THE ED MYLETT SHOW - 7 Habits to Make Your Goals Stick
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Welcome back to the show everybody.
So I'm excited for today because I'm going to cover a topic a lot of you have asked us
to cover on the show. Basically, what we're going to go through today is how your habits deliver on your goals.
So essentially, it's got a little bit to do with goal setting, but delivered by the habits
that we create.
I'm going to give you seven steps to making your goals a reality by delivering with them
on habits that serve you.
And that is one of the things that you've got to evaluate first before we get into the
seven steps is it's great to have goals and outcomes in our life, but if we don't develop
habits that serve us and we don't have the ability to create new habits, we're probably
going to produce the same exact results over and over again. You know, about 90% of our choices
and thoughts every day are identical. And so that's why as a consequence, we produce the same external
results. In life, it's much more important to be focused on what's going on inside of us,
as opposed to what's going on outside of us. Because everything, once it leaves us,
is outside of our control. We can control the things that are inside of us, which are our habits.
And the reason habits matter so deeply, I like James Clear's work on this, and other people's,
including mine and my book, The Power of
One More. I have a whole chapter in there of how to develop healthy habits that serve you. But one
of the reasons habits matter is not just our day-to-day life, but under pressure in life,
under stress, we always respond reflexively. And so it's our reflex to respond habitually.
So there's a lot of autopilot in life. That's true. That's why sometimes you can be driving and not even be thinking. And just kind of just pull right
off the freeway, go to your house, take the left, take the right. You remember how you
got home sometimes because you're on autopilot, you're on habit mode. But under stress and
pressure, we respond to these habits that are ours. And so how do we develop these new
habits that serve us as opposed to the ones that don't? You show me your habits and I'm probably going to show you your life. I'm going to show you the difference that
separates people is what they do habitually. And so we're going to talk about how to shift
that a little bit.
So one thing a habit has to have to exist is conditioning, meaning you've got to be
able to do it over and over and over again so that it can replace something that was
there before. And so for me, when I look at an athlete, for example, that's very, very successful,
if I deduce what their habits are and I develop the same habits, I've got a higher likelihood
of producing the same results as that athlete if I behave in a certain way.
In other words, there's a consequence for choices in behavior.
And we choose the right behavior over and over again.
Success is really not that difficult.
It's a collection of habits.
And so if you wonder whether or not, you know, you can be successful or achieve your goals, that's really not that difficult. It's a collection of habits. And so if you wonder whether or not, you know, you can be successful or achieve your goals,
that's really not the question. The question is whether you'll invest the
time to get serious about changing the habits that would deliver on those
goals. Goals without an attached habit are really useless, right? But actually
having great habits with no goal is also useless. You just be going through the
motions without producing a result. And so let's talk a little bit about the goal part first. Seven things that I want
to cover today as it relates to goals and habits. Number one thing with your
goals, write this down. Specificity. You've got to get more specific with what
exactly it is that you want. Imagine if you were going to invest in a company
and they put their annual report out and they go, yeah we want to be profitable.
Or we made some money. Would you invest in that company? You would want to know specifically exactly what was the
top line revenue? What was the bottom line revenue? What are your expenses? What's your forecast
specifically that you believe the dollar amount you're going to hit the street? You would never
invest in a company that did not give you specific markers for what they've done and could not tell
you specifically what they want to get done and what their goals and outcomes are
Yet most human beings are wandering
Generalities about they want I want to be more fit. I want to be happy. I want to be wealthy
I want to make a lot of money
What does that mean? You wouldn't invest in a company that didn't have those types of specifics yet every single day
We're walking around wondering whether success will invest in us. Success is not going to invest in you if
you're general. By the way, your mind cannot go to work, your brain cannot go
to work on processing a non-specific general result. It doesn't know how to do
it. It's got to be specific. I want 10 of those. I want to weigh 125 or 186. I want
12% body fat or whatever it might be. I want
$100,000 in income. I'm going to have five meetings. These are specific things. Then
you can build a habit backwards from them.
Now I'm talking about even the people that I coach that, you know, pay me a significant
amount of money. When we first encounter, I was working with a brand new person just
the other day and he said, I just want a win.
I just want to win. And I said, okay, what's that win look like? And he goes, I want F you money.
I said, okay, cool. I love that. I love your passion for it. What's F you money?
He didn't have an answer. And that's why he doesn't have F you money, right. He doesn't have it. And the reason he doesn't
have it is he has never gotten specific about what that looks like. And there's a power to
getting specific right when you begin to get specific, your brain wants to develop habits
to deliver on that outcome. If you repeat it over and over again, why? Because your brain is
constantly trying to conserve energy. It's always trying to create a habit so that it doesn't have to think so that under pressure, it'll just be reflexive. Okay? So your brain
wants to form a habit to serve your specific outcome. But when that outcome is non-specific
and general, it'll always revert back on producing the nothingness that that goal is delivered
by the habits
you already have.
So specificity is critical.
So what I'm saying to you is when you review your goals, whether that be for the year,
the month or the day, I want to have a good day.
What does that mean?
Clearly, the more clear, the more specific you are, the higher probabilities that you'll
deliver on it and that you will begin to create the habits that support it and reinforce it on a regular basis. Because remember, habits need
conditioning. You developed this habit you have because you conditioned it over
and over again. And the only way that it's gonna get replaced with a better
one is by conditioning it over and over again. And the only way you're gonna
condition it is if it's specific. If it's specific, okay? So please, today I want to have a, I
want to make 10 contacts, then it's 10. Or if I'm gonna sit on, I'm making it up,
you're gonna do curls in the gym, right? I want to do 10 curls at 30 pound
dumbbells, whatever they might be, specific, and we're gonna talk about this
later, measurable and tangible, okay? And so whatever that is, you gotta have an exact amount you want so that we can produce
an exact habit.
Then the reticular activating system in your brain knows how important this is to you and
will begin to find the resources, the people, places, and the things that have always been
around you but that you've been oblivious to before to deliver on it.
In the power of one more in my book, I talk about the matrix.
I call the reticular activating system,
the RAS in your brain is the matrix
because it's sort of what reveals to you what's important.
It can actually slow things down when you're an athlete
or create the habits that you need to deliver on it.
So this part of our brain's really critically important
to program it.
It can't program on a non-specific general thing. And
I'm going to tell you, 99% of people, even the people who, you know, are one-on-one coached
by me, aren't specific. And it's the major part of my work with them. Even athletes go,
I want to win the fight. Specifically how? Specifically when? I want to have a good game
tonight. Specifically, what does that mean? Three for four, two hits? You want to shoot 68?
Like exactly what does it look like
so that we can build the habits to back that up?
And it might not even be that they want to score a number.
It might be that I want to hit 10 crisp golf shots
right on the button.
10 of them today, right?
Great, or I want to only have 25 putts.
Great, these are specific things that we begin to adjust.
You'd be amazed at
how much your brain wants to reserve energy. It doesn't want to think. It wants to build
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Number two, what's the catalyst step?
Just write down catalyst step.
See, I think that everything,
James Clear has this thing where he talks about the two minute rule, the two minute idea,
where if you could just get something done for two minutes, it's the beginning of a habit that can
give you the catalyst to success. I call mine a catalyst step. Meaning if you can just do one
thing, oftentimes there's one move that if you make it, it can handle seven other things. So ask yourself, what's the catalyst step I could take today? So
like there's this notion when you go to the gym, some people say showing up is
half the battle. No, it's not. It's not. It's not half the battle. However, it is
part of the battle. And so it can be considered a catalyst step just getting
to the gym. That's not half the battle. It's not even 20% of the battle,
but it is part of the battle.
So perhaps a catalyst step is getting to the gym.
Maybe a catalyst step is, you know, in your business life that you're going to,
you know, pick the phone up five times in a given day or type seven emails,
but it's some catalyst.
You do something that's a catalyst to create change.
John Maxwell talks in his book about the law of the catalyst that is a person in an organization.
They're a catalyst for change. So ask yourself, have you got a specific goal of,
I want to make $100,000 this year, or I want to weigh 180 pounds or whatever it might be.
Ask yourself the next question. Am I specific enough? And what's the catalyst habit
that I would need? What's the catalyst habit? For example, for me, my energy was
very, very low years ago and I decided the catalyst habit that I could control
was drinking a gallon of water a day. That was my outcome. Follow me. My outcome
was one gallon of water a day. Okay? However, that was a habit that was difficult
to create. So I said to myself,
what's the catalyst step that could get me in the door? And that was this. Here's the catalyst step.
I left a one liter bottle of water next to my bed, just a liter, for when I woke up in the morning.
And my catalyst habit was when I woke up, I drank that liter of water before I did anything else.
That was a catalyst step to get me towards my outcome
that was specific, which was drinking a gallon for the day,
which was to live around my overall goal,
which was to feel more energy
and health and vitality in my life.
So that's an example of a catalyst step.
What is a catalyst that you could do
to get you into the game, to get you moving,
much like James Clear's two minute idea,. Okay these are huge things because you can
start going step by step. It might be just getting to the gym. It might be
ordering that microphone for the podcast you're going to start. Just ordering the
microphone, right? That's a catalyst step. Why does that matter? Because
deliberation is delay. Strategy is oftentimes like strategic
procrastination in the sense that what you're doing is you're going into all this planning phase,
but really it's mocking. You need more planning, you need more time, you need more strategy.
That's all an excuse not to take action. And what I'm saying to you is I cannot teach you how to
drive a parked car. The most important thing you can do is to just get going. You've got to write
an entire book. Maybe the catalyst step is you're going to write the first
sentence of the book. I had a friend of mine when I was struggling writing the
power of one more, I just couldn't get decided on what I wanted the book to be
about exactly. He said, forget writing the book. He said, write out what you want
the chapters to be first. You don't have to even have a title of the book yet. What would the chapters be? And so I wrote the
chapters out, just the titles of the chapters, not what was in the chapters, not what I was going to
say about them, not the content, not the quotes, not the title of the book, not even the flow of
the chapters, just what would the chapters be? And what that did is it was a catalyst step to
get me out of delay, to get me out of procrastination,
to get me away from deliberating about it or strategizing about it or planning about
it.
It got me in motion.
And then I wrote those chapters out.
I went, no, that wouldn't be the order.
I'll flip this.
And then the next morning I woke up and went, no, that wouldn't be a chapter.
That could fit in that one, but I'm going to make this a chapter.
And then all of a sudden I started recording audios that would start in the book.
But the catalyst habit that moved me was the idea of writing the chapters out. The catalyst
habit of drinking the gallon a day was to get the one liter of water by my bed, right?
And to stop deliberating, stop delaying, stop the strategy sessions that end up being procrastination sessions. Okay. So huge,
huge deal. Third, this is a big one.
Identify the biggest obstacle or distraction to you getting the goal done.
What will likely be the biggest obstacle or distraction?
Because really oftentimes in life, it's not about just adding a new habit for a
goal. It's about eliminating one that's obstructing our outcome.
So part of what we've already created is a catalyst habit. So it's creating a new habit. The third thing then is
identify what the obstacle is or the biggest distraction. So could that distraction be Netflix?
Could it be your phone? Could it be a particular room you're in? Right? Could it be a person?
Could it be a thought? Right? Could it be something else you you're in? Could it be a person? Could it be a thought?
Could it be something else you're doing that's no longer important to you, that's taking
up the time that is required to do this new thing you want to do?
But if you don't identify what's obstructing you, what the distraction is, oftentimes you
will revert back.
But you're a pretty powerful person immediately when you've got specificity to your outcomes, right? That's a big deal. You've developed a catalyst stepper
habit and now you've removed and identified the biggest obstacle or distraction. That's
a huge thing. And maybe the biggest obstacle or distraction is your lack of self-confidence
and you need to immerse yourself in personal development as you get going. But to some
extent if you can, like for me, I know for the most part,
my distraction is getting into doing things that I call in the small. I get into the small things,
I get into the weeds too much instead of staying in the big and creating the big things and doing
the big things that move things. I would say also that prior to the change I've made recently with,
you know, I've had some health challenges. So I've gotten off of social media.
One of the best things I've done in a long time for,
for my physical and mental health, but also it's eliminated a huge distraction.
It's just, I can't imagine,
you can't even begin to imagine how much time you have when you're not in this
stupid phone looking at stuff that doesn't mean anything. It's really incredible.
Or it doesn't even make you feel good anyway. So that phone was,
maybe it's the news, right? Maybe it's you're obsessing
over the news. You know, it could be a TV show you're too caught up in. If you wonder
whether or not you can build a new habit or not, or you could become obsessed with something,
think about the last time you fell in love with some TV show on Netflix or Amazon and
you streamed 18 of them in a row. So you're pretty good at staying focused, aren't you?
Right? You got pretty specific with what you wanted to do. But what that stuff can become is becomes the obstacle or distraction and not the thing that leads
to our success. And so identify that. Number four, success leaves footprints. Listen, there's
a pathway already there. There's no hacks or shortcuts to success, but there kind of
are. I was getting a new phone yesterday and the young man that worked in that store is 20
years old and he's got a baby.
I got to know him pretty well as we were sitting there.
It ended up being a few hours of getting a new phone and I just loved him.
And he had so many questions for me about success in life and he just wants to be somebody
so badly.
Like he's got a fire burning in him that I didn't see with other people that worked in
there, but I did see in him. You know what I mean? That special one. He's got a fire. He wants to be somebody,
wants his life to be awesome. He wants to compete. He wants to be successful. He wants to be wealthy, like many of you do.
He said, is there any tips, Mr. Mylett, or hacks, or shortcuts? I said, you know what?
There's no shortcuts to success. And I said, well, there actually is.
I said, you know what, there's no shortcuts to success. And I said, well, there actually is.
Success leaves footprints.
He goes, what do you mean?
I said, well, the quickest way is to find somebody who's already done what you want
to do and get as close to them as you can.
If getting as close to them as you can is reading their book, then you're closer than
when you didn't read the book.
If it's listening to their podcast, listen to their podcast and maybe you're closer to
them there.
Not just me, anybody.
I'm not necessarily saying that with me.
Or I said as a young person, see if you can't go to an event or a seminar they have and
best go to work for them.
If you can go to work, he goes, I don't know what industry I want to get into.
What do you think?
And I named a few different industries and I said, like he said, well, maybe I'll get
into real estate.
I said, well, if it were me and I was going to get into real estate, I'd find out who
the top broker in this town is or in this area is and I would go to work for them and
I'd work for as little as I have to work for to pay my bills to get up close and to learn.
I told him, I said, there's this great Chinese proverb and I said, the proverb goes like
this, if you want to know the road ahead, ask those coming back because they've got
footprints they've left.
Success leaves clues, but it leaves footprints, the exact steps to take.
So go find somebody who has taken those steps and learn from them and
duplicate it and make it your own.
Don't copy them, model them.
There's a difference when you copy someone and you become like a knockoff
version of them and it almost looks like you're doing an impression of another
person.
I've watched a lot of people do that. That comes across inauthentic, not very congruent, not real
because we're all unique human beings with our own talents and nuances and idiosyncrasies. And so,
when you just verbatim copy somebody, it's just a weaker knockoff version. But modeling somebody
is slightly different. That's learning from them and then making it your own to fit your personality, your intensity level, your talents and giftedness.
So model someone who's left the footprints. And that's a much faster way to get to your goals.
And the thing that you should be modeling in them are their habits or is their habits.
What are their day-to-day habits they have
that have delivered on the results they've gotten?
Because oftentimes, we're not sure what the habit is we need to form,
but somebody else does know.
And so whether that's reading their book, listening to their podcast,
going to their event if they have one, or going to work for them.
And for the record, I'm not talking about me.
I mean, I wouldn't be the person to teach you real estate.
I'm just giving you an example.
So whatever that industry is, find the best person in it
and get as much information from them as you possibly can.
With the advent of social media,
that is one of the great gifts that you could follow somebody
who's in a particular industry or craft you want.
And people are pretty free with giving away information now
for free on their podcast on their social media
So you can begin to learn from them?
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Number five, depth perception.
I think most people don't realize that they're much closer to their dream and their goal
than they realize.
And so most people don't have a lack of vision or a goal.
What they have is a depth perception problem.
They think they're further away than they are from the goal because they think it's so far away. And by the way,
it could be years away, but you think it's really far away. Because you think it's so far away,
you behave like it. You've created thoughts, patterns, and belief systems that will always
keep it there that far away because you think it's so far away and it's a lie. The truth of the matter is you're probably one decision away, one mentor
away,
one new habit away, one new strategy away,
one new catalyst habit away from completely changing your life.
And so there's a depth perception issue for most people which is they believe
these things they want in their life are further. That doesn't mean it doesn't take a long time.
Doesn't mean you don't need aggressive patience where you're aggressive but
patient. It does mean though you should be in long time. It doesn't mean you don't need aggressive patience where you're aggressive but patient.
It does mean though you should be in a hurry.
Not enough people are in a hurry.
I mean, a lot of people, they're too casual.
They walk too slow, they talk too slow.
They don't really believe anything's coming around the corner that's going to change their
life.
So as a consequence, they don't look for it.
But what if you live in anticipation that you're going to meet that next person or that
next account or that one client that's going to do tons of referrals or that one idea or that one thought or that one mentor or that one relationship or that one emotion, that one strategy?
What if you lived in anticipation of that, that your depth perception change?
You said I'm one away on the power of one more away.
Then your reticular activating system goes to work on finding it because you believe it's true and it's important to you.
If you're oblivious to it and you think it's not going to happen forever, those very things, people, places, thoughts, etc.
could present themselves to you and you will not see them.
I always give this analogy, which I know you've heard before, but if you ever buy a new car, it becomes important to your RAS.
I bought a Tesla once and I remember everywhere on the road I could see Teslas after I bought
it.
I mean, I'm driving my family crazy.
There's another one, there's a red one, there's a white one.
Other side of the freeway, three lanes over, there goes another, right?
You've all had that happen.
Why?
Because they became important to me because I owned one.
All of a sudden my RAS reveals to me even things out of the corner of my eye over here. Those things were always there. Those Teslas were
always there. Why didn't I see them before? Because I didn't have them as
important to me and I didn't expect to. So if your depth perception is that it's
years and years away, these Teslas of your life you will miss. And these Teslas
come in the forms of the one idea, the one person, the one client, the one
relationship, the one thought, the one emotion.
You miss them. They were delivered to you. You didn't hear them, you didn't see them or you didn't feel them because they weren't important to you and you didn't believe strongly.
Your RAS is a prover. It's going to prove you right. It's going to find the things. It's almost like you have a belief system. It's like the top of a table. What the RRS is trying to do, the RAS is trying to find references to prove you right, to put legs under it until
it's stable. And then once it's stable, that's why, like if you're debating politics with
somebody or something, they had an opinion and then their brain went to find the references
to prove them right. And now they're like an immovable object and you shouldn't even
be talking to them. You know what I'm talking about, right? So their RAS reinforced it and
then their algorithm reinforces it and then all their
friends reinforce. They got all these legs under the table. They're an immovable object
because their RAS is going to prove them right. So if you strongly believe your goals and dreams
and vision are right around the corner, that you're the power of one more away, then your
RAS goes to find those Teslas. But if you believe it's far away, it doesn't see them even when they present themselves to you. And that's why some people become
mega successful and other people don't. It's not about talent. It's almost never
about talent. It has a lot to do with our mindset, our mental programming, our
vision, and our goals and our habits. One of the things to deliver on a goal
is the habit of accurate depth perception,
accurately using your RAS to find things.
And that just makes your goals important to you.
See, go all the way back to number one.
If I have non-specific goals, I wanna get in shape,
I wanna be wealthy.
What's my RAS gonna find to process that?
Nothing.
But if it's, I'm gonna weigh weigh 180 pounds and I'm going to be whatever
shredded, all of a sudden your RAS listens to the article on the new protein
that's out or sees the new workout or introduces you to a trainer or a
workout person or a book on something.
They were always there, but now you're seeing them because they're
important to you.
Okay.
And of course, maybe it creates new associations for you, make new friends that are in that space and you're elevated because
of that. So depth perception matters, the RAS matters. Here's the last thing I'll tell you on that.
I don't know actually know exactly what the data is on this but there's a bunch of data that suggests
that anything a human being gets focused on for a year, they become in the top 5% in the world at that craft. Isn't that fascinating? The power of a
human being who becomes obsessively focused over a year or two ends up being in the top 5% of
whatever that is that they choose to get obsessed with. You could have never ever, like I'll give an
example. I never had ridden a horse in my life until about once when I was a little boy, but
I knew nothing about horses a year or two ago
Like literally nothing maybe three years ago, and then I started riding
I didn't know the difference between a bridle and a halter. I didn't know how to lunge a horse
I didn't know what posting was I didn't know about hooves
I didn't know about you know the veterinary things the chiropractic stuff with horses
I didn't understand the the reigning aspects, using your legs as pressure,
all these different things.
But I became pretty obsessed with horses and riding horses.
And although I'm not a great rider, I'm probably in the top 5%.
Why?
Because 90% of people don't know anything.
Right.
So I've eliminated them right off the top.
And then just the fact that, you know, I've gotten okay at riding there.
I'm not ever going to be a roper or a jockey or any of those other kinds of
things, those are the top one or 2%.
I'm not going to get to that, but you know what, if I were 18 years old or 15
years old, maybe I could have got to the top one or 2%, but you can get to the
top five at about anything with obsessive focus.
I mean, if you know nothing right now, nothing at all about playing chess,
never played in your life, but you came obsessed with playing chess,
the rules of the game, you played it over and over again, you read the books, you studied the pros,
you may never be the grand champion, but you can get better than 95% of the people at it.
And so don't underestimate total immersion in something and how great you could get at whatever it is,
fitness, exercise, reading, podcasting, writing a book, starting a business, getting into any
industry. I believe you could get into any industry as long as it takes
advantage of some of your talents and giftedness. And if you become obsessed in
that industry, you get the right mentor, you get specific on your goals, you
eliminate the distractions, you have the catalyst habits in your life, you have
the right depth perception. I believe you can get to the top 5% of that industry
Let me say that to you again. You could choose any new career
This is my opinion with rare exception as long as you have some giftedness
towards that craft or
Proclivity for it and start from scratch and in a year or two if you're obsessed with learning and growing and trying and doing all
The things we're talking about here. I believe you can get to the top 5% of that industry. I believe the data suggests this.
It may take a year or two, but you start to eliminate all the unfocused people. First off,
you eliminate all the people not in that industry, then all the people who quit,
then all the people who can't deal with the failure, then this, then that, and you start
getting pretty darn good. I think you get to the top 5%. And then from there, it's a dogfight to
who the best in the world is at anything that requires hard work, refining of the game,
good fortune, blessing, momentum, but top 5% you can get there.
And I think you ought to walk in with that type of confidence.
I'm going to get into real estate.
You know what?
In a year or two, I think I can get to the top 5%.
I'm going to get into, uh, finance.
I'm going to get into, I'm going to, I'm going to get into writing books, whatever it might
be.
I think you get to the top 5% if you do these things.
I can't promise you that, but the data suggests just about anything, something as goofy as
riding horses part-time, you get to the top 5%, you eliminate all the people who don't
do it, who aren't even trying, who've quit, and you slowly move your way up the ranks.
Number six, where performance is measured,
performance improves. Now that you've got your goals and you've got some of these
habits that you're reinforcing, okay, you have to measure it.
You have to measure your performance or that of other people, but let's just take
you. You got to measure regularly. If you're changing that way,
we got to weigh in regularly. You do your body fat regularly.
You've got to diagnose your workouts. Are you getting stronger? Are you getting weaker? What body parts are getting better?
If you're starting to write a book, you've got to measure the progress of writing the book. If you
should be having written 30% of the book by now, it needs to be measured over that period of time.
If you're going to make $100,000 this year, you should be at XYZ through the year. If you're
going to save a million dollars in your lifetime, you're measuring the amount of savings you have. If you're not measuring a performance
regularly, it will not improve. But when you do measure something regularly, typically
it improves. Go back to investing in that company. You want that company to be reporting
to you if you've invested in it over time of how they're doing. Because if they don't,
it's unlikely they're going to improve.
Human beings, when they are measured, they improve.
So whether you lead people or are leading yourself, one of the greatest gifts you could give yourself is by challenging yourself to have
your performance measured.
The numbers matter.
The leaders board matter.
The scoreboard matters.
You got to have the courage to look at the scoreboard of your life. Look at the scoreboard of your weight loss. Look at
the scoreboard of your new business. Look at the scoreboard of your wealth. The
scoreboard of your relationship. Where it's measured, it improves. When you hide
from measuring it, it's not going to improve. So you got to measure it. And
lastly, seven, you have to have an appropriate celebration and recognition when you do achieve a goal
along the way.
See, listen, your brain needs to be rewarded appropriately when you achieve something.
So if you, a lot of people, I did this when I was young, I would just achieve and go,
okay, onto the next one, onto the next one, onto the next one.
That's a formula for burnout.
Because your brain eventually goes, I don't want to do this anymore.
I'm not getting anything out of it. I'm getting no
dopamine out of this. If I don't get any dopamine, I don't want to do it again. So
you've got to give yourself appropriate celebrations and recognition. If you're
leading other people, appropriate celebration, appropriate recognition for
their achievements. And I'll talk about appropriate lastly in a minute. But what
has to happen is your brain has to say, I got a reward.
I got my dopamine hit.
The good news is all the data tells us that we get more dopamine as we approach the finish
line towards a goal, as we actually get when we get there.
So just the pursuit of greatness can give you the dopamine that you're looking for.
But when you get there, for most people, it falls off the charts.
It's like a crash.
It wasn't what I thought it would be.
I'm on to the next one. I'll celebrate the next time. And you're training yourself to not really
want to keep doing it over and over again. So you got to have appropriate celebration and you got
to do recognition of yourself. Now, on the other side of that, I've seen people with completely
over the top celebration. They hit their best month ever in sales and they go to vacation for
two weeks just when they've got momentum going.
That's insane to me.
You just created momentum.
What you're doing is destroying your success,
sabotaging it, so that when you get back,
you're back to ground zero again.
So most people's problem is not that they don't
appropriately celebrate a little bit,
it's that they overly celebrate.
They celebrate too much.
They flinch, they recognize, because as they approach their finish line,
they didn't set up a new goal and a new outcome that stretches them out even further.
This is a major mistake. I got there and I just didn't know.
As you're approaching the finish line, get there. Don't move it.
Don't move the finish line because if you move the finish line,
you never get there. You never get the dopamine, but when you, the celebration would get there,
celebrate and move it forward.
What's the next thing?
What's the next number?
Where are we going next?
And again, it's gotta be specific.
We got to eliminate distractions.
We need a catalyst habit.
We need these other things, but please appropriately celebrate the 20% of you
won't celebrate at all and you're eventually going to burn out and train yourself not to go for it. The other ones over celebrate. 20% of you won't celebrate at all and you're eventually going to burn out and train yourself not to go for it. The other ones over celebrate. They take
too much time in between, right? They sabotage the very results they got.
Usually most winners, real achievers don't celebrate enough and people that
are always gonna struggle in their life. Man, I remember this just coming up in
biz. I was like, so you just had your best month ever and you took four days off? Or you just had your best quarter ever
and you stopped doing all the things that created that quarter. Like you think you're done. Like you
think it's all going to work out now. That you're over the hump. That you don't have to work like
that anymore. Successful people do what they did to get there and more the next time.
Unsuccessful people stop doing what it required for them to get there in the
first place and they do less.
I never understood that.
Let me say that to you again.
I want you to evaluate.
You just hit your sales goal.
You just hit your financial goal.
What did you do to get there and what you did to get there, do it again and
more to produce the higher result.
It's going to require more.
But what most people think is they think, oh, I got there.
I have to do that anymore.
I've got momentum in a different position.
Now things are okay.
I'm past the scary phase.
I don't think so.
You got to do more than what it required.
And that's why you'll see great athletes.
I think of like the Kobe Bryant's and their work ethic of the 3 a.m. workout. Everybody on the team went to practice. He'd
do that 3 a.m. workout, then go to the team practice, then come back after lunch, then again.
And that's after winning championships. That's after the titles. That's after the recognition.
And that's why he was Kobe Bryant and other very talented players, names we don't remember.
They won a championship or they got to the NBA,
but for some reason they overly celebrated
and they didn't re-up their game.
Here's what the great ones know,
that the habits that got me there will keep me here
and I'll have to create new habits
and better habits to get me to the next level.
The people that lose abandon the very habits that got them there in the first place.
Is that crazy?
Think about that again.
If habits are what are delivering on it.
You finally got your habits right.
You finally produce the results and you stop the habit.
You somehow think that it's just going to keep going.
This is the delusion that's happening to people.
And this is why most people are successful for a while.
And then they're not. And the reason they're not long term is they stop doing what got them there.
Really successful people say, these are the habits that got me here. What's the new, even better
improved habit that would get me higher and better? And so that's how you got to look at it,
upgrading your habits to get to the next level,
not stop doing the things that got you there.
And then the last thing I just want to kind of give you the,
maybe the warning of, of someone who's a little bit further down the road,
something that happens to us insidiously when we achieve or when we get better.
Ironically, getting better can actually cause us to be
very hard on ourselves. Most people will never tell you this because what happens is when
you grow and get better as a person, you begin to look back at the former version of yourself
and judge it, judge them and decisions or choices you made. Because now you've acquired
more wisdom and information and maturity, maybe experience.
We have a tendency to judge other people or judge ourselves unfavorably.
When in fact, us three or four or five years ago didn't have this level of experience,
didn't have that level of wisdom, didn't have the information or the maturity.
So to judge yourself for lack of success in the past or failures in the past isn't fair
to you because you didn't have all that wisdom, you didn't have the information, you hadn't
been down the road.
And also to judge other people who have not acquired your level of wisdom yet or information
or experience isn't a healthy thing either because someday if they go down the road you've
gone down, they'll acquire that as well. So just be guarded against judgment of your former self or judgment of other people so that you can
keep that mindset. I've been saying this lately so much, there's this great Gandhi quote that says,
I will not allow you to walk through my mind with your dirty feet. And one of the things that have
the dirtiest feet in life is judgment and assessment of ourselves or other people.
It's one of the worst things you can do for your mindset.
And so sometimes when we begin to achieve, we become more judgmental of other people
because they're not where we are or friends of ours that haven't come along the same journey
or we become judgmental of our former self.
And none of that judgment is healthy nor justified and does not serve you.
And so make sure you protect yourself from judgment as well.
Hey, I hope today helped you.
It certainly helped me.
I think these are great steps to help you with your goals and your habits that maybe
you haven't heard before.
Seven steps to getting there and to program that reticular activating system in your brain.
Hope it helped you today.
I'm just here to serve you and hopefully contribute in a small way to making your life a little
bit better.
God bless you max out
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