THE ED MYLETT SHOW - The Dangerous Power of Old Stories You Keep Replaying

Episode Date: July 24, 2025

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I thought I’d be further along by now”? That one thought can quietly rob you of your peace, your joy, and your progress. In this episode, I’m sharing a message that hit me hard—and I know it’s going to resonate with you. We’re talking about the weight of yesterday—how comparison to your past or to where you thought you'd be can keep you stuck in a loop that doesn’t serve you. But here's the truth: your past isn’t a life sentence. It’s a lesson. And most of the time, we’re not even remembering it right. I walk you through why your brain is constantly editing your memories and how those stories you keep replaying may not be 100% true. More importantly, I give you a roadmap for breaking the cycle—because if you don’t challenge the story, you’ll keep living it. I also share how I reframed my own story with my dad and what I learned by choosing the meaning I gave to my past instead of letting it define me. You’ll get four specific tools you can start using right now—like “future-focused journaling” and “mental rehearsal”—to shift your state and take control of your story. Because the second you align your thoughts and your actions, you start creating real momentum. And momentum? It beats memory every time. Let’s make a decision together—to stop asking “Why did I do that?” and start asking “What’s next?” You don’t owe your past an apology. But you do owe your future a shot. So grab the pen. It's time to write a new chapter. Key Takeaways: Why comparison to your past or expectations keeps you stuck The truth about memory and how it’s often inaccurate How to use “mental rehearsal” to rewrite your inner narrative Four practices to shift from rumination to creation The mindset that unlocks real momentum and growth Your story isn't over. But the next chapter? That’s yours to write. Max out.   👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ INSTAGRAM   ➡️FACEBOOK   ➡️ LINKEDIN   ➡️ X   ➡️ WEBSITE      Get my exclusive Monday Motivation training in GrowthDay, the world’s #1 app for advanced mindset and personal development. Visit https://growthday.com/ed. This show is sponsored by GrowthDay.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Data and message rates apply. Performance may vary. You should always consult your financial and tax professional. This is The Admirements Show. Alright, welcome back to the show everybody. So this week's show is very important to me. I really want you to lean in and consider some of the things I'm gonna talk about there I'm gonna challenge some of your conventional thinking as well

But if you buy into what we're talking about here today, I think it can really impact your life in a positive way So let me ask you a question Have you ever had the thought? You know, I thought I'd be further along by now Give her that thought like you just kind of think I thought I'd be further along. I thought I'd be further along by now. You ever heard that thought? Like you just kind of think, I thought I'd be further along. I thought I'd be more successful. I thought I'd be happier.

I thought I'd be richer. I thought I'd have a better relationship. No matter how old you are, you could be 18 listening to this, or you could be 78. You ever had that thought? Because I have. In fact, a few weeks ago,

I was really ruminating on, I thought I would have helped more people by now. And it's a really debilitating thought because comparison is the thief of joy. Maybe you've heard that before. And we compare to other people, we compare to, you know, certain situations, but two of the most insidious types of comparison that are never talked about is comparing to your past or comparing to what you think is possible. And so today we're going to talk about the weight of yesterday. And that's really what I'm calling the podcast, the weight of yesterday,

meaning the weight of comparing to a previous time in your life, a previous relationship, a previous career, a previous level of bliss or happiness in your life. You could be in a relationship with somebody and you're comparing it to a previous time in your relationship, like when you first started relationship with somebody and you're comparing it to a previous time in your relationship like when you first started dating and that will steal your joy and one of the biggest weights is comparing it to the ideas you had in your life in the past of where you would be by this point. I've never heard anybody talk about that before and I want to talk about with you today because it's a debilitating thought and it can be one of the things that's holding you back if

you have this unconscious thought I thought I'd be further along you're really not present it certainly isn't good for your self-confidence it's not good for your identity but just the very thought of I thought I'd be further along by now takes you to the past of thoughts you had about this time and takes you out of the current moment and certainly takes you out of the future and so let me hit you with something really wild. You ready for this? This is the part that's gonna challenge your thinking.

Most of the memories we hold onto, the ones that keep us up at night or shape how we see ourselves, they're not even accurate. And I know that sounds dramatic, but it's actually true. Our brains, they really don't work like videos. Our brains work more like kind of an editor of a video and so what they do when we have a memory is they sort of create a video or a thought in our mind that's not even

accurate. So it kind of remixes a little bit, it rewrites things, it cuts it because it's also comparing that video to previous times in your life. So this may sound crazy but many of your memories aren't accurate. They're within a ratio of accuracy but they're not completely accurate and so if those aren't accurate neither were these delusions or dreams you had at one point of where you'd be by now. What if the truth of the matter is you're exactly where you're supposed to be in this moment right now and that really the things that you remember about your past, although I know you're sure it happened exactly the way that you think it did, I can tell you that all of the

data, psychologists, neuroscientists, etc. will tell you that our memories are not completely accurate and I know that's crazy especially when you argue with somebody about something that happened you're like you're completely sure but I'm telling you it gets edited, it gets remixed. And so if that's not accurate, neither is the idea that you'd be further along by now. You're right where you're supposed to be. The question isn't that you'd be further along by now in your happiness or your relationships or your finances. The question is truly, can you learn from the past and make it more accurate? And can you create a compelling future from here?

But if you ruminate all the time, I thought I'd be further along, I thought I'd be happier, or you're holding onto these memories and replaying these videos of this happened to me, this situation of the past, it creates an impossible situation to create abundance in your life going forward. And so I think one of the invisible things that's holding many people back is exactly this. It's holding on to a comparison of a previous time in your life or comparing to where you thought you'd be by now. There's a psychologist named Elizabeth Loethis and she's very interesting. She spent decades proving memory is

reconstructive. She showed that with just a little bit of suggestion, people can be convinced that they remember things that really never happened or didn't happen exactly the way they think they did. I was talking with my sisters not too long ago about a couple of situations that had happened in our home. And I have three sisters, there's four of us total, but three of us are around the same age, and then I have a younger sister.

And the three of us are around the same age. We I have a younger sister and the three of us are around the same age we have completely different memory of the exact same scenario and the details of them as well. Yet somewhere in between with the three of us think happen we're all a hundred percent sure our version of it's were true and this happened in multiple different scenarios that we went through. It was fascinating and so it is true that you've edited the video a little bit and the fact of the matter is it's irrelevant because it's in the past And if you keep ruminating on it, you're gonna end up five years from now going I thought I'd be further along by now And so she showed there were a little bit of suggestion people edit the video in one study over 70% of participants Believed a totally different made-up memory about being lost in a mall as a kid Can you imagine this and it's not just dramatic stuff even emotionally charged memories like where you were during a big event Change over time. I'd literally the other day said I know where I was during a 9-eleven I was sitting in front of my TV and blah blah blah blah blah, and I know what the TV looked like and

Then a little while later. I actually realized actually that was where I was watching the OJ chase. I conflated two totally different events one of the most dramatic tragic event in the history of our country and the other just a crazy scenario with a guy who probably killed somebody right. I literally was sure it was that TV in that room and it wasn't. And people will swear remember every detail of where they were during something like 9-11, but when researchers checked out a year later, the stories behind it had shifted. The confidence stays high, but the facts totally off.

Now I know this is hard to accept and I'm not saying all of your memories are inaccurate. That's not what I'm saying at all. In fact, I think the majority of them are accurate, but I believe there's been editing and I believe there's been editing and I believe there's remixing and I believe that there is nuance that's missing and context and sometimes they get bigger and worse and worse and worse and sometimes we manipulate details of them to soften the blow. But basically, here's what we do. All the data says this and I'm going to give you more data. Basically, we rewrite our past to make it match who we are now.

So if we look at right now, this is what's profound. I thought I'd be further along by now. Then what we do is we look back at a story, and the story is edited to justify why we're where we are. And that's why the editing and remixing takes place. You'll know, Ed, I'm telling you it happened the way it is, and that's why I'm where I'm at. The fact of the matter is you are where you're at because of the decisions

and choices you've made in your life. You are responsible for it and if you end up alleviating yourself of the responsibility of where you are in your life, you now have lost total control over your life. If you buy into the idea that because this situation it's probably not even accurate in my memory happened, that explains why I'm where I am. That means you are out of control, that you have no sense of control over your life, and that you are basically left to the whims of other people's choices and behaviors for your happiness, wealth, success, and progress. You couldn't be telling yourself a bigger lie. And so as a friend, I'm telling you, stop the crap. First off, the story you're telling yourself isn't

completely accurate. I'm going to give you more data to prove it. I say this out of love because I want you to be happy. I want you to be more successful. And even if it were true, so what, so what, when anyway, but the confidence stays high in these stories and they can be completely off. And I say this to you with, with compassion, because I'm talking to myself. The fact of the matter is it doesn't matter.

You're where you are and I'm where I am because of the choices I've made. And I'm not going to compare any longer in my life where I thought I'd be and then create a story or use a story and manipulate it just a little bit without even knowing I'm doing it by the way to justify where I am and so I'm not saying you've made the story up not at all what I'm saying is some of the alterations have been made to justify your current existence and I'm challenging you to stop the comparison anyway if you don't believe anything I'm saying then I would just say surrender that story and let's take some responsibility for where we are and let's make some new choices and decisions and get out of this pattern

in this loop. Because you ruminating on this story or you ruminating on I thought I'd be further along, is creating a pattern in a loop in your thinking and what's creating it inside of you is basically a neuro biochemistry that is replicating the same situation, same feeling, same emotions, same general outcomes over and over again. So I can just tell you if you're confident today you'll probably remember yourself being more confident in the past than you really were. Or if you feel stuck today you might overplay the mistakes or the losses from your past even if they weren't actually that bad at the time. So here's the big takeaway. If your past is weighing you down

and you should really evaluate whether it is even a little bit, just know there's a good chance you're not even remembering it right. And if it's true, maybe you don't need to keep carrying that around anymore. The past can be a reference point, absolutely, but it shouldn't be a prison.

You shouldn't be living in this cage you created around you of justifications and explanations and excuses any longer. Challenge with this is that a lot of the research says that almost 40 to 60% of the story we tell ourselves is not accurate. That you're actually reliving a story from the past that isn't true, but you believe it's accurate. So by believing and allowing something

that didn't even happen the way you think it happened to completely dictate the terms of your life is crazy. Think about this. You're allowing something that didn't probably really even happen exactly the way you think it happened. That's what all the data tells us. To totally dictate the terms of your current life? And I know you're saying, no, look,

I know exactly what happened the way it did. I know how I felt. I get all that. I'm saying that there's a reference point to now and you're really missing the nuance. Therefore, you've missed the entire lesson. So even if it's 90% true, God didn't intend you to live this way. He intended you to live in bliss and peace and contribution. Most people can really tell you a lot of details about a story and it's not even really there. We don't replay memories like a video. We reconstruct them each time we recall them. So Loftus actually famously showed that memories can be easily manipulated and implanted with false details.

If you want to know this, you can look up Lost in the Mall. It's an experiment. Google it. Memory is not like a recording device, she said. It's malleable. Then we replay this recording over and over and it becomes familiar. And then we try to stay consistent with it because we're always trying to stay consistent with who we believe we are and what we believe has happened to us. So now what happens is we begin to condition ourselves to be exactly like the story we're telling ourselves. And over time, your mind complies, your unconscious mind complies.

And so you begin to evaluate circumstances based on your previous memories. You begin to respond or reply in certain ways based on patterns you've created, based on this memory you have that may not even be accurate. And so if you're trying to change yourself but you're still replaying a story, it's very difficult to change. People are stories and those with those stories become familiar, we create patterns and we repetitively come back to this same exact location in our life. It's much

like the thermostat analogy that I teach all the time. Once you've got these memories, you lock in your temperature at 75 degrees. When you start heating your life up, oh my gosh, I'm so happy, I'm at 85, 90, 100, you subconsciously and unconsciously turn the air conditioner on of your life and cool it back down with a wrong conversation or a mistake. In wealth, you know, you're comfortable at 75 degrees and all of a sudden, oh my gosh, business is good, I'm at 80, I've saved money, 90. And then you turn the air conditioners on and make a purchase you shouldn't or make an

investment that doesn't go the right way. And you get your life cooled back down. You turn the air conditioners on unconsciously and you get your back life right back to what you believe you deserve. You do it in your relationships, in love, you do it in happiness, you do it at work, you do it in bliss, you do it in your body.

You ever seen somebody who thinks, ah, I'm like 75 degrees of fitness, maybe they're 15 pounds overweight. You see them six months later and they've lost all the weight. They look amazing. Oh my gosh, what are you doing? Oh, I'm on this.

I'm on that. I'm doing, they look amazing. Then you run into them in a year and they put it all back on again. Why did they put the weight back on? Cause they don't really believe they're that fit person. So they turn the air conditioners on,

start, stop eating. Maybe they manifest an injury. Maybe they stop training and BAM back to 75 degrees. Happens in every area of our lives. We think it's circumstantial, we think it's coincidental, we think it's because of this, but here's what it is. It's previous stories you're telling yourself or comparing that you thought you'd be further along and you creating patterns and thoughts to stay consistent with that story. So if the story you're telling yourself isn't 100% true, then maybe you're not even bound to it like you think you are. Maybe you're not stuck to the story. Maybe you are not stuck to the story

anymore. Maybe just knowing perhaps some of the details are murky or inaccurate or wrong can allow you to loosen the grip it has on you. And so at any time you can rewrite the story, rewrite the narrative, not, you don't like let go of what happened or ignore it all together, but you do get to choose what it means, how it impacts you. My dad's drinking is a perfect example. I grew up with an alcoholic father. I could have chosen, and by the way there's alcoholics and drug addicts all over my family, I could have chosen to believe that that's what I come from. I wasn't paid attention to by my dad. I didn't have a lot of self-confidence as a little boy. I could

have decided to tell a story that I'm not worth it, and I did do that for a while. I watched my dad operate out of anger and so I thought that's how a man acts, he operates out of anger. So these observations we make, and I know even in the stories I hold true to be about my dad, I've accepted probably 20-30% of it, I've edited and I've lost some of this nuance and it's not even accurate. But about 70-80% of it's accurate. But because I know it's not all accurate,

it's lost its grip on me, and what I did is I changed what it meant. I learned a lot of things from my dad of what I want to be, and I learned some things in life and lessons from watching him that were hard on him and have made my life easier because I took the right meaning

from watching the mistakes he made, and then I watched him change into this incredible man who became my hero, and the lessons of how someone can change I am literally in the business of helping you change your life because I don't think you can I know you can and the reason I know you can is I watched my father do it because I watched my father change from somebody who was aggressive and I was afraid of and was an intimidating person and and was an intimidating person and very self-centered and not always honest to the most honest, gentle, kind, strong, giving, beautiful man who helped thousands

of other people with their sobriety. Because what I learned from my dad is, I know you can change your life. And I saw the steps he did and it was hard work. And I also know that the reason he could help so many people with their sobriety is because you're most qualified to help those in life that you used to be. And so that change you make about that story you tell isn't for you only. It's for all

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risk-free Greenlight trial today at greenlight.com slash ed. That's greenlight.com slash ed to get started greenlight.com slash ed Here are a few things that might help What I call mindful awareness start noticing when your mind drifts into the past. This is number one Ask yourself. Is this useful? Is this helping me grow if the answer is no interrupt that pattern and gently bring your focus back to the now So just being aware when you're slipping into these thoughts and I do it often. I have this pattern of thousands of thoughts of I thought I'd be further along by now. I am aware of it. Is this really helping me grow? Is this serving me right now? Is this putting me in a productive state? If it's not pattern interrupt the awareness. If the

answer is no, I gently refocus myself onto a dream, onto my present state, onto something beautiful or something I'm grateful for in the moment. Number two, future-focused journaling. I've never been a writer, I've never been a journaler. If you've read any of my two books, you know I'm not a great writer. But I've started a future-focused journal. So instead of asking, why did I do that? Try asking, what kind of person do I wanna be now? Write your future self like you're rooting for them, not dragging them down. So I write about my future me, who I'm gonna be, how I'm gonna give, what I'm gonna look like, and I actually write it as a fan of me.

So not to drag myself down. Every time I replay these memories of past or where I thought I'd be, I'm not being my own biggest advocate. Can you imagine if you're a Christian like myself and Jesus is your savior or whatever your God is, you imagine God saying to you, I think you should keep replaying this past even though we both know this past is only 70% accurate. And you know what? I'm really disappointed. I thought you'd be further along by now none of those thoughts are from God that's all the enemy whatever your belief is none of that is high frequency it's low frequency thinking you can't create something great from low frequency

vibration you have to have high frequency vibration for me all of the great things I've created or when the Holy Spirit is present and the Holy Spirit is not going to be present if I'm letting the enemy infiltrate my mind constantly Future folks focus journaling number three small wins are greater than perfect pasts Your past doesn't define your trajectory your next step does Focus on something you can do today that moves you forward even if it's small Momentum beats memory. How good is that small wins are greater than perfect pasts? Okay, your past does not define you Momentum is created by creating small steps small successes

Momentum beats memory. It's what beats it. You got to generate momentum. It's a small win. I said I was gonna get up at a certain time, I did it. I said I was gonna do 10 reps in the gym, I did. I said I was gonna make 10 contacts, I did it. I said I was gonna do XYZ, I did it. One of the reasons I think things are going, you know, really well in my life right now is I took control of my body about 60 days ago and I made commitments about what I was gonna eat, what I was gonna drink, what I wasn't going to eat, what I wasn't going to drink, when I was going to train and how I was going to train. And I've delivered on those things because they're within my control.

And now I'm watching that momentum affect every other area of my life positively. Momentum beats memory. Number four, talk it out, but don't loop it. It's okay to process the past, especially with a friend, like I did with my sisters, therapists or a coach, but there's a difference between processing and replaying. You'll feel it when you're just reliving old pain instead of learning from it. Processing means where's the lesson in here? Is any of this my responsibility? In some cases, none of it is.

And then what can I learn from this? How can I prevent it from happening again? What forgiveness is required of me? And here's a mantra you can keep in your back pocket. You ready? I honor the past, but I don't live there. You're not your mistakes. You're not your old story.

You are who you choose to be. Now, every moment from here on out is a blank page. Here's how I start writing those new pages. What I call mental rehearsal or mental imagery. I'm a dreamer and so I've trained myself to daydream. Dreaming is free. Might as well dream big. You can do anytime you want. But when you begin to mentally rehearse your future, mental preparation, mental imagery over and over again on what it's gonna look like and how you're gonna be there. Pretty soon over time when you repeat that enough times it's kind of like that

old story you were repeating. Now you're repeating this new story. Your mind, your body, your subconscious, your thermostat setting goes to work on confirming that story, not the old one. See all you're doing when you're reliving that old story is mental rehearsal of that story, even though it may not be completely accurate. So you have to replace it with a new one, which is your vision and your dream and where you're going, and you mentally rehearse that one. All of the same components go to work for you. So you're already good at this, right? We already know we're mentally rehearsing this old story and we're

confirming it over and over again. If we mentally rehearse a new one with new pictures, new sounds, new beauty to it, right? What ends up happening is our mind goes to work on confirming that story and being accurate. So my weight loss was a great example of that. What I did is I got my visual imagery of what I wanted to look like and feel like and I did it very detailed over and over and over and over again. Then I took the requisite actions and my mind and my body began to coordinate with one another to create that picture. So had I just done all the working out and all the eating, right? Would I have had as dramatic a change in my physical body as I've had?

Probably not. But because I was also mentally rehearsing what it was gonna look like and feel like when I got there, my mind went to work. My conscious and subconscious mind went to work together. My mind was training my body, my body was training my mind. And when you get those two guys working together, it can happen faster than you think. The neocortex, by the way, in your brain is where these new experiences take place. It enriches the brain when you have these visions. Because when you're in the midst of a new experience, everything we're seeing and smelling and tasting and feeling,

all of our five senses are gathering this information from around us. So the same thing can be true when you are mentally rehearsing. Try to give yourself as many senses as you can. Sight, smell, touch. For me, I'm very visual, so a lot of mine is visual. But what ends up happening is you're flooding the brain with these different senses. You build what I call sensory acuity and your mind starts to want to go to work on making this happen for you. And so what ends up happening is you're causing a whole bunch of these neurons to organize themselves to reflect that event in your brain. In the moment we begin to modify our behavior

in our lives and we create an actual real experience that confirms the video we've been playing, now we are basically teaching ourselves what it's like, we understand it now physically, what it's like to be this person. And once you have your physical part understood and the mind part understood, well now you're unstoppable. And so it's not good enough just to do the physical work if you don't get the mind right. It's not good just to sit around thinking about it if you don't take the physical action. And so when you do that, when you get the mind and the body working together, when your vision and your actions are congruent, what ends up happening is it becomes the state you're in it becomes who you're being you're a human being when you're a human being your thinking

and doing is congruent but when you're ruminating on the past ruminating I thought I'd be further along no matter what you're doing that's not congruent but when you put the two together in some congruency, look out. And when you're in that state, when your thoughts and your emotions and your feelings are aligned, we actuate a part of the brain called the cerebellum. And the memory center in which we've practiced it so many times, no longer has to think about it. It ends up requiring us to think bigger. And our, basically our habituated behaviors, our memorized emotions, determine who

we are until we do is rethink our existence and who we want to be. So if we say that every time we do or learn something new is forwarding a new connection in your brain, we could say that remembering is then maintaining and sustaining. The same thing. So the key with memory, the key with visualization is repetition. The more you do it over and over and over and over again, you're reinforcing these circuits. And I really believe, as I said many times, Wayne Dyer, one of my mentors, about the power of intent. I write about it in the power of one more. Once you've got that down and your intention is how can my behavior begin to line up with what my intentions are?

How could I get my actions to be congruent with what I'm thinking? You become pretty powerful when you do that. So really what you're doing is it's the process of creating a new you. And I believe if you do that over and over and over again, you're doing is it's the process of creating a new you and I believe if you do that over and over and over again you're installing inside of you the program to achieve it. You got to keep your family safe and in the world today unfortunately it goes beyond just having good locks or you know in a little alarm-dinger if someone comes through your front door. You got to do more than that.

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And once you become conscious of, you know, kind of things you do reflexively, how you respond to certain stimulus, you can go, I'm doing it. And that awareness leaves you. And so all of a sudden, you know, I can tell you do reflexively, how you respond to certain stimulus, you can go, I'm doing it. And that awareness leaves you. And so all of a sudden, you know, I can tell you this from personal experience. I'm very different than I was 20 years ago. My patterns of responses to stress, my patterns of responses to setbacks, victories, the way I view myself, you know, when I was younger, I thought I was just this great leader.

And as I've gotten older, I realized I'm not that great. I used to think I had everything figured out. Now I know I have almost nothing figured out. But what I have learned has a lot to do with mentally rehearsing my future, who I am and who I want to be. And then getting my actions to align with that vision that I have. And I think what I'm doing is I'm changing myself neurologically and to

where at some point you don't have to think about it, it becomes habitual. And the reason that your mind wants to create these habits is your brain wants to conserve energy. So it loves habits because it doesn't have to think. It doesn't have to burn energy. And so your brain wants you to do this and just takes a little bit of work. It's not that big of a deal. I only gave you four things to do. It's not like there were that many, right? But if you do these things, you can change your life. But I can tell you what you can't do. Can't ruminate on a story that's only 70% true. I can tell you what you can't do. You can't be going, I thought I'd be further along by now and comparing

yourself to some vision you used to have. And so here's what's going to happen. It's going to be uncomfortable for a little while. Discomfort level will bring a piece in, but here's what I really want you to work on. There's two states. There's a sympathetic state in the parasympathetic state. And I've done a lot of, I've done a lot of content on that. I'm not going to cover a lot of it today, but when you're in this stress state of

replaying this event from your past, you're in a sympathetic state you cannot create from there, whether you have a traumatic memory or a let down or a hurt or a failure in your mind, and you repeat that over, you're in a sympathetic state. You cannot create a compelling future from a sympathetic state. But when you are blissful, when you're at peace, when you're in future vision and you are in vision casting and you are illuminating a new future and you are visualizing and projecting the future, then you're shifting yourself into a parasympathetic state, which is a state of creation, which is a state where you're open to changing and learning and growing. in this mental rehearsal could put you right into that place.

Parasympathetic is creation. You're in a new experience because you change your behavior. In other words, in parasympathetic state, the body is learning to operate itself from a biochemistry standpoint in a way that serves you. And when you're comparing, I thought it'd be further along or you're comparing to the past where you're ruminating on a story. You're, you're not doing anything from a biochemistry

perspective that is out of creation. And I know maybe this sounds deep because I told you I was going to push you on your thoughts today, but remember this, the repetition of this over time neurologically has a chemical change in you. Literally you'll remake yourself. If your memory is just a. Literally you'll remake yourself. If your memory is just a story you keep telling yourself

and you get to decide how that story ends or you can keep stop telling it at all or keep telling it. But you get to decide how that story ends. And as the time in your life where you go, all this stuff you just said, great, here's what I gotta do. I gotta grab the pen of my life and I gotta start to become the author again. Me and God need to start writing some new chapters

I'm sick of reliving these old chapters I'm not even sure after what my let told me on the podcast everything I remember is true That's written in this book. I keep repeating over and over again But even if it is a hundred percent true, I would prefer to start writing a new chapter Well, you cannot write that new chapter in a sympathetic state You cannot write that new chapter if you're constantly turning the pages backwards You can't you can't write a new chapter when you're flipping back to chapter 4 Okay, the good news is God's given you you're still here more chapters to write

Do you want to keep writing the same chapter and repeating the same story? Can you imagine picking up a book and every chapter is the same story? Over and over and over maybe the cast of characters change But it's like this happened this happened this happened and then you replicate it over and over again your life So you have to start to write the new chapter. The only way to do that is turn the page to write the new chapter, the only way to do that is turn the page. Turn the page. And I say this to you as a friend today, you're capable of this. This isn't that difficult. Awareness is what matters. You're exactly where you're supposed to be. And you know what? I think you can create a great future from here. We just need to get some momentum going. Here's what I

want to leave you with. What if you stopped asking, why did I do that? And started asking, what's next? Not in a rushed, forget everything kind of way all, but in a real intentional, projecting forward thinking way. Here's a small challenge for you this week. Write a letter to you of the version of the person that stuck in the past. Write a letter to you of the version of the person that stuck in the past. Thank them for getting you here. Acknowledge what they went through. And then let them know. It's okay to rest now.

That you've got it from here. You don't owe your past an apology. You owe your future a chance. We're headed to a new life everybody. We're headed to a new reality. You owe your future a chance. That future is within your hands right now. And I can tell you, you're right where you're supposed to be, but you're not supposed to

stay there. There's bigger and better ahead for you. Hope today helped you. God bless you. Share it. Max out. This is The Ed Myron Show.