THE ED MYLETT SHOW - How to Find Happiness When You’re Pulled in Every Direction!

Episode Date: September 27, 2025

Stop Chasing Balance—Start Living Fully What if the very thing you’ve been chasing—work-life balance—is actually keeping you stuck, frustrated, and unfulfilled? In this mashup episode, I dive deep into one of the most misunderstood ideas in personal growth and reveal the truth: balance is a myth, and the pursuit of it may be costing you the joy, presence, and fulfillment you’re searching for. I share the real key to creating a life you love—presence. Whether I’m running multiple businesses, spending time with my family, or in the gym, I’ve learned that the quality of my life isn’t about balancing it all perfectly. It’s about being fully present in the moment I’m in. When I walk through my front door, my phone stays in the car so my family knows they are my top priority. When I’m in business, I’m locked in. When I’m in prayer or observing God’s beauty, I’m all there. You’ll also hear about one of the greatest superpowers you can cultivate: becoming an observer of your own life. From holding a hug just a few seconds longer, to noticing the details of a leaf, to truly seeing the people around you—these small acts of observation expand your gratitude, your self-awareness, and your ability to connect deeply with others. And connection is the gateway to influence, impact, and true joy. Finally, I break down the path to lasting fulfillment. Happiness isn’t about money, titles, or things—it’s about finding your calling, your mission, your crusade. Sometimes that’s your career. Sometimes it’s a side cause or a mission that has nothing to do with your job. But it always involves your unique gifts, and it always involves serving others. Wealth, when built on this foundation, gives you the freedom to spend your time on what matters most. That’s where fulfillment lives. Key Takeaways from this episode: Why “work-life balance” is a fallacy—and what to pursue instead The game-changing habit of being fully present in every moment How observation unlocks gratitude, self-awareness, and influence Why your calling doesn’t always have to be your career The true pathway to fulfillment: using your gifts to serve others How wealth, when built on purpose, creates ultimate freedom This conversation is not just about living “balanced”—it’s about living maxed out. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LINKEDIN⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEBSITE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Order now. Alcohol and select markets. Product availability may vary by Regency app for details. One of the questions I get asked all the time is how do I balance my life? You know, people are right now, they have a full-time job. There's a new study out that says more than ever right now. People have a side hustle plus family, fitness, spirituality, all those things. How do you balance them? The first thing I would tell you is that in my estimation, balance is a complete and total fallacy. It's some concept people came up with years ago and personal development self-improvement

that every single person I know that successful understands is impossible. Doesn't mean the pursuit of balance isn't important, but the attainment. of it is a very elusive and I believe not possible probability for somebody who's an achiever. And the reason for that is at any given time in our lives, one of the areas is spiking, whether that's business or family or our finances, fitness, areas spike and surge. There's an ebbs and flow of life that is inevitable. And people who try to seek complete balance become bored. Balance really equals boredom in our life. It means everything's sort of vanilla. Everything is sort of average. But if you're going to max out in an area, more than likely

there's an area not maxing out at that time. Why is that so important? I think so many of us begin to beat ourselves up and feel bad when a particular area of our life is suffering and another one is flourishing because we've been told we're supposed to have this balance. It's like this thing that you're supposed to have if you're a successful person or in some cases even a good person and nothing could be further from the truth. I mean you take any athlete when they're in their season, if you're an NFL football player during those six months that you're in season, and certain other areas of your life have to suffer for you to max out that time.

That doesn't mean we shouldn't seek balance. It doesn't mean we shouldn't evaluate where we are. Doesn't mean we shouldn't make adjustments. But we should not be beating ourselves up because one area is more successful than another area. You're not God, you're not Jesus, you're not gonna be able to max every single area out. And so having said that though,

there are some things we can do to make sure that the people around us, because the root of the question is this. The root of the question is, is my family going to suffer if I begin to become more successful in my business or in my side hustle does something have to give that isn't true nothing has to give but at any given moment at any given time so for example if I'm at the gym crushing weights during that

moment my business is suffering isn't it because I'm not involved in that endeavor at that time that's just common sense so please stop beating yourself up when one area is going great and another area at that time is maybe leveled out or is actually in a plateau or is even going downward. It's okay. Here's the key thing for me that I've done. Because by the way, this is something I've struggled with, having my main business, multiple companies. I'm involved in 14 different startups right now. I've got my fitness life. I've got my Instagram, my YouTube, my podcast. I've got a family. I've got my fitness side of my life. I've got my philanthropic

stuff, my foundations. I've got my jet. I've got pilots. I've got all these material things that need taken care of. Four different homes, right? And so, and then hundreds and thousands of people who depend upon me. So if I was seeking perfect balance in my life at any given time and I beat myself up because it didn't have it, might be a mess. I'd be a wreck. So I'm aware that certain areas are going to suffer at given times. Now, the key thing for me, though, is paying attention. Here's what I'm learning to do better. I can't even honestly tell you that I've perfected this craft. But let me tell you, let me tell you what I think I do do well. Whatever I'm doing, I'm present. I'm present in the moment. So what that means is, is that,

When I walk into my business, one of my businesses, I'm present in that business during that time, not thinking about my other businesses, not distracted on my phone, checking text messages from another business, I'm fully engaged there. Let me give you a really key thing I've learned is I've studied myself and the majority, vast majority of my friends who I think I would call successful.

They have the capacity to be in the moment they're in. They have the capacity to be present in the moment they're in. The people that suffer, they don't suffer, because one area is spiking and another one's plateauing. They suffer because when they're in that moment in their business, they're thinking about their fitness. When they're with their family, they're thinking about their business life.

They're never present in the moment. Present people make the biggest impact, number one. Present people make the biggest impact. Present people also are their max out level of performance when they're in that moment. And the people around them believe they're the most important thing in the world during that moment.

And all of your resources, all of your capacities, you're pouring into that moment. Think about if it was the last snap and it was the Super Bowl when you were the quarterback. In that moment, when you've got to take that snap, it's a 10-yard pass you're gonna have to throw to either win or lose the Super Bowl. Can you imagine the amount of things not on your mind

during those 30 seconds? What's not on your mind during that time? How your mutual fund is doing, right? Whether or not your car is clean, what one of your businesses is doing? You're really even in that moment, not too concerned about a family situation, are you? You've got to be completely present to perform at your capacity in that moment.

Here's what I would tell you. No matter who you are or what you do, you're that quarterback with 30 seconds left on the clock. Your capacity to shrink your focus down in moments and be totally present on the task at hand will dictate the caliber of your life, not whether everything is perfect all the time. So be present. For me, there's some tips I use to do that. When I walk into my home, let's be real. Many of you are concerned your family life is going to suffer because of your business.

The truth of the matter is there may be less hours, that's possible, but you could be more present in the hours you are there. Meaning, how about this? Leave your phone in the car for the first hour when you walk through the front door of your home and be completely present with them, completely engaged with them, completely in the moment with them. Don't even look at your phone. For me, I leave it in the car now for the first hour almost every day, so I'm not tempted to look at it when it vibrates. I'm not tempted to check it because the one thing you do when a child walks in the room and you look at the phone, you're telling them what's in this phone is more important than them.

And that's when we begin to suffer. So when I'm at home, I'm with my family, at least for the first several hours. I'm completely present and engaged. One way to do that, leave the phone in the car. When I walk into one of my businesses, I'm completely present in that moment. I'm fully engaged with them. When I walk into the gym, I'm not checking emails and text messages. I'm completely present, fully alive during my workout.

I max that out. What happens to us is not that we're too busy. What happens to us is listen to me, we're never really where we are. And that's out of balance. We're never really where we are. When we're at the gym, we're in our telephone half the time. When we're at dinner with our friends,

we're on the phone half the time. When we're with our family, we're thinking about the business. When we're in the business, we're feeling guilty we're not with our family. We're never fully present with where we are. That feels out of balance. Really what it feels is out of control. And it also lets us feel the truth,

which is we are not maxing, out that moment because we're not fully present. So my challenge to you is be fully present at home, fully present in your business, fully present in the gym, fully present at your church or synagogue or place of worship, your temple. Be fully present in those moments. Now your life is going to begin to transform because you're peaking in most of the areas of your life at any given time. The other tip I would give you is this.

You have to become a freak about your time management. So this may sound contrive, but I want to tell all you super achievers out there, I now, because I've suffered with this, to make sure I'm present with my family, I schedule appointments with my family, just like I do in my business. What most of us do is we have our entire business in our phone, and then whenever there's holes in that calendar, we give that time to our family, don't we? Except the problem is we don't always do it. We don't always get around to those times in there.

When it's a two-hour break, we could have come home and spend some time. We just don't do it. And so I now schedule time, time with Bella, dinner with Max. I schedule the time for my family in my phone as if they're at least as high or more a priority than my business appointments. Why is it that your business gets scheduled appointments and your family gets the after time, right? So I want to challenge you to schedule the appointments with your family and your phone.

It sounds contrived, you would think I don't need to do that. You do so that you're fully present, so that you're fully structured so that you don't get at the end of the week, go, my gosh, I didn't get any time with my children, I didn't get any time with my girlfriend. I didn't get any time with my boyfriend. Schedule it to begin the week. Take control of your time by scheduling it in your phone. Remember this, the one thing you do when you begin to look at this phone or you're thinking about something else or you're not present, you're telling whoever is in your presence that whatever you're looking at or thinking about is more important or more compelling than they are. And so schedule the time with your

family in your telephone. The other thing, I had a big breakthrough recently for me, which is that I realized that in my own case, I had my entire business life, and I fit my family into that life, if this makes any sense. In other words, my family, that could be your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your children, your parents, your grandchildren. For me, over time, I had this huge life, if you will, and I scheduled my family around that life I had business and achievement-wise. I recently just made a shift in my thinking, and that my,

family is my priority and I schedule my business and fitness and finances and faith around them. And so it's just a subtle difference. I built my life around my family rather than fit my family into my life. And so if you just begin to do that just from a priority sake, in other words, those appointments go first in my calendar. Everything gets scheduled around them. That may only be some weeks, two, three, four hours, but they're going to get those hours for me and they're going to get them in my full presence. I can promise you that you're not going to get perfect balance in your life. But I can also promise you that you're not going to get perfect balance in your life. But I can also promise you that you should stop beating yourself up about it because you're supposed to be succeeding in one area.

There's also seasons of our lives. Winter, spring, fall, and summer come on everybody's life. And sometimes it's the season of your fitness. It's the season of your faith. It should always be in your faith. It's the season of your finances. It's the season of family. Family's always the priority.

But there will be seasons in your life where you must achieve in business for your family. You must achieve in your faith for your family. You must achieve in your finances for your faith. And so I feel like these are areas that all serve one another. I'm one man with one life. And so at any given time, parts of them are doing better than others. I want to challenge you to take control of your schedule. The last tip I would give you, and if you can do this, your whole life would be altered.

So you can take control of your day. You can take control of your life and your thoughts. Is that when you wake up in the morning, the average person, I talk about this in my book, max out your life. You can click the link here. If you're listening to this, go to max outbook.com. You can get the book there or Amazon. But one of the things that most people make the mistake of is they completely are reactive human beings. They constantly react and respond throughout their life, rather than dictating the terms of their life. They react and respond to the demands and stimulus outside of them. And that demanded stimulus is in this telephone.

It's in your email. It's in your iPad. And so you begin your day, way or the other. Your day has a structure, it has a syntax. If you open up your eyes and begin your day by looking at this device called your phone and you start responding to texts and emails, you are now beginning your day as a reactor and a responder and the rest of the world

dictates the terms of your life. Not only when you feel out of balance, forget that, you'll feel out of control. What most people are looking for is not balance, they're looking for control, the sense of control. And even that can be a fallacy to an extent, but I wanna dictate the terms my life not be reacting and responding the best people in their family the best

people in business the best people in their fitness and faith they dictate the terms other people respond to them not vice versa in life 95% of the people respond to 5% of the people you either take control of that or you lose control of that and it begins with your day if you can go the first 30 minutes of your day when you wake up and the last 30 minutes of your day before you go to bed without reacting and responding you begin to dictate the terms when you wake up I talk about a morning routine in my book as well when you wake up if you begin to dictate your day by thinking about your goals and your dreams thinking about

your schedule you dictating the terms of that and then later in the morning getting back to responding to other people's demands and requests you're now dictating the terms of your life but if you spend the first 30 minutes 30 seconds what do most people do wake up clear their thoughts grab the phone react and respond you're out of control the rest of the day but if you could wake up clear your thoughts pray meditate workout stretch gratitude exercises go through what it is you want in your life you dictate your calendar look at your schedule for the day the week the month your goals your dreams your visions get through all of that now you've taken control of your life then you can begin to

respond to people on your own terms okay and then the last 30 minutes that you do not want to go to bed having reacted and responded you want to go to bed controlling what you're thinking about thinking about your goals and your dreams programming your next day going through the schedule and you dictating the terms if you begin to just do that and lose the fallacy of balance pursuit control pursue the concept of balance knowing it's not something you achieve and don't beat yourself up for not having it make sure you design your life around your family schedule the appointments with them and wherever you are be there be present in the moment you're in you'll be more productive you'll be happier you'll be in more control

and the people you do encounter will feel important and valued and a result they'll treat you that way as well and most of that guilt will subside I hope this helps you max out hey guys thanks for sticking around if you'd like more click the videos right here they're exactly what you need to see next and if you're new here hit subscribe and become a part of the max out community and tell me what you think about the videos in the comments below I read all of them every week and I select winners to get all kinds of prizes gear coaching calls with me make a comment

This week, one of the questions that I got was, Ed, do you have any strategies that you can suggest to me on how I can improve the overall quality of my life, including gratitude? And by the way, everyone's asking these things that I don't hear from everybody else. And so I want to give you some things that you're not going to hear from everybody else. So, listen, I want you to write this topic down. I want you to write this word down, observer. The quality of your life will increase dramatically if you begin to. believe and act like an observer in your life. I want you to think about that just for a second. Observe really means to notice or perceive. One of the reasons we lack such gratitude or even happiness

in our life is it's all happening so fast. And so we've lost sensory acuity in our life. What means is that there's just information and stuff happening all the time. We're busy, our phone, our laptop, our computer, our TV, our Netflix, the meetings we have, the calls we have, our family, the obligations, the travel, whatever it might be, work. we just don't have time to observe. And so everything just happens quickly and we don't get any of the juice out of our life. And as a result, that's very difficult to be grateful.

One of the ways that I define myself now is I'm an observer. What I mean by that is I'm an observation. I'm in my life as a participant. It's going to get pretty deep. I'm in my life as a participant every single day. I'm in my meetings. I have my phone calls. I have my family.

I have my workouts. I have my dreams and the things I'm achieving. But if you're not careful, all the speed of that, all the busyness of that, you don't see anything, you don't feel anything, you don't experience anything in any depth. The depth of experience is the quality of our life. And so, I don't know, maybe about a decade ago, and probably a lot more about five years ago, I started to call myself, I'm an observer of my own life. I'm an observer of humanity.

I'm an observer of other people's lives. And so the more I started to condition myself to be more observational, to notice more, to perceive more, maybe I even slowed down just a little bit, the depth of the gratitude in my life, the depth of my ability to make decisions, my discernment, my intuition, frankly, my intellect, I have tapped into a superpower by becoming more observational. observational. I'm going to give you examples and the teachings in a second. It's also caused me to be more grateful, more present, more peaceful. Yet at the same time, when I need to be even more intense and competitive than I've ever been before. That's because I'm in my life. Most people are just in their life and they never are aware of it. They never observe it. Observation causes awareness. people, and by the way, the people that I love to be around the most in my life are the most self-aware. I think it's one of the reasons I love stand-up comedians so much, so many other

my friends, because they're so funny because they're so self-aware. They also, many of them use observational comedy. They observe things about life that we miss every single day. And then when they pointed out, it's funny. Am I right? That's the really most comedy, a lot of comedy's observations. Like, well, we just miss it, but it's there. And so when a comedian tells us a joke about something we go that way or even take don't take comedian take in your religious services any of you that practice your pastor or priest or um rabbi or whatever it might be will point something out and it's something that you should be seeing and observing every day in your life but you just miss and then when they point it out you go yeah that's obvious so I'm going to

talk to you a little bit about this for a minute number one um start to show more respect for people what do I mean by that what I mean by that is put your phone down When someone walks in a room, put your phone down. When you go to dinner or lunch with them, don't put it on the table. Put it in your bag. Put it in your purse. Put it in your lap. Leave it in the car.

This forces you to become more observational and present with people. And when you do that, it changes your life. So I become observational of these various things. I'm going to teach you how to do it. God's stuff. I observe God's stuff more into a level of depth that I never did. And this is going to sound hokey, but I'm going to give you some insights in it. I spend more time when I go outside and I hold my gaze at God's beauty longer.

It's not that you don't walk outside and see a beautiful field or a stream or even a building that one of God's creatures was an architect created. But you hold it quickly. I've started to observe, this may sound really weird, but I did this this morning. I walked out behind my house. There's an ocean out there, which I can observe God's beauty there. But I did something much more simple. there's a like I wish I could show you well I kind of could I don't know if you guys can see that right out there if you're watching on YouTube there's like a garden above my water feature there and I just walked out there and I sat there for a few minutes and I just stared at one leaf on one tree and I kind of forced myself to observe it longer than I might just one leaf I narrowed my focus down to one leaf and the nuances of it and the crevices and I started to notice the different color in it. and where it was cracked in one place.

And I held that gaze for a good minute. Very different than normally. Oh, there's a tree. And then I moved to another one, another tree with a different leaf on it. I spent some time observing it. I was much more present with myself, much more present. I then walked back in the house and my family was having breakfast. Instantaneously, I was more present.

And when I walked in, I paused for a second. And I held the gaze and I watched my family and the beauty of them. My precious son's home from college. So was my daughter. They were both actually in the kitchen at the same time. They said, hey, what's going on, guys? I stopped. I just held a gaze.

It's my only son. It's my only little girl. And I watched them for a little bit. And I appreciated them for a little bit. I let myself feel love for them just for a little bit, just for a little bit. It filled me with gratitude. So I'm grateful for that. There's all these things around us all the time that if we just held the gaze a little longer and stopped looking around, not just put our phone down, that's basic, but just became fully present with a leaf, with a building, with a water feature, with, with a water feature,

a piece of, you ever, I do this lately where I stare at my hand. And I just notice things about me that I've never noticed before. You know, most of you aren't familiar with your own hand. If I showed you your hand in a picture of the inside of your hand, you're probably not even familiar with where the lines are. I think that's my hand. I'm not sure it's my hand. Well, if I don't even know that about me, what else don't I know about me? That's a pretty basic thing. I've been so busy, man, my gosh, I went decades, never looked at my own hand. I mean, I see I have a hand, but you know what I mean? That depth of observation causes you, by the way, to vibrate much faster in a higher frequency.

It causes you to have more gratitude and appreciation. It causes you to be more present with other people. I'm going to tell you right now, your decision-making, your thought processes, your ability to control your emotions are exponentially connected to your ability to be observe and be present. And this is a skill. It is a talent and it is not easy. I want to also tell you what I observe that's changed my life. I take time every day now to observe my breathing. You take for granted your breathing every single day. But if it's stopped right now, you end.

It's probably something to pay attention to. So if I can get quiet and just pay attention to my breathing and hear myself and feel myself breathe, I'm much more self-connected. I'm much more grateful. I'm much more centered. I'm much smarter instantly. Instantly, I'm stronger and smarter and more present. If you can't be present with yourself,

you have no way in the world to being present with other people. You're like, hey, man, I'm busy. Number one thing in business, the ability to build rapport and connect with people. If you can't connect and build rapport and connect with yourself, you can't do it with other people. People say to me all the time, your interviews are just different. In fact, Ed, I see some guests on one show. I see them on yours.

it's a completely different conversation. Why is that? I think it's my ability to be present with them and connect with them because I'm connected with myself. So I ask a smarter question in the moment. I can feel something and energy from them that others don't feel and they feel from me. Now, that makes a good podcast, but it also makes a good salesperson. It also makes a good mother. It also makes a good everything. And so it's something that I really work on. So I perceive God's stuff, art, I perceive, architecture. My breathing is a huge one. Just for today, give yourself a gift.

Just for a second right now. Feel yourself, breathe. Remember that guy? Remember her? She's been there all the time. you busy you distracted you

she's been there all the time pay a little more attention to her pay a little bit more attention to him it'll help you pay attention to everybody else she's with you all the time he's always been there there's only been two constants in your entire life God and you

how much attention do you to pay to each you. You got to give yourself that gift. It's why you're not happy. It's why you're not more productive. It's why you're not more influential. It's why you're not richer. It's why you don't have the emotions you want. It's why you don't have the body you want. It's why you don't have the things you want. Whatever the things are that you're lacking, it comes down to self-awareness, presence, and connection with oneself and one's maker. I pay attention to humanity. One thing I do a little bit more of than I've ever done in my life is when I walk into places, I observe people. I observe people. I walk into a restaurant. I'll watch, until they come up to me, I'll watch people.

And even when they do come up to me, while they're talking, I observe them. I'm present with them. I look at their face. I wonder what their story is. I wonder what their history is. I love to people watch when I'm not noticed and I'm alone in an airport or somewhere. And I love just to watch God's creations, these precious humans. I know, this may sound hokey, but I do it a lot. And I pray for them. I'll people walk by me on the street. If they don't recognize me, I'll peace be with you. I just have that thought. This connects me to people. This gives me gratitude and depth. I don't want to be a one-dimensional human being. I want to have multiple dimensions and experience multiple emotions. And the way I do that

is I observe. Sounds corny, but I love if there's stars out at night just to observe and take the time and notice them. You've all done this once or twice in your life, and it's just felt good. You can give yourself the gift of that every single day. Something I do kind of semi-regularly is I just look at me in the mirror and notice things about me that are aging or that have changed, or I like being present with me. It makes me more comfortable with me. I never liked myself before. I never liked myself. I built muscles on my body and made millions of dollars and new famous people and do all these things to sort of hide from me that's not a way to live

pay attention to your breathing pay attention to people pay attention to humanity pay attention to god's stuff pay attention to people give them the respect show up on time show up early hold your gaze with someone longer when you see him hey man how are you know you do Hey, man. How are you? And hold the gaze a little longer. Hi, sister. I love you.

When you walk into your office, just hold the gaze a little longer. Ask the question and listen. Just another tick. How are you? No, man. How are you? See the difference?

How you doing, buddy? All right, my man. It's supposed to, hey, man. how are you and hold the gaze and listen it's good stuff it's how I sold so much it's how I got so rich it's not why I did it it's why I got the biggest podcast

it's why people think I'm the best or one of the best speakers in the world so if you're thinking hey man this is foo this is business too how are you you okay what's going on what do you got that you're excited about

and listen. And here's a biggie. This was a hard one for me. Hold the hug longer when you see somebody. Hold the hug. I'll give you some data. After a six seconds in a hug, the brain starts to release oxytocin and serotonin. Before that, it doesn't. So if I hug you, hey, what's up? Right? Or hey, it's nothing. If you hold a hug for six seconds, your brain now floods. starts to release, by the way, serotonin and oxytocin into both of you. Oxytocin, you know, you're getting pleasure from that. People get addicted to this. You're getting pleasure from that.

It also increases your immune system and reduces depression. If you can hold the hug for 10 seconds, you get what they call a serotonin oxy flood. A flood. So you're not only giving yourself that gift if you can do it, but you're giving yourself the gift to other people. what I'm basically saying here on everything is if you could just hold the gaze a little longer, if you could pay attention to your breathing a little more, if you could just take a flower or a book or your hand or something and just get present with it and notice the different things, become an observer and noticeer of things.

If when you hug somebody, all the data tells us, hug it for six seconds, you both get the gift. You wait, if you do four seconds, you don't get any of, hold it for two more seconds. and you get this flood of oxytocin and serotonin. That's just one of the God's greatest gift. It's basically the gratitude chemical if you want more gratitude. And so I know this is not stuff you think, my man, my tattooed jacked up, you know, super rich guy that's podcast that's to let's do with him.

Now he's talking about holding hugs longer and looking at flowers and staring at his hand and paying attention to his breathing. And yeah, because the question was, Ed, what is something that I can do to have more happiness, success, and gratitude that most people never talk about. So I could give you the normal list that everybody else talks about, that I've talked about, or I could start on Thursdays to give you stuff you don't hear anywhere in the world. And it's this. And so, and that's why right now I can shift gears and get super intense because I'm fully present. I'm fully self-aware in the moment. Doesn't mean

I always am. But it's helped me control my emotions. It's helped me control my thinking, my intellect, my relationships, all of it. And overall, be a more blissful, peaceful human being, a more connected one. If you really want to know the truth, it's so many of you pray every single day, but you're just checking the box. Can you be present in that moment and have an appreciation and gratitude for this beautiful time you're connecting with your maker? In my case, my savior. Can you just get a little bit more of the juice? Because here's what you're thinking. I'll get around to that, man. That's cool.

I'll get around to that once I'm successful. I'm telling you, you won't be successful if you don't. You won't be. These are the things that have taken an average, ordinary man like me, have built a pretty good life. I don't have bad days. I have ups and downs. I have emotions.

I'm human. I think I pretty much share that on Instagram all the time. I want to experience the bad emotions. Whatever you think is bad. I don't think they're a good or bad emotions. They're just our emotions, right? I want to have all of them. I want to be present for them.

I want to observe them. I want to be aware of them. I don't want to just go through my life busy, grabbing, accumulating stuff and thinking someday when I'm old, I'll get around to it. And what I found out was I started doing this young, and that's how I got all the stuff. But at the same time, you can't love yourself if you don't know yourself, and you can't know yourself if you don't spend any time with yourself.

And so you've got to spend some time. Man, it's such a great gift just to walk outside and go, what can I observe? Or even in your office, what can I observe? You know that before I started this Zoom, I'm like, I want to make sure the backgrounds together. This is a true thing. I want to make sure the backgrounds together.

I've done a million zooms from where I am. Can I tell you something? I started this and I went, what is that belt buckle? If you're on audio, it doesn't matter. What is that belt buckle? Oh, my gosh. That's when I won that golf tournament with Millwall, do you know how many Zooms I've done and that thing's been there the whole time I've never

noticed it once it's right in my spatial awareness and I haven't noticed it what does that say right so then I got up and before this we started and I'm like I stared at the belt buckle and I'm like oh Wyatt Earp I remember that term and then there's a sign that we won it and they put this thing on our locker and I remember the shot I hit to the 18th green that was a crazy good seven iron I hit. And then milty had to make the put from like six, eight feet. And he drained the put and we jumped up and down and hugged. Everyone cheered. And we won this golf tournament. It took me all the way back to that moment of total bliss. And it's only because I noticed it finally. But guess what that did for me? Then I'm like, crap, man, that was a victory. I win stuff.

I'm a winner. I forgot we won that sucker. Man, I've been winning stuff forever. Right? And it changed my state. and it reminded me I win. It remind me I'm supposed to win. It reminds me good things happen to me. Because quite frankly, this morning, a bunch of bad things happened. And I had to record two podcasts today. And I sat in here for like an hour before I recorded the first one, thinking, how can I deliver? Man, I just not, I don't have the juice today.

I don't know that I want to do it. Someone wants me to talk about gratitude on a day where my day just started out crappy. And it was one small observation of the belt buckle over my head. had on Zoom that I didn't just take note of. I got up and looked at it. And it took me into that moment. And it completely shifted me, something that simple. So observation changes everything in your life. And let's go back to that golf shot I hit. You know what required me to hit that golf shot at that time? And I'm not a great golfer. This is just a golf tournament. But you know why I had the capacity to hit that golf shot? My best golf shot under that most pressure,

because I was fully in that moment. I had fully appreciated that moment. And I took it all in. By the way, I can tell you, because I remember before I hit the shot, I was debating, is it a six or seven? I threw the grass up in the air. And I can tell you right now,

I can see that grass kind of just dropped down right onto my shirt and didn't blow over me. I can see those blades of grass right now. I remember going, nah, the wind's not blowing that bad. I think I can hit seven. And I remember I stepped back. I took one practice swing.

If I had a bad back then, I'm like, my back feels pretty good. And I got over that shot, fully present, fully in the moment. My golf ball says max out on it, and the M was facing me. And I remember, just keep your eye on the M, hit the M. I noticed the smallest possible observation. And right when I hit that thing, I knew, it was clear. Any of you hit a good golf show, gave you that compression sound. I'm like, how's a good one?

How's a good one? and there was about 100 people, 150 people gathered around the green. And I remember when it landed, what? And she, that must have been a good one, milty, he goes, I mean, that's a good one. Right?

Remember all the way back to that moment. That moment in just the nothing golf tournament, it's just a simple example of observation being fully present, controlling and being paying attention to my breathing, by the way, in that moment too, and then executing all the way back, I don't know what that was, 15 years ago, I've done probably 2,000 zooms in this seat

and never noticed that belt buckle sitting right up there until today because I'm an observer and I wasn't having a great day I turn and look there's the belt buckle and I'm like I'm going to go observe more of it I'm going to take the nuance and the detail not a glance I'm going to hold the gaze a little longer and as I held that belt buckle up to me and I looked at it it took me right back into that moment of when we won completely changed my state that's why

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finding more bliss in our lives the pathway to more happiness because it's probably the question that I get asked the most in our last program I was discussing the prevailing thought in the world today, which is that lots of money will lead you to happiness and fulfillment. In fact, I was recently interviewed another person's program with another influencer, who's a friend of mine. And we had an honest disagreement. It was his contention in that program that if you're broke, you can never be happy or fulfilled. And I just have an honest disagreement about that. I know an awful lot of people in my life who don't have a ton of money but are blissful and live very happy, very fulfilled existences. On the other hand, I know a lot of people who

who have a ton of money, who are not happy, aren't fulfilled, are empty, are constantly searching for what will make them happy, what will deliver bliss in their lives. And I wanna be clear with you, I've been happy when I was poor, and I've been happy rich, and it is clearly my contention,

I wanna be clear with you that happy rich is better, because you can do more things for people when you have money, for the people you love, for the causes that you believe in. I don't want you to confuse the idea that if once I get money, then I'll be happy. I talk in one of my previous audios called blissful dissatisfaction

about the concept, of learning to live blissfully and yet simultaneously stay dissatisfied. Most people conflate those concepts. They think happiness and satisfaction are the same emotion. They're not. They're completely separate emotions. You can be happy and still dissatisfied.

You can live in bliss and still be a dissatisfied person wanting to chase your goals and dreams, wanting more in your life, wanting to contribute more, earn more, get more significance, make more money. And so I've been happy rich and I've been happy poor. I can tell you for sure in my life, being happy rich has been far better. But I'm not confused in my life.

into thinking that that money, this wealth, living ocean front, they necessarily make you happy because no matter where you go in your life, you have to bring you with you. And so if you can't learn to be happy when you don't have all these things you think you want, I can promise you won't be happy when you do have all of them. And like I've said, I have many friends of mine

who are not in careers where they make a lot of money. They're never gonna be wealthy. And they're completely happy, blissful people living very fulfilled lives because they're making a difference in other people's lives. I think it's a terrible contention to think that only money is the only way to happiness in the world. And I know that's the prevailing thing you see on TV, reality television, you see it on social media. I can tell you that it's just not true.

I coach and mentor many, many very wealthy people. And the reason they work with me, in some cases, they like to make more money, they'd like to grow their businesses, their brands, or careers. But many of them work with me because they want to be happier. They want to be happier even though they've got great careers, even though they've got notoriety, even though they've got money and material things. And so today we're going to talk about that separation and what I think is the pathway to becoming happier. And that is finding your purpose,

finding your mission, finding your calling. We've discussed this a little bit previously in other programs, but I think there's also some confusion about this as well. See, I really believe in order to really live a fulfilled life, I think material things can make you happy short term. I mean, we've all bought something in our life before. And when we bought it, we were happy. We bought that outfit we wanted, the pair of shoes, the car, the house.

And we were happy. when we bought those things, and we've enjoyed them, and they bring joy to other people. And so there's no doubt that material things and wealth can make you happy. But it's short-lived. There's a big difference between happiness and fulfillment. If you want fulfillment in your life, it's going to be long-lasting and enduring. It's not going to be things. It's not going to be money.

I understand that having money can help you do many things for other people, and we're going to talk about that in the program. What I believe about fulfillment is that if you can find your calling, if you can find your purpose, your mission in your life, that's the pathway to not just happiness, but a level past that, which is fulfillment. So let's talk today a little bit about finding our calling. And I get asked often, how do I do that? I don't know what my calling is. I don't know what my mission is. Here's what I can tell you, that when you do find it, you will know. There'll be a peace about you. There'll be an intuition you'll have that it's just a knowing. This is where I belong. This is what I was born to do. And I can tell you, it's almost like a relationship you're

in. It's not always going to be perfect. There's going to be bumps. But many of you listen to this have found that right person. You're in a relationship. It's not always easy. It's, you know, people think, well, once I find my calling, it's just going to be a smooth path because that's what I was called to do. It's my mission.

It's like everything's going to be divinely put in order from me. And that couldn't be further from the truth. It's just as messy as things that aren't your calling. It's just as difficult as things that aren't your calling. In fact, sometimes when you find your calling, your path and your mission, those things can sometimes be more difficult than the things you were already doing.

And so it's like any relationship you're in. Once you found the right person, It's not perfect all the time, but you have this sense of knowing, this sense of peace, this sense of purpose, this sense of right. Really, you have this sense of home, and you're at home with that person. When you find your calling in your life, you're going to feel home. And that's the feeling I can best describe to you is you'll just feel at home. You'll feel like it's right where you belong.

And so I want to dispel a couple myths. Number one myth that I hear is that your career has to be your calling, has to be your mission. You know, that adage of, once you find something you love, you'll never work another day again in your life. And that's completely true. But I'm just going to be very real with you. For many of you, you're going to find a career that is your calling and your mission and your purpose. And you're going to be blessed that what you do for a vocation is also your calling in your career. But that is not the case for everybody.

Sometimes you're calling, your mission, your crusade, your purpose is not your career. I think it's important to try to find a way with you. your work that can best suit your mission and purpose and calling, but for some of you listening to this, you've been trying all your life to find a career that is your calling. Well, what if your calling isn't a career? What if you're supposed to make a bunch of money at your job or your business, and you're going to take that money, and you're going to use that towards your calling and your mission and your purpose?

In other words, your career, your business is to generate income, revenue that's going to fund your calling and your purpose. I could tell you that I have many friends whose job or their business they had wasn't their real calling, but they made a lot of money, and that's why making a lot of money is so wonderful. They made a lot of money in their initial career or business, and they took that money, and that money, what they did with it became their calling in a career. So I just want you to consider, yes, you should be trying to find a job or a business within alignment with your cause. But perhaps that's not the case. What if your cause, for example, is to help cure cancer? but you're a school teacher or you own a financial services company or you're you own a chain of dry cleaners are you telling me that you have to find a career in medicine in order to fulfill

that calling it's ridiculous and so one of the reasons so many people are lost is they're only trying to find their calling and their mission and their purpose in a job in a career and that may not be the case that job and that career may be where you're going to fund your calling in your career on the side and that leads me to point number two I hear all that the time about side hustles. Well, what about a side mission? What about a side cause, a side crusade? See, maybe you're going to have a job, and in that job where you're planted right now, it's not what you were called to do as your ultimate contribution to the world, but it's where you're planted, so you should win there now, you should give it all you've got, and start a

side cause, start a side mission, a side crusade, a side calling. In other words, don't always connect your career to your cause. Maybe you're going to work from nine to five every day somewhere. And when you leave there on the side, you're going to do something that you're calling. And maybe that calling doesn't even require capital. Maybe it's something you're going to do in your side hours. So I don't want you to confuse number one always that your calling has to be your career. It would be great if it was, if that aligns with your skills terrific. But that's not going to happen for everybody. So number two, maybe you've got to make a lot of money in your business. so that you could take that money and help fund and create that cause, crusade, or mission you have.

Maybe number three, that job you have is never going to fund you a ton of money, but you're going to create a side cause, a side crusade, a side mission, a side calling. And so be thinking about this. These are the pathways to fulfillment. And so it may be your career. It may be making a lot of money in your career. It may be that when you leave that career at the certain time of day, you get to change and put your superwoman cape on. your Superman cape on and that's when you decide to donate time perhaps that calling a crusade or mission

that side mission of yours involves money so you've got to have a job that generates a lot of money so you can fund that maybe it's not that at all i mean there are millions of things that could be your calling or your mission you could be donating time at a shelter you could be in charitable work you could be working with children and i think that's the misnomer is that i hear people all the time think their calling has to be something they monetize you know that i know that i know So many people who's calling is to work with children. And so they've got a job full time, but they coach Little League.

They're involved in different young women's groups, the Girl Scouts, you name it. And so that's their calling is to work with children. I know other people where it's to work with the homeless. They've got a job, but they found fulfillment towards working with the homeless. There are any number of callings or causes or missions or crusades that will fill your heart.

Maybe it's helping inspire people with your faith. Maybe it's helping people with their schoolwork. Maybe it's writing a book, right? Maybe it's learning an instrument and entertaining people with the music that you create. It could be any number of things could be your calling and your crusade and your side mission, not necessarily your job.

That's why this notion that you can't be fulfilled if you're not making money is ridiculous. What if your calling is to be a mother and to raise your children? You're not gonna make a lot of money doing that, but for you, it would fulfill you beyond any other thing you'd ever choose to do in your life. What if your calling was to work

going to charity and donate your time. You're not going to get wealthy doing that. Are you telling me you can't be fulfilled? What if your callings to be a pastor or a coach? See, there are all kinds of callings and crusades and missions in life that you're not going to make millions of dollars at. And you know what? For someone like you, that would have never fulfilled you anyway. And so all of us are wired differently. In my case, most of the things that are my calling are involved serving other people. I happen to be blessed at the initial business I've had and that I still run to this day, serves people and contributes to people. I've been able to take the wealth I've made,

and it's afforded me the time to invest in all kinds of children's causes that I'm passionate about, family causes that I'm passionate about, and that money was important in giving me the time to do it. Also allows me to write the checks towards those causes that I want to help and support as well. And so for me, the pathway was career and making a lot of money.

It's what I'm doing with you right now. I make no money doing this. My content is completely free to you. My books are free. My audios and videos are free. So are you telling me I can't become fulfilled because I'm not making money helping you right now? That's ridiculous.

And so the next point is, always your calling will be somehow contributing to other people. Your mission, your purpose, your calling, your crusade will always involve helping other people somehow. Next point, it will involve natural giftedness you have. I've talked about this in previous audios. You were wired when you were born with natural giftedness and some talents that you've developed over time.

as well. Most people don't give themselves credit, but every single human being, no human is more special than another one. I'm not better than you and you're not better than me. I'm not more special than me. You were born and you've developed incredible gifts in your life. It could be your gift for kindness, for compassion, for intensity, for learning, for teaching, for speaking, for listening, for humor, for a musical information, your math skills, your engineering skills, your problem-solving skills, your inspirational skills. There's all kinds of talents, all kinds of gifts people have. Maybe it's the gift of touch. Maybe it's your vision as a leader and what you can see in the world. But you were given special gifts. Don't shortchange yourself. The pathway is almost always through your gifts that may or may not be a career. This is where we begin to move towards our mission, our cause, and our crusade.

The next thing I would suggest you do is ask yourself a powerful question. Who do you admire? Who are some of your role models, some of your heroes? and begin to think about that. Why do you admire them? What are the things they've done or the attributes you have that you admire so much in them?

I can tell you this is going to be one of the most powerful things you're ever going to hear. The things you admire and see in them, you have a sense, a deep sense, an intuition that some of those same qualities exist in you, and that's why you're drawn to them. That's why you admire them.

So ask yourself, who are some of my heroes? Who are some of the people I admire? And what were the traits in them that I admire so deeply? Maybe it's their passion. their loyalty, their vision, their speaking skills, their physical beauty, their entertainment ability, their kindness, their generosity.

But I can tell you right now that the things that you admire in them, that hero of yours, the seeds of those same gifts lie within you. Now you have to ask yourself, this is my giftedness, I admire this. How could I use those same attributes towards contributing to other people? It may be a completely different track,

a completely different path, but it'll be utilizing some of the same gifts in your way. You may not have the exact same abilities they've had. I know you hold them up in high regard, but remember, those are all children of God too. Those are all just people as well. And all they did was magnify the three or four magical gifts that you just listed in them towards the benefit of other people. You're going to take those same gifts you have and you're going to contribute towards other people and magnify them in your way. But the pathway to that passion is often through our role models in our heroes. Ask yourself who those.

people are and what those attributes and gifts are. The next key is try some things. Try a side hustle. Try a side business. Try a side crusade. Try a side mission. I'd encourage you to try to find a business that can deliver on your cause and mission because it would be great that you could monetize it because that monetization, right, is a magnifier of the contribution you could make because that monetization will give you more money towards those causes in different ways. But in my case, for example, I just knew I wanted to serve people and I knew. that I wanted to make a difference in the world. And once I started chasing that path, and I thought, you know, some of my gifts are,

I love people, I'm a good listener, I'm pretty compassionate, I'm a pretty good communicator, I'm really intense, I'm a hardworking person. I don't have a ton of gifts, but those are some of mine. And once I started to point that towards my business life, it magnified outside of my business into different charities I was involved in, and different business ventures I was involved with, different social settings, and all of those things started to be part of my cause, mission and crusade that's led to me and you here today. If you'd have told me 20 years ago that I'd be one of the top peak performance life strategist, personal development people in the

world, I'd have thought you were crazy. So this road has led somewhere I never envisioned, but it started by me starting to think about the things I admired in my role models. I noticed some of those same attributes I had and I just started trying different things through business, through social, through philanthropic deeds. And so I would challenge you this. You've got to try, start to get moving. Take action. Try one thing. It may not be for you. Try another. But eventually you're going to try one and you go, this is home. This is where I belong. I've got this sense. It's almost like dating. It's not usually the first person, right? You've got to try different dates, different people. And then eventually there's just some failures. Eventually you find the one

and you're home. And so eventually when you try different businesses, different side hustles, different side missions, side crusades, it could end up being that, I mean, it could be anything. It could be that you start making coats for the homeless part time. You start feeding people at Thanksgiving. It could be anything, but once you start trying, take, what are my gifts? Who do I admire? How could I start to take this to other people and start trying different things? Start to live your life.

You've got to stop thinking and start acting, right? Start taking action. This is the key. And eventually, like dating, you're going to find the one eventually that's home for you. And then for some of you mega achievers like me that I know, because you want to be wealthy. You want to be successful financially. Let me say one thing on that topic.

You should try to go get stone-ass wealthy. For those of you that have that desire in your heart, you know you want to win. You know you want to get wealthy. Everything I've said prior, you needed to hear first. I will never lead with money. I will never lead with material things when I coach and mentor you. So I've tried to lay this foundation of all the contributions you could make.

I'm not delusional enough not to know that many of you who have that many of you who follow me you want to be wealthy you want to be a multi-millionaire you want to be able to travel to do the things you want to do in your life and the material things and and getting wealthy is important to you I want to challenge you to go get stone ass wealthy because let me say something to you about that I know what it's like to do it and if you have first laid the foundation that you know that's not going to make you happy you've laid a foundation which is why I've taken the entire beginning of the

video and middle about the foundation once you've laid a foundation that my My bliss, my fulfillment is going to come through my crusade, my mission, my calling, the difference I want to make in other people's lives, the contribution I want to make. Once that's the foundation and you understand this first, for those of you in your heart, you've got a burning desire to go get wealthy, once you've laid that foundation, you need to go do it. Because those of us that have that foundation first, only through getting wealthy can you make that big difference.

You want to know the greatest thing about being wealthy, about being, I mean, really wealthy. You know what it is? Living at the ocean's amazing. Having a private jet's incredible. Driving whatever a car I want is wonderful. Being able to take care of my family's wonderful, right? Anything anybody ever needs I can be there for them. Having multiple homes. All of this is, it's awesome. And I want you to have it, especially after you've laid the foundation of knowing that'll only make you happy. But what you're chasing is fulfillment. The best part is, I don't ever have to be anywhere I don't want to be. Think about that for a second. What if you could live a life where you don't ever have to go anywhere you don't want to go you don't have to

be around people you don't want to be around you have to go to places you don't want to be and neither does anybody that you love and care about that type of total freedom of time is why i'm so excited about being wealthy above everything else because now i'm totally free to choose what i do with my life i decided once i got wealthy because i had laid this foundation and that happened because my original career many of you know my original job, it wasn't a career, as I worked at a group home with orphaned boys, wards of the court my boys were, and I made $6 an hour working with young children, 8 and 10 year old boys, and that laid the foundation. I fell in love with serving other people. I found in love

with making a difference for these young men. They just wanted somebody to love them and believe in them. And my gosh, all of a sudden, when my athletic career ended, I found this place was home for me. Home for me. It was actually called McKinley Home for Boys. And that's where I found my life home. My life home I found out there at a young man. I never knew it before. I'd never found that this was what I wanted. I had no idea. I thought my calling was baseball. I thought my calling was to be a professional athlete. And then I found home. My home was making a difference in these precious little boys' lives. They needed someone to believe in them and love them and give them tools to live their lives better. And I found that there and I invested my entire heart

right there I knew this is where I belong. And it was from that path. That was the first That's why I talk about chasing things. That was the first place I started serving people. And then it led to business, and then it led to other places. And once I got free of my time, I found fulfillment because what I'm doing with you right now is my home. It's my calling. See, you are just an extension of my first eight boys at McKinley Home for Boys.

I started with eight to 10 year old boys, eight of them. And now I end up reaching millions of people multiple decades later. But it's the same path. My calling is to contribute. It's to use the life skills I've developed. It's to use the fact that I was an insecure and shy person and I needed to learn how to build self-confidence. I learned how to the brain work, how to think better,

how to perform at my peak. I needed to learn how to really truly become happy because I wasn't. I needed to learn what's my pathway to fulfillment. I used some of the gifts I listed earlier with those boys and I'm using them with you now. That's my home. But the best part of being wealthy is my time is mine.

I get to spend about every minute of most every single day doing my calling it's no longer a side hustle it's a full-time crusade it's a full-time mission in my life and i think that's why i feel so fulfilled most of the time in my life doesn't mean i don't have bad days doesn't mean i'm not down but i'm most alive when i'm doing this with you right here it's the greatest honor of my life is contributing to other people starting with my own family but for me that pathway had to come through wealth to free up the time i didn't want to spend an hour or two a day i don't want to reach just eight or 10 or 20 people. I want to reach millions of people and eventually billions of people

through my message, through my trainings, through the tactics and strategies I teach, through the way of thinking that I teach people. And so now the platforms have allowed me to do it as well. But it started out with finding my home. It started out with thinking about the people I admired and what were their gifts and traits. Why did I admire that in them? Because I had some of those same gifts in my own unique way. Now Dr. Martin Luther King was one of my great heroes. He had this this amazing ability to speak and to inspire. He talked about dreams all the time. And I started to think, I'm a dreamer.

I can speak, I can contribute, I can inspire, I love people, I believe in people, I'm non-judgmental of people. And I found my way of taking those gifts I saw in him, mine weren't anywhere near on the scale his were, and neither do yours need to be about your heroes. I'm not deluded into thinking I'm as good as speaker or as good a man as he was,

but I saw things in him. I knew his intentions were good, I knew mine were, I started to do that same stuff with eight and 10 year old boys in the group home. And then it magnified in the pathway led. That's how it's going to happen for you. This is truly how we find our calling in our life. And it's truly how we find fulfillment. And so for those you that want to be wealthy, let's go get it.

I want that. There's a whole segment of people that need to go get wealthy to fulfill their mission. Not everybody, though. Some people, their mission is to teach school or to be a pastor or to be a nurse or to be a mother. And that's what's gonna fulfill them. And I'm not confused to think the mothers listening to this that are making a difference in the precious children's lives they touch or the school teachers that I know

or the people that work in special needs or for the special Olympics or spend their time in charities. I'm not deluded to think I'm more fulfilled than them. That's not true at all. My fulfillment came through this path, their fulfillment came through that path. But we all have in common is we're using our gifts that we were given towards the service

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give us some of the keys about how to reinvent my life so i looked it up a little bit and i thought what does invent mean what's the definition of invent right and the definition of invent is to create or design something that has not existed before and so what we're really talking about today is creating something, but more importantly, designing things in your life that have never existed before. And so, and then I looked up reinvent. Like, is there a difference between invention and reinvention? And reinvent talks about changing something so much so that it appears to be entirely new. So today is really about two things. It's about inventing or designing something new in our life and taking control of the design of our life and changing something, right?

So it's about designing and changing. That's how we invent and reinvent things in our life. So when's the last time that you just gave yourself the gift of taking a look at your life and designing it? Now, as a person of faith, I believe that you're the co-author of your life. You and God co-author all of the chapters of your life. And in any given time, you can grab a pen, a new pen, and just decide you're going to design a new chapter of your life and a new difference in your life, a new direction in your life. But when's the last time you actually asked yourself, if I want to do that, what are the things I want to change about my experience?

You know, recently I've had some very good friends pass away at very young ages. My friend Jesse Lee Ward passed away at 34 years old. And I just think sometimes we think we have forever to get around to designing our life to be the one that we want or we have forever to change things. But what if you don't have forever? What if that needs to start right now? Like this second, as you're listening to me or watching me today, start to ask yourself the questions that matter. When's the last time you gave yourself the gift of,

what do I want my life to look like? And am I truly one of the designers of that life? Do I have any input, any control over it? And I'll tell you that I believe you do. I believe God gives you free choice and free will in your life. You do have free will. You do have choice. You do have input along with God's blessings in your life.

And so ask yourself this question, just as we begin today, what do you want it to look like? So specifically, what do you want to feel in your life? What are the emotions you want to experience more of going forward? What would you like to experience in your life? What memories do you want to build? What achievements and accomplishments do you want to have in your life? What relationships do you want? What do you want to look like?

Where do you want to live? What do you want to drive? How do you want to feel? What do you want to have matter to you? First thing when you wake up in the morning, what would you like to feel in the morning? Have you ever asked yourself that? Like, right when I wake up, what do I want to feel? Do I want to feel excited and grateful and proud and looking forward to my life?

Or do I want to wake up and feel worried and angst or boredom or stress? What do you want to feel? When's the last time you took control over that? How would you like to spend the hours of your life? where would you like to retire someday what are the things you want to do for other people just begin to ask yourself and take an inventory of these questions it's such a great gift you know dreaming is free doesn't cost you anything yet so few people give themselves the gift of just dreaming again just designing again just creating again i mean this idea that some of you would dispute whether or not you have any control over the design of your life you have to look no further than your own body is it god's will that you're 50 pounds overweight or not strong is that God's will or do you have some choice over what your body looks like of course you do you have choice over the food you put in your body

you have choice over the working out you do or don't do the cardio you do or don't do the disciplines that you have now are there things out of your control could you get a disease could there be a genetic issue in your life yes but so there's this balance between destiny and design but all we can do in our life is pray in our lives that we have some insights into the direction and the destiny that we should be pursuing but at the same time we should take control over all of the things that we can design that we can change so how do you want to live who and what do you want around you begin to ask yourself this and I'm going to recommend a few things to you you know there's this notion and personal

development that I talk about a lot too which is to be fully present you hear that a lot don't you be present be in the moment live in the moment find more presence don't worry so much about the past and don't look into the future so much. And there's a lot of validity to that. But I'm going to say something that if you're going to reinvent your life, one of the things that you have to do is to have a compelling future. You ever have a morning where you wake up and you know that night you've got something cool you're going to do?

Like you're going to have a dinner with a great friend or a romantic evening with a loved one or you're going to go to a ballgame or a concert or a comedy show or see a movie you've wanted to see. Doesn't that expectation that looking forward help you get through the morning? Doesn't it? Of course it does. Or if you've ever been about to have a family and if you're a woman, you're pregnant, or if you're a husband, your spouse is pregnant, that looking forward to something. I think human beings need to live in the present, but this notion that you should have no forward projecting of what you're looking to have in the future is someone who's going to have a formula for not being very happy. I think human beings need something to look forward to.

Even in your faith life, like if you want to break that down, if we're going to get really honest, you know, part of whatever your faith is, whether you're a Christian or of a Muslim or you're of Jewish descent, whatever your faith might be, isn't part of that faith, the promise of the future in heaven or paradise, that you have something to look forward to beyond where you are? Of course it is. Of course that exists. And so a human being that needs to live fully present, yes, but it also has something they look forward to that they're working towards. The other thing is that progress is power, that you find me a human being who may not be where they want to be, but they feel like they're making progress in getting there.

I'll show you somebody pretty happy. So I think the first step is to ask yourself, what do I want to design and what do I need to change? And then the next thing is progress, to look forward to something and be making progress. There's all this data now that they studies the brain about dopamine, which is our pleasure chemical, that essentially says this, that in the pursuit of your goal, in the making the progress towards something that you want, that you have a greater hit of dopamine in the brain, much higher levels than when you actually achieve it in the present moment, that actually there's a crash of dopamine that happens after the achievement that falls off the

earth, it just goes away. And so this pursuit, this idea of progress, of growth in our life is such a requirement to peace and happiness and bliss. So, yes, be in the present, but you better be making progress towards something because that's when you're getting all the dopamine. And you've got to be growing and changing. And here's the thing about growth and change. I want to say something to you.

Human beings underestimate their capacity to get good at something that they get fully intentional and immersed in. I mean, they begin to dedicate a full focus in something. Human beings have an amazing capacity over even a short window of time like a year and getting great at something they were no longer great when they get completely committed and dedicated towards it. So one of the things I want to recommend to reament your life is not only things in your career that you want, benchmarks, achievements, give yourself the gift of all of that, but what's something new you could try? Take you all the way back

to when you were a child. Why are children so happy? Well, I think one of the reasons is they were most recently closer to God. Number one. Number two, they haven't learned all these patterns of limiting beliefs and had all these people project their small mind and their small thinking and their small way of life also as a child you've not had the accumulation of rejection and letdowns just yet but there's a few other things too so all of those if those are things that make us happy then the elimination or the reduction of those would make us happier now so we can reinvent we can reinvent that but there's a few other things that children have they don't It'll be present, don't they? At the same time, when you were a child, you weren't just fully present. You were looking forward to it, weren't you? Because everything's new. You're learning and changing and growing. You're making progress all the time, whether that be in school or a sport you picked up or something you were learning. As a child, you were starting to make progress and grow and change and try new things because everything's in front of you. This is something as an adult. We begin to rob ourselves from where there's nothing new. There's no progress. There's no growth.

There's there's no change. There's no real difference. There's nothing to look forward to in her life. I mean, think about when you were a kid. I remember when I was a young boy, I remember thinking, man, I can't wait till I can learn how to ride a bike and the dream of learning to ride a bike and do that. And I remember when I got to like 12, 13 years old, that anticipation of, oh, my gosh, someday I'm going to have a car and be able to drive. Remember that? Or someday I'll be in school where I won't have my own schedule. I'll be in college. I'll have freedom of my time. Or when I was, you know, eight, 19, 19 years old. I can be legal to drink at 21, right? And even in college, there's a happiness level or in youth because you're looking forward to what your career is going to be and what your life's going to look like. And then at some point, we just get into our life, don't we? And now there's not as much progress. There's not as much growth. There's not as much change. There's not as much designing. Listen to me, anything you want to get great at, that you become fully passion about and fully committed to and dedicate a lot of time to, you will get great at. There's this study out that's out right now that a human being who picks up a new hobby

who dedicates three hours a week to it for a year, regardless of what the hobby is, finds themselves in the top 5% in the world in that hobby within one year because most people dabble. Most people don't do anything. Most people don't get creative at all. Most people don't change things at all. They don't design things at all. So this is how you reinvent your life.

try some new stuff get a new design get a new dream recal check in with yourself do an audit is my old dream still my dream is this thing i thought i wanted what i want anymore as i get closer to it or further from it or i have it is it what i thought i wanted is this progress still juicing me or is it time for a new design time for a new change time to reinvent or invent yourself you should be Listen to me. All of the structures of your body are being reborn all the time. You can Google it. Your lung tissue is redesigning itself on a very regular basis.

So are your bones, your skeletal tissue. Your cellular structure is reborn on a very regular basis. So should your spirit. So should your mind. It's nature for it to be reborn. The lung tissue you currently breathe with will not be the same tissue. It'll be literally totally different a few years from now. Same with your digestive tract.

Same with your skeleton. it remakes itself same with your skin same with yourselves the body sheds the old and reinvents the new it redesigns itself it recalibrates itself it changes itself this is nature but it's not nature to do it in our mind it's not nature to do it in our spirit so how about this you get clear on those things really intentional how do i want to feel when i get up in the morning what are the emotions who are the people what do i want to look like what do i want to see i haven't seen where do I want to go I haven't gone who do I want to connect with what's my body going to look like what's my energy level going to look like what do I want to be good at how

do I want to feel about myself what memories do I want to create this is how we begin to reinvent ourselves take an inventory taken on it what things that I used to want I don't want anymore I don't want them what progress do I need so I'm getting that dopamine hit and then the more I achieve it my vibrational frequency picks up it's a muscle I building all of a sudden you know the scary thing those of us that are listening to this that watching this that know that what I'm saying is 100% true you can increase your vibrational frequency so high when you start drawing things into your life that you want that you actually have to start to really be careful about what you think about because you're going to draw that into your life as well

a lot of people right now listening this that have been achievers or have had good things up and go he's right because it is a muscle I got to the point in my life many times where the things I thought about that I reinvented, that I focused on, that I got intentional about, I drew them into my life. And I got so good at doing it that I had to start to be careful that I didn't start to focus on my problems and my worries and my fears. Because I got so good at drawing what I thought about into my life, I started to draw right to me my fears and worries because you increase your vibrational frequency. And so again, I can talk about energy and vibrational frequency and not understand that there's a blessing, not understand that there's a grand design for

our life, not to understand that you can have all the best plans in the world, and God still has his hand on your life. I get all that. But just like in your body, you have free will. You have free will. You have choice. Yeah, being present matters, but having something to look forward to in life is the juice of life. This be present thing is getting a little bit overcooked for me. And you know exactly what I'm talking about. I don't want to just be present every single second of my life. I actually want to take some time in the present to think about the future. Any of you that are raising children, can you imagine telling your kids, just be fully present. Don't think about your future at all. Don't think about any of your choices. Don't have any dreams. Don't have any future.

Don't have any vision for your life. Of course you should. Your whole faith, if you have faith, is predicated on doing things in the present, but understanding there's a promise for you in the future. And you get to look forward to it. So this self-help stuff that I'm I'm a part of about being fully present, like everything, the pendulum has swung way too much to the other side, and there's not enough people future dreaming, designing, creating a life. You're the designer and the architect of your life along with God. Now, back to this, you underestimate the power of what you could be doing if you were fully focused on something just even in one year.

Remember that. Someone who dedicates three hours to a new hobby or business or routine. within one year is in the top five percentile in that in one year. So I'll give you an example of my own life. Like my business life's gone pretty well. You know, there's things in my life that I would want to change. But I have picked up a couple new hobbies this year because I want to grow. I want to have something to look forward to.

So two of them, one is I'm learning in Spanish, which I talk about on the show. And I'm excited about the fact that I'm getting better. I've dedicated more and more time. I was just in Costa Rica. And when I was down there, I was using my Spanish pretty well. well. The second thing, this is just totally random, but I decided I wanted to learn to ride horses this year. I'm 52 years old. I wrote a horse for 15 minutes when I was eight years old with someone holding onto the horse. It's the only time I've ever ridden a horse in my life.

Now, I'm lucky. I mean, I bought this island that I own, and what came with that island was these horses, and I understand not everybody's blessed enough don't on. But by the way, one of the reasons I own the island that I own is because all of my life have been a dreamer. All of my life I've been designing my life. All of my life have been praying for guidance and comfort and strength and blessing and understanding. Most all of my life, I've been working my ass off and dedicating hundreds and thousands of hours towards my businesses that would eventually provide that. I'm always asking myself, what do I need to change and what do I need to create? So this stuff I'm teaching

Produced the fact that I eventually got to the point financially where I could own this island And what came with that island was some horses And the first few times I was down there with the horses I'm like Oh, these guys give me peace They're so beautiful They don't judge you They don't care that you're rich or that you're poor Or that you've made mistakes in your life or that you're perfect

And so I started I literally went on Google and bought three books and then I started asking friends of mine who owned horses and then I took some horse riding lessons and I took riding lessons from someone else and I've learned the difference between a bridle right and a halter I've learned how to saddle a horse I've learned English and Western

I've learned the different pressure points on the horse when you're riding them I've learned how to hold the reins correctly I've learned double reins I've learned single rains I know the difference between a gallop and a trot right I've learned how they feed I understand their shoes I didn't know what shoes were

I didn't know it I look back now, eight months, all the things I know about horses that I knew nothing about, it's like hundreds of different little things, right? Like tons of it and really good friends of mine that are in the horse. Then I bought another horse. Then I bought another horse. Now I know the different types of horses. I know how to care for the horses.

I'm still a really crappy rider of horses because I'm eight months in. But imagine what I know that I didn't know eight months ago. I've learned a lot about horses in a year. Like just the terminology, I'm probably in the 5%tile because 95% of people know nothing. Now, I'm at the bottom of the 5%tile. But can you imagine in another year with another 100 hours of riding how much more I'm going to know? And you know what's true? I think I'm enjoying horses more than some of the best riders in the world because it's not about that.

It's about progress. I'm getting a dopamine hit. I've probably read 30 books on horses now. I've worked with three different trainers. It's awesome. And I'm 52. And it gives me something to look forward to. It gives me this vibrational frequency that I'm growing.

And so maybe that sounds crazy to share that with you, but it's been one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. And humbling. See, the older we get, the more we don't want to look bad, the more it will become a collection of patterns and behaviors and thoughts. And our life just sort of goes on repeat. We drive on the freeway and we don't even need to think about the exit we get off of anymore. It's so autopilot.

We just do it and we're at the house. And then you go, how did you get home today and you don't even remember? I don't want to get home to heaven someday and not have anything to remember in my life. And metaphorically and literally in many people's lives, they're just now going through the patterns and the emotions. They do the same five or six things with the same five or six people and wonder why they're not happy. because they haven't reinvented anything so pick a new business pick a new hobby pick a new interest start painting start listening to different music start doing something to just reinvent you because guess what as I said earlier you're being reinvented all the time on the

inside digestive tract lung tissue your organs your bones your cells what about your spirit what about your mind now how do i change this ed here's one of the things i found out watch this create in stillness trigger and anchor in motion so let me tell you what i mean by that get still get quiet listen to your spirit let your intuition begin to speak to you in my case let god begin to speak to you get very quiet Get very still. Give yourself the gift of some meditation time or some quiet time or some alone time. And just allow it to be.

And I think you'll begin to hear things and feel things that we're always there, but the world's too noisy around you and you're too caught up in your patterns to do anything about it. You know, this is great saying that says the average person dies at 25. We just don't get around to burying them and putting them in the ground until they're 75 or 80. Don't be that person anymore. You can be reborn and become alive again today. So get quiet and ask yourself these questions. And then once you start to get some of those answers,

you trigger and anchor them in motion because life is physical. You anchor and trigger things in your physiology. So what I've done is I've actually really loved to get quiet and ask myself, what would be something I'd be interested? What should I'd like to try? What would I like to experience? And then once I've got a vision for what that is, then when I'm moving, when I'm doing my cardio at the gym,

when I'm walking somewhere, right? I do something physical to trigger and anchor the picture of it. And allow yourself to use all of your senses. What would it look like? What would it feel? What would you hear? What would other people be saying to you? The more senses you can involve in this vision and the dream, the better.

And then anchor it. So when I'm doing cardio and working out, I'm actually picturing my goals and my dreams and my vision. I'm anchoring it in my body physically. You notice I'm snapping my fingers a lot. One of the things, when I visualize my goals, I snap my fingers. Visualize my goals. I snap my fingers.

visualize my goals, I snap my fingers. That's anchoring and triggering inside of me, a physiology that produces it. And then the reverse can be true. When I'm not feeling like it, when I don't want to do it, I can go to that physical trigger and it reinstates the vision for me. It reverses itself out. Let me say it to you again. Create in stillness, anchor and trigger in motion. This is something you're probably not ever going to hear anywhere else. And I saved it for the end of the show. So I like to create in the stillness and listen to the words of the universe and have God speak to me. And for me, it's just me and Jesus having a conversation. Sometimes it's the Holy Spirit giving me some discernment and just some sense of direction. And then once I've got

that, I want to start moving. And when I move, I picture, I hear, I feel that dream coming real and I anchor it and I trigger it so that when I'm not feeling it, I can then do that cardio and it comes back out. I can do that snapping of my fingers and it comes back out. I can do that walk and it comes back out. That's why when you work out, you go, my gosh, I'm getting clear on my vision and my goals. I'm getting clearer on my dream.

Because when you begin to move your body in a particular way and it's anchored in there, it brings it back out in reverse. And so for me, I use my body as an anchor and a trigger from my goals and dreams. And that way, when I'm not feeling it in my mind, in my spirit, and my

emotions, I can use my body to trigger that state to trigger that dream to trigger that vision for my life and shift me back into action and increase my vibrational frequency as you increase that vibrational frequency you begin to draw those things into your life the truest and highest form of vibrational frequency in the world the highest vibrational frequency in the world is truth and congruency meaning that when something is true or it's congruent to what you want it's vibrating at the highest frequency possible And so once you're in that zone of this is what I want, this is my truth, this is what's congruent to me, this is what I'm going to do, you vibrated a high frequency, you draw that into your life. Football you'll watch, Peyton Manning was the quarterback, he'd say, Omaha, that was a play, but it was also a trigger. Tom Brady, let's effing go, right? It could be yes, it could be whatever, but it's a trigger word or a trigger move that triggers that state. And so create these triggers for yourself so that when you're not feeling it, you can override your emotions with physiology. You can override emotion with physiology.

These are some of the things that I believe can help you reinvent your life. This is a never-ending process. When I was young, I got taught this process called can I, C-A-N-I, constant and never-ending improvement. Constant and never-ending improvement, C-A-N-I, constant and never-ending improvement. And what I'm here to tell you is that this is a constant, and never-ending improvement. and never-ending process in your life. And the happiest people that I've met in my life

are constantly in never-ending improving. So although they're fully present, they are also working hard on their future, reinventing their future, inventing and changing things, co-authoring their life with their God. And I'd recommend you do these things

today to reinvent your life. I'm going to remind you of something. This is just part of the pie, by the way, part of the puzzle. You were born to do something. something great with your life. Maybe you've heard me say that before, but maybe you never have, and maybe no one's told you in a while.

But I want to tell you, you were born, you were made to do something great with your life. And if you're having a hard time picturing what these things are that you want to do, it probably involves serving other people. It probably involves experiencing things with other people. And you were born to help those people in big ways and small ways. You're most qualified in life to help the person that you use. used to be. And there's a lot of people who need you to become the new you because that's who you used to be once you change. The more you grow, the more you change, the more you leave previous

versions of you behind. And that leaves a bunch of people you can help as you grow and change. You know,