The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett - Moment 59 - What To Tell People Who Are Stuck In Their Job: James Smith

Episode Date: May 27, 2022

In these ‘Moment’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favourite moments from previous episodes of The Diary Of A CEO. James Smith is a bestselling author of Not A Life Coach and Not A Diet Book where he combines hard truths and empathy to his fans. He is also a personal trainer and fitness influencer with a unique philosophy that makes his message unlike any fitness advice you’ve ever heard before. Here he talks about the way ‘out’. Whether that is the way out of a job, a relationship or a situation we are always so hesitant to follow through with our gut instincts. We are all here to live and time isn’t something we can friverously throw away. He mentions the phrase “you’re a long time dead”, and it's something he tells himself regularly. I hope this moment will give you that push to do the thing you’ve been wanting to do. Listen to the full episode here - https://g2ul0.app.link/xtr8UWEKlqb James - https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt/?hl=en https://twitter.com/jamessmithPT_?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Watch the Episodes On Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDiaryOfACEO/videos

Quick one, just wanted to say a big thank you to three people very quickly. First people I want to say thank you to is all of you that listen to the show. Never in my wildest dreams is all I can say. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd start a podcast in my kitchen and that it would expand all over the world as it has done. And we've now opened our first studio in America, thanks to my very helpful team led by Jack on the production side of things. So thank you to Jack and the team for building out the new American studio.

And thirdly to Amazon Music who, when they heard that we were expanding to the united states and i'd be recording a lot more over in the states they put a massive billboard in time square um for the show so thank you so much amazon music um thank you to our team and thank you to all of you that listen to this show let's continue it's going to be a ton of people listening to this now that are in that situation they're in a they're on their way to a job this morning you know that they don't particularly like and but they're gonna say well james i've got a mortgage to pay and i've got a couple of kids you know you'll get this a lot of time because i get it i get every day i've got a couple of kids and it's easy for

you guys to say because you know you're single and you've got all this money now but i can't just leave this call center james i've got Timmy that needs to go to school and I need to buy his books for his book bag. And what do you say to those people that are feeling like they've kind of built a wall too big to climb over? It's a very difficult one. And again, I can never say, or just do this.

Because when I'm talking now, I'm talking to James of 22, similarly to how you would talk to yourself at 18. I can't talk to every age group listening to this podcast, so I'll try to talk to the one I know best. But there's two kind of ways out. There's one where some people do need to make a risk because they may see no options now,

but where are they going to be in five years? A lot of the time things get worse with time, not better in these situations, unfulfillment, passionless existence. All of these things get worse. If your relationship is on the rocks, you don't just give it four years. Something needs to be done. Sometimes you do need to rip the cord, but to people who are genuinely past it, because people did read my second book and go, well, I just can't do this. I said to them, well, okay, make sure your kids know this. Make sure if there's one valiant thing you do is fall on the sword and say, right, for me, I will sit out the next 10 years. But those kids, every time I talk to them, every day they're at

the dinner table, every step they make in life, instill that into them. My dad said to me, like my whole life, he's just always said, you're a long time dead. he always just drilled it into me my whole life every time i've wanted to do something so i mean you're gonna be a long time dead son and there's no it helps me understand there is no time to to dwell to wait to see things out and i think that again that's one of the things that people don't think about enough you know we're all slowly dying it's such a weird thing't think about enough. You know, we're all slowly dying. It's such a weird thing to think about. People go, oh, I just give it a few more years. Don't have that. Time isn't on our side.

Our existence as a human being is, if the universe could talk, it would laugh at the amount of time we have to live. And some people, again, what's the worst that could truly happen? You've got a mortgage call. Have you got enough to survive two months? Two months. and if you can't give everything to something for two months maybe don't do it at all personal trainers as well they say this all the time at my business talks

oh you know they're doing minimum wage hours six seven pounds an hour wiping down machines between trying to run a legitimate business and they're afraid to go alone. If I gave you seven pounds for that hour and put you on the gym floor and gun to the head mentality, you need to make a business where you're going to wipe down machines for your whole life. Of course, they're going to do it.

The intensity, the audacity, everything they could give to people is going to be incredible. I think it's baffling that people write themselves off before they even make the decision. And in some respects, them going, I've got kids, I've got a mortgage. I appreciate all of those things, but is this a bullshit hurdle you're putting in front of making change in your life? I could be wrong.

I don't know, but it could be. They need to ask themselves that. I can't ask them that.