THE ED MYLETT SHOW - Ed Mylett - Don't Die In Your 20's!

Episode Date: November 7, 2017

The Grey Avenue is South America's #1 business podcast and they had Ed Mylett join them this week to cover a variety of topics from fitness, to finding motivation, to what #MaxOut really means to Ed. Listen to "Don't Die In Your 20's" here!

I say often in many of my talks that most people die in their early 20s. We just don't get around to burying them until their 70s or 80s. And they do. This person dies in their early 20s. The world just starts to get you to conform. It gets you to be like everybody else. It gets you to slow down. It gets you to be realistic.

It gets you to pace yourself. It says all these messages that really are die, die, die, because you're either growing or dying in the minute you stop growing, that's death. For listening to The Great F Podcast. Great, really, really, really, my best. We need inspiring people from around the world. That's a great. Ladies and gentlemen, we are preparing to make our final descent into the gray avenue.

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Here with some guzzman in this grey and this is another episode of the grey. Our podcast and for those of you listening to this podcast for the first time, this is where I have the interpreneurs, the hustlers, the ballers, and the curious minds all together, and I try to interview them. I have to, you know, chat to them a little bit and then through the conversations, we can learn from the experiences and the successes and failures, and in that way, we can apply those lessons

to our own lives. And today is no different. I have Ed Mylett on the show. I'm talking Ed Mylett the chairman of the BFG the peak performance coach and I mean the Ed Mylett podcast some of you know about it yes I had guys like Tony Robbins over there grand card on in a few other ballads so he's gonna give you that energy to actually say okay man enough please I'm gonna get off my bat and go there and kill it. That's what I get when I'm listening to Ed. So I've been following Ed for a while,

he has hand and impact in my life personally. And this just makes me feel better that I've actually had managed to pull him on my podcast and then share that content with you guys because this episode definitely is also going to give you the same energy that I've actually absorbed from him just by following him in a while. So you can check him out on his on podcast, on his website it's edmailet.com that's edmylet.com

and you can just use the same name, his on Instagram, his on Twitter, Facebook, guys, there's no excuse for that. So, I hope you guys enjoy it. Which I know you will. This was a blast to me. I learned a lot. And man, it's just, you know, it's only positive to over here, man. This guy likes to share what he knows with the world. And for my point of view, he doesn't even have to do that. He's a highly successful guy doing incredible work in the world,

but he still has time to, you know, to come on a show like mine, you know, to make Facebook videos on Instagram videos, just to teach other people how to do it and how to get it. So I hope you definitely enjoyed it. Please share with your friends and family. They definitely need to hear this and live from Cape Town, South Africa.

My name is Gray, Javesee. I'll see you on the other end of the line. Enjoy. It's an early day here. I was at the World Series last night with my son. In fact, Grant Cardone and I were together and Tony Robbins at the World Series last night. So it was quite a night. Yeah, I saw you on Instagram, I think you guys had a lot of fun, definitely. We do. we usually do. Yeah.

Have you been, yeah, I'm calling from Kip's House to that figure by the way, by the way, I don't know if you've ever been there at all. I've never been there, but I took a, I had my office tell me a bunch of stuff about you, so I'm relatively familiar and very impressed with some of your programs. I've already listened to quite a few. Oh, wow, thanks so much. Really appreciate that. Yeah, you're a very good interviewer.

I mean, you're very talented. Oh wow man, great. It means a lot to hear it from you man. Thank you. So I've definitely been on your content for quite a while. Man, you're like one of those uncles that you've never made, but you know, you always have to shake out to hear some new content or,

you know, get motivated. I'm really impressed by everything that you do and what you're thankful for. Thank you, brother. Well, hopefully we won't meet. That's, I was at that kind of relationship for many years with Tony and, you know, now we're neighbors in two different neighborhoods. So you never know. Life changes and brings people together that are supposed to be. Oh, yeah, that's certain true Yeah, so I will actually a few days ago I was watching one of your interviews with with Grant Okay, so one thing that stood out to me was that you you said your Naturally small a small guy and you have saved this in a couple of interviews before yeah

I'm curious like how did you, what are the ingredients to actually build a body to that level? Because I'm a small dude myself, I think I've been fast and metabolism, then we have a lot of people. But I don't know if this is a lot of workout or information of diets or food, I mean, I don't know. Yeah, well, it's a good question. For me, probably I was small and I'm still not a big person. Even my joints and stuff. If you look at my wrists and my just the size I am, I'm small bone even. So to speak, I mean, I don't know if they're larger, bigger bones, but when you look at me, you know, some guys have these big hands and, you know, wrists and I don't have that. So for me, when I went away to college, I played

college baseball when I got there, weighed 150 pounds and they basically just told me, if you don't gain weight, you don't get in the weight room, you're not going to ever play. And I was lucky. There's a football coach here in the United States, very well known guy named John Grooton who also he does money night football here. He's sort of a really well known guy. I want a super bowl.

And he was my weight and strength coach, my freshman year of college. And so he got me passionate about lifting weights and we'd work out together late at night when other guys left. And so for me, my weight gain over time has really been over time. It's been, you know, four, five, six pounds a year. And it just, I do, I have this thing on my podcast where I go through my fitness and my nutrition routine really specifically like how many calories I eat and the amount of protein I take and my reps and how I do that I kind of go into a lot of detail there so it's just been time over over the period of time for me the big key is is Protein I got to eat for me to gain weight. I got to eat my protein

I got to eat as much protein as my body weight a day. That's sort of my rule of thumb So right now I weigh about 200 pounds. I have to eat 200 grams of protein a day, or at least ingest that, in order to maintain or gain weight, otherwise I lose muscle, just the way my body works. So that's been the key. Right, yeah, then maybe I should give to some of that to myself as well. So you're definitely, you know, a very successful guy,

I mean, you're still killing it. You, you, you, you say that you're working on your way to the B, which I'm definitely sure that's gonna be, and that's close, you know, what you're definitely gonna do with your dedicated person. But for those of you who are not familiar with AID, like how do you describe yourself in a few words? Huh, that's a great question.

I think, well, I think other people who know me well, probably tell you I'm a pretty intense person, and I'm really intense. And in a bad way, I think other people who know me well, I'll probably tell you I'm a pretty intense person. And yeah, I'm really intense. And in a bad way, I hope, but certainly, those of you that are listening is that are intense people. We have to keep a governor on that when we're not around people that are like us.

But I think I'm really fascinated with trying to find who I'm capable of becoming. Like just that process fascinates me. A lot of the stuff I have on like, you know, social media or edmila.com, I have like max out that's sort of my tagline. And that's not just in the gym because there's guys far stronger and bigger than I am in the gym.

It's just I try to max out my moments of life. I try to max out my enjoyment, max out my productivity. And because when you stack up those little days, right, you stack up those little hours, we've all done this before. You know, you look back in a month or a year or three years you go, wow, I really grew a lot. And maybe because I was small when I was little when I was younger rather, I am fascinated with how things can change and how much better can I'm and I'm also fascinated great in other people. Like I'm I'm in love with other people's potential. Their capacity to see how good they can get. And when people start to meet that person, you know, I always say the dream end of a life would be that as you pass away,

or you're at the end of your life, you are introduced to the person you were capable of becoming, and you're familiar with them. You shake hands and it's like you've known them forever. A terrible life would be at the end of your life, you meet this person, you could have been and you're total strangers. And I don't want to meet that guy person, you could have been and you're total strangers. And I don't wanna meet that guy someday, 60 years from now and be a total stranger. I wanna know him really well. I wanna have been him. So I'm just fascinated with that whole journey.

Like every day I am. That is a very good analogy and look at it because you turn them on yourself right there, right? The other person you're definitely fascinated by is meeting your actual self in future somehow. Yeah, well, I give you an example. I have a my son's 15 and it's a, you know, thing stand out to you in your life like just odd moments, right? Like they're just, you know, random moments of life. And I remember I was at a car wash when my son was six years old and he

was with me on my lap. And this about a 40 year old guy, I was probably about 30 early 30s at the time. Just like it struck me right. I wasn the time. You just like it struck me, right? I wasn't a major event, but it struck me. And the guy goes, you better enjoy that six year old because he'll be a seven year old soon and the six year old's gone forever. And I go, what do you mean? And he goes, oh, you're just going to see him change and grow. And you won't even recognize him someday.

The six year old will be nothing like the 10 year old, you know, and I thought to myself, I didn't say it, but I thought to myself and talking to this man, you know, when did that process stop for you? You know, like when did you stop growing like that? Because I don't want, I don't want the 50 year old ed my let to be like the 46 year old ed my let. I want to have that same. It shouldn't stop between six and eight or eight and 10 or 10 and 15 or 15 and 20 or 20 and 25. It ought to be a journey of your life that that that six year old is gone forever. And there's a new seven year old.

And you know what? The 45 year olds gone forever. And there's now a 46 year old version of you. And so I just that struck me and it just reminded me like, I don't ever want to be that guy where like, you know, I'm the same guy I was three years ago, same life, same thoughts, same happiness level, same body, same money. I don't want to have any of the same things I have now. I want to be better. So this is stood out to me. That is so deep, because it seems like where it's okay to change and grow when you're younger. It's kind of expected of you to be like

you're changing. Okay. Now I'm 12 and people take a lot of pride of that say, oh, now on 14 on the turn 17 now they like 18 or you just 10 20 and then maybe after 21 you kind of like you have a defined mode of who you are and then you there's a risk of just keeping that forever, you know, until it's just being the same person. Grey, you're so right and I think you've picked about the age when it happens. I say often in many of my talks that most people die in their early 20s. We just don't get around to burying them

until their 70s or 80s. And they do. This person dies in their early 20s. The world just starts to get you to conform. It gets you to be like everybody else. It gets you to slow down. It gets you to be realistic. It gets you to pace yourself. It says all these messages that really are die, die, die,

because you're either growing or dying in the minute you stop growing, that's death. And it happens up. Now, the good news is, if you're one of those people you're hearing this, right, I always tell people this, like, you can turn that around in an instant, and boom, in one decision, you say, you know what, I'm stopping that.

I'm gonna start growing. And they may say, well, you know, I don't have a new business I'm starting. I don't have something I'm passionate about. You just start growing by entering new information, reading new books, you know, listening to people like you or Tony Robbins or myself and getting involved with their following them, just feeding yourself new thoughts and inspiration and information. That's the process of the turnaround.

That's the growth. That's the catalyst that can change your life because you don't want to die at 25. You don't want to die at 35. In fact, your greatest fear is to die. The greatest fear in the world for people, even people of great faith like I have is to die. And they picture that like physically dead.

But you can also be spiritually and mentally and emotionally dead too. And that's almost worse to walk around physically healthy but inside be dead. And so you can turn that around right now in an instant just by making that decision that you're going to start growing again. You may not even know where it's going to go. You may not even know what the business is. You may not even know what it's going to look like, but you know you want to grow. You know you want to change. And you know what's interesting, just boom, making that commitment right there, that one commitment makes you different than 90% of the

people in the world right there you've entered the top 10 20% and so that's what I had encouraged people to do don't don't allow yourself to die that slow death of life without dreams and vision and inspiration right so that's really really great and you know it leads up to the actual men's subject that I wanted to discuss with you, because you're definitely like an uncle, and you grow up in a different area than I am right now. So there's a lot of things that are different. Number one, probably you didn't have this problem you're self-growing up,

is that with the coming of social media, the way we, my generation specifically, the way we think of gratification is usually coming from the outside. How many likes do I get? How many clicks or anything like that. And this really cuts deep to the personal level, you know, out of social media to the point where for you to feel like you are actually doing something, you need validation, but like you say now that everybody out there usually is telling you,

like, die, die, die, don't grow down to this. And then it becomes so difficult for people to do things that would improve their life just because they worried about what other people think about them. If they don't get a light for it, then it's not validated for them to do it. So I don't know what you think about a problem like that, or how you grew up and how you could attach that.

Well, I gotta tell you, I can't believe how right you are about that. And social media is wonderful, right? Because it gives us access to information and people, but I gotta tell you that the number one killer of, if you wanna call it dreams, or someone reaching their ultimate potential, is their addiction to other people's approval. So everyone talks about drug addiction, alcohol addiction, sex addiction, whatever it is.

And those are powerful addictions. But the most prevalent addiction in the world today is the addiction to other people's acknowledgement and approval. And social media does contribute to that. And for me, and I have that too, by the way, I think everyone to a degree struggles with it. You know, I still want people to like me. I want people to approve of me. I think that's just human nature. But I don't and it's not a necessity for me in order to make progress because not only are people dying in the world want you to die, but the minute you begin to try all of these adversaries,

these haters, these naysayers come out and you know, in the world, you get to remember this, 80% of the people are good and about 20% of the people any given time, they're probably good people. They're just operating negatively. They're tearing you down there. They're not feeling good about themselves. They take it out on you or maybe they really love you and they don't yet see the benefit of whatever business you're in or endeavor you're trying to teach. So because they love you, they're pulling you back or they're afraid you're going to grow

past them. But 2.5% of those people, and I got to tell they love you, they're pulling you back or they're afraid you're going to grow past them. But 2.5% of those people, and I got to tell you guys this, they're not good people. They're out to get you. They're out to harm you. They want to sabotage you. And these are people you're not going to turn around. You need to identify who those people are. You need to get them out of your life because the 20% is you can deal with them.

They'll be good or bad. They'll turn around. When you're winning, believe me, they'll be happy for you. These 2.5% are out to get you and they're there for a reason. And so you got to identify some of these people and get them out. And this addiction thing, but you know, I'll tell you, Gray, the thing I would tell people is, is that you're never going to gain their approval. In fact, some of the people you're literally doing it for, like your family, you may not even approve now of what you're doing. What I can tell you is

that when you get to the other side, more of them will come, but even then they're going to go, oh, he's all about money. He's all about fame. She's all about success. You know, there's always going to be critics in your life. But if you believe in what you're doing, if you validate you, if you're a person of faith, if you are God and you are on the same page, that's what you need. Because at the end of your life, at the end of your life, which is really what you're working towards,

most of these people aren't gonna be there. These people on social media aren't gonna be at your funeral. They're not paying your bills, right? They're not here to help you. They're just in the story of your life, you're the main character. You are, you're the leading man or woman in the story of your life.

And there are other people that are the characters, you know, best supporting woman, best supporting this. But the rest of them are just B roll. The rest of them are background actors. They're just the face and the crowd. You know, at the end of a movie, if you watch the credits, it'll have the five or 10 main characters by name. And then if you keep watching at the end, it'll say the guy in the cab, lady in the bar number three, you know, you see that stuff at the end of them, they're not even named. These are the people in your life you can't worry about because they're not even named. They're the lady in the bar. They're the guy in the cab. They're not significant in your life. And so you got to eliminate them and worry about the

main characters of your life, especially the leading man or woman, which is you. That's how you get ahead is not worried about what everybody thinks about you. Break that habit. It's fascinating to the point that a lot of people are there. There are things that are definitely positive, right? But then they're perceived as negative for like no reasons. Like somebody would be drinking a lot of alcohol. People don't really see it as a problem. But if you're working on yourself, like try to sell your products for social media or talking about your products, people would be like, oh, he's always above money as if it's a negative thing. So, you know, once I realized that I was like, why is it that things that actually would

improve your own life are acted upon as negative, whereas the actually negative things actually nobody seemed to care about them probably because everybody does them out there. It's pretty fascinating. one life are acted upon as negative, where are the actually negative things actually nobody seem to care about them probably because everybody does them out there. It's pretty fascinating. You know what, you're right. And let me tell you, there's symptoms and then there's the disease, right?

So I kind of think that this addiction other people's approval is a symptom. And the disease, the cause is lack of confidence, lack of self-confidence. And so, and so, I'm gonna help you treat it if you think you have that issue. That's a symptom. It's like if you've got a cold, you have the sniffles,

you don't treat the sniffles, you treat the cold, right? So, I think addiction to other people's approval is the sniffles of life. The disease is lack of self-confidence. And if you can, see, confident, people, self-confident people, they, if you think about it, the most self-confident you know, truly self confident, they're not addicted to other people's approval. They're not, they're on their own track. They're worried about what they and their God think and the key people in their world. And so here's what I would tell you if you want to improve your self confidence. This is a huge key because when I meet self confident people, you know, and I oftentimes when you meet someone that's self confident, they border on arrogance, they border on concede, you know, and sometimes people misjudge

confidence for arrogance. But when I meet someone that's confident, whether it's a professional athlete that's outstanding at what they do or a business person or even a great mother who just knows she's a great mom, right? You know why they have self confidence? They have one thing in common, all of them. They keep promises they make to themselves. So the most confident people have a very basic thing that they're never taught. If you make a promise to yourself, keep it.

And that's a brick in the wall. Make another problem. Whether it's, I'm gonna get up at a certain time and you do it. I'm gonna make a certain amount of phone calls in my business and you do it. I'm gonna work out at a certain time or I'm gonna discipline my diet a certain way.

And you do the things, not that you tell other people, you do the things you tell yourself. And when you do that over time, you build a reputation with yourself that you can trust you. And once you know you can trust you, not other people, not promises you make to other people, promises you make to you. Now you flip that thing you said earlier, Gray, and now you're internal. Now everything that drives you from inside because you trust you, when you don't trust you,

you look outside of yourself, and then you're addicted to this approval. So the treatment for the disease of addiction to other people's approval is self-confidence. And the prescription for self-confidence is keeping promises that you make to yourself. Now it's an internal game that you build up and you don't need the external.

That should help so many of your folks. For sure, man, that's definitely powerful. And actually one thing that I hear you say a lot is that I mean, a lot of people who actually listen to this podcast, whether entrepreneurs or entrepreneurs in some ways, you actually say being an entrepreneur is messy. You know, in a lot of people,

it's sort of expected to be smooth and don't even say it about it. Like, if you're going for your dreams, man, you can't really be safe about it. Then anybody can would have done it. And if it was that easy. So a lot of people are expecting it to be like, you know, easy as everyday life. Yeah. That's a fallacy. In fact, it's you're so spot on because in fact, your desire to keep things organized is just going to

slow you down and hold you back. See, I've been broke many times. So people see the after now and they go, oh, you know, houses are cars are money or whatever. And by the way, I don't have anything on debt. Everything you see I have if you're on Instagram following me there or Twitter, YouTube, whatever, you see those things. I want them all cash my jet. I paid cash all three of my homes, my main homes at paid cash, all my cars, all my boats, everything is cash. I don't have a loan on anything. So it's real. That's important because I don't love debt. And other guys out there will preach debt. And that's fine. I'm not a big debt cash. I don't have a loan on anything, so it's real. That's important, because I don't love debt. And other guys out there will preach debt,

and that's fine. I'm not a big debt guy. I don't like stress, but I'll get to tell you that you're 100% right about it. It's gonna be messy. The story of an entrepreneur, if you really watched it, is ugly. The truth is, winning is ugly.

Receiving the trophy is beautiful, right? I was at the World Series last night in the Houston Astros here in the United States beat the Dodgers for the World Series and I was sitting free rows behind home plate. And so Grant Cardone was in front of me. Tony Robbins was with me. Larry King from CNN sat in front of me. By a bunch of very successful people were right where we were sitting because the tickets

were, you know, thousands of dollars. In some cases hundreds of thousands of dollars. And I was thinking, if the camera panned here, everybody would think these people have these beautiful, incredible lives, right? And the truth is that they do now, and it looks beautiful. But if you just seen them 10 years ago, 15 years ago, 20 years ago, it was a mess. It was ugly. Everybody thought they should quit.

They were in stress. They were even chaos. Sometimes many of us didn't pay our bills on time. And so you gotta know the winning is ugly. The receiving the trophies, beautiful. So you gotta embrace the ugly. You gotta embrace the mess. You gotta know that you're,

now I don't recommend you stay in that state long. I think you should do everything you can to get out of it. I don't think you should be comfortable there. But the fact, most people think, oh, the fact that it's not working, the fact that it's a mess, the fact that my life is a zoo right now, is God telling me to stop, or it's a sign it isn't meant to be, or any of this other crap that people tell you is bullshit, it's not true at all.

The truth of the matter is, is that every one of us went through that, and it's what makes it sweeter when you get to the other side. So you have to embrace the chaos, embrace the mess. Don't try to organize it all. You have to charge through these things and just know, my let was broke a couple times. I know what it's like to go to the bank machine and pray there's $21 in there

so I can pull 20 out. I know what that's like. I know what that's like to have your mobile phone turned off. I know what it's like to have a car repossessed. I know it's like to lose a house. And so yeah, when I walk into one of my $30 million of our houses on the ocean, I do appreciate it more than some guy who would inherit it.

Cause I know what it was like to have a house repossessed that sucked anyway. I know it's like to have a damn Honda repossessed. So when I get in a Ferrari and I own it cash, I appreciate it just a little bit more. And so will you someday. Wow. You know, it reaches back to a story of one of the guys

that I've interviewed on this podcast, Matt Prado, was talking about the same story of saying, everybody on Instagram is posting cars and rush-set motors. And a lot of people gravitate to that, but they don't realize the story behind it on how, you know, what they had to go through to actually make it to that level.

So one question that I've always wanted to ask you is, as you were coming up, did you actually decide to become successful or in your study of successful people, in friends around you, do these people actually design in their head that I really want to be successful, have say multiple homes, lots of money, hope, and family, or whatever that is, or it's something that you just do and then suddenly it happens. That's interesting,

because I've asked people that same question. And in my case, I was raised, I guess what you would call probably middle class, which sometimes I think is the hardest place to win from. Because if you raise wealthy, you know, at least you've seen what a great life looks like, even though maybe you don't have the drive, but at least you've seen it. And if you raise very poor, you know what you don't want.

And there's an advantage to that, I think, ironically. You raise kind of middle class. That's hard because it's average. It's good. And most people in their life settle for average. Most people, the end of the great book that Collins wrote, good is the end of me to great, right? And so in my case, I gotta tell you,

probably when I started out, my dreams have grown just like a muscle, right? My vision for my life has grown as I've gone. So my first big dreams were relatively simple. I wanted to get financially independent. I wanted to be debt-free and financially independent. I must have said, I'm not kidding you, Greg, I probably 100,000 times in my life,

I would tell myself to the people, I just wanna be debt-free, financially independent. I would tell myself to the people, I just want to be debt-free financially and depend. I just wanted to own a house, outright, have some cash, have a good life. I was more motivated in the beginning out of not being broke than I was out of being rich. But as time went on and I started to taste my life a little bit and taste my dreams and start to be around, I always have tried to put myself in a position where I was associating with people that were two or three or four steps ahead of me in life and the areas that mattered to me. And so in my body, when I wanted to get fit, I got a chance blessing-wise to get the

no slice to loan a little bit. And I said, boy, I'd like that body. So, you know, Rocky Balboa's body or businessmen that I was around that were ahead of me. And so it was more like their life stretched my vision. It gave me ideas because my normal brain probably didn't think about life like that. I'm not, it's ironic. I'm not naturally that materialistic. I wasn't raised with that. I was actually kind of raising a family

that sort of put that down a little bit or thought maybe people who got wealthy did it through bad means. And so that's why I do think it's cool within measure to see things on social media that are nice because it can give you ideas. I'd like to live there, that would be cool. I'd like to do that for my church. I'd like to have that kind of freedom.

And so it was, for me, there wasn't social media. It was real people in my life, right? But I think social media can do that. I think it can help. As long as you know when you're watching it, there's an ugly story behind that beautiful house, you know, there's an ugly story behind that boat. And as long as you embrace the ugly, it's fine. So the answer is no. I did not have huge dreams, but now I do. And now it's, you know, there's a great book called The Dream

Catcher. And the theory of it to me is like, basically, once you start catching dreams, even your small ones, it's like a momentum that takes place. Once you catch one, you catch another. It's kind of like that self confidence thing. Now you start actually believing you can do this stuff. And now when you point your mind at something, it's a weapon. I feel like now when I point my mind at an ambition of mine or a vision, it's a weapon fully loaded that has hit a whole bunch of previous targets. Whereas in the beginning, I hadn't hit anything. vision, it's a weapon fully loaded that has hit a whole bunch of previous targets. Whereas in the beginning, I hadn't hit anything.

So now it's scary. You can build momentum in catching your dreams too. I think that's a powerful question. So you have also touched on one important factor there that just reminded me or myself. I actually operate with fear. I think that just turns out to be, it it makes it kind of forces me to be more risk-taking because I know what the bottom is like I started really really at the bottom so yeah I know I know I don't want to be there and I wouldn't allow that to happen anymore

so speaking of your business or your company yeah for example like here so from where you started Yeah, for example, like here so from where you started, you know, as a sports guy who really wanted to do well in sports Transitioning into business. How was that transition like to actually get the hats of saying okay Now you're a business man. You know the business language and all other all these other things did you got a business school? Or how did you work out? No, I got to know my name of my firm's world financial group and what's unique about my company specifically I have to tell you is that there is sort of a mentoring environment set up from the beginning. So it helped me It's sort of like a little bit like a self-contained sort of entrepreneurial environment. So for me I got access to some successful people right away that whole Napoleon Hill Theory and think and grow rich if you find a millionaire. They'll tell you exactly what they did if you do the same things

You're likely to get the same results, right? And for me, not only was it the same things, but it was in the same business. And so the transition wasn't that difficult because a lot of the habits are the same. I mean, it sounds corny, but it's true. Like honestly, getting there earlier, honestly outworking people, really writing my goals down, really staying disciplined, you know, staying a little bit later. Like these are basic things. So I came to business because I wasn't undersized athlete, always having to outwork people just to be average, right? So I had to outwork the guy who was 64240

because I was 510 160, right? And so I had the work habits. What I needed was some mentors who believed in me and showed me the right path. And fortunately for me, in particular business that I got into, there were such people in my view. Now, for many of you listening to this, you're not in that business or in a business like that. And that's why it's incumbent upon you to truly read a lot, read the books of these successful people. Secondly, follow them where they're putting out content wherever you can. I'm dropping this, but I just want to say this because it's all free, but

I have a YouTube channel called Max Out with Ed Mylet. I have a website at mylet.com. There's lots of content on there that I made because I want to pay it forward, because I know a lot of people aren't in my company. They're not in my business. They're around the world listening to this, and I want you pay it forward, because I know a lot of people aren't in my company. They're not in my business. They're around the world listening to this, and I want you to have a mentor. I want you to have somebody to follow, and I'm not the only one out there, but I can help you.

And so I put stuff out there very regularly so that I am sort of nudging you along too. And so mentors are huge, man. And the last thing I'll tell you, there's one other thing I want to say to you, those listening to it. Mentors are powerful because they can influence you, but eventually you need to have someone who's your friend.

Because if you have kids, for example, their school teachers like a mentor, right? They guide them, they give them advice, they give them info, and they make a difference in their lives. But the people who really influence your children, you know this, are their friends. That's who you worry who they hang around because who they hang around is who they're going to become. Same with adults. And so eventually, yeah, you got to read, yeah, you got to get on social media, yes, you gotta go to seminars, you gotta be on your podcasts and other ones.

But eventually, you gotta find somebody in your life who becomes your friend that's ahead of you because then they can influence you tremendously. So always keep your eye out for who that person's going to be that you're gonna turn from mentor to friend. Then your life will accelerate. Right, so that's a very good point that you touched there. And I think let's talk about how do you actually get to those people and talk to them.

In my experience, it has been, I think the people that are up there and successful, they're probably the easiest people to get hold of. It just turns out to be that way for my experience. It's something like to reach out to the smaller guys, there's too much ego for some reason or something like that, but like, or I reached out to you, you know, now we're talking, you know, so, but then I still see a lot of people who really know where they want to be, or you know, they have mental models, the people that they want to be like, yeah, they still take advice, it's like, you know, to some, some of their friends or some other person who is not

even at that level, you know, who is not beyond them, which is I think it's a problem. Well, you're, you're right. So you're, it's amazing, man. Like how on these topics you are, cause I got to tell you, the most, the easiest thing to do is ask, because you'd be surprised how infrequently they get asked. And the, there's a couple of things. The more successful somebody is, it's interesting, because you're spot. A, they are more likely to encourage you to keep going in your business. The lower someone's success is, the more likely they are to tell you slow down, reconsider, maybe you should stop. The more successful people, almost always, if they think it's valid, will tell you keep going. The second thing is, you should reach higher. You should reach

out to them because you'd be surprised. Now, in my case, when people reach out to me, I'll usually respond, I mean, it may take forever with all the people, but I try to get back to people, but the other thing I also do is I'll say, hey, listen, let's, let's, let's make you earn it, but let's do it where it's fair. So, and we'll set up some kind of a game, you know, where, because I think life's a game. I'll say, if you do X or Y, what are your goals right now? You do X or Y, then we'll do a, well, you know, we'll correspond together. I'll invite you to something. And so it's interesting to me how people think, well, the higher someone up is, I shouldn't ask them and you're 100% right. I've been amazed in my life, you know, the people who are now my grant cardone asked me in an

interview we did, he goes, how do you draw these people in? You know, whether it be an athlete or a businessman, you know, like, how in the world do you draw them in? And the truth is I asked, I asked. Is that said, boy? It I asked and also, I'll tell you the other thing. I think that this mentor or this person needs to see some of themselves in you. And so you can't be to stand still

and ask somebody to help you. I can't help you learn to drive a parked car, right? It has to be in motion. And so the one thing I'm looking for is not just desire, but activity, motion, action from somebody. If you're moving, I can help you. If you're at a standstill, I'm not the right guy for you. I can't help somebody standing still.

Right, that's totally amazing. So let's jump into say confidence that you touched. How do you develop confidence? Say like for somebody who has never done any sort of personal, you know, improvement or they have never been into these kind of things, or they don't even realize that they are confidence, they are a problem, that they are, the problem, they just don't have confidence. Where would be the very good point? Well, I've read some stuff on this. So the first thing is what I said earlier, that you got to learn to start to keep promises

that you make to yourself. Then there's just like some good books I've read on it. So I think Tony Robbins has some good technology on it. There's a guy named, his name's Dr. Robert Anthony. Any, if you Google Dr. Robert Anthony. Any, if you Google Dr. Robert Anthony and confidence, he's got some great books. I never mind promoting people who I think written good stuff. He's a different guy. I got to warn you. The way he writes is a little bit eccentric. It's not even dramatically accurate, but some of the

contents outstanding. So that's helped me. And for me, it's, it's celebrating wins. And so, not too much, but celebrating this meaning. I want to always be acknowledging when I've made progress. So anything I do where I've made some progress, I acknowledge it. I say, hey, you did what you said you're going to do. Great job. And the biggest thing that people lack is some clarity. So both I found out like myself, Robyns Cardone, Tom Brady, the quarterback, Cardone, Tom Brady, the quarterback, Phil Knight, the CEO of Nike, for example. We're all, we're very ferocious with our vision and our goals. So I do read my goals every evening and every morning. Grant actually writes them down every morning and every evening and every time he has a loss. And so, I'm saying, I've heard him say that. He's real big on that. And the reason that that's important

is not just to remind you of it. It gives you confidence. A directed person has more confidence than a person who lacks direction. So, an element of self-confidence is just knowing where you're going on being clear. Perfect example. If you've ever been driving in your car,

are you a more confident driver when you've been there a hundred times and you know exactly how to get there? Or driver when you've been there a hundred times and you know exactly how to get there? Or if you've never been there before and you don't have any GPS or map with you, who's more confident? Far more confident. It's autopilot. It doesn't even require you to think if you've been there before. And so I see people that lack confidence. One, they don't keep promises themselves. They don't celebrate their wins, but the biggest thing is they are just not clear on the directions.

They're not clear on when they're going. Just clarity on where you wanna go and how to get there is a massive spike in your self confidence level. So think that through. Like when you're listening to this everybody, how specific, I mean, really detailed, really clear in your mind,

are you with where you're going and also how to get there the directions. Because that GPS, or that fact that you've been there hundreds of other times, like for those of you that you leave work every night, you know exactly how to get home. You're 100% confident you're getting there, and that's because you've been there hundreds or thousands of times. And so keep that in mind for yourself.

The more clear you are, the more you know the directions, confidence goes up. Absolutely. And one thing that in mind for yourself. The more clear you are, the more you know the directions, confidence goes up. Absolutely. And one thing that I also picked up in what you said right now is that anytime I ask a very successful person about a certain subject, there's a few things that I always mentioned, they have already or they have heard it somewhere, it's like the constantly

learning, they're always looking at for new information. And that makes them to know a lot of things and then they would make smarter decisions. So this is what happens to me, for example, right? I'll put a podcast out. I talk about so many different subjects here and I bring a lot of smart people in success. People here like you and you would find somebody who is actually close to me, ask me like, okay, can you help me with this subject? I'm like, dude, I have done a podcast about that with X who and who, you know, we have 12, he's an expert. So, people don't really want, some people don't really want to learn stuff. They just want things to come

like in front of their face. They can't even do a huge, huge research to find something. Yes. Yeah, I can tell you something. that happened to me again today and it happens every single day. I'm telling you every single day somebody will say to me, so how do you write your goals down or what's your plan for personal development? Or I'm like, that's in unlocking your success code on my website. So it's amazing to me like exactly you just said, it's constantly being asked things that I've been doing for a long time. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing

for a long time. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of

things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of

things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing. I've been doing a lot of things that I've been doing years ago, there was a lack of information, right? Like, how do I get this information? How do you, there's almost no topic in the world today that you cannot get access to information on. That's just a fact, right? You can Google it.

There's an expert out there. There's a hundred experts out there. So you being in this state of, I don't know, I'm not sure. I'm confused. That's just total bullshit. It's that you're not trying. You're not seeking it. You don't desire it because there's no way you should be in a state of confused. That's just total bullshit. It's that you're not trying. You're not seeking it. You don't desire it because there's no way you should be in a state of confused.

If you want to learn how to put together a go-cart, you could Google it. If you want to know how to make a chicken Parmesan dinner, you can get that information, right? If you want to learn to play the piano, you want to learn to speak a language. There's information on every single thing on the planet you can get access to. The separator now, honestly, is action, is activity, is busting your ass, is busyness, is hustle. That's the separator. Human commodities is the separator now, which is great for a guy like me, because I'm not all that smart.

I have a particularly high IQ, effect I just took an IQ test, and I was in the 120's. I'm basically average, okay? So I like that there's access to everything because if you get a game, if the game comes down to hustle, if the game comes down to who's got the best idea, if the game comes down to execution,

busting it, wanting it, desire will the win, I'm your guy. And those of you that are listening to it, it's not that you lack info. You gotta check your hustle, you gotta check your desire, you gotta check your work ethic. That's where the winning's gonna be inside you, not outside you. And you gotta be following guys like me

because we'll help you hustle harder. We'll help you hustle smarter, but we can't help you hustle. You gotta do the hustle. Yeah, man, that's the difference. I've been listening to, you know, whether it's you or Grant or Tony Robbins or we ever are, like, in my years, and I'm working, you know, that becomes part of my or Tony Robbins or whatever else like in my years and I'm

working you know that becomes part of my life and then I'm constantly hit with some reality or some wake up cause like okay dude you're gonna go hustle you know because I'm surrounded by that energy around me you know that's what I'm trying to absorb and bring to myself all the time. That's the word, Gray, that's the word it's energy, that's the word you nailed it. Right so let's just jump into one of the word, it's energy, that's the word you nailed it. Right, so let's just jump into one of the last subjects and this behavior. Again, I'm gonna go back to my generation because probably that's it. Most of my listeners right now, you have mentioned that you don't really, you never smoked,

weed or anything like that, but in my generation now, it's kind of like a trend to do that. Like it's actually something with uncool to not smoke is like, okay, you have to. So when people are talking about their goals or whatever they want to do, or they want to change some kind of behavior to become more productive and more successful, I wonder, they don't, nobody really talks about cause of those behaviors. It seems like it's a norm and nobody wanna attack them. But like, those things kind of, you know,

slows you down and you're putting poison somehow in your body, you know, like smoking a lot whatever it is or drinking too much alcohol. And I watch guys like you or Grant, you know, Grant is not a big drinker. It do like 50 cents. For example, doesn't drink or smoke. And then I created all these parties

and I look, I'm like, okay, there's something to pay attention to there. That's something, you mean something? Well, I gotta tell you, most don't. So you can have short-term success if you do this things, but most people you meet that have really long-term and during success, they're not flooding their body with stuff that alters it.

So I don't believe in altering my body. So I drink, I drink wine, I love wine. I'll drink some wine and enjoy myself, but I don't do anything to excess and I've not ever smoked. I do smoke some cigars once in a while if I'm golfing, but I don't smoke any pot or anything like that. And by the way, I know that that's normal. By the way, it's actually normal at my age bracket now.

I mean, it's normal with guys my age. It's a prevalent thing. You know, there's normal. By the way, it's actually normal at my age bracket now. I mean, it's normal with guys my age. It's a prevalent thing. It's, you know, there's this whole stuff. Well, it's better for you than drinking. There's no calories. There's no hangover. You know, maybe it's not as addictive. I've heard all that bullshit.

So here's, here's what I would say about that. Okay. Let's just say that you were right about that. Let's just say, for example, that there's no harm in doing it, which you're wrong. It does slow you down. It does distract you. It sucks desire out of you. People go, well, it helps me chill out. Right. That's the point. You're too chilled out. So it just you're too chilled out. But let me, let me just say to you, here's the big reason not to do it. Let's just say all that weren't

true. It wasn't harmful. It didn't slow you down. It didn't show you out. It didn't dull your senses. Let's say it didn't do any of that, right? Okay. Number one, successful people are telling you that that's a loser behavior. So you ought to just evaluate that. Okay. Just evaluate it. Okay. Tony Robbins doesn't smoke pot.

Tom Brady doesn't smoke pot. I just tell you straight up, I don't smoke pot. Grant Cardone doesn't smoke pot. Gary V. Doesn't smoke pot, right? Phil Knight doesn't smoke pot. You name it. Okay.

Warren Buffett doesn't smoke weed. Mark Zuckerberger, as far as I know, doesn't smoke pot. You name it, okay? Warren Buffett doesn't smoke weed. Mark Zuckerberg or as far as I know, doesn't smoke weed, okay? So he can go as generational as you want. So I, I, look, look, just straight up, Jerry Yang, the founder of Yahoo is one of my neighbors. He doesn't smoke weed, okay? So just so we're clear. Having said that though, let's say it wasn't harmful. Here's what I think you ought to think. Champions, winners, the elite, the extraordinary, don't do what the crowd does in almost anything. Their counter culture, okay. Bill Gates was counter culture, okay.

Counter culture. They never do what the crowd does. And even if what the crowd was doing is okay, studs, champions, don't do what the crowd does because it feeds their confidence. They're like, I'm not doing it, I'm not the crowd, I'm not the sheep, I'm the wolf, right? I don't do it every but I'm not one of the guys. Okay, I don't care what sport you fall, but take golf, right?

Tiger Woods at his peak of his career was not one of the guys. One of the guys is average, okay? I don't want to be one of the guys. So even if it wasn't harmful, when everyone else is doing it, I don't do that. Because I'm not one of the guys, I'm is average, okay? I don't want to be one of the guys. So even if it wasn't harmful, when everyone else is doing it, I don't do that because I'm not one of the guys, I'm not average, I'm not in the pack and I'm never going to let my brain think I'm average, I do what the crowd does, I don't do that, okay? I do what studs do, I do what champions do, I do what the elite does, I don't do what

everybody else does. So if you're doing that, maybe that's the reason to stop. You don't believe it's harmful. You don't believe it slows you down. But when you look around you, everybody's doing it. And by definition, because most of them are doing it, you shouldn't be. That's the answer. Absolutely. And I actually feel good about myself usually when not doing things that everyone else is doing. It makes me exactly. It's made me feel good, actually. That'm probably grateful myself. Great, great, great. Let me tell you something.

Let me give you an example. Because this is right on. I'm passionate about this. People say, what's it like to wake up in an ocean front house or to fly on a jet that you own? Because people, what's that feel like, right? One of the coolest things about it

is I'm doing something right now. Most people aren't doing. You know that, right? It's one of the cool things. There's a feeling and addiction to I'm getting to do things other people aren't doing, right? You can give yourself that feeling like you just said by actually not doing things other people are doing at any time in your life.

You don't have to wait around for the jet, but in fact, if you start to have it now of not doing things other people are doing, okay? I'm telling you that you'll eventually really be doing things other people aren't doing. That's the pattern. Life has patterns. So you can choose. You want to do what everybody else is doing. You want to be in the pack. You will stay there permanently. Okay? But if you want to do things other people aren't doing, that has a pattern in your life too that leads to these places and things you think you want. And you don't get there by doing what everybody else does. I love it. I love it. You know, this interview is going exactly like I thought it would. It really sounds like a classic aid, you know? And now let's let's talk about credit or

debt. Yeah. Definitely something that I don't believe in myself. I've never been in or I don't I don't see myself getting involved into that. I feel like if I can afford it, if I can't pay cash for it, I definitely can't afford it. But at the same time, especially where I live now in South Africa, it's like debt, it's a norm, you know, it's everybody feel like that people don't even think about it anymore, especially on my edge right now, I got people who get shoes, whether it's Nike's, whatever they're getting,

on credit, to me that's ridiculous. So maybe I'm too small to even speak about that. I would love someone like you to actually speak on that. What are your thoughts? Yeah, well great, you have the wisdom of a 300 year old man. So you definitely can speak on whatever you want. I'm enjoying this very much. So here's the deal.

There's an honest disagreement with successful people. Some people that think you should really use debt to get ahead. Some people like me did not use debt to get ahead. And we can have an honest disagreement about that one thing, okay? But here's what I would advise everybody to. There's no disagreement with successful people on this topic. So don't be confused. When you hear me say, don't get into debt and you hear so and so say, use debt, okay? That's a

wealth strategy. There can be an honest debate about that. The Bible says, oh, no man, nothing, for example, okay? But having said that, set that aside. There's no disagreement with successful people about this topic. You should never create debt on a depreciating asset. If you want to have some debt on an appreciating asset, that might be a different story, okay? But no debt on things that depreciate. So no debt on cars, in my opinion, no debt on shoes, no debt on stuff that just goes bad, right? So no debt on going to a restaurant, because that stuff's gone. So I don't ever, ever, ever recommend you go into debt and buy things that are gonna go down in value and borrow against them as you make more payments.

That's a formula for broke, okay? Now, I also have not used debt for appreciating assets, but if you came to me and said, I'm going to borrow money to start and invest in my business. I'm gonna borrow money to invest in this building that I think could create wealth for me. That's an honest debate. That's something you can evaluate. So what I would say to you for sure, no debt on things that depreciate. That's a broke person's approach. And that's by the way, what the crowd does. The crowd buys, the crowd buys

clothes on debt. The crowd goes to dinner on debt. The crowd buys a car they can't afford on debt, right? The crowd buys their personal residence on massive debt. And so I don't recommend that and I know that doesn't work. So that's my stance on debt. Great. And now let's just, to close out, let's just touch on leadership. Because that's one thing that you do best.

Everybody knows about it. You, in one of your talks, you say that you advise your employees or your team to go wide. What does that mean to go wide? When my business wide means expanding their agency, expanding their business, but in the broader sense, going wide to me and being a leader means expanding. So for me, everyone's always heard this before,

but honestly, leadership is everything and it's example. So one of the things I've learned over the years, this is something I challenge you to do. You know the caliber of somebody's leadership in business or life or as a father or a mother. If you do this, turn the movie of their life on and turn the sound off and watch them. So in other words, they can't tell you about what type of business person they are.

They can't tell you about how hard they're working. They can't tell you what a good dad they are because there's no sound in this movie. All you have is moving pictures, okay? And the moving pictures will tell you who somebody really is. People have mastered the art of BS with their words, with vocabulary, with sayings, right? And so you can do this in your relationships too. Turn the sound off. Now how do they really treat you? Turn the sound off. Now what type of business person are they? Turn the sound off. What type of leader are they? And so I start to

watch people with the sound off and I watch what they do. And so in my own case as a leader, I'm always asking myself, if I just turn the volume off of what I'm doing, if someone was just watching me, what type of a leader am I? And so like when I'm on social media, like I'm not telling you to work out, I'm showing you I'm working out.

You could turn the sound off, right? I'm in business. I'm with you right now. I've got another thing I'm doing in 20 minutes. I've got a meeting at two o'clock that runs till six. I've got a meeting from 7 8 30 tonight. I'm jumping on a plane and flying to Canada tomorrow, having a nice dinner and

speaking the next morning, right? So I'm doing it. You could turn the sound off of my life. And so to me, leadership really is the example really is what you do. And the last thing is that I think all great leaders in

business that have people that work for them, they have the ability to look into that person and see their blessings and gifts. They can see this person's capacity. A great leader sees in you the ultimate version of you. They see your giftedness. They see what God gave you when you were born as your ultimate gift, whether it's your math skills

or speaking skills or your passion or your ability to nurture people, or to think critically, or to learn, right? And when you meet somebody in your life who looks at you sincerely, it doesn't just say, oh, you're great, but they say, you're great because. And then they tell you the one or two or three things about you that you know are your natural gifts. That person's a leader. And in your life, if you're listening to this, you can count those people on one hand in your natural gifts, that person's a leader. And in your life, if you're listening to this, you can count those people on one hand in your entire life who really believed in you, can't you? I mean, in your entire life, if I said,

who's believed in you the most, there's a list of one to five people in your entire life. And when you think about them, you get emotional. And that's a leader, a leader's a father, a leader's a mother, a leader's a business woman. And what her great gift is to her team, to her colleagues, to her clients, is that she can see their beauty, she can see their giftedness, she can see their blessings. Because almost nobody in your life's ever seen the real you.

And when you, if you're a leader in business, your job, when you meet people, I don't care if it's a waitress and a restaurant, a server, a flight attendant, a business person, in a boardroom, it's to go, their giftedness is this. I can see their passion, I can see their intellect, I can see their nurturing, their honesty, their faith, their capacity to put numbers together, whatever it is. And when you begin to tell somebody, you're awesome, you're great, you're special because XYZ, and they link it to something they know is true about themselves, you are now a leader

and they will follow you to the end. You are now a leader and they will follow you to the end. That's what a leader does. Awesome. I think with that, we, I mean, we can talk for ages, but I don't want to waste the time here.

I don't really appreciate having you on my podcast. It really, really means a lot. It's been my honor, brother. I've been my honor. I hope we do it again soon. Totally. And I will be in the United States

probably next year. That's one of my goals right now. So I hope that I would meet you if that would be possible definitely. I would definitely love it. Hey Gray, I'd love that. Give me some advance notice so we can really do it. Okay awesome. We definitely do. Alright. Great brother. Have a good day. Have a good nice day. God bless you man. Max out. See you. .