The Dr. Hyman Show - Reflections On Living An Authentic Life with Matthew McConaughey

Episode Date: December 28, 2021

I was lucky enough to learn at a young age that we can write our own stories. We can become the authors of our own lives instead of the victims—living authentically is a cornerstone of that process. Throughout life we’re posed with obstacles, successes, and everything in between. My guest on today’s episode of The Doctor’s Farmacy, the one and only Matthew McConaughey, shares how challenging events (redlights) can provide us with the opportunity for growth and success (greenlights), which is the focus of his new book Greenlights. Academy Award–winning actor Matthew McConaughey is a husband, father of three children, and a loyal son and brother. He considers himself a storyteller by occupation, believes it’s okay to have a beer on the way to the temple, feels better with a day’s sweat on him, and is an aspiring orchestral conductor. In 2009, Matthew and his wife, Camila, founded the just keep livin Foundation, which helps at-risk high school students make healthier mind, body, and spirit choices. In 2019, McConaughey became a professor of practice at the University of Texas at Austin, as well as Minister of Culture/M.O.C. for the University of Texas and the City of Austin. McConaughey is also brand ambassador for Lincoln Motor Company, an owner of the Major League Soccer Club Austin FC, and co-creator of his favorite bourbon on the planet, Wild Turkey Longbranch. Here are more of the details from our interview:  What Matthew found when he looked back on the journals he kept over 30 years (4:49)  The science of satisfaction (8:01)  Being an author vs. victim of your life (10:55)        Reframing selfishness (13:05)                Matthew’s recurring dream and what he did to follow it (17:39)         The transformative wrestling match that Matthew inadvertently found himself participating in (23:55)                    Prioritizing what matters most to you (36:30)   How relinquishing need can bring in more (42:32)            The power of journaling and writing down your thoughts (43:28) Get a copy of Matthew’s book, Green Lights at https://greenlights.com/. Follow Matthew on Facebook @MatthewMcConaughey, on Instagram @officiallymcconaughey, and on Twitter @McConaughey.

Coming up on this episode of The Doctor's Pharmacy. I do believe there is some science to satisfaction because I found too many consistencies. I've seen too many people that have consistent habits that find satisfaction. Hey everyone, as 2021 comes to a close, my team and I are excited to re-air some of our best episodes of the year.

And thank you for listening to the podcast. It's truly one of my favorite things to do. We wish you all the best for a happy and healthier head. And now on to the episode. Welcome to Doctors Pharmacy. I'm Dr. Mark Hyman. That's pharmacy with an F, F-A-R-M-A-C-Y, a place for conversations that matter. And if you've ever wondered about your life story, what it means, where you've been, where you're going, how to get to happiness and figure it all out. I think you're going to love this conversation with a guy you might know. His name is Matthew McConaughey. He's an Academy Award winning actor. He's a married man, a father of three beautiful

children, a loyal son, a brother. He's a storyteller by occupation. He thinks it's okay to have a beer on the way to temple, feels better with a day's sweat on him, and is an aspiring orchestral conductor. Holy cow. Impressive. In 2009, he founded with his wife, Camilla, something called the Just Keep Living Foundation, which I think was inspired by his dad. And it's this beautiful work to take kids who are underserved, disadvantaged and struggling and give them an opportunity to actually get into meaning and purpose and after school programs and healthier lives in mind, body and spirit. And it's really great because these kids are struggling. He's also a professor. You're a professor of something called practice. I don't know what that is at the University of Texas, Austin. Periodical learning, sir. And he's also, you might have seen him on Lincoln ad commercials for Lincoln's.

He's also co-creator of his favorite bourbon on the planet, Wild Turkey Long Branch. And I just, Matthew, welcome to the podcast. Good to be here, Mark. So I have a fun connection with wild turkey. I was a doctor in training in northern California. And this woman came in with terrible emphysema. She was a chronic smoker. And every I took her medical history and she was a skinny little lady. And her husband was this big guy with a big cowboy hat. And she got me to the hospital with emphysema. And I asked her history. It's like do you do you know your medications well i

take two shots of wild turkey every night before bed and i'm like this one was like 75 am i gonna change that so i wrote in the medical orders two shots of wild turkey before bed every night. I've got my mom who's 89 with us and she gets into her white wine. I mean, some doctors when they hear like, well, that's, that's, that's quite a bit. Maybe that's too much. I'm like going, do you see how good a shape this woman is? Whatever it is, just put that in the prescription. That's right. That's right. No, no changes. So your book just came out a little while ago, Greenlights. Fantastic. It's kind of a, it's almost like a scrapbook of your life with poetry and bumper stickers and aphorisms and insights. And it sort of lays all that into beautiful storytelling about how you got to be you. And you've come up with this idea, which I think, you know, without really being specific in naming it, you're really talking about how do

our souls and spirits and minds evolve? How do we evolve and grow and become who we are? And how do we take the notes that come to us and the signs that come to us and the invisible threads that connect everything? And how do we follow those in an authentic way that can lead us to have an authentic life? So in a way, this book was beautiful to me because it was talking about your own life, but it was an example of how do you build an authentic life that is based on your values and based on curiosity and hunger to know and wanting to explore the way the universe is and what the meaning of life is. And, you know, I think, you know,

most people haven't had the possibility of knowing that side of you as an actor because you're out there and you fulfill these roles and they may have seen you just for that role, but like as a human being, you're very complex and, you know, quite extraordinary. And I think we came up with this concept of green lights um and it's sort of a memoir but it's really more of a an approach to life book and and you talked about how do you how do you deal with the tragedies in life and you've had them and how do you deal with the obstacles that you've had and we all have them but you call red lights

and how do you turn those into moments of growth understanding success or what we call green lights and then how do you how do you kind of turn the red lights into green lights so how do you turn those into moments of growth, understanding, success, or what we call green lights? And then how do you kind of turn the red lights into green lights? So how do you come up with this whole idea? And how did you sort of figure out that this is how you want to live your life? Yeah, so this is based on, and you said it earlier, sort of a scrapbook of my life. The book's based on 36 years of keeping journals and diaries. And so I've been keeping them since I was 14. Now 37 years and threatening to go see if everything in those journals or parts of those journals were worth sharing, but never had the courage to go do it

for 15 years. I've been like, ah, let's go see. Maybe there's a book there. My excuse was, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. You'll die. Maybe Camilla will look at it. Something's worth sharing. She'll put it out there. I got the courage to go, well, let's go see. Maybe there's a book there. My excuse was, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. You'll die. Maybe Camilla will look at it. Something's worth sharing. She'll put it out there. Finally, I got the courage to go, well, let's go see. And I went out and I had an idea of what I thought was going to be in there. I actually thought it was going to be quite academic. And as I'm going through it for my first three days in solitary confinement, I was like, this is more sort of philosophical and poetic, not as academic. It's not academic., I was like, this is more sort of philosophical and poetic, not as academic. And I was like, well, let's back off of this and let's just see what it is. Instead of you trying to tell it what it should be, let the journals reveal to you what

it should be or what it is. And I started finding categories, consistent categories. I had a big stack of a bunch of stories, big stack of a bunch of people, places, prescribes, poems, prayers, and bumper stickers. And I was like, okay, so there's my lanes. There's my categories. Let me sift through those and see if I find a common denominator, a baseline. And that's where Greenlights came from. I saw there were ways that I engineered Greenlights in my life, like decisions I made, risk I took, sacrifices I made today that paid off tomorrow, that were kind and cool to my future self by decisions I made, responsibilities. I found that, man, I've gotten lucky a few times. Sometimes green light opportunities fell on my lap and I was like, oh, what's the reason for this?

And I said, when I was amazed and confused, I mean, being in the right place, you can go in and introduce myself to a guy who turns out to be a casting director who turns out to offer me a role, which has three lines, which turns into three weeks work, which with which if I didn't meet that guy that night, would I be sitting here talking to you with the life I have right now? Probably not. So I saw times where green light opportunities fell in my lap and I did something with them. I saw times where maybe a moment fell in my lap and I didn't do anything with it. And I'm still wondering, oh, would that have what would have been the outcome if I had taken advantage of that? And then I noticed that all the hardships in my life, the places where there was sickness or death or loss or failure or struggle, that each one of them had a lesson

in them that I either noticed a little bit at the time or a year later or five years later, 10 years later, or have not yet to learn, but trusting that I will learn them later in this life or my kids will in another generation. And so then I was like, oh, well, look, all the red and yellows, they may not be what we want, but inside them, they have something that we need. And therefore they are inherently green lights. And so that's what that sort of became the theme that became the autobahn theme of the book in a way that I try to approach life in an optimist, a realistically optimistic way, because as you see the book, life in an optimist, a realistically optimistic way, because as you see the book, I'm an optimist. And I think it's more than just looking on the

bright side. I think it's absolutely essential for survival. But I don't want to be foolish with it. So, you know, what do you trust? As you said, what science do you trust? Which ones do you not trust? It's a constant art, you know, but I do believe there is some science to satisfaction because I found too many consistencies. I've seen too many people that have consistent habits that find satisfaction. I've been proven, I've been unsatisfied consistently in times and looked at my habits. I was like, oh yeah, I see the math. I see why. So just trying to uncover some of the science in this riddle called life, like we're all trying to do to some extent. Yeah, it's a work in progress, clearly from the book. You're halfway through and you're

like looking back to look forward, figure out what you can do next. And I think, you know, with the beautiful story within it is that the red lights and the yellow lights actually are in their own way green lights right and it sort of reminds me of the story of uh this uh guy back way back in the day who was you know out in the fields and had found this incredible black stallion and took him home and and everybody said god what a blessing you found this wild stallion how wonderful he says oh what seems like a blessing could be a curse and what seems like a curse could be a blessing and what seems like a curse could be a blessing. And then he rides the stallion and he falls off and he breaks his leg. And then everybody goes, oh, how terrible.

What a tragedy. Oh, it seems like a curse could be a blessing. It seems like a blessing could be a curse. And then, you know, this big war breaks out and, you know, the government comes to recruit all the young men. He's got a broken leg. So it's like you never know what's going on. And yeah, right. There it is. I mean, is that an answer? No, but it's a framework. Yeah, it's a perspective that sure helps with some sanity and getting more what we want and maybe being able to deal with what we don't want a little bit better.

You know, my approach, I think of that and I bring it up early, is that when faced with the inevitable, get relative. That's just basically a playoff of what Confucius said about dealing with what we can and not worrying about what we can't. You know, when is that time when we deem an outcome inevitable? You know, well, if we deem an outcome, if we're going after something and we're not getting it, if we say, oh, well, it's inevitable, I'm not going to get it too soon. Well, we're quitters. We needed some endurance. We needed to have more giddy up and more break a sweat more. We didn't want to work as hard.

But on the other side, if we're banging our head against a wall trying to get what we want, trying to get the same outcome over and over and never getting it. We're acting out the definition of insanity. And we call the inevitable earlier and back off and pivot or raise the white flag and move on to fight another day. Yeah. I mean, one of the striking things I found in your story was that you clearly have understood a very simple concept, which most people don't, which that you are the author of your own life. You're not the victim of your life. And I'm really curious about how you came to that conclusion because this is something that most people, I think, don't get to. They feel at the effect of their life,

not at the cause of their life. Well, look, let's unpack that because this one, I don't get it. I'm going deep, Matthew. No, let's unpack it. It's a great one because on the very simplest level, the alternative sucks, man. Yeah, it does. I mean, we should all grab a hold of and grasp our ability to self-determine and look that in the eye. Life's a hell of a lot

more fun. It's a hell of a lot more hard in the right kind of ways. It's more entertaining. The alternative, I just don't get, it's like doom and gloom. Like were you born that way or did something happen to you where you had the incentive? I mean, I don't know if I was born that way because I don't remember, it's like doom and gloom. Like, were you born that way or did something happen to you where you had the incident? I mean, I don't know if I was born that way cause I don't remember, but I do know that we were taught, we were taught a lot of resilience. We were taught be more you because you're the only one. And if everybody could just be more them and invest in yourself,

get to know thyself, then you're an original. That, you know, in that way, we've always, I did have an outlaw sort of renegade upbringing that you sort of a libertarian, you take care of yourself. You are not, you will be done unto, but how do you, but you also will do unto. And you are responsible for that, for whatever those consequences are. There's a cost. There's a cost for those things. Now, for me, I'd just rather be in the know even when I screw up or fail.

I like looking in the mirror going, yep, guilty. But I also, on the other hand, when I pull something off, like to look in the mirror and go, yep, there we go. You had something to do with that. Well, that sort of speaks to your concept of being selfless and selfish So, yep, there we go. You had something to do with that. Well, that sort of speaks to your concept of being selfless and selfish and how they're not contradictory, right? No, not ultimately. Look, selfish has gotten a bad rap.

It's gotten a bad rap through the years. Everyone's like, don't be selfish. It's like humble it's like humble. Be more humble. Oh yeah? So, but who wants to be humiliated? Nobody. Well, hang on a second. These things go part and parcel. Selfish. What do you mean get rid of the ego? No, don't get rid of the ego. You'll have no judgment. You'll have no identity. No, you have to have the ego. You're a singular organism. You are original. That does not mean, well, then I cannot be utilitarian. That does not mean, well, then I don't give a damn about others. And that's what I bring up in college. I wrote this term, a paper in college called the egotistical utilitarian. Yeah, unpack that. That sounds like a mouthful well that's there's been many there's been many great people that have walked the earth that have been it but for one let's just pick out one of the prophets jesus egotistical utilitarian

he was doing for the eye what was best for the we he was his acts were even the even the root of a religious belief in existence if you are that is that the life we live matters for what happens. If you're a believer in an afterlife, it matters what we do here, right? So, wouldn't it be a very selfish act, if you're a believer, to act in a certain manner now so that you could have life everlasting? That would be, what would be the more selfish act? To act in a way that you have better chance for life everlasting or act in a way to where it's over and you're going to hell or purgatory, whatever it is. I mean, you act in a way that you can live longer.

So that's just on a religious front, but even non-religious. Delayed gratification. Yeah. Delayed gratification. There are choices that we can make for us selfishly that are also the most selfless choice and best for the most amount of people. If we just think far out enough, what's a more selfish thing as a, let's stereotype for a second, as a white male, okay, with a certain amount of power that I've

either created or I've got to hoard it right now and lock out opportunity or let's just say very selfishly to maybe work to create more opportunities for women or minorities to be able to get what they want. Well, even on the most selfish level, I got a daughter. Well, I'd say it's probably more selfish to create more opportunity so she and other people can go out. I've got friends that are minority. It'd probably be more selfish act to create more opportunity than it would be to hoard away and put up walls and say, I'm going to hold on to mine. I'm not sharing it. So I think it's just extension of the law, having a longer view of understanding what selfish really is. Selfish has to do with delayed gratification. If we look,

if we project far enough ahead of us, and it's not just immediate gratification. If I pick your pocket and steal your wallet, well, what's more selfish? And now the next time I'm in Maui, I'm going, geez, I hope Mark ain't here, man, because he's after me. Now I've bought time. I've created stress, created yellow lights in my future because I'm going, geez, I hope Mark ain't here, man, because he's after me. Now I've bought time. I've created stress, created yellow lights in my future because I now have to go through life looking over my shoulder. Well, which one's more selfish? To live in a way where I don't have to go into the future looking over my damn shoulder at the crumbs I've left. Yeah, that's so true. So, you know, I think that's a very unique perspective because most people think of sort of them as opposite. You're either selfish or selfless.

And I think it's important to remember, like, that our own personalities are the wedge to which we go through the world and actually have impact on the things. And I agree. I think I see that in my own life where, you know, things that I've had to do for myself have also benefited others. Right. So I got really sick when I was younger and had to figure out what was wrong with me. I was very selfish because I want to feel better. But that what I learned helped me help so many other people. All right. I want to change this, though. Let's bring up this. I think everyone, if you don't want to purchase yet what I'm talking about, about being selfish out there. I think we can all admit that we do a hell of a lot more and we're a lot more true and better when it's personal yeah that's true gotta be personal

that doesn't mean it's not relatable and good and and something that can translate to more people all right let's take a different tack because one of the things that struck me is your incredible ability to witness notes in your life. You can call them notes from God or the universe or life or whatever, and pay attention and then follow them in ways that transform your life. And one of the most extraordinary stories I loved in the book was when you were having these dreams and you had these recurrent dreams of floating down the Amazon river with wrapped inaconda, surrounded by crocodiles, and African tribesmen on the shore. And you're like, what is this dream?

And then you're like, well, I don't know. But you had the dream again. And then you're like, I better do something about it. And you did something that most people would never do. Like, let's see. That looks like Africa. I'm going to go to Africa. I don't know where the fuck I'm going to go.

Oh, I know this one guy who's a musician. And maybe I'll go see him and then sort of follow the rabbit hole and see where it goes. And I want you to answer two things. One is, like, who are you that you would actually do that? And what does that take to actually have a sign and follow it? And what is that lesson for the rest of us? And two, what the hell happened on that trip? And how did that transform you into who you are now?

Because that seemed like a giant green light. It was. Absolutely. Well, look, my life, like probably yours and most of our lives, I've had a lot of successes by one, writing the headline first, setting the goal and going after it. And then I've had a lot of success doing things like this example you're talking about. Chasing down, literally chasing down a dream, jumping off the cliff and saying, I'm going to figure out how to fly on the way down. Go down that rabbit hole. And we all know this.

What's the hardest part about going into something that looks hard or going to the damn gym? Putting your shoes on. That's the hardest part. Getting out of the car. There's times where I just said I'm putting them on the backpack and I'm heading out. I don't know what the answer is, but I'm going. Now, why did I listen to it? Well, one, and look, I believe we got signs around us all the time and we can make poetry of the signs, but they're there to make poems of make the rhyme of the reason or give reason to the rhyme all the time. We don't notice them all, but they're there. How do we connect the dots? When do we connect the dots to say, oh, that's a truth. That's a place.

That's a vision. This is where I need to go for me. Well, in this particular story you're talking about, the alarming thing is it was the exact same dream. It wasn't a dream. I had the dream in 1993, I think, first, and then I had the same dream in 96. Three years later, the exact same dream. Not like that dream in 93, the exact same dream with the same outcome. Yeah. Like you just like floating on the Amazon, wrapped in an African tribesman, piranhas, sharks, everything. Sounds like a nightmare, right? Yeah. The opposite of a nightmare. That's alarming to me. I'm like, there's nothing sexual about that. What was that about? And it was the exact same dream. 11 frames. When I mean

frames like camera frames, click, click, click. 11 frames exactly. And then the same outcome of the dream. And I awake. Well, the second time I had that dream, I immediately awake and go, that is the exact frame for frame dream with the exact outcome I had three years ago. Whoa. Okay. Somebody's telling me something. I've never had. I don't know. But this is a sign. So let me go down to now. What are the facts? What's the script give me? I know two things geographically. It's the Amazon River and there's African tribesmen. So I go to the Atlas of Africa to look for the Amazon River.

And as you know, you can look a mighty long time. You're not going to find it. It's the wrong concept. Maybe the Nile, Zambezi River. So I then find the Amazon, obviously in South America and say, that's my first check. I'm going to go float the Amazon, put on a backpack, head out, go down there, hike, hitchhike, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, dude. You have my trip, 22 days. I come back. Ah, I did it. I chased down the dream. I chased down. And I was so fulfilled.

I the brown eye, the wet, the wet, the wet eyes of the South American and the Peruvians learned a lot about humanity and culture. Well, you're married to one of them now. Yeah, that too. And I got a wave from her from her tail down there in 1996. So now cut to 1999. This is three years later. I've forgotten it. That all worked. I'm in Dublin, Ireland.

Stay at the Morrison Hotel. And I had the same dream again, the exact same dream with the exact same outcome. Now I've had it three times. I'm like, what the? Well, what do I know? There's only, oh, I chased down the first half to the Amazon in 96. What's the other thing I know? African tribesmen. Oh, where do I go in Africa? Mighty big continent. Listening to Charlie Park and I go, wait, he's African. Where's he from? Open up line notes. Neofunke. Great. Maybe that'll be a start. Let me just get again, put on my shoes and get out the door. I'll go

find him and see where that leads me. And as you see in the story is another 22 day trip that was glorious. And it finished off the other half of the dream. Now, 2021, I've not had the dream since. I believe I fulfilled the prophecy of the dream by following down the two, by chasing down the two geographical places and things that the dream gave me. And spiritually, they were the most awakening trips I've ever I've ever had. And adventurous and wild and fun. Yeah. Well, tell us about Michael or Michelle. Michelle. Well, you know, because, I mean, that didn't sound like a spiritually awakening moment. But it was. It was bloody.

Yeah. Yeah. So. In the Banja Gara in Mali, where I went in Africa, we would hike, me and my guide Isa, from village to village and the villages were like eight to 15 miles apart. Now I just come off a film rain of fire while I was playing a dragon slayer and I had a bald head and a big beard and I was in really good physical shape and seeking anonymity as I, as I have done before and did on this trip, I went over under a different name and said, my name is David.

I'm a writer and a boxer. Boxer, that's a dangerous occupation to advertise. That's what I found out. Because trust me, those Africans didn't give a damn about the writer. They were quite good on the boxer part, right? So even when I landed, was there a few days,

I noticed when I show up places that my being there, my story had preceded me. So I would show up places and they would go, ah, you are Dauda, which is Bombar for David. Strong white men named Dauda, the boxer. Yes. And so they loved to wrestle. So they would come up and they'd kind of push.

And so I was in a couple of circumstances where I was, there was a few of the blokes where I was like, I really don't want anything to do with this. And so I would, I'd take a stance like I was Bruce Lee or something. And it looked really technical. And they would all just jump back and go, Chuck Nunes, Chuck Nunes. No, no, no, no, no. This one night I hiked to this, I hiked this long hike, about a 12-mile hike,

and I go to this, get to this place called Benjiamatu, this great little village on top of this mountain that was part Muslim, part animist, and part Protestant. That's an interesting combo. And they have, there's two rock walls, and there's the three religions. And then I don't even know what the other one, the fourth one was for, but they lived pretty harmoniously. And I'm doing what I would do after a hike each day. I'm laying over there on the stretching on the ground and the villagers walk up.

I'm a novelty to look at. I've got lighter skin. I've got this beard. I'm a strong white man named Douda that they have heard of in the past. And they're looking and they're talking bombard to me. And all of a sudden, these two younger men, about 18 to 20, start talking in a way that I can tell they're talking at me. And I can tell in their tone, they're challenging me. And I say to my guide, I said, they're trying to start something. He says, yes, Dauda, these two men say they are the champion wrestlers of the village. And they want to challenge something? He says, yes, Dowda. These two men say they are the champion wrestlers of the village. And they want to challenge strong white man Dowda, named Dowda, to a wrestling match. And I'm like, oh, geez.

Okay. All right. So I'm laying there thinking, mulling this over, stretching. Well, all of a sudden, I hear the crowd just go crazy, berserk. And I look up, and those two young men run. Why do they run? As the crowd separates, somebody steps up in the middle with the burlap bag wrapped around their

waist, no shirt, no shoes, because this is Michelle. And I find out Michelle is the true champion wrestler of the village. And they were getting busted for saying they were champions. Michelle doesn't say a word to me. He just comes and stands over me, points down at me, points to his chest, and then points over to the right. Now I'm laying on the ground looking up at this man, Michelle, these tree trunk legs and a burlap bag,

a burlap sap rack around his waist, and I look to where he points, and as I look over there, I see this big dirt pit. And my heart starts going up. I just got challenged to wrestling match. And in this year, I'm going, are you kidding me? Don't you dare. And in this year, I'm going, are you kidding me? If you don't, you'll never know.

Well, just before you go on with the story, the beginning of the book talks a lot about your rough and tumble upbringing and fighting and a lot of stuff that sort of came naturally i always felt like i had look i had two older brothers i had to take care of myself i'd defend myself i learned to wrestle i had pretty good leverage you know i've always liked wrestling and but i don't know the rules of this game i don't know if you can hit bite i don't gouge i don't know what's going on but i'm getting up to to engage in this and my heart's starting to race and And as I start to get up, the crowd gets up too. And they're getting excited. So I stand in front of Michelle. I point to his chest, point to my chest and turn

and walk towards the pit. Well, as soon as I made the turn to the pit, the crowd's like, woohoo, the show is on tonight. Now I walk in the middle of pit. Next thing I know, the chief's out there. He's got a hand on top of my head, a hand on top of Michelle's. We're locked ear to ear. I've got a hold of his waist. He's got a hold of my waist. We're kind of like two bulls in the middle of this dirt pit. And the chief says, dot!

Which I take to mean ding ding. Which I was correct. Well, we go around, around, around. He flips me. I flip him. I can't get him pinned. He can't get me pinned. It goes on for what feels like about five minutes. But if you've ever been in a ring with somebody, it's probably more like two minutes, maybe 90 seconds. But it felt like forever.

Anyway, all of a sudden, crowd's going crazy. Chief separates us. I get up. I'm basically hyperventilating. I'm dripping sweat. I had had these talismans that were woven into my beard. Two of them are ripped out. I've got blood running down my chest. My knees are bleeding. My ankles are bleeding. And the crowd's

going crazy. And I look at Michelle and he's just standing there staring at me. He's barely got a glaze of sweat on him. No blood either. No blood. No. And as I see this and he's upset that, oh, this wasn't over. I can tell that he's like in the crowd. Round two. Well, now I see the chief go, duh, which means ding, ding for round two. Hands on waist, head, shoulders, ding, ding, we're off again. Same thing goes on. He gets me in a massive leg lock where I almost lost my breath and blacked out.

I slide out of that, get him in a Boston C lock where I almost lost my breath and blacked out. I'd slide out of that, get him in a Boston crab, flip over. He, I flip him over. He flips me, calls it there. They call the round. I come up in a day seeing stars. The chief grabs both our hands, raises both to the sky. The crowd's going crazy. And I feel like I did pretty good. And as we look over to Michelle, he looks at me slight slight bow, and he runs off. Now the crowd envelops me. Dow, dow, dow, dow, dow, dow, dow. And so I'm like, okay, man, I think I did all right. That was really fun. That hurt, but it was good. Anyway, that night, I go to bed. I think I just had the greatest day. Wow. I just, that was, you know. You're going to finish up a great day of getting beat up and bloody.

I don't know, but it was, it was, you know, it was invigorating. It was a lie. It wasn't, it was highly invigorating. And it was out. It was, it was a, I took a risk and it was a, it was a, it was a healthy risk. I mean, there was no gouging. There was no biting. There was no, you weren't trying to hurt the other one, you know? And, and I'm glad, I'm glad that's how it went. Cause that's a good wrestling match well anyway i go to bed that night there's another funny story about what happens that night when i think maybe i'm in the cradle of truth but find

out that i was uh i was uh probably uh thinking too highly of myself the next day, I get up, and the whole village is doubting still. Oh, my gosh, doubting. They all walk me to the edge of the village to say goodbye, to walk the 12 miles to the next village. And as I'm leaving the village, who's waiting for me on the path? Michelle. The guy I wrestled last night who ran off at the end of the match. As I approach him, he doesn't say a word.

He looks me in the eye. As I walk to him, he turns. As he turns, he grabs my hand. He holds my hand and walks me 14 miles to the next village. We get to that village. Without saying a word, he slightly bows, turns around, and walks home. So I'm sitting there with Issa, my guy, that night, and I'm going like, let's talk about last night, man.

I go, what went down? I mean, I think I did pretty good. You know, I grew up wrestling with my family and stuff. He goes, no, no, no, no, no. Dauda, you do very, very good. Very, very good. I go, yeah? He goes, yes.

He says, everybody think Michel are going to have strong white men named Dauda on his back in 10 seconds. And the thing is, Michel is not only champion of this village. He is champion of this village and three villages back. And I go, aha. And he goes, yes, Dauda, you come back. We make money. So when I said to him, I like so what was it and he goes like

why did I get all the adulation of the he goes you were big man in the village as soon as you stand up and walk toward pit

is that you accept the challenge when you accept the challenge you are a big man in the village it was a great lesson because that whole wrestling match wasn't about winning or losing.

That whole wrestling match was that as a stranger, I accepted the challenge from the village champion. And there's a great lesson in that. And I've tried to carry with me. Which is take a risk. Show up. Take the risk. Go find out. You know, I mean, we so, you know yeah you would feel fear failure yeah i feared getting an arm for your life

in the middle of the jungle in africa it's like but i measured it and i could tell it wasn't you know michelle i'd been around the people enough to know that it wasn't like a venomous fight like i want to hurt you yeah again i had to trust that it was going to be a wrestling match. And it wasn't about gouging or breaking someone's arm or killing somebody. I trusted that. I didn't know. But I had a pretty good sense that, no, this is about the sport. So most people don't actually follow their dreams.

I mean, at a sort of psychological level. You literally followed your dreams, your actual dreams. And that led to this experience. And how are you transformed as a result of that? What were the things that really you took home with you that have stayed with you that me, like most of us, talk too much. So go walk 14 miles with someone without saying a word and hold his hand. Well, and also I'm 22 days, they don't speak English. So the form of communication turns into charades, which can actually be quite relaxing when you don't,

it's quite frustrating early when you don't have the use of the of of verbal language. But it becomes I became a better communicator by showing and since then have taken done silent fast or gone saying, hey, you know, come on and I will go a week and we'll go no talking. And you start to notice how much you need words, but also how much you use too many words too often. I learned from that trip that satisfaction or happiness, joy doesn't really isn't as much about money as we think it is. I'm out there with those villagers and they have no electricity. Yeah. They have a community. And you know what else I really noticed that I got from the trip in Africa and the trip to the Amazon?

The importance of humor. Sense of humor. sense of humor. They have humor every day. They don't have a video game. They don't have a TV. They don't have electricity. Every day it's like make fun of the person who had the foible, you know, and make fun of them.

That person doesn't like it, but they kind of like it that they're getting the attention of being made fun of. And that's the night's entertainment. And you laugh and you play games and you find rocks and you get creative. They're not bored. You plant today to eat tomorrow. They're not saving up. They don't have bank accounts, but boy, they have a smile, heart, and community. And they have something to wake up and look forward to.

And that's each other. And what's that crop going to be doing today, tomorrow? And this, architecture, like life, is a verb. They live in places where the rains come and wipe out their entire community. And they don't go, oh, they go, yes, this is part of it. It's that time of the season. Let us, architecture is a verb.

Life's a verb. And I'm wondering if it helped you focus on the things that matter most to you. What sort of impressed me through reading the book was that you were able to sort of sift through the things that really matter to you and prioritize those and go after those with the one-pointed focus. And the story in the book where you were sort of taking a sabbatical from filmmaking and you know it was very courageous to say you know you're a highly successful actor you're making tons of money and you were doing roles that you didn't really feel fed your soul i mean they fed you they fed your bank account not your soul and you're like i'm done with that and i'm going to take the risk of hitting the pause button and maybe my phone will never ring. But you did it. And what really struck me was that you sort doesn't seek the target, the target seeks the arrow, which sort of speaks to this idea. And you sort of shared a little bit

about how when you sort of were getting back into things, you had this production company, you had a record company, you had your foundation, you had acting, you had your family, and then you just did something very courageous, which I find very challenging to do, which is to say no. You basically got a call on your phone from your production company like, I don't want to do this anymore. It's too much. I want to simplify and be really good at the things that I'm good at and not get a B or a C. I want to get an A in the areas that matter the most to me.

And I think you said, I'm shutting down the production company, pay everybody good severance'm shutting down the production company pay everybody good severance shutting down the record company and i'm going to focus on family being the greatest actor i can be and serving in the world by giving back to kids and it was just you know and i and i i personally struggle because i there's so much i want to do there's so much that needs to be done in the world there's so much that draws me and you're you're you're you remind me of the elephant child you know with the insatiable curiosity and i have that same pathology and it can take you down a lot of rabbit holes, but you've managed to sort of go, wait a minute. I'm going to get really clear about my values, what I want. And, and, and how, how do you sort of get to that place?

I mean, because it seems like you were very much all over the place. You were in a million different things. You were kind of renegade. You were acting out, you were doing all kinds of crazy. And somehow you've got to go, wait, wait a minute. I need a course correct here. Yep. Well, and look, I'm going through a time right now, a challenge right now where I'm trying, I'm looking going,

I've got 14 campfires here. You know what I mean? I got, which ones are feeding a singular vision that I'm going after? Let's get rid of the others. So when I have fewer fires, they'll have higher flames. As you said, make an A's instead of the B's or C's and too many. And I'm going through, I'm going through a wonderful challenging time right now dealing with that and trying to disseminate that. How and when? I mean, I would say, back to what we were talking about earlier, learn how to get selfish. And spend time quarreling over making up my mind about what really matters.

Piggybacking on what that African trip and what the Peruvians and then the Amazon trip were, which lead to this clarity of when it's been that when it has been there for me and it hasn't always been there for me, is those trips reminded me of the impermanence of mortality, of these things that we want and need daily that give us, make us feel better or we gain respect from or adulation from. They're wonderful. I'm all for them. I'm not boohooing those at all. I am rich and famous. I'm not boohooing that at all. I know I won an Oscar, I have that trophy I'm in great reverence of those things and highly respect those things

but I also realized that that's not what it's about that's a this little time that we're here on earth as the earth's spinning and this little planet that's in this little galaxy that's in this universe of many universes over the history of time. What's all that matter? I mean, what's it really matter? So in that place. I felt like I've gone, I was like, oh, OK, so that's why it all matters. So let's define what really matters because these mortal things that we want,

these mortal gains, these acquisitions, these things we can get, as helpful and tools they are and as awesome as they can be, they're the friend, they're the tinsel on the Christmas tree. They're like, okay, cool, but that's not the big show. Yeah, the big show. What's going to shine on after this life? What things can I build that can be handed down? What things can I build that I'm only coming on stepping on the shoulders of giants that built before me?

What's that lineage? What's the long view? So in those ways, when I'm in that frame of mind and spirit, I think we all are better equipped to look at things on our proverbial desk and go, well, does that really matter? Or is that just me in a capitalist society, commerce world saying, oh, that's supposed to matter. And I need to really make that paramount when you go, oh, that's supposed to matter and that I need to really make that paramount. When you go, well, that's kind of just a tool for a larger machine in the big show. So, well, let's get rid of that.

It's not a big deal if I don't get rid of it. And actually I found by going, oh, I'll get rid of it. Now I've lowered it on my tier of priorities. I got more of it. Now I've lowered it on my tier of priorities. I got more of it. Yeah, right. It is no coincidence or accident that I became a better actor after I became a father and acting became number two or number three in my priority list i wanted it but i knew i didn't need it for my existence and identity yeah yeah so yeah it's

like you know you you a mate right no. No, you found him. You got to, if you need him so much, I mean, I've been told no many times because I was too eager or needed it. No, kick back. Sit back and yourself. Understand that you don't have to have that other thing for to survive, to have identity.

Yeah. And so then you end up getting the girl. Yeah, that's right. Or whatever, you know what I mean? You know, another thing that struck me about you, Matthew, as I was reading your book was sort of a question that came up for me. And it's reminded me of, you know, when I was 17, I was riding a train and hitting in Italy. And I was sitting next to this professor of English from Cambridge University. And he said to me, Mark, he said, an unexamined life is not worth living, which I think he quoted from Shakespeare somewhere else. But he said, you need to write your life. And so I was 17. I started writing a journal. And like you, I've been keeping a journal for decades.

And and I the question I have for you is, you know, did that introspection and exploration of your own mind help you become who you were? Like, in other words, without that, it was at the tool because it's, it's, it's not just, I'm just writing my story. You're literally using it as a spiritual tool to wake up and notice your mind and notice what's going on in your life and to think about it differently and ask questions. And, you know, most of us just go through and we're on our devices and we're distracted and we're not present. And when you sit and you write, you literally call in your higher self. You're like, hey, what do you think up there? As opposed to your lower self, which is constantly operating in a monkey, you know, reactive way. And look, and I think I'm very good at reacting in the base yourself, too.

There's times where I'm like, I'm not open for enlightenment right now. I got to put my head down like a sweat and just get this thing done. I know I'm running on reserve. I'll be I'll be there in a minute. You know, I'll be back. I mean, I mean, it's a thing. But I think I'm able maybe to I think we all are able to go do that, sort of spend that time in our base ourselves doing that manual labor. If we prepared the temple well enough to that, to that transcend itself where we've taken some stock, knowing ourself, examining ourself. I mean, who's more fun or more entertaining or more necessary to get to know than ourselves? The one person we're stuck with, the one person we can't get rid of, even though, damn it, I'm sick of your company. And I get sick of my company a lot.

And I'm like, well, let's work it out then. Let's have our own Socratic wrestling match because you're the one son of a bitch I can't get rid of. So, I mean, that place of writing down the tool of writing in the journal. And again, to everyone out there that thinks it's laborious, it doesn't have to be laborious. I mean, look, everyone's got mobile devices now. Just go into notes. And if you got something that you walked through the day and you giggle at, write that down. If you got something you think is cool, the color of a car, someone shoot, write it down.

It's just little specifics and one of the challenges that i think we uh we have to own up to is that when we do see something we like or we cross a truth and we go yeah we immediately think oh i got it i'll never forget that goes away no you will forget it forget it. Or it will be stripped away. You know, so, I mean, I do this all the time. You and I are talking right now. You say something cool. I'm going to pick up my phone and I'm going to write it down. You're going to go, what kind of hair?

What are you doing writing somebody else? I'm going to go, I'm not writing somebody else, Mark. I'm actually, you said something. I'm going to write this down. Why am I writing it down now? Because if I don't write it down now, I'm writing it down so I can forget it. Because if I don't write it down now i'm writing it down so i can forget it because if i don't write it down now the rest of our conversation i'm going to have 10 of our brain going don't forget that thing he said don't forget that thing and i'm not present yeah yeah right so

i write things down so i can forget them and so jot things down knowing that you will forget them if you don't but so you can forget them and be more present when you write them down in the situation. And then when you get home at night in bed or the next day or on the weekend, go back over your notes, have a read of them. You'll start to find a little lineage of poetry or you'll find things where you go like, wow, I think that's right.

I laughed at that line in that movie that I thought was the funniest line when nobody else in the entire theater laughed. But you know what? The one where everybody laughed is the one I didn't think was that funny. Now, does that make me odd? Well, maybe, but dive into those places where you're the individual. Dive into those places where, you know, many times I've written,

why do I cry so much at birth but not so much at death? Why am I the one weeping over here at the birth or someone getting let out of prison because they were wrongly convicted? That's the stuff that makes me just bawl. But death, I don't really cry. I'm like, I haven't found out. I can mourn. So little things where you find your specific, and it's not a wrong or right thing. And don't judge yourself on it.

I guess what I'm saying, if you write things down, it's awareness. And the simple act of writing something down, which, you know, lets us become slightly objective. And we have the subjective and we have the objective. It just puts us on the jumbotron for a second. A little look at ourselves going, how are we doing there? And it's a good view for awareness. It's why i'm a proponent of people speaking in the third person it's a form of awareness we call it arrogance but it's actually going no i'm having a little look back you know tell you what to the future mike tyson well you know just like tyson

it's a little pop out you know it's a little projection. We have to look back down at ourselves. Now, I would say this. I'd love to hear your opinion on this. Sometimes today with all of our devices in the world that is a mirror, we have to fight against being objective too often. Meaning we're living in the third person more than ever before. And the third person should never be ahead of or spent more time on than the first person. Yeah. When I think of the third person, perhaps I'm thinking of like maybe a fourth person, which is, you know, your higher consciousness, like your higher witness and self. It's kind of those connected to spirit or God or your soul or whatever you want to call it. Jiminy Cricket. Jiminy Cricket. And most of us are too in the doing and not enough in the being to actually listen to that quiet, still voice.

And you talk about it in the book, and we don't have time to go through it in the podcast. I wanted to read it. But you have this beautiful passage of why we all need a walkabout. And walkabouts, for those who don't know, are these journeys, spiritual journeys and quests that the aboriginals in Australia will do. But it's something that came up in your book multiple times where these times of retreat, going to a monastery,

going on a walkabout, going to Australia and putting yourself in a tough, difficult situation away from everything you know and love as a way to kind of meet yourself, as a way to pull away all the distractions, all the noise, all the things that take us out of being who we are and who we want to be. And Hugh Matthew McConaughey is not who Mark Hyman is or who Joe Smith is or Sally Jones is. They're all their own amazing human beings. But in order for each of us to find that out, we need to pause and hit that pause button. You know, I just, you know, recorded a podcast about Ram Dass, he's still in Maui.

And he, you know, he has this whole theme of becoming nobody. And we spent our whole lives becoming somebody. But we also need to sort of drop all that somebody we are in order to get to nobody so we can actually have an authentic relationship with like what is. And I think the anonymous soul is the healthy soul. Yeah. And that's such a beautiful thing that you've sort of laid out for us in this book. I could talk to you for hours, Matthew. So Matthew, you've created a great gift for us with this book, Green Lights. I really think it's an inspiration, not just to learn about you and your life, but it's sort of like an example of an owner's manual for how to live an authentic life. And all of us want to do that more and all of us need that more,

especially in this time of COVID where we're all disrupted and we have to re-evaluate everything we're doing. And it might just be time I encourage people to sit down and pick up a pen or maybe on your iPad or phone, just write, you know, and that's a simple, simple, yeah, write anything. It could be, you know, listen, and if it's the same stupid shit over and over, that's fine. But it's, it's really important to take those times and to take the pauses and take the breaks. And I, you know, I've come to Maui for the winter to do a little bit of becoming nobody and to take a pause and to sort of, you know, and life gives us these moments, you know, and they're different for everybody, but I, I'm so grateful that you wrote this book. I really inspired by it.

Everybody's got to get a copy wherever you get your books, Matthew, thanks for what you do and who you are and the example you show us all and your bright, authentic, fun, and joyous spirit. Mark. Great talking to you. Enjoyed getting to know you better here today. All right, buddy. We'll see you soon. And thank you all for listening to you. Enjoyed getting to know you better here today. All right, buddy. We'll see you soon. And thank you all for listening to Doctors Pharmacy. If you love this podcast,

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