my life and no one wanted to be around me at that point and I just hated everyone around me and I was full of anger constant anger and hate you know and I didn't want to be that person anymore especially after being cheated on I didn't want to be that person anymore especially after being cheered on I didn't want to be that person anymore and I remember being on the train one day because I used to work in Potter's Bar at the time um in this little men's boutique like retail shop and

I was coming back home and I remember like the penny dropped and I was like I can try so hard to be sexy and cool and all this stuff other people but I'm not doing anything for myself and that's where the quote do this for you comes from because I signed up to the gym that day and then I walked straight back out and didn't go back for two months I'm not gonna be I'm gonna lie to you I signed up and I was like I'm gonna do this I'm gonna do this I know what to do signed up didn't come back for two months I was like fuck that shit I ain't going back I don't know what to do why didn't you go because I was scared I was like who I was like who do you who do you think you are Chrissy trying to be like a fitness girl you don't know what

you're doing you know this was like six years ago you don't know what you're doing go back home relax all right relax chill go to work study relax at some point you must have changed your mind yeah I did I did and I did and I was like uh okay no I need to do this like what am I doing I'm so lethargic I'm tired all the time I'm not strong I was never, overweight or underweight. I was just tired all the time and drained, especially mentally. So when I got into the gym, I remember looking at the leg press machine and I was like, what is this transformer? I don't know what the fuck to do with this machine. And everybody else around me seemed to kind of know what to do. And then there was like men there and the women were on the cardio

machines and the men were at the weights. I didn't care about the cardio machine. I was so intrigued by the weights. I was like, why do men go there? What is it about men that go there and women go there? I want to go there. And I didn't know how to use weights. I didn't know what I was doing. I was training. I didn't have anything. Like no one didn't know what I was doing I was training I didn't have anything like no one was on Instagram at the time no one was teaching the way social media has literally opened up a book full of information and free content and we didn't I didn't have that at the time I started you know I didn't know what I was doing so how did you I learned you learned I just learned I just was like you know what I'm just going to do this and I kind of I kind of got addicted to the feeling of how completing a

workout made me feel and I started going again and again and I started learning because What was it doing for you going? It was giving me my therapy. Therapy from what? From life, from my reality, from the fact that I was so depressed with who I was and so angry at the world and everything the world had done to me. And the only time I felt like I could escape was at the gym, which is is so crazy because the gym is like a chore for people it's like I've got a fucking train today but I went there and I escaped it was

therapy and no one could take that feeling away from me not an ex-boyfriend that cheated on me not a mean girl at school, not a horrible boss, no one.