THE ED MYLETT SHOW - It's Separation Season - with Ed Mylett

Episode Date: December 8, 2020

It’s a game of inches! It’s separation season! THIS IS THE TIME to create distance between your competitors AND the old version of you! Now is the time most people take their foot off the gas. They get relaxed during the holiday season. They take time off. And THAT is exactly when you can catch them! Thanksgiving, Christmas, the New Year's are holiDAYS, not holiMONTHS! Let everyone else get lazy. Even the current version of yourself wants to take it easy, but the MAXOUT version of you is ready to run laps around those people and take advantage of the separation season. I haven’t released an original content piece with just me speaking for a while so this is a TREAT! This episode will teach you how to get your MIND prepared for winning season and give you REAL solutions on how to not just talk about it… but to also TAKE ACTION! You CAN become a new you in 2021 WITHOUT giving up the fun of the holidays! In fact, I am going to help you have the BEST and most BLISSFUL separation season of all time by making just small adjustments. Separate yourself from the competition AND from the old version of you, your finances, your relationships, your fitness, and your faith! → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ← ▶︎ YOUTUBE | https://www.youtube.com/edmylett ▶︎ INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/edmylett ▶︎ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/EdMylettFanPage ▶︎ LINKEDIN | https://www.linkedin.com/Edmylett ▶︎ TWITTER | https://www.twitter.com/edmylett ▶︎ WEBSITE | https://www.EdMylett.com

This is the Ed Milo Show. Welcome back to max out everybody. I'm excited to be with you today because you get to spend the time with me. No guests this week, you know, more and more people have been requesting that I go back to doing a little bit more of my original content where I'm sharing messages from me with you. And so, you know, every once in a while, we're not going to have a guest on it. I'm going to share some thoughts and strategies and ideas with you that I know can serve you. And so what I'm going to talk about today is separation season. Some of you have been talking about this before, but I'm going to do it in a way that you've never

heard about it. And right now is a time of year where you can really separate yourself. You can separate yourself from other people, your competition, but you can also separate yourself from where you are, from the standards you've set. You can separate yourself from your current position to a new position in your relationships, your money, your body, your business, depending on the area that matters most of you. And so we're going to talk about that. You know, there are, it's difficult when you're competing. If you're an entrepreneur or you're an athlete, if somebody's ahead of you, it's difficult to catch them when they're at full speed. It just is. It's difficult. They're in front of you. They're running full speed and you're chasing them down. It's difficult to catch it those times. But where you do

catch people is during what I call separation seasons. And these are the seasons where some people begin to flinch. They get weak. They take time off. They relax. They get casual about their routine. Maybe they're not as sure about their standards as they once were. And when they do that, they flinch bam. You blow their doors off because you keep pushing and separate yourself during that time. You can separate from all kinds of different things. And again, I want to remind you, this isn't just about competing against other people. It's separating yourself from where you currently are, which is what all of you want to do.

It's called growing. Growing is separating yourself from your current condition to the next level, whether that's mentally, emotionally, financially, as I've said. And so, but from an entrepreneur standpoint, from a business standpoint, from a family standpoint, nutrition, diet, we're entering the ultimate separation season, which is this window of time in the holidays.

It kind of started around Thanksgiving, but it really begins to accelerate about the second, third week of December. When everybody starts taking time off, they start cooling it. They don't show up to work like they did if they're an entrepreneur. They're not really hustling. They start making all these excuses in their mind. Well, clients don't want to meet with me during the holidays. So I'm going to take a bunch of time off or everybody eats bad this time of year. So that's what I'm going to eat bad or everyone spends money during

the holidays that they don't have. I'm going to do the same thing. And that's when they get weak, they flinch. And if you can get even more disciplined, more focused, you can begin to lap people that are front of you. You know, here I am nearly 50 years old. And I could tell you, I've worked hard all my career, all my life in different areas, but I really get excited during separation seasons. And I'm like, this is when they're at half speed. I'm at full speed.

I can lap them. If I'm in front of people, I can lap them two or three or four times. And it's also where I've separated myself from the form of me. You know, we're coming down to the end of the year. There's just so many days left when you're hearing this at the end of the year. And it's a chance right now to lean in at the finish line in so many areas. But what do most people do? If it was full speed sprint all year, this is when they start the jog and slow down. And you know, I should eat that extra piece of cake. I should do this and they get off their game. And so today's going to be about separating. I want the max out community, the max out universe,

those of you that are listening to this, to take advantage of this, to get excited to go, this is when I get them, this is when I get after it, right? Because in life, I've said many times, in life, we really will never exceed what we believe we're worth. We just never will. And so if you can begin to do things, you think other people aren't willing to do, or maybe do things the former you weren't willing to do, you begin to believe that the new you deserves things other people won't get, and the new you deserves to get things, the former you didn't get either. And so this is why this season is so critical. And I stacked up maybe 30 straight separations. These there's other ones.

There's summertime, right? There's times like that. And we're going to talk about some of that right now. And so, but right now is the big one. You all know what I'm talking about, right? Everyone gets kind of casual. Everyone slows down. And one day turns into three days, turns into four days.

You know, Christmas is a holiday. It's not a holiday month. New Year's Eve is a holiday, not a holiday month or a holiday week. But people keep taking these holidays and holiday months this time of year. And it's when you get them, it's when you get the former you, it's when this new version of you emerges. And so take advantage of this season, it's the greatest of all seasons. And I can

tell you, it's one of the reasons why if I do have some good things going on in my life is I separated during this time. I separated from the old me and I separated from my competition. So let's talk a little bit about what some of those things are. Number one, right now you know in business people are gonna start slowing down.

They're gonna start doing all their planning for 2021. Here's the truth, planning doesn't take that long. You can do planning in a pretty quick window of time, right? You need to get after it. You need to execute. There's 12 months in a year. There's 365 days in most years, right? But don't go start planning 21 days before the year on a plan you could have done on New Year's Day anyway. You know what I'm talking about. Let's not make any excuses to do that. For you achievers, you want to separate this time of year. But there's a subtle thing that most people don't realize about themselves. If you're not a real competitive

achiever type, maybe you're more of a belonging. I want you to hear me very closely because there's a lot of people that fit both descriptions. You like being on the team, you like being a part of a squad, you like being part of a family environment. You're kind of that person who loves to be a part of something, but maybe not lead something. You have a really hard time doing the work this time of year because unconsciously, subconsciously listen to me. You don't want to separate. You don't want to pull away from the pack.

You love these people that you're around. And so unconsciously and subconsciously, you start slowing down as to not pull away, even though you know these things could pull you away from the pack, because you don't want to leave people. You like the people that you're around. You're kind of that person. So if you're that person, you go to evaluate that. Is there some element of you subconsciously or unconsciously who purposely doesn't do the things you know you should be doing to separate?

Because you don't want to separate from where you currently are, and you don't separate from the group of people that you're around. And this is something that most people don't process. And so let's talk about some basic places you could separate. Number one, let's talk about your fitness. This is the time of year where people start missing gym days, don't they? Don't they? But you right now are going to make a conscious decision. I don't miss my routine.

In fact, I double up on my routine. I'm not going to miss workouts. I'm not going to miss my gym sessions. I'm not going to make any excuses about parties or, you know, stay home-orders. Now, if you've got COVID or something like that, obviously you're going to be working out at your home or push-ups or some nature like that. But you're not going to use COVID as an excuse not to train or workout. If you can go to a gym, if you live where you can still go to a gym, you're not going to use holidays or parties as a reason not to do that. You're going to let other people miss those workouts, other people, the former you would have missed this workout,

the former you would have made a COVID excuse, the separating you doesn't do that anymore, and that's gonna produce a better version of you. So that's one place you could separate, nutrition this time of year. You're gonna have all kinds of temptation around you, aren't you, about eating foods, you probably normally wouldn't eat,

but what do we do? We go, well, it's Christmas. Of course, I'm gonna have a, but what if you could not, I'm not saying don't eat the dessert. But could you separate? What if you decided I'm just going to do it a little bit differently than everybody else? Because I want to convince me I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do. I'm going to convince me I'm different from the former me and from the people potentially that I want to pass up.

There's two types of people listen to this. One of these like, I'd really like to change me and get better than the former me. And then there's the other ones you're like, I want to pass up. There's two types of people listening to this. One of these like, I'd really like to change me and get better than the former me. And then there's the other ones you're like, I want to do that. And I want to smoke some people in life in business too. I'm competitive. Both are okay. But when it comes to eating, let's just say when those desserts present themselves, you know what I'm talking about, right? What if you just ate half the dessert? Maybe you're not so crazy. You don't eat any desserts. You want to enjoy your life, the holidays are eat half the piece, maybe you're not so crazy, you don't eat any desserts, you wanna enjoy your life, the holidays are, eat half the piece of pie.

It's the same flavor after the first three bites. That's what I found out. It's the same cake on the fifth bite, it was on the third bite, so I'll eat three. It's the same taste, right? If it's gonna be an unhealthy meal, it's gonna be turkey and stuffing and all that stuff around me if you do that

or in some called enchiladas or whatever it is you're doing, tamales around Christmas time. You know, the different foods that we eat in our cultures Italian folks with our lasagna's around the holidays whatever your traditions are. Could you just not did you don't want to eat it because you want to enjoy your life? What if you just ate half of it? Right? What if you were in portion control? That's a way to separate yourself. So it's little things like that. It's when you're at the gym, it's the separation season of doing that one more rep that I talk about, the one more exercise. In fact, I have to share with you, I was at the gym today and my gym has moved outdoors here in

California, at least fortunate that the one I go to in Orange County, at least they move their equipment outdoors. Many gyms have just shut down. And at the end of my workout, I was doing abs. I had done today was a shoulder ab day for me. And I had done my shoulder workout and exactly what I had prescribed. I did one more rep and one more in all of my different sets because I believe in that mantra of one more. Doing one more separates me.

Remember that one more, right? And so, but when I was doing my abs, I had picked three exercises I was going to do. And I'm like, wait a minute, it's separation season. Everybody's just doing their normal ab workout. I'm going to do one more exercise on my abs for a fourth ab exercise. Separation. Does that improve my abs? Maybe, but it improves the way I look at myself. And when I left that gender, I did, I did stuff the old me wouldn't do. And I did stuff most people working out there aren't willing to do.

I deserve at 49 years old to have the body of my dreams. So I'm convincing myself through what I'm separating that I deserve those things. I'm not in competition with other 49 year olds, but I'm in competition with the 48 year old me. I wanna be more fit. I wanna feel stronger. I wanna feel more powerful, more flexible, right? More energized than I did. And so these little separator steps,

you stack them up, especially in the season when everyone else isn't doing it, and it magnifies. So it's important not only to do separation season, because I'm challenging you to do that. It's important to give yourself credit and be intentional about it when you do it. I did it. I did it and you're stacking that in the bank of changing you. They're deposits you're making. But if you're not aware of the deposit, imagine you went to a bank. You made a thousand dollar deposit in the bank. But you didn't get the deposit slip to prove that it was in there. You didn't do anything to validate the deposit, right? That could be concerning. Well, a lot of people do these separation things, but they don't get the deposit slip to prove that it was in there. You didn't do anything to validate the deposit, right? That could be concerning. Well, a lot of people do these separation things, but they don't get the deposit slip. They don't go, I did it. The deposit slip of life is acknowledging and giving

yourself credit for doing the things that serve you that the old you wouldn't do or other people wouldn't do. So it's not enough just to do it. You have to be intentional about giving yourself the deposit slip, the credit that's required. That's what begins to change our identity. That's what begins to change our subconscious and unconscious mind. And eventually even our conscious thoughts. How about having some separation moments this year with your family? How do you separate your family?

How about some separation moments? What could you do this holiday season? That's a moment that you've never had before. Think about how can I separate my family from every other holiday we've had? How can we separate from the average ordinary families? What could we do this year? You know, many of you have been DMXF. This is the first year ever.

I'm gonna go down and I'm gonna feed the homeless this year. And I wanna take my children there. What an amazing way to separate this holiday from all the other ones if you've never done that before. Maybe your separations, you're gonna go back to church. You haven't been to church in a long time. Maybe you can't physically go so you're going to do it online. Maybe it's this holiday season, you're going to decide, hey guys, this is corny, but we're going to take a walk or this may sound silly, but I know how we don't always eat together every night, but for the next week we're going

to have dinner together every night at the dinner table. These things may seem very simple, but I ask yourself right now, what could I do to have some sort of separation season during this holiday season for my family that makes it better and different in a very difficult time that may cost no money, that I could do if I were innovative and creative that would make this the separation of all holiday seasons for my family. I want you to begin to think about how you could separate that separation moments. I think if you begin to process this stuff of I'm going to separate in every area I can, I think you're going to find something very special happening Friday afternoons, the productivity level on all the studies for entrepreneurs and employees and even in school with students and teachers

Friday afternoons beginning at one o'clock till five o'clock or is the most unproductive window of the week Why because everybody's taking their plan to go cool it for the weekend? What if you decided I'm gonna start pressing the pedal down Fridays between one and five? That's a separation window of time where before maybe you weren't after it, now you are, you've changed your identity. This is how you become a new you in 2021. If you just do the same things, right, or you just think different thoughts, but behave exactly the same way. The chances of you separating yourself from where you currently are at the time you're listening to this podcast or this YouTube video and watching it. And a year from now when we come back,

if it's just thoughts, see, you have to have a congruency between the way you move your body, your actions and your thoughts. That validates them. That congruency changes you. But if you just think something and act the same way and don't separate from the former you, separate from the former thought then eventually

the body overtakes the mind. Your body is your unconscious mind. It's your subconscious mind. The thought is conscious. The body is your subconscious mind. So if you can begin to move your body in congruency with your thoughts, now you've created a new you in 2021, maybe a new company, maybe a new family, maybe a new relationship, maybe a new body, maybe new finances, but the actions have to be in congruency with the thoughts, the body moving as you think. That's how we separate. And so I want you to begin to think about, well, Friday afternoons, I could separate. Another thing that happens, most entrepreneurs slow down on weekends, Saturdays are huge separation seasons for entrepreneurs.

Most entrepreneurs cool it on set, not suggesting you have to work Saturdays, but if I were trying to find, because life's a game of inches. In the big time, it's not yards that separate the great ones. It's not yards that take people who are functioning at a high level and they go a little bit higher. It's inches, it's a game of inches.

In fact, these inches are so small, it's almost too scary to talk about. Because it's that small of a thing when you start stacking up one more, but you separate. So what's another place, Ed, in 2021, where I might separate Saturdays, Saturdays, Friday afternoons, right? These are places where you can separate. They slow down. They flinch.

You blow their doors off. You know what I'm talking about? And as you're doing, I'm doing stuff. No one's willing to do. I'm going to get things. No one's going to get. Or maybe the thought is, I'm doing stuff I've never done before. So I'm going to be a whole new me and get a life I've never had before. This is how you change, how you view you. By the way, there's a whole bunch of other ones too. There's the summertime. There's evenings. A lot of people just assume once I'm home, well, what if you could carve out a half hour in the evening and disappear and do some emails that the average person doesn't do or Disappearing the evening you've had your family time or but you kind of carve it out or you do a second workout like in 75 hard in the evening because no one does second workouts, but now you do. So there's these things where you can separate. It's abstaining from a particular behavior

for a window of time that separates you. It's like, you know what, I'm not going to eat this way. I'm not going to drink this thing or smoke this thing. I smoke. I'm going to put that down and separate from the form of me. I'm changing my behaviors. If you're an athlete and you're that person who always stays the latest, right? Stay 15 minutes more. Stay another 15 minutes. Separate from the former you. All of these inches add up. Here's another way you can separate yourself.

Just me seeing small, you're at a social function. Hopefully we get back to doing that soon, right? But when I have separated myself, you ever go to a social function, you sort of see the person who's left alone that nobody knows. It's very uncomfortable for me to walk up to a stranger, but what I've built the habit of is separating from the former me is approaching somebody in a social circle. I can tell as the one who doesn't know everybody there and going over and welcoming them and introducing myself and getting to know them and asking them what their story is. Maybe the way you separate yourself is, here's a huge one that you could do starting now,

and maybe all the way into 2021. You ready? Stand up for somebody when they're not there and another person is gossiping about them. You wanna separate and feel great about yourself? You know exactly what I'm talking about. We all get into these conversations where there's a little gossip about another person. What if you started to separate from the former you,

separate from the average and or any person and stand up for that person when they're not present to defend themselves and say, Hey, I don't know if any of that's true, but that's not something I want to be hearing about. Or you know what? I know so and so and I don't believe that's true. I don't think they would do or say that. And I don't like that we're talking about this. It makes it uncomfortable. We're both better than this. And so what if you started to do these little things could start to tell you, you know what? I'm different.

I'm behaving differently. I'm a little bit better than I used to be. I'm separating from the former me. I'm separating from what average and ordinary people do. Average and ordinary people do all the things reverse of what I just said. They cool it on Friday afternoons. They eat the full piece of cake.

They slow down on their workouts. They don't get creative around the holidays. They gossip about other people. They don't create new thoughts. They don't do the extra rep at the gym. They don't stay disciplined to their diets, right? They don't put in a little extra effort in the evening. They don't do anything on Saturdays.

So all of these things are opportunities. I think what you're going to find, if you really begin to think about separating from the former you and becoming the better you, almost nobody goes up to that person who's alone at the party. You know what you're going to find out? This thing we call winning or bliss or self-worth, winning or bliss or self-worth, self-confidence, identity, isn't as difficult as we think it is. It's little inches and when we're aware and we're intentional and we get creative and innovative about places we can separate ourselves. I mean, it may sound really silly and stupid because I'm an introverted person, but one of the ways I separate myself, this may sound really silly guys, I smile and say hello to strangers often,

because almost nobody does it. I would have never done it before, and just to give them the gift, you're gonna think I'm crazy. I walk by people sometimes, if I can't make eye contact, I literally say a prayer, peace be with them. You think, why would you do that?

What one I wanna pray for them? And two, it's a way for me to feel better about me. I'm doing something, thousands of people walk by that person, didn't see them, didn't say hello, didn't smile. And even if I didn't do that, almost nobody say a quick prayer for a stranger, right? Separation sees the next level. Make a few extra phone calls and text messages this year

that almost no one's gonna make. Instead of texting that friend that you talk to all the time, you know, that's the normal behavior. Separate column. Let them hear your voice. Maybe that person you have not texted or talked to in a long time. Send them that text send it to multiple people. Let them know you care about them. You know how y'all get that text? Everyone sends Merry Christmas. Happy new year that everybody gets. Separate yourself and make them voice notes this year, where you personally say it to somebody. Takes a little bit more time, might be an extra couple hours, do it. You want another way to separate yourself? Do it before New Year's Eve and

do it before Christmas Eve. I'm going to give you a tip. Everyone gets all their messages on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. How about you leave your voice notes or your text message two or three days early? Hey, I wanted to be the first or I wanted to get in there early before everybody's hearing about you. I wanted you to know I was thinking about you.

When New Year's happens, how about doing a December 29th? Just say, hey, New Year's is coming. We're all gonna get flooded with messages. I've already made my plans. I know you have and reach out early That's a separator. It makes you different. It makes you unique and it makes you begin to separate from the former you and you separate from your Competition. You want to move apart from where you are currently. It's what you're going to do now right now and

Now, right now, and into next year, that's going to make the difference, not what you say and not just what you think. Now, I've done millions of hours with you guys on what you think and impact how you act. I understand all that. But at the end of the day, there's too many people just thinking they can think their way into changing their life. You can't think your way into doing it. You must physically do it. You must physically separate.

And I'm going to give you the mother of all great news about separation season You're ready Millions of people are hearing this show right now or watching it and Less than 1% will do any of the things I've said Is that incredible less than 1% So by virtue of doing anything I've said today, any of the things, not all of them, and some of you will do all of them, but any of them, any one of them,

you have separated yourself from about 99% of the people. But more importantly, if you do just one of them, you've separated yourself from the former you into a growing better you. So I love separation season. When they get weak, when they flinch, when they relax, when they kick back, when they take a haul a month or a haul a week, we take our holiday and even on our holiday, we find our little goofy crazy ways to separate ourselves. And you know what you could do? Really big time this holiday season? Separate yourself by having more fun.

See, none of the things I said can steal from fun. Don't have to take from your fun. What if you decided, this is gonna be the most blissful, most fun holiday of all time. And you know what, it doesn't matter what the conditions are. It doesn't matter about a pandemic.

Hey guys, I'm in the pandemic too. I've had some health issues too. I've had some health issues too. I've had some family issues too. I've had my best friend and father pass away too. So I understand all that. Okay. I relate to a lot of the pain many of you are going through. I connect with that. I'm being vulnerable with you. And guess what? This is going to be the most blissful separating season of my dad gum life because because I'm gonna honor these difficult times by coming out of this a better man, an improved man. And I don't do that by hoping it or thinking it,

even though those things help, I wanna hope, I wanna think, but I gotta do. And their simple little things, these inches are the separators. The sad thing in life is people think they have to make these massive dramatic changes in order to create the catalyst for long-term change. Most massive chains are simple fine-tuning type carburetor adjustments that we make that end up overhauling the engine of our life long-term if we're willing to get creative and innovative. So I want all of your thoughts, your vision, your paradigm,

the matrix you start to see the world through starting right this moment, how can I separate? How can I separate? Separation, separation from competition, separation from the former me. How can I separate my body, separate my mind, separate my family, separate my moments, separate my nutrition, separate my business, separate my money. Everyone's spent an extra money. I ain't doing that this year. I'm separating. Everyone

overeats. I ain't doing that this year. Everybody cools their workouts. I ain't doing that this year. Right? All of these things begin to be catalyst for change and you stack up all these inches. And this time next year, there's a different woman stand in there. There's a different man stand in there. It won't be perfect. There'll be things you need to do then to separate from that person. But I want you to remember this. Lastly, we're not separating from where we are because there's something wrong with us. That's not the reason. You're exactly the way you're supposed to be because that's exactly who you are right now. All you can do is start from where you are one day at a time, one more at a time, and separate.

And guess what? In a year, you'll be exactly the woman or man you're supposed to be at that time. And we'll be talking about separating from there as well. That's the journey of life. We're either growing or we're dying, right? And I want you to grow, and we grow by separating. So today was brief, to the point, the point tactics strategies share this with people.

Get the message out to your teams. If you're in business, then it's time to separate as a team, as a company, get it to your children, your family, the athletes, you know, it's time to separate. One way you can separate yourself was get closer with me. Max out two minute drill every day on Instagram when I post. If you make a comment first two minutes, you're in a drawing, you can go coaching with me. A lot of people will do that. We're showing them on Instagram, right on the jet, my book, max out gear, meet my guests, all kinds of cool stuff.

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