The Dr. John Delony Show - My Wife Doesn’t Enjoy Sex With Me

Episode Date: April 17, 2026

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My wife just recently broke down and said that she does not enjoy having sex with me, and she's the only person I've been with. I waited until marriage. She did not. I've tried everything, man. I don't know where to go from here. Is she seeing someone else? I knew you were going to ask her.

I'm not sure. What's going on? What's going on? This is John with the Dr. John Deloney show. I'm so glad you're here. Taking your calls from all over the planet about your mental and emotional health, your kids, your marriages. your dating lives, whatever you got going on.

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I honestly can't believe I'm talking to you right now. I'm a big fan of yours, dude. Thanks for calling, man. I'll just get right to it. Yeah, what's going on? I've been married for a little over a year, and our sex life has never been great. And my wife just recently broke down and said that she does not enjoy having sex with me. And I've tried everything, man.

I don't know where to go from here. Oh, my gosh. That hurts, huh? Yeah. When she sat down and told you this, and this is going to help frame how I answer the question, when she told you this was it a conversation that was compassionate and honest

or was she did she approach you with this as like an accusation as frustrated as like a less than as a power play you give what I'm saying Mm-hmm

How'd she approach you? Frustration and frustration and somewhat anger Okay and disappointment Okay so this was wasn't her sitting down saying, hey, I want to walk along with you, we're going to figure this out together. This was, you're not enough. Yeah. I'm sorry.

Damn, man. No, dude, don't be sorry at all. That's heartbreaking. Just as a little background, she's the only person I've been with. I waited until marriage. She did not. And so I'm struggling with that. Yeah. So I'll leave her out of the equation, out of conversation for a second. For you, this thing, how old are you? I'm 30, about to turn 31. Wow.

So you waited 29 years to be sexually intimate with somebody, huh? Yes, sir. Yeah. It wasn't easy. Yeah. And to be just stone rejected. I mean, that's layers of hurt. Yeah.

Man. Yep. I'm sorry, ma'am. Thank you. I've tried everything. I work out more to build my standalone. I'm a little bit bigger, so I've always been self-conscious about myself. Yeah, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.

There may be things you need to work on with your health. There may be things you need to work on mechanistic. right you're a year in man you're you're still figuring how your body works how her body works how you all work together like there's lots of figuring out and quote unquote things to do but if if your if your spouse is telling you your performance isn't up to standard we're already on off in the wrong place we're on a theater stage we're not together do you what i'm saying i feel that way i feel that way. I've brought that up. I've listened to probably every

episode you've had. I'm one of the OG 17. Awesome. And I try to bring that up, and I try to get us closer, and it I didn't, I never ends the way I hope it will.

I never seem to get to the bottom layer of the onion. Do that makes any sense? I mean, it makes perfect sense. Is she seeing someone else? I knew you were going to I'm not sure. She's very protective over her phone. Yeah.

It's been in the back of my mind. Okay. Well, it just popped in the front of mine forever that's worth. Because here's what I'm hearing. The way she spoke to you as a guy who's never been with anybody, a guy who's a year into being her husband. that type of condescension, that type of you're not performing enough for me, that's the language of somebody holding you in contempt, that's the language of somebody who wants out and is trying to

conjure reasons why they should have a right to it. Because let me, let me like, I can't tell you, I mean, I can't count. I've lost count years ago, how many couples I've sat with, new couples, older couples, finding sexual intimacy and sexual rhythm and getting to know yourself and how your body works and what you like and what your spouse likes and their body and how that changes almost, it feels like a daily change, right, but it changes over time and some things you're into, you're not into, sometimes you're really rocking and rolling and sometimes you're not. And like, that's the natural arc of any sort of intimate relationship. Okay.

And to have it weaponized a you verse me instead of, oh, I'm going to be with you on this. And then to have a spouse like you who's willing to be like, hey, if you're seeing the same things I've been ashamed about, my weight, my sexual inadequacy, like, I'll work on it, I'll try to fix it. My gosh, man. Where do I go from here? I think you need to ask her the scariest question of all, which is does she still want to be married to you? then she's already gone. And finding this out now will stop the dragging you behind the pickup truck of her life

that's going on right now. You may have a year or two less road rash, heartbreak, because she knows where your pain points are. She knows your self-conscious when you're not wearing a shirt. She knows yourself conscious because she has a sexual history and you don't.

And to weaponize the, those? That's a level of cruelty, man, that nobody should endure. It's cruel. It's mean. And sometimes people, and that's why I wanted to know how she approached you, because you're going to get your feelings hurt either way, right? If somebody sits down with you and says, hey,

I want more for us in the bedroom. I want more for us with our sex life. Like, that's going to be embarrassing and painful, no matter how compassionate somebody is. But if somebody's willing to sit with you in that embarrassment and say, I'm going to walk with us, we're going to figure this thing out. We're going to have some funny times, some annoying times, some heartbreaking times, and some hell yeah, good times. Right. But like, so you're going to, you're going to feel awkward, you're feeling embarrassed, you're going to feel ashamed, whatever, especially if you've got old wounds of, am I enough,

and do I look enough, good enough, and am I going to know what I'm doing? All those things that you've carried with you for almost three decades. right? But yeah that's not what happened here and sometimes

I say things that are mean but I really try hard to not ever intentionally be mean you know what I mean yeah yeah

I tried yeah I I'm not gonna go over the things I've tried but like we tried to do a study and like there were both people

of faith and we try to approach us from a faith perspective and she A study about what? A study about what? Like how to build intimacy when either someone's already been sexually active

or if... That's not the problem here. Absolutely not the problem here at all. That's not it. That sort of discrepancy happens all the time. All the time. That's not the issue here. The issue here is

she is choosing to stand above you and lord over you. And no marriage can survive. No relationship period can survive with that sort of power differential, that sort of hierarchy. Because dude, like if she had, I'm making up a number, if she had 10 partners in the past, she marries you, a guy who had zero partners in the past, she could bring a level of compassion, a level of love and play and adventure and eros and walk right alongside you. She could co-create her perfect person. Right? She could tell you exactly what she likes,

exactly what she's into, and hand you a playbook. She didn't. She hit you over the head with cruelty and meanness. Right. The issue here is not that she's had partners and you haven't. The issue here isn't that you're struggling with knowing how to please her. That's not the issue here.

The issue here is y'all are on the same team. And I'm getting from you that you have tried everything to be on her team. Everything. And she keeps moving dugout. She keeps moving fields, which tells me she doesn't want to be on your team, which is a dude. I'm heartbroken. I'd hug you if you were sitting right here. I hate to say that out loud like that, but I just want to put it on the table.

And if she does, if she goes, no, no, no, no, you're my guy. Then she needs some real help with how to communicate. I think it's time for a conversation. Let me ask you this. Outside of sex, where else do you tiptoe in your own house? Or where else do you feel like you're living in her place? Okay.

That's what I thought and that's what I was afraid of. I'm going to tell you right now, my brother, you're worth more than this. And when I think of fidelity, infidelity, right? Maybe she's not sleeping with another guy, even though I think every married person should share their pass codes with their spouse. If you're going to share a bed and you're going to share genetics and have kids, then good God, share your passwords.

That just sounds so dumb to not do that. Or people are like, I'm no way. Ridiculous. And if she's not, quote unquote, cheating on you, sleeping with somebody else, whatever, she's not being a person of integrity. She's not whole. She's not taking your spirit inside your chest and your heart that you handed her at the altar when you got married.

and treating that with dignity and respect. She put in her back pocket and said, now it's mine. As far as I'm concerned, cruelty, harshness, cruelty is infidelity. And I'm heartbroken. This happened to you, man. You sound like a pretty great guy. I'm not perfect. None of us are.

But your willingness to look in the mirror and say, how can I change when there's a problem? Tells you, you're a man of service and humility, which the world needs more of. And as the guy who's sitting right next to you here, I want to tell you're worth more than that. this, you're worth more than this, okay? Okay.

You're worth somebody figuring these problems out on your team, not against you. I hope, hope, hope, I'm wrong. I don't think I am, but I hope I am, okay? Okay. If I am wrong and she says, no, no, no, I'm so sorry, you're my person. God, I didn't know it was a big deal. Here's all my pass codes. I can't believe I said, I can't believe it came out that way.

I said it wrong. I'm so sorry. If she does all that, then I want you to, to have done the work of saying, okay, here's a roadmap to what I want and on a few things, here's what I need. But I want you to walk in your own, a picture of this with me, brother. I want you to walk in the front door of your home or your apartment wherever you all live. And I want that to be the shelter from the storm that is the world around us. I want your wife and your home to be the safest place. And you all have to co-create that.

And I want you to be a her safe place. And right now, probably the most anxious you get in your life is walking through the doors of your own home. You're 100% right. Okay. You're worth more than that. Let me know how that conversation goes, brother, and reach out anytime I can help. I'll walk with you through any of this stuff, man.

I hate that this has happened to you. And I hate that she has weaponized your deepest, deepest insecurities and weaponized them. It breaks my heart for you. Breaks my heart for her, too, man. It's got to be miserable being inside her skin. absolutely miserable to think that you have the audacity, the ability to just, like somebody hand you the nuclear codes to their spirit

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Hi, Dr. John. How are you? I'm doing great, brother. How are you, man? Good, man. What's up? my question is, what's the point of marriage? I can get into detail a little bit.

That's a great question. I've asked myself that question for years. Yeah. Great question. Yeah. Tell me the genesis of that question. So we've been together 10 years. We do everything as husband and wife.

We just had a child. We call each other husband a wife. I don't think, right now it seems like marriage is for everybody else, where I wanted to be about us. And she comes from a different family dynamic that I'm not accustomed to. I grew up differently where her mom's very controlling and wants to control everything.

So I'm at the point where like either we just go to a courthouse and piss everybody off or you know what I mean? Yeah. So is your question an existential one? Like, is marriage still worth it? Is it a thing? Is it some sort of outdated relic or whatever? Or is your question,

How do I deal with my, like, now that I'm doing a life with somebody, and doing a life with somebody means their family comes with them? Yeah, maybe a little bit of both. I mean, we thought that we were ever going to get married and we were fine with that. And then I think because we have a child now, my wife decided to, you know, she wants to, she wants all of us to have the same name. And now we're thinking more about it. That's awesome, man.

So give me your If you were like in a court of law And you were going to make a case Against the act of marriage Like legally binding spiritually binding if you're people of faith Against that act What would your case be?

Well I'm not I'm not a person I'm not a religious person So to me it just seems like We just want a big party With everybody You know with everybody We're not huge on the

you know, on the ceremony portion. Sure. But make me a case about it being something, like, why wouldn't you, you've been with the person 10 years. Yeah. What is it about legally binding yourself, like giving yourself guardrails of putting your boat, both of your feet in that boat,

and it's going to be a big deal to get out of that boat? Why does that scare you? Or why are you against that idea? Yeah, it's a good question. it probably has to do with her family, to be honest. Tell me about that. As I said, her mom's very controlling. We got, when I first met her, she wouldn't do anything without, you know, her parents and stuff.

We ended up moving away. That was a little bit of the reason, but it was also because we couldn't afford a house close to where they were. And it's gotten a lot better since we moved away. But they always want to, yeah, we want to live our life that we want to live our life. And they always decided to tell us how to live our life. Gotcha. So I think your question is less about marriage and more about how to navigate this. And I'll help you with that.

I'm finishing up a two-year, when I say I went down the rabbit hole, brother, I went down the rabbit hole. trying to answer the question, A, is marriage still worth it? And if it is, how do you do it in this crazy world we live in? Right. And I'll even say I wasn't even surprised. I was stunned by how conclusive the evidence was. Okay. And I'm a person of faith, but I'm putting that on the side for a second, okay?

Single, cohabitating couples, people who are single or couples who just indefinitely live, together. They have less good outcomes, if you will. Not say their outcomes are bad, but they are not as good as the multiplying effect of a legally bound marriage. Kids outcomes are improved, giving your kids the quote unquote best opportunity. I was shocked. I thought it was an internet trope. I thought it was like an Instagram-y like, ooh, that's cute thing to say. The data backs up. the greatest opportunity, the greatest things I can do for my kids, all the things I want to give them so that they can have the greatest life, that energy is best spent looking directly at my spouse and saying, all until death do us part. And that gives my kids something so

concrete to anchor into that they can, they can repel off the side of that cliff and go do amazing great things. But I'm talking about health outcomes, more sensitive. sex, what are some of the other ones? Financial outcomes. All of it anchored back to the greatest, the greatest center point of those outcomes was to go be married and not only be married, but be married well or be married awesome.

If you're married bad, everything is reverse ROI. It has an enormous negative impact, right? And I think it's, I think as a culture, we, like, we all, we can look at outcomes like, say go to college, right? It may change, but right now, if you go to college, your outcomes, you have a better chance at better outcomes, okay? It just is a fact. And so as a culture, here in the States, especially, we have said, okay, here's college readiness programs, here's scholarship programs. We've done a bunch of things to say, hey, if you go through

it, go to college, graduate, you have opportunities to accelerate your good outcome. right? But for some reason, we've had an allergy to saying, hey, man, like, if you go do this thing called get married and you really change everything and do it really, really well, your outcomes are outsized in that way, too. And I think it's because people have been abused, people end up single parents, people, like, for all sorts of reasons, and we don't want to shame anybody. And so I get that impulse, but man, I'm telling you right now. And I'll say this, I'm 23 and a half years married. there has been several times when the only reason we're still together today is because of the pain it would have been to go through the court system.

Right. And that sounds like, ooh, that's lame and gross or whatever. But dude, I have only eaten well certain times because I got rid of all the junk food out of my house. I have only exercised sometimes in my life because I knew I had somebody meeting me at the gym. And so I think just because there's accountability, just because there is hurdles doesn't mean it's a bad thing. In fact, I think it's, it means it matters. It means it's a good thing. And so, dude, I can't, I can't overstate enough the importance of finding somebody that you want to spend the rest of your life with and dedicating yourself to serving that person and praying to God, or if you don't believe in God, just hoping really big that they bring that same attitude to you.

And yeah, we'll build something that changes both of y'all's family tree into something extraordinary. Now, can I propose something to you? Yeah. Tell me if I'm wrong, okay. You're not as mad at your mother-in-law as you are with your girlfriend. I agree. Yeah, I know. Tell me about that. I think I was taught from a pretty young age to stand up for myself and to, yeah.

So the biggest thing is boundaries, right? Like she's gone a lot better, but it's putting boundaries there so that they know. But like not boundaries with yourself, like telling them this is a boundary, right? Can I go one level deeper than that? Yeah, yeah. Boundaries are a decision that sits upon another big decision. That she has chosen you over them. Right.

There's no reason to make a boundary. if they still come first. There's no reason to make a boundary if you're still going to do everything you can to seek their approval, even though both of you all know that approval's never going to come. Right. Right.

And there's this gnawing question in your spirit, it sounds like, are you picking me? Because it sounds like you continue to pick them. Yeah. Yeah, that makes sense. I think that every person, and this is bio-kill, This is neuroscience.

This is all the nerd stuff you want to talk about. But I think to say it in the simplest way, every person, all of us need to be seen and known and truly celebrated and when appropriate challenged. But I think it has to happen in that order. And if you spent the last decade seeing and knowing her and celebrating the crap out of her, man,

being her number one cheerleader. And she only sees and knows you after she gets done talking to her mom about it, I think you have to deal with the pain and the grief of that because that hurts, man. And the choice, like, your mother-in-law can only, or your girlfriend's mom, what even call her, she can only impact y'all's relationship

as much as your wife and subsequently you allow it. Right. Is that fair? I agree. Yeah. So my question for you is, for her and for you,

how long are you going to let this woman have a bigger vote at your table than the only two votes that matter, which is you and your wife, you and your girlfriend. On everything from how you're going to raise your kid, what you're going to name your kid, y'all going to get married in any way possible.

By the way, here's the reason I think legal marriage is still important, okay? It gives everybody a framework for what happens if this thing breaks down. And nobody likes to think about that, but I think that's important. There's a path. And there's some legal,

support for other systems and cohabitation, all that. But the clearest one still is, if this thing falls apart, here is a path for how this is going to be handled. And I think that's really important. Yeah, I agree. You've made a human with this girl, or with this woman, so y'all are in it for life together in some way, shape, form or fashion. Reservous, yeah.

Are you, is she your person? Absolutely. Are you willing to go all in? carrying her as a responsibility, right? And allowing her to carry you as a responsibility for the rest of y'all's life? Yeah. Is she?

Yeah. Okay. Then if you're not a person of faith, you don't have a bigger picture of this thing, follow the data. Absolutely. That helps a lot. Congratulations, man.

What's your kid's name? Actually, don't give me the name over the phone. That's okay. I mean, over the air, but just, I'll shut you out. Baby here, do win. Yeah, he's 10 months old. 10 months old. All right. Make the rest of your life about taking care of his mom.

Yeah. Awesome. Thanks, man. Hey, it's been an honor to talk to you, my brother. Call any time. And great question. It's a question that haunted me for years and years. And I don't know that I've been more confident in something in a long,

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right way. That's zander.com. All right, let's go out to Reno 911 Nevada and talk to Anna. Hey, Anna, what's up? Hi, I do have a question. What's up? I have a 10-year friendship with one of my really close friends. I recently just had a gathering and her, I'm not sure if they're married or not, but her boyfriend told my brother and showed proof that he's been paying for sex and buying these women stuff. Because I do have a great relationship with her. I'm not sure if I should get involved. My main worry is because she just had a baby.

So I'm worried for like any STDs or possible danger because he's he has seen prostitutes. Yeah. I mean, I want to honor the fact that you're calling me, but your first call should have been to her. This is as clear of a no-brainer as I ever get on the show. Yes. Okay. Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. This is a friend.

If I knew somebody for 30 minutes, maybe not 30 minutes, but if I knew somebody for a short period of time, And I know they're in danger. You better believe I'm going to say something. A 10-year friendship. Yeah. I'm just worried that if she ends up with him or back with him, that it firebacks on me. So there's an old saying that I love, not by your hand, but in your lap. Okay.

We got hit by this wild ice storm a month or two ago here in Nashville. And even just yesterday, there were guys out cutting down trees in my yard because they're dead. and some of them had fallen over. I didn't cause that. I didn't have anything to do with that. But I have to deal with the cleanup. And this is a similar situation. You were just doing life,

having some friends over, some family members over, and then boom, somebody handed you a live grenade and said, your close friend is in a terrible, terrible situation. And so as of now, the friendship you had with her is different. It's not over,

but it's very different. Yeah. And I always want my friendships to be based on honesty and respect and dignity. And so if she chooses to not be friends with you in the future because she chooses this guy who's cheating on her buying prostitutes, putting her at risk, et cetera, and she chooses him to be the parent, I mean, to be the full-time parent of that kid, then you get to choose if you want to be friends with that person or not. Okay. But I don't ever want to look in the mirror and think I didn't do the right thing because it was scary or because.

it was hard. I always want to make the next right move. And letting your friend know they're in danger, they're a cuckold, they are getting run around on, all those things. And you may find out oh, she already knows. And then y'all gotta talk through that. You know what I mean? But yeah, I'm always going to default to being a person who's going to tell my friends the truth. Whether they got a booger on their nose or whether they're your spouse

or their baby daddy is out by and process? I mean, yeah, I would Tell him, I would tell him, I would tell him. I would tell him. I would told him yesterday. Okay. Yeah, she does know a little bit because she mentioned that he loves to go to strip clubs, but she doesn't know the full extent. And so, yeah. Okay. And some of this may blow back on your brother. And for like, that guy calls, like, can't believe you told, oh, it's my sister. It's your, I'm going to tell. And he needs to have the courage to do that as well. But yeah, no brainer, easy. make the call might be hard, but make the call, be direct, let her know what you've seen, and tell her, I'll walk with you through this entire next chapter because it's going to be messy. Thanks for a call. It's now spring, which means my family is back out in the woods and on the lake for more adventures.

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I'll tell you the problem, the wife of that first caller, but go ahead. We agree. We took a poll. And we agree. This is when I wish I had the powers of 11, because I would be going. And she would have projectile rocket diarrhea right now. But alas, I'm just a mere mortal. Yes, you are.

In the right side up. Sorry about that. Bums me out. Yeah, I know. All right, go ahead. Who's the problem? So this is from Anonymous G. Anonymous G.

Dude, that's such your rap name, Ben. 100%. Anonymous G. In Houston, so. H-town. There's a lot of anonymous G's rolling in Houston. Dude, in there. My love in Houston, I'd want to be anonymous too.

Dude, for, whatever. It's chopped and screwed. Dude, they're just going slow. Drinking that lane in H-Town. Mark Jones. Dude, just just, just. Sorry, people. I think John has had an annuary.

My apologies to our listeners. I got thrown back to my roots. Dude, I love it. Okay. You were so white. Dude, I know. To my precious suburb. Exactly. You were raised about like I was in a suburb. Listen, lady.

Listen, sometimes kids had spray paint and said bad words. Not like we were from the mean streets. Yeah, speak for yourself. Mike Jones. All right, go for it. I bet your parents. Listen, go for it. All right.

Anonymous G rights. You do. Anywho, I am a Christian and my husband used to be, but now considers himself an atheist. Is it wrong for me to take my three kids, elementary age, to church with me if my husband disagrees and says that I'm imposing my beliefs on them and that they should make their own choices one day? Should I stop taking them? No. Kids need structure. They're going to come up with their own beliefs anyway. Give them a routine.

and by the way, even atheist economists say, if I could snap my fingers, I'd have everybody go back to church. It gives structure to a week. It gives structure to a system. It gives you a group of people that you do life with. And my beliefs are radically different than the house of worship I was dragged to as a kid,

but I had structure in my life and I had parents that believed in a thing. And this idea that I'm just going to let my nine-year-old or 10-year-old or 7-year-old just decide for themselves, they're 9 to 10 and 7. They can't. They can't. And so good grief. Yes, go, go. Get them involved in things. And if you're both atheists and you both don't want to go to house worship, fine, great. But get your kids involved in

things bigger than themselves. That's a cornerstone of mental and emotional health. And don't outsource their systems of beliefs to their developing brains. Good grief. What kind of world do we live in. A world where you think you're from the mean streets of Houston. You go listen to Mike Jones and Paul Wall for one hour and tell me your life's not better. I know who they are. I'm fully aware. Listen. Sometimes you just have to go with the truth that damn feels good to be a gangster.