The Dr. Hyman Show - How Trauma Makes Us Sick And How We Can Heal with Gabor Maté

Episode Date: September 14, 2022

This episode is brought to you by Rupa Health, InsideTracker, and FOND Bone Broth. Why are we seeing more chronic disease, stress, obesity, addiction, and so many other states of illness than ever bef...ore, despite having the most advanced medical system in the world? Because we aren’t living in a natural and normal world. We’re actually having normal responses to our abnormal circumstances, many of which create trauma that gets stored in the brain and body. Today on The Doctor’s Farmacy, I’m honored to talk to my dear friend Dr. Gabor Maté about the myth of normal, and why doing the difficult work of uncovering trauma is essential for living our fullest expression of life.  A renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and has co-authored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His latest book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture was just released.  This episode is brought to you by Rupa Health, InsideTracker, and FOND Bone Broth. Rupa Health is a place where Functional Medicine practitioners can access more than 2,000 specialty lab tests from over 20 labs like DUTCH, Vibrant America, Genova, and Great Plains. You can check out a free, live demo with a Q&A or create an account at RupaHealth.com. InsideTracker is a personalized health and wellness platform like no other. Right now they’re offering my community 20% off at insidetracker.com/drhyman. To experience the amazing health benefits of FOND Bone Broth, go to fondbonebroth.com/drhyman and use code HYMAN20 to get 20% off your purchase. Here are more details from our interview (audio version / Apple Subscriber version): Uncovering my personal trauma history (6:42 / 3:50)  Scientific evidence linking trauma and stress to physical and mental illness (14:38 / 11:45)   Social determinants of health (16:34 / 14:15)  Our crisis of separation, disconnection, and loneliness (20:25 / 18:00)  The link between addiction, our profit-driven culture, and trauma (25:16 / 22:20)  The myth of normal (31:07 / 26:33)  Tools, therapies, and resources for your own healing (49:50 / 45:41)  Treating trauma with plant medicines and psychedelics (55:40 / 51:16)  The biology of psychology (1:10:46 / 1:06:20)  Gabor’s vision for our society (1:31:42 / 1:25:48)  Learn more about Gabor Maté at drgabormate.com and get a copy of his new book, The Myth of Normal—Trauma, Illness, & Healing In a Toxic Culture, here.

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Starting point is 00:03:15 And today is going to be a very important conversation because it's about something that affects us all, whether we know it or not, which is the toxicity of our culture, the trauma we all experience at some level toxicity of our culture, the trauma we all experience at some level living in this culture or that we've experienced in our childhood and how that determines who we are, how we are, and our state of well-being and health. And it's so pervasive. It's so deep. And most of us have never really reflected on it, and particularly myself.
Starting point is 00:03:42 And I'm going to share some personal stories that I think might be surprising to many of you, but I think it's important to be transparent and honest about this because it really affects all of us. And my guest today is a renowned speaker and best-selling author, Dr. Gabor Mate, who I've gotten to know recently and is one of the most important thinkers in the space of mental health, addiction, trauma, and rethinking how we need to live as a society. I think his work is some of the most important work of the 21st century. He's written on a lot of topics, on addiction, stress, childhood development. He's got a number of best-selling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No, Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, Scattered, How Attention Deficit
Starting point is 00:04:28 Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and his co-authored Hold On to Your Kids, Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Their Peers. His work has been in over 30 languages, and he's been awarded the Order of Canada, his country's highest civilian distinction. His next book, which we're going to talk about today, The Myth of Normal, Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture is out. And I encourage you all to pick up a copy. It may be the most important book you will ever read. He's also, I love this, he's also has a second next book, which is already titled, called, with his son actually, called Hello Again, A Fresh Start for Parents
Starting point is 00:05:06 and Their Adult Children. That's going to be out in 2023. And he's developed a very important body of work that helps people discover the sources of their pain and trauma called Compassion Inquiry, which is now studied by hundreds of therapists and physicians and counselors around the world. So welcome, Dr. Gavramate. Thank you. It's great to be here. We're going to get really deep today. And when I was reading about your work, you have a quote that was kind of important that stuck out
Starting point is 00:05:38 to me, which is that society is mad in the sense that it's not aligned with human needs. And it made me remember a line from R.D. Lange, who was a psychiatrist back in the 60s and 70s, who said, insanity is a sane man's response to an insane society. And this new book, The Myth of Normal, which encouraged everybody to get, Trauma and Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture, who's written with his son, Daniel,
Starting point is 00:06:04 is sort of both personal and it's social and it's political. And it's such a broad ranging discussion of the context in which we live and the way in which mental illness arises, the way in which our dysfunctional behavior arises, such as addiction. And you have a very different spin on it than traditional medicine and healthcare. And I think we've really kind of pushed mental illness off in this sort of dark category. And in some ways, it's very stigmatized and we blame the victim and we don't really understand the context in which it arises. And I've really not thought of myself as someone who's actually experienced trauma. And I didn't, I didn't really connect to it. It didn't really make sense to me. And I,
Starting point is 00:06:51 as a doctor, obviously I encountered many people who experienced horrible traumas, but for myself, I was like, ah, my child, well, you know, my parents are divorced and yeah, I had, you know, issues with my family and my parents and there was conflict. My parents hate each other, but like, yeah, it happens to a lot of people. What's the big deal? And then I began to look at some of my own dysfunctional patterns of workaholism, of people pleasing, of overdoing, of over caring, which, you know, got me to be very successful in my career, but had really negative consequences for me as a human being and led to many failed relationships, led to many illnesses in myself. And I think your work has really helped me to understand that having a deeper conversation about these traumas really matter. And I'll just
Starting point is 00:07:40 share a little bit about my own story and then we'll get into the bigger context of everything. And I think, you know, my mother grew up in a deaf family in New York City in the 1930s. Her parents were deaf. So if anybody's seen the movie Coda, which won the best picture this year, it's about a young girl who grew up in a deaf family. And there was a line in that movie where the mother is lamenting her daughter is going off to college and saying, she can't go. She's our baby, meaning we need her. But the father said she was never a baby. And my mother had a word for her childhood, which was a parentified child. In other words, she was her parent's parent. She took care of them. She had
Starting point is 00:08:25 to be their voice and their ears. And they were very loving and beautiful people, but it robbed her of her own childhood and her own innocence. And she thought then that loving was caring for somebody who was broken. Then she picked my father who was broken and that didn't work out. And then she picked my stepfather who was broken and that didn't really work out. And that was the environment in which I grew up. And my mother became very depressed and she used me as her emotional crutch, as her therapist, if you will. And that led me to have the behavior that, you know, love was also about fixing broken people.
Starting point is 00:09:02 And my first wife was an alcoholic and had bipolar disease and had experienced horrible sexual trauma as a child, which she didn't even remember her childhood before she was 16. And we kind of later uncovered this. And I began to think about, you know, how these patterns were really originated in my childhood of my behaviors that were really not creating a life for me that actually made me fulfilled and happy and good. And I sort of, by doing the work, by actually excavating, I call it soul archaeology, I was able to really understand how my brain was working, how my love software was corrupted. And it allowed me to really be very different and rewire everything about myself in such a beautiful way.
Starting point is 00:09:45 But it was not an easy process. And I used a lot of different approaches, including different kinds of therapy, psychedelic work, which now is sort of emerging. And I know you work with a lot in terms of your work on trauma and patients. And that really helped me to kind of move through a lot of this. And I know I probably still have a lot of work to do, but it really taught me that each of us, even if we don't conceptualize what happened to us as trauma as a child, that it really does inform who we are and how we are. So that's where I want to take off with your work, because what you say in your work is that trauma isn't what happens to us. It's about the meaning we make about what happens to us or something like that. So, Gabor, can you talk about how you first came to understand this concept? Because you yourself
Starting point is 00:10:31 were traumatized. You were born in Hungary in World War II, and it was a time of the Nazi regime, and you were Jewish, and that itself was a trauma. Can you talk about how you first came to understand that this pattern of your own trauma was linked to the greater cultural pattern of trauma and mental illness and struggle and how you came to understand your work? Well, first, thank you for having me. Just reflecting on your story
Starting point is 00:11:01 and the parentified child, the child who has to become a parent to the parent and essentially loses the parent so not what you know whether you know it or not you're a motherless child yeah that's maybe why i like that song so much you know yeah and uh john bolby who's the great british psychiatrist pioneer of developmental research, attachment research, and I quote him in the book. He says that reversal of roles between parent and child is always a sign of pathology in the parent and invariably a source of pathology in the child.
Starting point is 00:11:38 Yeah. So we pay a lot, but of course, you as a child had nothing to compare it to. That was the childhood that you knew. That's right. And most people, when they think of trauma, they think of big disasters like a tsunami or a parent dying or severe abuse, sexual, emotional, or physical, and so on. But really, the word trauma itself simply means a wound. Yeah. And people can be wounded in all kinds of
Starting point is 00:12:05 ways and so it doesn't take the big um ticket um big t events to wound a child you can wound a child especially it's a very sensitive just by not meeting their needs yeah their essential needs for being understood and respected for who they are, being seen, being heard, being unconditionally welcomed into the world. A lot of kids are wounded without the terrible things happening to them that people think of as trauma. And as you said, trauma is what happens inside us, not what happens to us. So trauma is the wound that we sustain, not the event that caused the wound which is a good thing yeah because if trauma was the thing that happened to me as an infant the Jewish infant under the Nazis that'll never not have happened yeah but if trauma is the meaning that I made made out of that that I wasn't lovable that
Starting point is 00:12:56 it wasn't worthwhile well that that wound can be healed I came to this work was both through my work as a family physician and also palliative care doctor. So I looked after people from birth to death and I began to see that people who got chronically ill, not just with mental illness but also physical illnesses like malignancy and auto immune disease and so on, invariably there was a backstory of trauma in childhood and a lifelong pattern of what you describe yourself as uh manifesting of of people pleasing of trying to be nice of trying to do everything for everybody of being a compulsive helper which of course i did as well as a workaholic doctor i call being a niceaholic yeah yeah a nice yeah i wasn't i was that nice but i was certainly a workaholic and and a helpaholic. Yeah, I wasn't always that nice, but I was certainly a workaholic and a helpaholic, you know, and as a way of justifying your existence. And so I began to notice these
Starting point is 00:13:53 patterns in my medical work that behind chronic illness of all kinds, there was trauma and ongoing stress. And furthermore, in my 40s, I was a successful doctor, maybe like yourself, but with all kinds of personal challenges. I was depressed and anxious, and I was in a conflictual marriage, and my kids were actually sometimes scared of me. So I had to actually start asking myself, what's going on here? And so I began to go for my own therapy and reading the literature and there's a combination of my observations as a physician my personal experience and personal self-exploration and then I just meant mentioned finally the vast body of scientific literature linking trauma and stress to physical illness to mental illness and here's where our
Starting point is 00:14:48 profession mark is just so behind the times yeah you know physicians the medical profession claims to be a scientific discipline but they ignore all kinds of science yeah that doesn't fit into their very narrow biological point of view and so i do wake up to my own reality to the reality of my patients and also the reality of what science and research is actually telling us about human beings yeah that's true i mean there's just an enormous literature about this and it's always surprising to me and i see this with functional medicines there's so much evidence and so much science but if it doesn't fit the model yeah it's sort of ignored yeah whether it's on the microbiome or toxins or stress or trauma,
Starting point is 00:15:27 it's like there's plenty of data out there. And you talk a lot about it in your book, for example, about women who have breast cancer and how you could predict who was going to have breast cancer based on their personality type and how they repressed anger and were too nice. Same with autoimmune disease. Women have such a higher rate of autoimmune disease.
Starting point is 00:15:43 Yeah, women have 80% of autoimmune disease. And this is a big mystery. Or if you take something like multiple sclerosis, which in the 1930s, the gender ratio was equal. And now it's about three women to every man, which right away tells us it can't be genetic because genes don't change in a few decades. It can't be the weather or the food per se because that hasn't changed more for one gender than the other.
Starting point is 00:16:13 What has changed is that women are facing more stresses than they used to by dint of having to still carry the brunt of the emotional work of their families and carry the emotional stresses of their spouses very often, and having to work at the same time. Yeah. So, you get more stress, and also people are more isolated now than they used to be. So, what I'm really saying is that
Starting point is 00:16:35 illness in a particular person is not a manifestation of individual biology, but is a consequence of multiple factors, which include the social and cultural environment, the economy, the politics, one's personal relationships, and one's personal multi-generational history. That's true. And just to separate the mind from the body as Western medicine does, and to separate
Starting point is 00:16:58 the individual from the environment is completely unscientific and not very helpful. No, it's true. And I think medicine is starting to kind of tiptoe around this with the conversation about the social determinants of health. What are the- Yeah, they are. They're beginning to talk about, yeah, there's a Canadian public health expert who said that if you want to stay healthy, be able to afford vacations in the sunshine and eat organic food and don't live in a poor neighborhood.
Starting point is 00:17:30 Yeah, right. So doctors shouldn't be prescribing pills. They should be prescribing sun-filled vacations. Exactly. So there is some conversation now about the social determinants of health. And in Chicago, in some areas of Chicago, the life expectancy is 30 years less than in the wealthier parts. And these are the social determinants.
Starting point is 00:17:56 But even the social determinants of health is a narrow view because it looks at only the most obvious. What's so beautiful about your book is that you talk not only about what happens in the personal microcosm of a person's family and the developmental phases that they go through and the yeah the traumas that happen within the family either the little t traumas which are more of the invisible traumas or the big t traumas like incest and abuse and so forth yeah but you also talk about the the social traumas and the societal traumas and the expectations and the toxic culture we live in you know paul farmer talks about structural violence you you know, the social, political, economic conditions
Starting point is 00:18:25 that drive disease. And we tend to ignore those. The late and the lamented Paul Farmer. I know. Who died before his time. Maybe because he took on too much. I don't know. Maybe.
Starting point is 00:18:36 I don't know what happened. I mean, I need to find out because I knew him and he's exactly my age. Yeah. And he... But yeah, he did talk about these things and of course he put himself on the line he worked a lot in Haiti with a very oppressed and impoverished population and he was very clear about how power creates pathology yeah in this, when I talk about a toxic culture, just in scientific terms, in a laboratory, if we're culturing organisms in a particular brew, broth, we call that a laboratory culture.
Starting point is 00:19:17 And if a lot of the organisms, the microorganisms we were growing happened to die or get sick in large numbers we would call that a toxic culture right and and and that's what the assertion i'm making about our culture and it's not just the social determinants are one important aspect of it like racism for example is a risk factor for aging and for inflammation and for malignancy and for asthma and for premature death. So that's a definite social determinant. Independent of poverty? Yeah, independent of poverty. It's raised quite apart from economic considerations.
Starting point is 00:19:57 So that if you measure the biological aging of black American women of a higher social class, it'll be more advanced than white women of a lower social class. If you combine race and poverty, now you've got a double whammy. Double whammy, yeah. In fact, it's a triple whammy because being a woman also puts you at high risk for chronic illness. But even for those that are privileged, relatively speaking, a society that thinks that people have to be competitive and aggressive and selfish and individualistic actually denies the very nature of human evolution and human needs. So it'll create pathology even without the social determinants. Yeah, it's so true.
Starting point is 00:20:49 You talk about in your book this sort of crisis of separation that both on an individual level and on a social level, we're disconnected and how that gives rise to disease. And the beautiful frame that Paul Farmer talked about when he talked about healing was accompaniment, which is the opposite of separation, how we have to accompany each other to health. I tell the story that was told to me by Luis Mel Madrona.
Starting point is 00:21:17 Luis is a Lakota, part Lakota. I know him, yeah. Do you know him? I met him many years ago, a long time ago. Yeah, he's a physician psychiatrist yeah trained in the western model yeah like you and i both are but he says in the local tradition when somebody gets ill the community says thank you you're manifesting the dysfunction of the whole community so your healing is our healing yeah it's all about
Starting point is 00:21:41 connection scientifically that's absolutely correct. Western medicine doesn't get it. No. I mean, we're social beings, and I think one of the interesting things to me when I look to the literature around disease, you think, oh, it's smoking, it's diet, it's obesity, and yes, it's all that,
Starting point is 00:22:00 but more predictive than that was a sense of a loss of disconnection and a loss of control and a sense of isolation and loneliness, which is a more powerful predictor of disease. It's an independent risk factor for getting ill faster and for dying of illness faster. And it's probably as significant as smoking 15 cigarettes a day going to some of the research i mean do you think this is like a modern phenomena this crisis of separation you know or just been there throughout human history and and what is the cause of this the root cause of the separation that we're seeing well if you look at the literature on loneliness the number of people in the US who say that they're lonely went from 20% to 40% in a couple of decades not that long over the force yeah it's a product of this particular
Starting point is 00:23:01 system for example Walmart okay so so walmart um opens a store in a community and the local developer developers are happy the local politicians are delighted to have this facility people might even be pleased to have this big um convenience um department store available to them at lower prices but what's the what's the price that we pay local businesses have to shut down they can't compete yeah the local Baker the local butcher and candlestick maker they all have to close down people no longer walk to the where they shop in the neighborhoods, seeing each other, meeting their friends and neighbors in the store, dealing with the merchants they personally have known all their lives.
Starting point is 00:23:53 The Mr. Hooper of Sesame Street. Yeah, yeah. They drive, each of them gets into a car all by themselves and drive to this windowless, soulless facility where they're looked after by total strangers. So yes, you've gained a few pennies here and there and developers are happy because they sold the land. What happens to the community?
Starting point is 00:24:14 And this is an inevitable product of globalized capitalism. It's happening all over the world. Hence the crisis of loneliness is burgeoning all over the world. Yeah. So it's sort of a product of the globalization and the way in which our profit motive has sort of driven systems in society that disconnect us from each other. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:24:39 Once profit becomes the prime motive and is even justified as the highest possible endeavor, which it is in a society, then what are you going to get? They need companies that this is your field. I mean, sometimes you must be so frustrated because you're so adept at understanding the essentials of human nutrition.
Starting point is 00:25:04 Yeah. But there's companies that profit of delivering poisonous and developing and planning and co-cocting poisonous products. Yeah. And I heard you talk yesterday, sugar. Sugar has been called the most addictive substance in the world. Yeah. And in that sense, America is the center of the world's drug trade.
Starting point is 00:25:25 Yeah, 100%. When it comes to sugar, you know, as somebody once pointed out. And they push these sugary products into the developing world where more and more people are dying as a result, you know.
Starting point is 00:25:37 And so, let alone the pharmaceutical companies that is publicly known now, created opiates that they told physicians were not addictive or less addictive, knowing full well that that wasn't the case. And look at the tens and hundreds of thousands of opiate deaths now. Not that they're making them fully responsible, but they sure profited off it.
Starting point is 00:26:01 And they drove the dynamic as well. So once profit becomes the ultimate motive, then human health becomes a byproduct and a sunk cost, as it were, which is not a concern anymore. Yeah, it's so true. And I think we have such a negative view of addiction, and in some ways we blame the victim. Just like we blame the victim for being obese, we blame the victim. Yeah. Just like we blame the
Starting point is 00:26:25 victim for being obese. We blame the victim for addiction and say, well, you know, you need to deal with your problem. You need to admit you have a problem. I mean, in fact, that's the, you know, that's the first step of a 12 step program, which is, you know, I'm realizing I'm powerless over alcohol. Like there's some higher power to give up to. Well, you know, that, that may be a little perverted in a sense, because it doesn't take into account the truth of why addiction happens, which is out of some injury to our soul, injury to our mind, injury to our bodies. It happens when we're young that is a source of discomfort and pain that we're trying to deal with and medicate.
Starting point is 00:27:02 Well, the very famous ACE, Adverse Childhood Experience Studies, looked at the correlation between childhood trauma and adversity and the later onset of addiction, actually began when a physician acquaintance, maybe both of us, Dr. Vince Felitti, was working at an obesity clinic and they found that they found they could help people lose weight but couldn't help them
Starting point is 00:27:31 keep it off and then they started actually they did something that amazing for medical doctors they started listening to the stories of these patients yes and their stories that all had they all had been traumatized abused in childhood or suffered significant loss the eating was their way of soothing themselves yeah which is any addiction is a way of soothing yourself and that then gave rise to the ace studies which showed indisputably the connection between childhood trauma and loss and the adult onset of addictions but also of mental health conditions also of autoimmune conditions also of cancer, relational issues, and so on. So heart disease, all of it. There's so much research now that and then when I worked in
Starting point is 00:28:11 the downtown, I said of Vancouver, which is east side of Vancouver, which is North America's most concentrated area of drug use. And I don't know if you've ever had a chance of Vancouver, but if you walk through the downtown east side, there's this open-air drug market. People are shooting up in the back alleys. It's quite the scene, and I worked there for 12 years. In those 12 years, I did not have a single female patient
Starting point is 00:28:33 who had not been sexually abused as a child. Not a single female patient had not been abused? Not one out of hundreds. And that's also what the literature shows. So it's not just my anecdotal observation. It's also what the studies over in a vegan show and yet despite that society still uh insist on looking at addictions as a choice that some people make for which they have to be blamed and as you pointed out stigmatized
Starting point is 00:28:58 or exercised or in the medical profession we have a more humane and somewhat more forward-looking but still completely in aureus perspective that we're dealing with brain diseases with a large genetic component. No, we're not. We're dealing with people's response to human suffering. Yeah. Hey, everybody. It's Dr. Mark here. Now, bone broth is a wonderfully healthy addition to your diet, but finding a good option can be challenging. Maybe you've experimented with making it yourself only to find out the process takes too long
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Starting point is 00:31:12 healthcare system in the world, in North America, despite advanced medical science, despite innovations in medication, why are we seeing more and more illness, more mental illness, more addiction, more obesity, more chronic disease, more autoimmune disease? It seems like we're bailing a ship that's sinking with a teaspoon. Yeah. Well, by the myth of normal, I mean that conditions that in our society we assume to be abnormal, that we believe are normal, from the point of view of human evolution
Starting point is 00:31:46 and human needs are totally abnormal. So that this, we're living in a world that doesn't meet our needs, yet we think this is the normal world. And it may be the norm statistically, but it's not normal in terms of, it's not natural or healthy in terms of what human beings actually need number
Starting point is 00:32:05 one number two in this society and going back to that quote by rd lang that you cited earlier in this society physical illness and mental illness are actually normal responses to abnormal circumstances yeah so it's not in the, the so-called disease that we have to find the abnormality, but in the conditions that cause the disease. And this is where medicine completely fails. Because when we can identify the cause of an illness as some external agent, like the novel coronavirus, or we can point to the preponderance of lung cancer among smokers appropriately, then we think we've found a cause for something. But for chronic illnesses that don't have such an obvious external agent as the triggering or causative factor, we just call them idiopathic which really means we haven't got a clue what causes them yeah
Starting point is 00:33:05 and yet if you look at the actual lives of anybody with with autoimmune disease or anybody with malignancy or anybody with um depression or anxiety or adhd or or or or bipolar illness, you'll find that these illnesses manifest people's life experiences. They don't come out of nowhere. Nowhere, right. And furthermore, we make this elementary mistake of thinking that by diagnosing something, we've explained something. But let me show you how circular and actually nonsensical it is.
Starting point is 00:33:44 Yeah, yeah. So I've been treated for depression. Yeah. And there was a time when I gladly took antidepressant medication, and it helped me. So I'm not here to militate against medical practice. I'm a practitioner of it. But say Gabor is sad, and he he's isolating and he's morose.
Starting point is 00:34:08 Why? Because he's got depression. How do we know that he's got depression? Because he's sad and he's isolating and he's morose. Why is he sad, isolating, and morose? Because he's got depression. How do we know that? So these diagnoses don't explain anything.
Starting point is 00:34:23 They describe things. Same with ADHD. same with bipolarism. For that matter, the same with a lot of physical illnesses. Absolutely. The diagnoses describe something, but they say nothing about the origins. Yeah. I mean, you just described functional medicine in a nutshell, which is, I always say, because you know the name of the disease doesn't mean you know what's wrong with you.
Starting point is 00:34:43 It's just the name we give to people who share a collection of symptoms and depression isn't the cause of you being sad, hopeless and helpless and have no interest in sex or can't sleep and all these different symptoms and yet the doctors always fall into this trap of thinking that the name of the disease explains the cause
Starting point is 00:35:00 the cause of the symptoms is rheumatoid arthritis that's why your joints aren't swollen no it's not because of that. It's because of childhood trauma, because of gluten, because of mercury or a million other things. And so just because you know the name of the disease, it doesn't mean you know what's wrong with you. And I think this is never more rampant in any other field of medicine than psychiatry
Starting point is 00:35:19 and then mental health issues because we just sort of label people and put them in groups and then we treat the label instead of the cause. And then your work is really even about treating the causes that are mostly invisible and that are not really even talked about. And there's a whole field of medicine now emerging called narrative medicine, which is eliciting people's story. What a novel concept, right? We should actually elicit a person's story.
Starting point is 00:35:42 And it's one of the most important things I do as a functional medicine doctor. And I think that you do is we actually excavate and we start to dig, you know, what was your childhood like? Where were you born? What was it like? And what were your early life experiences? And you start to unpack things. And I have like trick questions in my questionnaire about, you know, trauma or abuse or little things to poke around. And it's amazing what you find when you start digging and you see the correlation between that and the breakdown in the body. And I always say that disease is the body's best attempt
Starting point is 00:36:12 to deal with a bad set of circumstances. Exactly. And that's exactly what you're saying. I'm saying that very much. And I'm also saying that, therefore, the disease, and I have a chapter on this, the disease can actually act as a teacher. Now, as a teacher who guides you back to your reality.
Starting point is 00:36:29 Now, I'm not recommending it. I don't recommend anybody get rheumatoid arthritis or multiple sclerosis or, for that matter, depression or anything as a way of learning anything. All I'm saying is I've talked to so many people who, once they develop these these conditions they used it to learn about what dynamics in their lives triggered it and when they change those dynamics those illnesses have a very different course other than the usual ones away if you just read it biologically and so the diseases is it can act as a big wake-up call for a lot of people. Again, I don't recommend it. No. One of my intentions, and I'm sure one of yours is as well,
Starting point is 00:37:09 is to wake people up before disease comes knocking at their door. But once it does, it's astonishing what people are able to learn about themselves. And this has been documented as well. Well, you know, this is the thing that i i think you know was shocking to me personally as i began to work with my patterns of emotional relating and beliefs and what i call my sort of corrupted love software i i didn't think i could change the inner dialogue the inner narrative i called the inner you know and and as i kind of went through this process of healing in my mind i actually started to change that and and it was shocking to me because i remember hearing ramdas speak years ago and and he said you know you never really get rid of your neuroses
Starting point is 00:37:59 you just become friends with them and you you tell them like you know annoying cousins or uncles to go away and leave you alone but they they're always there. And I thought I had that belief. But I think in your work, you talk about, you know, the beauty of the fact that because these incels happened to you and you made meaning of it, that you can kind of rewire your neural circuits and rewire your brain and your emotional framework in a way that actually gets you free and this is really you know you talk about one of your favorite books being the dhammapada and i studied buddhism in college and yeah and through the buddhist aphorisms and sayings yeah and i think the buddhist framework is really about the liberation of the
Starting point is 00:38:40 mind yeah and it's really what your work is about. And so how do people, you know, how can people come to understand this work from a perspective of rewiring and the healing? Because it, you know, we can all identify things that happen to us and we can all sort of relate to that. And yet it's very difficult to kind of reset and i found myself for years just trying to reset and and until i really kind of had this sort of almost somatic experience of resetting through a bunch of different things i did and through you know a lot of emotional breakthroughs and a lot of crying it's like yeah able to kind of kind of get and particularly was really around this movie was such a catalyst for me i don't know if you saw the movie but it was such a catalyst because it was my mother's story and it was my story embedded in her story
Starting point is 00:39:29 and i began to sort of understand it all and it was just like like a what they call a shakti experience it sort of went through my nervous system and i came out of it feeling very different how do people get there well there's a big clue in what you just said because you said there was a lot of crying and there's a there's a lot of crying there's a big clue in what you just said, because you said there was a lot of crying. I did a lot of crying. There's a psychologist friend of mine with whom I wrote a book together, Hold On To Your Kids, and his name is Goran Neufeld. And he's really the world's leading developmental psychologist, not nearly as well-known as he might be, because he's more interested in working with people than in publishing in academia. But he said once to me that you should be saved in an ocean of tears and what that means is that you have to grieve what you've lost yeah rather than just defend it against it pretend it happened didn't happen you have to
Starting point is 00:40:16 grieve it so some of the process of healing is actually a process of healthy grieving grieving yeah that's what it felt like you know the you mentioned the dhamma part of the buddha's collection of sayings it begins with that everything is mind in the lead so basically with our minds we whatever we believe whatever we think we create the world that we live in so that um if you believe for example that the world is a horrible place that is dog eat dog that is every person for themselves against everybody else, that your neighbors, even your friends want your wife
Starting point is 00:40:52 and they want your house and they want your dog, then you know who you're going to be? You're going to be president of the United States because a recent president of the United States wrote that in his autobiography. That's his worldview. Now, how did he arrive at that world view? So the Buddha says that with our minds we
Starting point is 00:41:10 create the world. But he didn't say, which is what modern psychology says, that before with our thoughts, our beliefs, we create the world that we live in, the world creates our minds through our childhood experience. Our minds create the world, but our world creates our minds through our childhood experience. Our minds create the world, but our world creates our minds. Before we create the world with our minds, the mind creates our world based on our childhood experience. And so that we really have to look at the forces that shaped us and gave us the particular view,
Starting point is 00:41:40 like that I have to be a compulsive helper or that you had to become a compulsive helper and people pleaser. Nobody's born like that I have to be a compulsive helper or that you had to become a compulsive helper and people pleaser nobody's born like that those are childhood patterns to adaptations to fit into our environment when that environment demands it then with that mindset we create the world not everybody's so clear on that what's what's striking for me is often I run across somebody who says but you know doc i i was addicted but i really happy childhood you know and then that's when i issue what i call
Starting point is 00:42:12 the happy childhood challenge it takes about three minutes of conversation just asking every few basic questions and like you said you have these trick questions that you ask people well i have my own bag of tricks as well and and that happy childhood story never stands up to any kind of scrutiny you know and it's really important that it doesn't because otherwise people blame themselves i had this you know one of the saddest letters i received uh i mentioned this in in the myth of normal there was a guy guy in Seattle who read my book on addiction in which I point out and argue that addiction is a response to trauma
Starting point is 00:42:53 and particularly trauma incurred in childhood. And he writes back. He wrote me a letter saying, I found your book very interesting, but I can't blame my mother. I'm a sh** because of myself. I just felt so bad for the guy because he didn't get it. First of all, I didn't blame his mother.
Starting point is 00:43:12 I don't blame parents at all. Parents do their best. It's just that his mother, like maybe I as a parent and perhaps you as a parent, our best wasn't good enough because at that time we still haven't worked our stuff but there's no blame in recognizing that but more than that in that statement that I'm a because of me he was expressing
Starting point is 00:43:33 self-loathing and self-rejection which are the hallmarks of trauma but with that mind that's the world he lives in in which he is worthless and that mind, that's the world he lives in, in which he is worthless. Yeah. And that mind was created by his childhood,
Starting point is 00:43:50 but he can't see it. Yeah, it's so true. I recently had this incident about myself as well, because I had a father and a stepfather who were very disapproving, very detrimental. I was never good enough. I mean, my stepfather would say when I said, Dad, I got 98 in my test he's
Starting point is 00:44:05 like what happened the other two points and he wasn't kidding yeah yeah uh and you know and and and I think that left me with a sense of lack and void that I always trying to fill and always trying to be seen and known and acknowledged and it's sort of I've actually built a career on that and it worked but now I'm sort of reorganizing all that in my mind and what matters and how i want to live and how i relate to my work and other people and the need for validation and i never if you would have said mark you know um do you love yourself as of course i do i do have high self-esteem yes i do do you have a lot of self-worth of course i do but the truth was i don't think i really did what you did based on external conditions yeah I was like I really didn't and I've really been cultivating yeah I'm the same way that level of of you know self-worth and self-love and I and I ended up actually went to a retreat for myself
Starting point is 00:44:57 I just I wanted to sort of lock myself away for a month and I went to Vermont and I just stayed in a cabin I pulled out all the distractions you know phone computer books uh you know tv month and I went to Vermont and I just stayed in a cabin. I pulled out all the distractions, you know, phone, computer, books, uh, you know, TV, nothing. And I just sat with myself and I walked and I, you know, ate and I, uh, I was in nature and I wrote, that was one thing I did do. And I was just sort of amazed to sort of begin to realize that I was enough, you know, like those, and, and, and I had this this feeling it was after this work around my mother and this trauma that I began to kind of have this insight about what was driving me and driving my behavior that you know had a lot of good results but that actually left me not feeling that great and also sacrificing my health and doing all kinds of things that weren't in service
Starting point is 00:45:41 of you know my soul and what really mattered yeah and and i was like i was such a shock and a friend of myself you don't love yourself you don't have self-worth i'm like what do you mean like of course i do but actually i realized i didn't and the cultivation of that has really changed my whole internal architecture yeah yeah it wasn't for me um and then of course the way the society works is as you pointed out a couple times in this conversation it rewards us for self-betrayal and so that I was this respected doctor always available
Starting point is 00:46:13 and he's so kind and all this and my wife would go into a supermarket and they see the credit card and are you the wife of the great so-and-so and and she would grit her teeth yeah it's a great at home because the great so-and-so wasn't available at home he was too busy working all the time wasn't available for his own kids for his own self-care
Starting point is 00:46:36 for the relationship you know but the world externally rewards us for that. So as much as it grinds some people down, it elevates some people for the wrong reasons and for reasons that, which then reinforces, and it's very addictive because if my value depends on how much I'm helping others,
Starting point is 00:47:04 it becomes addictive. And others, it becomes addictive. And the reason it becomes addictive is because there's always a niggling doubt inside, which is maybe unconscious, but says, okay, they want me, but do they want me or do they want what I'm giving them? Yeah. So that satisfaction of getting that praise and valuation from the outside is a temporary hit, like somebody's temporary hit from heroin. Yeah. And then you have to have it again and again and again.
Starting point is 00:47:31 And our culture rewards that. I mean, it doesn't reward addiction. Our culture rewards it. So our culture rewards that kind of addiction big time, values it and esteems it. Meanwhile, the soul is being ground to dust inside. Yeah. And that's one of the,
Starting point is 00:47:48 that's another example of the myth of normal. Yeah. It's so true. I think, and the stories we tell ourselves are often so distorted. And one of my closest friends, I thought for 20 years he'd had a happy childhood
Starting point is 00:48:01 because he always said he had a happy childhood. And it wasn't until I went away and did a workshop with his sister, we were the same place and I started sharing about this and she's like what are you talking about my mother was crazy and she did this and she's that and it was awful and I'm like what it was a shock and it and I it explains so much about his behavior and his patterns and and I think a lot of us do that we we kind of uh prematurely transcend in a way our our trauma and instead of actually going through it we try to go past it and end up having all these maladaptive patterns of living and being and not functioning in a way that brings us joy and happiness and peace which
Starting point is 00:48:37 is what we're all after anyway and as you mentioned earlier then you go to a physician and i've often done this in um in talks that i give um i ask people well if you've been to a physician. And I've often done this in talks that I give. I ask people, well, if you've been to a cardiologist or a respiratoryologist or an oncologist or a dermatologist or a neurologist, any kind of an ologist in the last five years, just raise your hands. So out of 500 people in a room,
Starting point is 00:49:03 half of them at least will put their hands up, maybe more. And then I'll say, now keep your hands up if they ask you about any childhood trauma, your current relationship, any stresses at work, how do you feel about yourself as a human being? The hands mostly go down.
Starting point is 00:49:19 And yet I say to people, and I say this with full scientific backing, that those questions that are not being asked are what drove you to that doctor in the first place whether that trauma manifested in chronic physical illness or or mental health conditions or addictions that's the source and now as you deal with that source, you're only dealing with symptomatology and not actual cause. So for people listening, they're probably wondering, wow, maybe I haven't identified this or that as trauma. Or maybe actually I did survive a really traumatic child that I'm aware of.
Starting point is 00:50:00 But I'm stuck in these dysfunctional patterns. And I don't know how to break through. I don't know how to break through. I don't know how to rewire. And how do we kind of reconstitute ourselves in this modern world that's a toxic culture? So if we all got to go off and live in a monastery somewhere, it might be okay. But how do we do that? How do you provide a path for people to think about their own healing? Well, it's very difficult because partly it's a matter of resources.
Starting point is 00:50:29 Like those that are fortunate enough economically to be able to afford a good therapist. And I have to emphasize good because there's a lot of really useless therapies out there. I could talk a great length about that. That don't go to the heart of the things, but you only deal with the surface. Yeah. I could talk a great length about that. That don't go to the heart of the things, but you only deal with the surface. So if you can afford to do that, by all means, just as you take your car in for a tune-up, take yourself in for a tune-up and find out what is grinding and what is not working and where it's not lubricated
Starting point is 00:50:58 and what actually happened. There's lots of therapeutic modalities, I've developed one you mentioned that in the introduction compassion inquiry but I don't claim it's a panacea what is that well at this point I'm only mentioning it as one possible among many many others you know there are so many forms of therapy out there and people can find whatever works for them you know so there's my compassion inquiry there's my good friend dick schwartz's internal family systems which is getting increasing attraction and attention for good reason um there is peter levine's somatic experiencing body-based therapies body-based therapies that's right um the cranial sacral work um body work such as massages and so on and very interesting how many times people will get a massage and the therapist will touch
Starting point is 00:51:52 it therapist will touch a certain part of their body and all of a sudden the tears come you know because like Bessel van der Kolk says in his best-selling book the body does keep the score nobody keeps the score so the sensory motor therapies padogden I could name many many therapies but but if you're gonna find a therapy find one that's trauma-informed mm-hmm most therapies are not term in front something like cognitive behavioral therapy mostly deals with, I'm not saying it's categorically, but mostly deals with the surface of things. It doesn't deal with the underlying
Starting point is 00:52:31 traumatic template for why you think the way you do. Also, but, for people who can't afford a private therapist, or their community programs. Online, there's all kinds of information about trauma.
Starting point is 00:52:52 Many of my talks have been uploaded to YouTube, not by me, but just by others on trauma. You can get lots of information, not just from me, but from others as well. Then there are modalities that anybody can do such as meditation and mindfulness like you spent a month on your own and basically I've done similar things where you're just alone with your mind yeah and that's a scary thing it can be it can be a very scary thing for sure but that means taking a break from the digital world yeah actually spending time alone with the mind and then writing about it journaling about it talking to people
Starting point is 00:53:35 about it there's lots of stuff that people can do and increasingly there are more and more books that are really good guides to understanding and working with trauma. Peter Levine's work, Waking the Tiger in an Unspoken Voice. That's another one of Peter's work. My various books that you were kind enough to mention, including this most recent one, Bessels, The Body Keeps the Score. Bruce Perry and Oprah's recent book called what happened to you about childhood trauma yeah and memoirs like educated by tara westover yeah which is quite a wake-up call about trauma and its impacts there's lots of stuff out there now at least we're living in a world where this conversation although it's not penetrating the medical
Starting point is 00:54:21 profession very much at least it's happening out there in the world. Yeah, it's true. And I think historically, illness was seen as a spiritual problem in most cultures. You mentioned Lakota. When someone's sick, they bring the community together, and the shamans and the medicine men were the healers, and there was no division between spirituality and disease and health.
Starting point is 00:54:46 It was all one continuum. And I spent, you know, a lot of time in very interesting cultures when I was in medical school and was a Hopi reservation. And another was in Nepal. And there was this embedded culture of shamanism and medicine men and healers. And I remember being up in mountains and way in the remote areas near tibet in the palra in a medical expedition and the dami jonkris were the were the nepalese
Starting point is 00:55:13 healers and um and and there was this incredible ceremony with the whole community around and the ill person it was like it wasn't like you went to the doctor and you went and sat in an office by yourself like the whole community was there that's. And the healer was there working on the person and they were doing whatever they were doing, but activating different healing mechanisms of the body that we actually can activate through these various different modalities. And many cultures historically have used medicines, plant medicines, to actually heal. And now with the advent of this field of psychedelic-assisted therapy, this whole conversation is changing. In fact, the psychedelics, and we've had Michael Paul on the podcast, Tony Bossis and others who are doing this work,
Starting point is 00:55:57 and they really have sort of resurrected this body of research that started in the 50s around psychedelics and LSD to look at how we can use these to help heal the mind. And I know you sort of work with this model as well as part of the modalities. And like you said, there are many, but for many people, this can be an interruption in their normal view of themselves and their world and great safety. You know, and I, I, I mean members of my own family who've been able to take advantage of this and, and actually start to find peace and start to kind of unpack the, the, the sort of traumas. And I,
Starting point is 00:56:38 and I have many friends and many colleagues who've used this and a lot of it sort of underground now, but it's, it's really emerging. And you know, whether it's ketamine therapy, whether it's mdma psilocybin therapy whether it's ayahuasca or ibogaine which is incredibly interesting to me as an addiction treatment we don't want to sort of talk about that a little bit uh and even things like stellate ganglion blocks which are a nerve block in the neck that interrupts the fight or flight response. These are all technologies, let's call them ancient technologies, some more modern technologies that actually seem to help people sort of take a quantum jump over and leapfrog over a lot of the
Starting point is 00:57:16 sort of slogging through the traumas through traditional therapy and traditional psychiatry and medication, which often doesn't really work that well. Well, I wonder if you had, like myself, often wished or not often wished that if we could just combine the amazing achievements of modern medicine with some humility to look at the traditional wisdoms, teachings of indigenous peoples, because it's not a question of one over the other. But boy, if we had that kind
Starting point is 00:57:45 of wisdom infused into our technological minds we would be so much more powerful as healers and um you know as you as you suggested the the illness is not just as a biological event but as a psychological spiritual event so the the medicine wheel of north american indigenous people which the four quadrants of mind and spirit and and and body and and and sociality all have to be balanced and as as regards psychedelics so my third to last chapter in this book is on psychedelics and uh because i have worked with them quite a bit and i spoke with michael pollan and i asked him if he was surprised by the success of his work book uh yeah how to change your mind and he said what he was most surprised was that
Starting point is 00:58:37 he expected a lot more pushback within the medical profession he says, people are realizing how thin our toolkit actually is, and then we have to find some other solutions. And I myself have found, both individually for me, but also as a healing modality for people I work with, psychedelics to be a very powerful potential, and more than a potential, it's a very powerful modality and I'm not a psychedelic evangelist I don't think psychedelics gonna save the world or save medicine but boy are we nuts not to explore them and and and to employ them because they have so much to potentially to offer
Starting point is 00:59:22 in so many conditions in the book I give examples of people healing, not just from mental health, but also from physical conditions. Yeah. Based on changing their mindset as it flows from psychedelic experience. So, Gabor, how do these medicines work? And I think they're all different, right? But how do they reset these neural networks? And how do they help people metabolize their trauma and well some traditions like say example with ayahuasca it wasn't necessarily the client who would take the plant but the shaman would mm-hmm and the shaman would then get a vision and deep insight and i've worked
Starting point is 01:00:05 with these um indigenous shamans in the peruvian rainforest let me tell you they're penetrating the shibobo healers yeah the sheep people are dead deep and they see things that western medicine just hasn't got a clue about i'm talking personally i had that experience yeah can you share that yeah and and they just saw it right into me. They had no idea who I was. They were not impressed. They didn't read all your books? They didn't read my books.
Starting point is 01:00:31 They were not impressed with my credentials. They just saw this human being carrying a lot of trauma, and they just saw it, and they worked with it. And I didn't have to be on the plant for them to see that. I was, but it was their own vision that allowed them to see that. So that's the first point, is that partly it has to do with who's administering it, in what context, and what training they've had.
Starting point is 01:00:52 Yeah, the set and setting, they call it. The set and setting. You can't just go to a party and do stuff and hope it works. Secondly, Freud, Sigmund Freud once said that dreams are the royal road to the unconscious, meaning that in dreams you manifest some of our most unconscious emotional dynamics, which is true, but the interpretation of dreams is notoriously difficult. And I think Freud certainly had his own illusions
Starting point is 01:01:23 when it came to interpreting other people's dreams. But I think psychedelics might be said to be a royal rule to the unconscious because they remove the usual defenses of the egoic mind. So you get to see both the pain and the possibility that underlies the egoic mindset. So people get in touch with some deep agony sometimes. They also get in touch with some beauty that they had not been in touch with, but it's been inside them all along.
Starting point is 01:01:55 So you get to see both the traumatized, unprotected, uncovered, traumatized aspect of your personality that's been pulling the strings behind the curtains for a long time now. But you also get to see the possibilities of oneness and unity and love and beauty so that you don't have to keep running. You don't have to keep employing these defenses. That's it in a very small nutshell. But the potential is tremendous tremendous and I've seen it happen. I've experienced some of it myself and I've certainly seen it happen a lot in my
Starting point is 01:02:32 work with other people. Yeah, I think it's very powerful. And the sort of addiction space is sort of fascinating because not all psychedelics or plant medicines are the same. And this particular compound, which I don I think we've talked about in the podcast Ibogaine derived from the iboga tree. Yeah. One of the things I wish I talked about in this chapter and is it, but I didn't. And I'm not I'm not even sure why I omitted it. And I was probably just want to get the book finished.
Starting point is 01:02:59 There's only 4000 pages already. Was Iboga because Iboga which is a plant that goes in Gabon by the retreat people. Yeah, and it's been used as a spiritual enzyme, you might say, by those people there, tribally speaking. But it's got the amazing quality of not just of unearthing traumatic imprints, like many of the other psychedelics do but also in the case of opiates actually obviating opiate withdrawal so you could be on heroin for 20 years
Starting point is 01:03:35 yeah and after two nights of iboga or ibogaine which is the extract you are not going through withdrawal symptoms you're not shocking from a medical perspective. An alcoholic, you know, I work in the emergency room and someone come in with alcohol withdrawal, it's a physiological phenomena. Heroin addiction and withdrawal is a physiological phenomena. So how do you interrupt that? Well, opiate withdrawal is terrible. The dependence because of the loss of opiate receptors
Starting point is 01:04:03 and therefore all of a sudden you don't get the opiate from the outside your system is in total shock people gain prevents that now again it's not for everybody there's some medical contraindications and the context has to be really right and pristine both psychologically and medically and and physically but in the proper hands, it's transformative. There's studies being done now with American veterans with PTSD showing amazing results with using iboga. Stanford is running such a study. But of course, in the wisdom of our current society, it's illegal.
Starting point is 01:04:49 And it's considered to be medically useless. Yeah. And therefore, it's hard to even get permission to study it. Yeah. Which is insanity to the highest degree. Yeah. There's a woman who's spoken to, and I've heard her speak, Deborah Mash, who's a scientist, has worked with NIH-funded studies, and has done a lot of the key work in this area of iboga and and in and it talks
Starting point is 01:05:10 about the development of derivatives of iboga like nori began and other derivatives that actually may not have some of the adverse effects but can kind of benefit people and we've actually had conversations about food addiction you mentioned sugar being the most addictive compound in the world and i think you know i've talked my books, you know, rats will work eight times harder to get sugar than to get cocaine. If they're already addicted to cocaine, they'll switch over to sugar. And I sort of had said, hey, maybe, I don't know if this is, anybody's even looked at this, but wouldn't it be interesting if a lot of the sort of maladies we have now, which are related to food, which are driven by food addiction could be treated with this plant
Starting point is 01:05:49 medicine would be kind of a fascinating line of inquiry and and what does that make kellogg's with their sugar frosted flakes or or coca-cola drug pushers they make them they're the biggest drug pushers in the world yeah and. And yet, you know, they're respectable brand name companies. Yeah. Talk about the myth of normal, you know? That's true. I mean, the first podcast I ever did is Doctor's Pharmacy with Michael Moss on sugar, salt, and fat. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 01:06:17 And he documented the ways in which the food industry deliberately created addictive foods. They have taste institutes. They hire craving experts to create the bliss point of food. I know. And if one of my patients in the downtown Eastside got caught with an ounce of cocaine that he might have tried to sell to feed his own illegal habit, and I could talk at length about why these habits are illegal
Starting point is 01:06:43 and others are not, but if one of my clients got caught with an non-so-cocaine he'd go to jail and these corporations they kill millions oh yeah and they're just respectable citizens and respectable entities you know I mean the absurdity of it and injustice of it just cries to the heavens that's true you know addiction, let's say, 70,000 people, lower dose in America. Guns, maybe 70,000. Probably 700,000 die in America. 100,000 last year.
Starting point is 01:07:12 More than 100,000 last year. Yeah, but still. I mean, still, like seven or maybe 10 times that are caused by food. Oh, yeah. You know? And yet we don't really have a national conversation about this. Even with COVID, you know, where diet plays such a huge role in predisposing people to hospitalizations and death,
Starting point is 01:07:29 it still isn't part of the national narrative. I mean, in other countries it is now. And again, COVID. I mean, we used to say in the beginning, we're all in this together. No, we're not. People that are of color, people that are poor, people that are driven by stress into obesity, these people are significantly higher risk than
Starting point is 01:07:53 people that are more privileged. So no, we're not all in this together. In this society, we're all in this together is a real lie is what it is. Yeah. I mean, I find it really you know despite the depressing nature of this conversation i actually find it very hopeful because you know when you kind of identify a name of problem yeah and you understand the root causes of it yeah and you can map out a series of strategies to help yeah treat the problem it's actually very reassuring. Well, you know what?
Starting point is 01:08:27 So in the last chapter, I talk about the values of disillusionment. And it's really good to be disillusioned. Like I ask people, would you rather be illusioned or disillusioned? Would you rather believe in a false universe that doesn't actually exist? Would you rather see in a false universe that doesn't actually exist? Would you rather see things the way they are so you can do something about it?
Starting point is 01:08:55 So I wouldn't have written this book if I saw no possibility, if I saw no redemption, if I didn't see the healing capacity within individuals or even within society. So in that sense, you might call me an optimist. Yeah. But I do think that in order to get there, we really have to look at how things are unflinchingly and not pretend to ourselves that what we think is normal is actually normal.
Starting point is 01:09:18 It isn't. It's not. No, that's the myth of normal. I mean, in a way, it's a book of redemption. It's like how do we redeem ourselves from a toxic culture, from toxic families, from a toxic environment and and how do we heal that and that that's a that's a conversation that's so invisible that hasn't been brought forth by many doctors i think you know you're one of the few well as physicians
Starting point is 01:09:38 we're not trained to do that and we're trained actually to look away from it. And, you know, there was one study on physicians, actually on residents, medical residents, without going into the details, when they looked at markers of biological aging, they aged faster than other people their age, which has to do with the tremendous stress and trauma that physicians are grown through in order to make it. And so that they just have to ignore their own stuff,
Starting point is 01:10:11 their own stress and their own trauma in order to be successful. Then when they get out there to practice, that's the last thing they think about. That's true. I mean, I remember being told by residents who were older than me, basically as we were on rotations, like basically lunch and sleep were weaknesses. And I'm like, what?
Starting point is 01:10:31 I was 50 years old when I found out that you can actually sit down to have lunch. You don't have to do it running between offices. That's true. This is such a good conversation. I have a few more things I wanna sort of dive into. One is the a good conversation. I have a few more things I want to sort of dive into. One is the biology of psychology. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:10:49 You know, Carol Mace talks about how our biography becomes our biology. Yeah. I mean, our biology also can become our biography, right? So physical things can cause mental illness, but also psychological stresses can cause physical illness. And, you know, Candice Pert, you talk about in your book, I had the chance to meet her who worked for the NIH and studied the mind-body effect.
Starting point is 01:11:09 You call that body-mind. Yeah. And the molecules of emotion. And, you know, can you explore a little bit about the science behind how these traumas and these psychological stresses manifest in the body as physical illness? So here's the, let me begin with the frustrating thing. So in 1860s, Jean-Marie Charcot, the father of modern neurology,
Starting point is 01:11:38 who first described multiple sclerosis, said that it was caused by long-term vexation and grief. Ah. William Osler, a great physician at Johns Hopkins, one of the founding physicians at Johns Hopkins, he said rheumatoid arthritis was caused by long-term stress. He also said that it's more important to know the person who has a disease than the disease the person has.
Starting point is 01:12:02 That's right, yeah. An American surgeon called Paget wrote about breast cancer the person who has a disease and the disease the disease itself that's right yeah um an american surgeon called paget um wrote about breast cancer that had a lot to do with depression and so on you know so that uh in 18 in 1938 there was a hungarian american physician at harvard called soma weiss who was so revered that there's still a research day in his honor at Harvard to this day. He said in a lecture to a medical
Starting point is 01:12:31 school class. Another Hungarian Jew. Another Hungarian Jew. Published in the Journal of the American Medical Association. He said that mental and emotional factors are as important in the causation of illness as physiological ones and have to be at least as important in the treatment yeah um in
Starting point is 01:12:52 1977 the great american physician and psychiatrist george engel called for a biopsychosocial approach which recognizes that biology is inseparable from our psychological dynamics and social relationships. Not new. So this is nothing new. Now, what is new is that these great pioneers, what they recognized intuitively, now we have proven by means of hard science. So in terms of hard science, the body and the mind can't be separated. No. science so in terms of heart science the body and the mind can't be separated that the emotional
Starting point is 01:13:26 centers in the brain are connected with the nervous system with the hormonal apparatus with the immune system with the gut and with the heart in other words they're not even connected because even to say connected creates the impression that separate entities are somehow wired together these are not separate they're the one system. Yeah, one system. Just as Candice Pert called it, the body-mind. It's one system. Therefore, it just stands to reason that whatever happens emotionally
Starting point is 01:13:53 will have its manifestation physiologically. And sure enough, when people get emotionally stressed, that's not just a psychological event. Their hormonal apparatus goes into gear they secrete stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline now here's a interesting little fact when you go to a dermatologist for inflammation of the skin or rheumatologist inflammation of the joints or a neurologist for inflammation of the intestines or a respirologist for inflammation of your lungs and i could go on what medicine are you
Starting point is 01:14:30 going to get you're going to get some analog of cortisol which is the stress hormone now you think as physicians we might ask ourselves gosh we're treating everything with stress hormones could stress has something to do with the onset of these conditions maybe just perhaps yeah and of course the research is indubitable that it that's actually the case and the physiological pathways had to do with these connections that what happens emotionally affects the immune system that what happens or what happens in the immune system can actually affect the emotions yeah so if you get a a vile infection that can release hormones from the white blood cells that would
Starting point is 01:15:12 make you depressed yeah when i had covet i was so depressed and i'm never really depressed like that i was like i understand why people want to kill themselves yeah so i knew it was covet but i was like holy cow yeah so it goes both ways. So it's not just the... So because it's one unit and it's one system, it's inevitable that whatever happens emotionally is going to show up physiologically. Furthermore, we know that childhood trauma elevates the circulation of inflammatory particles in the blood,
Starting point is 01:15:43 cytokines so-called, which can turn on cancer genes, which can reduce the body's defenses, which can support the growth of blood vessels to support tumors, and so on. We know that stress, even in utero, if your mother experiences stress that will show up in your physiology at age 45 yeah by mechanisms are right about in the book but I won't go into now but in other words it's just a this constant dance between our psychological lives in our physiology and it's unscientific to ignore it and I've only mentioned a few mechanisms then there's the impact of
Starting point is 01:16:26 of stress and emotions on the functioning of our genes yeah which is studied by epigenetics or one could go just on and on and on microbiome your bacteria are listening to your thoughts your immune cells are listening to your thoughts your tel telomeres, like you said, your genes. And one study I looked at was stress on the mother during pregnancy will interfere with the infant's microbiome. Yeah. So it's just so that these dynamics are inseparable and inextricable. There's just a unit. This is a scientific fact.
Starting point is 01:17:03 So when our profession talks about scientific medicine and evidence-based medicine, if there was one phrase I could delete from the medical lexicon, it would be evidence-based. Because I only wish that we were evidence-based. Yeah. Yeah, I think I often say we're reimbursement-based, not evidence-based.
Starting point is 01:17:24 We do what we get paid to do, not what the right thing to do is right and i think that's one of the flaws and a lot of the evidence is ignored because it's not large randomized clinical trials which are only one form of evidence and which is one form of evidence and mostly to the benefit of the pharmaceutical exactly and then population studies are another form of evidence but again those don't necessarily prove cause and effect and you know it's another form of evidence, but again, those don't necessarily prove cause and effect. And you know what's another form of evidence? I know I'm heretical to say so. Just listen to people's stories.
Starting point is 01:17:52 Let them tell you about their lives. That's evidence. Exactly. Absolutely. It's only not evidence to the people who are terminally cut off from their heart. I think the advent of systems biology, quantum computing, artificial artificial intelligence, and quantified self-metrics, which are how we measure our own biology, are going to revolutionize the way we understand all of this. Because it's not too far in the future that we're going to be able to plant a chip in our skin and come up with everything that's happening in our body and have it read by some supercomputer and make sense of all these connections and patterns and see how it works. But it's so true. And I think, you know, the, the, the thing that you mentioned that I want to dive a little bit deeper into is this concept of epigenetics. And for people listening, just a little background, you know, your genes are fixed. You, you know, you can edit them maybe with CRISPR and these new technologies, but basically
Starting point is 01:18:41 you've got 20,000 genes. You've got a lot of variations in those genes, but those genes are regulated by something called the epigenome, which sits on top of your genes. And those epigenetic marks, let's call them, like bookmarks in your book of life, which is your genome, determine which pages get read, which genes get read. And that determines your health or determines what diseases you're going to get. And what's really striking to me, and there's some interesting literature on the Holocaust, which you were in many ways sort of a representative of the trauma from that generation, is that generational trauma is real. It's not just an abstract idea, but the biblical idea that the sins of the fathers
Starting point is 01:19:27 are visited upon their sons. I mean, there's actually scientific evidence now that we know how our imprinting in our grandparents or their grandparents is transmitted generationally through these little tags or bookmarks on our genes that determine what happens to us. So can you talk about that and what we know about how that works and what we can do about it?
Starting point is 01:19:49 Can you change those marks? So it's a very interesting new field, a relatively new field, epigenetics, as you say, on top of genes. I'm certainly no expert on it, but I did interview experts, people who are, Moshe Sif in Montreal and Dr. Rachel Yehuda at Mount sinai actually
Starting point is 01:20:07 in new york and these people have done elegant research that show exactly what you're talking about that that that experiences in life can change how genes are turned on and off by the environment and those effects can be transmitted into new generations without any change in genetic structure. Yeah. And there's this tremendous misbelief in the power of genes in the general public and certainly in the medical profession.
Starting point is 01:20:41 There are very few genetic diseases. There are very few genetic diseases that if you have the gene you're going to get a disease one runs in my family muscular dystrophy if you got that gene you're going to have the disease through the generations and that's showing up in every generation of my family that's very rare it's like 1%. 1% maybe or less. Less, right. Huntington's, Korea, things like that. Already when it comes to breast cancer, for example, everybody talks about being genetic. No, it isn't.
Starting point is 01:21:12 Out of 100 women with breast cancer, seven have the gene. And out of 100 women with the gene, not all of them will get the disease. Exactly. In other words, the genes themselves, even in the case of breast cancer, like Angelina Jolie very famously had mastectomies and oophorectomies,
Starting point is 01:21:29 their ovaries were taken out. And she made a calculated decision because an aggressive form of that gene runs in her family. And so I understand that. But that's very rare, comparatively speaking. And so most illnesses, the genetic effect, if any, is minimal and not at all decisive. And what is decisive is how the environment acts on the genes,
Starting point is 01:21:58 which is the epigenetics. And we believe in genes because it's so convenient first of all it's simple secondly it allows us not to deal with our stuff so that as a society um we're not to look at all the ways in which society stresses and oppresses or really pathologizes people or or and venoms makes them sick toxifies them and so on so if it's genetics well i don't have to worry about that yeah if addiction is genetic we don't have to look at the trauma right that so many people suffer and the way in which the system itself traumatizes people you know so genetics kind of takes us off the hook but scientifically it's absolute nonsense
Starting point is 01:22:43 yeah and i think the epigenetic conversation is to me really important because just in ways that our genes can be marked for disease, they can actually be unmarked. That's right. That's right. And genetics, there are geneticists who say that. They say genetics may confer certain sensitivities sensitivities on people but after that it's the environment yeah so you can have the same set of genes different experiences and have completely different outcomes you can have identical twins who've got the same set of genes with totally different outcomes yeah if you subject them to different experiences. That's true. I mean, when they looked at actually 88,000 twins,
Starting point is 01:23:28 44,000 twin pairs in cancer, they found there was only a 10% correlation. I mean, it's 90% of cancers in those twins were not genetically related, which is kind of a striking thing in twins. And by the way, even that 10% is probably not as much as it looks you know why because they both had similar traumas maybe they spent nine months
Starting point is 01:23:51 in the same uterus right so we already know lots of studies have shown that stresses on a woman during pregnancy has an impact on the fetus So you can stress pregnant animals in the laboratory just by exposing, say, a mother rat to an hour of loud noise once a week in the second trimester. Their offspring would be more likely to drink alcohol and use cocaine as adults. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:24:19 So that even those twin studies, they ignore the fact that those twins, even if they grew up in different environments, they still spend nine months in the same uterus. Yeah, it's so true. And I think we had the Human Genome Project, which in around 2000 decoded the human genome. And it was this great event that was an advance that was promising to end disease, as we know it. Bill Clinton said something like, refining out the language in which God ruled life, something like that. Found out nothing of the sort.
Starting point is 01:24:54 Well, right. And so it's been a massive failure in many ways, although it has led to many discoveries, because it ignored the story that hasn't been really told, which is not the genome, but the exposome, which is what our genes are exposed to, whether it's the toxic environment psychologically or whether it's a literal toxic environment of pesticides and chemicals or bad diet or stress. All these things are the real determinants of health.
Starting point is 01:25:22 So 90% of chronic disease is determined by the exposome, not the genome. That's right. Well, only I would slightly demur from your assertion that the epigenome was a massive failure. It was a massive success for all the billions of dollars that it generated for all kinds of companies and researchers. Failure in terms of benefiting human health, yes. And some of his most fervent advocates have admitted as much yeah they said you know they're ashamed of themselves now but it's not that it's bad to bad to have done that and decoded it but i think it's it's like
Starting point is 01:25:53 what what we now need to understand is how those genes are regulated yeah that's right how those genes are expressed and that's what we have really a lot of control over yeah and i and i wonder even some of these psychedelic therapies if they work on some of these pathways and if they work on some of these ways. Because I don't understand how, for example, the iboga works around addiction. It's such a fascinating biological phenomenon, not just a psychological phenomenon.
Starting point is 01:26:16 No, we don't know the physiology. It does something to... There's a psychiatrist in New York called Ken Alpert that you might want to talk to about it. He's kind of a world expert on iboga and how it works. But I don't think anybody really knows fully how any of these things really work in the brain. People have theories and we can show on scans how they light up certain parts of the brain. But you know what?
Starting point is 01:26:38 I don't care. Yeah. The reason I don't care is because it works. So for people listening, and I sort of want to loop back this before we close, you know, um, I imagine people are paying attention to their own stories, their own narratives, their own origins, their families, and sort of their own behaviors, addictions, mental health challenges, and, and trying to sort of figure out a map for how do we sort of go forward. And you mentioned a lot of the potential therapies, but, you know,
Starting point is 01:27:10 I think the question for me that I want to keep coming back to with you is how do we really rewire these patterns? And is it really possible? Because you kind of tell the story in your book of coming home from a trip, getting to the airport, expecting your wife's going to pick you up. And for some reason, she was busy. And you went to this kind of tailspin about it. Totally. And were kind of giving her the cold shoulder for a week. Well, only – no, she let me get away with it for a day.
Starting point is 01:27:39 Oh, a day. A day. Then she said, knock it off already. But what happens was that – I aged, at that time, 72. I was just young and stupid, age 72. You were young and stupid at 72. Yeah. Listen, this is a line I use.
Starting point is 01:27:56 I'm 78 now, and thank God for rewiring on neuroplasticity because I would not wish to be as young and stupid as I was when I was 77. Never mind that the callow age of 72. But the point is, I had a meltdown. I became an abandoned infant. Because that's the trigger. That's the circuit in my brain stamped with the sense of abandonment that got triggered. Yes, we can rewire.
Starting point is 01:28:22 With practice and with attention, you can rewire with practice and with attention you can rewire the brain and the last eight chapters of the book is really all about how do we rewire how do we to go back to what you said in the beginning how do we make new meaning and let go of the old meanings
Starting point is 01:28:38 that trauma imposed on us so it's entirely possible I propose some ways in various chapters in the last section of my book. And I said earlier, there's other modalities as well. So yes, it can be done. And I think that healing capacity really is an inherent quality of human beings. Which again, as physicians, we're not learning how to line up with and support and and and and enliven um if we did we would be
Starting point is 01:29:07 so much more powerful as healers you know so what we can do mechanically is brilliant and it's miraculous i'm i never cease to marvel at what can be done sure you know but at the same time there's so much that we miss. Yeah. And so much more that we could do if we could align with people's natural healing capacities, if we were a bit more humble,
Starting point is 01:29:32 a bit more inclusive, open-minded. And if you just look at the science. Yeah. Yeah. And it's true. I mean, the body has its own innate healing system
Starting point is 01:29:40 and capacity that we really ignored in traditional medicine because we think we're the doctors and we're going to fix people yeah but actually all we need to do is get out of the way and let the body do the healing if very often that's what we have to do you know you know look if i broke my fever femur in three places i wouldn't want some orthopedic just to get out of the way i wanted to get in there and nail me together. But for most chronic conditions of body and the mind, what we're saying is absolutely true. Yeah. So just to close,
Starting point is 01:30:12 we've been talking a lot about the personal story and the personal journey, but a lot of your book is about the toxic culture we live in and the ways in which our policies and our corporations and the structure and our education all perpetuate a world that keeps perpetuating the trauma. The last chapter of the book, I begin by asking, well, how do we change this culture that is so determined to even destroy the earth rather than to give up its prerogatives? Which is how it is yeah you know and and we're quite willing to ignore causes of illness that kill millions yeah we we generated a very powerful and very urgent response to the covid uh situation some people might not agree with someone some of how that went down, but there's no question that resources and ingenuity were mobilized to tackle this public health threat. But there's
Starting point is 01:31:13 ongoing public health threats that kill many or more people annually that have to do with the environment, that has to do with poor food, that has to do with poverty, has to do with the environment that has to be poor food that has to do with poverty has to do with racism has to do with um inequality has to do with just to stress on even successful people in this culture that we don't address so when i ask the question how do we address all that my honest answer is i don't know i mean i do have my own views. I do have a vision of a society that's very different than the ones we're living in. But... What does it look like? It's certainly based on our evolutionary needs
Starting point is 01:31:52 for communality and connection and cooperation rather than aggression and competition and rugged individualism and this belief that we're isolated selves. But right now, in an immediate sense, we could simply listen to the science and infuse some trauma awareness into the medical profession,
Starting point is 01:32:19 including how doctors are trained, not just in what they're taught, but how they're treated so that they're taught, but how they're treated. Yeah. So that they're not traumatized in doing their training. So infusing trauma awareness into the medical profession would go a long way. Introducing trauma awareness into the legal profession. Most people in the jails have... Traumatized.
Starting point is 01:32:48 The United States is the most richest country in the world. It's also the one with the largest percentage of its population in jail. Disproportionately colored people of color, which is just a... What can I say? It's a reprise of slavery.
Starting point is 01:33:03 It actually is. Most people who are in jail are there because of trauma. You know, the predictions of people going to the foster care system ending up in jail are extraordinarily high. But what if,
Starting point is 01:33:20 even if you had to isolate people from society to protect society, even if you had to do that, what if you did so with compassion with trauma awareness we know the impact of trauma-informed programs in jails they're miraculous huge but they're so rare and so poorly funded and not at all part of the mandate of what we call the correction system and you know i think for a good reason we call it a criminal justice system because it's a criminal system right and and it because it hurts the innocent it hurts people that don't deserve to be hurt it hurts people that even if they did bad things they still deserve to be treated by human beings and to be corrected so we've got a real correctional system that would have to be a trauma-informed system
Starting point is 01:34:05 the average physician does not get a single lecture on trauma in all the years of training which is incredible but neither does the average lawyer or the average judge or correctional officer or policeman they don't know anything about it which is insane because that's all they do deal with day in day out exactly the educational profession needs to be trauma-informed because all these kids with learning difficulties and behavior problems and so-called bogus diagnosis like oppositional defiant disorder um with diagnosis like adhd they need to be told educators do that we're looking at is kids who are stressed and troubled at home. That's what needs to be dealt with.
Starting point is 01:34:48 One of the points I make is that in our society we've become alienated from our own parenting instincts. We parent our kids under stressful conditions, following the wrong advice. We could go so
Starting point is 01:35:04 far in the right direction if we just recognize what the irreducible needs of children are yeah for unconditional loving acceptance for fee play in nature for not having to work like you did to make the relationship with your mother work yeah to have rest from that uh for children to be allowed to feel all their emotions not punishing a kid for being angry but by helping them express the anger in a in an acceptable way you know just just meeting kids basic needs if parents were just informed if parents were supported in the united states 20 or 25 percent of women have to go back to work within two weeks of giving birth,
Starting point is 01:35:47 which amounts to an abandonment of the child. Yeah. So a quarter of kids are being abandoned by their mothers, not because the mothers don't love them or are trying to do their best, but because economically they're forced to do so because of lack of child support.
Starting point is 01:36:01 That's what happened to you in the Holocaust. Your mother had to hide you in a Christian family because you were Jewish. But that was special circumstance. of lack of child support. That's what happened to you in the Holocaust. Your mother had to hide you. My mother had to hide me and give me to a stranger. But that was special circumstance. Here in North America, at least in America, that's a common circumstance. So there's so much child rearing, so much in our education, in our healthcare,
Starting point is 01:36:20 in our legal system. We could do if we just embraced the evidence that we already have. So we're not talking about miracles here. We're talking about what's known, what's possible, what's available, and what would cost a lot less than the economic cost of ignoring human needs. And you mentioned the economics of it, but it's staggering, the economic impact of of this in terms of the cost of society. In fact, uh, there was a,
Starting point is 01:36:51 an economic analysis of the impact of chronic disease over the next 35 years and its economic impact. It was going to cost $95 trillion, which is, you know, considering our GDP is about you know 20 trillion it's that's a lot of money and and health care is you know is a huge part of that and the majority of that believe it or not was depression was the what they call the loss of quality of life years the quality adjusted life years lost right or the the sort of lack of productivity or effectiveness as a citizen or as a member of society because you're depressed. I mean, that's just a staggering amount. And that, again, all that arises from exactly what we've been talking about on the podcast. And, you know, I think as you've been talking, it's really clear to me, we need to sort
Starting point is 01:37:40 of reimagine society in a way that brings connection, not separation, in a way that creates safety around these conversations, in a way that reimagines education, reimagines social discourse, reimagines our policies to support these, reimagines our criminal justice system, our medical system. Really, every area has to actually be trauma-informed, trauma-conscious, as you talked about it. And your work is so important gabor and i thank god you know your mom saved you because this maybe it's uh you know i don't know how many years later 70 something years later yeah but we we uh we're i think now ready as a society for this conversation and your book the myth of normal uh doesn't come a day too soon uh everybody listening
Starting point is 01:38:22 uh this this is really one of the most important books, I think, of the 21st century. It probably will hopefully be seen as that. And I think that everybody listening needs to get a copy. You need to read it. You need to understand what happened to you, what happens in our culture, and how to all of us do that. I think we can begin to create a ripple effect that will bring this conversation to the forefront and start the process of healing and begin the process of understanding that we don't live in a normal world, that it's actually abnormal. Well, Mark, you're very kind to say so. If I just may comment about the story of my mother,
Starting point is 01:38:58 because it speaks to the theme of healing. So, yes, I arrive at the airport and my wife is not there to pick me up and my abandonment trauma gets triggered. But, you know, as a one-year-old, I could not interpret my mother giving me to a stranger
Starting point is 01:39:18 to save my life as anything other than abandonment. But you know what? Once I heal, I realize what? It was a great act of love. Can you imagine for a 24-year-old young mom whose parents had been killed in Auschwitz, whose husband was dead or alive, she didn't know,
Starting point is 01:39:37 than to give their baby to a stranger? And what an act of love it was for that strange Christian woman to take this little Jewish baby and take him to safety. So that what all my life I had emotionally interpreted as abandonment actually was a tremendous act of love. And I think this is where the healing and the rewiring that we've been talking about can actually take place. It's not just the event, it's the meaning that we give them. And when it comes to healing, we can create our own meanings going forward.
Starting point is 01:40:13 In essence, what you're talking about is creating a new kind of medicine, love medicine. Yeah, that's right. Well, thank you, Gabor, for your work. Everybody listening, get the book. You can learn more about his work at drgabormonte.com, his other books. Uh, the wisdom of trauma is a movie.
Starting point is 01:40:27 I encourage you to watch. It's available online. And, uh, I can't wait to see what you do next. And, and thank you. Um, I'm going to reckon you to help you. I'm here. Thank you so much. Yeah.
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