THE ED MYLETT SHOW -  Maxout Your Mind Masterclass Ep. 1 | Winning the Battle in Your Head

Episode Date: October 14, 2025

MAXOUT YOUR MIND MASTERCLASS | Winning the Battle in Your HeadMaster Your Mind. Win Your Life. Have you ever stopped to think that the biggest fight you’ll ever face isn’t happening out there... it’s happening in here? In this first episode of the Maxout Your Mind Masterclass, I’m taking you inside the inner battle: the one between the voice that doubts you and the truth of who you really are. This isn’t just another motivational talk. This is about mastering your inner world so you can finally dominate your external world. Because when you win the war inside, everything outside begins to align. For years, I let self-doubt run my mind. I believed lies that were never mine to begin with. They were planted by other people’s limitations, fears, or opinions. Maybe you’ve done the same. But I learned something that changed my entire life: confidence bends reality. The people who believe life is rigged in their favor? They’re usually right. In this episode, I’ll show you how to change the lens you see the world through so you stop scanning for what’s wrong and start expecting what’s right. You’ll learn how to rewrite the mental scripts that have been holding you back, and how to finally believe, deeply, that you deserve to win. We’ll break down the four flawed beliefs that destroy self-confidence:“I am what I possess.”“I am what I accomplish.”“I am what other people say I am.”“I am what I look like.” These lies rob you of peace, power, and purpose. I’ll teach you how to replace them with truth, build self-trust by keeping promises to yourself, and develop the unshakable certainty that changes everything from your relationships to your career to your faith. This masterclass will challenge the way you talk to yourself, the way you see yourself, and the way you carry yourself through life. It’s time to stop being your own worst critic and start becoming your biggest fan. You’ll walk away with tools to scratch out self-doubt, amplify your belief system, and walk through life like it’s rigged in your favor... because it is. Your greatest enemy has been the voice in your head. But so is your greatest ally once you take control of it. This is where it all begins. Welcome to the Maxout Your Mind Masterclass. Key Takeaways: The real battle of life is the one happening in your own mind. How to build lasting self-confidence by keeping promises to yourself. The 4 flawed beliefs that lead to self-doubt—and how to replace them with truth. Why confidence bends reality and how to train your mind to expect favor. The difference between having high standards and being hard on yourself. How to become your own biggest fan and stop sabotaging your peace. Also don’t miss out on MAXOUT2026: Once a year, I open my home for an intimate one-day experience unlike anything else I do. This year, I’m making it even smaller—just 12 to 15 people. Together, we’ll dive deep into the exact strategies I use to plan, visualize, and design the best year of my life—and yours. If you’re ready to Max Out your future, join me at Maxout2026.com (https://maxout2026.com/) for a life-changing day you’ll never forget. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LINKEDIN⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEBSITE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Welcome back to the show So you're going to see a change in the show Between now and the end of the year You know, it's been no secret that I've had a few health issues the last couple years Heck, I haven't even posted on social media In a few years But we've been coming strong with three podcasts a week

Even during that time Well between now and the end of the year I'm going to scale it down a little bit But give more value So what I'm going to do I've created a masterclass that's going to come out on Tuesdays, and you'll still get your Saturday episodes. We're going to take a pause on Thursdays.

But every Tuesday, you're going to get a master class for me that I've created to help you finish 20, 25, strong, and go into 2026 and make it the best year of your life. I'm calling this master class, max out your mind, faith, focus, and fire, mastering your internal world so you can navigate your external world. It's going to come out every single Tuesday. I think you're going to love it. I also just wanted to let you know with that in mind. I'm not doing as much traveling.

And so every year at the end of the year, I do an event in my home with just a handful of people, and it sells out very quickly. In fact, we've already sold out the first day. But here's what this is. It's a chance to come spend a day with me in my home, only 12 to 15 people just with me, an entire day. And I'm going to take you through all of my planning and strategies that I use to plan out my own life and my business. In addition to that, I'm going to cover all my mental rehearsal techniques that I cover with just my one-on-one coaching clients in a one-day event with me with just 12 to 15 other people. You can go to Max Out 2026.com to check that out.

If you're so inclined, it's not cheap. If you can't afford it, please don't do it. You know, most all my content is free. But once a year, I do do something in my home with a very small group of people. And it's a life-changing event. You'll never forget it. So if you're inclined to want to come spend a day with me in my home, I invite you to join me. You just go to the website, max out-226.com and get the details.

Max-out-2020.com. God bless you. Enjoy the episode. I want to talk to you about perspective today, and I think one of the most critical components in life to bring you more fulfillment and more success, more bliss, more happiness, more of the things you want, and that is to start to become aware of the lens through which you see the world, through how you experience your life. Most of us do this unconsciously. And because we do it unconsciously, oftentimes we default to a mode that we really don't want. One of the critical

things in life is to be able to see the world through the lens, through the filter, through the prism that serves us the most, serves our bliss, serves our success, serves our productivity, our joy, our peace. And in the power of one more in my book, I write about two lenses. I'm going to give you two more today. But the two lenses I write about in the books, I say there's two types of people. One type of person views the world through history and memory. And they basically walk through life, kind of living in the past. When they reference something new, it's usually connected to something of the old. And by the way, people do this on positive and negative things.

Some people live through past successes. Some continue to live through history and memory and the past of failures, setbacks, things that have gone wrong, traumas. But the bottom line is most of their filter is the rearview mirror of their life. The second type of person, which is more rare, they see things through dreams and imagination. They're in the present, but they're looking forward. They use their imagination. They use their dreams.

They don't spend a lot of time in the rear view mirror. They're looking more through the windshield of life than looking forward. And I find those to be the people that create, that innovate, that are more happy, that grow, that expand. But there are a couple other filters that I want to talk to you about this week. And there's really two lenses that I want to go through with you. And one type of person scans for God and favor, protection, safety, increase, light, love. They see all these things. When they scan the world, when they experience the world, they see more God, they see more favor.

They see more protection. They feel more safety. They feel more increase and light and love. The other types of people scan for things they're afraid of. They see the negative. They filter into their lens, evil, loneliness, darkness, despair. And these two people are in the exact same world, yet they experience two totally different lives. And really, the life you experience is seen through the lens that you feed yourself.

And so which of those lenses? Are you history and memory? Or are you imagination and drinks? Are you someone who sees light, love, favor, protection, increase, growth, beauty? Or do you scan and see a lot of things you're afraid of? The negative, the people taking advantage of, the evil, the loneliness in your life. These two lenses will feed you the life that you see. And it's really important because if you're not aware you're doing it, you can begin to think your reality is the only truth. When in fact, the same people going through the same type of life are a totally different life experience than you, simply because of the lens. And most of us do it unconsciously, but we can become conscious of this lens and start to scan for the things we want. Listen to me, it's a mental act of ignorance to scan for the things you're afraid of, for the negative, for evil, for loneliness, for darkness, for despair, for lack, for what you don't have. That's a mental act of ignorance.

And after today, you will be doing it consciously because I've pointed it out to you. And the reason that I pointed out to you is because I've done both and I do both. But I probably lived at least half my life as somebody who scanned for, you know, how lonely I was or how I was being taken advantage of or the past or trauma or darkness. I'd be on an airplane and I'd scan for the loudest, most obnoxious person rather than the kindest and most gentle and the person who's helping everybody put their bags away. you know, and the most polite person. You know what I'm saying? Those are same exact flight, two totally different experiences. What if you were one of those people who began to believe that good things are going to happen to them? Because the people who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they're usually right. And the people who believe that

average and ordinary or negative things, or maybe just the same things are going to happen for them, they are also usually right. The world reveals to us that which were most, certain of. And if we're not cognizant of our lens, because you do have one, and maybe it changes from time to time. Maybe a certain trigger triggers a different lens for you. When you're slighted by somebody in your personal life, your spouse or a boyfriend or girlfriend or they're passive aggressive with you or whatever it might be, or maybe you miss a sale, it switches the lens and now you're scanning for all the other negative things. But I'm telling you this lens is your life. And I think when you get to the end of your life, it's going to be

revealed to you through a different lens. And I think at the end, we want it to be revealed through the ones that we most hopefully want to see through. So remember this. People who believe that good things are going to happen to them, they are usually right. Not every time, but far more of the time than if they believe things aren't going to work out for them. What if you started to move through your life like you think it's rigged in your favor?

You always say, hey, the system is rigged. Okay, well, it's rigged for somebody. and that somebody doesn't necessarily have to be different than you. And I'm not suggesting that there aren't lots of people in life where they didn't start on third base. They weren't even in the stadium. They were born on the wrong side of the tracks. Or maybe they had the wrong skin color.

Or their parents weren't even married. Or they grew up incredibly poor. And that there are disadvantages to that life because there are. But if you're scanning for proof of that all of your life, you'll prove it to be true. But if you begin to scan like, well, however, there are certain things that are scanned in my favor and I'm favored, because God's going to give you the life that he most wants to give you, but your lens is going to process it. A lot of times in life, your expectations are the most important thing. If you expect things to go well, if you have an expectation that

you're going to get a hit when you're up to the plate or make the putt when you're putting or close the sale or get the date or have a good time or that people are going to think you're interesting and funny most of the time your expectations are accurate in life more times than not remember this confidence bends reality it does when you walk into a room confident that something's in a workout in your favor or you walk into your day it begins to bend reality and the truth of the matter is reality is reality but what it does is it begins to change your filter and that filter is you're life experience? What if you started to walk like you just got the best news of your life? What if you talk like, man, the universe is listening to me. In my case, God is listening to me. He's hearing my

prayers. You have to remember that this is important stuff. And if we don't start to be conscious of it, we're going to continue to produce the same life because we're seeing life through the same lens and the same filter. And so you can have 10 people treat you great. But if you believe you're a victim to something, that 11th person is all you're going to see and experience and feel. If you believe you're not going to close sales, you're not going to close the majority of the sales. So what if he started to walk through your life? Like, it was rigged in your favor. And you go, well, it isn't, though. But what if you worked so hard that you made it so? People just like you with the same disadvantages, the same hardships, the same setbacks. Look, I grew up on welfare. I had a drug addict

an alcoholic father. I could easily see the world through, man, I didn't even get a good hand when I was born. We didn't have any damn money. Nobody in my family was ever financially successful. So I'm not going to be. Or I can go, I'm going to be first. I'm going to change this family curse of this addiction stuff. And so that confidence began to bend reality. So the same people would have entered my life probably either way. But I filtered for the ones who could support what I was seeing as opposed to filtering for the ones that would support the negative things I was seeing. There's going to be enough people, enough circumstances, enough situations in your life to deliver either reality to you. But your reticular activating system is going to scan to prove you

right. And so starting to wrestle this, I'm going to be someone who operates out of imagination and dreams. I'm going to operate as somebody who walks through life like it's rigged in my favor. My confidence will bend reality. I'm going to get the world to conspire to my dreams. God made me in his image and likeness. He holds me in the palm of his hand. And he will never leave me nor forsake me. I'm not alone, even when I filter through life and feel alone. I think when we get to the end of your life, all those moments you felt lonely, all those moments you felt alone, I think God's going to whisper to you and go, I was with you the whole time. You were never alone. You were never alone. What if you never felt that way again? What if you gave yourself the gift of saying

there's a loving God who's got my back who made me in his image and likeness, whose DNA runs through me. Man, this is rigged in my favor. I woke up today with another breath. Maybe you woke up today and you don't have a disease that millions of other people have. Maybe it ain't no one that you love passed away. And so many other people woke up today and lost a loved one. Maybe you woke up today with food in your refrigerator and water and two-thirds of the world doesn't have it. So what if you started to walk like you just got the best news of your life? Talk like the world is listening. this. Energy is magnetic. The energy you put out is like a magnet. It draws to you that which you're putting out. That's what you see. You know, there's the truth about you. You've come a whole lot

further than you realize. And you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for, haven't you? Just for a second, right as you sit there today. Think about how far you've come. Now, I know some of you are listening to this or watching this today, and it's not an uptime in your life, it's a downtime. But just stay with me for a second. Look how far you've come even to have this downtime. The way you grew up, the situations you've had, the people who have hurt you, taken advantage of you, abandoned you, lied to you, talked bad about you, the opportunities you should have been given, but you weren't, maybe because you weren't born on third base, Maybe because you weren't even born in the stadium?

Maybe people have always overlooked you, always underestimated you. Man, you've come pretty darn far, haven't you? And you've overcome a lot more than you give yourself credit for. In fact, those of you that have had the most disadvantages, the most negative things happen, you overcome a lot more. Now, if you could overcome all that, this next 10 yards isn't so much a big deal. Oftentimes people ask me, what's it like to have been so blessed and have had, you know, a measure of success, hundreds of millions of dollars, beautiful homes, influence, great friends, beautiful family. Overall, until the last year or two, good health.

I'm very grateful for all of that. But every once I go, man, I've overcome a lot. I've overcome a lot. Thank God I had this filter and scan for the world most of the time that found the light, that found the person who could help me. hurt me. If you keep drawing people into your life that are hurting you, that's a you issue. You're filtering for them. You are finding them and you are bringing them into your life. If most of the people in your life are just kind of a neutral charge, they're not so great, they don't lift me up, and they're not so bad. That's what you're scanning for. That's your lens. But when you have a lot

of people around you who love you, who believe in you, who support you, who do even more than support you. They go to work on helping you make your dreams come true. They go to work on trying to help you be happier and more at peace and more faithful. You're scanning for that. If you look at the current conditions of your life, it's what you've been filtering in. It's a hard thing to accept. I just started to accept that in my late 20s. I'm responsible for my life. In some way, I've actually created this because I filtered through my lens, these people into my world, the circumstances into my world. And if I don't change this lens,

they're going to show up in a different body with a different name, but it'll be the same person. They'll show up in a different situation, a different business, a different product, but I'm going to get the same business results. You've got to change that lens. You are so much more than you think you are,

my precious friend. You've done so much more than you realize. You've helped so many more people that you don't even know about. What a thing that is, huh? You know, you've helped more people than you realize. You've not, not me. I've not really accomplished anything.

You'd be surprised how someone's quietly watched you and your kindness has been an example to them to be more kind. Or they've watched how you treat your spouse or your significant other. And just for that day, they went home and were a little bit more gentle and generous and kind with theirs. Simple things like manners and holding a door open and saying thank you. you for somebody. Hope's humanity. Never mind the big things you've done, things people will never know about, things you probably don't even realize you've done because you filter them out.

You take it for granted because it's just everybody's as kind as you. Everybody's as giving as you. No, they're not. Everybody has beautiful intentions like you do. Everybody's rooting for their friends to succeed like you do. You know, just your rooting and supporting and believing in your friends makes you very rare that you don't have this filter that believes that if they win you're losing you'd be surprised how many people quietly root against one another pretending to support one another so you're so much more than you think you are you've done so much more than you realize you've come so much further and helped more people than you realize what a beautiful thing now i know as i say that some of you but you don't know about this mistake you don't know

about this thing I'm ashamed of. God does. He knew it before you were going to do it. You're human. You've made some mistakes. Okay? Made some bad decisions. So have I. Join the club. Join the club. Now, does that mean what you're going to do is filter for that the rest of your life and repeat it over and over again and live those same emotions? Or can you believe you can grow and expand? Can you believe you can move from here to the next place, just like you have in the past? You've already proven you can move from certain circumstances to other ones. You've already proven you can grow and change. Maybe you've changed in a way you're not proud of. What that does prove is you can change.

You can change again. What you focus on, and if you can somehow begin to look at light and gratitude, you can begin to look at that. What you focus on expands, you're going to get more of it. I'm serious. If you can begin to find things that you're grateful for in your life, Okay? It will expand. It begins to expand. That lens starts to look for it. Focus equals expansion. What you focus on will be expanding. Let me ask you a powerful question. Just stay with me. Like, I don't know what to be grateful for right now. Who or what do you take for granted? Let's do the who. Is there anybody in your life that you take a little bit for granted? Maybe you take for granted that, I don't know, I'm making this up, that you, your mom's still alive and you can talk to her anytime you want. if she is. Maybe you take for granted how much the little things your significant other does

for you. Maybe you take for granted that your girlfriends or boyfriends, your friends that love and support you in their quiet way. Maybe you take for granted the fact that there are people around you fighting battles you know nothing about and they're doing it with grace. They're doing it with strength. Maybe you take for granted that there's someone that you love and care about that's hanging on by a thread right now but they're hanging on and that's admirable what do you take for granted now what do you take for granted you know i've had real big health issues the last couple years well for about 50 years of my life i took my health really for granted i woke up every day and my chest didn't have any pains i woke up every day there was no cancer in my body

i woke up every day and my back wasn't hurting me or my jaw i had high energy I just took that for granted. I've had a beautiful family, but they were there every day. I have some really good friends. I've had some good financial success. I make an impact in my life. I do work that I enjoy. I took a lot of that for granted. So when you begin to go, I don't know what to be grateful for. Flip it. What am I taken for granted? What am I taken for granted? You know that right now you could probably walk to your refrigerator and there's some food in it. The more you begin to ask your yourself, who or what am I taking for granted? Your mind flips into the antithesis of that. And it changes the lens. And you begin to be grateful. Maybe today, if you're married, you just walk in a room. Just before you say anything, just take a look at your spouse or your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your children or your parents or your siblings or a friend. Just take them in for a second. Just see their soul. Don't see all the bad things you know about them, all the things they've done that you don't like. Just see their soul for a second. Just see their soul.

How precious they are. Thank God they're still here, right? Thank God. They've also come a long way. They're also overcoming things. They also may not be aware of their filter or their lens, which causes them to behave in a way that doesn't serve them. So focus equals expansion. Who are you taken for granted? What are you taken for granted? And when you begin to understand that, the little things become the big things, and that focus equals expansion. And now you're starting to change your lens. You know, the thing about you, you're probably being underestimated right now. In fact, you've probably always been underestimated.

But here's the hook, and I have too. No one would have picked me in high school to become successful or anybody anyone would listen to. There was nothing exceptional about anything about me. My grades, my abilities, my personality, my background, my track record. So I've always been underestimated. And probably you have too. Maybe you are right now. here's the hook. You can't underestimate yourself. That's a killer. And too many of you have walked

through your whole life underestimating you because you're waiting for someone else to see you a particular way. And if they see you, then you'll believe in you. Well, you'll be waiting a long time because that lens rarely comes back. You got to see you. You got to not underestimate yourself. You got to believe that confidence bends reality. But the lack of confidence bends. it in an equivalent way the other direction. You got to start to walk through your damn life like something great's about to happen, like you expect it. By and large, we get what we expect in our lives. Ask yourself, stop listening. I know you're going, whoa, this is, okay, I got it. Okay, this is great stuff. Now stop. What have you really expected the last year of your life?

What have your expectations been? Expectations financially. Expectations in your emotions, in your faith, in your relationships, in the way other people respond to you because you're getting what you expect. And when you begin to shift those expectations, reality begins to bend over time to some extent. You know how we know that? You're already proving it. It may take a while, but your life will eventually come back to the filter and the lens that you see it through. Be the one they never saw coming. Train in your life like you're a big underdog, but start to think like your world class. All my life, I've known I was supposed to be somebody.

And all my life, I knew I didn't have the talent, I didn't have the size, I didn't have the strength, I didn't have the intellect, I didn't have any of those things that people might think you need to have. But I know this, there's never been a test design, nor will there ever will be, that can measure the heart of a champion. You cut open, anybody who's done anything great in their life, one might be six foot four, one might be five foot four, one might be black, one might be white, one might be straight, one might be gay one might be a Christian one might be a Muslim but when you cut them open they're

identical and they train like an underdog but they got the heart of a champion be patient in your life but never wait you have to have patience but you're going to be in a hurry be intense in your work but calm in your mind be disciplined and be structured but be willing to innovate you got all this stuff you can be the one they never saw coming you can train like an underdog you got the heart of a champion. Remember this. Focus on your energy. Energy is influence. Vibrational frequency is real. When you're vibrating at the highest possible frequency, you begin to draw things into your life, circumstances, places, things, people, emotions that were always there. But they are outside your energy's influence. They are outside your lens. You weren't seeing them, hearing them

or feeling them. By the way, the highest level of vibration is truth. And so when you actually begin to see your truth, as opposed to this lie, that everything's stacked against you, that you're average and ordinary, that people don't like you much, that there's nothing to be grateful for, that nothing ever goes your way. That's a lie. And so what happens is it reduces your vibrational frequency. You believe it because it's in your lens. But when you slits the lens to truth, which is that you are favored, you were born to do something awesome with your life. The world is going to conspire to make your dreams come true over time. God did make you in his image and likeness. He did die for your sins. You are saved if you accept that and live

forever. That vibrational frequency is real. The higher the frequency, the more you draw things into your life. Highest possible frequency, truth. So you have to ask yourself, is my lens, is my filter giving me truth or sort of a lie and a bias that I've been carrying for a long time? That lens is essentially your life bias, your mind virus, and it's going to keep giving to you that which you filter for. You've got to become the type of person who runs towards the fire. There's two types of people, the ones that run towards the fire. These are our heroes. These are our first responders. These are our soldiers. These are the moms when they've got an injured child on a playground. These are the moms and dads who run into the fire of hard work every single day to win for

their family. They're the people on 9-11 who ran into the building. You've got to be that type of person in your life metaphorically. You run towards the pressure. You don't hide from it. You run towards the difficult things. You don't cower from it. There are only two types of people. Which one are you? You run towards the stuff or you hide from it. You're someone who's favored, who's in the light, who's protected, who's safe, who's strong, who can tap into supernatural power from God anytime you need to, or you hide and you cower and you shrink and you limit and you stop expanding. In fact, you start shrinking. Pressure is a privilege. Pressure means this. Something's going to break. Either you or the obstacle. Being a dad, there's some pressure. Being a mom, there's some pressure.

Building the business, there's some pressure. Hitting that putt to win a tournament, there's some pressure. Giving that speech, there's some pressure. Doing something new, there's some pressure. Walking into a thing that you're uncomfortable doing with, that's public speaking or something socially or heights or whatever it is, something's going to break. Either the obstacle or you. and you're the person who doesn't break. You start walking like that. It may take me a little bit longer, but I'm in a hurry. I got patience, but I'm a little bit faster than I used to be.

You live for this stuff. Most people fear the grind. You crave it. Most people wait for the right moment. You create it. You ain't waiting around for the right time. You ain't waiting around for someone to give you permission. You're not waiting around to make opportunity.

You're going to get your own seat at the table. There's no seat there? You're picking one up. I'll just move my chair over. you crave this stuff you want to live a great life all your life you've known you're supposed to you don't fit in you're special i'm going to tell you something about i've never been one of the boys i mean i like having a cigar with the guys are playing golf but i've never fit in i don't want to fit in i don't want in fact in college my teammates called me not eddie milette eddie myself because i was alone so

often i'm not one of the guys i don't want to be in group think i don't want to think like everybody else. I want to think like me. I want my filter, my lens. Back in the days, most of those guys probably thought I was pretty crazy. Well, they don't think I'm crazy anymore. And I love all those guys, but most of their lives are almost all identical because they were one of the guys or one of the girls. Most of their lives are all the same. I was born to have my life. You were born to have your life, not theirs. You don't need to fit in. You're special. You're different. You don't need to be accepted. You don't need to be understood. You already know this. You're going to do anything great in your life. Most people aren't going to understand you. You've got to become comfortable

with being misunderstood, being a little controversial, little criticism. All right, whatever. That just means I'm making other people comfortable. Pardon my progress. Sorry, my progress, my expansion makes you uncomfortable. Sorry, the light I'm living in is shining a light on your small life. And I know that makes you uncomfortable. But I'm not one of the guys and I don't need your approval, and you're not one of the girls and you don't need theirs either. You're a competitor. You're constantly increasing your purpose. You're a grower. You're in a bigger hurry than most. You are, but you have the discipline to wait for what you want. C.S. Lewis once said this, it's so good. Life with God is not immunity from difficulties, but peace within difficulties.

I'm not telling you, once you change this, problems aren't going to come your way. What I'm telling you is your perspective about what it means will change, and meaning drives reality in life. Let me ask you a question about meaning. Isn't this good today, by the way? That's the Holy Spirit. Thank you, God. If you came up to me in three years and you said to me, hey, Ed, I just had the best three years of my life, what would you be telling me three years from now?

You're going to arrive somewhere three years from now. The only question is where? Do you even have a plan to get there? Do you know where you're going? Have you enrolled your partner, which I hope is God in your life to help you get there? What would you tell me at the last three years? You're not going to believe it. Here's what happened in my life. I did this. I started that. We helped these. What is it? What would you be telling me? And by the way, what if you begin to move as if you expected it to happen? Huh? I know that's not easy, but what if you actually moved as if you expected? those things over the next three years to happen. And I could tell you this. I don't know what it is that that thing is, but I know it will be connected to something that has meaning to you, that has a purpose that makes you feel like you're making a difference. That's almost like a mission or a

crusade or a cause in your life. I guarantee you one of the things on that list will not just be money or a car or a house or an island, although it will be some of those things for many of you. somewhere on that list the one that will stand out almost more than any will be some different she made in life some purpose some crusade some mission you're on that became accomplished that's what it'll be hey guys it's ed i rarely do this as you know 99.9% of my content is free but once a year i do something where i gather a very small group of people in my house i've done it for two years in a row now and i'm going to do it again this year if you go to max out 2026.com. I'm going to do an experience in my home where I'm going to take you through how to make

2026 the best year of your life, all of the tactics and strategies that I use to plan and organize my own life in detail. Same time, all of the mental rehearsal and visualization techniques that people pay me hundreds and millions of dollars a year to teach them. I will be teaching that day as well. And the other years I've done it, I've had groups of about 25 or 30. I've decided this year I want to shrink the size of the group so that I can get more one-on-one time with each of you. I'm going to keep the groups to 12 or 15. It's a chance to spend a day with me in my home, lunch, one-on-one time, and group time. And it's not cheap. So if it's something you can't afford, please don't get yourself in any financial trouble or debt doing so. But if it's something you can afford

to do, go to max out 2026.com. And I'm looking forward to having you in my home with me very soon for an amazing day, a life-changing day. God bless you. And one thing to know about the fact that you doubt yourself is one, I struggle with it as well. One of the reasons I've had to go learn to build all these tools for myself is because in my life, my baseball career, my academic career, my business career, my speaking career, I've been riddled with self-doubt. That creeps up all the time in our lives. Am I enough? Am I good enough? Do I deserve this? Is this something that's part of my destiny? Should I be doing this? And if you're a religious person, I believe the adversary, if you believe in the adversary, I believe the adversary's greatest tool that he could use against you

to get you to lose in your life is to get you discouraged and doubting these are two of the most chaotic things that the adversary can do to us or that we do to ourselves in our own minds is to get ourselves doubting to get ourselves discouraged because you can't win when you doubt and you can't win when you're discouraged what I found out though about self-doubt is that you don't overcome it you build something bigger than it which means you build your self-confidence and the greater your self-confidence get, it minimizes the impact self-doubt has on us. Now, why is that so important? It's important because you have to understand one thing about the doubts and the negative thoughts you have about yourself. As hard as this is to accept, these are not your

thoughts. You weren't born doubting. You weren't born discouraged. You weren't born thinking negative things about yourself. Those were thoughts that were placed in you and given to you by an external source at some time in your life it could even be our parents don't do that be quiet sit down be a good boy be a good girl maybe it was criticism you received as a as a little one that you may not even remember to this day it could have been a school teacher it could have been ridicule at school from other children but when you were young in your formative years these negative thoughts about yourself were planted in you by an external source that's so powerful to understand because these things you think you believe about yourself that have become

really true to you you don't even really believe they were not your original thoughts but the power of belief is so incredible in our lives it's so insidious because when we have a belief about something even if it was given to us by somebody else our mind goes to work on proving to us that this belief is true a belief is almost like this table right here just the top once we get it and what our mind tries to do is it tries to build legs under the table to reinforce that belief so somebody told you you weren't enough or you weren't smart enough or pretty enough or fast enough or strong enough or you don't come from the

right place or you're not in the right culture the right race the right religion the right height the right IQ as a young person or you were put down and these beliefs were given to you what happens is your mind tries to prove beliefs true so it finds references so once you think it your mind finds an example of your life where you weren't enough another one where you weren't enough you weren't smart enough you weren't pretty enough you weren't handsome enough you weren't strong enough and it finds these references and it builds like a leg and multiple legs under table and pretty soon you can't move it and it's stuck in there as a firm belief that's why we have to guard our beliefs so preciously because our mind goes to work on finding these legs these references

which are real experiences in our life to prove to us that that belief is true and so although you may believe it to be true about you these doubts and negative thoughts you have these were not your original thoughts that's a powerful thing to understand understand because you weren't born this way you weren't born doubting you were born perfect you were born believing you're gonna do something great you were born happy you were born believing you were gonna do something special with your life as a baby I promise you had no negative self-talk you had no negative self-doubt these are external sources so important to know because those

thoughts aren't really who you are there's somebody else's thoughts they gave you because of how they felt about themselves and so today we're gonna talk about how to build self-confidence and how to eliminate self-doubt so how do we build this self-confidence the process of building self-confidence is actually very easy believe it or not self-confidence is self-trust self-confidence is building a reputation with yourself that you keep your word to you that you keep the promises you make to you when I meet somebody who has a ton of self-confidence I don't look at that as somebody with a big ego there's a difference somebody with self-confidence has a reputation

with themselves that I do the things I say I'm going to do that's where self-confidence comes from when I meet someone who is not self-confident I know this is someone who has consistently made promises to themselves they've not kept they've started a diet and done it for a while but not kept it they've made a commitment and goals to go make a certain amount of money in business and they started down the road but then they didn't deliver on it long term to get up at a certain time of the morning and then they don't do it and so they have a process and a habit in their life more often than not of not keeping

the promises they don't make to other people they don't keep the promises they make to themselves and so the cool thing is self-confidence is an internal game you do not need external accolades external admiration in order to build self-confidence you don't need any of those external forces it's all done internally you control this and you control this by beginning today to keep the promises you make to yourself and you have to stack the deck in your favor stack the game so you win it's not good enough just to keep the promises you make to yourself you must acknowledge it when you do it to you to give yourself credit to create confidence momentum is what I call it so whether that's setting the deck where you're going to get up a little bit earlier

you're going to make a certain amount of phone calls your business a certain amount of appointments you're going to eat a certain amount of calories in your fitness you're going to spend a certain amount of time with your children or your parents and you begin to do these things you say you're going to do you say simple things like I'm going to lay out my clothes the night before I go to bed every night before I go to sleep so when I wake up that decision's made for me and believe it or not The fact that you just do something that simple that you then deliver on begins to build confidence. You say, I'm going to stretch in the morning when I get up and you do it all of a sudden. I'm not going to check my phone for 30 minutes.

All these habits I teach. When you just begin to do the things you tell yourself you're going to do, you begin to build self confidence, which is this reputation with yourself. So ask yourself a question right now. What is one thing right now? One promise I can make to myself that I'm going to begin to keep starting this minute. and begin to do it. It could be how often I'm going to pick up a book and read it.

But you begin to stack things you commit to do, and then you deliver on them and you acknowledge them to yourself. You're in the process of building self-confidence. Why is that so important? Of all the athletes I coach, when my athletes are performing at their peak level, they're at their highest self-confidence level. In fact, I love when I watch some of the athletes I coach get interviewed,

and they kind of do this awshucks humble routine in their post-game interviews. Yeah, you know, just part of the team. You know, I got a lot, I could have done a lot better today. But inside, I know these people are incredibly self-confident people. Any of you athletes listening to this, you know this, the great athletes you know, have incredible amounts of self-confidence. You have to believe in you when it's a battle, when you're a hitter against a pitcher, or when you're a quarterback against a defense, or you're a defenseman in the NHL against their best offensive player. Or you're a golfer, and you have to make a nine-foot put to win a tournament, right?

You better have self-confidence. In fact, the separator, more often than not, at the highest level in sports, is not they're a better shooter or a better putter or throw the ball a little bit faster because everybody throws hard in the major leagues nowadays it seems right that separators their self-confidence it's true in being a parent it's true in being a business person it's true in every area of our life the separator at the top levels is self-confidence so now you have that first thing that you're going to commit to that you're going to deliver on now what i would ask you to do that now that you've done that is if you really want to build self-confidence can you begin

to extend that list of five, eight, and ten things that you are going to begin to do, that you commit to you that you're going to do every single day to begin to stock that self-confidence. That's going to change it. Now let's go back to the self-doubt for a second. Self-doubt is the inverse of that. I don't trust me. I don't think I'm good enough. These are thoughts placed from the outside inside your mind.

The minute you acknowledge that, that's not my thought. That's someone else is. That's not, you begin to eliminate. I call it like scratching the CD. When I begin to have negative self-talk, negative thoughts, I literally pick. I'm old, by the way, but I picture an old record player or a DVD and I just scratch it. I scratch it. That thought gets scratched.

I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not good looking enough. I'm not fast enough, strong enough. I'm not prepared enough. Once they enter, that's not my thought. That's something someone gave me when I was a kid and I scratch it. And I literally say to myself, scratch it, scratch it, scratch it, scratch it.

And over time, it's like a DVD or a CD or a record player. Over time, that thought can't be played again in your recorder when you scratch it enough time. scratch it enough times. So I literally picture scratching and I say scratch it. I experience self-doubt, I experience negative thoughts and I scratch them, I scratch them, I scratch them, and over time it almost becomes funny. It's that thoughts impact on me starts to be minimized over time every time I scratch it. I picture scratching it like a DVD or a record or a CD and I say it to myself, scratch it, scratch it, scratch it. And what it does is it acknowledges the thought, it loses its power over me. The first time

it still got some impact on me the second time it might but the fourth fifth seventh time all of a sudden that thought just doesn't have the impact on me anymore because i acknowledge it's not mine i've scratched it and over time my mind just doesn't want to play that song anymore doesn't want to play that movie anymore and so that's how i begin to eliminate those thoughts in my mind i build up myself confidence and i scratch myself doubt there's also this misconception from people that you are certain things meaning some people have this misconception that I am what I possess in other words I am my possessions and so they link their self-confidence to their possessions and so they're constantly trying to acquire more and more possessions thinking that's where they get their self-confidence from

that's how they're defined as a person I am my possessions couldn't be further from the truth it's a hollow way to try to gain self-confidence by possessing things nothing wrong with going for material possessions, I have all kinds of them. But I don't link my confidence to those possessions, nor am I deluded into thinking if I could just possess more things, then I'll feel better about myself. So this is a mistake. There's a flawed thought. Number one flawed thought, I am my possessions. Second flawed thought, I am my accomplishments. In other words, my self-confidence is only linked to what I'll accomplish. So because I haven't accomplished certain things, I know that certain title, that certain award, that certain recognition, I don't believe

myself I'm riddled with self-doubt I'm defined by my accomplishments the difficult thing about that is now all your life you're gonna have to accomplish more and more and more in order to feel self-confident eliminate self-doubt you are not your accomplishments you are not your possessions you are you you are perfect you are beautiful you were born to do something great with your life if you're a person of faith like me you believe God made you in his image and like this and want you to do something great with your life not that you are your possessions, not that you are your accomplishments. And this is the social media

insidious influence it has in our lives. People like, I don't feel good about myself. I've got this self-doubt. The gateway to me feeling more self-confidence is if I could possess more things or if I could accomplish more things. Yes, having nice things will make you feel better about yourself. Yes, accomplishing things certainly is a reinforcement for self-confidence. But it's not the pathway to getting it. The pathway to getting it is doing something great with your life where you keep the promises you make to yourself and acknowledge this self-doubt, this self-thought, this negative talk isn't even mine. It was given to me when it was impossible for me to defend myself as a child. And maybe it even happened in adolescence. And probably some

of those incidents have happened for you as an adult. And these ones as an adult are like that thing I said earlier. Oh, it's another time I reinforced the table. I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not prepared enough. I'm not the right race. I'm not the right gender. I don't come from the right kind of family. I don't have the right education. And we find these references as adults to reinforce these self-doubting beliefs we were given by somebody else as a child. Flawed belief is that you are your possessions, you are your accomplishments. Third flawed belief, I am what other people say I am.

Wrong. You are not what other people say you are. Good or bad. I see too many people that if someone says something negative about them, they believe that's who they are. This is the flawed third belief. I am my possessions. I am my accomplishments. Or I am what other people say I am.

Let me be clear with you. You are not what other people tell you you are. It wasn't true when you were 18 months old, five years old, or 55 years old. You are not what other people say you are. So stop letting that dictate your self-confidence or fill you with self-doubt. And for the record, you are also not the good things people tell you you are all the time. don't live for likes don't live for comments on your social media don't don't do things in your life just to solicit someone saying something great about you it's a cheap shallow hollow

way to try to gain self-esteem and self-confidence it's fleeting it's short-term and it's needy in fact the fact that is a necessity for you to get liked to get people to say good things to get comments on your social media or to do so in your presence indicates a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence because we know self-confidence is an internal game where we keep the promises we make to ourselves the fourth type of flawed thinking is I am what I look like in other words if I don't look a certain way like what the magazine says I should or social media says I should if I don't look like these people I shouldn't have

self-confidence and that's ridiculous I can tell you straightforwardly you're beautiful as you are especially the ladies listening to this or watching this the world is constantly trying to get you to believe you're not enough you don't look right you should lose this weight you should gain this this should be smaller that should be bigger whatever it might be they're constantly messaging women you're not enough you're not enough you're not enough you are what you look like and this is true for men as well let me tell you straightforward that you are not what you look like you are your soul you are your spirit you are your gifts you are the contributions you make you are your intentions you are perfect as you are that doesn't mean we don't mean we don't want to look better doesn't mean we don't want to get into shape but we want to do that to feel better about ourselves not for the accolades from other people we want to do that to feel healthier and stronger and be the ultimate version of ourselves but by no means does that mean you're not perfect as you are by no means does it mean you are defined by what you look like you are not defined by what you look like you are defined by the content of your character the way you treat other people

and the difference you make in the world so the four flawed thoughts that I see most right now is I am my possessions. No, you're not. I am my accomplishments. No, you're not. I am what other people tell me I am and say I am, good or bad. No, you are not. And fourth, you are not what you look like. These are flawed beliefs that lead right to self-doubt and away from self-confidence. So the things we need to do to change our self-confidence is, A, keep the promises we make to ourselves, and B, very important, we must begin to give ourselves credit for those things when we deliver on them. I want you to remember this as well. There's a power to the way we use the two bees.

Our brain and our body. See, self-confidence can also be a state, a physical state. It's very difficult when you're moving your body, sitting up straight, breathing deeply, right? You're in that physical, strong state of being, right? Right after a workout, during a workout, when we feel our most confident

because our body's at a peak state. One way to generate self-confidence is to move your body into a strong state of being. Move your body. Literally movement creates confidence. If you think about some of the people, times of your life whether that be the fun time you may be having with your partner physically intimately or laughter or peak performance running right

or your great accomplishments yes there's a commonality of the way our body is moving at that time if you think about the times when you're the least confident usually when you wake up in the morning isn't it the most down the most fearful the most anxiety or before you go to bed at night these are two times most people experience the most amount of self-doubt is right before bed and right when they wake up isn't that interesting one of the reasons is because of how we're moving we're laying down we're hunched over our breathing is shallow there's no physical movement whatsoever this creates a state of self doubt right before we sleep right when we wake up or if you're just kind of depressed or sick self doubt starts to kick in doesn't it right if you ever had an injury and you couldn't move like you'd like to that stagnation of the body begins to create self-doubt and strips us of our self-confidence so moving our body is a gateway to self-confidence and then our brain as well we have to take control of our thoughts we have to

scratch the negative ones when they come in and replace them with great ones now i don't believe self-talk works all the time but i believe saying i am strong i am good i intend i'm a good man my intentions are pure i'm a good person i make a difference in the world i'm kind i'm gentle i'm generous i'm strong i'm faithful beginning to repeat these thoughts to myself and these words do generate self-confidence i keep the promises i make to myself I'm a man of my word begin to talk to yourself and think these thoughts when you combine your brain and your body scratch the self-doubt you lose those four stupid beliefs I am my accomplishments I am my possessions I am what

other people say I am or I am what I look like these are completely flawed beliefs we scratch those we scratch them we understand the process of stacking self-confidence in our life we know we are the content of our character and lastly give yourself some credit will you please and I'm gonna tell you where to give yourself credit and that is in the area of your intentions a lot of my confidence comes from the fact that I keep the promises I make to myself I know my self-doubt or thoughts that were given to me when I couldn't even defend myself as a young little boy I know that I'm not my accomplishments I know I'm not my possessions I know I'm

not what I look like and I know I'm not what other people say I am I understand the process of building self-confidence I scratch the negative thoughts of my life but I can tell you this The last place I get my confidence from is my faith and my intentions. See, I know I intend to do good. Not enough of you are giving yourself credit for your inherent goodness. And I mean this. You're special in that regard. You're perfect in that regard.

Just ask yourself, what are your intentions? As an individual, as a man or a woman, do you intend to do good in the world? Do you intend to want to help people? Do you intend to be a light in people's lives? Do you intend to make a difference? Do you want to live a good life where you've helped change the world and change other people's lives? Do you ever just asked yourself that? Do you?

Because if the answer to that is, you know, I don't spend enough time thinking about how good my intentions are. I don't want to hurt people. I don't want to do bad things. I don't want to take advantage of others. I really intend to do good. You know what? You need to give yourself more credit for the power of your intentions. There's a power in life of giving ourselves credit.

just for the intentions we have. Just ask yourself that. There's two types of people in life. There's the people who intend to do harm, to take advantage of people, to cheat, to cut corners, to cause hurt to others for what they think will be their own game.

Then there's people who want to be a light. They want to make a difference. They want to help. They want to contribute. They want to be somebody. They want to honor their God. They want to make a difference in the world. And their intentions are good.

too often in life people with great intentions don't give themselves credit for how beautiful and wonderful those intentions are and so today just take this inventory of all the things that are wonderful about your intentions and then just take an inventory of your faith as a person of faith i know that i'm favored i know that god wants me to do good in the world i know that i was made in his image and likeness there's a power to that there's a comfort to that there's a confidence that comes from that kind of a swagger see people aren't smirking at me anymore I'm smirking at them see I know I'm not what I look like I know I'm not my possessions I know I'm not my accomplishments I'm not what other people say I am I understand the keys of keeping the promises I make to myself

I understand scratching those limiting beliefs I know I intend to do good I don't always do good I make mistakes all the time I'm not a deity I'm not a God I'm a man but I intend to do good and my guess is so do you start to give yourself a little credit just for your intentions know you're perfect as you are and then begin to take these massive action steps the final piece of the puzzle is this is that you have to believe you deserve to win and sometimes it's not just that we think we're good but that we've done so much we must be worthy of winning see there's this adage in life good people in life won't take more from the table of life than they think they're worthy of and they deserve. See in business sometimes short term we've all seen this someone with bad

intentions can get ahead short term but you always reap what you sow karma is always a real thing and eventually the people that take shortcuts that cheat that hurt other people that have ill intent the world the universe god sort of finds a way eventually to get them where they're supposed to be but good people will never take more when they think they're worth which is why the mandatory requirement for good people to win is they believe they deserve it they believe they're worth winning and sometimes it's not just who we are that we need to believe in but what we've done in this sense that sometimes you've got to outwork everybody and you've got to be willing to do the things nobody else is willing to do so you begin to convince yourself man i'm doing all the things everybody else is

unwilling to do so i deserve to get the results other people aren't going to get i'm doing the things other people aren't willing to do. I'm paying a price that's so much greater than other people that I'm worth it, that I deserve to get results. They don't deserve to get because I've been willing to do the things they've been unwilling to do. So the last piece is often self-confidence can just frankly come from outworking everybody and convincing ourselves,

man, I've been doing the things nobody else is willing to do. I deserve to get the results. Nobody else deserves to get. And that's a shift in building self-confidence. If being hard on yourself worked, it would have already worked by now, right? And one of the things I think we have to ask ourselves is what I'm doing working. You know, how's this working out for me? And so far, not so good when you're really difficult on yourself.

You would never talk to other people the way that you speak to yourself. You teach other people how to treat you with what you're willing to accept, with what you're willing to tolerate. And you teach yourself how to treat you. And for many of us, since some age we were at, and I, you know, you could draw a lot. line for almost all of us. Some of us have happened much later in life. Some of us started happen in childhood. We started treating ourselves poorly. And if we treat ourselves poorly, how are we ever going to ask other people to treat us well? And by the way, whatever your belief systems are, you all know that I'm a Christian, but I also believe in inspiration. I believe in vibrational

frequency. If you're not treating yourself well, how do you expect the universe to treat you well? How do you expect to have good things come your way when you don't even treat yourself well? You know, it's probably the number one mistake that I see people make. That's their invisible enemy is themselves. So they go into things like I do it when I speak on stage and ironically sometimes we're the most difficult on ourselves that the things were actually the most anointed and best at. If you were to ask me, what's the area of my life that I am probably the most hard on myself, the most abusive to myself? I will tell you that it's my public speaking. That when I get off to stage. I think maybe three times in my life, as someone asked me, how did you do? And I said,

very well or great, but probably 15,000 or 30,000 times, depending how many times I've spoken on stage. I've said, not so good. I should have done this. I could have done that. Okay, or terrible. And then I spend a bunch of time lamenting the things I said that I shouldn't have or things I forgot to say or things that didn't go well. You know, the other area that I'm very difficult on myself if I step back and look at it is in parenting. Yet kind of if I stepped way away from it, I'm a pretty good parent. So it's ironic that sometimes we beat ourselves up in the number one place with a best out. Here's what I figured out. As a person of faith, I believe in the adversary or you can call it the devil, whatever you want to be. If you don't believe in any of that,

could just be negative and positive. And I can tell you that I believe the adversary or the devil attacks us and our thoughts, and we'll begin to listen to our thoughts, we're really doing the work of the bad guy, the dude downstairs. Or if you don't believe in any of that, negative vibrational frequency. It attacks us in our thoughts. But when God's working on us, he speaks to our hearts. He speaks to our spirits. And I've learned to stop listening to my thoughts, because that's where I'm attacked. That's where you get attacked is in your thoughts. but if you can get quiet and listen to your heart, that's God speaking to you. Remember this. God talks to our hearts. The devil talks to our minds. If you don't believe any

of that, highest vibrational frequency is in the heart, heart center. Lowest vibrational frequency is actually in the mind. And the thing that vibrates at the lowest possible frequency is a lie. And so when you tell yourself a lie about yourself, you are now reducing your own. your vibrational frequency, not only is it not true. Not only does it beat you up, not only does it program your reticular activating system to find more bad things about you or have you make more mistakes, but you're reducing your vibrational frequency because it's not true. And it's a lie. And when we lie to ourselves, we reduce our frequency. Truth, on the other hand, vibrates at the highest possible frequency. And that's why it comes from God. What I want to challenge

you to do this week is to begin to listen to your heart, that whisper, that quiet voice, that you have to be still or quiet to hear and drown out the noise, the vast majority of which that noise is being created by you in your mind or the adversary in your mind and it's a lie. Here's the bottom line. It's not working out so good for you. And you need to begin to separate your behavior sometimes and your choices and or your performance from who you really are. Here's the truth. Not every singer nails every note every time they sing a song. It doesn't mean they can't saying it doesn't mean they're not great. I promise you take your favorite musical artists of all time. I don't care who you're listening to right now. It doesn't matter, right? I can promise you they have

off nights. I can promise you some nights are better than others. But I doubt that they beat themselves up to the point where they don't at least open up the opportunity for another great night in the future. You're probably going to have a bad call, a bad speech, a bad meeting, a bad exchange with somebody that you love. And if you beat yourself up about it, you've opened up the possibility of you doing it again, not less. We think, well, if I beat myself up about this bad sales call I just have, I'm punishing me, then I won't want to do it again because when I was a little boy or little girl, I would get punished when I behaved poorly.

And the truth of the matter is, that's not how life works. It's not about punishment. That doesn't mean we don't want a course correct. So, for example, learn to say this, that's not like me. One of the things I teach my professional golfers when they miss a pot, What do most golfers say do you think when they miss a put? I suck. Right?

I'm terrible. Effing dummy. That's what you say when you miss a put. And what you're doing is reinforcing the fact that you're more likely to miss another one. But when you separate yourself from your behavior and realize that's not who you are, it was a behavior. It was a motor movement. It was a word you said. It was a moment of weakness.

It's not who you are. So what I teach my golfers to say when they miss it is, that's not like me. Gosh, that's not like me. The greatest athletes in the world, when they make a mistake, they correct it. But that's not like me. Because if you believe that's like you, you will act in accordance with who you believe you are. And we don't want to act in accordance if we believe we can't put or I suck. So separate from the outcome who you are.

That's not like me. If I have a bad speech, that's not like me. Huh. Let's get back to me. What is more me? And then I step into the positive me, the higher vibrational frequency me, the true me. And so in any event, I want to remind you to stop beating yourself up and to begin to become your own biggest fan, your own biggest cheerleader, your own biggest support. Heck, if you could just get to neutral for most of us, that's an upgrade.

It's not like you to have a bad sales call. It's not like you to miss a speech. It's not like you to respond in anger. It's not like you to make a mistake with your kids. It's not like you to forget to call a friend back. That's not like you. I believe something very deeply that once you have rapport with somebody, so there's some sort of trust or rapport. The more certain person always influences the less certain person when there is some sort of rapport.

And so, and by the way, my wife has proven this now for 30 years. Just about every single fight we've ever had, she ends up winning, even when she's wrong because she's more certain she's right than I am, that I'm right. And the most certain person always influences the less certain person. Why is that so important? because we, when we're in a sales environment or we're coaching somebody or anything we're doing, speaking from stage, interacting with anybody about trying to make a point, talking about our faith, our politics, whatever it is, the more certain person always has influence over the less one.

So the less certain person is what we spend most of our time doing is refining the PowerPoint, refining the presentation, the words we're going to say, exactly how we're going to frame things, what it's going to look like, and we don't spend all of the time we need to on increasing our own true certainty level. Now, by the way, you can't transfer to somebody that which you truly aren't experiencing. It's not authentic. So you have to actually be certain. And I don't think enough people work on certainty of themselves and their product or service. Both.

There's two things that need to come across in an exchange with somebody. One is certainty about self. That's the hard one. That's the one that takes some digging. And that's why I always say link your certainty or your confidence to your intentions, not just your abilities. because you know about your intentions. You know that's to be true.

When you connect with your intent, you can come across much more certain. I'm certain I want to help. I'm certain I want to serve. And that increases your certainty level. But the other thing not enough people do is increase their certainty about their product or service. They don't do enough third-party reading. I'm constantly reading. I mean, all the time, articles that validate the different companies that I own and their products and services

or our ideas or our concept or validating that the market's getting bigger. or there's a need for us or that we're unique and different. And I like to validate it with third party stuff where that's a book, an article, something online, a story I see. And I'm always feeding my certainty. One of the things I've realized about myself over the last, you know, I don't know, 10 or 15 years is this is sort of one of my superpowers. When people ask you why you're successful, sometimes it's very difficult for successful

people to answer that question if they're successful in an area. And by the way, I'm unsuccessful in many areas and successful in some. but the ones that I am, oftentimes even on my show when I ask people, they don't know why because they begin to do things habitually and reflexively. It's become part of their patterns, so they're almost oblivious to the fact that they do it like any other pattern. And one of my patterns and habits for a very long time is to just be ferocious with working on my certainty level about myself, about my product and service, and I do it over and over, and I'll share it with people that I work. See, look at, see if so-and-so said, look at this thing here.

look how much the competitors are doing it wrong. Look, and I'm constantly increasing certainty, because as you increase certainty, you increase the propensity to perform. And that's why it's so important as I discussed to not beat yourself up. People who beat themselves up, here's what they lack certainty. They lack certainty. They've not worked preemptively, proactively on their certainty level about themselves or their product or service.

And so this isn't something you can do during a presentation or during an exchange with a friend. it's done before. It's preemptive. It's preparation. Preparation is not just the words or the thoughts or the concept. Preparation is the belief. You transfer belief to people. The more certain person influences the less certain person. And so if that's really true, then we have to work on that more than any other element of our being in terms of persuasion with people is certainty. And you have to actually believe it. So this week, I want to challenge you, what are you doing externally outside your business, outside your normal routine to increase your certainty about yourself or your product service your company? And it's got to be a habit. It's got to be daily, in my opinion. If for at a minimum

weekly, you're reading things, you're sharing things, you're feeding it, feeding it. It's like this it's like this, I was going to say monster or beast, but it's really not. It's like this beautiful spirit you're feeding that you can transfer. So, you know, sometimes it's a monster of beast where you're like, man, we got it. You know, you got that. But other times, it's this beautiful spirit of just confidence. I was watching politically, I don't care where you like politically, but two of the people that I really studied a lot of are Kennedy and Reagan. Ironically, one from the left and one from the right. But I've studied these two as leaders. And one of the things that both of them uniquely had in common was this really sly smirk under pressure. Literally, they

were both known, like when the pressure increased, they didn't scowl more. They smirked and smiled more. And it was like this reflexive, habitual thing that both of them did. Isn't that interesting? Yet very different people, but at different ages when they were president by a mile, different parties, different philosophies in some cases, yet under pressure their staff and team and family, both commented individually about both of them, they would smirk. You go back and look at Reagan and debates. You can go back and look at Kennedy in debates, videos under pressure, big speeches they made. They had this thing.

And the reason that the people around them said that as the pressure increased, their certainty level about their decision making increased under pressure, that they felt more and more certain about the decisions that they were making. It's really, really fascinating study of leadership and of human beings that actually most people cower under pressure and shrink. These two leaders knew to increase their certainty level under pressure, and they had done that work preemptively so that when the pressure hit, when the moment hit, they were the best them decisively in those moments, processing information in those moments, persuading

their team and staff persuading other world leaders. I mean, imagine the amount of persuasion that has to happen. And so it requires a gigantic level of certainty. And so no matter what you believe politically, most people think that both of those guys were pretty darn good presidents, depending upon if they believe in the left or the right, depending on their party. The point is, under pressure, they got lighter and not heavier. And that's because they had worked on their certainty level. So I want you to change this. You know, ships don't sink because the water around them, ships sink because of the water that gets in them. It's not what's going on around you. It's what's going on within you. There's an enemy within you and it's you. You have to remember

this. You are not your thoughts. Your thoughts don't come from you. There's nothing wrong with having high standards. In fact, I recommend it. Having high standards for yourself is completely different than being hard on yourself. And because I talk about having high standards all the time, I think people can flate these two things and think, well, if I don't live up to my standards, then I have to beat myself up, as if if I beat myself up somehow, that's how I'm going to change. And where's this really stem from in our lives, this enemy within? This enemy within comes from this notion that when we were little kids, when we did something bad, we got punished. And somehow over time, we've decided, I'm going to punish myself.

And somehow that's going to get me to reach my standards. Nothing could be further from the truth. And so you have to stop doing this. the ship is sinking because you're letting the water within you drown you literally in your thoughts. Remember this. Self-talk leads to self-thoughts. And by the way, vice versa. Negative self-thoughts lead to negative self-talk. And human beings, you and I, are designed to live consistently with the story we tell ourselves about us. And so if you're telling yourself this story, you're going to live congruent with it. You're going to find more situations that are negative,

more situations to let yourself down more situations to beat yourself up you're going to get more and more of what you keep saying and thinking about yourself because that's how the mind works that's how life works thoughts are like magnets we literally draw to ourselves exactly what we're thinking about so if you're thinking something negative about yourself and i know many of you think no i know a lot of successful people that are very hard on themselves it's different they're hard on the behavior not on themselves So when you watch a great athlete and they miss a bunch of shots, they're thinking that's not like me. That is not like me. They're not thinking, I suck at shooting.

And so there's this fine line between living up to our standards and talking to ourselves as if we're our own worst enemy. And what's really sad about that is that you're going to get to the end of your life and you're going to live with no peace because you've had to live with you, your own enemy. Do you imagine the person closest to you, the one person in your life who's going to spend every, second of your life is one of your great antagonists? Or you may say, well, Ed, I'm not really antagonistic on myself or to myself. Let me ask you this. Are you your own biggest fan? Are you praising yourself regularly? Lifting yourself up regularly? Routing for yourself regularly, believing in yourself regularly. So maybe it's not. For some of you and for a lot of us, it literally is we're our own worst enemy. Biggest enemy, right? And some of you listeners go, well, that doesn't really apply to me.

Well, let me ask you this. Do you talk to yourself like Jesus would or like your version of God would? Do you talk to yourself like you would hope someone would speak to your children if you have children? Do you talk to yourself like your best friend is you? Do you? Are you your own biggest fan, your own biggest supporter, your own biggest cheerleader? The person who believes in you on earth the most is you? I'm talking about on earth is you? If you're a person of faith, do you truly believe that you were made in the image and likeness of God. Do you really believe that he's holding you in the palm of his hand? And so you can't love yourself conditionally. Well, I'll love myself when the conditions are right. I'll believe in myself once I'm winning. See, we have to have unconditional love for ourselves,

which means the conditions don't dictate how much I love me or how much I believe in me. Now, I'm not saying self-love is never to be honest with yourself where you're not living up to a standard that you have. That's different than thinking you are your behaviors. There's a fine line. I could tell you that I know people that perform at a pretty high level. And although they are hard on the behavior, they're not hard on themselves,

meaning they don't begin to believe that they are the way they're performing. They actually believe the inverse of that they believe they're better than they're performing. And so this internal belief causes them to be frustrated with the result, yes, or want to work harder and change it. or be honest with themselves about what needs to change. But there's a difference between not thinking you're good enough and then proving it and thinking you're better than what you're doing and wanting to live up to it.

And so what most of us do is we love ourselves conditionally, which means we get very little of it because we have to be doing great in order to feel loved. We have to be doing great in order to believe in ourselves. So this becomes this tale that we end up chasing all of our lives. And so we begin to think, it's the water around my boat. It's the haters. It's the circumstances. It's the market. It's my lack of opportunity. It's whatever it is. And it's not. It's the water within the boat. It's not the words being said and the thoughts about you outside of you. It's the words that are being said in the thoughts about you and or inside of you that is holding you back in your life. Not only holding you back from the results you want to get, but holding you back from the emotions you want to experience. Because your closest ally, you, who's with you every second of every day, doesn't even believe in you and love you the way that you're worthy of right now, because you will do everything in your life to confirm what you believe about yourself, to make it true, to live in congruency with the real

thoughts, the real beliefs you have to be true about yourself. I say often that one of the most powerful forces in the world, if not beyond God, is to live in congruency with our identity, is to live in a way that's congruent with the identity that we hold for ourselves. And as you climb higher in your life. And I know you intend to. Just realize this. New levels, new devils. The higher you climb, the more you have to have your own back. People think, well, if I could just have my back down here, no, all the way up, because new levels, new devils. And a lot of times that devil is within you. It begins to be your own thoughts. I'm higher than I've ever been. I don't know that I belong up here. I'm not sure I can get, I never thought I'd get this far, so I can't get any

that I never thought I'd get this happy or this wealthy or this fit why I start to doubt myself. And the new levels could be new devils around you, but it could be new devils in your thoughts. And so what I'm saying to you here today, my dear friend, is that you have to love yourself unconditionally, meaning regardless of the conditions. Self-love or self-talk does not mean you accept everything about yourself. In fact, what it really means is that you expect better from yourself because you believe so deeply in you. And that fine line is misunderstood by about 99% of the population. They see successful people demanding high standards for themselves, wanting to grow, wanting to get better, wanting to improve, and not realizing it comes from a place of deep

self-belief. And what they do is they flip it and they begin to think, no, it comes from a place of self-loathing or not believing in oneself or being hypercritical of oneself, hypercritical of oneself doesn't work. I can tell you that, you know, one of the things that I'm, you know, one of the best at in the world, according to other people, and even in my own mind, is speaking on stage, and it's the place I'm the most hard on myself, the most self-loading, the most beating myself up, the most picking it apart. And so as a consequence, although I am really good at it, for many, many years, I didn't enjoy doing it. And once I stopped doing that, and I began to give myself the grace of believing I was great at it, I began to enjoy it more. And

And because I began to enjoy it more, I shifted into a state of much higher inspiration, much higher vibrational frequency, and I got better at that very thing that I thought I was great at. So that one area where you think you're great, where you're really hard on yourself, if you begin to give yourself some grace, you'll even get better at it, more you're in flow. And you can only be in flow when you're enjoying it, when you're at peace doing it. And so I message to you today, and I hope this really hits home for you. Everything we've covered today is you must begin to be your own big.

fan, your own biggest supporter. That's with what you think, that's with what you feel, and that's what you say, out loud and inside about yourself. And I would just say, my friend, you're worthy of it. Give yourself more grace. A little bit more grace. Will you please give yourself a break? You're not going to get out of this alive. You're not going to get out of this alive. And what if the person closest to you was your own biggest enemy? Or at a minimum, wasn't even your biggest supporter? You're with you every single second. second of every single day, a little grace, a little patience, a little gratitude, a little love, a little bit of support. In fact, a lot of all that would change your life today. And I just

want to tell you as a friend who I may or may not have met you, you were born to do something great with your life. You were born one of a kind. You're the only human being on earth today with your talents, gifts, and experience all combined into one soul. And I believe God wants to use you in other people's lives in an even bigger way than he already is. In the only way that that's going to happen is that you accept you in your own life in a bigger and more loving and warmer way. Demand high standards of yourself because you know you're better,

because you know you're worth it, because you know you're great, because you know you were born to do something great with your life. When you were a little boy or a little girl, was there anybody who made you feel special? I pray for so many people that they at least had that one person. Maybe you did. It was your grandmother or grandfather or a mom or a dad or a coach or a pastor or a teacher. Was there somebody in your life, an auntie, and uncle that they would just look at you and you'd feel special. You just knew it.

That one person made you feel a certain way. If they exist or existed, just picture their precious face just for a second. Close your eyes just for a second. for me it was my grandfather papa I can just picture his face just how he would look at me and what he would say to me I felt I am a special papa if you had that person in your life and you picture their face I bet that makes you emotional and the reason that it makes you emotional is they saw the real you they were right about you they were right about you if they're alive make them proud of you while they're still here if they've passed

away honor them with the man or woman you become and if that person doesn't exist I apply for that position from a distance and I really recommend you step into that role starting right now as that person who looks at you that way all right God bless you everybody