THE ED MYLETT SHOW - Strategies To Completely Transform Your Life w/ Garrain Jones

Episode Date: May 23, 2023

You can COMPLETELY TRANSFORM your LIFE and it all begins in your MIND! Ready to learn how?Prepare to be captivated by the extraordinary life journey of GARRAIN JONES—a man who has experienced exhilarating HIGHS and devastating LOWS like few others.The incredible stories behind his triumphs and tribulations make him one of the most fascinating individuals I've had the pleasure of interviewing. This week, GARRAIN and I are here to share how you can draw invaluable lessons from the adversity he has conquered.From surviving attempted murders to making a name in the modeling industry with Wilhelmina and Ford, serving prison time for drug smuggling, and signing a record deal with the legendary LUDACRIS at DPT/Def Jam, Garrain has experienced a truly remarkable life.But it didn't end there—after living in his car for two years, he found inspiration to publish his bestselling book, CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR LIFE, and become a highly sought-after personal development coach.Get ready to be riveted as Garrain reveals:The life-changing encounter with a homeless manThe importance of embracing STILLNESS and QUIET to reconnect with your inner selfEmbracing a childlike approach to discover true blissHarnessing the power of stored emotions in your body for growthThe transformative effects of pursuing VOLUNTARY DISCOMFORTThe liberation that comes from releasing hate and resentmentExploring the concept of energy transmutationUnveiling the significance of the most vital 5 MINUTES of your dayWe also dive deep into the realm of HEART POWER, exploring how to understand, leverage, and fully embrace your unique GIFTS AND TALENTS.This episode offers a simple yet profound way to CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, aligning your physical and spiritual self to manifest the joy you genuinely deserve.

This is the Ed Milach Show. Alright, welcome back to the show everybody. I am really, really interested to get into this man's heart. Even more than his brain today. Because he's got a huge heart. He leads with his heart. And he's had an amazing life story. Let me set the stage for all of you.

I want you to picture a few things really quick. Imagine this man at four years old. Someone tried to kill him, start to put him in a dryer, tell him who's going to Disneyland, that's at four years old. By the time he gets to 10 years old, a few men tried to drown him.

By the time he gets to 12 years old, his father's been murdered. And about that point in this young man's life, he kind of just gave up trying. And I think a lot of you unfortunately are at that point in your lives right now where you're considering giving up. And then from there, he ended up kind of going down a wrong path in his life. It's a crazy story. Then he ends up getting incarcerated for transacting drugs, which really weren't real drugs. We'll hear about that in a minute. So he got served, you got,

sentenced to 12 years in prison after that. Are you all hearing this? We're about to talk to this man Then he gets out Then he signs his record deal with ludicrous and he's like all right my life's turned around now. I'm gonna get rich Except a few years after that. He's living in his storage unit and living in his car again He hits rock bottom and then he meets a stranger that kind of changed his life forever and from there from that What I just described from that four-year-old to that 10-year-old to that 12-year-old, this man has now reached millions of people with his message. He's made millions of dollars also,

and completely changed his life. And I'm like, you know what? I think people need to know what he knows. And so that's why I sit in here today. So, Garen Jones, welcome to the show, my friend. And I was sitting here as if I wasn't me listening to that. Thank you for being brave, but brave enough to create a platform like this. So stories like mine have wings. So thank you. I'm so glad to be on.

Yeah, it's my honor. I'm really been looking forward to this. You know, what happened with that homeless guy first? Get listen, let's do the spoiler alert first. What happens with the homeless dude that changes your life? What does he? I know what he says to you, but I want you to tell everybody. I mean, it seems subtle would be to say to just jump in right there. Just let me take you a week back. Okay. So I'm in the lowest point of my life, I've already tried to take my life twice. This is August 2011. And it was my rock bottoms, rock bottom. And everybody has a different version of their rock bottom bottom.

And I'm like, in the car, right now, literally right down the street on LeBrea and Hollywood at the in front of the mill and more, living in my car for two and a half years at that time. My gosh. Stressed out depression, anxiety, mom dying in the hospital. Just girlfriend is just broken up with me because I couldn't get my life together. And I'm just like, okay, I'm tired of fighting. I don't want to fight anymore. I want to be healthy.

I want to be happy. I just want to inspire people and I want to make a bunch of fighting. I don't want to fight anymore. I want to be healthy. I want to be happy. I just want to inspire people And I want to make a bunch of money and I want the money to represent something that I Passionately believe in that I would do for free. Just show me a sign Then let's skip to that almost guy because this was a week later Now I'm at a gas station. Everybody knows you can't get a gallon of gas for anything less than like $4. I only had $2 to my name trying to get whatever I could because my card ran out of gas and a homeless guy walks up

to me and asked me for money. I say, you have more money than me because he literally had a lot of cash and he said, change your mindset, change your life. And I don't know what it was about those words, but it created like a conscious interrupt. And it made me think is my life a lie because of how I've been thinking. And I didn't say those words, but there was an energy that took over me, almost like in that movie, the sixth sense where he literally saw his whole life

because he didn't know he was dead. I saw all the lies that could be lies because the way I was thinking. And I said, change your mind, say change your life. So if I do different with the same circumstance or in areas in my life where I'm not happy, my life will change.

I don't think that was a man. I think that was my angel. Yeah. Yeah. I was going to say that's God or the universe going on. You're believe from me. I'm a Christian. So it's all day long. Whatever you follow as well. Yeah. I love you. I um, you know what I want to hear everybody here on that. You need to be looking for those angels. You need to be looking for those moments. It may not even always come in the form of a human being. It may come in the form of a book you read. It may come in the form of listening to this show here today. But there are times in your life where, yeah, people say, I or me.

Yeah. And what I often think is me, when you define yourself, really what is it? It's a collection of memories and stories about your life. If someone says, I am, really what is it? It's a collection of memories and stories about your life. If someone says, I am, I am is, I is a collection of the things that have happened to us in our life. And this story we begin to tell ourselves about the memories we have ends up becoming this

pattern that happens. And every once in a while, the world will send you what you just said, a pattern interrupt. And if you're willing to listen or take it, then you can make that shift. Now, that's easier said than done. Easy and, and it's an interesting story when you hear it. But if you really listen to what he just said, that this is a man who didn't have enough money to get gas, it had all of these accumulation of people that had really harmed you in your life, done you wrong to some extent, you probably could have been justified, right, for the rest

of your life. And that's what other people do too. They just justify, because you probably are justified if you have terrible things that have happened to you. But at some point, you've changed it. How did you, because what I love about your content, is it's with stories, but it's also tactical. Yeah. It's both.

How does... I learned the tactical. Yeah, after. Mm-hmm. How, okay, give us a tactic, give us an idea. How does someone leverage rock bottom, or. Mm-hmm. How? Okay, give us a tactic. Give us an idea. How does someone leverage rock bottom or what they think is their rock? So I will go right back into the story. Yeah. Right there. So you're like, and if you listen really closely, closely, you'll see, you'll see a lesson.

And if you listen even closer, as I connected the dots looking backwards when took my because I have a daughter who's 21 and have a daughter who's 17 months old baby soul and and kylea 20 year gap is crazy But look old enough to have a 20 year I'm about to be 44 in a couple of months. You look good So Sasha says so to my producer for the third time but go ahead so I but if you look even deeper than that, my jobs were taken away. My car was taken away. My mom was being taken away.

My family was taken away. Girlfriend taken away. Daughter, I couldn't show up for someone when I couldn't show it for myself in my mind, taken away. So it's almost like universe was stripping everything away from me so that I could be with myself for long enough to realize how much of the outside world I've had given my power away to. Only to remember myself. And it was almost like, be still and know that I'm God. So I didn't even, I didn't see any of the signs. So as I gave power away, power way, power way, power way, power way, power way. I, something need to get my attention for long enough so that I could be still, be still, be still so that even my ego had no more power so that a message could come from a quote on quote, homeless man and say, change your mindset, change your

life. And so I didn't even have enough ego to be like, oh, no, I don't have any money. Yeah, I listened, I absorbed, I took committed action and I just, and that was the ramping of how I was able to, because people always say leave the past in the past. Not if you didn't get the lesson, because now that your future will become a recreation of your past.

So I went and I was like, yo, the goal does not at the end of the rainbow. It's at the beginning of the rainbow. It's like so many treasures in your life where you can grab so many lessons and recreate a whole new future. I'm just listening really reflecting on what you're saying because you know something about stillness, you use that word and quiet. Maybe you should give yourself everybody listening this a little bit more of the gift of just a little bit more stillness and quiet and get to know you better because you're Matthew McConaise on my show this week when we're recording this and one of the things he said we're talking about how to build your identity and he goes,

really, I think identity is more of a process of figuring out what isn't you and what it and in our lives, we do give our energy and our our belief away to so many other people that we lose ourselves. And sometimes just reconnecting with yourself is the first step. Just, who am I? What do I value? What am I grateful for? What would I like my life to be?

And you can only do that in quiet. You can only do that in contemplation and reflection. And for you, you can give a key to this. I've not heard anybody say this way before. You talk a lot about returning to the Garen as a child and returning to being a child in our life. And that's where the answers really lie. And you say that adults are really deteriorated children. Yeah. Let's talk about that. You think about it. Think about Ed when he was small, big dreams, big goals. I want to be the president or whatever it was. I want to be a superhero stronger than the average man, abs like an action figure, save and change lies all over the world.

One, I've never met a superhero who hasn't had to overcome something hard in order to obtain their powers. But I didn't know this until I looked back and achieved all the life nuggets that were just waiting for me to go and grab those superhero powers. The best way I can describe it is I felt more free, more alive, more, more, more zest, more passion, more bigness. When I was around four or five years old, and then when you span out and you look, five years old. And then when you span out and you look, people working nine to five jobs, getting paid less than their value, calling another man or woman a boss asking for permission for things that you have the key to inside. I'm like, where is the, what's missing, where's the gap, and how did it get to that point?

When I look at my own life, what I thought was my dad abandoning me, what I thought was my mom, not emotionally, emotionally not being available, which she was in her, the best way she knew how, but for me, oh, my mom's never there. She's always working. I thought that was abandonment. But the original abandonment for me was when I abandoned my original dream, the thing that I love to do. I used to love to run. I used to love to sing. I used to love to

to just blur it out and wear the kind of clothes that I wanted to wear and people like you're too big, you're too small, you're too this, you're too that and little by little, I abandoned who I really was to get approval to fit inside of other people's construct of how they thought I should live my life. Wondering why I don't feel seen, I don't feel heard. All this, the people see me in the millions and all this stuff, I was like, there's something missing. Well, what was missing was, I didn't tend to, to who I really, really, really was, and I'm gonna drive home this point. Anything that anybody had ever seen me,

even when I sold my book and sold those hundreds of thousands of copies and all this other stuff. And the quiet of my mind, I always knew as 4% they never 4% of give out because I was afraid of the real me because I abandoned him. And then I associated myself with with like Gandhi and Nelson Mandela when I was 14 and I was like, something here. I don't know what this is. There's a version of you that's similar to that. Yes. Yes. You know what I said? Those are type of people who get assassinated. And I quit that version of me and tried to say, if I do just enough, just enough to not be seeing a certain way or to disrupt other people and I'll be in this small. But

if my just enough is a little bit more than other people around me, great place to hide. You're right. I did it in sports. You know why I did it? You're brilliant. Reason I did it was if I did just enough. So if you give all of yourself and then you lose or you're rejected, that's really painful. So the biggest risk is to give all of yourself because you may lose still and you may get rejected. So what I did is I played it close to the vest. I gave a good effort, but I didn't give all of me. So I always held a little bit back in the tank and I think the real reason I did it is it wasn't the heck. That way if I was rejected, it wasn't all of me being rejected.

This thing you said, I was going to go back. I abandoned the parts of me that I love the most to please other people. Everybody hear that? Are you doing any of that in your life? And this notion, you are onto something so big, we're reaching similar conclusions. I'm writing right now from my new book, a little bit about this returning to childhood thing too.

And what I said earlier about, you know, I and me, who we define ourselves as, is a collection of memories and stories of our life. That's all you really are. Why are we? So ask yourself if you're an adult listening to this, which is most of my audience. When's the last time you had an entire 24 hours of bliss? Like a whole day, just one day. How about three days in a row bliss, like real bliss, the vast majority, 99.9% of adults would say, I can't remember that.

I mean, total bliss, if I took you back to four, or three, how many of those days did you have in a row? And I think it's because when we're three or four years old, we've not collected these stories. Yeah. We've not collected them. And as we collect them, they steal our bliss and our joy. You said something.

I've not, I may have heard this way, but you said actually one of the reasons too is that emotion is stored in the body. Yeah. And everyone just needs to just consider this for a minute. If you went through some kind of trauma or a disappointment. Yeah. Or even if you just went through a lot of people listening to the shows, they're like, well, my dad wasn't murdered.

No one tried to kill me. Yeah. My dad, Ed, my lets was an alcohol. Like, I come from a pretty good family. Yeah. You know, one of the other big diseases in life is the middle. The middle. I almost think to some extent, it's great to be raised

by like amazing, wealthy family or whatever, because then you get all these options and stuff. And kind of coming from screwed up families like me and you, there's an advantage of that, because you kind of, to some extent, know what you don't want in your life. But the middle is like an asphyxiation of average. And so a lot of people's thing isn't trauma.

It's like neutral. All their lives in the middle, and there's no bliss there, because there's no catalyst to move from it. So what do you mean when you say a motion is stored in the body? How good is this, by the way, you guys already? Well, I'll tell you this. Context is everything.

So anytime I share, there's a lot of people that haven't been in prison before. There's a lot of people who haven't tried to kill themselves or live in their car, those type of things. However, you have been in a job that you know you don't want to be any state in it for 10, 15 years, or even in a relationship. You're like, in the quiet of your mind, my friends, that is prison. So as you hear this prison story, and as you hear the father's alcohol story,

I promise you, those same emotions can still be stored in the body of unworthiness or not enoughness and all those different things. So context matters. Here's what I'll say. It is important to know that we're not just like skin and there's nothing inside. Like there's eyes blinking, there's hair coming out and there's follicles and these thoughts. Where do the thoughts come from? Where are these ideas? Oh my God, I was running on a treadmill and I just had this idea for this book that sold two million...

Like, there's a spirit inside of you. And you're also a vessel. So if you're a vessel and if you think of like a water hose and you tied the knot in the water hose and you have 600 pounds of pressure of water. You turn it on. Little spickets of water will get through. So if you think of your vessel, your channel, the whatever is coming inside, ancestral wisdom,

ancient wisdom, conversations with God, all of it is coming through. Where do ideas come from? And you feel blocked or you feel your intimacy is like stuck or your creative capacity is not gone. You have no desire, no passion. You just can't connect. I guarantee and I don't have the, I don't have the scientific research to prove it, but I have the personal experience of hundreds of people that I've worked with. Way more valid. Yeah. But I have the personal experience of hundreds of people that I've worked with way more valid. Yeah. Yeah. So the experiential knowledge, what happens, say for instance, like me, I was molested when I was 13 years old. And that was something that really did something inside of me. And it was a story and an impact. Well, that story and an impact will stay inside of your nervous system for the rest of your life, which is why if something happens with your dad or

something happens with your mom, there's physical abuse, mental abuse, and then all of a sudden, you never, because as little kids, you don't really know emotional intelligence, you never had an opportunity to release that in a healthy way. It stays stuck. Then you attract a boyfriend who yells just like your dad and then all of a sudden you get triggered, that trauma is, it's energy that's stored in your nervous system. And as long as it's in there, anybody that brushes up against that, well, it won't, you'll blame it on them.

You'll blame it on your skin color. You blame it on the religion, the, the president, the God, but deep down inside as a little kid that was hurt. And he, and that person is afraid to revisit something that was so scary. That was so dark. That was so dark, that was so this. The reason why I'm very well versed in this is because the aspect of my life that was so difficult and I had to overcome and overcome and overcome.

Just like when you play video games and you beat a dragon at the end of the ground, at the end of the round you get a bigger sword, you get extra, extra powers for the next level. Because of a lot of levels that I've personally overcome, not read, my life was the book. I got a lot of great insights that I could share it to help you to collapse timeframes, so you don't have to learn something 20, 30, 40 years and pay a millions of dollars in your life to be able to obtain.

So. You can listen to today's show. Huh? You can listen to today's show. 100%. I want to validate something for you that you just said. I want everybody to hear us, give you a different version of the same thing.

Then what we're going to do after that is we're going to start taking some of the practical steps this man did to turn it around because it's unbelievable. I don't want you to know the steps, but I want to share something with you just to validate your work. So I just gave a speech in Vegas. I'll call it like eight weeks ago. A couple thousand people there, backsy more. I think they're like five thousand.

I give the speech and I'm in the line afterwards where there's a line of people that want to get a picture, take a book and there's like literally, several thousand people in this line is going to take forever. It's taking the pictures. The man taps me on the shoulders and says, someone wants to see you and say hello and I turned to my right and it's my high school baseball coach

who I have not seen since I was a little boy and I admired the man and I looked up to him. He was like amazing to me and he's obviously high school baseball coach who I have not seen since I was a little boy and I admired this man and I looked up to him. He was like amazing to me and he's obviously much older now. I'm 52. I don't know how old he is but he's older and it was him and I saw him and I hugged him and I actually started crying from a thousand people. So good to see you. I said, I'm so proud of you. I can't believe it. He had come to see me speak and didn't tell me he was coming. Anyway, the reason I was so proud of you, I can't believe it. He had come to see me speak and didn't tell me he was coming. Anyway, the reason I was so emotional is, and I love him, and he did so many great things for me, but I had an experience after a game once

where I was particularly mad at myself. I didn't play well, but we had won, and he was furious with me. And he pulled me into his office angry, and at the end of the yelling at me, he goes, did you ever think, Eddie? And I'll never forget to see said, maybe you're just not good enough. And I just stopped.

And I said, yeah, maybe I'm, maybe I'm not. And that altered me. It stripped me of my confidence at the time. Here I am 52 years old and just seeing him, I was probably 17, 17, and immediately the emotion because he retired after that year. I never really saw him again after that. And it altered my life and I carried that story with me for a really, really long time because it actually happened. But then what I did as part of your work is at some point, I changed what that meant to me by changing the question

I asked myself about it. So it really harmed me for a long time because I took the wrong meaning from that event because I just wasn't equipped at that age as defenseless. But at some point, I flipped it. And it almost became something like I wanted to prove I was good enough Yeah, and I'm not sure that I'm not sitting here with you today In large measure not small measure because of that moment in my life because That I changed what it meant to me at some point and it's one of the profound things and you're so by the way that Emotion has been stored in my body until eight weeks ago. Until eight weeks ago, I got to release that emotion.

So you are so right about these moments in our life that we think aren't significant that I'm telling you at 52, I couldn't let go of them. It was awkward. Yeah. He saw me, I made it. Yeah. He, I made it. I wanted to say to him, he doesn't remember, he said it.

It was, I had about, I wanna say, I am good enough. Yeah, I am good enough But it was just good enough to see him proud of me And I want to say say something to that because there's a lot of people out there They're like oh, yeah, you don't experience that because you make all this money or you have the no no nobody is safe from What has impacted us and everybody has their moment. So just because someone may appear to be successful, even Ed, and I want to acknowledge you for

saying that because a lot of people don't say those things. So the fact that you even said that is saying a lot for people creating. Yeah. Exactly. So I really want to acknowledge that because you talk a lot for people who are creating. Yeah, exactly. So I really wanna acknowledge that, because you talk a lot about vulnerability and authenticity and it's really something I've really decided is the most cathartic thing I can do in my life.

And by the way, Coach, I love you. You did millions of great things with me. We all have that moment in our life, right? Where I'm sure he doesn't remember it, but man, did it alter me. It just went into my nervous system and has stayed there all these years. Yeah.

You talk about, here's some of the steps that you went through to start to turn your life around, that you weren't doing prior. So I want you to just share some of these things. I'm not rapid fire, but I wanna talk about them. Voluntary discomfort, which included some phone calls you made to certain people, too, I'm sure it was uncomfortable.

So just take a bow around that. Yes, so I didn't know that you can't change what you're not aware of, but I was changing and I didn't realize that it was rapidly changing my life. So everything I'm about to share with you is as I connect the dots looking backwards. I saw the power of apologizing to somebody

for something that I did when I was seven years old that I didn't know that she held Like I hit this girl over the head with a backpack when I was seven and then I messaged her like six years ago And I was like hey kids do the stupidest things. I know you don't remember this But I just want to say that I'm sorry She goes number one. Why did you do that? I'm in tears right now. Two, what about me made you do that? Three, the same thing is happening to my kids, and I don't know what to tell them.

So it was that moment right there, I was like, people keep things. They remember how you make them feel. I wrote a list. And I didn't know it was gonna turn into as many people from kindergarten up to present date. I wrote a list of 250 names of everyone that I had ever impacted negatively,

thought of negatively, not even in the physical, thought negative thoughts. And anybody who had ever hurt me with the intention of apologizing for my part and not expecting them, whatever their response was their response, I was clearing myself, I wanted to be truly free because you can't fight for something that you can only give to yourself

Which is internal freedom The the person who molested me People who who jumped me, but I held on resentment for 30 years I was like I just want to apologize for when we had that fight I want to apologize for Holding resentment towards you for 30 years. They're like, what do you apologize for? We were the ones who jumped you. And I was like, but I held on to the resentment.

That resentment affects me. And so I just want to create the possibility of just having no negativity when I think of you. Shhh. Instantly freedom. So I did that for 250 people up into present date, including forgiving the two men. And I don't know where they are in the world, forgiving the two men who murdered my father wholeheartedly. Simultaneously, I'm watching all of this business come, I'm

like, where are these people coming from? I forgive these two people. Two new people come into my business. I let go of this thing. This new thing. It's almost like this universal order of this magic trick. I do this and I spoke to my spiritual advisor, Monica Zanz. She said, and Garen Karen you released hate from your heart

These were all little subtleties of hate so any level of resentment Mm-hmm And it doesn't matter what they do the forgiveness is freedom and letting go of resentment will complete the cycle Well, yeah one of the top things ever set on the show Ever ever yeah, I have a bazillion episodes. Mom convinced what that is, by the way, is that when you have negative stored energy in your body, either through holding...

We come back to that again. Yeah, when you store it to your point, well, either something you've done that you want to apologize for, or for giving someone else for trauma they've caused you, that energy is blocking you. And when you release that energy or vibrational frequency increases tremendously, and that's when you begin to magnetize the things into your you, that energy is blocking you. And when you release that energy or vibrational frequency

increases tremendously, and that's when you begin to magnetize the things into your life that because we've all had those moments you're like, I was thinking of so and so, and then they called me. Yep. That's when you're vibrating at a high frequency. But usually for most people, that is like once a year, deja vu, or some fluke thing. But you know this now that you're on the other side of it. When you do begin to live with this type of intention, when you are a vulnerable person,

you're at that frequency increases and it's just unbelievable. Perhaps all these things were already there, but your reticular activating system was blocking you from seeing, feeling, or hearing them, or perhaps they weren't there and now you're attracting them, but all I know is they've appeared in my life

the last 30 years in ways that are what you would consider to be miraculous, which now has become habitual. Yeah. Right? What was once miraculous is now habitual. And that can happen in everybody's life who takes some of the steps that we're talking about today, putting yourself through voluntary discomfort, doing uncomfortable things, but the apologies, the forgiveness.

These are real things. The other thing that you say about vulnerability, and I want people to really hear this because there's different aspects we're going to talk about today that hit different people. Yeah. But you're about vulnerability. And I want people to really hear this, because there's different aspects what we're gonna talk about today that hit different people. Yeah. But you're so right. I've only, I said this 20 years ago, I haven't said a sentence, so I know you didn't get it

from me, it's yours. But causing people to feel safe in your presence is one of the great keys of being a leader of anything is that people can feel safe in your, great father, great mother, great brother, great sister, great business person, right? Great coach, great anything. People have a tendency to feel safe in your presence and you say the pathway to that happening ironically is to be what? Man, there's so much. There's so much to that. That's such a loaded question. But when you

But when you accept who you really are and willing to share it. Yeah, and you're willing to share it. And you're willing to create this. It's like a pathway. There's an energy that just comes through you through the presence of vulnerability. Yes. That level of openness, it taps into the voiceless, or the, it taps into the voiceless part of you that you haven't yet given a voice. And so this, because you can't be what you can't see. So the second that you, you talk about something that most people won't talk about, and they can, they listen to who they relate to and then they can relate to it. And all of a sudden that part of them that they haven't given a voice goes, I'm not alone. I learned this skill because in the scariest time of my life where I'm still living in my car, I'm still I was still $200,000 in debt. I got tired of living a life trying to put on a mask or pretend to be what everybody else thought I should be. And I say, you know what? And then Rihanna song, we out here living a lie had came on, is like

out here living a lie. I couldn't get it out of my head. I was like, no more true freedom, it's power to possess your own mind and like use it in a way that uplifts yourself and other souls. Really good. He paused because I'm gonna fall out right there. That's really good. Keep going. I went on Facebook and the posts is on Facebook, Facebook right now. I say, you think you know me? You have no idea. Here's what you know. You know, this, this, this, this, you know, I've dated this person, you know, I was in this music video 15 years ago, you know, this, because this is what I told you. But what it really is right now now I'm $200,000 in debt. I'm living in my car. I've cheated on every girlfriend I ever had.

I have no relationship with my family. And I just put it all out the scariest moment in my life. First message I got. What's from a stranger? I said, how did you have that kind of strength? When I read your testimony, I put the gun down. I put the gun down. And it was in that moment my purpose was birth. I said I know why I'm here To speak to be the voice of the voiceless or the parts of you that you haven't yet given a voice And I know there's all those people doing all these other things But when it comes to that deep dark treacherous place that people mask and they try to overcompensate and do all these other things, that's my playground.

Yeah. That's so unbelievable. Most people listen to this on audio so they didn't just see your face. But like I watched your face when you said that, it's like, it was like a spiritual soulful transformation in those moments. You can see it right now. It's happening again, right? By the way, thank you for listening to the audio and share the podcast today. But I have to tell you, like, it's all over you. Now, by the way, just when you think we're getting real foofy here, you're not so foofy. You're pretty hardcore too when you're frank with people. So there's this piece and then there's like, hey Bam and I was watching some of your content. They're like damn you literally said on something I watched I don't feel sorry for you if you're broke

I don't feel sorry for people to tell me they have no money. This was interesting to me from everything We just said I'm taking you in the whole other direction. How I do this. Yeah, I want people to see the whole perspective here. And then you said people that say, Hey, I don't feel seen. You said you kind of chuckle and laugh. So there's a part of you that's like, Hey, and I think the reason that you do that is

you know now so deeply that people can change that you're not going to give them their BS ways of getting out of it. Right. Yes. But just talk about that for a second, because like it's one thing to be what we're both talking about, being vulnerable, sharing these parts of our souls, making people feel safe. These are all things that are beautiful. It's too masculine

men to be willing to talk about. Absolutely. Same time, though. Same time. There's just other parties like, I don't feel sorry for you. Yeah. And, and, and, and why is that? And, well, I want you to elaborate. Well, I'll tell you this. I'm a big context guy. Me too. So in the same conversation, my story will always live there, the vulnerability of my story. So, Karen, you don't understand,

I don't have any money and I'm like, somebody said to me the other day, oh no, it's easy for you to talk about that. I mean, you have this big house and you have the wife and you have the, it's easy for you to talk about that. You have this big house and you have the wife and you have the, yeah, I've been saying the same thing when I was living in my storage unit and sleeping on bubble wrap, sleeping in a band and building, y'all are just now catching up. You know, I've been, like, when I was living in my car, you probably had a home. I don't want to assume. By the way, I have a photo of the storage

unit right there that he was living it just so you all know. So I have it. Keep going. So it's difficult and now I can have empathy and compassion. But I wouldn't just come out if somebody was like oh you don't I wouldn't just laugh in anybody's face. Sure. There's always context and my story that goes with it. So if somebody's saying that and I'll be like, Hey, I experienced the same thing.

And you know what I did when I was living in my car. I went to Starbucks every single day and I wrote down 10 things that I'm good at. 10 things that I absolutely love to do found a way to weave that And then I went on Craigslist and I found a way to make money Every single day and then finally something hit and then something else hit So what you're seeing now is the overflow of what I was doing when I was living in my cars almost like God was like I want to see If you're really serious about what you say you want to do.

Mm-hmm. Okay, pay me no money and I will still do it and I will do it to excellence. And that's what I did. So therefore, when the money does coming in now, like more money is coming in, I'm like, it doesn't surprise me, it makes sense because I put in the work

Well the reason you did though, and this is important you make a big this You paint this distinction you didn't try Okay, you did this like your life depended on it. You say there's a big difference between this and everybody really close If you keep trying things that is the lowest possible commitment level is to try now I'm not saying in my book. I literally have a chapter called One More Try. So I believe in trying something again. But behind that, there has to be something in you that has already sort of pre-negotiated the price

you're gonna have to pay, so that you're not constantly navigating the price you're paying, because you talk about trying versus mastery. Yeah. And by the way, I think the money comes in, you're earning the money while you're trying to get good at something. But the money doesn't come in until you've mastered it typically or at least increase your capacity to do it. Like in business, I earned most of the money I make now when I was broke years ago.

It just comes in now. But I earned it back then when I was making an ago. It just comes in now, but I earned it back then when I was making an effort with no reciprocity. I was making an effort when nothing was coming in. In fact, I was making effort as my life went backwards. So it was earned then. I'm just getting paid now. So good.

So good. So good. But so good. It's just true. And that's the hard part of watching successful people because they behave in a particular way often when they get there. I didn't earn my money now.

I earned it back then. And you, you had to make a, you cannot go from living in a damn storage unit, being incarcerated, blowing through a record deal. Have a dad that's murdered. Haven't someone tried to murder you in your damn life, right? All these mistakes you've made, and like, I'm gonna give it a go.

That couldn't have been what it was. You don't go to where you are by giving it a go. So what's the difference? I would say the difference is most people don't realize the value of not giving it a go. So I'm gonna try it a time or two to see if it works. Here's what doesn't work.

Everything that you've done up into this point where you felt like it didn't work and then you kept doing that. So what you did is master it not working. So you're actually in mastery, any direction you go. So this is why I teach a lot at my retreats on energy transmutation. Tell us what that means. Yeah. Who I was when I was sleeping around with all those women breaking in the cars and everything.

That there's an energy behind it. It's not the action. It's the energy behind it that's driving that level of success. That same person is the same person that messaged 900 producers say, get my song on a record, get my song. And then in 30 days I had 28 songs. And then two months later I had a record deal with ludicrous. It was the same. I just transmuted the energy in a different direction. So you come into

mastery when you're doing something over and over and over and over like the little kid learning how to walk over and over and over and over and over and over and walking is not even our natural state. It's something that we adapt into. So you adapt into mastery, mastery and excuses and security, devaluing yourself, devaluing people around you. And if you could see that you are actually in, you're actually a mastery, ask person, you just need to transmute that energy in a direction where it's moving you forward, not keeping you stuck or keeping you back. So all this is is a redirection because you can't see the picture while you're in the

frame of what really matters to you. Staying in the same spot or moving forward and creating an extraordinary life for yourself and your family. I started caring that my mom was working at a job that was killing her. And then, and she's got these back-to-back surgeries, colostomy bag, barely alive. I started caring that maybe, maybe I can do something about it.

I started caring that I could support my daughter's mother and we can come together and create Kailia's college fun. I started caring, you know what? I want my mom, I want to retire my mom. So what would that mean to put this energy into these actions and whatever it takes? By 2015, I will have my daughter's college tuition paid for three years before she graduates. High school and by 2015, I'll be a multi-millionaire. This is back when I was living in my car.

By 2015, I'm going to retire my mom and it all happened I started caring about the things that actually matter to me and I put all the energy in that direction. That's heart power, right? Yep Yeah, you talk a lot about heart power and I think in life and in business you win with your heart not your head I think you have to have good strategies, right? Yeah, but I show them with your heart and most people aren't willing to put their heart into it. If you're listening to this, you got to put your whole heart into it. You're going to be in a really blissful, loving, incredible relationship with somebody if you have your whole heart in it, just like you do with

your kids. If you're going to build a great business or a great body, you have to have your heart into it. Your heart's 50,000 times more powerful than your brain. The electrical current is the power of it is. Now you get your head and your heart and congruency, and you have that, now you're unstoppable. And that's really what you did. But the other thing you did, I'm just watching you, is you took advantage. You are leveraging part of your giftedness,

doing what you do now, right? And I think for a lot of people, that's part of the rub as well, is like, what's my gift? And understanding that you do have two or three gifts that are unique to you. So talk about leveraging your giftedness, where is it? And then maybe a little bit of a tip for somebody to figure out if they don't know what maybe their giftedness could potentially be. What you were just talking about that heart power. So the EKGs are the heart is like one of the most powerful frequencies in the world.

Most people use more of their head than their heart. Well, if you imagine a little kid just tapping on your knee going, mom, mom, mom, dad, dad, dad, mom, mom and that kid never being acknowledged. What do you all think would happen to the relationship? 20 years from now with no acknowledgement there wouldn't be one because there would be no emotional closure. So the stuff you used to love to do as a kid before you got influenced by the outside world, I'm just talking about the stuff used to love to do that brought you the most freedom,

is connected to the truest essence of your heart. So I had a young lady and I wrapped this up quick. How do young ladies say, oh, she's like, I don't know, I have the husband, I have the job and I have the money, I have the job and I have the money. I just feel like something is missing. I said, what'd you used to love to do when you were a kid? She said, I used to love, instantly changed.

I used to love to dance. I was like, how did you make you feel? It's like time stopped. What was the last time you danced 20 years ago? And I literally said, if you know what that relationship is like, if you ignore your kid for 20 years, now imagine your inner child. And every time and every day that goes by, the thing that you used to love to do gets walked over and forgotten.

That's the inner child going, mom, mom, mom, dad. So what's missing or potentially is the alignment of your spiritual self and your physical self wanting to come back home. And the what's missing part is me telling her, sign up for a dance class. Don't talk about, don't think about business. And when you go there, set a powerful intention that I'm gonna take the little girl inside of me dancing. Do it just once, once a week. She does it once a week. L'Abiito comes back.

The relationship with her husband starts thriving. Her business, she had quit that one, got another business. She was like, oh my God, it's like, well, the universe becomes plastic according to the thoughts that you give the most power and who she was being was living from the inside out and not the outside in. So that gets so good. That right there, if the entire world could remember at least one thing you did as a kid that brought you the most joy. If you don't remember, ask somebody when you're a little kid, what did I naturally graduate? What color, what toy, what this?

What did I gravitate towards and just spend five minutes, once a week with it. Watch what happens in 30 days. Okay, I'm going to give you an example of how brilliant you are. Once a week with it watch what happens in 30 day Okay, I'm gonna give you an example of how brilliant you are okay So one of my I've thinking recently about one of my like happiest friends Like just loves what he does like listen There's there's lots of sources of happiness in life in fact you are the source of your happiness But when you're in the process of doing something that's your giftedness you tap into it at a deep level You're the process of serving other people and we've done all the studies now actually you get more dopamine in the process of doing something that's your giftedness you tap into it at a deep level You're the process of serving other people and we've done all the studies now

Actually, you get more dopamine in the process than the achievement when you achieve something actually there's a dopamine crash It's the pursuit. It's the process, right? It's the actual work One of my happiest friends did exactly what you've described and I'll validate your work with this He's actually a lawyer and he's in his 50s and he's just, this dude's just a study super happy, but here's the story. He had been an entrepreneur till he was 30 and made a lot of money and was miserable. And he said, I just, I got to this achievement and I didn't get any happier. And he said, you know what? I started to think about when I was a little guy, like five, 10 years old, what did I really like to do? And he said, you know what? I started to think about when I was a little guy, like five, 10 years old, what did I really like to do?

And he goes, you know, it's funny. I like to argue. I liked to argue. And he goes, and I was also the dude, if there was a fight on the playground, I'd go protect the small kid. Cause he's a big dude. And he goes, so I started thinking,

when I was a kid, what brought me the most joy, I loved to argue, like kind of debate with people, and he's a young boy. We all have a child like that. Right? So there's some of you have a child like that. And I would protect people. He goes, I think I want to be a lawyer. So this dude at 30 years old, went back, went to law school,

got his law degree, and now has a law practice. And in his 30s found his giftedness in his go zone by tapping into his heart. So this isn't all like this esoteric concept stuff. This is real stuff. By the way, maybe that thing isn't what you're gonna do for a living, it's gonna be your hobby. For me, I love to run when I was a kid.

Yeah. And I've had some major injuries to my legs, playing baseball. It's a long story, but I really can't run like I used to. And so I recently, ironically got into riding horses. And I'm like, what is it that I love so much about being with these horses, is that I can run again. And they can like, what is it that I love so much about being with these horses?

Is that I can run again? And they can run faster than me. So it brings me to, these are all the pathways that when you listen to my show, you guys, and I put brilliant people in front of you, and we get into this thing that you and I are doing right now, open your mind up and go around it. You know what I mean?

Like think about all the places that there's applications of what we're discussing here. Yeah. Because when you do, you'll understand the genius of his work. By the way, Garen has a book I didn't mention. They're called Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life, Lessons of Love, Leadership and Transformation. But out for a while, it's, I read it prepping for this.

It's outstanding. I feel like there's another book in you, by the way. Oh, no, it's coming. Okay, good. Cause I really believe that there's another one. It took me five years to write that book because it's called Change Your Mindset Change Your Life. Every time I kept growing, I kept changing and my boy, Preston, was like, Garen, if you don't put that book out right now. So that was a younger version of me. And I've

evolved so much since then. There's well, by the way, one of the thing they should know is you have this incredible book and you like had a learning disability or something. Yeah. Right. Yeah. It's just so it's like whatever your excuse is I want to put somebody in front of you. We was probably going to take it away everybody. Yeah, right? Like you just take away people's excuses, but you also feed their dreams. You feed their spirit So I got one last question for you. By the way Let's just be real. This has been really good. Right. You know we we could have I was just saying I don't want this to end I don't want to do this. It's holy what to do that either. It's totally what kept going.

Well, and you know what, by the way, what that just means is everybody, every once in a while someone gets an invite back. So because I would love to continue to have, well, you and I are going to have this conversations privately now. I can already tell because there's a, you can just feel a spirit, right? You can feel it. So I guess what I wanna know is, if someone's listening to this right now, and they're like, you know what? I think I've got some inspiration here. I think I've got some of the keys.

Is there a step you would say like, hey, by the way, this is hard because there's people who listen to this right now that are really in flow. They're making millions and millions of dollars that are running big companies. Then there's people like, I don't have any priority for that, I'm a nurse, I love the Ed Mylette show,

it feeds my spirit every single week. Then you got young people, you got athletes, you got fitness people, you got people all over the world, right? So it's a broad question. But is there something you do daily that you think just serves you to live a more productive, blissful life that I didn't ask you today that we'll give more next show but what would be one other thing you do is a practice. I love that you spoke about the person in flow doing all that and then you know the mom that's doing what she's doing and I mean she's in flow in her own way.

Absolutely, they just flow different. That's my point. I mean, she's in flow in her own way. Absolutely. They just flow differently. That's my point. Yeah. You know, I'm fortunate enough to be able to be a personal coach to some really high profile people sold their company $800 million. It's just like really being some really powerful circles. I just hang out with really cool people and we share our gifts and Go into prisons and go into juvenile's and do the things. It's of all different elements of the gift

And the one through line. I gotta keep coming back to it. Mm-hmm. The one through line as I've worked with some of my clients face down In their hand. I mean, big business. I've lost myself. I don't, I don't seem to, I work so hard in business, but I forgot what, what it was like to feel again. And it's the same thing on this side. It's the through line. This is why though both people show up in my, in my events, both of them, because the through line is full self expression. both people show up in my events, both of them,

because the through line is full self expression and living your authentic nature. You spoke about heart power. The name of my company is artist power. So I'm an as a creative writer. You can't say heart without the art, the ages silent. God is love. Love is God.

Art is power. So and artists, art, artist power is the artist is the little kid that's inside And we just teach you how to tap back into that energy because they say kids are the closest thing to source so when you tap back into that energy You unlock a Power that is so divine and true and God is just so happy and says, let me show you what I can do. Oh my goodness. Welcome back home. Look at this energy. Look at this passion. Look at this desire and look at this

creativity. So if there's anything that I can leave you with, I'm going to say it again, even though I've already said it. Find one thing, one, just one, for five minutes a day that lights your heart on fire. Regardless if you're an analytical person or a spiritual being or a heart-based person, or you are broken. Find one thing for five minutes a day, whether it's singing, whether it's dancing, whether it's playing the old

Tetris, whatever it is. And if it sparks a sense of joy inside of you, I want you to close your eyes and say, I accept myself fully. I love myself fully. And I get to be the bigness in who I've always been. If you say those three things, give yourself five minutes and find a thing that sparks joy inside of you. I want you to pay close attention to the details in your life that don't typically happen that then start to show up. It's really really good. This has been an extraordinary conversation. Extraordinary. By the way, you can accept yourself and love yourself and still want to grow. Yes. Don't want to make changes. Absolutely.

This is very clear about that. They're not two different things. You could love yourself and accept yourself and go, but I'm getting better. I'm addicted to the expansion of my being. And it's why I do this show. What we did here today. It's why I do this. Very grateful for you.

Glad you're in the world. Glad you're in my life. Likewise, brother. Yeah. Yeah. This has been extraordinary. And you have a friend in me. I can help in any way you continue to contribute to the world. I'd be honored to do it. You vibrate at my frequency.

If you all felt the energy, I mean, some of y'all gonna fill it. Those who know, know who knows. But if y'all were in here in person, and you could feel the energy that's proceeding past the conversation, you'd be like, damn, I could have been in that room. Yeah, I pray they feed. I pray that you all feel it, wherever you are, running on the treadmill, driving in your car with your kids, wherever you are right now, whatever you're doing,

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