THE ED MYLETT SHOW - 7 Powerful Lessons to Overcome Any Obstacle in Life

Episode Date: September 6, 2025

The Unstoppable Power of Resilience: How to Rise Above Every Obstacle What does it really take to keep moving forward when life feels impossible? In this mashup episode, I bring you the raw, unfiltered stories of Nick Vujicic, Colin O’Brady, Danny Lee Clark, and James Lawrence—four individuals who have redefined what it means to push past pain, doubt, and impossibility. These are men who didn’t just talk about perseverance—they lived it, they bled for it, and they came out the other side with lessons that will inspire you to never back down. Nick Vujicic, born without arms or legs, shares how faith, gratitude, and service transformed his life from despair to impacting millions across the globe. Colin O’Brady takes us inside the mindset that allowed him to cross Antarctica solo, proving that the limits we face are often the ones we place on ourselves. Danny Lee Clark—best known as “Nitro” from American Gladiators—opens up about his battles both in the arena and in life, showing how purpose and passion can keep you fighting long after most would quit. And James Lawrence, the “Iron Cowboy,” reveals what it took to complete 100 triathlons in 100 consecutive days, teaching us all the power of adaptation, grit, and unshakable belief in what’s possible. Each of these stories is a reminder that adversity doesn’t disqualify you—it equips you. These men show us that struggle isn’t a sign of weakness, but the very soil where strength, character, and resilience are grown. They prove that pain can become purpose, and setbacks can become the setup for the greatest comeback of your life. I want you to walk away from this episode with the conviction that no matter where you are, no matter what you’re facing, you already have what it takes to rise. It’s not about avoiding obstacles—it’s about facing them head-on, learning, adapting, and choosing to keep going when everything in you wants to stop. Key Takeaways: Nick Vujicic on choosing gratitude and faith over despair, even when life feels impossible Colin O’Brady’s mental strategies for pushing through isolation, fear, and physical limits Danny Lee Clark’s powerful reminder that passion and purpose fuel perseverance James Lawrence’s lesson on adaptation: why the mind can carry you when the body wants to quit How to turn pain into purpose and setbacks into fuel for growth Why resilience is not about never falling—but about always getting back up This episode is a masterclass in grit, faith, and the unstoppable spirit of the human heart. ⁠⁠⁠⁠👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LINKEDIN⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEBSITE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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We're all very aware of what we lack. We're all very aware. You take the average human being and you say, make a list of 10 things you're great at. It take them, you know, three days. You say, make a list of 100 things you're not good at. They can do it in two minutes. So we're all very cognizant and aware of the things we lack.

And I just want you all to know that the things that are remarkable about you when you're in the presence of other people dwarfs the things about you that you're not great at. They don't see them. You think they see them, but they don't. And so it's interesting. I don't see you that way. I don't see Nick that way. I see this greatness in front of me.

I see this man who's an expert at redefining impossible, which I want to talk about next. You're the epitome of it, brother. A little boy, this beautiful, precious boy is born. And the doctor says to your father, I'm sorry, we didn't tell you so you could abort him. And that very little boy, whose mother even at first, wasn't sure about holding him or touching,

that little boy goes to change millions and millions of lives. That's the definition dude of redefining impossible, right? Like you've redefined no one that day who says, I'm sorry you didn't abort this baby. That doctor's not thinking, yeah, 74 countries, millions of people, thousands of lives and souls changed. No one would think that, right? So talk about that concept with you about rising above and redefining that.

I love the way you talk about this. Look, I'm not going to say her name, but I'm not the only one with the story, right? We've got a history. What I've learned is I'm not the only one going through something and I'm never telling anyone that I'm going through something worse than anybody. I tell teenagers all the time, I believe it's worse being in a broken home than having no arms and legs. And so someone who's gone through a broken home, I can't encourage them as much as someone who has come on the other side and say, I know how that feels. Me like a limbless boy, that's the beautiful thing. I've met another limbless boy.

I've met 30 people. Now he knows that if Uncle Nick can do it, then I can do it. it. And so in that story, there is someone local here actually who lives close to here. I won't mention her name. I'm about to see her tomorrow to be with her two boys. She has two boys from two different fathers because those fathers died at age 39 within five years of each other. One of cancer, one in a car crash. And so I'm just about to spend some, her boys going in the pool with my boys tomorrow. Wonderful.

And for me, when I looked at her at her second husband's funeral and I was able to speak at his memorial service, he was a dear friend of mine at 39 just now only a couple months ago. I'm sorry. He, she said to me,

if I went through this just to help one other widow. And it's that understanding that it's not man, another punch I need to get up. It's understanding, okay, wait a second. it's not a lack of chance of coincidence that I'm watching a podcast with Ed and Nick and I feel my life is impossible.

I'm depressed. I'm isolated. I haven't told someone what my dad did to me and I haven't even forgiven him. I haven't forgiven myself of the things I've done wrong. They're still trapped in maybe the failure or my success. My business is successful, Nick and Ed, but I still haven't got something and more of what I love. I haven't found that. And that's the purpose that we all need to find and say, look, when I don't get a miracle,

it doesn't mean I can't be a miracle for someone else. And so millions of dollars or me helping little Daniel help him. When he was getting bullied at school, I went in my wheelchair, and I ran them all over. No, I didn't. I went there, I did a quick 15-minute speech about bullying, right? And now not only did he go through the rest of his elementary and middle school unbullied, because now he accepts himself. People stop teasing him

and they stop teasing everyone else. I'm like, hey guys, we're all valuable. We all have a purpose. We all have story and we can all make the world a better place. Money, drug, sex, alcohol, pornography, fame and fortune if you put your happiness in temporary things, your happiness will be temporary.

And so when you come back to the understanding that even the challenge is something that we shouldn't just say, I'm going to ignore it, I'm going to walk away from it, I'm going to never address that. I'm never going to, no, the sooner you address the things, even me, Ed, the speaker who's traveled around the world, it took me 10 years to forgive the family who didn't think that I was good enough for their family, for her.

And now I have an amazing wife. She's half Japanese, half Mexican, we call that Japsican. We've got four children, seven, four and twin girls at two. And I just want people to know It's not that I'm a speaker to say Everything is possible Just do it No

Take one day at time Be thankful, do your best Reframe the attitude for you On a daily basis Don't be debilitated by panic See what you know Learn what you don't know And take a step forward

So good brother Going back to the janitor at your school I keep thinking of him Isn't that interesting He's beautiful And I've met I just met up with him after all those years.

I went to his humble home. His name is Arnold. I have talked about him publicly and in my book. And he was the catalyst. And then after him, I just did speeches at schools. Were you good at first?

No, I was terrible. I would actually never watch me speak if I recorded it because I'm so, how would you say, the biggest critic. Yeah, me too. And I still am that way. And I was bad, though. Yeah.

I wasn't good. But I didn't want to listen to a motivational speaker because what I knew straight up, if I listened to other people's content, then I'm not authentic. And I needed to buckle down, make my own content. And after I did my first three or four hundred speeches all across Bisman, Australia, we then got me a coach. My teacher aide's husband was a coach. And he sewed into me 10 hours.

And even when my parents said, you're crazy, you'll never make money speaking, do a double degree in accounting and financial planning. And I did. My father gave me wonderful wisdom, Ed. He said, start an accounting firm, going to stock market, going to real estate and get employees to be your hands and feet. I was six years old when he said, you need to become a millionaire to survive. No one knows that my nonprofit doesn't even pay for my caregivers and I have a family to feed. And so he told me entrepreneurally, you need to make it happen, do your best. Went into the stock market at 16, went into real estate at 19.

He taught me, just go for it. But they never thought that I'd ever be a speaker. That's crazy. Crazy. That's crazy. So that was my next question, by the way, is involving entrepreneurship. That's something that can be missed with you. You're a serial entrepreneur.

You're a great entrepreneur. Off camera. All we were talking about was entrepreneurial ideas and the power of that. And so many people get the type of advice. I think my parents, I could sense, my parents didn't tell me you weren't going to make it as an entrepreneur. My dad now tells me I didn't think you were going to make it. They were so worried. I remember I loaded up a U-Haul and I was driving away to go to my first entrepreneurial venture.

My dad tells me as I was driving away. He was telling my mother, God bless him, he'll be back soon. Why is he doing this? And so I think a lot of people sense this lack of support from family, lack of belief, maybe even lack of belief in the themselves. What are your attitudes about that? Do you think most people should be pursuing entrepreneurship, a side hustle of something, some type, or a non-profit of their own? What are your thoughts about that just to enrich their own life? How do you feel about that? So you talk about it all the time. First of all, entrepreneurship is not for everyone. Sometimes you're an

intrapreneurship, nine to five. Every day, I'm just going to be the best person I can be at what I have. That's fantastic. If though there is a dream to then do a side hustle, going to real estate, do this, do that, I would say, go for it as long as the, first of all, your priorities are right. And so... What are those priorities? So for me, right, I actually achieved my goal and dream when my dad was dying of... When I nearly died 2016...

Why did you almost die? I had a negligent surgery go wrong in California after a benign tumor was removed. Okay, wow. Didn't sue him, we just move on. Money's money doesn't matter. So then 2016, I nearly died, 2017, my dad died, and I had four children. And at the time, I actually wanted to get to a week where we got the bread and butter, we're doing the non-profit, I want to switch off my phone, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday.

I did it. I did it. I had 17 staff at the time, and I did it for six months straight. And I was doing the status quo, but not enough oxygen or reserve in case some contracts cancel for cash flow. in a rainy day. So for me, it's, first of all, you've got to be true to yourself with what's most important to you.

For me, faith, family, friends. If you're not really conversing, if you're not really connecting, I think us human beings were created to connect. Life is never better alone. I'm not talking about married or not married. I'm talking about connecting with human beings,

number one. Number two, going after your biggest dreams. My dreams of being married and having kids. But really now when you have a wife, I'm looking, okay, I'm like, okay, what's my next venture? I want her to bless the idea. And when you have a spouse who loves you, who respects you because you love and respect them, there's a margin that you make from week to week or month to month saying, look, I'm going to try and hustle.

I'm getting ready for a 15-hour day stretch. Yeah. That I'm going to do nine to five. I'm not going to be able to do this and this and this. as much, but I'm going to do this because I feel like this is what I need to do. If that is in unison for your family, you run for that. And for as long as your thoroughbred heart beats for that, you keep on knocking. But there are triggers, triggers of success, triggers of weight, pause, triggers of failure.

At the trigger of failure, do you then go to an ad and say, what do you think I should do? No, your heart first will say eventually, let's wait, let's delay it. you know how timing is important. Yeah. Not just the outside, the inside. I can tell you right now, if Nick Voyage had started a podcast five years ago, no.

Now. Now is the time. So understanding and embracing that, that the timing and a closed door doesn't mean it's not going to open again. But really your spirit and your connection, if you're not married, then all you have to worry about is you, yourself, and you. And then say, okay, I don't have other mouths to feed.

This is how much risk I'm ready to take. This is the attitude of the time I'm going to give myself. But hustle. Go for it. No one's going to make it happen except for you. You, my friend, have become a gigantic success in your life and things that I think matter, which is where you've measured it as well. But you have been a success as a family man.

You've been success in your faith and also serving God. You've been success financially. You've made a lot of money. You've traveled the world. You've influenced people. What has made you successful? You're not successful because you lack limbs, right? That's not why you're successful.

But isn't that interesting? Like, I want to peel back. Right, right. So when Marshall Falk, the NFL Hall of Famer, sat next to me, or Robert O'Neill killed Osama bin Laden, or Stephanie McGrander runs the WWE, or whoever I've had on the show that's maxing out certain areas of their life, you're no different than them in your way

with the humility that I know you're going to answer it with if we're being real are you just like a psycho competitor is it your work ethic it is your ingenuity is it your anointing like what is it that's made you max out so many different areas of your life and I know that you feel like you haven't done it all the way that you want to which we'll talk about next but what is it about you what's the special

I think the key attitude is being present and being honest and when you're a humble person who can humbly say you're a humble person that you have no greed ego need to prove nothing to nobody and you honestly look at yourself and say okay this is who I am this is what I have

no point in wishing this wishing that this is what I'm going to do to my best ability I actually feel like I have a unique edge on any other person only because, again, of the struggle. The struggle we're in before anybody leaves the room. So I became almost like an operator at age seven or eight, timing everyone, reading body language before someone moves out of the room.

Please, can you get me a glass of water, put a straw? And me remembering, wait a second, how do I do this? So I've been forced to figure it out. And not to depend on someone else or someone. something else, how can I figure it out and see, approach it from different angles? So when you have an attitude that approaches adversity that is quite resilient, a resilient approach to adversity helps you to look at something and say, okay, these are the first three reasons why it seems extremely difficult. And the average person is going to say, okay, I have

good enough reason not to... No. Einstein said genius is when you're obsessed with impossible. And when you look at impossible, that's when you become fearless.

And when you're fearless and you have the attitude and approach of any adversity, it doesn't mean you don't at least get a flavor on the tip of your tongue of panic or numbness in your mind. You go through, everyone's human. But quickly, wait a second, what about four, five, six? What if I did this? What if I did

that? And so in the physical, when I needed something from the bookshelf and I told my mom, I can't get it. Can you get me? And she said, get it yourself. Yeah. It was the best thing. When I thought, why not just have that? Given this way, she gave me a task. And when I did that, in that mind, I would say reframing adversity. It's not a bad thing. It's not a barrier. It's a challenge. And people see me as strong.

Anybody who's gone through adversity is strong. Why? Because you know what they've been through. If I am stronger because of what I've been through, if you will, more embrace the challenge today. Being present, honest, and giving yourself a shot. Sometimes we are the ones, Ed, that never gives ourselves a shot. I totally agree with you. I'm going to tell you one thing about you too.

So clearly, I thought you might say part of that, which was that, hey, listen, you know, I didn't get things off the shelf. I had to learn to do things that weren't easy for me to do because of the lack of my limbs and other different things. I thought that you would say that. I'm going to tell you something about you that maybe someone hasn't said to you that I want to say that I want to acknowledge about you. You have a tremendous amount of personal presence and influence. It's why you're great on stage. It's why you're incredible one-on-one. It's why you're a great entrepreneur.

And I find people with personal presence isn't their size or their deep voice or anything like that. Personal presence are people who have grown to become very comfortable with themselves. And people who are very comfortable with themselves can be into you when they're communicating with you. They can make it about you because they're comfortable. When you're uncomfortable with yourself, when you don't love yourself, when you don't embrace yourself, your entire time is spent trying to create a version of you to people where you are not present with them. You have that. And I think the hidden blessing of your life is because of some of the deficiencies at birth growing up.

You had to work harder than the average person on loving you and embracing what you did have. Ironically, it's what has made you such a person of influence. Because I sit next to everybody in these interviews. And I know when someone's talking to me, when they live it, there are people who say inspiring things. And then there are inspiring people. Those are two different things. You're an inspiring person, and your inspiration is because of who you actually are. So I just want to tell you that's one thing about you that strikes me.

Right when we met up until this moment is your presence as a man. And I believe that's because you're so comfortable with yourself. Can I dovetail on that? Because there are so many people who want to be successful, who want to be entrepreneurs, who get all the mechanics of if you're a realtor, if you're this, if you're that, this is body language, eye contact, da-da-da-da. All the mechanics, all the science. It wasn't hard for me to work on that.

What you just said, no one else has brought up, you're the first one. And here is why. It's because when people judge me for how I looked and they wouldn't even look me in the eye to see my soul. And when you know that I could tease someone else because of how they look, but I don't want to judge them, I want to look them in their eyes, appreciate them for who they are. And instead of being, you know, I can't, you know, be involved in a sports activity.

It's an elimination dodge ball thing or something like that. I had to sit out sometimes. I'm waiting for the first person who feels like, oh my gosh, I'm the worst kid at school today because I'm known today as the one who was first eliminated that. And I look at them, hey, good job. Better luck next time. And we start talking because I knew how much talking and open. up to someone help me, I know how people judged me and then how I in turn judge myself.

So I try to unchain people's own personal judgment, which again is just an attitude shift. Gosh, brother, that's awesome. That is awesome, man. So I've read Life Without Limits twice. I read it when I originally came out and then I read it again here recently. And there's these things you list in there, having a powerful sense of purpose, hope so strong that it cannot be diminished, faith in God and the infinite possibilities. and then the love and self-acceptance.

And there's other parts of the book as well. I want them to read the book to get it. So it's an incredible piece of advice that's in that book. But the last thing I want to ask you is, there's millions of people that are hearing this and watching this who come to the show today not feeling great about their lives. Themselves, what they've achieved, where they're going. They may not even feel like their future is very bright.

And they look at you and all you've achieved and all you continue to achieve. If there was just a sliver of a word you could give them, If they ran into you at a Starbucks somewhere and said, hey, you've really made a difference in my life. But truthfully, I feel this way right now. What would be your message to those people that are listening or watching? I just want you to know that when you go through adversity, I want you to hold on. I want you to know despite what you see, despite what you feel, despite what you know, you're here for a good reason.

And it doesn't mean that all of life is good, but you're here through a good purpose. and you're like, well, wait a second, how could anything good come out of my life? Nick, I got this, I got that. Well, first of all, I'm not comparing my pain to you, but I have no arms and legs. And I had a choice to either be thankful for what I had, do my best and take one day at a time or give up. And the smile that you see is real. The strength that you see in my eyes is real, and not because I'm selling you anything because I love you and I believe in you.

Don't give up. Keep going. If you need counseling, go get counseling. Maybe one of the things that you need to do to get out of a depression is also maybe going to help someone else in need that maybe cannot even thank you for that. And that then instigate purpose. Because to get out of depression or a funk that we're in, the one thing that I'm going to leave you with is when you actually take the focus of what you're going through, not because you don't love yourself and not because of what you're going to. because of what you're going through is bad.

But when you step out of that and say, okay, how can I go and help someone else feed a homeless person, be part of a nonprofit and serve over the weekend? When someone looks at you who's in need and you help them fulfill that need, subconsciously and consciously, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, it is an affirmation of little steps to build back your self-confidence to get ready to say, I can do this. I am someone.

So despite what you see, feel, and know, you can have forward thinking with a shift of attitude and action. Bang. Amen. Oh, so good, brother. Okay. So good. How do they get more of you? Before we leave today, how do they get more of you?

Where do you want them to go? I would love for everyone to go to Nick Voychich.com. You can book me as a speaker. Join us on our newsletter. And then the podcast. that he's up and running right now. We're so excited. I don't know exactly what all my listeners want,

and we're going to figure out more and more of that path, and I'm going to get some coaching from you as well. Absolutely here. But part of my routine that has not wavered or changed is my morning prayer time. And for me, by the way, my morning prayer is like, I do it on my knees because it just reminds me of how small I really am.

And, and, but that, I think I almost do it selfishly from the standpoint that it gives me courage, that connection. It reminds me, everybody. I want you to hear this, no matter what your faith is. Tim and I are both Christians, but just set aside what type of faith you have just for one second, for one second, or that you don't have any faith and you're thinking about finding faith, finding Jesus in your life. For me, it's a reminder I'm not alone in everything I do from the minute that I get up,

that I'm never alone. And that never aloneness gives me confidence and courage because I know, I don't have the perfect words all the time. I don't know what to say. I may not be, I'm not a psychologist. I may not be prepared, but I'm never alone when I'm helping other people. And when you feel helpless in your life, get helpful. Yes. And it'll change everything for you. I totally agree. I think one of the, the biggest ways to get out of a slump, out of a pity party, is to get out of your comfort zone and help someone else. I have an agreement with one of my friends that when something bad would happen to me, that I wasn't going to do anything before I served. And I would get cut from a team.

There would be something disappointing. There would be a whatever. It doesn't matter where I'm at. We would meet and we would go serve. No way. No one needs to see. No one needs to know, but we would just serve because when you go serve, it changes so much. In such a a way that it's almost hard to even put into words, but so much of what we do in our lives is about us. And when we finally change the focus in the narrative of not putting us first, but actually serving, there's something that drastically changes. I give you one story. I was at the University of Florida in my freshman year, we were fortunate to win a national championship. sophomore year I was we were blessed to win the highs when I say we because it's you know

took so many people to do it my junior year we won a national championship and my senior year our goal was to win another national championship three out of four something very few teams had ever done and we didn't shy away from that goal we were confident in it we would literally break it down to best ever you know because we thought we had a chance to be that we go undefeated 12 and no through the regular season get to the SEC championship game against Alabama one versus two the year before they were one we were two we upset them now this year we were one there or two and they upset us and i'm competitive to the nth degree but it became more than a game for me and it affected me who i was really my identity um and i took it way too far i guarantee you that week if you

around me maybe you wouldn't see me but if you really knew me, you knew that there was some part of identity that took place in that game. Interesting. And the next weekend, we're at the Home Depot Awards. It's the College Football Awards and everything. And the night before, they have a banquet that we have to go to. And I remember sitting there in such a bad mood. I'm so bitter.

I'm so mad. I'm so frustrated. I regret so much. I'm so upset. There's just no peace. There's no gentleness. There's no kindness. There's no compassion because it's all about me and what we lost and what we didn't get.

And they're bringing up some Texas players in Alabama players to the stage because they're going to play in the national championship. And I'm watching that just ready to puke, you know. And there's this waitress that comes up to our table. And she looks so nervous. and um she said just um i'm you know and i just she's trying to say something and she's so nervous and she said i'm sorry i'm not supposed to bother you and i said no it's okay what is it and she just takes it you know another 20 seconds to to share and she finally gets it out there's a girl in her family that i've driven from virginia to see you and this is in orlando florida that's a

long drive and she has um she didn't know how to say it um you know some things she's fighting and would you want to see her of course so i stand up and i start walk into the back of the room i guess they're not supposed to let in guests and everything and it's kind of a private deal but so i think she is nervous she's going to get in trouble but i'm so grateful that she had the courage to tell me because uh it changed my life they they um they opened the doors and then it comes walking this young girl named kelly faunit who has had brain tumor and tremors, and she's overcome more in her life than I would, could ever possibly overcome. She is such an inspiration to me and so many people.

And Kelly, it's really hard for her to walk and take the next step, but she is so excited to see me, and she is trying to take the next step and get closer to me as I'm walking towards her. She's walking towards me, and she almost falls on every step, you know, because she's her weight gets too far forward, and she's trying to take. trying to, and finally she gets to me, and her arms are open wide, and she just wraps me up and gives me this amazing hug and squeezes me, and no one said anything yet, and I'm just hugging her and squeezing her for probably a minute or so, and then without saying anything,

she starts crying, and then I start crying, and her parents were right there, and my parents were right here, and all of them are crying, and, and then I step back, and, and we start talking, I get to meet Kelly and I get to hear about her story and I get to hear about what she's gone through and what she's been through and the the courageous young woman that she is. And I just felt it on my spirit to ask her to be my date the next night for the red carpet and the award ceremony. And thankfully she said yes. And so the next morning, my uncle took her out with her parents and her sister to get her address so she could be the bell of

ball and and then all of us went to dinner that next night before the red carpet and the award ceremony and i mean we're dying we're laughing we're having the most fun at dinner we're enjoying the whole thing it was amazing and then we go into the red carpet and we're walking down the red carpet and the crowd's going crazy for and they're cheering for her and all of this and she just looks so happy so joyful it's so beautiful as we walk down the red carpet and then we go into our seats and and I guess sitting literally like row one seat A and she's like right beside me and and her family's near us and my family's right behind me and and I I was up for for quite a few awards that year and maybe maybe six something like that I can't remember exactly

but something like that and and man I'll tell you what the night was amazing gosh it was so awesome and then the award show starts and the first award that I'm up for and I lose and I'm like oh it's okay you know it's not about that it's about Kelly the second award starts and I lose it's okay it's about Kelly third award and I lose all right it stings a little bit you know you're getting a little irritated fourth award lose fifth award lose and now all of those emotions and selfishness and bitterness and everything that was about me is coming back. And it's flooding me. And then as they're getting ready to announce the sixth award,

and as I'm sitting here, I can't even tell you what it's for. But at the moment, you would have thought, this is everything. And before they announced that my mom sitting behind me, leans forward and she whispers in my ear, Timmy, you already won tonight. You just don't get your award till heaven. Oh, bro.

What is she talking about? She's not talking about this college football award. She's talking about what mattered in the moment. What mattered in the moment was Kelly and her family. And you see, what was happening was when I was at the banquet the night before, in that whole week, everything was about me. It was about me. It was about me.

And then I met Kelly, and it changed because I was inspired by her. And so I stopped focusing on myself for one minute, and I started thinking about her. And you know what happened? I finally re-found joy and peace and happiness, but happiness in the right word, joy is more of the right word. And that was there until it started to become about me again. Went right back into it until I was reminded, until I was reminded. And that's, you know, one of the things I think is so important is we have to remind ourselves over and over and over again, what matters? You know, what are the things that we believe?

What do we hold fast to it? What are our convictions? What are our non-negotiables? We have to remember and we have to meditate on those things to remind us. Because if not, other things are going to fill our brain, fill our heart, and they're going to start to creep in. Not all together, but the creep in, oh, no, no, no, no, no, you need to put yourself first. No, no, no, you shouldn't be happy if you don't win. No, it's about you.

No, it is about you. And all these things are going to creep in over because that's what we, that's what society tells us. It's so true, man. It's about you. And if it's not about you, then you need to be like this other person's because you need to be more like them. They have more followers and you need to be like their highlight reel on their Instagram, on their social media. And it's just constantly saying either you need to be more, it needs to be about you or you need to be more like them. And I'm just so grateful for Kelly that day.

And by the way, we're still close friends and she has raised hundreds of thousands for the foundation. And she's a mama bear to so many other kids. and she makes such an impact, and she's so incredible. But I'm just so grateful that she reminded me on that day what really matters. And going back to what I was just saying about remembering is I think there's a reason why in Deuteronomy, Moses 202 times says to the Israelites, remember or do not forget. But wouldn't you have, I could imagine if God had rescued you and parted the sea? And you're like, you would never have to say, Tammy, remember what happened. Right.

But instantly, they started focusing on a lot of other things and forgot the goodness of God. Gosh, man. And so we need, Moses reminded them. We need to be reminded over and over and over and over again. And we need to go back and we need to remember what matters, our non-negotiables, our convictions, all the amazing things that God has done in our life. And we need to focus on those things. And so, you know, when we get out of bed and we focus on those things, then we reframe our mind.

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That is one of the great stories. Like it kind of reads like a movie script. Let's be real, right? Like even the people in the studio over there are like nodding. Like that is one of the Greg, it's not easy to give me goosebumps. Like it is just isn't, right? I got like gooseys everywhere because it's exactly true. You know, I think what a lot of people think, by the way, and I've thought this.

When I ever say a lot of people when you're listening to the show, I mean like I also am a lot of people. Right. But I used to think when things weren't good in my life, what you just said sounds really good. And once I get my own life together, I'm going to really start serving other people. When I can get my head above water, when I stop drowning, then I'll do it. And what I have found in my life is that you're going to take you with you when you get to these next destinations. And if you can't find a way to find joy and bliss and what you talk about in the book, a great deal, gratitude in the moments of your life where it's difficult. In other words, if you're bliss, if your service, if your love, if your faith is conditional on everything being dialed in in your life, you're going to have very few moments of bliss and joy in your life. And it's actually not real. And so the hard thing to do in life when I was the most broke and my water was turned off and friends were abandoning me was to find things to be grateful for in those moments, which is why I love your book. Because it's just a reminder on a daily basis to find the small things in life that we're grateful for. And everyone in personal,

development talks about you got to be gratitude you got to have gratitude but I think listening to you and being with you this is a real pattern and benchmark of your life right gratitude absolutely but see what happens with gratitude is a lot of people think that oh um gratitude is an emotion or a feeling that I get and sometimes it can be but it can also be a choice of when I choose to focus on the things that I'm grateful for and the University of Miami did a study and I remember necessarily every part of a study but a main part of the study was in one of the control groups that they had to write down one thing every day that they were grateful for, and I think for 10 weeks.

And then they had some of the other control groups write down other things. But the point of it was that that group that for 10 weeks wrote down one thing every day and you think, well, that's so easy. I can write down one thing every day for 10. That's not a lot. At the end of the study, that group

had a biological chemical reaction for the better. literally their health improved their mindset improved they were better off because for 10 weeks they wrote down one thing they were grateful for right there's something to choosing gratefulness is so true not just feeling grateful choosing it because sometimes we don't feel like it but I'm so grateful we don't have to live always by our feelings because feelings are really fickle and they come and go man do you know how many days you know when the alarm goes off at you're like, I don't want to wake up. I don't want to go do this, but we don't have to live by our emotions.

We get to choose our convictions of what we believe, of what we want to live for, of what we want to stand for. And that doesn't mean we're perfect with it. We screw up all the time with it. But if you live by your emotions, then your life will be a roller coaster. Gosh, that's so true. It will be a roller coaster. You're going to have some awesome days.

Man, I feel like it. I feel grateful. But then you're going to have other days. where you don't feel like it. Yep. And in those moments, what do we go back to? Can we still write down what we're grateful for? So good, dude.

Can we reframe our mindset? Can we find encouragement? Can we remember all of those things? Yeah. Tim, are you listening to you? I don't think sometimes I do the show. It becomes out of body for me every once in a while. I'm like, I'm so proud of this guy right now.

And it's not about you. It's just like, I do this show because I, I love humans and I want joy and the love and the techniques and the strategies and all that in life too. But no one has ever sat there, ever, or all the shows I used to film in my house and said that gratitude is not just an emotion. It's actually a conscious choice. Yes.

It's also part of the, you know, my book I read about the matrix of our life, like the filter that we see life through. And that story you're telling yourself alters this filter. And if that filter is to find the things that worry you, that give you anxiety, they give you fear, that give you depression, that give you anger, you will. you will find them on a daily basis because they're there. Yes. But if your filter is to choose to find gratitude daily to see that,

you will then begin to see those things that have always been there before. Isn't that really about perspective what you're saying? One million percent. I can give you an example too. You're going to love this. My mother-in-law, Patricia, is the most godly woman ever. She sees the Lord everywhere. You know, like your mom might be like, no matter what she sees the Lord.

I used to, when I was young, I've known her since I was 14, I used to kind of laugh about it, like, gosh, she's so Pollyanna. Like, my gosh, like, she doesn't work in the real world. Like, if she was in the real world, she'd know there's stuff and things and stress and worry. And the older I've gotten, like, we'll walk outside, literally Timmy, like outside Tim. And she'll go, the window blowing her face. Thank you, Jesus. And she'll just feel, she's constantly, her matrix, her filter is to find, it's not even just gratitude.

To be honest with you, my mother-in-law is looking for the Lord everywhere. Yeah. And she sees it everywhere. And you know what? She hasn't aged. Yeah. My mother-in-law is almost 80 years old. She looks 40.

And I think one of the things you just said is her biochemistry's changed. Her health is better. She's just a remarkable person based on her perspective. And now I want to go to perspective because one of the great moments of all sports for me ever. Let me tell you when it was. Okay. Because I also think in life it's not just it's not just the story we tell ourselves, but it's how we respond when adversity comes our way.

So my favorite was back in 2008, and there's this football team that loses 31 to 30. I think it was, was it, Ole Miss? Who was it? It was Ole Miss. So you know, your face just changed again, right? And this young man who has no business being this wise or this strong or this humble or this courageous at a young man. I mean, people forget when you're watching these college athletes because they run and look like grown men,

These are still very young people, and I knew who you were, but as another player, he talks about God, that's great. Then I watched, I watched this press conference, I saw it live. Let me tell what happens. This young man, we'll probably play it on the YouTube or the audio here on the audio. This young man gets up and says, and he's down. You look at his face in this video. He's down. He says, to the fans and everybody in Gator Nation, I'm sorry.

Extremely sorry. You know, we were hoping for an undefeated season. That was my goal. something floor is never done here but I promise you one thing a lot of good will come out of this you have never seen any player in the entire country

plays as hard as I will play the rest of the season and you never see someone push the rest of the team as hard as I will push everybody the rest of the season and you never see a team play harder than we will the rest of the season God bless and he walks out I'm thinking how how does he respond like this when this happens

and if you know the rest of the story they did exactly that don't you think part of life is how you respond in the times when adversity hits like that. And has that been a benchmark for you, like, throughout your life and the advice you'd give to people who are facing adversity and challenges right now? Well, I would first say that adversity is here. It just left or it's on its way.

Life, I just don't think we should ever give people the false notions that adversity is not a part of life. it is it's a part of life i think it's important because we're talking about gratitude and all this stuff right but this other thing you can still be grateful even in the midst of it not when it's perfect because it's never going to be perfect we can be grateful even in the hard times and and i think for me in that in that moment i felt such a weight a burden and a responsibility um because i missed the mark i did um as a leader as the quarterback as a part of gator nation i bleed orange and blue so it wasn't just as a player it was it was my grandfather's dream for him to see florida win an

cc championship and he died before that happened i didn't know that yeah it was part of life and so i had dreamed about this since i was a boy and florida's never had an undefeated season so when and for about an hour i was waiting for the press conference and i was sitting there and coach mire sitting beside me and i keep getting emotional keep getting emotional because it just It meant that much to me. And then as I go to do the press conference, my parents are walking down. And so I get emotional again. I have cool down again.

And so then I go in and I answer all the questions. And then I want to, I wanted to say something. I wanted to say something. I didn't have to. I didn't need to. But I felt like I was supposed to. And there's a difference. And the first thing that I wanted to say because I believe when you do something wrong,

the first thing you should do is apologize and not just say, oh, I apologize. That's not an apology. Apologize is to say, I am sorry. And so I wanted to apologize first and foremost, and I did it twice to say, I'm sorry. Because when you feel like you did something wrong, you need to apologize. And that's the first thing I wanted to do. And so I apologize twice. But then I just believe and, you know, I'm just so grateful for my parents and trying to instill this is to apologize and then say how it's going to be different.

right because it's it's not just a disappointment or a wrong but it's a learning moment it's a learning curve it could be one of the greatest moments of your life if you take a down and you learn from it and you adjust and you adapt and you grow so that that moment might be the reason you don't have to face those moments for a long time because you change you learn you grew you adapt and sometimes that sucky moment could be one of the greatest moments you ever have in your life because I learned so much from it or I could sit in and so I just wanted to to apologize and then I wanted to say and see it was funny as people will sometimes quote and they'll be like oh you promised y'all were going to win the national championship I'm like I never said that I can't make a promise that I don't know if it'll come true and so I promised something I believed I could control was that I was going to be the hardest working player because I believe I could control that everything yeah everything I could do and that our team because I believed how our team would respond this is so valuable for people because they're in the mindset of a champion because well i think one of the

words i'd use for you is obsessed and i think your obsessions become your possessions i think you were obsessed with becoming this version of you i just believe that i think that's some age there whether it was eight nine 17 or whatever you became obsessed with being this person that you've become right and so now you possess him and now you're in this hunt to improve him even more i like that just cut that clip for me right it's actually a fact though man it's like it's very very true so you've also transcended multiple industries though so it's like you just did thing, right? So you did American Gladiator, right? He's only got to do both programs of American Gladiator. He's been in the fitness business. He's also done well in business. He owns different

real estate. He's done well in the business world, too. But you also are an actor, right? And so he's pursuing some things right now. Maybe you'll share with this a little bit, but like they're going to redo Conan, aren't they? Right? They are redoing Conan. Amazon is doing it. So how are you involved with that, hopefully? I mean, it's like this is, this is an outcome of yours, right? This is a goal of yours. Fair to say? This is. Oh, acting is. always been. And like my first movie was Death Becomes her with Bruce Wills and Goldie Hawn and Merrill Streep. And I actually

got felt up by Merrill Street. So it was like look at those things. She grabbed me. So just politically correct. She grabbed me. There's no, yeah. But yeah, I've been acting since 1990 and it's something I love. And yes, a gladiators the original, but I was still athletic

enough when I got the second gladders. Now here's the funny thing. This is interesting. Nobody will know this. Or a small percentage will know this. They called me up for the new gladiators and said, hey, you're on the show. And I go, no, I'm not. Let me try out like everybody else tries out. If I deserve it, I deserve it.

Then I went out, and you can see it online, and I destroyed all the tests. And there was over 20,000 people tried back out for it. How old were you in the second time? I think it was 2008 came out. So it was 10 years ago. And so I came out and I did 35 pull-ups, and I ran a 4-740. and so it was one of the things i was not you weigh when you ran a 475 come on man so it's one of the things i didn't want to just get something handed i wanted to fight for this

and i there it is again there's it again there's a fight two more yeah so there's a running theme here though this is good okay so those are great but um i've been doing some fun shows like workaholics and sunny in philadelphia and guest spots and take a daytime tv and soap operas and so now we're up for uh he man and the remaking conan so the crazy hair is fitting right now. That's so huge. I'm excited for you. I'm hoping. But it's fun. It's a fun battle. And regardless of what it, when I tell people, they go, what keeps you motivated? And I try to say, well, I know it keeps me motivated. It won't make them motivated. But if you're passionate about something and I don't care how small it is, to you, it might be something big. And I'll

give you something so minute to most people, but it was so big to me, that you will continue to workout, you will continue to eat right, you will continue to go and make right choices about things and push you beyond any limit you possibly think is possible. You'll get up every morning going, I don't want to work out today. You'll be up going, no, I got that. That thing is right in your frontal lobe and your passion about it. And that's what's going to keep you training and dieting right. So I got a puppy 18 years old. And there's, there's, There's, it's a, a huge part of me because of the fact that not only is, is she my dog, my first adult dog, and she's 18.

Your whole face just changed. Yeah, I know, man. I'm going to cry now. Instant. Your whole face is. Yeah, I know. I know. It's my heart.

Yeah. And I trained harder, and I've trained harder in the last six months to a point. point where I was better than I ever was when I won the universe. Now, this is 20 years later, I decided to get in the best shape of my life. So what triggered it? What was different? Maybe mature muscle in my consistency, but there had to be something that drove me to a different level. I'm pretty obsessed as is. I was beyond assessed. Was it Christmas that I fasted? So as everybody else is going through Christmas and New Year's, my goal was New Year's, I want to look better than I've ever looked in my life. And the only passion I had is that I'm losing my puppy and that I wanted to spend time with her and I want to be able to hold her and kind of show her to me that made sense.

And it's something minute to somebody else. Most of if you have a kid, it should be tenfold. Yep. Yep. So I got in the best shape in my life to the point of where I don't care if it was Jay Cutler or Kai Green going, what the heck? This shouldn't be done. What are you doing? How do you look like?

And so, again, it's a puppy. It's me. It's motivation. It's passion. And I got to a place that I've never got in my life. But I can attach things to me on goals that are so much more. meaningful and view. And it's not a trophy. No, it's what you just did. Here's what it is, man. It's the goal's huge, the past is huge and you know, you're a freak. Like you're, there's

freaks running around the world. I'd like to think that I'm one of them, right? Like your discipline level is freakish, your competition level. But when you give someone who's already a freak a massive reason attached to their goal, it goes ballistic. It just to attach a massive, compelling, emotional reason, right? Is this the puppy you're telling me about from the first shoot? Is that the puppy here? Just tell you know, just so you know, because all these people say all these alpha males, me and we're talking about this beforehand, right? you either get us talking about either our kids or our dogs and we just melt any man right so just tell them why because that reason's huge but also how big this dude's heart is like how did you

end up with her in the first place photo shoot um millennium cover uh so i go to the photo shoot and it's muscle and fitness nothing out of the you know different except i was honored to be on the the millennium cover the 2000 that was great joe white joe weeder calls me goes out of everybody in the world you're the guy how cool and i'm like dude the This is awesome. Show up. I'm excited. They pull out little two puppies and I shoot with the two puppies all day long and then

at the end of the photo shoot they're like, all right, we're going to take these pups back to the pound. And I'm like, ah, that ain't going to happen. I thought they were actually somebody's puppies that they brought to the photo shoot. And in the pound, everybody, tell them what pounds did. You guys even know what a pound a. It's an old term that they would keep the dogs for maybe 21 days and then put the dogs down. So when they said that, I was like, no, here's, here's some money and I took the puppy's home.

Yeah. And that's the puppy that he's referring to that his reason to this day. So for everybody that's 18 years old, that dog's been alive as long as that and still with me. Because I think that's an elite thing, like, first off, shows your heart. Like, one of the things that, like, struck me about, she's like, you're this big, steady dude. Like, you're really just this humble, super sweet, good dude. Like, you kind of talk a lot of smack, but he's like this really gentle, really kind dude who could just break you in half, right? But what you, if you're an elite person out there and you're already doing very well,

like he was already one of the most fit men on the planet, how do you go to that next level, like that crazy freak level, it's a bigger reason. It's going to be, because your disciplines are there, your habits are there, your rituals are there, your obsession's already there if you're at that level. The only separator is to have a bigger reason, whether that's another competition, something you're trying to surpass. Usually big reasons are your dreams or other people or a pet. Those are your bigger reasons.

That's what you did. You put that formula together. curious for you. I want to go through it because I think there's metaphors everywhere. So he's, by the way, the reason I started with 30 and 50 is he's done that. And then when you did the 50 and 50, I'm like, bro, I like, you're out of your damn mind, right? And then to go do the Conquer 100. But I'm reading about both, you know, both of those last two. It's inspiring, right? But this time, like day five, your shin start exploding, right? Like you're on day five. Talk us through that. Did you think of quitting then? So two really cool things happen.

happened. That took me a little bit of time to realize. I went into it knowing that you can't train for a hundred consecutive. You have to adapt and evolve along the way. And I knew, look, the first 15 and 20 of these are going to be hell because you've got to get to the point where you're broken physically mentally and then push through that. And that's where everybody quits. And if I can push through that, my body's going to adapt and evolve and it's going to become the new normal. Everybody, I want you to write this down. Pull over.

Adapt and evolve. That's in your business. That's in your family. That's in your fitness. That's the key. Go ahead. Keep going. Yeah.

And so when I went into it with an ankle problem that I didn't tell anybody about, and it immediately exploded into my shin to where we developed a stress fracture in the bone. And super long story, but a miracle happened. We ended up getting a carbon plated shin brace that allowed. allowed the the allowed us to offload the shin and continue on to heal that stress fracture by doing the marathon portion every single day it was a it was a total miracle but a complete testament to me that you give the body the tools and assets that it needs to recover it can still do so under stress and that was amazing to me to watch the body heal like that now the the shin

and the imbalance that created a hip problem became so painful. Some of my worst days, I don't remember them, but we have the video footage where I would be trying to move and the pain would get to a point that I could no longer manage it and I would black out. And we called him the wingman. My wingman would catch me. I'd come back to and he would do a 10 second countdown and then say,

here we go. And we would repeat that until I got to, I'm going to be emotional, but until I got to the finish line that night. And again, it's just a testament to how powerful the mind is. Now, I was angry because I wanted to showcase how strong our team was mentally and physically. And I wanted to make the hundred look easy. I believed we could do that. and I was angry that I couldn't run and that I was forced to walk.

And it turned out to be the biggest blessing of the entire campaign. Why? My pain and discomfort forced me to walk. and every single day we had people from around the country fly in and locals to support us and without fail they said I'm so grateful you're walking because I wouldn't have been able to join you if you if you weren't walking and I was hard on myself because I was like look I'm an athlete I want to destroy this. And as I as I got deeper into it, I was like, I'm so grateful for this injury.

I'm so grateful I'm walking. And my pain has turned into a blessing that other people can join and have an experience. And every single day, somebody did their first 10K with me or their first marathon or their first full distance or their first hundred a hundred mile bike ride and every single day i got to experience somebody else's first and it was humbling and it was um yeah humbling wow i mean by the end of this you guys a couple hundred people riding the cyclists with them and you i actually for you am grateful that it didn't look easy because I think you connected at least with me watching you struggle. I'm on Instagram every night watching these videos when it was happening and like

there were literally times for me watching you like I'm in tears like not wondering the next day just but it's one of the most I don't even like to say one of the most because when I say that then I have to think of something that I think is more. It's just insanely inspiring and I can't think of something mentally or physically I've ever seen close to this because of the adversity, because of all the people that got caught up in it with you. Also, though, there's another element of this that, you know, this idea of adapting, man, I'm just so glad that you said that for everybody's sake. But I'm curious of all of them, the time you did the 50 or this time, was there a moment where you're like, I'm out? I'm going to, like, you're literally blacking out,

right so that's insane to me but was there a time when you just consciously went i'm in too much pain i'm in too much because guys these are icy roads snowy sometimes you imagine shin issues on a snowy ice oh my gosh like like was there a point or are there lots of points where you're like i'm out where is there one particular bro where you're like no no no like this time i'm really out so um my team is world class um and and there's there's the core four of us it's my wife sunny joe um and then the two wingman casey and Aaron and they were they were the four of us thick and thin through the 50 and then and then i brought those boys back on for the hundred and they played massive roles and

sunny is obviously the the head of this this entire thing um and we we just know from experience that um it's okay to feel and it's not okay to quit It's okay to problem solve. It's not okay to quit. And it's okay to process. And I think that's what a lot of people don't do, especially men, is they don't allow themselves to feel in process before they hunker down and keep going. At no point in time was ever any of us saying, you know, we're quit and we've got to be talked back into it. But every single one of us had moments where we just needed to cry to feel be. supported to where we said, okay, I've had my two minutes. I'm not going to dwell on it. We're going to quickly turn this around and we're going to get back to work. And that's the reason the four of us are so strong together because all four of us have that mindset. And I will tell you this, the closest that I ever came to even considering it was somewhere between 15 and 20, where we were at the peak of that pain, where I had a couple

days where I was blacking out. I don't remember portions of it. And I remember standing in the shower. And I kind of just shrugged my shoulders at Sunny. And I said, I don't know how many more days I can manage the pain at that level. Because when you've got 85 more days to go, that is so, it's so daunting. And when you're broken, you, it's hard to conceptualize what it's like. And I'll never forget what she said. She said, you're done today. And you don't have to do anything else. And all you have to do is now trust in the team.

Get out of the shower, go lay on the table and let them take care of you. And then we will face whatever comes tomorrow together. Gosh, huge. And I think that's what a lot of people don't do is, is you've got this today's mentality of the people that do decide to show up that it's like I got to go in all the time I got to go all in all the time I got to hurt more than he does and they don't take two seconds to reset mentally and I can't tell you how important that was and the valuable lesson that I learned was you've done enough today to take two seconds and reset and as soon as I got into that rhythm knowing and again it takes

It takes putting the right team together and then it takes letting go and trusting the team that you have put together to do their job, to do their part. And that's hard too as a man to let go of like control of every piece of that puzzle and to go, I surrender and I trust you to do your part. And it's hard to find good people nowadays that are willing to do their part. And I have that team. And so when Sonny said, you've done enough today. Beautiful. And I think that's so important because we go through life. And I think we're so hard on ourselves.

We see ourselves differently. And how many times in our lives on our journeys, do we take a minute and say, you're enough? You've done enough. And I think it's so important, especially as men, to be, to be vulnerable and just say, I've done enough today. I'm going to take on tomorrow when tomorrow comes. Hit pause on whatever you're listening to And hit play on your next adventure

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You burned your legs and your feet. And by the way, he's in this hospital. It's unsanitary. He's cat walking over his body. And again, his mom comes. and what if after that, because he decides, by the way, he's got to give this away to everybody. It blows my mind.

He's like, his mom says, what's your Everest basically while he's laying there? He's like, I don't know, I'm never going to get out of here. I'm never going to walk again. And I'll just speak at four call. A call and says, I'll do a triathlon. 18 months later, this dude does a triathlon after he was told he could never walk again. And he freaking wins it. He freaking wins the triathlon.

It's insane. And then you've gone on, what if you had never pushed yourself? self never known what you were capable because there's a lot of people calling that go through this whole life in the five six range never knowing what they're capable of what if you would have never done that in your life how much different do you think you would be your marriage would be you as a person would be just i mean i don't know if you ever sit back and think about that what if i'd have never seen what i was capable of it's such a powerful and important question and it's just I'm smiling because it just strikes at the heart of what I'm passionate about sharing,

what I've shared about those ones intense, you know, people have asked me, and it's a different question, but it's come from the same place of I was 22 years old. The reason I got burned in this fire was I was, I jumped a flaming jump rope. I was on a beach in Thailand, 22 years old, clearly not a fully formed prefrontal cortex, and I saw a couple guys with a kerosene soap jump rope. And I was like, gee, that looks like fun. What could possibly go wrong here? Right.

And I wrapped that rope around my body, lit my fire completely on, lit my body on fire to my neck. And I thankfully was near the ocean, jumped in the ocean, saved my life. But not before about 25% of my body was burned, as you mentioned, predominate my legs and feet. And doctors thought I would never walk again normally. And I spent months in rural Thai hospitals. I was in a wheelchair, all these things, right? And people have asked me, well, if you could go back in a time machine and whisper to your 22-year-old self, would you tell them not to jump the jump rope? And it's an interesting question.

because the knee jerk response is, of course, don't jump the jump road. Don't light your body on fire. And I wouldn't wish the physical pain of that injury on my worst enemy. And I'll tell you what was worse than the physical pain was the emotional trauma, not only that I suffered. My mom, thank God, she saved me from that mess, but she also had to stare and see her child severely burned in a place where no one spoke the language in the middle of nowhere that she couldn't move

and the hurt that that caused her and my family. So on one hand, I wouldn't want to cause that hurt to any. in my family. But here's a thing. I learned some of life's most valuable lessons from the resilience gain to recover from that, from having that specific goal, at least for me, which was a triathlon. And so that's all to say, I sit here with 10 world records. And we're not talking about the 10 world records that I set before I stupidly burned myself in a fire and screwed up my entire life. I set those records after that burn. And I only could have walked across Antarctica. if I had burned myself in the fire. And forget about the external achievement. I love that

you brought up marriage into this. I show up for my wife with love and compassion and grace. And I don't always get it right. I'm not perfect. But I am a better person because I have sought out what the limitations and the challenges. And I've suffered some. And so it's a weird thing. I know you were, I was just listening to your most recent episode with Eric, hip-hop preacher love that dude what a guy and you're saying you're saying in him he's like you know he's he's been homeless and he's been in the four seasons you know you know he's been illiterate and he's got a PhD there is something about pushing the edges of what we're capable of in any given moment that teaches us so much about life and that's why people ask me even after i share a story

about five of my friends dying five of my friends dies there's not a day that goes by i tear up often still 18 months later thinking about the tragedy of that moment that I share. And people sometimes ask me, they say, hey, Colin, aren't you afraid of dying? I think about it. Yeah, I'm afraid of dying. I'm super afraid of dying. This life is such a gift. I am afraid of dying. But you know what I'm more afraid of? I'm afraid of not living. I'm afraid of not living. And just sitting there in that five day after day after day and never seeing what you're capable of and never seeing what you can create and never feeling into your full potential, even if to feel into that hurts a little bit for a moment in time, those ones, those two,

those threes. That is the juice of life. That's the spice. And the 12 hour walk, even the walk itself is a metaphor for this experience. Guess what? If you walk for 12 hours, even if you take a ton of breaks, your feet are going to get tired at some point. You might be a little bit out of your comfort zone in terms of bring some food with you, bring some water. You might be a little dehydrated. You might get a blister on your foot. You might be tired. You might think to yourself, I hate being alone. This is uncomfortable. Yes, you are likely going to experience some ones, some two, some threes on that day. But how many five days over the last 365 can you not even remember? What'd you do last Tuesday? What'd you do a month ago? What'd you do two months ago? There are so many days in our

life that don't even imprint and register in our memory because they're just eh. Because you're not alive. You're not fully living. You take this 12 hour walk. You are going to seek some of this It is going to be challenging at times. But I guess, guess you what? If I ask you a year from now, five years from now, 10 years from now, have you ever walked very far? You know what? 10 years ago, I did walk by myself alone in silence. It's not going to be a five day. You're going to feel some one, some two, some threes, but every person I know to get back to their front door, every person I know that wakes up in their bed the following day of the few sore muscles. This is a seven. It's an eight. More often than not, a nine, a 10. Thank you. I felt alive.

I am not as afraid of dying as I am afraid of not living. Oh, my gosh, Colin. Again, I just have to tell you, I'm so grateful I'm sharing this time with you, brother. I feel the exact same, man. So funny with you. When you're talking, I think about this thing I say often, which is extremity expands capacity. When you do something to what you think is an extreme, you expand your capacity to do extreme things, even if they don't seem very significant to you.

And then I think about, this might be an ironic thing I just wanted to tell you, when I was prepping and take this the right way. And I know that I just say it the way I mean it. I don't know great assault. This is a dude who struggled to jump rope with some fire, right? I know you're a college swimmer, but he's junk. And the same dude who couldn't jump rope with fire that almost ended his life is now doing world records across Antarctica, climbing peaks, doing the grand slam.

So it's amazing. I think oftentimes we think, well, I'm not very good at something now. So I'll like never be good at it. well this is a dude who didn't even jump rope correctly when he was 22 years old i know there was fire with it and all that but then to think that same dude is now the dude shattering all these records that literally no physical living human being has ever done before is a dude who couldn't get the jump rope thing right when he's 22 in thailand do you ever think about that like that proves extremity expands capacity right i'll go one step further which is after the

antarctic crossing i had a lot of doors open to me there was so much press media two billion media impressions is most widely viewed expedition in modern history. And of course, that's going to open some doors, right? Yeah. And it was a beautiful experience, a beautiful moment in time that I'm deeply humbled and grateful for. We was able to build a very successful and lucrative series of businesses on the back of that, et cetera, et cetera. But I decide that Peresons, what's your next expedition? And I get this idea to row a boat across Drake Passage. So a rowboat, tiny little rowboat for people who don't know, Drake Pass is the most treacherous stretch of ocean in the entire world. So from the southern tip of South America,

all the way to Antarctica, 750 miles. It's where the Atlantic and Pacific and Southern Ocean all converge. And that convergence of those ocean currents creates like 40 foot waves. And there's icebergs. It's freezing cold. I mean, it's insane. There's been a laundry list of thousands of boats that have shipwrecked in Drake Passage, but not just like 100 years ago. 10 years ago, a cruise ship sunk in the middle of Drake Passage. Like that's how crazy. Like, It's a modern time cruise ship still sunk in Drake Passage. And I'm thinking, I'm going to get a couple of buddies and we're going to row a boat, no motor, no sail, 28 foot long, three foot wide, two feet off the water's edge and open hole.

So we're getting crashed the entire time. So I go to discuss discovery channels. Like, I want to film your next thing. Whatever it is, tell me what it is. And so I go to them and I say, well, my next thing is a rowboat crossing of Drake Passage. No one's ever done it. And they say, great, great, great. They sign this big, you know, seven figure check to produce the whole thing and pay me, you know,

whatever. Great, great, great. It's going to be awesome. I'm leaving in three months. This is a pretty quick turnaround. And I finally, I feel all the paperwork sign, everything's down, ready to go. I turn to the producers. My family knows this, but most people don't realize this. I'm rowing a boat across Drake Passes. That's great. And I said, but I got some one thing I got to tell you, I've actually never rode a boat anywhere. Come on, man. Anywhere. Literally. Not at summer camp, not it, not at. Oh my gosh. Come on, dude. Not at, you know, not in college, not at, not like, ever. I've never.

And I've also not spent, you know, it's like I'm a sailor. So I don't know like everything about ocean and sea frankly. I, this is a 100% fully unfamiliar thing. That's banana. The thing that's not unfamiliar is pushing my body or pushing my mind or taking on big goals or things of that nature. But I have literally never row a boat anywhere ever. And so I reach out to a buddy of mine who's a rowing coach in Portland, Oregon, where I grew up. And I said, I need you to come meet me down at this dock and teach me a little bit about

rowing. And so he's like, yeah, sure. And I kind of explain the whole thing. He thinks you're out of your freaking mind, maybe five years from now. When are you doing this? I said, well, I'm leaving in three months. And so he gets me on this one man's single rowing school. You maybe have seen people do that or pictures of it or whatever. And I get in there. I'm in six inches of water on the dock. I try to take my first stroke and I fall flat on my face. I literally fall out of the boat. and I'm like flailing around in six inches of water and I stand up soaking wet and this is that moment where you go like either I am an idiot and of course this is an extreme example I'm never going to be a rower but here's the thing I said to him I look at him and I go well I guess I'm not a

rower but one word changes that I guess I'm not a rower yet yet I'm not a rower yet we've got three months for that. And that is everything, right? We talk about God mindset. That is it. I'm not, whatever you are, whatever you are, you're listening to this podcast, wherever you are, your hopes, your dreams, your Mount Everest, what's your Everest? You haven't reached the summit of your Mount Everest yet. Here's the thing. Kobe Bryant had to shoot his first hoop at some point. Stephen King had to sit down and write the first paragraph of his first novel before he could write 65 of the best-selling books of all time. Merrill Streep had to try out for her school play. All of these people were not at the top of their game when they came out of the womb.

But at some point, they chose to say in their identity, in their own confidence, in their own strength, in the story that they are writing about themselves, I am not this yet, but I can be and become anything I set my mind to. And three months later, I became the first person in history to row a boat successfully across the most stretch of ocean in the world. You can see the documentary Discovery Plus as it's called The Impossible Row if you want to see me get bashed around

in some crazy-ass situation in the middle of the ocean. But we can be and become anything we set our minds too. And that's the truth. That's just unbelievable. And the way you tell the story and weave in the point,

it's just so freaking good. I really do believe this too. The people that I know that are the most happy and successful or just one or the other have a lower threshold of how good or how prepared they think they have to be before they actually start something. And the people that aren't very happy or that aren't very successful have this massive threshold of what they think they have to know to just begin. And so they don't begin

to your point. Now that is rather mind-blowing. It's like Rob O'Neill was on my show, Kilbin Laden. He couldn't even, he didn't know how to swim weeks before becoming a Navy seal that I have you on and you're telling me, I've never wrote a boat and you're doing something that freaking bananas. It just blows my mind, bro. I see this video and it changed my life. I'm going to tell you two stories that I think are going to affect you

that you'll remember forever, and then I'll be done. Number one, my son. So this is my son, whom I love. I only have one son. His name's Maximus. I love him, but I'm going to share some things with you that would embarrass him. He's the most uncoordinated human being

I've ever met in my life. To this day, if you put a gun to my head or his mama and said, is Maximus left or right-handed? And he's 21 years old. We probably should have figured it out by now. I have no idea whether he's a left ear or righty. Let me tell you why. In baseball, if I put a glove on his left hand, he would still wear a fly ball right in his face. Bam!

We'd switch the next year to the other hand, bam! He struck out 64 times left-handed when he was nine, 63 times right-handed. And flag football, any of you that have kids that play flag football, my son was the blocker. You know what that means? that kid the ball. Okay? Basketball. Played a whole season of basketball. Actually, three seasons. He scored two points in three seasons. And here's the one that he scored. He went up to grab a rebound, missed it, turned to run back the other way. The ball bounced off his head, went back into the basket, and he runs down the court like freaking Jackie Moon or something like he had

scored. Played golf, lefty, righty, lefty, righty. In fact, for a long time, in the same golf bag, he would have some left-handed clubs and some right-handed clubs. And it just dawns on me as I look this picture look how he's standing that you know anybody with any coordination who stands like this for a photograph what is what is he doing so we finally settled on golf and we moved to the desert so I want you to picture this and you can see in that picture right there I was probably dabbling in a little bit of creatine at the time let's just call it creatine and so and that's very little creatine, quite frankly. There's some other photos I can show you where there's a lot of creatine. Anyway, I'm transparent as anybody you'll ever hear speak. So we decided to settle on

golf. Well, where we moved, it was all professional golfers and their sons. So here's what you got out there. You got Mr. Creatine. I'd mainly wear a tank top. I got tattoos. I'm jacked. My son's wearing ragamuffin golf clothes with used golf clubs. And we're playing against Joe Blow and his son. They got matching Ricky Fowler outfits. The dad's won on the PGA tour. The kids got three golf instructors, a fitness guy, a massage therapist, a chef. Max has me. So we played for three years on this tour about every single Saturday. And I did this because you could caddy for your son, and I'm busy.

So it was five hours with my precious son. We finished last in every tournament for three years. When I say last, I mean last by a mile. This is a true story, if you don't believe it, my son tells it on my podcast. And so we had finished last every year. And by the way, it got to the point where we didn't even try to win. I would literally tell Maximus, Hey, Max, you know, Dad, when you get out of the car to warm up,

I say, you know, Daddy won't love you anymore if you win today. And I won't love you any less if you lose. He goes, I know Daddy, and he would kiss me and go out to the course. When he would get home, his mom would never ask him, what did you score? It was always, did you have fun? Max goes, Mad, Daddy and I had so much fun. We talked about birds and we talked about grass and what I'm doing at school. And he's such a sweet boy.

He had tee off and toppling right in the lake. Okay, hey, Dad, Reverend. fun? I'm like, yeah, Max, we're having a frickin' fun, right? And the other kid, we like, bomb one. Good shot, Jacob! And they're just looking, I'm like, you know the object here, right? So we played for three years, we're halfway through the fourth year. This particular day, our life change, and your life could change right now. Let me tell you what happens. By the way, well, I'll tell you what happens.

We played nine holes, Max is 11 back. He's in last place by 11 shots. And we're way behind because Max is playing so bad. And so at this tour, when you make the turn at nine, you grab a sandwich and a drink and you keep going, the kids keep playing. Well, that day, the sandwiches were over there, and I'm not exaggerating, the next tea box is over there, and we were behind. And a life-changing moment happened. One of the dads, who has won on the PGA tour, and his dad has won on the PGA tour, says this. He goes, hey, the other two boys, hey, guys, you guys go get over there and hit your tea shots. Max, he'll go grab your lunch. He's out of it, and he doesn't give a crap. And I watched my son. And I watched my son,

shoulders hunch over like they normally do and start the walk I said stop I'll give you the clean version because I think there's some Christian folks in here okay I said stop I said what the fuck did you just say to my son don't you ever speak to my family like that ever you understand me ever oh oh I said listen to me here's what we're going to do you guys go get your t-shot Max you stay with me for a second we'll be right over there and I'll grab the food I said Max and his career goes yeah hey yeah dad yeah we're having fun I go, come here, come here. Come here.

And I grab them. I go, listen to me. We're going to fucking win today, Max. We're winning. But dad, what about, you know, we're having to have fun? I go, listen to me. Winning is more fun than fun is fun. Max, winning is more fun than actual fun is fun.

Dad, dad, dad. I go, this shirt sucks. You got another shirt? I'm trying to do his change his state. He had a gray shirt on. He goes, I got a blue one. I go, give me that, take that shirt up. Go, here's your blue shirt.

Max, this is the winning shirt. And I start anchoring and triggering that we're going to win in him. I said, we're going to win, Max, we're going to win, we're going to win. It's okay. I go, listen to me. We've never done this before. You take no practice swings. We're not dicking around here.

And I will tell you what club to hit, and you will hit it because you've got a great swing and you're a great player. My son would hit balls two hours before school every day. And into the dark every day. And watch this, by the way. My son didn't have a bad golf swing. That was him warming up that day. He goes, okay, Daddy.

I said, hit the driver, go get it. He walks away, and I watch my precious boy, shoulders hunched over. Like, he always walked, and I'm walking to get the sandwich. I'm like, God damn it, what I do? Possible assault. I've scared the hell out of Max. We're definitely losing again. And I remember watching my son walk up, and he's so uncoordinated.

You know, normal player just teased the ball up. My son would have to get down on his knee, like, tee the thing up. Jesus, Max, God. But he hits it right down the middle. And I'm walking. I go, I get up there. I go, hey, how'd they go, okay, Daddy. I go, great shot, great shot.

We're walking, I'm grabbing, I'm anchoring. We're going to win. We're going to win. We're going to win. We're going to win. We're going to win. Okay, Dad. We're going to win.

we get up there i go you got 120 max hit an eight iron hit this sucker 10 feet left of the hole let's go i've never talked to him like that before he hits it about 20 feet left of the hole i go good shot he goes thanks hands me the club back we walk up to the green and he's getting ready to put i go max line the put up because my son would just putt i said line the put up see how the other boys walk around and read no i don't know how the put breaks i don't know my son but now he's doing this BS, make-pretend reading of the putt. He's doing this. He goes, I think it's two feet left to right, dad. I go, that's exactly what I see, son. Do that. Takes it back. Woot. Dunkerunee for a birdie. Yeah, Maximus! Yeah! The other boy's bogey. And he kind of twirls the club

back at me like this. I go, how'd that feel? He goes, that felt pretty good, dad. Pretty good. All right, I go, hey, we're down nine, man, let's go. Now he's kind of walking like this to the next T-box. I'm like, hey, you're walking like your old man now. All right, Max, part five, smash that driver. No practice swing. Okay, Daddy. Smashes it down the middle.

Actually, further than the other two boys. We get up at to par five. There's a lake in front. The other two boys lay up because they should. We're down nine, we got no choice. I go, Max, you got 220, the hole. Smash that three, but I go, don't hit it. Now, just so you know, my son has never hit a three wood at that point

in his life 220 yards ever. So like any really good story, there's a little Jesus involved. There just has to be. Just has to be. So, so, so, so I said, I immediately start praying. Lord, if this thing lands on the green,

I will stop immediately 23% of all the bad crap I do. Like right in this moment, I'll never do them again. literally never do it again and if it lands on the green i'll mention you in every talk i ever give the rest of my life so my son hits this thing in the air now it's in the air and i'm going back to my catholic days man i'm like hail mary full of grace our father sign of the cross whatever i got dude and it hits the wall in front of the green and bounces straight up in the air and lands on the green and rolls to about two inches from the hole max goes there you go dad i go nice shot baby and the other boys lay up so here we go max squats up taps in for an eagle i go how that feel he goes

dad really good i go now we're now we're total conversation now he's walking the next t-box hey guys i'm playing calloway what do you guys play you guys like tidalist like what's the deal like they're going to get some foot joys i'm not real sure you know i think the wind's blowing a little bit of my hair. You know, he's totally talking like he knows what he's doing now. So we're down seven shots now. Fast forward to 18th hole. We're down one. Numb nuts, who made the comment, dip shit over there, and his son are in first. I go, let's go, Max, let's win this thing. What I tell my son not to do, don't take a practice swing. It's about 100 degrees. My son takes a practice swing. Most important shot on my uncoordinated son's life,

let me tell you what he does. It takes a practice swing. club slips right out of his hands, helicopters into the middle of the lake. Yeah. True story. You don't believe me. He tells it on the podcast. Most important shot of our life, my son throws the weapon he's going to use into the water before he can use it. Dead story. True story. Dead serious. I go, all right, Max. Power on one more club. Here, hit the three wood. My son hits the three wood down the middle. All right, there's a lake in front of the green and I hear numb nuts tell his son, hey, I won't say the kid's name. Hey, don't hit it in the lake. I go, Max, get over here. Hurry up. He's going to hit it in the lake. You never tell someone

what not to do, man. Sure enough, he hits it in the lake. I go, Max, you got 122 hit this eight iron, 10 feet left of the hole. Let's get the F out of here with a W, buddy. We have never talked like. It's the same boy, I love you, whether you all that bull crap, right? Yeah. Which isn't bull crap, but you know what I mean? And it's at about 10 feet left of the hole. This little boy's so good he holes out from the other side of the lake. So here's the deal. Max makes the putt, we win. He two putts, we go to a playoff. He three putts, we lose. He goes into his little BS walk around the putt to read it. And my stupid butt, Mr. Motivational mindset, I go, hey Max, a little downhill. Don't run it too far past

the hole. My son, who never cared once, goes, Daddy. I'm going to make it. We're going to win. I almost cry right now telling you this. I go, well, to make it, man. Let's go. Because I got it. And he gets over that putt, and our life changed.

Takes that, I'm shaking. Look at this. He takes that putter back. Dunks it. Yes, Maxabos! I'm carrying him around the green. Woo-hoo! How's that feel, buddy?

Dad, this is awesome. Winning is way more. Then fun is fun. I'll prove it to you. Watch this face. Look at his little face. That's him after the win right there. Right?

There's his blue shirt. Now, now, now, now, I still got to point out, still uncoordinated. You ain't ever seen LeBron Jane with an NBA title going afterwards. But he did it. He went on to win 22 straight tournaments. Same swing, different mindset. That day he shot 64. And I'm on a lot of creatine in that baby right there.

64. Then he finished third, and then he won 16 more. This is me and him playing golf in Kabul last year. He ended up growing quite a bit, and I'm probably should do a DNA check. His feet are still completely crooked in the picture, by the way. Look at his feet. Still does it. After this picture, he lost 80 pounds because that's his college golf scholarship being signed.

This week, this week my son played in the national championship and made a hole in one in the national championship yesterday. I should probably show you the video. So I tell you all this because he was the same swing, the same person, but totally shifted his mindset into winning. Too many of you here are playing with this. You're a fan. You're messing with it.

You're casual. And until you decide you're going to win, nothing's going to change. And you don't have to be loud or yelling like I am. In fact, for me, at most events like this, I didn't say a whole lot. I just kind of went, yep, yeah, now I'm serious. And I planted my flag. I'm not going anywhere. I'm going to make this happen.

This is where I do it or I don't do it. This is my place. This is my people. And that's what's got to happen for you here today. You've got to decide you want to win. By the way, it's all kinds of people win here. But you've got to make that decision. Because when you make a decision, your life changes,

you're one decision away from completely changing your life. One new recruit, one new relationship, one new thought, one speaker away from totally changing your life. I've also heard you speak to appreciating that people with limiting beliefs about themselves, about the world, about you, often project that onto you. And I'm guessing it goes both ways, right? We also have limiting beliefs, and we project it onto others.

Well, you speak to the power of understanding when you might be in a relationship with a partner, a spouse, a boss, a leader, where their own limiting beliefs might be projecting onto you and diminishing your self-confidence, your self-esteem or even your self-worth. Yeah, often people that project their limiting beliefs onto us, they love us. They're actually concerned about us. Why are you working so hard? Why is this money stuff matter you? Why do you want to achieve so much? And they're just projecting their small thinking and small beliefs. onto us. They're not always antagonistic against us. But how do we know if our friends,

our associations serve us? I have a chapter in the book about becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever. And I have a point that I make in the book that 99% of people on earth today operate out of a filter, a frame of reference in their life, which is their memories and their history. This is the filter in which they think and operate out of. One percent of people operate out of their imagination or their vision. So say with me, history and memories, 99%. Imagination and vision 1%. Okay? This is a fact. Why are we happier when we're children? We're happier when we're children because we're operating out of our imagination because we have no history. But then by about age 10, we have a history that's been installed in us with limiting beliefs

by loving parents. In fact, Scott, I make the contention. There's all kinds of child neglect. There's alcoholism and drug addiction. There's a family where we don't show affection. like what you said, I don't say I love you or I'm proud of you enough. But the most insidious form of neglect of all children in the world is a child being raised by a parent who is not pursuing their potential and their vision and their imagination. This is a form of neglect because everything with children and leadership is caught, not taught, as I said earlier, you are limiting, you're projecting your limiting beliefs into those children by not pursuing your potential in your dreams. So here's how you know when you're around somebody who serves

you. Are they often saying to you, do you remember? Remember when? Remember this? When you're around your friends or your spouse, remember this, remember, remember, how about this? Remember? Remember? And they're constantly remembering. This is someone who operates out of history and memory. I try to surround myself with friends who don't do that, where my friends say, where are you going? Isn't this moment amazing? What's your vision? What are you dreaming on? What are you working on right now? Where are you heading. Man, isn't tonight special? So they're in the present, focused on their imagination and their future. This dialogue, if you really think through it, most of you, and I love you, and I'm saying, when you're with your friends, you're reminiscing. There's nothing wrong

to doing a little of that. But if it's the dominant conversation, they operate out of their history and memory. And here's what's going to happen. They're going to repeat it, the same emotions, the same thoughts, different circumstances, different people's same life to tie the two topics together. people and most of my friends, I can't get them to reminisce. Like, ah, man, let me tell you where I'm going. This is where we're heading. This is how amazing it's going to be. And today's a gift, man, because I get to do it today. Those are the people I want around me. I don't want to be going backwards all the time and repeating the same history by thinking the same stuff. You know,