THE ED MYLETT SHOW - Detailed Strategies For Living In The Present -With Kyle Cease

Episode Date: February 11, 2020

Stop ignoring your heart! Believe me when I tell you that your perception of who you think you are and what your life could be is about to completely change for the better... I am honored to introduce you to Actor, Comedian, and NY Times Best Selling Author, Kyle Cease. This interview is one that is filled with profound, simple, and true information. I was taken back by how eloquently Kyle is able to articulate what we are ALL are feeling on the inside. For all my mega-achievers out there, this is A MUST WATCH/LISTEN. Seriously... as people who are goal-oriented and continuously pushing for greatness, we need to bridge the gap between chasing that dream and enjoying ourselves along the way. I call this living “Blissfully Dissatisfied” Kyle gives depth to this concept. If you feel as though you are not getting the RESULTS you are working towards, it may be as small as a perspective shift. This interview will give you that.... We talk about a LARGE range of topics from letting go of your past, money and abundance, meditation, and our addiction to the past and future. We also go over the two reasons we keep something in our lives and why this awareness will completely free you of your attachments to the outcome. We touch on his motto of win, win, win, and guys..... this one is HUGE, we talk about two GIGANTIC truths of life that will TRANSFORM your perspective. Sometimes when things aren’t working out we start to struggle because we believe on some level that what is happening to us is bigger than we are... but that is an illusion. A lot of you are reading this right now, and you are in a transitional period of life... You’re asking yourself: “What if I picked up and moved?” “What if we did break up?” “What if I did start my business?” These “what if’s “ are actually calling on you to show up and do the thing you know you need to do!  

This is the admiral show. All right, welcome back to Max out everybody. I'm so excited about today because if our on camera conversation is even close to as good as the off camera, this is going to be remarkable. We've been laughing and learning and doing all kinds of stuff. So this gentleman to my left, I've wanted on my show since I first heard you speak. And he's interesting because you're gonna,

you first, you're hilarious. But the depth of how you reach people and the impact you've made on me personally is something I just wanna first acknowledge you for and thank you for. This is a man who had a 20 year career in the entertainment business. at, you know, one of the top specials on Comedy Central for years.

It really achieved the pinnacle in the entertainment space and sort of walked away from that career for a calling in what I'd call transformational communication where humor's at the center of it. And he's just a very unique, remarkable man. And today, you're all gonna hear things in ways you've not heard them before,

and today's just gonna be a beautiful experience for you all. So it's really my honor to present to you, Kyle Seese, everybody. So thank you for being here, brother. Thank you, man. It's been so good already for me, so. Well, I have to say, I feel the same way. I have always loved your content,

but I felt your heart in every interview you did. And it's fascinating to, because when I showed up, I was thinking, I'm so excited to meet you. And to hear you've been watching my stuff too, was really an exciting moment for me, because I really love your work, and I love your heart.

And yeah, I'm excited to see one folds here. Thank you, and I gotta tell you, not only have been watching it, but it's made a difference for me and Why do the show people ask me? You know why do you do the show? And I say it's really it's a little bit selfish for me I get to meet remarkable people that I get to share with the world and I do really feel that way about you Wow

a special way that you deliver a message and the way you think and explain things There's a truth to it immediately when you hear it And I like things that don't take me a long time to process them because when someone says them, I intuitively believe they're true through my own experiences. And so we're going to go all over the place today, just all over the place. You know, it's funny you say that too about it's fascinating how simple, like, whatever we all want to call truth, but it feels like our consensus of the truth is. It's so easy. And one thing we often say, I find, like, when I work with someone and point out something

that's really simple, it's also very profound, and they will say something like, I need to wrap my mind around that. And that sentence actually is the opposite of what we want to do. In other words, the truth is so much more simple and wrapping your mind about it is like shrinking it into the small story that you've created for yourself. In other words, we don't even need to wrap our mind around it instead of trying to shove it into our small story. What if we allow ourselves to just go into this unknown that we're like we were talking about right before we started something that's so trippy?

And totally true. And it's such a corny, airy, fairy thing, but really embrace this idea. You and I are only this moment. Right. There's literally nothing else. And it's so easy for our stories to kick in and go, well, I'm, you know, I make this much or I'm this, you know, from this country or I'm this, you know, gender.

And that's where we create the illusion of separation. And that's what cuts us off from our worthiness, our creativity, our flow, our joy. Yes. We're only this moment. Like, that's so free. It's so freeing. And by the way, profound and simple and joy. Yes. We're only this moment. Like that's so free. It's so freeing. And by the way, profound and simple and true. Right.

I don't need to wrap my mind around that. I know that it's true. Yeah. This is, okay everybody, you're already getting it. We're one minute in and you're seeing what I'm talking about here. So here we go. Right. I cannot wait to do this.

So speaking of that, one of the things that I hear so often is, and on this path of past, present, and future, is I haven't found my purpose. I don't know what my purpose is in life, and I've struggled to give people what I think to be an appropriate answer to that question because to be candid with you, I've not struggled with that personally a whole lot. And so you have a really interesting and true perspective about purpose on that. Share that with everybody. Well, one thing that's really interesting

is I wanna ask people when they say I'm trying to figure out my purpose is I say, how do you measure purpose? Is it based on your getting paid? Is that when you know you're in your purpose? Is it when you have a measurable thing that you can tell your parents you now do? You know, I have a friend that's this really sweet girl

that I remember every time she would walk into a room, everyone lights up just because she walked into the room and they should be sweet and fun. And then she'd be alone with me and she'd go, I'm trying to figure out what my purpose is and I'm going, you think that wasn't? Do you think it's not in purpose when you're having a hard time? Do you think when you're in your darkness, that's not in purpose? Do you think that, you you know you're suffering, your pain, your doubts, your is not all in purpose? I mean we know it's our lows that cause our greatness later. So our lows are in purpose, right? Everything is in purpose. So the idea that there's something that our ego is going to qualify

as that's it is so small and it's such an insult to the universe or the now or whatever created us and you can hear that in Be atheists but it's such an insult to this space or God or whatever to say I'm not in purpose until you know it's measured financially or it gets me love from society which is a crazy group of people. Like, it's a certain way. Yeah. And you really, you've this thing I heard you say and I want to ask you about this. Your past is a lie. You don't believe that everything about someone's

past is necessarily true for them, right? You say it in a way. If we're only this moment, going to the past, I understand it's a place to go, and I understand it's a thing we can look at, and I understand it's coming from memory, and it's something you can measure. It's actually a denial of this moment. In other words, it's our fear of facing something in ourselves. Every time we sometimes get motivated,

we're like, I'm gonna fix this thing, and I'm gonna blah, blah, blah. I find that shows up when something happened and triggered something in me that wants to be seen. And it's when I'm going, oh no, I am actually feeling this lump in my stomach that feels hurt or unseen, that I can easily go to motivation

as a way to not see it still. And then I can keep my circumstances the exact same and delay this inevitability that I'm going to see this thing. Or I can be with this. Like I can have a lump in my stomach. So whether it's going through a breakup or a lawsuit or darkness or just feeling unseen, that is an opportunity to see the,

you know, some of us feel a trap in our heart or, you know, a lump in our stomach or a rock. Whoa! It's asking you to see it. And in my eyes, sometimes, sometimes, a lot of motivation happens. You hear the stories of like, yeah, and once I was bullied in high school, I knew I was going to... So we're developing a company out of a fear of being bullied.

You're right. Right? We're developing... How is that sustainable? We're developing a make money out of... I don't want to be abandoned by my dad again when I'm five. And what if we instead allow ourselves to heal this thing by being this moment to see it and let it be seen and accepted. Like I'll have the pain show up and go, I feel unloved and I actually follow it with

and I love that. Because it's not the unloved, that's the problem, it's my resistance to it. It's me thinking it shouldn't be there. Right? So if I'm like, I feel stuck, I feel scared, I feel lost, I really believe that's life trying to take you beyond the smallness that we've been achieving from.

Like we've been achieving from a story. You're right. Versus like, what could this moment, which has none of that fear, right, create? What is it trying to create through us, right? So a lot of times we go into the future or the past as a way to avoid this feeling. I think the achievers you're right, by the way, I, I, I, resemble that to some extent. And me too, I mean, we all have it, right?

What do you say to an achiever? An achiever is usually, well, they're both, you're right, some are like, hey, I'm going to prove these people wrong that bullied me when I was in school or overlooked to me or I was too slow to play football. So now I'm a bad-ass work and business person. Also, they're addiction to the future. Someone would say to you, and I have not heard someone ask you this before.

This is a hard question, I think. So it's worked for me. In other words, this formula, this pattern has produced this beach house or produced this abundance, this metaphor has produced this beach house, or produced this abundance, I'm metaphorical in my case, I'm not talking about necessarily that did that for me,

but I'm in a pattern, I know you're right, I'd like to be more present. Most of my achiever clients are friends. When we're private, they say my biggest struggle is, I have a hard time being where I am, but that hard time of being where I am has helped me produce some pretty cool places and things other people think they'd like to have.

Right? So how do you lose the addiction, if it is addiction to that pattern? What would be something you would say to somebody who says, you're right, I'd like to be more present. I'm never present with my kids. I'm rarely present with myself. Right.

But this motivation thing is sort of produced for me an external life. A lot of other people think it's pretty cool. Well, one thing I think that I see a lot is the belief that being present won't achieve things. Right? Like people say, if I'm just here, I'm going to end up sitting under a tree forever.

Yeah. Well, actually, what I find is the more I'm here, first of all, I create a space that's bigger than my small story that was achieving out of that fear. I can receive bigger here. This moment can receive bigger. Like in other words, let's say you're someone who has a belief that who you are is someone who makes $20,000 a year. It's in your system.

In other words, you learn that with your parents, it's just in your body that, you know, this is my story, money doesn't grow on trees, all these things. So we can create a lot of motivation and we can create a lot of stuff. So look, I achieved all this money. Yeah, but that's death to the story of who you are.

So you're gonna have to sabotage this. Because you think you're the small story and now you got a million bucks. And that's death. You literally have created a world where you have friends that connect with you on how hard it is to make money. And now you have all this money and that would be death to those connections, that would be death to your connection to your dad who says it's really hard. And I find the real truth of what we are is so much bigger than money. Do you realize that you're the source of every dollar you made?

So why are we excited about money? We should be excited about you. Like if you and I went for a walk, and we were in the woods, and let's say I rounded a corner and I found, this is such a funny analogy, but it's crazy. If I found a waterfall, and it's just flowing and it's just going forever. What would happen if I took a cup, filled it with water, came back from the waterfall.

You didn't see the waterfall and I go, dude, a cup of water. You'd go, you'd be excited, we have more water, but you'd also see the limited supply of it and you'd see we better be careful with it. We better be. And so even though there's a waterfall around the corner, you'd see the lack, you'd see the, we better be careful with this, we better not, well, I have enough water to pay rent next month, I can't donate any of this water because I'll, we'll be out of it.

But the problem isn't anything other than perspective. If I showed you the supply chain, if I showed you the infinite, the first thing you do is what's our highest calling, how can we donate it? Our goal is to show everyone that they have a waterfall. And I believe that you are the source of every dollar you've ever made or any relationship you brought in your life or anything you've done successful. So we can still have all that abundance, but it's a byproduct of your connection to your waterfall.

And I'm so much more excited about what you are versus what you do. And so when people say, what do I do? I actually already know they're in a fight or flight fix because when people actually panic, I go, what would instead of asking what we do, I'm gonna ask you, what are you? This moment, the waterfall, the supply.

And cool, by the way, this is an insanely gorgeous house. It's awesome. And I love you in the space even more. It's one of those gorgeous houses I've ever seen. But if we measure, we're loved based on what we've achieved, we're actually enslaved to our achievement. And as Wayne Dyer, both of our heroes says, if that goes away, you go away too.

Oh boy, yes. So if you're much more this moment, you're actually able to create and receive on a much higher dimension because I'm just this moment and that's actually worth billions of dollars. It is, and by the way, when I say to my audience, I want everyone to stay in here

because this can be new for some people, right? It's truth, it's profound, it's simple, but it can be new and I can hear people right now going, okay, they're in the Fufu space now, right? Yeah, but it's also the truthful of Fufu space. In fact, the other stuff, as you say, is actually the Fufu space. Yes. We'll have right on that. Well, a lot of people.

Well, people say to me with meditation, which is something I do usually two hours a day. I wake up and by meditation, I don something I do usually two hours a day. I wake up and by meditation I don't mean wear a bunch of beads. I don't change my name to Rainbow Maka Sunshine. You can totally still shave your armpits, whatever you want to do. You don't have to say, oh, you don't have to do this shit with your hands. All I do is I wake up and I listen to silence for two hours a day. Okay. So it gives me higher level callings, higher level ideas, and by the way, under all that is

just worthiness. People don't need to achieve worthiness, or that's all a lie. Yes. And so, I will say I know why you said stay there, because one of the biggest people that are most triggered by my content are achieving people. Yes. Because when I say you're only this moment, that sounds like it's death too, so I'm not the eight porches in the garage.

And I'm saying those are awesome, and you're even better. Right. And what I believe is that the conscience, what's that? I'm just begging people to hear that. Yeah, like, oh, that's cool. That's cool if you have 10 million in the bank or if you're another story, whether it's the, you know, you've achieved something, you're in a victim state, you have 10 million in the bank or if you're another story, whether it's the, you know,

you've achieved something, you're in a victim state, you have a past that you want to be seen, you need to see it and be there for it. And who's the one that's being the space of being there for it, right? And so one of the things people say about meditation is, so I just do nothing. And I go, actually, to me, when we're at a job that doesn't fulfill us, doing everything we can to keep things together, in my eyes, that's more doing nothing.

And finally listening to silence is doing something. Do you notice how every time everything in your life falls apart, finally when you listen to yourself, that starts to take care of things? So actually, to me, that's doing something. I agree with you. Right? We're finally being productive

because you're accessing a higher level channel that's bigger than the story that doesn't feel worthy. Like I have this thing that's a controversial thing where I believe that we're all really powerful entertainers. I believe that we're all funny. If you've ever watched this, if you're watching this and you've ever, ever said something headline or level funny, like every, many, many people have. You just had that moment where you're at a restaurant and you're pissed off about an

ex or the political system and you say something that comes out like Steve Martin level funny. Yes. Right? If it's happened once in my eyes, that means it's available. Yes. Right? And the factor is you weren't trying. So I have this space where I'm like, everyone is funny.

Yes. You know, everyone's a creative genius. Everyone is their own version of a prince or a muse. I've had four friends that at one point were tone deaf and now we can harmonize together. I believe that we're just disconnected because we believe our God is achieving something versus connecting and putting our antenna up and connecting to what's here. Can I say something on that?

Yeah. Because I 100 million percent agree with you. And I want everyone in my audience, because the audience is very diverse. There's the different groups. You know, they're all humans though. And all of you have also had that experience at one moment for one second of being happy.

Yes. And that means you can have that at any moment as well. It's not just the things you achieve, it's the states you've been in. If you've just touched on happiness once in your life, you could have that all the time. If you've had that peace, if you've had ecstasy, any of those things, you have access to that in any given time.

And when you're in the achiever space all the time, what I love about your message, and I want everyone to just give yourself at least the consideration of what Kyle's saying, is these stories we make about ourselves, our past story, our future who we are we are our achievement we are our career These are all stories that you've told about yourself and you are greater than those stories right? That's what I love about what you're saying

And I just I just hope everybody gets a chance to experience that for a second So there's sort of these illusions we create right of these stories about ourselves and then this And then this book, I love. By the way, Kyle is also a New York Times bestselling author. There's so much to his story, but he's more than that. But the illusion of money. What's the premise, and I want them to go get the book, but the premise is what? That it's kind of that waterfall thing that our focus is on that, but it's also just that first of all, the subtitle is, why chasing money is stopping you from receiving it. Think of the concept of chasing something. By chasing, you're actually declaring in this moment, I don't have it.

Yep. Right? So, that's cool, but you're still working from a place of lack. I believe that the achievement, consciousness, and making things happen was a consciousness that at one point was the highest, most measurable consciousness on the planet. Like, imagine in the 50s and 60s,

many people worked for a few warehouses and then in the 80s, there's this entrepreneurial boom. At that point, it feels like to me from what I'm seeing and what I feel in my body, the collective consciousness, the factor wasn't that we're now achieving things, the factor is we're now at a consciousness we've had never seen before.

So we're at our soul's cutting edge. Well, you and I have a million stories of people we know who have made a lot of money and weren't happy. We know a ton of people, I know people who've committed suicide had major drug addictions. In fact, the more they got the thing that they thought they wanted, the more they actually feel why aren't I happy and feel even sadder.

So to me, there's a new consciousness trying to happen. And it's a consciousness that's even bigger than just thinking positive. Like thinking positive is awesome, we need it. But in thinking positive, this is crazy, but we're implying there is a negative. And which means I'm judging part of myself because that negative exists in me.

So the more I avoid my darkness and keep focusing on the light, the more that darkness is going to keep acting out. So my belief is, your ability to create is solely based on how much of your, which is your definition, darkness you fall in love with. In other words, your ability to become rich in my eyes is based solely on how in love you can be with being broke. Your ability to have the greatest relationship in the world

is solely based on how in love with you are with being alone. The more you don't need a relationship, the more you're connected to yourself, the more you will create a match to that, where you have someone else who doesn't need themself, and that's one plus one equals a million versus one half plus one half equals one fourth, where you have two co-dependence going, you're the source of my happiness and you can help me avoid all

of my darkness. So I'm going to make you the source of my happiness and then in a year we're going to realize this doesn't work because I still am stuck with my sadness. How about not only that, your ability to live your life, I find, is based solely on how okay you are with death. And if you can be in love with death and death doesn't only form based on, you know, our physical death, our cells are dying all day, of hair cells dying all day, past stories are trying to die, and humans have gotten this thing that death is a bad

thing. So we hold on to old stories via the crap and the garage, the relationship that doesn't serve us anymore, the career that we've been in for 20 years. And these things are trying to die. And I have a belief that's kind of crazy, but there's only two reasons we keep something in our life. One is because we want it and love it and it expands us. And the other is because we're scared of it falling apart. And our fear of it falling apart is based solely on our belief that things shouldn't fall apart. And when someone says to me, I'm trying to keep it together.

I'm like, why? Anything you're trying to keep together is something that's trying to, I'm not trying to keep my arms on. Because they're supposed to be on. But there's some shit in my life that's trying to fall apart. So my job is to not stop that. I have a weird theory, this is a crazy thing, but like, what if, you look at it from life's perspective?

What if in some cases, I understand not all, so please don't hate me for this? What if when a doctor says to you, you have six months to live? They mean your old story. Do you give it a second? Yes. How many times? Okay, you have six months to live. But if you change your diet and start meditating, you might have longer.

And then the person goes, well, who I am as a bread eater. So maybe your past story is trying to die. And your job is to become present so your past story can be purged from you. What if the universe and life is trying to purge our old stories, but we're addicted to the story, so we're trying to go down with it. Wow, Kyle. I have to just acknowledge something just because when truth is present, this morning in my meditation, I haven't written down here.

This is ironic. I had, what if accepting death is the pathway to living in the present now? That's crazy. You wrote that down. It's right in the present now? That's crazy. You wrote that down. It's right here from this morning. That's crazy. And so I have to just say like this was supposed to be said here and it's absolutely profound and the next layer of that about what if that story of yours is supposed to die?

My gosh, it's just wonderful. That's why you're here. You're here for me today to confirm what I had come up this morning. That is absolutely unbelievable that you just said that. The other thing you said that there's just so much, there's just so much, but that also that this idea that when you're doing anything,

I love this concept for everybody, that when you're doing anything that you want it to be a win, win, win. Yes. I've not even heard this before. So, would you please explain it? Well, so the win, win, win concept is there are many things in our life that we go, as long as I'm making money, I'm happy, right?

But there's some things that are also losses for other things. So for instance, to me, soda, if you sell soda for a living, there might be a win lose lose here. And what the first win is win. I'm doing something I love and I'm making money. Okay, I got a win. But the second one is everyone's getting cavities and people are getting diabetes and they're getting sick and it might be destroying their consciousness.

And I say that while I'm drinking a Sprite, so there's a hypocritical part of me. Yeah, Advocate. Yeah, Advocate too, you offer it. That's why this flow is over here. And the third one is what does it do for the world? Like soda companies are also throwing plastic in the ocean, right? So the consciousness of the world in my eyes is dropping in certain products and certain things we're doing. But what we don't understand really is truly

the lose-lose exists in your body. In other words, even though the lose-lose is outside of you, you have avatars of the outside in your body. So even though you might be making money, there can't be a fulfillment if it's destroying the planet because the universe can't support you in the highest if you're also hurting things, right? So one thing that I noticed is really interesting is that companies that do sell things like soda and are very successful, they're really good at selling a Y, right? Like if you drink this beer, you'll get laid

as the commercial, right? You'll have friends, you'll have a party. Do you realize that meditation and yoga tell you a how, but they don't say a why? Like do you realize meditation will get you way more laid than sprite, right? Like, and there's so many great things that come with meditation, but when you watch a video,

it's like, I'm gonna show you how. Yes. But I don't get why I'm supposed to. Well, you're gonna transcend your entire past. You'll probably create a space to receive higher levels of health, better relationships, way more income, but you won't care because you'll be connected to yourself. So I like to do things that are a win-win-win. Does it expand my soul to do it?

That's a deep question. Do I feel growth? Like you like doing this podcast because you change, right? Certainly. It's also a win because people that watch it are shifting. Yes. I'm shifting, talking to you, I'm teaching myself right now.

Right, sure. My events are called evolving out loud because have you ever given someone advice and then you learn from the advice? All the time, yes. It's not weird, sometimes we'll give people advice they aren't even asking. Certainly. Like they're like, I got a stomach ache.

I think you should break up with her. All right. Single. This is for me. Right. Right. So, evolving out loud, my events are me, if there's a me that gives advice, and then a me that learns from the advice.

Doesn't that mean there's two means? Right? And so, the third win of your podcast, I'm doing two analogies at the same time. I'm pulling them together, I get it. The third one is, are people changing? Like, are you raising the success, the consciousness, the growth of the planet?

This is in full purpose. There would be a lot more pain if we were just creating, distracting in this moment, nothing gossip, content, right? Yes. So by the way, I think you feel that way when you, I think there's an emptiness when you have a conversation like that or a transaction like that. Don't you? I think you feel an emptiness. There's an energy that is depleted from you when you have an interaction like that with somebody.

And then there's an interaction like this where my energy is growing throughout it. There's something in my energy that's being fed. Do you think that's true? Yes, I think that we're learning more and it's actually connecting us more. I think that the longer this goes, the, you notice that this kind of interview,

like the farther it goes, the more in this moment you are. Yes. And some things we do, how come the farther we go, the more exhausted we are? Yeah. Like I do a six day event off the cuff. By day four and day five, you think I'd be out of content, but the truth is that ego has been so removed

because I've been in my creativity for eight hours a day. That by day four and day five and day six, I'm just in total flow. Yeah. And I like doing long events just to access that. It's interesting because this also brings up a concept that's in the book that I bet you'll think is really cool. That I want to offer people, which is the idea of A money, B money, and C money.

OK. A money is money that you spend on stuff to create an addictive distraction in the moment. So whether it's to have a big party, to buy the carton of beer, whatever, A money is just like, let's say of three different people that each got a million dollars. The A person spends it, let's say of three different people that each got a million dollars. The A person spends it quickly on a bunch of parties, right?

And whatever, the most expensive car, this is A money stuff, right? B money is when you put your money into something and it invests itself, right? That Robert Kiyosaki, right, I'm buying stocks and I'm buying a liability or assets versus liaki, right? I'm buying stocks and I'm buying... You're an investor. ...or assets versus liabilities, right? That's cool.

What if we add a new consciousness of C-Money? C-Money are things that expand you. So, if you take two months to move into a cabin and have no cell phone, who would you be on the other side of that? And would that be worth more? Going to a meditation retreat, buying a book like this, or your book, right? Things that will change literally who I am, delegating to someone else the things that aren't a vibrational 10 for you to do, having a personal trainer, a nutritionist.

These are things that will change you. And when you change, you're more receptive in my eyes to receive more money because you actually killed off the story that sees itself, it's not worthy of it. So what I like to do is ask myself, is this a C money investment? Love that. This worthyness thing that you just said, I just want to go to that for a minute. I love the steam money. Thisworthiness thing comes up all the time.

What is that in people? I think it's the number one thing. So I hate ranking things, but even to my top level people, if they've made a lot of money, top level earners, I mean. They'll say, well, I just don't feel, there's a story about me and my dad, and I don't feel worthy of real love in my life. But they just said it.

Right. There's a story about me. Worthiness is something we are under the illusion that we have to learn. Okay. We are under the illusion that unworthiness is even a thing. Like you learn that. Yes. Just creating the idea that who you are is the story. You actually already know that it was conditioning. Like if you and I went to another planet

we were raised by two 20-foot tall aliens. And let's say each one of them one of them comes home drunk every night and he's really loud. Right? The first thing we're going to do is do whatever we need to do to be safe. We're with these aliens for 20 years, right? So this alien comes home and is like, RRRRRRRRRRR and you're like, I better be quiet. Okay. When I'm around this alien, I got to be quiet.

And then there's a second alien that, don't know loves it when you tap dance. Right? So there's this other alien it's like showing their alien friend look at them tap dance and you're like, no, hello my baby. It's like this cute thing. So let's say we had that for 20 years. Then they let you go to the rest of the planet. And now you're being quiet because you don't want to get hurt, but you're with new aliens that don't give a shit and you're tap dancing and on a date and the salient is like I don't even like tap dancing I don't care. That's not you that's called conditioning. Yes and people think well it took me 20, 30, 40 years to develop this conditioning so it'll take 20, 30, 40 years to undo it.

Nope you don't need time, you need awareness. The awareness of this moment is what you actually are. This moment. Now I'm not saying patterns don't show up, I'm not saying I don't have triggers, I'm not saying I don't accidentally become the story of what my past is. But when I listen to silence for two hours a day,

I really get past the bullshit that says that taught unworthiness or the need for approval or, you know, a someone who can be abandoned or the idea of making it happen is where you get love. These are all conditioning. And what you are in this moment, what I am, what anyone watching is evenly loved. Now, I understand you can hear that and go, he doesn't know my story.

And I just hold space for you and go, I get it. But that's giving the story power when it's actually not the truth. It sounds to me, Kyle, like, and you've done this in your life. So this is a man with a completely successful career that you stepped away from and you knew what you'd probably be losing with, you know, the two best comedy central specials of 2009 in the world. You didn't know that that would lead to all the people you've impacted, the people that you speak to, your courses, the books, the being here with me today. Those things you couldn't possibly know that, but you stepped into that space

anyway. And had I known that, it wouldn't have been faith. Had I known that, and by faith, I don't mean a religious thing. I mean, had I known that, I am not moving and transcending a pattern. I'm just doing it. It's kind of like when you're in a relationship that doesn't work, but you wait till you see the right relationship to make the leap versus like actually getting an alignment with yourself and then making space for someone to come into your life that matches that new alignment.

Right? So I actually did that in 2010. I was doing, I had two great comedy central specials, all this stuff. The first thing I did was I just wanted to know what it would feel like. I had this calling that says, and I said, what would happen if I ate raw vegan for 90 days? Now, no part of me is saying this is about raw veganism, but it was a calling in me to know what would happen if like, I didn't cook everything and everything was, you know, just based on plant-based food. After 30 days, what happened was someone walked by me

with a hot dog, and all I smelled was chemicals and metal. And I noticed that my taste buds have changed. So that started this revelation that like I thought I was just going to get fit and I was, but I was also discovering I was needing less sleep, I was getting more present. And as I kept going, I was like, well, what else is feeling heavy the way

all that bad food did? So I was like, okay, no Facebook for a while. And then I was like, I actually, even though I love dating and I love parting, and I was like, what if I don't date anyone for a while? And that was a tough hour, I'm just kidding. And I was like, what if I don't date, right? And, and the belief was, if I don't, I can measure what I will lose. I can't see what

I'll gain. So I started having these incredible peaceful nights. And I noticed that people that I'd always wanted to date and never would date me suddenly were willing to date, they were almost you don't, you don't wanna go out with me, even? Like, I've been trying my whole life to date you, but now that I'm not this needy guy and in my power, I notice things would come to me and I still would say no, because my body was changing.

So around day 45, I noticed that stand-up comedy at one point my dream career started feeling heavy to me. And I'm not saying-up comedy, at one point my dream career, started feeling heavy to me. And I'm not saying comedy itself is. I'm saying to me, it felt like my childhood dream felt like it's running its course, and something's trying to move me to a higher alignment. So while I was at this great place in my career, literally in 2009, they had a thing called

the Comedy Central Stand-Up Showdown. I won it. It was like the greatest comics and it was like this thing. We had 238,000 votes. It was a crazy thing. And in 2010, at the height of this, I decided I don't want to do it. And so my friend and I were filming a thing and I said I'm done doing comedy clubs on the road and this moment happened that we actually have on tape where auditions started showing up and I'm not making a claim of a cool it might be a coincidence but it was really weird. The week after that I was supposed to be in a comedy club but I noticed that when I said goodbye to doing comedy clubs, the part of me

that was also doing comedy clubs to like get approval from my mom or to prove something went with it. And I had this moment where I was really clear and I had this part of my body that says, what would happen if you combined this awareness of what you're doing with comedy? And I thought the way that I'm doing it, I don't know if anyone's done it. And that was at first a negative, but then my soul was like, yeah, no one's ever done it. So what would happen if you combine comedy and transformation this way?

And I was like, no one's ever done that. Like that's my field. I could do corporate parties and shift the team and make them laugh. I could do, you know, the lecture circuit at the colleges. So in this place of inspiration, I called my friend Diego, and I said, what if we make, this was crazy,

but I said, what if we make a video for everyone who booked me as a comedian at their college by name? So we sat there, and I remember, we made like 500 videos. So I'm literally saying into a camera, hi, this is for Diane Johnson at North Idaho University. You might remember me as a comic.

I want to do the lecture circuit. And I had friends that were going, dude, you could be headlining a comedy club. What are you doing? And I was like, let me try this. And then as time went on, like, a hundred of them maybe said yes at like three times the rate of me as a comic. And all of a sudden I'm suddenly went from doing like a week at a comedy club for less

pay to doing what's like my thing. That's like one gig, saying my truth, one gig, flying home, more income. And the only thing I knew was I can see I'm not making money at that college and then all of a sudden this thing happened. And then I had an agency that was a big agency that was taking 10% of these gigs. And my justification for keeping them was they get me auditions for movies though. So I have a rule with myself that if I justify why I keep something, I have to let go of it. My daughter, I don't justify keeping her. Right, I don't go.

Well, she's really getting good medical benefits, so I think I'll keep her as my daughter. But I also don't justify this or why I wrote this book. But we know when we go, I hate this job, but I'm going to get a raise soon. This person treats me like crap, but they did take me to a nice dinner that one time. That's you ignoring your body and needing to create a mental understanding of why you're actually

disconnecting from your heart. So huge. Right? Huge. So I could say, well, I want to keep this huge agency because they give me auditions. So I knew I had to go with them. OK.

I love it. So I called them and I like to go with them. And they were really were like, what? No one's fired us. Like, we handle Tom Hanks. I know. I got to go with you. Not literally, they handle Tom Hanks

if you're fact checking this. I don't know if they do. But they're a huge, that type of company. Two weeks after that, this is where it got almost the weirdest thing and made me really question what life is. Jim Carrey and Eckhart Tole created an event called Gate. They combined forces. Okay.

Dude, that's like my fantasy. And they're the most opposite energies. Like that's on a scale of Eckhart to Jim Carey. How excited are you? Right. And they created an event called Gate, Global Alliance with Transformational Entertainers. And they called me, the people there asked me to speak on the stage.

And now that I had let go of the agency, I was someone who didn't even need that agency. I didn't even need that agency. I didn't even need, I could say no to dating those type of, you know, relationships I've always wanted. I could say no to the addiction to Facebook. I could say no to needing to market myself. I am someone who doesn't even need to do

what at one point was my dream career. I'm in highest alignment, I think I could be. And I felt equal in certain ways to Eckhart and Jim Carrey. And it was an honor to be there. And I realized I'm as special also, not the unworthy guy who's trying to keep an agency happy and all this shit. So when I walked on stage, it was all off the cuff.

And I said, Jim Carrey and Eckhart totally were forth row. And I said, this is crazy, because I'm told all the time that I'm what would happen if Jim Carrey and Eckhart totally had a baby. And I said, I don't know if you guys are picturing that. Eckhart, it's a thought, so you don't have those, so you're probably not. And then I said, some of you might think Eckhart's offended,

but it's in the past, so Eckhart doesn't even know about it. I like, all of this, like spiritual stand-up started happening, and a voice was forming on its own off the cuff, All of this like spiritual stand-up started happening and a voice was forming on its own off the cuff and here was the craziest part. Producers and directors were in the audience and they started coming up to me and offering me roles in movies. So the part of me that wanted to get additions

for movies died and suddenly was able to receive offers. Like the thing that you think you need to get the thing you want is often in the way. I wanna feel love. If only I was dating someone. No, no, no, no, feel love directly. Yes. I wanna feel abundant.

If only I had money. No, feel abundant directly. I wanna get movies. Okay, well guess what? The directors will start showing up in your audience when you change your alignment and stop moving like this cattle-call person that needs to audition for everything and is unworthy and please put me in your thing.

Like, I'm awesome. So that- You're awesome. Gosh! That's one of my favorite stories of all time, because this decision you've made to step into your truth and who you were ends up being not coincidental at all that kind of the first of its kind ever event

ends up existing that you can step right into. These different dimensions and different rooms you can you find yourself stepping into everybody when you make these decisions are remarkable. And that was my question for you. Yeah. Like I already, we're out of time, but I have to ask this, okay, because it was my question for the day

and it leads to that. And I get asked it a lot, and over the years, my answer has gone back and forth about this topic, and you were in there, but I wanna ask you it directly. And it's this concept of separating from outcome. So Wayne Dyer and I had this conversation,

and I've always believed in being goal-oriented and having specific things that you want to achieve, although that is sort of projecting into the future. Then there's this other belief that is if we just separate from outcome and we are who we are intended to be, that these things, these different spaces that we can't even imagine will begin to exist for us. Right. It's an interesting topic to me. It's one that I've explored throughout doing the show, I've explored throughout my life.

I've sort of navigated both things. Dr. Joe D'Spenza and I have these deep conversations about that. How do you feel about that concept of separating from outcome yet having a vision of something you want to achieve because that vision is in the future? Yes. Right? So it's the number one question I had for today

and I hope everybody stuck around to the very end because I'm fascinated to hear your answer about it. Well, maybe you can use the vision like a ladder rum, okay? But really enjoy the step up, really enjoy the process. So like if we were like doing this interview, but from the beginning said, we better get it this good. It has to hit a million, you know 10 million views. We have to whatever We wouldn't enjoy this true. Right? Yes. We'd be so much more stuck and making an outcome more of our God than we are

and the creativity that came through like like, you know, if I had a full, everything I need to say, right, then what happens in life when something happens that's different than that? That's different than your expectations, right? So yeah, you can have that outcome, but also get excited about the creativity on the way, because your expectations are what get hurt. And what I've really learned, and I've talked about this on different shows,

is that no one's ever broken your heart. They broke your expectations. And by breaking your expectations, they got you closer to your heart. And realize that any outcome you can come up with is still the biggest you can see in this moment and it's still very small. The biggest outcome I can see for myself from here is nothing compared to what I could create this year

because I'm not including all the new insights, possibilities that I'm going to have tomorrow and the next day. So the greatest vision I have for like the end of this year It's gonna be awesome but I'm not including April and May and all the All the other insights I'm going to have like I didn't know that I was going to be on this podcast So any goal that I made before I met you wouldn't have included this as a possibility So it actually the greatest goal you could see is a total limitation. So use it as a ladder run,

but also be willing to adjust and keep, okay, now that I know this, I'm gonna bring this in, while still having kind of some ability to be flexible and let the goal follow you too. I love that answer. We promised at the beginning today, Kyle. Brother, we should go three hours.

I would love to. Everybody sit in their own, everyone's sitting there going, please keep going. We promised something in the beginning in your last answer, all your answers. Simple, true, and profound. And my own example, my own life, is evidence of what you just described.

So many things today were so wonderful and beautifully stated, you're remarkable. You're remarkable. And I want people to interact with you. He has my endorsement, everybody. And there's this movie you've created. There's the programs you have. There's your social media.

I would be remiss if I just had you wanted to not direct them to more of you. So where should they go to get more of you? So my website's KyleSeast.com. Anyone can write me at infoatkyleseast.com. And what I'm so excited about is we've made a movie and our only thing with the movie is to spread consciousness. There's not like we got to hit this many, we got to whatever. It's totally free on the website. It's literally,

you don't have to do anything. Go to the website. It's KyleSeast.com slash movie. And it's, you know, when I was younger, I saw a movie that you and I both connected on Wayne Dyer did a movie called The Shift in 2006. I remember how much that movie affected my life. In fact, I do my meditation retreats that people also can come to. I do my meditation retreats at a silamar in Monterey, which is where that movie was filmed. Yeah, in Shrachter. I do it all in nature.

We live there to do these events. And we made a movie that's also the movie version of this book. This book is totally different, but also this is a great companion or you can watch it on its own. The movie is called The Illusion of Money as a documentary and it's my version of what I learned from the ship. I just remember how much it affected my body when I saw Wayne Dyer's the shift. And so I wanted to create that for anyone that's receptive or feels that. And so please go to KyleSeast.com,

CEASE, the Wade Spell Seast Fire, KyleSeast.com, slash movie, it's totally free. And we also have a thing where we used to have all my content as a thing, you can buy this thing also separate. We have kind of a membership site that's totally affordable because I really enjoy bringing in the mainstream and not just kind of elite. So it's a $29 a month thing.

And it's got all of my content in every Wednesday night. I do a live answering questions thing, and we unfold and we've done, like, I don't know, 80 of them so far, something like that. It's a community of people that are all here to grow. It's just opening our heart, and I promise you, that will make you more receptive to achieving more as a byproduct.

But instead of just being like, I gotta get, I gotta get, we gotta be, and it will come to us. So, and the book's awesome too, please pick up the book. It's killer. You're awesome. Thank you. You are. You're today.

About half a million of people, thank you. This really made a difference in my life. I knew it would, and now I'm so grateful because I know it's made a difference in all of these folks' lives that are listening driving watching YouTube's modify iTunes all the platforms so Kyle. Thank you. I love you, brother Love you to man. I enjoyed today. I did too. I honestly exceeded my expectations So hey everybody I you know, I want to connect with you to I bring you some of the most fascinating people on earth Who make a difference in your life and every day? I'm trying to connect with you

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