THE ED MYLETT SHOW - How To Get Unstuck And Back To Your Dreams

Episode Date: September 28, 2023

This episode puts YOU in the spotlight as I answer your questions! Today’s episode is just me and YOU 1:1.This week’s question is…”What can I do RIGHT NOW, TODAY to get UNSTUCK and get back to chasing my dreams?”Everything about the answer to this flows from a simple but profound thought.Simply put…WHEN YOU HELP OTHERS, YOU HELP YOURSELF.And that’s where the CHANGE IN YOU takes place.How can you help others? There's a common thread between all human beings so this applies to EVERYONE…Everybody is born with a DREAM.  Every person you meet has a DREAM, including YOU.And all of them are looking for a LEADER in their lives to acknowledge and help fulfill those dreams.  YOU can be that person when you start working on your ability to bring VISION to other people’s dreams.And don't discount the fact that you are a leader! If you are a parent, you're a leader. If you are a friend, you're a leader. If you have one person working with you or for you, you're a leader. At minimum, you lead yourself every single day. WE ARE ALL LEADERS in one way shape or form.“IT TAKES LEADERS WITH VISION TO HELP PEOPLE WITH DREAMS.”  Let that sink in, because it unlocks everything you need to know about changing your life now and every day going forward.In this episode, I'm breaking down the steps you need to take to execute on this starting today!There is no better way to create immediate change that will last a lifetime than harnessing these steps to become a great LEADER. 

This is the Ed Milett Show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful that you're here with me today. Today's question was very simple. Ed, how do I change my present right now? By the way, if you have a question you want answered on the show, you can submit it on my Instagram at Ed Milett, ED, NY, L-E-TETT. You submit it there. We get thousands of them. But there's a chance your question will get answered on the show.

And so today is all about leadership and vision and dreams. Because I've been asked about this topic a lot. And don't discount yourself. If you have a child, if you have a company, a business, if you are a human being, you're a leader in the context that I'm going to cover today. Okay. So today's topic is this. I want you to write this down. Here's the title. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams.

Let me say it to you again. This is this big stuff. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. That's not my saying. I heard it somewhere many, many years ago, but I've lived by it. It takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. What does that mean? Well, here's what it means. The first thing is it's a reminder that everybody you meet has a dream. Everybody's born with a dream.

There's a heart that dreams. We get older. Those dreams can change. They can evolve. They can even die and get buried. But every human being has a dream. That dream could be to be a multi-millionaire billionaire. That dream could be to lead millions of people. That dream could be to be a mother

or a father. That dream could be a particular career. That dream could have a particular body. That dream could be to live with this particular set of emotions. For some of you, your dreams as simple as my dream is to begin to be happy. I'm tired of living sad or down or worried or angry. But remember this, every human being you meet has a dream. It might be a big one. That's long term. And it might be just a short one. Their dream might just be, man, can I get through today with a little bit of peace, with a little bit of bliss, but everybody's got a dream. And I reminded myself of that when I meet humans that they have dreams, every precious person has one. And like I said, there's millions of them

and there's varieties of them. And some people have lots of different dreams. But this is a context and a syntax that you begin to see your brothers and sisters differently. That's server at the restaurant that's serving you, that you don't make eye contact with when they ask you how's the food or what would you like to order?

That person's got a dream. That dream might be just that you acknowledge them. That dream might be that they want to be the best server that's ever lived. That dream might be that, you know, they want to have a big YouTube channel someday. That dream might be they want to write a book. That dream might be that they want to meet their love of their life, but that person's got a dream. That's why they were born. You were born to live a dream. You were born to make your dreams come true. And I know this. And so what those people are looking for is a leader. And all a leader means is I can help

you. I see something that you don't see. I see a potential. So as a leader in a company, many of you run companies or businesses. Remember this, it takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. What does that mean? That means that you need to begin to work on your vision because everybody you meet's got a dream. If you're a mother, what's the vision for your family?

What's your vision for your children? Are you sewing seeds in them of vision and visionary leadership in them? I read a book a long time ago that really changed my life. It's an old book. It's written by a guy Kawasaki and it's called Selling the Dream. And what he was really writing about was Apple. He was the guy that kind of marketed the old Macintosh for Apple. The entire book is the

context of what Apple was doing to become a great company. And if you really understand and study that company, Steve Jobs was a great dream seller. See, selling the dream is a skill and a talent you build. Listen to me. But most people are oblivious that it's important. Most people think that's only for the Steve Jobs is the world or the Ed Myletzo the world. You wanna be a great father? You get great at selling a dream to your children and your family and your spouse. You wanna be a great business person entrepreneur.

You get great at selling the dream and having a vision for where you wanna go. You wanna be a great, anything. You wanna lead yourself in life. You better have a big time vision. You be able to sell yourself on that dream. Life's about vision. That's why the Bible talks about where there is no vision. The people will perish. They will literally die. You're a dead human without a dream. You're a dead

human without a dream. So you should constantly be working on your dream muscle, your vision muscle and your ability to sell yourself and other people on that vision. I am talking to you today because I had a dream and a vision that I could help millions of people that I could use an ability. I thought I might have to communicate to reach people. Remember this, we constantly move in our life towards what we're most familiar with. We move to the familiar. We gravitate to the familiar.

We develop patterns and behaviors that are familiar That's why when you drive home usually from wherever you work You don't even have to consciously think about how you're getting there You just kind of pull right off the freeway when it happens, don't you? You're not even thinking about it because it's familiar to you. You get in the shower You don't think you know what today? I'm gonna soap here first and then shampoo you got a root You just do it unconsciously your life most of it is unconscious because your brain is trying to save energy by creating habits that are repetitive and that are familiar

Well, if you're only familiar with the tasks you have to do Or as a mom or a dad familiar with I got to cook them lunch I got to get dinner. I got to pick them up for school and You just do the monotonous stuff and you never have a family that's loaded with a vision or a dream of where they're going or for each individual child you have or for your spouse that you're selling them a dream and a vision of who they could be

and how much you believe in them. Of all the things I'm not very good at, I'm amazing at selling people on themselves. I'll tell people that all the time, server and restaurants are great example. If I say, I say, man, you're awesome. You are awesome. You're amazing. Thank you. Man, I, you're, you're not even going to be here someday. Are you want to do something out of here? I could see you. I could see you out of here doing more. Or if they do want to be, I say, man, I could see you

running this place someday with my kids since they were little. I was selling them a dream and a vision. I said, I'm dead. My lets are going to do something awesome. I'm telling you, hey, listen to me. The my lets are doing something awesome. They still get text message from me, hey, let's do something great today. We're gonna do something freaking great as a family. Whoo, and kick some butt today, making a difference. The my lets are leaders, we got a vision,

and I'll sell them that dream over and over again. Think about all the people you admire in your life. Think about them. What's one thing they all have in common? They had a big old dream, a vision, and a dream that they sold either themselves or you. Let's go through with you. And by the way, what I'm saying this, what about you? What vision are you constantly selling yourself on? What vision are you selling your colleagues on? What vision are you selling your spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend on your children on your parents on? Do you do that? Are you conscious of it? Because that's called being alive. The ability to grab a vision and develop it is a

muscle and to do it repetitively even when people are rolling their eyes at you going, I heard this before and here's the kicker. Get good at selling it. That's a second step. Think about who you admire. Let's just go through a few people. Let's say you're a follower of Jesus. Just curious, did he have any dream he sold? Do you have any vision? His vision, his dream was everlasting life for you. That's about as big as it gets. You bought the dream in the vision if you're a believer. Whatever your faith is, you've bought the vision in the dream of this person that is your deity. In my case, I'm a Christian. And then what do he do? He sold the dream. He cast the vision and he sold the dream over and over and over and over and over and over again

And then he built a team of people that sold it and it's become the biggest movement in the history of mankind Maybe you're not religious. How about Martin Luther King? You admire him. Wow, that's interesting because his most famous speech is I have a dream and He sold the dream. He did it with his oratory skills. He did it with his physical labor in the marches and the standing and the difficult times

up against adversity. And then he had other people who caught that dream like the Rosa Parks of the world who started to carry that dream and that vision. Okay, maybe you're into politics. Who do you like? Trump or Obama, because you don't like him both. Ha, ha, ha.

What did Obama have? Hope and change. If you loved Obama, you were all about hope and change and he embodied that hope and that change that you love. Maybe you didn't like Obama. Maybe you're a, a, a Trumper. You love Donald Trump. Did he have a vision? Does he have a vision? Make America great again.

That's the vision. And he sold the dream on it. Now, it's even more powerful when you embody that dream. So let me give you some steps. You got to, you got to get great at seeing a vision for yourself and other people. Then you got to sell a big enough dream that the dream of everybody within your stewardship can fit inside the one you're selling. So if you're a business leader, you got to sell it big. Here's your number one problem. If you're running a business right now, you ain't selling it big enough. You got to see it bigger. Ready for this? Get in the big man. Sell it bigger. Get in the big. When Apple was just a board company, jobs was about being talking about being the most transformative company of all time. That was crazy.

How about me? Some guy that's just plugging away as an entrepreneur 25 years ago, a dream of being worth hundreds of millions of dollars of influence and millions of people of using my story to change. You to laugh your ass off at me back in those days. Well, people aren't laughing anymore. Are they? Because I got a big old vision. I started selling myself to dream. And when you sell it and then you embody it.

So here, that's step one, get a vision. Step two, start selling that dream. Step three, make it repetitive. Being in business or being a mom or being a dad or being a leader is not coming up with new things you say to old people. It's saying old things to new people. Let me say that to you

again, too many of you are trying to create some new thing you're saying to the old team, which you need to be doing is saying the old things to new people. So I've said it over and over and over. So you got to sell it big enough that everybody's dream is fits inside of it. So the my lets are going to do something awesome. Max, you can play on the PGA tour. Bella Boo, you can have your own business and run for president someday of you. It fits inside the dream that I'm selling. If you're running a company,

you gotta get the dreams of everybody to fit inside that. The third thing is, you gotta back it up with massive action. It can't just be words. People gotta watch you go, oh, she means it now. You get good at selling that dream. And you do it repetitively. You don't end up suffering for what I call leadership fatigue, where you get tired of hearing from yourself.

You get tired of saying it. Most businesses fail because the leader gets tired of selling the dream and acting like it. Most parents fail because they get tired. If they ever sold the dream, they get tired of selling it because the kids don't behave. They don't act like it. And they finally just quit.

The more you sell the dream and sell the vision, I'm convinced the problem for most kids, is they're being raised by parents who don't sell a big vision and a big dream and tell them how amazing it's going to be. When you're a leader, that's a position. That means you have a viewpoint, the people behind you can't see. You have a job as a leader, as a mom, as a dad, as a business leader, as a coach, to say, hey, let me tell you what I see, because you can't see it. Let me tell you all, it's amazing. It's going to be when we get there, how worth it it's going to be to go through the trials and tribulations, how worth it is to go through the ups and downs and put the work in. Let me say it to you again,

because this is going quick, okay? You got to see something they don't see because of your position as leader and you got to be able to say let me tell you what I see And you tell them over and over and over and you tell them in different ways until they get it But you say the same thing and you tell them how amazing it's going to be when we get there go all the way back to Jesus Let me tell you what I see I see you in heaven someday. Let me tell you amazing heaven's going to be let me tell you how amazing it is Right over and over and over You tell him how to get there

Over and over and over again. It's got to be big. It's got to be bold It's got to capture people's hearts and they've got to see themselves fitting inside the one your son It can't be a selfish dream unless you're just leading you then you got to do the hard one You got to validate it with your action you're just leading you, then you got to do the hard one. You got to validate it with your action. They got to see you go, wow, she's serious. She's in here two hours earlier than she used to be. Oh my gosh, she's got this dream of doing this bodybuilding contest. She's doing, look how disciplined she is with her diet. My gosh, you know, she takes off on lunch and works out in addition to her morning workout. They start seeing it. Man,

he's talking big stuff for the company right now. He's talking major plans, major vision, unbelievable stuff. Have you seen how he's working right now? This dude's a maniac. He means it. You validate the dream with your actions. You tell your kid they're gonna plate high school basketball. How often are you getting out there shooting with him? How often are you getting up early?

How many videos are you sending them on shooting stuff? How many articles? What the coach are you trying to get work to get them with? Validate it with your actions. You become a powerhouse. And then it starts to get momentum. So this is what happens in life.

You got to learn to do this. If I was to tell you one thing about your life, I would wish for you is that you would get a bigger vision for you. If there's one thing I would wish for your company, is that you get a bigger vision for your company. If there's one thing I would wish for your company, is that you get a bigger vision for your company. If there's one thing I'd wish for your family, is that you get a bigger vision.

And after you have those things, then what I would wish for you is that you work on the development of selling that dream and getting better at selling yourself and others on that dream. Then I'd wish you'd repeat it almost to the point of people thinking you're crazy. And then what I would wish is that everybody can fit

inside the one you're selling. And then what I'd wish is that you'd validate it by taking massive action. You start doing that, your life changes. The reason your life is not changing if you want it to is you don't have a compelling vision that's greater than your fears. And the way you make a dream happen, by the way, you might say, I don't know what my dream

and my vision is. Let me tell you what it is. Your dreams will move you in your life always. It's either the future you want or other people. You'll never do anything for yourself, but you'll do stuff to achieve your vision and you'll do stuff to make other people happy. What I recommend you do is once you get that vision, is you link your love for other people to that vision and dream. Because as long as you tell yourself, I love these people. More than I'm afraid that this dream won't

happen. I love these people. More than I'm worried about the obstacles in the roadblocks. I love my family. I love my whatever it is more than I'm scared more than the adversity. My love is greater than anything that will get in the way. Most of you are afraid to get a big vision because you think you're going to miss it. And then you're afraid to really pursue it and chase it because you're afraid you'll fail. Many, many times I wanted to quit. And I would remind myself, I love my family more than this obstacle. I love my family more than I'm afraid. I love my family more than this adversity.

I will love my family longer and it will endure far past this problem. And once I attached my love to the dream, the people I love to the dream, I became a pretty unstoppable force because there was no cop out. And by the way, if you know someone who's quit on their dream, you know the hard reality, the adversity was greater than their love. The adversity was greater than their love for their family. They sold their family out. That's the hard truth.

I can sell out my family. There ain't any word game, any adversity, any obstacle, anything you're going to put in front of me is going to get me to sell my family up the river. And that's exactly what you're doing when you quit. Let me ask you this. Let's just get this straight. Is there anything bigger than your love for these other people? Is there anything that would come in your way that would be bigger than your love? Maybe your love for your Lord, your love for your family.

Anything bigger than that? Good. I hope the answer was no, because if there's nothing bigger than that, you're going to win. Unless, of course, you renegotiate that at some point, which a lot of people do. You ever seen someone who's been defeated in their dream? Quietly, they might blame someone else, they might have their excuse, but deep in their soul, deep in their intuition, deep inside them, they know, they sold out. They sold out. Here's the great news. I've quit many things before, but I got back up again.

It's not too late. You can decide right now, that's it. He's right. I'm gonna start attaching my vision and my dreams to my love for these other people, and I'm getting up. I'm gonna be a different force now. May I ask you this question? Any of you that have kids and if you don't have kids,

just pick somebody you love. Let's say you were sitting in a meeting right now, someone walked up to you and handed you a note and said that person was in a serious car accident. Picture your children if you have children or your grandchildren. If you don't have children, your mom or your dad, your boyfriend or your girlfriend. You you don't have children, your mom or your dad, your boyfriend or your girlfriend.

You're in a very big meeting room. And you got handed a note, so and so has been in an accident. It's serious, you need to come now. What would you do? You'd get right up and run out of that room, wouldn't you? In a minute, wouldn't you? Would you stop and go, wait a minute.

I don't wanna be rude to the speaker. I don't wanna get up and bother the other people in the room. What's everyone gonna think about me when I get up? Is everyone gonna say, wouldn't it occur to you at all? That stupid stuff of what other people are gonna think? Cause you gotta get to this person you love, right? Cause your love is greater than that moment. And when you got up, if you started to run out of the room

and someone stopped you, hey, someone stopped, what are you doing? You can't get up in the middle of the meeting. There's no way you can do this. That's rude. Sit your butt back down. Would you go, oh, okay, I don't want to be rude. Would you do that?

Or would you go, get out of my way. My baby, my child, my girlfriend, my mom has been in an accident. Get out of here. And you steamroll. And when you got to the door, they said, hey, you need to get back in there. This door is locked. There's no way out. What would you do? Go well, I guess that's a sign. I'm not supposed to get to my dream. It's God giving me a sign. Too much adversity. So I would you say it's a sign? Nah, you know what I bet you do. I bet you kick the door down, wouldn't you? You sure would. You kicked that door down. Bam, no obstacle.

When you got out to your car and it didn't start and it wouldn't go, you're like, well, I guess that means I'm not supposed to get there. Man, one thing after the other, you guys all just lay down here. Another obstacle, another sign, just not meant to be. I just don't have what it takes to get to my child. Would you do that? Heck no. You'd go car jack of dad gum car if you had to, wouldn't you? You'd you do that? Heck no. You'd go car jacket,

dad gum car if you had to, wouldn't you? You'd ask, I need your car. I need your car. I need your car. I need your car. I need to get, take me right now. You'd get a new, you do whatever you could. You get a new, or you get a tattoo. You'd run and get anything to, when you got to the hospital, if you got to the door, they go, Hey, slow down. There's procedure here. You got to sign in. Are you family? You got to pre be like, Hey, I got to get to my family. No obstacle. Well, hey, we need these, you don't, you, would you say, well, man, I, you know, before I do it, I need to know the exact words I'm supposed to say, I need to be totally prepared for when I get to the, I need total preparation before I can get to the screw preparation.

You're never going to be totally prepared for that moment. You have to have the perfect words or the perfect moment or the perfect moment or the perfect knowledge or understand everything. That's all out the damn window when you want something to get somebody that bad. You'd get to your baby, wouldn't you? You wouldn't need the perfect words. You wouldn't need to know everything.

You wouldn't wait to get started for the right timing. None of that crap wouldn't matter. Would it? Because you're going to get there, because you love them so much. That's how your dream has to be. And by the way, that's the truth of how people make their dreams come true. And here's the truth about the people that don't.

They don't attach that love, that urgency, that obsession. And so little stupid things start to seem big. What are these people gonna think? Oh my gosh, someone rejected me and told me to sit back down. The doors are closed. There's no way to get in that room and make it happen. You'd find a way to get that door knocked down, wouldn't you? There's no door closed. It didn't start. There's a setback. My car, no, wouldn't matter. When you got there, they said, Hey, we need this information. We need to hear the right words from you. You wouldn't wait around to go, Well, let me sit in the parking lot and prepare for another three weeks before I get started. So the time means better

And I know everything I need to know when I get in that hospital No, you know enough and you'd get going and what you would say is I'll figure it out when I get in there Isn't it trivial and isn't it silly when you put it in that context what we let stop us And why we lay down after a while? Ed, how do I get back up in my life? I'm telling you how? You get back up by getting a new vision, by repeatedly selling yourself this dream

and by attaching your love like that precious child or a loved one who was in an accident, that type of urgency, that type of love, that type of obsession towards chasing it. And now you're up. And when those obstacles do come, they may rattle you, they may stagger you, but they won't stop you. You're unstoppable. Hmm, it's pretty good. There's three types of people in life. There's motivational people, motivational people are awesome. You see them and you get motivated. What they do is they get you motivated based on your motifs. If you do this, you get a lambo. If you do this, you'll get money. If you do this, you get a body. If you do this, you'll get a

relationship. So you are moved by your motives. Nothing wrong with being motivated or being a motivational person. In fact, I'd like to think I am a motivational person. I am motivated. But that's a low level of movement. It's a I am motivated. But that's a low level of movement. It's a low level of chase. It's a low level of juice, but it is a level and it's more than most people have. So if you're looking for motivation, you can get it. The second level is far more powerful though. If you can add it, you can stack it.

I'm motivated and you stack to the next level. So you get motivation, you want that, you want the external, you want motives. But then you move to step two, which is inspirational people or inspired people. Those people are a different type of force because inspired people, the root of the word inspire is to be in spirit. So you got motivation going.

Now you got inspiration going in your life. Inspirational people, they move mountains. There's an in spirit. It touches your soul that moves you at an energetic level, that life force, that soul spirit level. That can overcome about anything. Motivational people can get stopped sometimes if they don't get their motive, or they do get what they were motivated by. I watched a lot of people get what they wanted. They got the car, they got the money,

they got some position or title, they got the degree, and then what? Because they were only motivated, meaning they were only after their motive. And once you get it, what's left? Or if you don't get it, that next level is so powerful, which is to be inspirational or to be in spirit.

That's to move people with love. What I'm talking about today is to go to the next level. You need to be inspired. And then the third type of person is very rare. Those are aspirational people. Aspirational people are people you aspire to be like. So if you want wanna get your family motivated or your company motivated, let's take your company. Hey, if we do X or Y, I'm paying this bonus. If we do X, Y or Z, we're taking a company trip.

If we do X, Y or Z, it'll mean a job promotion for you. That's motivating people and you should do that. The next level though is to get them inspired in spirit, which is to say, we're gonna make a difference in other people's lives. We're gonna make history. We're gonna create change. We're gonna change the planet.

We're gonna rewrite or wrong. We're gonna do something great as a company. We're gonna make history. That or as a family. We're gonna take the whole family to a new level. We're gonna create generational wealth. This family's gonna be joyous and different and amazing. I said earlier, one of the things about Dr. King

that was so powerful was not only was he motivational, but he was inspirational. You felt something spiritual. You felt something in your soul. You felt an emotion. But he was even beyond that, wasn't he? The reason he was a transformational figure is because he was aspirational. People aspired to be like him. He didn't just speak speak he went to the march. He stood in the line. He stood in the tough place. He took the hits He lived under threat for so long and still stood by his beliefs and his dream He was aspirational Fear follower of Jesus Sure heck was motivating

Man, what an inspirational man, what an inspirational figure when he was walking this earth. Unbelievably inspirational, but he was more. He was aspirational, he lived it. He literally died for you and for me. Doesn't get any more aspirational than that. And that's how you create a big movement. That's how you create an amazing family.

That's how you do something great. Motivational, inspirational, and aspirational. At least today, start by being motivated. But be working your way towards being inspirational. And take massive action on a regular basis and you will become aspirational. Back it up with massive action. Anyway, that's what I think you do to change your life today.

Now, there's a million things I can talk about. I talk about them every week. But in today's case, it takes leaders with vision to help people with dreams. And everybody you meet has a dream. Everybody you meet has a dream in their heart or they use to. And it is your job to re-envigorate, to turn that light on, to create that fire and other people with a kind word by telling them what you see. And then if they see you living a certain way, they want to be more like you than you become aspirational in your family. Let me tell you what I see.

Let me tell you what I see. I see a vision for our family. I see a vision for you, my son. I see a vision for you, my daughter. I see a vision for you. You're gonna do something great with your life and you repeat it over and over and over again. You tell them about their giftedness and their greatness and what they're good at. You back it up with the actions you take. That's how you transform that. And your company is the same thing.

Let me tell you where I see where going. If we get there, there's this trip, there's this contest, there's this reward, there's this promotion. But beyond that, we're going to make history. We're going to do something great. We're going to change this industry. We're going to do something awesome. People are going to know who we are.

We're going to be on the map. We're going to compete. And then they see you act in a certain way. And they're in your aspirational and you validate the dream. All right, everybody. I hope this helped you guys today. Help me. I'm fired up, man.

I'm like sweating and shaking and ready to do something great. If today meant something to you, share it with somebody that means something to you. God bless you guys. Max out your life. This is The End My Let's Show. you