THE ED MYLETT SHOW - Achieve The Impossible

Episode Date: June 15, 2023

Get ready for an extraordinary episode that puts YOU in the spotlight as I answer your burning questions! This week it’s just me and YOU 1:1.After I started these solo episodes, I asked all of you to submit questions on things you want to know. This week’s question is one that many of you asked, and it’s a great one…WHAT IS ONE OF THE SECRETS I’VE USED TO HELP ME BE SUCCESSFUL?Today, I am thrilled to unveil the #1 SECRET that has propelled me to success over the years. Brace yourself for a strategy that is both simple and profound, for it holds the power to transform your life.Here's a sneak peek of what you'll discover:The #1 SECRET that has propelled me to successThe astonishing impact of TOUCHING YOUR DREAMSHow to cultivate unwavering BELIEF in your dreamsUnleashing the power of your mind's familiarityCreating powerful INCENTIVES for yourselfA story that will change your perspective on deservingnessBreaking free from your current environment and shifting your vibrationsThe cost-free way to mentally rehearse your futureThe significance of embracing inspiration and taking actionPrepare to be inspired and propelled into action. This episode holds the key to unlocking your potential and propelling you toward the life you've always envisioned. Don't miss this opportunity to learn the secrets of touching your dreams and unleashing your true potential.

This is the Edm Mylet Show. Welcome back everybody. So grateful to have you here with me today. You know, we're the fastest growing show in the world for a reason. You know, we do Tuesday conversations that we've always done on the Edm Mylet show, which is between me and a peak performer every single week. And you may listen to it at any time, but they come out on Tuesdays. And they've grown by millions and millions because people share those episodes. But if you listen to

the show for a long time, the Ed Mylet show actually started with me doing what we call solo episodes, which were not conversations with other people. It was just me teaching and hopefully inspiring every single week. And so we've now added on Thursdays shorter episodes, the interviews, the conversations are about an hour. These episodes are about 15 to 30 minutes. It's just you and I on topics that matter to you. And so if you have a topic you'd like me to cover on Thursdays, you can direct message me on Instagram at edmylet.edu. And hopefully eventually I'll get to your question on the show.

So today's topic, let's get into it, our secrets. I've been asked at what's a secret that we don't hear anywhere else that can help me achieve my vision and my dreams for my life. Because there's all these check mark things you'll hear on podcasts or social media that are wonderful tactics. But Ed, you have something you could share with us that's almost like a secret of yours that no one else covers. And so I'm going to do that with you today.

See, one of the things I'm a big believer in is that you must touch your dreams before you have them in order to make them a reality. You have to touch them. You have to become in proximity to them. You have to become familiar with them. See, in life, we will never exceed what we believe we're worth or we deserve. We'll never get more than we believe we deserve. We will also never acquire or be somewhere. We don't believe we belong. And if you're like me, I was raised where when I would see affluent or rich people in their homes or their mansions or their nice cars, or even a nice restaurant, even a nice hotel. I don't know really why it was felt in my family that way, but I always said this sense, we don't belong there.

We don't belong there. And then even when I would see super happy families, because many of you know that I grew up with an alcoholic father who eventually got sober, but I remember as a little boy. of you know that I grew up with an alcoholic father who eventually got sober, but I remember as a little boy, sometimes wishing I was in another family because they seemed happy and joyous and I knew the strife and anxiety and tension that was going on in my home. And I remember thinking even as a little boy, I really don't belong in those happy houses. And I certainly don't belong in those rich hotels or mansions. You'll never end up anywhere you don't believe you belong. And so what I had to do, and I think you're going to need to do, and I think this will be special for you today, is you have to begin to condition your brain and condition your spirit

into believing you belong in these places. So I want you to write this down, touch your dreams. It's so important that you touch your dreams because what that does in your life, think about it this way. Think of someone who's a professional athlete right now, pick anybody that you admire, LeBron James or, you know, Aaron Judge in baseball or a great golfer like Brooks, Keppga, whoever it might be, pick the sport. One of the things they have the benefit of is playing that sport as a young boy or Serena Williams in tennis, right? Or as a young girl.

And what happens is they become familiar in those environments. And so as they go through the ranks and climb and acquire more and more talents and skills, they believe they belong there because they've been on a tennis court a thousand times. They've been on a golf course a thousand times. They've been on a baseball diamond a thousand times or a basketball court. So they didn't have to worry about whether they belonged or whether they touched the dream they touched every day as they caught a ball hit hit it, threw it, dunked it, right? Hit a driver. So they actually, over time, spent time in their dream and as they acquired more talents and

skills, it naturally perpetuated them. But most of us, the career we're in or the mansion we want to get to or the home we want or the relationship we want or the emotions we want to feel. We haven't had the benefit of spending time in those environments. And because we haven't had any time in those environments, even if we acquire the skills and the talents and the opportunities to get there, if we don't believe we belong there or we're not familiar with it, we don't end up there. And so what I had to do, and I started doing it pretty young, is I had to begin to condition myself to believe I belonged there by touching

my dreams. And so I'm going to talk to you about a couple of different strategies on this that I think are a very, very big deal. See, your mind moves towards, gravitates towards what it's most familiar with. So if it's most familiar with your current environment all the time, it's going to continue to gravitate and attract that environment because you're vibrating at that frequency, it's your most dominant thought, it's your most common circumstance. And so if you don't do anything to shake that up,

to shake the visual picture of your life, what you're touching, feeling, smelling, you end up just sort of acquiring skills and you never move out of that environment and get to the dream. So I knew I had to start touching my dreams. And what I did is I would do those, I had to create strategies and I recommend you do. Some of them cost money and some of them are completely free. So I know some of your listeners going to listen, I have no money. You don't understand

my situation. I'm in debt. I can't do a few of the things you're going to recommend. Don't worry. I'm going to get to some things for you in a minute as well. And then those of you on a limited budget like me, I'm going to talk about spending just a little bit, just a little bit. Nothing I'm going to talk about is mega expensive. So what I did was I was coming up in business. I was used to, I guess, what you would probably call a lower middle class lifestyle. And I would see, like I said, these mansions and hotels and cars and happiness even, and think I didn't belong there. And I became very uncomfortable even thinking

about those environments. So I had to start putting myself in those environments on very short-term basis. So what I would do is I was in the sales business. I would create incentives with myself. Stay with me. This is very important in your life. I would create incentives with myself or I would say, hey, okay, Ed, if you make 10 sales this month, whatever it was, 10 sales, or you make $5,000, you make $10,000, or you do X or Y. If you do this at the end of the month,

you're gonna take a one day break and you're gonna go touch your dream. So for example, I lived in Southern California. There was a Ritz Carlton hotel in Laguna Beach, Jaina Point, California. And I used to set these contests up. I couldn't afford to live in the Ritz Carlton or where those people go. But what I would do is I said, okay, I'm making $7,000 a month. If this month I make 12 sales and I make an extra $2,000 back in that time, I'm going to take that extra $300 and I'm going to go spend one night

on Saturday night at the Ritz Carlton hotel. I would leave my environment, my wife and I would get in our car. We would drive down to the Ritz-Karleton and I remember the first time I got there, not knowing how you even tip the valet and not even wanting to park my car and you know, bring my car to the front of the hotel because it was a Honda CRX. But I did. And I rolled up to the Ritzkrauthan in my Honda CRX and I, the Valley, I didn't know you'd tip them now, you'd tip them when you come back. So I just tipped them both.

I gave in the tip. And I remember the first time I watched my wife get out of the car and I went to grab my bag. He said, no, Mr. Mylett, we've got your bag. No one had ever done that for me before. It was very awkward for me. I was afraid they were going to take my bag. And then I remember we walked into the lobby and I saw this marble on the floor and the chandelier and I'm like, my gosh, it was overwhelming. And then checking in, giving them my credit

card and hoping I had enough of my credit cards for the incidentals on top of the room. And the first time I was a little bit awkward, we stayed there and we were laying out the pool with all these very wealthy people. And we had dinner that night at a decent bottle of wine and during the daytime, I went and played golf and I'll talk about that in a minute. My wife went and got a massage. And the whole thing cost me, I don't know, at that time, like $7,800, which was a lot of money to me. But I touched to my dream. And then I went back and it's just different. You drove back. My ideas, my thinking, my vibrational frequency was just slightly different. And I remember thinking, I want to get back there. I can't live where they live. I can't wait to get back there.

And then the next month, I said, if I do X or Y, we'll go back for one night, just one night. We're just going to taste it. Just a bite. I can't eat the whole steak. I can't afford that. I certainly can't have the whole meal. I certainly can have the rest. But I can have a bite of my dream. And that's what I'm encouraging you to. I had a bite of my dream. And I'll give you other strategies in a minute that aren't anywhere near that expensive. I had a bite and it tasted good. And the next month I said, if I do six or eight more of these sales, I'm going to go there and we're going to do it. And I didn't do it. And so I didn't go because I didn't

want to train my brain that we just go. I had to earn it. I had to do something exceptional to get the reward. I did not want to do it. If I, so there were many times I set up these contests myself, I didn't hit them. We didn't go. I would ask my wife, start shopping for deals, look for discounts, look for places to go that aren't that are expensive, but we can get on the cheap. But then I remember about four months later, I hit my number again and we went down there again. Same routine, except this time, I kind of knew how to handle the valet and when I walked in it's a little bit different Still a little bit awkward a long comfortable now laying out the pool. I kind of knew where the towels were I knew what drink to get

You know my wife knew where the spa was we'd have to ask I knew where the golf course was And by the way, why was I playing golf? I had a mentor tell me Ed rich men play golf And I'm ever thinking to myself. I don't even like golf. It's five six hours. It's boring. I playing golf? I had a mentor tell me, Ed, rich men play golf. And I remember thinking to myself, I don't even like golf. It's five, six hours, it's boring. I'm not gonna get him a baseball player. I want some action. Ed, rich men play golf. And I figured out what that really meant.

That was a chance for me to get on a golf course with three or four other guys who are already living like I wanted to live. And I get to spend four or five hours of these people, even if I didn't know them, how they walk, how they talk,'d they walk, how'd they talk, how'd they think, what are their problems, kind of vocabulary do they use?

So I would go play golf and she would go to the spa and then we'd have that dinner and at the dinner we would dream about what our life would look like and where we were gonna go and say, babe, someday we'll live down here. You know that Ritz Kov that's connected to that community? That's where we're gonna live someday

right down here in Laguna Beach. There's a community right next to it. And that's a little bit more familiar and then about four months after that we did it again Except this time. I remember walking in there going. I kind of feel like I belong here and Then I snuck into the gated community and we just drove around I Couldn't get past the guard gate the first time then I found a way in we just walked around and drove around it looked at the homes And what I was happening as I was just just walked around and drove around and looked at the homes. And what I was happening is I was just touching my dream and becoming more familiar with it.

And as I did this over time, as I did this over time, I started to believe I belonged there. And as I was acquiring more skills, more abilities, more opportunities, this started to happen as well because I belonged there. I was conditioning myself. I was giving myself a mental rehearsal of what my potential life would look like. And then I remember one time I said, Hey, if I hit my numbers this month, let's go out to the desert to Palm Springs area, Lakinta, California. Let's go out to the Lakinta resort. We went out to the Lakinta resort. I'll never forget it. Same routine. I played golf. She went to the massage. resort. We went out to the Lakinta resort. I'll never forget it. Same routine.

I played golf. She went to the massage. We sat around the pool. Do you know to this day that my two main homes are in Laguna Beach and Lakinta, California? Do you think that's by coincidence? So over time of touching my dream and getting a bite of it, I became familiar with it. Your mind moves towards what you're most familiar with, what you gravitate towards. Now, I think you need to set up incentives to do it. But I'm gonna tell you, this changed my life. Now, let's step back and you say,

Ed, I don't have the money to do that. Great, here's what I want you to do. Whatever your dream is, let's say your dream is something material. Go to a watch store and try on those watches. Once a month, go do that. Go to the suit place and try on those watches. Once a month, go do that. Go to the suit place and put the suits on, but don't buy them. Rent a car for a day.

Rent a Lambo for a day. Rent a Rolls Royce for a day. Something for a day. I'm gonna get you stuff in a minute. They cost nothing. Just so you know, I'm going from the expensive thing to the nothing thing. Start to touch your dream. Those of you that are doing a little bit better,

one time save up for a year, rent a jet. Instead of taking, by the way, this is the thing I would not do, is when I see people with success doing all the time. They take these long vacations. I've never taken a long vacation. I would take one in two day vacations, Cabo, Laguna Beach, wherever one in two day vacations. Why? I didn't want to lose the momentum in my business. But what would happen? Listen to me when I would get away for a day or two, my environment dictated my thinking when I got into these other environments, that's when I would dream bigger. That's when I think about my new vision where I was going, what I wanted to do, what my idea was, what my plan was.

People always say, I have a hard time getting my plan. That's because you're in the same environment. Get out of your environment, go somewhere for a day or two. And by the way, those of you that are trying to climb to success, what are you doing? Taking one and two and three week long vacations ever? I'm 52 years old. You know how many week long vacations

I've taken in my lifetime? Less than I can count on both hands. Maybe less than I can count on one hand. I don't take week and two weeks away. My businesses need me. But I've taken a lot of one in two days, three days, because it's the same juice. I can get the same juice without ringing out the dang orange all the way. Coming back and there's all these problems, right? So don't take long breaks. You're trying to climb to the top. Let me just

let you in on it. Those of us that have climbed to the top, there weren't long vacations. I know you see people on Instagram and they're European, trip. I don't even know how these people got their money. I don't get all that. That's something you do after you're really wealthy. And even after I got really wealthy, I just have no stomach for it. I don't like being away. I love business.

I love my business. I love my life. I live on vacation now. You want to build a great life, build and have homes where everybody else's vacation someday. And the way you do that is go touch those dreams, one bite at a time, every couple months. If you gave yourself the gift, a couple times a month, excuse me, a couple times a year, three times a year, six times a year of touching your dream, rent in the car, rent in the house, right? For a week, for excuse me, for a day. Go into the hotel for a, your dream will think you'll

meet people you'll vibrate differently. Your big thinking comes out. You have a very difficult time changing your thinking in the same environment. It's very difficult to do. So what happened was I was able to change my environment for just 24 or 48 hours. And that's where I would do my big dream and my big thinking, my big strategizing, plus I'm becoming familiar with the dream, plus I'm moving towards it, plus I believe I belong there, and you're my moves towards what it's most familiar with. So now I'm becoming a little bit more familiar with this stuff.

You start to get this. Now, you say, my dream's not material at all. I get it, most of mine aren't either. So what if once a month or once a quarter, let's say your dream is to serve in your church, have you ever just taken a Wednesday off on a vacation day and served at your church, your mosque, your temple, or your synagogue? Do you know what that would do for your spirit and your soul to touch that dream?

Do you ever just take in a day off and spend it doing something that's your dream? Just the day off, you just unplug, you just sit on the beach, right? If your dream is service, what if you took a day and served at a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen, right? Or anywhere like that or a women's shelter, whatever it might be, right? Or you want to get involved in helping people with cancer or there's a charity or something you want to get in mind. Take a day and touch that dream.

It costs nothing. If you have no money, but it's material drive into the nice neighborhoods, get out and walk around, go to open houses, touch these things. If it's you wish you could be a trainer full time, there's a career you want to do, but you got to pay the bills of the day, take one day and go do that career. Ask someone if you can, for one day, get mentored by them. Follow them around the gym if that's what you want to do. Follow them around the lab, follow them around the business office. Touch your dream. Now, there's these things in my

life have changed me. Why? There's also proximity to power. There's proximity to being around power. And power is your dream. Power is the people who have those dreams. Those people have the answers, the thoughts, the vocabulary, the vibrational frequency, the relationships. I remember watching these guys playing golf and just how they walked was different than me. What they talked about was different than me

and not all of them had it, but some of them did. I remember one of the first times we were laying out of the pool going, well, people just lay like this and relax. I've never done this in my damn life. I wonder if there's some correlation between this relaxation and being successful. And so do you understand what I'm telling you that an element that's missing in your life, listen to me, is you touching your dream.

And then here's the free one of all of them. Mental rehearsal, just visualization of the dream, giving yourself the gift of picturing yourself driving that car, picturing yourself in that church, picturing yourself with that body, picturing yourself in that relationship, picturing yourself with that emotion. Mental rehearsal causes you to believe you belong in the dream. Do you mentally rehearse? How often do you mentally rehearse?

Because what's really happening is your visual spear, your auditory fear, your kinesthetic fear, the things you touch on a regular basis, here and see are mentally rehearsing the rest of your life for you. So at some point you have to take control of that, override it, and actually force yourself to mentally rehearse the things you want in your life. That's a form of touching your dream. So at some point you have to take control of that, override it, and actually force yourself to mentally rehearse the things you want in your life. That's a form of touching your dream. It's the lowest, the lowest vibrational frequency is picturing it, but it's better than not. And if you do it enough times because dreaming is free, you could do this daily and repeat

it. And if you stack up that enough times, it can be more powerful than touching it for one day a quarter. But imagine if you combine the two, the mental rehearsal in your life of whatever the emotion, the dream, the car, the house, the relationship, the service, the contribution, the memory, the rapid, the repetitious mental rehearsal. And then once or twice a year, four or five times a year,

you go touch your dream on a budget, or even five times a year, you go touch your dream on a budget or even not on a budget. You drive the neighborhood, you try on the watch, you try on the shoes, you try on. Listen to me, these things matter. You put yourself in these environments. You go have dinner at, you know, a lot of people go, we go out to dinner every single week. Once a week, let's just say you do that. Okay. What if you just went once a month, but you went to the place you'd like to go the rest of your life. So you saved the money from those three meals that you don't go. And on the fourth one, you go to the place you'd like to be and get the touch the dream. You starting to see

what I'm saying? So I'm either a little bit further along. You'll give yourself a gift. You got a cup of bucks. Have a night where you don't go out and you have a chef come cook for you. And I know that some of these things are things that not so many of you are nowhere near ready to do. Remember what I just said, I started out by driving the neighborhoods for free, just getting into the neighborhood. I couldn't even get into the houses. I couldn't even get through the gates.

And then that graduated to one night at a hotel near those neighborhoods. But where it really started was the mental rehearsal. Ed Mylet had to convince himself, he belonged in his dreams. Ed Mylet had to become familiar with these dreams by touching them mentally, physically, and actually auditory as well.

I remember the first time we didn't get, when we would go to the Ritz-Crawlton, we would always get the cheap garden room. And I remember about two years into doing it, I go, we're gonna get the ocean front. And I'll never forget the first time when I woke up and I could hear the waves crashing. Actually, I went to sleep.

Frankly, the waves were so foreign to me that I had a hard time sleeping with the noise. But I remember waking up and I opened the door on our balcony. This is two years into doing this. I opened the door on our balcony. This is two years into doing this. I opened the door on our balcony and I went, oh wow, this is a different morning. You wake up here in the ocean waves and feelin' that breeze and that smell of the saltwater.

I belong here. I want this. And it incentivized me to work a thousand times harder had I not experienced it. Somehow this starts to change our desire level as well. And so you start mixing all this together. You got a little bit of a recipe. So let me ask you today, doesn't cost you anything to dream and mentally rehearse. Are you willing to do that? Number one, whatever it is, material or not material. Number two, are you willing to start setting up some incentives

with yourself or just start saving for that once a quarter, once a month, twice a year, experience for a day or two where you touch your dream. Third, if it's service oriented, are you willing to take off a day, a quarter and go serve in your church or your synagogue or your temple, whatever it might be, or you willing to go try these things on, maybe rent a car for a day, or you willing to do that, or you willing to touch your dream to some extent. You have to bite the steak before you can eat the whole thing, and this is an element not talked about. Now, if you have the opportunity, you acquire the talents and the skills, I'm telling you to become unstoppable force.

So my challenge to you today is are you willing to make any of these adjustments to your life game. Worst case scenario, drive your car somewhere, it's free, and walk around where your dream exists. Walk where it exists. Maybe your dreams to live in New York City, right? You live in the suburbs of New Jersey and get in your

dad gum car or take a cab and get over there and just walk around and touch it, see it, smell it. And what starts to happen is you build something called sensory acuity. And this sensory acuity makes your senses more acute. And then in your everyday life, you begin to see people, places and things that deliver on that dream that you're now familiar with. Here's the truth. Last thing I'll tell you, if you continue to live unfamiliar with your dream, you will die

unfamiliar with it. But if you begin to familiarize yourself with your dream, with mental rehearsal, or physical touch, or the actual experience of doing it on short-term basis, there's a high probability that when you are at the end of your life, you will have lived that dream. Why is it so important to achieve your dreams? Because your dreams are not a joke. Your dreams are not a hallucination.

See, I believe God gives you your dreams as a preview as to what's possible in your life. These are the possibilities. That's why these dreams are in your heart. This is what's possible for you. It doesn't mean it's going to happen. It doesn't even mean it's probable. Here's what's possible. And what I believe is you take possibility to probability

by repetition, mental rehearsal, and conditioning. All I did is have dreams of what was possible. The difference with me, I believe, now that I'm 52 years old on the other side of it. Obviously it was all the hard work, but you know what spurred the hard work? Belief I belong there.

At some point, if you don't believe you belong there, you stop catching those ground balls. You stop hitting those home runs. You stop swinging those golf clubs in practice. At some point, you gotta believe you belong there to make those phone calls, eat the right diet, make the contacts, whatever that thing is in your life. You have to have the desire level and the hard work and I believe the hard work only long term comes from believing

you belong there. And when your entire environment and all the people around you on a daily basis, don't reinforce that and don't condition it. You must override it in short term bites. But if you do, these things that God's given you as possibilities of your life become probabilities. And then you become what I call an impossibility achiever. And in my life, I feel like I've become an impossibility achiever. What most people think is impossible. I got the recipe for.

I start envisioning it, then I start touching it, then I start experiencing it, then I start believing I belong there, then I become familiar with it. And then I have it. That's the deal. That's the deal. Anyway, I hope this helps you today. Share this with anybody who's got a dream, repeat it. Listen to it again. There's got to be an element of what I said today that you're capable of doing.

Doesn't cost anything to dream. So dream big everybody. You were born to do something great with your life. You want a little bit more of this kind of stuff. Remember, my friend, Brenner Brushard's got the Growth Day app. You can go to growthday.com-forge-last-ed. You want to be coached by me personally. You can go to the rtacindicate.com and apply to be coached there.

And but you know what? I hope every day here I'm helping you change your life. Please share this. Follow me on Instagram, out of Ed Mylett. God bless you, everybody. This is The Ed My Let Show.