The Dylan Gemelli Podcast - Episode #124: Having comfort in your fear! How I became LIMITLESS by embracing and overcoming my fears!

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Starting point is 00:01:33 have trouble sleeping? A lot of times we have fear that we're holding on inside of us that we don't know about. Other times, we have problems and issues that were scared to address. embrace. Embracing fear sounds like a crazy concept. It sounds like, oh, I don't know, making weaknesses your strengths, things that sound like they don't go hand in hand. And I've recently experienced a breakthrough, a nervous system reset, soul surgery, an entire realignment of my nervous system. My spirituality with God and my relationship has been so strong. But you have to remember something that God gives us tools to help fix problems. He doesn't just snap his fingers and correct everything. Sometimes prayer leads you to what you need to help. It's not just pray and get.

Starting point is 00:02:26 It's pray and get some answers. Pray and get direction. Pray and get attributes that we need. I haven't understood certain aspects about myself. Why do I feel like I'm so angry at times? Why do I feel impatient. Why do I feel like I have so much love and compassion in my heart, but it won't come out? And through some of the things that I've encountered recently, I've realized. And it was hard for me to accept this or say it as I was scared. I was scared to dig. I was scared to address. I was scared to accept. And it took me getting this entire nervous system reset to see it. But it also took me having a willingness to say, you know what? You have to do something. You have to do something. have to tackle this. You have to not be afraid. The first step was admitting it. The second step

Starting point is 00:03:14 was going to do it. I have a very, I won't even call him a friend. He's a brother to me, which happened immediately. His name is Dr. Sean Brake. Many of you have probably heard of him. Some of you may not have. He is one that is known for helping professional athletes correct injuries, but he doesn't do it in a way that you think he's not a crack and pop and adjust type of chiropractor or some sort of wizard healer in terms of having some sort of pill that he gives you or some sort of antidote no no no no no the answer lies inside the answer lies in our spirit the answer lies in our nervous system the answer is within and fear is a dominant factor fear takes over fear has a control over everything that we do a lot of times we don't realize the problems we have the stresses that we

Starting point is 00:04:06 have the things that are going on. If you think deeply where they come from and why they're there, it's it's because of fear. There's all different kinds of fear that go on. Fear is not always just, oh my gosh, I'm terrified. That's not how it works. Stress equates to fear, angry equates to fear, all the things that I mentioned before, fear of the unknown. I mean, you could put the word fear if you think about it into so many different types of sentences, scenarios, conceptual thoughts. but it's ever present. And it's one of the, if not the most difficult foe and adversary that we all face. So how on earth do we embrace fear?

Starting point is 00:04:49 That sounds insane. That sounds completely backwards. And I smile as they say that because if I would have said that a month ago, a couple weeks ago, a week ago, a little over a week ago, I would have been like, yeah, I don't know if you want to talk about that. How are you going to do that? How are you going to make sense of that? Until I did it, until I looked it directly in the eye and said, I'm not only not scared of you. I want you. I want you one on one. I want to stare directly back at you and I want to take you on. I want you to challenge me. I want to go toe to toe with you. And I'm not only going to do that.

Starting point is 00:05:34 I'm going to win because I don't lose. But you have to tell yourself that you have to, you have to know within. And it starts by belief, okay? See, I've said this a million times. I've had this all wrong for so many years because I was so focused on the fitness side of things, the bodybuilding side of things, the nutrition, all of the training, these things that are so important.

Starting point is 00:05:59 But guess what? What's the driver behind those? How do you, I thought about this. How are you able to do all of these things? You have to be mentally strong to do it. Your mind has to be able to endure, to overcome. Your mind controls everything that you do. If you think and really dig deep into this.

Starting point is 00:06:20 Every single thing revolves around a thought, something that you're doing where your mind is telling you to do one or the other, any decisions that you make, every action that you take, are you hungry, your mind is telling you everything. Your mind controls everything. So wouldn't it make sense that the power of your mind

Starting point is 00:06:42 is going to help you overcome your fears? Now, some of the things that I might say, some people might get angry, some people say, what credentials does he have to say this? Everybody with 5,000 letters after their names does not have credentials. They have schooling.

Starting point is 00:07:00 They have knowledge. It doesn't mean they have wisdom. It doesn't mean they have hands-on experience. And it also means that they were taught one way. Some expound out of that realm and some do not. I always appreciate anybody that took the time to go to school for years and years and get trained. But I also know that there's far more than something that you learn out of a book or a class where another human is teaching you. It takes real world experience.

Starting point is 00:07:24 It takes real interpersonal connection with oneself and with other people. And it takes an understanding of human. humans and our existence, and it takes an understanding of God and spirit. So yes, there are professionals that are trained well that you certainly want to listen to, but there are a lot of concepts and things that go on where people that are in the trenches every day that have real life experiences that go through it day by day by day by day. They have wisdom. See, there's a difference between knowledge and wisdom that I've talked about on many shows and podcasts. There's a lot of people that know a lot that are very knowledgeable and they don't know

Starting point is 00:08:00 how to use that knowledge, which is what we call wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to utilize your knowledge, your wit, your smarts into the ways that it needs to be utilized, to get the best out of it, to use it wisely. And you do not obtain that through thinking that you're too smart, through over-analyzing, and through thinking that everything comes out of a book. That's not wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to bend but not break. It is to the ability and the want to ask questions to challenge things, to look for deeper answers, to know that there's always more.

Starting point is 00:08:37 Wisdom takes you to do that. Wisdom gives you the ability to look far beyond, to go 20 extra miles, to do everything you can to not only challenge, but to learn. And the challenge is not about thinking that you're always right or to be somebody that's overly dramatic conspiracy theorist. That is not what I'm talking about. challenging something is looking for a deeper answer for looking for the core. See, everybody wants to treat that they don't look at how to prevent. Why don't we tackle things before they get out of hand? Why don't we try to handle things before they start? Why don't we try to not let things manifest good things? Let's create good things. Let's stop things before they start. Let's be in

Starting point is 00:09:23 control. And how do we be in control? We start by getting control of our mind. We start by getting control of our mind, our thoughts. We have to have hope. We have to have gratitude. We have to have appreciation. We have to have understanding. We have to have compassion. Humans were created and designed to love. That's why that you see so many animals, they have that animal instinct to love. It's so pure babies when they're born, they just want love, they want attention. Your pets, they want love, they want attention because that is natural. That is what we were supposed to have. We become jaded. We become stressed. We become overwhelmed and we forget how to love because we lose it we forget about it we become scared we forget it's there we wonder why compassion won't come out like myself when i'm so full of love

Starting point is 00:10:05 and certain things trigger me to be compassionate but why am i not being compassionate as much as i should as much as i want fear fear of getting taken advantage of fear of getting hurt these are reasons why you can't be compassionate because you put a wall up because you have these fears. You see things happen in a movie or to other people. You become fearful. You become scared. Some people are scared of failure. Some people are scared. They have phobias. They're scared of certain types of animals, fear of flying, fear of heights, claustrophobia. These are fears. They're fears. And if you don't address them, if you stay scared, if you don't challenge them, if you don't challenge yourself to overcome it, guess what happens? Worse, worse.

Starting point is 00:10:54 addition by subtraction you don't get there you you create new problems and then these stresses then they show up in your blood panels then they show up in everything that they do you can't stay focus and you wonder why your mind wanders you wonder why you have no motivation you wonder why you blame it on on low testosterone or your diet or whatever sure those are contributing factors but what started that How did we get there? Fear and mindset, stress. So, okay, we get to this point. What do we do now?

Starting point is 00:11:29 Well, we look fear head on. We put ourselves in situations and scenarios that we're scared of and we go defeat it. We go fight back. We go put ourselves in uncomfortable circumstances or situations. And then when we do it, we realize, wow, that wasn't so bad at all. In fact, I feel so accomplished now. I know I'm limitless. Because let me tell you something, we were all created to be limitless.

Starting point is 00:11:54 And limitless, listen, take that word how you want. That means that you're capable of anything. People like to misconstrue words and throw things around and say things and twist and turn. And then just so they can start arguing or be divisive, I pray for you. I do. But you'll stop. See, we've gotten to a point in time now where we're kind of at this like breaking point where you've got people that are really trying hard to make a difference and you've got people that are really trying hard to pull

Starting point is 00:12:23 positive energy with negative energy. People that have negative energy, they start to pull the positive energy out of the room and away from the people that are bringing it in to suck it away so that they can bring it back to their level of negativity. Don't be scared to fight that head on. Don't be scared of anything because there's nothing to be scared of. Fear does not accomplish anything. I always used to get so stressed and angry about so many things for so many years. I have to ask myself, what did that anger solve? What did that stress solve? Or how did it make it worse? How did it exacerbate a situation and turn it into something that it should have never been? How did it prolong something? Remember, when you run and hide, you're only delaying the inevitable,

Starting point is 00:13:13 which makes it worse because of the lead-up and the build-up that's taken to get to it as opposed to just doing it. You know, when you got that piece of tape or Band-Aid or whatever on it, you got a lot of hair there, and it's like the slower you do it, the worse it feels. And if you just do it real quick and it's off, it's like, it sucked for a second, but man, it's over. It wasn't so bad. I remember the first time I had to get a tooth pulled out, and I was just scared, crying, whatever. and my dad said it's out. I said, I just remember sitting there stopped.

Starting point is 00:13:45 I stopped crying and everything. I was a very little kid. And I remember thinking of myself. I didn't even know what to say. I remember I can picture it. And I just thought, huh, not so bad, not so bad at all. Then the next couple times I was like, Daddy, am I tooth ready to come out? And just like, walk here, do it.

Starting point is 00:14:07 Because I was more concerned about getting money from the tooth fairy than the pain of the tube when you realize the reward that you're getting from tackling a fear. Now, that's a funny example, but think about the freedom that you get when you overcome a fear. Not only the freedom, but the release, the release, because it's like a hundred pound weight got licked off your back. And guess what? Some of the aches and pains that you have, you know how people will say, oh, it's because I carried whatever. You see athletes say they carry the team on the back or whatever carrying the load well we carry stress we carry that we carry burdens we carry fear and you know what it does it causes pain it causes joint pain it causes inflammation

Starting point is 00:14:55 you know what happens when you release that that pain goes away i bashed my shin yesterday bashed it and anybody that's ever hit their shin knows that is a terrible pain and that is a normal situation where I would have been cursing up a storm. My wife was standing there and she heard it because I had picked up a scale to clean the people that clean her house. I had picked up a scale to move it back and I was kind of in a hurry and you could hear it. And I said, oh, that's going to swell up. And I told her, oh, that hurts, you know, because she knows if I say it hurts, it hurts. But instead of me cursing and yelling and screaming, and she just kept saying, do you want ice, do you want ice? I said, no, babe, just give me a second. I said, I can handle this. I said, just give me a minute.

Starting point is 00:15:39 And she was concerned because she said, my face was turning a little purple. And I walked into the closet and I just started to breathe. And I took several breaths. And I said, you know what? And inside, this doesn't hurt. It's okay. It's fine.

Starting point is 00:15:54 There's nothing to be angry about. And I did the deep breathing and deep breathing. And I'll tell you what, I had a little shiner there, but the pain went away. It went away. I didn't even feel it. It went away. And it, you know what?

Starting point is 00:16:08 the best about that was it wasn't that the pain went away i mean that was great i nobody wants to feel pain i really knew i i i won i because i didn't let anger take over i had no fear i didn't have fear of pain or anything else i was running late i didn't have fear being late none nothing i just won i won an interpersonal struggle in battle that was it was making me a different person i've been doing the breath work every morning now that I do outside and towards the end I fight my fear. I keep holding my breath underwater. I don't even call it holding breath now. I call it harmonization and harmonizing my body because now when I go under, there's no

Starting point is 00:16:53 fear, there's no stress, there's no anxiety, there's no increase in heart rate. I just sat under there and think. I started like 10, 15 seconds underwater and I'm doing 60 seconds or more now at full peace. The only reason I come up is in case I'm worried now that my wife's looking there and it's going to come out and panic. The peace. The peace of mind and the thrill of winning and victory that you get from fighting your fears is going to shape who you become and who you are. See, the path to your destiny will change. We veer off the path. But to get to your destiny, you have to get yourself back on and you have to be willing. You have to be willing to do

Starting point is 00:17:36 what needs to be done to do that with no fear. And when you do that, when you have that, it is the most freeing feeling in the world. I love everybody. And I hope that the words I say resonate. And I hope that you can feel exactly what I feel, but you have to take your fear head. That being said, stay tuned for plenty more to come. Dylan Jameli, signing off.

The Dylan Gemelli Podcast - Episode #124: Having comfort in your fear! How I became LIMITLESS by embracing and overcoming my fears!

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